My Thoughts....

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

2014-02-06T22:56:00.000+08:00

I came across this article by avmediastudio with above title. At first I was really curious to know what it was all about so I decided to check it out. Somewhat true to a certain extend I'd like to say but the explanations made me laugh so hard that I felt it would be nice stuff for you guys to read about.

Nine Words Women Use. Very Funny.

(1) Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks : A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’.. That will bring on a ‘whatever’).

(8) Whatever : Is a woman’s way of saying…Go to Hell…

(9) Don’t worry about it, I got it : Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to 3.

What do you all think about it? Any comments or anything else to add? I would love to know. *wink*

(1) Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
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NINE WORDS WOMEN USE Very Funny.. Must Read.

Avmedia Studio

The sound of silence I can’t take anymore

2014-02-01T00:36:00.000+08:00

Am pretty sure that we all have those moments where some song just randomly rhymes on your head and then you realize that its how you actually feel like. I just have one of those moments! And normally I don't share such info but this time around I feel like perhaps I should!

Most people would know this song, as they would have heard it over during their partying moments and such while to those who haven't, GO GET THEM NOW! LOL Jokes! xD

Without further due, I present to you....... *ding ding dang dush!* (supposed to be drum rolls) -_-

"This Is What It Feels Like"
(feat. Trevor Guthrie)

Nobody here knocking at my door
The sound of silence I can’t take anymore
Nobody ringing my telephone now
Oh how I miss such a beautiful sound

[Chorus:]
And I don’t even know how I survive
I won’t make it to the shore without your light
No I don’t even know if I’m alive
Oh, oh, oh without you now
This is what it feels like

Nothing to hold but the memories and frames
Oh they remind me of the battle I face
without your love, without you I drown
Somebody save me I’m going down

[Chorus:]
And I don’t even know how I survive
I won’t make it to the shore without your light
No I don’t even know if I’m alive
Oh, oh, oh without you now
This is what it feels like

[Chorus:]
And I don’t even know how I survive
I won’t make it down the road with one headlight
No I don’t even know if I’m alive
Oh, oh, oh without you now
This is what it feels like

And then my colleague and friend, Mr Yu Yevon, (https://twitter.com/exmachina7) posted this awesome cover for this song. It is as per below.

Well I haven't exactly hear the other covers for this song but personally I feel like it has lots of emotions in it that I can relate to. Enjoy all!

The reflection of a man...

2013-12-29T01:30:00.000+08:00

I was in the mood to reflect my actions and the words I have spoken for the day to my beloved when I sorta bumped into this article of how Brad Pit saved his marriage. Honestly, I was never a fan of this couple both in movies and outside movies but I certainly have nothing against them as well. Without further delaying below is the post, read it and reflect on yourselves guys.

I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…But then I decided to act on it- Brad Pitt writes a sweet love letter to Angelina Jolie

“My wife got sick. She was constantly nervous because of problems at work, personal life, her failures and problems with children.
She has lost 30 pounds and weighed about 90 pounds in her 35 years. She got very skinny, and was constantly crying. She was not a happy woman. She had suffered from continuing headaches, heart pain and jammed nerves in her back and ribs.
She did not sleep well, falling asleep only in the morning and got tired very quickly during the day. Our relationship was on the verge of break up.
Her beauty was leaving her somewhere, she had bags under her eyes, she was poking her head, and stopped taking care of herself. She refused to shoot the films and rejected any role.
I lost hope and thought that we’ll get divorced soon…But then I decided to act on it.
After all I’ve got the most beautiful woman on the earth.
She is the idol of more than half of men and women on earth, and I was the one allowed to fall asleep next to her and to hug her shoulders.
I began to pamper her with flowers, kisses and compliments. I surprised her and pleased her every minute. I gave her lots of gifts and lived just for her. I spoke in public only about her. I incorporated all themes in her direction. I praised her in front of her own and our mutual friends.
You won’t believe it, but she blossomed. She became even better than before. She gained weight, was no longer nervous and she loved me even more than ever. I had no clue that she CAN love that much. And then I realized one thing: The woman is the reflection of her man. If you love her to the point of madness, she will become it.“
- Brad Pitt

Love is a strange thing

Love and marriage on the outside seems to be a glorious ride but everyone who has been married tells us—it is a bumpy one…beware. But they do say love cures all. Deciding to love and stick through it during all kinds of obstacles is not an easy road. However, the rewards are amazing. Make it a choice to go out of your way to be nice to your spouse.

This unexpected gesture of love will trigger something in him or her and make her respond to you the same way! The Brad Pitt love story is inspiring on the surface–we won’t really know what celebrities have to go through. Their lives are not anything like ours. However we can learn a thing or two about love from the above letter (regardless of who wrote it).

So how do you all find it? They do say that "Behind every successful man, there is a woman" but how many Man would wanna be the reason to their woman's success? I certainly do! I know I have not been the best I could be in recent days and I know that I have to buck up before I end up regretting. I love you and I will always do! Though am not sure if you do actually read this or not, if you do, I hope it puts a smile on your face and a strong urge that "I am your man".*hugs*

Career Options For Aquarians

2013-11-23T18:20:00.001+08:00

Today I was merely browsing through my twitter while waiting for "Someone's" text message and then I came across an article about careers that are most likely suitable for us, the proud Aquarians. I admit that every horoscopes carry their significant specialties and I guess being an Aquarius sometimes seems to be sorta stand out at times as we seem to be able to do almost anything and also blend in well with most other horoscopes due to our mixed traits.

Anyways, rather than bore you guys with proud boasts, below is the article! Read and enjoy!!

Aquarius Careers

The best Aquarius careers should be unique and full of adventure, a boring career would not attract this Water Bearer, they want to be noticed and acknowledged for their efforts.

WEATHERPERSON

A Weather person uses all the latest technology, and this is a huge attraction for Aquarians. They really don’t care if their forecasts are correct all the time, they love to give people hope. Aquarians have a unique fascination with the coldest areas of the world.

ACTIVIST

Aquarians love to fight for a cause, they enjoy creating havoc and stirring up the public. They will be the first on the picket-line and make a lot of public noise, in addition to knocking door to door to get signatures on a petition. Due to the fact that passion is not something that will generate a high salary, they need to find something to supplement their income, while they take a stand for a worthy cause.

ENVIRONMENTAL PLANNER

This career allows the Aquarius person to map out a better future, and they look important when they attend public meetings. They pour over maps, aerial pictures and make life changing decisions regarding a city/town.

MEDIATOR

Aquarians are natural problem solvers, they love to see justice be done and making the “bad guys” pay. This careers takes a ton of emotions and investigation to get to the core and the truth, but it will be worth the time and effort to obtain positive results.

ROCKET SCIENTIST

Being a Rocket Scientist comes with a great sense of pride when they are asked “what do you do for a living”. This challenging career requires deep thought, and all the intellectual capacity of an Aquarius. Due to the fact that this particular career will involve the total consuming of their time, it is rare that someone who chooses to become a rocket scientist will have time to marry.

ASTRONOMER

This is one of the best career options for an Aquarius because it equally involves using their intuition and intellect. This career has the potential to bridge the gap between space and man.

ENGINEERING

What attracts an Aquarius to become an engineer is the fact they can climb oilrigs and/or skyscrapers, they enjoy this adventure. Even more so, they love to head to a job site in the middle of freezing temperatures.

Aquarians individuals born between January 21st and February 19th (depending on the year) appreciate a work environment that is stimulating and intellectually engaging. Aquarian careers should be equipped with the latest technology “toys”.

Seems like we, Aquarians are some sorta well known rebellious angelic nerds. The word 'Nerd' doesn't quite seem to be catchy in any ways though. *tard*

Happy Diwali~

2013-11-02T05:39:00.003+08:00

Its the day when the darkness was said to be lifted and people of the world were rejoicing the defeat of evil and celebrating the day by illuminating with lights lid up to brighten the night. Hence it got it's name as Diwali aka Deepavali. On this day I am wishing everyone a happy diwali.

