Love at first Sight

Five Tips on How to Write a Great Love Letter

2011-04-14T06:53:00.000-07:00

Here are some guidelines for writing a love letter:

1. Be complimentary
2. Be Strong - Talk Possibility
3. Count the U's
4. Ask for Nothing
5. Poetry

1. Be complimentary

A love letter is a testimonial that you can see the whole of your loved one, not just the fuzzy surface they may think you see, but the smelly sox, the bald patch and the wart on the end of their nose. A love letter is a chance to mention that you see them... you see them as they present themselves, as they love to see themselves, but equally important as they are.

2. Talk Possibility

Although their skin might make you wild with desire, skin doesn't bind lovers for long. So, if your intent in the love letter is to arouse sexual fires in your lover speak about the present, their eyes, their hair and what you'd love to do with it all... etc.... However, if your love letter is a signal that you love the idea of a future together, talk possibility. A couple who dream together stay together. So, what you'll need to know is "what is their dream".. they may want to travel but their idea might be to do it alone... celebrate that in your love letter. Do not talk about changing their plans, modifying their dreams or improving their lot, simply talk about the beauty of their dreams, the wonder of them, and how great those dreams are. If you try to impact those dreams by improving them or modifying them, you'll blow them away.. literally.

3. Count the U's

When people want to fall asleep they count sheep. You count the Ewes. The number of times you write the word "I" or "ME' versus the number of times you write the word "YOU"... the "I" and "Me" need to outweigh the "YOU" by to 10 to 1. In other words, I feel, I think, I like, I see,... not "You are, You will, You can or YOU might"

4. Be Strong

So common in love letters is the "I can't live without you" theme. Desperation is not attractive. In fact many love letters are acts of desperation trying to seduce or capture someone in order to cause us to feel ok. No, this is going to drive your lover to sex, and run. A strong person has deep affection, is open, honest, exposed, Inspired, vulnerable, Why not, they are strong enough to be emotionally naked. But needy? No No No

My favourite expression around this topic is "I need nothing, Want Nothing and therefore I have everything.

Try to remember that relationships do not cause or solve unhappiness. Get happy, be happy, show you are happy and try to drop any expectations of your letter causing anything except a deep, personal honesty.

Expectations block love and the weaker your expectations the stronger your love. This is at the root of a great love letter. Freedom, happiness, unconditionality. Don't be needy it's simply greedy.

5. Poetry

Poetry is the highest form of writing. When we write poems we shift gears. I write poetry, in fact this whole blog article is a poem. All a poem is, is a song without music. It has a beat, a rhythm, a function, a start, an end and a chorus.

Go back over this article and read it like you were singing it, you;ll be surprised.

If you don't have this skill yet, simply break your writing into short lines, even poems that rhyme are brilliant.

You'll find a deeper, truer more authentic voice if you try poetry instead of long sentences and paragraphs...

" Enjoy " . . . . . . . .

love break up

2011-03-25T03:18:00.000-07:00

Have you ever had your love break up? If yes, Then you know how painful it can be. If you took the time out needed after a love breakup and you thought out the past event you probably saw the signs that you missed before. If you have recognized the signs you need to remember those signs, then it will be easier to recognize the signs of an impending love break up faster. Also being capable of identifying these signs will be an excellent aid in getting your love back.

The lack of physical contact is a sure sign of a coming love breakup. Now i'm not just talking about sex. If there is a sudden loss of interest in sex by your partner then this is a good sign that a break up may be coming. Remember though that in the natural flow of a relation that there are times in a relationship that there are times when sex is abundant and then there will be other times when there is a shortage of sex.

If your partner shows other signs of not wanting to touch you like, not holding your hand for seemingly no reason or they stop putting their arm around your shoulder at places like the movies, when they have always done these things in the past now they suddenly stop. Sudden changes in affection like these are signs that a break up may be coming soon.

If the problem seems deeper than just a change in affection, your partner actually seems uncomfortable at your touch and pulls away then it may be time to talk to your partner and find out what is happening. Now you just can't assume that tour partner is having an affair or is thinking about leaving you just because they show some of these signs, There could be other reasons for them not wanting to be touched at the moment.

Your partner might have had something else on their mind and the touch startled them, they might be having some other problems that you aren't aware of and it is occupying their mind. These signs usually mean there is a problem but not always that a love break up is looming.

