tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-59800726071699610272012-09-06T23:44:39.870-07:00Carlnoreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-28864043560931064422012-05-14T18:01:00.000-07:002012-05-14T18:01:00.974-07:002012-05-14T18:01:00.974-07:00<P>Steering clear of the usual dating Chinese women etiquette cliches I see on many websites which give advice on attracting and dating Chinese women, yet which for the most part are tired old rehashed versions of the 'how to attract Asian women' one size fits all variety, I'd like to offer you two great techniques which are actually specifically based on Chinese culture and Chinese women, which I myself have used frequently in the eight years I have been in China dating many different kinds of Chinese women.</P><br /><P>First off I want you to know one unquestionable fact about Chinese culture, and this fact is really going to help us when dating and attracting Chinese women; Chinese culture is largely based on Confucianism and conformity, the majority of Chinese women have a way of thinking and reacting to situations and circumstances which is remarkably predictable (I judge this to be around 80% accurate based on mine and others experiences), How does this help us? Well, this means if you know the techniques that are tried and tested and that also fit Chinese dating etiquette and we combine them then we will have an incredibly high success rate when dating Chinese women, and I know this because I use them all the time!</P><br /><P>Let's have a look at a couple Chinese dating etiquette techniques that'll get you beyond the dreaded 'friend zone' we've all been in at one time or another:</P><br /><P>1. Man up! As a western man you may very well be used to being very aware of being politically correct where western women are concerned, and there's certainly nothing wrong with that, but the problem is if you are dating Chinese women you need to do somethings differently in order for her to be attracted to you. You don't want to be 'that-guy', the one that's just simply kept around for your providing and stability status, you want her to actually really feel for you. Chinese women like a real man, one who can take control and make decisions, so the next time you're at dinner with her don't 'hmmm and haa' about a dish choice, make the choice and make one for her too! This is attractive to her, and in some ways what is expected of you in Chinese dating etiquette.</P><br /><P>2. Another surprisingly effective technique when on a date with a Chinese woman is to simply place some of the food from your plate or bowl into hers. Usually in Chinese culture people do this with each other to show respect/kindness or generosity; in the case of doing this with your date, it will have a visibly positive effect on her and her feelings towards you. This one Chinese dating etiquette rule will compel her attraction towards you! Try it yourself for proof positive.</P><br /><P>For your own sake, remember that a great majority of the advice out there is based on some rather out-of-date ideas about China and Chinese culture; not to mention a false view as presented by Chinese females themselves. Find out more  Chinese Dating Advice and <B>7 crucial facts you should know before dating or marrying a Chinese woman</B>, and go to http://ChineseDatingSecrets.com/.</P><br /><P>Sam C Reeves has lived in China for over eight years and dated a wide variety of Chinese women and also married one.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6584091" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/geVYC0LM6pE" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com1http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/chinese-dating-etiquette-blasted.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-75304000158569130542012-05-13T20:50:00.000-07:002012-05-13T20:50:00.621-07:002012-05-13T20:50:00.621-07:00<P>If you are looking to find a nice woman from the Philippines, you need to know how Filipina women are different from Japan, Korea, Thailand, the Philippines, and I can tell you one thing for certain. All Asian women are different, and absolutely no Asian woman wants to think you like her just because she is Asian.</P><br /><P>Now, once you know that, the fun can begin.</P><br /><P>Depending on where she is from, Asian women tend to have similar dating norms and respond in a predictable fashion. This allows you to attract Asian women based on where they are from and seduce them quickly.</P><br /><P><STRONG>Understanding the culture of the Philippines</STRONG></P><br /><P>The Philippines is an archipelago located in the middle of the Pacific ocean, but over the years, the country has been inhabited by many different types of people, wars and so on. Therefore, there is a dramatic clash of culture in this land that produced women that look very different, and sometimes have different cultures. They have a mix of Spanish, Asian, and native cultures that combine for a magnificent melting pot.</P><br /><P><STRONG>What are men like in the Philippines?</STRONG></P><br /><P>Men from the Philippines tend to be very proud and patriotic, and oftentimes quite tough. Anyways men from the Philippines tend to influence the women in a certain way, and make it so the women are only attracted to men who are tough and able to protect them.</P><br /><P><STRONG>Buying gifts is powerful, yet dangerous</STRONG></P><br /><P>Buying a Filipina woman a gift is a really quick and easy way to demonstrate that you care about her and that you are considering her as a girlfriend. However, if you do it in the wrong way, she will try to use you as her sugar daddy - so to speak. In order to prevent this, you need to make sure that the relationship is framed in a certain way. You should always pay for the first date, but not in a way where you are trying overly hard to impress her, just to show that you care - and that you can provide for her.</P><br /><P>Many Filipina women are very open to meeting men who they have met on the internet. They speak English very well in the Philippines and they are technologically advanced in their culture and daily life. Therefore, it is not seen as strange or outside the norm for Filipina women to meet or even marry men they have met on the internet, because they see it as possibly getting a better life.</P><br /><P>Why am I telling you all this?</P><br /><P>I'm an expert in dating Filipina women, and actually I have dated Asian women from all over Asia, including women from the Philippines. If you want to learn my exact method for dating Asian women, you should check out my book Asian Seduction Secrets (now version 3.3) which you can only find at GetAsianGirlfriend.com</P><br /><P>Head over to GetAsianGirlfriend.com and download the free interview on how to date Filipina women so you can get the answer to the question: How to get Get Asian Girlfriend</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6770041" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/Q-YqxbdZMWI" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/3-reasons-why-dating-filipina-woman-is.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-22648645628866840482012-05-13T09:24:00.000-07:002012-05-13T09:24:00.463-07:002012-05-13T09:24:00.463-07:00<P>The more we appreciate and respect our unique differences, in love, the more freedom we issue to others and ourselves. We are shackled to nothing. A multiplicity of freedom reigns.</P><br /><P>Indeed, the freedom extant in such appreciation is the purpose of fellowship, enshrined in the majesty of love. Even more we enjoy the differences in our ethnicity, racial disparity, and gender gaps.</P><br /><P>We seek to outdo the other, in honour, because of these differences. This is God's will. It is to be our passion.</P><br /><P><B>DIFFERENCES HEIGHTEN OUR LOVE</B></P><br /><P>Where love exists - and because love never fails - it overflows over those with most inherent difference compared with us.</P><br /><P>For me, a Caucasian, to love an indigenous Australian is a challenge because of our potential racial differences, including the perceived prejudices we must compensate for. I sincerely want to love them all the more, because they may feel, before our encounter, this prejudice. I want them to be pleasantly surprised, and comfortable, with me. If we extend the discussion, me a Christian toward another, perhaps a Muslim, I want to love them all the more because I see they may sense prejudice within me; something I would want to shun because I don't feel that way. Further, a person of Indian upbringing has vastly different cultural experience to an Australian; yet, I want to embrace their cooking, art, and taste for colour (and lots of other things) as proof that I'm no better than they are (and no worse, either).</P><br /><P>We are to hope that all differences meld into unity. This is how we 'fight' for equality. We attentively fight for their rights, not ours.</P><br /><P>One-on-one rapport with those who are uniquely different has to be closer as the goal becomes one of developed accord.</P><br /><P>The only exception, for either side, should be gaps in truth. And either side should feel their love will carry them over the line as they redress situations in care and concern for the other.</P><br /><P><B>THE WONDER IN DIFFERENCE</B></P><br /><P>This is why the above works. There is a basic wonder that occurs within an open heart upon the consideration of someone vastly different.</P><br /><P>Wonder flourishes more and more when we recognise the truth: they will always be so inimitably different, yet we share more in common than we have in difference when we share the impassioned burden of love for each other.</P><br /><P>Love is the common denominator that shatters all boundaries of prejudicial fabrication.</P><br /><P>It creates a seminary of wonder because of the hope we have that people with such differences could become our best of friends.</P><br /><P>Differences that are successfully melded show us both to be people of God - unconditional acceptance because of, above all, the motive of love.</P><br /><P>There is another reason why Jesus wanted us to love our enemies (not that those different to us are 'enemies' - far from it).</P><br /><P>We see the majesty of God at work when we shelve our biases and throw open the gates of our hearts to welcome all the diversity under God's heavens. We begin to become truly ourselves under such conditions.</P><br /><P>© 2011 S. J. Wickham.</P><br /><P>Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, FSIA, RSP[Australia]) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min). His blogs are at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com/ and http://inspiringbetterlife.blogspot.com/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6653953" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/_Ouk30AiGcg" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/glorying-in-our-differences-and.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-72356425671465911372012-05-12T22:00:00.000-07:002012-05-12T22:00:05.523-07:002012-05-12T22:00:05.523-07:00<P>How to find love by dating expats is as full of challenge - and fun - as finding a soulmate of the same cultural background. Before jumping into the waters of a cross cultural relationship, however, keep in mind these 3 suggestions for dating outside of your race:</P><br /><P>Find out why you are looking beyond your cultural borders to find your potential mate. Are you into dating expats because everybody is doing it? Or is it because you find it entertaining to listen to a steep accent or look into a differently colored pair of eyes? These may be valid reasons to start a cross cultural relationship, but they will not likely work for you in the long-run. </P><br /><P>How to find the girl for you or how to find the guy for you is more than skin-deep; therefore, you have to look beyond what your eyes can see when getting into the international dating scene. Getting into a relationship entails embracing the other party's personality and cultural make-up that make him or her an individual, and not just an interesting member of another tribe.</P><br /><P><BR>Determine if you are likely to stick around for a long time. Dating, be it on a local or global level, eventually leads you to a person whom you may end up with for the long-term. It also carries with it certain trade-offs that you may have to endure for the rest of your life. Being in the minority is something you have to consider a possibility when you are in the process of how to find love in a foreign culture. Apart from the fact that you will be the "exception" rather than the norm, can you live with discrimination while upholding your cherished beliefs and cultural values? Despite the popular perception that discrimination is a thing of the past, stereotypes are still prevalent. As a result, immigrants in the minority are still marginalized.</P><br /><P><BR>Ask yourself if you are willing to meet the other person halfway. Can you tolerate cultural differences and yet cultivate a thriving relationship? Can you make life-changing adjustments just so you can be with the person you love? Can you open your mind to an entirely different world view and set aside childhood and cultural programming that influence your individuality, all in the name of love? Finding a soulmate is more than just romantic sparks. How to find love is more like a product of persistence, dedication and long-term commitment, rather than spontaneous feelings of attraction.</P><br /><P>You can get more information on multi-cultural relationships and finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com/. Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course and submit your name to be notified of the release of the mini e-book "Help! How Can I Find True Love?"</P><br /><P>Lori Abela is a relationship and dating expert who practices the law of attraction in finding true love. She is a dating coach who specializes in expat dating and she is committed to helping countless individuals improve themselves with the end goal of finding their mate.</P><br /><P>To know more about her services, visit the website http://manifestingmydestiny.com/</P><br /><P>Happy Manifesting!</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6667735" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/uRYokVceTuo" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/3-suggestions-for-dating-outside-of.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-54032356118966647392012-05-12T03:57:00.000-07:002012-05-12T03:57:00.573-07:002012-05-12T03:57:00.573-07:00<P>When it comes to first date advice, the number one mistake on the list should be how do I cope with her cultural differences. In Thailand, on a real first date, she most likely will be accompanied by a chaperone, usually her best friend. The chaperone will eat everything on the menu, and relay back to your date if you were a worthy future partner. I suggest having your date pick a place for authentic Thai food off the tourist path, or do your research and find one yourself. There are three major achievements that need to take place for a successful first date in Thailand. Don't be cheap, respect her friend, and most importantly do not try and close for a night cap later at your hotel.</P><br /><P>When dating in Thailand the number one mistake, and the most common problem is taking advantage of Thai hospitality without compensation. Your first instinct leads you to believe that you are being taken advantage of monetarily, and that you are being taken for a ride in which the poor little Thai girl rids you of your very last dollar. In Thailand, all women first and foremost want a man whom can provide for them, as they will, cook, clean and perform duties not even a highly paid nurse would provide in your times of need. Don't be cheap and don't lose your mind either, this is a date. Provide spending with a Western world dating price cap in mind, and than value the returns on your investment on your second date. If you do go cheap, only do so knowing that there won't be a second time to make a first impression.</P><br /><P>First date advice in America does not involve your date bringing a chaperone, well welcome to Thai culture. Thai women commonly bring a chaperone along with them, usually but not always the same sex. She has been selected by your date as the deciding factor on whether or not to continue seeing you. Treat her well, and you will be taken seriously as a future prospect. The Thai chaperone will not be shy to order everything off the menu when you go out to eat, so make sure to choose that restaurant off the beaten path, that only the Thai go to as your bankroll will not be exhausted. You will not be graded on your tip to the waitress, as Thai people rarely tip at all, and a good tip is three to five percent at most. Make sure your comments on how much these little girls can eat are kept separate from the amount you will spend when the bill arrives. My first date with a Thai girl led me to pay a full thirty dollars as my total bill, this bill covered the full purse including drinks. My point is don't worry, and stay away from disheveled looks and uncomfortable motions when the bill arrives.</P><br /><P>The most important first date advice I could give to the wandering soul in Thailand is to not try and close the date with a kiss. Thai first dates are not like the western world. This is a ritual for Thai women that means you are worthy for a look, and that is all. This is good, don't shrug off your initial test run. If the girl wants to close you, than by all means follow her lead, but do not try and do the same back. She want's more from you if she is laughing and speaking Thai with her friend as they both eye you throughout your dinner date. Share the joy in this and at the end of dinner and drinking offer to pay for the cab ride home for the both of them. If you do this, her chaperone will be more than impressed with you, as you did not leave her to ride home alone. She will inform your date that you were the perfect choice. Invite them both out the next night, or call her later and tell her what a great time you had, and that you would love to see her again. First date advice in Thailand should not be taken lightly, so be sure to follow these rules and than watch out for what comes next, as it might be more than you can handle.</P><br /><P>I am a fly by night romantic, who has the ability to travel the world at my leisure since my office is on my laptop. I am a Forex Currency trader who loves to date abroad. I am lucky enough to have the leisure time to write what I have learned about traveling abroad and dating many women. Join me at my travel dating site for my adventures at http://www.mytraveldates.com/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6560427" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/C91xxUfkMco" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/first-date-advice-coping-with-cultural.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-5018577371862798252012-05-11T17:44:00.000-07:002012-05-11T17:44:00.969-07:002012-05-11T17:44:00.969-07:00<P>Hindi is one of chief languages of India. There are numerous castes and communities in India, which use Hindi as their mother tongue. The Indian states of Bihar, Haryana, Himachal Pradesh, Madhya Pradesh, Uttarakhand and Delhi have considerable population speaking Hindi. The Hindi speaking community members are usually grouped together for the Hindi Matrimonial alliances.</P><br /><P>The Hindi matrimonial customs and traditions vary from state to state. Some of the popular castes under the Hindi Matrimony include Kayastha, Aggarwal, Rajput, and Saraswat and Saryuparin Brahmins community members. The Khatri, Gaur, Sonar, Yadav, Thakur and Rajaka community members also practice similar Hindi matrimonial rites.</P><br /><P>The Saraswat and Saryupareen Brahmin Community members follow Vedic rituals and customs of wedding. These Brahmin communities have a simple Hindi matrimonial function. The Saraswat Brahmins are originally from the region where the mythological Saraswati River flowed. The community members originally resided near the riverbanks. The Saraswat Brahmin community is said to be one of the oldest communities in India and have their distinctive culture and customs. The matrimonial rituals of this community are still preserved. The Saraswat community has several sub-communities such as Kutch Saraswat, Rajasthan Saraswat, Sind Saraswat and Kashmiri Saraswat. There are also members residing in Uttarakhand and Konkan region as well.</P><br /><P>The Saryupareen Brahmin community originally hails from the eastern part of the Sarayu River, hence derived its name. The members have spread to other Indian states like Uttar Pradesh, Bihar, Madhya Pradesh, West Bengal, Jharkhand, Maharashtra and Delhi. For Hindi Matrimonial Alliances, the Saryupareen Brahmin community usually considers related ethnic groups like Kanyakubja Brahmins, Jujhautiya Brahmin, Sanadhya Brahmin, Maithil Brahmin and Bhumihar. Some common surnames for this community are Trivedi, Tiwari, Pandey, Tripathi, Shukla, Upadhyay and Mishra.</P><br /><P>Apart from the Brahmin community, the Kayastha community or caste of India also follows the rituals and customs and comes under the Hindi Matrimonial. The members reside in several regions of India but are mostly found in Bihar and Uttar Pradesh. Some common surnames for used by the Kayastha community families are Saxena, Karanam, Verma, Kanth, Mohanty and Bhatnagar. The Hindi Matrimonial rituals for the Kayastha community include pre and post wedding rites. Some important pre- wedding rituals are Bariksha, Sagai, Mehandi, and Haldi and Tilak ceremonies. On the wedding night, the Kanyadaan ritual is very important one. The bride's father gives away her hand to the groom and asks him to take care of her daughter hereafter.</P><br /><P>The Rajput community is a warrior class originally from the state of Rajasthan. The community members have spread to other Hindi speaking regions of India. Hindi Matrimonial alliances for the Rajput community take into consideration matching of horoscopes and Gotra. Though residing in any part of India, the Rajput community follows their traditional wedding customs. Some important rituals are the Tilak or the engagement ceremony, the Ban or rituals at the start of the wedding ceremony and the Mel or the community feast. Sat Fere or the seven circles around the holy fire is the most important ritual and solemnizes the wedding. Other main wedding rituals are the Sehla, the Nikasi and the Dhukav.</P><br /><P>The Aggarwal is another important community originally hailing from Rajasthan and residing in the various Hindi speaking regions of India. The community members speak Hindi besides their local language of Mewar. The Aggarwal wedding rituals are Baraat, Varmala, Ashwahrohan, Vamang sthapan, Pannigrahan, Sat Pheras, Sindoor Daan and Doli Vidaa. The community members are mostly in business and trade. Hence, the wedding celebrations are lavish functions with a huge number of guests attending.</P><br /><P>Shipra Sinha writes on behalf of Jeevansathi.com, which is India's fastest growing matrimonial website. Jeevansathi.com helps the users to search corresponding matches from their respective community like Hindi Matrimony, Hindu Matrimonial from their online matrimonial and matchmaking services.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6693350" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/9rBKqvq_C64" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/hindi-matrimonial-alliances-enjoy-host.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-31145443722604037842012-05-10T22:16:00.000-07:002012-05-10T22:16:00.902-07:002012-05-10T22:16:00.902-07:00<P>With the growing popularity of international marriages nowadays no one will be surprised to hear that someone they know flew over an ocean or over a continent to settle down with their beloved ones. As this phenomenon is no longer seen as something outstanding, there should be more attention paid to the psychology of such marriages. It is definitely easier to outline all the differences and stumbling blocks stating that such marriages are doomed to failure, but what can be done to make such marriages work?</P><br /><P>For starters, let's remember that there's a great deal of information about the differences between men and women in general. The title of the book "Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" by John Gray greatly reflects that men and women are different creatures. We are different in so many ways, it is hardly possible to count them. The important thing is to try to understand each other knowing all these differences, as J. Gray writes in his book that it is crucial to improve relations between men and women which comes from establishing an understanding that the differences exist. Such understanding will result in benefit for such things as trust to each other, responsibility, self-esteem and love.</P><br /><P>It is evident that it is quite a challenge for a man and a woman even from the same country or from the same city to make the relationship work. A marriage between western men and Russian women are even more complicated in that respect. Thus, on top of the fact that these ladies are from the different women planet, they are also from a different country and different culture, which might build a wall in your relationship further on. It is crucial to have all the differences that might affect your family happiness discussed before entering the marriage. There's no doubt that some of these differences may seem very insignificant and not worth paying attention to when you are madly in love with someone. However, we still recommend to keep your head straight with Russian ladies.</P><br /><P>Let's, start with the fact that your future wife speaks a different language, which is definitely an advantage. The question is whether she speaks good enough in your language. You definitely don't want to be in the situations when your wife speaks incoherently making everybody uncomfortable. In this case, all you need is patience. If your wife made a sacrifice of leaving her own country and following you, then give her a credit at least for trying to learn the language. Russian girls are usually aware of the fact that they need to speak a different language there, therefore they start learning it long before actually going abroad.</P><br /><P>Another thing that you need to understand is that girls coming from a different country had a totally different childhood, they didn't watch the movies that every single person knows in your country, they were even brought up under different political regime, which is all instilled in their character and personality. What you can do to understand these ladies better is start getting close to them: learn a language (at least basic words), watch several movies that she considers to be the most popular in her country (or the ones she refers to all the time), ask her about history, some famous singers and actors.</P><br /><P>The list of the things you need to learn from Russian women are numerous. When you are married to one of them you get a unique opportunity to build your international marriage the way you want. You can turn all the difficulties or what seem to be obstacles at first glance into a great unit of two loving people who have two times more to share with each other than in other non-international marriages.