MAKING YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WORK

How to Attract a Man

2011-08-24T05:05:00.000-07:00

Attracting a man has to do with learning many things about men. These include, learning how a man thinks, how a man reacts to things and even his personality in general. Some of these secrets or tips that I am going to reveal here, works for almost all men, including the one you are currently dating now or the one you have been eying, so rejoice!
Attracting men comes in two different manners, physical attraction and the moral attraction. I know quite sure that before mentioning this, you know already about attracting a man physically. This has to do with your physical appearances like, the kind of cloth you wear, your body movements and steps, through eye contacts, and may be touching the man in a manner that sets his heart desires burning wild. Btu I am telling you today, as somebody who researched about this using himself as a case study, that these things doesn’t always move a man to a very lasting level.
Therefore, I will rather advice you to do away with the physical attraction of men, and focus more the moral attraction, because this has a greater impact on men, and also last longer. This form of attraction, will cause the man to seek for a way of getting more and more intimate with you, no what it takes him, he is not ready to loose or experiment with you. Unless, may be you are not ready for a long lasting relationship, and you are ready to do with a fling, then go for the physical attraction.
But if your are ready and determined to attract a man that will stay together with you forever if possible, then you must let go the physical attraction, though it works very fast and it also goes very fast.
Therefore, let us now talk about how to attract a man morally, which lasts longer. In order to attract a man morally, you must possess some level or natural traits or behaviors that conforms to men’s desires. These traits include, being independent,, compassionate, confident at all time, and may be adventurous. These things are called irresistible traits that attract men. Every man likes an independent woman, they also enjoy a company of a confident and adventurous lady.
As a matter of fact, for you to attract that man of your desire, do not make the mistake of trying to let him know or have the impression that you need help or that you are feeling insecure. If you do, you have definitely sent him off, and if he do stays, it is for a while and may be, for a fling.
Again, to attract a man, like I said earlier, you must show confidence. To prove this, do not commit this other mistake of condemning your past or previous dates (boyfriends) to his hearing, this will give a feeling of insecurity with you too, and he will now see you as a big baggage and liability to carry.

If you must also attract a man or make him love you the more, you must avoid too much physical contact with him. This is especially in public places and arenas, because he may see it as a prove that you are too possessive of him, though he might not let you know, but he will be feeling this deep inside him, and this might send him off.
I must also point out clearly here that most ladies send me off their ways through some of their arrogant and selfish behaviors like, condemning or criticizing other ladies in his presence. You might think that you are doing the right thing, but this repels men off you, especially when you do this, to kill his interest in a certain nice lady that passes by or lives close by.
Another great mistake that most ladies do, which sends men off their tracks, is the mentality of seeing men as being only driven by sexual satisfaction and urge. If you know a guy or you have a guy as a friend, and you want him to fall in love with you, please, don'’ do this through sexual appeals, instead, follow the emotional and moral appeals.

So, if you must capture a man’s whole love, you must capture his emotional and sexual appeal at once, don’t start with the last, it will ruin your efforts. Yes, men are highly driven by sex, it is natural in them but this is not a sue way of nailing a man for a lasting relationship though.

While lecturing you on the need for attraction, I must also let you know that this is most times dangerous. It is dangerous in the sense that most times, when we are attracted to some one, we forget ourselves so fast that we even ignore their bad sides, which might be a source of leakage in the long run of the relationship. Examine your current relationship now, this might be the cause of its difficulties and bad times. So before making move to attract a man, please do not forget to consider both his good and bad sides, and check if they can be compatible with your own. Don’t be fooled by the desire to be in his arms.

Now, let us look at those things you need to do as a woman, lady or a girl to attract that man of your dreams without walking up to him, to tell him that you admire or love him.

Number 1. Pleasant smile: giving him a pleasant smiles, whenever you see him, either in the office, at school, shopping malls or on the streets, will make him think, “this lady likes me” definitely, that is the pure nature of men. And this would make him think of you, whenever he is alone.

Number 2. Friendly greetings: if you are the type that believe in frowning face whenever you come across that man you have been secretly admiring, please avoid it from today, because this repels most men off you. Men exaggerate many things about ladies, so he might think you hate him with passion, when the reverse is the case.

Number 3. Buy him gifts: please don’t try to misunderstand this point, when I mention, buying gift, I do not mean you should start enticing him with constant gifts, please no. But you can attract him by buying him inexpensive but valuable gifts, at special occasions. You may buy him a perfume, a sports magazine or its equivalent, depending on his interest, which must strive to discover. Please don’t buy him underwear, as this may portray a wrong impression of sexual interest to him, which may either repel him off, or make him take advantage of you and dump you later.

Number 4. Invite for religious programs: depending your denomination and his, you can always invite him for a religious programs at your church; this will give an impression that you are decent, and that is what most men like most, when searching for a long term partner.

Number 5. Whenever you are with hi, discuss current events like news, science and technology, or even sports: this another good way of attracting a good partner to your life, because this will give an impression that you are current, intelligent and trendy, which is what every man love most in ladies. No man wants to get involved with a zombie or a dummy. But don’t show too much of it, always give him a room to prove that he knows better than you do, men likes to think that way anyway.

Number 6. Always send him text messages, reminding him to take lunch, shower or an appointment (if you have his phone number, which you must strive to have). This makes him believe you care of his well being, and no man likes to miss a lady that shows concern

Number 7. Always ask after his mother. It is quite obvious to us all, that men love their mothers more than their fathers, so for you to make a man think more intimate and passionate about you, try show concern about his mother, you will see him come running to you for a marriage. Because this will give him an impression that you care about his family, and he will be happy to have someone who will help him care for his mother.

Number 8. Pay minor bills for him. And please do not misunderstand my point here, I do not mean you should pay his electricity, water, gas, feeding bills. Please do not do this, this is his responsibility as a man. But if you jam him incidentally on a public bus, train or the likes, offer to pay his fare. This will kill his innermost desire to have you as his partner, at least, you have showed him you would not only be a liability to him, if he takes you up, but a source of assistance to him, so he won’t love to miss you either. You can also do this at saloon, but not often, so he won’t think you are buying his love with money, men think wrongly most times, of course not their fault anyway.

Number 9. Visit him whenever he is down or sick. But please while going, do not buy a flower, instead buy a book that you know that he enjoys or may be a magazine. This will keep him wondering what you are up to, so he would make more effort to know what you have in mind, which is exactly your desire anyway.

Number 10. Do not dress provocatively whenever you know you must see him. This might make him see you as every other girl in town, and hence repels him off, or make him use it as an advantage over you, and dump you later. So make a distinction, if you must attract that man of your dreams.

Number 11. Pay close attention whenever he is telling you or some else something, and smile politely at every polite speech he makes. This will make him believe you are endearing and as well enduring, so he will like to share or two ideas with you most often.

Number 12. Please avoid physical contacts with him. This is very dangerous, so avoid it entirely, so he won’t develop just a sexual attraction towards you, which is not likely to last, once he get laid with you. Keep him in suspense, men love it most, because they like trying difficult things, to at least, prove their prowess to their friends and their selves.

Number 13. Never argue his words or with somebody else whenever he is around. This will make him believe you are wise and understandable lady, which is what every man likes in his woman, but if you argue, you are trying to tell him that you are wild and know a lot, this might send him off. Instead throw in friendly suggestions, he will like you the more.

Number 14. Always glance at him with a friendly and charming smile whenever you meet him, whether on the street or at a shopping mall (of course you know how to use your wits, I don’t think I should teach you that too). If you do that, you have set his heart on flames of utmost desire to get closer to you, and if possible, to have you all together. But please don’t initiate the first move, no matter how much you feel for him, don’t go, instead attract him just like the female Eagle attracts the male one, and then allows him to do the rest work.

And please if he comes, stress him a bit, but still show him you are interested, don’t be scared to loose him, but please, be wise when doing this, so he won’t get pissed off and run, but I promise you, he will hang on.
Good luck in your romance life, and please don’t fail to let me know about your successes with men through leaving me a comment. I hope to hear your successes very soon.

How to Find Your Dream Man

2011-08-24T03:17:00.000-07:00

So you're frustrated by your search for Prince Charming? You're tired of always ended up alone and disappointed by yet another burnt out relationship? Follow these tips and get back on track.

