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Happy New Year 2011

2010-12-31T23:13:00.001-08:00

A Very Safe, Happy and Prosperous New Year to All Our Valued readers.

We must take a pledge today to:

1. Stop Ragging in all the Institutions and make Indian Education System a Ragging Free Place.

2. Make Indian Institutions a Innovation Place Where Innovative Ideas are generated.

3. Make Indian Institutions a Leader in Education and Research.

Ragging India Team

love signs

2010-06-28T06:46:00.001-07:00

Your yes meet across the room. Does he think you look hot in that dress or just plain frumpy? You want to ask her out but is that a flirtatious look she's shooting you or a dirty one!

You've been going out together for months but do you still find her as unpredictable as the weather? Love-o-logy isn't simple. But it won't seem like Greek either, if you increase your chances of getting lucky in love with these tips.

What's she thinking?
Women are more emotionally complex. Understanding their body language is a bit tougher. Here are some tips to get you started:

Eyes : Are her pupils dilated? When a woman is attracted to you, her pupils will dilate slightly while interacting with you. And she has no control over it. Great cue to use with a shy woman.

Hair : Is she tossing her hair or running her fingers through them repeatedly? You could get lucky.

Touch : If she starts touching her face, arms, neck in your presence then she would like you to take notice of her.

Leaning in : If her shoulders and knees are pointing towards you, then that's an even more positive sign.

Signs he will ask you out

He raises his eyebrows . When a man sees someone he's into, he'll automatically lift and lower his eyebrows, wrinkling his forehead in the process. But you'll have to keep your eyes peeled to catch a glimpse of this tell-tale signal.

He tilts his head slightly to the side when your eyes meet . The head tilt is a subconscious come–hither signal that the guy is interested in you.

He can't wipe off that wide-smile . Consider it the "Wow, you give me butterflies smile." If it's accompanied by a hearty laugh, look out. If he were any more into you, he might get down on one knee!

He mirrors you . Mirroring gestures are where the guy picks up his glass to drink at the same time as you, or makes similar movements with his body at the same time as you. He may cross or uncross his legs when you do or make similar hand gestures.

He extends his palm . When a guy offers his palm to you, face up, you know hands down he's hooked. He's literally and figuratively reaching out to the person he's speaking with in an attempt to connect on a deeper emotional level.

He holds a long, piercing gaze . He's doing that as he wants to date you. But if it's a long term relationship you're looking for, pass it up. Because although you may think he's smitten, he could be playing you. Holding intense eye contact for more than five seconds doesn't happen naturally, so he may be using the look solely as a player's technique to get what he wants!

'He's-just-not-that-into-you' language
He averts his eyes . Your man will reduce eye contact. He's subconsciously aware that one peek into his peepers will reveal his inner feelings.

He turns his cheek mid-conversation . Occasionally averting his eyes or scanning the room is normal, but if you find yourself talking mostly to his profile, you're in trouble.

When you ask him if he still loves you, does he covers his mouth with his hand? When he unconsciously obstructs your view of his lips, it's a sign that he's trying to block the truth from slipping out. In addition, he might lick his lips and look away from you, directing his eyes down and to the right.

When you are attempting to have a serious conversation with him, does he avoid eye contact? Then, he is effectively telling you that he doesn't want the conversation. Fiddling is another gesture made when nervous to distract you and to quell his anxiety.

Is he in it for the long-term?
He says good-bye with a peck. If nine times out of ten he plants a tender kiss on your cheek, then it suggests a paternal instinct. He wants to take care of you. He slouches his shoulders. When we find another's actions adorable, we often want to hold that person tight. As a result, the shoulders automatically round off. This slump indicates attraction, even better, a serious emotional undercurrent. In case of a long-term boyfriend, this shoulder roll is a sign that one of your quirks has tugged on his heartstrings. source:timesofindia

Modern marriages secrets

2010-06-28T06:44:00.001-07:00

When two people are dating we often hear about their puppy love, tiffs, both big and small but the moment they get into a serious relationship, we barely get to know what's really going on in their life. We help you get an insight into the secret of modern marriages!

The unspoken pressure on married couples to present a happy, healthy relationship to the outer world doesn't let anyone get a peek inside their real world. Admitting that you are unhappy can be seen as failure so people prefer to keep such details to themselves. Also, as soon as we experience a lull in our sex life, we assume that everyone else must be having more sex than we are. We found out five common issues that all married couples face...

Sex can be boring, occasionally
True, sex can occasionally be messy, painful, boring and unwanted. Shares HR consultant Deepika Kapur, "The first time we had boring sex, I was left shaken. I thought our chemistry was over and now our sack sessions would never be good again. But I soon got over the fear. Our next sack session was one of the best that we ever had."

One partner is always left craving
No two people in a marriage have the same libido. One is always left craving for sex. Modern life has also given way to new sexual pressures and expectations that can not always be met. Says consultant Hemant Sinha, "I have always had a high sex drive. My wife and I have fantabulous sex but there are many times when I am craving for it and she's not in a mood."

Sex drive disappears once in a while
The reality is that a large number of couples experience sexual difficulties at some point of time in their marriage. This is when their sex drive drops. Suggest sex therapist Payal Kapoor, "Instead of thinking how badly it reflects your feelings for the partner, concentrate on bigger issues that are making you feel disinterested in sex." Payal goes on to add, "Sometimes separate beds can reignite the spark! It has helped many couples I have known. It breaks the monotony and makes them long for each other."

Sexually unfaithful thoughts are common
Some people need constant reminders of how desirable and sexy they still look. When that doesn't happen, they look for admiration outside. And having sexually unfaithful thoughts are common. Someone rightly said, 'Sex pulls you away but love gets you back!' Adds psychologist Seema Hingorani, "It is human tendency to feel wanted. And when couples don't get it in their marriage, they seek it outside and such thoughts are common."

Incessant fights are normal
You often wonder seeing a happy couple around you how they manage to be so in love, while you pull the trigger almost every second day. Do not feel guilty thinking you are the only one who does it. All couples fight, and this is the rule! source:timesofindia

Why Men Deny Sex?

2010-06-28T06:39:00.001-07:00

World has a feeling that men are hungry for sex but it's not true. There are times when men too deny sex and the reasons for that could be many. Here are some of those reasons why a man would deny sex.

1.If a man is taking either antidepressants or blood pressure medication then his interest towards sex would be very low. Also these medicines can affect his sound sexual function.

2.People think that men during their twenties or teens are more inclined towards sex but studies prove that it's wrong. A man during this age tend to have inclination towards a sound sleep rather have sex.

3.Identity is another issue to have a lower sexual interest. If man has a confusion or the feeling that he is not been identified for what he is, he will lose interest in sex. Even depression can be one of the reasons.

4.Man wants his partner to have the same sexual interests like his, although they don't talk to their partner about this, deep inside a man long for a woman with similar sexual interest. If he feels that his partner is not of his kind, he usually withdraw from having sex. Also men experience lack of interest due to the things what his partner does during sex or how he experiences her body.

5.Men deny sex when they are undergoing any interpersonal issues. They deny it as a punishment for their partner.

6.Stress can be another reason for their lack of interest. This can come in any form like challenges at work, financial difficulties, personal issues etc.

7.These days masturbation is a serious threat to partnered sex. Men have started finding masturbation more interesting than partnered sex.

8.Men who face sexual dysfunction, like issues in erection, early or late ejaculation avoids sex.

9.Another interesting reason for lack of sexual interest is, some men hunt for a best place to have sex, unless they find the suitable place or circumstance, they stay away from sex.

Romance tips for men

2010-06-25T06:40:00.001-07:00

Australian model Miranda Kerr has offered men ten tips on how they can have romantic harmony with their partners and continue doing so.

Kerr, 27, told men's lifestyle website AskMen.com that usually it is the little things that count, and that no matter what, they should at all times be themselves and pay attention to their partner's needs.

She also said that staying healthy, showing affection and a willingness to pamper are also attractive qualities in the eyes of the fairer sex.

"In my experience, it is the random small gestures that I find the most romantic," the Sydney Morning Herald quoted her as telling the website.

"It could be something as simple as making me a cup of tea or being given a foot massage while we are watching a movie at home after a long day at work.

If more men made an effort to do these little things for their partner throughout their everyday life they would be guaranteed to have a more romantic relationship," she added.

Kerr's 10 romance tips :

1. Treat her like a goddess
2. Pamper her
3. Be healthy
4. Get a baby sitter
5. Tell her she is beautiful and romance her
6. Don't be afraid to show her love
7. Know what you want
8. Connect with her
9. Listen to her
10. Buy the right size
source:timesofindia.indiatimes

Safety on first date

2010-06-25T06:38:00.001-07:00

There is an inexplicable joy of going out on a first date, especially a blind date. But one can never be careful enough. Here are some important points you need to heed.

