THE SECRETS OF SEX

The Steps of Love

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Kiss- Height of luv Nipple- Peak of luv Boobs- Shape of luv Penis- Length of luv Pussy- Depth of luv Ass- Base of luv Testicles- Weight of luv Fuck- Experience of luv Suck- Taste of luv Masturbation- Substitute of luv Condom- Care of luv Sperm- Cream of luv Marriage- Mistake of luv

How Healthy Sex Prevents Illness

2008-06-27T13:56:00.001-07:00

There are many positive correlations between love, sex and health. Being so, it has produced many questions.....
Have you wondered if an active sex life can truly alleviate pain?
Do sexually active people have fewer colds and bouts of flu?
Is it true that married people live longer than single or divorced people?
Can an active sex life help prevent disease and illnesses by strengthening our immune system?
I have these answers and more, read on....
An active sex life is both stimulating and rejuvenating to the glandular system. When we make love the pituitary gland, the thyroid gland, the adrenal glands, the prostate and testes in men, and the ovaries in women are thoroughly exercised. The net result is that people in love look and feel better about themselves.
Activation of the sex center in the brain has health effects on other brain centers. Every cell in the body gets this message and is strengthened by it.
An active sex life strengthens our immune system. Scientists have compared the nerve endings of happy, loving and sexually-fulfilled people with unhappy and sexually-unfulfilled people. Apparently, large numbers of immune-system cells were gathered near the nerve endings in the "happy" people. A similar microscopic exam of "unhappy" and depressed persons showed no such gathering of immune- system cells.
Scientists theorized that the nerve endings in the "happy" group were releasing neurotransmitters. These are chemicals, like adrenalin and acetylcholine, that facilitate the transmission of nerve messages.
Scientists concluded that these neurotransmitters could attract, feed, and strengthen the various immune-system cells. During sex, the heart beats twice as fast, pumping blood to the pelvis, breasts, nipples, and surface of the skin, helping get rid of toxins and bringing in nutrients.
We also breath twice as fast, bringing in more oxygen. Muscles are tensed and relaxed, alternatively. Of course, not much good is realized by those who rush through lovemaking in ten minutes or less. But for those who spend a leisurely hour or two, the benefits can be considerable.
You, and you alone can determine the success or failure of your sex and love life; your physical, mental and spiritual health; and almost every other aspect of your life.
About The Author
Ruby Boyd's website offers information how alternative medicine, diet-nutrition prevents cancer and disease.
Visit http://www.a1-natural-health-and-beauty.com/Womens-Sexual-Health.html for information on how to achieve health and beauty fitness goals naturally

Tips to Achive and Maintain a Healthy, Sexy Body

2008-06-27T13:54:00.001-07:00

In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has no place. From television programs, commercials, and product advertisements to magazine features, billboards, and internet pop-ups, you won’t be able to find men unpacked with biceps, triceps, and abdominal muscles nor women with vital statistics other than 36-24-36.
How strange society can be! It dictates what is wrong and what is right, what is proper and what is not that if you feel you don’t belong to the “in” crowd, how sad and low can you be? People judge other people with no reasonable bases making the discriminated ones feel left out and unwanted.
As sensitive people who belong to such unfriendly societies, we get affected by cold treatments and pathetic stares. But we can’t let anybody make us feel inferior to them anytime. We were all created equal. Thus, we deserve to be feeling what they are feeling, to be doing what they are doing, and to be living how they are living in this strange world.
But reality check: how can we feel, do, and live the way other people do if there really is something that hinders us?
I used to be fat myself when I was young. Somehow, I felt inferior and caused me to envy a lot of people. I started wondering, why can’t my crush notice me? Or why can’t I join popularity contests? Is it really because of my physical attributes, particularly my body weight and figure? It’s sad to see that my slim friends and classmates got to have whatever they like while I couldn’t. Indeed, it was because I was fat, and they are not. Even though the effects of my disorder was purely psychological and didn’t bring any other biological problems, still it was unhappy and unhealthy.
As time passed by, I realized that I don’t want to be left out. Instead, I want to be noticed and recognized. I want to feel happy, healthy, and satisfied. Thus, I made an effort to lose weight and get rid of excess fats in my body. Thankfully, with an ounce of willingness, a cup of patience, and a spoon of determination, I was able to achieve what once was only a dream. Such comments like “You look slimmer,” or “Have you lost weight? Tell me your secret,” was really music to my ears.
I have traveled the path of overweight and unhappiness in a single journey; it wasn’t really a smooth ride – a trip not worth remembering. But, on the other hand, without that experience, I wouldn’t have been in my position now – happy and contented, the real richness in the world.
I have used self-hypnosis to make sure my mind reinforced what my body needed to do. It was really amazing setting up my mind to 'control' what I wanted to achieve. I understood the importance of setting realisable and achieveable goals, and then by a simple process of repetition, programmed muy mind to anticipate success - and it worked.
Thus, if I can do it, so can you. I don’t want any other people to feel what I felt before – unwanted, alone, and taken for granted. Or worse, might even suffer from complications and other illnesses. Being fat, overweight, or obese is unhealthy, both in the mind and in the body. We know it. We’ve been there, right? Now, come with me to a journey where we can change not only our body size, weight, and figure, but our lives as well. There’s nothing more wonderful than being able to do what you want to do or to go where you’d like you go. That is real happiness and contentment. And like me, you too can achieve it.
In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has to go. So, let’s go terminate it!
About The Author
Jane Morris is a member of Horizon Direct Services, and has written a number of articles on self improvement. The book can be downloaded at http://tinyurl.com/7jopr www.horizondirectservices.com Jane’s main site, with links to a number of other self-improvement products and services www.mindpowersite.com self-hypnosis CD’s for a number of complimentary self-improvement topics www.weightlosspatch.com Weight loss patch by Visifirm

