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CBN plans coins dispensing ATMs

2012-09-17T08:58:00.001-07:00

CBN plans coins dispensing ATMs
The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) says it will facilitate the introduction of Automated Teller Machines (ATMs) that can dispense coins to encourage Nigerians imbibe the culture of spending them.

Mr Chidi Umeano, Head of Shared Services at CBN, on Monday in Lagos said that this plan was in tune with the currency restructuring exercise. He said that the coins dispensing ATMs would hasten the acceptance of coins by Nigerians and change misconception about their use.

“To achieve this plan, what is needed is to facilitate the inclusion of a process called “add-on” to the ATMs.
“Good enough, the existing ATMs have the “add-on“ feature that will easily make them adapt to coins dispensing, “ he said.
Umeano said that the apex bank would ensure that newly deployed ATMs had the “add-on“ feature among others.
“It is very possible to achieve Automated Teller Machines that will dispense coins.
“This “add-on” feature can be activated on the ATMs at any time by the CBN and this is not new because it is being practiced in advanced countries.

“This proposal is in consonance with our cash-less policy and also in line with the CBN’s effort to encourage Nigerians to appreciate coins, “he said.

Mr Dipo Fatokun, CBN Director of Banking and Payments System, had in August said that the apex bank would soon facilitate the introduction of multi-functional ATMs.
Fatokun said that such ATMs would also be able to accept deposits from customers and credit their accounts immediately.

Source: NAN

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2012-09-15T08:40:00.003-07:00

10 TIPS FOR GETTING A LADY (For all my single guyz)

2012-09-14T10:21:00.000-07:00

Please note that this tips are for getting a 'serious' lady and i don't mean getting all those ones in jegginess and Brazilian weavon o (you just need money to get this ones)

Be friendly!
And by friendly, "Hey baby, you look hot" does not fit here. That might work on a small fraction of girls, but it's a terrible introduction. Comment on her hair, her face, her eyes, or anything else. Do not make a lewd comment. Those just backfire.

Have confidence!
Go places! That's right, instead of sticking to your normal routine (galleria,clubs..etc) do something different. Jog to work ( i dont mean like mainland to the island o). Mix things up and meet someone new!

Dress appropriately!
A peacock struts around displaying it's feathers to attract a mate. You are a peacock, so one of the biggest tips I can give for attracting girls is to dress up! But dress appropriately, it's just silly to go jogging in a native wear.

Be self-confident!
You're a great person. You wouldn't be looking for tips to attract girls if you didn't have the self-confidence to use a little bit of introspection on yourself and try to see what you're doing wrong when it comes to girls. It might sound roundabout at first, but it's wholly true.

Romance!
What women don't like a bit of romance? It shows you care They don't have to be expensive gestures just show you have gone out of your way for them. A box of Chocolates ,or a ice perfume, a book she may like or cook her a meal(which ever way the meals comes out it would still be loved) .The fact you have made the gesture will be highly appreciated.

Display maturity !
It’s always said that women mature faster than guys and are often found complaining about how immature they act. Impress her with the way you deal with situations and your outlook on the whole. Show her how responsible you are about finances, or how serious you are about your career. And demonstrate your ability to think clearly and rationally when disagreements crop up or a conflict of interests presents itself.
TIP: Women love it when a guy takes interest in their likes, dislikes, interests, family, childhood and so many other areas.

Be unpredictable!
Women love wondering what's next. But most guys are painfully predictable. Don't ASK her where she wants to go for dinner. Instead, TELL her see you at 8. If she's curious, say "It's a surprise." Take her to an unusual place. Even if it's local joint on the mainland, she'll love it more than a fancy eatery, simply because of the anticipation. The only predictable thing about you should be unpredictability.

Have a life!
Women don't like men who follow them like a hand bag. Women, especially quality women, want a man who is on HIS path, following HIS passions. Have a busy life with interesting activities that bring a smile to YOUR face and it will automatically attract people (including women) to you. Don't chase women, attract them.

