THE Beautiful One

Weight or Wings

2026-07-05T18:45:06.440-04:00

Ladies...

Being single has it's struggles, and it's downsides.

But, when you live by the "weight or wings" philosophy, you choose YOU!

A man will either give you weight, or he will give you wings (or strengthen the one's you already have).

There are too many men out here who can't fly, and have no desire to fly.

But, are completely comfortable weighing a woman down.

I get it. He's cute! He's fun! He makes you laugh! So does puppies...

Listen, he can continue to do all of that in the FRIEND-ZONE.

Those wings you've developed, weren't Blessed upon you to be weighed down by a man who hasn't even developed "wing buds".

If he's not already flying, keep soaring in the other direction.

carry on

LEND Me Your Eyes

2026-07-05T18:43:05.780-04:00

LEND me your eyes...

Since relocating to Baton Rouge, I have experienced some traumatizing turmoil!

In the midst of it all, I have had people hold me down at EVERY obstacle (men and women).

But, this is more about men.

Men that I don't ever see, and don't even talk to everyday, make sure I am good.

I say that to say this...

Some of you women are waking up next to a man that has moved into your space that YOU created!

These same men can't, and WON'T, give you a ladder to climb out of the hole HE put you in!

You were not in a hole BEFORE him, remember?

If you do, I guess it's safe to say, you like taking care of a man that does nothing but dig holes that you have to dig yourself out of.

You deserve better.

Can't you see that?

carry on

Favor Ain't Fair

2014-09-26T02:16:00.000-04:00

Blessed and Highly Favored. This is something proclaimed by MOST Christians. Active and non active. Too Blessed to be stressed, the devil is a lie, God is good...all the time and all the time, well you know the rest. There are so many words and phrases that were created to be motivational and inspirational, but have just become cliches within the church world. Maybe that's because the church world has gotten to a place where the world doesn't look that much different.

Be ye separate. The power contained in these words are not as respected as they should be. Going to church every Sunday does not constitute as being separate. Praying before you eat does not constitute as being separate. Acting grateful, DEFINITELY, doest not constitute as being separate. Being separate does not necessarily consist of a physical separation. It consists of a separation of the mind, body, and spirit. A separation that allows you to connect with God in ALL that you do. To be in a place to hear from heaven in the midst of the living hell that so many people have tried to create for you. The day to day torture that is referred to as LIFE by some believers as well as non believers. To believe or not to believe, that is NOT the question. The question is...WHY?

Why does God rain on the just as well as the unjust? Matthew 5:45 states, and I quote, "That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for He maketh His sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust." The mere fact that God loves us all unconditionally, is something automatic. It does not have to be earned or appreciated. It's not based on whether we believe in Him or not. Whether we are just or not. Whether we live righteously or not. His love is everlasting and one of a kind. He gives it freely and without remorse or regret. His love is a form of favor that is shared by EVERY living thing.

God's favor is presented and spread about without warning, without preparation, and in many cases, without cause. He favors us just because. He doesn't need a reason. Mercy and grace is the foundation of favor, the two goes hand in hand. Mercy is what keeps you, grace is what delivers you. God will keep you with or without your desire to be kept. But, deliverance must be desired. To acknowledge that you need to be delivered is the first step to actually being delivered. HOW we are delivered is completely up to God. Just because we don't think that we have been delivered in the way that we EXPECTED to be delivered, does not mean that we were not delivered. God knows what we need to be delivered from, and He also knows the best kind of deliverance to give us. There's no rhyme or reason to it, it just is. This is where His favor seems to be UNFAIR.

Each of us are individuals with individualized needs and desires. We are given the minute ability to see within ourselves so that WE can have some idea of what we THINK we need. God has unlimited access to the INNER US, and He can see things that we can not see. He discloses to us, about ourselves, what He knows we can handle. Everybody is not ready for everything. That's because of our uniquely different, personalized self's. Since we are so uniquely different, our Blessings must be tailored to meet our individualized needs. Blessings are the melting pot of favor. From the outside looking in, we have a tendency to conclude that some people are favored more than others. This may be true. But, if we look at things from a spiritual perspective, we know that there are things that are unknown to us, and we can not possibly see the entire picture. That's where we must have faith. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen. Our faith is what helps us to be accepting of whatever God Blesses us with. It also helps us to rejoice in the Blessings that are received by others. Most importantly, faith is what gives us the strength to carry on, even in the midst of a storm. We know that God will bring us through. We know that He sees our faithfulness. Most importantly, we know that FAVOR AIN'T FAIR.

carry on

Celebrate getting married, or getting married to celebrate?

2014-06-26T21:11:00.000-04:00

Hello Loves. Life has been at a place that I am not familiar. I've had so much going on. Despite it all, despite of myself, God is still good. He keeps me when I don't have the drive to keep myself. I can't complain. I am grateful for the good, the bad, and the ugly. The year has brought me more disappointments than triumphs, but I count it all joy. I can't do anything but be positive, that's all I know. People depend on my positive energy, and my positive direction. I have to depend on God to give me the words to speak to my friends. So many people are hurting. So much pain is being caused by the one's we love. Relationship issues have become so prominent on the distress list. Everything that glitters is not gold. Just because people want you to think that they are happy in their relationship, does not mean that you should be fooled by the fakeness. When people seem OVERLY happy, they are usually unhappy. Relationships are hard, they take work. Marriage will not resolve anything if you are unevenly yoked.

Marriages that are ordained by God, are a gift from God. All marriages are NOT ordained by God. People get married for the wrong reasons, to the wrong person, everyday. This is happening in the church, more than the world. The divorce rate of saved people is much higher than that of people who do not claim to be saved. Why? People are getting married to appease the church. To appease their mate. Or just to say that they are married. Marriage is serious. It was not created so that divorce can be existent. Nowadays, you can't have one without the other. Or can you?

