Extraordinary Life Of An Xtraordinarymom

The Positive Effects of ECQ

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 08 May 2020 08:47:00 +0000

(Enhanced Community Quarantine)

Hi folks! I know its taking forever for this pandemic to end. As far as I know, the world is on lockdown. We have our own ways of coping and there are expected effects from this new normal we are all undergoing.

Let me share some positive events that has happened to our family in this time of isolation. Maybe some of you can relate or might get inspired.

Support

My husband and I have a complete overview of our daily tasks, but this is the only time when I get to see his full function as a corporate HR practitioner and as head of talent acquisition. He became very busy since one of the things that's greatly hit by this pandemic is employment. The quarantine period is very limiting and that's the challenge for all, I guess.

The good side of working from home is I get to support him at times when he's really stressed, especially now while on ECQ. It was hard for him to break the news to his staff that they will be temporarily removed from their tasks. It hit him hard because he was trying his best to keep everyone, but he needed to abide with the guidelines. At the same time, cope with the load of work, and take care of matters on a business aspect being a health care company.

We talked a lot about work since. I check on him everyday and give him his space so he can work at peace and deliver on time. Moving forward, everything became lighter. His staff didn't leave and stayed to be of service to the company even without pay. Aside from me, he gets moral support from the big bosses and his co- workers. Same with the rest of their employees, they all support each other during this tough times.

Strengthened Relationships

This is the most cherished part in this whole lockdown. We think of others. Our families, friends, neighbors, old acquaintances... Every moment, every minute counts now more than ever. We make sure all are safe, all are coping well. Since this lockdown happened, we reach out to our loved ones in our own special way. I see videos of people taking a glimpse of their parents from afar. We send flowers and their favorite things to represent our love and care for them. We make calls everyday and talk almost the whole day, keeping each one hopeful and happy despite the situation of being away.

Those staying at home with their families, we spend more and more time, talking and sharing ideas. We all go back when everyone was seated at the dining table. There's no room for petty quarrels and we're more sensitive to the needs of one another.

Sharing is Caring

Not all are blessed to keep their jobs or have good food on the table everyday. We were given an opportunity to help those in need at this time, when a friend invited us to join him to give out food this weekend. It was a enlightening and inspiring to be able to share this deed with others. You forget the hard part of being limited. You forget the little pains and disappointments. It gave us hope and it gave us purpose even on lockdown.

The plan is to cook food and go around, give it to those in need. But since we are on ECQ, we have kids and we can't fit in one car, we might just donate of what we can afford in order to give our share.

Once this pandemic is over, we can commit to helping others without limitations.

Hidden Talents and Crafts

This is where the fun part begins. This involves my whole family. Though we're far away from each other, my parents and I opened ourselves to edible gardening. Just today, I harvested my first batch of water spinach. I planted it in soil. It grows in soil as long as you keep it moist. Then my dad turned our 200 gallon aquarium into a planter. He painted it and even polished it. Now they're set to put soil and start with their first seedlings.

My sister made an impulsive move and enrolled in an online course at the UC San Diego. She said it was a last minute decision but next thing she knows, the course was finished and she got her certification. This was while she's also taking her MA and working as a teacher all at the same time. So yes, some powers you got there little sissy! Kudos!

Baking 101. There was a time when I said, that a slice of cake became so precious when this quarantine began. Now, it's nothing because everyone is baking! My niece is into it too, my brother is very supportive of it too. Not only in baking or cooking, there are various crafts I see online. It's refreshing to see people share their products and videos. Plus, they put so much encouragement for the rest to be productive as well.

The positive outlook in all of his is, we use our free time to learn and understand the small things we don't mind during our old normal. We all came to a point that we decided not to limit ourselves even in a very limited situation. The most exciting part, we can continue all these when we enter to a new phase after Covid- 19, let's stay positive!

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Whining

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Wed, 06 May 2020 03:55:00 +0000

Updated: May 8, 2020

This post was originally placed on my FB wall last night. A friend of mine got affected by the “whining” part of my post or maybe the whole thing because somebody close to her “might” lose a job in the shutdown of the tv network.

Here is the actual post:

In other news: people are crying because Abs- Cbn has shut down. Please... next thing you know they’re back in business, quit whining.

I don't expect people to agree or to disagree with me. I did not see the point in discussing further, especially when my friend's opinion got deeply involve and in the privacy of my FB wall. I gave an answer in a very technical way, because what I said was merely a statement, an expression. I closed the conversation in the most ethical and diplomatic manner I can and I have to say, we can't "agree to disagree" because there was just one opinion that circulated in the original thread, and it's not even mine, it's like telling me to agree with what you said and on my FB wall.

The mistake was I did not expound on the idea further so it looked as if I generalized everything. My words were too strong, it's insensitive, again, my mistake and I apologize for that.

Now why whining? Aside from the fact that the root cause of this is the reaction on "whining", if we're going to focus on losing jobs per se, let me give a more detailed and fair approach on it. My two cents?

The issue is not really about the network shutting down, it’s their employees who “might” lose their jobs.

We have friends working in this tv network too. The thing that should be looked upon is how each one (the employees) will understand, accept and handle the current situation they're in.

Spox Harry Roque latest update May 7, 2020

DOLE: Network employees will still have jobs and will be paid accordingly

All are affected but, they (our friends) opt to think of the next steps, on how they'll survive and grow from this situation. They're as vocal as everyone else but their statements are hopeful, and optimistic. So when I said “quit whining”, it only means that I don't fear for this company, they still stand a chance. With that, let us put into mind that it is not just the employees of this network who are suffering. There are others in worse cases with or without this pandemic. We all have problems to face, it’s not just you who lose in daily battles and “who will” lose something for this matter.

Given the current global situation, there are those who lost their battle to Covid- 19 without even seeing their loved ones. Our health workers, frontliners are risking their lives everyday. Our servicemen taking all the punches from unsatisfied citizens. Others already lost their jobs, forced to stop without due process. People are let go from small to middle type companies because they have to cut costings. Some have shutdown permanently. A lot has nothing to eat with no roof to protect them, deprived of their medical needs because of the pandemic.

There's just too much to take in. Yet, I see people yes, whine about the shut down of this broadcast network. It's okay to cry and get emotional, but it's different if we take things on a political and personal level, then make judgements based on emotions, without knowing the facts, the technicalities behind every circumstance. It pays to be well- informed than react to things based on what ifs, maybes and malicious hearsays.

Outside this network issue, I personally, have immediate family members who lost their jobs just because they're considered as non- essential workers. My husband had to remove some of his staff for that same reason, because "they're not important". You think it’s easy to get someone out of job? no it’s not. But! these same people remained and offered help so that the company can still function accordingly even if they will not get paid.

Optimism plays a big role in our personal games and in the choices we make. In other words, allow yourself to understand the situation and carry yourself to the next level instead of dwelling onto something you have no control of.

The idea that for every morning we wake up, there is no assurance on what awaits us in this world, is something we have to deal with. That's why there are those who remain positive, there are those who take things one at a time, there are those who focus on one's mental and spiritual well- being, and those who choose to live and put value on the little things they have. I’m not saying all, at least some of us.

There’s no assurance, there’s no security if our families, these people will get their jobs back, it’s sad and insanely bothersome, but no one is complaining, there's no time for it at all. They just move on and they pull the good side on losing their only source of income, that's self- care, family time, and staying healthy.

This thing that happened with the tv network was untimely. It's a very sensitive issue to touch on. It's out of our hands, the timing was bad, I must agree. It may seem to be a political move, but let us stick to the facts instead, it will help broaden our "perspective".

I was hopeful that it won't end this way.

I sympathize with them not only because we enjoy watching their programs, but also because for some time, my mom was a talent of this tv network and worked with the likes of Sarah Geronimo. My mom also came out in various teleseryes and had a chance to be in the talk show of Kris and Korina. My sister was part of a modeling workshop too. Me and my siblings walked the grounds of Abs- Cbn as if we're part of a bigger family. We enjoyed eating in the canteen side by side with some talents. My husband did a couple of sessions with Abs- Cbn as a musician too.

I'm pretty positive of what I said: "Next thing you know, they're back in business".

I commend the President of the tv network for being optimistic.

Looking at the “obvious”, it will take time, but this company will get its franchise back. They play a big role in mass media, they’re technically #1, they will be back, even bigger, brighter!

Better days are on the way...

From the author: I don't share my thoughts for the purpose of changing a reader's point of view, I don't expect for my readers to agree or to disagree with what I share, and I don't insist that my posts are correct.

Coping

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Mon, 27 Apr 2020 04:25:00 +0000

How do you cope in this ongoing health crisis? My family has been on community quarantine for more than a month now. I lost count already since our focus are on activities that we can do in order to keep the little of the old normal and at the same time, adjust what the new normal can bring.

On our children

The scenario is different for people or families that have minors to think about.

Our coping went a bit easy on this part. Why? because our kids of 8 yrs. & 15 yrs. are natural homebodies.

A routine brought balance to our kids' daily life. The routine is composed of different activities that will nurture their mental and physical health.

For my 8 yr. old, I enrolled him in Kumon for enhanced reading and comprehension. He's given worksheets that he can practice everyday even on weekends. Then, I reinforce it with short story reading. I also added Math drills and basic home education like doing chores and it does not take a lot of his time. Playing is time for himself.

