Do I Have Psychic Power

Building self esteem

2008-03-01T16:53:00.000-08:00

Its been a while since I last posted. Many things have been happening and mainly due to work.

I decided to post today to explain why I build www.today-self-esteem.com

I have been receiving e-mails from visitors and found a common thread was that low self esteem was ruling their lives. Once it is identified that someone suffers from low self exteem there are ways to build upon it and regain self confidence and reinforce self worth.

So to make life easier for all of us I decided to thoroughly research the subject and hence today self esteem was born. I would appreciate any thoughts you might have or if there is another subject page you believe I should add.

Advice Information

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2008-01-16T03:54:00.000-08:00

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Alexa widget has worked dropping my rank

2008-01-13T02:05:00.000-08:00

OK. Since I have installed the Alexa widget to my index pages I have noticed a drop of over one million in my traffic ranking. I also observed an increase at the same time in my search engine position.

I took this one step further and placed the widget on my internal pages and I am now waiting to see what effect this has. I did this as Alexa report page views as well and this seems to have some effect on your rankings.

If you want to increase your Alexa traffic ranking install the Alexa toolbar and the Alexa widget to your sites. It is working for me.

The site I have focused on is my main psychic ability website. It has gone from 2.9 million to 1.7 million since my last post.

I have used a few techniques to get the visitors as I have described and the one working for me is so far the traffic exchanges. I am not talking about having one traffic exchange sending me thousands of visitors as it would only be coming from the one ip address. No I have devised a way that the traffic exchange visitor leaves the exchange to view my site more formally.

How to Increase traffic to your site

2008-01-02T17:36:00.000-08:00

I have been reading that there are several techniques in gaining traffic to your site and I will discuss these now.

The first is to get an Alexa traffic ranking widget and place it on your pages. Alexa works mainly by visitors to your site who have the Alexa toolbar traffic indicator installed on their browser. Having the widget on your pages removes this need for the visitors to be actively participating in the program.

Once installed you will be sending traffic data from your site to Alexa.

I use a commonly used technique of having my splash page or website page rotating on traffic exchanges. This way I am getting targeted traffic to my page that has the widget installed. Therefore my traffic ranking is increasing exponentially with the amount of traffic I am getting.

This does several things for your site. One and most importantly with a high traffic ranking it places your page high on the traffic driectory where visitors feel more comfortable in reading your material. It sort of adds some autheniticty to your site.

Some may say this is exaggerating the traffic to your site but I believe it is good practice in promoting your site and thus reaping the rewards for your efforts.

Now I am not too sure if this is coincidence or not but when I installed the widget on one of my pages that was languishing on page 3 and 4 of Google it suddenly went to page 1. Thats right page 1 and was in position 7. In this position my traffic naturally went up through natural organic search.

The exchanges that I use are both new and old. My new and favorite traffic exchange is Grey Wolverine and I use this because it has the potential of building a downline that surfs for you and very entertaining with fantastic customer service.

The old established is Traffic Splash and this delivers the visitors in quick time and has a ten second timer to ensure the page fully loads.

If you need to see the splash page I am using it can be viewed here. What I am seeing is an increase in my site traffic and also I make a few sales to pay for my hosting.

Based upon what I have read and my own experience I beleive this is one of the fastest and legitimate ways to increase your Alexa traffic ranking and if I am right, a better search engine position.

Energy Healing a New Approach

2007-12-20T16:23:00.000-08:00

Energy Healing 101: Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki

You have probably come across exotic-sounding terms such as “chakra”, “prana”, “aura”, and “tantra” in your course of reading books on spirituality, sex, and healing in the New Age literature section of the bookstore. But what’s the real scoop behind these exotic vocabularies?

Are All Energy Healings the Same?

Chakra or energy center is a term used in Pranic healing, an ancient Hindu system of energy healing. “Prana” means life energy. “Aura” is another terminology traced to Pranic healing. Aura is a non-physical body that consists of energy, which exists along with our physical body. The aura that covers our body is said to have seven layers pertaining to the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of an individual as manifested by energy. Studying the color and thickness of auras give ideas on the state of health of individuals. Six colors are associated with aura and interpreted into six personalities. These colors are all present in an individual but one or two are more pronounced.

Green – ambitious achiever
Blue – spiritual peacemaker
White – unconventional chameleon
Red – activist
Orange – creative communicator
Violet - psychic

Although Tantra is popularly associated with the peculiar practice of sex and spirituality, it is another method of energy healing. It comes from the word “tan” which means to spread or expand. The concept of connectedness is a recurring theme in Tantric writings on sex and spirituality. As a method of healing, spirituality and sex figure prominently. It is presupposed that the union of man and woman can reach spiritual levels during orgasm, which removes the body and mind off collected impurities. These impurities being negative energies can in turn manifest as physical illnesses.

Unlike Pranic and Tantric healings, which have Hindu origins, Reiki originated from Japan. It is relatively younger than Pranic and Tantric healings having been rediscovered in the early 1900’s. Reiki stands for universal energy, an energy brought forth by higher intelligence. Students of Reiki are taught how to tap this energy to heal physical, emotional, and mental illnesses.