Be honest!
Never lie to a girl just to impress her ,it really a turn off when she later finds out the truth so make sure shes liking you for who you are and not what you have made her to think you are

Don't make her jealous!
This tends to backfire on the guy who does this. If you're trying to find out if, in fact, she does like you, ask one of her friends. Or compare how she acts around you and around other guys. If she acts differently around you, then something is there. Trust your instincts. If you believe there's good chemistry between you and her, be patient and let it develop. Do not tell or show her about your current and past dates with other women even if she asks over and over again; if you can show loyalty for her, the relationship will go smoother faster. A woman may take this relationship investment seriously, and looking and showing interest by you in other beauties in a restaurant in front of her can be seen as inconsiderate and insensitive, so focus your eyes and effort only on her

Money Money Money!
OK! its not included in the Top 10 tips but we all know thats its a very very important factor in any relationships so make sure u have a lot of it ... chao!

TIPS FOR GETTING A MAN (FOR ALL MY SINGLE LADIES)

2012-09-13T11:40:00.000-07:00

IK Osakioduwa's the popular TV and radio personality and Big brother Africa Host as shared these TIPS for getting a man, hes happily married so no way for u , if u are planning on getting him ...LOL

1. Learn to do solo trips. It's just easier for most guys to step to a girl on her own, than one in a pack of girls

2.Make friends with married women. They know what guys want more than your single friends (that's why they're married)

3. Be careful not to be TOO INDEPENDENT. Learn to gain from your man's presence in your life. Guys need to be needed

4.Drop guys that take all ur time without really chasing u. They block other guys. No IWC= Intimacy Without Commitment

5. Make an effort. Try to look nice. Work out. Guys like babes. Get that Don King hair done, stop forming"Oh Naturale" #IksTipsToGettingAMan

6. Don't give it ALL up. Leave some for marriage. Perfect the art of giving previews. Nobody pays for free stuff.

7. Learn to cook. Most guys like a girl that CAN cook. Yeah not all guys but MOST. So do yourself a favour and learn

8. Have standards. Or you'll find yourself in and out relationships too often and that'll earn you a bad name.

9. No matter what, never be rude or abusive to him in front of his friends. (Not even in jest

10. Don't pressure him to marry u with questions like "Where's this leading?" Instead leave him if he's taking too long

DON'T GET MARRIED IF....

2012-09-12T08:53:00.004-07:00

DON'T GET MARRIED IF....

If you’re not ready to delay gratification when your are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature.

If you’re not ready to leave center stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muses… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!

If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt….. don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically, they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.

If you are not ready to pay bills…. don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. PHNC will not give a waiver because your love is O so strong and your gazes at each other, O so romantic.

If you are not ready to let go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.

If you are not ready to stop competing with the Joneses…. don’t get married. Let the Joneses buy their yatch when you are still walking, and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people.

If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.

If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions and your chips fungaz. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies, it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving

Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush of a risque life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus [who we were told "discovered" America, Have you ever wondered if the Native Indians who were in it, knew that it existed :) ] had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.

Marriage, like life in general, has many “we sail on” days. You have to learn to find the thrill in the normal everydayness of it. If you depend on wild romance, all night sex [ha], romantic cruises, wild parties, compulsive moves across continents, tempestuous fights and make up sessions to be happy, you may be disappointed. You have to learn to thrill in gentle smiles, loving hugs, knowing looks, cozy moments, shared chores, cute babies, everyday work, dreaming together, praying together and simply living together. If these things are not thrilling, exciting and satisfying, you will look for a way out. The “boom twaff” moments are still there, but they are normally punctuations to the usualness of living. They cannot be your reason for getting married. They are unsustainable on an everyday basis. The one you choose must be thrilling to you even in the most mundane of moments.

I pray this helps someone. Remember singles, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF CHOICE. Never let anyone pressure you into marriage. You are either ready or you’re not: You decide!. But please don’t marry somebody and then punish them to live with your childish ways for the rest of their lives :) . A childish baby is cute but a childish adult is extremely frustrating.

