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Rapid Reduction Technique Finally Achieves Recognition in South Florida University

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 18:00:00 +0000

I never thought this would happen but last week a doctoral student defended her dissertation on Rapid Reduction Technique RRT at Carlos Albizu University. She was successful at her defending her doctoral study. So we have a new Ph.D. in the world. Hurray!

In her 2 year doctoral study of Rapid Reduction Technique RRT, she proved that the RRT method for relieving Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) symptoms is for real, effective and valid. It is now independently proven that RRT does what I have said and shown for 12 years. "RRT alleviates PTSD "re-experiencing" symptom and disconnects the associated triggers.” The study also showed that RRT alleviated the depression associated with experiencing abusive, combat or traumatic life events.

This is a major breakthrough for working with traumatic memories and flashbacks. I have been waiting for years for an independent source to prove the benefits of Rapid Reduction Technique - RRT, so it would get the recognition it deserves. I never thought this day would come.

I could not wait, I knew RRT could do better so I updated it to RRT 2.0 and even though it takes longer than 5 minutes, it helps more on a deeper level with alleviating core beliefs also. Personally I have had deep faith in RRT through watching it help thousands over the past 11 years.

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“What are "Persecutor Alters in a D.I.D System?"

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 19:40:00 +0000

I receive many questions on the subject of Dissociative Identity Disorder, known as D.I.D. from survivors of serve abuse and who are suffering from Complex PTSD. In all my years of working with D.I.D. clients, it is this type of alters that are feared the most and are the most misunderstood.

"Persecutor Alters" are the most feared, resistant and rejected by the host as well as the professionals that work with this population.

"Persecutor Alters" referred to or viewed two different ways.

1. If the person experienced ritual abused then persecutor alter(s) is "demon(s)" put into the victim by suggestion through brainwashing and torture over an extended period of time. The victim is put into a high degree of suggestibility by deprivation of sleep, food and drugged. The victim perceives that these persecutor alters are one of their own alters but are in fact a mirror image of one or more alters in the host system. These “mirror images or persecutor alters” have no eyes and are not a part of host’s Soul. This type of symbolic representations or persecutor alters generally create constant crisis and chaos for the victim internally and in his or her external life. Persecutor alters adhere strictly to the rules, beliefs, behavior and values that the abuser or group set forth by force. The victim was made to verbally promise to adhere to for the rest of his or her life at penalty of death. Persecutor alters sabotage the victim all the time.

2. The second way persecutor alters are viewed is that they are a “resistant alter(s)” that abide completely by the rules, behaviors, beliefs, expectations, and /or values of their abuser. These types of alters tend to not believe or accept the “host system” because no one helped or saved them. This type had been singled out from the other alters and were put through intense emotional excitement to make sure that the rules, behaviors, beliefs, expectations, and /or values of the abuser would embed into the subconscious. These alters are unknowingly affectionately attached and completely loyal to the abuser. Persecutor alter(s) is unable or willing to attach to the host system or authentically view the reality. They are stuck in the past and in a toxic relationship. Crisis and chaos is the only life they know.

PTSD: Change Your Mindset

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 00:32:00 +0000

Post traumatic Stress Disorders cannot be ignored. Want to beat PTSD symptoms? It takes more than just a wish. Just ignoring them will not make them disappear. Essential to being successful is facing and recognizing them as a recording of an event that closure was not able to be made then. Compartmentalizing overwhelming emotional experiences was a God given skill to save a person’s life. Be grateful. If you are a survivor then shift your mindset. View the return of a flashback as a blessing and learn a skill that will help you to dissipate the intensity, close the unprocessed emotions and facilitate mental order and proper storage. No athletic ever won a gold medal without gaining more skills. Faith in the strength that you display to survive the traumatic event will help you to overcome the symptoms. As long as you acquire a new skill and work your faith you will be successful. Remember recovery from PTSD symptoms is long distances run not a sprint. There is a proven skill that will stop re-experiencing. See a skill that works - http://bit.ly/kbrjCG