Instructions
o 1 This is a horrid
o first impression
The single worst mistake that many woman make is looking for a prospective Mr. Right in the same pace that some girls look for Mr. Tonight. This may not apply to you specifically but the general concept warrants discussion.
Why on earth would a lady date a man that they found in a club? Ladies, in case you don't know, what we are looking for when we go to a club is a three letter word that starts with S and ends with X. That probably isn't a shocker to you but think about it: Is this something to base a long term relationship on?
Forget about one night stands here. I'm assuming that you did NOT take him home. I'm assuming that you met an attractive man at a club or party.
This man has seen you "clubbing" meaning that you were probably not dressed as modestly as you normally would be. I can tell you ladies that while we males may not always be very logical our brains are very organized.
I can tell you that any girl that we meet in a club is automatically filed away in the "Conquest" bin, and not the "potential marriage" bin. Of this I can assure you.
o 2 The average man
o thinks about sex all
o day long. At least in
o here he is surrounded
o by plenty of things to
o take his mind off it.
Where then can you find an attractive man in an environment that is more conductive to your cause? There are lots of places. Get creative. The key is that it will be a place that caters to the higher functions of the mind.
Let's take an example: Barnes & Nobles. See, places like these create a filtering system that you need. The men that come in to B&N are not just old, married, or nerdy. There are lots of collage students there too and their minds are in the right place while they are there.
I'm not suggesting that you start hanging out at bookstores or libraries, don't worry. I'm merely suggesting that while you are in these environs that are more conductive to your cause that you become more receptive and when you are clubbing or partying you become less receptive. This leads me to the next step.
o
o 3 Let us chase you. Men love a good hunt and I'll tell you something else: If a man seems too eager then it is a sign that you should run the other way. It may be flattering but remember that if it's sex that he's after then another girl would probably suit him just fine. This is doubly true if he's been drinking.
The best man is a self-confident man, right? Let us chase you. We do not respect "easy" girls, period.
o
o 4 In the same vein is another concept that needs to be addressed here. There is no worse mistake that a woman can make than "Giving it up" too soon. We are hunters, remember? A man is going to be with you for two reasons.
Either he wants to have sex with you or he wants to build a relationship with you. If you give him the first too soon you will never really know which he was after. Make us wait! This is the secret to finding out our truest intentions.
A man that has feelings for you and respects you as a woman and a person will not pressure you. Period. I suggest making us wait for a minimum of three months, but five is better and after marriage is best.
I don't say that out of a sense of religious propriety. It stems from the fact that if a man is willing to wait for you that long then chances are very good that he legitimately loves you.
See, we males often confuse lust with love and if you give us the first before the second has had a chance to establish itself we may simply leave. We are hunters at heart, never forget that

The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes MEN Probably Make With Women And What To Do About It........

2011-08-19T05:28:00.001-07:00

"The Ten Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably
Make With Women And What To Do About It..."
Here Are The Top Ten Reasons Why Men Fail With
Women And How To Make Sure YOU Avoid Every One Of
These Deadly Common Mistakes...
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of A "Nice" Guy
Have you ever noticed that the really
attractive women never seem to be attracted to
"nice" guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive
female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"
but for some reason they were never romantically
interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how
"nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do
because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION
for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that
powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of
logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET
OVER IT.
Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on
it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that
you want.
MISTAKE #2: Trying To "Convince" Her To Like You
What do most guys do when they meet a woman
that they REALLY like... but she's just not
interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to
feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER
CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO
ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel
differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in
the world do you expect to change that FEELING by
being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg,
plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work.
MISTAKE #3: Looking To Her For Approval Or
Permission
In our desire to please women, which we
mistakenly think will make them like us, us guys
are always doing things to get a woman's
"approval" or "permission".
Another HORRIBLE idea.
Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men
who kiss up to them... EVER.
Don't get me wrong here.
You don't have to treat women BADLY for them
to like you.
But if you think that treating a woman well
means "always getting her approval and permission
for things", think again.
You will never succeed by looking for approval.
Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their
approval.
Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if
Wussy guys who chase her around and want her
approval annoy her...
MISTAKE #4: Trying To "Buy" Her Affection With
Food And Gifts
How many times have you taken a woman out to a
nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and
had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat
her even HALF as well as you did?
If you're like me, then you've had it happen A
LOT.
Well guess what?
It's only NATURAL when this happens...
That's right, I said NATURAL.
When you do these things, you send a clear
message:
"I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so
I'm going to try to buy your attention and
affection".
Your good intentions usually come across to
women as over-compensation for insecurity, and
weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I
said that women see this as MANIPULATION.
MISTAKE #5: Sharing "How You Feel" Too Early In
The Relationship With Her
Another huge, and unfortunate, mistake that
most men make with women is sharing how they
"feel" too early on.
Attractive women are rare.
And they get a LOT of attention from men.
Most men don't realize this, but attractive
women are being approached in one way or another
ALL THE TIME by men.
An attractive woman is often approached
several times a DAY by men who are interested.
This translates into dozens of times per week,
and often HUNDREDS of times per month.
And guess what?
Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of
men.
That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.
They know what to expect.
And one thing that turns an attractive women
off and sends her running away faster than just
about anything is a guy who starts saying "You
know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two
dates.
This signals to the woman that you're just
like all the other guys who fall for her too
fast... and can't control themselves.
Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.
There's a much better way...
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works
For Women
Women are VERY different from men when it
comes to ATTRACTION.
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful woman, he
INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based
mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five
full years now, I can tell you that women usually
have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by
things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more
average and unattractive men with beautiful women
than the other way around?
Think about it.
Women are more attracted to certain qualities
in men... and they're more attracted to the way a
man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.
If you know how to use your body language and
communication correctly, you can make women feel
the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to
you that YOU feel when you see a beautiful young
woman.
But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN
how to do this.
And ANY guy can learn how...
MISTAKE #7: Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks
One of the most common mistakes that guys make
is giving up before they've even gotten started...
because they think that attractive women are only
interested in men who have looks and money... or
guys who are a certain height... or guys who are
a certain age.
And sure, there are some women who are only
interested in these things.
But MOST women are far more interested in a
man's personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract
women like a magnet...
And if you learn what they are and how to use
them, YOU can be one of these guys.
YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just
because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
Let me say this again: If you know how to use
your body language and communication correctly,
you can make women feel the same kind of powerful
sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you
see a hot, sexy young woman.
MISTAKE #8: Giving Away All Of Your Power To Women
Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to
look to a woman for approval or permission.
Well, another similar tactic that a lot of
guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.
Said differently, guys try to get women to
like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Another bad idea...
Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can
walk all over... Women aren't attracted to
Wussies!
MISTAKE #9: Not Knowing EXACTLY What To Do In
Each Type Of Situation With Women
Now I'm going to blow your mind...
A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.
Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than
men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.
I know, it might be hard to believe. But for
example, if you're out on a date with a woman,
and you want to kiss her, she knows it.
And if you don't know exactly what to do and
exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there
looking at her and getting nervous, she won't
help!
And this goes for ALL aspects of women and
dating...
Approaching a woman, getting her number,
asking her out, kissing her, getting physical...
everything.
If you don't know what to do in each
situation, you will probably screw it up... and
LOSE EVERYTHING.
And you KNOW it.
It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY
how to go from one step to the next with a
woman... from the first meeting, all the way to
the bedroom.
MISTAKE #10: Not Getting HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that keeps most men from
EVER having the kind of success with women that
they truly want.
I know, guys don't like to make themselves look
weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
Hey, I've been there myself.

Are You Dating a Potential Cheater?

2011-08-09T06:29:00.000-07:00

Most single woman seeking a committed relationship would rather avoid dating men who are likely to cheat. But according to statistics, an estimated 50 to 70 percent of men cheat on their mates. How can you tell if the man you’re dating is one of these potential cheaters? Wouldn’t it be great to have this information about him before getting too deeply involved?

Find out If He’s Prone to Infidelity

Studies reveal that some men are more likely to cheat than others because of their background, their past history, or certain character traits. Using this information, I’ve designed a 7-question quiz to help women determine whether or not a man is prone to infidelity.

Decide Who Not to Date

The Potential Cheaters quiz can help you make an informed decision about whether or not to continue dating a man, or how deeply to get involved. By identifying and avoiding the potential cheaters in the dating pool, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary headaches and heartaches.

Rate Your Date with the Potential Cheaters Quiz

Before you fall head-over-heels in love or get too attached to the new man in your life, rate your date’s cheating potential with the 7 questions below:

Potential Cheaters Quiz
1. Does he thrive on adventure?
2. Did he have a great deal of sexual experience prior to your relationship?
3. Does he have lots of female friends?
4. Does he have male friends who are cheating on their wives or girlfriends?
5. Does he have a parent who cheated?
6. Did he cheat in any of his past relationships?
7. Does he feel that infidelity is really no big deal?

