Parenting

The Baby Trap (Paperback) newly tagged "parenting"

2012-02-13T16:32:00.000-08:00

Based on her own experiences with infertility and two attempts at IVF, Sibel Hodge's latest novel The Baby Trap will have you laughing and crying at the ups and downs of modern baby-making...

When Gina turns thirty-three her body clock unexpectedly begins clanging in her ear with annoying persistence. The only problem is, having a baby isn't as easy as she thought. Whether she's feng shui-ing the house to death with fertility symbols, throwing out her husband's tight boxers in favour of baggies, swapping wine and chocolate for green tea and yams, popping fertility drugs like M&M's, or having sex so precision-timed it makes international warfare manoeuvres look unorganized, her life is turned upside down. And when nothing seems to be working, her quest for the B-word turns into an obsession.

Can Gina stay sane, get pregnant, and keep her marriage together? Or will her baby trail become a baby trap?

PRAISE FOR SIBEL HODGE

"Yet another winner by Sibel who is fast becoming my favourite 'chick-lit' author" -- Wistful Kimmie's Book Reviews

"Sibel Hodge has perfect comedic timing" -- Lisa Lim, author of Confessions of a Call Centre Gal

"Ms. Hodge is rapidly becoming a favorite of mine." --Coffee Time Romance & More

"Sibel Hodge does it again! -- Geeky Girl Reviews

"Sibel Hodge has a way of writing that really makes the characters come to life" -- Can't Put It Down Review Blog

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Sibel Hodge is the author of bestselling romantic comedy Fourteen Days Later. She has 8 cats and 1 husband. In her spare time, she's Wonder Woman! When she's not out saving the world from dastardly demons, she writes quirky chick lit with a hefty dose of screwball comedy. Her other books include My Perfect Wedding, The Fashion Police (Amber Fox Mystery), Be Careful What You Wish For (Amber Fox Mystery), and How to Dump Your Boyfriend in the Men's Room (and other short stories).

Her work has been shortlisted for the Harry Bowling Prize 2008, Highly Commended by the Yeovil Literary Prize 2009, Runner up in the Chapter One Promotions Novel Comp 2009, and nominated Best Novel with Romantic Elements in 2010 by The Romance Reviews. Her novella Trafficked: The Diary of a Sex Slave has been listed as one of the Top 40 Books About Human Rights by Accredited Online Colleges.

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When You Miss Me (Paperback) newly tagged "parenting"

2012-02-13T12:28:00.000-08:00

When I talk about myself, I can't help but talk about my wonderful daughter. I remember her laughing as a baby and it feels like just yesterday. We were eating dinner and she was in her rocker. She was just minding her own business and all of a sudden she started laughing. She was only a few months old at the time and I remember thinking, "Why would she be laughing? What could she possibly find funny?"

And throughout her life have been some of the most adorable things I could ever imagine...

We used to make pancakes in the mornings before she turned old enough to know that was actually work. She stirred the batter.

She draws pictures and brings them to me excited that she drew a whale in the sky behind a palm tree, her and I holding hands beside the tree that wasn't in my yard (I didn't have a yard at the time)...etc.

She makes the grocery list when we go shopping. One time we laughed so hard in the middle of the store because even she didn't know what one item was supposed to be.

At one time, her plan was to work at McDonald's while she put herself through law school. That way she would get a free lunch at her favorite "restaurant." She has quite a few years left before even going to college.

My arm fell asleep one time while she was sleeping in it. I tried to move and she wouldn't let me, "Hey daddy, hey!"

I remember the first time I decided to draw a real face for her instead of the smiley faces she loved, "It bootiful daddy!"

She would point at her eye, then her heart and then at me saying, "I...love...YOU!" Then she would jump up and down clapping.

Ah, there are so many things. I wish my mind was a digital camera. I'd post every memory.

Now, she makes random videos with her new laptop, she swims all day in the pool and she leaves her cell phone behind on our times to be together. But with all the growing up she has done, she's still that little kid inside who wants to wrestle with daddy, sit on his lap and cuddle up with him to watch a movie. She's always going to be my little princess no matter how big she gets.

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Enlightenment Through Motherhood (Kindle Edition) newly tagged "parenting"

2012-02-13T08:03:00.000-08:00

Astra Niedra is a facilitator and teacher of Voice Dialogue, a technique for gaining greater self-awareness and understanding, and which is used in relationship counselling, psychotherapy, life coaching, communication training, organisational transformation, sports coaching and actors' training. Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves have influenced many systems of thought and healing, particularly those which involve the idea of inner selves.

Astra trained in Voice Dialogue with its creators, Dr Hal Stone and Dr Sidra Stone, both of whom recommend her work highly. She writes extensively on relationships and consciousness growth, and is author of the books The Perfect Relationship and Enlightenment Through Motherhood. For many years she wrote the pre-blog email newsletter Daily Voice Dialogue which has been used in teaching institutions worldwide.

Astra has worked as an editor in health, legal and education publishing, and she was Editor of WellBeing magazine when its publisher championed the greening of work spaces by creating an eco- and human-friendly work environment for the magazine's staff. Astra edited Michael Domeyko Rowland's best-selling book Absolute Happiness.

Astra's tertiary qualifications are in philosophy and education, and she has also studied meditation and yoga. She lives in Sydney, Australia, with her husband and their three gorgeous children.

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The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide

2012-01-07T19:56:00.000-08:00

An Open Letter To Parents Of Children with Aspergers

?How To Raise A Happy,
Dave Angel Successful Child With Aspergers? Author:
?Parenting Aspergers
Resource Guide?

ANNOUNCING: The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide Your Simple Guide To Helping Your Child With Aspergers In Almost Any Situation, Including?

How to help your child cope in social gatherings (either at school or work)How to help your child create and enjoy long-lasting friendshipsHow to encourage your child to form loving relationships with your family, friends and romantic partnersFour Bonus Gifts (Worth: $76.00)
This Is Your Invitation To ?Test-Drive? A Life-Changing Aspergers Guide,
Which Has Already Helped 1,674 People Worldwide?.
And The Best Part? You Can Try It For Yourself For 56 Days ? Risk-Free?
Please Read Below To Find Out More?

Dear Friend

If you?re the parent or relative of a child with Aspergers, you know it can make life an agonizing struggle.

The obsessive routines. The preoccupation with one subject of interest (to the exclusion of most everything else). The problems they face understanding different social situations. The oversensitivity to sounds, tastes, smells and sights. Their feelings of being overwhelmed by even the smallest of changes?

Then there are the pressures YOU face: the inability to communicate with your child, the awkwardness you feel in social situations, the pressure it puts on your relationships with your partner and other children, and the desperate desire to try anything ? in amongst a sea of physical and emotional exhaustion - to ensure your child is able to enjoy the best that life can offer ? even if it?s on their terms.

It can be VERY frustrating having a child with Aspergers. The hardest part is you feel like you?ll never actually get to know your child and how they see the world in the same way other parents do. But how can you do that?

As a quick test, please ask yourself the following questions (and answer them honestly)

Do you ever feel tired, frustrated or overwhelmed as the parent of a child with Aspergers?Do you feel as if you?re on a constant 24-hours-a-day knife?s edge, waiting for the next ?crisis? to explode?Have you ever been so angry at your child that, even for a split second you
actually HATED them?Has your child ever done anything so strange or dangerous that you?ve been FRIGHTENED of what they may be capable of?
If you answered ?yes? to any of these questions, and you?re looking for answers to your Aspergers questions, then this could be the most important letter you ever read?

Here?s Why I?m Writing To You?
My name is Dave Angel I?m a social worker working with families just like yours, and earned a Masters Degree in Applied Social Studies. In spite of all this, Aspergers was not something that I knew much about Until One Day Several Years Ago When
I Visited A Family With An Unusual Child?
You never forget the first time you meet a child with Aspergers.

You see, I had a call from work to make a daytime visit to a family I?d never met before. The reason for going was to assess a young person who was struggling with school. He was feeling very low, was in a near-permanent depressed mood, and was also highly aggressive towards his older brother.

But that was only half the story, as I also remember the state of mind of the parents of this boy.

The mother of this child was so upset and frustrated that she didn?t know where to turn, and was so overwhelmed by it all that she was in tears and at the end of her tether.

The mother and father of this boy had split up, a common occurrence for parents of children with Aspergers, with a staggering 75% of such parents eventually splitting up, due in large part to the stresses and strains of coping with a child with Aspergers. The inability to communicate on the one hand, and the malicious gossiping of other parents in the schoolyard (who see your child as ?strange? or ?different?, oftentimes entirely without justification), all contribute to tear at the fabric of even the strongest relationships.

What?s more, each of them lived in different homes. This resulted in their son having two houses to get used to (when he spent time with each parent), which meant different routines, a lack of stability, and increased anxiety for all concerned.

So after my assessment, I felt extremely frustrated as I wasn?t able to offer any practical help.

I wanted to do what I could to assist this family, but I couldn?t, and that gnawed at me.

Meeting this family (and seeing their suffering and pain) sparked my desire to find out more, and I made it my mission to find out as much as I could about Aspergers.

And That?s When I Made A Shocking Discovery?
The strange thing was, there was no shortage of information on Aspergers. But it fell squarely into one of two categories:

Either it was written by Academics in a very ?dry?, difficult to understand mannerOr the information was presented by well-meaning charitable organizations, with poorly put together websites (where it is hard to find the right information relevant to you and your child?s needs).
In short, there was no one resource for ordinary parents, friends and relatives of people with Aspergers. A resource written in simple to understand, non-academic language where they could share their experiences and help each other to help themselves ? and their child with Aspergers ? to enjoy less stressful and more happy and productive lives?

Which Is Why I?ve Written A Guide To Fill This ?Knowledge Gap?
But before I tell you more about my new guide, and how it can help your child (and your other family members) lead a happy, productive and loving life, I want to give you the facts on Aspergers. So with this mind, it?s high time I answered that all-important question? What Is Aspergers And How Does It Affect Your Kids (And You)?
In layman?s terms, Aspergers is a developmental disability which affects the way your child develops and understands the world around them, and directly linked to their senses and sensory processing. This means they often use these behaviors to block out their emotions or response to pain.

Although they may vary slightly from person to person, children with Aspergers tend to have similar symptoms, the main ones being:

Difficulties with social functioning, particularly in the rough and tumble of a school environmentSensory issues, where they are oversensitive to bright light, loud sounds and unpleasant smellsObsessive interests, with a focus on one subject to the exclusion of all others Social isolation and struggles to make friends due to a lack of empathy, and an inability to pick up on or understand social graces and cues (such as stopping talking and allowing others to speak)A rigid Insistence on routine (where any change can cause an emotional and physiological meltdown)A need to know when everything is happening in order not to feel completely overwhelmed
How I Can Help You Find The Answers
To Your Questions About Aspergers?
Since 2006, I?ve worked with hundreds of families all around the world who have Aspergers.

Over these years I?ve been disturbed and saddened by the amount of pain and heartache that having a child with Aspergers can bring to some families, even though I?ve noticed that for other families it?s a joyous gift that they nurture and treasure.

The funny thing is that even though people who are parents of children with Aspergers may be from different parts of the world, they are often experiencing the same kinds of problems......

I decided that I wanted to find out more so that I could help the families that were suffering the most, and interviewed 107 families to find out what their biggest problems were and found that the main problem areas for families were.......

Coping with their child's difficult and aggressive behaviors.....Understanding what is really going on inside their child's head....How to help their child to cope better in the community and at school.....How to keep the peace at home with the rest of the family.....Understanding the real meaning and causes of Aspergers.
So I figured that what parents were looking for was a complete and comprehensive guide packed with practical tips and explanations all about their Aspergers child?.

But not just some stuffy, old academic text book filled with long fancy sounding words that no-one actually understands or uses in the real world. A practical support guide, based on proven strategies used worldwide by the parents and families of people with Aspergers.

And this is your invitation to try it, risk-free, for the next 56 days?

ANNOUNCING: The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide ?