Never take love for granted. True love is giving not taking!

2013-10-29T00:25:00.004+08:00

This is a short story taken from facebook. A short story about Never take Love for Granted! Are you willing to make sacrifices for someone you love? Take a lesson from this couple who loved the other more than themselves or their possessions.

Never take Love for Granted:
A very poor man lived with his lovely wife. He loved his wife very much and did not want to never take love for granted.
One day, his wife, who had very long hair asked him to buy her a comb for her hair to grow well and to be well-groomed.

The man felt very sorry and said no even though he loved his wife’s beautiful long hair. He explained that he did not even have enough money to fix the strap of his watch he had just broken. She did not insist on her request.

The man went to work and passed by a watch shop, sold his damaged watch at a low price and went to buy a comb for his wife. He came home in the evening with the comb in his hand ready to give to his wife. He was surprised when he saw his wife with a very short hair cut.

She had sold her hair and was holding a new watch band to give to him.
Tears flowed simultaneously from their eyes, not for the futility of their actions, but for the reciprocity of their love.

MORAL: To love is nothing, to be loved is something but to love and to be loved by the one you love, that is EVERYTHING. Never take love for granted..!! Cherish the person that loves you before it is too late.

Just For Those Girls/Boys who say......

2013-10-18T17:42:00.001+08:00

Well although the pic seems to be talking about girls, it also applies to men out there! Cheers guys!

PS: That is not my pic. Disclaimer is the best stuff indeed. :)

7 signs a Guy Likes You

2013-10-05T02:56:00.001+08:00

It is another random thing that I was reading recently that caught my attention and I sorta figured I shall share it. Perhaps also passing a hint to someone special? :P

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

Does this guy take the responsibility of completing a long list of works for you? Does he take care of all your needs only to be ensured that you are comfortable? Is he being extra nice to you and is taking care of the minutest of things? Does he remember all the important days of your life and does his level best to be by your side? Does he try to share his every moment with you to make you feel comfortable and happy? If you find these signs, then he certainly likes you.

#6 He talks about you to his friends

This is one bang-on sign where you will know very easily that he has developed a liking towards you. He talks about you to his friends and family and all of them know you. He involves you in his friendly birthday parties, family weddings and other events like picnics and get together hang out parties etc. He tries to take you along when going to a party as a couple. If you find him giving you a value as his special friend over his other girlfriends, then he surely likes you and is looking for a long term relationship with you

#5 He wishes to spend most of his time with you

He will try to create situations where you both could meet and spend time together. Often there are guys who would not express their feeling of liking for you in the first two or three meets. If he is a socially confident guy, then your topics during the meet might sound productive while if he is a confident friend of yours, then he might be flirtatious throwing paper balls at you or giving out compliments to make you smile. If he is an introvert, then you might find him smiling and asking you about the weather!

#4 He seems excited to see and talk to you

Now that he knows you and both of you are “friends”, he would try his best to find excuses and talk to you. He might find different ways to communicate his feelings towards you. You may suddenly receive his phone calls, emails and messages with a simple hello or a good night and sweet dreams. You will easily know if a guy is interested in you by way of his excitement to be and talk to you all the while. He certainly likes you girl!

#3 He does every bit to grab your attention

The approach of a guy towards a girl is entirely different when compared vice versa. The guy might make some excuses to come and talk to you every minute or hour for say. The guy might do every possible thing to accomplish your need of that hour. There are many guys who are reserved in nature and might not come up directly to talk to you. However, you might find their actions speaking! For example you might observe the guy being jealous or angry or upset when you are speaking to your other guy friends

#2 He is self-conscious when you are with him

Did you know that guys are more conscious when it comes to their looks, more importantly when they are on a date. He likes you if he is bothered about the way he is dressed up, his talks, his actions etc. He is self – conscious at all hours of his time with you only with a thought of what you might be thinking when he does or says something. There are many a time when he is often caught gazing at you. This is to understand your mind at that time for him. So, if he is self-conscious when you are around, then he likes you

#1 He looks at you with a smile

Guys are quite different from girls in way of expressing their liking or love towards the opposite sex. For guys it is usually seen that their eye catches a physically attractive girl. If you are someone whom he looks at every now and then even when people are around then it is certain that he likes you. It so happens that a guy will not make obvious approaches towards you but on the contrary will give seductive or smiley looks that will grab your attention. If you find him staring at you constantly with a smile on his face, then this is one sign that speaks his liking towards you

Enjoyed reading it? If you are a girl and I guess now perhaps you have a small idea if your crushes are into you or not. While to them fellow bros, try not to show too much of these and make it harder for them to guess. Savvy? xD

#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

Does this guy take the responsibility of completing a long list of works for you? Does he take care of all your needs only to be ensured that you are comfortable? Is he being extra nice to you and is taking care of the minutest of things? Does he remember all the important days of your life and does his level best to be by your side? Does he try to share his every moment with you to make you feel comfortable and happy? If you find these signs, then he certainly likes you.

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#7 He takes care of you and your needs selflessly

Aquarius Disease

2013-09-29T00:09:00.000+08:00

I found this article from this http://xstrologyscopes.com site from twitter and then it was talking about the stuff about Aquarius people. Personally being an Aquarius, I think this article is superb! Totally agree about how they have said about Aquarius people.

The Aquarius sign is a sun sign like no other. These people generally desire freedom and independence. Just the thought of being tied down somewhere will drive the fellow Aquarius person insane. They are wild, collaborative, and crafty, and they require their own personal space from time to time. In addition, these people tend to be great thinkers and innovators of the zodiac. Specifically, these people can easily attract crowds of people for a common goal or project. They create harmony with their fellow human beings, when they are given the freedom to do as they please. In essence, many Aquarius people live their lives organized, but freely. A unique mix, it works for the typical Aquarius, so who are we to tell them how to live, right? Still, this contradicting lifestyle may increase disease and disorders of all sorts. Average Aquarius people are fond of life.

While they may appear mysterious at first glance, the fellow Aquarius people are actually truly fascinated with life and all of it’s’ uniqueness. They typically admire its’ sense of unpredictability in it. Essentially, this provokes the fellow Aquarius to research, discover, and inspire. Learning is what the Aquarius does best. They try to learn something new each day, which is a great motto to life. In addition, they tend to think opposite the conservative, conserved way. On the contrary, these Aquarius people are liberal and progressive in their thought process, always forging ahead and formulating new and exciting plans and theories. In terms of health, however, these people would be wise to learn moderation. Their minds are always captivated by the extreme. They would do so much until they completely and utterly tire themselves out. Therefore, some advice for the overall health of the Aquarius person would be to adopt a chiller lifestyle, where you are your own boss and you can regulate the time frame for when to go to work. Next, you must limit your work and thought process and essentially attempt to focus on your diets so that you do not over work on a daily basis and ultimately become overly nervous. In addition, this is why coffee in general should really be kept away from you wild Aquarius people, as this would make you even more fidgety and emotional, and you definitely do not need that in your life! Stick to teas that calm and soothe the mind like chamomile.

Since the Aquarius sun sign generally rules their ankles and circulatory system, these folks are structured in a way that they must be aware of. For example, the Aquarius signs could very easily lose this circulatory balance and become immobile if they do not continue to exercise consistently. Thus, a common nervousness kind of behavior and character can occur as well as much sensitivity around them. Therefore, to refrain from making this a habit, try to stay balanced in your diets and exercises. In addition, you should focus on eating foods such as fish, like tuna and ocean. Also eat foods such as spinach and radishes. Try to eat foods that absorb nutrients that are internally better for you specifically, such as lentils, almonds, and apples. Then, your circulation will not plummet, but on the contrary, it will ultimately feel lighter and cleaner.