Marriage is for the mature and in many ways, even the married, are still being confronted with the demand to grow up day by day

PHOTOS: Nigerian Parents Sentenced To 7 Years Each In The UK For Brutalizing Their 6 Children They Called Witches

2012-08-15T10:41:00.001-07:00

The Nigerian Family

For beating their six children with brooms, hoovers and wires and even giving their baby a morphine overdose after childbirth, Nigerian couple, Joseph and Gloria Musa (pictured above with their kids) have been jailed for seven years each in London, with the UK press calling them all sorts of names. But the Nigerian married couple denied the allegations, claiming the children were victims of a racist witch-hunt. They were, however, found guilty of cruelty to a person under 16. The parents convicted of a decade long campaign of abuse against their six children were jailed for seven years each yesterday.
The Nigerian couple, which the paper said claimed their kids were possessed by evil spirits, were found guilty after Coronation Street star Michelle Collins gave evidence against them.
The parents argued that the children had been ‘brainwashed’ into making the allegations by the police, the London Borough of Haringey and Miss Collins who they said ‘wanted to steal’ them, UK’s Green Crown Court heard.
Jurors rejected the parents conspiracy theories. When they are released, they face deportation back to Nigeria – despite pleas from their legal team that they have been ‘punished enough’ by having their children taken into care.
As they left the court, the paper said the couple wailed: ‘We are innocent, this is a miscarriage of justice.’
The couple were accused of beating their children with brooms, hoovers and wires and even giving their baby a morphine overdose just days after her first birthday.
A report published in UK’s Daily Mail said five of the children were rescued after their eldest daughter threw a heart-wrenching SOS note out of a window.
The report said it was not until their one-year-old baby was given a morphine overdose over a year later that police reopened the case which led to their prosecution.
The paper said the plight of the children was so bad that Miss Collins, who met them at a church lunch, took them to the cinema ‘because she felt sorry for them’.
The Miss Collins gave evidence as a prosecution witness during the trial of the parents, both 40, who could not be named to protect their six children.

The Witness

Sentencing them to seven years behind bars each, Judge James Patrick described it as ‘shocking mistreatment’ that they had tried to cover up with a ‘web of deception’. Judge Patrick said: “No-one who sat through this trial could help but be moved by the fact that these intelligent, charming, fun, lovable children continue to love you despite what you put them through.
“You alleged a conspiracy involving a well-known actress, who had done nothing but show your family generosity and kindness, a member of a housing charity, social workers and foster carers.
“Those who had taken the trouble to support you were repeatedly accused of dishonesty, lying, and conspiracy to rob you of your children when the reality was that both of you were lying – in fact they ware simply seeking to give your children stability.”
But the parents claimed they were victims of a conspiracy – and even alleged Miss Collins was involved in a witch hunt against them and wanted to ‘steal’ their children.
One of the youngsters, a baby at the time, had been allowed to stay in the home by Haringey council, who were involved in other case called the Baby P and Victoria Climbie cases, despite the fact the five other children had to be rescued.
The abuse reportedly came to the attention of police in April 2010 when their nine-year-old wrote an SOS note and threw it out of her bedroom window.
The heart-breaking plea read: ‘My mum is the worst mum ever because she can’t cope with five of us, her broken hand and being pregnant. She always leaves me out so I always starve and I am forced to work.
‘If I don’t get enough house work done, I am beaten without mercy with the wooden end of a broom. I have scars all over me to prove it. I can’t stay here. I would like a new mum.’
It was found by a neighbour who called the police, and when officers attended the address they found the children living in messy conditions with ‘dirty’ and ‘dishevelled’ clothing.
Revealing scars the eldest said her mother had hit her with a cable, a broom, and a hoover and her father had dangled her by her feet down the stairwell of the house, tied her hands behind her back and her legs together ‘to get the devilish spirits out’, prosecutor Emma Smith said.
Her sister, who was seven at the time, had a stick shaped bruise of her thigh and after a few months in care, she drew a series of pictures showing her dad beating her and her being left home alone and including a speech bubble saying ‘I’m hungry.’
The children were left home alone for hours, sometimes days on end, with the elder kids forced to look after the others.
They had even been forced to lie to a charity and social services that they were living alone with their mother in one room and had no idea who their dad was so they could scam benefits.
Even during the trial the eldest feared she had torn her family apart with her ‘devastating cry from the heart in the form of a letter which she threw from the window’, the judge noted.
There was an investigation but no further action, and the five children remained in care until the parents once again came to police attention on 28 June last year, when they gave their baby an overdose.
‘But for the events of June 28 you would have gotten away with your crimes because of a merciful decision not to prosecute you’, Judge Patrick noted.
The couple’s sixth child, a baby girl, the report said, was also initially taken into care but then returned to her parents. They took her to St Thomas’s Hospital just days after her first birthday last year.
The paper went on to say that without treatment, the baby could have died but doctors managed to save the youngster, who it is believed was given morphine orally that morning.
Source: Vanguard Newspapers