When you allow God to lead you to your mate, divorce wouldn't be an option. It is not acceptable for a woman to propose to a man, according to God. The proposal is the responsibility of the man and the man alone. When a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. I understand that some are saying, well my wife or fiance didn't propose to me. That may be so. But, if she nagged you, kept throwing hints, and suggested to you that the two of you should be married, she may as well have proposed. If a man proposes to a woman to appease her, this is not acceptable unto God. Proposing to make her feel secure is the foundation for an unstable, unhealthy, and failed marriage. Do it God's way. If your heart is with someone else, you need to be with that person. Why spend the rest of your life with someone, knowing that your love for someone else is greater. KNOW for yourself what direction God is telling you to go. KNOW for yourself what's a distraction. KNOW for yourself when YOU are required to step up to the plate and claim the one that God desires you to be with. That was for the men. The rules are a little different for women.

Ladies, even though we are living in a time where our society is pushing equal rights and male/female equality, the word has not changed. It will not return void. It will do just what it was set out to do. Allow God to send you your husband. Throwing hints to your man is just a subtle way of asking him to marry you. If he wants to marry you, he will tell you. His proposal should be confirmation of what God has already told you. Well, that is if you are connected to God the way you should be. Proposing to a man is not God's way. Nagging a man into marriage is not God's way. Questioning a man about his past until he proposes to you, just to appease you, is not God's way. Let a man be a man. He doesn't need any help in that area. Your marriage will be prosperous for it. Your marriage will have peace because of it. It doesn't matter how good a man may seem, if he is not following Christ, he is not a man that you should desire to marry.

Man is the head of HIS house. God is the head of man. This is written. If this is not the hierarchy of what's evident in your man, wait on the Lord. For the men, if she is not a true, undeniable follower of Christ, and you are, how can you possibly expect her to follow you? Church on Sunday, cussing like a sailor on Monday. Love you and your children to your face, but despise your children behind your back. Never has time or a dime to help you when you are down, but the first one with her hand out when God Blesses you with overflow. KNOW what you are getting into BEFORE the nuptials. God will give you insight and discernment when it comes to these things. He will not leave you to make decisions alone. The hardest decisions are the easiest one's to mess up.

When you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone, you should have already decided to allow Christ to lead you. The decision is made even before the proposal. The decision is made even before the proposal is accepted. When a man proposes to a woman, he should be ready to marry her even before he proposes. When a woman accepts a proposal, she should be ready to get married even before she accepts the proposal. The devil tries to be in the details of anything holy. Know that he is standing there watching you whenever you try to do what's right and good. Knowing is half the battle. If you know that God will never leave you or forsake you, then you have to be willing to recognize that sometimes cold feet is not cold feet. It can be God tugging at you telling you not to do what you are about to do. Saying I do is the easiest thing in the world. STAYING I do is where the challenge lies. The devil can give a false sense of security and love to distract us from what God desires us to have. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result. Some reservations are red flags. Some red flags are stop signs. God will make every attempt to stop you from making the same mistake TWICE. You have to be at a Spiritual place to know that it's Him. Get to that Spiritual place and stay there. If God didn't tell you to marry this person, then why are you? When God is in it, you can celebrate getting married. When God is not in it, you will get married just to celebrate.

Be Careful For...NOTHING

2014-03-04T17:53:00.000-05:00

Hello Loves! I know, I haven’t blogged in awhile. Focus has not come easy to me this year. There has been so many things rising up, and my Spiritual energy has been drained. Despite my strengths, despite my gifts, even the strong needs to feed and glean. I was at a point where I had nothing to give anyone. I was too busy fighting to maintain my own faith in the midst of my many attacks. It’s not by chance that our battles are ENORMOUS this year, at the start of year.

This is 2014, haven’t you noticed? Take the time to add the digits, they will add up to be 7. There is Biblical significance in the number 7. The number 7 is God’s number of completion. This year will be the year that so many of us will receive what we have been praying and waiting for. This will not come without a battle. In battle, out of battle, before battle, and after battle, it is imperative that we remember that the battle was already won before we were even thought of. The fear factor, the intimidation factor, and the idea of being rejected while standing firm on our beliefs, has caused so many of us to be hesitant in our words and actions. We are the good, we are the one’s that should be able to make a difference. We are not the enemy, nor are we a part of his militia.

While so much of the world has been consumed with evildoers, spirits, the whole nine yards, the believers, I mean the TRUE believers, have got to be consumed with God’s work. God’s will. Sometimes it seems as though the righteous are the minority, and the self-righteous and the un-righteous are the majority. We have gotten to a place where we fret over the things that are evident, and we fear the things that are not so evident. Why are we worrying about things that are out of our control? Why are we afraid to deal with the things that are in our control? Has the people of God gotten to a place where we have been silenced because of the backlash that we will suffer for God’s namesake? What’s happening different from what we SHOULD have expected when we decided to walk this walk?

Were we brainwashed into thinking that things would be easier when we become followers of Christ? Our vision has been tainted by the prosperity preachers that are teaching us, well some of us, that everything will be peaches and cream once we join the army of the Lord. I’m here to serve notice that the closer you get to Christ, the greater the attacks will be. The more Spiritual you become, the harder the natural man will fight! The main focus of ALL living things is to survive. When that survival is threatened, any and all organisms when fight to stay alive by any means necessary. Our curiosities have made us weak. Our love for others has made us gullible. Our compromised faith has put us in a place where we may fall prey to the enemies at hand.

There's a difference between being paranoid, being cautious, and being careful. Paranoia is associated with a lack of trust. Caution is fueled by fear. The word says, "Be CAREFUL for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God."(Philippians 4:6). Simply put, it means to have no distressing anxiety about anything. God has already made a covenant with us. As long as we follow the “IF”, God will surely follow the “THEN”. He is not a man that he should lie. His word will not return void, it will do what it was set out to do. WE must be mindful of this and draw strength just from KNOWING this. While we’re in battle, while we’re going through, while we’re praying for clarity, we MUST continue to Praise. Deliverance is in your Praise. Confuse the enemy, Praise Him in advance. Be careful for nothing. Remember that God’s got it. It’s already done. carry on

Choose your Father...CONSCIOUSLY

2013-08-19T09:16:00.001-04:00

Hello Loves! Let me be the first to say, I have been slipping when it comes to blogging. It's not that I haven't thought about it. It's not that I have nothing to say. It's definitely not that God has stopped speaking to me. It's just because, I honestly thought no one was reading my blog. So, why even blog? Well, I have been contacted by several someone's, curious as to why I stopped blogging. I think I need to get back to doing what I enjoy so much. Touching someone's life in a positive way. My mind has been going a million miles a minute, as usual. It was a little difficult trying to decide what to blog about. Family structure and our ability to choose our family members, is a topic that most people never think about. Here's my take on family. Specifically, Father's.

