Stepping your game up

Pulling the women you want

2013-10-02T15:06:00.001-07:00

              What's the problem with you ? Why do your palms sweat when you see her ? You avoid eye contract ? Can't get the words out your mouth ? And you wonder why you're alone tonight. Life doesn't have to be this way there things you can do !

1. Read, Read,Read

     If you are not a reader then become one. Read the newspaper and books on many different subjects things that you like and most important read about new things. The reason for this it makes it easier to keep a conversation going. You come off interesting and well diverse. This also makes women more comfortable around you cause your conversation is base around getting in them panties. Which causes her to subconsciously want you in her panties if you play your cards right.

2. Listen

    Once you do have her attention learn to be a good listener. Engage her in conversation that allows her to talk about herself. Which in turn allow you to size her up and see if she qualifies to be down with you. Important thing to remember is guide the conversation cause you don't wanna sit around talking about her ex's or gossip real men don't do that shit.

3. Have a sense of style

    Learn if you don't know how to coordinate and put together your outfits. Once you get a good grasp of styling then you can create your own style to attract the kind of women you are into. if you are into pulling corporate type women then you'll wanna step up your casual or business suit attire. If you're into hood chicks then I got no advice you're on your own......step your game up !!

4. Use Dating Sites

     If you're looking to me interesting people the try dating sites . There are so many to choose from interacial, kinky,bdsm, and etc. Be honest on your profiles and take a shit load of pictures but only use the best 5 pictures. Too many pictures of yourself as a guy is weird and it makes you look like you are to into yourself. Show a little humor nothing corny. Mention a little something about your likes and hobbies. Never post negative rants it's a turn off. login often to keep your profile at the top of your area search. Contact many women on these sites and don't become focus on just one.

Standards

2013-07-15T18:32:00.000-07:00

              Do you have standards? High or Low standards? Why should you have standard ?

            When you are looking to purchase a car how do you know which car to purchase.
First you figure out what kind of car you want and the blue book value of the car. If you are really diligent you would look into the brand and the model reviews. if you find out that the car you was into had very low scores in categories like: safety, mileage, reliability, and cost of ownership. What would you do ? Would you still purchase this car?

           The answer all depends on what kind of standards you have accepted in life. A low standards person would still buy the car cause it looked cool and then he or she is mad about the poor performing car once the new feeling goes away.

           A person with high standards will research many different brand and models of cars they are interested in that fits their budget.   They would go test drive several cars that rank well in safety, mileage, reliability and cost of ownership.

            Now let's look at standards on the dating scene. Say you are a guy out on the town with your friends. Y'all walking into a bar and start a tab and grab a table. You're near the pool tables and restrooms ( p.s. is a good spot to be to see everybody). Your waitress is a smoking hot college student earning money for college. The both of you catch eyes several times and smile she even gives you and free beer. You also notice another lady checking you out she is older than you (which there's nothing wrong with older women). She whisper in your hear that she thinks you are sexy. But you notice a wedding ring on her finger. She ask for your number and says that the both you should get together and have some real fun.

       If his standards is high enough which one do you think he would choose. Would you waste your energy getting involve with someone else's wife or a beautiful waitress working her why through college and possible go on to do well in life ?

Streams of Income

2012-02-22T15:13:00.000-08:00

           It's getting harder and harder to make those ends meet in this economy. If you are working longer hours and still struggling financially. I suggest you look for a way to cut down on your financial needs or
another job. Oh no not another job I barely have time for the one I got is what most people just said to themselves. I often been a victim of working alot but earning a little it's frustrating and I believe overall its unhealthy. It brings on a lot of unwanted stress and sometimes depression from feeling overwhelmed and anxiety from feeling out of control. I know people who are on medication and the problem stems from their job. No time for family or friends leads to loneliness.