The fellow Aquarius people are typically very strong as people. They are built with the potential to even be body builders. In addition, they are generally born with a good sense of overall coordination. This coordination manifests itself within their abilities to work out efficiently and properly. It could come in handy if they play sports. It makes everything easier for these fellow daredevils. In addition, because these people are able to be mentally strong as well as physically strong, this helps them in their health long term. In essence, the Aquarius people usually will use their mental stimulation when trying to relax. This can make them over eat when they think too much, but to try and keep it in check, they should continue to keep physically active as a daily regimen. This would make their blood pressure more so stable. Once they become physically inactive for long periods of time, however, their blood pressure can drop, so adequate nutrition and exercise is a must to maintain that equilibrium between their body and their minds.

Overall, every Aquarius person should simply be aware of their health. Since they are so active and lead technically busy and independent lives, they should try to maintain a balanced diet formula, and one that specifically works well for them to produce long term and positive results. This would ultimately include a mixture of continued exercise and a stable and healthy diet. Thus, through this, they would feel happy and healthy while maintaining their active and lively lifestyles.

Rainy days are not always bad

2013-09-28T23:06:00.001+08:00

Rainy days are often referred to either dark moments of our lives or moments where we often feel that we have always have been better off without going through it.

However, what we have often failed to realize is that rainbows only appears after rain. And we all love rainbows as they somehow magically brightens us up. So I guess it is fair enough to say that not all rainy days are bad right? *wink*

Sit back and ride the rain and everything will be just fine. That is what I keep telling myself too.

Te Vi Venir

2013-08-30T06:28:00.001+08:00

I don't really know if I had ever mentioned here my love towards Spanish language ever in this blog. I have been digging and pouring myself with Spanish songs from only a couple of singers and recently thanks to 8tracks which was initially introduced to me by a very good friend of mine, Sanza.

Through there I found a few Latino singers + songs and trust me they have just found their ways to speak my mind and emotions albeit in Spanish. Without dragging this longer, I have a song to share here. It speaks of how someone recently came along into my life.

Lyrics & Translation.

Spanish

Te Vi Venir

Aún ni siquiera te tengo
y ya tengo miedo de perderte, amor
qué rápido se me ha clavado
qué dentro todo este dolor.

Es poco lo que te conozco
y ya pongo todo el juego a tu favor
no tengo miedo de apostarte,
perderte sí me da pavor.

No me queda más refugio, que la fantasía
no me queda más que hacer,
que hacerte una poesía.

Porque te vi venir y no dudé
te vi llegar, y te abracé
y puse toda mi pasión para que te quedaras
y luego te besé y me arriesgué con la verdad
te acaricié y al fin abrí mi corazón para que tú pasaras.

Mi amor te di sin condición para que te quedaras.

Ahora esperaré algunos días para ver si lo que te di fue suficiente
no sabes qué terror se siente
la espera cada madrugada
si tú ya no quisieras volver
se perdería el sentido del amor por siempre
no entendería ya este mundo
me alejaría de la gente.

No me queda más refugio, que la fantasía
no me queda más que hacer
que hacerte una poesía.

Porque te vi venir y no dudé
te vi llegar y te abracé
y puse toda mi pasión para que te quedaras
y luego te besé y me arriesgué con la verdad
te acaricié y al fin abrí mi corazón para que tú pasaras.
Mi amor te di sin condición para que te quedaras.

Mi amor te di sin condición para que te quedaras.

Mi amor te di sin condición para que te quedaras.

English

I Saw You Come

Although I don’t even have you
I’m already afraid of losing you, love
How fast did I get swept away
And got filled with pain
It's little what I know of you
and I've already set the game in your favor
I’m not afraid to bet
but to lose you terrifies me.
I have no other refuge, than fantasy
I have nothing else to do,
but write you a poem.

Because I saw you come and I didn’t doubt
I saw you arrive and I held you
and I gave all my passion for to keep you
and then I kissed you and risked with the truth,
I caressed you and I finally opened my heart for you to pass through.
I gave you my love unconditionally, for you to stay.
Now I will wait a few days to see if what I gave you was enough
You don’t know how terrifying it feels
the wait every morning
if you no longer want to come back
the sense of love would be lost forever
I wouldn’t understand this world anymore
I would stay away from people.
I have no other refuge, than fantasy
I have nothing else to do,
but write you a poem.
Because I saw you come and I didn’t doubt
I saw you arrive and I hold you
and I gave all my passion for you to stay
and then I kissed you and risked with the truth,
I caressed you and I finally opened my heart for you to pass through.

Because I saw you come and I didn’t doubt
I saw you arrive and I hold you
and I gave all my passion for you to stay
and then I kissed you and risked with the truth,
I caressed you and I finally opened my heart for you to pass through.

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Special

2013-06-06T12:00:00.000+08:00

Hey ya'll am back here once again. And I've got an announcement to make!!!

Jeng jeng jeng..... *drum rolls*

OH YEAH!! I got pierced once again. My previous piercing are practically gone due to unforeseen reasons but now these are here.

Have to admit it hurt to get all 3 (1 after another). But I was wondering what will be next. More piercings or finally some tattoos? Am still contemplating. Any suggestions? Any opinions?

The Last Word.

2013-06-05T20:15:00.000+08:00

Probably most would have believed I was dead, but am here! Sorry I've been feeling that I've lost it and would never be able write anymore. However, I have forced myself from self posed exile to come back with some updates for you all from time to time.

Some would prolly be loading their guns to shoot me by now. *gulps* I have been going through a moment of transition personally which I would be writing about in the coming days. Anyhow, I would like to share with you all an article which I came across this morning.

Am not gonna saw what it is about but, it is about relationship. Everyone relationships go through periods of hardships. Storms come and go but they never stay. So this article is on how this lady overcame her pains which I think that is applicable to everyone of us. Read and digest guys.

The last word: He said he was leaving. She ignored him.

By The Week Staff | August 13, 2009

When Laura Munson's husband asked for a divorce, she ducked instead of fighting. He needed to learn, she says, that his unhappiness wasn’t really about her

Happiness starts within. Eventually, my husband got it.

Let’s say you have what you believe to be a healthy marriage. You’re still friends and lovers after spending more than half of your lives together. The dreams you set out to achieve in your 20s—gazing into each other’s eyes in candlelit city bistros, when you were single and skinny—have for the most part come true.

Two decades later you have the 20 acres of land, the farmhouse, the children, the dogs and horses. You’re the parents you said you would be, full of love and guidance. You’ve done it all: Disneyland, camping, Hawaii, Mexico, city living, stargazing.

Sure, you have your marital issues, but on the whole you feel so self-satisfied about how things have worked out that you would never, in your wildest nightmares, think you would hear these words from your husband one fine summer day: “I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did. I’m moving out. The kids will understand. They’ll want me to be happy.”

But wait. This isn’t the divorce story you think it is. Neither is it a begging-him-to-stay story. It’s a story about hearing your husband say, “I don’t love you anymore” and deciding not to believe him. And what can happen as a result.

Here’s a visual: Child throws a temper tantrum. Tries to hit his mother. But the mother doesn’t hit back, lecture or punish. Instead, she ducks. Then she tries to go about her business as if the tantrum isn’t happening. She doesn’t “reward” the tantrum. She simply doesn’t take the tantrum personally because, after all, it’s not about her.

Let me be clear: I’m not saying my husband was throwing a child’s tantrum. No. He was in the grip of something else—a profound and far more troubling meltdown that comes not in childhood but in midlife, when we perceive that our personal trajectory is no longer arcing reliably upward as it once did. But I decided to respond the same way I’d responded to my children’s tantrums. And I kept responding to it that way. For four months.

