My Life As a Young Adult

late night poem

2012-09-05T23:20:00.002-04:00

I wanted to post something before I went to bed and I thought a simple poem by author Fredrick Harper would be appropriate. I feel like this poem can give a lot of good advice for young adults like us.

I'm sorry I didnt write anything original today/tonight but I promise I'll have some good stuff coming up in the next few days, once I get school and what I want to write sorted out.

I hope you like the poem.

Thanks, Tyler

ADVICE TO THE YOUNG

Be true to your eyes, ears, thoughts, and feelings;

Listen to your heart but yield to your mind’s best

Judgment;

Be kind and wise in spoken words, for surely your

Words will follow you;

Be not afraid of risks but be cautious of actions

Driven by emotion, confusion, and false friends;

Avoid jealousy of others’ achievements and possessions;

Don’t live with an insatiable greed for more than

You can appreciate or use;

Don’t eat more than your hunger’s call or

Drink beyond your thirst’s needs;

Listen to spirits that favor you and offend not

Those that oppose you;

Absorb yourself in an activity worthy of your unique

Talent, and develop as many common

Potentialities as you desire and can;

Whatever you do, do it as well as you can;

Live comfortably with your conscience,

And be at peace with your soul;

Be courageous in life, while always respecting

Death’s luring and lurking;

Rest when tired and think when you are uncertain;

Be kind to the sacredness of life and respect the

Natural order of the universe;

Follow no one or no thing except your own judgment

And your own divine wish;

Love and respect yourself and your family;

Be all you can by developing yourself;

Do all you can in helping worthy others;

And live a quality and meaningful life.

My girl issue

2012-09-04T12:44:00.003-04:00

I promised you yesterday that I would explain the story of my relationship with Hannah today, so here it is;

(Warning: it may be boring in some spots but just hang in there)

We had chemistry class first semester of our freshman year in college. I didn’t talk to her almost the entire semester because I hung out with other people in my class.

It was one of the last tests and me and Hannah both finished pretty quick and ended up running into each other out in the hall. We talked about how dumb the test was and then shared some small talk, it was really awkward actually.

We exchanged numbers and she started texting me almost every day. I liked having someone to talk to and didn’t think it would lead anywhere. Boy was I wrong.

We kept talking, started skyping a bit and I even went to Bronners, where she worked, and visited her for a while. Feelings were developing. The thing that pushed them a lot farther was a Christmas party we both went to. Even she said she could feel something. At the party we talked a lot! Kept smiling at each other and when we were watching “The Grinch” I even put my arm around her.

Now, I never ever expected to end up liking this girl but it happened. After the party I told her my feelings and she accepted them really well. She said she could feel something too but she didn’t want to move to fast. I understood.

Later that month I was having a New Year’s Eve party at my house and invited her, of course. She told me she couldn’t make it because her parents didn’t want her out so late. I thought all was fine and well until she told me why she really couldn’t come….. she was celebrating at her house… with her boyfriend.

I know what you are thinking, “why are you still talking to her? Screw her!” wellll I thought the same thing for a long time. I got a girlfriend a month or so later, just before Hannah and her boyfriend broke up. After she broke up with him she started coming on to me again and by this time it was too late. I got really pissed off and probably told her off a little more than I should have. Me and this other girl broke up and so now both me and Hannah are single again. We’ve both apologized for what we did and have been talking. I don’t know if I want to fall for her again but I guess ya really can’t control that…

There it is, the whole story. Sorry if it was a little boring; I wanted to get it all out there. I’m going to be writing more general stuff coming up here so if that’s what you like reading stay tuned.

Thanks for reading and please leave a comment, I’d love to read what you think.

Thanks, Tyler

Hello there...

2012-09-03T22:40:00.000-04:00

So it has been quite a while since my last blog post, but after some quick encouragement from a friend i decided to start writing again.

so much has happened since my last blog post. i finished my first year of college, went through an entire relationship, and found a new hobby.

to kind of summerize everything for you; college is really hard, never force a relationship because it will get you heartbroken, and focusing on making yourself happy is very important.

i'm going to try to encorporate some of these stories in my future posts but i wont explain them all now.

this post is going to be about someone thats on my mind lately. shes this super cool, fun girl that ive been talking to recently and kind of having a crush on. i never meant for it to happen but ive found that makes for the best relationships.

i met her in my chemistry class almost a year ago and weve been really close ever since. i really only thought of her as a friend, obviously because i was in another relationship, but even after i never had deeper feelings till later when my best bud kept pointing out how close we actually were.

i have no idea how to handle the situation now because i dont want to force anything but at the same time i want things to happen. this is my delema.
i promise to tell you more about her probably tomorrow, so check it out.

i know this was a dull blog post but thanks for reading and please comment. ill be updating more i promise.

thanks, tyler

p.s. check out my friend collins blog, its really well written and interesting.
http://lifeasalaker.blogspot.com

Moms...