Don't jump to a bad conclusion, these sudden changes in affection may not have anything to do with your relationship at all. They may not be feeling well for some reason, you just need to watch them for a while to see if this change in affection is just an occasional thing, something that was the result of things happening at that time or if they seem to be ongoing.

If you begin to catch your partner in lies, even small lies that seem harmless, this could be a sign of a problem, also. When small, harmless lies exist larger more damaging lies can grow more easily. Again don't convince yourself to fast, there are other reasons your partner is telling small lies. They may be planning a surprise for you of some kind, it could be a harmless and fun secret like that instead of a love break up.

Watching your partner closely for a while before making a decision is best, It the problem appears to continue, then talk to your partner about the problem. Explain that you have noticed these signs and it was a problem you needed to discuss.

learning these signs might not stop a love break up with your partner but they might help you get your ex back later or even help you prevent a break up with another lover in the future.

Kiss. . . . . . On Your First dat :-)

2011-03-23T07:02:00.000-07:00

At some point everyone gets nervous about getting the first kiss on a date. It may feel really awkward to make a move on a hot girl you met recently. You probably don't want her to feel disrespected.

It's really important to get this right if you want to see her again. Here are some tips to get you started.

Tip #1

You need to make the date exciting in the first place. The amount of fun she has can directly impact whether or not she will feel like kissing you.

It is best to avoid the boring traditional stuff such as having dinner and then going to the cinema. You don't want her worried about her breath or the heavy feeling in her stomach. This will only turn her off.

Tip #2

Choose places that increase the chances of physical contact. One thing I always recommend is to go to at least on place where you can "compete" a little. This will give you guys a chance to flirt and touch each other as you play a game.

This initial touch is very important because it allows both of you to get rid of inhibition. When the moment for you to kiss her comes, she will already be used to being touched by you. You will feel more confident. In many cases the kiss may even happen before you even realise it.

Tip #3

Relax and don't push for it. It is not always the best idea to ask "Can I kiss you?" The truth of the matter is if she wants to kiss you, she prefers for you not to say it first. That makes it more romantic.

It's much better to hold her by her hands and gently pull her towards you. If she comes close willingly you know she is ready to be kissed. In that case simply go ahead and give her a nice, beautiful kiss she will never forget.

In general, all you need to know is that most girls really like to be kissed it. So she is already going to be looking forward to in anyway.

This means it's mostly a matter of making it convenient to happen. That's another reason why I don't recommend dinner - you may find it very awkward trying to kiss her across the table. Also simply leaving it to the end of the date will cause the kiss to lose its charm.

Have you ever had your love break up?

2011-03-17T07:58:00.000-07:00

If you have recognized the signs you need to remember those signs, then it will be easier to recognize the signs of an impending love break up faster. Also being capable of identifying these signs will be an excellent aid in getting your love back.

The lack of physical contact is a sure sign of a coming love breakup. Now i'm not just talking about sex. If there is a sudden loss of interest in sex by your partner then this is a good sign that a break up may be coming. Remember though that in the natural flow of a relation that there are times in a relationship that there are times when sex is abundant and then there will be other times when there is a shortage of sex.

If your partner shows other signs of not wanting to touch you like, not holding your hand for seemingly no reason or they stop putting their arm around your shoulder at places like the movies, when they have always done these things in the past now they suddenly stop. Sudden changes in affection like these are signs that a break up may be coming soon.

If the problem seems deeper than just a change in affection, your partner actually seems uncomfortable at your touch and pulls away then it may be time to talk to your partner and find out what is happening. Now you just can't assume that tour partner is having an affair or is thinking about leaving you just because they show some of these signs, There could be other reasons for them not wanting to be touched at the moment.

Your partner might have had something else on their mind and the touch startled them, they might be having some other problems that you aren't aware of and it is occupying their mind. These signs usually mean there is a problem but not always that a love break up is looming.

Don't jump to a bad conclusion, these sudden changes in affection may not have anything to do with your relationship at all. They may not be feeling well for some reason, you just need to watch them for a while to see if this change in affection is just an occasional thing, something that was the result of things happening at that time or if they seem to be ongoing.