Although Pranic, Tantra, and Reiki are all systems of energy healing, they differ in the type of energy tapped for healing: life energy, sexual energy, and universal energy respectively.

The concepts of the connectedness of mind, body, and spirit; the connection of individuals to all living and nonliving things around them and to the universe; and how energy impacts physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being are some of the salient similarities of these three healing methods.

Why Do People Turn to Energy Healing?

Pranic, Tantric, and Reiki are considered alternative methods of healing. In spite of the availability and relative accessibility of modern medicine, how come more and more people are being drawned to them? Here are some possible reasons:

· Energy healing worked where modern medicine failed.

For several reasons both explainable and unexplainable, modern medical treatment failed to heal ailments and conditions in several if not many persons. Research or data may not be able to support this statement. But for the families of the dying as well as for the dying patient, they would take the risk of using alternative methods ranging from herbals and organics, faith healers, witch doctors, and New Age healing techniques just to be get well.

· People perceive modern medicine to be isolating.

Medical treatments are oftentimes focused on the disease and its causative agent, which can make a patient feel isolated and treated like a mere host of the disease. Although recent developments in hospital practice are gradually promoting the holistic treatment of a patient, the perception still persists. Unlike in energy healing, since energy and spirituality are intimately linked, the patient feels that all aspects of his health are being attended to.

· Energy healing is non-obtrusive and natural thus it is safer.

Repeated surgical procedures are physically and emotionally traumatic for most patients. It is but a logical and attractive option to both patient and families to look for less stressful health interventions. Moreover, with the rising popularity of New Age religions, going natural is the way to go.

· Energy healing is a good way of relieving stress.

Meditation is part and parcel of energy healing methods and this is an added come-on for highly stressed people. Moreover, sophisticated equipment is not required thus it becomes all the more convenient for students and future students of energy healing.

The battle between alternative healing and mainstream medicine continues as both present the benefits of their approach. But in the final analysis, what matters is the restoration of good health.

SELF IMPROVEMENT AND SUCCESS

2007-12-10T04:38:00.000-08:00

Everything that happens to us happens in purpose. And sometimes, one thing leads to another. Instead of locking yourself up in your cage of fears and crying over past heartaches, embarrassment and failures, treat them as your teachers and they will become your tools in both self improvement and success.

I remember watching Patch Adams – its my favorite movie, actually. Its one great film that will help you improve yourself. Hunter “patch” Adams is a medical student who failed to make it through the board exams. After months of suffering in melancholy, depression and suicidal attempts – he decided to seek for medical attention and voluntarily admitted himself in a psychiatric ward. His months of stay in the hospital led him to meeting different kinds of people. Sick people in that matter. He met a catatonic, a mentally retarded, a schizophrenic and so on. Patch found ways of treating his own ailment and finally realized he has to get back on track. He woke up one morning realizing that after all the failure and pains he has gone through, he still want to become the a doctor. He carries with himself a positive attitude that brought him self improvement and success. He didn’t only improved himself, but also the life of the people around him and the quality of life. Did he succeed? Needless to say, he became the best damn doctor his country has ever known.

So, when does self improvement become synonymous with success? Where do we start? Take these tips, friends…
*Stop thinking and feeling as if you’re a failure, because you’re not. How can others accept you if YOU can’t accept YOU?

*When you see hunks and models on TV, think more on self improvement, not self pitying. Self acceptance is not just about having nice slender legs, or great abs. Concentrate on inner beauty.

*When people feel so down and low about themselves, help them move up. Don’t go down with them. They’ll pull you down further and both of you will end up feeling inferior.

*The world is a large room for lessons, not mistakes. Don’t feel stupid and doomed forever just because you failed on a science quiz. There’s always a next time. Make rooms for self improvement.

*Take things one at a time. You don’t expect black sheep’s to be goody-two-shoes in just a snap of a finger. Self improvement is a one day at a time process.

*Self improvement results to inner stability, personality development and dig this …. SUCCESS. It comes from self confidence, self appreciation and self esteem.

* Set meaningful and achievable goals. Self improvement doesn’t turn you to be the exact replica of Cameron Diaz or Ralph Fiennes. It hopes and aims to result to an improved and better YOU.

*Little things mean BIG to other people. Sometimes, we don’t realize that the little things that we do like a pat on the back, saying “hi” or “hello”, greeting someone “good day” or telling Mr. Smith something like “hey, I love your tie!” are simple things that mean so much to other people. When we’re being appreciative about beautiful things around us and other people, we also become beautiful to them.

*When you’re willing to accept change and go through the process of self improvement, it doesn’t mean that everyone else is. The world is a place where people of different values and attitude hang out. Sometimes, even if you think you and your best friend always like to do the same thing together at the same time, she would most likely decline an invitation for self improvement.