           So what can you do to get out of this rut you are in ? Sad to say but its gonna take a little work on your behalf. The keys to turning all of this unhappiness around is multiply your income so eventually you won't have to working those extra long days only to be short on cash. I know you heard this before but start looking around your house for things you are not using anymore plus have value and sell it. I've made good money still new and use items at flea markets and online. Things like art, eye glasses, clothes, toys, books, and just about anything else that reasonable. Just because you don't want it doesn't someone else wouldn't wanna owe it.

            Set out to make a extra $100 a week which isn't hard to do by any means. Once you got the hang of you'll see ways of making your sales grow. People use to ask me all the time when I was a weekend flea marketer do I have this or that. If I come across certain things let them know they would give me there contact info and sure enough if I found it I'd call them a meet up and make a sale. Before long I was selling items online for profit. I'll tell you this I was working from home making $1,000 to $2,000 a week no shit.

          Once you got that second income going keep your eyes open for other businesses that are not time consuming but yield a decent and consisent income. It's best to keep 3 forms of income coming in at all times. It might sound hard to do but it's really NOT ! There is ebaying, affiliated marketing, rental properties, cleaning service, avon, mary kay, pool cleaning, and lawn care. So many opportunities I could name all day. You just have to make a plan and take action. What do you have to lose ? Go for it and let me know how things turn out.

Taking a Stand

2011-02-18T10:05:00.000-08:00

                Have you ever witness someone being push around ? At work,school and even at home..(lol). Do you think to yourself "what a wuss"or do yell at them later and tell them if I was you blah blah blah. Or have you ever been around that no nonsense man/woman and thought damn they are mean ? There are some people out there that get off on being an asshole. (I'll cover that subject another time)
              Those of you that get push around and think if I just be nice they'll stop. Sorry to tell you they won't stop. Because you are a easy target and it makes them feel superior and stronger than you. Which is not the case but hey you wouldn't be going thru this if you knew that right ?
               I'm gonna keep this one short and sweet. When you don't stand up and let your voice be heard then no one knews where you stand in a situation or life. Speaking up for yourself says I respect myself period. People may not like it but you have to look out for your own sanity. Not checking people on their out of line remarks and behavior is why you look on the news and see school and work place violence.

getting your mind right

2011-01-09T15:37:00.000-08:00

           Have you ever obessed about things until you got them ? If yes then thats good. What you may have not realized is that while you were obessing you
were also making plans and taking action to make sure you got what you wanted. Well this is what high power players do 24hours a day but they just conceal
their thoughts until the time is right and to the right people. Your mind no matter what age or races you are should constantly be planning on advancing your
life. If you cannot conceal your thoughts you risk your victories in life cause in a competitive society it's normally cut throat or should I say dog eat dog.
When playing a game of chess do you tell you opponent what you next move is ? NO well don't in the game of life it's not wise to so don't do it. Especially if
your mind is not strong enough fight off the nah sayers or in other words the haters in your life. This people couldn't accomplish something of importance in
their life so they believe in themselves. So they lost fate and push their loser mentality on to whoever is stupid enough to share ideas with them. You got
be a better judge of character. See what they are doing or not doing with their on life. Listen to the way they talk in general conversation is it positive
or negative ? Remember always listen more than you talk and you'll learn more than you can imagine. Don't forget to ask questions to the right people as well.
             Learn how to socialize and rub elbows with quality people that you feel are worthy of your time with out be a ass kisser. First off no one likes
and ass kisser neither do you. Its cool for a second or 2 then they become a bore and a irritating. Get use to dealing with them because once you stepped
your game up. Those people will become a frequent in your life and you must learn to deal with them on a case by case basis. Find out what events are
going on in your area and if you have a few dollars go to some events not so close around you to get a taste of whats out there and the many different types
of people out there. Also it give you a chance to develop a new style and character traits you are not yet ready to expose to people who are close to you.
Trust me faking til you make it is not a bad thing. You are basically going through a trial and error phase. The caterpillar is on the ground until it goes
into a cacoon then its free to go anywhere it dam well please and so will you but it will take some work (trial and error stage) to get where you dream of
being all along. If it was easy to be what you wanna be then why do we go through years of college then intern (work with no or little pay) until final
beconsider skilled enough to be called a professional. The only difference is now you are being paid for some of the same work you were already doing.
Books like mine I call'em college courses in the game of life which is the only true game there is. Trial and error stage is like a intern in the game.
Total enlightenment, confident, courage, skilled, and a losing is not an option attitude is a true BOSS PLAYER and a professional in the game of life !