</P><br /><P>If you are interested in Russian ladies for marriage, then you are on the right track. They are known to make great wives. Visit a website run by Andrey Nilin to learn more about foreign brides!</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6391005" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/elBH2rV6tjQ" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/russian-ladies-for-marriage-they-are.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-86007174220773692852012-05-09T22:16:00.000-07:002012-05-09T22:16:01.142-07:002012-05-09T22:16:01.142-07:00<P>In Korea, foreigners with good manners are treated with high respect. Ill manners are not appreciated in Korea. Therefore, if you are looking forward to win the heart of a Korean woman, being a foreigner, there are certain very important points that you should remember. You should remember to take care of your body language, your fashion sense and your sense of punctuality in order to impress your Korean princess.</P><br /><P>Respect and modesty are the two qualities that are much appreciated in Korea, even when you are a foreigner in Korea. Therefore, if you want to win the heart if a Korean woman, you will have to make sure that your behavior towards her should always be filled with respect and humility according to the Korean custom. Of course, your humility should not also mean that you are losing your individuality in your bid to impress the Korean woman. Since you do not know the Korean language, your body language is going to communicate your feelings of respect, so here are some tips to the perfectly respectful body language while meeting a Korean woman. These body gestures should be maintained in every communication in Korea, not only for the woman you are trying to approach.</P><br /><P>• If you are in a sitting position while you are meeting a Korean person, then you will have to make sure that you are sitting properly with your feet on the floor and not cross-legged on the chair. A leg stretched in a straight manner in front of the chair is also considered improper. However, don't keep sitting when you are meeting a Korean person. You will have to stand up and bow in greeting to show your respect. Let the other person sit first, then you can resume your seat.</P><br /><P>• You will have to bow in greeting or while taking leave. Some people also wave hands while taking leave. Koreans consider any kind of physical contact like a hand-shake or a kiss highly improper, so you will have to refrain from any kind of such physical contact. However, if the other person extends her hand then you will have to hold her hand gently with your right arm and support your right arm with your left arm as a show of respect. If you are receiving or passing any object, you should always use both your hands.</P><br /><P>Apart from your body language, you should always possess a good sense of individual fashion in order to impress the Korean woman. This is because Korean women possess an international sense of fashion with their own Korean individuality, so your fashion sense should be a standard one to get the eyes of a Korean woman.</P><br /><P>Join my Korean Girlfriend Dating Newsletter - Inside Strategies for Finding a Partner, Amazing Friend and Darling Woman: http://www.survivalinkorea.com/koreangirlfriend/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6352348" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/Y5A2RCuqlUY" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/how-korean-women-view-foreigners-in.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-65087250897129239662012-05-09T10:47:00.000-07:002012-05-09T10:47:01.098-07:002012-05-09T10:47:01.098-07:00<P>We live in an increasingly interconnected world, and more and more people are becoming involved in serious relationships with men and women from different cultures. These relationships can be extremely healthy and rewarding. If you meet singles on internet dating sites or at special events like speed dating, you are likely to come in contact with potential partners from many cultures. When starting a relationship with someone from another culture, it is important to be mindful of how cultural differences might impact your relationship.</P><br /><P>As with any relationship, first and foremost it is important to communicate. Remember that the stressfulness of meeting singles at events and on internet dating sites relies on good communication. Make sure to be sensitive to the fact that it is never kind to mock your partner's culture. However, if you find that you do not understand their beliefs or practices, you should ask your partner to explain them. You might want to ask what the social significance of the belief or practice is, and why it is important to your partner. Understanding your partner's beliefs and culture is an important way to support him or her.</P><br /><P>When you embark on a new relationship, you have the opportunity to form a 'new' culture with your partner. You will be able to combine your beliefs and practices so that you both feel represented and cared for in your relationships. If there is a holiday tradition in your culture that you are particularly passionate about, you should explain it to your partner and ask if they will participate in the tradition with you. Forge new traditions, too!</P><br /><P>If you do not share a first language, be conscious of problems with translation. Because every culture is different, sometimes the sayings and jokes you find appropriate in your culture will be very offensive or inappropriate in another culture. Be compassionate if misunderstandings around translation arise, and always explain that what you said was not offensive in your culture but that you will not say it again if it bothers your partner. Meeting singles from other cultures is both interesting and educational, and you should carry this new joy into your relationship.</P><br /><P>Remember to be flexible. Sharing a relationship with someone from a different culture can be a wonderful and enlightening experience if you are both willing to give and to take. Refusing to do something or saying, "this isn't what we do in our culture" is not the best way to make compromises about differences. Be open to trying new things, and ask your partner to do the same. With solid communication, a little flexibility, and a lot of love, you can enjoy a wonderful relationship with a partner from a different culture.</P><br /><P>For information, dating advice and tips on successful dating and London dating events visit Lovestruck.com who are a professional dating agency in London.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6603592" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/Q2Q8sfp_-YU" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/successful-dating-across-cultures.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-46843105430810388802012-05-08T17:19:00.000-07:002012-05-08T17:19:00.066-07:002012-05-08T17:19:00.066-07:00<P>This heading seems to be a contradiction in terms. Isn't change all about doing things differently, being adaptable? Where does consistency come in?</P><br /><P>I was facilitating a group of people recently and we were talking about the importance of trust in building them as a team and in creating the culture they wanted in the workforce. Through extensive discussion they ended up boiling down the key to trust for them as being consistent and making the time.</P><br /><P>In that session it struck me yet again how much of a foundation to cultural change, in fact any sort of change, consistency was.</P><br /><P>What is consistency? Consistency is a certain repeatability of behaviour so that people can predict how you are going to respond in any given situation and also know with clarity how they are expected to operate. If culture is largely shaped by people's expectations around how to behave, consistent leadership behaviour is key.</P><br /><P>So how does it work?</P><br /><P>I remember walking through a workshop with a leader who was lamenting the fact that despite repeating the importance of safety, holding regular safety meetings, doing safety audits and the like - all best practice components of being safe - they still weren't getting a shift in culture. "For example" he said, look at that guy over there, he is not even wearing his gloves properly". At that point I was confused and asked him - "how come you haven't said anything?" and his response was very telling "why worry about the little things when we can't even get the big things right!" What this manager had missed was a significant moment of truth.</P><br /><P>The reality is that our culture is merely an amalgamation of a whole lot of little moments. Occasionally a big event comes along such as a natural disaster that dramatically shifts how people operate but this doesn't sustain, it is focussing on the little things every day that matters.</P><br /><P>Was this manager wrong? In fact in my experience most managers under appreciate the importance of the little things and the importance of being consistent every time.</P><br /><P>Some of you may have seen the video clip from the 2009 Sasquatch Music Festival - if not I recommend you have a look at it now http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GA8z7f7a2Pk. This video is a great example of the importance of consistency (it is also a great example of creating a movement). In this clip, one lone nut dances on a hill for what feels like ages when you first watch it. In fact it is only 3 min and 6 sec. In the course of this time he is joined by 1 then another individual before the whole crowd runs down from the hill to join them. What would have happened if this Lone nut would have stopped for a break and grabbed a drink of water? Nothing! People would have seen him as inconsistent, they would have been less drawn to him and no-one would have been tempted to join him as they would have been afraid he would stop and they would be on their own.</P><br /><P>Consistency is key to cultural change.</P><br /><P>The complexity for leaders is this - every decision, every interaction with someone, is a moment of truth. When I coach leaders and work with leadership teams about how to shift their culture, the things that often overwhelm them is that culture is not just a HR project it is everything that they do every day. Every budget decision, every performance discussion that they choose to have or not have, every behaviour they choose to ignore, every time they do or don't walk their own talk.</P><br /><P>In summary, one of the key phrases I use again and again with the leaders I work with is this - as a leader, you get what you do and you get what you tolerate.</P><br /><P>The author, Amanda Fajak is a Partner at Reveur. Reveur, make culture tangible and help clients build a plan to proactively manage or transform the culture of their business as a part of their strategy to achieve business outcomes. Reveur Partners are cultural experts with senior line management, academic and consultancy experience. For more information about Reveur please go to http://www.reveur.com.au/.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6638329" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/E_Zki4K4qGs" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/consistency-is-key-to-cultural-change.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-74598104457095781162012-05-08T03:54:00.000-07:002012-05-08T03:54:00.933-07:002012-05-08T03:54:00.933-07:00<P>In the internet world, dating is a very profitable activity. International dating has always been popular, but is quickly growing due to today's advancing technology. People looking to date can communicate and interact with others from different ends of the world. Today both men and women are not only looking for love around the world but often times find it as well. International relationships can often times seem intimidating and at the same time are very exciting. There are both benefits and pitfalls, but are found to be very successful if careful steps are taken.</P><br /><P>With the Internet being an international network system, people from different countries are easily able to get acquainted while just sitting in front of a computer. There are many people in the world today who are interested in this type of relationship which provides many different backgrounds and personalities to choose from. A long distant relationship creates desire and excitement which in turn builds a stronger bond than sometimes found with local relationships.</P><br /><P>Many people chose International relationships because they want to eventually move to a different county. By meeting someone from a different county, you can get to know many different aspects of their country, including new languages and cultures. With the use of Skype, Instant Messaging, webcams and E-mail, contact can be made locally and internationally where meeting times are able to be set that are convenient for all people involved.</P><br /><P>There are several adjustments that must be made in an international relationship. The bond forming between two people internationally is often limited until both are able to join in one country. Simply visiting one another can be difficult, require a lot of money, effort and endless paperwork. The lifestyle of a partner must also always be taken into consideration. Culture and traditions with respect to food, language and beliefs must be learned by one another to avoid any offensive behaviour.