If you begin to catch your partner in lies, even small lies that seem harmless, this could be a sign of a problem, also. When small, harmless lies exist larger more damaging lies can grow more easily. Again don't convince yourself to fast, there are other reasons your partner is telling small lies. They may be planning a surprise for you of some kind, it could be a harmless and fun secret like that instead of a love break up.

Watching your partner closely for a while before making a decision is best, It the problem appears to continue, then talk to your partner about the problem. Explain that you have noticed these signs and it was a problem you needed to discuss.

learning these signs might not stop a love break up with your partner but they might help you get your ex back later or even help you prevent a break up with another lover in the future.

The First Love . . . . . . . . .

2011-03-12T04:34:00.000-08:00

"First love is a little foolish and a lot of curiosity."...says George Bernard Shaw.

Actually the adolescent mind is full of curiosity and it finds mystery in almost every event of the world. Therefore when the emotion of love, attraction of mental and physical desires occur for the first time the curiosity and rebelliousness reaches to its height and often attempts something really radical.

People say first love is one of the most uniquely unforgettable things. One may forget everything but not his or her first love. This is not a utopian notion but those who have experienced this once in lifetime, have considered this as the fact. They may left their lovers a long time ago... after that, when they are peacefully settled and living with their families... they still cherish the sovereign and purest of the memories of their first love. When for the first time the break ups happen to anyone, it pains a lot, because the joy and ecstasy one enjoys from the first experience ever of falling in love is like fresh flowers, the perfume is strong and exhibit a extraordinarily long lasting effect.

As the Benjamin Disraeli said and I quote “First romance, first love, is something so special to all of us, both emotionally and physically, that it touches our lives and enriches them forever”.

Love is fact that happens or not. There is no 3^rd condition!! . a person can’t forget his love , especially the First one. While talking with friends, we usually recalled our experiences with love. It was interesting to note that many of us remembered the first time we ever said "I love you" to someone with crystal clarity.

The magic of first love is our ignorance that it can never end. You will never admit that you are in love. you always ignore. You always hesitate to say that. You start behaving differently. Always wish to see your lover in your dreams. Day and night, you think about her. If you are also experiencing the same thing, than my friend you are in love . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

“Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly, and without expectation... We don't love to be loved; we love to love.”

Sometimes it is said that when you get married you forget your first love because at that stage you have someone make love but its not true. The fact is that you never forget your first love. You just only try to hide it and besides that the perfect age of love is teenage when you are curious of exploring new thing. Then one day you saw someone, walking alone in the street. Look like she is missing someone. You wanted to say something but didn’t have enough strength but you kept struggling and when you looked into her eyes suddenly a voice came from the depth of your heart “I love you” . you felt the sweet and musical essence of love and romance and then the first kiss made that moment an unbelievable. Which you always remember in your life.

Do you believe Love at First Sight

2011-03-12T04:23:00.000-08:00

You are walking along the corridor, engrossed in your own world. You don't see the girl approaching from the other side. As she passes you, the strap of his backpack gets caught in your file. In an instant, it slips out of your hand and drops to the ground. Papers fly out and scatter all over the floor.

"Whoops! Sorry," the girl says, crouching down to pick up the papers.

"It's okay," you say with a titter as you crouch down as well, "happens all the time...."

As you pick up the papers, you suddenly lift up your heads and look into each other's faces. Instantly your eyes are locked in a stare. Your heart melts as you stare into his dark eyes, and for a moment or two, everything around you vanishes..........

Finally, after a great deal of effort, you get to your feet. The girl hands you back your file.

"Um, here you go...." she says, a bit timorously, still staring into your eyes.

"Thanks...." you shyly say.

After a moment's hesitation, the girl says: "I'm Jessica."

she extends her hand.

"I'm Tom," you say as you grasp her soft hand.

In that moment, as you shake hands, the whole world seems to come to a standstill. Dazzled by this dramatic encounter, you are both speechless and just giggle at each other.

"Um.... See you around," you finally say, pulling your hand out of her.

"Yeah, sure ! ! " she says rather reluctantly.

As you walk away, you turn your head to catch one last glimpse at her-only to find that she is staring back at you too! You quickly look away with a grin across your face, and as you disappear around the corner, you know that you will see Jessica again....

That was a typical example of love-at-first-sight encounters. Now question is: Does it really happen, or is it just merely something which exists in the mind? Isn't it just a short-lived passion?