- Before you go out on a first date, get to know the person by talking to them, be it at your college or workplace or on the phone.

- If you are not too sure about your date, go out with a group of friends for the first few times. Also, opt for public places versus lonesome spots.

- Some good and safe first date activities include lunch with friends, going to a fun movie, a trip to the mall or an easy coffee date.

- Clearly spell out to your date what you feel comfortable doing and what time you are expected to be back home.

- Even if you don't want to tell your parents about your first date, at least keep your close friends in the loop about who is your date, where you are going and how you can be reached. Also, no matter what, do not switch off your cell phone.

- If your first date is with someone you met off the internet, you need to be extra careful. Never tell him your home address. Instead choose a public place close to your neighbourhood, so incase you want to leave, you can find your way back home. Use your common sense and keep your guard up until you're sure you are safe with your date.

- If you have been invited to your date's house on the first date, don't go. It may sound like a romantic idea, but it's best to first meet outside, If any problem arises you won't have anyone around to help you

- While it's all right to drink on a first date, keep the alcoholic drinks to a minimum. You don't want to get yourself into a situation which makes you vulnerable nor do you want to make a bad impression on your date.

- Women should avoid dressing suggestively. It's great to show a bit of flesh but just ensure you don't overdo it. Remember wearing too little may suggest that you're a little 'easy'.

- If your date is asking too many questions or getting too friendly or making you uncomfortable, feel free to leave at anytime.
source:timesofindia.indiatimes

Changing the place of Love

2010-06-25T06:36:00.001-07:00

If your bedroom boredom has taken a toll on your sex life, all you need is a drastic, yet quick change. How about changing the place in which you are having sex?

Forget the boring kitchen or the bathtubs... think bizarre, out-of-the-box! Try out unexplored corners in your house, which you've have never earlier considered as apt places to enjoy a steamy sex session. From your storeroom to the dirty basement that you've never bothered to clean up to the garage that you thought was only meant for car parking – try out off-beat sex destinations and convert them into sensuous love dens.

Sex expert Dr. Deepak Arora agrees, "Whenever you experience a change in your life you feel more excited and the same holds true for sexual intimacy. Couples should keep changing the decoration of their rooms like lighting, placement of objects, wall colours, curtains etc to infuse a fresh feel every time they get intimate, as it boosts their sexual pleasure."

Sex counselor Dr. Shivi Jaggi supports, "Taking of sex variations, a place can influence a couples' pleasure quotient. Any place outside the stereotypical bedroom will help couples keep alive their sexual fire. The reason why they find hotel rooms more appealing than their bedrooms is for because it's a new pleasure playground that takes their mind away from mundane domesticity and adds a zing of excitement. So, if they pay a little attention and experiment with the decor of certain places within their own homes, they can perform wonders in their sex life."

So, the next time you plan an intimate session with your partner, try out these unexplored places within your house and see the heat of passion building like never before...

Garage Passion : Everyone loves a wild backseat romp, but it can get even wilder if you try sex in the garage. The dark ambiance and the rusty feel will surely build up the mood for a night of passion. Fun would be at its peak when you play love games of hide and seek behind the parked cars and let your partner look for you and thus build up your sexual mood. Alternately try a sex romp on top of your car. Dr. Jaggi explains, "In a garage, it's the raw energy of the destination that adds to the pleasure and once you're away from the comfort of your bedroom, this crude place is definitely racy and exciting. If you really wish to have a new-fangled change, you can specially design your garage to make it an apt place for sex."
Word of caution : Make sure you do not make too much noise by pressing the car horn and disturbing your neighbours as they may interrupt your sexual act.

Arty Attic : An attic fills the space between the ceiling of the top floor of a building and the slanted roof, and they are known for being awkwardly shaped spaces with exposed rafters and difficult-to-access corners. So why not make the most of this neglected area in your house? Decorate it in an alluring manner to seduce your partner and during the act, try out new positions in accordance with the structure of the attic. Dr. Arora states, "Due to hectic lifestyles, couples have no time to maintain their attic space. But just devoting a single day to covert it into a lavish area to have sex can turn the heat on. Couples will surely leave their bedroom luxuries behind and have sex on rough surfaces like that of an attic."
Word of caution : Since attics bear a slanted roof, ensure that you don't get up much during the sexual act or else you'll end up hurting yourself and spoiling the fun. source:timesofindia.indiatimes

HOW TO REDUCE GREEN HOUSE GAS AT HOME

2010-06-09T00:33:00.001-07:00

Not every family can afford to fix solar panels to their roofs or erect a wind turbine, but there are still steps you can take to save energy and therefore money.

1. Switch your electricity supply to a green tariff that promises to supply electricity from renewable sources.

2. Save on your heating bill by insulating and draught-proofing your home.

3. Switch to energy efficient light bulbs. They can use one quarter the electricity and last ten times as long.

4. Recycle paper, plastic, glass and metals. You not only save natural resources, but the energy that goes into making and transporting them.

5. Choose products that have less packaging -then you have less to recycle

6. Don't leave electrical equipment, like TVs and computers on standby they can use up to 75% of the electricity they use when turned on.

7. Take your mobile phone charger out of the socket when not being used.

8. Turn your thermostat down 1°C – you could save 10% on your fuel bills.

9. Only use your washing machine when there is a full load. Set your washing machine to warm or cool washes.

10. Fix leaking taps. A hot tap dripping could waste enough water each day for one bath.

11. Don't overheat your water. The recommended level is 60°C.

12. A full freezer uses less electricity than a half empty one – and if that isn't a good reason for buying more ice cream….

13. Kettles – if you don't need a full kettle of water don't boil a full kettle of water!

14. Dry your washing outside on the line when the weather is fine.

15. Hang reflective foil (with the shiny side facing the radiator) behind radiators fitted to outside walls to reduce heat loss.

16. Line your curtains and close them at dusk.

17. When choosing electrical appliances, make sure what you are buying is energy efficient.

18. Wearing t-shirts in winter and turning the heater up is just silly, put on warmer clothes.

19. Remember to turn the lights off when you leave the room ...... unless somebody else is still in the room!

to be more likeable?

2010-06-07T07:26:00.001-07:00

Your likeability determines your success in both professional and personal lives. So pay attention to how you look because it will help you in making a good impression on others.

Telegraph.co.uk reports that if you want to make the right impression on people, keep the following tips in mind:

Dress well: First impressions are formed instantly and physical appearance plays a big part. In the medium to long-term, people base their liking of a person on other traits and will discount their physical "ideal" if the body language appeals.

Smile: When you smile, other people feel good. It doesn't have to be full-wattage all the time. Just sincere. Even when things are not going too well and you force a smile, the empathetic person picks this up and is able to delve into reasons for your mixed feelings.

Expression in the eyes: This comes high in the likeability ratings. Eye contact shows you are interested in someone, both in general situations and in romantic ones. The expression in your eyes conveys a lot and people can detect levels of warmth, sympathy and concern.

Be a good listener: How you respond to other people is sometimes more important than all the traits listed above. When women talk to other women they tend to be more animated: they nod at appropriate times and may make facial expressions to convey empathy.

Men tend to have a problem with focus, so the theme of a conversation gets lost and the responses are off-key. In addition, men don't tend to give so many visual clues to show that they are listening. If you are a man, try responding with your body to what's being said - it will help you focus. If you come across as a person who listens, other people want to gravitate towards you.
source:timesofindia

Position best suitable for you

2010-06-07T07:24:00.001-07:00

According to the Kamasutra, there are 64 types of sexual acts one can try during lovemaking. They vary, of course, from being complex muscle movements to soft, sexy postures. Have you ever wanted to try all of them, and wondered, at the same time, if there is one meant specially for you?

Technically speaking, sex is a weird peculiar thing: we have two people sitting in positions that seem to defy the gravitational laws, puffing and moving rapidly while they are exchanging fluids. Sex can, in fact, become fatiguing and unpleasant as it equally is satisfying and beneficial.

The more creative you are and the more you try to create a pleasant atmosphere in bed, the better you will feel, because you will be able to communicate positive feelings to your partner. If you count among those who have sex for pleasure and if everything happens naturally and thanks to your body anatomy, good for you! But if you or her have certain weight issues and you cannot really afford to try any wild stuff in bed, here are some of your options: some sexual positions for different types of silhouettes:

Position #1 If you are both confronting some unwanted kilos, you can try the following: she lays on her back and easily bends her knees, and you stand between her legs and raise them during penetration. Another suitable position for you is the doggy style, which in general is a pleasant one for both partners.

Position # 2 If you have an optimal weight, and your partner is very voluptuous, she will stand on a side, while you raise her leg to the chest level or as much as her flexibility allows her to. Then gently slide towards her and hold her leg while penetrating her. Also, you can stand in front of your partner, whose legs dangle over the edge of a bed or some other platform like a table; with your partner's legs lifted towards the ceiling and resting against you, this is sometimes called the "butterfly position". It can also be done as a kneeling position.

