Dating Tips

How to talk to Woman?

2010-07-07T18:11:00.001-07:00

This is the number one MISTAKE guys make: they think that there is something 'magical' that needs to happen to let a woman know that you are interested in her.

What I like to do is just carry on a CONVERSATION.

So you've gone and started talking to a woman - you've opened her up with something - and you start having a conversation just like you would normally with anybody.
You start talking and find BONDING moments, you look for the key portal WORDS that we've talked about - you look for an EMOTIONAL talking point in her - something that you can use to take the conversation further.

For example, I was walking down the street tonight, and I saw the yellow sweatshirt girl again, who I'd opened up earlier by talking to her about the price tag.

So I said to her, "hey, you've got your sweatshirt on again!" and she said, "God, I was cold."

I asked her why she was so cold, and she said that she was just here for the weekend. So I said, "where are you from?" -She said, "I'm from Vancouver."

"Vancouver! I love Vancouver!" I said, "I lived in Seattle for a few years, and Vancouver is one of my favorite cities," and then we were able to start talking about Vancouver, and where she was from, and so forth.

At that point, she didn't move - she knew I was interested in her.

How did she know I was interested? I was asking her questions.

I wasn't asking her boring, small-talk questions about the weather, I was asking her PERSONAL QUESTIONS about things that she had said, and I was paraphrasing her when I went back and talked to her - meaning, when a woman says, "I'm from Vancouver," I say, "Wow, I loveVancouver, how long have you been living in Vancouver?"

Paraphrasing is using HER terminology.

If she says, "I'm just here for the weekend," then I say, "what made you come down to LA for the weekend?" and she tells you, "I came here because there was an art show."

You respond, "what type of art do you like?" or "what type of art show did you come for?"

Then she'll start talking to you, and talking about things, and she will know that you're interested in her.

In general, women know that when you start asking her a lot of questions about personal things, you are interested.

She also knows you are interested based on your body language towards her - are you excited?

Every time you ask her another question, elevate your voicetone a bit - say, "Oh that's so cool - I always wanted to know about that artist, tell me a little bit more about Dali," or "tell me a little bit more about Picasso, I've never really explored his art."

"Tell me a little bit more" - and you're excited about what she's talking about. This creates ATTRACTION in her because she all of a sudden starts thinking that "this guy likes me!" She thinks, "this guy is interested in me, he wants to learn more about me."

All of a sudden, you are listening and having energy and excitement about what she's saying, and the next thing you know, you're flirting with her - that's what flirting is.

And then you can start teasing her a little bit, you can tease her about, say, living in the rain in Vancouver all the time - whatever bit of information you find out about her that you can use totake the conversation further.

Your interest in her will also come across in your body language, in your delivery, in your tonality - maybe even slowing down - showing that romantic, sexual intent.

You can be talking about anything really - and if you slow it down and hold intense eye contact, she will then know that you have a clear interest in her - as more than just friends.

I was in this store today, and saw this underwear that said, "Clitosaurus Rex." Some women were walking by, and while most guys would play it safe and not say anything, I picked them up and said, "Clitosaurus Rex - this is so funny!"

Another pair said, "Love My Pussy." I said to the women, "Love my pussy? I've got to get these for the girl I'm dating right now, this is great!"

And by just saying these things that were on the underwear, other people started coming over - other women - and all of a sudden, after just playing with these underwear and t-shirts, I'm walking out of the store and one of the women hit on me!

This happened because I was being playful, because I'm NOT AFRAID to be playful. You can show that you are NOT AFRAID of showing your sexual side - a lot of guys are afraid of this, they think, "oh I can't say that, I'm going to get slapped!"

But it's not true! Showing your sexual side is VERY powerful. Many guys don't do it, so girls really like seeing that. They know thatyou're a man who is not afraid of being a man.
And that's really what they want! In the REAL WORLD, having unlimited amount of OPTIONS in your pick of women, unfortunately is a luxury NOT many guys have. The reason: They usually think they know it all but in reality, they just DON'T... and they wind up going through life settling for second best types of women or even NONE at all.