Life is a beautiful thing. Life is something that so many people take for granted. Even the one's who claim to appreciate life, are not making a sincere effort to LIVE. God decides who is born, who their parent's are, who their siblings are, and who their family is. For the most part, our blood line is set in stone. There's not a lot we can do about that. So we think.

Naturally, we are born into sin. We are all created by the same process, and enter the world the same way. We know that it takes a woman and a MAN to conceive a child. We have no idea when we are being conceived or who the two people are that will contribute to our conception. Yes, our parent's are just contributors, God is the creator. As children, we behave as children. Most, not all of our decisions, are based on what we are taught, and what our parent's allow us to do. We never consider the fact that someday we will have to make a choice. We will have to choose who our eternal father will be.

Regardless to what, God is our Father. Whether we acknowledge Him or not. But, the way we live our lives dictate who WE believe to be our father. The life we lead, the decisions we make, good or bad, are a reflection of our father. Children are representatives of their parent's. Adults are representatives of themselves and their Father. One God, one Father. Yes, in a perfect world, this is true. But, considering that we live an imperfect existence, there must be an opposite of perfection. That imperfection is the Devil.

When we choose to serve God, we openly accept Him as our Father. But, when we choose otherwise, then that choice becomes our father. We can not openly choose our natural parents. But, God has given us the right to choose our Spiritual father. We can't just speak, and acknowledge the fact the we have chosen God as our Father. We must live according to our own words. We must live according to God's words. When we do ANYTHING less, we are glorifying that which should not be glorified. We are choosing that which should not be a choice. So many people claim to be a follower of Christ. So many people claim God as their Father. But, the way we treat other's, the way we treat ourselves, the way we treat our children, our total lack of respect for God, all of these things are indicators that we do not truly choose God as our Spiritual Father. Of all the choices we can make in life, there is just ONE choice that should be automatic. This choice should never be argued. But, we live in a world where people are looking for something, anything, to discredit God.

Give credit where credit is due. A theory is a theory, we all know this. But, theories are meant to be disproved. Considering that we are not in a place to PROVE God's power, we're also not in a place to DISPROVE God's power. It is our responsibility to KNOW God for ourselves. It is our duty to live a life that compliments what our Father has taught us. Our individual walk can give the world some personalized insight as to the power of God. Every choice that we are presented with should not be a choice. There's no comparison. Choosing God as our Father should not consist of a thought process. There's nothing to think about. But, we do need to think about our words, our actions, and most importantly, our thoughts. This is proof as to who we choose as our Father.

There should be no doubt in the minds of anyone who interacts with us as to who our Father is. Our loyalty should be obvious, and not able to be challenged. No one should wonder who we are, whose we are, what we are, or who we choose to serve. Our lives should be evidence of our undying choice. Bringing ourselves under subjection is an individual check and balance that we should frequently practice. We should look at ourselves, our lives, several times a day. I am who I am, I choose God as my Father. My desire is that people can CLEARLY see Him in me, each and every day. Anything else will require clarity. I love you. carry on

^{Joshua 24:15}

¹⁵But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

Through the Eyes of A...STRANGER

2013-03-20T21:38:00.002-04:00

Hello Loves! My transitions have been phenomenal, but tiring. This entire year has been a year of clarification, revelation, and manifestation. My faith is great, I feel Spiritually empowered! But, in the midst of all of the wonderful things that God has shown ME, I have come to the recollection that people do not KNOW me.

It's an eye opening experience when the people that you thought knew you, really don't KNOW you. To know me is to know God. He is my everything. Your specific prayers to Him will reveal everything you need to know about me. Key word, "NEED". It is not necessary for everyone to know everything about you. When you look at me, what do you see?

Beneath all of the polish, class, and beauty, there is an inner me. The inner me is the most important part of me. It defines who I am, and it proves that I am who I say I am! Not that I live for the approval or acceptance of others. But, I LIVE for the approval and acceptance of others. The reason being is this. God made me who I am for a reason. He has given me the mind, and put me in a place of leadership. The fact that I claim to be His, I must live as if I am His. The Jesus in me, is what I want others to see. But, it's kind of hard to see that, relate to that, or accept that, if you are not a true believer. If you do not have a personal relationship with Christ, there is no possible way that you can have the Spiritual eye that it takes to see "ME".

"ME", yes "ME", who am I? What do others see? I had to put myself in a place of a strange and unknown person. I had to look at myself as if I had not been with myself my entire life. I had to view myself as a person that has never been introduced to Christ. That was a lot harder than I thought it would be. From my perspective, I was successful in this endeavor. As I looked at myself through the eyes of a stranger, I noticed some things that did not set me apart from others.

My greatest desire is to be what God desires me to be. To be this, I need to be set apart from others. To sum it up. I must seem strange and peculiar to the believers and to the non believers. The fact that I had become very impatient with people, and God, did not set me apart from others. I love people because I love people, so I thought. The fact that I would pick and choose who to openly love, did not set me apart from others. Most importantly, my moments of boredom, anxiety, anger, agitation, lust, irritation, and above all, my moments of feeling unfulfilled! These things made me look just like everyone else. Through the eyes of a stranger, this can make me seem unapproachable, unhappy, selfish, self absorbed. All of these perceptions are perceptions that are not of God. I need to be seen as a Woman of God. I need to be seen as strange and peculiar. I need to be seen as LOVE! Love is the greatest gift of all. If these things can not be seen through the eyes of a stranger, then I have defeated myself.

Self defeat is not an option. God has already made provisions so that we can be undefeated. We, yes WE, put ourselves in a place of self destruction! If we have gotten to the point that we no longer find it necessary to look at ourselves through the eyes of a stranger, we need to accept the fact the we have sabotaged our own salvation. The devil doesn't have to do anything. We are unintentionally tearing down the Kingdom of Heaven. We are supposed to be Kingdom Builders. We are not perfect. We are in the flawed flesh. Knowing God, having a personal relationship with Him, and being Spiritually empowered does not make us perfect. It makes us perfect for GROWTH.

