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13 And Worried I'm Addicted to Masturbating

2013-06-24T08:15:00.000-07:00

Question: 13 And Worried I'm Addicted to Masturbating,

Im 13 yrs girl and I masturbate once a day, I think im getting addicted to it. I hate myself after doing it cuz I dont know if it affects my body, Im scared of being addicted to something cuz it may affect my education!! I wanna know is it a bad habit? is it normal(or I'm different!!) ?

Answer:
13 And Worried I'm Addicted to Masturbating,

As children move into their tween and teen years, they will at some point become aware of various changes in their bodies, thoughts and feelings. Different changes will occur because of puberty and feelings and thoughts will become serialized in totally new way. These changes can be exciting and confusing.

Masturbating is actually a normal and common way for teens to explore their bodies as they go through these changes. It’s not a “bad habit,” it doesn’t mean anything is wrong with them, and it is rare for it to become any kind of problem that needs to be stopped or addressed in any way.

Healthfits would be concerned if you were masturbating in front of people, in public places, or putting any images of your masturbating online or in text messages.Healthfits might also be concerned if you were masturbating so many times a day that it was interfering in some part of your life –

for example, spending less time with family and friends because of the amount of time spent masturbating or doing poorly academically because the amount of time masturbating was interfering with your getting your schoolwork done.

But as long as you understand that masturbation is something that should be done in private, and as long as the amount of time you are spending masturbating doesn’t interfere with other parts of your life (Healthfits sees one time a day as no cause for concern),

then Healthfits does not think you have anything to worry about. It is very common for teens to masturbate – so you are not different or abnormal in any way!
For more information, you can read Planned Parenthood’s information on Masturbation. There is information on why people masturbate, the benefits of it, risks, and common myths.

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Cursed With A High Libido

2013-06-24T08:11:00.001-07:00

Question: Cursed With A High Libido,

I am a 17 year old male who has suffered from excessive guilt throughout my teenage years, due to a consistently high libido. This issue frequently appears in my dream content, since last night, approximately seventy-five percent of my dreams contained sexual content. Once, I even dreamed that I was cross-dressing.

This makes me feel highly stupid, as I feel like I should be able to effectively control my impulses. I once wrote a document titled '50 Reasons to Kill Myself', and a 'high-libido' was the eleventh reason on my list. I have probably masturbated over 900 times in my life-time, and attempted to quit this habit numerous times.

However, I cannot stop feeling stupid every time I fail to accomplish this task. I detest this self-characteristic more than any other personality trait I have, and desperately wish it would disappear. The reason: I am a major perfectionist, and this "negative trait" doesn't appear to match the ideal image I have of myself. My largest fear is that I will continue to masturbate into adulthood.

Please help me. Please don't simply respond that "masturbation" is a normal, healthy activity, because I can never seem to convince myself of this fact. I keep questioning "Why did I have to be cursed like this, and not someone else?"

Answer:
From a health perspective as long as you know, "masturbation" is a normal, healthy activity,” we will not focus on that aspect. There are many behaviors that are normal but if they start consuming a person life and are unwanted they can be problematic.

Although you have tried several times you have not been able to get over the compulsion to masturbate which then leaves you with negative feelings about yourself. Being a perfectionist seems to make it much harder to deal with because like any compulsion or addiction you have not had any success controlling it. This is bound to leave you with a significant amount of anxiety which is most likely why your dreams are dominated by sexual themes. Typically dreams are a representation of unconscious conflicts that we are trying to work out.

Since your masturbation habit is causing you a considerable amount of anxiety and you have not been able to control it, then you really should seek help. There are therapists who specialize in sexual addictions or compulsive behaviors that can help you overcome this problem. It is a lot more common then you realize.

As far as being “cursed” you will find in life that many bad things happen to people that can’t be justified. It is not fair but fortunately you can do something about this.

To look for mental health services in your state log onto the US Department of Health and Human Services Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration and scroll over “Location” in the upper right hand corner and a drop down menu with resources for each state will appear.

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Can Watching Porn Effect My Sex Life?

2013-06-24T08:06:00.001-07:00

Question: Can Watching Porn Effect My Sex Life?,

I'm 18 and I'm suddenly a bit interested in Pornography pictures. I heard it can ruin my future sex life and make sex seem less desirable Is that really true? I enjoy looking at pictures of women, but I'm worried how it will effect my health. I masturbate too and I heard that it can ruin your sex life. I masturbate at least once a day. When I have a sexual partner, such as a wife, I feel like I should have a big sex life with her. Can you please help me!

Answer:

Teens and young adults who watch pornography are generally doing it out of curiosity about their bodies and about sex. And teens who masturbate are generally using a safe, normal means of learning about their bodies and what feels good sexually. That said, watching pornography and masturbating are not a guarantee of a ruined sex life. However, there are ways in which it can negatively affect it. To prevent this from happening, consider the following:

Pornography generally does not portray what feels good for women – so it can give men who watch it a false impression about what is enjoyable for the opposite sex. If you go into sex with your partner only imitating what you have seen through porn, odds are it is not going to be a pleasurable experience for her. This is where communication between you and your partner will be key – talking with each other about what feels good for each of you.
Pornography is not the best place to take notes on how to make sex better. The positions portrayed in pornography are often used because they highlight the different sex organs – but that does not mean those positions are the best and most desirable. Again, communication is needed between partners to ensure both people are comfortable and finding pleasure in what they are doing.
Remember that pornography is appealing to people’s fantasies. If you get too wrapped in porn and the fantasy of it, it might make the reality of sex less appealing. If you come to expect that you and your partner are going to look and act like porn stars in your own sex life, then you are probably setting yourself up for disappointment.
Pornography is about sex, not feelings. Being intimate with someone you care about is not just about physical pleasure, but also about being emotionally intimate with someone you care about. This aspect of sex is important in relationships, and if your model of how sex should be is from pornography, you are missing out on an entire aspect of sex – the feelings and emotional connection that can be present between two people.
Pornography and/or masturbation can be an escape for some people. If watching porn and masturbating are taking a priority over being intimate with your partner, then there is reason for concern. You mentioned wanting sex to be a big part of your life with your wife one day. If watching porn or masturbating is taking you away from your sex life with her, or other parts of your life, it would be helpful to examine what is going on for you.
How will your partner feel about your watching porn? Some women may feel that their partners are cheating by watching porn, others may take issue with the whole idea of pornography in terms of feeling that it exploits women, and then there are others who may be open to watching it. What are your partner’s values and beliefs when it comes to pornography and masturbation?

For more information, read Planned Parenthood’s Myth and Facts About Masturbation, as well as the response to the first question about pornography under their Sex Q&A.

Thumb sucking: Help your child break the habit

2013-06-24T08:02:00.002-07:00

Thumb sucking can be a difficult habit for a child to break. Understand what you can do to help your child stop sucking his or her thumb.

Thumb sucking is a common habit among children. At some point, though, you might think, "Enough is enough." Here's help encouraging your child to stop the behavior.

Why do some children suck their thumbs?

Babies have natural rooting and sucking reflexes, which can cause them to put their thumbs or fingers into their mouths — sometimes even before birth.
Because thumb sucking is soothing to babies, some might eventually develop a habit of thumb sucking when they're bored, tired or anxious.
Many children who suck their thumbs or fingers do so while holding a treasured object, such as a security blanket.

How long does thumb sucking usually last?

Many children stop sucking their thumbs on their own sometime during the toddler years — between ages 2 and 4. For older kids who continue to suck their thumbs, peer pressure at school usually ends the habit.
Remember, though, even a child who's stopped sucking his or her thumb might revert to the behavior when he or she is stressed or anxious.

When should I intervene?

Thumb sucking isn't usually a concern until a child's permanent teeth come in. At this point, thumb sucking might begin to affect the roof of the mouth (palate) or how the teeth line up — especially if the thumb sucking is aggressive.
Consider stepping in if:

Your child sucks his or her thumb frequently or aggressively after age 4 or 5
The thumb sucking is causing dental problems, such as the upper front teeth tipping toward the lip
Your child is embarrassed about the thumb sucking

What can I do to encourage my child to stop thumb sucking?

Consider these techniques:

Don't mention it. In some cases, paying no attention to thumb sucking is enough to stop the behavior — especially if your child uses thumb sucking as a way to get attention.
Use positive reinforcement. Praise your child or provide small rewards — such as an extra bedtime story or a trip to the park — when he or she isn't thumb sucking. Place stickers on a calendar to record the days when your child successfully avoids thumb sucking.
Identify triggers. If your child sucks his or her thumb in response to stress, identify the real issue and provide comfort in other ways — such as a hug or reassuring words. You might also give your child a pillow or stuffed animal to squeeze.
Offer gentle reminders. If your child sucks his or her thumb without thought — rather than as a way to get your attention — gently remind him or her to stop. Don't scold, criticize or ridicule your child. To spare embarrassment in front of others, you might alert your child to the thumb sucking with a special hand signal or other private cue.

Can the dentist help?

If you're concerned about the effect of thumb sucking on your child's teeth, check with the dentist.
For some kids, a chat with the dentist about why it's important to stop thumb sucking is more effective than a talk with mom or dad.
In other cases, the dentist might recommend a special mouth guard or other dental appliance that interferes with sucking.

Should I try negative reinforcement?

Positive reinforcement is generally more effective than negative reinforcement. Resist the temptation to use aversive techniques, such as covering your child's thumbnail with vinegar or another bitter substance.

What if nothing works?

For some children, thumb sucking is an incredibly difficult habit to break. Remember, though, peer pressure typically leads kids to stop daytime sucking habits on their own when they start school.
In the meantime, try not to worry. Putting too much pressure on your child to stop thumb sucking might only delay the process.

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How To Guide: Shaving Chest Hair

2013-06-24T08:02:00.001-07:00

If you’ve been shaving your chest hair for years, or this is the first time, you may learn some tricks for great results. We’ll help you get a close shave, while avoiding common problems like nicks, irritation and annoying razor bumps.

Difficulty: Easy

Time Required: 10-15 minutes for shaving chest hair

Here's How:

Choose your shaving cream or gel wisely. What you use has as much on the outcome of your shave the razor you use. I would recommend Brave Shave (read review), originally created for male body shaving.
A new quality razor is important. Stay clear of the straight, cheap disposables or you'll be asking for cuts and nicks. Instead use a razor with a pivoting head and multiple blades to give you a smooth, close shave. A a big favorite with the guys is Gillette Fusion (compare prices).
Trim, trim, trim . If you’ve never shaved, or haven’t in a while, it’s good to trim hair down as short as possible. You can do that by placing a comb flat on the skin and trim over comb with scissors. Or to make it quick and easy, use clippers with the shortest guard.
Jump in the shower and relax for five. Take a minute to breathe. Wash your body and your hair. The warm water will soften your hair and skin, allowing for a closer shave.
Exfoliate. By lightly sloughing away dead skin cells you will get closer results and minimize ingrown hair. Gently using a wet loofah will work great.
Use a bit of shaving oil. A couple drops under your cream or gel works as a barrier on your skin, so the razor will glide easier instead of dragging. It not only moisturizes,the oil also helps prevent razor burn, general irritation and ingrown hairs- all big offenders when shaving thicker hair like in the chest (compare prices).
Apply shaving cream or gel. Slather on a bit of cream or gel over damp skin. Skin that is too wet will make the cream run right down the drain. If you have a shaving brush, apply product using small circles.
Shave. Using a firm touch, shave in the opposite direction of hair growth while holding skin taut. Don't go over the same area too many times or skin can end up irritated.
Rinse. In between strokes, be sure to rinse blade. A clogged razor won’t work well.
Dry off. Pat skin dry and apply a light unscented lotion.
Keep the bumps away. Apply a product that will help keep ingrown hair, razor bumps and irritation at bay. A product such as Tend Skin (read review) will work wonders. If you don't use a bump-fighting product, be sure to exfoliate often.