What the Answers Mean:
1. Some men enjoy all the suspense, deception and intrigue that go along with infidelity. They’ll cheat just for the “thrill of the chase.”
2. Studies reveal that men who were extremely sexually active before settling down in a committed relationship are more apt to engage in sex outside that relationship. Don’t expect a leopard to change his spots.
3. Close friendships with women are a common starting point for infidelity. Friends can quickly turn into lovers. The closer the friendship, the greater the odds that it will develop into an affair.
4. Never underestimate the power of peer pressure. If his friends are cheating, he’ll soon be cheating too.
5. Infidelity tends to run in families. Children of unfaithful parents are often programmed to follow in their footsteps, considering infidelity to be the norm.
6. “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” There are exceptions, but statistically speaking, if he cheated once, he’s more apt to do it again. His history will probably repeat itself.
7. If he doesn’t believe that infidelity is wrong, his behavior will reflect his beliefs.

What Kind of Cheater Is He? - Evaluate Your Results

Generally speaking, the more ‘yes’ answers, the greater the likelihood that a man will cheat. But some answers carry more weight than others, so you’ll want to take a closer look at the results.

If you answered yes to #1, #2, or #5 (but not all three), he’s a POTENTIAL CHEATER who may very well cheat on you if the opportunity presents itself. If you decide to get involved with him, you need to make it difficult for him to cheat. Familiarize yourself with the signs of infidelity, so you’ll know if he starts to stray.

If you answered yes to #3 or #4 alone, together, or in combination with #1 or #2, he’s a COMMON “GARDEN-VARIETY” CHEATER who will cheat if he feels he can do so without getting caught. Your challenge, if you insist on dating him, is to stay one step ahead of him by learning to recognize the early warning signs. If you know how to spot the signs of impending infidelity, you may be able to stop his cheating before it starts, or leave before he breaks your heart. Familiarize yourself with the 21 major categories of telltale signs.

If you answered yes to #6 alone or in combination with #1,#2, #3, #4, or #5 you’re dealing with an EXPERIENCED CHEATER who knows how to hide the obvious signs of infidelity. The most important thing to do if you’re dating this man is learn to spot the subtle signs of infidelity, because these are the signs that will inevitably give him away. Get a good infidelity reference guide, watch him like a hawk, and try not to get too deeply involved.

If you answered yes to #7 alone ( This one’s the biggie!) or in combination with any others, you’ve got a HARD-CORE, HABITUAL CHEATER on your hands who’s probably already having an affair. (You could unknowingly be the Other Woman.) For this man, cheating is a way of life. If you don’t want to become an infidelity statistic, leave this man alone. Should you decide to take on this challenge, you’re in serious trouble if you don’t know how to spot the subtle signs of infidelity. Forget about watching for the usual signs of cheating. This man is an expert at covering his tracks. The best thing you can do is become adept at spotting the subtle signs of infidelity, since there won’t be any obvious signs to give him away.

Understanding the Rage of Jealousy

2011-08-08T07:59:00.000-07:00

Is jealousy wrong? We’ve all grown up to believe that it is. We take great pleasure in using it as an excuse as to why our relationships fail, in pointing this fact out to others as justification for our own actions, and accusing our loved ones of it as if it is some gigantic three headed monster.

I want to rearrange your thinking a bit. This article is meant to be provocative in the sense that it is designed to challenge the status quo, the politically correct, and socially acceptable platitudes.

First, let me redefine three simple words that we use interchangeably, but which, in truth, have very subtle different meanings.

Jealousy – the desire of what you believe to be already yours.

Covetousness – the desire of that which is not yours.

Envy – the desire of that which is not yours and begrudging the one who actually has it.

These definitions are actually taken from the Bible. The Bible tells us that God is a jealous God, and that presents a problem to those of us who were raised to believe that jealousy is wrong. But in truth, jealousy is the desire of that which is felt to already belong to you and that you feel someone else is trying to take.

I am not debating that jealousy can lead to all sorts of problems in a relationship, it is true, but it is not necessarily wrong.

Let’s take a simple example from a marriage. When you got married, you probably made several promises in the form of vows. These promises hold meaning that your spouse takes literally. If, let’s say, another man enters the picture, then the odds are your husband will become jealous. He feels he has a right to keep you only to himself and not to share you with another man.

This can obviously take extreme forms, I know—such as his anger whenever you so much as act politely to another man. In such cases, that is often the result of mismatched expectations. This is when jealousy can become extremely dangerous. But in the first example I can’t find any fault in the jealousy. After all, you did promise to keep yourself only for him. That is an expectation that he has a right to cling to.

Let me break the three words down into something more practical. Jealousy is when you believe that the local town is trying to take your house in order to build a new park or something. It is your house. You spent time, energy, money and love into it, and you're not about to let it go without a fight. That is a form of jealousy.

Covetousness is when you are driving through a neighborhood and you see a particular house that you say, "Wow! I'd love to have that house! That is the house that I want!" The house is not yours, and though you may never do anything actively to get it, the desire is a form of covetousness.

Envy is when you pass by that same house and say, "That house should be mine. So and so who lives there doesn't deserve that house. I do!" That is envy. Not only do you desire what is not yours, but you begrudge the one who actually has it.

HOW TO CONTROL JEALOUSY IN A RELATIONSHIP

The first and most obvious way is to have good understandings of each other’s expectations. If your expectation for your mate is a 9 and he or she is only a 5, then you will not be satisfied, you’ll be irritated, and possibly get upset.

There must be a free and honest flow of communication in these areas. You must determine what the expectations are, why they exist, and what must be done to either meet these expectations, or lower them to a more realistic level.

This MUST be done. To simply say, “It’s your problem, you deal with it,” is a sign of an immature relationship. Mature and healthy relationships work through problems together. A rule of thumb is, “If my spouse has a problem, then I have a problem.”

This is true in any close relationship. To simple ignore the problem, or even to tell the other person to get over it, grow up, or get a life is the height of arrogance. Why are you even in the relationship then? What? Did you really expect to marry someone perfect?

Learn to work your problems out together. I have followed a basic principle for years that has been extremely successful in solving relationship problems. I always tackle a problem from the point of view of the person who sees the problem the worst. If my wife sees the problem as a 10 and I only see it as a 5, I still treat it as a 10, or my wife believes that either I don’t really care, or I didn’t go far enough.

So much of the jealousy in relationships is the result of one or the other treating the perceived problem as less important as the other one does. That only convinces the other person that there is a legitimate problem he or she needs to worry about. If you tackle the problem from the other person’s point of view, you have given them a sense of relief and comfort. They believe you care as much as they do. That builds trust.

Often times, if their point of view is extreme or even absurd, following this suggestion will allow the fog of fear, jealousy, and rage to dissipate enough for them to see that they are wrong.

Another key is to stop worrying about whether or not the situation is fair to you. Life isn’t fair--sorry to break the news to you. So stop trying to demand that it must. Learn to roll with the punches, and you’ll find that life is much better than you really believe.

Often, your mate’s expectations aren’t fair. They might even be extreme. But if you simply dismiss them as being ridiculous, you only convince them that they were right and the jealousy and rage continue to build.

Take some good advice: don’t let that happen. Learn to deal with problems as bad as whoever sees it the worst and stop trying to make life fair to you. Do these two things, and you’ll find that your problems are much more easily fixed.

WHERE JEALOUSY IS A GOOD THING

There is actually some good in jealousy. If your mate is jealous over you, then that at least shows that he or she has interest in you. That which you care nothing about, you care not if you lose it or not.

So it is not a completely bad thing. It can certainly lead to bad decisions, actions, and problems, but to be frank, I kinda like it when my wife is jealous of my time. I enjoy having someone think highly enough of me that she wants to spend time with me and is jealous when I spend that time with other people.

Maybe you ought to rethink your attitude towards jealousy. It is very possible that you are the actual cause of it, not your mate or the other person in the relationship.

Why Men Cheat

2011-08-08T03:36:00.000-07:00

Why do men cheat is a question that is not so easy to answer and before we even start we have to clarify what we really mean by cheating. Cheating to some people is just glancing at a good looking woman as she walks down the street or thinking about that sexy looking number that’s displayed on the calendar or thinking ‘if only I was single ….’.

At what point a women believes her partner is cheating on her is largely dependant on her level of insecurity. A woman who lacks confidence, doesn’t feel good about herself and is full of insecurities might become paranoid at the mere mention of another woman while someone who is full of self-confidence and is comfortable in herself and with her relationship is far less likely to get concerned with straying eyes and a meaningless comment.