Go with God. Grow with God. Never forget where you came from. Never forget who you used to be. Never forget that when much is known, much is required. Never forget to look at your OWN self, through the eyes of a stranger. I love you! carry on

A Man's Love

2013-02-04T08:55:00.000-05:00

Hello Loves! It's been too long, much too long since I have blogged. The direction of my life has changed, abruptly. I honestly think I went into Spiritual shock there for awhile. I am coming back into my own, and the blurriness in my vision is clearing up. Today, this morning to be exact, began as a day of clarity and reminiscing. I feel Blessed for that. My life is not my own, I know this, but sometimes I can remember times when I felt like I OWNED my life. In my remembering, I often think of my Daddy. He is the most AWESOME man I have ever known.

My Daddy was a very hard working man, he is retired now. His family was a priority, and his God was an even greater priority. If my Daddy wasn't at work, he was at church. My Mommy would take advantage of every opportunity available for us to spend time with him. Quality time. One of my fondest memories of these moments, was my Daddy's lunch breaks at his job.

My Daddy retired from Pepsi Cola, he worked there for over 30 years. My Mommy used to regularly take us to his job to have lunch with him. I used to be so anxious to see my Daddy. To this day, my Daddy's favorite meal is breakfast, and I still get excited when I see him. My Mommy would make breakfast for my Daddy's lunch. She would cook pancakes, sausage, bacon, and eggs for our picnic brunch. My Daddy's face would light up when he saw us. That was the greatest feeling in the world. After lunch, he would take me into the plant. The bottling plant had these monstrous machines that were just loud and scary to me. I hated walking past them, but being with my Daddy made me feel safe. He would take me to the cooler where the pop was. In that day, employees were allowed to have as much free pop as they wanted. Needless to say, people abused that privilege, but my Daddy didn't. He would remind me, "Tanny, you can only have one pop, we won't be greedy, this is a Blessing." He would proceed to dig in the cooler, all the way to the bottom, to find the coldest can of Pepsi he could. Just for me. Sometimes, he would pull the pop out, touch it with his other hand, and put it back in the cooler because it wasn't cold enough. That made me feel special, very special. It made me understand how big the smallest things are. Throughout my life, I learned to appreciate the smallest things. I embrace life on a level unlike most, because of this appreciation.

In my appreciation of everything my Daddy has taught me, I have to say, I know he is ready to pass the torch. He is longing for the day when the man that God has for me, steps up and claims me...and my sister. I am very picky when it comes to my husband, and he knows this. He once said to me, "I blame myself for you and your sisters standards being so high, you want someone just like your Daddy." I assured him that we do not blame him, we thank him. Because of my Daddy, I KNOW what a good man is, and have that same requirement for my husband. The whole point of everything I've mentioned is to say this. I desire a man that will dig into the bottom of the cooler to get me the coldest pop he can find. If all you have to give me is a pop, give me the best pop you have to give. My requirements are not big, but my expectations are great. I expect my future husband to love me with a father's love, protect me with the love of a warrior, and guide me with the Spirituality of God. The right man's love will complete me. I was created for HIM! That was the sole purpose as to why God gave birth to woman.

As a woman, an unclaimed woman, I feel my loneliest when I am in a room filled with people. I have people in my life who love me, unconditionally. I have people in my life who would do anything for me. For this, I am ever so grateful. But, until the day I am able to find comfort in a man's love, my man's love, my husband's love, my feeling of emptiness will remain. That's not a bad thing, it just is. I am ready to accept and receive whatever God desires for me. He only desires that I have that best. I will not settle for anything less. Settling is not an option for me, and should not be an option for you.

carry on

Choices...

2012-10-11T06:54:00.001-04:00

Hello Loves! Needless to say, my focus has not been where it used to be. Since my last blog, I have had so many things going on in my life. Some things were a distraction, others were a reaction. None the less, I have been overwhelmed. I may have been focused on things that served no purpose. I may have been focused on things that were not designed to strengthen me. All and all, I was focused on something. Ultimately, my focus has changed. I am still striving for clarity and confirmation. Clarity has come, in some instances. But, in others, I am just as cloudy as I was a month ago. I find comfort in knowing that God is not a God of confusion. So, my lack of clarity is not of Him. It is of ME. I will not give the devil credit for anything.

Everything is not of the devil. I will take responsibility for my own thoughts, my own actions, and my own lack of following God's lead. Even though I may not understand where God is leading me, or why He is leading me in the direction I am going. I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that His lead is the only one that will guide me to victory. He will show me the way, and ensure that my path is well lit. The shadows that come to bring darkness and gloom will be non existent. The straight and narrow is where I desire to be. Challenges, many challenges, are evident and designed to tempt me to stray.

Straying is not always a bad thing, but straying too far can be catastrophic. In the midst of all of my madness, I have not, and will not meet my demise. Despite my brief moments of misguided movements, I remind myself that I am the ruler of my own destiny. No one else's. The destiny that I choose, is the one that God has planned out for me.

His plan is perfect. I have no complaints. It is not by my own understanding. I had to bring myself back to the place where I FIRST believed. That moment when the Spirt of God gave me a joy that nothing can compare to. I received it then, and I receive it now! I had to find the power to invoke something that had faded, but was never lost. When I finally connected with that magnificent joy, my storms were calmed. My storms dissipated. My Spiritual empowerment was again MY rock!

I still can't identify exactly what happened that caused my Spirt to be weakened, but I am stronger because of it. At no point should we allow the cares of this world to put us in a place of forgetfulness. Remembering to be grateful for what God has done, what He's doing, and what He's going to do, is thought provoking enough to deter any and all attacks we are experiencing. It needs to be said, most of our attacks are self inflicted.

Most of what we go through is caused by our own choices. Our own decisions. Not mistakes, choices. We choose to do what we do. Especially when we are totally aware of the potential consequences. We appease ourselves by calling what we do "mistakes." Mistakes are only evident when we are not aware of the potential consequences. When we KNOW what can happen because of our actions, or lack there of, then we are making a choice. Choose wisely.