Tantra Yoga Secrets

2008-06-20T16:19:00.000-07:00

Tantra Yoga is unity by controlling sexual energy. When you consider the main Indian Yoga styles, Tantra Yoga is probably the most controversial of them all. So what is the problem? Is it our "sexual hang-ups" or is it something more? What is the origin of Tantra Yoga? Is it all linked to the Kama Sutra or is there more to it?
Since Tantra Yoga uses many components of the classical Yoga styles such as mudras, pranayama, asanas, meditation, Bhakti, Yantra, and Kundalini, there are many similarities to other forms of Yoga practice. Some Yogis say that Tantra Yoga is the hardest Yoga to define, but there is a fundamental difference.
The major difference is Tantra Yoga accepts and embraces the power of "desire." Tantra Yogis are not trained to avoid desires that arouse the senses. This is a stark contrast from the many other forms of Yoga, which train their students to renounce desire. This is the foundation of the division between Tantra Yoga and the other classical Indian styles.
The origins of Tantra Yoga and the Kama Sutra date back to the Fourth Century A.D. The author of the Kama Sutra was Vatsyayana Mallanaga, who is somewhat of a mystery in the history books. There are no other traces of him to be found. He did write the world's most famous sex manual to date.
Northern India seems to be the birth place of Tantra Yoga and it appears to have migrated further north to Tibet, and China, before going global. Many contemporary Tantra Yogis practice Tantra Yoga of Tibetan or Indian origin. Tantra Yoga practitioners focus on the opposites and dualities within the universe such as, male and female, Shiva and Shakti, or Yin and Yang.
At different points in time, ritual Tantric sex has been considered common place within certain Tantra followings. However, it is not as common place as some might think. There is also a common belief that Tantric sex is always intentionally prolonged. This is not always the case and sometimes Tantric sex takes it own natural course.
Lastly, it should be noted that the Kama Sutra might have been considered a "racy classic" at the time of its writing, and during conservative points in history. However, by today's standards, the Kama Sutra would offend the masses much less. Some of the entertainment, at this point in time, has managed to make the public more callous than we should naturally be. Entertainment of the present day is sometimes comparable to that of the Roman coliseums in the past.
Tantra Yoga is a good example of the cycles and evolutions of morality within human history. Whether we think Tantra Yoga and the Kama Sutra are right or wrong, the current moral code will change with time, but we may not live long enough to see it.
© Copyright 2006 - Paul Jerard / Aura Publications

Kama Sutra's - Three Secret Positions for Maximum Pleasure

2008-06-20T16:09:00.000-07:00

Most people think the Kama Sutra is just an ancient Indian sex which is partly true and we have covered these areas in other articles. Here however we will look at what the book is famed for the best Kama Sutra sex positions. Written thousands of years ago, the advice is still strangely appropriate in many ways to today's society and the sex positions below have never gone out of date.. There are many sexual positions described in the chapter covering the sexual union between couples, but there are three positions which were emphasized and noted as being better than all the others. These are known as the three secret positions.Secret Position 1 The Conch Shell and CrabThe woman is lying down on her back. The man raises her legs with her knees at 90 degrees to her upper body, and with her knees parted; the man will hook her feet over his thighs. The man is on his knees, with his legs spread far apart (for stability) and he enters the woman in this way, his truck in perpendicular to the floor. The man's hands will rest on the woman's breasts, fondling them, while he rocks her (no thrusting), causing an intense stimulation of her clitoris. The position will drive the woman wild with pleasure, and fill her with love. The man finds this position intensely satisfying and soon arrives to an explosive orgasm and ejaculation.Secret Position 2 Man VanquishedThe man will sit using his arms to hold his body up, with his legs spread apart. He is totally passive, and the entire active roll is for the woman. She mounts him sitting thus, putting her legs over his, and supporting herself by resting her hands on his shoulders.The woman has three basic movements, the Samdamsha or the 'Tongs', the Bhramara or the Bee, and Prenkholita or the Swing.The tongs has the woman grasping the man's penis in her vagina and not letting go. This requires a great deal of internal control from the woman.The bee has the woman swiveling her hips and encircling the man's penis in a round movement.The swing has the woman swaying on the man's body, as if she were on a see-saw.Usually the woman will employ all three movements until her great moment comes for an orgasm of seismic capacity. Secret Position 3 Inverted LoveThe man lies on his back, and the woman, mounts him, but with her head pointed towards his feet. She is in a crawling position, on all fours, but penetrated by the man. She rocks back and forth, and the man assists by powerful counter-thrusting as she eases back down on him. This position stimulates a woman's clitoris and g-spot with the woman guiding the movement to achieve maximum stimulation. A simultaneous orgasm for the couple is assured, and one in which both finds love for the other. The man also has a very stimulating view of the action and his own excitement is raised to new level of pleasure.Here we have focused on the sex positions but there is much more to the Kama Sutra and any man should read this book It is a guide for a man's life, from his adolescence till old age, of which sex is only one element, so read more about the Kama Sutra and you can enhance your whole life not just your sex life.