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder & Thought Addiction

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 23:20:00 +0000

"Thought Addiction is real and can devastate your life." - Dr Bill June 2011

Do you find yourself triggered by a flashback of a past traumatic experience and then unable to free yourself from residual thoughts. Yes
After such an event it seems as though you trapped within a constant thought pattern or mental loop. The result of a PTSD episode for many survivors is so strong intrusive thoughts. These afterthoughts such as “It was my fault”, I caused it to happen”, “I do not deserve better” or “I am not worthy of anything better” invades one’s mind. These thoughts to a traumatic thought or set of thoughts can wreck havoc in every aspect of a survivor’s life. This type of thoughts originates from rooted core beliefs that form at the time of the traumatic event and surface due to the triggering affect of the flashback. They can also produce a re-traumatization on top of the primary trauma memory. The thought can remain prominent in one’s daily thought and can disrupt their functioning and cause the survivor to isolate. Survivor can become addicted to the resulting thought or set of thoughts.

When focused continuously on the thought it begins to loop and one becomes addicted to the thought. The looping thought numbs the surfacing emotion and tolerance builds. The more one concentrates on the thought the more it cannot be stopped. Soon control is lost and the thought takes over. The more one attempts ignore the thought the more one focus on it. An everyday example is when you attempt to ignore a thought, the more you think of it.

There is hope in unblocking a thought Addiction. For more information copy and paste this link: http://hubpages.com/hub/Unblocking_Addictive_Thought_Patterns

Words Can Set Our Identity

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Thu, 12 May 2011 00:11:00 +0000

“Our words have the power to shape who we are”

It is a fact that we are what we speak. Our words have extreme power in the formation of our identity. Words determine how we view ourselves, how we compare ourselves to others and the world and how we react or do not react to any situation.
We need to be very mindful of the content of our words about ourselves. I have learned that “the words that come out of our mouths go directly into our ears unfiltered”. So the brain registers the words, and it says “if that is how you want it then it will be so”. The brain will make it true and cloud the real truth. Understand that the human brain is a non-judgmental and non-emotional organ, and believes what we say about ourselves, is the truth. So speaking words like stupid, ugly, no good or worthless often, even though not true, will become part of our “true” identity.
We need to take stock in the words we utter, because they make come back to haunt us, even if we were just kidding or attempting not to be conceited. The words that we use to describe ourselves could deform our identity for years to come. Be ever vigilant. Speak positive self words and begin a formation of a positive identity.

Barriers to Success: Top Three Rooted Core Beliefs

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 21:05:00 +0000

I wanted to share the results of the survey I conducted on Facebook. The question was “When doubt surfaces in you due to problems or stress in your life, what you think first?” I wanted to know the first thought that surfaced when a person was faced with stressful or overwhelming life events. I wanted to compare it to other surveys and what I was noticing in people I have been coaching. I though this knowledge was very important to increase understanding of why some people experience barriers when attempting to be successful in their life.

The people who participated had three choices: 1. “I am not good enough”; 2. “I do not deserve to___” or “I do not measure up”. The results were very interesting. The number one rooted core belief reported by the individuals who participated was “I am not good enough”. This rooted core belief was found to be the #1 in many other surveys and the number one reported by people I coach. This rooted core belief reflected the person’s self-perceive weaknesses or the skills they think they are lacking. The second most common was “I do not measure up to ____”. This one reflects that under stress people tend to compare themselves with others. The last reported was “I do not deserve to ____”. This rooted core belief tends to reflect the issue of permission or the right to heal old wounds, be rewarded or succeed.

The good news is that all three can be shifted and no longer be a barrier to personal growth or success.

Musing: A new way to Help DID

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Thu, 31 Mar 2011 23:40:00 +0000

One of my passions is to deeply understand the world of DID systems. Not only do I believe that the formation of DID is a normal response to an overwhelming life event, but also DID is a powerful defensive process against repetitive abuse and trauma.
For decades this "alternative world" was painted in negative light. For 14 years, I have been looking to develop a method to help individuals with DID systems to have a more cohesive life without crisis, chaos, separateness and constant episodes of terror. I think I have found a positive method from the life coaching I have been doing with DID clients. That method is "musing". Muses have been a huge inspiration for poets, writers and artists dating back to pre- Greek and Roman times. In reference to DID systems, musing is facilitating a massive shifting of the system's mindset from protective compartmentalization to collective inspiration. Through musing, a system (or as one of my clients called her system her "troops") stops focusing on possible threats and turns all energy toward being the inspirational and creative energy for the whole. Under this new mindset everyday is a blank canvas on which the muses create a new painting. Life then becomes art and not something to avoid.
This method has been embraced by many systems and I have witnessed quick mindset shifts and dramatic results. No matter where you are on the continuum, healing is possible.
To participate and gain the benefits of this exciting method, go to http://bit.ly/fG76X3