Peoplee claim that love at first sight definitely happens. They seem to imply that each of us is fated to meet that special someone who has been prepared for us from the time our lives began, and that upon meeting, intense and overriding emotions will take over us, providing irrefutable proof that this is our one and only true love.

With my little experience of ups and down in love, i can surely say that it’s surely possible. After all we are human and a human is always attracted toward beauty and while interacted with some one fortunately you can fall in love with her. These types of stunts happened at the teenage tenure when you look around yourself and trying to fall in love with an attractive women or a handsome guy in the first glimpse.

While passing through the high school , just like everyone i also encountered many loves “ IN FIRST SIGHT ”. One day while in the college break, i was standing alone think about something suddenly a moment came when time stops running , the heart stops beating , the air stops blowing and it seems that this was the moment i was waiting for when i see a girl passing in front of me, holding her books in her hands, her beauty made me speechless at that moment. I couldn’t even try to think of something else other than her. While passing besides me she look at me and the moment she smiled at me i was completely out of my emotions.

Then at the end of the day i started to think about what had happened in the college, was it a dream . . . . . . but then my heart says “You are in love man”. After that i was just dreaming about her. That was a U-turn in my life.

Then the next day, i saw her again but this time i forced myself to talked to her. Before i do, something i saw, something which i couldn't believe its happening. That girl was coming towards me with a cute gorgeous face. Then she introduced herself. And that was just the Happy Beginning of My Love – In First Sight.

Most of the people think differently about it. There are those who claim that love at first sight does not happen. They claim that such encounters are fascination and can never go beyond that.

Indeed, there are a lot of arguments for either side. But facts are that first-time encounters do lead to love, and eventually marriage....And interestingly, these people seem to know naturally that they are 'right' for each other. These encounters happen frequently enough to bring out curiosity, and the questions: are some people made for each other? How do they get to know, naturally, in that brief moment, that they are right for each other?

Firstly, let us try to understand the biology and chemistry that lead up to love, whether at first sight or after a long duration.

Man and woman are made for each other. Whether you believe the Genesis account or not, it is true that man and woman are designed for each other; to compliment each other; to live and work side by side as partners-and a little bit more than that.

So my point it that some people tend to say that its not love but the fact that the love really exist and When it comes to love at first sight, it's all about looks. After all, it's called love at first sight for a reason. The first thing that is going to get the attention of a potential mate is how you look. This is why you should always try to look your best, even if you are just running to the supermarket

While it may be called love at first sight, touch can still play a major part in this happening. It doesn't take much, but a light touch can be enough to send a spark through another person. For women, that means a slight touch on his arm or hand. Men you can brush an arm or even brush her hand, say when handing her a drink.

So my dear friend, the conclusion is that : love at first sight does exist and with time and perseverance, you may turn that first time encounter into a life-long relationship of love and after all .....

Falling in Love

2011-03-12T04:05:00.000-08:00

There's something about falling in love that makes it feel like first love. It has the sweetness of flowers and clouds and deep soul connection. It's fresh, because it's new and filled with wonders and wondrous feelings to explore.

Even if you're falling in love for the second, third or even fourth time, it can feel like first love. We all know that's true. That's why flowers as a love token are so universally given.

But what is it about falling in love that makes it so brand new?

Well, there's the "falling" feeling in falling in love. Why? Because that's what it feels like. Like a first love, it feels like we have no choice. Something strikes us and over or down we go.

To follow the "flowers' metaphor, sometimes it's brazen like deep red flowers. At other times it's gentle and strong like tulips. At other times it's unspoiled like spring flowers. And yes, there are times when falling in love --- even when you're sure it feels like first love -- can get you hanging over like flowers not watered.

And then there's the sheer wonder of the other person. Not about this or that. But simply, they exist, and that's breathtaking. It's like seeing someone for the first time --- but not just seeing with your eyes, but with your soul, with some part of you that comes to life because you are falling in love.

The feeling of first love also makes us realize that we too exist. We too are worthy of love and that someone is falling in love with us.

No matter how old, and no matter how jaded, when we are struck with falling in love, sincerely and openly struck, it's always a first love because it takes us into parts of ourselves we've never known before. And we get to first love the one we're falling in love with, and then love ourselves.

To rely on the flowers image one last time, it's like a love field of spring flowers. Perhaps that's why so many men and women choose flowers to express their love.