Tips:

Watch the direction of hair growth. Your hair has a mind of its own. It will grow in every direction, so adjust the blade's shaving direction to get the closest results.
Be extra careful around the nipple area and collar bone or other curves in your chest. Take extra time in these areas and use short strokes.
If you're not going to shave your stomach or lower abdomen, at least trim hair down so there isn’t such a distinct difference.
If you don't want to use a manual razor, try an electric one made for male body shaving like Philips Norelco Bodygroom (read review)

What You Need

Comb and scissors or clippers (if hair needs trimming)
A new razor with multiple blades
Gentle body exfoliator or loofah
Shaving oil (optional)
Shaving brush (optional)
Shaving cream or gel
Unscented lotion

How Do I Talk To My Boyfriend About The Pain I Experience After Sex?

2013-06-24T07:47:00.001-07:00

Question: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year. And we are sexual active he is also my first. But we only have sex once or twice every two months. My only problem is it hurts afterwards. My vagina swells up and it hurts when I walk( which I think is a result form swelling). From researching my problem I think he may be doing it to hard/fast giving me little cuts and tears that could be swelling up. I really want to talk to him about it, so I don't have to have this pain afterwards but I don't know how :( I'm some what shy considering this is my very first sexually active relationship. I do enjoy having sex with him and i have no pain during sex.but afterwards the pain is awful. I have been relieving my self by icing my vagina over night which usually helps. So my question is: How do I talk to my boyfriend about sex so i don't have to experience pain afterwards.

Answer:

Being able to talk about issues related to sex is a very important part of being in a sexual relationship with somewhat else. These discussions might include talks about sexual health history and preventing unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs. If an STD is transmitted or an unplanned pregnancy occurs, discussions will be needed to address these issues. And talks about the sex itself – what a person is ready for, what feels good, what doesn’t feel good – are certainly important to have as well.

If a person feels too uncomfortable to have these kinds of discussions with their partner, then it might be an indication that person is just not ready to be sexually active. That said, if you feel truly not ready to have these kinds of talks with your boyfriend, you may want to consider that you are not ready to be sexually involved with him (or anyone else for that matter) and wait on sex until these conversations feel a bit more comfortable to you. If you do feel ready to talk to him about this issue and simply need some guidance, consider the following:

Tell your boyfriend that the two of you need to find some time where you can talk privately and without interruption. Let him know that you do enjoy the “during” part of sex, but that afterwards you experience a lot of pain to the point where you are actually icing yourself overnight to relieve the discomfort.

Tell him that you would like him to try and be gentler during intercourse the next time you have sex to see if that helps, and talk with him about your seeing a doctor about this as well. The fact is that if your boyfriend cares about you and respects you, he will want to know about this because he wouldn’t want you to be in any kind of ongoing pain – and he will want to do whatever he can to ensure that you are not in pain or discomfort around sex.

If you haven’t met with a gynecologist or adolescent medicine specialist, Healthfits does recommend that you do so for the following reasons:

· You can speak to your doctor about the pain you are experiencing to get an idea about whether this is simply a result of the sex being too fast or too rough, or whether there is any underlying medical issue which needs to be addressed.

· Once you become sexually active, it is a good idea to have regular gynecological exams.

· If you have not already, you can get educated about protecting yourself from unwanted pregnancies and the transmission of STDs, and check in with your doctor that you are using the best and most appropriate methods of birth control to protect yourself from these things.

If you don't have a doctor and live in northern New Jersey, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973-971-6475 for an appointment with an adolescent medicine specialist or contact your local teen health center or Planned Parenthood. You can also contact your insurance company for a list of in-network providers.

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Person Giving Oral Sex had a Cold,

2013-06-24T07:44:00.000-07:00

Question: I received oral sex, I then found out the person giving me oral sex had a cold. I vaguely remember a teacher saying that if you received oral sex from someone with a cold, that it could turn into herpes (he claimed it was the flu/cold of the penis). Is this true? My partner just has a cold, not herpes or anything.

Answer:

You cannot transmit the herpes virus unless you have the herpes virus. So someone who has just a common cold without the herpes virus is not going to spread it. They are 2 separate viruses that affect the body much differently.

What you may remember your teacher talking about is that you can get the herpes virus if someone who is infected performs oral sex on you who has an open cold sore. There are basically two types of herpes: Herpes simplex virus-1 (HSV-1) is the virus that causes cold sores, the small and painful blisters that usually appear on or around a person’s lips. Herpes simplex virus-2 (HSV-2) is the virus that causes genital herpes.

Here is some important information on how HSV-1 is transmitted and important facts to be aware of:

· HSV-1 spreads through direct contact with another person. This can include skin to skin contact, as well as contact with oral or genital secretions (like through kissing, as well as vaginal, oral, and anal sex).