Iroko TV Founder, Jason Njoku & CEO of Bakrie Delano Africa, Ladi Delano make Forbes Magazine’s ‘Ten Young African Millionaires To Watch’ Lis

2012-07-12T09:51:00.001-07:00

Two Nigerians, Ladi Delano, the restless 30 year-old founder and CEO of Bakrie Delano Africa, a $1 billion investment vehicle committed to making acquisitions in Nigeria’s mining, energy and agriculture sectors; and Jason Njoku, the 31 year-old founder and CEO of Iroko TV have made the recently released Forbes Magazine ‘Ten Young African Millionaires To Watch’ list.

According to Mfonobong Nsehe, a Forbes Magazine contributor who compiled the list, it consists of a handful of young Africans in their 20s and 30s who have built businesses and amassed enviable million-dollar fortunes. While some are corporate animals; others are empire builders.

There are thousands of young and immensely successful entrepreneurs across the African continent. There’s a growing number of Africans aged 40 and under who are legitimately amassing multi-million dollar fortunes. They don’t inherit stuff; they build it themselves.

The list comprised of:

Mark Shuttleworth, 38, South African, Founder, Knife Capital
Ashish Thakkar, 29, Ugandan, Co-Founder and CEO, Mara Group
Ladi Delano, 30, Nigerian, Founder and CEO, Bakrie Delano Africa
Justin Stanford, 28, South African, Founder & CEO, 4Di Group
Magatte Wade, 36, Senegalese, Founder, Adina World Beat Beverages & Tiossan
Mike Macharia, 36, Kenyan, Founder & CEO, Seven Seas Technologies
Vinny Lingham, 33, South African, Founder, Yola Inc
Kamal Budhabatti, 36, Kenyan, CEO, Craft Silicon
Yolanda Cuba, 35, South African, Executive Director, South African Breweries
Jason Njoku, 31, Nigerian, Founder & CEO Iroko TV

Here’s what Forbes had to say about the two Nigerians on the list:

Ladi Delano
The jet-setting Nigerian serial entrepreneur made his first millions as a liquor entrepreneur while living in China. In 2004, at age 22, he founded Solidarnosc Asia, a Chinese alcoholic beverage company that made Solid XS, a premium brand of vodka. Solid XS went on to achieve over 50% market share in China and was distributed across over 30 cities in China, and pulled in $20 million in annual revenue. Delano subsequently sold the company to a rival liquor company for over $15 million and ploughed his funds into his next venture-The Delano Reid Group, a real estate investment holding company focused on mainland China. Today, Delano is the co-founder and Chief Executive Officer of Bakrie Delano Africa (BDA) – a $1 billion joint venture with the $15 billion (market cap) Bakrie Group of Indonesia. Bakrie Delano Africa serves as the investment partner of the Bakrie Group in Nigeria. The Indonesian conglomerate has provided over $900 million worth of funds to invest in Nigeria and Bakrie Delano Africa is responsible for identifying investment opportunities in mining, agriculture and oil & gas and executing them.

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Jason Njoku
The maverick Nigerian Internet entrepreneur is founder of Iroko TV, the world’s largest digital distributor of African movies. Iroko TV has been dubbed the ‘Netflix of Africa’. Earlier this year, Iroko TV raised $8 million in venture capital from Tiger Global Management, a New York-based private equity and hedge fund run by billionaire Chase Coleman. IrokoTV enjoys lucrative content distribution deals with Dailymotion, iTunes, Amazon and Vimeo. Njoku is unwilling to divulge figures, but analysts believe IrokoTV could be worth as much as $30 million. Njoku is the company’s largest individual shareholder.

Only two woman made the list, Magatte Wade of Adina World Beat Beverages & Tiossan and Yolanda Cuba. Yolanda was 29 when she was appointed CEO of Mvelaphanda Holdings, a Johannesburg Stock Exchange-listed investment holding company.

What do you think about the entire list and the Nigerians that made it on the list?