Before answering the question ‘why do men cheat’ we need to confirm our understanding as to what is normal behavior for a man. Can we get upset when a man enjoys a little flirtatious behavior or remarks on the good looks of super model if the act or comment bears no substance? An innocent action that in no way impacts the way a man feels about his partner is harmless, it’s how much he is and can be trusted to draw the line that matters.

Cheating has been made easier over the years with couples often leading relatively separate lives with the lone trips to the gym, the night out with the lads / girls and the common reluctance to find activities that can be enjoyed together. Then there’s the children to consider so couples often take separate holidays and work different hours which all add up to lots of time when you can meet someone else. It’s not even intentional but the likelihood that a friendship will start and progress is far greater than if you were in the company of your partner.

Often men see sex as just fulfilling a need, a way to satisfy themselves certain in the belief that if they have no real feelings for the person they are sleeping with then it’s not really cheating. They fail to see the wider implication of what impact it will have on their partner.

One of the main reasons why men cheat is when the intimacy has been lost from their relationship, when they have had enough of ‘not tonight I have a headache’, or ‘I’m too tired’ or ‘no the children might hear’. Men have sexual desires and sexual needs that need to be fulfilled so if the love, romance and intimacy has been lost in your relationship your man will be far more inclined to seek fulfillment elsewhere.

Some men just seem born to cheat and it’s in their very nature to sample what’s on offer. Such men are hard to form a relationship with but it is often apparent from the outset as too what type of relationship a woman is letting herself in for. An old friend of mine just couldn’t resist the handsome hunks on the beach, the ones that really loved themselves and thought they were god’s gift. She knew that they would soon move on and that she was just a passing phase but she just couldn’t help herself, got caught time and time again and every relationship ended in tears because she just wasn’t strong enough to cope.

It is thought that cheating men fail to have any feelings of guilt until after the event and, it has to be said, the longer man get away with it the more likely they are to continue with men having a greater tolerance and liking for risk.

For some men cheating is a way to boost their ego with each additional conquest enhancing their ego and being seen, in certain circles as a real status symbol. The ultimate impact on their relationship is something that never occurs to them at the time, when they are being outwardly encouraged to continue with their infidelities, and by the time they see the error of their ways it is generally too late.

It can never be said that men don’t know that cheating is wrong it’s at what point they consider the wider implications and what emphasis they place on perceived need which is perhaps different.

How to Tell if a Single Woman is Interested in You

2011-08-08T02:55:00.000-07:00

I would like to share some information to single men on how to tell if a single woman is not interested in you. These are signs to look for:

She won't make herself available. Even though they may sound like valid excuses, if she were interested, she would make herself available to see you. If arranging a date to get together becomes a struggle and you are the only one working on the problem, move on.

• Conversations will be awkward and forced. After all, you are the only one trying to keep it going.
• Conversations and the tone in her voice will be neutral. Not necessarily negative, but they will be absent of that up-beat positive mood that an interested girl gives.
• The important thing to remember is that most single girls don't want to hurt your feelings. So, if they aren't interested, they will be just neutral in their tone and expect you to pick up the fact that there is an absence of a "come on" in their manner. Many men will assume that since a girl hasn't come out and said "drop dead," then maybe she is interested.

Don't forget, if you aren't sure whether or not a girl is interested in you, then she probably is not. When a girl is interested, she will let you know.

Questions To Ask A Girl

2011-07-13T02:32:00.000-07:00

1. What genre of music are you interested in listening to and why do you like this genre?
2. What characteristics do you look for in people as far as choosing your friends?
3. What values do you think are important for all people to have?
4. Do you think that in this world today, a relationship between man and woman can be happy and well adjusted?
5. What do you consider to be undesirable traits for guys to have?
6. What do you consider to be inappropriate characteristics for a girl to have?
7. If you were stranded on a deserted island, what 3 things would you hope to have with you?
8. What is your idea of an ideal career for you to have?
9. If you were to win a trip somewhere, where would you want it to be and why?
10. Do you feel that the overuse of hairdryers in the world is a contributing factor to global warming?
11. Out of all of life, what is tops on your list for being important factors?
12. What is being happy all about in your mind?
13. If your life was a flavor, would it be more sweet, salty, or sour in taste?
14. What do you think your 5 strongest characteristics are?
15. What do you feel that your 5 weakest characteristics are?
16. Looking back over your life do you feel there are events you would do differently if you were given a chance?
17. What three words would you use to describe who you are as a person?
18. Do you get along well with your parents?
19. Have you ever had a hard time getting along with your family?
20. Where do you see the trends in fashion going in 10 years, for guys and girls?
21. If you were to paint a picture of the world what colors would you use? Why?
22. Do you like hanging around with your family or friends, or do you like your alone time more?
23. When you go out and about with your friends, where do you like to go the most?
24. What places are your favorite family-type places to go?
25. If you were a food what would you be?
26. Do you have someone that you consider to be a best friend, and what is there about this person that makes them your best friend?
27. Do you feel that your future is going to be filled with adventures, or do you view it as boring?
28. Do you feel that you have a high degree of personal honesty?
29. When you make a serious decision about a life situation do you think with your head or your heart?
30. Which has a higher value in your mind, relationships with people or monetary gain?
31-40
31. What type of books do you enjoy reading and why do you enjoy them?
32. What characteristics do you find makes a person heroic in your eyes?
33. Do you see marriage in your future with someone?
34. Do you imagine yourself a mother with a houseful of kids one day?
35. Do dream of living in a large house and having a fancy car to drive?
36. What is the one thing that you desire above all else for yourself?
37. Are you the type of person who trust everyone? Or do you have trouble trusting everyone?
38. Are you a person that has a positive attitude about life? Or are you negative most of the time?
39. Looking back on the events of your life, what one event helped shape you into the person you are today?
40. Do you have a charitable spirit?
41. Have you had anything in your life that has changed where and how you conduct yourself?
42. Are you an animal lover, if so which animal would you love to have for a pet and why?
43. Are you for or against marriage, or do you have an opinion on the subject?
44. Would you take one million dollars to leave your present life behind, including all your friends and family, to start a life where you know no one?
45. Have you had a most embarrassing moment in your life? If so do you feel like sharing it with me?
46. How can I improve my personality so that I am liked by more people?
47. If you had a relationship with someone and they came partially incapacitated either physically or mentally would you continue to be by their side?
48. Financially speaking, what are your goals for the present and the future?
49. Are you a person that gets along with anyone you meet? Or are you very picky about who you get along with?
50. Do you like answering questions that people ask you about yourself? Or do you wish they wouldn’t ask you so many questions?

Conclusion
As you can see there are numerous questions to ask a girl. These questions allow you to get to know her better. You don’t have to be romantically involved with a girl to want to get to know her because guys can be just friends with girls.
I am sure you will come up with many of your own questions as well. You need to be careful that if you do not know the girl well, to keep the questions more general and less personal. You do not want to offend her and frighten her away.
The more you get to be friends with her, the more personal the questions can be. So ask a girl some questions today!

Sweet Things To Say To Your Girlfriend

2011-06-27T03:24:00.000-07:00

Silly
1- You’re so sweet. I might go diabetic.
2- If I was superman, you will be my kryptonite.
3- Thanks to you, I’ve fallen in love and I can’t get up.
4- I wish I had glasses so I can see you with four eyes.
5- You are my girlfriend because you’re more than just a girl, you’re my friend.
6- A million dollars is nothing compared to the number hugs of I can give you.

Normal
7- You are my best friend.
8- Your voice is sweeter than honey.
9- Our love is friendship, but set on fire.
10- If it wasn’t for you, there would be no me.
11- To me, your smile is brighter than the sun.
12- When I close my eyes at night the first thing I see is you.
13- If I had a million words to say, they will all be I love you.

Poetic/Philosophical
14- Without you, a second is infinity and with you, infinity is a second.
15- Your name is the drumstick that strikes the instrument of my heart.
16- If my love for you was visible, it would not fit in the space of the universe.
17- When you’re away, I feel 50% empty, when you’re with me, I feel 101% complete.
18- I think about you every second of every minute; 25 hours a day, 8 days a week of all the 13 months of the year and in the undefined infinity of all eternity.

Rhymes
19- Without you I’m just simply blue.
20- Your voice sounds better than all my favorite songs put together.
21- If one plus one equals two, than me and you would equal a number that is new.
22- Tonight I have the right to hold you tight with all my might for the rest of my life.
23- If you were to give me a kiss overload, I would faint because my chest would explode.