Laid back on Dates

2010-07-07T18:09:00.000-07:00

There's a common joke amongst the players within our community that says that when a first guy meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly feel as if he's meta potential wife.

But when a girl comes across a guy she likes, she'll let cupid work its magic and see how things goes... That couldn't be more true.

Look around you. Haven't you noticed that when a guy first meets a girl he likes, he'll instantly think that she's 'the one'. He'll think that he's in love, that she has the potential to be the 'love of his life' even though he doesn'tknow ANYTHING about her at all??

Sounds crazy I know, but as irrational as it may sound,I've done it before myself, and I can pretty much vouch that you and practically 98% of guys has felt the same way too lol!

Why? Well, that's just how we men are wired to be but now that you're aware of it, it's absolutely crucial for you to STOP yourself from repeating the same mistake ever again!

Think about it. When you think you've met the 'love of your life',how will it make you feel? Nervous, anxious, over-excited?

Won't you do everything in your power to NOT to 'screw up'your chances with her, won't you become more CONCIOUS of what you'll be saying, acting and doing in front of her? Of course you would.

But can you see how much unnecessary pressure & tensionyou're putting yourself in then?

And the paradox to it all as that the more you try not to 'screw up' your chances, the more you'll end up screwing it worst than ever before!

Being 'safe', not taking chances and risks with women is BORING to women. Why?

Because that's exactly the kind of men that are hitting on them everyday!

Haven't you noticed how when a man first meets a woman he likes, he'll usually act all nervous, fidgity and overly anxious to impress his date?

He'll be thinking "Gosh you're beautiful, I'm soo into you,I just know you'll be a wonderful girlfriend. I'll do anything for you." Or even... "You're soo hot, I sooo wanna bang you"

On the other hand, you will be thinking "You're interesting to me. I'd like to get to know you better and we'll see how things goes." more laid back on dates.

So how's a guy supposed to act around women then?

Well, for starters, STOP THINKING THAT EVERY WOMAN YOU MEET MIGHT VERY WELL BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE... duh!!

Looking for something, anything;her dress sense, her accesories, her handbag, her heels,her actions; whatever it is to bust on her (There's ALWAYSsomething you can focus on) and turn the tables implying how SHE'S the one who's screwing up her chances with me.

If she's local and I'm from out of town, and she wasn'tsure of her directions, I'll just shake my head and go"this relationship just isn't going to work out"

If she fumbles as she's pouring herself coffee I'll shake my head and go "this relationship just isn't going to work out"

Using the "this relationship just isn't going to work out" has never failed in doing 'the job'

As we're talking, when she accidently mispronounces, 'eats'or fumbles her sentences (this happens to all of us sometimes), I'll just shake my head again and just breath a playful sigh... "Are you ALWAYS like this?"

Can you see the point?

Doing the exact OPPOSITE of what most guys do. I'm saying "I'm here to get to know you but I'm also here to have fun. Still, I could care less what you think of me but I'm comfortable & confident enough to make fun of you so we'll see where this goes

How to get her number?

2010-07-07T18:06:00.001-07:00

First, a note on scoring her digits: don't ask permission. Make swapping numbers seem like a completely natural step. After around ten minutes of conversation, take your phone out of your pocket and tell her,

"Let's exchange numbers, we should continue this conversation sometime."

Don't wait for a "yes" or "no." Just start programming her name in. Even better, mention there are some parties/events coming up that you want to let her know about. This makes you sound socially savvy and plugged in, a characteristic of Alpha Men.

"Let's swap numbers, there are some cool parties coming up that I want to let you know about."

If you've laid the proper groundwork, she's going to go with your flow. She'll give you her number, and you'll give her yours.

As the man, you'll be the one to make the first phone call--but swapping numbers, rather than just getting hers, makes it feel like a fair exchange.

Now, as you program her number in, say "I'll have some free time on _____ (name the day of the week two days from now). What's a good time to ring you?"

This eliminates any worries about disturbing her while she's in the middle of something, or calling too soon.

(Find out when she's available to talk two days from now, and call her then.)

NEVER ask permission for a girl's number.

You are comforting her with the idea that swapping numbers is a natural, harmless thing to do at this point in the conversation.