</P><br /><P>Fraud, scams and deceit are growing trends internationally. Most singles who are looking at long distant relationships are sincerely seeking to find a soul mate. A situation involving strong feelings between two people who have never seen each other does attract dishonest people. Many people wonder if profiles given are honestly provided and if photos seen are in actuality real or even current. There are international daters who might provide promises that are false or information that is untruthful. The question of staying responsible and safe when meeting offline or talking on the phone continually comes to mind for many singles.</P><br /><P>Not only does honesty play a large role in international dating, so does the fact of possibly going to another country and what has to done to do so. Many different questions must be addressed: is it possible to live in another country? What jobs are available? Will another language need to be learned? Will it be difficult living so far from family and friends? It is best to seriously consider all questions and concerns before choosing to date internationally.</P><br /><P>For information on relationships, dating advice and tips particularly concerning dating in Singapore please visit Lovestruck who are a professional dating site and also offer speed dating.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6877943" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/WiVVfRgFNz0" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/what-are-benefits-and-pitfalls-of.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-42921738142719215542012-05-07T04:10:00.000-07:002012-05-07T04:10:00.959-07:002012-05-07T04:10:00.959-07:00<P>Women from different countries have certain characteristics that are common to them. The Filipino expat woman is not an exception to this. There are so many common characteristics that define the Filipino woman and if you plan on getting serious with a true "Pinay," be prepared to learn a whole new world of rules on dating and culture.</P><br /><P>Here are a few tips on dating for men specifically for those dating Filipino women:</P><br /><P><B>Know her dating mindset and culture.</B> The Filipino expat woman is still deeply involved with her roots. Even if she has been working for a long time in another country, her values, beliefs, and traditions are deeply ingrained within her. When dating Filipino women, most if not all, believe and expect that men should cover the cost of the date. At least for the time being (during the dating stage), be prepared to shell out some of your hard earned money when dating Filipino women. It's not at all that bad. Most Filipino women like simple things and are very understanding so if you don't have the budget for a particular date, just tell her and she can easily forgive you. Of course, do this with finesse and suave or else you might not see her again.</P><br /><P><B>Respect her conventional ways. </B>If anything, Filipino women are still very conventional. It can take some time to get to know Filipino women because in her country, courting or courtship still exists. Know that she will not reveal everything to you right away so never rush her. This characteristic still holds true for the Filipino expat woman. This is not to say that she isn't open to doing a lot of things. In fact, in Asia, Filipino women can be considered as one of the most open amongst Asian women. This in part is due to the many cultures that she has been exposed to.</P><br /><P><B>Get to know her family. </B>If you are in a serious relationship or considering dating Filipino women, you need to be open to getting to know her family. No matter how many years a Filipina stays abroad, the Filipina expat woman never forgets her family. Some even live with their families or support them financially. It is often said that when you marry a Filipina, you marry her family too. Don't be overwhelmed. Most Filipino families are welcoming and hospitable. The decision to be with you partly lies in what her family thinks of you so it's best to try to make her family to like you. If she sees that her family loves you, she will definitely love you more.</P><br /><P>Dating Filipino women can open up a lot of new possibilities for you. Filipino women are generally warm, loyal, and caring. If you find yourself falling for one, use these tips and you will find her holding on to you instead. You can get more information on multi-cultural relationships and finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.</P><br /><P>Lori Abela is an expert on finding true love for expats. She has finally found the love of her life in her 40s. She shares her secrets to finding true love with the readers of http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com/ Lori is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6466915" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/QbcVR1tzn7Y" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/3-tips-for-dating-filipino-women.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-7378207723938339892012-05-06T08:26:00.000-07:002012-05-06T08:26:00.085-07:002012-05-06T08:26:00.085-07:00<P>Look around just about anywhere you go today and you'll see a smiling Western man arm in arm or hand in hand with a beautiful Asian woman. Interracial relationships and marriages are certainly common today but is there something particularly complimentary about Western men and Asian women? Maybe you, like me have been curious about how such differing cultural dynamics and traditions are resulting in wonderful and fulfilling love relationships. Seeing more and more Western guys with beautiful Asian girls shopping together in the Mall or on romantic dinners with their lovely Asian wife led me to investigate further out of pure scientific curiosity only...</P><br /><P>I talked with Filipino women and Thai women living in the U.S. and in the Philippines and Thailand so I could get to the bottom of this interesting cultural exchange. What I found out made a lot of sense and helped to explain that old 'Mail order bride' term I've heard loosely thrown around. I was told that many Asian women are treated as 2nd class citizens in their own country by the male population. Many Filipino women told me how their boyfriends or husbands act as if their opinions, wants and needs didn't mean anything to them at all. Believe it or not, some of these women don't get to eat until the man has had his fill!</P><br /><P>As these ladies told me about how they have suffered in these relationships I started to recall seeing ads for Romance Tours and Asian Women Looking for Marriage to men in foreign countries like America or in Europe and I could see now that it was not just for better economic opportunities. Many Thai women and Filipino women were actually desperately hoping for a loving relationship that resembled the sort of partnerships they heard about in Western marriages. It's not to say that marriages in America or Europe are perfect unions but the Western model of relationships is more open and sharing and looks a lot more like a give and take partnership than witnessing an Asian wife walk 5 steps behind her husband in public.</P><br /><P>Many Asian girls today are not willing to put up with 'the woman as silent servant' mentality of past generations. And thanks in part to Romance Tours by legitimate Introduction Service Companies these loving, caring and devoted women now know that many Western men are actively looking to meet Asian women. It's true that the Western man has come a long way and generally consults his wife or girlfriend's opinion about day to day events and many of life's challenges too. We are encouraged in our culture to treat our mate as an equal or even better and things like opening a door or taking out the trash can melt an Asian women's heart.</P><br /><P>I've seen 1st hand how a devoted, loving Asian wife treats her Western man and things like the enjoyment in taking care of the home and her genuine concern for his comfort and happiness is an integral part of their upbringing. She'll massage your neck and rub your feet at the end of a hard day's work out of pure love and her desire to see you happy.</P><br /><P>So the result of my investigations..? Our two cultures, East and West do complement each other very well; here in the West we tend to treat women with more respect and tenderness while Asian women are taught to revere, care and dedicate themselves to their man.</P><br /><P>I'm a believer now and once you meet and get to know some special, openhearted Filipino women or enchanting Thai women for yourself you'll be a believer too. http://www.asialadyintroductions.com/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6385496" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/aL9hvFoL6C0" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/asian-women-and-western-man-match-made.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-86588880998432199942012-05-05T19:16:00.000-07:002012-05-05T19:16:00.366-07:002012-05-05T19:16:00.366-07:00<P>Meeting Asian women can be very tricky if you are a white guy and you don't have any Asian friends. However, the good news is that many <STRONG>Asian women like white men </STRONG>so you don't have to despair. Here are some tips on dating for men:</P><br /><P>You can meet Asian expats and Asian women who like white men in the non-traditional way via online. Search and use words such as, "White guys Asian women</EM>," include your city and you will be soon be flooded with information; If you are from a state where there are not much Asians, the best route is to go for online dating.</P><br /><P>If you have the budget and you really are keen on meeting Asian women, you can use a dating agency. Just tell the agency what specific criteria and "non-negotiables" you have. They can easily set you up with Asian expats and show you photos of potential dates. Once you've identified the people that you want to meet, the agency will set up and schedule the dates. This is highly recommended for people who are very busy and don't have much time to surf online or manage their dating life. Finding a girlfriend the non-traditional way is already acceptable these days even for Asian expats. Most of these women are open to other culture yet still maintain their own.</P><br /><P>Asians, just like any other race, remain to be a very tight close-knit community. You're a very lucky guy if you have a network of Asian friends and colleagues with whom you can ask help from. There's a big chance they know of many Asian women who like white men and can set you up with someone easily. Tell your friends that you are interested to go to social gatherings where many Asians or Asian expats converge. Asians love to get together and are very sociable so be prepared to free up your time.</P><br /><P>If this doesn't do the trick, then finding a girlfriend by using different mediums can be your solution. You can look through printed materials which advertise open parties or fund raising events that you can go to meet Asian expats. Every metropolitan city would have an underground free newspaper. Take New York for example - the newspaper, Village Voice</EM> has a couple of agencies that advertises Asian American singles parties.</P><br /><P>Another option is to go to local newspapers of the specific ethnicity you are eyeing on (most Asians have English newspapers). You can look for them in the deli or grocery store that their nationals go to. Similarly, in the same store, you can also look at their community board where most of the events are announced including posters and flyers from different groups where you could meet a lot of Asian women who like white men. If there are none, then perhaps you can look for these things with their respective embassies or the church where they usually go to.</P><br /><P>Finding a girlfriend, specifically Asian expats, can be challenging but with a good amount of time spent doing research, networking, and whatever lengths you are willing to go to can actually land you in the arms of a beautiful Asian girl. You can get more information on multi-cultural relationships </EM>and finding true love </EM>by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.</P><br /><P>Lori Abela is an expert on finding true love for expats. She has finally found the love of her life in her 40s. She shares her secrets to finding true love with the readers of http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com/ Lori is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6481177" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/O_EAeP4hMVk" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/3-tips-for-white-guys-to-meet-asian.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-11154781719555524552012-05-04T20:30:00.000-07:002012-05-04T20:30:00.696-07:002012-05-04T20:30:00.696-07:00<P>Are you ready for love? Most people ask themselves the eternal question of "How can I find true love?" without ever really knowing if they are ready for it. People hurriedly go out there to fall in and out of love. Sometimes even jumping from one relationship to another and then leaving at the first sign of trouble. Many have forgotten that at one point, their ultimate goal was true love. True love isn't something that happens overnight. It is a slow learning process where both men and women find common grounds in being together.</P><br /><P>For many people who have experienced such loss, they resort to finding their mate outside their race. This can be an exciting new thing for you to try out; dating someone outside your race with the hopes of finding true love can be worth it. Read and learn some tips for dating outside your race.