“I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did.”

His words came at me like a speeding fist, like a sucker punch, yet somehow in that moment I was able to duck. And once I recovered and composed myself, I managed to say, “I don’t buy it.” Because I didn’t.

He drew back in surprise. Apparently he’d expected me to burst into tears, to rage at him, to threaten him with a custody battle. Or beg him to change his mind.

So he turned mean. “I don’t like what you’ve become.”

Gut-wrenching pause. How could he say such a thing? That’s when I really wanted to fight. To rage. To cry. But I didn’t.

Instead, a shroud of calm enveloped me, and I repeated those words: “I don’t buy it.”

You see, I’d recently committed to a non-negotiable understanding with myself. I’d committed to “the End of Suffering.” I’d finally managed to exile the voices in my head that told me my personal happiness was only as good as my outward success, rooted in things that were often outside my control. I’d seen the insanity of that equation and decided to take responsibility for my own happiness. And I mean all of it.

My husband hadn’t yet come to this understanding with himself. He had enjoyed many years of hard work, and its rewards had supported our family of four all along. But his new endeavor hadn’t been going so well, and his ability to be the breadwinner was in rapid decline. He’d been miserable about this, felt useless, was losing himself emotionally and letting himself go physically. And now he wanted out of our marriage; to be done with our family.

But I wasn’t buying it.

I said: “It’s not age-appropriate to expect children to be concerned with their parents’ happiness. Not unless you want to create co-dependents who’ll spend their lives in bad relationships and therapy. There are times in every relationship when the parties involved need a break. What can we do to give you the distance you need, without hurting the family?”

“Huh?” he said.

“Go trekking in Nepal. Build a yurt in the back meadow. Turn the garage studio into a man-cave. Get that drum set you’ve always wanted. Anything but hurting the children and me with a reckless move like the one you’re talking about.”

Then I repeated my line, “What can we do to give you the distance you need, without hurting the family?”

“Huh?”

“How can we have a responsible distance?”

“I don’t want distance,” he said. “I want to move out.”

My mind raced. Was it another woman? Drugs? Unconscionable secrets? But I stopped myself. I would not suffer.

Instead, I went to my desk, Googled “responsible separation,” and came up with a list. It included things like: Who’s allowed to use what credit cards? Who are the children allowed to see you with in town? Who’s allowed keys to what?

I looked through the list and passed it on to him.

His response: “Keys? We don’t even have keys to our house.”

I remained stoic. I could see pain in his eyes. Pain I recognized.

“Oh, I see what you’re doing,” he said. “You’re going to make me go into therapy. You’re not going to let me move out. You’re going to use the kids against me.”

“I never said that. I just asked: What can we do to give you the distance you need ... ”

“Stop saying that!”

Well, he didn’t move out.

Instead, he spent the summer being unreliable. He stopped coming home at his usual 6 o’clock. He would stay out late and not call. He blew off our entire Fourth of July—the parade, the barbecue, the fireworks—to go to someone else’s party. When he was at home, he was distant. He wouldn’t look me in the eye. He didn’t even wish me “Happy Birthday.”

But I didn’t play into it. I walked my line. I told the kids: “Daddy’s having a hard time, as adults often do. But we’re a family, no matter what.” I was not going to suffer. And neither were they.

My trusted friends were irate on my behalf. “How can you just stand by and accept this behavior? Kick him out! Get a lawyer!”

I walked my line with them, too. This man was hurting, yet his problem wasn’t mine to solve. In fact, I needed to get out of his way so he could solve it.

I know what you’re thinking: I’m a pushover. I’m weak and scared and would put up with anything to keep the family together. I’m probably one of those women who would endure physical abuse. But I can assure you, I’m not. I load 1,500-pound horses into trailers and gallop through the high country of Montana all summer. I went through Pitocin-induced natural childbirth. And a Caesarean section without follow-up drugs. I am handy with a chain saw.

I simply had come to understand that I was not at the root of my husband’s problem. He was. If he could turn his problem into a marital fight, he could make it about us. I needed to get out of the way so that wouldn’t happen.

Privately, I decided to give him time. Six months.

I had good days and I had bad days. On the good days, I took the high road. I ignored his lashing out, his merciless jabs. On bad days, I would fester in the August sun while the kids ran through sprinklers, raging at him in my mind. But I never wavered. Although it may sound ridiculous to say, “Don’t take it personally” when your husband tells you he no longer loves you, sometimes that’s exactly what you have to do.

Instead of issuing ultimatums, yelling, crying, or begging, I presented him with options. I created a summer of fun for our family and welcomed him to share in it, or not—it was up to him. If he chose not to come along, we would miss him, but we would be just fine, thank you very much. And we were.

And, yeah, you can bet I wanted to sit him down and persuade him to stay. To love me. To fight for what we’ve created. You can bet I wanted to.

But I didn’t.

I barbecued. Made lemonade. Set the table for four. Loved him from afar.

And one day, there he was, home from work early, mowing the lawn. A man doesn’t mow his lawn if he’s going to leave it. Not this man. Then he fixed a door that had been broken for eight years. He made a comment about our front porch needing paint. Our front porch. He mentioned needing wood for next winter. The future. Little by little, he started talking about the future.

It was Thanksgiving dinner that sealed it. My husband bowed his head humbly and said, “I’m thankful for my family.”

He was back.

And I saw what had been missing: pride. He’d lost pride in himself. Maybe that’s what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize we’re not as young and golden anymore.

When life’s knocked us around. And our childhood myths reveal themselves to be just that. The truth feels like the biggest sucker-punch of them all: It’s not a spouse, or land, or a job, or money that brings us happiness. Those achievements, those relationships, can enhance our happiness, yes, but happiness has to start from within. Relying on any other equation can be lethal.

My husband had become lost in the myth. But he found his way out. We’ve since had the hard conversations. In fact, he encouraged me to write about our ordeal. To help other couples who arrive at this juncture in life. People who feel scared and stuck. Who believe their temporary feelings are permanent. Who see an easy out and think they can escape.

My husband tried to strike a deal. Blame me for his pain. Unload his feelings of personal disgrace onto me.

But I ducked. And I waited. And it worked.

THE END

And I just realized this article was written couple of years ago. Life is never a bed of roses, even to get them roses, you have to go through the thorns. Will be coming with another update shortly! Thanks to those who have supported my blog all along. <3 nbsp="" p="">

Troll

2012-11-04T15:17:00.001+08:00

Well it's been pretty some couple of months since I stopped at 99th post and promised you all the 100th post. I have been thinking pretty hard for the best post I could dedicate for this landmark but unfortunately it's been a pretty hard decision to choose the best post over here.

But after thinking for so long, and also since I have been missing from here for some time, I decided to give you all a heads up on what's happening now.

All I wanna say is, the 100th post is

still in the process of thinking.

I really hope all you guys would understand that due to the heave schedule, I am struggling to constantly update the blog. Hold tight and you'd seen the 100th post!

Cheers!

Even If It's Not Necessary

2012-09-08T22:05:00.000+08:00

I admit defeat that I can't hide my feelings much recently of how things are turning out. Probably it's not what I ever wanted, I don't know but most importantly I am feeling as if the walls are closing in on me. Here I have yet another song that perfectly portrays my feelings which I came across while watching Heartstrings' Final Episode.

Would be writing a review about it soon but before that the song, lyrics with the translation put together.