"Choose you this day whom ye will serve...But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.

- Joshua 24:15

carry on

MY Zone...

2012-07-25T13:46:00.000-04:00

Please understand my zone, I am not one to condone.

The negative chit chatter, and words that don’t matter.

My glory, my grace, my time, my place.

My happiness, my joy, my love will destroy

EVERY angel of death, trying to steal my last breath.

No time to rehearse, God has written the verse.

The rules, the plan, the outcome will span

From you to me, for ALL to see.

Knowledge you will earn, if your ready to learn.

Have you been told, all that glitters ain’t gold?

If not, here’s a clue, from THE Beautiful One to you.

Shhh…Can you hear me now?

Please take time to listen.

The Jesus in me is what makes me glisten!

I am the Queen, I am not a pawn.

I vow to be GREAT!

That is all…..carry on

Growth or...Distraction

2012-07-19T22:50:00.003-04:00

Hello Loves. I have not blogged in quite a while. Life has required my attention, for many different reasons. I have had some ups , some downs, some good days and some not so good days. I am not one to have bad days. Every day is a good day when God allows you to experience it. Despite all of the turmoil I have faced, and the storms that have been raging, I am grateful. I know that I am Blessed and Highly Favored. My life has presented me with new opportunities, new friends, and I am sure, new foes. But, above all things, I have spent a great deal of time thinking and connecting with God. God has allowed me to cross paths with many new and interesting people. I have been given the opportunity to make a positive impact on the lives I have become a part of. Sowing seeds has become an unintentional part of my life. It just happened, by no effort of my own.

When we are Blessed to be good people, and to have a Spiritually empowered soul, others can be drawn to us. They are drawn to our strengths, and most importantly, our POWERFUL Spirit. When we are in need, God will have us cross paths of someone that is in the seed sowing business. But, the giver in us will still desire to contribute to the growth of their seeds. We will take on the role of the seed fertilizer and the seed waterer. Even though that person is attempting to help us, we will still attempt to reciprocate in any way possible. One thing we must remember is, in our unselfish effort to fertilize the seeds; we have to be careful that we are not watering weeds. I have said this before, and I will say it again, every goodly deed is not a Godly deed. We have to know when we are supposed to become the gardener and give fertilizer and water to someone else’s seeds. If we are not sure, very sure, our nurturing can fall on stony ground. We have a tendency to view every positive thing we do as growth. This is not always so. Some things that we think is growth can actually be a distraction.

Distractions can come in many forms. The strong must carry the weak. As strong people, we desire to help someone, every opportunity we get. We do not want to pass up the chance to make someone smile, or to make their life easier. We need to remind ourselves, that every battle is not ours. We are not supposed to react to every cry for help that is brought before us. The help that we may be giving someone, could actually be a distraction from what God really wants us to do. Delayed obedience, is still disobedience. If God is not telling us to get involved, we need to heed His voice. There are many situations that we can fix, instantaneously, but God may require that we just pray about that particular situation. Everyone’s tests can eventually be their testimonies. My tests are not your tests; your testimonies are not my testimonies. What God has for you is for you, and no one else. Walk in your calling and follow God’s lead. Know when to sow, when to reap, when to fertilize, when to water, and when to pray. God wants our harvest to be bountiful. But, our bounty can become wilted if we are nurturing the wrong seeds.

Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

Cheat It to Beat It

2012-04-23T23:08:00.000-04:00

Great, Godly evening Loves! I have not blogged in awhile. My focus has been cloudy, but my deliverance has always been clear. God has been showing up and showing out. I have been under constant attack since 2011. In March 2011, my sister prophesized to me that I was under attack. This was before anything major had happened. She told me that I needed to fast more, and pray more. Of course, I received her Word, but it was so hard to focus once everything started falling out of place. I sincerely have lost EVERYTHING that I considered to be a priority. At least I thought I had. Despite everything that has gone on in the last year, I have remained faithful. I have remained focused on my God. I have kept a positive attitude. My head has been held high, my smile is still on my face. The enemy has not been able to distract me. Even though I have had brief movements of sadness and depression, God brought me out. When I could not depend on my family, my friends, I lost my job, and my home. I was able to find a way out. I CHEATED! Cheating is what I do. When you are between a rock and a hard place, in the voice of my director Brian Thomas, you have got to know how to cheat. Your CHEAT is in your PRAISE. We do not use conventional methods to get through our storms, we get our Praise on and CHEAT the situation. We CHEAT the attacks. We CHEAT the devil by pulling our winning hand. God is our winning hand, for He can not lose. He will be successful at all He does. His word will not return void, it WILL accomplish what it was set out to do. But, we must have faith. We must believe, then we must...CHEAT. Cheat your battles by Praising God in advance. Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

Tested By the Spirit...

2012-03-19T11:34:00.000-04:00

Great morning Loves! This is the day that the Lord hath made. Let us REJOICE and be glad in it. On this day two years ago, my life changed drastically. I was at a point in my life where Faith was all I had. I was Spiritually powerful, and Faithfully trusting in the Lord. I knew that he would guide my steps and lighten my path. I had no idea what was before me, but I thanked Him for delivering me from what was behind me. My future was bright and my hope was high. At no point did I feel discouraged, afraid, or alone. But, shortly after that, my battles began. Battles I had to face alone, not knowing that I was alone. I knew God was there, but I also thought I had the support of those that claimed to love me. I soon found out that God was REALLY all I had. For sure, sure.

There was one person in my life that was consistently there for me from day one, and still is. My older sister Denise. I love her with everything in me. She connected with my spirit, she prayed for me, she cried with me. Her strength brought me through. I had family and friends that loved me, but I still felt as if something was missing. I knew there was, but I could not define it. Despite everything that we have, I know that MAN is the covering for a woman. God does not desire us to be alone. But, He also does not want us to settle. Throughout our lives, we cross paths with many different people for many different reasons. We learn that all that glitters is not gold. We are presented with wolves in the clothing of sheep. The devil tempts us with the things we desire the most. Temptation don't take a vacation. One thing for certain, and two things for sure, God is a keeper. He is a deliverer. He is a provider. Most importantly for me, He is a healer. He heals any ailments I may have. He heals physical, mental, and spiritual pain when we least expect it. My life today seems brighter than ever, and I do not have everything that I have always held as a priority. So I thought. My perspective has been changed, my steps have been numbered. I have everything that God wants me to have at this point in my life. One day at a time. I am watching God work. I am confident about the outcome of EVERY situation in my life. Even when no one else understands, He gives me comfort and confirmation through the ones that say they love me, and shows me that they love me. Just as I am able to see, and know that I know that I know. To you, and for you, God can do the same thing.

Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. This statement speaks volumes into our lives, our hearts, our souls, and our atmosphere. We live and die by the tongue. Conquer your situation and claim victory in the name of Jesus. Say it Loud, say it proud. Let the enemy know that you will not be defeated and that God has already handled each and every one of your needs. He will never leave you or forsake you. The things that seem to be the hardest, are the situations that are the easiest for God to fix. Don't tell God you have a big problem, tell your problem that you have a big God. God already knows. Follow your Spirit. The Jesus in you will carry your burdens. The war is not ours, because it has already been won. What God has for you is for you, and no one else. Know this for yourself. Everything goodly, is not GODLY. The right things that you may be doing, are not always the right things that God WANTS you to be doing. Let go and let God. His authority will be questioned, and your spirit will be tested. Your test shall become your testimony. I know that mine has. He is mine and I am HIS. No matter what. OUR love is everlasting! Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

Simply put...just LOVE

2012-03-10T10:38:00.000-05:00

Great morning Loves!!! Another day, another opportunity, another chance to be better. If you can't find it in you to make yourself better, then try to make someone else better. Growth does not have to be gained within you or your immediate circle, it can be gained through a smile and a hello. You never know what someone is going through, and you can be the one that changes their perspective. Without saying a word. It costs nothing to make someone's day. No acknowledgment is needed. You will feel it in your Spirit. The mode that so many are in, is becoming a very contagious unhappiness.

People are unhappy and are feeling hopeless. The unhappiness that so many people are feeling these days, is unmeasurable. People are unhappy for no reason. The spirit of gloom is everywhere we go. When you leave your own environment, the environment that you have control of. The environment that you have the authority to set the atmosphere in. The environment that you should ensure is Spiritually sound and serene. Take that positive feeling with you on your daily walk. Let others benefit from what God has given you. If you have joy, and you should, God gave it to you. Share it with others. Allow it to radiate to the surface of your being. Without changing the economy. Without changing our social status. Without changing our financial situation. We CAN change the atmosphere. One smile at a time.

So, smile!! Smile big, smile hard, smile long. Love each other. For no apparent reason, just because. I love you, unconditionally!!! Love me back, please. Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

THE Beautiful One Commands You To...

2012-03-02T11:09:00.000-05:00

Good morning Loves! I am in an amazing mood. Good for me, but GREAT for others. I do need to remind everyone to take the blinders off. People are really tripping. Some are living double lives. Some are attempting to deceit others. The sad part is, they feel justified. Regardless of whether you are happy with your life or not, under no circumstances do you have the right or AUTHORITY to make someone else's life miserable. If I never do anything else for you, I find comfort in knowing that I make you SMILE! Each and everyone of you. If I don't, then that's a personal problem. That has nothing to do with me. I tried. So SMILE...I love you!!! Have an AWESOME weekend. I KNOW I WILL!!! Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

He's More Than the World Against Us

2012-03-01T12:49:00.000-05:00

Great afternoon Loves. For those of you that know me, and know me well. You know that I have been in a state of unhappiness and depression for the last couple of weeks. Though, there are many things in my life that would totally warrant me being unhappy, I am a child of God and should be able to repel any negative feelings. But, I am natural first. The natural part of us becomes weak when we are in the midst of struggles. Especially when those struggles are of a magnitude that is clearly out of our control. Despite all of my praying, and trying to stay faithful, my tears flowed daily. I was totally aware that this was not normal, for me, and I needed to do something about it. But, what could I do? I was already doing everything I knew to do, but it didn't seem to help much. As I continued on through my temporary darkness, I was Blessed to have people in my life that continuously tried to make me view my life from a more positive light. I had my moments of happiness, but they were short lived. I got to the point where I felt frustrated, defeated, and I felt as if my faith was gone. THAT is when I knew I really had to connect with God on a level that I had not been able to for quite some time. My powerful prayer allowed me to release burdens that I thought were already gone. The tears flowed, as I prayed myself to sleep. I woke up feeling like a new person. Everything in my bedroom was the same, but EVERYTHING looked different. I know what God can do for me, and for anyone who calls on Him. But, this fresh, new outlook on life was something that I had not experienced in a very long time. I am facing life with the passion and love that I thought was gone. This recent battle has strengthened me to a state of empowerment that I am still in awe about. I feel so good right now! My situation is the same, if not worse than yesterday, but my perception of it is extremely positive. I spend my days attempting to motivate others, but did not consider that I had to motivate myself. Motivate myself to pray harder, and to strive to find my happy place that I thought I had lost. Under no circumstances should I have ever allowed myself to get to where I was, but I honestly did not see it coming. It was just there, without warning. Nothing triggered it, nothing provoked it, it just WAS. I am no longer there, and I have no desire to ever go back. The things in our lives that can get us down, are so minute to some of the things that others are going through. A lot of our issues are seriously based on PRIDE. We have too much pride to ask for help. We have too much pride to let others know what we are going through. We have too much pride to reduce our social status and standards of living. God knows what we need, and our pride can get in the way of us receiving it. We will go through. We will suffer. We will cry. But, when we begin to fret, our faith becomes weak. This is exactly what the enemy wants us to do. When we feel negative energies beginning to overtake us, we need to consider this. When we CLAIM to be children of God, and we become depressed, the devil is laughing at us. He is taunting us. He feels that he has the victory. Well, he doesn't. God is not a man that He should lie. When we pray and not faint. When we maintain our faithfulness. He WILL do what He said He will do. If God is for us, He's more than the world against us. Just in case you have not noticed, the world IS against us. Sad, but true. All I need is God. Nothing more, nothing less. He has brought me through, once again. If He did it for me, He will do it for you. God has no respect of person. He loves us all...EQUALLY! Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