101 Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend

2011-06-16T19:17:00.000-07:00

1-20

1. Are you looking for a long term relationship?
2. How do you feel about ex relationships?
3. How do you feel about kids?
4. If you want kids, how many do you want?
5. Should one person in a relationship stay at home with the kids?
6. Does it matter who it is?
7. How do you feel about your family?
8. How do you feel about your partner’s family?
9. Are you religious?
10. Do you go to church?
11. Does your partner need to go with you?
12. How do you feel about people with beliefs that differ from yours?
13. How do you feel about birth control?
14. Whose responsibility is it?
15. How do you show you love your partner?
16. How should your partner show they love you?
17. How do you react when your partner does something that ticks you off?
18. Is cheating ever okay?
19. Is it ever okay to lie to or deceive your partner?
20. Do you ever want to get married?

21-40

21. Would you want a big wedding or a small one?
22. What’s your perfect honeymoon?
23. Are there any groups of people you just can’t stand?
24. Are there any people you think are just better than others?
25. Do you like pets?
26. Do you think it’s okay to tell your partner what to do/wear/say?
27. Do you have strong political opinions?
28. Should both people in a relationship agree on everything?
29. Do you prefer to sleep together, or alone?
30. Should a couple share a room, or should each person have his or her own space?
31. Do you get jealous?
32. Who do you get jealous of?
33. What do you do about it?
34. Is it okay for your partner to have girl friends?
35. How about same guy friends?
36. How much time should couples spend together?
37. Do you ever feel like your partners are too clingy?
38. Do you ever feel as though your partners are too distant?
39. Which comes first, work or a relationship?
40. How much money do you need to be happy?

41-60

41. Do you prefer to share finances with your partner, or keep them separate?
42. How do you feel about sex outside of marriage?
43. Is there anything we can do in bed that you think is just wrong?
44. What’s your sex drive like?
45. Any kinks I should know about?
46. Are looks important in someone you’re dating?
47. If I got fat, would you dump me?
48. What if I lost a lot of weight?
49. Who are your exes and why’d you break up?
50. What makes a relationship a success?
51. How about what makes one a failure?
52. Is money important?
53. Do you respect women?
54. How about men?
55. Are there any big, innate differences between the sexes?
56. Ever had your heart broken?
57. Do you still have feelings for your exes?
58. What would you do if one of them asked you back?
59. What was your longest previous relationship?
60. What kind of movies do you like?

61-80

61. What’s your favorite thing to do on the weekends?
62. Exercise – fun or a drag?
63. How about the great outdoors?
64. Do you smoke?
65. How do you feel when other people smoke?
66. Do you eat meat?
67. Do you have strong feelings about animals?
68. Are you a political activist?
69. Do you keep kosher/halal/have dietary restrictions?
70. Do you like to read?
71. Do you like to learn?
72. What’s your worst habit?
73. What would you rather change about yourself?
74. What do you wish you could change about me?
75. What do you like best about me?
76. What do you like best about yourself?
77. Should couples spend time apart?
78. Should couples have all the same hobbies?
79. Do you keep secrets from your lovers?
80. What kind of secrets are ok?

81-100

81. What would you do if I were in a disfiguring accident?
82. A disabling one?
83. What are you allergic to?
84. Do you have any major medical conditions I should know about?
85. How about phobias?
86. What are your career goals?
87. Do you move a lot?
88. Do you expect to keep on moving?
89. Which is better, the country, the city or the suburbs?
90. Where did you grow up?
91. Do you like one part of the world/country best?
92. Do you like my friends?
93. Do your friends like me?
94. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
95. What’s your idea of the perfect date?
96. Should relationships require work?
97. Do you believe in true love?
98. Which is better, thinking or feeling?
99. How do you make decisions?
100. What does love mean to you?
101. Do you love me?

Some of these questions are serious and some not. However, all of them have the potential to change a relationship for better or worse. From little things like what movies you like to watch and how do you like to spend a Friday night. To the big things like kids, a career and religion. Knowing a lot about your boyfriend can help you decide if you’re right for each other and it will also help you see the compromises that can or can not be made.

If you’re in a relationship and you are not sure about it, maybe you need to ask some of the above questions. Don’t ask them all at once – your boyfriend will just feel like he’s being interrogated. Instead, go through this list and think about whether you know the answer to these 101 questions. The more you know about each other, the better your chances are of finding out whether your relationship is going to last.

Cute Names To Call Your Girlfriend

2011-06-16T16:27:00.000-07:00

Sleeping beauty: Good for the sleepy heads

Cutsie wootsie: Excellent to say while pinching her cheeks with both hands

Honey bunny: For the really playful

Dolly wholly: For the well dressed

Pretty eyes: Good for the crystal clear colored eyes

Sugar cake: For the sweet and happy

Sugar puff: Perfect if she is sweet and very sensitive (like a marshmallow)

Snookums: Perfect to say before a kiss

Cup cake: For the innocent and sweet

Doll face: For the cute face

Beautiful: Simple yet very effective

Pumpkin: Common name and for casual moments

Freckles: This name speaks for it self

Princess: Perfect is she still has that little girl spirit

Peaches: Good for the girls who blush a lot

Shorty: Be careful, she might really think she is short

Barbie: Excellent if she wants to be a model

Pretty: One of the best names that any girl will love

Angel: For the really elegant

Baby: Common name for both partners

These names are perfect to make one of those romantic scenes were husband and wife calls each nicknames back and forth:

Her: Sugar puff! Dinner’s ready!
Him: I’ll be right there sweetie pie!

Her: OK my little cup cake!
Him: I love you doll face!

Her: Me too cutsie wootsie!
Him: Not more than me sleeping beauty!

Her: Oh yes indeed honey bunny!

You get the picture…

Toughest Questions a Woman Can Ask a Man

2011-06-16T16:08:00.000-07:00

The questions are:

What are you thinking about?
Do you love me?
Do I look fat?
Do you think she is prettier than me?
What would you do if I died?

What makes these questions so difficult is that every one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly (i.e tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.

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Question # 1: What are you thinking about?

The proper answer to this, of course, is: "I'm sorry if I've been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you." This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following:

Baseball.
Football.
How fat you are.
How much prettier she is than you.
How I would spend the insurance money if you died.

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Question # 2: Do you love me?

The proper response is: "YES!" or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, "Yes, dear." Inappropriate responses include:

I suppose so.
Would it make you feel better if I said yes?
That depends on what you mean by love.
Does it matter?
Who, me?

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Question # 3: Do I look fat?

The correct answer is an emphatic: "Of course not!" Among the incorrect answers are:

Compared to what?
I wouldn't call you fat, but you're not exactly thin.
A little extra weight looks good on you.
I've seen fatter.
Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.

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Question # 4: Do you think she's prettier than me?

Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: "Of course not!" Incorrect responses include:

Yes, but you have a better personality
Not prettier, but definitely thinner
Not as pretty as you, when you were her age
Define 'pretty'
Could you repeat the question? I was just thinking about how I would spend the insurance money if you died.

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Question #5: What would you do if I died?

A definite no-win question. (The real answer, or course, is "Buy a Corvette.")

No matter how you answer this, be prepared for at least an hour of follow-up questions, usually along the these lines:

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She....Would you get married again?

He.....Definitely not!

She....Why not - don't you like being married?

He.....Of course I do.

She....Then why wouldn't you remarry?

He.....Okay, I'd get married again.

She....You would? (With a hurtful look on her face)

He.....Yes, I would.

She....Would you sleep with her in our bed?

He.....Where else would we sleep?

She....Would you put away my pictures, and replace them with pictures of her?

He.....That would seem like the proper thing to do.

She....And would you let her use my golf clubs?

He.....She can't use them; she's left-handed.

HOW DO I KNOW IF HE ISN’T RIGHT FOR ME.