꼭은 아니더라도

Ggok-eun a-ni-deo-ra-do

아주 우연히 라도

A-ju u-yeon-hi ra-do

문득 스치듯 떠오를까요

Mun-deuk seu-chi-deut ddeo-o-reul-gga-yo

많이 모자라지만

Manh-i mo-ja-ra-ji-man

잠시라도 그댈 웃게 했던 나

Jam-shi-ra-do geu-dael ut-ge haett-deon na

서툰 사랑에 아파서 깨지만

Seo-tun sa-rang-e a-pa-seo ggae-ji-man

좋은 기억이 있었다면

Joh-eun gi-eok-i iss-eott-da-myeon

한 번쯤은 떠 오르겠죠

Han beon-jjeum-eun ddeo o-reu-gett-jyo

나를 닮은 사람 만나면 그땐 기억할까요

Na-reul dalm-eun sa-ram man-na-myeon geu-ddaen gi-eok-hal-gga-yo

나와 듣던 노래 듣는다면 기억할까요

Na-wa deud-deon nor-ae deud-neun-da-myeon gi-eok-hal-gga-yo

내 이름과 같은 사람 만나면 그땐 기억할까요

Nae i-reum-gwa gat-eun sa-ram man-na-myoen geu-ddaen gi-eok-hal-gga-yo

꼭은 아니더라도 한 번은 나를 기억해줘요

Ggok-eun a-ni-deo-ra-do han beon-eun na-reul gi-eok-hae-jweo-yo

요즘은 어떤가요

Yo-jeum-eun eo-ddeon-ga-yo

그대 안부를 묻죠

Geu-dae an-bu-reul mud-jyo

이런 내 말을 듣게 된다면

I-reon nae mal-eul deud-ge doe-da-myeon

나를 잊었더라도

Na-reul ij-eott-deo-ra-do

혹시 나를 떠올릴 수 있을까

Hok-shi na-reul ddeo-ol-ril su iss-eul-gga

한 순간이라도 행복했다면

Han sun-gan-i-ra-do haeng-bok-haett-da-myeon

내가 그 이유가 된다면

Nae-ga geu i-yu-ga doen-da-myeon

한 번쯤은 떠오를테죠

Han beon-jjeum-eun ddeo-o-reul-te-jyo

나를 닮은 사람 만나면 그땐 기억할까요

Na-reul dalm-eun sa-ram man-na-myeon geu-ddaen gi-eok-hal-gga-yo

나와 듣던 노래 듣는다면 기억할까요

Na-wa deud-deon no-rae deud-neun-da-myeon gi-eok-hal-gga-yo

내 이름과 같은사람 만나면 그땐 기억할까요

Nae i-reum-gwa gat-eun-sa-ram man-na-myeon geu-ddaen gi-eok-hal-ogga-yo

꼭은 아니더라도 한 번은 기억해줘요

Ggok-eun a-ni-deo-ra-do han beon-eun gi-eok-hae-jweo-yo

나는 다르죠

Na-neun da-reu-jyo

그댈 닮은 사람 없어도 나는 그댈 기억하니까

Geu-dael dalm-eun sa-ram eobs-eo-do na-neun geu-dael gi-eok-ha-ni-gga

어디서든 무얼해도 나는 기억하니까

Eo-di-seo-deun mu-eol-hae-do na-neun gi-eok-ha-ni-gga

그대 이름 같은 사람 없어도 나는 기억하니까

Geu-dae i-reum gat-eun sa-ram eobs-eo-do na-neun gi-eok-ha-ni-gga

내가 숨쉬는 동안은 그대 기억하니까

Nae-ga sum-swi-neun dong-an-eun geu-dae gi-eok-ha-ni-gga

나는

Na-neun

TRANSLATION

You don’t have to but if by chance

Would you remember me?

I wasn’t talented but I made you laugh for a little while

If you were hurt from our love,

And there were no good memories,

Would you remember them at least just once?

Would you remember me if you meet someone like me?

Would you remember me if you hear the song that we used to listen to?

would you remember me if you meet someone with the same name as me?

You don’t have to but please remember me at least just once

How are you lately?

I ask about you

I wonder if you could hear me

If you forgot me already, could you remember me again?

If you were happy for just one moment

and I was the reason for that

Will you remember me at least just once?

Would you remember me if you meet someone like me?

Would you remember me if you hear the song that we used to listen to?

would you remember me if you meet someone with the same name as me?

You don’t have to but please remember me at least just once

I’m different

I remember you without meeting someone like you

I remember you whatever you do somewhere

I remember you without meeting someone with the same name as you

I remember you while I breathe

I do

PS: There was no intention to hurt anyone nor make anybody cry but if I did so, I am really sorry. However, I don't regret sharing this song out as I think there are number of people who probably might be going through the same thing as I do. Prolly I would never heal from this I wouldn't know but I will try to look okay with the hope that it doesn't bother you.

I Don't Know

2012-08-31T15:00:00.000+08:00

Once again am back here with another song that has captured my heart. Although I have said that I have decided on so many things, there still are things holding me back. But words doesn't come out as how I'd wish to convey them.

Hence I decided to pick this song which I'd been hearing in Heartstrings Drama. Oh yes, I am yet to finish watching it yet. Probably a day or 2 more then I'd be done with it though.

So here is the song that spoke my heart.

모르나 봐

(M 시그널)

그댈 만나고 사랑을 하고 그런 사랑에 아파만 하고

Keudael mannago sarangeul hago keureon sarangae apaman hago

다가서지도 못한 채 바라보기만 하는 난 바보인가 봐요

Dagaseojido muthanche barabogiman haneun nan pabo ingga boa yo

그대가 울면 나도 울었고 그대 웃으면 나도 웃어요

Keudaega ulmyeon nado ureotgo keudae useumyeon nado useoyo

어린아이처럼 마냥 그대만 따라 하는 난 바보인가 봐

Orin a ee cheoreom ma nyang keudaeman ddara haneun nan pabo ingga boa

사랑한다고 말해도 못 듣나 봐

Saranghandago marhaedo mot deunna boa

사랑이라고 말해도 모르나 봐

Sarangirago marhaedo moreuna boa

가슴에 흐르는 내 눈물을 그댄 볼 수 없나 봐

Kaseumae heureuneun nae nunmureul keudaen bul su omna boa

그대 이름 불러봐도 못 듣나 봐

Keudae eereum bulleo boado mot deunna boa

그대뿐이라고 해도 모르나 봐

Keu dae ppunirago haedo moreuna boa

내 눈먼 사랑은 한심한 사랑은 할 수 없나 봐

Nae nun meon sarangeun hanshimhan sarangeun halsu omna boa

한번 이라도 돌아봐줘요 그대 뒤에서 내가 있어요

Hanbeon eerado ddoraboa juoyo keudae dwiyeseo naega isseoyo

다른 사랑에 지칠 때 다른 사랑에 아플 때 한번이라도

Ddareun sarangae jichil ddae ddareun sarangae apeul ddae hanbeonirado

사랑한다고 말해도 못 듣나 봐

Saranghandago marhaedo mot deunna boa

사랑이라고 말해도 모르나 봐

Sarangirago marhaedo moreuna boa

가슴에 흐르는 내 눈물을 그댄 볼 수 없나 봐

Kaseumae heureuneun nae nunmureul keuddaen bulsu omna boa

그대 이름 불러봐도 못 듣나 봐

Keudae eereum bulleo boado mut deunna boa

그대뿐이라고 해도 모르나 봐

Keudae ppunirago haedo moreuna boa

내 눈먼 사랑은 한심한 사랑은

Nae nunmeon sarangeun hanshimhan sarangeun

오늘도 수천 번 그댈 불러봐요

Oneuldo sucheon beon keudael bulleo boayo

못 듣는 것도 알면서 불러봐요

Mot deunneun keotto almyeonseo bulleo boa yo

그대를 사랑하니까 나를 봐요

Keudaereul saranghanikka nareul boayo

그대만 사랑하니까 내게 와요

Keudaeman saranghanikka naegae wayo

한걸음만 오면 그 자리에서 나 기다릴게요

Hangeoreum man omyeon keu chariyaeseona kidarilkaeyo

그대밖에는 몰라서 미안해요

Keudae bakkaeneun mullaseo mianhaeyo

그대가 아니면 나는 안되니까

Keudaega animyeon naneun andwenikka

지독한 사랑이 그대만 불러요 그댄 모르죠

Jidokhan sarangi keudaeman bulleoyo keudaen moreujyo

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English Translation:

You Don’t Know

(M Signal)

I met you, loved you and hurt by that love

Just looking at you without being beside you, I’m a fool.