Negativity is Needed

2012-02-23T15:31:00.000-05:00

I am not trying to sound negative, but I am sick of people BLAMING other people for their issues. I have been reading A LOT of: I am cutting people off, I am removing people from my life, I am deleting some people. At some point and time, you have to take responsibility for what is going on in your OWN life. If you allow people to regulate your happiness or sense of happiness, then you are your worst negative source. We need to have balance in our lives. If everything and everyone in our life was positive, then how would we grow? We need some sort of negativity, just so that we can be more thankful for the positive things we are afforded. This is the evidence of things not seen. Learn to be the positive force when the darkness of negativity tries to cloud your life. I am one that will go through what I need to go through to be what I am destined to be. When everything is positive, our growth becomes dormant. I need to grow. I will grow. I am growing! Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

I Am Back With a Vengeance!

2012-02-23T01:11:00.001-05:00

Hello Loves! I know I have not blogged in a minute, but my mind has been cluttered. I have not been able to focus on ANYTHING. Life is taking its toll on me. I am strong, this is something that I have no choice but to be. But, I am not super, duper woman. I too, have moments of discouragement and depression. I have been contacted by several people asking me why I haven't blogged in a while. That let's me know how much people read and depend on my blog. The thoughts that I post here are not my own, well most of them anyways. I make it a point to connect with God before, during, and after I blog. Though, some of my blogs are just what I am thinking at the moment. I am truly Blessed to know that people have missed me. I miss me, too. I am getting back to my old self. Slowly but surely. In an effort to regain the positive energy that I refer to as my lifeline, I will begin where I left off.

Our lives have become something that we are clearly not understanding. This confusion is not based on what we are able to see and decipher, it is based on the unknown. Our struggles are phenomenal and the spirit of misery and depression has become very powerful. When we look around at what's going on in our world and the world of others, it is painfully obvious that so many people are giving up. The spirit of suicide is roaming in search of its next victim. Many fall prey to this spirit because they become weak and forget to pray. Others fall prey because they do not realize that they need to pray more, and that they need to be very specific in their prayers. The idea that people are killing their own children and then killing themselves is evidence that the end is near. Aside from the fact that murder is being committed on a vast level, the murderers are murdering themselves. I wonder. In their final breath, did they have the opportunity to confess their sins and ask for forgiveness. The thought terrifies me. I am terrified because I know that if they did not ask for forgiveness, that spirit will gain power. The more powerful the spirit, the harder it is to resist it. A spirit can not do its job unless it has a host. The negativity, the poor economy, the feeling of unhappiness, and the feeling of hopelessness are some of the main factors in making people too weak to resist the urge to take the lives of the ones they love, and ultimately, their own lives. Life is a gift. It is precious, and should not be taken for granted.

When God shows us favor, each day, and takes the time to breathe the breath of life into our nostrils, there are several things that we must acknowledge. One, we have been given something that so many did not receive, and so many people will never have. We lay down, go to sleep, wake up, and really never consider how Blessed we are. Regardless of our circumstance. Regardless of the status of our health. Regardless of who shows us love and who doesn't. We are Highly Favored JUST by waking up. We spend so much time thinking about the things we do not have, the things we would like to have, and even the things that we have lost, that we honestly overlook the most important thing of all. Life. Life is the ability to live, the ability to love, and with each day we are given, another opportunity to live again. Embracing this moment, which may be our last, is the greatest love that we can give to ourselves, our loved one's, and our God. Depression, oppression, discouragement, and ANYTHING negative, are emotions that are inflicted by the devil. These emotions are not of God. This is where it all begins. Find something positive in all that you do and all that you are presented with. No matter how bad it may look or seem. There is something greater ahead. There is something better ahead. I know for myself, that God will not allow us to go through the things we go through for nothing. He sees our faithfulness. He knows what we need, and He will give it to us in His time. God's time is not our time. We must learn to be patient, more patient than ever before.

I must say, patience is not one of my strongest abilities. I want what I want when I want it, and so does most people. Considering the time that we are living in, faith and patience are the two most important ACTIONS that we should live by. We must work our faith. Pray about it, leave it, believe it, and then receive it. In order to do this, we must practice being patient. Not just in what we pray for, but in everything we do. Our spiritual conditioning is the only thing that will keep us. The attacks are great, and the misconception of spirituality is even greater. We must know God for ourselves. My personal relationship with God is individualized to meet my needs. Yours is individualized to meet your needs. Our walks with God should be similar, but in no way should they be the same. God is totally capable of sculpting our Blessings to meet our needs. We just have to hold on, stay steadfast, trust Him, believe Him, and keep the faith. That is all that is required. Nothing more, nothing less. God's word will do what it was set out to do. But, can we do what we were created to do?

Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

I love you...until the end of days!

2012-02-15T08:40:00.000-05:00

Gold have I none, or a big house on the hill.
But in my heart I pray that you will love me still.
No diamonds or rubies, or an island in the sea.
Just a love that's true to you from me.
So I give to you something that's special and true.
A gift that's forever...a heart that loves YOU!

Parenting is a Marriage to Our Children

2012-02-03T11:09:00.000-05:00

Great morning Loves! It is in my Spirit to address anyone who has children or are planning to have children. Whether your children are biological, adopted, or you are a surrogate parent to many. We need to be reminded that being a parent is not something that should be taken lightly.

In the midst of our mad and chaotic lives, parenting should be a priority. We need to prioritize what we do for our children, and what we do NOT do for our children. In an effort to raise rooted and grounded children, love plays a major role in how consistent we are. When we love our children, we learn to be consistent in our individual parenting styles. Depending on the type of consistency you enforce, the outcome will mimic that. If we expose our children to negative people and take them into negative environments, they may grow to be negative individuals. When we enable our children by doing everything for them and not allowing them to suffer the consequences of their choices, they more than likely will grow to be irresponsible and unappreciative. When our children turn 18 and we decide that they are grown and throw them to the wolves, they can become bitter and fall prey to those that mean them no good. Parenting never ends, until death do us part.