Some tactics to keep in mind:
1. No matter who answers the phone, announce who you are: "Hi, this is Mike. Is Sarah there?" This demonstrates confidence, and if a housemate or family member answers, you'll establish rapport with them. This can come in handy later if you meet them.

2. If they tell you she's not home, just ask for her to call you back. Don't go into any sort of explanation or mention that you want to make plans with her. It will only make her feel embarrassed when they relate the message to her.

3. Never call to chit-chat. Only call to plan a date with her, and have the game plan already in mind. Keep the phone call under five minutes. You'll have plenty to talk about when you meet again in person. Once the date has been set, tell her you're looking forward to seeing her and politely end the conversation.

4. Talk slowly and sound cheerful and relaxed. Your tone is very important. If you sound anxious and talk too fast, you're going to come off as desperate and over-eager.

5. If she doesn't answer, don't leave a message. In most cases she'll screen the message and "forget" to call back. Make the call in the afternoon, and if she doesn't pick up, call again in the evening. (If you don't get her on the line in your first two attempts, try again two days later. Still no answer? Forget her and move on, unless you've also got her email.)

6. Don't send her a text message instead of calling her. This is an obvious impersonal wuss move, and the flirty energy and tone of your voice is importantfor making her feel comfortable saying "yes" to the date.

7. So what about email? In this day and age, it does make a lot of sense to get her email as well as her phone number. Women are far more likely to respond to an email than a voicemail message.

DO It without Fear

2010-07-07T18:05:00.000-07:00

Willing is a key word. It is what creates the energy and courage to create and live life by DESIGN.

Being WILLING to have them is what creates them.Being willing moves you beyond your limitations into greatness.
The best thing about this is you can change the realities of your life right now if you were to DO something about it.

Stop thinking, stop analyzing, stop waiting and start TAKING ACTION.
NEVER let ANYTHING hold back when with women, and the be SHOCKED;because the things say and do, TOTAL OPPOSITES of what you'd expect a guy to do...

Take risks, forget about what's possible and what's not possible for a second and just DO IT.
If you want to approach and talk to her, just DO IT.
If you want to call her, stop coming up with clever, funnylines to impress her and just DO IT.
If you want to ask her out, then just DO IT.

Fear of rejection. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what a woman might do if we start talking to her. I'd like to remind you that fear is nothing but a THOUGHT. It's NOT real.

7 steps to be the Alpha Man

2010-07-07T18:04:00.001-07:00

1) Learn To Say "No": Not in an angry way, but in a calm and almost "indifferent" manner.
Examples: "No, dear. We're not going to that restaurant tonight."
"No, I don't want to wait for you to call me 2 hours before the movie to see if you're going. If you can't come, tell me now so I can make other plans or go with someone else."

2) Don't Be Too Nice: If you're the type of guy that likes to "be nice" to women and buy them gifts and take them out to dinner, STOP now.
STOP letting them order you around.
STOP volunteering to "do things for them". Every time you fetch her bottle for her or give her a ride home, she's going to see you MORE as a wussy FRIEND instead of a potential LOVER

3) Be Prepared To Walk: If you aren't getting what you want from a girl, there's no use hanging around. If you aren't happy in a relationship, break out of it. Having this attitude will give you A LOT of power. Once women know that you CAN and WILL walk out if necessary, they won't take you for granted anymore.

4) Plan Out Dates: This is actually the easiest way to demonstrate your LEADERSHIP and INDEPENDENCE.
Have the whole date planned out before you go
Stay in control and just give her a good night out
Remember that people are drawn towards those that have a CLEAR sense of where they're going... so if you plan everything ahead...your date is going to respect you more.

5) Be Decisive: If a girl asks you whether you would like to go for dinner or a play, don't say, "Whatever you like." Give a REAL answer.
Every time you give the "let's do whatever you like, darling" kind of answer, you're handing your power over to HER. Sooner or later, she's going to stop respecting you as an equal partner.