We should always remember that there’s no such thing as ‘over night success’. Its always a wonderful feeling to hold on to the things that you already have now, realizing that those are just one of the things you once wished for. A very nice quote says that “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” We are all here to learn our lessons. Our parents, school teachers, friends, colleagues, officemates, neighbors… they are our teachers. When we open our doors for self improvement, we increase our chances to head to the road of success.

Page Rank 10 My website Visitors plus (Week 1)

2007-10-03T20:13:00.000-07:00

This is something new. I have signed up for a ten pound (US $21) page rank 10 website full page ad. This was used to promote my anxiety site and you can see the ad page here.

How does it work. The main site is trying to achieve page rank 10 and is currently 6. They provide you with a full page that is linked to other sites etc and the links are over 400k.

You build your ad page as I have done and wait a few days, maybe hours, for the search engine bots to come through. The site hosting the page will guarantee top 3 pages on Google in three weeks or your money back.

What do I expect out of this. I expect targeted traffic to my ad page and that targeted traffic will click through the links to my website. Traffic = clicks = dollars (wow).

I also expect my web site will hit a high page rank when Google does the page rank dance within the next few weeks.

This is week one. The page is indexed but not my completed ad page. I will post again in one week to update the results.

This one looks promising and is an addition to my traffic generation arsenal.

My Blog so far

2007-09-27T06:38:00.000-07:00

Well as you can see from my posts - I have tried a few things with my blog. The most successful ventures have been Technorati - Digg - Traffic Exchanges for traffic.

MyBlogLog community and Stumble Upon are my favorites and provide the most targeted traffic.

One thing I am not getting are comments. I do not see this as a good or a bad thing. I suppose some like to leave comments and others do not.

The purpose of the site really has been psychic ability and I must admit I strayed from this to some degree but I have put a lot of effort in on my main website by making it more friendlier. I have built into the site css, better navigation and more on topic pages.

My emails asked for more information which lead me to put up my anxiety remedy the herbal way site. This has then lead to other topic and once again when I have started to build something small it has turned into a monster. The feedback I have received has been nothing short of fantastic.

What has been the one most single factor in the success of my new site? You must see this and actively use it and you will gain the same astronomical results that I have. Here is the link to Link Referral.

I just joined. here's what happened. I visit 30 sites a day and write a review of 5 sites and leave a message on the forum. My site is then placed in the top ten sites for the day where other members view and review my site.

My traffic has gone up A LOT, my advertising is now successful (wink wink) and I am receiving some very good feedback. Try it, you will be as impressed as I am. Leave a comment if you like, I would be very interested to see if you have the same success as I am having. By the way, it is free.

I have just joined Technorati

2007-09-06T19:57:00.000-07:00

Social bookmarking is a main source of exposing your blog to others on the web. To this end I joined up with Technorati to see how my efforts will be received.

This is one way I am using Technorati Profile and the other is StartXchange a new experience in website traffic.

Want to improve your life?

2007-08-30T05:24:00.000-07:00

Want to improve your life in many different ways? Well, get some sleep! Actually, why we (and practically all other creatures) sleep remains a mystery that science still hasn't been able to solve. But what isn't mysterious is that we need sleep to function well both mentally and physically.

I'm sure you know that feeling when you have to face the day having slept poorly or for too few hours. You feel groggy, can't think straight, and your reflexes are slow. You feel cranky and out of sorts. But if you get into the habit of not getting enough sleep, it has a bad effect on your immune system and your mental health as well. Going for long periods without enough sleep can lead to bad moods, anger, and depression.

That's because when you sleep, your body is renewing itself, your muscle tissue is rebuilt and restored, growth hormone is secreted, and your mental energy is restored. Studies have recently found that sleeping plays a key role in solidifying learning and memory.

I know that sometimes it can be difficult to get to sleep, so here are a few tips I've collected. What really helps is to have a relaxing bedtime routine. Try to establish a set time for going to bed and for waking up, and stick to it as much as possible, even on the weekends. This will help set your body's clock for sleep. A little light exercise, but not too close to bedtime, can help you unwind.

Be sure to keep your bedroom cool, quiet, and dark. And use the bedroom only for sleeping – don't put a desk in there, for example. A warm cup of milk or relaxing herbal tea like chamomile can help. (Be sure to avoid caffeine and alcohol.) Playing soothing music can also help you stifle a "chattering mind" and signal relaxation.

So, to get the most out of life, sleep on it!

Free visitors to your blog in minutes

2007-07-10T05:12:00.000-07:00

I'm going to reveal a free and simple method that will guarantee your Blog or website will be visited by new surfers every day...

Using this system you can have your share of some of the million or so surfers who are online right now visiting your Blog or websites in the next few minutes!

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Article writing or avoiding duplicate content

2007-06-22T07:11:00.001-07:00

I thought you could use Jetspinner and Jetsubmitter
in your website marketing efforts.

Jetspinner is completely free and will allow you
to create hundreds of unique articles for article marketing when used manually. There is of course a paid version that will automatically submit your spun articles to many article directories saving you time.