Your Practical Toolkit For Raising A Happy And Successful Child With Aspergers

The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide is a simple guide which gives you the parent the simple yet highly effective tips, strategies and techniques to help you cope with and manage your child?s behavioral and emotional needs. Based on tried and trusted methods that have worked with Aspergers children all over the world, the guide will give you greater control and stability in both your child?s and your family?s lives, and empower you to manage your child with Aspergers? symptoms in a simple and less painful way. My objective in offering this resource is simple: I want to take all of the experience, expert information and great ideas from both me and my colleagues and give them to you. That way you have a hugely valuable resource packed solid with advice, fresh ideas and solutions to the problems you face on a day-to-day basis. You can have it with you all of the time and can use it to overcome the day-to-day problems in parenting a child with Aspergers. The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide will be like having your own expert Aspergers team in a small corner of your living room gently supporting and advising you to make the right decisions for you and your child every second of the day.??Your book is an excellent informational resource, so easy to read and understand??

?This past week I printed pages 116 through 119 of your book to aid an IEP in the works for our Alex, age 10. Your book is an excellent informational resource, so easy to read and understand. I know I will reference it more in the future and also mention it at the next Collaborative Autism Intervention Project (CAIP) workshop I attend. Thank you so much"
Melinda Boren - Parent of an Asperger's Child, Missouri, USA

I?ve put together a team of experts who have helped to develop the solutions to the many problems that you will face as a parent with an Aspergers child.

This expert team is made up of many different experts such as Social Workers, Parents, Clinical Psychologists, Educational Psychologists, Speech-Language Pathologists,
Autism Specialists and Special Needs Teachers, and they come from all over the world including Europe, North America and Australia.

In particular I have a U.K. Chartered Educational Psychologist (who received her Masters in Psychology at the University of East London) and who has more than 20 years experience as both a Special Needs Teacher and Educational Psychologist.
She is working with me on behavioral and psychological issues for Aspergers children and their family.

I also have a medical doctor, Christine Traxler, from the USA (who received her Medical Doctorate from the University of Minnesota) who has more than 15 years experience in medicine and who works with me on the medical side of Aspergers.
Between them my team have many years experience of working with thousands of families with Aspergers children.

With this wide range of experience and understanding, you can be sure that you will get solutions to your problems that will be both thorough and proven to work in real life.

But Before I Continue, Let Me Make One Thing Clear?
The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide is NOT offering a ?cure? for Aspergers. Nor would I claim that every single thing you need to help your child is in this ebook.

But if you?re looking for rock solid, proven and practical answers to your most important questions about your Aspergers child, then I am confident you will benefit from this guide.

Here?s What You?ll Discover In Your Copy Of
The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide?
The impact of having a child with Aspergers (and the importance of having the right information to manage the situation, and avoid a great deal of suffering and pain for you, your family and friends) pages 7-8 Why having a child with Aspergers can be and is a joyful gift to your family (and the ONE thing you need to make this a reality in your life) pages 8-9 How my guide can help you deal with the situations arising from your child?s Aspergers (and why I decided to do this NOW) pages 10-12 Are the problems parents of Aspergers children face different from country to country? (The answers on pages 13-14 may surprise you?) The SIX main ?need to know? Aspergers topics you?ll find out about in my guide (and why they?re so important for the long-term welfare of you child ? pages 15-16) The most difficult area for parents of children with Aspergers to deal with, and where most help is needed (INCLUDES: details of what it is, why it?s such a big issue, and how to develop response mechanisms to cope with it ? pages 17-19) How to deal with your child?s obsessive-compulsive behaviors (especially if they occur in public places or school) pages 20-23 What you must do if your child displays inappropriate sexual behavior in public (INCLUDES: the right ? and wrong ? responses for when your child starts stripping and/or stares at others) pages 27-30 Why Aspergers children can overreact during car or plane journeys (and what you should do to manage these issues) pages 31-33 TEMPER TANTRUMS: all children have them from time to time, but what if it happens almost ALL the time? (Turn to pages 33-36 to discover my 3-Step Program to help your child manage their anger more effectively?) How to help your child with Aspergers follow routine (without it becoming a problem or an obsession?) pages 36-39 The concrete ways you can help your child deal with emotions (and the best option to show them to make it a simpler learning process for them ? and you?) pages 40-42 The FOUR major reasons why your child with Aspergers behaves in the way they do (and how to construct a monitoring system to give your child the loving support they need to manage whatever life throws their way) pages 43-46 The 4-step method you can use to deal with your child with Aspergers? defiant actions (PLUS: should MEDICATION only ever be used as a last resort? Or should it be given more frequently? Our conclusions on pages 47-50) The siblings of children with Aspergers ? how to help them cope with their brother or sister?s condition (they may not be directly affected by Aspergers themselves, but their brother or sister?s disability WILL have profound consequences on their lives and sense of well-being. Find out how to lessen this impact on pages 51-54) Should you let your child with Aspergers HIT you (and ?let it all out??) Or should you manage their anger so they stop doing it? Two of my most effective coping strategies revealed on page 60? How to explain Aspergers to siblings (whether they?re very young or teenagers) in terms they?ll understand ? [PLUS: the simple way to explain the 3 main problem areas children with Aspergers face on a day-to-day basis?] pages 61-73??Thank you for the article on changes in adolescence, too??

"Hi, Dave Angel, I don?t know if this email will ever reach you, but I wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your Asperger's mini-course. It has been tremendously helpful. I cannot begin to thank you enough.......Thank you for the article on changes in adolescence, too.... Thank you very much for your help via your excellent articles and the mini-course. I'll always be grateful to you. Best always, Betsy"
Betsy Johnson - Parent of a Child with Aspergers, Chapel Hill, North Carolina, USA

The best books for siblings of children with Aspergers? pages 75-78 Should you PUNISH your child with Aspergers bad behavior? Or will this do more harm than good when it comes to teaching the difference between right and wrong? Our advice to this potential ?emotional minefield? on pages 83-87 How to help a child with Aspergers deal with the world, when YOU have Aspergers (and are still trying to find your way around) pages 93-97 The problems you and your child with Aspergers may face when dealing with the general public? pages 103-111 EDUCATION: It?s one of the most asked-for areas of support, but how can you ensure your child with Aspergers copes at School, in an ever-changing social and learning environment? (Turn to pages 113-120 to find out how to create strongly united teams of professionals working together for your child?s best interests)?You have no clue how much I appreciate all the information??

"You have no clue how much I appreciate all the information. We really had a bad year in school, not because of grades (he's in gifted classes) but your general Asperger socially pervasive disorder. I really appreciate you taking the time to keep me posted. Thanks again. Dee" Dee McCullar - Parent of a Child with Aspergers, Mount Olive, Alabama, USA

Five simple ways to create an optimum learning environment for your child (both in AND out of the classroom? ) pages 116-117 How to persuade teachers and educators to develop an Individual Education Plan for your child with Aspergers (even if they?re opposed to the idea) pages 120-121 How to help your adolescent child develop their physical and social skills especially in sports. (Although Aspergers children can lack coordination, their talents and abilities can be unlocked, by using our 8-step program ? check it out on pages 126-128?) The three vital questions you must ask when your child with Aspergers changes school, and why they?re so important for their future development (pages 131-132) The pros ? and cons ? of HOME SCHOOLING: is it the best choice for your child with Aspergers? (See my conclusions ? and resources guide ? to help you make the best, most informed decision ? on pages 133-136) The difference between ASPERGERS and AUTISM (to many people, Aspergers and Autism are one and the same thing. But the differences ? although subtle ? ARE there. See what they are, and the impact they have on your child and family, on pages 141-145, and pages 148) Can Aspergers cause childhood DEPRESSION? (My thoughts on this sensitive issue on pages 146-147?) Is Aspergers a mental health issue, or a neurological issue? Pages 151-156 The alternative treatments which may help people with Aspergers
(IMPORTANT: these are in NO way a ?cure? for Aspergers ? or anything like it ? no such thing exists. However, this section Includes details on):

The alternative treatments available for your child (are they suitable?)The quick guide to ?Summer Camp Survival? for your child with Aspergers [pages 158-160]Is there a link between Aspergers and Lyme Disease? (My conclusions on pages 162-164)How to use DIET as a technique for helping people with Aspergers [INCLUDES: the five ?trigger? conditions to avoid to ensure your child gets a healthy and balanced diet - pages 165-170]Can HOMEOPATHIC and/or NATURAL Remedies manage the symptoms of, and even CURE, Aspergers? Pages 171-172FIVE valuable websites to help your child with Aspergers integrate into the community, find a job, and find their place in the world? page 174

How to contact me (and ask me any questions you want answers to ? my PRIVATE email address ? only available to readers of this guide ? on page 182)
But Don?t Just Take My Word For It?
Here?s What Some More Of The Happy Parents Who Are Using
My Aspergers Resources Have To Say.... ?It's like a virtual support group?your informative articles have been incredibly insightful and I don't feel alone because of you??

"Dear Dave Angel, I just want to sincerely thank you for all your efforts and dedication with this website and articles which have all been so incredibly helpful to me...It's like a virtual support group. My little boy was just diagnosed with ASD at 3.25 years old, and I was devastated. But your informative articles have been incredibly insightful and I don't feel alone because of you! Keep up the great work!!! We need you!" Joan Brand, Long Island, New York, U.S.A. ??help(s) me a great deal in trying to understand my son??

"Your articles help me a great deal in trying to understand my son and find ways of helping him. Keep up the good work, in my mind you truly are an angel."
Suzanne Byrne, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada ??I really appreciate all the tips and encouragement that I receive and I just wanted to say thank you??

"Hello Dave, I just wanted to say a HUGE thank you from the sunny Gold Coast in Queensland for all the information you send me. I am so grateful and am constantly referring people on to your site. The new system will be a great help. I am mum to 3 children ages 17, 14 and 7.5. It is my 17 year old daughter Elizabeth who has Aspergers. I really appreciate all the tips and encouragement that I receive and I just wanted to say thank you. You do a wonderful job and it is such a blessing for me." Heather Clark, Queensland, Australia ??your wonderful newsletters?are so informative and helpful??

"Dear Dave, Thank you for your work in creating your wonderful newsletters. They are so informative and helpful. I look forward to receiving them and they have been a great help in matters relating to my 13 year old who has Aspergers." Janey Grainger, Bromley, Kent, U.K. ??I've learned so very much about my grandson's world??

"Dave, Just wanted to THANK YOU for all your help and wisdom with ASD and for sharing that with us! I've learned so very much about my grandson's world, since meeting you and being on your mailing list. What a true blessing!" Lynn Wiley. Hinseville, Georgia, USA ??I am learning a lot from the question/answer dialogue??

?Wow! I am only halfway through your book, but I love it! I am learning a lot from the question/answer dialogue, and most certainly appreciate the time and effort you put into this work. Thank you so much for this information.?
Judith (Surname anonyomised on request) - Parent of an Asperger's Child.
Gaithersburg, Maryland, USA. ??I found reading about children in my son's age group most interesting??

"Very, Very Good: The personal parental problems are very helpful. I found reading about children in my son's age group most interesting of course. Like you say what is a normal parent and what is a normal person anyway?"
Donald Hughes - Parent of a Young Adult with Asperger's
West Penwith, Cornwall UK ??Thanks for looking at the problems with a different view??

Hi, I thought the book was great. Thanks for looking at the problems with a different view point."
Sharon Hills ? Parent of an Asperger's Child, South Wales, UK ??very interesting and well written??

"Thank you for your book. I have an 11 year old boy (with ASP) and it is good to know more about it. It is very interesting and well written."
Pia Contaldi - Parent of An Asperger's Child, Cape Town, South Africa ??very grateful for the book??

"Hi. I have found your book really useful. I'm not sure whether my son has Asperger's and I was worried which is why I ended up on your site. I am very grateful for the book so thank you."
Jax Fleming - Parent of an Undiagnosed Asperger's Child, Essex, UK ??great to see when someone is helping people understand Aspergers??

