Frances Okeke

THE IMPERFECT PERFECT PARENT

2025-07-28T21:06:00.002+01:00

Welcome to another episode of ‘What My Heart Learnt with Frances’ THE IMPERFECT PERFECT PARENT is my topic for today. I have stated before in my 'What Parents Can Learn from Annie Idibia' video that the decision of who to marry is not just about you, but about your children. Looking at the exterior of “He is handsome, he is rich,

THE BATTLE WITH SELF

2025-07-25T10:18:00.001+01:00

THE BATTLE WITH SELF https://youtu.be/rJ64BXEx8d0 When you watch movies, read books, listen to podcasts, and watch videos online, everyone talks about the enemy, haters. Your haters and enemies, they say, are friends, colleagues, people who don’t like you, your village people, and more. In action movies, it could be a country. Few rarely talk

Young Single Christian Sex Talk

2024-02-28T18:18:00.005+01:00

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLK6AoGEyv6xat0i3gRTtEAVyQsh6Q9-kD&si=DlorN1npxgtsRnCFI started a new series on YouTube, some time last year.Hope it helps you, somehow.Regards, Frances

THE DREAM

2023-11-29T04:54:00.003+01:00

This won’t be a well written essay but a ramble of sorts by a Christian. An event in 2020, got me triggered and I went back to a past event and someone from my past. The next few months and years after that event in 2020, I talked and talked, more like shed and dealt with all the pain, betrayal, hurt and more that I had been dealt with by former friendships, romantic

Some Things I Wrote

2023-05-04T19:39:00.003+01:00

FRANCES, YOU DID WHAT?!

2023-03-25T22:59:00.003+01:00

I was at a wedding recently. I had no idea about the politics that go down at weddings. I was the only stranger seated with one of the couple’s family members. They kept bringing food and drinks to the eight of them but I never got any. The ladies bringing the food, would look at me as they gave the food to their people and I’d look right back at them and none asked me, “Please, what do

THE MOB CULTURE AND VIOLENCE DURING THE 2023 NIGERIAN PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION

2023-03-02T07:10:00.016+01:00

The Nigerian presidential election has come and gone. A president-elect has emerged. As is the norm in the election process here it was marred with irregularities and violence. A lot of violence. If you follow me on my channel on Youtube, you will recall my series or rather some of my videos on ‘ABUSE’. Let us see what the dictionary defines as ‘Violence’ to help you better understand

Types of Abuse in Nigeria

2022-10-26T15:08:00.002+01:00

PLEASE SAVE NIGERIANS IN NORTH CYPRUS PRISONS

2022-10-25T11:30:00.004+01:00

I am not here to contribute to the discussion that Nigerians are being killed in North Cyprus. I never saw any of that in the years I spent there. Let’s say Nigerians there have a reputation thanks to some Nigerians and it isn’t pretty. Many people found it hard to believe I was a Nigerian. I enjoyed my time there, even during the covid lockdowns, provisions were made available.

DEAR IGBOS PLEASE STOP THE CULTURAL APPROPRIATION OF AGU

2022-10-23T08:09:00.004+01:00

When I was in Primary two, my grandmum came visiting. One day, she told me to come read her Bible for her, I opened it and my eyes flew to her face. It was not an English Bible but Igbo. In my head I was like; “Does she know what she is signing up for?” It felt like I was seeing Chinese. I started with the first sentence; we went about it slowly. I spent more

DEAR NIGERIAN STUDENTS AS YOU PROTEST

2022-09-19T21:28:00.002+01:00

Dear Nigerian Students, These are sad times in the tertiary education sector of the country. I was in the university when ASUU strike commenced during former President Goodluck Jonathan’s presidency. The government signed a contract with ASUU after almost a year of students sitting at home. (2009 & 2010). My goal is not to rehash history. Today the

KISS AND TELL LIES

2022-05-18T11:41:00.000+01:00

Oke was in love. He ran home and informed his family and they were making plans to go to Cecilia’s next week to formally ask for her hand in marriage. He informed all his guys and cousins that he was getting married to a virgin. His cousin, James asked for Cecilia’s picture. He took one look at the picture and hissed. He told his cousin, that he knew Cecilia and she had been his

SHE FELL IN LOVE WITH HER RAPIST

2022-04-27T13:38:00.001+01:00

HAD TO BRING THIS BACK FROM 2016. Chioma (not real name) is one of the toughest people I know. She’s successful, principled, opinionated and from a happy home. Sometimes when I visit their family home when she’s there, I marvel at the closeness and love between her parents. She’s in her early thirties now and I want to be her when I grow up or so I thought. There’s this dude, Nonso (not