· If a person has HSV-1 and gets cold sores around the mouth, it is possible to transmit the virus during oral sex, causing HSV-1 outbreaks in the genital area of the person’s partner.

· HSV-1 can be spread by sharing a cup, utensils, or lip balm/lipstick with someone who has HSV-1.

· HSV-1 can be spread if a person touches a cold sore and then touches a mucous membrane (such as in the nose, mouth, eyes, or vagina) or area of the skin with a cut on it. Because of this, it is very important never to pick, punch, or squeeze a cold sore. In general, it is best not to touch cold sores.

· It is especially important not to touch your eyes after touching a cold sore as HSV-1 can do a lot of damage to the eyes. If you have touched a cold sore, have a cold sore, or around someone who has a cold sore, it is advisable to frequently wash your hands.

· HSV-1 is most contagious when a sore is present, but it can still be passed on even if you cannot see any sores.

· Cold sores can turn into bacterial skin infections if not taken care of properly and can even be dangerous for those with weakened immune systems (such as people with cancer, HIV, or for small infants).

Your partners claim “it was the flu/cold of the penis” sounds suspicious. If your partner had any open sores on his body or you have any concerns you were exposed to the virus you should have yourself tested. The majority of people who've been infected with HSV never know they have the disease because they have no signs or symptoms. The signs and symptoms of HSV can be so mild they go unnoticed.

You can be seen for testing and a medical evaluation confidentially at a teen health center at a low/no cost fee. In Northern New Jersey area, you can call the Adolescent/Young Adult Center for Health at 973.889.6350 for an appointment or call your local Planned Parenthood

Children's Health

2013-06-24T07:38:00.003-07:00

,: Have fun with healthy eating

Help your children to develop healthy-eating habits by getting them involved in the kitchen. Have fun with these recipes for kids.

The percentage of overweight children and teens has more than doubled in the past 30 years. And overweight kids are likely to become overweight or obese adults — putting them at risk of heart disease, diabetes and other chronic health problems.

But it doesn't have to be that way. Research has shown that children — even teens — really do listen to their parents and follow their lead. So set a good example and help your kids develop healthy-eating habits.

Start by pulling out a few fun and healthy recipes for kids. Then invite your youngsters to become junior chefs. Or ask them to pick their favorite recipes for kids and offer to serve as their kitchen assistant.
Cooking together is the perfect opportunity to talk about healthy-food choices. Give it a try with these tempting and tasty recipes for kids:

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Bra Size & Info

2013-06-24T07:32:00.000-07:00

Question: Bra Size & Info,

Answer:
Your breasts are not a new puppy and cannot really be "trained." They will grow in a given direction and in a specific shape no matter what type of bra you wear. The type of bra you choose can alter the appearance of your breasts while you are wearing it, but not change the shape underneath.

If your breasts are not completely developed yet, or you are a small-breasted woman than it is fine that you are wearing this kind of bra. During development, your breast will tend to grow straight out at first, before they begin to take a rounded shape.

Each woman has her own unique breast shape which, to a large degree, is genetically determined, so do not base what your breasts should be doing on other women's breasts.

It might be time that you start wearing a different type of bra. As your breasts grow, they need to have the proper support. If you feel like your breasts or back ache, or that they are slightly sagging you may want to buy a bra that has under wire, or more support in the cups.

There are so many different types of bras that you might want to do some experimenting. Take your mom or a friend and go to the mall, try on a whole bunch of different kinds, some with padding, under wire and a sports bra. Whatever bra you choose is completely personal. Another good source believe it or not is the salesperson in the lingerie department usually.

She knows all the different types available, where to find them, and she is usually very willing to help. Check out our answer to Bra Size And Info.

If your breasts are provided with the right support, they will grow and develop properly. But remember your breasts are going to be slightly different than everyone else's because they are unique to you. Give them time.

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Can I Breastfeed After A Nipple Piercing?,

2013-06-24T07:27:00.001-07:00

Question: Can I Breastfeed After A Nipple Piercing?,

This is a very good question. Although health fits hopes that you are not considering pregnancy now, but later on in life.

Answer: So here’s the answer…

Yes, females that have had a nipple piercing can breast feed after the hole is well healed. In fact, Piercing.org recommends that the piercing be taken out before conception occurs because a woman's body undergoes many changes during pregnancy and it should given enough time to heal completely.

For this information and more on piercing and breastfeeding, health fits consulted the La Leche League and found the following article, we recommend that you read it too: Nipple Piercing: Is It Compatible with Breastfeeding? LEAVEN, June-July 1999, pp. 64-65. piercing.org has some good information on this too.

How Do I Tell My Parents I Want To Have A Baby?

2013-06-24T07:23:00.002-07:00

Im 17, I turn 18 in april and I graduate high school in May my boyfriend of 5 years wants to have a baby I do also but im not sure how to tell my parents who are both supportive of all my decisions. But im still scared to tell them. We both have jobs but not our own place.

You stated that your parents are “supportive of all” of your decisions, however, there must be some part of you that worries they are not going to be completely supportive of the idea of your having a baby at this point in your life or you wouldn’t be feeling so scared to tell them.

If your parents are not completely supportive of you doing this, it might be hard for you to think of wanting something they don’t agree with – it might also force you look at whether you are truly ready to be a parent at 18 years old.

It’s wonderful for parents to be supportive of their children’s dreams and goals, however, parents are also being helpful to their children when they guide their children on how to balance desire and responsibility.