"I am a sufferer of AS and its always great to see when someone is helping people understand Aspergers."
Steve Fritz - Adult with Asperger's
Sheffield, UK ??very enlightening??

"It has been very enlightening - thank you so much. My son has not been diagnosed yet but his case is in front of the panel and we are waiting."
Daniella Slaney - Parent of an Undiagnosed Asperger's Child, Solihull, UK ??you explain everything in plain English, which is a refreshing change??

?I found the book really interesting and informative. I am giving copies to friends who are already dying to read it, more so because you explain everything in plain English, which is a refreshing change."
Cheryl Waldron - Parent of an Asperger's Child, Havant, Hampshire, U.K.

Just imagine for a moment how The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide could help you and your family: being able to cope with most situations that arise with your Aspergers child any time, any place, any where.

How amazing will it feel knowing that you can do this and also live a happier life with a renewed confidence in your ability as a parent?

But Wait? There?s More?
When You Order The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide
You?ll Also Receive The Following Four Bonus Gifts?
BONUS GIFT #1: Interview With Internationally AcclaimedAspergers Author Tony Attwood (A $25.00 value)
Chances are that if you?re looking for information about Aspergers then you will have come across Tony Attwood. He works with adults and children with Aspergers as a psychologist, and is an extremely well read author and sought after speaker on the subject.

I grilled Tony in a 30 minute interview that I have had transcribed for you to read and enjoy.

In this interview Tony reveals tips on working with certain behaviors, techniques for families and siblings of Aspergers children, his own personal favorite Aspergers experts and what he sees as some of the major issues ahead for people with Aspergers.

And it?s yours as my gift when you order The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide?

BONUS GIFT #2: My Personal Rolodex of Aspergers Internet Resources
(A $23.00 value)
Knowing you need to find out certain Aspergers information is one thing: FINDING the RIGHT information when you need it most is quite another.

That?s why, as an extra Bonus Gift, I?ve decided to share with you my own personal rolodex of internet resources. Packed full of information, strategies and advice, plus my favourite resources (built up over my 11-years plus in the field)

Theses links to discussion forums, chat rooms, sites with great freebies (like free books and communication aids), website directories (the internet equivalent of the yellow pages for all things Aspergers), and websites of individuals with Aspergers, are the perfect complement to your Aspergers knowledge and action base, and are yours with my compliments?

BONUS GIFT #3: ?Getting Started: Introducing Your Child To His Or Her Diagnosis Of Autism Or Aspergers Syndrome? a special report by
Renowned Aspergers Expert Marci Wheeler (An $11.00 value)
This special report is a practical guide which helps parents in the tricky area of explaining to their child about their Aspergers diagnosis.

Marci Wheeler has compiled a report on the ?who, what, when, where and how? of telling your child about Aspergers, how it impacts on their lives (and the lives of those around them), and how to ensure they lead happy, productive lives working with Aspergers.

Written in a down-to-earth, easy-to-read style, ?Getting Started? will help you discover and understand the main issues you need to know, to help you and your child with Aspergers lead happier and less stressful lives . Marci is a social worker who has over 20 years experience working at the Indiana Resource Center for Autism. I recently interviewed her and I have to say that she is an amazingly helpful lady with a great knowledge of Autism and Aspergers.

BONUS GIFT #4: The full transcript of my Interview with Pam Wright.
(A $27.00 Value)
A single mother of three children, the youngest of whom has Aspergers, Pam is also a qualified social worker who works with children with Aspergers and their families, and as such her knowledge of Aspergers is second to none. In the transcript of our interview (which is the final section of The Parenting Aspergers Resource Guide, you?ll discover?

The SIX biggest challenges facing parents of children with Aspergers (and how to develop practical coping mechanisms to overcome them, based on her own experiences of physical, mental and emotional exhaustion, shared with graphic honesty) pages 186-191 and pages 193-195 What you should do when you find out your child has Aspergers (and what Pam would do differently ? in managing her son?s Aspergers - if she could start over again?) pages 192-193 The information and resources Pam uses to keep up to date with all the changes in the Aspergers field (and how she applies them to improve her son?s life) pages 196-198 How to prevent behavior meltdowns (before AND whilst they occur)
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?To Dave Angel, I would like to thank you for the info that you have sent me. It has been wonderful to read. My son that has ASD had been having some trouble in school. He only got diagnosed in May this year. But I noticed a change in him since the age of 6 years, and now he's 8. The school didn't have the facilities to help him . Detentions were often given to stop behaviours , which I disagreed with , it was making things worse. I have just found a school close to home that has the support for ASD children. I have enrolled him to start after the holidays in two weeks time. He seems ok with the move , but only time will tell. I have always supported my son and getting all the information and reading books has made me understand him more. We have a good relationship because he knows I 'm trying to make things better for him. I want him to be able to mix in with society and get a job when hes old enough. But also to teach him how to cope with life. My confidence has been boosted knowing I'm not alone. Thank you . from?
Amanda. ??Thank you for letting me know I am not alone in my childs behaviour??

I would just like to say thank you to you for delivering your short course. For putting the time and effort into allowing parents information. Years ago before my daughter was diagnosed i went through hell with everything from being bitten, to receiving cans in the back of my head on shopping trips. Thank you for letting me know I am not alone in my childs behaviour. I thought it was something I did, at least thats what I had been told by family. Your articles have touched me deeply. Thank you again, Nikki Kennedy. ??You have no idea what a lifeline you are becoming for me??

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?I just wanted to say thank you for all the information you have provided in the past few months. All of your information and support has helped me and my wife better understand Aspergers and our son. There is a never-ending learning experience when it comes to Aspergers. Warmest regards.? Jimmy, Kristen and our son Nathan ??at last I think I can put a name to what is ailing my son??

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For years I have been trying to determine what was wrong with my son, or me, and trying to understand why we just couldnt communicate. When he was young, he used to hit me, whenever ppl came to visit and said hello, he ignored them, he seemed to be in his own world. Even now that he is 26 and holding down a great job as manager for an electrical company. I always wondered about his anger, and frustration and put it down to the fact that he and I were on different wave lengths, me with literature and him with electrical and mathematical and music. I can recall great bouts of anger, but he simply couldn?t express it and just fumed. Once he nearly choked a kid who called his cousin fat. I am not sure but it would appear that he may have had Aspergers without me ever knowing, or being able to put a name to it./ His father was an engineer// and there have been some associations with autism and children of engineers. whether this is true or not I dont know. Currently he is well employed, thought highly of and has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for the last 4 yrs, and she adores him. He appears to resent me as a parent, and yet I felt it was because I gave him everything, and satisfied his every need- anything but put up with the angry outbursts. So I thank you for your article.. and at last I think I can put a name to what is ailing my son. thank you? carmel callaghan . ?? it looks like it [the guide] will save both parents and children and great deal of pain and anguish??

How I wish your guide was available 18 years ago. I am the mother of a 22 yr old daughter with Asperger?s. From looking at the summary of this guide, it looks like it will save both parents and children and great deal of pain and anguish. Parents will have the information that wasn?t available back then. Many of the doctors that I was involved with didn?t even know what Asperger?s was. You?ve done a great thing, I wouldn?t want to see anyone go through what my daughter or her dad and I go through because of lack of information.
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Hi, I just wanted to say thank you so very much for a job well done!! i have asd and so does my oldest son. I have been having such a hard time with the schools here in California,u.s.a, and also having such a hard time finding information that I could identify with and use. I am sharing all of these findings with a friend whose son also has asd but is now a teenager and was told he could not be "diagnosed" officially because of his age, however I know he does share almost everything in common with myself and my son and have found that his parents are overwhelmed by the absolute similarities of his characteristics to asd. Keep up the great work! Many thanks!?
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I am indeed impressed with the materials that I received this morning, and devoured them as soon as they arrived.
It is not very often that I find another parent on my wavelength, so when I find a like-minded individual, especially one who is spreading so much good news, I am very much impressed.
My daughter and I have had a long journey together through the Void of Autism (she is classic Autism Spectrum Disorder) and I was a single parent for many years, seeking answers in a world where the internet was a fledgling and there wasn't much information to be found. Still, we managed to come up with a regimen based on Chaos Theory that is unlike anything else out there.
We blended our family with a single dad who had custody of his two boys several years ago, and the younger of the two also has Autism. He is recovering as well, along with more than 700 around the country who check in with me fairly regularly. Astounding stuff, really.
However, when I was writing my book (my daughter's suggestion since I kept telling the same stories over and over again) and it was picked up by AAPC, I was diagnosed with Aspergers. Go figure. I guess it should have dawned on me back when I was reading Chaos Theory for fun.
I am an aspie that discloses now and then, when it fits the bill, especially to teens who wouldn't believe that they could be successful...because I am successful. I hold it like an ace. The "world" doesn't need to know all the time. (I figure that, for me, it's a condition and not a disorder. It's an explanation for why I need sunglasses even on cloudy days.)
We are on the national speaking circuit, my daughter and I - and one of my most popular talks is about telling educating the individual on the spectrum, and how important that piece of it is. THANK YOU for that part of your work. I fully intend to drop your name and pass on your good work to others. Our next big stop is the Texas State Conference on Autism in September.
I sent my work to Tony Attwood (who first suggested I was AS and sent me the diagnostic link and a great quote for my book cover) and what I had to do was apologize to him. I had intended to send a short note, and it ended up being a novella. Seems I've done it again.
Thanks for your time, and perhaps we will meet at a conference. I hope so. If you see our names, "Lynley and Jazz Summers" - perhaps we can run into one another. Jazz really is remarkable. She will graduate from high school this Saturday, with honors. She will attend the University of Central Arkansas, where she has earned $16,000 in scholarships for talent and merit. Not bad for a kid they said would never speak English, would remain in self-contained in a helmet, and might get an equivalency by the age of 21 and then go to a group home. She was
diagnosed MR at age three, Autism at four. She's one miracle, of many.
Thank you again for the work that you're doing.?
Lynley Summers - Author of "Autism is Not a Life Sentence" and Parent of a Child with ASD,Sherwood, Arkansas, USA ??For a country like mine, about 80 million pop, in which we have only ONE autistic center; it is very helpful to have written experiences, helping tips and others from you guys??

?Dear Dr. Angel,
With the materials you send me for more than a year; you have no idea how i benefited friends, family and children who struggle in living with Autism. For a country like mine, about 80 million pop, in which we have only ONE autistic center; it is very helpful to have written experiences, helping tips and others from you guys. I also have an idea to become a speech therapy so that i canhelp my fellow citizens freely on my spare time.
This email is then to thank you and appreciate you very much for sharing all the important info you have so that people can be helped. I once was very worried thinking that my son was autistic, that is how i happened to be part of your info group. I then did not stop working for authistic children, helping, reading, advocating....I hope your group will continue sending me documents.
Once again on half of all friends and family with Autism issues,I thank you and your team for your kind assistance in sending us docs. Keep on doing such GREAT work.
Let God fill your other gaps in your life as you fill others! Sincerely,?
Beletshachew Tadesse, A mother from Ethiopia ??thank you from the heart!?

Hi Dave ? Just wanted to say thank you!!! For all of the helpful information you provide that assists us in trying to navigate the difficult waters of parenting ? especially when there is a special needs child involved. So, thank you from the heart!
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Feel free to use this testimonial anywhere on your site or in your materials. ??I would like to take the time and thank you for this information. I am a Public Health Nurse??

?I would like to take the time and thank you for this information. I am a Public Health Nurse and have a few children with this syndrome. One of my little 5 year olds has Aspergers very severely. They are trying to get her into a special school. Mom is separated from her husband and is looking for financial assistance with the tuition. ITS NOT EASY TO FIND. iF YOU COULD HELP WITH ANY MORE RESOURCES, IT WOULD BE APPRECIATED. Family lives in Roseville, Mich.?