Since my 15 yr. old is an excellent student in school, I gave him this time to do what he wants, he's a teenager, there are expectations. But on the other side of things, we keep him busy by learning an instrument, he is a good bass guitar player and each day, his dad has set drills for him to do. Aside from that, he has his chores too. We also make him research on various issues, like history and we discuss his findings with him.

On a weekly basis, we treat the boys with take- out food. Our goal is to take a break from the usual by serving the kids their favorite food and to help the food delivery sector.

Though social exposure is an issue, me and my husband provide a level of relationship and understanding so they can relate to us. Gaming is a good way to bond. Movie night is also something to look forward to. Video calls with our families both here and abroad are cherished now more than ever.

On their Physical Health

This got me on the edge when this pandemic started. I remember mid- January of this year, when my youngest son got terribly sick. The fever was high, he had cough and colds. I was worried that he may have gotten the virus. The doctor ordered for some tests done, prescribed medicines and we did a lot of praying. After the doctor's visit, he became well and his lab results were normal, turned out to be regular flu. Moving forward, I made sure to treat each body ache, cough and colds as if we have the virus. Aside from their daily dose of multivitamins, I gave each a separate in- take of vitamin- C and loads of fresh calamansi juice everyday. It became a daily in- take and praise God! we've kept each one healthy since.

Our purpose is really to balance the home for the children while we also want to make them aware of what is happening now, why this is happening and what may come in the future.

On a Personal Note

The reason why I made this post was because of the realization I made while I was talking to my mom the other day. The first whole month of being quarantined, I must admit, I was in denial. Then, I had panic attack. I was anxious. In any given opportunity for us to go out, I felt nervous and I buy whatever and spend on anything that is easy to cook, easy to open, non- perishable including toiletries. I have a selection of hotdogs in my freezer. I have marinated chicken from Chowking and Purefoods stored too. What's next? Jollibee Chicken Joy and McDonald's Chicken Nuggets?

You know the saying "for every supply run, it feels like an episode from The Walking Dead', it does feel that way. It's the idea that we are not only protecting ourselves but the whole community.

Everytime my mom or sister would ask if there's anything we need, even if we have the essentials, I still give them a list. Next thing I know, my fridge was full, my freezer was overflowing and I can't close my pantry. Then it hit me, I am officially a panic buyer.

It was an eye- opener. It was a bit weird to be in "that" mind set where a slice of cake became so precious, when milktea became a total treat and when our long walk to the supermarket (supply run) was considered as leisure walk. I was totally unaware with my state of mind.

Now, I take it one day at a time, especially that ECQ protocols may change based on where we're at.

Mid- April, the Quezon City Mobile Fresh Market paid our condo a visit. Every Tuesday the mobile market is going to be in our community. They have fresh vegetables, fruits, chicken, seafood and this week they will add grocery items. In other words, there's no point in panicking. The mobile fresh market became a blessing to us. It is something new, it is something to refresh our weekly life without risking ourselves. The solution to my panic mode came naturally, I'm very grateful for the mobile fresh market.

The next thing I went through was the stress. I understand that it's normal for most to feel stressed. I understand that this crisis is new for all. It took a toll on me physically, I wanted to puke at times, I got tired and drained like I worked my a_s off the whole day. It looked like I'm deprived of sleep even if I got all the rest needed.

My husband was looking after my well- being. Even if he's busy working from home 8-to-5, his presence brought back my focus. He tries his best to take a break from work and secure things needed to be done. Like what I mentioned in my blog prior to this, my work never stops. The struggles that this pandemic has brought us, added to the tasks we do everyday. We needed to exert more effort for every dilemma we face.

Coping

Finally, as we enter the extension of the quarantine, I was able to give myself some time and insert activities I can do to keep my mind off this crisis.

1. Cooking/ Eating

We eat a lot these days. I cooked dishes that I don't normally prepare. I cook Yangchow for breakfast almost everyday, we grill a lot even for a few pieces of meat or fish. I don't bake as much but we make pizza. And yes, I made Dalgona Coffee just for the heck of it because I don't drink instant coffee.

2. Blogging

I know this has been out of the scene for a long time, but what the hell, I'm gonna blog and yes, it feels good to create again.

3. Urban Gardening

This is nothing new, I've been into urban gardening since we moved to our new condo. I grew basil, okra, eggplant, alugbati. But this time, I started growing seedlings. I'm enjoying the process. I did not buy the seeds, it's actual seeds from the fruits and vegetables we ate. I have ponkan, chives, green chili and I'm also propagating kangkong and alugbati.

4. Coloring

I color a lot, but sometimes it takes time for me to finish a page. Now, my focus is to be more creative in combining colors and yes, to finish a design in a week.

My family, My parents

My boys give me the reason why I thrive everyday and I need to remain whole for them. They're the most important factor in surviving this crisis. My parents being the most vulnerable, has been part of my everyday life by checking on them, making sure that they're kept safe and healthy.

The realizations and learnings from this health crisis has enlightened us on things we never thought existed. The life we are capable of and the challenges we never thought we can face and solve immediately. The new normal will certainly change the future. It will be good because change has always been nurturing to one's being.

Foreseen Journey

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 09:32:00 +0000

I wonder how travel will be like when this is all over...

We were set to travel in Spring of 2022. Now, the whole pandemic global situation is shaping a different future for travel. Is it going to be a lot easier? reasonable? exciting? The goal of our next family trip is to teach our children the technicalities of going on a trip. Having an 18 yr. old by that time, it is important for him to learn and experience travel at that age. From booking a flight, policies, insurance, airport transfers, accommodation and arriving safely to their desired destination. Later on, they will venture on their own, especially that we have a family abroad.

That was the plan...

But now, we need to think of a travel scenario with the effects of the current global situation. With all that is happening, the fate of my kids are at stake. Education, recreational activities, social, it's affected. I might end up home- schooling them if this will not end soon. Time keeps going, my kids are growing and suddenly, everything went to a halt, a reality we need to battle and endure as parents.

Travel plays a significant role in preparing them to be independent. It is the one thing we need to inject to our boys in order for them to thrive further and never to limit themselves. Our purpose as parents is clear, we will go for it. But the question is, will the next journey be fitting with the aftermath of Covid- 19?

With that, I’m grateful for the chance we were given to take the kids to visit our family in America before all this began. I pray, by the time we're set to roll out our next trip, the fruit of this pandemic will be for a safer, cleaner and a more secure travel experience that will welcome all adventurers back both sea and air.

THE GREAT EQUALIZER

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 06:41:00 +0000

I am a stay at home mom for 16 years. There were times when my status was questioned in a world where women normally work. The only difference is, my role stays and responsibility adds up based on the current situation. Work is 24/7 to secure, balance, and to “maintain” a life that will be healthy for the well- being of my 3 boys and a cat.  

The challenge now is, I’m put in a situation where I have limited access serving my purpose everyday.  One of the obstacles that me and my family has to face, is being in a community, exposed where a big number of Covid- 19 cases in QC are from. My strong partnership with my other half is the major player in this pandemic. We work together. We function as one and that is vital in situations where we need to think first than react to things.

When this is over, all boils down to the basic principles of life, mind set tells it all. Though I don’t earn anything, but the tasks I have been doing in my 16 years as a stay at home mom, the gift of readiness, is paying off.

All of us are struggling, the world is suffering. 

Still, we are blessed that at least one of us can go buy food even if we are on Extreme Community Quarantine. We move on, we stay healthy, we have means of communication and we still have access on basic commodities. 

In other countries, people are being cut- off entirely so they stay home. Some are subject to 7 years in jail if they don’t follow. Some are beaten up as punishment for not following quarantine protocols and these are facts.

Here in the Philippines, even if most Filipinos are stubborn, we still have accessibility. It’s tougher, but we can still move around without getting hurt, let’s be Grateful.

This government is preparing aid for millions in the informal sector. Put somebody from the opposition, it will be the same. It’s a sad reality for this country. Leaders have come and go but the problem in the informal sector has remained the same. In all efforts made, execution won’t be perfect, but something is done. No one can  carry out all these overnight, let’s just cooperate. Bashing and politicizing the situation will only make things more complicated.

Do what is told, abide with the existing rules, because even the WHO, the UN and the so- called super powers of the world, are challenged by this unseen enemy.

Regardless who is in government, this is not the time to say who can do better, who is the right person to lead. In the end, this is all on us. The wealthy, the poor, the middle- class, the first world down to the poorest nation, the young, the old, tax payers, the street dwellers, the sick, the healthy, the unemployed, no one is spared. 

Our actions are as contagious as this sickness we are fighting. Share for the greater good, not for some selfish reason. 

Patience, understanding, perseverance and HUMILITY are needed now more than anything else. Use this time to reconnect with God, make faith stronger it will protect you both body and soul. 

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This is happening for a valid reason. The world stopped, giving us a chance to redefine what life is all about.

Easy said than done right? But you see, life is what you make it. Our survival is based on how each one of us will accept and handle adversities such as a health crisis. Allow yourself to find the good in every situation.

You’re the artist of your own life. It is you who will foresee and project your future, it is your responsibility, not your chosen president, not the mayor you wanted, it’s you, just you and only you.

Outside Filipino, Panitikan

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Tue, 30 Jul 2019 02:10:00 +0000

This post was created a few months ago. Please pardon for the late posting. I was hesitant at first, but this topic is very important to be seen on a wider perspective, so let me share my personal thoughts on it as a parent of 2 young boys.