When you cried, I cried. When you smiled, I smiled.

Like a child, just following you whatever you do, I’m a fool.

I love you but you can’t hear it

I love you but you don’t know it

I shed teardrops in my heart but you don’t see it

I call out your name but you can’t hear it.

You are the only one for me but you don’t know it.

My love is blind, my love is poignant, and I can’t do that.

Just turn around and I’m right here behind you.

When you’re tired of someone else’s love, hurt by someone else’s love

Just turn around once.

I love you but you can’t hear it

I love you but you don’t know it

I shed teardrops in my heart but you don’t see it

I call out your name but you can’t hear it.

You are the only one but you don’t know it.

My love is blind, my love is poignant, and I can’t do that.

Today I call you a thousand times..

Even though you can’t hear it.

I love you so, please look at me

I love you so, please come to me

Please come one step closer, I will wait for you.

I’m sorry because I only know you

I’m nothing without you.

Because of this bitter love, I call for you.

You don’t know…

NOTE: It is normal to have problems during relationships and it is normal that things may not go as you wish but there are ways to solve them. We may never know our partner's problems completely and may jump onto our own conclusions. We are just human beings and it's normal. But because of some petty issues, don't throw away that person you love and love itself because you may never know if it was the 1 that you'd have been longing for.

There is no remorse nor point in crying over spilled milk but there is still ways of mending a relationships because wounds can always heal, and scars can go away. If you lost love, chances are it may never be the same anymore. Good luck to my fellow friends who are battling it out. *hugs to all*

What should I do now~

2012-08-19T12:41:00.001+08:00

It was never my intention to hurt you. I love you. I still do and will not stop loving you but you gave me no other option than to let you go.

It is time to move~

2012-08-17T21:14:00.000+08:00

Once again am back here today but although the topic sounds like a potential emo post coming up, I am pretty much feeling okay about this. Just felt that this is the only way I could convey what I wanted to say as I am not being given the chance to do it right.

I have come to realize a lot of things recently and basically I just want to let it all out as I really would like to have a new start and lead my life on.

It's been a difficult period of time for the past few months as I was trying to pick myself back up after that particular night. I still remember that time when you'd won't even wanna look at my face.

"We were both young when I first saw you. I close my eyes and the flashback starts~" - Love Story (Taylor Swift). I still remember everything as if it wasn't that long ago since we knew each other.

I'm not going to stress over you anymore. I still remember the promise I made to you, I told you I'd never ask you to choose between me and your family. Although there times when I seemed to have forgotten it, now I've learned to accept it and respect it.

I'm not trying to say I don't want you, because I definitely do but I'm taking my heart back and leaving the pieces on the floor. Despite the memories I can't do this anymore.

Before I was so scared of losing you, of not being able to hear your voice, your laughter, feel your arms around me but now I know that those are things I wouldn't ever be able to forget, things I can't lose because they'll forever be a part of me and who I am.

Tremendous amount of memories we've created and I will treasure them and I never regret.

"If it’s good, it’s wonderful. If it’s bad, it’s experience." -Victoria Holt

1 thing I can surely say is that you'll never be gone from my heart. Part of me will always love you. But it's okay, because I've let you go. I hope you'll have a great life. I know I will from now on.

It wasn't easy to cope I'll admit. But am kinda proud of myself that I've managed to pick myself to even reach to this level where I can even learn to accept your wish despite all of what mine are.

You've helped me to grow up by teaching me a lot of things. Even now I find it hard to believe who I am right now compared to who I used to be when I first met you.

I thought I'd be singing it like,

"Marry me, Juliet, you'll never have to be alone.
I love you, and that's all I really know.
I talked to your dad ‒ go pick out a white dress
It's a love story, baby, just say, "Yes". - Love Story (Taylor Swift)

But who who'd have thought.

“There is a time for departure, even when there is no certain place to go.” - Tennessee William

Probably this is my time to depart and search for my next destination while I watched you depart long time ago.

"Written with a pen, sealed with a kiss" they say.

I didn't lose you. I let you go. I didn't get over you. I moved on. When you truly love someone, you never lose them or get over them. They'll always mean something to you.

Though there parts of me thinking that probably I didn't fight hard enough to safe what we had, but relationships are like glasses. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

However still, I am glad that it happened and no regrets about it. I still have 1 last wish though, while we work our ways to lead our own lives back on track, I'd just wish to have our last cup of coffee together to let things end on a nicer note.

I was turned down once but I'm asking for it once more. I understand and respect your decisions but this is just my last wish from you.

I am not sure how this post will effect you, regardless of whatever or however it does, I am sorry. I had no other way and keeping it within me was difficult. I'll always miss you. Probably you could be one who who got away. No matter where you are, what you are doing, who you are with, or whatever, I will still care about you.

Because I Miss You ~

2012-08-11T12:46:00.001+08:00

Yes I missed you! I've missed blogging and hell yea I letting myself out but what am I to do? I've landed a journalist job in Malaysia's Top News Agency Bernama and that practically have drained most of my time and basically writing news and honestly it kinda got to me alittle.

But I've decided to drop by and leave a little souvenir for all my readers who've still been visiting though obviously I went AWOL. Sorry guys. It's a coincident that I was thinking of blogging and I've got some free time! LOL

Anyways, my post is about a song that kinda captured my feelings in words and I just wanna share to all you guys.

PS: It ain't a new song though so don't be mad yea~

LYRICS

늘 똑같은 하늘에 늘 같은 하루
neul ttokgateun haneure neul gateun haru
그대가 없는 것 말고는 달라진 게 없는데
geudaega eomneun geot malgoneun dallajin ge eomneunde
난 웃고만 싶은데 다 잊은 듯이
nan utgoman sipeunde da ijeun deusi
아무일 아는 듯 그렇게
amuil aneun deut geureoke
웃으면 살고픈데
useumyeon salgopeunde
그리워 그리워서 그대가 그리워서
geuriwo geuriwoseo geudaega geuriwoseo
매일 난 혼자서만 그대를 부르고 불러봐요
maeil nan honjaseoman geudaereul bureugo bulleobwayo
보고파 보고파서 그대가 보고파서
bogopa bogopaseo geudaega bogopaseo
이제 난 습관처럼 그대 이름만 부르네요
ije nan seupgwancheoreom geudae ireumman bureuneyo
오늘도
oneuldo
난 보낸줄 알았죠 다 남김없이
nan bonaenjul aratjyo da namgimeobsi
아니죠 아니죠 난 아직 그대를 못 보냈죠
anijyo anijyo nan ajik geudaereul mot bonaetjyo
그리워 그리워서 그대가 그리워서
geuriwo geuriwoseo geudaega geuriwoseo
매일 난 혼자서만 그대를 부르고 불러봐요
maeil nan honjaseoman geudaereul bureugo bulleobwayo
보고파 보고파서 그대가 보고파서
bogopa bogopaseo geudaega bogopaseo
이제 난 습관처럼 그대 이름만 부르네요
ije nan seupgwancheoreom geudae ireumman bureuneyo
오늘도
oneuldo
하루하루가 죽을 것만 같은 어떻게 해야 해요
haruharuga jugeul geotman gateun eotteoke haeya haeyo
사랑해 사랑해요 그대를 사랑해요
saranghae saranghaeyo geudaereul saranghaeyo
말조차 못하고서 그대를 그렇게 보냈네요
maljocha motagoseo geudaereul geureoke bonaenneyo
미안해 미안해요 내말이 들리나요
mianhae mianhaeyo naemari deullinayo
뒤늣은 내 고백을 그댄 들을 수 있을까요
dwineuseun nae gobaegeul geudaen deureul su isseulkkayo
사랑해요
saranghaeyo
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TRANSLATION