6) Don't Care About What She Thinks Of You: Remember that your job is to ATTRACT her, not to PLEASE her.
Don't let her know that you care what they think of you at all. The moment a girl knows you rely on her opinion of you, she's going to lose respect.
Here's the bottom line: women are only attracted to guys they respect, and guys that try too hard to please women lose their respect over time!

7) Learn The Dating Game: Women respect guys that KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. Think about it...if you were a woman, would you go for a guy that stuttered and sounded not very confident...or a guy that knew EXACTLY how to approach you, WHAT to say to you...and HOW to say it? Remember that women are NATURALLY ATTRACTED to guys they RESPECT. This means POWERFUL, CONFIDENT, and INDEPENDENT guys that make them feel weak in their knees...

What Woman Really Want?

2010-07-07T18:03:00.001-07:00

A lot of men end up becoming that guy, the guy that girls talk to about their problems.
But the relationship usually doesn't get any farther than being just friends.
All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy or that they can never seem to find a nice guy to date.
The problem is, this isn't exactly correct. These women aren't lying when they say they want these things...when they think logical they do, because it makes sense.
But remember, women don't choose logically what they are attracted to.
So, when they think about it consciously. Women want a guy that will buy them flowers and talk to them when they feel down. But in reality, their instinct is to like a guy who will TAKE CONTROL and ACT LIKE A MAN should.
So what qualities do women want in men?
What they've always wanted and always will want.
Women want REAL MEN, men that are IN CONTROL and don't ask for permission to do anything.
They don't want to be in charge, they want someone to be IN CHARGE of them. Here are some examples,
have ever noticed that... When you give a girl a compliment or tell her how beautiful she is she shies away from you?
But when you... Notice a flaw about her, she will get more involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.

Also, have you noticed... When you spoil a girl by buying her gifts, taking her to an expensive dinner, she usually thanks you the evening and goes out with another guy? But, If you simply go for a quick drink and act like you are equals she feels attracted to you, because you're not catering to her every need.

Have you noticed when.... You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and funny. But, when you don't call her and you act like you're busy and could live with her or without her, she won't stop calling you.

The truth is women don't want to be catered to, spoiled or treated like princesses. This is what women want from a man... First of all, women want you to be CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF.
So, if you approach a girl and seem shy and awkward, that is a turn off. Women want you to LEAD THE WAY, not the other way around. They don't want to talk about what you are going to do, they just want you to lead the way and do it. They want you to keep it COOL and NOT get emotional.

Flirt with her Make her laugh

2010-07-07T18:02:00.000-07:00

Find ANYTHING, her purse, shoes, glasses, what she's doing, how she's doing it, where she's going and make a smart or wise ass comment about it sure to make her LAUGH.

The intention of your playful teasing is not to tease; keep in mind your intention is to ATTRACT her and nothing else.
Tease her when you have a funny or naughty little comment that comes to mind and DON'T hold back.

It seems men with only the intention to have fun and don't really care much what she thinks of him happen to get the best results.
Don't hold back when you have a funny comment, and don't worry what she'll think.

Not to be too worried about what she'll think or if you'll ruin your chances, just have fun.
Women are NOT attracted to men who are all submissive, accomodating and give in to their every demands. They are not attracted to guys who are insecure with themselves & men who are easily INTIMIDATED by women.

you're indirectly 'telling' her that you'retotally COMFORTABLE being yourself, that SHE'LL have to do more than just 'look good' to impress you, and that SHE'S the one who has to work hard for YOUR ATTENTION.
Playfully teasing women & making them laugh is the most direct route to creating attraction with women.

10 steps to get a girl

2010-07-07T18:00:00.001-07:00

1.Approch
The key is confidence and poise
Do something NORMAL

2.Getting Digits
The key is to be interesting and funny
COCKY and FUNNY
Make interesting conversation with women

3.Date Request
Keep up the cocky and funny
The Friendship Frame

4.Date
MUST be as clean as possible
Make a good impression
Stay very cool and calm when you first meet a woman - and act almost indifferent. This quality is attractive to women.

5.Holding Hand
it's a good idea to hold a woman's hand forawhile before kissing, this conveys to the woman that you are a warm,friendly person, and someone she can trust.
The interesting thing about hand holding is that men think that handholding means "She wants to have sex" and women think that it means "Oh,he's a nice guy."
An important one to learn is Palmistry, as it leads to you touching herhands!
When you're finished, you just keepholding her hand. It works so perfectly.