THE PURSUIT OF HAPPINESS

2022-04-18T18:14:00.001+01:00

The term and word ‘Happiness’ is relative. It is not something that can be held, touched. It means different things to different people plus different things bring it for different people. For thousands of years, humans have pursued happiness. They have tied happiness to different things and people. You hear people say things like; ‘I’ll be happy when I’m successful.’ ‘I’ll be

THE LITTLE ROOM

2022-04-05T19:07:00.001+01:00

They say pride goes before a fall. It doesn’t necessarily equate a fall. It’s just that we make lots of unnecessary things important. Funny thing is most times it’s only in our heads. It’s our prejudiced perceptions of situations that create pride. We let things cloud our heads and judgement. Let me give examples. Thomas is well educated and has a PhD. He has no job. Wait, he has

DE-MOCK-RACEE

2022-04-04T13:33:00.000+01:00

I wrote this years ago. Sadly, it is still relevant. If there was a subject I paid attention to back in my secondary school days, Government would be it. In fact, it was the only course I paid attention to. It always intrigued me and it still does. I tried understanding the terms, how different forms of government came to be and every gritty nitty detail about them. I used to love

THE LOST TALENT

2022-03-25T19:11:00.000+01:00

Right from when he was a kid, Yemi knew he wanted to dance. Dance was his life. There was no dance move he couldn’t do. He told his parents as a kid, they laughed that he was just a kid. When he was filling his JAMB form, he wanted Theatre Arts but his father reminded him that je was a Doctor and his father was one too. James filled in medicine. He became a doctor, a good one at that

Motivation Tuesday: THE WORRIER

2022-03-25T19:10:00.001+01:00

I don’t know that problem you have. One thing I have learnt is that worrying never solves anything. Worry takes away from you. You thinking and brooding about that problem over and over, crying over it, shaping your whole life around it won’t make it any better. Worry is like a monster. You give it power over you. It takes over ever part of your life and affects

THE RULES

2022-03-25T19:08:00.001+01:00

There are rules that have been passed down for as long as society has been in existence. They have been tried and tested from generation to generation. We all still met them and we follow them. Are the rules good or bad? In relationships: · You don’t have

TOO YOUNG OR TOO OLD TO RUN?

2022-03-25T18:56:00.000+01:00

Buhari just signed the ‘Not too young to run’ bill and everyone is happy. Some are saying, it will push out the old politicians that have failed the country and so on. Nigerians and sentiments! Next, they’d pick a candidate that is twenty-five or thirty and sing; She is so humble and from a poor background. She started a charity organization at twenty, fed the hungry and

THIS RUDE NIGERIAN GIRL

2022-03-08T09:14:00.000+01:00

"WOMEN NEED TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO" Pardon my French before I commence, rude girls speak it. This shall be a long ass post. So, I was at the gym . A lady and I started a conversation. She was talking about how her closest friend got married and kicked her, the single friend to the curb. We were alone in the gym. A dude we know enters. He joins us in the conversation and what he

ARE YOU GUILTY OF THIS?

2022-02-02T09:56:00.001+01:00

I was reading a Joyce Meyer book titled ‘THE SECRET TO TRUE HAPPINESS’ and something she said resonated deeply within me and so I decided to share. “Where personal interactions are concerned, the prevailing message of our day seems to go something like this: “ If you suit me perfectly; if you never make mistakes; If you always treat me right; if you do everything just the way

THE MIND READERS CLUB

2022-01-24T10:25:00.001+01:00

You might often hear people in relationships say, ‘How could he get me this perfume? He is my boyfriend. He should know what I like.’ ‘Why would she make me pasta, she should know better?’ ‘I don’t think he loves me. If he does, why doesn’t he know what I like?’ ‘She doesn’t know my favourite colour. I know all the things she likes.’ ‘He doesn’t know what to get me for my birthday.

WHO DEFINES PERFECTION?

2022-01-24T10:22:00.001+01:00

We look for it everywhere. In our lives, in others. We look for it in our jobs, our parents, our children, our spouses, and our academic lives and in our relationships. It is the one thing that makes us equals, that search for perfection. The question I ask is; Is there really anything like perfection? We want a perfect job but can we have that alone and be satisfied? If we

Heart and Love: HE LOVES ME BUT CHEATS ON ME

2022-01-13T22:20:00.001+01:00

https://pdcn.co/e/www.buzzsprout.com/1531514/9873769-he-loves-me-but-cheats-on-me.mp3?download=true So, I was in a BRT bus and overheard two women discussing in French. They probably thought no one would be able to understand them. One was talking about how her man had cheated on her. Her friend was like “Why are you still with him?” The cheated on lady’s response was that she knows her man