Position # 3 If she has the optimal weight, and you are overweight, sit on your back, while she stands above you with her face oriented towards your legs. Bend your knees, while she moves standing on your knees. This position is called the "reversed cowgirl".

Position # 4 If you are very different in terms of height, the "spoon position" is the ideal one for you. You both have to sit on a side, with you being behind her. You will enjoy some rather cool moves as this position is extremely intimate, pleasant and suitable to any body type.

Nevertheless, the most important thing you and your partner should keep in mind is that there are no strict rules in bed; you should give yourself to your partner and receive her affection as you please, letting your imagination run wild. There is no similar feeling to that of giving and equally receiving pleasure from the person you love.
source:timesofindia

Bigger orgasms - Tips

2010-06-07T07:23:00.001-07:00

While majority of couples wish to have extended massive orgasm (EMO), not everybody comes down to experiencing these repeated orgasmic waves.

Lovers experiencing one of these massive orgasms have reported enjoying more of life's joys in general, becoming nicer and more generous in their relationship.

An EMO can last minutes or hours, offering up blissful sensations at increasing intensities, reports Fox News.

And here are the tricks of this tantalizing trade:

1. Truly recognize your pleasure
You want to immediately approve of your present sensations. This starts before you even get in the sack by overcoming anxieties you have about sex. This may require identifying limitations you've been taught about sex, like how you're supposed to respond (or not respond). You need to then challenge any social conditioning that impedes upon your response.

Ridding yourself of the uninvited "others" in your bed will enable you to solely focus on the orgasmic sensations, including ones that come from simply anticipating action.

2. Learn to relax
Lovers have the tendency to tense up during sexual excitement, which is not conducive to extended orgasm. You need to be able to surrender your nervous system during genital stimulation. It's this letting go of tension that allows you to embrace your pleasure.

3. Get in the know
The more we know about our bodies, sex, and sexual response, the better we can recognize sensations, the more we can lose ourselves in them. Become knowledgeable about sexual response, sexual anatomy, and erotic techniques.

4. Give yourselves time for pleasuring
Lovers may stimulate each other by fantasizing out loud, taking your time getting to the genitals and hot spots. Teasing allows for greater energy awareness and arousal, and these are what make the experience ultimately so mind-blowing.

5. Touch for pleasure
You can show your partner that you are into the moment by informing them about what you are going to do so he or she can surrender more easily. Highlighting a lover's physical responses further enables them to tune into the sensations.

6. Learn to channel your energy
You want to get out of your head, directing your energy to your groin. This will make for more explosive results, plus help you to further tune into your sexual response.

7. Become an effective communicator
To amplify things up, you may need to request changes that will intensify your pleasure if you're the receiver. As the giver, you may need to ask for feedback or direction. In either case, asking for more will help you to feel more. Giving approval can do wonders for a lover's ego.

8. Develop your pelvic floor muscles
Exercising your pubbococcygeus (PC) muscle will put you more in tune with your sexual response. It's also what makes for more powerful orgasms.

9. Have plenty of lubricant handy
As you will be loving for the long-haul, make sure you avoid the friction, pain, and discomfort that can result from working each other raw by using lube.

10. Do away with any drive-thru mentality
Having an EMO isn't like going for fast food. One can't go into it thinking instant gratification. Instead, approach it as though training for a sport.
Source:Timesofindia

Attitude on your heel

2010-06-03T06:54:00.001-07:00

If the shoe on your right foot says 'Bite me', it's not necessarily a symptom of masochism.

Especially if the left one has a juicy red apple on it. This flirty footwear is simply out to get the attention of young bucks whose sharp eyes check women out from head to foot. Shital Deliwala designed this pair and another in which one shoe had '333' on it while the other cheekily proclaimed, 'I am only half as evil'.

Suddenly, the t-shirt with its funny lines and cartoon characters is not the only platform for flaunting your personality and politics. Dude, ad space for attitude has slid all the way down, past hipster waistlines and sagging crotches, to the soles of your shoes. A picture of Michael Jackson can add glitter to your boring PT whites and Che can revolutionize a soiled pair of Converses. Shoe space is not snobby and there's room for everything from Sponge bob Square pants to Climate Change.

Attracting eyeballs feet first is a new fad among kids who like to dress. And one person's fad is turning out to be another's fortune. Savia Jane Pinto, the young woman who is media professional by day and designer by night, has converted her shoe fetish into a money-spinner. Pinto says quite plainly that she can't paint on canvas unless it's on shoes. So she took a modest course in footwear design and even worked with a designer but ditched it all for some nonsensical reason.

Fortunately, a pep talk from her older brother made her paint a few tongues of flame on old keds. "My brother went bonkers when he saw it," says Pinto, who now gets about three to six orders for shoe-painting a month and charges anywhere from Rs 650 to Rs 2000 a pair. At least her clients pay up.

Delhi's Nimeesh Pandey once designed shoes for a tattoo artist, who did a dodge when it came to paying up, suggesting that he would do a tattoo in return. That hurt, says Pandey.
Pinto, who blogs on Shoefu, is approached by rock-music freaks for Limp Bizkit ("It was so tough I could not replicate it on the other shoe") and girls who insist on pink. A group of girls once asked her to paint a pair for a friend they were seeing off. The friend was fondly called 'Dumb Dumb' . "I made Eeyore the donkey," says Pinto. "She loved it."

Shoe designers are used to strange requests. A European lady asked Shital Deliwala, a graphic designer who has tied up with the lifestyle store Attic in Mumbai, to paint the names of every place she and her boyfriend had visited in India. This included everything from bus numbers to the Taj. "Customised shoes make for great birthday gifts," says Deliwala, whose sam ples have lines like 'Follow your dreams' and 'Inhale Exhale'.

Farzana Billimoria, whose brand is called Mind2Sole, was recently approached by an elderly woman who asked painted slip-ons "because she didn't want to bend down every time to tie a pair of shoelaces" . Billimoria has tied up with Cafe Mondegar in Mumbai's tourist mile and has permission to use the Colaba cafe's Mario Miranda mural. When she first drew elephants on her shoes, her father exclaimed, "Are you serious?" and her banker brother asked incredulously if anyone would want to wear them.

Today, Billimoria earns so well she can afford to turn down orders When her aunt asked for Sponge bob shoes for a nephew, she said a flat no. "He'll grow out of them and then my art will end up in the bin." Source:Times of India

Things that scare women in bed

2010-06-03T06:52:00.001-07:00

Sex can be an intimidating experience for a variety of reasons, but there are some things that can happen in bed that are likely to truly scare your partner.

In order to avoid freaking her out, keep a few guidelines in mind when it comes to weird, unexpected or downright frightening acts like these.

Sex toys: The first thing that could scare some woman in bed is asking her to do something that she's never done before. Depending on how confident she is, a request for something she has no previous experience with may have her shaking in her boots (or stilettos, as the case may be). Before you spring a new idea on her, get a feel for her knowledge and comfort level on the subject. A simple: "Have you tried this before?" can go a long way to not scaring her before you get started.

Hands around her neck: A casual act of wrapping your hands around her neck and giving it a little squeeze might be perfectly alright if she's been warned ahead of time that it's something that turns you on, or certainly if she is the one who has requested it. However, choking her out of the blue during sex is a surefire way to have her springing out of bed. There are many people genuinely enjoy rough sex, violent role-playing and even some real pain, but if you haven't discussed your predilections with your sexual partner well in advance of getting into bed with her, you must not spring something like this on while her defenses are down.

Rear view: Some women are turned on by the idea of anal stimulation, while others may find it disgusting. Before you know which kind of woman the one you're in bed with is, do not go anywhere near her backside. Unexpected anal penetration is pretty much guaranteed to scare her in bed. Even getting too close to the general area with your fingers, your tongue or a toy can be enough to freak out some women. Get an idea of her views on the act before you try anything anal.

Most women would be able to handle a simple vibrator or maybe a blindfold, but if your idea of fun props includes shackles, ropes, whips, and textured butt plugs, you may want to ease her into the idea before you bring out all your toys.

Talking dirty: This happens all the time in the privacy of your bedroom. In the heat of the moment, all kinds of things can come out of your mouth if you're not careful. The downside of this is that actions aren't the only things that can scare her in bed; your words can do the job just as well. Maybe you started off by whispering a fantasy in her ear, but once your voice takes on a serial killer-like intensity and you start getting into too much psycho detail, your little story takes a dark turn and she makes up some excuse about having to wash her hair or get up early in the morning. Keep these little tales to yourself if you want to avoid scaring her in bed.