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For 4 years my husband starved me of sex , woman tells court

2012-07-10T09:51:00.001-07:00

Badagry (Lagos State) – A 38-year-old housewife, Mrs Aderonke Akinyemi, on Tuesday told a Badagry Customary Court to dissolve her marriage because her husband starved her of sex for the past four years.

“For four years my husband did not sex me. When he comes back from work he always give excuses of tiredness or sickness,” said the mother of two, whose children are 17 and 15 years and who has been married for 18 years.

She also accused her husband, Adewole Akinyemi of threat to life, frequent fighting and lack of care.

Responding to the allegations, Akinyemi, 45, told the court that he accepted the divorce since his wife asked for it.

“My wife always turns me down each time I want to have sex with her and she does not give any reason for her action,” he said.

Akinyemi, who works at Shagamu in Ogun, said that anytime he came home to the Ikoga, Badagry home of the couple, his wife would vacate their home only to return after he would have gone back to his station.

Reacting to the husband’s defence, the petitioner blamed the respondent for her action, saying that her husband had said he wanted only two children.

“On three occasion when I was pregnant for him, he asked me to abort it, so because of this, I refused to allow him have sex with me again,” she said.

The president of the court, Mr A.B. Kudaisi, asked the couple to go back home for possible reconciliation and adjourned the case till July 23.

“You have to think of the interest of the children, especially now that they are at a crucial stage when they need your financial and moral support for their education,” the court president stated. (NAN)

NYSC reschedules camp activities in volatile states

2012-07-06T00:58:00.000-07:00

The National Youth Service Corps, NYSC, today announced the rescheduling of the posting of all corps members deployed to Yobe and Borno States for the 2012 Batch ‘B’ Orientation Course.

A statement by the Director General of NYSC, Brig-Gen Nnamdi Okore-Affia, directed that corps members posted to some volatile states in the North such as Bauchi, Gombe, Plateau, Kano and Kaduna, but have not yet reported to the camp, should immediately report to the NYSC Directorate Headquarters, Abuja for redeployment.

WHY DO ‘BAD GIRLS’ FIND IT EASIER TO GET MARRIED?

2012-07-05T11:59:00.000-07:00

. OK now you might want me to define what i meant by my BAD…ness , according to the dictionary being ‘BAD‘ means ‘not good in any manner or degree‘, so if u add ‘GIRL’ to that i guess it literally would mean girls that acts in not so goods manner… that simple .
Ada (not her real name) is a childhood friend and she is in her mid twenties and shes happily married now with two kids,Ada i remember was a club freak,she never had a friday night that she would be the comfort of her bed unless maybe in the early hours probably in another man’s bed, she partied liked her heart needed it to pump blood,she was loose ,had so many male friends,changed boy friends like she changed clothes but yet she had a classy wedding. yeah! believe me .

I also know of several other ladies in my neigborhood if you wondering where that is? just type SURULERE LAGOS in google map and you would have an idea of where am talikng about, back to my story this ladies are what we the presumed good guyz (yeah am a good guy) term has ‘bad’ ,but along the line they all keep getting married and living happily i may not know of the ever after but my big question is ‘WHY DO ‘BAD GIRLS’ FIND IT EASIER TO GET MARRIED?’

I might need the help of guys here, is it that guys find them more attractive? and prefer them to the praying lady who is in her late thirties hoping for Mr right to come calling,or is that the so called bad guls are deperate and they know how to reach out to get what they want? either way the rate is becoming alarming and i really do feel for the good lady that is hoping and waiting, keeping her self undefiled and yet no sign of light at the end of the tunnel…but really why? …lol
So my opinion is pretty simple ..Time will always tell either u are a GOOD OR BAD…GBAM!

VOLTRON (Defender of the Universe) ...who remembers this cartoon?

2012-07-05T10:42:00.002-07:00

NUC suspends operational licences of seven private universities

2012-07-05T09:36:00.000-07:00

National Universities Commission yesterday Wednesday July 4th suspended the operational licenses of seven private universities in Nigeria for allegedly violating NUC's guideline's on school facilities and academic programmes

The suspended universities are Lead City University, Caritas University, Joseph Ayo Babalola University, Tansian University, Madonna University, Achievers University and Obong University.