Having a child is a huge decision and a tremendous responsibility – it is not something that can simply be undone, so it is important to make sure you are really and truly prepared for this step in your life, as well as to consider whether this is the healthiest decision for you, your boyfriend and for this baby. FX thinks it is important for you to discuss this issue with your parents so you can find out how they feel about the idea, get their thoughts and feedback, and so that you can process why it is important for you to do this right now in your life given that you certainly have plenty of time ahead of you for children.

When you think about having a baby right now, and in talking to your parents, FX would like you to consider the following:

Think about the issues of jobs and finances. Given how you answer the following questions, consider whether it would make sense for you and/or your boyfriend to go on in school or move up in your careers before putting the time and money into a baby. Remember, it’s much harder to go to school or change careers once you also have the responsibility of taking care of a child.

You and your boyfriend both have jobs right now, but are you both earning enough to support yourselves and a child?
Do either you or your boyfriend have health insurance through your job that can cover both of you and the baby?
Is there a chance for advancement and earning more money with the jobs the two of you currently have? If not, what will it mean to you and your boyfriend to be in the same jobs with almost the same income 10 years from now? Will the jobs you have now mean you might need to make sacrifices down the road in terms of being able to afford more children, buying a home, the ability to take vacations, or anything else you might like?

You mentioned not having your own place to live, so consider the following about that:

Can you not afford your own place to live? If not, how are you going to be able to afford a baby? If you are planning on continuing to live with your parents and relying on them to support you in this way, then you are not ready to take on all the responsibilities of parenting as you are still dependent on them to help take care of you.
It sounds like you and your boyfriend have not lived together alone yet. If this is the case, FX wants you to consider why you wouldn’t want time alone together before adding a child to the mix.

You said your boyfriend wants to have a baby. If you answer “yes” to either of the following questions, then you need to consider your motivations and whether they are the healthiest for you and for this baby.

Are you feeling pressured at all about having a baby because you see this is something he wants?
Do you feel your boyfriend wouldn’t want to be with you if you wanted to put off becoming parents for a couple of years?

There are several more questions FX would like you and your boyfriend to think about, as well as for you to discuss with your parents. You can find them in the answers to Trying to Have a Baby and The Cost of Raising a Baby.

Again, FX can appreciate how much the idea of having a baby must mean to you, but we want you to really think about what this will mean for you, your boyfriend and this baby on a variety of levels to ensure the health and happiness of all of you!

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Lines On My Breast From My Bra - Am I Wearing The Wrong Size?

2013-06-24T07:21:00.000-07:00

Question:r Lines On My Breast From My Bra - Am I Wearing The Wrong Size?,

Answer:

Health fits can appreciate that it can be difficult for young women and young men to deal with any issues connected to puberty without a same-sex parent present. It sounds like you are trying to figure out a lot on your own when it comes to the changes going on with your body, and we understand how hard that can be.

Health fits would like to start by saying we do think it is important for you to have someone to talk to about any “female” issues that might come up for you. Do you have an aunt or grandmother who could help you out? Or perhaps you could talk to the parent of a good friend, your school nurse, or your doctor? All the women around you have gone through things like shopping for bras and dealing with periods – so there are plenty of people around you who could give you some guidance and advice so you don’t have to deal with these kinds of things alone.

If you don’t have one already, Health fits would also recommend that you find a female primary care physician, adolescent medicine specialist, or gynecologist who you feel comfortable with so you do have someone you can speak to when you have questions or concerns related to anything with puberty.

There might be times in your life you have questions about things like your menstrual cycle or birth control – and it would be helpful for you to have an established relationship with a doctor who can answer your questions and give you some recommendations when needed.

You could tell your father that you would like him to help you find a female doctor so you can have someone to ask puberty-related questions to or ask your school nurse for a recommendation of a local doctor.

As for your question about your bra, if you are getting lines on your breast from wearing it, most likely the bra is too tight. When choosing a bra, it is important to be careful about any underwires and about the side panels, making sure neither is poking into the breast or creating extra tightness and pressure.

Health fits does understand that it can feel like an embarrassing thing for a teen to be bra shopping, but we also think it’s important for you not to rush in and out of the store. Take your time and get some help from a saleswoman so that you can make sure you are wearing the correct size bra. Would you feel more comfortable going with a friend, the mother of a friend, an aunt or another trusted female friend or relative?

If so, we recommend asking someone to go with you to help you out. Either way, Health fits recommends going to a department store where you can ask a saleswoman to help you figure out the correct size bra and a good style that will fit you comfortably and that will not leave any kind of marks.

If there are not salespeople in the girls section who can be of help, go to the lingerie section of the department store where there will definitely be saleswomen available to help you. If you are a 32A, those size bras will be available in that part of the store.

Ask them if they can double check to make sure you have the correct measurement and then ask them for a recommendation of a style that won’t dig into your breasts and leave marks. Again, Health fits realizes there might be some discomfort for you in doing this, but wearing a bra that is too tight is not healthy – so we promise that your body will thank you for tolerating the discomfort of talking to a saleswoman to ensure you have what you need!

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How to Shave Your Pubic Hair Area for Women

2013-06-24T06:59:00.000-07:00

Women shaving their pubic hair is different than using the razor on legs or underarms. You need a bit more patience and care because of this sensitive zone and thicker hair type. While you might be able to get away with a 'hurry up and get it done job' with other areas, but not this one. Here we will show you how to get a close, safe shave while avoiding common problems like nicks and ingrown hairs.