You can quickly and easily establish yourself as an expert
in your field and create hundreds of backlinks that avoid
Google's duplicate content penalties.

To see this in action you must click here and remember there is a free version with all of the professional version. This is a must have in website building.

Its pretty straight forward. You take your article - generally copy and paste - into the field online. Fill in one or two details such as title etc and press enter. What then happens is the software re-writes your content in human form, that makes sense, up to 999 times. This is then provided to you in a zip format where you could make 999 web pages on the same subject without any duplicate content penalty. Then to take it one step further the online software can submit that very same article that has been originated 999 times to article websites. Wow, now thats what I call linking.

It is very powerful and I knew you would want to see it too.

A new approach to make money from your Blog

2007-06-15T17:43:00.000-07:00

I have recently acquired a membership with Oxado. A quick description follows and the Oxado ads component can be seen on this post.

Why chose Oxado
* Completely free
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* No traffic minimum
* Monthly payments
* Relevant ads, non intrusive and useful for your visitors
* Easy integration in any Web environment
* A wide range of formats for a better integration in your web site (see all available formats)
* More than 3 million ads covering the United Kingdom, Ireland, the United States, Canada, France, Belgium, Germany, The Netherlands, Spain, Italy, Poland, Denmark, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Austria, Mexico, Brazil and Australia.
* Ads are selected automatically
* Detailed reports
* Automatic ad rotation
* Good advertisers
* A wide variety in the ad topics, from banks and insurance companies to local companies
* Direct access to thousands of advertisers

Its easy to join here is the link Webmasters, make money displaying Oxado contextual ads!

I will soon report the cpc rate compared to other similar providers in following posts. If anyone else has a similar experience please leave a comment. At this stage the cpc return is quite high compared to the others.

Forgive and Forget

2007-05-12T21:30:00.000-07:00

You know that old saying, "Forgive and forget?" Well, I think we all know that sometimes that is easier said than done. But now there's more reason than ever to make an effort to clear any resentments or grudges that we may still harbor over someone else's past actions or old events.

It turns out that according to recent research, such emotions as resentment, bitterness, anger, and fear all have physical consequences, like increased blood pressure and hormonal changes. And when these emotions are not resolved, it can lead to a state of chronic stress, leaving the door open to other illnesses.

Forgiveness has actually more to do with freeing yourself from harmful energies that can affect your health and well-being than letting someone "off the hook" or approving of their past actions. As they say, "Do you want to be bitter or better?" And it's also important to forgive yourself, if there's anything you may be blaming yourself for.

One good place to start is to try this simple exercise. Sit down with a pen and paper and write down all the things that you consider you have done wrong. Read through the list and then say, "I did the best I could with what I knew at that time. I now forgive myself and set myself free." Then burn or shred the list. Now do the same for any other people who may have hurt you. Insert each name into the statement: "So and so did the best they could with what they knew at that time. I now forgive (insert name) and set myself free."

Something that I draw inspiration from is something that you might find helpful too. It's called "Discourse on Loving Kindness" and is attributed to Buddha:

Let your love flow outward through the universe,
To its height, its depth, its broad extent,
A limitless love, without hatred or enmity.
Then as you stand or walk,
Sit or lie down,
As long as you are awake,
Strive for this with a one-pointed mind;
Your life will bring heaven to earth.

Lost souls

2007-05-05T19:23:00.000-07:00

Have you heard of this saying in the past?

It is a technique to use amongst practitioners that when dealing with persons that have some sort of problem, such as self esteem issues, that they go back into their life and break it down piece by piece. An example is a person who presents with no confidence because they feel worthless.

Going back into such a persons life will come to a point where at that time they did not feel worthless and was actually quite confident. For example, "I was so happy because I got a push bike for Christmas". This is where the practitioner finds out what happened to change things from that point on. It is generally a traumatic event that was not resolved or it was a misconception in that persons mind.

Once identified these issues can be addressed. Up until that point where the balance is achieved the person is said to be a lost soul. Not lost as in the true sense, but one who has wondered off the path and not traveled their natural path of a life with complete happiness and fulfillment.

The movie "The Secret"

2007-04-13T00:20:00.000-07:00

As an avid psychic I often search and find blogs, forums posts etc to see what is on offer. I came across one so called psychic who quoted excerpts exactly from the dvd top seller "The Secret". I believe this person has no credibility at all and anyone who has seen the movie would think that.

Now, have you seen this movie? Well if not then your in for a treat. Do anything you can to get a copy and watch it. This is one of the grandest masterpieces available in modern times for those interested in this thought in life.

You will see that this movie teaches what I have believed all along that psychics, clairvoyants astrologist's and the like are another form of life improvement or personal coaches. Of course they are talented people and provide what I believe are the most remarkable service and I am indebted to them. After all, this is my way of life.

If you have seen "The Secret" did you find it credible? At the very least it provides another life skill that we can use.

Well until next time, we will continue our cosmic journey and discuss a few ravelings that come before us.

