tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-42349271647350064182025-05-07T14:35:12.776+01:00Sharing experiences to ignite conversations about relationships and life in generalChantel Marthahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08562776764093617568noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4234927164735006418.post-87947738724053005642016-11-15T22:52:00.000+00:002016-11-15T22:52:08.516+00:00

*walks in, looks around and starts clearing all the cobwebs..lool* Yes i know i have away...dollar is high..that's my excuse and i'm sticking to it. ‘I hate how she presses the toothpaste from the middle and not the bottom’ ‘Oh and let’s not even talk about the fact that he doesn’t replace the cap back on after using the toothpaste’ And then what? I ask. Often times I wonder why

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‘Don’t be too successful and chase the men away’ she said and I replied; ‘if a man is scared of my success then that’s not the kind of man I want to be with’…so I looked at him and asked ‘are men really scared of strong successful women?  He pauses for a while then says; ‘the honest truth is men like strong successful women and every woman wants same from her man but there is more

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Blogger & OAP, Elsie Godwin, Releases New Photos To Celebrate Her Birthday Elsie Godwin, a final year student of Lagos State University, is a Nigerian Entrepreneur who has carved a niche as a prolific Lifestyle and Relationship online and on-air personality. In 2014 she identified and saw the need to be heard, her strong opinion on relationship and

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source  First of happy new year! Let's pretend I've being here all along.  Hold up! Before we get into the crux of the matter *takes a look at Elsie, wink wink*, let me make something very clear. I am not and I repeat I am not an overly romantic person. Maybe I’m just ‘old fashioned’ when it comes to dating? I don’t know. But anyway, I’ve noticed a trend as of late that has

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source  So I saw this screenshot message from an older woman telling all younger women how to act in their marriages. She was of the opinion that ‘all men cheat’. Hours after, my cousin sends me a link to the picture and we start to talk about it. So she’s saying to me that she has friends who have told her the same thing and she wanted to know my opinion about it. Personally I

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i got tagged in this award (pic above) by the ever wonderful Honeydame. I was suppose to respond to this like ages ago but procastination is a rubbish thing. Anyhow i've decided to get around to it before the award is taken away *smile*. Here we go.  1. What is your secret weapon to lure the opposite sex, boy/girlfriend, husband/wife, potential? (hahahahaha, for the heck of it)

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This is not my usual kind of post but I just had to write about this. This is a story of my Lagos experience. Is that even the right title for this post? anyway, Would I consider myself an aje butter? Ermmm I think so. But hey I have kpaki in me. Let’s just say I can be whatever I want to be. Is me that have myself abi? Anyway sha back to the matter. I am one of those people who would be

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I have been away but I am kind of back. Let’s just pretend I have been here all the while okay. Anyway in my away time, I did some reflecting and I put together 25 thoughts on love, relationship, friendship and becoming a better me.  1. Live with self-esteem at the heart of your interactions because if you don’t love you, you would end up acting without love, care, trust, and respect

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I don’t know about you, but I am my own worst critic. I’m usually the first to notice my short comings and I would beat myself over and over again for it. As a child, I hated broken crayons. I just felt it was not good enough to color. But then I would see someone else pick up the same broken crayon and color with it and it would come out beautiful. What’s my point, well we

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Happy 2015. Greetings from C’s World. So I’m still in the holiday mode seeing that I spent half of my holiday time ill anyway and just when I’m recovering properly, it’s time to get back to work. Me no like. But me need money…so okay. I want to thank you all for taking the time to read my thoughts on relationships and self-esteem. Your support means a lot and I am humbled that I've

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I LOVE Christmas. I love all the smell of roasted chicken, Jollof rice, cake, Alcohol and do you know that you can eat as much as you want? No guilt. This is the time I would eat salad with cream in it and not feel guilty. And do you know that the taste of Xmas jollof rice is very different? Yes it is indeed. I love knackered family traditions that make no sense but would be sacrilege to

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Like seriously, is it a competition or is it just from insecurity? Every time a guy tells me how big his ding dong is and how great of a sex partner he is, it just makes me laugh. Like honestly what’s the point really? If I haven’t asked you, why in the world are you telling me? Infact why are you trying to convince me of how great you are in bed? Are you trying to convince me or is it