Tantric Sex - The Art of Lasting Longer in Bed

2008-06-20T16:02:00.000-07:00

As mentioned so many times, Tantric sex is about getting maximum pleasure form your body for the longest possible time. But even then, it's not about reaching an orgasm. It's about sacred union. In Tantra, sexual energy is used for spiritual growth, healing, and yes, enhanced and extended sexual pleasure.Tantric Sex Secrets to Make you Last Longer in BedThe following tips and exercises are not about curing premature ejaculation. At a man's best, he can usually probably last a good 45 minutes in bed. But why limit yourself right? As Rock star Sting and his wife previously claimed, they can have up to five or six hours of lovemaking, why not you?If you think about it, climaxing is actually the result of tension. For instance, because you're so excited making love to your partner, tension builds up in your pelvis, butt, and/or mind. This then leads to a climax. It's thus logical to start with the basics to prevent this unnecessary tension. How? By re-training your body on how to RELAX.Exercise One: Float. This exercise aims to teach you to 'go back to basics' and simply tell your body to chill out.- Find a comfortable and stress-free space and lie down on your back and close your eyes. - Lie down comfortably. That is, spread your legs a bit and let your arms fall away from your body (palms up). - Start from the top of your head. Imagine each hair shaft falling on its own accord, away from your head and resting on the pillow. Imagine your eyes relaxing, unknot your brows. Continue imaging each and every part of your body from head-to-toe getting into a state of relaxation.- Now imagine the weight of your body pressing down into the earth while being entirely supported all around.- Just let all the tension in your body be washed completely, allowing all your muscles to relax.- Now relax your mind. Focus on the slow steady natural rhythm of your breathing and nothing else.- Just float this way for 20 minutes while you witness what your mind and body experience.Exercise Two: Tighten and Release. This exercise aims to teach you how to 'control' your body. That is, when to induce tension on it and when to deliberately relax it. This is important during intercourse because then when you feel tension, you can command your body to relax.- Assume the Float position.- Focus your awareness on your toes, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.- Focus your awareness on your feet, tense them tightly for a moment, and then relax them for several breaths.- Continue doing the same with your lower legs, thighs, genitals, butt, stomach, lower back, chest, upper back, hands, forearms, upper arms, shoulders, neck, and jaw.- If you feel tension anywhere in your body, repeat the cycle until you feel relaxed all over.- Take a few moments just breathing gently and feel the complete sense of relaxation sink in deeply.Exercise Three: Tantric Belly BreathingHave you noticed that during sex and you're all really tensed up and you feel like you're going to explode, your breathing comes in gasps or in short, dragged breaths? This type of breathing goads you to reach your destination (orgasm) faster. So what if you can command yourself to breathe more evenly? Surely, that would relax your body and prevent climaxing, right? Yes!- Assume the Float position.- Remain completely still and relax all your muscles, especially your anal and genital muscles. Press your tongue gently against the roof of your mouth. This will keep your jaw relaxed.- Observe how fast you're breathing and feel how deeply each breath goes.- Now, open your mouth and breathe rhythmically more deeply and slowly. Imagine that your belly is an empty balloon that fills and empties with each relaxing breath. - Put your hand on your belly and watch it move in and out as you breathe. If your hand isn't moving, consciously force the air down deeper.- Now imagine your breath going down into your pelvis, washing, cleansing, and stimulating. As you exhale, imagine it leaving every muscle totally relaxed.During sex, just when you feel that the sexual tension is going just a bit too far, start Tantric breathing deliberately. Again, imaging each muscle relax as you exhale. This will prolong your orgasm and make you enjoy sex for hours to come!

The Great Sex Secret

2008-06-16T13:43:00.000-07:00

Techniques for mutual sexual satisfaction for couples - Traditional sexual intercourse almost always produces an orgasm for men but rarely does for women. This is because the location of the clitoris prevents most women from getting sensitive, appropriate and sustained stimulation when they make love. Full satisfaction for both partners is neither easy nor obvious; it doesn’t "come naturally."