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Always under exactly the same sky, always exactly the same day
Other than your not being here, there’s nothing different at all
I just want to smile, want to forget everything
Just like absolutely nothing has happened, smiling to live my days
Miss you, miss you so much, because I miss you so much
Everyday all by myself, calling and calling you
Want to see you, want to see you, because I want to see you so much
Now it’s like I have this habit, keep calling out your name
It’s the same today
I thought I’d let go, not leaving anything behind
No, no, now I still can’t let you go
Miss you, miss you so much, because I miss you so much
Everyday all by myself, calling and calling you
Want to see you, want to see you, because I want to see you so much
Now it’s like I have this habit, keep calling out your name
It’s the same today
Everyday, everyday, it feels like I’m gonna die, what should I do?
Love you, love you, I love you
I hadn’t even spoken the words, I just let you go
Sorry, sorry, do you hear my words
My late confession, can you hear it
I love you

Note: This post is not meant to make any of you all unhappy but just a simple message from me that if you love someone or have someone who loves you for real, don't give up without putting up a fight. True love is the hardest treasure amongst all to find and if you have it, cherish it before it becomes what you had. Even through the toughest times, your partner needs you even more than any other time, stick with them and ride the storm. It's just a matter of time that the storm goes away. Good luck! *wink*

Daiwan Tea House

2012-05-25T14:25:00.000+08:00

I know recent days I have been missing in action. I always say that a lot of things have happened and its true that a huge deal of things have happened recently. As much as I wish I could have the time and strength to write about all those, sometimes I prefer to just leave them till everything is cooled off. Ironically though all of them are related to each other.

However, am back to the main topic. Recent years have seen some hype about all those bubble tea shops who seemed to have popped out of nowhere. I admit that I was never that keen about them if not for my beloved ex who taught me of them. But who would have thought, now am part of new bubble tea shop!

Yea that's the name of our company. Barely 2 months old in Malaysia, we are currently located in Zenith Corporate Park, Kelana Jaya. We have a wide range of tea selection as well as coffee based on the likings of our beloved customers.

As what you see in that picture above, we have different coloured drinks too! People from all age groups would be able to find something for themselves over here! At the moment we are running a promotion of buy 2 free 1 till 26th May 2012

Not to forget we also run a special promotion whereby if you check in Facebook, you'd be entitled to enjoy a 30% of a drink which runs till the end of this month.

If you wanna know more details do join our facebook page http://www.facebook.com/TaiTeaMalaysia or you could also follow us on twitter https://twitter.com/#!/DaiwanTeaHouse to yourself updated with our upcoming promotions and latest news.

This is how our shop looks like from the inside. I know it's simple but this place can really become super duper crazy busy as we have total 8 people for now. Looking for a job? Part-time or full-time both available. Our timings are flexible and we are looking for more fun people to create the vivacious atmosphere.

Below are some of our productions. Do feast yourself *wink*

Don't forget to collect your redemption card when you purchase your drinks as when you collect total 10 stamps, you get to redeem a free drink! Our redemption card is as how it looks on our supervisor Mr Roy's hands below!

Lastly I have added our menu below. You may take a look and drop by if your heading to Paradigm, as we are just along the way there.

So am looking forward to see you guys dropping by our place. If you are here do buzz me and I will there if I am not working. See you guys soon!

Day 19 - Disrespecting your parents

2012-02-22T03:13:00.000+08:00

And now for the most annoying topic of them all, disrespecting your parents. Am sure there isn't anyone who hasn't done this ever in your life but am sure that there are some who take this quite seriously.

On my point of view, this isn't my thing at all as I am a person who lives my life as how I want it to be like. I hate people telling me what to do and what to believe in. My parents do that alot. Honestly my parents claim that they are open minded but honestly I don't quite think so. However, parents are parents.

Sadly true and we can't run away from that fact. I do also know that 1 day I will be a parent too and when that happens, I don't quite know what kinda parent I would be. Though I would really wanna be the really cool daddy that everyone is so jealous of. *chuckles*

A little off topic maybe? Anyways, I am a stubborn personality and as I mentioned above I hate being told things. But gradually as I grew older I learned that parents tell me things for a reason and I kinda also learned to see it positively rather than negative. How I do it? Wait till I publish my memoirs. LOL Just kidding.

I learned it through some self-reflection moment that I have done over myself over and over for a couple of years now. I have become from what I used to be and what I am becoming. Even at this point of time, I can't simply say all my characteristics 100% accurately cause am changing.

Sometimes kids tend to hate their parents for various reasons but they don't really think too deeply into things. As I have friends who often complain "Why me?!" or "What the heck is their problem?!" and etc. I came to realize that generally people don't like to put the blame on themselves first rather than easily pointing it to the other.

Taking blame for something is considered very courageous but managing to deal with it effectively is pure genius I'd say. If only we could put aside our egos and put extra time and effort to handle these situations, I think the world would be an ideal place to live in with no fear of wrongdoings. But we are all humans with some natural habits that we can't simply give up.

As how we all change from day in and day out, so does the trends and lifestyle. Even we young adults have trouble with dealing with our own younger generations, so what about our parents? Ever thought about it in that way? It is our duty to explain to them on how things work in our era and show them how far everything has changed compared to theirs.

Am sure we have parents whom always say stuffs like "When I was young......." and so on whenever they disagree with what us. But do they actually realized that times have changed? Maybe not. Plus they have looked out for us, maybe not perfectly well but somehow enough to make it through and we can't exactly blame them. Unless of course they have issues.

There isn't any rule book or user manuals on how to be a good parent because different people have different styles and we can't compare them to those of our friends. Some parents are athletic, some are outgoing, some are funny, some are creative, some are active and we also have some who are passive. We can't expect a creative parent to be running around playing soccer with the younger son but he might probably be able to teach his kids arts. Can't say that, "My dad doesn't play soccer. He sucks!" right?

Every parent brings up their kids the best way the thing it is with some guidance and advice from their friends, family and their own parents. So by putting all of it together, they try their best. Not all but SOME! I know some parents of whom I've got no comments at all. As long as the gratitude feel is there then it counts I suppose.

Personally I done really go along very well with my parents. I'd admit that because my style and theirs is totally different. However, I am quite close to my mum for whom I don't mind sacrificing my time and energy to accompany her or just be her driver to put a smile on her face. As much as we argue, when there is an issue that needs sorting out, we have a discussion about it regardless of the topic.

Though some years back, it would never have happened as I was not as matured as I am at the moment. But now, I think life has taught me to appreciate things in life which are simply irreplaceable. No matter how successful we could be, if we lose them once, thats it. There is no turning back and no time for regrets.

I don't like living with regrets but I am man enough to admit that I have done things that I ain't so proud of. I regret doing them but rather than crying over spilled milk, I rather learn to make up for what I have done. Though I could not be enough atleast it's better than nothing.

Honestly, I think I have gone outa topic. I really have no idea of what I have actually wrote up there. But am sure there isn't any negative stuffs there. Hope you guys could get some valuable input from that as I crack my head for my Day 20th topic. Cheers yo!

Day 18: Your beliefs

2012-02-22T01:12:00.001+08:00

Well I really needed some help to write this topic. Not that its too difficult or anything just that I didn't quite have proper clue of what to do with it. Anyways I shall convey to ya'll my beliefs as much as I could.

Not gonna give myself up totally if not there ain't gonna be much fun, no? Plus people change. =)

Anyways,

I believe in Love, regardless of any form it could be. Be it friends, family, and etc.