Guarding your light(Getting your Shine On)

2011-01-09T15:13:00.000-08:00

When figuring out what personality traits we want to build on we must be brutality honesty about who we feel we are and how we
portray ourselves when are around others. Do we stand tall and firm or slump over and fidget nervous waiting on others to accept who we are. You know the
type you seen them or its you that soon as someone says they like us or something about we fixiate on it. Always looking to get that postivie affirmation from
someone it almost be that person prime motiviation in life. Or you are that person who do anything for others and they do nothing for you. Figuring if you do
any and everything others might want you to do that they have no other choice but to like you. Sorry but those people will never like you nor will they ever
respect you as a person. Or you maybe the person the bitches and moan about how nobody and nothing around is good enough for them (HATERS) really
deep down they feel like and even know that they ain't shit and don't have nothing to offer. So no matter what you do or say they won't agreed or have any
positive to say about the subject or issue at hand. Some of those haters grew up with someone constantly helping and doing for them that they feel helpless
there own and when that support isn't there they feel helpless and lost so they act out like the babies they are. Independent people irritates them because
they really envy you and wish for indepedence but feel like its out of there reach. And then some are just plan old nothing ass motherfuckers too lazy too
scratch their own ass. Stay away from them I will say it again STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM THEM if you truely love yourself and valve your time.
Some personality traits will be easier to change than others that are more deeply embedded in your soul. Don't worry you just
work harder at but its well worth the effort trust me. If you don't like what you see in the mirror you can always alter you appearence . You can lose weight
or gain weight. You can grow or cut hair. You can whitening your smile or straighten your teeth. You can even change the color of your eyes. You can
lighten or darken your skin. Get tattoos or piercing. Or just simple change your waredrobe that can work wonders for your attitude and image. Your
apperance can attract or repel people around. So when putting your outter image together you must be very calculating. Thats why its best to get you
clothing game together after you have a solid idea of what the new your will be like inside then outside. Remember a Boss Player should make a statement
with his clothes and his mind. Don't be afraid of color too many people stick with dark clothes thats the easy way out. Get a good platonic girlfriend to go
shopping with you but if she doesn't wear banging ass outfits then don't ask her. One of the best ways is meet a women that you are attractive too but don't
try to mack her you're not ready yet. But befriend her and ask for her help women love dressing a man. Ask her question about why she selected certain
articles of clothing you'll be surprise at how much you learn from her. Get outfits for different occassions going out, laid back casual, and even around the
house clothes. You'll wanna look good even if someone comes over late night for that folks shit you know. Learn about colognes from women this is valuable
infomation. Most guys fall apart on the grooming and apperance of a Boss Player. Last but not forget the shoes you gotta step your shoes game up bust it
kick and a nice outfit don't mix. You'll be laugh of the scene immediately trust I witness this first happening to friends of mines that wouldn't listen. It's like
a Lexus sitting on hupcaps you don't wanna drive it because of the hubcap. This is the world we live in I didn't create it but I learn to make the best out of the
cards I was dealt. So be aware of your shoes game this goes for women as well as men. You goal as far as appearence goes is to turn heads bottom line
from the outfit scheme to the smell. Even if you not looking to hook up with anyone you want them to be looking to hook up with you. Everyone loves a winner
and a winner can have anything he wants even if he don't want it. Winners have that glow and others see it and want it think if they hang around some will
rub of on to them. But they can't have it cause it yours all yours and yours only to do with it as you please. Never give your glow away meaning allow someone
to steal that spark you got going on so stay true to you and only you. When you don't stay under your own light then your light will begin to go out.