The Issue of Boredom Why do some couples get bored with sex after a few months while others continue to enjoy making love throughout their adult lives? The conventional wisdom is that the way to stave off sexual boredom is variety -- that "great sex" consists of different positions, different techniques, different routines, different times of day, different venues, different toys and devices, different perfumes, different condom colors -- and different lovers. Much of contemporary sex material caters to this view, constantly feeding people new ideas on how to add to the sexual menu. Why else would all those women's magazines tout a sex article on the cover of every single issue? Variety-oriented sex advice focuses almost exclusively on foreplay. That's understandable, since there are endless permutations to the positions and possibilities of this part of lovemaking. The whole body is an erogenous zone, and if a couple has the time, the imagination, and the stamina, foreplay can be new and interesting practically forever. Most sex advice spends little if any time on the way in which couples have their orgasms -- because, as we saw in earlier chapters, there are relatively few effective approaches to this part of lovemaking. But is variety during foreplay really the key to avoiding sexual boredom? Two people can make love in an outrageous number of ways and still grow weary of each other sexually. This can happen if they've fallen out of love, been betrayed, or suffer from other problems, but it can also happen to couples who are in love and really want to make the relationship work. Could it be that another variable is more important to the staying power of a sexual relationship? This is an empirical question; we could find the answer by doing really thorough, honest, confidential interviews with couples for whom lovemaking has and hasn't stood the test of time. Unfortunately, sex literature is not particularly helpful in this important area -- probably because researchers haven't been asking the right questions. While we wait for better research, though, we can speculate about what truly keeps passion alive. Here's a theory; it's unproven, but it poses an intriguing alternative to the idea that variety is everything. In the early stages of a romantic relationship lovers are full of passion and excitement and often experiment with lots of different positions and approaches and explore their likes and dislikes. As they get to know each other better they tend to settle into a routine -- certain preliminaries and a specific way of reaching (or not reaching) orgasms -- with occasional variations. This is a crucial point in a sexual relationship. Are both partners having satisfying orgasms (not necessarily simultaneous) when they make love? If a couple's routine leaves one partner sexually unsatisfied (and it's almost always the woman), there is trouble ahead. These lovers may confide in their friends that sex has become "boring," but boredom is not the real issue. The nub of the matter is a lack of deep satisfaction for the woman, which robs lovemaking of mutuality and depth -- and may affect her partner's level of satisfaction as well; men may be more sensitive to the subtle dynamics of sex than we suppose. Without the deep satisfaction of mutual orgasms, there's a tendency to focus on sexual behaviors that by themselves can seem repetitive and even tiresome. It is boring to go through the same routine week after week if it doesn't culminate in good mutual orgasms. The hypothesis here is that if we interviewed couples who have become "bored" with sex and asked the right questions, we would find that they do not have a good technique for mutual orgasms. We would predict that such couples would become increasingly dissatisfied with their sex life and either accept that (and have a sexless marriage), use other means to gain satisfaction (perhaps masturbation), or look for new partners to try to recreate the "sheer excitement" phase that they remember so fondly. Conversely, if we interviewed couples who have been genuinely happy with their sex life for several years, our prediction would be that at some point they discovered a good sexual finale and continued to use it (perhaps with variations) over time. But doesn't using the same mutual-orgasm approach get monotonous? Strangely enough, it doesn't. People don't get tired of having orgasms together any more than they get tired of eating good food. The analogy with food works on a number of levels.
Our appetite for food and for sex are basic drives that build up over time. When we've had a fine meal or a good orgasm, we feel mellow and satisfied and our drives are temporarily slaked.
Both types of hunger are influenced by quality: when food or lovemaking is mediocre, our appetite goes down; when the meal or the sex is good, our appetite increases.
If we're extremely hungry or haven't had sex in a long time, we are less fussy about the finer points of cuisine and lovemaking.
With both food and sex, we can have too much of a good thing: with food we feel sick to our stomachs; with sex, we get exhausted and sore. In both cases, our appetite disappears, and we have no desire to eat or make love for a period of time. But the basic drives are still there, and before long, they're back. But the food/sex analogy breaks down in one area. Although we can get great enjoyment in the course of eating and making love, what truly quenches our sexual appetite and leaves a sense of deep gratification and closeness is not all the foreplay; it's the orgasms. The kissing, hugging, different positions, techniques, toys, etc., can be great fun, sharpen the palate and heighten sexual arousal, and even boost the eventual level of gratification -- but unlike the courses of a good meal (which are the meal), foreplay activities are a means to an end; it's the orgasmic finale that really hits the spot. The quality of this final stage of lovemaking is what delivers the lasting physical and emotional payoff. Getting that part right is the key -- a point that sex books and videos rarely emphasize. Another reason that using the same mutual-orgasm technique can be satisfying year after year is that the feelings lovers experience from orgasms can change from session to session. One of the remarkable things about sex is the potential for great variety within the same technique. Lovemaking in which a couple uses a single mutual-orgasm approach can be hot and lustful, sweet and gentle, loud and raunchy, whispery and quiet, and everything in between. Subtle differences in mood, time of month, level of arousal, positions, pressure, and timing can produce quite different feelings and climaxes. So within the context of one successful approach to mutual orgasms, there can be great variety over the years. How do lovers know if they have found a good mutual-orgasm technique? There are several ways to tell:
First, does it deliver a satisfying climax to both partners during a lovemaking session?
Second, is it acceptable and comfortable for both partners?
Third, does it still work on a Friday night when both partners are pretty weary? (Let's face it: most couples with children have limited options for private lovemaking time, most of which are times when they're not fresh and well-rested.)
Finally, does it continue to work for both partners over the years? These questions may be the best indicators available to loving couples as their relationship moves through the years. If they are honest with each other, they will know the answer to the first and second questions quite early on. They'll get the answer to the third question as life gets busier and they're more exhausted on weekends, and the answer to the fourth will become apparent after a few years. If they're always "too tired" for sex on Friday night and sex is becoming "boring," it's a sure sign that the couple needs to go back to questions one and two and find a different route to mutual orgasms that really works for both of them. Published by Sourcebooks Casablanca; November 2006;$12.95US/$16.95CAN; 978-1-4022-0810-2 Copyright © 2006 Kim Marshall About the author: Kim Marshall has worked in public education since graduating from college in 1969, and has published seven books and numerous articles. As a young teacher, he was trained as a sex educator and began developing and teaching a sex education curriculum, reaching more than 1,700 young adolescents over the years. Visit www.sourcebooks.com/cart/shopexd.asp?id=1096 for more info.
By Buzzle Staff and AgenciesPublished: 2/7/2007

The Big O in Om: Yoga for Hotter Sex

2008-06-09T17:13:00.000-07:00

Enlightenment is great and all, but doing yoga will also pay off in a very immediate, extremely earthy way: in the sack.In ancient times yogis practiced abstinence from sex so that all of their energy could be directed toward yoga and spiritual advancement. Makes you wonder: How could these supposedly wise guys have gotten it so wrong?

Today yoga lovers are finding that more time on the mat means more--and steamier--time spent reveling in their newly toned bodies. To take a walk on yoga's carnal side, add these sex moves to your yoga routine for overall better sex. Or just do them by themselves to turn up the heat.
Flex Time Is Sex Time
Having more flexible muscles and joints definitely helps in assuming those compromising positions. Opening your hips in particular gives you a wider range of motion in your nether regions, allowing for more direct stimulation in just the right spots. After all, one micro-movement in missionary is sometimes all it takes to ring the bell.

Sex Rx: Bound Angle In a seated position, bring the soles of your feet together, put your hands on your ankles, allow your knees to relax toward the floor, and hinge forward at the hips as far as is comfortable. Hold for 10 to 15 complete breaths (inhales and exhales).
Power Up the Pelvis
Strengthening one key muscle helps you engage and lift the pelvic floor, bringing you more sensation and control during your sex moves.