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Smile - Be successful

2007-04-05T16:18:00.000-07:00

As I said in my last post, psychics, astrologist's or spiritualists, I look upon them all as very talented people with some remarkable abilities. I want to share this thought with you today from someone I call My Life Coach. I hope you enjoy it as I did.

Smile! Did you ever have a stranger come up to you and say that? Well, I did. I was waiting in line at the bank the other day, and someone said that to me. She also added, "Things can't be that bad, can they?" Now, I wasn't feeling bad about anything – just thinking something through. But I guess I must have had a serious expression on my face.

Now, I don't think anyone can go around smiling all the time, but I've discovered that smiling can do quite a lot for you. First, it makes you more attractive. People are more drawn to others who smile, and smiling can be contagious. It also uses quite a few muscles in the face and makes you look younger. I'm all for that! Who needs a face lift when they can smile instead?

When you're stressed, you can look tired or worn down. And there again, smiling not only makes you look better, but the simple act of smiling can actually help relieve stress and lower your blood pressure. It can also boost your immune system to work better, probably because you are more relaxed. This in turn helps your body release good things like endorphins, natural painkillers, and serotonin, all of which make you feel better and raise your spirits.

Smiling can even help you be more successful. When you smile, you appear confident, and it's only natural that people react to that. When a quick smile can help boost your energy, your looks, and your confidence, there are so many reasons to smile. Why not do a smile "check" throughout the day? It will help keep your mood and energy up, where they belong.

So, say "cheese"!

What is an Astrologist?

2007-04-03T03:49:00.000-07:00

Today I want to share a thought with you. What is an Astrologist?

I have been asked many times. My answer is that a astrologist is just like a personal trainer. Read through the following excerpt from my astrologist. As you will see not only can an astrologist predict life patterns from the stars and a variety of other sources they can also coach us in our life path.

Imagine, I am sitting at home and this is the forwarding paragraph of my report. My immediate thought was, yes thats right I should have an exercise snack. See - my astrologist not only provides me with a service but is also my personal trainer!

Feel like a snack? Well, how about an "exercise snack"? Now, I know that "exercise" can be like a dirty word to a lot of us. So I was intrigued by an article I read recently in one of the major magazines about a new way of looking at exercise.

What comes to mind when you think of "exercise," Terry? If you're like me, maybe you come up with activities like sports and running or lifting weights. But a lot of other physical activity has similar effects and also qualifies as exercise.

Actually, anything that gets you walking and moving can be called exercise. As I'm sure you know, walking is good for everybody. But so also are gardening, dancing, house cleaning, or bicycling. And the good news is that even done in short bursts of time like ten minutes – a "snack," so to speak – four times a day can reduce your risk of stroke and heart disease.

Once you realize this, it becomes fun to figure out ways of getting those "snacks" in your day. Maybe you can park your car further away to walk to the store or work. Try pacing around as you talk on the phone, or using the stairs instead of an elevator or escalator. Or get up during a television commercial break and walk around or up and down some stairs.

And if you need any further encouragement, it seems that, besides being good for us in helping build and maintain muscles and help prevent heart disease, exercise can also help renew brain cells in the area that controls learning and memory.

So, Terry, indulge in some "exercise snacks," and be not only healthier, but also smarter!

Dealing With Workplace Bullying And Harassment

2007-03-24T17:09:00.000-07:00

A great psychiatrist gave a presentation at a large conference attended by colleagues and his peers the subject being workplace harassment and bullying. As he spoke every audience member were glued and intently listening to every one of his words.

The psychiatrist spoke of two projections that we are able to portray in our every day life. One projection is best summarized and depicted as the projection we have when driving our car down the street and someone, typically the bully, cuts in on us or turns in front of us. With this projection we immediately get angry and put our hand on the horn gesticulating at the other driver with a barrage of verbal obscenities.

The other projection is when we are shopping and pushing our trolley along calmly and someone comes into our space, barging in front of us or stopping suddenly causing us to brake to avoid a collision with them. We immediately get angry, let our trolley "bump" the other or we say something.

The true projection we should have is one when we are driving along we will expect someone, the bully, to pull out in front of us and we will expect someone to turn in front of us. We should expect when shopping that someone will storm in front of us and stop suddenly. The way we deal with this is to remain calm, saying to yourself "just as I thought someone has come into my space".

When you know this and expect this and it happens you can react by slowing down and avoid the situation. You can remain calm and continue on your way as you knew this was going to happen and you expected it to happen and it did. You don't get upset and would not even give it a second thought.

This is the projection we should have because when we expect it to happen we are prepared to take the right course of action remaining calm and in control.

This is the same with our workplace bully and harassment. We know their in the office and we know they are going to upset us. But knowing this we are prepared for them and not intimidated by their actions.

Dealing with this is one simple step. When being bullied or harassed by a work colleague put your hand up to them, about one to two feet away, just like a policeman using the stop signal with his hand. You then say to the person, "STOP! You are harassing/bullying me, I do not like the nature of your tone and request you stop speaking in this manner immediately". Imagine the reaction you will get from the colleague, especially if they continue and you repeat yourself several times.