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Warren, MI

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Talking To Toddlers: Dealing With The Terrible Twos And Beyond

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Are you are a frustrated parent of a child between the ages of 2 and 6? Whether it’s the “Terrible Twos” or beyond, you need to read what I’m about to share with you here. If you feel guilty about yelling at your toddler, I can help. Or maybe you have no idea how to deal with the temper tantrums and the terrible twos. I’ll show you how to cope. Maybe you’re just sick of your child screaming “No” at you every time you ask him to eat his dinner, put that toy down, leave the park, get in the car … and the list goes on (doesn’t it?)

A lot of Moms and Dads feel like their toddler’s or child’s behavior is driving them crazy. Maybe you’re in the same boat – you feel stressed out, and you just want some PEACE. Yet you also want to feel like you raised your kids right, set a good example, and fostered a great relationship. You want less fights, more respect, and a happy home. I don’t blame you!

So how do you get it? What if I told you that there are simple ways to solve most of your everyday parenting problems? Would you be willing to learn a few new tips and strategies to fix your problems and get the peace back?

My name is Chris Thompson and I have a bit of an unusual story to tell you. I promise you this directly relates to parenting and how I tackled the terrible twos & beyond. But it starts back in 1992 when I had just turned 19, and I was starting my first year of university. The school brought in an amazing speaker to talk to us about something called “Brain Software”, and it absolutely changed my life.

The speaker showed us how to use our brains to make powerful changes in our emotional states – like how to take a crappy mood and turn it around instantly. He also taught us some of the basics of influence, persuasion and relationship building. This is the stuff that eventually made a massive difference for me as a parent.

So there I was, a 19-year old kid starting an Engineering degree, but this amazing speaker had just cracked open the doorway to a whole new set of skills that were really exciting to me.

Here’s what I did: I went up to the speaker and asked him how to learn more. He handed me a reading list of classic books to start with. I’ve always maintained my passion for learning about influence, persuasion, relationships and rapport.

I got really good at this stuff. During my university years I built relationships with the right kinds of friends – guys and girls who would help each other succeed. I used my skills to get a great job after graduation when others had a hard time. I was still only 22 at this point, and I was too busy directing my skills at my career to realize that there was a LOT more too it.

Let’s fast forward over the next 8 years. I got married to the girl that I fell in love with in my graduating year. I made a major career transition into the world of finance and investing, and my income skyrocketed to a point that it was uncomfortable for me to discuss income with anyone. Then, in 2004, when I was 30 years old, we had our first baby. Anne changed my life forever. (Wow, writing this is making all the memories flood right back!)

The first moment I ever held my child, I knew I had a much bigger responsibility than ever before. By the time she was entering the “terrible twos”, my wife was pregnant again with our second daughter Elizabeth. We didn’t need any more stress, believe me!

Here’s where my training starts to come in (thanks for bearing with me so far!)

Anne was starting to enter the “terrible twos”, just like every ordinary child. The challenges and problems we faced were very typical. She would say “no” to us a lot. She would point at things she wanted and cry if we didn’t give them to her. She’d have fits or throw tantrums if we didn’t live up to her expectations! I bet you can relate, right?

Through luck or skill (who really knows), I clued into the idea that all of my expertise in building relationships and influencing people would probably work on small children too. The tools just needed to be re-worked to fit parenting situations rather than business situations.

I started making notes on every new idea that hit me. I’d test them out on “Annie the Terrible” and they’d work like magic. I know you are probably curious, and I’ll give you a chance to get some examples a bit lower down. Stay with me here. We’re almost done.

Then came the ONE moment that clinched it all for me. I realized how powerful this stuff was, and how nobody else was doing (or teaching) these ideas.

I was in the grocery store with my pregnant wife and daughter. You can probably see where this is going, can’t you? Yup … the checkout line. There we were waiting our turn in a super-busy store. Anne was in the shopping cart with her eyes at the perfect height to see the candy.

I mean, seriously, they must setup the checkout isles like this on purpose. Kid sees candy. Kid asks, then begs for candy. Parent says no. Kid freaks out. Secret camera captures it all and you end up on YouTube.

As you can guess, Anne REALLY wanted this chocolate candy called “Smarties”. The packaging is brilliant. You can’t miss them. She smiled. Oh yes it always starts that way. Then she pointed at them and said, like a cave-child: “Want this!”.

My wife STARTED to say “No” to her and I could literally see the meltdown begin to take shape. Her lips started to quiver – that’s usually a clear sign. Thank goodness I was quick on my feet that day (usually my wife would tell you I’ve got my head buried in my BlackBerry).

I quickly tested out a new technique I’d been perfecting. It’s called “The Distraction Method”. Yes, I know. Very fancy title. Part of this technique involves acknowledging what your child wants. If you forget this step you are in trouble, seriously. But nobody is teaching this! Nobody is explaining the huge importance of establishing (or maintaining) rapport with your kid!

I kept adapting the communications skills that I learned and started applying them to parenting and toddler problems. It wasn’t long before I had a UNIQUE and HIGHLY EFFECTIVE toolbox of techniques. It shocked me that nobody was doing this. After all it wasn’t like I made some huge leap to adapt these “business communication” tools to parenting. It seemed totally natural to me. Terrible twos? How about Terrific Toddlers instead!

I knew I could teach other parents to do this stuff. I was always good at teaching and my friends & family always told me I was a natural teacher.

I spent over a year experimenting with my daughter, other people’s children and I started coaching other parents on how to use these techniques.

The results were truly spectacular. Parents got back the peace that they wanted. Kids started to behave better. The results were FAST. And best of all, all of the strategies I teach maintain a child’s dignity and actually help the child understand how to make better choices.

The complete course I created is called “Talking to Toddlers”. Not only is it a detailed toddler parenting manual, but I have professionally recorded the lessons in audio format to accelerate your learning.

But before you even consider getting your own copy, you should be asking yourself, “Why listen to this guy”.

That’s why I created a completely free (no strings attached) audio lesson that you can listen to right now. This free lesson will teach you three powerful strategies that you can put to use immediately, and start to see results. Drop your name and email address in the form, hit the submit button, and you’ll be quite pleased with what arrives in your inbox. Then you can always come back and read more about the course (below).

Let me share something with you that will forever change your way of thinking. Once you read it you’ll think it’s obvious. Behavior is driven by emotion. It’s not driven by logic. Your kids act the way they do because of their emotional state. Toddler behavior, older child behavior … it’s all driven by emotion.

If they won’t get dressed in the morning it is because they are mentally connecting the act of getting dressed with something unpleasant. If they won’t go to bed at night they are connecting bed time with something else that is unpleasant.

Parents often make the mistake of trying to use logic to fix the problem. Logic doesn’t work. Instead, you need to modify the emotional response inside of your child.

Ok, so how do you change a child’s emotional state? You use specific language patterns to change a bad mood into a good mood. How do you get a child to do something that he or she doesn’t want to do? You make it easy for the child to feel good about the task so they choose to do it. It’s not about asking nicely, nor is it about pleading and begging, nor is it about using the threat of some negative consequence if they don’t co-operate.

When you understand how powerful language (and body language) can be, you quickly realize that it’s like having an instruction manual for the brain.

Would it be helpful to you to feel that you had a much better understanding of your child’s emotional state? You bet it would!

Let’s use an example of how these tools work. Say that you need to get your 3-year old Emily dressed to go out, but as usual, she won’t co-operate. She’s much happier playing with her toys and when you tell Emily to come get dressed, she just says “No”, or ignores you.

You keep asking politely, but eventually frustration takes over. You start raising your voice. Eventually you end up having to gently restrain her as you get her dressed. She’s now crying and you’re upset that she wouldn’t listen. It’s just not fun for either of you.

What I’ll teach you is totally different and much more fun. I’ll teach you to start with a different goal in mind. The goal would be to change Emily’s emotional state so that she actually wants to get dressed. We would do this by talking to her about things that were interesting for her. We would be planting seeds of suggestion into her mind so that she’d welcome the idea of getting dressed.

Or, we could distract her from her prior resistance to getting dressed. There are simple ways of doing this such that Emily would not even realize she was “co-operating” with getting dressed. But after it was over, she wouldn’t be feeling tricked or manipulated. She’d be smiling and feel close to her Mommy. That’s exactly what you want anyway, right?

I’ve put together a complete audio course to help you deal with your difficult toddler or child. This stuff works through the “Terrible Twos” and beyond. This course will help you deal with a toddler, preschooler or school-aged child.

Get your kids to say “Yes” instead of “No” – If you’re sick and tired of your child refusing to do simple things then you’re going to love this technique. If you find yourself successfully using this same strategy with your spouse, co-worker or boss, you have my permission to “blame” me.Quickly kill that bad mood – Have you ever had a special song that totally changed the way you feel? It’s almost like you are programmed to respond to the song in that way. Why? I’ll teach you why and show you how to apply the same technique to your kids (or yourself). When their frown turns upside down you’ll thank me.Get them to stop changing their minds so much – Most parents are constantly frustrated by their kids asking for one thing, then changing their mind again and again. I’ll teach you exactly how to stop this, but in a positive way. It eliminates your stress and frustration while building your child’s confidence at the same time. It’s win-win. You need to know this!The right way to use consequences – Most parents simply threaten their kid with “going to their room” or something like that. It hardly ever works. I’ll explain to you exactly what key steps you’re probably missing. Knowing this will dramatically boost your success with using consequences.How to sidestep a temper tantrum – We both know that most temper tantrums in toddlers and children start the moment that we say “No” to our kids. Sometimes you have to say no, but most of the time there are clever ways to sidestep this trigger-word and still get the exact same outcome that you were looking for. This is super useful for all those times your child says, “Mommy can I have this cookie” or “Daddy I want this toy”. This single tool will save you unbelievable amounts of frustration. When I get emails from my customers this is often a favourite technique because of how easy it is.Plant positive ideas in your child’s mind without them knowing – You may not realize it but “others” are planting messages in your child’s precious young mind every day. Some of it is accidental by untrained people, and some of it is entirely on purpose (commercials, TV, news, etc). A big part of your job is to make sure your positive messages get through. What I’m going to teach you is exactly how to do this. Sure, you can use it to plant suggestions for wanting to eat dinner, going to bed, feeling comfortable using the toilet, etc. But you can also use it to instil confidence, strength, love and other feelings.

YES Chris, I am ready to learn these awesome language tools! I understand that I will securely download “Talking to Toddlers”.

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Talking to Toddlers consists of 12 lessons. Each lesson teaches you only a few simple concepts. I’ve kept the lessons brief so that you can read or listen to one lesson every day, and it will only take you about 15 minutes. Every lesson gives you clear, specific instructions. You’ll learn new language techniques that you can start to apply right away. At the end of each lesson I give you a simple homework assignment to re-enforce your learning. After all … you can only get good at something by doing it, right?

Instantly Delivered as a Digital Download: Talking to Toddlers is sold as a file that you download. I use the industry standard MP3 audio format, and it works on all computers (PC and Mac). There is no special software required. “Talking to Toddlers” is something you will download right away after payment. This saves you precious time! I know how frustrated you probably are, and I know you want to get to work fixing things NOW.

Do you need physical CDs? There are two ways to handle this. I do sell the course in CD format (click here for that), which costs a bit more money because it has to be manufactured and shipped. Otherwise, if you are computer-savvy, you can take the downloaded version and turn it into CDs using your computer. Free software such as iTunes makes this very easy. That said, at least 9 out of 10 customers choose the digital download and it’s rare for anyone to get stuck with a technical problem. Besides, I’m only an email away.

As a father I want the best for my kids and I’m sure you want the same for your kids too. I also know that there are lots of people trying to get you to buy stuff that you may not need.

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Try it for 8 full weeks: I insist that you have tons of time to use the material in my course before you decide if it’s right for you. That’s why I insist on offering you a full 8-weeks to try out the entire course with no risk.

It really is this simple. If you don’t find that the course helps you, or is for ANY REASON not worth the price you paid, then I do not want your hard-earned money. Simply email me and I process a 100% refund with a friendly and respectful attitude.