Naturally, what scares one woman in bed might make another woman all hot and bothered, so you never can tell how she's going to react to a certain kink, fetish or unusual practice – until you ask her, of course. If she is into fetishes, it's unlikely she will keep quiet about them. On the other hand, if you bring it up and she bolts, it's better that you find out early on that you're sexually incompatible. Source:Times of India

Naughty ways to tease

2010-06-03T06:50:00.001-07:00

After a few hundred terrible dates, you've at last found the man of your dreams! But hey, you want him to chase you and you want to tease him till he notices you, right ?

How about a few naughty-nice ways to tease your man on a date? Jealousy works, you know? Work this one very, very carefully. You want him to know that you are an attractive woman and you want to tease him with your attractiveness; you don't want him to think you are a slut or a chronic flirt!

Visual clues
Send a whole lot of visual clues to tease him on your date. A simple hint: remember Sharon Stone and her infamous leg crossing!
- Cross your legs and then slowly move your top foot in circles. Men are drawn toward movement and you can guarantee a tease in the visual clue of your lovely gams.
- Try a low neck with bronzer on the valley on your cleavage to draw attention to your bosom.
- Dress in clingy fire-engine-red to catch and retain his attention!
- Rub your shoulder as if it hurts and then sigh gently. Works really well to draw attention to your upper body as a tease!

Talk naughty
- Drop a few naughty comments into your conversation like- "Well dressed men really get me going" as this makes him work harder to impress you on the next date.
- Assert that you want to change your name. Then smile coyly and ask, "Do I look more like Sienna Miller or Pamela Anderson"?
- Show your sexy abdomen or legs and ask whether a tattoo or body piercing would be good and where? (Say that you have bought a new perfume, and then ask him to smell your wrist or your neck and state whether he likes it.

Lady act: A lot of guys are really turned off by a woman that comes on strong and, well, trashy. Be yourself.
Eye contact: To reel him in at dates, try naughty moves like tilting your chin and flashing naughty glances. Try looking at a spot in between his eyes, if you aren't too comfortable with direct eye contact.

Dating is a fun way to meet new guys but with these teasing new moves you should be getting them lapping at your heels in no time! Source:Times of India

Things every man should know

2010-05-20T06:14:00.001-07:00

A new book, entitled 150 Things Every Man Should Know, offers to help men through the minefield of being a male.

The tome by Gareth May hands out pointers about certain skills, which apparently all lads would find indispensable, such as the correct etiquette in a urinal, hiding a love bite, or spotting artificial breasts.

British tabloid The Sun handpicked some favourites from the book priced at ₤14.99.

Going commando
1. Your package becomes more visible through only one layer of protection, so prepare for some smiles or smirks.
2. Take extra care when shaking at the urinal. The damp spot has led to many a man's misery.
3. Avoid trousers with zips.
4. When wearing shorts don't lift your legs up.
5. Check your fly at regular intervals.

Hiding a love bite
1. Some swear by white toothpaste. Smear over the bite and leave.
2. Apply arnica cream or take arnica pills. Arnica speeds up healing and reduces bruises.
3. Wear a polo neck, scarf or cravat, or all three. Tell friends you're thinking of joining a bowling club if they're suspicious.
4. If desperate, reach for some concealer.

Urinal etiquette
1. Control the power of your pee. Backsplash is embarrassing enough on your own shirt, let alone your boss's.
2. Don't stand far back and experiment with your aim.
3. Remember: Sinks are for washing your hands and absolutely nothing else.
4. It is totally unacceptable to operate a Blackberry or mobile at a urinal, especially during conference calls.

How to tell if she's had a boob job
Size: If she looks like she's smuggling watermelons, they are probably fake... or she's smuggling watermelons.
Shape: Boob jobs look hard and muscular. Real breasts look soft and curve out like a ski-slope.
Texture: Unless you were around in the blitz you might not know what a sandbag feels like. So think bag of sugar.

How to talk your way out of a fight
1. At times offering to buy them a drink can defuse the situation, but don't give them your credit card.
2. Don't be intimidated or show any sign or weakness.
3. Stand your ground with confidence if they square up to you. Don't shuffle, slouch or put your hands in your pockets.
4. Don't give into temptation, grab a pool cue and yell: "Let's be having you!"
5. Speak calmly and don't crack jokes.
6. If you've used all reasoning and he still wants a fight, chances are it's fisticuffs even if Gandhi and Nelson Mandela were doing the talking.

How to get over a girl
Do: Hit the pub with some mates.
Don't: Drink yourself into a stupor.
Do: Pack her belongings into a box and return them to her as soon as possible.
Don't: Have sex with the ex. OK, just once if you have to.

How to turn a girl off, if you don't like her
Be elusive: Tell her you're busy all the time and never return calls, texts or emails.
Drop hints: Tell her you're in a relationship with someone else who struggles with your platonic female friends.
Disgust her: Wear really old, dirty clothes and don't clean your teeth for a week.

Source:times of India

Emotional guide line for sex

2010-05-20T06:10:00.001-07:00

It's rightly said that you perform well in bed when you have the desire to score brownie points.

Everyone likes to enjoy lovemaking with a fully charged up mind and at the same time they want an equally aroused partner in bed to ensure gratifying sex. It's the emotion, mood and the present state of mind that adds to the sexual ecstasy.

A recent study revealed that women with a high emotional intelligence have better sex lives and they experienced more orgasms than those with low EI who suffered orgasmic disorder. "The findings show that emotional intelligence is an added advantage in many aspects of your life, including the bedroom. This study enormously helps in the development of behavioural and cognitive therapies to improve women's sexual lives," said Professor Tim Spector, director of the Twin Research Department at King's College London.

Relationship counselor Gitanjali Sharma explains, "Emotional intelligence is basically the ability to understand your emotions and those of people around you. It's about reading emotions, balancing and regulating them. If you are emotionally satisfied, you are in a happier mood which applies to your bedroom too. It's important to realise that sex starts in one's mind before it reaches the body. Before having sex physically, you actually get physical mentally and that is possible only with an emotionally sound mind."

Dr. Kamal Khurana, a marriage and relationship counselor agrees, "Women give sex to get love, so they want a lot of reassurance and companionship from their male partner. They have a sex drive, but eventually it's more about emotional warmth, which turns into an expression of love and sex. When women receive more of emotional support in dealing with their mood swings, they are happier and consequently perform well in bed."

Elucidating the fact that women can spice up their sex lives with a dash of emotions, we get experts to share some emotions that can do wonders in your sexual paradise when dealt with in a desired way...

Angry : Anger has to do with fear and it is a very healthy emotion. Anger problems can make hungry-for-sex women become so adamant on controlling their anger that they stop feeling sexy. It's often an alarm clock for their male partner where men are expected to understand that there's something making the woman angry. Anger leads to rejection of the male in an intimate act. The emotion of anger clearly shows that there is a problem deep down due to which the female partner may not be responding in the desired manner.

Spice up the emotion : Dr. Kamal Khurana, a marriage therapist suggests, "Of course you should not talk at that particular time, but men should try and find out the right time to reach out to their lady love. Try talking about what is bothering your lady in a nice manner, which is not hurtful or provoking. As soon as you trace the reason behind her anger, try bringing in a dash of surprise humour to lighten up her mood. Express your love through a meaningful gesture by saying 'I love you' via a card, keeping romantic notes below her pillow, cracking a sexual joke or sending her favourite flowers."

Overjoyed : When a woman is going through this emotion, she would evidently want to go on talking about her elated state of mind. Having such a good mood, she would undoubtedly perform well in bed, but her mind is likely to be diverted.

Spice up the emotion : Gitanjali Sharma, a relationship counselor states, "It's entirely up to the male partner as to how he handles his woman in bed on that particular night. It's important for him to listen to her and support her and be a part of her celebration. Understand that she is at her joyful peak, so it will be wrong to expect her to be on the peak of sex too. Be patient and make the most of this emotion by going with the flow. Connect with her and laugh out loud on whatever she says and then as the passion builds on, you can proceed for an intimate session."

Anxious : Anxious people do not often experience a satisfying orgasm. Anxiety exists when a woman is afraid of something that might happen in the future or something which she has experienced during a particular day. When she goes to bed with these anxieties running through her mind, she is not mentally prepared to enjoy sex. If this emotion is not dealt with properly, possibilities are there that sex would be avoided often and there will be more of excuses in your relationship.

Spice up the emotion : "Ensuring that your woman doesn't get carried away with this emotion, the male partner has to be supportive here. When in such a mood, sex should not be treated as a tick-marked routine thing which has to be done mundanely. The act should be aimed at comforting each other and the secondary stage should involve body contact. Lot of discussions would help bringing you partner closer to you and as you touch upon the different domains of her life, sex will naturally flow," suggests Dr. Khurana.

Isolated : This emotion can bring drastic results in a woman's sex life. Due to a feeling of isolation, she may suffer from depression and have a low confidence level. With feelings of being disowned, she would not want to attach herself with anyone, thus bearing a clear unwillingness towards sex. On the other hand, seeking physical and emotional support, she may become too vulnerable thereby indulging in sex just to come out of this isolation.