If this is the case, summon immediately a co-worker. With your hand in the stop position, turn to a co-worker and ask them to come to your assistance saying, "Excuse me, could you please come to my assistance, I am being treated unfairly and I would like a witness and a person to provide me with support as I feel very uncomfortable in this situation".

Think about the reaction. If it escalates you have a witness for any future action you might take. Most of all you are putting this person on immediate notice that you will not be treated this way and will not under any circumstances accept such behavior.

About the Author: Mr. Glass has for many years worked in the workplace dealing with harassment and bullying legal actions brought against a person who acts in this manner. It is behavior of bullying and harassment that is not to be accepted in the workplace and the Employer is vicariously responsible and therefore can lead to a compensation hearing. Prevention is far better than cure, we need to stop the bully and harassment.

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Your secret to success

2007-03-13T04:08:00.000-07:00

Life Mapping: A Vision of Success

Success is more than economic gains, titles, and degrees. Planning for success is about mapping out all the aspects of your life. Similar to a map, you need to define the following details: origin, destination, vehicle, backpack, landmarks, and route.

Origin: Who you are

A map has a starting point. Your origin is who you are right now. Most people when asked to introduce themselves would say, “Hi, I’m Jean and I am a 17-year old, senior highschool student.” It does not tell you about who Jean is; it only tells you her present preoccupation. To gain insights about yourself, you need to look closely at your beliefs, values, and principles aside from your economic, professional, cultural, and civil status. Moreover, you can also reflect on your experiences to give you insights on your good and not-so-good traits, skills, knowledge, strengths, and weaknesses. Upon introspection, Jean realized that she was highly motivated, generous, service-oriented, but impatient. Her inclination was in the biological-medical field. Furthermore, she believed that life must serve a purpose, and that wars were destructive to human dignity.

Destination: A vision of who you want to be

“Who do want to be?” this is your vision. Now it is important that you know yourself so that you would have a clearer idea of who you want to be; and the things you want to change whether they are attitudes, habits, or points of view. If you hardly know yourself, then your vision and targets for the future would also be unclear. Your destination should cover all the aspects of your being: the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. Continuing Jean’s story, after she defined her beliefs, values, and principles in life, she decided that she wanted to have a life dedicated in serving her fellowmen.

Vehicle: Your Mission

A vehicle is the means by which you can reach your destination. It can be analogized to your mission or vocation in life. To a great extent, your mission would depend on what you know about yourself. Bases on Jean’s self-assessment, she decided that she was suited to become a doctor, and that she wanted to become one. Her chosen vocation was a medical doctor. Describing her vision-mission fully: it was to live a life dedicated to serving her fellowmen as a doctor in conflict-areas.

Travel Bag: Your knowledge, skills, and attitude

Food, drinks, medicines, and other travelling necessities are contained in a bag. Applying this concept to your life map, you also bring with you certain knowledge, skills, and attitudes. These determine your competence and help you in attaining your vision. Given such, there is a need for you to assess what knowledge, skills, and attitudes you have at present and what you need to gain along the way. This two-fold assessment will give you insights on your landmarks or measures of success. Jean realized that she needed to gain professional knowledge and skills on medicine so that she could become a doctor. She knew that she was a bit impatient with people so she realized that this was something she wanted to change.

Landmarks and Route: S.M.A.R.T. objectives

Landmarks confirm if you are on the right track while the route determines the travel time. Thus, in planning out your life, you also need to have landmarks and a route. These landmarks are your measures of success. These measures must be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound. Thus you cannot set two major landmarks such as earning a master’s degree and a doctorate degree within a period of three years, since the minimum number of years to complete a master’s degree is two years. Going back to Jean as an example, she identified the following landmarks in her life map: completing a bachelor’s degree in biology by the age of 21; completing medicine by the age of 27; earning her specialization in infectious diseases by the age of 30; getting deployed in local public hospitals of their town by the age of 32; and serving as doctor in war-torn areas by the age of 35.

Anticipate Turns, Detours, and Potholes

The purpose of your life map is to minimize hasty and spur-of-the-moment decisions that can make you lose your way. But oftentimes our plans are modified along the way due to some inconveniences, delays, and other situations beyond our control. Like in any path, there are turns, detours, and potholes thus; we must anticipate them and adjust accordingly.

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Its time to start a healthy life

2007-03-13T01:04:00.000-07:00

"The Way to Wellness" It's time to start a Healthy life: your 7 days program

How many times have you gone to sleep at night, swearing you'll go to the gym in the morning, and then changing your mind just eight hours later because when you get up, you don't feel like exercising?