Dr. Bill's New Social Video Show on Facebook

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 13:38:00 +0000

The question for my 1st social video show aired over Facebook was “What is your Personal Philosophy?” You can watch http://bit.ly/gN1d1M and learn more about my theory for personal growth and healing. I have gotten very good response from the viewers of the show. I plan on doing more episodes and I asked people interested in seeing more to suggest topics they would like me to talk about. Participate and send me suggestions at tollefsonenterprises@gmail.com for what you want to hear on "Transforming with Dr. Bill"

I will be co-hosting an internet radio show "Renew Your Life Radio Show with Dr. Lisa Palmer" in Boca Raton, FL on Saturday night March 12th at 6 pm. You can hear the show locally in South Florida on WWNN 1470 AM radio or anywhere on www.BlogTalkRadio.com

PTSD Memories can be Neutralized

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 22:47:00 +0000

Why do negative thoughts enter my mind? Well there are two routes that need to be considered. Negative thoughts are generally triggered unconsciously in course of our daily lives and can be side effects of PTSD symptoms. To deal on a daily basis, you first have to understand the elements of memory and what gets attached to them. Memory has three compartments: content, emotion and audio. A core belief attaches to the memory on the side, as if that was not enough, because the memory content is from a traumatic event. Over time the core belief roots itself to the memory. Meaning the rooted belief will surface along with the other compartments when the memory is triggered. That being said, let’s look at how negative thoughts are routed into our consciousness.
Route #1 is when negative thoughts surface as the result of a current event stimulating a memory of a previous event to release a root belief from that event For example: a rooted belief could be “I am not good enough”. The other route is when the current event stimulates the audio portion of the memory and releases the direct statement recorded in the brain, like “You will never be any good at anything”. Understand that both routes of delivery are disempowering. You have no idea where they came from. Both influence you by running in the background but cause you to think negative ways and as a result you think you are crazy because there is nothing happening now, you think is causing you trouble.
The positive thing is once you understand the reasons you are thinking negatively today, you won’t feel like you are crazy. Also it is possible to make a shift from negative to positive as well as neutralizing the influence the thoughts have on you, so the thoughts no longer disempower you. Transformation can occur quickly. Check out the possibilities at http://www.lifeskills-transformation.com/enhanced_rrt.html

Follow Me through Twitter

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 18:34:00 +0000

Hey everyone!!!!!

Guess what? I just signed up for Twitter. If you would like to follow me or tweet me, my username is @DrBillLifeCoach

I am real excited about this. Life Coaching is so powerful and can help everyone achieve their full potential. To learn more by going to my new coaching website http://www.lifeskills-transformation.com/index.html

Secondary Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 22:44:00 +0000

In this modern age of technology, we are faced with images from around the world in real time. The events in Egypt, Chilean Mine Accident, Iraq War, Afghanistan War and 9/11 are streamed to our living rooms. Subconsciously we are being deeply affected. We are feeling strong emotions and thinking “why am I feelings this when I am not involved and watching them happen?”
If we have personally experienced an abusive or traumatic life event in childhood and it has been buried, a present event being viewed live over TV can cause images from the past to surface and affect your perceptions, emotions, thoughts and behaviors. So it is important that we learn about Secondary Post-traumatic Stress (PTS).
Experiencing Post-traumatic Stress is a normal response to an overwhelming painful emotional experience. There are two types of Post-traumatic Stress. One type is Primary PTS where you are traumatized by an act that happens directly to you. The second type is secondary PTS where you are traumatized by witnessing the traumatic act that happens to other people. The symptoms resulting from secondary exposure to trauma are no different from primary PTS. These symptoms could be affecting us on a subconscious level and could cause our life to be dysfunctional.