Spice up the emotion : "In such circumstances, men must communicate with their female partners to try and help her regain high emotional intelligence. Loving gestures from your end will reassure her and make her come close to you. Once you have given her the recognition and made her feel important in some way, she would be all into you and will be charged up for a sexual session too," says Gitanjali.

Silence : There must be certain inhibitions that induce a woman to remain silent for a prolonged time span. When a woman is unable to express her mind freely, or she is undergoing emotional pain, her self-esteem is low. During lovemaking moments when your lady love is in such a mood, she will behave as if sex is a forced pressure on her.

Spice up the emotion : "The basic idea while dealing with this emotion is to make her open up and speak out her mind. Chances are high that she might have certain sexual preferences, which she is finding tough to communicate. So make her feel at ease, indulge in a healthy conversation over a coffee, empower her to be expressive and say whatever she wants to without any apprehensions. Once her thoughts are conveyed in a proper manner, she will look forward to lovemaking, sans any uneasiness," feels Dr. Khurana.

Negative attitude : A pessimistic emotion makes a woman see everything wrong around her. Indulging in negative self-talk, there is nothing that seems to bring joy to her. Even if her male partner approaches her for sex, she is likely not to respond in a desired way.

Spice up the emotion : "The male partner needs to instill a positive feeling to help the woman come out of her negativity. It's advisable to highlight positive things and good attributes about her and pamper her so as to create a feel good feeling. It's only after source:Times of India

Office romance

2010-05-20T05:46:00.001-07:00

Having an affair with a co-worker, but fearing that it might land your job in trouble? Well, now you can hide that office romance by following only a few tips.

Here is a set of guidelines on how to conceal your passionate office romp...

Don't change your routine
The best way to conceal an office romance and cast a protective shell around your new relationship is to maintain your schedule throughout the work day. Nothing should change. People always notice significant changes in routine, especially if they're the gossipy office types, so avoid doing anything out of the ordinary. This means no lunches with your new partner — especially if you've never been known to socialize with this person on a friendly basis before.

Keep it to yourself
You may have a few close friends at work with whom you really want to share the events of your recent hookup, but you can't give in to this urge. This is a very crucial rule to follow when you want to conceal an office romance. Don't brag to them in your office and send them away with a vow never to tell anyone. It's acceptable to tell friends or family who don't work in the office, but you better make damn sure they have no possible connection to your workplace.

Don't document it
There are a number of ways to conceal an office romance while communicating with your love during the workday. You might think you can get away with sending 100 e-mails back and forth every day, but do not use your business address. Most companies have internal servers that can track any and all e-mails sent between employees, and if anybody over in IT happened to look, they would find more than enough evidence to convict.

Restrict yourself to cell phone texts and voice mail—anything that has a chance of being seen by a co-worker isn't worth the risk, reports Askmen.com.

Avoid attending office social gatherings together
The biggest problem with the office Christmas party and happy hour at the local bar is that two factors that could out you are involved: alcohol and gossip. Even if the two of you are never within 10 feet of each other at one of these get-togethers, you're still taking a relatively big risk. You always have to be careful in the office to conceal an office romance, but you can't imagine how precarious an employee social gathering can be. All it takes to set off a rumour wildfire is one slightly tipsy secretary who asks a particular question, and your answer can be interpreted in a variety of ways. So, the best thing to do is maintain the "Don't change your routine" philosophy because purposeful avoidance is just as big a tip-off as always going to social functions together would be.

Don't let it affect your work
You can send a few lovey-dovey messages via your cell phone, or exchange a brief kiss in the stairway, but you can't let this relationship affect your work. First of all, you didn't get to where you are by shirking your daily duties, and second, you're already risking your future at the company simply by being with this person. If anything, work harder to compensate for your transgression, which may give you a slight edge if anybody ever finds out.

Loving 9 to 5
While an office romance is a very common occurrence and not quite as taboo as it once was, many hurdles remain. The workplace still presents a lot of grey area when it comes to romantic excursions between employees, so in order to play it safe, it's often best to keep your little fling under wraps. Pay close attention to the little giveaways that leave you open to suspicion. source:Times of India

Unconventional moan zones of Men and Women

2010-04-30T07:44:00.001-07:00

You may just be whispering into your girlfriend's ear and, surprisingly, find her sighing in ecstasy... your gal may be equally surprised when you get ready for action as she caresses your inner thighs .

Welcome to the special world of pleasure zones. Let's face it, everyone has a button to push, and if you correctly explore these erotic spots in your body, it can assure you and your lover of a memorable sexual high.

"Many of us love to believe that it's only women who possess dozens of pleasure zones which cause excitement when touched, while men just possess one. But the truth is that most men become excited when their partner pays attention to certain special spots beyond the obvious ones. The sensory tips present in these areas are sexually aroused by mere touch, caressing or even fondling. You may not even know where these spots are, but do not fret, for that just makes finding them all the more desirable for both of you," says Vrinda Vohra, a Delhi-based relationship counsellor.

As curiosity is part of our genetic makeup, most men and women remain curious as to what turns their partners on. Which spot can we touch to drive them absolutely crazy? Well then, today's your lucky day because we bring you nine unconventional moan zones...

Pleasure Zone 1 - Luscious lips
Kissing on the lips is often considered as an emblem of affection, symbol of sexual consent and foundation of foreplay; little do people realise that this first step can make or mar a much-planned sex session. "Yes, it's true. If you know how to maneuver your partner by kissing, sucking and biting their lips, it is very possible that this kiss will lead to a lot more than you expected," says 27-year-old Palak Burman

Kissing, licking and nibbling the lips has an equally heady effect on women, as on men. Dr Vrinda gives some tips, "Use your lips, your tongue and your teeth to play with your partner's top and bottom lip and kiss him/her with complete passion. The funda is that don't just kiss the lips - devour them! Experiment and find out just how serious of a zone one's lips can be."

Pleasure Zone 2 - Hairline, forehead and eyelids
Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is completely relaxed. When the head, forehead and eye area are stoked in the right way, they trigger the most amazing feelings. The area above and on the eyelid possesses a great concentration of nerves, and giving a gentle massage along the arch of the eyebrow and onto the temple is a great way to start foreplay.

"Remember that a gentle head massage can do wonders, much more than any foreplay act. Also, the spot between the outer corner of the eye and the cheekbone is very sensitive. Start with placing passionate kisses on that zone and continue wandering your lips or breathing all over your lover's face, concentrating on these zones," explains sexologist Jayanti Mishr.

Highlighting the importance of mental relaxation, Vrinda adds, "Each person's reaction to arousing methods depends entirely on his/her physical and mental makeup at the time of the sexual act. Stimulation of the head and face zones has more to do with cerebral arousal than physical excitement."

Pleasure Zone 3 - Ears to neck region
Ears are one of the most sensitive areas, yet the most ignored pleasure zones. Just breathing on this part of body gives him/her goose bumps all over. It is also a good place to start giving your partner an alluring, irresistible sensual massage.
"The killer areas for men are the neck, face and the earlobes. When a man's earlobe is gently sucked, we quickly envision those lips somewhere else," shares 32-year-old Vikas Raina.

Sex therapist, Raman Rahilla explains, "The most erogenous zones are inside the right ear. Have you ever tried to scratch yourself there? Doesn't it feel wonderful? Use your lips, tongue or fingers to trace the folds of your partner's ears, gently bite on his/her lobes, and softly stroke behind their ears and down the back of his neck. Trust me, this will drive them crazy with desire"

Pleasure Zone 4 - Neck to shoulders region
Believe it or not, some women can even achieve an orgasm from stimulation just in this area! When tickled, caressed or even touched, this region lends an extraordinary sexual high. "I think every man thinks that the key to arousal lies down under, but the truth is that like me, many women find stimulation of the neck more erotic than every other kind of stimulation. The very thought of touch on this area acts as an impetus for further sexual arousal," shares 29-year-old Rajvidya.

Dr Vrinda further illustrates, "It is important to think of your lover's body as a complete and integrated organism, of which every inch is worthy of loving attention and caresses, rather than a map where specific areas are singled out. The area between the neck to the shoulder is one of the most overlooked erotic zones which is extremely exciting. A majority of men and women get totally turned on by stimulation of the area from the back and sides of their necks to the ends of their shoulder blades."
Apart form being a great moan zone, this area allows you to demonstrate your wild side, without hurting your partner. "This is the best area to place hard kisses and love bites. My personal experience says that the more time you spend here, the louder her moans will be," points out 30-year-old Rehman Ansari.