With the digital download, there is no shipping charge whatsoever, and there is nothing for you to return. When I started selling this course online my father actually warned me that people would take advantage of me. I went with my gut instinct, and I’m happy to say I was right. Most people are very honest and I feel entirely comfortable in offering you this security.

To the health and happiness of you and your family,

P.S. For a limited time you get the FREE upgrade to the professionally recorded audio course (normally $67) for the one-time price of $37.

Still, you might be asking yourself, “Is this really worth $37?”
I’d like you to pretend, just for a moment, that there was a parenting “magic wand” you could buy for $37, and you knew it would “do for you” all of the things I’m describing above.

Would THAT be worth $37 to you?

Almost certainly it would! Well, there is no magic wand, but my course gets you as close as possible. So it really comes down to your own willingness to take action to fix your situation.

Besides, with my 100% satisfaction guarantee you have 8 weeks to decide for yourself. Given my ultra-low refund rate I’m super confident in this offer and in your success.

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Chris, I recently purchased your “Talking to Toddlers” mp3 and it was fantastic! Literally, this is not an exaggeration, but the same day I first tried presuppositions and double-binds, I saw a change in my relationship with my 2 year old son. In the week following, whereas before our relationship largely consisted of Dad the enforcer and toddler the oppressed (with lots of feelings of guilt and lots of tears respectively), we became closer, happier, and I really feel good about being a Dad now. Especially since I have the tools for guiding my son, but at the same time honoring his inherent rights to dignity and self-determination.

Thanks, Chris. Truly, your guide has made a difference. And for all of those like me who found themselves skeptical at first, even after reading the ‘testimonials’ offered by your website, I find myself now writing one! For any parent out there who senses that things could be better somehow, but are unsure of how to make things better with your toddler, Chris your guide is almost like a magic bullet. I continue to work through your lessons and apply the tools they provide.

Kelly Goyer
Saskatoon, Canada

Chris – I love this program! At first I was a bit skeptical that it would be manipulative but it actually is very compassionate and respectful and will maintain your dignity as well as your child’s. This program is so easy to follow: it is structured in a way that really helps parents learn not only what to do but how to do it in small bite sized chunks so that each layer adds another dimension of parenting skills.

The concrete examples make it easy to grasp how to apply these skills in a real situation. When parents are stressed, it is often easier to revert to whatever is in our existing toolbox, even when it is inappropriate. Your style of teaching, along with the homework exercises, makes it very simple to skill up and to implement new strategies even when we are feeling overwhelmed by the enormous responsibility of parenting.

Pinky McKay, Australia
Author of “Toddler Tactics” and “Sleeping Like a Baby”
www.PinkyMcKay.com.au

Chris – I bought your audio course two weeks ago. Let me tell you that you are my hero! I have a boy who is nearly 3 and he was driving me crazy to the point where I thought I failed as a mum. I’m only on lesson 6 and my boy is changing in front of my eyes. Your strategies really work and to my surprise when I test them on adults they work too! Thank you very much. You have changed my boy and my life on the whole.

Doris from Malta

I have a 2 year old daughter who is going on 16. I was ready to pull my hair out and was tired of her telling me what to do and tired of yelling at her in return. Then I came across your course, which was heaven sent. I saw improvements after the first lesson. It was a miracle. I was waiting for her to fight back and then there was nothing. The conflict was resolved. Wow! Chris Thompson is the Toddler God indeed. This program was worth every single penny.

Rachel Turner
Utah, USA

My husband I both listened to the audio course and loved it. We found the techniques very useful and now our son doesn’t fight with us to brush his teeth anymore. We are both teachers and found the tools you teach in this audio course very helpful in our jobs as well. We would recommend this program to anyone who deals with toddlers and school-age children.

Teri Pearce
Whitby, Ontario, Canada

We love getting your e-mails & advice. We purchased the ‘Talking to Toddlers’ audio lessons some time ago. We’ve been following your advice & love it. Please don’t stop sending your e-mails as we’d be lost without them.

Vanda Longrigg
Adelaide, Australia

As a very recent purchaser of your “Talking to Toddlers” audio, I must say I am impressed. I am a grandmother who is often helping out with the care of three very robust grandsons aged 2yrs, 3yrs and 4yrs approx (not from the same family). I have applied your first lesson and was absolutely delighted with the results from the 4yr old. I was chuckling to myself, as my daughter is not aware that I had purchased your audio. This particular grandson is fascinated with magic at the moment, so I felt like I had performed a little magic myself! I will certainly persevere with your techniques.

Rita
Melbourne, Australia

I bought your fantastic program and I just plain love it. I direct and counsel childcare centers in Israel and I began sitting with my staff-doing one lesson at a time. So, thank you so much. I am so happy that I found you. I am doing it slowly as you suggested and I am now up to chapter #4. I have to translate it into Hebrew for my staff to understand so it takes me some time.

Miriam Blau
Israel

Chris has done an excellent job in adapting NLP and Ericksonian patterns to the task of parenting. I recommend his product without reservation, not only to parents, but also to teachers, day-care workers and medical professionals.

Dr. Mike Mandel
Advanced Ericksonian Hypnosis Instructor for NLP Canada

I am a qualified child care worker with 20 years of experience in both Australia and the United Kingdom. This audio course is very valuable. I learned lots of new ways of interacting with the children that were easy to implement and gave me amazing results in just a few days. I highly recommend this course to parents and carers who regularly supervise children.

Helen R. Thompson
ChildLearningSupport.com
Adelaide, Australia

You truly have taken the essence of communication and broken it down into bite sized chunks that anyone can learn. It is worth twice the price and the audio quality is outstanding. I will be recommending this product to everyone I know that has kids.

Ron Vereggen
RapidSuccessCoach.com
Toronto, Canada

YES Chris, I am ready to learn these awesome language tools! I understand that I will securely download “Talking to Toddlers”.

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Self-esteem Elevation For Children Coaching Certification

2012-01-07T15:45:00.000-08:00

Dear Friend,

My name is Dr. Joe Rubino and I can tell you from more than 20 years of personal experience that there is no greater joy or more rewarding career anywhere than being a Self-Esteem Coach. That is especially true when the lives you are impacting are those of children.

Now, you too can join me as a Certified Self-Esteem Elevation Coach and Earn a Great Living as you change lives!

In my 20 plus years as a life-optimization coach, I have personally coached more than 1000 individuals to complete and heal their past, accurately assess what's so in their lives presently, and design an inspirational and compelling future in choice. During these two-plus decades, I have noticed that whenever people are unhappy, whenever their lives are marked by resignation, strained or failed relationships, lacking fulfillment, ineffective communication, scarcity, lacking success, anger, depression or worry…that is whenever they are NOT living their best lives, one underlying factor was ALWAYS present. That factor is low self-esteem.

Low self-esteem has its origins when we are young, typically before the age of six. It begins with someone saying or doing something that causes a child to get the idea that he or she is unlovable, unworthy, imperfect, flawed, or defective in some significant way. Whether the child buys into an unkind word or deed, perhaps experiences a bullying episode or an abusive situation of some sort, or misinterprets what others said or did in such a way that has them feel less than, not good enough, unlovable, or like they don't belong, this initial upset has children begin to believe there is something wrong with them. They then scan for evidence to "prove" to themselves that their initial fear was correct…and, of course, they find plenty of episodes that reinforce that there is something defective about who they are as a person. Over the course of years and decades, they gather hundreds or thousands of pieces of evidence that they are imperfect, unlovable, and not worthy of all the good things life has to offer. Before long, they accept this negative self-image as FACT and soon become resigned to believing that's just how it is… and there's nothing they can do about it!

Being Insecure – creeping feelings of discomfort

Procrastination – putting things off until you are doomed to fail

Frustration – not getting the results you want, again and again

Worrying – visualizing and expecting negative, self-fulfilling results without reason

Anger – finding yourself in a state of upset all too frequently

Bullying – exerting domination over others in unhealthy ways in order to create a false impression of power and superiority

Depression – allowing yourself to be a victim, dominated by a mood of sadness often to avoid responsibility for making your life work optimally or to attract the pity of others

Fear – the third most prevalent emotional response often due to a perceived inability to impact one's situation

Many other situations including Abuse, Addictions, School Drop outs, Poverty and even Suicide are also strongly linked to NOT having sufficient self-esteem!

Self-Esteem Coaches:

Can earn rewarding incomes by working with children, teachers and parents to support children to develop soaring self-esteem.

Can work from home, set their own hours and fees

Enjoy ultra-fulfilling work that makes a huge difference in children's (and adults') lives

Enjoy the respect, gratitude and admiration of all those they work with

Can take pride in shifting the consciousness of our planet by having a direct impact on the lives of the children and families they work with

Will change their own lives as they change the lives of others!

"This is a "must-read" for every parent who wants to raise happy, healthy, self-confident children."

- Brian Tracy
Author, Maximum Achievement

The Center for Personal Reinvention Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children will teach you what you need to know to become certified as an Instructor to coach children, parents, and those who work with them to put into place structures and programs that champion children to:

Feel capable, competent and able to produce their intended results with velocity

Possess authentic personal power and have the ability to influence others

Feel significant, accepted, and loved by others

Feel worthy of love while developing a positive expectation that they WILL receive all the blessings that life has to offer

Develop an appreciation for others while possessing empathy for what it's like to be in their shoes

30 Audio mp3 recordings to guide you to learn the many different ways to champion children to elevate their self-esteem and live their best lives

A 170 page highly acclaimed E-book entitled "31 Ways to Champion Children to Elevate their Self-Esteem" by Dr. Joe Rubino

5 videos on such topics as "The Origins of Low Self-Esteem" and "How to Support Children to Create Soaring Self-Esteem"

A 50 Question multiple choice test required to achieve certification (optional at no extra cost)

A Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation Certificate – suitable for framing (optional at no extra cost)

The Center for Personal Reinvention Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children Program was designed to make learning from your own home, at your own pace, easy, convenient AND affordable! With our program you can learn to coach and guide children to elevate their self-esteem without spending tens of thousands of dollars attending seminars and paying exorbitant fees and while saving precious time. You can learn at your own pace and go through all the educational information in a manner that fits your lifestyle and needs.

"If you want your children to grow up to be happy, well-adjusted and fulfilled adults, you must help them cultivate high self-esteem. 31 Ways to Champion Children to Develop High Self-Esteem is an invaluable program for any parent. It should be required reading."

- Marci Shimoff
NY Times bestselling author, Love for No Reason,
Happy for No Reason, and Chicken Soup for the Mother's Soul

With this program you will:

Learn the difference between high self-esteem and high ego

Discover the origins of low self-esteem and how to best support children to overcome early challenges

Learn the one thing that will most effectively build belief and self-confidence in children

Acquire the antidote to negative self-talk

Realize the secret to becoming an extraordinary role model for children

Discover the three keys to healing and completing one's painful past

Uncover the answer to reversing depression and self-pity

Develop the tools to impart soaring self-esteem and self-confidence effortlessly

Learn how to support children to discover and develop their gifts

Be taught the daily exercise that allows children to maximize their effectiveness with others

Be able to support children to live with passion and enthusiasm

Discover the secret to forever eliminating upsets from children's lives

Learn what to do when you or your child makes a significant mistake

Develop the tools essential to guarantee a happy and fulfilling life

Learn the art of visioning and how it can transform a child's life

Develop the secret that will turn goal setting from a chore to a pleasure

Be able to teach children the life-changing tool that will allow them to instantly diffuse their anger, forever free them from depression and turn fear into excitement and positive expectation

Know how to best support children to ensure good grades and maximize their likelihood of success

Show children how to differentiate between making convenient choices and those that align with their commitments

Get the ability to help children put an end to procrastination once and for all

Discover how to persuade children to stay fit and healthy

Learn when to give in and when to be firm

Acquire the skill of empowering your life and the lives of the children you impact

Learn the one key ingredient to banishing suffering for good

Understand the secret to eliminating selfishness and egotism

Be taught how to support others to train their thoughts to empower their lives

Discover the secret to avoiding unproductive and compulsive behaviors

Be able to teach others how to avoid disappointment in life

Acquire the key to enhancing charisma and personal effectiveness

Learn the secret to achieving daily breakthroughs in every area of life

Learn the art of empowering children to be their best

The Center for Personal Reinvention Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children Program will save you time and money and qualify you to earn a lucrative living as a Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children.