Coming from a home where I have maintained English as the first language spoken, at the same time, live around the traditions and culture as Filipinos, I have to say, that yes, removing Filipino, Panitikan in the college curriculum is okay.

Who am I to say why it is okay?

Read on...

The moment we came out in this world, regardless where you’re from, which country you grew up in, awareness of our roots begins from the very walls of our homes. Schools are institutions that give us the chance to broaden our idea of the said culture and background. They’re also the very same body that helps us practice and embrace these traditions outside our homes.

Taking the said subject out of the curriculum does not make us less of a Filipino, especially when it’s taken from a certain level of education where we should have embraced our nationality by heart and mind.

In my own opinion, this is just a step up, in preparation for the world that is globally competitive. Work begins with good communication skills and with English being the main language. As a matter of fact, a third language would be an asset.

3 languages, 4 or more, does not rip you off from your roots as a Filipino. The foundation during our primary and secondary days in school has made us love and appreciate who we are. Our history, our traditions to our beliefs are intact.

As a parent of 2 boys, who will lead their own families too, I look at the bigger picture. I searched for the benefits instead. It’s simplifying work load of students and putting their concentration on something that can be more useful now and in the future.

In the end, our beloved institutions are still given the freedom, the choice whether to include Filipino, Panitikan in the school curriculum.

True Colors

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Tue, 09 Apr 2019 14:45:00 +0000

Please be advised that this event I'm about to share happened in the past. I am in a better state now that's why I'm able to put it into context. I was hesitant to make this post or to put this entry online. But if I don't, then that makes me untruthful and worse, towards myself. We all go through adversities, what's life without it.

It was a tough 2 years for me.

Staying positive is an important aspect I hang on to everyday to remain sane in my daily challenges. But with the bombardment of assumptions towards me as a person, as a mom, as a wife and just simply a girl who was able to make her first travel extraordinary, the lighter side dimmed down.

Change happened after our family vacation in the United States 3 years ago. There was a bit of a struggle going back to our daily grind after living there for almost half a year. While we were in America, I was warned by my husband of the changes that could happen, especially because I've experienced and seen what life is in a different perspective.

The very reason why we made our long time plan to travel to the United States materialize was because our children were old enough to appreciate the experience. It was due time to see our family abroad and for the fact that it will take a long time before we can make such event happen again.

This travel unfolded easily for us, it felt right so we went on with it. The feeling was surreal because I was with my own family. The experience became extraordinary because it was a dream fulfilled with my children. It changed my perception in life. How to react on things, how to deal with people and how to be more sensitive of my surroundings. I became knowledgeable of things people most probably thought I'm not capable of.

When we were finally home from our trip, I was so excited to tell stories about the things I learned and experienced to anybody who was ready to listen. But the reception was different, some got disappointed because we weren't able to meet their expectations. Others were not as enthusiastic just because "maybe", they don't want to show they're excited for us. Some were truly thankful and happy for the gifts we got for them.

As the days moved on, it turned into months and came a point when my other half had to leave for the United States again. There were few who questioned our motives and most especially our capability to pursue the plan of moving to the United States. It came to a point when a certain individual even researched and tried to debunk our said goal.

We share these things because being part of the small group we trust, it is more likely expected that we will get support, that we will get encouragement, but that did not happen. Anyway, I survived this particular phase.

In 2017, I functioned as a single mom for 6 months because my husband had to take care of things in the United States. I was at my best everyday to get by as a single parent.

During this timeline, my role as a stay at home mom was also questioned. Why am I not working? Apparently for some, work, money and title are forms of empowerment. I greatly respect that, but no one can choose what I should do and tell me what I should contribute.

For the past 15 years, I maintained a well- balanced home, I created a healthy environment for my family, and that's all on me and my husband. The sacrifices I made are worth more than the money and power these people are suggesting.

My purpose is to keep our family intact despite the distractions we are getting, despite the intruders that came into our family life. Support is the very foundation of every good deed. Once it crumbles down, it loses the whole essence and reason of doing the deed at all.

Lessons and Realizations:

Find your purpose and focus on it than on someone else's life.

Plant memories beyond what money can buy and what will stick to those you love once you leave this world.

The best thing about hard times and defining moments is you get to see the true colors of those around you.

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What happened for the past 2 years was a turning point for our family. A complete transition. We saw our plan of the future as something good, we were filled with so much hope. With the feedback we got, we thought, it is also something we should learn to let go.

Even with the absence of support, there were those who remained true. I commend the people who reached out and cheered us on.

I learned to play around it by standing firm. I remain quiet but I know when to treat a situation and demand respect in return.

The Passing of Emo

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Thu, 13 Dec 2018 02:15:00 +0000

2018 is indeed the saddest year for us... Not only we encountered something difficult with a friend, but it became truly heartbreaking because our Beagle Emo passed away last October 15, 2018.

The passing of our dog was one of the things I feared the most. It feels like we lost a special person in our lives. We mourn and we still are in the process, missing his presence a lot. Emo brought so much joy and love especially to our children. A Beagle is a great companion, a loyal dog and a sensitive one, it feels whether his masters are troubled or excited.

I can't go to details as to how he passed, what happened... Better if I celebrate the life he shared with us...

Emo Making My Day Brighter

EMO

When Emo Met Jazzy

We appreciate all the love and support that went our way with the passing of Emo... The outpour of comments on our social media pages that described their knowledge and experiences with Emo... Everybody knows Emo as a lovable Beagle. Emo is a one of a kind dog... Emo is emo, no other pet can be like Emo. My eldest son was the most affected with this event. It was our first time to see and hear him cry so hard... Emo was his from the very beginning. We got Emo for him... A day, a week without Emo beside our son makes him feel that something is missing.

It has been 2 months since Emo's passing and it has been a difficult stage for us because we also need to balance our son's emotions, and at the same time, move on with life without Emo... To be honest, this entry is making me emotional. I pause and stare out the window taking some time to breathe in this reality.

You are truly special and a one of a kind companion Emo... you will always be in our hearts... Be one with the Universe again...

Emo: December 28, 2010- October 15, 2018

Closure

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 03:03:00 +0000

Being able to share part of the story that made our year extraordinary was a form of closure to me. I waited 2 months after the event in order to put things together and face the impact once I made these posts:

2018 The Onlisystem
2 Sides of the Story

My intention and my choice why I created these entries was not to destroy but to bring awareness. To give some realization that things like these happen, it was my first time to experience where a friend got so deeply involved.

As the unfortunate event was transpiring, I was in total denial. To a point that during the week my dad confronted our friend, my husband and I welcomed him and his wife to our home, without the knowledge that something was already going on. It all made sense when I found out what happened with the project and connected everything to the time when they were asking about my father.

Going back to bringing awareness, if I was to destroy somebody, I would have dropped names and even posted pictures and documents. I will never gain anything from doing that, as a matter of fact, it will only taint my being because I wasn't raised to counter things and events like these. I was taught to remain silent, that there is always a Higher Being watching our every move, hearing our every intention, and taking note of what we do to others.

My family always give people the opportunity to make things right. If something was said on our part, well, that was out of frustration and disappointment, and I think that's just normal for anyone.

I personally took this as a turning point, a learning curve. I know better now, I will be more careful when it comes to people, especially when friends are involve.

As to that friend of ours, you weren't as bad until this happened. Thank you for the fun times you shared with our family. You are still welcome to come and fix what needs to be fixed. You will still get your last paycheck as long as you clear your billing statement. Thank you for still being a friend to my husband who is one of the most affected in all of this. Don't expect things to remain the same. There is a reason why my husband is still with you, but once we reach our goal as a family, I pray, when that opportunity comes, my husband, can move forward from this and without you.

The impact of everything that happened has done so much damage in our personal lives. We can earn the money back, but when people and relationships are affected, it will take time. It will take a lot of humility and forgiveness to put closure to this sad event.

We are in the process of healing, we try our best to forget and move forward by not talking about it, we thrive to see the good in the mess we got into, and that is why this blog will serve as closure for all.

We will leave everything in the hands of God, accept what it was, and embrace what good it will be.

-Updated-

2 Sides of The Story

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Thu, 29 Nov 2018 13:08:00 +0000

In relation to the post I made entitled 2018 The Onlisystem, in this entry, I'll be shedding light on how I personally feel about the unfortunate event that transpired. I will look on the idea in this whole fiasco, "if" there are still 2 sides that exist.

In everything we do, it's always only for the good or for the bad. We give and we take. The only thing that will make the difference is when we give more, if we give less, or if we take less and we take more. Given both "choices", it greatly define our intentions on situations and most especially towards others.

I highlighted the word "choices" because it will be the measurement and my basis why in the story about The Onlisystem, there is only one side to consider. Everything I shared in that post are based on facts, we have photos and documents to back things up.

We chose to work with a friend for the build- out of my parents' house because "we trust" that he will deliver. He guaranteed everything verbally. Whatever what was agreed upon, it was verbally emphasized that we, as clients will get our money's worth in restoring our precious home.

Everything flowed naturally. Like I said, it started out well, but right in the middle of it, we knew that we were already being taken advantage of. It's hard to explain on text, better to see the site or "our house" in person, but why go through that when it's done. The mistake was made.