</P><br /><P><B>Family Values</B></P><br /><P>One of the first things that you need to find out when dating expats is the type of values that the person holds. Each race has its own unique set of characteristics so be sure to read up and do your homework. As your relationship gets to a deeper level, this aspect of the relationship becomes essential as this will give you an idea of the kind of upbringing your partner or the one you are dating has been accustomed to. Make an effort to be closer to your partner's family and close circle of friends in order to give you a better understanding of his or her values and what kind of person you are dealing with. Finding true love isn't easy but whatever values you have discovered are the same ones that you will eventually nurture as your love grows for each other.</P><br /><P><B>Similarities over Differences</B></P><br /><P>Like any culture being merged, there will always be so many things that are different in your relationship. Try to appreciate the differences and enhance the similarities that both of you have. Dating outside your race means learning how to accept that both of you are different. Unlike normal same race relationship, yours is bound to be different due to the fact that both of you did not grow up in the same type of environment where culture, lifestyle, and values are different. The key is in learning how to adapt to each other's quirks and differences.</P><br /><P>There will always be differences when finding true love, what is important is that both of you know how to respect and appreciate each other. Work your way towards developing what you have in common and you will see that the differences get smaller each day.</P><br /><P><B>Mutual Respect and Compromise </B></P><br /><P>When dating outside your race, compromise and mutual respect are essential ingredients in making it work. Any relationship will have its flaws and shortcomings but anyone finding true love will make it seem easy because of the decision to compromise. By doing this, you eliminate the risk of jeopardizing the relationship and all that you have worked hard for. A little compromise can go a long way towards finding true love.</P><br /><P>Follow these 3 tips and be on your way to finding true love in the arms of someone from another race. All it takes is the right frame of mind, right opportunity, right action and you will attract the love that you deserve. You can get more information on multi-cultural relationships </EM>and finding true love </EM>by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course.</P><br /><P>Lori Abela is an expert on finding true love for expats. She has finally found the love of her life in her 40s. She shares her secrets to finding true love with the readers of http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com/ Lori is available for coaching, speaking engagements and consultancy.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6483051" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/OaxVEK6RUqE" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/3-tips-for-dating-outside-of-your-race.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-82353098870542924722012-05-03T20:41:00.000-07:002012-05-03T20:41:01.114-07:002012-05-03T20:41:01.114-07:00<P>Korea has one of the most homogeneous cultures of the world. The Korean people are also open to inter-national or inter-racial relationships unless they are approached in the right manner. Since approaching in the right manner is so important, you should clear your mind about misconceptions and myths surrounding Korean women. Unless you can clear your mind, you don't stand a better chance of approaching a Korean girl and winning her heart. Therefore, in order to help your way into the mysterious heart of a Korean woman, here are 3 biggest myths about Korean girlfriends and info on how you should avoid them.</P><br /><P>• There is nobody called a TKC (Typically Korean Crazy) girl.</P><br /><P>A TKC is totally a myth. Korean women are gentle and polite as they are taught by their parents to be so from their childhood. In fact, the social structure in Korea also deeply values respect to elders in the family and modesty and humility to other members. If you are looking for a TKC girl, you are looking for the wrong Korean person, because TKC is a myth fostered by the disrespectful and the rash. Korean women love to be discreet in the matter of feelings of heart, therefore you have to proceed according to the Korean rulebook of modesty and humility. Korean girls often engage in inter racial relationship with foreigners, but there are certain conditions that should be met by the foreigner in order to impress the Korean lady. For example, the foreigner should be aware of the body language of him in front of the Korean woman. The body language customs should be according to Korean traditions, like bowing while greeting and avoiding any physical contact like a handshake or a kiss while greeting a Korean woman.</P><br /><P>• Korean girls are materialistic</P><br /><P>Korean girls have a great sense of fashion but they are as materialistic as any other girl in the world. Though her heart may crave for a Louis Vuitton, Gucci, Dior or Chanel, yet that is only natural for women with such dignified sense of fashion. This sense of being fashionable is different from being materialistic and if anybody says every Korean girl has a materialistic beast within her, he or she is definitely trying to underestimate the fashion sense of the Korean woman.</P><br /><P>• Korean girls love to live a crazy lifestyle</P><br /><P>Korean women live as much a crazy lifestyle as any other cosmopolitan girl in the world. The Korean family structure is very well founded and every Korean name includes the family name first and then the individual's two part given name. Korean women grow up while respecting family traditions and they always know how to balance between a crazy cosmopolitan lifestyle and a traditional approach to life.</P><br /><P>Join my Korean Girlfriend Dating Newsletter - Inside Strategies for Finding a Partner, Amazing Friend and Darling Woman: http://www.survivalinkorea.com/koreangirlfriend/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6353917" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/lLKUVo3Wmrw" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/3-biggest-myths-about-korean.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-49050301438938755152012-05-03T02:26:00.000-07:002012-05-03T02:26:00.099-07:002012-05-03T02:26:00.099-07:00<P>Overall, European Americans have a conflict between trying to homogenize with the American society and keeping their ethnical family background, or a conflict between individuality and group/community. Besides race and religion, another interesting therapy issue is class. Americans do not believe in class differences, and consider them a taboo topic. This might not be the case for all Americans. This the case for the majority based on my research. The US was built on the concept of freedom and equality, although there have been instances of not much freedom and inequality. Class identity was stripped from the popular culture, to avoid topics of conflict and exploitation, given the harsh American history. Assets, income, social factors and living locations, all influence class.</P><br /><P>Ethnic differences for European Americans, who are from a rural peasant background, remain, even after class advancement. Certain groups, such as Poles and Italians, unlike Jews, have reservation about moving up in class. Education is a way to move up, but different generations and different groups have different values. Although, for the most part, ethnicity depends on culture, sometimes, religion and class are linked and the link shape behaviors, beliefs and values. Therapists must explore how class, gender, ethnicity, race and religion influence Euro-Americans. A hypothetical example of this issue could be an Italian American, coming from a low/medium class, marrying a high class Jewish. The two people may not even be aware of their class and they may not even be aware that class differences shape different behaviors, beliefs and values. The therapist would then explain cultural history and differences and make sure an understanding and a compromise from both parties take place.</P><br /><P>Another therapy issue is the persistence of ethnicity, which shapes identity, as Freud and Erikson, both Jewish, discovered. All the following White ethnical characteristics may be latent and are often present, especially in educated middle-class families. Anglo Americans promote independence, exploration and emotional control. Each family member is quite independent. Jewish Americans encourage children to talk about family problems, which is therapeutic. It is important to help sick people and marry within the Jewish community. Italian Americans value family more than anything and sharing a meal with the whole family. Men are dominant. Children are loved, spoiled and allowed to sleep with their parents.</P><br /><P>Italian Americans believe in personal connections to move ahead and in life enjoyment. They express their own emotions, help others and keep conflicts in the family. For Irish Americans, the church power is important. Suffering is an individual divine punishment. Complaining is unacceptable and social drinking is acceptable. Children are not praised so they do not become narcissists. Sex is a taboo topic of discussion. Women are supposed to listen. Emotional control is important. Greek Americans, like the Italian-Americans, babies are spoiled. Sex is not discussed. Like the Italian-Americans again, males are dominant and women must know what to do and their place. Parents warn kids about the wild world and want them to be successful. Elders are considered wise and respected. A hypothetical therapy example could be an Irish person and a Greek person partnering up in business.</P><br /><P>They could have religious conflicts due to their different beliefs and ethnical backgrounds, and difference of opinions and style in training kids or younger employees for the job, again due to their family upbringing. The therapists must explain that there is no absolute right or wrong and could try a role-play so each party understands the other's perspective and point of view.</P><br /><P>A third treatment issue is intermarriage. Until the 60s, marriages were within the same kind (Italian American with Italian American, etc.). In the late 60s, 5% of White ethnics intermarried. Today intermarriages among Whites are the norm (more than 50%). 50% of Asian Americans marry Whites. 33% of Hispanics wed out. White-Black marriages grew sevenfold over the last 40 years. Although in theory there is a chance to lose individual ethnicity in intermarriages, in reality ethnicity remains. Ethnicity is what someone may be attracted to in a partner. The greater the cultural differences are, the more difficult the marriage adjustment is.</P><br /><P>An Anglo man could find the expressiveness of an Italian lady as crazy and the Italian lady may find his emotional distance as cold or catatonic. In similar situations, therapists must become intercultural translators, negotiators and mediators and promote the value of differences. Even having each spouse or couple member read chapters of a book or articles about each other's ethnicity and discuss them is very helpful. To conclude, cultural issues are often the problem. Sometimes, though, they are only a rational way to displace anger from other difficult problems.</P><br /><P>More Jews (Friedlander, et al, 2010) than other ethnic groups use psychotherapy. Most Jews are very opinionated. There are Jews and Jews. Some consider themselves as Jews for their ethnicity and some feel Jew for their religion. Now, more than ever, Jews are less discriminated against and freer to abandon their faith and ethnicity. Jews are perceived as rich and powerful but they are not a homogenous group. Jews are committed to therapy although they may question it.</P><br /><P>Therapists must remember that they need to support clients in resolving their issues to meet their needs and obligations, even if they are different than the therapists' ones. Sometimes clients are ready for a life style change, but sometimes they are not. When working with Orthodox families, therapists must bridge the Orthodox community with the surrounding secular world, helping them with networking and collaboration.</P><br /><P>Russian Jewish families have a background of resilience and success drive, but also a background of loss and trauma. Back in the old Soviet Union, before it collapsed, the family was the most important nucleus. Immigration caused further destruction of the family nucleus, causing a big distress. Therapists must respect family boundaries and loss, gender and sexual orientation, with this population.</P><br /><P>Israel has a particular and important history and a particular religious history. Multiple ethnicities, including Russians and Ethiopians, united by Judaism, are present in Israel. Some Jews are ultra-orthodox and they are against modernization and hardly open to psychotherapy. Financial success is important to Israelis and it may come before relationships. In general, the world perception of Israeli emigrants is still negative. Israelis adapt to the US very well and they speak English well. They miss Israel (this is a frequent issue brought up in therapy, towards which they are open) and they usually say they are in the US temporarily, even if they are here permanently. They marry Jewish partners as they do not tolerate interfaith marriages, as it is seen as a threat to the Jewish community. Lastly, they do not fully accept homosexuality, due to their religious beliefs.