The NUC say the suspension will be lifted as soon as the Universities live up to the guidelines stipulated by the commission in the running of Universities in Nigeria....so what happens to the students now if you are in one of theses schools......just take heart the lord is with you .

Bomb411: Photo Of Churchgoers Queuing And Getting Searched ...

2012-07-04T10:42:00.001-07:00

Bomb411: Photo Of Churchgoers Queuing And Getting Searched ...: so i know you might stay in Lagos and think it has not gotten to this point ...what if? would you still be goin to church?

Photo Of Churchgoers Queuing And Getting Searched In Abuja

2012-07-04T10:39:00.001-07:00

so i know you might stay in Lagos and think it has not gotten to this point ...what if? would you still be goin to church?

AUDIO: The $3m conversation between Lawan & Otedola - Part 2

2012-07-04T02:41:00.000-07:00

Channels Television has obtained an audio recording purported to be part of the conversation between Honorable Farouk Lawan and Mr Femi Otedola over the $3million bribery allegation scandal.

Otedola ft farouk Lawan in Chop My money remix pt2

Bomb411: Picture of the day.....LWKMD!

2012-07-03T10:48:00.001-07:00

Bomb411: Picture of the day.....LWKMD!

Picture of the day.....LWKMD!

2012-07-03T10:45:00.000-07:00

AUDIO:The $3 million conversation between Farouk Lawan and Femi Otedola

2012-07-02T07:40:00.001-07:00

wow...i guess dis should be called Otedola ft farouk >>chop my money remix .....lol

What is wrong with this picture?

2012-07-02T01:34:00.000-07:00

Guys can u do this for wife?

10 THINGS TO MAKE UR MARRIAGE WORK.....I DIDN'T SAY WEDDING

2012-06-29T01:17:00.001-07:00

I read this stuff somewhere and i tot i would be useful for all my Married friend and wanna be couples

Wedding days are joyful days. You enjoy all the attention; everyone says, ‘congrats’, you feed all and sundry and become the cynosure of all eyes. But in a matter of hours, the fanfare is over. You are home alone as a couple. Life after walking down the aisle is most important.

The ‘living-happily-ever-after’ means, ‘in sickness, in health, poverty, wealth, redundancy and upheaval.’ How do you stay together as a couple without splitting up? What are their secrets? It’s not about being lucky enough to find your soul mate. Just as world-class athletes train hard for that “effortless” sprint on the day, everlasting relationships are based on commitment, strategy and hard work. Here’s how they do it.

1. Sharing a relationship roadmap

You both have to want your relationship to work. It helps to share a similar idea of what a successful relationship is. It may seem unromantic to sit your partner down for a frank discussion about where the relationship is going, but couples who don’t discuss it will often discover too late that they don’t share the same expectations of marriage, children and career. If you want your partnership to work, talk to your partner about how they see the future.

2. Make a commitment

It’s not enough to have similar expectations. Couples who stay together are the ones who trust each other. You don’t have to get married, have kids or take out a joint mortgage. You just need to let each other know that you’re committed to each other for the long haul. You’ll both feel more valued and secure. You should re-state your commitment as the years go by. Successful couples aren’t afraid to discuss the state of their relationship, no matter how long they’ve been together.

3. Give each other space

Give each other space to see friends and pursue separate interests. Time apart makes your time together all the more valuable, and getting some me-time makes you a happier and more relaxed person.

4. Know how to communicate

If your relationship is to last, you should be able to talk about things and feel that you’re being heard without being judged. Be honest if you’re feeling stressed or under the weather. Your partner will know not to take it personal when you come home feeling grouchy. It’s also important to talk about trivial stuff. Chat about your day at work, what’s going on in the news, assorted rubbish. Don’t turn into a couple that only ever talks about bills.

5. Know how to argue

If you grew up learning to avoid confrontation, you may be in the habit of storing resentments, and that’s never good news for a relationship. That’s not permission to hurl abuse at your partner. But you should get used to discussing your differences and working things out through negotiation and compromise. You don’t have to win every time.

6. Keep the fires burning

A good sex life brings couples closer together. In scientific terms, sex, cuddling and touching produce hormones such as oxytocin that boost your romantic attachment and relieve stress. In everyday terms, touching makes you feel wanted. Successful couples also know that their sex lives go through lean patches. If you can accept those patches without thinking ‘its over,’ you stand a better chance of staying together for life.