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Forgive my absence..work has being kicking me left, right, centre. It hurts when the realisation hits you that when it comes to certain people or a certain someone in your life, nothing and I mean absolutely nothing, zilch is ever enough. You could literally walk over hot coal, have fireworks shooting out of your ears, agree with everything that they say and they’ll do the equivalent of, ‘

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The ‘I can change him’ syndrome occurs when a woman focuses all of her energies on fixing anything she deems to be incorrect about her man. So basically, like a house, you renovate your man and if you’re lucky, you get to hold onto him, but sometimes that man may just get cocky and put himself up on the market for a new lady owner because after you've finished making him attractive to you, he’s

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PS: It’s my view so pardon me for speaking about it only from my own perspective. So if you get confused just go back and read the title.  Breaking up for many is a hard task. It’s hard for both parties really. The initiator and the reactor. Personally, I have been on both sides of the slate, and I would have to say it’s painful on both ends. But I must say that it totally sucks when

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source I think we’d all like to say that every guy we’ve slept with was an amazing lover, but let’s be frank here, if you've slept with a few people, there’s been at least one bad lover. Just think about it. However, remember that it takes two to tango. You can’t just lie there like a sack of potatoes and expect him to do all of the work without communicating if you dislike something he’s

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I got tagged by the ever so beautiful Toin. So I am obliged to do a 20 random fact tag about my beautiful self. Yes I know you have being dying to know about me cause am awesome like that. If you say I lie go call police. Read and enjoy.  I cannot I repeat cannot do without internet. Like when I don’t have internet I feel like my whole world would collapse. Sometimes I am

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source You know there used to be a time when people were very uncomfortable talking about sex openly but now it seems like that’s the ‘new cool’. I judge not. Am just amazed at how everyone is now being so open about it. (ermm no am not tbh)  Okay we are all sinners…shikena. Anyway so this post is as a result of some #NHBi thing I saw on Twitter… (Mind you I have no idea what #NHBi

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source People sure know how to ask stupid questions really. But as a single person, with time yeah you become fodder for oodles of stupidity because for some reason your life is seen as being less than that of someone who is attached. I am of the opinion that some people who are attached are secretly envious of singles as we are footloose and fancy free. However, this doesn't stop me from

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source With great power comes great responsibility. So I think it’s time some girls (me included) started taking responsibility for some men being ‘Jerks’. Frankly, there is more to a girl demanding respect for herself instead of just screaming at guys when they act like…well GUYS. Am tired of girls whining about how a guy ‘wronged’ them when they give the guy a reason to be stupid by

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Love for me isn’t being with someone who makes you feel weak, like you can’t do anything without them. No one needs love that would keep reminding them of their weaknesses. Instead find love that knows your weaknesses but still tells you you’re strong. Love that encourages you. Makes you feel strong and when you fall picks you up and tells you it’s okay to fall. A love that makes you feel

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Sometimes we come across people we like hoping that they would like us back. But however, this person might just be so wounded from past relationships that at the moment they are emotionally unavailable and have baggage so full it can fill an airport terminal. Even with that, we tend to think that perhaps with us it just might be different…why? Because you think you can see past their

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You see am the kind of girl who likes to text. Jeez I can text all day and never get tired. But I also like phone calls too. So let me be clear about something, nobody and I mean absolutely nobody is soooooo busy that they can only manage to text, email or instant message you. Somewhere along the line, people find time to call even if it’s just for a minute. When a man relies primarily

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source It is wisdom that women need to set standards for themselves. Men respect standards. But the truth is everyone (maybe not everyone) has standards; or needs respect. Knowing yourself and what you want can be very powerful and attractive. However, unless the object of your interest is a mind-reader, better communicate and communicate clearly what you want or risk losing a great

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      They say you cannot step into the same water twice. True that. So for those of you who are wondering why I keep changing my blog look or whatever, please forgive me, am sorry. But am only trying to make it look better and sound better and have interesting stuff for you people to read so I don’t bore you. So many thanks to Toperants, a female 'blog consultant' and

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