Sex Rx: Root Lock You may also hear this referred to by its Sanskrit name, Mula Bandha. Seated or standing, contract and then release the pubococcygeus muscle located between the pubic bone and the tailbone, as if you wanted to stop the flow of urine. You can even do this at your desk, say, 10 times at three workday intervals.
Sex Goddesses Go the Distance
Shake-the-headboard sex moves are hard work. "The better shape you are in, the more pleasure you have and the longer you can do it," says Kimberly Fowler, owner of Yoga and Spinning Studio in Venice, California.

Sex Rx: Yoga Pushups Start in the pushup position, arms extended. Engage your abs as you lower your body slowly toward the floor. Stop when your torso is about 2 to 3 inches away. Keeping elbows in, hold there for five breaths, then lower to the floor. Repeat three times at first and build up to five.
Charge Up the Bed Batteries
A killer day at work can leave you too beat to boogie. But a few minutes of nonstrenuous yoga when you get home can mean one less night with Netflix and one more erotic evening entwined with your sweetie.

Sex Rx: Legs Up the Wall Change into some yoga-friendly clothes. Lie on your back with one hip touching a wall. Swing your legs up and turn your body so you face the wall, legs resting against it from heels to butt, arms at your sides. Bring your awareness to your breath and focus on it for 5 minutes. This position allows more oxygen-rich blood to flow from your lower body back up to the heart and the brain, so you'll get up reenergized, refocused, and ready to rumble.
Breath of Desire
While most yoga poses help prepare you for a libidinous rendezvous, this breathing exercise can actually heighten your pleasure in flagrante.

Sex Rx: Breath of Fire While you're in the act, take rapid, forceful, and rhythmic breaths through your nose with your mouth closed. Don't worry if your partner thinks you're hyperventilating; he'll forget all about it when you reach a spine-tingling climax (and no doubt take credit for your fulfillment).
Double Your Pleasure
Practicing yoga with your man is like foreplay, says Jacquie Noelle Greaux, creator of the Better Sex Through Yoga video series. "You start to breathe together, sweat together, and move together. It gets your energy synched up." Some mat work might make him more sex-imaginative as well. "Yoga sparks creativity," Fowler says. "Women don't want bang-boom from a man, they want an explorer--and yoga invites you to explore."

Oral Sex

2008-06-09T17:12:00.002-07:00

Hello Doc,

I’m sure you've been asked this question before. My girlfriend does not want to perform oral sex on me. Is there a way I can get her to change her mind? I mean, ever since the day she told me, I've been fine with it. I told her I had no problem with it. And she doesn’t know that I feel this way. I much rather have her do it than not do it. So is there a way to get her to change her mind at all?

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Hello!

You bet there is.

First of all, you need to come clean about your desire for oral sex. Since you've told her otherwise (in effect, lying to her) she doesn't get the opportunity to deal with her own issues surrounding it.

Explain to her that you knew (or sensed) that she wasn't into it and; rather than creating an issue around it, you chose to tell her a little white lie. Now that you're relationship is going well you want to start expanding up your sexual scope to include other fun sex like oral sex, etc.

You should also explain to her that while it's not a deal breaker, you want more variety in your sex and that you'll help her learn to be really good at it. More important, it'll be fun!

At the same time, get her to talk about what she'd like to see more of too. Just as you grow your relationship to be closer and better, you need to focus on doing the same thing with your sex life.

As I constantly tell people, bad relationships that have great sex will continue to survive, but good relationships with bad sex almost always fail.

It's important to have your needs met and to meet hers as well.

Best regards...

About The Author

Dr. Neder is known around the world as a tough, but fair relationship expert, dealing with all sorts of dating, sex and relationship issues from a man's perspective. Having written 3 books ("Being a Man in a Woman's World™" series) and is working on others, hundreds of articles, been on hundreds of radio and TV shows, he is funny, direct and intuitive.

Do you have a burning question that needs an answer? Are you a man that wants to better experiences with women, or a woman that wants to better understand men? To learn more, go to http://beingaman.com.

What Do Women Really Want From Men?

2008-06-09T17:12:00.001-07:00

Men have been trying to figure out what women want for ages, and to be honest that's an question that bears asking. Without knowing what a woman wants, how can you expect her to respond to you? You've heard the old cliches, that diamonds are a girl's best friend, that every girl wants roses on Valentine's Day, or that what she really wants is romantic getaway, but realistically, what do women want? Answering this question can take a lifetime, and even if it's an extremely enjoyable study on a vastly lovely topic, it will be frustrating, as well! Take a look a few pointers for figuring out what women want.

To start off with, women want someone who listens. This seems simple enough, until you add in the fact that you need to comprehend, digest and use accordingly as well. Say a girl mentions that she enjoys sushi. Just hearing this statement is not the end of it. To be counted an active listener, surprise her with a dinner at a Japanese restaurant. Women appreciate small details as well as large ones, so try to integrate this into your life. If she mentions being nervous about a presentation at work, ask her about it in the evening. This will win you major points in the listener category.

Remember to be yourself. You might think that a woman prefers someone who is all about her, but realistically, that gets old. Having your own interests and your hobbies makes you much more interesting. Keep in mind that women like being thought of as worthwhile, but too much is too much. If you spend all your time fawning on her, she'll soon start believing that you're a loser who has nothing else going on in his life, and the fact is, she might not be far wrong! When you have a busy life and you make time out of it to spend with your girlfriend or lover, she'll be flattered. Every woman likes to feel that her man is exciting and fascinating, so make sure that you display this. Trust us, women aren't looking for doormats that will serve them hand and foot all day, every day!

One strategy that you might want to employ is breaking it down a little bit. So know that the person you're trying to impress is a woman. Well, that breaks it down to a category that encompasses half the human race. Get more specific than that. Maybe she's a librarian; that usually means that she enjoys books. Does she work at a gym? That must mean that fitness is important to her. When you start gathering facts like this, you're getting closer to finding out what is important to the woman that you are interested in.