When you look at your child, what do you see? Do you see many years of bad choices, on your part? Do you see many years of good choices, on your part? Our children are a reflection of us. Regardless of the path they choose, you can still see the good, the bad, and the ugly that we have planted in them. We reap what we sow. When we raise our children right, as according to God, we have to be confident in what we have taught them. When they refuse to do what they KNOW is right, we have got to be strong enough to walk away and put them in God's hands. When our children are in bad situations, it is not always our fault. But, sometimes it is. Can you honestly say that the bad choices your child makes are not because of the way you raised them? If you can not say this, it is never too late to be a better parent. Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

Fall Back Sometimes

2012-02-02T12:14:00.000-05:00

Great morning Loves! I know I have not posted in a while, I have had many things going on. God is still awesome, and I am still Highly Favored. I love everyone, and I am seeing the love I have for others being manifested in the love that others have for me. The struggles are continuously coming, but I am continuously growing Spiritually. I am Blessed to have so many loving and caring people in my life. Some I know personally, others I know virtually. The people that I have crossed paths with are selfless. They give of themselves and expect nothing in return. A giving heart is a reflection of unconditional love. It is an amazing feeling to love everyone, and to want what's best for the ones you love. We take the time to try to help others, even when those people are not trying to help themselves. One thing that "givers" must understand is that, every "goodly" deed is not a "Godly" deed. We need to intervene when God tells us to. We must be led by Him when it comes to helping others. Givers have a tendency to live a life as "fixers". We can not fix everything, and God does not REQUIRE us to step into every situation. We need to learn to choose our battles, and stay off of the battlefield until God tells us to move. All battles are not ours to fight. The war is already won. God will reveal to us when to go to the frontline, and when to fall back. Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

STOP...Waiting to Exhale

2012-01-20T11:27:00.000-05:00

Take a deep breath. Breathe through it. This is a common reaction to the things that are stressful. The things that are exciting. The things that make us nervous. The site of a gorgeous Black man! This reaction is a response to the negatives as well as the positives. Considering that we are constantly "inhaling", at some point in our lives, we need to take the time to do the opposite. This will give us balance. Letting go of the air that has over loaded our lungs and our lives will give us a sense of closure. Loose ends can prevent us from getting to this point. As we complete the goals that we have set in life, we have to either mend or walk away from the things that are lagging on. Setting limits, staying within boundaries, and knowing when to say when is a sure fire way of getting to the point where we can relieve our lungs. Waiting to exhale is something that we will continue to do if we keep "WAITING". We must pursue what it is we desire. Breathe deeply in our pursuit, but take a load off of our lungs along the way. Exhale those things that you have waited for too long. Know when a dream will continue to be a fantasy. What God has for you is for you, and your lungs will not be overloaded in the process of obtaining it. I am...EXHALING! Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

A Personal Visual

2012-01-18T13:19:00.000-05:00

In the midst of their frustrations, I have heard MANY people say, "I didn't ask to be born, or I didn't ask for this life." My response to that is usually, would you really have it any other way? When we take a look at our own reality, it's easy to notice the things that we are not happy with. But, when we REALLY look at our own reality, we need to look at the things that are not afforded to so many people. Our life is what we make of it, in EVERY case. But, regardless of how hard we work, if we do not put God first, ultimately, we will not have what He desires us to have. God will give us the desires of our hearts. As we grow spiritually, the desires of our hearts will change. Growth means appreciation. We need to show our appreciation by giving thanks for the many things that we take for granted.

For starters, someone was aborted and never had the opportunity to experience life. That shows love. Someone did not wake up today. That shows favor. Someone does not FEEL loved. I love you! That speaks volumes. It is a lot easier to gripe and complain about the things we do not have, or the things we want, than it is to take time to rejoice in the things we do have. A lot of people do not take the time to "ask" God to give them another day. Matthew 6:1 reads, "Give us this day our daily bread." Period! Nothing more, nothing less. Our daily bread consists of food for life and food for the soul. God will supply every one or our needs, and he is kind enough to give us some of our wants. Why do we think that He will just give us everything, but we give Him nothing?" We may pray for our health and strength, we may pray for prosperity. But, do we really understand the true meaning of prosperity?

Prosperity can be viewed many different ways. Most believe that it is associated with finances. Money, material things, a good job. This is not the priceless form of prosperity that I pray for. God rains on the just as well as the unjust (Matthew 5:45). He will Bless us, just because. Just because He loves us. God is not a dead beat dad, and He will continue to take care of His children. Even when we do not acknowledge Him or say Thank You. We should love Him, because we love Him. We should expect nothing in return, other than what He has promised before the world began. Loving unconditionally is something that most people are not capable of doing. They think they are, but they are not. When you need a reason to love someone, your love is not unconditional. When you view yourself as something other than positive, you do not love yourself. Loving yourself first, will make you a better lover of others.

How can you love me, if you do not love yourself? Loving ones self does not mean that you are arrogant, conceited, or feel that you are better than everyone else. It means that you love what God created you to be, and you love the thought He put into creating you. Accepting yourself for who you are does not mean that you are settling. It simply means that, you are happy with you, and unless God reveals things about you that needs to be adjusted or changed, you will continue to love YOU. Once we are able to accept ourselves as we are, and appreciate the lives that we have been given, maybe, just maybe, God will Bless you with the ability to see yourself as you "see" yourself. Being confused does not mean that you have no clarity! Clearly know that God is in control. That is all. Any Questions? Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on

Anthony Clint, Jr. Scott High School Class of 2005

2012-01-17T00:08:00.002-05:00

This is for ALL Bulldogs, honorary Bulldogs, and all others. One of our fellow men is really doing his thing. Class of 2005, he is producing in Atlanta. This is his new CD. It is really good! Get it and show some support. Anthony Clint Jr. is doing his thing.

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carry on

Sad

2012-01-16T18:17:00.000-05:00

It is so obvious that we are in a state of emergency. Being someone that has no limits is a dangerous life to live. But, when you are a Black man, it hits a lot closer to home. We should make every effort to show compassion for each other, especially because this type of thing is becoming more and more common among our young Black men. Lead by example, as long as this is not the example that you set. Living, loving, and loving some more. carry on