Moving too fast....slow down

2011-01-06T19:45:00.000-08:00

   Are you a young couple thinking about moving in together ? Or better yet are you thinking about having children and getting married soon ? Then read on my friends. First think back a few years ago or just back to when you was single. Did you have different goals when you were single or just younger ? What happen to them ? Did they change after you was in a relationship ? If the answer is yes then why ? Did you tell yourself that you would get married at a later age ? And that you would have children when you were more stable financially ?
   So now you in a relationship and in a state of utopia things couldn't be better you say ? Word to the wise pump your brakes and pump them hard. You don't have to break up or anything like that. I would strongly suggest that you continue or start pursuing or goals with a passion before all the bills pile up and before you enjoyed those adventures with your friends like a trip to Vegas or Brazil or some shit like that.
    When you don't a chance to make waves while you solo then once you do commit yourself to relationship long term or have kids. Your chances of accomplishing those goals or adventures become bleek. And you will start to regret nothing taking charge of your life. Honestly sometimes getting in a commit relationship quick or just moving too fast is a cop out. Some folks are scared to take on life by themselves and they never find out what they are truely made of and their character suffer. Some are really needy and codependent there for become extra weight in a relationship. Long story short live a full life before, during and even after a serious commited relationship.

Can you get something from nothing ?

2010-12-31T18:44:00.000-08:00

When we were little kids our parents usally whated us to do better than they did in life. To accomplish more, see more, and doing more. But sometimes it's hard to accomplish more when you see very little. Meaning the a parent with little education and low to no income can't afford to take time off to take her kids to the zoo,museums,plays and etc. Things that will help a young mind see bigger possibities for oneself. If you don't see your parent actively directing and shaping their own lives then where is the child or children suppose to learn by example from ? Then we wandering why others seem to have influence over our children. Because kids admire people who walk the walk and talk the talk. I travel a lot and I see parents bring books along and so do a lot of their children do as well. But its very rare that I've seen parents with no books but the kids brought books. Not saying it never happens there is always an exception to the rule. So get your panties out of a bunch. Parent that lay around the house tend to have children that have no problems with laying around doing nothing productive as well. Parents start off setting up the normal and setting a childs pace. Just something to think about as your are Stepping Your Game Up .

You gotta keep it O.G.

2010-12-15T19:50:00.000-08:00

         I walk thru the malls in my city and other cities and the one thing I notice is how 90% of the people I see and meet are on some clone shit. What I mean is that they are direct carbon copies of the images we see on t.v. . Can't begin to tell you how many Nicki Manji's, T.I.'s, Soulja Boys, and Lil Wanye's wanna be's are out here. If you are one in the open or in private get off their dicks and find your own identity and your our voice. I don't want no bitch that's living the life of someone else. Thats kids shit that even kids shouldn't be doing. And they are doing it cause they don't know how they are yet. But older cats should know better. I guess it's hard when folks you admire is riding the dicks of the masses.
            Look it's ok the pull some inspiration for those who seem to possess qualities you admire. But being inspired and plan old dick riding is two different things. When I pull inspiration from someone it's about a certain quality that I add to my on life style. For example when Master P and No Limit was running the rap game years ago. I had the honor in meeting and talking to P in person. He had a unstoppable work ethic and he believe in himself totally. Those quailties I notice instantly and I work to incorporate those qualities into my life. So I started working harder not just doing just enough to get by. I wanted to do more and more and I still have to out hustle whoever trying to accomplish the same things I set out to accomplish. I didn't dick ride and put gold teeth in my mouth or call myself the ice cream man you know.
                To all the future boss players, hustlers and macks. You gotta keep your game original. Your game should be tailored to fit who you are like a glover. People love real folks that move to their own beat in life. If I like suits and my friends like jeans and t-shirts well they better accept my suit wearing ass or they can get the fuck on. I'll accept their jeans and t-shirts if thats who they are inside . I have no problem with that I keep it 100 with them cause I want them to know its ok to be 1000 with me. You Dig ! No women wants to date some guy who's not been himself . If you wanna increase your pussy rate trust yourself enough to be yourself. The best you you can be.