Many parents and teachers take the course simply to be better qualified to support children to learn the secrets that will champion them to develop soaring, unstoppable total self-esteem! The Certification part is optional and at no extra cost, should you wish to achieve the title of Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children.

Few – if any- courses offer the quality and caliber of life-impacting tools and lessons that The Center for Personal Reinvention Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children Program does. In fact, you'll pay $11,995 to become a Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation through the program offered at www.CenterForPersonalReinvention.com...but you won't pay $10,000 or even thousands to take our online Self-Esteem Certification Program.

"This program is an amazing guide that any parent, teacher, grandparent, aunt, uncle or older sibling can easily follow to help guide the healthy mental growth of a child. It offers insights, skills, strategies and actions that will encourage all those who seek to be great parents or participants in the healthy rearing of children with a plethora of ways to do so. We need not try and figure out what we need to do or how we need to do it on our own. Dr. Joe offers us the blueprint to follow."

John Assaraf
New York Times Bestselling Author, The Answer and Having It All.
Featured in The blockbuster movie and book The Secret.
CEO, OneCoach, www.onecoach.com

Your purchase of the products is governed by the terms and conditions contained in the End User License Agreement ('EULA'). Please read this carefully before completing your purchase. By completing your purchase, you agree that you have read the EULA and agree to be bound by its terms. If you do not agree to the terms of the EULA, DO NOT complete your purchase.

For a limited time, we are offering this transformational, life-impacting program, Online Self-Esteem Coach for Children certification for only $895

"There is no more worthwhile endeavor than to impart the gift of high self-esteem to our children. The future of our planet depends upon it. Dr. Rubino'sprogram to champion children to develop high self-esteemshould be required for everyone who has the ability to touch children's lives. The program has the ability to elevate the consciousness of our world one child at a time."

Dr. Eldon Taylor
New York Times Best-selling Author of Choices and Illusions,
Mind Programming, and What Does It Mean?

Q: Who should take the Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation Program for Children?

A. Anyone interested in working with children, parents, teachers, coaches and others who have the ability to impact the lives of children.

Q. What is the Certification title I will receive?

A. Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children

Q. Do I need to get certified if I am only interested in learning how to champion children to elevate their self-esteem?

A. No, the certification is optional. Many purchase the program just to learn how to support children to develop stronger self-esteem. There is no additional cost for the certification, if desired.

Q. How long does it take to complete the course?

A. Typically between 2-3 weeks and 1 year maximum.

Q. What will I receive with the course?

A. 30 downloadable audios, 5 downloadable videos, and a 170 page e-book, a 50 question certification multiple choice test, a certificate certifying you by The Center for Personal Reinvention as a Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children.

Q. What do I need to do to become certified?

A. Take a 50 question multiple choice test and submit it with a passing grade of 70% to become certified.

Q. What happens if I fail the test?

A. Most who take the test pass on their first try. You'll have up to 6 chances to achieve a passing grade. There is a $25 exam fee for each submission after the first test submission which is free.

Q. How long does it take to receive my certification once my test is submitted?

A. Usually less than 2 weeks.

Q. How will I receive my certification?

A. The certificate will be sent via email ready to be printer and framed if desired.

Q. Is the certification accepted everywhere in the world?

A. Yes, to the best of our knowledge.

Q. Who issues the certification?

A. The Center for Personal Reinvention

Q. Will I need any additional training to practice as a certified coach in self-esteem elevation for children?

A. No.

Q. Are there any licensing requirements for Self-Esteem Coaches?

A. Not at this time.

Q. Will you help me get clients in any way?

A. Certified coaches can be listed with their names, addresses, and contact information on The Center for Personal Reinvention website for a minimal web posting fee of $45or information change fee of $25 should your contact info change.

Q. Are there any other ways you can assist me to attract clients?

A. Yes, as a Certified Coach in Self-Esteem Elevation for Children you will have access to mailing up to 8 articles written by Dr. Joe Rubino to educate parents, teachers, counselors, and others about the work we do to support children to elevate their self-esteem. Simply add your contact information after the article to generate interest in your services.

Q. What fees can I charge my clients as a Certified Coach?

A. You are free to establish your own fee schedule. Most certified coaches charge between $75 and $250 per hour and work by phone appointment.

Q. If I need assistance in coaching any client, can I get help?

A. Yes, Dr. Joe Rubino (and other qualified coaches) are available by appointment to assist by phone. Coaching fees are $250 per hour and would be paid by the client.

Dr. Joe has done it again with another outstanding program on self-esteem. But this may be his best yet because it impacts our biggest national treasure and assets --- our children. If we could get this program in our school systems we could close half the prisons in this country in ten years as there is a direct correlation between self-esteem and the behaviors that lead to incarceration. Way to go Joe!

Vic Johnson
Founder, AsAManThinketh.net

For a limited time, we are offering this transformational, life-impacting program, Online Self-Esteem Coach for Children certification for only $895

Self-esteem is an essential part of a child's development, setting them up for future success. In this program, Dr. Joe Rubino uses his immense amount of knowledge and skill to help parents empower their children. This is a must for parents and teachers who want to instill healthyself-esteem in children and students.

- Steve G. Jones
Clinical Hypnotherapist

Dr. Rubino's self-esteem program for children is the most comprehensive yet easy follow guide to living life to its fullest. Joe's expertise in the field of empowering adults and children around the world to boost the most important aspect of living a joyful life, self-esteem, is captured in every word of this truly remarkable program. Every adult who plays a part in the life of a child must have it.

Patrick McMillan
Author: An Exercise in Happiness
Founder: www.KidsCanDoAnything.com
Co-Founder: www.HappierKidsNow.com

"If humans were born with a guidebook that provided the exact guidelines to achieve happiness, high self-esteem, success, opulence, and self-actualization, Dr. Joe Rubino's Self-Esteem Program for children would be that guide. This program should be required in every school system and parenting program in the world; it's that good."

Kristen Howe – Go Big Coach
www.gobigcoach.com

What a FABULOUS program! You can improve your self-esteem or help build it in the lives of your children by implementing the simple but powerful points that Dr. Rubino teaches. We know there is no parenting manual that comes with the baby ... well this program would work ... as self-esteem is an essential ingredient in raising successful children. Thank you for taking the time to put all this valuable information in a program that we can refer to over and over. This is an essential resource for EVERYONE and it's never too late to use it!

Lisa Johnson - Lifestyle Connoisseur, www.LivingItWithLisa.com
Co-founder of MyDailyInsights.com and Goals2Go.com

For a limited time, we are offering this transformational, life-impacting program, Online Self-Esteem Coach for Children certification for only $895

To the Success of Our Children,

Dr. Joe Rubino

P.S. – Remember, this is the only program you will find with this specific formula for helping children elevate every aspect of their self esteem.

P.P.S. – Isn't it time you acquired this valuable tool to be able to impact the lives of children and all who love them and work with them? I promise you…your life and the lives of those you impact will never be the same!

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The Baby Sleep Solution Audio Program.

2012-01-07T08:03:00.000-08:00

Simply Listen To My Audio Program.

In As Little As 35 Minutes, You Too

Can Enjoy a Comfortable and

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An Overview Of Parenting Books

2011-12-06T04:15:00.000-08:00

The best parenting books are the ones that are written by those with a story to tell about their own experiences. It can be difficult to want to even look at a parenting book featuring authorship by a person that is not even a parent, as his or her advice is typically coming from a place of general ignorance.

As parents, it is common to wonder how a person with no child-raising experience is at all qualified to write parenting books. Instead, most parents want a book written by someone with knowledge of parenting and all of the trials involved in the most harmful and dangerous of life's professions.

Many parenting books tend to take a viewpoint that looks at it as parenting from the inside out. This simple philosophy refers to the notion that authors of these books are reflecting on their own personal experience as a parent and are, therefore, offering parenting advice from someone experienced with parenting from the inside out. As someone who has been down many of the same roads before, parenting advice can typically be well-founded when it comes from an experienced parent.

Of course, not everyone that writes a parenting book needs to undergo systematic training for effective parenting. Often in lieu of systematic training for effective parenting, an author of parenting books may have a degree in pediatrics and may be experienced in child psychology. The author can then approach the prospect of writing parenting books from a position of expertise and not necessarily a position of experience.

In this matter, the advice and words from an author with such expertise would be well-founded, but the matter of whether or not it would be as broadly accepted as the same advice from an author that was an actual parent is another matter altogether.

Various BBC parenting specials, for example, often utilize the advice of several of Britain's highly trained pediatricians in their construction. These BBC parenting specials ask for advice from several of the UK's top experts on parenting and piece together a feature documentary based around that qualified information. The BBC then also asks the advice of parents.

In many of these specials, it is often amusing to examine the differences in advice given from the childless experts in comparison to the seasoned veteran parents. While both pieces of advice are typically genuine and can be considered "right", it seems that the advice from the actual parents in these cases is generally more realistic and based on actual experience as opposed to potential theory.

Parenting books are put together in the same fashion sometimes. Sometimes, a parenting expert will write a book based on the theory that they know of. Other times, a parent may pen a good parenting book.

Both books will contain good selections of advice and both books will be carefully researched, but parents may find that one type of parenting book may be more paramount in terms of their particular needs than another.

Regardless of the point of view, parenting books are often very helpful to parents who have lots of questions. Seeking out good advice can be difficult, but most of the parenting books on the market either contain advice based around specific experience or around specialized training from a proud academic.

Parenting books can be extremely helpful in developing a variety of parenting techniques and can offer new choices and solutions to parents in need of change.

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Ten Points to Reduce the Stress of Parenting

2011-12-06T00:55:00.000-08:00

Parenting is the most difficult and most important job we ever do. Unfortunately, despite the degree of difficulty and importance of the work, no one teaches us how to do it. Fortunately, there are many child raising experts who can help. I will mention a few experts; whose work I believe is valuable, throughout this article and I encourage readers to find experts whose work they like.

• Parents must be healthy, physically and psychologically. When parents feel comfortable with who they are they are free to give their children true, deep, unconditional love. Parenting is not about the parents, no child has ever asked to be born. A child's very existence is the responsibility of the parents, and it is the parent's responsibility to raise their children using healthy parenting skills. Parents must be able to understand why children behave as they do and not take a child's (from 1 day old to 18 years) behaviors personally. Jean Piaget made wonderful progress in the understanding of child development. A child's behaviors are not about the parent, and it's the parent's responsibility to help children learn how to manage their thoughts, feelings and behaviors, so they can grow up to be healthy members of society. This takes tremendous self-awareness from parents. Self awareness leads to awareness and understanding of others.

• Unconditional love involves praising children as much and often as possible. This does not mean unrealistic praise, because children intuitively know when they have not earned praise. It does mean age appropriate praise. So, when an infant focuses on someone's face and smiles at the person, praise is appropriate, because the infant is just beginning to learn how to interact. It is appropriate to praise babies when they take their first steps, because walking is a skill they need to learn. Praising a toddler for making scribbles on a piece of paper is appropriate, because the toddler is just learning how to do this. Victor Lowenfeld defined the stages of art development children go through. Praising toddlers for eating a few bites of healthy food, before they get a sweet is appropriate, because although babies crave sugar, it is important for them to learn how to eat healthy food. Praising a three-year-old for learning to use the potty is appropriate. The human brain is not fully formed until we are in our early 20s. Praising children, appropriately and according to their stage of growth, is important throughout childhood. This builds their self esteem and happier children reduce the stress of parenting.