</P><br /><P>Slavic Americans are willing to adapt which helps their ethnical healing problems. Polish Americans are proud to have overcome historical obstacles and long-suffering. They are ceremonial, defensive, loyal, hard-working and religious. They long for social belonging and class status. There sometimes are ashamed and afraid of their heritage. Most Poles are catholic. Many of them have an inner need to complete tasks not just for themselves but for the community. To accept and reinvent oneself, one has to learn about his or her ethnic roots. Even Polish immigrants can learn to be successful and still be true to their heritage. Poland is part of modern Europe and is still redefining itself.</P><br /><P>Czechs and Slovaks have been through long periods of wars and political upheavals, until very recently, a few years ago. Many of them are still recovering from them. Most of their immigration started after World War I. Slovakians are not prepared for the US individualism as in Slovakia, everything is family related. Their marriages are usually solid and they usually go to therapy for child focused issues or issues with parents.</P><br /><P>Anglo Americans tend to be individualistic. Therapists have success with them when they address costs and benefits of emotionally self-contained individualism. Successful family therapy increases their skills to interact, to effectively use emotions, and to embrace an adventurous attitude in life.</P><br /><P>Dutch people have a long history of struggle with elements outside their community, which were considered exploitive, threatening and controlling. Most of them are self-initiators, self-resilient and religious. They tend to be cautious about outsiders and react negatively to those who are not responsible and are not deeply religiously convicted, as they are. In therapy, Dutch Americans will persevere until they internally know it is "right".</P><br /><P>With Franco Americans, cognitive behavioral therapy with set goals is best. Their families seek therapy for practical behavioral solutions. They tend to have a sense of duty and a desire to have a supportive family environment. Coping strategies, cooperative problem solving and emotional reeducation are all helpful tools in therapy with them. Psychic restructuring and tangible behavioral insight and change are therapeutic measure of success, especially among youngsters and educated people. Usually, for now, French Canadians in the US reject an early focus on ethnicity in therapy. French Canadians tend to either assimilate with the American society or keep their ancestral and ethical roots. In general, French Canadians are dedicated to self-preservation and success, despite the odds.</P><br /><P>Germans have largely contributed to the foundations of the US, but many Americans do not know it. The German American ethnic context is historically and socially complex. Many German Jews migrated before and during the Second World War. Some Jews still discriminate a little bit towards new German Immigrants. Obviously, in therapy, issues of loss, family history, cultural history, and possible discrimination must be addresses.</P><br /><P>In the case of Hungarian families, ethnicity could be a big part of therapeutic issues. Hungarians are patriotic and proud. Some of them are Jews who escaped.</P><br /><P>Irish tend not to enjoy therapy, tend not to believe in catharsis, and tend not to have and like heart to heart discussions. In therapy, they change slowly and little by little. It is important that therapists do not push or pressure them to do work that they are not ready to initiate. Even if they do not say much, they may like to continue therapeutic work on their own at home, due to their deep personal responsibility.</P><br /><P>Most Italian Americans value family obligations and connection and defined roles. Family connection can be challenging when the family prevents the individual from achieving what he or she wants to do. I am exactly an example of this challenge, and ultimately, that is why I migrated to the US 13 and a half years ago and I am now officially an Italian-American, after being sworn in, this year. This challenge has the potential to be resolved in therapy. Related issues could be sexism, racism and classism. Therapists can help Italian American families to open the family system, and, at the same time, retain the positivity of close connections.</P><br /><P>Most Portuguese families seek therapeutic help after a court order or a referral by their community worker or health care provider. They are not used to seek psychological help outside the family. Therapists have to deal with hierarchy, stigma and time. Clients may be not committed and may just be obeying to authorities. Therapist must work within the family to build trust first and then, later, new ideas. In Portuguese culture, there is no quality time with kids but only basic material needs, good manners, respect for authority, help the family and training kids. In the family there are gender specific roles. Their core values are: honor, respect, trust and generosity. It is best for therapist to work closely with the referral source to help clients get over the "embarrassment" of seeking help. Families may perceive the referral source as an honor violator. The initial therapy with Portuguese American families is successful with open-ended statements, storytelling, externalizing issues, active coaching, mirroring, negotiating, and/or echoing behaviors.</P><br /><P>When working with Scandinavians, it is important to supply tools for growth and development in family interactions and dynamics. Scandinavians have many wonderful traits and values. They have dealt with weather darkness or little sunlight and geographical isolation. Most of them are Lutherans and practice indifference to emotions, which can result in psychosomatics.</P><br /><P>Scots became Scott-Irish in history. Many of them migrated to the States in the 18th century. They have persistent folkways around family, gender, sex, child-rearing or will building, death, and religion.</P><br /><P>Many Greek families immigrated to the States at the end of the 19th century and at the beginning of the 20th one, or before World War I. The migration was due to their failed economy. Most of them are Orthodox. Obviously Greeks have a legacy of so much culture and history, due to their old Greek Empire. Family is very important to Greeks. Their culture is patriarchal and male individualistic, so there are defined gender roles. Couple relationships are somewhat formal and male extra marital affairs are somewhat accepted and overcome. As a male dominant culture, they tend not to be very open to homosexuality, but they are open to intermarriages. Greeks tend not to like Turks because many centuries ago, Turks destroyed their Empire. Again, even in this culture psychosomatics is possible and it is something important for therapists to be aware of.</P><br /><P>In conclusion, the White or Caucasian race is very diverse, as other races also are. It is crucial for therapists to educate themselves with general ethnical patters. Lastly, therapists are also ethnical educators for their clients.</P><br /><P>References</P><br /><P>Friedlander, M., Friedman, M., Miller, M., Ellis, M., Friedlander, L., & Mikhaylov, V. (2010). Introducing a brief measure of cultural and religious identification in American Jewish identity. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 57(3), 345- 360. doi:10.1037/a0019577.</P><br /><P>Thank you.</P><br /><P>Elena Pezzini, M.S., C.P.C.<BR>You Have Got The Power, Inc.<BR>You Got The Power, non profit organization<BR>Turnaround Coaching Psychology & Hypnosis<BR>Office (702) 518-6649 Fax (251) 217-0082<BR>http://www.youhavegotthepower.com/ <BR>Please follow us:<BR>http://twitter.com/HaveGotThePower</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6261178" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/b2v8XiAVdp4" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/multicultural-issues-in-psychology.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-28902834306855081642012-05-02T04:53:00.000-07:002012-05-02T04:53:00.685-07:002012-05-02T04:53:00.685-07:00<P>I run a website all about "foreign brides" a.k.a. "international dating" and one of the things I've noticed is the rising demand and popularity of African mail order brides.</P><br /><P>It's an intriguing change in an industry where, historically speaking, Russia, Ukraine, and other Eastern European countries have usually led the pack. But times are changing for sure, and I wanted to write this article to help explain those changes. As far as I can tell, there are a variety of factors at work here...</P><br /><P><STRONG>1. The African Economy</STRONG></P><br /><P>As a political and economic force, Africa has really become a major player in the last few years. It's an emerging market, so many foreign investors are very interested in moving corporate headquarters there and/or setting up new operations.</P><br /><P><STRONG>2. The African Lifestyle</STRONG></P><br /><P>One thing that's always fascinated people from "western nations" is the many unknown and intriguing cultures of the rest of the world. Africa is one of those final frontiers of adventure, exploration, and excitement. So for this reason, many people are looking to Africa to get excited about something new and different.</P><br /><P><STRONG>3. The African Variety</STRONG></P><br /><P>This is super important: Africa is a BIG place. Let's not forget, it is a continent after all. Africa has 47 countries, a vast Saharan desert, and many exotic islands. (Some people even argue that there are technically more like 54 countries in Africa-proper when you include these offshore locations.)</P><br /><P>As all of these factors come together, more people are looking to Africa and its peoples in lots of different ways -- everything from business to international dating.</P><br /><P>So it's no surprise that African mail order brides are on the rise in the larger territories like Algeria, Nigeria, and Egypt. But it's exciting to see activity even in some of the smaller countries like Botswana, the Congo, and Libya.</P><br /><P>And now, thanks to fast-growing technology, meeting African women is easier than ever before. Many areas in Africa are under new development and the infrastructure is improving. So, it's not surprising that women of Africa are logging on the world wide web, visiting dating websites, and setting up foreign bride profiles to meet men from all over the world.</P><br /><P>It once seemed impossible to imagine DSL connections reaching the remote regions of Africa, but today it's a reality. And now YOU can connect with beautiful, exotic, and interesting women in these locations quickly and easily with the click of a button!</P><br /><P>Ready to find your African bride? I'm ready to help YOU get started!</P><br /><P>My name is Michael Manor, and I have loads of tips and ideas to help you meet foreign women and get started in the exciting world of online international dating.</P><br /><P>Visit my website today to learn more!</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6465677" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/6DbtTp_brgg" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/african-mail-order-brides-african.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-4487968344667539072012-05-01T07:16:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:57.002-07:002012-05-01T21:30:57.002-07:00<P>If you're white and plan on dating Korean women then this Asian Caucasian dating advice is VITAL.</P><br /><P>Your Korean buddies might have told you about how "easy" it is but they don't know the real deal.</P><br /><P>After living and dating Korean ladies in Seoul I've discovered that the dating dynamics are different if you're white.</P><br /><P>Am I saying that it's not "easy"? I'm saying that it's different...way different.</P><br /><P>When you're white you have advantages and disadvantages compared to Korean men.</P><br /><P>Asian Caucasian Dating <B>Advantages</B></P><br /><P>You're a novelty. Any human being loves something new. It takes us away from our daily routine and plunges us into adventure. Being white and foreign does that with Korean women. Not only that but many Korean girls are tired of being with Korean guys. Let's face it - who doesn't want to at least TRY something new.</P><br /><P>You're "Western". If you're white then Koreans will assume you're Western. That's a great thing because Koreans look up to the West. If you're Western then you have high status. Period.</P><br /><P>You're an escape. For Korean women who want to break away from their culture then you're an alternative. Also a lot of Korean women are tired of their culture. You offer them something new.</P><br /><P>So it's all good? Not quite. You also have some disadvantages.</P><br /><P>Asian Caucasian Dating <B>disadvantages</B></P><br /><P>You're a foreigner. Korea is still a very closed society. Something like a 'black' Korean is unheard of (but soon enough.)</P><br /><P>Sometimes my expat friends and I joke about one day being at the airport immigration line and seeing a black or caucasian man in the 'Korean Citizens' line.</P><br /><P>That's a big deal for Korean women. Her friends and family might not accept you into their circles simply because you're foreign. There's nothing you can really do about that besides learn the culture and hope for the best.</P><br /><P>Korean guys will prevent you from dating Korean ladies. For some reason (ahem "inferiority complex") most Korean guys will block and prevent her from talking to you. It's quite subtle but it's there.</P><br /><P>Why? Because they think that it's "easier" for caucasian men and they're jealous. Sure they sugarcoat it by pretending that they're "protecting the bloodline and her honor" but after 5 years in Korea you start to see the envy in their eyes.