2012-02-17T12:02:00.003-05:00

cant live with them, cant live without them (literally). i dont know if its because im groing up and she doesnt like that or what but lately shes been on my case about EVERYTHING. im not doing this right, or i should be doing this a certain way. it gets really freaking annoying! i know the straight answer here is to move out. im 19 and in college so i should just get out of the house like all my other friends, but honestly ive weighed it out and its costs a lot of money! like way more than i spend now. i understand that i will just have tto put up with it if im going to stay at home but does she really need to be on my ass about every little thing i do? sometimes i just want to tell her to calm down about my life and worry about her own! i have too much respect for her to do that tho..

is there something that you do that helps with this? i know im not the only one out there that has this problem.

Merry Christmas

2011-12-25T00:13:00.000-05:00

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE!!!
i was going to write a longer post about what christmas means to me and the history of christmas and crap but who cares?!?! its freakin' Christmas!!! screw explaining for once and just go spend quality time with your family!
p.s. i didnt mean to leave out other holidays haha
p.p.s i will be taking a break next week for the holidays (maybe ill write a little something ;) so have a happy holidays and a safe new year...see ya'll on the other side :D

Advice for a younger me

2011-12-23T15:06:00.000-05:00

I got this idea from a youtube video i watched from woodysgamertag, he makes good stuff so go check him out!!! after you read this of course (: and he made a video on if he could go back and give his younger self advice what it would be. I really liked the idea so im going to do it here! thanks Woody!!

so the first piece of advice i would give myself is that school IS important. I went through my entire schooling career not really giving a rip about my grades. I would tell my parents whatever excuse i needed to tell to get out of getting in trouble with the worst grades i could. now this isnt saying that I did "bad" but I should have tried alot harder i think. part of the reason i didnt, i think, is because being "smart" was looked down upon in my school. my mom said i came home from school in kindergarten and said that being smart is for nerds. which i feel ultimatley set me up for failure.

this brings me to my second piece of advice...which ties in to getting picked on... DONT LET OTHER KIDS PICK ON ME! stand up for myself and fight back. I was on the chubbier side when i was younger, hell i still am haha, and i wasnt the most coordinated of all my friends so naturally i got picked on. if i could go back i would tell myself to stand up for myself. work a little harder on showing the bullys that im not a little uncoordinated kid. Its so easy to just give in and let yourself get bullyed, and as a young kid its hard to find the right way to fight back, but if your really sick of something then dig deep and find a way to change it.

my third and last piece of advice is to put a little more effort in sports. as you can probably tell by now i was a pretty lazy kid and wish i could have changed that. I wouls tell myself that even though your not very coordinated (which i wasnt) dont give up, work hard to improve and maybe i wouldnt have gotten picked on so much and could have been included in the sport activities everyone else was doing.

I know this was a longer post and if you read to here, thank you very much. I hope this makes you think a little bit about your childhood and advice you would give yourself. so my question is; what advice would you give yourself?

Thanks again for reading and if you like what i write dont forget to follow and please comment (:

-Tyler

Success and the Pressure that comes with it.

2011-12-21T13:58:00.002-05:00

When we are all younger we say we're going to be Astronauts or Cowboys or Firefighters and that's that. Nobody asks us how we will get there or what our plan is but it seems as I grow up that's all i hear, "how?" Everything that I say I want, wheither it be what i want to major in, the new ipad 2 or anything else really, I get asked "how are you going to get it?" which is a very good question to ask! dont get me wrong, it's just that theres a lot of pressure that comes with it. Once you start thinking of "how" you realize how hard it is to obtain which kind of puts (me) down. The best way i have come up with when getting overwhelmed with pressure from both trying to plan the future and (something i havent talked about) pressure from being successful at something is to focus on the present. Don't worry about the long time future, I take a little bit of time out of the weeek and think about what i want in the fiture and then snap back and forget about it. I feel you should know what you want and think about how you are going to get there but after that forget about it and focus on enjoying the present. As Tony Horton, creator of the awesome P90X, said "The past is history, The future's a mystery, That's why they call it the present." And I live by that everyday.

-Tyler

UPDATE

2011-12-20T23:54:00.000-05:00

so my new schedule that im going to stick to is posting monday, wednesday, and friday. and then saturday i want to post something funnnier than the rest of the weeks posts (crap i write) HA
good ones coming friday and next week!!