6.KISSING
If I've been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she's ready to bekissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make acomment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it.
If she smiles and appears to like what she's hearing, I then reach backover and start stroking it again while talking to her. If she likes this, I knowthat she would be receptive to a kiss.

7.Being Alone with Her
This Bridge is all about trust
If she trusts you, and feels safe, she'll be OK with the idea of beingalone with you.
It's important to NOT seem too eager for anything.
DON'T seem too anxious
So be trustworthy

8.Making Out
Men are on/off switches, and women are volume knobs. So work on thisone slowly and with patience.
The first thing to do is NOTHING
Take 10 or 15 minutes and sit back and be only interested in talking. As a matter of fact, sit faraway from her, or LEAN BACK if you're next to her. This sends the message that you're not just horning in for the kill.
Next, when you've both shared a nice laugh together, and the energy is good reach back over and give her a kiss.
This time, WHISPER in her ear that she smells really good. Then start to SMELL her neck and shoulders
Women LOVE tobe smelled, and it instantly turns them on
The things that trigger it:
1. Pulling her hair gently (run your hand up the back of her neck intoher hair, then make a fist and pull lightly).
2. Biting her neck gently (no Dracula here, just lightly).
3. Breathing in her ear and whispering.
4. Kissing her neck.
If you take some time smelling her, she will start to get turned on. Thenit's time to try one of the above to take her to the next level! This is whenyou can start gently rubbing her breasts, etc. and go with some heavy petting.

9.Clothes Off
Compliments also WORK well at this point. Since most women are self conscious about their bodies, a simple "I think you have such a sexy body"will work wonders. Women often NEED to know that you find them attractive.
Now you can start taking off the clothes... first shirt, then bra, thenpants... etc. Go SLOWLY, and if she stops you, just take that as a signal that you need to KEEP UP the SMELLING, neck kissing, ear breathing, etc.
NEVER keep going if a woman says "Stop." But stop doesn't usuallymean "Stop and go away," it usually means "Stop, I need you to turn me onsome more."
Keep talking sexy to her, KISSING, etc. Then try again. The MORE turned on she gets, the more the clothes come off.

10.SEX
The most important part of the Bridge to sex is being prepared!
Be ready! Buy condoms, make sure your house is neat and bed ismade...
If you START, then STOP, then START, then STOP... she'll get REALLY turned on. So do that!
Women love a challenge,and if you can be a challenge in this area, then you're the man!
So KISS her BODY for awhile, then stop. Then KISS her NECK. Then stop.Then BREATHE in her ear... then stop. You get it. If you're patient, she'll eventually do something blatant that says "OK, enough! I'm ready!"

From Hello to Sex in 10 steps

2010-07-07T17:59:00.000-07:00

1. Approach (Walking over and saying hello)
2. Digits (Getting a phone number, email address, etc.)
3. Date request (This can actually be done when you first meet)
4. Date (The actual time with her)
5. Hold hands (The first sustained physical contact)
6. Kiss (The first 'intimate' contact)
7. Alone in private (Trust)
8. Make out (Sexually aroused)
9. Clothes off (Very sexually aroused)
10. Sex (Very very very sexually aroused!)

How to Be Attractive

2010-07-07T16:59:00.001-07:00

Affection-Behavior /Attraction-Behavior
Buying Gifts (Dinner, Flowers) /Surprise Romance
Seeking Approval /Indifference
Showing Off /Being Vague,Elusive, Mysterious
Listening to Problems /Teasing
Doing Favors /Acting with Self-Respect
Accepting Flaky Behavior /Having High Expectations
Changing to Please Her /Maintaining Self-Confidence

Teasing her with Cocky & Funny

2010-07-07T16:58:00.000-07:00

Teasing, busting her balls, creating tension, playing hard to get, not giving her what she wants, being unpredictable, using cocky comedy are always to push the "attraction buttons" without being abusive or mean.