Difficulty: Easy

Time Required: 15- 30 minutes

Here's How:

Choose your shaving cream wisely. For this sensitive body zone be sure to get and use a good shaving cream or gel, using soap is definitely out. The Art of Shaving, Unscented Shaving Cream (compare prices) is phenomenal for getting a smooth shave, moisturizing skin and preventing ingrown hairs.
Don’t skimp on your razor. Stay clear of the straight, cheap disposables or you'll be asking for cuts and nicks. Instead use a razor with a pivoting head and multiple blades to give you a smooth, close shave. My pick is Schick Quattro for Women (compare prices).
Give a haircut. Trim hair down first as short as possible by placing comb flat on the skin and trim over comb with scissors, or with clippers using the shortest guard. The less hair you start out with means less use of your razor.
Take a warm shower or bath. At least 5-10 minutes of the heat will soften skin and relax the hair follicle.
Exfoliate. Rid dead skin cells and provide a closer shave by using a mild exfoliator or your favorite body wash with an Ayate washcloth (compare prices) on your pubic area.
Dab on some shaving oil. Working as a barrier on your skin, the razor will glide easier instead of dragging and moisturize skin. It also helps prevent razor burn, general irritation and ingrown hairs.
Apply shaving cream or gel. Make sure skin is damp but not overly wet. If you have a shaving brush, work the product with the brush in circles to help lift hair and get a closer shave.
Shave. Using a fresh blade, first go in the same direction of hair growth and then in opposite direction. Don't go over the same area too many times.
Rinse. In between strokes, be sure to rinse blade. A clogged razor won’t work well.
Cleanse. Rinse pubic area and pat dry with towel.
Moisturize. Apply a light, preferably unscented lotion.
Fight redness. There's a tendency for getting ingrown hairs. Flawless Ingrown Hair Serum (read review) can help with bumps, redness and ingrown hairs.

Tips:

Keep all products on the outside of your body only. And avoid shaving during your period, as skin is more sensitive.
If you are taking off most of your hair, a vaginal shield, the Va j-j Visor will offer you protection so you don't cut your inner vulva. Using a small mirror will also help you see better.
Shaving while taking a shower, rather than a bath can make things easier because you can prop up legs on side of stall.
If you're daring, you can create pubic hair designs at home.
Shaving only takes hair even with the skin, waxing will keep hair away weeks at a time. You may want to consider a Brazilian wax.

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Sexting Without Pictures

2013-06-24T06:52:00.000-07:00

Hey I was wondering if it is legal to sext someone without sending pictures. I am talking about if it is a minor but is at the age of consent.

Sexting Without Pictures

A blending of the words texting and sex has resulted in the phenomena known as Sexting. Sexting is generally recognized as the exchange of sexually-themed messages or pictures between mobile devices.

The laws concerning sexting are at this point are generally the same as laws that apply to the exchange of sexually explicit pictures of minors or communicating with a minor for immoral purposes.

Sending sexually suggestive text messages without pictures to a person you are certain is over the age of 18 is not a crime. However, just believing the person is over 18 could put you at risk for being prospected for a sexually based crime. “Communicating with a minor for immoral purposes” is a felony in most states and can have significant consequences.

Sending any kind of nude pictures of someone under 18 is illegal as it falls under child pornography laws. Anybody that receives the picture, regardless of their age, can be charged unless they immediately report it to authorities.

These legal ramifications can range in severity from federal and state criminal indictments to civil legal battles and have resulted in teens being convicted of felonies and misdemeanors receiving sentences of incarceration in Juvenal prison, or some other type of punishment. Some convictions have resulted in the individual being required to register as sex offenders.

There has been a growing debate in the legal community to give judges more latitude in sentencing these types of cases where juveniles are involved on a case by case basis. While there are juvenile sexual predators who should be subject to harsh penalties, the argument has be made that there are some cases where felony convictions and sex offender registration is not justified.

Criminal charges aren't the worst consequences. In at least two cases, sexting has been linked to suicide. Last year in Cincinnati, 18 year old girl hanged herself after weeks of ridicule at school. She had sent a nude cell phone picture to her boyfriend, and after they broke up, he forwarded the picture to other students. In a more recent case a 13-year-old girl hanged herself, after relentless taunting at her school near Tampa, Fla. She had sent a nude photo of herself to a boy she liked, and another girl used his phone to send the picture to other students who forwarded it along.

Here are some pretty good reasons not to text or email naked pictures of yourself to others, no matter how close you are, and even if you are in a serious relationship.

· Once you hit send, the contents of your message are out of your control.

· You picture could be forwarded, saved or posted at any time now or in the future.

· If you break-up with a partner, or get into a fight with a friend, that person could share your picture with other people as a form of revenge.

· Though you might feel comfortable sharing a naked picture with someone today, you might feel really differently tomorrow.

Healthy body image: Tips for guiding girls

2013-06-24T06:42:00.000-07:00

A healthy body image is an important part of a growing girl's self-esteem. Understand what you can do to help your daughter feel comfortable with her body.

Girls often face significant pressure to be physically attractive. The quest for a perfect body can take a heavy toll, though. Find out what you can do to help your daughter develop and maintain a healthy body image.

Causes of a negative body image

Maintaining a healthy body image during adolescence is often difficult for girls. Factors that might harm a girl's body image include:

Consequences of a negative body image

If your daughter doesn't live up to her ideal body image, she might begin to feel inadequate and ashamed of her body — even if she's not overweight. This can increase the risk of mental health concerns, including:

Sometimes a negative body image leads to skipping meals or a cycle of dieting, losing weight and regaining weight — which can further harm self-esteem.
Some research suggests a link between body dissatisfaction among girls and cigarette smoking, possibly because girls believe that smoking will help them control their weight.
Having a negative body image also might affect a girl's comfort with her sexuality as she gets older. A negative body image might lead some girls to consider cosmetic surgery.