7. Accept change

Change can be difficult and even painful. A partner loses work? Or suffers health problems or bereavement? Know that successful couples don’t jump ship when things get rocky. They learn to adapt, and they support each other through good and bad times.

8. Winning couples never stop dating

Successful couples never stop going out on dates, even when they’ve lived together for years. If you don’t spend regular quality time together, you will drift apart. Take time out from work, hobbies or chores to spend time together. Sitting silently on the sofa watching television is not a date. A date is something you want to look good for, and where you can enjoy a change of scenery — a restaurant, the cinema or even a walk.

9. Keep some things secret

Honesty is not always the best policy. Too much information can hurt, even when you’re in love. A considerate partner would never tell the other if they fancied their best friend, or they’d once considered ending the relationship — a careless line that can do irreparable damage. Problems at work, health issues or a desire for more or different sex are things you should discuss honestly.

10. Winning couples are nice to each other

Of all the secrets of happy relationships, niceness may be the most important. If you’re nice to your partner, they will be nice to you, and your relationship will be a much happier place.

Adapted: Yahoo

What is wrong with this picture?

2012-06-22T09:33:00.001-07:00

dont get confused that is EBA reloaded....choi

Brymo Performs His Touching Single "We All Need Something" on Nadani Tv

2012-06-22T04:40:00.001-07:00

...but truly we all need something

How was life when there was no FACEBOOK?

2012-06-21T11:39:00.002-07:00

Profile picture? check! ,Notification? check!, Wall? checked!, News feeds? ,Status updates?

...all checked,
Now you should already have an idea what am talikng about, if that didn't ring a bell please dont read futher, (lol)

Facebook! that is what it is called ,that two letter words that is shaping our social network connection, ok lets press Pause and Rewind backwards to when there was no face book,oh i see u have forgotten so soon?On February 4, 2004, Zuckerberg launched "Thefacebook" which was latter changed to 'facebook' after purchasing the doamin name in 2005, during this years its users were mainly college students in Europe and Facebook was later then opened on September 26, 2006to everyone ages 13 and older with a valid e-mail address.

i can still remember the email i received in my Yahoo box from a friend inviting me to join Facebook sometimes in year 2007 and i signed up with my yahoo mail i guess i didn't have a single clue what i was up to ,but we were still basking in the euphoria of social network (remember Hi5 and Myspace?) so it was cool to try something new again i signed up with my yahoo-mail and the rest is history.
So the question is how did we connect with friends back then? oh i remember the best we had then was our yahoomail and yahoomessenger which was the only platform for people for people in for people for people in our region of the world to chat with and then we really felt cool chating real time with friends,we would Buzz! and BUzz!,join chat rooms and so on we also made use of other unpopular platform like ecards(i still remember the site),eJokes,eNews and but i guess there was still a vaccum left to be filled due to so many reasons, and then came Facebook and you can trust all my Naija peeps it was like the fahsion item u maust have, i recall a rumor back then that facebook was owned my a Nigerian (lol) ,so the facebook craze began and like they say that change is the most constant thing it really changed the way we see social networking.
There are currently over 3.25 Million Nigerians using Facebook from Nigeria and the users are increasing to show that it has come to stay and the idea that people want to share and connect with people in their lives, and do it with complete control over who they share with at all time makes facebook what it is today.so if there was no Facebook today how would you feel or let me rephrase if facebook shutsdown (Godforbid..lol) how would u feel?

Bomb411: SEE VIDEO: Nigeria Plane Crash Prophesied by Proph...

2012-06-06T00:48:00.001-07:00

Bomb411: SEE VIDEO: Nigeria Plane Crash Prophesied by Proph...: During a Snday sevice at his Synagogue of All Nations Church,Prophet T.B joshua called upon Nigerians to pray and fast against pl...

SEE VIDEO: Nigeria Plane Crash Prophesied by Prophet TB Joshua

2012-06-06T00:45:00.000-07:00

During a Snday sevice at his Synagogue of All Nations Church,Prophet T.B joshua called upon Nigerians to pray and fast against plane crash withing the country ......na now we jst dey hear am o