We gave our friend a chance to attend to the concerns. We reached out to him several times, even through my husband, his close friend. My father had to come up with other things they can work on to give them opportunities to fix the problem and still earn. They ignored everything, and that my friends was a choice! Even given opportunities to fix the problem and damages, he, they let it pass like nothing happened.

As clients, it's normal for us to ask and question because we are spending money. Can't that be enough to put value on somebody's dream to have his house fixed so it can serve his family? We entrusted our family life, our stories with him and yet...

Once we make a choice, it means whatever it is that is involve, has brushed our heads, giving us time to think and gauge how are we going to get through, and what are the next steps we need to take. In this case, our friend whom we trusted, chose to leave things hanging. He chose not to face and fix the mess made, he chose to proceed like he didn't do any damage. Is it even worth to know the other side of the story?

Given any situation, the next best thing anyone could have done was to face the problem. Exert effort and show that if that's not who you are, take the moment or opportunity to prove yourself. In running a business, everything will be thrown at you, what we had was just minor compared to those who spend time in court, and they can't even face the facts.

My family has fell victim to these types of people, you know, opportunists. For everytime things like these happen, we let it go, because the Universe will take care of them sooner or later.

I'll be honest, my family has learned to let it go already, it's me who is stuck with disbelief.

It saddens me and it breaks my heart to know that my parents has no choice but to swallow and deal with what was given to them. To live with this everyday, is shattering. This whole thing made me feel like I delivered the wrong person right at our very door steps, not a friend.

It is not easy for me to shrug it off because I considered the person who did all these things as family. We all considered him and his wife as family.

I am baffled by what just happened. Why it happened.

2018 The Onlisystem

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Tue, 27 Nov 2018 05:37:00 +0000

I was on hiatus for about a year. I decided to pause from my personal blogs to give time for what was ahead when 2018 greeted us. Though this post may fall under the "New Year's" category or as a year ender blog, I decided to make this now because of the downpour of negativity and the outpour of random emotions caused by it.

Why 2018 an Awful Year---

In my years of existence, I've encountered people with personalities of all sorts. I made friends with them, I accepted them for who they were and they did the same with me, which I truly appreciate. I seldom experience rifts with anyone. But I still do yes, no relationship is perfect and for the reason that I may have to let go, that is because it was becoming bad for me.

2018 became the most awful in my years of existence because of one incident. An incident that changed the course of life itself, an event that changed people and a moment that brought out the true colors of the people we trusted. We, meaning my whole family which includes my parents.

Middle of 2017 my parents asked me if my husband's close friend/ best man who owns a construction business would be open to renovate and do a minor build-out for our house. My husband was in the US when this request happened, so I was the middle person who brought both the client and service provider to meet.

If there was something big to be considered in this project, that is the build out of a swimming pool. The rest were minor work, installation, minor repainting and few add-ons that came along the process.

I was present during the initial assessment and quotation of work needed to be done, and I was also present when the actual and final quotation was presented. With great trust, considering that the engineer is/ was our close friend, my parents did not hesitate even with the absence of a contract. In this case, the hired construction company should have prepared a contract as an option at least to protect both parties, but for some reason they didn't, so my family looked at the circumstance that we are going to work with a "close friend", and TRUST was the only thing binding this project from start to finish.

Like any build- out, the project started well... Work officially began April 2018, estimated time for it to finish was within 78 days. Come June, our family, I personally, started having doubts as work moved forward. Almost all that was in the quotation that was agreed upon was not met. Cheap materials was used. Cheap that you can find those materials and fixtures in the palengke (Filipino wet market) or a local market.

For instance:

Market price for bathroom fixture, a shower head with/ and faucet made of plastic (at least that's how it looked to me) is at 450php, but we were billed 1,500-2,000php. Other fixtures weren't even stainless steel, we needed to change the fixtures with top of the line brands so it wouldn't look so bad.

We asked for 100% tiling we were given 70% cheap tiles for the garage (which I doubt can hold 5 cars) and the backyard and 30% was cement. As work continued, it became worse. The quality and design was the cheapest I've ever seen, it's a lawsuit waiting to happen.

50% of the electrical system of the house bogged down because of faulty wiring done by the electrician of the said company.

Roofing and engineering of everything was awful to a point that just by looking at the mess they did, will make you think, "how did this guy even get a license?".

The doors that was supposed to be hardwood was replaced with nothing but crap wood and the carpenter doesn't even know what he was installing. For a freaking crappy door, we were billed 65,000php for the main door and 26,000php each for the remaining doors.

The storage room of my dad was one of the last things they finished and they complained about the junk laying around. When it was agreed on that the storage room was the first or second in line after the pool so the items can be sorted immediately.

They did not follow what was in the quotation, and for every time my dad will question or ask, they will open and say that there should be an additional payment when in fact, it was in the original quotation. I experienced when that friend of ours even consulted me about the tiles. I openly gave my full on suggestion to make it outdoor if its going to be for the storage room of my dad for safety purposes. Both agreed on it, paid for it, and we didn't get any tiling done for the storage, not unless we pay again.

There are items that were not done which were included in the billing statement, items that was already paid for which were still included in the last statement. (the billing statement is questionable)

It seems like this friend of ours doesn't know what he was doing... it seems like he got overwhelmed with the amount of money he can get in this project. Regardless of who, the most unbelievable part is that, even if it's the father-in-law of his bestfriend, he will do anything in his power just to desperately earn from people who trusted him and his business.

In all of this, that friend of ours had the nerve to act like he was the victim. You see mister, if you feel degraded of what my father told you, it's hard to say this but, YOU DESERVE IT!

We don't even look at this mess on a "client" perspective anymore. Let's say, it's just really about deception. No respect, no consideration, just proceeding disgracefully with whatever it takes to survive both in business and most probably in life.

If we were different, or if we didn't know you, with what you have done, a lawsuit is already headed your way.

If we're going to talk about budget? Oh man, we have money, we have the funds. Let me also clear some things here. For the additional work outside the first quotation, we consulted the construction company and they said yes, and as usual they billed my family like we spit gold.

Those additional work was an opportunity to get things done properly, to straighten the damages made. They accepted the work load, but left the house unfinished. A visit from that friend of ours was never made since July, not a single visit at the site (and he said he is running a business). Talk about being a true professional. He may have used these mistakes to prove himself or learn from it at least, but he didn't, he became prideful instead and acted he was the victim. With that attitude sir, no growth will ever be gained.

These are just some... just some... and I haven't even mentioned the damage you caused in our personal lives, especially between my husband and my father! Not only you use people, but you feel so entitled.

My parents had high hopes for you... they hired you because they want to help you and your business...

I was requested to remain quiet... I was told not say things to destroy you because we are not like you. But what you did to my family is unacceptable that's why I am doing this. Talk about major trickery.

I'm using this blog and my right to post in my blog what made 2018 so awful. Maybe once people in our network gets to read this, there will be movement, change and realizations at least, to close this devastating event that barged into our quiet lives.

-Updated-

Spoiled Daughter- In- Law

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Tue, 24 Oct 2017 04:44:00 +0000

In the recent reunion I had with my childhood friends, the talked about topics was mostly family life. What's new, the fun part as married women and the ups and downs of sharing a new relationship with people we didn't grow up with, yet, are there to complete our families. I'm talking about our "in-laws". I was the last person to share in the group about my experiences with my in-laws.

My friends asked me on what kind of relationship I share with my mother-in-law in particular. All I blurted out at that moment was "I'm a spoiled daughter-in-law". Over-all, my relationship with my in-laws from my mom-in-law, my sister-in-law and brother-in-law and even cousin-in-laws are close to perfect.

We all have our stories to share, all are expected to be different and all relationships are bound to be created depending on the person or what defines both us and our in-laws. I realized in the end, it's all about respect. It's all about finding your spot in the family and by being sensitive or being aware on what's happening around you.

My in-laws give importance to my part in the family, which I really appreciate. They respect my role as the mother of their grandchildren and nephews. They never bypass my role as the wife of my husband.

My parents taught me well in order to have a smooth relationship with my in-laws: pay respect by recognizing their positions and their roles in the family, radiate self-respect and by being simple. Personally, as much as possible, I try to be the one to adjust in any given situation.

Honesty is also part of a successful relationship, especially with your other half.

It is given that we all have our ways in running our own households. On my experience, being open about the things I prefer matters. Don't be afraid to share your thoughts on certain things. We all have our perspectives so honesty and sincerity will help both sides meet in the middle, agree on something without stepping on each other's roles in the family. Well so far it works for me.

I am very happy, thankful and partly proud to share with my friends the closeness I have with my in-laws. It kinda shed a new light to something where the in-laws (particularly the mom-in-law) plays the villain. I guess for some it might take time, like a lot of time. Hopefully for most of us, everything is running smoothly.

If there's one thing to learn when dealing with others in general, it's always to be respectful and understand our differences.

When I said that "I'm a spoiled daughter- in-law", it became a spot- on realization that made me even more grateful for meeting and marrying a man with such a lovely background and family. If my husband is a nice person... my in-laws are nicer. 😁

Pumpkin Patch

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Wed, 11 Oct 2017 09:32:00 +0000

In my previous posts, Fall marked our trip in the US last year. We arrived in June and our planned stay was just 2 months. But since it was our first family trip and we haven't seen our families in GA for years, we decided to extend our stay until at least we can celebrate my brother-in-law's birthday, my son's birthday, our great grandma's birthday and to experience Fall.

