Musings of the Lame; life as a birthmother in adoption

The Open Adoption Experiment

admin — Fri, 24 May 2013 10:15:33 PDT

I look at the photographs of my childhood and I can see the big smiles, and all the gifts under the Christmas tree. I can see how most people would look at me and see a happy adopted 16.5 year old girl. Most people would think I am lucky to have two families, other adopted people may think I am fortunate to know my genetic history, my heritage and where I came from. But what I see is different from what other people see; I can plainly see the pain behind the smile.

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Adoption and the Use of Illegal Substances

admin — Fri, 17 May 2013 07:00:23 PDT

Forced adoption is a drastic step; there aren’t words to express the trauma it causes to all concerned. It surely should be preserved as a last resort, a final call for those cases where children are in grave danger and need a fresh start. In the case of loving parents who also happen to use illegal substances there are almost certainly much more appropriate methods to help, if help is required.

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Adoption Poetry: “Fallen Angel”

Claudia Corrigan DArcy — Sun, 12 May 2013 07:10:15 PDT

I put the wings on they gave me Woven of diaphanous words "Gift giver" "Selfless" "Angel" They kept me aloft for awhile Where I hovered above my son and his family Their voices murmurs far below

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Societies Attitude when Birth Control Fails

Claudia Corrigan DArcy — Fri, 10 May 2013 08:31:20 PDT

"Yet whether it was an accident, ambivalence, or a careless mistake, it’s always the woman’s fault. She allowed herself to get pregnant. She couldn’t keep her legs closed" Other women, other mothers, who have faced the surprising results on the dreaded "pee stick of doom". But it's not about adoption, it is in support of parenting, and parenting young. Rolling with the natural and biological results of sex, accepting a pregnancy before it's time and the battles of birth control, but most of...

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Re-Marketing Adoption

Claudia Corrigan DArcy — Wed, 08 May 2013 10:34:04 PDT

On a foundation of good intentions and corruption, domestic infant adoption has rebranded itself thorough strategic public relations moves, market research and a well funded legislative lobby. While the public thinks sweet thoughts about adopting all those "unwanted children", the adoption industry creates a product and cashes in on a billion dollar business.

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A Typical “Open” Adoption

admin — Sun, 05 May 2013 23:00:37 PDT

They agreed to send updates (letters and pictures) every 6 months until she turned 18 and kept up with that until about 3 years ago when the updates suddenly stopped. No explanation, no warning, nothing. The updates were being sent to me through CHS so I called the agency and got the run around. This, to me, is one of the most heartless and cruel things that can be done to a Mother and I’m in utter shock that this is actually happening.

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Spouse of A Birthmother Asks: How Do I Tell My Children?

Claudia Corrigan DArcy — Thu, 02 May 2013 10:28:03 PDT

And like many of us affected by adoption, for a spouse of a birthmothers, it helps just to know that one is not alone, which is then altered with the desire to help others also feel that validation and acknowledgment. I do infrequently run into other spouses that wish there was more public support. Perhaps one day we will have something really good for you all. Of course, we'll have to make it ourselves. The adoption industry probably never will, as then they will have to admit that adoption...

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Genesee Valley Monthly Search Group

admin — Wed, 01 May 2013 16:53:24 PDT

WHEN: First Wednesday of the Month 7pm to 9pm WHERE: Hillside Children's Center 2075 Scottsville Road, Rochester NY BONUS: Jeff Hancock Runs the group!

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Hudson Valley Adoption Support Group Monthly Meetings

admin — Wed, 01 May 2013 10:29:55 PDT

WHO: Hudson Valley Adoption Support Group WHEN: 1st Thursday of every month WHERE: locations change, please confirm BONUS: You get to hang out with me!!

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RIARG: RI Adoptees Resource Group Monthly Meetings

admin — Wed, 01 May 2013 07:41:39 PDT

WHO: RIARG: RI Adoptees Resource Group WHEN: 3rd Thursday of every month WHERE: 5 New London Avenue Cranston, RI BONUS: John Greene runs this Adoptee Support Group!!

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