2011-06-13T16:56:00.000-07:00

I am sure you have heard several stories about women who fall for a guy and after a few months into the relationship realize that he wasn't the right one and that's the time when everything becomes just too hard to handle.
So I am guessing that you are reading this article because you are stuck in a mental cycle of confusion and aren't sure whether the man you are with is even right for you or not.
Well, worry not! It's a good thing that you are actually questioning your scenario at the moment as the more you wait, the worse it might get. Here are some useful insights you can use to finally figure out if he is right for you or not...
How do you feel around him? Feelings will reflect the truth...
How do you feel around him most of the time? Do you feel fulfilled, joyful and satisfied most of the time or do you consistently feel down, misunderstood and frustrated?
The feelings you experience around a man will be a very good indicator of whether you are in a nourishing relationship or a toxic one. Because if you consistently experience negative emotions around him then there is something wrong for sure.
In such a situation you have two options, the first one being to talk things out with him and discuss all the areas which need critical attention in your relationship.
Or, if he isn't getting your point of view and is still sticking to his own then you two weren't compatible enough to start with and your relationship will end sooner or later as he isn't the right one for you.
Do you fully accept each other?
Have you fully accepted your man and does he fully accept you? Are you two completely comfortable with each other or are you two always trying to change each other?
There are many couples out there where both the partner's try to control each other and in the process they create a lot of friction and negative feelings in the relationship.
If you have always struggled to accept your man the way he is, and have always found yourself making efforts to change him in one way or the other then he isn't right for you. You would be better off going for a man who you can fully accept even with his flaws.
Where do you see your relationship going 5 years down the road?
Can you imagine a future with this man? Where do you see this relationship going 5 years down the road? Can you imagine it being better or do you fear that it might get worse?
If you feel doubtful about this and aren't really sure where the relationship will be in 5 years from now then this is a very good indicator of how well you really know your man.
If you two were compatible and good for each other, you will have no doubts about the future and will know that things will be far better than what they are at the moment. But if you are doubtful then this is a clear indicator that maybe you are with the wrong man.
Points to remember -
• If you mostly feel good and positive around a guy then he is right for you but if you consistently feel negative and poor around a guy then you are in the company of the wrong man. You would be far better if you let him go.
• A good relationship is a result of a good mutual understanding and compatibility. If you feel that you two don't really share a good level of understanding and are sort of just surviving with each other then he is not the right one for you and you will have to end it sooner or later.

15 THINGS MEN DO THAT PISS WOMEN OFF!

2011-06-13T16:16:00.000-07:00

I know that no man is perfected but there are some things to avoid keeping the conflict down. Being in a relationship is not easy, but it's easy to mess things up. Women are not perfected either, so I'm not saying that. But guys tend to do some of the stupidest things that tick women off. Some can be forgiven and some can be, but are unforgettable. I think that anyone would agree with me on this #1 thing that men do that pisses us off is;
1. Lying. I don't know about you, but I can't stand a liar. I was brought up to be honest and always tell the truth. I've lied here and there, little white lies, but to just lie and not care and think you can get away with it, drives me insane! I can't deal with a liar.
2. Cheating, now you would think you are all the women he need, at least that's what he tells you. I think the worse thing a person can do to another human being is to cheat. Once you cheat than the trust just seems to go right out the window. Cheating and lying are the worse! If you do give him another chance then you have to take the time to rebuild that lost trust and who knows how long that is going to take!
3. Being stood up! Man that's just bogus. You took you time getting all dolled up, smelling and looking so good and than all of a sudden he doesn't show up does not even be thoughtful enough to even call. Urrgh!
4. Another thing that gets me is when you always have to pay when going out. We have hard enough time with dealing with life and we definitely don't need no broke man that's going to suck our pockets dry!
5. Staring, I think it is so disrespectful for your man to have his eyes glued to other women. It can make you feel so insecure and you tend to want to smack him upside his head and knock some sense in him. Smack!
6. Does not notice her new hair due or new outfit. Lack of attention can be a problem. Women love to be noticed because we take so much time and effort at looking our best. So a compliment here and there would be nice sometimes. We know we look good, occasionally we like to here it.
7. Leaving your dirty socks lying around! I love you, but damn! No matter how much love I got for you I do not like picking up funky socks! Guys would be just as disgusted if we left our dirty panties or bras laying out for anyone to see. It's just nasty!
8. Some women might not be bothered by this. But when he has too many female friends it can bring up certain suspicions about the relationships that he has with these women, especially if they are attractive.
9. Lacks emotion, hearing those three big words can make a big difference in the relationship. Words are very powerful, so use them, though your actions might speak for them, but hearing the words will be even better. I love you!
10. Not having gratitude for the things she's done is just wrong. Appreciation is what makes the relationship strong. Genuinely giving yourself and your time to someone is the best anyone can get. Take time to say "thank you"
11. Leaving the toilet seat up! Oooooh I can't stand that! And you get even madder when you are not paying attention to the seat and just sit down to do your due and there's noting but booty cheeks floating all in the water ewww!
12. Trying to be a player with no job, no car and living at home with mama. Now tell me this, how in the hell can man be a player and can't even by a decent meal or pay rent? Get a job, grow up!
13. Intimidate by an independent woman. I just don't understand why some men are threatened by an independent woman. Some men can't deal with you making more money than them, accomplish things that they've never did or being able to do the same things that they can do. I guess it makes them feel like you don't need them. We need love too; we just don't need your money!
14. Not being able to give her the big O! Sex is supposed to be a two way street, unfortunately for some women it's just a dead end. Guys if you are having this problem than something need to be done. You get your pleasure, so why can't she get hers? There are sexual enhancers out there and other methods to make the sex life better. What are you waiting for; she's waiting for her O!
15. Last but not least forgetting the birthday, anniversary and Valentine's Day! Man, are you in the hot seat. You are constantly around each other all the time so how can you forget, but men tend to forget anyway. If you don't show her love everyday these days are you opportunity to express it and when you forget to, it can be hell for you! It'll hurt us, but believe me you will feel it and you got a lot of making up to do.
So, guys if you are reading this I hope you learn something from it. When she's happy everyone is happy.

How to Get Over Breakup Pain and Move On With Your Life

2011-06-09T05:52:00.001-07:00

If you're reading this, first I'd like to say that you will survive this. Anyone wondering how to get over breakup pain is in a cold, dark place. Fortunately, with a little effort, time and assistance, you will get over your ex.
For starters, you must decide if it is really over. If a part of you is wondering if you can get back together with your ex, you're not yet ready for this guide on how to get over a break up. There is a lot you can do to get an ex back, but the intention here is to help you move on once you've finally accepted that it is over.
How to Get Over Breakup Pain - Starting Place
Okay, so you're in pain and you're asking, "How do I get over a breakup?" First of all, make sure you've completed step one. You must decide that your ex is now and forever a part of your past. You can't truly get over someone while hoping to rekindle the flame; so stick to steps you can take to get an ex back if your real goal is not to let go once and for all.
End Communication to Get Over Breakup Pain
Heartache gets much better after the first 2 - 4 weeks; but one of the biggest lessons in how to get over breakup pain is that every single communication with your ex can be like starting over from day one. By letting your ex back into your heart and mind, even for a short time, you may end up destroying any progress that you made. It's a major setback. So, as hard as it may be, you must cut all UNNECESSARY contact with your ex.
The more you communicate with an ex, the harder it is to get over a break up; so don't call, text, email, tweet, Facebook, or make any other contact. There are exceptions, which we'll talk about in a minute, but for the most part this rule must be followed religiously if you're serious about learning how to get over someone you love.
If your ex calls, ignore the call. If possible, you may even want to change your phone number, block texts and emails, and remove your ex from your online friends lists. Even if the ex shows up on your doorstep or claims an urgent need to speak with you, don't fall for it.
What if you can't cut communications?
Now for the exceptions. Many heartbroken women and men are left wondering, "How do I get over a break up when we must still deal with each other?" It's true that child custody, court proceedings, joint accounts and things of that nature complicate things. But don't lose hope.
If you're trying to get over breakup pain under circumstances where you must communicate with your ex, the best thing you can do is resist all temptation to talk about things unrelated to the reason you must contact each other. If you must talk about the kids, only talk about the kids. If you share a bank account, talk only about the bank account and separate your money as soon as possible. This drastic lack of communication doesn't have to last forever, but you can't be friends with your ex while you're still trying to get over him or her.
These little lessons may not seem like much, but they are both difficult and powerful. Just remember, if relationship repair is an option, learn how to get back together with an ex instead of starting this process of moving on. Begin the work of getting over your ex when you are truly ready. If you can stick to the guidelines here for at least 30 days, you'll find that it is possible to get over breakup pain after all.

DOES HE/SHE LOVES ME?

2011-06-08T04:21:00.000-07:00

A person may love someone for a momentary crush and not have real love thus making a relationship less likely to last long; a breakup, then, comes as a big blow. Therefore, people are always keen to know if the person who they are attracted to loves them or not. This is because people in relationships, especially new ones, do not disclose their feelings openly and frankly. Both the persons in relationship are, therefore, left confused about the feelings of each other towards each other.