-Tyler

Fantasy Football and Family

2011-12-19T13:54:00.000-05:00

does anybody else play fantasy football? me and my dad started doing it the last 2 years and its so much fun (if you like football that is HA!) this year though we got REALLLY into it! ive caught myself yelling at the tv when one of my players does bad lol its baaaad. not as bad as other people ive heard though, thank god!! we usually just join a random league and have a blast! im second right now going into the playoffs and its getting pretty intense! some of you reading this know what im talking about haha

so yesterday consisted of me and my dad, both wearing old football jerseys, sitting behind our computers (with fantasy football up, OF COURSE!) going back and forth between all the games on tv. it was a blast! OH! and my mom was making cookies in the kitchen...needless to say, those are already gonee!

now i dont mean to get all sappy but its days like those that we really need to remember because its fun days with family that are what really matters in life. time spent with the ones you love is the best!! so i just want to let people know that if they want a way to bond with others, family or friends, and you like football, then fantasy football is really a great way tto do it!

thanks for reading! make sure to follow my blog (:
-Tyler

got cow...?

2011-12-18T23:45:00.002-05:00

so im going to share some info i learned that is kinda funny but i think relatable in a weird way! I woke up yesterday morning to find my parents packing the freezer we have in our garage with half a friken cow! it was an insane amount of meat, it took probably 5 big boxes. my dad sat on the couch after they got done and started taking inventory (he made a spread sheet ha!) i asked him how much meat we actually got and the numbers really surprised me, even more, it was for only HALF a cow! first of all, the meat from the half cow weighs about 250 lbs. and the total cost of it with processing is $700. now that might seem like a lot but it comes out to only $2.95 per pound, which includes the best steaks. these numbers surprised me but after i thought about it... that amount lasts our family of 4 an entire year and so if a single guy bought that they could last a couple years from it which makes 700 dollars not look so bad.
just some food for thought.... lol

p.s. i see im getting alot of views and i appreciate it so much!!! thank you for the support. i just want to remind you that if you like what i write please follow my blog and feel free to comment! thanks again to all!!

Michigander Problems

2011-12-17T16:44:00.000-05:00

So I was thinking last week, and thats rare...i dont think haha, being from michigan all i see is people getting overly excited about the 2 most common things there!! when it snows...and when people see deer. it's CRAZY! i really dont get it but its true. people from michigan get so excited when it snows, even though it does this EVERY year lol. and when they see a deer, which im sure they out populate people there haha
just a confusing/funny observation.

this is me!

2011-12-17T10:49:00.000-05:00

hey everyone! I know i said i was going to start writing some cool stuff today but i decided to just write a bio about who i am so you all (avoiding saying "you guys") know who i am! blog update: i did create another blog all about golf which you can access here ---> golfersparadice.blogspot.com
So anyway, about me... my name is Tyler Steven Finkbeiner. i live in a mitten (im trying not to tell you exactly where i live lol) ok, for some reason the font changed >.> but lets just go with it... i live with my mom and dad and sister. i just finished my first semester at delta college and am planning to play golf for them in the spring. golf is my passion but i also have a ton of other interests, thats why i couldnt decide what to write about because i want to write about it all. anyway, i play drums (when everyone else is out of the house) and play part time in a band called "in the mourning" im a 19 year old guy so i also like playing video games, black ops > modern warfare 3 > battlefield 3, and i also love fitness and anything active. see what i mean when i said i cant pick 1 topic to blog about? more into my life... i have some amazing friends and an even more amazing family. my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me in the spring and that was really hard to get over, im overly sensitive like that i guess. but im back to my old self now and want to write and relate to people, help them with their lives and thoughts and ideas. i really love meeting people and making new friends. thats why i started this blog, to be with people. so if you read this far great! you get a cookie!! haha just kidding. but thanks, please follow my blog and comment and maybe even get to know me because i can assure you i dont start drama or talk about people, im open and honest and am here to talk. so thanks again, ill be updating again soon.
- Tyler

last update...I swear!

2011-12-17T01:34:00.000-05:00

alright, ive determined that im just going to keep it to one blog for the time being because i feel it would be too hard to worry about 2 blogs right out of the gate. i PROMISE that ill start writing some funny shit tomorrow so please come read it then.
GET EXCITED PEOPLE...CUZ I AM

Update on my plans

2011-12-17T01:00:00.000-05:00

Update on what i've decided to do here lol. I think what will happen is that im going to use this blog as an "everything" blog. Where ill post random stuff about my life and have all you comment on things for me to blog about. Then, I plan on making other blogs on my favorite topics like; music, sports, and science stuff. i may make more though. So thats just a update on what im going to do lol
talk to you soon
-Tyler

first blog EVER!!

2011-12-17T00:48:00.000-05:00

So hey everyone! This is my first blog entry I have ever written so bear with me (is it really spelled like the animal?) This is how clueless I am at this, I actually googled how to write blog entries! Im cool, i know ;) so ANYWAY, Im not going to put too much into this first entry but I just want to let you all know that my blogs are going to be from a "real" person (whatever that means) and i can relate to alot of peoples situations. my blog is laid back and on a bunch of topics that I find interesting and i'm willing to write on any topic, just let me know your ideas (: so that's it for number 1! I'll try to update 3 times a week and we'll go from there. talk to you soon.
- Tyler