Pleasure Zone 5 - Navel to bladder region
The navel is an erotic point, and so are the structures in the middle of the belly between the navel and lower abdomen. This area is most vulnerable to touch, caress, fondle and kiss. The stimulation creates sensations that radiate out from the navel to the surroundings, and spreads downwards. Raman explains, "This structure contains a furrow between the belly muscles. The structures in this channel are very sensuous. I would suggest that the naval be tickled by sticking a finger into it. However, be cautious and alternate the massage between light, gentle, slow tickling, and harder, sharper tickling."

"Women need foreplay before the actual act because they are usually preoccupied with their daily routine and foresee the loving and caressing as a sensuous means to achieve mental arousal before the physical arousal. I find strokes on the belly area very sensual. It's like a quick turn on and thankfully my partner knows about it," says 36-year-old Vishakha Raghu Sharma.

Vikas Raina suggests a few tips, "Take one of your fingers and slowly and gently draw circles on her tummy and around her belly button. Don't forget the power of kissing and licking the navel and pelvic areas. Most women fantasize about being held in a firm manly grip, so don't be afraid to put your hands on or around her waist."

Pleasure Zone 6 - The creases around the body
The most sensitive area of any person is his/her lower torso. This is the crease or line that extends across the lower abdomen from one hipbone to the other. Another exceptionally erotic zone is the crease between the curve of the buttocks and the top of the thighs, known as the sacral crease. Stroking or running a finger along this crease usually produces a strong, erotic response. "Because of all the nerve endings behind the various folds of one's body, you'd be surprised at how crazy your lover can become when you gently lick or nibble on these creases," says Raman.

"It would be a nice move if you explore this 'trail' before reaching anywhere else. In fact, even the skin behind the knees is very thin and soft and responsive to touch as the nerves are close to the surface. Most women find that kissing and licking the crease directly behind the knee very pleasurable, some even get shivery chills of excitement from such a stimulation. From your partner's feet, work your way to this zone and then focus on it," recommends Vrinda.

However, be careful not to overdo it because the area, after all, is very sensitive and you must be careful not to make the sensation annoying by getting too rough or tickling too much.

Pleasure Zone 7 - Thigh region
The inside of the thighs are highly sensitive to touching, stroking and licking. Just like the back of the knees, inner thighs also have multiple nerve endings, therefore when you fondle them; you can turn your partner on. Treat it as the penultimate moan zone, the last area to be stimulated before moving to his/her genitals.

"If you are speaking of moan zones, it would be sheer idiocy to overlook the thigh area, as soft kisses and light fingertip stroking from his/her knees right up to (but not including) her privates sends your partner into that loud moaning state," shares Raman.

36-year-old Shivani Kureshi provides tips by sharing her real life experience, "The teasing nature of such touches sparks the lights where there is no fire. Anticipation is the key to feminine arousal and thigh stimulation leaves one craving for more. Massaging, kissing and lightly caressing the inside of the thighs almost always leave me begging him to move up."

Though, remember not to bite as the area is very sensitive and doing so would cause her mild pain, which will, in turn, cause you plenty of pain.

Pleasure Zone 8 - Ankle and feet region
The foot represents an erogenous zone for those who nurture a foot fetish. It has curves and delicate zones and can respond to hard and soft caresses, while also remaining hidden much of the time. A foot fetishist notices the curve of the ankle into the heel, the arch of the foot as it sits in a high heel, and the perfect alignment of the toenails. "The feet can be caressed and fondled just as any other erogenous zone. Some men like to tickle and stimulate a woman's feet with feathers to see the way it moves and twists. Because the area is so sensitive, the person who is attached to the feet may find that what once caused laughter now caused desire," elucidates Jayanti Mishr.

However, Raman thinks this is a conditional moan zone. "Some women are self-conscious about their feet and might be reluctant to allow you to pay court to them. For others, however, it is a very erotic area. It is important to test your partner's attitude towards it. If he/she responds with moans, you have identified another prime target for arousing your partner."

"While not everyone likes their feet (some of my friends don't) some like me, find it highly erotic to touch, lick, stroke, and look at. The mantra is to learn the pressure points of a woman's feet and reap the benefits. A foot massage can be an extremely pleasurable experience. Pedicures and perfumed feet are the alternate ways to make a foot fetishist weak in the knees," shares Rahman Ansari.

Pleasure Zone 9 - Armpits and wrists
This one is especially dedicated to the girls. It may come as a shock to most guys, but women love having their wrists nuzzled and nibbled by their partners. Licking their armpits can be highly erotic for the recipient as the sensitive areas give both pleasure and subtle pain. "Arms also have a subtle reference to servitude and submission. Try very lightly stroking the underside of your partner's forearm and wrists with your fingertips or gently raking them with your fingernails. Start kissing her from her wrist and move towards her arm, just barely touching her as you pass," advocates Rajvidya.
Pleasure zones are a highly individual matter. Explore your lover's body - every nook and cranny - and find out what turns them on. It is well worth the time and effort if it means a more exciting experience for both of you. source

Qualities in men that women like to dig.

2010-04-30T07:30:00.001-07:00

There are certain qualities in men that women absolutely dig.

It's not just about being tall, dark and handsome. There are certain 'manly' qualities about guys that can make any woman go weak in her knees. And while you may think it's all about the looks, guess what? There's more. It's a potent mix of both, physical attributes and of course, that all important emotional touch. Here, we tell you about six points you need to heed.

Well groomed
Yes, we said tall but the reality is that height is really not as important a factor as how you present yourself. Just like guys like a women who is well turned out, women too dig guys who ensure that they are perfectly groomed a la Leonardo DiCaprio. The basic funda women believe in is that if you are careful enough to take care of yourself, they can trust you to take care of them. So, remember guys, sloppy dressing, uncombed hair, dirty nails, smelly socks, stained shirts or jeans and the likes are an absolute no-no when you are trying to make that all important impression on someone from the opposite sex.

A sense of style
Women would rather have you splurging on them than on obscenely priced designer wear. So, even if it's a typical roadside purchase that you swear by, make sure you adopt a certain classy and stylised look and maintain it. Women don't really expect you to be a picture copy of a Pierce Brosnan or a David Beckham, but trying to imitate their style will surely up your popularity quotient. Keep yourself updated on the latest trends. Also, just as you have your reservations against the 'nun-type' dressers, women too hesitate when it comes to the boring office type dresser.

Laugh it out
One of the most important trait that woman dig is a sense of humour. Women have more than enough problems to deal with and don't really need the company of another equally depressed soul. Yes, you have your bad days, but it does go a long way if you have a good sense of humour, and clean humour at that. Beware, taking a dig at others and constantly putting others down do not really spell fun for women. And we can't tell you enough how much women love people who can laugh at themselves and their own mistakes.

Show them you care
Women need to be constantly reassured that they are loved and cared for. Acts like holding their hand while walking down the road, watching the sunset, an occasional hug and peck on the cheeks and making sure that they cross the road safely mean that you are proud to be seen with them and care for them. Remember, not displaying your affection openly is a sign that you are ashamed of who you are with. However, beware of being crass while displaying you affections.

A sexy smile/wink
There's a reason why women absolutely adore Richard Gere or Hugh Jackman and it has a lot to do with the way that they smile or that glint in their eyes. Believe us when we tell you that if you look at them and smile like that, it does make them feel very special, like they are one in a million.

Be calm
Woman are known to be harrowed and frenzied. Yes, they do tend to get hyper very easily and that is the precise reason why you need to be the calming factor in their lives. It really doesn't help if you too get stressed out or fly off the handle at any and every incident. Your sex appeal lies as much in your looks as it does in your attitude - women dig guys with a cool and peaceful attitude, the one who is able to calm them down and reassure them that all is well. source

What women think while having sex?

2010-04-30T07:28:00.001-07:00

A Hollywood hunk, ex-lovers, a blue film scene and even what to buy in a grocery store—these are things that women think of while having sex.

Some women have now revealed what really scores with them between the sheets.

Single comedian Shazia Mirza, 34, said that some of her friends revealed that during sex they are mentally writing a to-do list, remembering clothes they have to wash, what they've got to buy at Tesco's or those shoes they love in Selfridges.

And some women even think of men they secretly fantasise of.

"A friend of mine, who really loves her husband, told me that during sex she can't help thinking about all the men she secretly really desires, like Jeremy Beadle and Jeremy Paxman," the Sun quoted her as saying.

"I've been married twice and had many lovers and to be honest, with past lovers I've been so bored in bed, I've taken to compiling mental grocery lists and calculating exactly how many shoes are in the wardrobe (82 pairs)," said author Kathy Lette, 51.

"Most wives are taken for granted. But how we'd like to be taken is by a muscular-thighed Adonis with pecs appeal.

"Luckily sex with Johnny Depp is only the flick of a light switch away. Ah, Johnny - a man whose sex appeal is so deadly it should be registered at police headquarters as a lethal weapon.

"Doing the horizontal tango with George Clooney is also amazing - if only he'd been with me at the time!" she added.

