All the little things

How do you handle stress?

2018-08-26T07:35:00.001-07:00

There are many people in America from many different walks of life. Every person stresses in a different way at different degrees. How do you handle that stress? Do you know your triggers?

Personally, I deal with my stress by doing physical activity. Low level stress is assuaged with cleaning the house, moderate stress is assuaged with either cleaning (deep spring type cleaning) or sex, and high stress is assuaged with high intensity workouts usually full body and more weights than cardio to completely exhaust me. The endorphins that release with physical activity are more satisfying and stress reducing than anything else for me. Plus, you get the added bonus of knowing you accomplished something instead of wallowing in self-pity or self-loathing.

What triggers you? This one is harder to ascertain. For me I know that I am extremely slow to anger because I am empathetic and forgiving. However, with me there is a line that no one should cross because as soon as it is I become scary. It's as quick as snapping your fingers how quickly my mood changes. I am the cliche Gemini red head.
Most of the time I won't remember what I did (so I probably black out) and I am violent with incredible strength. I don't back down on my best day... you don't want that coming down on you after that has lost its patience and/or temper. So it's important to learn to control and/or techniques to calm yourselves by degrees.

Step 1: Determine where your line is that triggers you.
Step 2: Determine what 3 activities calm you or get you to relax.
Step 3: divise 3 different levels of your favorite activities based on how well they work.
Step 4: set those activities as your go to when you have low, moderate or high stress.
Step 5: test them out when the occasion arises and change it up if it no longer continues to work for you.

It took me a year to figure out my levels and how to control my moods. I used to have a very short fuse and now it's hard to make me even slightly mad. Hopefully, this is beneficial to you in your life.

Button pushers and patience

2018-07-24T20:46:00.001-07:00

There are people in our lives that just completely push our buttons and you'll never do right in their eyes. I have a list of these people in my life.
-my exes
-my immediate family
-basically everyone who forgets I am an adult that has pretty much been independent and ran my own life almost ALL of the 33 years I have been alive.

The problem is obviously not with those of us who are the "never do right " crowd. It's trying to rise above the button pushers when all you want to do is punch them in the mouths.

Patience doesn't come easy to any of us but is necessary when dealing with people like this. Now, I am your cliche natural red head with a outrageous temper but I was able to transform my short fuse into extreme patience and understanding. The process is different for everyone... for me it took much more than a year.

My personal approach (most of the time) is to let people think they are right... I don't say I told you so. I simply allow them to feel small and stupid. Karma is a major bitch!

Let me know how you feel about my post.

About me and my blog

2018-07-24T16:10:00.000-07:00

Hi readers,
My name is Stephanie Antionette. I have had a lot of experiences in life that others go through but don't talk about. Also, feelings about things that others also feel and I know personally I would like to have a place/person to relate to me and my feelings.
It's the small things in life that go left unsaid that stress us all and here we can let all of that go.
I am 33. I have 2 children (one boy and one girl) and I am about to have my 3rd... a girl. I am going through my 2nd divorce right now. I have a metabolic disorder. My son has a speech problem. My daughter is a borderline genius. I am the youngest of 2. Was mistreated nearly my whole life, I have been homeless (after having my kids) I have had to start my life over 2x and I am just starting to get situated just under the poverty line again.
From what I have told you about what I have been through, you might imagine I have a lot of fears about my future with my children and my current relationship that I am in. I am NOT a trusting person and as a result I don't really share but HERE I will let you in and lay it all to bare. Hopefully some of you can be comforted knowing I have been where you are.
Beleifs: I have been Christian, Mormon was raised without a beleif system. I have a strained relationship with God and I have always identified with my ancestors religion more anyway. I am a direct descendent of Erik the red (famous viking explorer) and his son Leif Eriksson so I consider myself a norse pagan witch. My first husband was baptist, my second was mormon, and my current significant other is a luciferian satanist. I have read the doctrine of most religions including the bible cover to cover about 6x.
Many of my experiences made me who I am today and I would like to share what I have learned from them.