Talking about body image

Talking about body image with your daughter can help her become comfortable with her body shape and relate to food in a healthy way.
When you discuss body image, you might:

Explain the effects of puberty and genetics. Make sure your daughter understands that weight gain is a normal part of her development, especially during puberty. Explain that body shape is strongly influenced by genetic factors.
Talk about media messages. Television programs, movies, music videos, websites, magazines and even some children's toys might send your daughter the message that only a certain body type is acceptable. Check out what your daughter is reading or watching and discuss it with her. Encourage her to talk about and question what she's seen or heard.
Discuss self-image. Talk to your daughter about her self-image and offer reassurance that healthy body shapes vary. Ask her what she likes about herself and explain what you like about her, too. Your acceptance and respect can help her build self-esteem and resilience.
Use positive language. Rather than talking about "fat" and "thin," encourage your daughter to focus on eating a healthy diet and staying physically active. Discourage family and friends from using hurtful nicknames and joking about people who are overweight or have a large body frame.

Other strategies to promote a healthy body image

In addition to talking to your daughter about a healthy body image, you might:

Team up with your family doctor. Your family doctor can help your daughter set realistic goals for body mass index and weight based on her personal weight history and overall health. The doctor can also help identify early signs of an eating disorder during routine checkups.
Help establish healthy eating habits. Offer healthy meals and snacks, but be careful to let your daughter make choices about the food she eats.
Counter negative media messages. You might not be able to shield your daughter from media images that promote an idealized image of women's bodies. You can, however, expose her to women who are famous for their achievements — not their appearance. For example, read books or watch movies about inspiring women.
Encourage a positive school environment. Support school policies that aim to stop size and sexual discrimination, harassment, teasing, and name-calling — and support community efforts to improve school nutrition.
Praise achievements. Help your daughter value what she does, rather than what she looks like. Look for opportunities to praise her efforts, skills and achievements.
Encourage physical activity. Participating in sports and other physical activities — particularly those that don't emphasize a particular weight or body shape — can help promote good self-esteem and a positive body image.
Set a good example. Remind your daughter that you exercise and eat a healthy diet for your health, not just to look a certain way. Also think about what you read and watch as well as the products you buy and the message your choices send.

When to consult a doctor

Developing and maintaining a healthy body image isn't an easy task for girls. If your daughter is struggling with a negative body image, consider professional counseling. Additional support might give your daughter the tools she needs to counter social pressure and feel good about her body.

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WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MUSTARD SEED?

2013-06-24T06:14:00.002-07:00

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Mustard seed arthitis-migraine cure.Mustard seed is a wonderful seed which GOD gave healing power.It is one of the thinnest and smallest seed in the world.Mustard is used to cure many diseases/sickness.
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The French have used mustard seeds as a spice since 800 AD, and it was amongst spices taken by the Spanish on explorations throughout the fifteenth century.

In the Quran, God states that the scales of justice will be established on the Day of Judgment, and no soul will suffer the least injustice. Even the equivalent of a mustard seed will be accounted for because God is the most efficient reckoner.

Jewish texts compare the knowable universe to the size of a mustard seed to demonstrate the world's insignificance and to teach humility.

A seed that is small in size yet persistent in its growth. When it grows it can crack concrete.

Mustard is a word that, for many of us, draws up an image of backyard grilling, hamburgers, and hot dogs.

It, in turn, came from the Old French, mo(u)starde, which is from the Common Romans, mosto. Mosto derives directly from the Latin mustum, from which we get our English term "must" to indicate new wine, or the unfermented juice that is being processed for wine. Originally, the condiment we know as mustard was made by mixing grape juice with mustard powder.

It is believed that mustard was first cultivated in India around 3000BC and came to Britain with the Romans. Although recipes for mustard paste appear as early as 42 AD, the use of mustard as a condiment was not widely practiced in either Greece or Rome.

When it was used, however, diners crushed mustard seed on their plate and mixed it with wine or water to suit their taste. The Romans took the seed to Gaul and, by the ninth century, French monasteries were bringing in considerable income from mustard preparations. By the13th century, mustard was one of the items offered by Parisian sauce-hawkers, who walked the streets at dinner peddling their savory wares.

Where is this mustard powder obtained? Mustard powder is made from crushing the seed of the mustard plant, native to Eurasia. The tiny seeds, perhaps 250,000 per pound, are very pungent.

On their own, they are bitter and biting. There are two main types of mustard seeds: the relatively mild white mustard seed and the extra-strong brown or oriental mustard seed. As a condiment, as we have seen, the seeds are crushed into a powder and mixed with liquids to form a paste.

Today, powdered mustard seed is likely to be mixed with wine, vinegar, beer, or water and various spices, such as tumeric. The leaves of the mustard plant can also be used for food, similar to kale, turnip greens, or spinach. It has been said that there is no part of the mustard plant that cannot be utilized.

Many kinds of prepared mustards can be found on supermarket shelves today, but they all have the same basic ingredients. They range from prepared mild yellow mustard (the hot-dog favorite) to Dijon and Bordeaux mustards which derive their distinct flavors from the French wines they are made with.

There are also hot mustards which are peppery and brown: English, Düsseldorf, German, and Bahamian. American horseradish-mustard is also particularly spicy.

Mustard seed is used in pickling, sausage making, and in boiling vegetables such as cabbage.

This is the mustard seed that yellow prepared mustard is made from. The finest Canadian mustard seeds, these are great in all kinds of meat dishes, for summer sausage, or to create your own mustard.