• Playing with children is another way to give them unconditional love. The more you enjoy playing with your children the less stressful your job will be. Playing with your children is bonding with them, which parents and children need. Indeed, there is a book titled; "Play; How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination and Invigorates the Soul," by Stuart Brown and Christopher Vaughn. One of the chapters is titled "Parenthood is Child's play." Doing some research about play with children will help you use approaches to playing with them that are age-appropriate. Learning about age-appropriate play is an investment in your relationship with your children which will help you feel less stressed. It is also important to play with children using a variety of areas of play so they may become well-rounded adults. If you like using art supplies, it is best to start using those supplies with children, early, during their formative years, because they will grow into enjoying that sort of activity. The same is true with physical activity. If that is something you want your children to learn to enjoy, the earlier you begin to teach them how to enjoy physical activity, the better. Play is not something that can be forced. If you want your children to enjoy swimming, don't try to force them to do it. If they don't seem to enjoy doing it now, but see that you enjoy doing it (by example) they may take it up later in life. Music is another area of play that can bring great pleasure to most people. However, if it is forced on children they might rebel against it and never get to enjoy it. Parenting is a balancing act!

• Sharing the responsibility of parenting with at least one other person should reduce the stress of parenting. Preferably, both parents are involved, and both are physically and psychologically healthy and mature. When two parents are involved it is important for them to discuss parenting techniques to learn what they can agree on, and where they disagree and need to negotiate. Children are brilliant at splitting parents, if they know their parents disagree about something. For instance, if one parent does not believe it is important for children to eat their vegetables before they get their desert, the children will do their best to get that parent to make decisions over the other parent. That can cause dissension between the parents, and an unhealthy, stressful situation is set up. When parents are in extreme disagreement with each other, about how to raise children, the stress in the family increases tremendously. Parents must learn how to work with one another.

• Rules, limits and boundaries are everywhere in society. Freedom is not free. To have some semblance of order in society, we need rules, limits and boundaries. Raising children without rules, limits or boundaries sets them up to fail in a society where rules, limits and boundaries are necessary and in use. Because it is against our laws to assault another person, children need to learn how to treat other's with respect. It is imperative for parents to discuss with each other what rules, limits and boundaries they want to use. This can begin with parents writing out a list of what they value in life and what they want their children to value in life. Do you value sharing with others? Then you will want to teach your children how to share. Do you value the earth? You will want to teach your children how to live without polluting too much. Do you value kindness? You will want to teach your children how to be kind. These are just a few of the various areas that parents need to discuss and come to some sort of agreement about. Do you value independence? Then your children need to learn how to take care of their belongings and space, beginning in their toddler years. Putting toys away at the end of playtime is a valuable self care skill that toddlers can do and completing that helps them feel self confident.

• Learning positive discipline techniques is also important for parenting that reduces stress. Many good books about positive behavioral disciplining techniques have been written. My favorite technique is called "extinction." During the formative years, extinction is done by ignoring behaviors you do not want to continue. Give a behavior that you don't like, less attention, and it will eventually dissipate. This can be hard for many people, and I have had more luck with that technique than with any other. Another positive technique is to talk about the behavior that you don't like, instead of the child. For instance, if a child is standing next to you, in the house and is bouncing a ball, it is preferable to say something like, "Bouncing balls is done outside" instead of "You are annoying me!" In the first statement, the parent is talking about the behavior and making a clear rule. In the second statement, the child is held responsible for the parent's feeling. If parents try to make children responsible for their feelings, children will feel overburdened, defensive and become rebellious. Parents raise the level of stress in the home when they hold children responsible for their own feelings. Children cannot be made responsible for parent's feelings. Parenting is not about the parents. Haim Ginott wrote about a variety of approaches in three books, "Between Parent and Child" "Between Teacher and Child" and "Between Parent and Teenager." All three of these books have contributed greatly to positive parenting skills.

• The broken record technique is another positive assertive parenting skill. This involves calm, firm repetition of your boundary. Using the example from above, if the child resists the "balls are for bouncing outside" rule, the parent calmly, steadfastly repeats, "Balls are for bouncing outside," over and over until the child complies. If a parent can remain calm and firm, the stress level does not have to go up. Parents can outlast children in sort of battle of wills, because parents are, hopefully, more mature.

• Never talk negatively about children to other's in front of them. One way to understand why this rule is important is to imagine you are with two friends. One of your friends turns to the other one and begins to talk negatively about you, as if you were not there. How would you feel? We need to treat children the way we would like others to treat us. Talking negatively about children to other people in front of the children is shaming the children. If we need to discuss children's difficult behaviors, we can do so in a different room. When we treat children as well as we would like to be treated, we teach them positive social skills. We can teach children how to use, "Please" and "Thank-you" as soon as they begin to learn how to talk. The most important way to teach children how to be polite is by doing the same for them. When a toddler gives you something, always say "thank you". You are showing the child appreciation for the generous and thoughtful behavior of giving. If you treat that behavior as if the child is being giving and what they have given you is a gift, the child is learning how to be giving and how to say, "Thank-you." It is always important for us to treat our children with the utmost of respect, that is how they learn they are worthy of respect and to treat others with respect. Talking about children negatively in front of them is disrespectful. Hitting children is disrespectful. When parents behave this way toward children, they are increasing the stress of parenting.

• Pick and choose your battles. This concept is important to understand. The more you fight against, or criticize your children (you are the leader of the parent/child relationship, so you have the power to decide whether or not to criticize/fight) the more stressful parenting is. Therefore, it makes sense to decide what behaviors are worth fighting to change, what behaviors are worth encouraging or discouraging, and what behaviors are worth leaving alone. When a parent stops to think about it, many behaviors can be left alone. Fortunately, the ability to do this connects with the positive, behavioral, extinguishing technique listed above. So, if you decide that a behavior is not worth the fight, and choose to leave it alone, it will probably diminish. Because it is important to encourage children to eat a healthy diet, get enough sleep, share with each other, learn how to resolve conflicts with each other, and go to school; these behaviors are probably worth fighting for. Smaller behaviors that can be left alone might include behaviors that the parent just finds annoying. If a parent finds the behavior annoying, he/she should try to cope with it, instead of criticizing the child. For instance, it is normal for children to make noises. When children make noises it is a sign that everything is okay. Another example; when a child rolls her eyes after being corrected. All human beings, including children, have a right to all their feelings. When a parent scolds or corrects a child, the child will have a feeling in response. It's important to allow the child to have that feeling. That is especially true if the child follows the parent's direction. If she followed the parent's direction, the parent can allow the child to have her feelings and not take it personally. Pick and choose your battles. Relax and allow some things to slide.

• Be consistent and persistent. Children need structure. When children know that a parent is going to consistently follow a schedule and certain rules, they know what to expect next. This gives them the freedom to be creative within the structure created by the parent. They know what to expect, so they can relax and enjoy whatever they are doing. A persistent parent is able to stand by his or her rules firmly. A persistent parent does not allow herself to get frustrated if she has to tell children to do something 3, 5, 10, 20 or more times. This is when a parent can use the broken record technique. A persistent parent does not give in, unless there is a very good reason to do so. Children feel safer when they are with parents who are genuinely, calmly in charge. Parents who are consistent and persistent create a safe haven for their children. Parents who are in charge do not lose their temper or hit their children. When a parent loses his temper, he has raised the stress level for everyone. When a parent feels that angry and frustrated, he needs to take a time out for himself. Dr. Ross Greene is an expert who has developed many good approaches to problem solving with children.

The most important method for reducing the stress of parenting is through loving your children unconditionally. It is a child's job to grow up and become independent. It is normal for children to resist doing what their parents ask. If parents can be calm, persistent and firm about their most important requests, most children will comply, eventually. Children, who are receiving unconditional love, do not want their parent's disapproval. At the same time, they want to be independent. Parenting is a balancing act. The more a parent learns to understand children, the easier the job will be. Parents need to read as much as possible about child development.

Understanding children is easier with the help of experts. When parents know how normal children's behaviors are, they can relax and accept the behaviors that bother them more easily, despite feeling frustrated by those behaviors. Parents can then take care of their own feelings and the stress of parenting is reduced. It is well worth any parent's time to do some research to find experts they agree with. I believe that we have an inherent desire to be "good enough" parents. Most of us want be good parents and do as good a job, or better than the job our own parents did. That is a very healthy desire. It is well worth taking the time to learn more about it and to confront ourselves, when we are behaving out of feeling stressed, and change for the better.

Anne is a Board Certified Registered art therapist and Licensed Professional Counselor. Anne has been studying human development and relationships for over 45 years. She has been successfully working with families, in various capacities, for over 20 years. Her private practice is in the Mt. Airy section of Philadelphia PA. She specializes in helping people recover from various types of trauma, difficult changes and loss. Anne has an unusual ability to connect with children and adolescents, along with their parents. Parenting is the most important job we ever do, yet no one shows us how to do it or gives us the support we need. Anne has successfully coached many parents through a variety of critical stages in their children's lives. Annes greatest joy is helping people understand themselves and each other.

http://www.annescreativetherapy.com

Positive Parenting Plans

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And for those with adolescents and teens in Behavior Modification or Boarding Schools

A Parent Coordinator is an impartial third party available to assist parents in resolving issues relating to parenting and other family issues prior to their child moving on to their next program or school after wilderness, or prior to graduation or returning home from their residential program. The assist with:

Clarifying priorities prior to returning home or moving on to their next program or school

Developing a parenting plan that meets the needs of the child and the parents

Exploring possibilities for problem solving

Developing methods of collaboration in parenting

Identifying disputed issues

Reducing misunderstandings

This situation is different than when we are Parenting Coordinator's assigned by the court. In this situation the goal is not to modify any order, judgment or decree of the court. At times parents decide to divorce just prior to, or while their child is attending their residential treatment program or school. One way to help children through this early stage is have the assistance of a Parenting Coordinator to openly discuss what is happening in the family. In some cases, it makes more sense for children to hear about the decision to separate from both parents who have additional support. If this is the case, the Parent Coordinator makes sure that they works with your child's therapist. They repeatedly tell your child that both parents will always love them and that you will always be a family. The difference will be that when they return there will be two households. This is where a Parenting Plan can assist.

The Parenting Plan addresses any concerns the child may have like the need to maintain a relationship with both parents. It is very important that your children understand their relationship with both parents is forever and that they will never be abandoned. The Parent Coordinator can help explain that a divorce does not end your child's relationship with either parent. The marriage may end, however, the parent-child relationship will continue Generally, for a child in a youth program or boarding school, short, clear explanations are best. Remember they do not have to understand everything all at once.

Their understanding of your divorce will evolve as they get older and will change with their age. It is also a benefit that we will be able to work with their therapist in their behavior modification program or boarding school which means they will receive additional support. Another important message for kids to hear is that in no way is the divorce their fault, nor are they able to keep you together. When the idea of parents separating is completely new to your child, reinforce to them that you will make every effort to keep things stable for them. At the same time, let them know about upcoming changes. Remember children will ask the same questions repeatedly. This is normal and is their way of gaining a sense of security and reassurance about the future. It is important to keep your answers simple and consistent.

It is very important that both parents reinforce that the separation/divorce is taking place because of differences between the parents. Working with your child's therapist in their program helps you conduct such conversations without damaging or disparaging remarks about the other parent. Children adjust more easily when parents show a healthy sense of respect and caring for the other parent despite difficult circumstances. Co-parenting responsibilities apply to all parents whether they are married or divorced.

The extent that parents can effectively co-parent their children greatly determines how children will adjust after returning home from their emotional growth program or school. Parents who have a child returning home after graduation or completion of their program will now have to start dealing with more day-to-day issues concerning their child's welfare. Decisions, like those concerning religion, discipline, finances, morality, recreation, physical health, education and emergencies need to be discussed prior to their coming home. These decisions need to be discussed and made jointly. Remember that married parents often have differing ideas about all or some of these issues. This is to be expected. There is no reason to assume that divorced parents should always agree on them either. What's important is how you deal with differences, not that they exist. It is better for parents to agree to disagree and practice compromising than to argue and fight endlessly for their own way. This, however, is often easier said than done.