1.Use the magic formula of COCKY+FUNNY. Arrogance by itself is aturn-off to women. But arrogant humor that MAKES THEM LAUGH is aHUGE turn on. Make jokes about her trying to pick up on you, tease her about something she is insecure about, make fun of others... just make sure it's making her laugh.

2. Give her a hard time and tease her about something as soon as you possibly can. Now, I'm not talking about being MEAN here. I'm talking about teasing a woman just like you might do with a family member.This communicates total confidence and comfort in your own skin.

3. Hold yourself in a way that communicates confidence, leadership, anddominance. Use good posture, move very slowly and confidently.Don't laugh or smile very often.

4. Don't do "nice guy" stuff like buying drinks, giving compliments about beauty, or acting needy. In the beginning you must keep your cool and act as if YOU are the catch and she is the lucky one.

How to observer people?

2010-07-07T16:56:00.000-07:00

Always observer their behaviours for at least FIVE seconds
Put them into one of the THREE category
CRAZY, QUITE, COLD
Crazy people use similarity, over confident, over behavious, imitate their posture
Quite people take note of their conversation, be funny, make them laught, ask interesting questions, ask unique things about them
Cold people worth a try, hard to approach, not successe then leave and find others

How to ask her out?

2010-07-07T16:55:00.001-07:00

Ask her to join you something, something fun and interesting
Available more the ONE
Dont appear creep, clingy, if doesn't go well, no big deal
Phone her expecting NOT work out, dont show "i need you badly"
Women does fear for strangers, so get into comfort during the first meeting
Phone number only a tool for relationship
Phone, day 2 dont gain anything, all it does is gain an other chance to push the relationship forward if not work out that moment
On the date have some special thing to do, eg shop for someone's birthday
Drop little hints, eg i'm go to xyz, i love to do abc, let her chase you
Engage her friends, friend's approval is very important
Dont make her feel badly when she reject
MORE she feel bad about you, LESS into you
Act like a guy who has lots woman interested in him

Start with a positive mindset

2010-07-07T16:54:00.000-07:00

Incomprehensible things cause people to give up then there is no chance get anywhere with it
Speed of implementation, the key of effort to do new idea, do it immediately
Got a new idea write it down, plan how to use it, and start using it IMMEDIATELY
Self-image
Knowing what i really want
Commitment to my outcomes
Subconscious mind
Experience
Reference group
Having fun all the time
Give up myself to give this one attempt work out , not only lose one also lose the big picture
Avoid averages, only the average guy think woman don't like short guy, its affected by that preference
LEAD, other will follow, woman love it

How to approach woman?

2010-07-07T16:52:00.001-07:00

Talk to woman have a backup plan
Identify the goal eg the number, a date, moving to othe location
view the conversation at 3rd party's prespective, if feel dont like it change it quickly
Dont ask permission to do something, instead lead
Talking to woman is the most natural thing in the world
Flirting woman is create attraction
Attraction is NOT on external elements
Emphasize cocky and humor, and do throught with a SMILE

Say something about SEX, Crazy

2010-07-07T16:51:00.000-07:00

say/ do something crazy
confident is most important
feel comfortable and relax
be light-heart

what kind of things make people crazy?
say something about sex, wanker,mastrubate,repuduction organs, bust,make love(in a friendly warm situation when know more about each other and use disclose and similarity, speak to outgoing people)
do some unusual action, use sense of humor

Attraction isn't a choice

2010-07-07T16:50:00.001-07:00

Attraction isnt a choice, meet a woman and interact with her long enough for her to form initial impression of me, if she DOES feel attractive for you she cant help it

The traditional rules nice to woman, persuing her, buying her things, manipulative her behavior are NOT attract to woman

Attract woman involved being arrogant, funny, leading the woman the direction i want her to be

Be someone different, entertaining, confident and in control of the situation
Getting MORE attractive is LESS manipulitive than trying buy her favor
Use the personality to cause woman feel attraction for you, you will be the one who control the outcome

Believe that i can highhly attractive to woman, thinks not work the way i think they should, changing the fake "nice" behavior is not manipulative

We can attractive to woman no matter what our flaw, as long as we discover our attractive personality