</P><br /><P>So that makes Asian Caucasian dating challenging in Korea or with Korean women.</P><br /><P>Have fun!</P><br /><P>Dan Bloom with http://www.korea-dating-tips.com/</P><br /><P>Dan Bloom is a professional dating and NLP coach. He's lived and helped foreign and Korean men with dating for 5 years in Seoul, Korea.</P><br /><P>If you want more tips on Asian Caucasian dating tips for dating Korean ladies click on the link.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6920299" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/V0x9w2ZnDOM" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/05/what-makes-asian-caucasian-dating.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-81027280755374922502012-04-30T17:22:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.848-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.848-07:00<P>Almost every company has good features, with some of those features being better than others. This A Foreign Affair review zeroes in on the top three strongest features of A foreign Affair, the Phoenix, Arizona based international marriage agency. The first two features described here may seem obvious given the reputation of the company. But their third best feature is guaranteed to be a surprise.</P><br /><P>Number One Best Feature.</P><br /><P>For this A Foreign Affair Review, it's the author's view that A Foreign Affair's number one best feature is their selection of foreign women. Certainly it only makes sense that a marriage agency should have a great selection of women for men to choose from. But this agency goes "over the top." It's not just in numbers that they excel. It's in variety too.</P><br /><P>The agency started with a focus on Eastern European women, primarily Russian women. This was a natural place to start given that the three American owners of A Foreign Affair are each married to a Russian woman.</P><br /><P>Right from the start they created a compelling business strategy oriented to quality, service and integrity. As the business grew, they capitalized on their success and strategy by expanding to other regions of the world. Now they are truly an international company providing marriage introduction services for men and women not just in Eastern Europe, but in Asia as well as in South and Central America.</P><br /><P>Number Two Best Feature.</P><br /><P>A Foreign Affair's number two best feature is their romance tours. They organize and host as many as 75 tours per year. The tours average from seven days to eleven days in duration with some extended tours lasting more than three weeks. The tours take place all over the world including in 5 Asian cities, 6 Latin cities, 6 Russian cities and 14 Ukrainian cities.</P><br /><P>These are full service professionally managed tours. Though very reasonably priced, each tour package contains amenities that a person would expect to pay much more for. And the amenities are not just fluff and frills for appearances sake. They include a full suite of services including both before tour and after tour support.</P><br /><P>Tour socials are conducted in a manner that maximizes each man's being able to meet as many women as possible. This includes personal introductions to specific women of his choice.</P><br /><P>Their tours have been showcased by major media companies including BBC News, the New York Times, major TV networks, and most recently, by the Oprah Winfrey Network.</P><br /><P>Their reputation for organizing and hosting top quality marriage introduction tours is such that they are even recommended by competing marriage agencies.</P><br /><P>Number Three Best Feature.</P><br /><P>Now comes the surprise. And it's a surprise because very few people consider this feature when looking for a marriage agency for foreign brides. But one of the most important things for an international marriage agency is that the agency MUST operate in total compliance with laws regulating the marriage agency industry. This is particularly important with regards to the American IMBRA law (International Marriage Broker Regulation Act of 2005). This then, is our A Foreign Affair review third best feature. A Foreign Affair's compliance with the IMBRA law is "rock solid".</P><br /><P>This is a vitally important consideration for an American man seeking a foreign bride. If he deals with an agency that is lax in its adherence to IMBRA law requirements, his fiancee may be denied a fiancee visa to America. To avoid this heart-wrenching situation, a man must always ascertain that the marriage agency he deals with is in strict compliance with this law and its provisions. This agency is totally compliant with the IMBRA law, even to the extent of "going the extra mile" by the communication protocols they have in place.</P><br /><P>That's the last of the top three features for this A Foreign Affair Review. To summarize, A Foreign Affair's number one feature is their fantastic selection of women. Number two is their highly acclaimed organizing and hosting of the best romance tours in the industry. And number three is their operating in total compliance with key laws, thereby protecting, not just their own interests, but their clients' interests as well.</P><br /><P>There are more very positive aspects of A Foreign Affair. And too, there are some negatives. Read about all of them at A Foreign Affair Review</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6453242" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/lPdA-Ep7h0o" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/04/foreign-affair-review-this-marriage.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-83254038645148597102012-04-30T03:41:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.706-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.706-07:00<P>I am a Filipino. And no, I am not a racist. But I find Filipinas to be the best girlfriends, lovers and friends in the world.</P><br /><P>Don't get me wrong, I have been dating women from different cultures being an overseas contract worker for so long. Still I find Pinays (that's a slang for women coming from the Philippines or with Filipino blood) to be really caring, thoughtful and warm. Filipinas really have their own way of making a man feel needed and loved.</P><br /><P>This view may probably be caused by our shared cultures.</P><br /><P>For both good and bad, Filipinas are mostly of Catholic upbringing - a product of 300 years of Spanish rule. But they are not too conservative and religious, having assimilated American culture (the Philippines was among its first colonies during the early 20th century through what was termed as "benevolent assimilation").</P><br /><P>But they're not too dominant or liberated either due to the feudal upbringing, which made the demure "Maria Clara" as the standard for cultured and educated ladies.</P><br /><P>You may want to compare them to Goldilock's porridge, not too hot, not too cold, but just about right.</P><br /><P>So Filipinas are sensual and passionate (like a hot-blooded Spanish Latina) but she may also be happy-go-lucky and easy going (like their American counterparts).</P><br /><P>They also have a very light sense of humor, and can be easily drawn to laughter by the silliest of things. They smile without effort. Some historians and sociologists even point to this "defect" by Philippine culture because we tend to laugh at adversities even at times when the situation calls for more drastic measures. Too much sense of humor; much less sense of history, they say.</P><br /><P>But, in my opinion, a courteous smile from a Filipina maybe all that is needed to turn a bad day into a good one. Isn't it really good to wake up to a beautiful smile? Especially if it would make you remember of what transpired the night before, right? Mind you, they're flirty, playful and not prudish in bed.</P><br /><P>Physically, they're also very, very pretty. The ethnic beauty of Filipinas comes from a mix of Malay, Chinese, Spanish (and sometimes of other Caucasian) blood. Not too much inbreeding so it's a good thing, says the geneticists. Their skin is brown - some call it an olive tan - that comes in various shades. Add that to a light Asian frame, a pleasant face that exudes both innocence and naughtiness and a carefree tropical attitude radiating with positivity. And you'd have one of God's most generous gifts to the heterosexual male!</P><br /><P>Date a Filipina (especially someone who was raised in our 7,100+ islands)! And see for yourself if what I'm saying is true!</P><br /><P>Author is a freelance blogger from Mandaluyong, Metro Manila, Philippines. His blog is http://pinakamagandanghayop.blogspot.com/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6974235" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/wiptBzSleuQ" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/04/why-i-love-filipina-girls.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-28284660533989354422012-04-29T08:37:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.565-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.565-07:00<P>We all know that values influence everything we do. For Koreans their strong Korean values is no exception.</P><br /><P>What if I told you that in Korea how a man and woman are supposed to be is completely different? At least as far as dating is concerned. What if I told you that if you wanted to date Korean women or men successfully it could mean changing your values?</P><br /><P>Discover some differences between what it means to meet potential partners in Korea compared to the West. That way if you want to date Korean women you would know what they like.</P><br /><P><B>Social Introduction Over Chance Encounter</B></P><br /><P>Who wouldn't want to meet a potential partner through trusted friends? If your friends recommend that person then that means it's good right?</P><br /><P>But what if you happen to spot the love of your life? Would you stay close to your friends and not dare to meet her? Or would you muster up the courage (maybe even liquid courage) to go talk to her? What if it was someone your friends and family didn't approve of?</P><br /><P>Koreans in general are more interested in staying their groups. In Korea if a man is curious about meeting an 'unknown' women (or "mollenen yawcha" as Koreans would say it) and he approached her it could be risky.</P><br /><P>His culture and upbringing teaches him that he must obey the family and only date for the sake of marrying and raising a son. If a Korean dates someone for fun or because they choose that person his (or her) society would frown upon it. Unless that person had money or connections (or both!)</P><br /><P>So a Korean man is considered a 'man' if he can give up his whims and instead choose a partner that's right for his family.</P><br /><P>But aren't women attracted to an 'alpha man'? If a Korean woman meets a 'nice' guy who is set on providing for her - wouldn't that bore her? Wouldn't she prefer someone who's a challenge and fun?</P><br /><P>Yes they would but that's not all. Read on</P><br /><P><B>For Korean Women - Attraction is a Burden</B></P><br /><P>What if I told you that most Korean women resent being attracted to a man? Shocking isn't it? Why is that?</P><br /><P>When a woman is attracted to a man she's losing leverage and power. Her logic quickly disappears. She doesn't trust her feelings.</P><br /><P>Rather than enjoy the emotions and trust them she would rather cut them off...and the guy with it.</P><br /><P>Yes women around the world do it but not to the extent that Korean women would take it.</P><br /><P>You see: She has a lot at stake. She must date guys for her and her family's sake. Those are the homogeneous Korean values that are affecting how she thinks and feels.</P><br /><P>In Korean society a Korean woman has no status. It's a very patriarchal society and the only way a Korean woman can get status is from her husband.</P><br /><P>She also has a time limit. It's also still commonly accepted that a Korean woman's value in having a partner lasts until she's 29 years old. 30 tops. In a superficial society like Korea's your age matters. For Korean women it's even more so.</P><br /><P>So why waste time dating guys who don't make the grade? Instead of finding a challenge who could leave her she'd prefer a boring but safe guy.</P><br /><P>She'd miss out on some of life's fun but it's not her concern. Korean's (and most Asians) are just getting out of poverty. Survival is still the #1 priority for them.</P><br /><P><B>Why Dating In Asia Is Different</B></P><br /><P>Asian women (as in women who were born and grew up in Asia) are more focused on keeping the community happy. A man as we see it in the West could disrupt that community. So when it comes to dating Korean women being a man is different.</P><br /><P>For more information on Korean values click on the link.</P><br /><P>Enjoy being a man in the West!</P><br /><P>Dan with dating tips for dating Koreans</P><br /><P>Dan Bloom is a professional dating and NLP coach. He's lived and helped foreigners and Koreans with dating for 5 years in Seoul, Korea.</P><br /><P>For more please go to http://www.korea-dating-tips.com/</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6917446" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/YI1N84jc1HE" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/04/how-korean-values-influence-korean.