Parents who chose their battles and cooperate when there are differences are more likely to make healthy decisions for their children. In fact, nurturing an overall spirit of cooperation is more important than parents agreeing on any one particular issue. Also, parents who acknowledge and effectively deal with their own difficult feelings usually have an easier time. On the other hand, recurrent arguments between parents make life difficult for children and parents alike. When parents fight for their own agenda and neglect creating a peaceful environment, their children may develop bitter feelings and have difficulties later in life with their own intimate relationships. Remembering to relate maturely and with a healthy sense of respect for the other parent (even in the face of great differences and in some cases bad feelings) is the challenge for every parent. Fostering such an environment teaches children much about love, life, change, and family relationships. Being in a family style program or outdoor school brings about many changes in the lives of both parents and children. One change for children may be in their immediate support network. This might mean a loss of friendships and school ties. Some parents move to a new community before their child returns home. This move might also include changing relationships with extended family members. To minimize stress on your children and ultimately yourself, work to keep your lifestyle close to what it was prior to your child being in their residential program or school.

When possible, keep friends, family, school, and other community support systems stable. When changes are necessary, make sure you give your children ample notice about them and discuss them with your child's therapist while still in their program. The more comfortable parents are with such changes the more comfortable their children will be. In the days just after your child returns home from their youth program, or wilderness program there is usually an adjustment period that can last for several weeks and oftentimes several months. During this time, people are adjusting to new routines, schedules, and living situations. It may take time for life to seem normal again. Don't worry, eventually it will. Some kids are open about their feelings and the associated changes they experience. Others will be less vocal.

Make room for whatever your children are experiencing. It is a mistake to believe kids must talk about their feelings. Sample Checklist for a stable home environment after your child returns home from their program:

Avoid too frequent changeovers between homes if this is a two household family.

Be nurturing, supportive, and available.

Create routines and schedules.

Develop a firm parenting schedule that provides frequent and regular contact with the nonresident parent.

Do not burden children with adult responsibilities.

Do not rely on children to be your confidants or companions.

End parental conflict, at least within the child's earshot.

Provide clear rules and limits and be consistent

Support children's relationships with their other parent and that parent's extended family.

Seek out other sources of social support for your children.

A well-thought-out and executed parenting plan is an important tool for ensuring the health and well being of your children. A good parenting plan will outline how you will perform co-parenting responsibilities.

It also details how you will handle activities of daily living and caring for your kids. The parenting plan is a living document that must evolve with the needs of your growing children. Therefore, you do not have to include every potential situation you may encounter in the parenting plan. However, it must be revisited regularly to make sure it meets the needs of your family. Children are our most precious resource.

We must protect them from undue hurt and turmoil.

Dore E. Frances, Child Right's Advocate, Educational Consultant & Parent Coordinator
Horizon Family Solutions, LLC
Email: dore@dorefrances.com
Phone: (541) 312-4422
Fax: (541) 312-4420
Web: http://www.guidingteens.com

The Features of Parenting Magazine Online

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Parents often say that they know what is best for their children. While this is true, parents must admit that there are times they are clueless as to how exactly they should care for or deal with their children. This is where resources on parenting, such as parenting magazine online, can be of great help.

Obviously, the advantage of parenting magazine online is that it is easily accessible. Since most homes today have access to the internet, all that parents have to do is go online and search for the parenting help or information they need. Parenting magazine online seeks to address all the important and common concerns of different types of parents.

There is a parenting magazine online for parents of babies, toddlers, adolescents, troubled teens, and special children since the demands of each differ. There is also a parenting magazine online that targets moms or dads only, single parents, separated parents, foster parents, step parents and teenage parents.

A parenting magazine online can be a purely internet medium or an online version of a printed publication. In the case of the latter, parents have the option to subscribe to a magazine which they can collect, go back to at any time or lend to other parents. One disadvantage of parenting magazine online is that when their content changes, the previous write-ups are deleted from the site, unless they are archived online.

Nevertheless, a parenting magazine online features a bigger advantage of providing free information, tips and advice on all sorts of parenting concerns. But most sites will feature a parent's club that requires a membership fee. Of course, member parents get to enjoy special support, freebies, and special discounts on child products, for example.

Moreover, member parents get the opportunity to become part of an online community of fellow parents. Such a support group is an excellent source of inspiration, encouragement and confidence for many parents who are struggling with not only the practical aspect of parenting but also the emotional aspect of the experience.

Parenting magazine online is also an excellent way to get free advice from child and parenting experts such as pediatricians, nurses, and qualified counselors. Parents can get specialist advice on a wide range of health, safety and behavioral topics.

Find parenting articles, guidelines, how-to tips, recommendations and other useful information in a parenting magazine online. So, start browsing and begin learning how to become a better parent.

Milos Pesic is a single father and expert in the field of Parenting who runs a highly popular and comprehensive Parenting web site. For more articles and resources on parenting, teen parenting, step parenting, parenting classes and much more visit his site at:

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Top 10 List for Parents

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What is the definition of a "good parent"? Is it someone who is nurturing? Someone who is a disciplinarian? Someone who is a buddy? Perhaps a "good parent" possesses each of these qualities and many more. The challenge of parenting is that each parent must come to know their child - -and themselves -- and make critical decisions regarding the type of parent they will be. I believe that the definition of a "good parent" is a parent who prepares their child to live a life where the parent is no longer needed. In short, a parent who allows themselves to become "not needed" is perhaps the parent who is doing the task of parenting well.

My children, 18 and 17, are continuing towards that ultimate goal. Each day they make decisions that are more and more " their own". In my work teaching parenting at a local community center I have often been asked by clients, "what makes a good parent?" Because the task of parenting is so daunting and each parent and child so unique, the answer to that question is one I approach carefully and thoughtfully and with much humility. Yet, I believe that better parenting makes for a better world and that parenting is done in concert with others who have lived and learned. Here are my suggestions:

1 - Say "yes" as much as possible. Saying yes does not mean no limits. You can say, "Yes, you can have a cookie AFTER you eat your dinner." or "Yes, you can play with your friend AFTER you clean your room."

2 - Hold on loosely but don't let go. Sure, it's a rock song, but it works in most relationships, especially parenting. The goal of parenting is to make dependent people independent in every way: socially, financially, spiritually and emotionally. I compare good parenting to a sledding slope. The first fives years are about the basics: getting all the required gear together, getting comfortable, finding the groove. This is the hard, physical and sometimes exhausting work. The next five years is the trek up the mountain where issues of trust in the parenting relationship are at their most delicate. Kids are asking, "Can I count on you?" during these times and parents must answer back, "Absolutely". The next five years is the trek down where it is all about just guiding and enjoying the ride and recovering from any wipe outs. Celebration and reflection are the hallmarks of this stage.

3 - Know the difference in covenant and contract. A covenant is an agreement based upon one person whereas a contract is an agreement based upon two people. Parenting is a covenant in the sense that love is there for children at no cost, expense or effort on their part. My children cannot earn my love, it is mine to give. There are things in the relationship, though, that need contractual agreements, not necessarily in the legal sense but in the agreement sense. "When you finish your homework, we'll go to the movie." or "when your grades rise, you can have access to the car."

4 - My children are not "mine". I'm grateful (and humble) for being a part of the process of creating my children but they are not mine. I do not own them and in fact, the role I have is to provide them the opportunity for them to be the "boss of themselves" not for me to be the "boss of them".

5 - My children are not to carry on my dreams. What a tremendous burden it is for kids to struggle under the weight of their parents hopes and dreams. I want my kids to have their own dreams, not be burdened with unmet dreams of my life. That means that when they are on the playing field of life -- either metaphorically or physcially - my role is to cheer on my kid and their team. My kids are not there to struggle under my past no matter how glorious or pathetic.

6 - Speak truth into their lives whenever possible. Parenting is an opportunity for parents to create an opportunity where children see themselves in the story of life. This means that parents can literally speak what can be into the lives of their children whenever possible. This is why the messages that parents give their children are so important because from a child's point of view the parent is the mirror in which they see themselves. Sometimes it may sound like a fiction story when you say d, "I know you can accomplish _____ goal!" And sometimes it may be the impossible dream. The goal of dreaming is to create a new reality that can be accomplished simply by seeing possibilities over obstacles, the good in the bad, the possible in the impossible.

Conversely, it is the parents role to guide the child into areas where they may be more suited. While I would never discourage my children to try new things I can see where they may have more natural gifts and can encourage their development in music, arts or athletics whenever I can. The ultimate decision for where I child goes, however, is their own.

7 - Be a screw up - I believe that kids need guidance, not perfection. In fact, I believe the role of parenting is to create completion not perfection. Parenting, by design, is as much about parents formation as it is the kids. This humble approach to parenting is transformative in that parents will learn as much about themselves and the world through the process of good parenting as the kids will.

8 - Companion to #7 - Say "I'm sorry" quickly - I have no problem saying "I blew it!" to my kids when appropriate. The reality is I blow it everyday. While it is humbling to realize that my kids already know more math skills than I ever will, it is also reassuring. No parent can know everything nor can any parent be everything for their child. A parent can, however, let their child know that they are cared for and that they are not alone.

9 - Have a partner - Whether married or not, parents need support. I am grateful for my husband of 21 years who is gifted in ways that I cannot ever be. As our kids have grown up I am comforted by how my husband can untangle a knot with our kids. At other times my parenting skill set may be more suited to a given situation. Knowing the needs of the child and what is most needed at the time is a skill to be learned as you know your child. Be patient with this process and with yourself. (Refer to 7 & 8 above!)

10 - Pray a lot - I believe that kids are part of life's design with a creator that knows everything they need before they ever take a first breath. In fact that is my prayer in the murky days of parenting, "YOU know what they need, help them in spite of me."

Maurie Traylor is the parent of two teenagers, holds a BS in Family Relations and Child Development from Oklahoma State University and teaches Nurturing Parenting for Tulsa Parent Child Center. She believes that good parenting skills can be learned and that good parents make for a better world.

The Most Effective Parenting Styles

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Effective parenting technique is a puzzling topic that sometimes burnt out experts and became a topic of brewing debates. However, developmental psychologists only began to study parenting and its influences on children in the 1920's. Most experts studying the most effective parenting technique rely on the concept of Diana Baumrind's three parenting styles, in which was found the authoritative parenting style to be the most balanced and healthiest.

Parenting can be seen as broad and limitless, when taking into consideration the differences in family values within the context of the norm, religious concepts, and many other ideals that shape the way parents deal with their children. Yet, failure in parenting cannot be solely blamed on specific instances but is seen as a typology of general practices of parents.

So what is the effective parenting technique? As broad as it might sound, authoritative parenting combines parental responsiveness and parental demandingness vis-à-vis the age of a child. Parental responsiveness describes a parent's intent to foster self-regulation, individuality, and self-assertion by being supportive of and adjusting to a child's needs and desires. Parental demandingness relates more to controlling a child's behavior that is seen as inappropriate, and a parent's willingness to enforce gentle disciplinary efforts, and confronting a child who intentionally disobeys or has committed a mistake.

You can do age-specific activities or discipline in order to set limitations but not to a point of taking full control over your child's life. Parents, themselves, need to acknowledge differences in personality styles, ideas, and life perspectives especially when a child has grown into an adolescent.

Other experts, meanwhile, advocate attachment parenting as the effective parenting technique to use on infants. Dr. William Sears and his wife, Martha, were the first to describe attachment parenting as a style that highly demands responsiveness from parents. This style of parenting negates the popular belief of not responding to a baby's cry immediately so as not to spoil him/her. Attachment parenting advocates believe that crying is a baby's instinctive and survival tool, which is their only means of communication to the world.

Both authoritative and attachment parenting are found to be the most effective parenting styles today, with studies showing positive results from children raised with these styles of parenting. Attachment parenting, in particular, advocates emotional closeness between parents and child to promote self-esteem and social competency later in life. Looking closely, these two styles of effective parenting techniques have similarities in terms of responding to children's needs and correcting ill behaviors in order to raise intellectually, emotionally, and socially-competitive individuals.

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