A person directly confronted and asked if he/she loves him/her may feel obliged to say ‘yes’ even if he/she does not really mean it; this is just not to hurt the person and to tide over the confrontation. Much goes into the study and observation of the psychology, behavior and the body language of the opposite person to find out if he/she loves him/her or not. It is important to know that one signal does not suffice to know if the opposite person loves and is interested in keeping the relationship going.

One should be aware of the fact that subconsciously, the person sends signals to the other partner of their love/dislike or hatred towards him/her. These are the real emotions one has to look out for. Some observations mentioned below if kept in the forefront of one’s mind, can help one to find out whether his/her partner loves him/her or not.

Does He or She Love You?
Initially, there is formality in the relationship when the two meet which soon turns to informality; there is praise and appreciation for one another. This is an indication that the relationship is growing and he/she loves his/her partner. They will begin to look into one another’s eyes for increasing span of time instead of looking away from the partner. The person who loves will very naturally keep his/her lover within their sight-range. Lovers do not like the one they love to be out of their sight even for a moment if that was possible.

To begin with, the two partners will find ways and means to be with each other and they make all efforts to bump into each other several times, anytime and anywhere. This may be initially concluded as coincidental but when it frequently happens it is deliberate and the love in their hearts should not be overlooked.
The physical distance between the two when they meet increasingly lessens if he/she loves the other person. Such closeness will not be found when they meet other people.

When the two stand with a crowd, the natural tendency will be for the person to go and stand with his/her lover. This will not be found if there is no love one for another. This is a part of the body language study and it is true that they will always prefer to stand face to face with each other.

Another subtle way the lover displays his/her love for the partner is with talking and showing concern about small things. They will simply call up the partner and ask if everything is alright with them or they may ask if he/she wants anything for him/her to get. As a pretext for just conversing, they like to go on and on talking even about insignificant matters. If the frequency of such calls increases it shows that he/she loves him/her.

One should watch for the sparkle in the eyes of his/her partner. If there is love, the eyes sparkle when they meet; if they do not love, there will be dullness in their eyes. They may even avoid looking at each other or even meet each other.

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Do you know that you are the most important thing in the world? You have to know that you have to love yourself before you are able to love someone else and totally be happy in your life.
You need to let go and relax. Always remember,don’t expect your life and
your relationship to bring you happiness.
Learn to bring happiness to your life and to your relationship!
Find a way to get in control of your life and then you will see that you can have a great life that is full of enjoyment and happiness. When you are willing to take a few different steps to happiness, you will find it to be a big help in the process.

1) Do not
criticize
You do not have to criticize yourself all the time.Criticism is not the answer and never changes anything. You do not need to put all the blame on yourself. Accept yourself for who you are and what you are in life.
2) Do not be
scared
Do not dwell on the bad things in life. You have to stop think about the bad thought and fill your head with good ones. Having pleasures in life is the one way to feel good about you. When you are able to let go of the scary thoughts, you will see that you can have a more enjoyable and easier time finding love for yourself.
3) Be
patient
One of the most valuable lessons in life is to be patient. You have to give yourself time to learn new things.Treat yourself as you would anyone else that you really loved. Give yourself a break and realize that you will get there and have what you need. Do not rush yourself to do something. Patience is a great thing to have and when you learn it you will have a less stressful life and you will find more love in your heart.
4) Give yourself
praise
Make sure that you believe in what you do. Praise yourself every chance that you get. You need to put some positive thoughts into your head so that you are able to have the good outlook on life that you deserve. Give yourself support and find ways to create more support for yourself. Lean on your friends and loved ones. They are there to help you as well and by doing this; you will feel better about who you are and what you have accomplished in life.
5) Love your
body
Remember that your body is very important to your happiness. If you are not happy with the way that you look,you have to do something about it. You will never really be happy unless you get healthy and turn into the person that you want to become.
You have to eat right and do the proper amount of exercise. You need to put these things into your life so that you are able to motivate your body into doing the things that you want it to.
Learn what you can about the different exercises that are good for you. Giving
your body energy is one way to feel good inside and this will help you start to
love yourself for who you are inside and out.
6) Find your inner
strength
Giving yourself the support that you need from the inside out is important. You may want to search and do some digging to find out what your inner being is all about and who you want to become. You have to have some kind of power from deep within helping you through your journey. You need to be strong and think about what you want to have in your life. Think about how much you deserve to be happy and what you should be doing to get there. Pull this from your inner being.
7) Be
spiritual
You do not have to be someone that goes to church all the time to be spiritual. You do however have to find the one thing that makes you happy. The one thing that makes you feel good about how you life your life and what your purpose is. Once you have this, you will start to see that you are finding love in yourself and feeling good about what you are doing.
8) Respect
yourself
Giving respect is something that you have to learn. You also have to learn to give yourself respect. This is something that is very important and without it you will have nothing. You need to know that you are worth respect and that you are someone that can overcome anything because you know that you are someone that can do it. Respecting yourself will come with time and along with respect, you will soon start to love yourself as well.
9) Having
goals
Goals are so important to have at anytime. You need to make long term and hort-term goals for yourself. You can make these goals for later on down the road and for today and tomorrow. As long as you have goals to work for, you will have the will to go on. As you accomplish your goals, you will fee the love form inside you. You will have found the purpose in your life and know that you can achieve what you put your mind to.
10) Be proud of who you are
There is no way to hide from who you are and what you want. You are who you are and you should be proud of it. Giving yourself pride is something that will help you love yourself so you need to do things that make you feel good inside. Knowing that you have worked hard for something and that you deserve it is very important.
Loving yourself is very important. You have to do this before you can love anyone else and with some work, you can achieve a great love for who you are and what you do in
life.

WHY DO MEN LEAVE WOMEN

2011-06-08T00:52:00.000-07:00

So why do men leave women? How can he change his mind so quickly? How can he go from someone who loved you a lot to someone who doesn't even want to be with you anymore?
Well this isn't something which happens overnight as most women assume. If your man has decided to leave you then the whole process must have started quite some time ago.
And there could be several reasons for that. Let's discuss this in a bit more detail...
Possible reason #1 - The relationship isn't fulfilling enough anymore...
And when I say it's not fulfilling enough, I am not talking about you but rather him. When a man decides to leave a woman one of the major contributing factors to this decision is the level of fulfillment and satisfaction he is getting out of the relationship.
Do you know what every man wants in a relationship? No, it's not a big list of things. All he wants is to FEEL GOOD. That's it!
Yes, it's really that simple. As long as he feels good in your company he will never ever think about leaving you. But you see in most relationships it starts of really well but then it gets to a point where everything is just extremely negative. And that's the point when the relationship starts to crumble.
Here are some of the things which can cause this -
• Having very high expectations and asking him to live up to them.
• Trying to change or fix him.
• Trying to push him into doing things he normally doesn't want to do.
• Complaining, arguing, nagging etc.
I am sure that you are thinking - Well what if he is wrong? What if it's all, his fault? Well if that's the case then why do you want to be with someone like that anyway? Why are you even reading this?
And we are actually discussing why do men leave women and that's the topic of this article so let's keep it at that for the time being.
Possible reason #2 - Attraction has died...
I am sure you are well aware of the saying that attraction always wears off after a while. You can't be all crazy about the same person after being together for some time. Well, let me tell you - This is one of the major reasons why men leave women.
Attraction isn't really a choice. It's not something one can choose to feel and it only occurs by itself.
I am sure you've had days where you just didn't feel enough attraction for your partner. But you see the main problem starts when you start having those days consistently.
If your man consistently feels a level of boredom in the relationship where there is absolutely no spark whatsoever, he is very likely to leave you.
Here are some of the things which cause it -
• Following the same old boring routine and not doing anything new.
• Being too predictable.
• Not trying new things with your man including sexual things.
Sometimes you have to go back to your old self and be the person your man first fell in love with. Attraction will only last when you are willing to make the right amount of effort.
Possible reason # 3- You have become just too NEEDY...
Have you ever heard of the saying - "A relationship only lasts when it's balanced?"
What do you think this statement actually means? What is balance really? Well a relationship is termed as balanced when both the partners need each other equally.
But when one partner becomes needier than the other, it creates a level of imbalance in the relationship. And this imbalance can lay the foundation of a possible breakup.
This is very common with women who invest a lot of time and effort in their relationship because deep down they fear that things might end some day. And in the process they become extremely needy which burdens their partner.
Really think about it...When you start needing your man for every little thing, you will indirectly come across as a very demanding woman and he will feel the burden to fulfill those demands which is never a good thing.
Men want to be free even when they are in a relationship and if you need him more than he actually needs you then, this conflicts with his need for freedom due to which he might eventually leave you.
Important points -
• Just like you expect positive things from your relationship, so does your man. The only way to make him stay is to keep things positive.
• Don't make him feel trapped by being too demanding; learn to keep his needs in mind as well before your own.
• Whenever you feel that your relationship is starting to feel a bit boring, make it a habit to do something fresh or new. This will bring the spark and attraction back.
• Above all PLEASE! PLEASE!! NEVER LIE to him not even the so called white LIE! That might kill the trust he have for you if ever he find out the truth and TRUST IS LOVE. And I guess you will not want to lose a relationship that you might have been building for some time.