The symptoms that might be felt from constant secondary exposure to terrorizing images maybe anxiety, fear and uncertainty, dissociative reactions, feeling of emptiness, feeling of loss, detachment from our lives, hyper vigilance (heightened awareness), a need to isolate and depressed mood. Sleeping patterns and eating may also be affected. If any of these symptoms already exist in you, they may very well be increased disproportionately by secondary exposure to “traumatic images”. It is important to know that what you are experiencing is a normal reaction. Understand that for every action (witnessing a traumatic event) there is an equal and opposite reaction (aftereffects). These aforementioned symptoms are the equal and opposite reaction.

Another factor that may occur as a result of the secondary exposure is that witnessing current traumatic on others may trigger past buried memories of primary traumatic exposure that have remained inactive deep within us without us being conscious of it. If you are experiencing some or all of the symptoms listed above, then it might be the result of too much exposure to the media and causing past recollections to surface.
It becomes so important for your physical and emotional health to recognize that what you are feeling is normal. Give yourself permission to experience your strong sympathetic feelings for what others are going through. So here are a few suggestions that may help reduce the affects of secondary exposure.
1. Reduce exposure to the media.
2. Recognize that what is happening is not happening to you right now.
3. Resume normal activities.
4. Monitor your emotional reactions.
5. Nurture yourself. (Do not judge your emotions)
6. Give yourself permission to go through the grief. Witnessing loss cause grief reactions for others.
7. Talk to other people about your feelings and reactions to these ghastly events as a way to appropriately vent.

Rapid Reduction Technique Updated to 2.0

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 21:59:00 +0000

Have you ever reacted to something you did not want to do but you found yourself doing it anyway? Probably you were triggered to do so by an old recollection, a flashback of an event that you have not made closure with.

Looking for a way to tune-up or refresh self while breaking the bond from an old recollection of a past abusive or traumatic life event that affect how you function today, well there is a way. It is possible to reduce the influence of a flashback quickly and safely. Break the emotional upheaval and affects of your past. Let go of the “old” and make room to accept “new” into your life.

Now there is a way - RRT® 2.0. Rapid Reduction Technique® 2.0 – RRT® 2.0 is an enhancement to the original RRT® that has been so successful for so many survivors with PTSD and who suffered from flashbacks. Everyone is influenced by past life experiences that drive how they think and behavior. Now RRT® 2.0 works for anyone who is just bother, consciously or subconsciously, by a memory that is influences their success, performance and how they function. Not only does RRT® 2.0 decrease the intensity of a recollection and disconnect the trigger, this new updated method assists in uncovering the root cause, disempowering embedded core beliefs, shift to a new mindset, dissolve resistance, and changes the core value, as well as disabling the associated emotions. RRT® 2.0 takes longer than the original RRT® but the benefits of RRT® 2.0 are so much more. RRT® 2.0 frees you from past barriers that impede you from achieving future intentions and success. In one session, you become freed from the hold that a memory has on you. Eliminate the influenced that past life events has on your present thoughts and behavior. Buried or dissociated abusive or traumatic events obstruct your personal and professional growth. Do not remain a slave to your past.

Exciting News

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Mon, 24 Jan 2011 21:55:00 +0000

I would like to share some exciting news. Last September I enrolled in a training course to increase my coaching skills with Dr. Patrick Wanis, Ph.D., Celebrity Life Coach. Dr. Wanis has been on Fox News, CNN, Dr. Phil Show and Oprah as well as many radio shows. He has written books and offers DVDs on his techniques. The course was on Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique or SRTT. He only accepted 17 students in the country for the course.
The training course was 7 weeks long with a field practicum reviewed and supervised personally by him. I benefited and gained a lot of knowledge from Dr. Wanis’s teaching and mentoring. I learned in depth how to work with the subconscious or emotional mind. I felt the experience was well worth the hard work, assignments, time and study.
I am proud to announce that today I received my certification. Out of the 17 students who enrolled, I was 1 of 5 who completed the certification process. Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique is for individuals who would like to learn why they have been stuck in their life and not having the life they are seeking.
I am now one of 5 certified by Dr. Wanis in the country to conduct SRTT. SRTT is a very powerful healing and transformational tool that I can add to my coaching practice to mentor survivors of abuse and trauma seeking to heal from overwhelming past life events.