As you can see, figuring out what women want can be frustrating. When you're out there trying to attract the eye of the woman of your dreams, remember that you have a lot to offer and that sometimes, what a woman wants most is for you to head over and say hello. In the mean time, Good Luck!

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About The Author

Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training.

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How To Approach A Woman?

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The old saying, “The Knight In Shining Armor” still exists today like it did in the medieval times. Only difference is that we’re no longer on a horse and wearing our metal. These days it’s more of a male chivalry which we all men should show if we want to attract our woman. Women are always looking for their knight in shining armor all the time. It is in them to want to be rescued. So whenever there is a chance to help a woman in need, never hesitate. Just do it!

We may not be attracted to the woman we help, but you never know if there is another woman around the corner watching your good deeds. What is important is that this has to be real, a habit you gradually develop over time. You really should not do it just to attract a woman. The more you give, the more you get back. Just don’t expect it right away or else you’ll be disappointed.

So in future when ever you see a woman who either, needs help or rescue from a situation, go for it. Rescuing a woman is one of the surest ways to win their heart. Whether it’s from another man or an embarrassing situation, find a way to save the day and very likely you’ve immediately also found a way to her heart.

Woman unconsciously also like to see that you have good relationships with other women around your age because it shows that you are also liked by other women. She’ll find this attractive.

Never approach a woman too directly and stare down at her as she’ll begin to find you too intimidating or even creepy. An indirect approach is best. Try to also stay away from the usual pick-up lines such as the weather, buying her a drink etc.

You are much better off relating to her on some level. Try to find a common interest.

Its best to therefore approach women as a friend or casual acquaintance as this gives you the best chance to get to know her a little bit more and quickly find a common ground of interest. This can then be further developed into a full blown conversation. It also puts pressure off you trying to score on first attempt with expectations of a long lasting romance or a one night stand and then feeling stupid if you didn’t succeed.

Take your time, and continue practicing. This is the only way you’ll gain confidence over time. The more you do it, the more you’ll feel comfortable picking up women.

In the mean time, Good Luck!

OR if you would like to receive a FREE copy of a limited number of the eGuide “Instant Magnetic Attraction” and discover “What Do Women Really Want From Men”, check out http://www.secrets2datingsuccess.com

About The Author

Terry Leslie is a successful and world renowned authority figure on creating and maintaining successful relationships. A much sought after global speaker in the areas of intimate relationships, self-improvement and human peak potential training.

For more Secrets to Dating and Relationship success, check out http://www.secrets2datingsuccess.com

Better Sex For Couple

2008-06-09T17:10:00.000-07:00

Effective Ways To Better Sex For Couples

There are proven methods to improve sexual performance and pleasure among couples. However, various couples struggle with different challenges. One couple may be dealing with erectile dysfunction in the male partner, another with lack of sex drive in the female or male partner. Some couples have too much stress in their lives that’s not managed properly and this negatively affects their sexual experience and intimacy. For others a lack of creativity is the major cause of disinterest and boredom and has lead to poor sexual performance and desire. The mistake that happens often is when couples use an inappropriate method for treating the problem. You see, all of the conditions listed above are encountered by many couples and each problem requires a unique solution. Additional problems and frustrations occur when a couple uses the wrong method to treat their specific problem, for instance using a drug or other method as the "cure all" for what is lacking in their sexual experience. An example would be someone using a medication or other herbal substance that is intended to treat erectile dysfunction, but that person thinks that the substance will increase sexual desire, which is not the case because that is not how the substance was designed to work.

Erectile Dysfunction

This is also referred to as "impotence" in men. It is the condition in which the male partner has a sex drive (very important), can get an erection (or at least start the process), but is unable to maintain an erection for the intended duration of sex or until an orgasm is reached. This condition is appropriately treated with medications. And you can treat it with natural substances also. The medications used to treat erectile dysfunction belong to a class of drugs called phosphodiesterase inhibitors. Included in this class are the drugs Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra. They are effective in treating impotence because they cause more complete filling of the penis with blood and allows the penis to remain engorged for a longer period of time, usually long enough to reach climax and sometimes even beyond that. Viagra has proven effective in enhancing sexual pleasure in women in a similar way by increasing blood circulation to the vaginal area. Levitra has been proven to help treat erectile dysfunction in men that also suffer one or more other illnesses that compound the problem. Among them are diabetes, high blood pressure, and hyperlipidemia (high cholesterol levels in the blood). There are also natural herbal products that help treat erectile dysfunction without the side effects that may be encountered with these medications.

It is important to consult your primary doctor in determining whether any of the medications are the best option for you, especially if you have a history of heart disease or low blood pressure.

Lack of Sex Drive

This is when there is no desire to participate in sexual activities. There are different causes for this condition. Stress can be a factor. Many medications have decreased sex drive as a side effect. Depression is a cause, especially when it leads to physical inactivity. Even our diets can contribute, directly and indirectly, to lack of sex drive and performance in men and women. It is important to distinguish lack of sex drive from erectile dysfunction, here's why. Let’s say a man has no or low sex drive and becomes frustrated because he is unable to become aroused sexually for his partner, yet he believes that Viagra (a treatment for erectile dysfunction) will help solve the problem. He will more than likely become more frustrated because that is not how Viagra works. It was not formulated to stimulate or increase sex drive. With Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra there needs to be sexual arousal which releases certain enzymes or chemicals into the bloodstream that allow the meds to be effective. Without arousal this does not occur. There are some natural ways to increase testosterone levels that have been proven to dramatically increase sex drive. There are even foods that help with this. Exercise is a great way to enhance testosterone levels and sex drive in a safe way, but some forms of exercise are more effective than others.