20 ways to a loving relationship:

2011-06-02T02:13:00.000-07:00

1.Treat your partner the way that you would like to be treated.
2. Look your partner in the eye when you talk to them.
3. Compliment your partner.
4. No matter how long you've been with your partner, treat them as if you've just met them.
5. Don't raise your voice at your partner.
6. Respect your partner's views.
7. Respect your partner's friends.
8. Don't allow anger with your partner to boil over to the following day.
9. Communicate with your partner at least once a day.
10. Remember your partner's birthday or whatever day is special to them
11. Dress well in clothes that will be attractive to your partner.
12. Keep your hair well groomed.
13. Don't compromise on hygiene.
14. Keep your breathe fresh.
15. Maintain a healthy weight.
16. Keep your nails the way your partner likes them.
17. Adapt good table manners.
18. Don't talk loudly or use vulgar language.
19. Step away when you need to blow loudly into your handkerchief.
20. Don't leave the house without oiling yourself.

25 Fun Things To Do With Your Girlfriend

2011-05-31T04:07:00.000-07:00

1. Cook together. Nothing is more romantic than making a meal together. Go to the grocery store and pick out your ingredients and then head for your kitchen. So you? Re not a great cook? Make the salad while she make she make the pasta. Make the sauce together. Open a bottle of wine and take your time preparing a meal to remember.
2. Get pampered. Who says pedicures are just for women? Treat your girl to a day at the spa. As a special surprise, join her for a relaxing pedicure and massage. You will both feel refreshed and relaxed afterward.
3. Run a marathon together. So you? Re a little out of shape? Start out by going for shout jogs together and way your way up to 5k run (3.2 miles). You will be ready for a marathon in no time.
4. Read together. Find a book that interest you both and take turns reading it aloud to each other. Have a discussion about the book when you have done.
5. Go camping. Show your woman how rough it by taking her on a camping trip. Explore nature while you re out in the woods. Go for a long bike ride or a hike and look for interesting birds and butterflies. Pick wildflowers along the way.
6. Build something together. An ongoing project is a great way to keep your relationship energized. Research for plans to build a bookcase or another piece of furniture. Build it and stain it together. The piece will be one of a kind, long lasting reminder of something you did together.
7. Take a walk down memory lane. Take your girlfriend to her hometown and do a tour of special places from her past. Drive to the home she grew up in, the school she went to, her favorite hangouts, etc. then, take her to your hometown and do the same.
8. Go shopping together. Most men hate shopping and women know it. But by accompanying your girl to the mall you can get a good taste of what she likes to shop for. This can come in handy when it’s gift- giving time. Utilize her fashion savvy and let her pick out an outfit for you. Treat her to a special lunch afterwards.
9. Play tennis. Brush up on your skills and hit the courts! This is a game you can enjoy together on an ongoing basis. If tennis isn’t your thing, try ping pong or any game you both will enjoy.
10. Go on a picnic. Surprise her by packing a picnic lunch of sandwiches, fruit and cheese and eat lunch on a blanket in the park. Afterwards, fly a kite together.
11. Go to the zoo. You don’t need to have a little kid with you to have an excuse to go to the zoo. Take your girlfriend and enjoy all the unique and exotic animals. If you haven’t been to a zoo for a while, you may have forgotten how much fun it can be.
12. Work out together. Join a gym together and run on the treadmill, use the exercise machines and lift weights. You will both get fit and will be motivated to go if you do it together.
13. Get spiritual. If you and your girl practice different religions, try visiting each others church once a while, it’s important to share in something so important, especially if marriage is in your future. If neither of you are religious, try to find a place of worship to visit together. You may be touched in a way you didn’t expect.
14. Change your oil and knit a scarf. The two of you can teach each other things so share your knowledge! Next time her car is due for oil change, do it together in your driveway. Then sit down with her and learn how to knit, sew cook or whatever else her specialty may be.
15. Take an adult education class together. Many local schools offer adult evening classes. You can take a cooking class or learn about wine tasting, art or computers.
16. Go to garage sales. Get up early on a Saturday morning and take your girl for a on a whirlwind ride to all the area garage sales. Or scour all of the local antique shops for unique finds.
17. ** get your for fortune told. Even if you both scoff at the thought of psychics, go to one together just for fun. It will be interesting to see what the psychic predicts for your future together.
18. Go on a hot air balloon ride. Have you ever seen one of those beautiful balloons in the sky and wished it were you? Consult a local balloon riding company and book a romantic early morning ride for you and sweetie.
19. Buy her a ring and engage her.
20. Go boating, skiing, or horseback riding. Rent a boat and sail along the river. Or trek to the nearest mountain and hit the slopes. Even if you have never set foot on a horse, try taking a lesson together.
21. Enjoy the local culture. Go to museums, galleries and local historical site. Learn about your neighborhood together.
22. Go to a professional photo studio and have your portrait taken together. It will be a lifetime memory of your happy relationship and it may come in handy some day in the future when you need a photo for the newspaper engagement announcement.
23. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.
24. Write poetry and love notes and put them in her pocket when she is not looking.
25. In all! Pray together, nothing is more powerful when two agree on one thing.

When and how to rekindle the flames of love

2011-05-26T05:19:00.000-07:00

Romantic relationships require a lot of creativity in order to survive, there is not such thing as "lasting forever and ever" without you or your partner doing nothing special for that.
How could one determine the right time to start thinking about rekindling the flames of love? A relationship does not fade out all of a sudden, there are warning signs revealing your relationship is in trouble and here are some:
1. Your partner begins to get bored in your presence after a while and doesn't seem to be so interested in your daily activities when you tell him how you spent your day;
2. He forgets to call and tell you he'll stay longer hours at his job, if you live together;
3. He behaves capriciously, one moment being warm and affectionate and the next one he changes to that "leave me alone, I don't need your " attitude;
4. You feel you love and think about him more than he loves and thinks about you;
5. He forgets to celebrate the day you first met or worse he didn't remember your birthday;
6. He refuses to admit your relationship is falling down and need some attention from both of you in order to rekindle the flames of love between you.
What do you need to do when your relationship shows some of or all these signs?
Is there a way the romance be reinforced into your life? Here are some suggestions on how to rekindle the flames of love:
1. Remember the early stages of your romance and what made him fall in love with you in the first place, then try to recreate that atmosphere .You may even plan a romantic weekend in an exotic place or somewhere else and enjoy that time doing fun things together as you used to do once; you’ll be surprised to see how a simple weekend spent together with your lover in a quiet romantic place can do wonders on a relationship;
2. Surprise him with a well prepared aphrodisiac dinner when he less expects that from you( for example ,you might call and tell him you have a headache and will take a rest till he comes back home ,then wait for him dressed like for a special occasion , the table set with nice tablecloth ,cloth napkins , crystal glasses , champagne, flowers , light candles at the entrance of your home and one of your favorite romantic songs playing in the background );
3. Compliment him for any of his well mannered gestures and don't take them for granted; in the same time refrain from nagging him for all the things he forgot to do or say;
4. Reassure your boyfriend of your unconditional love by telling him those three magical old fashioned words "I love you" ,he needs to hear them from your mouth from time to time;
5. Encourage him to talk about his feelings and share his problems with you; be a good listener when he finally decides to open up to you ( men are more conceited beings than women and would rather keep for them any problem ), that meaning letting him to finish his speech;
6. Be supportive , understanding , sympathetic in his bad days rather than reproaching him he's not in good mood; talk to him gently and convince him to seek medical help if looks like he suffers from some kind of depression , especially when things are not going well in his life;
7. Don't wait for a special occasion and buy him that nice tie which goes well with his new suit just to show he's on your mind all day long; you'll get more chances to make him remember the things that are important for you and repay your gesture with a surprise ,too;
8. Work to improve the way you communicate with each other; learn to tell your man what do you expect from him ,remember he's into a romantic affair with you not into guessing games and usually men don't take time to wonder what their women want but rather will assume they can speak their mind up.