I Just Want to Disappear

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Sat, 15 Jan 2011 01:26:00 +0000

In my many years of helping others I have heard the statement “I just want to disappear” over and over from depressed people when they feel that their life is out of control. This is very common for individuals with PTSD. Many survivors think that “disappearing” is a way to stay safe. Just disappearing is not the answer. Many who experience crisis in their life or failed relationships want to hide. He or she reverts to cutting ties with family, friends or support system, sinking into addiction, isolating or withdrawing. Distorted thinking that breeds out of being alone, such as “if I am alone and do not interact with others then I will not be hurt” are not the answer and in fact end up making them more unsafe.
The more we are alone, the more doubt enters the mind. This leads to self judgment and thoughts of weakness or a feeling of being “less than”. If others perceive that he or she is weak then there is a good chance they will be hurt again.
What is the answer? To be honest it is the opposite behavior that keeps him or her safe. Go against the first instinct to run and hide. Become more social and increase your social contacts, being more with family and friends and establish a strong support system. Working these suggestions will generate different thoughts pattern and change your mindset. Then the perception you give off will be one of strength. Really it is what we give off to others that keep us safe.

Transforming

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 23:00:00 +0000

“Transformation is a process that frees the mind and heals the soul. In order to achieve a state of transformation, one must identify what is, release it and move toward what can be.”

A new opportunity is upon us with the onset of a new year. Focus on moving toward healing and success by seeking "Transformation of Self". Imagine that our mind and body are like a vessel. The events of the past year have filled our vessel with all type of experiences, emotions and thoughts, which can be either negative or positive. Once the vesssel is filled, the vessel cannot take on anymore. Our vessel becomes overloaded and unable to move in any direction. We tend to hold on to the cargo through false perceptions, fears, resentments or rooted beliefs. To enter into a state of transformation, the vessel needs to be unloaded of the old cargo to allow new cargo to be taken aboard. Let go of the old so that you have the space to allow new experiences, emotions and thoughts to be accepted. Anything is possible.

#1 in Live365 Relationships Talk Radio Stations

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Thu, 23 Dec 2010 21:22:00 +0000

Want to share with all some good news I just got today. I had done a few interviews on the Michele Hughes Show on the National Internet Live365 Talk Radio Station. One of the shows just became #1 in their ratings. Here is the link if you are interested - http://www.live365.com/athena/index.live Copy and paste it into your browser. I am very proud that the show has touched so many people. Evidently my new theories on Core Beliefs have impacted a lot of listeners. Thanks to all who follow me through the development of my new Life Coaching Practice.

The Effects of Programming on Survivors

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 21:15:00 +0000

Programming has a large effect on how our body responds to life events and how flashbacks are triggered through what our mind is fed.

"The body follows the mind...be it good...be it bad or be it disowned"

How your body reacts depends on how your mind is fed. If your mind is fed negative information or focuses on bad events or emotions then the body follows suit and it becomes sick. On the other hand if the mind is fed good material and focuses on growth and moving forward then the body reacts and performs at peak levels. If the mind completely disowns the body then the body begins to attract disease and is less able to fight it. So how your life goes depends solely on what your mind is being fed or what you allow to run mentally in a constant loop. Be aware of what you are allowing your mind to focus on. If you do not like your thoughts then make a shift in your thoughts. The more you work on shifting your thoughts the more successful you will be in life.

Time for Gratitude

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Wed, 17 Nov 2010 01:21:00 +0000

In our fast pace world many do not stop and take stock in what they are grateful for in their lives. Gratefulness has become a “hidden factor” in modern society. Focus is generally on what we do not have than what we do have. Gratitude appears to be a strong determinant of people's well-being.

Numerous studies suggest that grateful people are more likely to have higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and depression. Participants who engaged in gratitude studies showed increases in their experiences of positive emotion immediately after the exercise. An interesting fact about gratitude is it is not an act but a specific way to feel. As I have always said “feeling is healing”.

The definition of gratitude is having thankfulness for what you have in the moment. Another definition for gratitude that I like is appreciation. Appreciation is the recognition of the quality, value, significance, or goodness of people, opportunities and things in your life.
Here is a quote which speaks to the depth of this subject;

“Gratitude is the memory of the heart” ~Jean Baptiste Massieu

So what will I gain from searching my heart for what I am grateful for?
5 Advantages of Gratitude
To enhance your health, spirit and life balance, start today by getting in touch with your gratitudes.
1. Gets you out of your logical / rational mind and into your emotional mind. Feeling gratitude has to come out of inner feeling.
2. It turns what we have into enough and it reflects good personal and moral value.
3. Shift your attitude from denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It helps to life as a gift.
4. Appreciation for goodness in life and paves the path for purity and spirituality.
5. Improves emotional well-being and physical health, and it can strengthen relationships. The act of gratitude energizes, inspires and transforms.