Stress Anxiety Depression

I put these together because they can be closely related if we don't manage them properly. Unmanaged stress and anxiety often lead to depression. High stress, anxiety, and depression are major inhibitors of good sexual and general health. It is true that great sex has to do with the right mental stimulation and attitude and nothing negatively impacts the right mind set more than high stress, anxiety, or depression. We manage these conditions by incorporating things that make our lives more balanced. Some ways include; diet and exercise, involving ourselves in more spiritual pursuits, committing more time for the family, or it could be just getting rid of things that make you stressed, anxious, or depressed. Usually effective management involves some of everything. The important thing is that you take action to get them under control. They can be managed effectively by most of us.

Lack of Creativity and Romance

Some couples kill their sex lives when they stop being creative. Even sex, as pleasurable as it is, can become old and even boring if we stop being creative. You see, creativity starts the mental process that sets the stage for great sex. Creativity gets our minds involved in the act. Let's face it, anyone can do it or go through the motions, but to really have great sex involves a bit more from the mind and body together. Remember when you first met your partner and how you felt. The excitement you felt during that time was a motivating force that helped you think up ways to show them how much you cared. And your efforts payed off in a good way, didn’t they? I will let you know that by involving the mind in thinking of creative ways to communicate your affection towards your partner can engender the same excitement you felt when you first met. It will make a difference in improving your chances for great sex every time.

For more information, tips, and resources on how to greatly improve your sex life visit our site at http://www.sexhealthandwellness.com.

For Men: The Seven Secrets Of Successful Sex

2008-06-09T14:28:00.000-07:00

Men, if you want to satisfy any woman - every time, read on!

Sex can be long, slow and romantic, or it can be quick, urgent and intense. And it often doesn't make much difference to a man's enjoyment whether sex is over in a minute or it takes all night. Indeed, sometimes sex can seem a lot easier if it is over quickly and we don't have to make much of an effort to please our partner. The trouble is, of course, that sex like this is generally very unsatisfying for a woman, and a man who adopts this as his standard lovemaking technique isn't likely to be enjoying sex for very long before his partner departs to find someone more considerate in bed! Here, then, are some simple guidelines which will help to make sex good for both of you - and that way, give you the chance to enjoy it more often!

1 Enjoy foreplay

The big difference between men and women is in the need for foreplay. Even though many women like a quick, intense session of sex once in a while, we know that on average it takes between ten and twenty times as long for a woman to become aroused and ready for intercourse as it does for a man. And even though a woman's vagina may get wet very quickly, most women need a period of foreplay before they are emotionally ready for penetration. What this means in practice is that foreplay needs to last for at least ten - and preferably twenty - minutes if intercourse is going to be a good experience for a woman. But here's the interesting thing - the huge majority of women who enjoy foreplay for twenty minutes will have an orgasm. And since a woman's orgasm is not only satisfying for her, but adds to her partner's excitement as well, you can see it's well worth enjoying your foreplay.

So what does good foreplay involve? You might just see foreplay as a prelude to intercourse, or you might see it as an end in itself which culminates in orgasm for one or both partners - and that's a good alternative to sexual intercourse if you want safe sex, of course. But assuming that foreplay is going to lead up to intercourse, it can take several forms, including:

Kissing - appreciated by every part of the body
Petting - touching, stroking, nibbling
Massage - a variety of pressures and strokes across a women's entire body using scented oils, feathers, silk, or nothing but hands
Masturbation - solo or mutual masturbation
Oral sex - fellatio and cunnilingus

For men, it's a great idea to become an expert in the arts of gentle touching, caressing and kissing. Vary the pressure of your touch or kiss, switch between firm and gentle pressure, pause and resume - all strategies which prevent the foreplay becoming boring. But perhaps the greatest asset that a man can have during foreplay is expertise in the gentle art of pleasuring a woman orally - in other words, be an expert at cunnilingus. In survey after survey, women report that they like cunnilingus above all other forms of sexual activity. This is because it's a reliable route to orgasm for most women - much more reliable than intercourse, and in many cases it's easier than masturbation. It's also an act of real intimacy and trust - qualities which women appreciate in their partner.

There are many websites which offer advice about the best oral sex techniques: for example, http://www.sex-and-relationships.com offers hints and advice on how to enjoy oral sex, as well as providing a lot of advice about sexual positions, written from the point of view of both a man and a woman.

2 Be sensitive to her needs

Being with a selfish lover is a complete turn-off for a woman. It's no use you just going through the motions - either you're committed to giving her a good time or you're not. And being selfish isn't just about making a dive for her erogenous zones and satisfying yourself after a few perfunctory minutes of foreplay - even if she lets you! To give her a good time you need to be with her emotionally as well as physically, with your attention fully focused on what you're doing. Successful sex comes from being fully present with her during the act of lovemaking - being responsive to her movements, words, and feelings. If you're pleasuring her orally, for example, watch how her body shifts slightly as she moves towards her orgasm. These small movements indicate whether she wants you to move your focus, press harder or more softly, speed up or slow down. And remember that good sex isn't generally the same for women as it is for men: when you masturbate, you probably enjoy increasing the speed and pressure of your hand movements as you get near orgasm. For her, consistency and a steady rhythm are likely to be much more important until she's really on the edge of her orgasm. Only then will a faster rhythm and a harder pressure of your fingers or tongue, depending on what you're doing, help her over the edge and into the bliss of her orgasm.