Mustard is one of the most widely used condiments on the planet. Prized for its oils, mustard plants grow wild in North Africa, the Middle East, and the Mediterranean, and is grown commercially in the United Kingdom, Canada, and the United States.

During processing, the useful oils are extracted from the mustard plant, leaving mustard seed meal, or MSM, as a byproduct. Scientists are searching for innovative uses for mustard seed meal, hoping to increase profitability for mustard producers.

Several products derived from natural sources are currently used as pest control substances for greenhouse plants.

MSM and other byproducts of the expanding biofuels industry are being studied as solutions for controlling pests while offering the potential to increase profitability of biofuel production.

The use of herbicides in container-grown ornamentals is often limited as a result of the lack of registered products for use in greenhouses and the difficulty in assuring crop safety on numerous species grown in ornamental nurseries.

Mustard is a well known spice that has a long history of medicinal use in stimulating internal and external applications. Externally, the rubefacient action of Mustard Seed causes a mild irritation to the skin, stimulating the circulation in that area, and relieving muscular and skeletal pain. Internally, its stimulating, diaphoretic action promote sweating and can help reduce fevers and relieve symptoms of colds and flu.

History and Uses.
Mustard Seed is widely-cultivated annually that may be found growing wild in many parts of the world. The part of this plant used medicinally is the seed, which is collected when ripe in late summer.

The English word, Mustard, is derived from the Latin words, mustum ardens, meaning "burning must," describing the popular grape wine (mustum) that was mixed with ground mustard seeds. In Medieval Europe, Mustard was one of the most common spices used to flavor the bland diet of the time.

The primary chemical constituents of Mustard Seed include glucosinolates (sinigrin), sinapine, enzyme (myrosin), mucilage, protein and sulphur. When taken internally, the seeds are laxative, mainly because of the mucilage they produce, but only small doses are advised as they may inflame the stomach.

The stimulating, diaphoretic action can also be utilized for fevers, colds and influenza. But this well-known herb has its primary medicinal use as a stimulating external application.

The rubefacient action causes a mild irritation to the skin, stimulating the circulation in that area to relieve muscular and skeletal pain. An infusion or poultice of Mustard will aid in cases of bronchitis and pleurisy, and it is often taken as a tea, or ground and sprinkled into a bath.

There are other Mustard species that can be used interchangeably with White Mustard (Sinapsis alba), and they include Black Mustard (Brassica nigra) and Brown Mustard (Brassica juncea).

NOTE:-If you are chewing mustard seed do not open your mouth so that the gas or drug does not diffuse out of your mouth.For you to be agile,chew regularly or put about five spoons(grounded) in your hot drink or wine.

CAN USE MUSTARD SEED FOR THE FOLLOWING AILMENT

POISON
EYES PROBLEM(poor sight)
BRAIN AND HEART DISEASE
BLOOD PRESSURE AND HYPERTENSION
COUGH
CATARRH,
STOMACH PAINS
MENSTRUAL PAINS
BACKACHE
FEVER
MADNESS
RHEUMATISM
ARTHRITIS
ULCER
ASTHMA
DIABETES
FIBROID
CONVULSION

Leave few seeds in a clean container and keep permanently in your bedroom or throw some seeds in the coner of your room, WHY? Your dream becomes very clear and directional.
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WHAT MAKES MY PANT WET EVERYDAY?

2012-06-17T08:41:00.002-07:00

WHAT MAKES MY PANT WET EVERYDAY?

Answer:

It is called natural / normal vagina discharge which start at puberty.
Natural discharge from your vagina drops on your pant and makes it wet.
It naturally has a peculiar odor. The wall of your uterus (womb) is constantly
cleaned through a natural chemical process which leads to the discharged.
If you realize that some waste from your blood is passed through sweat on your
skin daily then you will appreciate the wisdom, goodness and mercy of god in
disposing of different waste in our body. normal discharge from the vagina is a sign of maturity.

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WHY IS IT THAT SOME GIRLS DO NOT HAVE BREAST EVEN AT 16?

2012-06-17T07:58:00.000-07:00

WHY IS IT THAT SOME GIRLS DO NOT HAVE BREAST EVEN AT 16?

Answer:
So girls have early or late development in different aspects
of their body. A number of factors are responsible for the late or early
body development in different people, namely:

i, Heredity: genetic traits relating to different parts of the body which have been
inherited from parents and family lineage. This could determine late or early
development and the size, shape of that aspect of our body.

ii, Diet: Some diet promote body development better than others.
Modern diet has fostered increased and early puberty traits in
adolescents of today than the western-nized diet of 50 years ago.
For example, some girls has reported to have started their menstruation
at age 9,in recent time. Many parents today are bringing up their children
with diet rich in protein.

iii, Premature Sexual activities- This can also lead to early developments
of secondary sexual body traits. Some girls make themselves cheap and
loose before boys for sexual play quite early even from childhood. this is bad.

AT WHAT AGE EXACTLY DO GIRLS DEVELOP BREAST?

2012-06-17T07:38:00.002-07:00

AT WHAT AGE EXACTLY DO GIRLS DEVELOP BREAST?

Answer:
There is no exact age for all girls. But on the average for the
new generation is between 8 to 15.

QUESTIONS GIRLS ASK ABOUT THEIR BODY

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HOW DO I KNOW I AM AN ADOLESCENT?

Answer:
By your age and by some new developments in your body from age 10 - 20,
you could be described as an adolescent. During this period, you may start to grow hair
under your arms and around your Vagina. Menstrual flow is a good sign too. Breast also
develops, starting with the nipples getting enlarged till the full breast expands to size on your chest.
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