While this can happen to the best of us, it doesn't mean you should drop the ball altogether when it comes to staying fit. What people need to realize is that staying active and eating right are critical for long-term health and wellness -- and that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. The more you know about how your body responds to your lifestyle choices, the better you can customize a nutrition and exercise plan that is right for you. When you eat well, increase your level of physical activity, and exercise at the proper intensity, you are informing your body that you want to burn a substantial amount of fuel. This translates to burning fat more efficiently for energy.
In other words, proper eating habits plus exercise equals fast metabolism, which, in turn gives you more energy throughout the day and allows you to do more physical work with less effort.

The true purpose of exercise is to send a repetitive message to the body asking for improvement in metabolism, strength, aerobic capacity and overall fitness and health. Each time you exercise, your body responds by upgrading its capabilities to burn fat throughout the day and night, Exercise doesn't have to be intense to work for you, but it does need to be consistent.

I recommend engaging in regular cardiovascular exercise four times per week for 20 to 30 minutes per session, and resistance training four times per week for 20 to 25 minutes per session. This balanced approach provides a one-two punch, incorporating aerobic exercise to burn fat and deliver more oxygen, and resistance training to increase lean body mass and burn more calories around the block.

Here's a sample exercise program that may work for you:

* Warm Up -- seven to eight minutes of light aerobic activity intended to increase blood flow and lubricate and warm-up your tendons and joints.

* Resistance Training -- Train all major muscle groups. One to two sets of each exercise. Rest 45 seconds between sets.

* Aerobic Exercise -- Pick two favorite activities, they could be jogging, rowing, biking or cross-country skiing, whatever fits your lifestyle. Perform 12 to 15 minutes of the first activity and continue with 10 minutes of the second activity. Cool down during the last five minutes.

* Stretching -- Wrap up your exercise session by stretching, breathing deeply, relaxing and meditating.

When starting an exercise program, it is important to have realistic expectations. Depending on your initial fitness level, you should expect the following changes early on.

* From one to eight weeks -- Feel better and have more energy.

* From two to six months -- Lose size and inches while becoming leaner. Clothes begin to fit more loosely. You are gaining muscle and losing fat.

* After six months -- Start losing weight quite rapidly.

Once you make the commitment to exercise several times a week, don't stop there. You should also change your diet and/or eating habits,' says Zwiefel. Counting calories or calculating grams and percentages for certain nutrients is impractical. Instead, I suggest these easy-to-follow guidelines:

* Eat several small meals (optimally four) and a couple of small snacks throughout the day
* Make sure every meal is balanced -- incorporate palm-sized proteins like lean meats, fish, egg whites and dairy products, fist-sized portions of complex carbohydrates like whole-wheat bread and pasta, wild rice, multigrain cereal and potatoes, and fist-sized portions of vegetable and fruits
* Limit your fat intake to only what's necessary for adequate flavor
* Drink at least eight 8-oz. glasses of water throughout the day
* I also recommend that you take a multi-vitamin each day to ensure you are getting all the vitamins and minerals your body needs.

I suppose that's all I can think of for now. I should extend my thanks to a doctor friend of mine. Without him, I wouldn't be able to write this article, or keep my sanity.

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Natural medicine

2007-03-13T01:02:00.000-07:00

5000 Year-Old Medical Secret Unearthed!

When you get sick, you go to the doctor. And the doctor will, of course, prescribe medicines. You will go and buy medicines. You take them, and hopefully, you get well.

This is how the health profession goes on nowadays – a cycle of diagnosis and prescription.

If anyone were to give you herbs for medicine, you would probably say that that person was a quack.

But nowadays, studies are being conducted to see if there are really is any merit to what is called natural medicine.

Natural medicine is the use of natural methods, herbal medicines, and traditional practices to heal ailments. Every culture has a form of natural medicine. In ancient cultures, village medicine men served as the doctors of the community, passing on medical knowledge to the apprentices that followed them.

Many categories of the healing methods fall under natural medicine. Among these are traditional medicine, complementary medicine, and alternative medicine.

Usually, natural medicine refers to medical practices that were in place before the advent of modern medicine.

This includes herbal medicine, or phytotherapy, which is prevalent in Chinese, Ayurvedic(or Indian), and Greek medicine.

Upon the advent of modern medicine, many professionals discarded the use of herbs in favor of man-made medicine. The fact that these treatments are based on the healing properties of some herbs was forgotten.

For example, opium, digitalis, quinine, and aspirin all have their roots in traditional medicine.

Natural medicine can be considered as a lost art. This does not mean that it has lost efficacy over time. In some cases, natural therapy is actually better than modern medicine. This leads some doctors to seriously consider and study the possible uses of natural medicine

Before we continue, it is important to stress that not all the natural remedies are legitimate. It would help to only try those remedies which have been thoroughly studied and are relatively risk free.

Take herbal medicine for example. There are many well-documented and studied herbal remedies available. However, only those that deal with minor ailments such as cough, colds, fever, skin rashes, and its ilk are likely to be recommended by health professionals. These remedies are sometimes superior to synthetic medicine. This is because herbal medicines are less likely to cause negative side effects.