Sarah Millican, 33, is in a relationship, and she said: "I never walk out of a film at the cinema. I'm the same with sex. I always think it might get better. To be honest, as long as I've got a bag of Maltesers, I'm not going anywhere." source

Guide to sexual bliss

2010-04-30T07:23:00.001-07:00

Has your sexual regime reached a dead end? Feeling bored? Follow our seven step sexual guide and feel your lost libido recharged ...

1. Change your sexual routine
Analyse your sexual regimen. Is it highly predictable? Is it more of a race to reach an orgasm? If so then perhaps you are in the midst of a sexual rut. So, get up and try breaking the sexual norm by doing the opposite of what you normally do. If you're having sex in darkness, try it in the morning or in the afternoon. If you're always getting down and dirty in the bedroom, enjoy a quickie on the kitchen counter or under the shower. If your man is always on top, surprise him by taking charge. Change your sexual POA to inject freshness into your sex life.

2. Show him the booty
It's not always a great idea to sashay around the house in sexy lingerie and killer heels if you want an instant arousal in your man. Why don't you surprise him by doing the dusting totally naked wearing a sexy G-string or indulge in some sexy shopping together. Men are turned on by what they see - so show him.

3. Make enough time
While sex is supposed to be spontaneous, unbridled passion, the pressure of jobs, children, and managing domestic chores leaves us with no time for sex. Try to give him hints that you are looking forward to a romp. Send suggestive and naughty texts and emails throughout the day. Spontaneity is a great mood builder and the anticipation and build up of something planned can be lots of fun.

4. Look back...
Remember the early days when you were in the first throes of lust when it was hard to keep your hands of each other? Most couples remember their initial years with affectionate nostalgia, so try and recreate those memories. Plan a nice dinner, reminisce about the first time you saw each other, what attracted you initially, and your first date. Recall the sexual connection, the pet names, personal jokes. Put on some sensuous music and dance around your living room to the song you first danced to. Recreate the thrill of having sex by doing it somewhere you might get caught! You share a rich history, so indulge in it a little - those that do are the couples that stay connected.

5. It's good to talk
Never sleep with anger within you. The unwritten rule of a great relationship is to really talk. Be open and honest. Talk about things you don't like in each other, irritating habbits. But remember to discuss the positive traits too - communicate what's important in your relationship; simply talking about why you love each other can help keep the passion alive.

6. Retain the mystery
A little bit of mystery adds spark to your love life. Sometimes when you are living with each other for years, you get too comfortable with each other and tend to be yourself with your partner. So keep the mystery alive and add some spice to your relationship.

7. Indulge your senses
Turn your bedroom into an erotic boudoir by adding loads of silk, satin sheets and colours that make you feel sexy. Cook aphrodisiacal meals together with naughty ingredients that really s-excite the taste buds, or share a candlelit bath with fragrant bubbles and scented oils. Make the time to indulge your senses and you'll soon your libido replenished. source

Lust or love

2010-02-23T05:58:00.003-08:00

In terms of mature relationships and love, most of the times, people fail to distinguish between the true meaning of love and lust .

Every Cinderella longs to find her Prince Charming and live happily ever after. We all want to fall in love. Why? Because that experience makes us feel completely alive. Our emotions get magnified, senses get heightened, and we are flying in seventh heaven. It may only last a moment, an hour, a day, but that doesn't diminish its value....

But are you sure it's love that we are talking about?

Why do independent, smart women become emotional wrecks after a romantic break-up? Why do older men gravitate towards younger women? Could it be estrogen and testosterone hormones that addict us to our lovers? In terms of mature relationships and love, most of the times, people fail to distinguish between the true meaning of love and lust.

Have you ever been swept off your feet by a man/woman standing next to you in a queue? Is it merely infatuation, a strong shot of chemistry, or budding love - the real thing? Is Cupid playing a prank or bringing you true love forever?

Love at first sight is not believable. Love takes time. Lust at first sight sounds much more accurate. A study done by testing the blood samples of twenty couples, who claimed to be madly in love for less than six months, revealed that serotonin levels of new lovers were equivalent to the low serotonin levels of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder patients.

It's hard to tell if you are in love because there're no set defining characteristics of love. The dictionary says it's "a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection" or "a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person." What exactly is this feeling or attraction?

The question evoked the thought process of Paramita Roy, a fashion designer; she was surprised that she had never thought of this aspect of her relationship before. After much silence she concluded, "Emotions are not sufficient to suggest whether a relationship is that of love, no matter how strong the attraction may be." Sadly, there is not much awareness to distinguish between lust and love and that is why we have so many emotional and social problems.

Since time immemorial we are hearing that love is blind. But that's a mistake; real love is not blind. Quite the opposite, it is a relationship in full awareness. Over time, through good communication and wisdom, you can start knowing your partner. Gradually, you become aware of his/her flaws and try to work your differences in a healthy way.

Lust, on the other hand, could be perceived as being "blind" as it usually distorts reality, especially when you're so involved that you don't care to find out the real persona of your partner. According to Shruti Bhatia, a psychologist, we often idolize our partners, magnify their virtues and find a way to explain their flaws. This basically happens because many movies, books and songs paint an unrealistic portrait of love, which further builds a false perception of love in our minds.

When Sameer Nagpal, a commercial pilot by profession, was asked whether his six-year-old relationship was based on love or lust, he was quick to reply, "Love is full of sacrifices, trust and respect whereas lust is built on physical attraction, fun and thrills. Real love is commitment. I cannot categorize my relationship as a short sensational affair of love is in the air."

Do some real soul searching today and identify your relationship. If you're in a relationship which does not have fondness, respect, affection, devotion along with passion, it would be wise to back off. Or else, one day those wonderful romantic feelings will be gone and you will wonder what happened to your perfect romance. Accept the fact that you or your partner is not ready for commitment. After all, commitment is a choice which is backed up with actions and maturity. source

Spice up love life

2010-02-23T05:58:00.001-08:00

Trust, understanding, respect and bonding, what else couples can ask for in a healthy relationship to form the foundation for a lasting union.

But little do the couples know that even the most wonderful relationship can go for a toss if love starts fading away. In today's modern times with a hectic workflow to maintain, couples often take each other for granted. And very often, they fail to realise the importance of the little things in a relationship that add the much needed zing in their otherwise boring and dull relationship.

It could be something as simple as saying 'I love you' or wooing your mate with a surprise gift – all that matters is the urge to show that you care and love. These small love gestures might not seem too precious in a relationship, but they can leave your partner craving for more.

Relationship and sex counselor Dr. Geetu Bhardwaj explains, "In every relationship, it's important to maintain a healthy bond. If the couple starts assuming that the other partner knows about your feelings, then there would be very little conversation and sharing of feelings. In such situations, a vacuum starts building and this adversely affects the relationship in the long-run. So it's suggested that small expressions of love should be conveyed every now and then to improve the quality of a relationship."

So the next time boredom starts taking away the fun from your love paradise, try these precious gestures, which can surely bring back the passion like never before...

1. Say that you love : Loving someone is a pleasant feeling, but what's more important is to tell them that you love them. Saying 'I love you' is the best way to connect to your partner and share what you feel for each other.

Love-o-meter : Marriage and relationship counsellor Dr. Medha Sharma says, "Most of the times, the frequency of saying 'I love you' drastically drops as the relationship graduates to another level. So to revive the missing love, couples must seek help from these three words. Women, in general, are keener to say, 'I love you' much too often and in turn they expect the same from their male partners too."

2. Plan a sex picnic : Physical intimacy is probably one of the best ways to bond with your partner. But when it's about recharging the love lull, couples should think out-of-the-box. Forget the bedroom boredom and move out to an exotic spot with your partner.

Love-o-meter : Relationship counsellor, Dr. Amita Mishra opines, "Planning a romantic holiday with your lover can surely be a good idea that will allow you to spend quality time together, which might be tough otherwise. Make sure that the vacation is only intended towards comforting each other and there are lots of pleasure moments, sans any household tensions and office worries."

3. Exchange romantic gifts : While in an affair, you might have gone crazy buying almost all sorts of gifts for your mate. But as it transforms into a long term relationship, these gifts lose their importance. So renewing the habit of exchanging gifts frequently is a sure shot way to make your partner feel loved.

Love-o-meter : "It's not about being materialistic in a relationship, but gifts are an expression of love. A flower, a card, a soft toy, a dress or anything else, whatever you choose for your beloved carries a message which is conveyed through that gift. Thus, exchanging gifts is a great way to make each other feel special," feels Dr. Geetu.

4. Arrange for surprise dinners : Endless luncheons, dinners, parties and night outs are often the routine in the first few months of a relationship. But gradually, it's just home sweet home and cooking in the kitchen which take over. Going out for a surprise dinner is indeed a superb way to woo your partner and bring back the love spark.