As I was told that it's during Fall that the Pumpkin Season begins and so is Halloween preparations and Thanksgiving. It is also the most liked season because of its warm colors and cool breeze.

My youngest son grew fond of pumpkins since. It became his favorite vegetable, he loves Halloween and he even uses his pumpkin container for trick or treating all- year round as toy basin.

At this same time, for the past 2 weeks we've been driving by from church when we noticed that they're slowly setting up the patch. As first- timers, we got really excited. The day has finally arrived, and again from church, we went straight to have our first pumpkin patch experience.

It's like a mini fair. There's an ice cream truck, small rides for kids. One of the things we enjoyed was the scary maze, it was for the whole family to enjoy. The set- up was perfect, nothing too intense.

These pumpkins are for sale, the price will depend on the size. Wheelbarrows are made ready so it would be easier to tow pumpkins around. We bought small ones and displayed it by our kitchen window.

Pumpkins are often used as decorative lanterns (jack-o'-lanterns) for Halloween. By tradition, it is cooked or baked for Thanksgiving. Since we live in the south, the Country feel made it extraordinary. It was my first time, it brought out the kid in me. I mean, pumpkins of different sizes, with hay under my feet and Country music playing... I don't get that everyday, so I'm one happy mom.

4 Facebook Accounts

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 04 Aug 2017 06:06:00 +0000

I started joining social media in 2002. Friendster was so famous then. Through the years since the boom of the internet, the only applications I got involved in (aside from Friendster), was Multiply and Facebook, I also maintained both my blogging sites.

Like everyone else, I enjoyed the whole idea of being able to connect with friends from distant places. Schoolmates whom I haven't seen for years, and just the whole idea to be able to connect to people and voice out ones thoughts. My story goes around why I ended having 4 Facebook accounts in the last decade.

My first Facebook account was running smoothly. It was linked to my blogs and I'm very much friends with everyone until... it was hacked. My life was so open and sharing stories on my blogs thinking that I'm just an ordinary mom, I have nothing to lose.

The problem started when somebody tried to get log-in info through my details online. You see, aside from blogging, I am also an active gamer until 2013. I play World of Warcraft online. W0W requires so much and if millions are playing it, millions are also interested into getting an account for free, no matter what. To be able to join, one should purchase the game itself, create an account and pay on a monthly basis for game time. My account was a gift from my husband by the way.

Throughout the process, an account with a good setup can also be sold (for a good amount) to another interested gamer. Given that, later on, aside from my Facebook, my Blizzard account was also targeted for phishing. I deactivated my Facebook immediately, I changed all of my account info and I simplified the things I put on my blogs and online over-all.

My second Facebook account was made as soon as I deactivated my hacked FB. It stayed for awhile until... My husband requested me to deactivate it for a very important reason. You see, my husband is a private person, he is my opposite. If I like posting stuff, you won't hear a thing from him. So prying irks him a lot. If they can't get through him, the next person was me. It just so happen that I wasn't blogging as much too and I seldom make posts that's why this next deactivation process was not difficult to do.

My third Facebook account is supposedly for business purposes. With the deletion of my second FB account, my husband got rid of his own too and we decided to create this third as a business marketing instrument. For about a year, we were able to run a specialty loaf business. Then mid- 2016 we went out of the country for a long vacation. When we got back, everything changed, our lives changed and we did not push with the business anymore.

Coming from a good 4- month vacation, me and my husband agreed that I convert this FB "business" account as personal so we can share photos to our families. Later on, this third account went crazy (even with the most private setting) I got several requests from people I/ we have no intention of adding. When I mentioned crazy, there was just too much going on that it was already annoying so... deactivation time.

This fourth Facebook account I just made yesterday was carefully considered. I must admit, Facebook has become an essential in a sense that we want to be in touch with the "important people" in our lives. This account will serve close family members, relatives and friends I want to keep and "I'm actively" in touch with. Not much posting, no comments, no likes (maybe) but I'll be there for anyone who wants to share a conversation.

4 Facebook accounts...

Throughout this transition I also learned a few things specially when it comes to privacy. From having hundreds of contacts composed of family, friends and acquaintances, I was able to filter it down to less than 50. People worth keeping are those who were and still are very supportive and generous of their time to us, those who inspire us, precious beings we value because we matter to them...

My family is in transition, we want a fresh, clean beginning, and this is one part where we choose people we know that are true to us and who can be part of this new journey we're taking.

Minimalist Living

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Thu, 13 Jul 2017 05:22:00 +0000

My understanding of a Minimalist Living is running under the "less is more" perception.

It is also going back to basics at some point and it was just recently when I became fully aware that this way of living has always been our set up at home and it is called Minimalism.

We started this kind of approach the moment we started a family. Life began from the very bottom. We get by from paycheck- to- paycheck. This kind of situation has taught us to become wiser. We saw the positive effects in "having less". We get by with what is only needed and we spend less time hanging out.

Lifestyle is a key player in our lives. Its impact takes effect instantly. Sometimes it is stressful and there are moments that can be inspiring.

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A Minimalist's life for me is simple living. As for our function as a family, we were able to learn and appreciate the art of detachment. It is one way to unburden oneself and clearly an easy path to get rid of items that we don't need and we feel will only serve as clutter. Time management is also important in setting one's priorities.

At Home

My goal everyday as a stay at home mom is to make and keep a well- balanced household. It all starts within the four walls of our house. Having a conducive environment at home helps one overcome the mess that is outside, like a downpour of work or just the nonsense one has to deal with everyday.

The reason why we bought a condo is because it is more manageable. Less maintenance, less headache. It's smaller than a house but it is still spacious enough to decorate and play around with. A basic square cut is always recommended so in times you want to rearrange or redecorate, it's easy.

Get rid of old items especially those that are not being used. Toys, clothes, shoes etc... Not only you get to declutter but you also get to wear or keep newer things. In our case, we donate our old items.

Avoid excessive decorating.
Have plenty of storage and store items you want to keep properly
Build a personal space in a corner of a room.
In the kitchen, I also have the basics. Baking tools are on a set basis only. When I got my KitchenAid mixer, I gave the old stand mixer back to my mom.
I have 2 sets of plates one for formal dining and another for everyday use.

These are just examples, the list goes on.

Benefits:
Less clutter, less stress to the eyes and mind.
More room, more space for meditation or quiet time.
Less clutter, less dirt, less bugs and pests.
A clean house dictates clean living and a healthy lifestyle.

Food

The main goal is to avoid wastage and to equip your kitchen with your preferred essentials.

Buy the ingredients or items for cooking that are often used. In a week, I was able to practice to come up with a menu good for 4 and that becomes basis for my grocery list both perishable and dry goods. Not only you avoid wastage but you replenish your fridge with fresh items every week.

Establish what is needed to be bought in bulk and in minimal amount.
One of the things I love about the products we have in the Philippines is the "value pack". It gives the exact amount you need in one cooking or recipe.

Closet/Clothing

Let's say, for some of us, it is when we go shopping we greatly damage our budget or savings. One of the perks of being a homemaker is I'm not required to dress up everyday. Shopping for new items for events and gatherings or even just to replace whatever I have are the benefits I enjoy with having less or just the basics in my closet.

For whatever season it may be, "invest" on the basics and just do mix and match.

When it comes to footwear, storage can be an issue. Shoes have a life span whether it is often used or not. I personally have "one pair" of what I think is essential. A pair of flat shoes, strap- on/ sandals, flip flops, slip-on, walking shoes/ running shoes and I have a heavy duty pair which I can use during the rainy season.
Accessories, make- up, perfume: Basic, what you prefer of course, and just enough to consume at a certain period of time so you can treat yourself to a new set again.

Most of this basically hits on the amount we tend to buy and keep for a long time.

Travel

One of the things I keep in mind when I travel anywhere with my family is to pack light. On our recent trip to America, even if we were given an allowance of 2 50lbs each (x4), aside from our personal bags, we opted to bring 3 large suitcases only: 2 for our clothes and a luggage filled with pasalubong/ gifts. With kids in tow, it's always best to travel light especially for long haul flights.
Set your mind on souvenir items that are going to be useful when you get back home.

It's a different case when you've done major shopping at your destination. For us, we shipped the items we bought ahead of the time of our departure.
Based on our experience being around the East Coast, for a family of 4 we survived our daily tour with just my personal crossbody bag and a medium backpack in tow.

Wear the most comfortable clothes and shoes, the set of clothing you're willing to let go or you'll often use throughout your travel so you don't have to pack it.

Social

This is going to be more on a personal perspective. In 2015, my husband and I got rid of our personal Facebook accounts. Many wondered, a lot made speculations... and it's just Facebook! Whatever accounts we have now are just active for communication purposes.

For me, the only active accounts I have is Instagram which is on private and with chosen few as my contacts, plus my blogs.

Simplify your world online. The thing we don't like about social media is prying, and there's too much negativity circulating.

We choose the people we hangout with as well. It's cool to have a few friends that you can trust and be open with, than a lot which you barely know.

When it comes to social media or on mingling, filter your activities. You don't have to get rid of your accounts just filter everything and be wise on what you post and share online.

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The reason why my husband and I are able to achieve goals and meet them on our specific timeline is because living with less gives us a wider perspective of things, of life itself.

Avoid getting too sentimental.

Don't ponder and overthink too much.

Choose to Live in the moment.