I believe that everybody makes mistakes and deserve a chance more than once. We can't say that 1 will never make a mistake more than once. We are not machines and even machines makes more mistakes than once.

I believe that respect needs to be given first in order to be respected regardless of any age or status in life.

I believe that friendships can be build from anything and everything.

I believe that religion was invented as a guideline so that we don't overly abuse our abilities and freedom as humans.

I believe that we are all of the same kind, which is mankind.

I believe that music is an important factor in everyone's life.

I believe in fighting for a cause. A real cause appropriate cause of course!!! =D

I believe that every problem has a solution to it.

Actually I believe in quite a lot of things but some things don't quite make sense hence I am going to stop here. Thought I would be able to make it through to the end asap but the rest of the 12 topics ain't that friendly. LOL

But I shall try my level best!

Relationship Status

2012-02-21T09:10:00.000+08:00

Though I don't quite remember when I exactly saw this movie, I haven't really got the chance to put it up here since then. Probably a month plus has passed since then and there wasn't proper chance for me to take my time and write it.

Anyways, amazingly enough my friend and I went to watch this Malaysian made movie and I personally got a shocker! Not to belittle Malaysian movie industry but I honestly felt that we haven't really made much progress with our stuff that I'd rather watch it in a cinema and feel good about it later on. However, this movie really blew me away.

The Plot

You’ve seen it everywhere. On TV, in the news, and even on T-shirts. And though its use has been seen in a couple of movies, not many films have been made about Facebook.
Which is what sets Relationship Status aside from other romantic dramas out there. True to its name, the film bases itself off the seven relationship Facebook settings (Single, Engaged, Married, Divorced, etc).

With each setting comes a different story, and like the social networking platform, they are connected to each other more closely than you can imagine.

The movie starts off with magazine writer Dave (Gavin Yap) being asked to write a column about Facebook. But his mind isn’t really on the job, as he spends a good lot of his time looking at Anna’s (his pseudo-girlfriend, played by Davina Goh) profile page. Anna doesn’t appear interested in taking their relationship to the next level, which includes changing her “Single” status to “In a Relationship”.

Dave then pans over to his flatmate, Jo (Khairil M Bahar), who has been moping about for the last three months, recovering from a nasty breakup. Annoyed with Jo’s emotional outbursts, Dave sets him up with a Facebook account, assuring his unwilling flatmate that networking will somehow make everything better.

The story also jumps over to other characters who are connected to Dave, in one way or the other.
One of them is his colleague Lee (Benji Lim), who proposes to his filmmaker girlfriend (Amanda Ang), much to the intense dislike of his sister Sarah (Adeline Ong).

Another is Selina (Susan Lankester), who finds out that her recently deceased husband’s Facebook account is still active. Overwhelmed by emotions and memories of her dead spouse, she tries all that she can to close it down.

“Relationship Status” is Khairil’s third feature film, with his first being “Ciplak”. Like the latter, it was developed on a shoestring budget. This one however, though written primarily in English, does have some Malay and even a little bit of Hokkien.

Though a somewhat serious romantic drama at its very base, the show has many light-hearted moments. It starts off well, with a generous sprinkling of witty banter, and comfortable chemistry between the characters involved.

There are also bits and pieces that make Relationship Status a little more complete, with examples of familial ties and even blissful ignorance. Another plus point to the film is its soundtrack selection, featuring local indie artistes Az Samad, Darren Ashley, OJ Law and so on.

The show can also be seen as a reflection of real life, with Facebook having the power to affect relationships, for better or for worse.

Well, who doesn't go through a relationship roller-coaster? Everybody does but since the involvement of the social networks, such as Facebook, Twitter and etc have totally changed the landscape of our lives. This movie was only aired on selected TGV cinemas though I don't quite understand why not GSC, but it was really worth it.

A movie with a lot of messages in it though the budget of the movie was really quite embarrassing as it did seem quite a low quality movie. If there was a little more spent, I really believe that this movie would really have created some noise amongst the movie-goers but sadly many of my friends didn't even know that this movie was up.

What happened to the marketing? If this is how we are going to product our stuffs, I won't be surprised that Malaysian Movie industry continues to take more hits. Other than that, those who haven't watch this, go and watch it now!!! Just kidding, but make sure you don't miss this 1 out!

Till the next update, ciao!

Day 17 : Your highs and lows of this past year.

2012-01-27T16:14:00.001+08:00

So here I am again snailing towards my 17th day of the challenge. As how the title says, am gonna talk about how 2011 was. I did a post about 2011 a few days after the new year countdowns but I think I didn't put in enough stuffs in there hence here I am.

http://ty-my-thoughts.blogspot.com/2012/01/year-that-was.html

Above is the link for my overview of 2011. Basically 2011 was a year where I didn't really have much significant highs but I certainly had 1 significant low which I think I will never ever be able to overcome for the rest of my life regardless of whatever I was to do.

Before I go into details of that event, I shall talk a little about 1 of my mini achievement and how it fell short of being a proper 1.

So yea I bought that bike. My 1st ever bike and it was a 180cc scooter! But how it fell short of being a proper high?

Yep I had an accident. Why? I got no idea and I still don't know how I even crashed all I remember is me sliding on the road. I was lucky because my friend was behind me and she saved me. Since then bike key has been taken away from me. No more bikey. ='(

Now about the big low point that I was talking about earlier. I am the biggest fool of 2011 as I threw away the one person who really loved me for reasons that I still can't exactly comprehend. Ever since both of us have gone some distance with memories we would love to forget.

I've realized my mistake ever since and have been trying to make it up but I know that what I did has no retribution to it. Regardless of whatever that I was to do even to serve for the rest of my life would not be enough. Something I would certainly not forget for the rest of my life. The pain I caused has caused me more pain.

Words are never gonna be enough and I've run outa words to explain about the whole thing. However I have pledged myself to make things better though.

So yea part of my 2011 over here. You could also check below url for more details on my review of 2011.

http://ty-my-thoughts.blogspot.com/2012/01/year-that-was.html

I shall end this post. I wish I could say it but I rather not piss or upset you.

I shall be back with more updates. Sorry for such an emotional post. Till the next time, cheers people!

Underworld : The awakening.

2012-01-18T14:02:00.000+08:00

Guess what? I dropped by to watch the Underworld last night! It was in 3D and was freaking awesome! Though the storyline is kinda crappy compared to the previous editions, yet this edition certainly didn't disappoint me in other aspects.

Below is the official trailer and followed by the plot.

Plot
"Kate Beckinsale, star of the first two films, returns in her lead role as the vampire warrioress Selene, who escapes imprisonment to find herself in a world where humans have discovered the existence of both Vampire and Lycan clans, and are conducting an all-out war to eradicate both immortal species.

Six months after the events of Underworld: Evolution, Selene (Kate Beckinsale) was captured by humans. Eventually both government officials and the public learn about the existence of the two immortal species of Vampires and Lycans (Werewolves). A crusade and all-out war has begun: study and eradicate.

After being imprisoned in cryogenic suspension for 12 years, Selene manages to escape the facility. During the same time, another suspect has also escaped the same facility that Selene was in. The suspect was Eve (India Eisley), a hybrid who is the key to ending the war.

So that's the main plot for the movie but be prepared for lots and lots of action as this is packed with it though Selene's role sticks mostly to her favorite hand guns. Would have loved to see her wielding those metal weapons though.

Watching this show on 3D was awesome since I watched the previous sequels on DVD. Well as we all know there is gonna be another edition to this the 5th Underworld and I am looking forward for it. Just before that I am biting my nails waiting for ......

So that's all for now. But just to let you guys know, I might have a slow month from now onwards but I will certainly be back after my birthday! Don't know when its my birthday? Do your research! =P