Love-o-meter : "A surprise candlelit dinner has always been a hot pick when it comes to arranging something special for your better half. You can plan something really lavish like a special menu and instrumental music, of course, of your partner's choice. Also, act a bit naughty with each other and enjoy each moment like there's no tomorrow," suggests Dr. Amita.

5. Know your partner better : You would often think that you share a great level of understanding and trust with your partner, but there's always more to a couple's chemistry. Couples pay less heed to indulging in intimate conversations with each other and hence they don't know what's exactly going in their partner's life. If you feel that the love bond is getting weaker, take some time out and sit with your mate just to hear them out and bare their heart in front of you.

Love-o-meter : "Initiating a conversation with your partner can really bring you close to them all over again. It gives them a reassurance that you care for them and the comfort zone created henceforth is a sustaining factor in a relationship. Casual or romantic talks often act as catalyst in restoring lost love in your relationship," asserts Dr. Medha. source

Tips to up your sexual power

2010-02-19T05:22:00.001-08:00

Try as you might, you can't escape it. Sex dominates everything — the media, our movies and drawing room conversations.

One of the most respected management guru Abraham Maslow's famous hierarchy of needs theory places sex at the very first level along with breathing, food, water, excretion, homeostasis and sleep. So lack of good sex can be directly equated with the effects of lack of good sleep or even a failure to have a good 'session' one morning!

A good sex life is part and parcel of healthy living. And what does this mean? It implies satisfaction with your partner and feeling sexually adequate. Also, a person who has a good sex life has good self-esteem and falls into the "I'm ok, you're ok category".

Scorch the bed
Interestingly, whether in Mumbai, Delhi, LA or Bangkok, most people who 'get lucky' assume that they are good in bed. That is, they believe they are able to satisfy their partners completely while satisfying themselves. But more than getting action, having a good sex life also means being able to last long enough to share a wonderful journey and yet not last so long that the journey turns into a punishment for the partner!

So what does it take to excel in bed as in other areas of life? As always, manwoman dynamics differ here too. While both have the need to be satiated, both take different routes for getting there. While a woman can have multiple orgasms and continue to have sex even after she's exhausted, a man normally goes limp after he orgasms. So for a man, being able to last long enough to satisfy his partner is the primary concern.

Also, don't get carried away by the 'quantity' factor. It's quality that matters. Sex needn't be restricted to contortions and gymnastics in bed or in the sweaty back seat of a car. It's also not just about the act. Sexuality starts from the moment of first contact (even if it's just eye contact) and continues throughout the relationship for how many ever minutes, hours, weeks, months, years or decades it may last.

Spice it up, dude
So how do you ensure your sex life is always rocking? Just remember these tips...
Look fit: A toned physique is undoubtedly the most potent turn-on. Even before the love-making session begins, the sight of toned abs, strong thighs and muscular arms makes you sexually desirable to your partner and starts the fire burning. Those who maintain a toned physique normally have higher confidence levels.

Be fit: A person who is fit is bound to have higher levels of stamina, strength, vitality and vigour than an unfit person. This is sure to catapult your sex life and even lead to higher satisfaction levels, for you and your partner alike. Obesity is one of the key physical reasons for erectile dysfunction. Therefore a fit person stands a better chance of satisfying his / her partner.

De-stress: Stress is one of the biggest killers of a healthy sex life as it leads to many problems, right from reduced stamina to simply not being in mood. So stay stress free. Remember, any problem is only as big as you allow it to be.

Eat right: Good sex demands a healthy diet with adequate zinc and proteins. Zinc is known for its aphrodisiac properties. Eat your way to a sizzling sex life with a diet rich in asparagus, onions, garlic and bananas.

Smell good: Aromas have the magical property of making your brain explode with sensations and feelings. Make sure you smell good at all times. If not for anything else, body odour and bad breath are repulsive to most people.

Dress well: Admit it, we are visual by nature. We always believe in what we see. So dress well, packaging is important. Don't forget the little details like nail polish, earrings, lipstick etc. Men, please don't ignore your accessories either. Most women tend to look at men's shoes very carefully.

Experiment: Don't restrict yourself in bed, experiment freely with your partner. If your partner suggests something you've never heard or dreamt off before, don't shoot down the idea harshly, it may stop him or her from giving any future suggestions. Explore each other with reckless abandon. It keeps the magic alive and the relationship ticking for years together.

Be genuine: Most of us are capable of identifying fake interest from the real thing. So be genuine in every aspect, it genuinely helps!

The always 'in' look
Ever noticed that the hottest male stars / models, etc normally appear hairless? Ever wondered why? The answer is simple: In pure marketing terms, their target audience is the female viewer. They appear hairless simply because it makes them look better and enhances their sex appeal.

So, while your demure Indian girl may never tell you this directly, do consider that just as you may like to see your woman hairless, smelling good, dressed well and fat free, your woman may also like to see you clean shaven, hairless, smelling good, well dressed, with a great body and dressed up just for her! What say, girls? source

Naked ?

2010-02-19T05:17:00.001-08:00

How comfortable are you with nakedness? If not much, we share some easy tips to make you feel comfortable with nakedness!

You love to flaunt your body, but the need to be perceived as sexy sometimes leaves you insecure and vulnerable inside. Even the most confident woman is most often a bit uncomfortable with her body.

Model Megha Kawale agrees, "There is no woman in this world who is happy and content with her body. She's always complaining and every woman goes through the same insecurity. Earlier if someone used to catch me in a bikini, I would squirm. I used to call it a half naked shot."

With couples getting more health conscious these days, many don't mind going buff in front of their partner, but when it comes to public view, they shy away.

Take the case of actor Shefali Zariwala, who divulges, "I am otherwise very comfortable with my body and I do like to check myself out when I am alone by baring it all. I love to be in my natural state at home when I am alone, but forget the camera."

Women know very well that for men, what they see is almost as good as what they get. So we know giving them an eyeful is the trick to seduce them, yet most women fret getting naked in front of their beaus.

Marketing manager Gaurav Sharma says, "If a woman lets you see her naked, I feel that's already a bonus. I would feel blessed if that happens, but none of my girlfriends ever gave me that pleasure of admiring their bodies. I remember one of them even started crying when I put on the lights right after we made out."

Here are a few ways to make you could feel comfortable with nakedness in front of your partner...

Think good thoughts: Whether or not you want to undress depends on your mental quotient. Your state of your mind rules your sex appeal. One can feel attractive even in the most hideous dress, if the mind is in a confident and happy state. "When you yourself feel sexy, that's when all the magic happens," says Megha.

"A guy is very much responsible for making a girl feel sexy. Most of it is in our mindset," opines actor Shefali. Relationship counselor Pradeep Singh admits, "It's all in the mind. If you are feeling good about yourself, it will reflect positively in your personality, thus giving a woman the necessary confidence will help her shed her inhibitions."

Highlight areas you love: "I know I am plump, but I like my eyes and long, silky hair. In bed, I use them to enhance my sex appeal," says Pooja Sharma, a legal executive. Accentuating your best physical attributes helps you to distract attention from certain features you are uncomfortable with. Concentrate more on the areas you are confident of. Delhi-based sexologist Reena Kapoor explains, "There is something unique in everyone that they happily flaunt. Most of the women I have spoken to think that men notice their flaws in bed, while the truth is that if she is able to display her parts well, the game is half won."

Accessorise yourself smartly: Discover the best ways to highlight or camouflage your quirks and get ready to radiate some bareness. You could accessorise yourself well to rightly compliment your nude play. Writer Richa Verma says, "I always dress to flatter my body by adorning it with high end accessories. A funky neck piece or a stiletto or even a scarf can do wonders.

Megha agrees. "I find nudity ugly. Sexy lingerie helps to a great extent." VJ Ranvijay supports, "I find a woman extremely sexy in boxer shorts. She need not necessarily be all nude to look sexy." Designer Neelam Nangia supports the claim. "Women who are shy of undressing can actually keep on a little piece of clothing to arouse male attention. Sexy lingerie does the trick here."

Try on beauty tricks: Clean your body of all hair mess; massage it with aromatic oils to add that alluring shine and aroma. Or spray a fragrance that goes well with your mood and more importantly your partner's. "I wear a deep, sensuous red lipstick shade to turn on my guy," expresses Smita Kulla, a team leader at an MNC. Beauty expert Samaira Sen says, "Get yourself pampered regularly, keep your body clean and also work out for a well toned body. You will yourself want your partner to see you nude."

Light the surroundings accurately: You might not want to have your room lit brightly when you are undressing. But you can have your surroundings lit unsensously with dim lights or scented candles. Give way to sunlight in the daytime or light some colored, aromatic candles in the night. "Women by nature are shy. They would not be easily initiated into being naked in bright light. Dim lights can steer your sensory organs and make you feel good about your body. You feel less inhibited," says sexologist Dr Swati Sharma. source