3 Let her come down from orgasm in an intimate embrace

When a woman reaches orgasm, it can be so intense that she needs a few minutes to recover and come fully back to the here and now. So after she's enjoyed her orgasm, let her rest gently in your arms if that's what she wants, feeling your love and affection before you continue with your sex. Remember the after-effects of orgasm are different for a man and a woman: most men can't get an erection again straight away, and may even lose interest in sex for a while after they have ejaculated. The whole idea of satisfying her before you take your pleasure is so that you don't just reach orgasm, ejaculate, turn over and go to sleep. The guiding principle is "she comes first!" Remember this simple idea, and you'll enjoy much better sex. After a woman's enjoyed her orgasm, it takes her body and mind much longer to lose their arousal than it does for a man. So, after good foreplay, and hopefully an orgasm, she'll still be sexually aroused, ready to enjoy penetration and intercourse with you.

4 Remember that penetration is important to her; make it special and do it elegantly

The act of penetration can be just as important to your partner as it is to you: and you might be surprised to know that her desire to be penetrated by the man she loves and trusts can be just as strong as your desire to penetrate her. Many men forget this. And it's also important to keep in mind that this is a special act for a woman - one that symbolises love, affection and intimacy. So when you get to the moment of penetration, be sensitive and respect the gift she is giving you in allowing you into her body. Exactly how you approach the moment of penetration will depend on the mood of the sex you're enjoying (and the sexual position in which you're enjoying it). Your sex may be assertive, a wonderful meeting of masculine power and feminine receptiveness, or it may be a gentle romantic connection, symbolised by loving eye-contact as you enter her vagina. In either case, be respectful and if it feels appropriate, ask her "May I enter you?" A final word of advice - if you have trouble getting your penis in, don't fumble and fool around: be straight, direct and honest - just ask her to guide you in with her hand. Women hate an incompetent lover.

5 Learn to be a good lover; don't come too soon

Premature ejaculation is a real problem for many men. And it's true that women often don't understand how out-of-control it can feel. In young men, it's often the result of being too excited and aroused - all that testosterone, and the urge to ejaculate quickly is quite natural. Greater lovemaking skill can come with age, but even so many men never bother to learn the simple techniques that could help them last longer in bed. All it requires is the decision to do so, and the will-power to carry that decision through, plus a little help from your partner. See, for example: http://www.end-premature-ejaculation-now.com

And being a good lover means a few other things too: like ensuring your body and penis are clean before you have sex - the same is true for her vulva, of course. And respecting her wishes as to whether or not you ejaculate in her mouth during oral sex. And not resting all your weight on her unless she likes to feel you resting on top of her. There are many more such things which will make your lovemaking into a wonderful, memorable experience for you both.

6 Respect her feelings

Men very often think that a woman "should" reach orgasm every time she has sex. In fact, very few women will do so - or even want to do so. The hardest thing of all for men to understand is that a woman may not even know before sex starts whether she is going to want to have an orgasm, or be able to do so in that particular session of lovemaking. Men certainly need to grasp that orgasm may not be important for a woman. Instead, the intimacy, the cuddles, the kisses, and just feeling her man inside her may be enough to give her great pleasure and satisfaction during sex. So don't get hung up on "giving" her an orgasm - it's her body, her orgasm, and you're just helping her to discover if she's going to have one that day!

And above all, don't sulk if she doesn't want sex and you do. That's about as ungracious as male behavior gets. You have a hand, so go and do something with it, or ask her if she will help you out.

7 Talk to each other

Talking about sex can be very difficult if you're not used to discussing intimate matters. But good communication is the essence of successful sex - and non-critical communication at that. Be loving at all times: if your partner isn't doing what you want, but they are trying to please you, be kind and gracious in the way you say what you want. A good model is to say something like: "It feel great when you do that, but it would be even better if you moved your hand up a bit." In this way, no one needs to feel unappreciated or criticised. And if there's something really important you need to say to your partner, talk about it afterwards when the emotional heat has died away a bit. Then be straightforward and loving; say what you want and need directly, openly and as son as you can. Leaving things unsaid in the hope that they will go away will seriously interfere with the pleasure you get from your sex life!

About The Author

Rod Phillips is an experienced sexual therapist - http://www.sex-and-relationships.com and on-line counsellor at - http://www.sex-and-relationships.com

Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: Myths and Truths

2008-06-09T14:25:00.000-07:00

I have opinion, belief, advice, or information about the book, "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man" which is "counter-intuitive" for most people. There are common myths people believe that I want to debunk:

• Myth 1: Being very feminine is weak and submissive. Truth: It empowers a woman.

• Myth 2: It's what's inside that counts. Truth: Because men are visual, you need to be beautiful, feminine, and sexy to attract men.

• Myth 3: Feminists can't attract, satisfy, and keep a man. Truth: You can be both a feminist and a feminine-ist, a woman who values, loves, and wants to operate out of her femininity.

• Myth 4: The G-spot for female ejaculation is no big deal. Truth: Learn to female ejaculate and become a "shooter"; expand your sexual satisfaction/options.

• Myth 5: Dieting is about food. Truth: A plan (not a diet) is about two things: awareness of your weight and exercise, not food.

• Myth 6: Men and women are pretty much the same. Truth: Men and women are very different psychologically.

• Myth 7: I should wait until he asked me to marry him. Truth: Sooner-rather-than-later, you need to set deadlines.

• Myth 8: Eventually, I’ll get married. Truth: To marry a Good Man you need to make love and marriage your high priority, and a plan.

• Myth 9: Men are generally very confident sexually. Truth: Men are extremely vulnerable and fragile regarding their sex lives.

• Myth 10: Men aren't comfortable with vibrators. Truth: He can love your vibrator, since you'll never give credit for your orgasm to the vibrator.

• Myth 11: I have to say "no" to my husband to sex sometimes. Truth: Never say "no" to sex to your husband. You need to arrange a date in the near future.

• Myth 12: You want to get married. Truth: You want to have a great marriage, not a great wedding.

About The Author

Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House Publishers. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Py’s website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com.

SEXERCISE:- USE SEX AS AN EXERCISE

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