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-224334425513222042012-04-28T13:54:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.418-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.418-07:00<P>Once, dining in an upscale restaurant in a small U.S. city, I overheard a conversation among several people sitting next to me who were cracking jokes about mail-order brides and how low-demanding they are: "Here's a glass of clean water for you, sweetie." A burst of laughter. At first, I was infuriated, because I had heard that Russian ladies looking for international marriage are labeled as "mail-order brides" in the United States and, being Russian by origin I completely disagree with that label. At the same time, there's nothing wrong with making fun of the concept of a woman being "sent in a box" to her husband who lives in a wealthier country (especially to make people aware that this situation is literally taking place) but when this image is generalized to a particular nationality or to women from a particular country, then it is absolutely unacceptable.</P><br /><P>It is interesting to note that this expression is known only in Western countries. If you go to Russia, Belarus, Ukraine - in short, countries of the former Soviet Union that are still sometimes referred to in general as Russia - and ask if they've heard about "mail-order brides," you will be surprised to find that practically nobody knows the term. So before you tie the knot with your beloved woman from Russia, make sure she understands what she might encounter in her new country. The following advice is based on real observations made in the last few years.</P><br /><P>Russian ladies are very popular among Western men because of their exceptional beauty and caring nature. Their Slavic heritage generously gifted them with an attractive appearance and good skills in taking care of home and family. The population differences between men and women in Russia give women a good incentive to take care of their appearance and to seek marriage abroad. However, the popular myth that single Russian women are desperate to find a husband abroad and are willing to be ordered by catalogue or sent in a box to a man they haven't seen before, or to one with whom they've talked twice on the phone is so far from reality. Russian ladies themselves can be very demanding. Sure, they might like the idea of drinking a glass of clean water in a restaurant, but that's just because they don't like consuming high-calorie drinks. There are numerous situations where Russian ladies may be disappointed with something in a new and wealthier country.</P><br /><P>I remember how a friend of mine almost burst into tears when a guy she fell in love with brought her to his home - somewhere in the middle-of-nowhere Ohio. They live in a wonderful big house, but the fact that she needs to drive or walk at least an hour just to get to the nearest grocery store still irritates her. Originally from a big city in Russia, she was used to active surroundings all day long, while in this new country, her new home, it was more like an upscale, but quite rural life. If you have the opportunity, please, tell all single Russian women seeking marriage in the United States that the country as a whole is not all skyscrapers, and that cities like New York (which is more or less the typical image of the United States in Russian minds) are few and far between. She might be lucky enough to find a guy in Chicago or San Francisco, but in most cases she has a higher chance of ending up in Lima, Ohio, where life is not exactly the way it is in Hollywood movies. In other words, keep in mind that Russian ladies might not appreciate some things that are common in your country.</P><br /><P>If this article has caught your interest, then there is a possibility that one day you will have the intention to find a Russian match and become happy. Although... perhaps you are already in search of Russian ladies for marriage? If so, the dating site BetsysBrides.com, run by Andrey Nilin, is the place for you. This online marriage agency offers great opportunities for men seeking single Russian women for marriage and romantic relationships.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6724543" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/IIYeMuF2ntA" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/04/some-notes-for-men-seeking-russian.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-88422780849253217942012-04-27T23:44:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.274-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.274-07:00<P>Chinese culture being markedly different from western culture this is no less the case when it comes to dating Chinese women. Although there are a few obvious similarities such as being gentlemanly, it's by no means always the case, as Chinese dating rules can be rather specific and even at times contradictory!</P><br /><P>Take for example the western etiquette of allowing the woman to make her choice of food at a restaurant; to most western males this would seem to be a 'must', and to be honest trying to do this the opposite way would probably result in the western female considering a man to be exceptionally rude and she certainly would be unlikely to want to date him again, and rightly so; but in Chinese culture there are times where the man is most definitely expected to take the lead, and him choosing the food would be considered desirable.</P><br /><P>Bearing this and many more points in mind related to Chinese dating rules, when dating Chinese women, lets take a look at several more surprising ones:</P><br /><P>1. <B>'No-go' topics of conversation Vs. acceptable topics</B>. It's a strange thing when I see some writers writing about topics of conversation that shouldn't be mentioned with Chinese women, because in actual fact Chinese culture is very accepting of almost any topic of conversation including money in most situations, even with virtual strangers! The only subject in my experience that is mostly a no-go, is 'sex' (but that's not by any means always the case!).</P><br /><P>2. <B>Physical contact</B>. In truth physical contact between non-intimates is, in formal Confucian influenced Chinese culture, frowned upon, and this can include simple encouraging touches on the shoulder. But, in actual practice it is very common, but it's all about the degree (and where!)*. If you're already a very 'touchy-feely' person then I would just suggest you reduce it by about seventy-five percent and you will probably be at the comfortable and actually appreciated level, for most Chinese women.</P><br /><P>3. <B>Punctuality</B>. Now this is a tricky one, as to be honest Chinese women are not always the most punctual of types to tell you the truth! I've waited for thirty minutes in temperatures of minus twenty degrees for example. In this case, being a male, you're probably just going to have to bite the bullet and make the assumption she will turn up on-time, but I have to say, if she does show up on-time it's probably just because she figures it's your culture to do so and she's doing you a favor (I'm not kidding). Western time-keeping doesn't always translate to be the same as Chinese time-keeping!</P><br /><P>There are many more points than these to be aware of; in fact, where Chinese culture is concerned in comparison to western culture, the dating rules have far, far more nuances you need to make yourself aware of in my experience.</P><br /><P>Sam Reeves has lived in China for over eight years and dated a wide variety of Chinese women and also married one. Find out more Chinese Dating Rules and also <B>7 crucial facts you must know before dating or marrying a Chinese woman</B>, and go to http://ChineseDatingSecrets.com/</P><br /><P>*'arms and upper-back' in case you're wondering. Nowhere else.</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6420397" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/zaqWhqnHTec" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/04/chinese-dating-rules-exposed.htmltag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5980072607169961027.post-68163851387085899932012-04-27T05:26:00.000-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.136-07:002012-05-01T21:30:56.136-07:00<P>You may be fretting with how to introduce your parents to your boyfriend who is of a different race, and that is understandable. After all, meeting the parents is taking a huge leap. No family occasion can be more unnerving than when you are dating expats and decided to bring him or her home for proper introduction. Below are tips on dating for women, especially when they have finally decided that the guy they are going out with is husband material. These should help her prepare both sides of the camp so her leap on how to find love in the face of cultural differences becomes a safe landing and not a disastrous meeting:</P><br /><P><STRONG>If you are the expatriate:</STRONG></P><br /><P>Pick a time that you know both of your parents will be around as you float the idea of setting them up for a meeting with your boyfriend. This is quite a challenge if your parents also work, as they may have professional responsibilities even during holidays. However difficult it may seem, blocking off a schedule and a back up date at least two weeks ahead should cover the bases.</P><br /><P><BR>Brief your boyfriend with your parents' traditions and expectations, along with characteristics that you think might be a source of potential conflict. How to find love is sometimes a matter of minimizing friction, especially between parties who are equally important to you. Do they expect that he bring a present during the face-off? Do they expect that he be different to the elderly especially in matters of opinion? Will your parents be offended if he shows up in casual attire? Nothing is as frustrating as getting close to finally addressing <STRONG>"how can I find true love"</STRONG> only to lose it with a minor slip.</P><br /><P><BR>Let your boyfriend know what he can expect once the ice has been broken. Are your parents particularly indulgent when it comes to visitors? Do they interrogate potential partners? Do they immediately share personal stories (that may sound improper at this stage) once they meet somebody you bring home?<BR>Give your boyfriend a head start with questions that your parents might ask, so he gives a "politically correct" answer. Parents, especially of Asian expats, usually exert influence when it comes to their children's finding a soulmate. You would want your boyfriend to score high to win him favors. Should there be any language barriers, let your boyfriend know ahead, too.</P><br /><P><BR>Be upfront with who foots the bill when the meeting is not at home. This way, you minimize that awkward moment when your parents and your guy outdo each other with the tab.<BR>Respect your boyfriend's dietary choices, either because of religion or personal p</P><br /><P>hilosophy. Let everyone who will be at the table know so they will not put him in the defensive in matters of food (and religion or personal beliefs). You would want to refrain from offending anybody, especially in the process of how to find love. More important, do not forget letting the cook know your boyfriend's dietary requirements, so he or she does not commit this major blunder. Dating expats opens you up to a world of culinary choices because you need to accede to their eating preferences.</P><br /><P><BR>Advise your boyfriend if you are planning to invite everyone in the family, as everyone's presence might make him feel outnumbered tremendously. You would want to avoid putting him in that position, as that might make him feel an outcast.</P><br /><P><STRONG>If your boyfriend is the expatriate:</STRONG></P><br /><P>Tell your parents that you are inviting your boyfriend over. Prepare them for his visit by telling them something about his cultural background, dietary preferences, and religious beliefs, among others, especially if they are not particularly aware that there is a certain etiquette observed when dating expats.<BR>Brief your boyfriend beforehand as to what is expected of him as a guest in your home. In some Asian cultures, boyfriends are often expected to take part in household chores, especially if they are coming over on an extended visit.</P><br /><P><BR>Schedule a meeting for each parent if they are divorced. As a matter of courtesy, refrain from giving your boyfriend the impression that you favor one parent over the other. In time, let him know, but not when you introduce them for the first time.</P><br /><P>The process of how to find love does not only involve two people: Finding a soulmate involves everyone in these two people's lives. You can expect that in the future, if things go well with your boyfriend's visit, it will be your turn to be introduced.</P><br /><P>You can get more information on multi-cultural relationships and finding true love by visiting http://www.manifestingmydestiny.com. Be sure to take advantage of the 6 Day Free E-mail Mini-Course and submit your name to be notified of the release of the mini e-book "Help! How Can I Find True Love?"</P><br /><P>Lori Abela is a relationship and dating expert who practices the law of attraction in finding true love. She is a dating coach who specializes in expat dating and she is committed to helping countless individuals improve themselves with the end goal of finding their mate.</P><br /><P>To know more about her services, visit the website http://manifestingmydestiny.com/</P><br /><P>Happy Manifesting!</P><br /><P><A href="http://ezinearticles.com/6672654" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">View the original article here</A></P><img src="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/blogspot/VxFmY/~4/6N3dtfAW8vc" height="1" width="1"/>Carlnoreply@blogger.com0http://tampabay-swirl.blogspot.com/2012/04/how-to-introduce-your-parents-to-your.html