We can plan well, relax, look at our options, and study everything before we plunge into something. It gives us a huge amount of time, at least some room to breathe.

Being a minimalist helps us achieve goals. It also teaches our children how to live a simple life.

No one is getting deprived by the way, Minimalism is simplifying things. It's humbling and it shows the brighter side of life itself.

World of Coca- Cola Tour

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 16 Jun 2017 04:43:00 +0000

Location:265 Park Ave W Northwest, Atlanta, GA 30313, United States

The World of Coca- Cola is situated within the Centennial Park District. It's just a few steps away from Centennial Olympic Park that was built for guests during the 1996 Olympics. It is right beside the Georgia Aquarium.

The World of Coca- Cola was the 2nd tourist spot we went to in Atlanta. Aunt Mel treated our whole family to the World of Coke as a welcome gift, but we were able to go during my eldest son's birthday last September.

I love Coke! It's my go- to drink if I want something refreshing on a hot day or just to unwind and while watching a great movie. This tour was one of the highlights of our US trip last year because we visited the home of Coke, where it all started.

John Pemberton Founder of Coca- Cola

Information Booth for interested guests

The Lobby

Here, folks will welcome you with Coca- Cola drinks.

This is also where you will find the Coca- Cola bottle sculptures and the waiting area that will lead to---
The Loft

The tour officially begins at The Loft. You will find memorabilia that represent the 125 Years of Coca- Cola from 30 different countries.

Our tour guide was very excited and asked each guest of their country of origin. It was amazing that the groups and families that we were with was composed of travelers and tourists from around the world. Switzerland, Korea, China, USA and even Greece. Of course, we got very excited to announce to all that we're from the Philippines.

Coca- Cola Theater

At the theater, a short film called Moments of Happiness was shown. It revolved around stories and moments of people from around the world with different cultures, how they celebrate and share their most valued journeys with Coca- Cola. It was a heartwarming film about love, life and family. The joys a drink can bring to our hearts.

I did not feature some of the other places we went to during our tour because we weren't able to take pictures. But you can visit: https://www.worldofcoca-cola.com/ for details.

Pop Culture Gallery

Bottle Works

Coca- Cola Polar Bear

The finale of our Coca- Cola tour was the Taste It! Experience. Here, we're able to taste over 100 Coca- Cola products from around the world. I guess, on what we've tasted so far, a country or continent's beverage is represented based on their culture or way of living.

Coke dispensers from places around the world: North America, Europe, Africa, Asia and Latin America

I took note of the following drinks I've been eager to try:

Japan- Vegitabeta ( not too sweet, refreshing, a bit bland)
Madagascar- Bonbon Anglais (unexplainable!)
North America- Gold Peak Sweet Tea (my new favorite in Georgia)
Korea- Joy (fruity)
North America- TAB ( gave me a nostalgic feel, milder taste compared to Coke)
Italy- Beverly (it's like vodka with sparkling water)

Over-all, I'm amazed on how Coca- Cola was able to recognize and come up with the distinct flavors that made each destination unique. I am proud to say that Asia has the most balanced set of beverages.

My eldest son trying Coca- Cola products from Europe

Aside from the Taste It! experience, a section was also made available for other Coca- Cola products we're more familiar with. Keep your cups cause you might want to extend your Taste It! journey with some Coke Life, Cherry or Vanilla Coke, or with the Original Taste we all love. My second best choice was Raspberry Coke!

Happy Me in My Happy Place

More Coke for take home!

Coca- Cola Store

We truly enjoyed our visit at the The World of Coca- Cola. It's one of our most memorable in this trip. It introduced a greater meaning than just recognizing and drinking a bottle of Coke. This whole experience showed us the other side of a famous soda brand, how it brings joy to everyone. I am very grateful to have experienced The World of Coca- Cola with my family. I mean, we love Coke!

Personal Tips On Getting Your Dream Condo

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Wed, 07 Jun 2017 08:24:00 +0000

It has been 2 years since we've officially moved to our new home and I'm loving every moment and everything about it. I decided to make this post about our new home purchase so I can shed a little light on what basis should you use in order to get your money's worth on purchasing a condo unit, at least coming from an ordinary person's point of view.

I've talked to certain individuals who were having difficulties on weighing things if they should get a condo or a house and a lot. First of all, an investment will depend on your perception or simply what will work for you not only now, but in the future as well. For me and my husband, throughout our married life, we've been staying/ renting in a condo. We saw the practical side of condo living, but we still plan to invest at least on a lot property if not a house and lot. We need to remember our personal reasons and purpose why we want and need to make this investment.

This whole entry will focus on our personal basis and experiences on choosing the right developer, the condo must-haves, location and other important things as buyers.

The no.1 rule we learned on making an investment is not to rush into things. Take time and do research, do ocular and inspect the exact location of the building itself. Usually, developers have model units, don't hesitate to go and ask around. Share your plans and goals with trusted people you think can help you, especially those who already made a good investment.

Purchase a property that will not give you headaches or any inconveniences.

It took 5-6 years for us to finally land at the hands of the right developer. We almost bought a property that we're not sure of. We went to several loops on choosing and making an "almost" bad decision. But from a casual talk with my husband's friend from work who found out about our intention, he gave us some points. It all began with that simple conversation, and now we're living in our dream home.

Location:

It's an investment, take into consideration the location. It's accessibility whether you have car or none. A lot of condos are being sold for an irresistible price, don't get hooked! There's a compromise. It's cheap but location- wise it's not family- friendly or it's situated near a slum area or low lying area. Worst of all, it may be resting on top or beside a fault line.

Accessibility is important, "as much as possible" find something near your work place. Look for nearby grocery stores, sari-sari stores even, banks, churches, schools, hospitals, commercial establishments. Check whether it's linked closely to major public transport such as trains and terminals. Lastly, make sure that it has ample parking space.

Our location is in a prime area of Quezon City. We're near major establishments. There are schools, and hospitals nearby. We're just a jeepney ride away to Cubao, we can walk to a known shopping location. We're beside major roads. All these, yet we get a nice, family- friendly environment. Once we get inside the premises of our condo it's quiet and peaceful. We have a jogging path, a swimming pool, a playground and an outdoor gym. We basically feel like we're in a resort.

Developer:

Once you've set your mind on the perfect location. Look for a developer. Be aware, most agents like profiling. How you dress up or what car you drive are some of the things they look into and it's a sad, pathetic truth. Be honest, show them who you really are, don't clothe yourself to impress. Anyway, just the thought you're interested on investing makes you a very capable person.

This can be tricky, but usually, the best in the business has something built in major locations. It's an investment right? spend on a good/ best developer. The one who can guarantee to meet your expectations. When I say guarantee, it means the developer has money that they don't wait for down payments to pay for the construction of the building. With that, pre selling offers will come in handy. They can give you flexible terms. Just like what happened to us. Since our developer has money, they can afford to adjust according to our terms. Of course, that is with further study and approval. This goes with a reliable bank the developer is linked with.

Here are other important things to look for:

Amenities:

We're basically looking for a home that can give you more than a clean environment. Nowadays, a community offers amenities such as a pool and a playground. Look for these. It will add as a good find with the investment you're about to make. In our case and as mentioned above, aside from a swimming pool and a playground, we also have a clubhouse for events, a jogging path, an outdoor gym and a grotto where mass is held on special occasions. Make sure that the amenities are already available for use when you move in.

Cut of the condo units with major fixtures included:

This is one of the reasons why it took us quite some time to finally nail the right condo. We've been to several condos and one of the things that greatly bothered us was the unusual cut of the units, which I think is the trend nowadays. We were looking for a condo that can give us the feel that we're living in a house. It's small yet a basic square cut can give us room to make adjustments or plan our interior properly.

Choose a condo that already have the basics: a clean cut unit with dividers, working bathroom fixtures, kitchen with a sink or at least shelves. Look for a grease trap as well.

Balcony:

Get a unit with balcony. It will serve as your garden or special nook.

Water:

Look for a condo where water is not affected when power is down. If you get the best developer, piping and all are at its finest.

Emergency Power System:

A condo with emergency powers is a plus. There's a working elevator, you can use an outlet, the fridge is running when power is down. We have all these in our condo and it will make you feel secure when there's an emergency.

Maintenance of the building:

A building has a life span, imagine a "not so well- maintained" one. We're very fortunate that our developer handles the building maintenance. Clarify with your developer on who'll provide maintenance. There are instances that the homeowners association is the one in- charge. There are cases when there's not enough funds, they skip this process, so through the years, the unit owners end up with an old- looking, cracked up building.

Our building is new, but you know what, they just repainted it. Our community is composed of 5 towers, and each are repainted and maintained properly.

Security 24/7:

Make sure that the condo you choose has reliable, strict security services. Each tower in our community has its own lobby, concierge and security guards. We're also equipped with CCTV cameras. Aside from that, we have guards and an emergency personnel roaming around the premises, a guard at the walk- through entrance and several at the main gate and parking.

Housekeeping and In- House Maintenance:

Housekeeping does the internal stuff like cleaning and garbage disposal. These are 2 essential roles that does internal maintenance 24/7. If you need something fixed in the middle of the day and night, they come to aid you. That extends to the amenities.

Staycation? No need to go out, I have everything in my humble unit, better than a hotel.

It's a good investment for those working or living abroad and for those who frequently visit the Philippines.