Assess your gratitude and begin a healthier life today.

Perceived Reality

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Thu, 11 Nov 2010 16:23:00 +0000

Coaching brings out the most brilliant revelations from my clients and they are not even aware. I was having a discussion with a strong and intelligent woman on the issue of “expectations” and she said “I am the only one who lives in my perceived reality and there are going to be certain things and/or times when what I think should or want to happen in my reality that maybe for the rest of the world is not even feasible.” I found this statement to be so profound. Perception is the gateway of our mind and it filters everything, so I guess we all live in a different reality.

"There is Always a Barrier in My Way"

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Wed, 03 Nov 2010 00:24:00 +0000

How we live, survive or thrive is totally based on the content of our Root Beliefs that we collected along life's path. Root beliefs grew out of our experiences. Root beliefs are sternly embedded in our memory and actively move undetected in the dark shadows of our subconscious mind that quietly affect how we think, feel and act. These beliefs disempowered us and determined how we function in our relationships and careers. As long as these root beliefs remain invisible, we will continue to repeat old destructive patterns that hold us down and block our future success.

Trauma Thrill: The Relapse Connection

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 15:45:00 +0000

I discovered a relapse connection in many of my trauma life coaching coachees and that connection I discovered was the “trauma thrill”. A trauma thrill is the act of reconnecting to an old trauma relationship and lifestyle through a new traumatic experience. The result is old behaviors and mindsets seem to re-attach themselves to the survivor even after years of successful growth and recovery.
To read more about this trauma thrill connection, go to my Hub.com at http://hubpages.com/profile/Dr+Bill+Tollefson Discovery this connection helped me to coach even better and be more mindful of issues that keep survivors stuck in old destructive life styles.

Mistakes in Our Life

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Fri, 03 Sep 2010 17:04:00 +0000

Part of authentic life is that in everything we do in our personal life or jobs, we sometimes will make "mistakes". Many have heard from me that no one is perfect and if you are perfect then you do not need to get out of bed because you have done everything in life. I believe that " If you do not make a mistake you cannot learn and move forward." So here is a quote on the subject of mistakes.....
"Don't let the past mistakes or overwhelming life events define you or determine your future. We all make mistakes, but we cannot allow them to define who we are."

Re-Authoring Self

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 18:27:00 +0000

I have worked with many wounded souls from abusive and traumatic experiences, who have allowed recollections of painful and overwhelming life events to direct their thoughts, emotions and behaviors. I believe strongly that everyone can be in charge of their own authority, life and direction. The past is gone and the future can be achieved with a new vision of self. You can start today in taking back your Personal Authority by developing a new vision of self.

Here is a quote on re-authoring a new self to get you started.

"If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author of your life and everyday you have the opportunity to re-author a new page".

New Thought on Loss

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 13:10:00 +0000

We all experience loss of many different types. Sometimes we are afraid to feel the feeling of the loss and therefore do not allow ourselves to grieve. Grief unexpressed negatively impacts our lives, whether it is a minor loss or major. Here is a statement to think about.

"Someday you're going to look back on this moment of your life as such a fulfilling time of grieving. You'll see that you were in mourning, your soul was wounded and your heart was broken, but the act began your healing and life was changing..."

Life Change

noreply@blogger.com (Dr Bill) — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 21:12:00 +0000

You cannot change your present life by re-inventing your history, rather your life changes by creating a future. You cannot be successful if you are always analyzing the memory of your past. I have said for years about one’s personal history, “It happened. It is not happening now”. Stop cancelling out your present by living in the past. Let go of regrets and bottled up anger about events that have happened. Allow closure to occur in your life.

Now is the time to take a positive step forward by changing your mindset. Envision your future in your mind. If you can see mentally where you are going then it is possible to get there. So take your focus off of past disappointing and painful life events you cannot change, regain your personal authority, learn new skills, make an action plan and move forward in your life. Your power is embedded within you. Practice mindfulness.