Whatever I shared here are just based on our experiences when we purchased our condo. Most of you might ask who our developer is. For security reasons, I will not mention our location and the exact property we purchased, but we are proud to share how happy and satisfied we are with Ayala Land.

Life of Positivity

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 25 Nov 2016 00:06:00 +0000

To be honest, it's a total let down everytime I go online and the only thing I see are bad stuff that people say about other people. I try not to dwell so much on issues that I know has a solution, but no one would give a damn. So I thought maybe creating a more positive mood here on my blog might inspire a reader.

The environment is on fire with so much negativity, the next thing we might want to do is to avoid adding fuel to it. Pull the good from that same negative state instead. Let's set our pride and ego aside, remain grounded, be mindful of your surroundings and be a little sensitive towards others. Contribute something constructive. Be open to criticism and learn from those, be inspirational. Listen and don't over think. Help wholeheartedly, don't expect anything in return. Life is taken one day at a time so relax.

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With all the negativity circling the world let us counter that with a good deed each day or at least do things with a sincere, kind heart.

3 Seasons of Happiness

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Tue, 15 Nov 2016 05:45:00 +0000

In my life, it was during our vacation that I was able to experience and enjoy the change of seasons.

When we arrived in America, we were able to love the coolness of the last weeks of Spring. Most of our journey went around Summer and now it's Fall. The seasons played a big part on this travel of ours. As we all know, in the Philippines, we're stuck with 2 types of weather system---wet and dry or rainy season and summer, plus a certain level of humidity on top of both. Which is why I promised myself that if I get to travel abroad, I'll make it memorable by experiencing at least parts of the so- called 4 Seasons.

Early in June 2016 was the date of our trip. For some practical reason that was when my husband got his approval to get some time off from work, we had to take it. But given the choice, we prefer November in time for Fall and to experience the transition to Winter, you know, that whole concept of a White Christmas.

Anyway, the June date turned out great! We were expecting it to be hot knowing that Summer in America comes around at this time. To our surprise, it was still Spring and it was pretty cool when we arrived. One of the things I learned from this trip is that seasons change with a snap of a finger.

Magic Kingdom, Disney World Orlando, Florida

The day after we arrived in Orlando, Florida it was announced in the news that it was officially Summer. So I thought maybe it's still a bit cool only lesser. But when we went out for our tour at Disney World, yup! it's Summer. All of a sudden it was hot, like "flat iron hot", it's dry, but definitely not as humid or sticky to what we have in the Philippines.

Come to think of it, we kinda extended summer from the Philippines (April- May) to America (July- mid September). This one is for the books--- 2 summers in 2016! Summer in America is different. I like it because it's dry. Using the Philippine summer as comparison, I'd rather have it hot and dry than hot, sticky and stinky hehehe! Anyway, any place we go nowadays to is air- conditioned.

The kids were treated for some swimming lessons at a nearby water park. Quite an experience, my kids learned more from this class. They performed well. Not only they became more knowledgeable, but they also showed interest on making swimming as a sport, especially my eldest son.

Swimming Lessons with Ms. India and Ms. Chanel

Aside from swimming lessons, the kids enjoyed frequent visits to the water park for fun. We also go to a trail park within the vicinity.

We take long afternoon walks, "we try" to stay healthy considering that food in America is magic and to warm up because we're on the go all the time and with kids in tow. We walk "at least" 3-4 km or 3-5 miles or at least meet 10,000 or more steps everyday.

Our Summer tour went around with visits to Florida, North and South Carolina, New Jersey and New York! I must say, there's a good feel to go on tour at this time, because you don't get to wear and carry layers of clothing as you walk around, which is not bad, it's an experience as well. Its just that summer has its own perks and benefits.

Main Deck Empire State Building

Summer in America is as fun as our summer in the Philippines. The thing we loved about summer in July was a cleaner setting, it is not polluted and humid. You know it's hot but at least what you breath in is clean, fresh air.

Late in August, we decided to go to Washington D.C. and spend at least a week to discover the nation's Capital and a quick stop to Maryland.

NYC and D.C. are a must when in America.

Plan it, get a map, set funds, bring an adventurous travel companion and head to these places.

16th st. NW, Washington D.C. going to the White House

Since we're on a budget, instead of flying or renting a car, we rode the Amtrak. Our home- base near D.C. was Annandale, Virginia.

When we got there it was still summer. It was blazing hot, but as we move along the week, it became cooler. Virginia is up North of GA, before we left we were advised that it might get cooler at this time in August. In the middle of supposedly a "hot summer", we enjoyed a cool one while in Virginia.

It was just right to ease out the skin from the heat of the summer sun, but also enough to enjoy and wrap yourself with a cardigan or lightweight jacket. Last stop of our northeastern trip was Bethesda, Maryland.

Bethesda, Maryland

When we left D.C. it was already September. Anytime, I was expecting for a change in temperature. My mom-in-law mentioned that Fall was near. I got excited, like everyday I check the weather. It was still hot until they announced that it was officially Fall in mid- September, and just like that, the temperature dropped.

I've always wanted to see the beautiful colors of Fall.

It's everyone's wish to experience Fall. I never thought of it as a dream but I've always wanted it. This I have to say marks one of the most memorable on this travel of ours. Not only we get to feel Fall, but we are witnessing its transition day by day.

They say, it's best to climb the mountains and appreciate it even more thru its foliage and people do that in GA. Maybe one day, we can too.

Fall also marks the beginning of the Pumpkin Season and preparation for Halloween events and Thanksgiving. We were able to bring the kids to a traditional pumpkin patch with hay under our feet, country music playin' and pumpkins of different sizes everywhere. (in a different post)

I call it 3 Seasons of Happiness: Spring, Summer and Fall.

It pulled out our young hearts and got us to our jolly feet throughout this journey. This is the most important for me as a person and as a parent, the effect, the result that was gained from the hard work we pour everyday, was surely worth the wait and of course, worth every penny.

One lesson I also learned from this travel was not to rush into things. It took us years to make this travel happen, but boy, it was big and definitely an extraordinary one!

I am very thankful to have experienced parts of the 4 seasons, grateful to have created this memory with my children and my forever partner in everything--- my dear husband.

It was truly incredible and unforgettable!

Winter is just around the corner, in GA, I heard it gets icy cold and this will have its own story soon.😉

A Good 10 Months

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Thu, 03 Nov 2016 15:44:00 +0000

Travel has always been included in our timeline, but it was never a priority for we have more important things "we thought" we must take into consideration. A good 4 months was all we needed to get off the rat race smoothly. My husband and I came to a point when we realized that we needed to do something new and different, a refresher to keep us on the roll despite the chaotic environment we live in.

Our 12th wedding anniversary gift to ourselves was this travel abroad. Since it was our first time to travel as a family, we looked for a destination where we can enjoy and learn a lot from.

Why America?

1. The original plan was to go to Japan. Who doesn't want to visit Japan, it's the perfect destination for everybody, but...

2. Family is in America.

3. America is a melting pot, it's a vast piece of land that house people of different cultures from around the world.

4. We get to experience everything from one destination. The change of seasons, food, culture, environment, architecture, life and what makes each State stand out from the rest. In our case, we were able to explore the East Coast.

I really love the fact that "travel" was made as a point of learning and as an eye- opener to things out of my comfort zone. It was a humbling experience for me. I saw the real version of what life is in America. It's not all good, like every place in the world, but it has its own charm as well like every place in the world. It's different if you stay for a month and just tour. It's way, way different to be on tourist mode at the same time, there's a need to adapt in order to make the most of our stay.

We took courage and made plans to go for a long vacation and just said, let's go!. Courage and a positive outlook? because it greatly involves time, money and the possible impact on us (which may be good or bad) of this move we made. 10 months was all we needed. 6 months to prepare and another 4 months for the whole thing to happen. With God's Grace, always in His perfect timing, it was easy. Everything was laid out for us perfectly.

Onboard Statue Cruises to Ellis Island and Liberty Island

I always believe that if it's meant for you, it will always be made easy. Yes, there's going to be a second trip and even a third and a fourth. For as long as family is there, we will keep on coming back.

Installing Stairs On A Deck

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Thu, 25 Aug 2016 21:43:00 +0000

When it comes to building stairs that go on a deck, you probably don't give a lot of thought into what they look like as long as the color of the steps matches that of the deck's surface. You can learn how to build a deck by reading information online or by hiring a contractor to help complete the work.

Before you start the building process, you need to make a plan of how you want the steps to look and how many steps you want to include from the floor of the deck to the ground. You should also think about how many people will be using the steps. If you plan on entertaining, then you might want to consider wider steps so that more than one person can stand on them at a time. If the deck has a simple design without a lot of additions, then you should consider steps that are of the same plain design. When you look at how to build stairs for a deck, you also need ot think about whether you plan on adding other details, such as a rail or a cover.

When you get the materials to make the steps, it's best to get something that is weather proof as you don't want the wood to splinter. You should also think about staining the steps, as well as the deck, so that you have a uniform appearance. The height of the steps might need to be adjusted once you start to place the pieces of wood depending on how much space you want to see between each one. Something to think about is that small children and pets can easily get underneath the steps if there is a wide space.

The risers should be placed first. These are the sides of the stairs. You want to make sure you have a sturdy base for the sides as this is what will hold each step. Cut each step so that it securely fits between each end of the riser. Measurements should be exact as you don't want steps that are too short or too long. It is sometimes best to attach the steps to one riser before adding the riser on the opposite side so that each step is the same length.

US State of Mind

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Thu, 11 Aug 2016 20:15:00 +0000

I've been on break for about 2 months now. At some point I knew that I'll eventually make an update for my blogs. Just in case, you can still reach me thru email for both my sites. I check most of the time, it's just the posts that are limited because I'm on vacation with my family.

As much as possible I want to make our vacation stress free and enjoyable. It's our first to travel as a bunch, we poured so much time and money in this so yes, I/ we wanna make the most of it. For the location we're at and in which I thought of saving as a surprise, here it is:

We've been here in the United States since June. We went to several states for the past 2 months, Florida, Georgia, S&N Carolina, Virginia, New Jersey and New York. If you're going to look at the map, we basically traveled almost the whole of east coast and we just drove from one state to another.

I chose NYC to represent this travel because of it's iconic reputation that greatly represents the United States. It was our main goal to be in New York and it gave us the most memorable experience on this vacation.

It was the middle of summer, but at the time of our long walks and exploration it did not feel hot and sticky, everything was pretty cool. It's like Philippine weather during the 'ber' moths minus the humidity, with clear skies, plus a much cooler breeze would blow once in awhile as we go around. For me, it was just right to enjoy the city.

Our travel to NYC was very important to all of us especially to my eldest son. The reason to reach NYC was to fulfill one of my son's dreams and we were able to give it. Both our boys are happy, we're happy and fulfilled as parents.

Frankie is very fond of tall buildings and other architectural designs. A visit to the Empire State Building, the World Trade Center site and the One World Observatory was his dream. If there's something he'll spend time on online, that is to watch videos about the said structures or to research on skyscrapers and construction per se.

View from the 86th floor of the Empire State Building

View from the top of One World Observatory

There's more to tell than just our humble adventure to/ in NYC.

I'll leave you with this for now...

What's Better Than Vacation? Try a Stay-cation!

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Tue, 05 Jul 2016 03:23:00 +0000

This summer, you don't have to travel to have a wonderful vacation experience. In fact, you can save yourself all the stress of packing, driving, and navigating to instead have a relaxing and incredibly fun time all while staying close to home. This is especially great for families who want to save money on their holiday, or for people who hate long plane or car rides. Do a little research on the events and opportunities in your own community and you can have a stay-cation you'll remember for the rest of your life.

For families or individuals who love nature, your local stay-cation will be easy to plan. Pretty much every place in the United States of America is close to a National, State, or Local park. Go online and look for the nearest hiking trail, park, or nature preserve and take a visit. Pack a picnic lunch and a camera to document your experience. Science has proven that time spent in nature leads to less stress and better health. Take advantage to the natural beauty that's right outside your door.

If you're looking for some indoor fun, consider local museums and historical locations. Every town has a history, and most town have a historical center just waiting for a visit. You may have to go to your local library to find out about the secret treasures that are waiting in your area. Another tip is to visit a hotel and check out the flyers that are displayed in the lobby. This will show you all the local adventures and attractions that you may have missed.

Finally, consider attending a local event or activity going on in your area. Check online and in newspapers to find out about county fairs, concerts, or lectures. Consider attending a healing ministry event, such as those by Joshua Media Ministries, if you've been feeling unwell. Local colleges and universities often have a lot to offer as well, including visiting speakers and authors. You can even see celebrities at local bookstores or other speaking engagements. Alternatively, try out an exciting experience like riding in a hot air balloon or going to a nearby amusement park.

You don't have to spend a fortune or travel far away to have a break from the stress of life. Look outside your front door for ideas and inspiration. You deserve a break!

A Happy Father & Daughter Relationship

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 10 Jun 2016 12:15:00 +0000

It was a cloudy Friday morning and I met with my dad at the newly opened Novotel in Cubao, Quezon City. Apparently, my dad booked a 2- night stay at the said hotel and he is giving one night for me and my family, the other goes to my other sibling. Upon check- in, we were welcomed and greeted warmly by the front desk personnel named Michelle. As my dad and I were filling up forms, the both us were also conversing, our usual father and daughter bonding. We make jokes, we talk about funny stuff about each other. With this, Michelle noticed this warm relationship I share with my dad and even acknowledged that we're blessed to have such wonderful relationship.

My father treats me and my other siblings equally... but we all have our own ways on how to be a good daughter and son to him and our mom. We don't abuse his kindness and as much as possible, we think of him and our mom first more than ourselves. My dad "was" a strict father. There were times when I would make up lies just to go out or break a curfew... But him being strict and all, I'm thankful for that, because I wouldn't be where I'm at right now, happy and most of all, I have this sense of contentment and peace inside me if it weren't for that stage in my life .

I carry and apply my parents' life principles with me in my own journey as a parent. At the age of 37, my father continues to teach us, his children life's lessons and he and my mom are our guiding factors on becoming better parents and beings.

Sabi nga nila, " Habang nabubuhay kami, we will never stop supporting all of you." We will always be here for our children". Support doesn't have to be always monetary. There's a lot a parent can give to his or her children that money can't buy. It is something that can define us both here on earth and even the afterlife, that's our values, what people will remember us for.

I'm happy that Michelle noticed this blessing I share with my father and also same with my mom. Again, I'm truly grateful for this gift I share with my parents and siblings. It makes life more colorful each day. For every family gathering or event we look forward to, for the blessing of wisdom that each could share with the rest. For the laughter and tears of joy we share... and the list just goes on and on.

It's my first time to be away from them this long... it's my first time to miss Father's Day...

Importance and Benefits of Spring Cleaning

noreply@blogger.com (Enchie) — Fri, 03 Jun 2016 12:10:00 +0000

Spring in the air, it's the perfect time to clean up around the house, and keep an eye out for any potential household dangers.

Here are some benefits when it comes to cleaning our homes regularly:

1. Make room for new items.
2. Once we start digging through piles and piles, we discover memories.
3. We keep those harmful dusts away and we stay safe from sickness.

In our country we do general cleaning all- year round. Personally I go through our things almost every quarter of the year because I have allergic rhinitis. I sneeze again and again almost every morning. I'm sensitive to some scents, to dusts and I even get similar reaction if I'm drizzled with a little rain. But no worries, I can play around it with some over the counter medicine and I'm good. But you see, why wait for these allergens to activate when we can avoid it. Prevention is important.

Though we just moved in our new home, we still brought some of our old things with us and these things are also subject for disposal. Now that we're bound to stay abroad for a couple of months, I have to inspect and see what I can give away or throw out to make room for new items and of course, to keep my home clean while we are away.

These allergens, dusts, molds, etc. are harmful to our health especially when inhaled often. It causes several diseases like cancer, asthma and skin infection of sorts and these are just some. It affects our body inside and out. Making time to clean not only once can prevent potential household dangers. To safeguard ourselves while cleaning, it is important wear disposable mask, a heavy duty pair of gloves and even a coat so we don't get exposed too much.

Think before you toss. There are a number of toxic materials and substances that must be disposed of properly.

Asbestos — Many homes built before 1970 contain asbestos. Asbestos, a deadly fiber that causes mesothelioma, was used in insulation, floor tiles, home siding and roofing. Linings around ventilation pipes, furnaces, hot water heaters, and other piping were also commonly made with asbestos. Since asbestos is still legal, it may be in newer homes as well. Asbestos becomes dangerous when it’s disturbed in some way, releasing its fibers in the air. Actions like drilling and patching, along with natural deterioration, are a few ways asbestos can get released.The American Lung Association recommends that you hire a certified asbestos professional to take any samples, minimizing potential exposure to you and your family. If asbestos is detected, it’s imperative you hire a certified professional to remove it safely.

Others:

Motor oil — It’s illegal in most states to pour motor oil down a drain or on the ground. You must place it in a clean plastic container and bring it to a location that will take care of it for you.
Electronics — Old electronics contain heavy metals like cadmium and lead. Donate or drop them off at a recycling center. Some big retailers will recycle old electronics, including Best Buy and Apple.
Paint — Oil-based paint and other paint-related products are classified as household hazardous waste (HHW) and should be returned to the point of purchase or donated or taken to a local HHW collection facility.
Batteries — No battery is recyclable. Fore more information on where to dispose of a certain kind of battery, call 1-800-8-BATTERY.
Light bulbs — When broken, fluorescent light bulbs, including compact fluorescent (CFL) bulbs, release a small amount of mercury. Take them to your local HHW facility.
Smoke detectors — Ionization chamber smoke detectors (ICSDs) use a small amount of ionizing radiation to detect smoke. This is a radioactive material classified as hazardous by the Fire Protection Agency and must be mailed back to the manufacturer via ground mail. Or, bring it to your local HHW if the manufacturer won’t accept it.
Mercury thermometers — If broken, mercury thermometers can release 500 milligrams of the neurotoxin mercury. Bring to your local HHW facility for disposal or find an exchange program that will give you an electronic one.

Visit: How To Spring Clean Safely for more information.

Also with this, let us make ourselves aware of these ways we can prevent diseases like Cancer.

Cancer Survivor's Day: This day falls on Sunday, June 5th. It's a day to celebrate those who are fighting against cancer. This is the perfect opportunity to recognized loved ones in your life and their courageous battle. We'll also be taking part in a Twitter chat on Friday, June 3rd in honor of the day (hosted by the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance!Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance!)