Currently there are numerous organizations that study the effects and advocacy of natural medicine – among which is herbal medicine. Some governments and health agencies openly advocate the use of natural methods since they are inexpensive and relatively risk-free.

As their studies compile, more herbs and treatments are added to the list of accepted medicines. However, many herbs and treatments have been proven to be bogus medicine. This represents a challenge for both the user and the agencies because they have to ascertain that the treatments they either use or advocate are legitimate.

There exist today many alternative medical treatments that fall under natural medicine. However, not all of them have been proven to be effective. You could mention homeopathy, aromatherapy, acupuncture, and other alternative medical treatments. It would pay to consult the experts as to the legitimacy of these treatments.

Natural medicine should also be thought of as an accompanying medicine. Right now, the current collective medical thought suggests that natural medicine be used only to supplement accepted modern medical practices. In that case of minor ailments your expert we actually advise you to take natural therapies instead.

The practice of modern medicine revolves around diagnosing an illness and prescribing treatments for such. Natural medicine is helpful because it suggests that treatment be not necessarily given only when sick. Natural medicine strives to make each patient practice good health habits. These habits include good diet, healthy living, and the regular natural treatment.

It is this same line of thought that leads our parents to tell us to eat our vegetables. Yes, a healthy lifestyle and will do no harm to our well-being. And this is the foundation of natural medicine – may it be massage, herbal medicine, aromatherapy or others.

It is funny but true that science, in its quest for excellence, is studying the knowledge of sages past. This, surprisingly, leads us back to the remedies nature offers. The possibilities of finding remedies to everyday illnesses in natural medicine are encouraging. So staying tuned to studying these remedies is worthwhile until we can verify that these therapies are truly helpful to our health and our society.

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Harness your self attraction

2007-03-13T00:59:00.000-07:00

Does a Law on Human Attraction Exist?

“Opposites attract” is a law of attraction, at least where electromagnetism is concerned. But are there laws about attraction between two people? “In a world that is full of strangers” as a line in a famous song of the 1980’s goes, is there a clear set of rules that allows two people to fall for each other?

Is attraction a matter of chemistry?

Maybe. According to scientists, the attraction between animals of the opposite sex is all about chemicals called pheromones. The effect of pheromones in behavior of insects is the most studied to date. It has been observed, at least in some experiments, that pheromones are responsible for communication among same species and colony of ants. The horrible odor released by skunks to ward off enemies is said to be a kind of pheromone. Some species of apes rub pheromone-containing urine on the feet of potential mates to attract them. Some scientists believe that animals (usually the females) such as insects and mammals send out these chemical signals to tell the male of their species that their genes are different from theirs. This gene diversity is important in producing offspring with better chances of survival. The perfume industry has capitalized on pheromones as a means to increase one’s sexual attractiveness to the opposite sex. Animals such as the whale and the musk deer were hunted down for these chemicals.

Lately, scientists are looking into the existence of human pheromones and its role in mate selection. There are many conflicting views in the realm of biology, chemistry, genetics, and psychology. Most scientists would assert that these do not exist, or if they do, do not play a role in sexual attraction between a man and a woman. But new researches such as that conducted by Swiss researchers from the University of Bern led by Klaus Wedekind are slowly making these scientists rethink their stand. Their experiment involved women sniffing the cotton shirts of different men during their ovulation period. It was found out that women prefer the smell of men’s shirts that were genetically different, but also shared similarities with the women’s genes. This, like in the case of insects and other mammals, was to ensure better and healthier characteristics for their future children. But researchers also cautioned that preference for a male odor is affected by the women’s ovulation period, the food that men eat, perfumes and other scented body products, and the use of contraceptive pills.

Does personality figure in sexual attraction?

Yes, but so does your perception of a potential mate’s personality. According to a research conducted by Klohnen, E.C., & S. Luo in 2003 on interpersonal attraction and personality, a person’s sense of self-security and at least the person’s perception of his/her partner were found to be strong determinants of attraction in hypothetical situations. What does this tell us? We prefer a certain personality type, which attracts you to a person. But aside from the actual personality of the person, which can only be verified through close interaction through time, it is your perception of your potential partner that attracts you to him/her, whether the person of your affection truly has that kind of personality or not. This could probably account for a statement commonly heard from men and women on their failed relationships: “I thought he/she was this kind of person.”

So how does attraction figure in relationships?

You have probably heard that attraction is a prelude, or a factor towards a relationship. Most probably, at least in the beginning; but attraction alone cannot make a relationship work. It is that attraction that makes you notice a person from the opposite sex, but once you get to know the person more, attraction is just one consideration. Shared values, dreams, and passions become more significant in long-term relationships.

So should I stop trying to become attractive?

More than trying to become physically attractive, work on all aspects of your health: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Physical attraction is still a precursor. Remember, biology predisposes us to choose the partner with the healthiest genes. Where your emotions are concerned, just ask this to yourself: would you want to spend time with a person who feels insecure about him/herself? Probably not! There is wisdom in knowing yourself: who you are, your beliefs, values, and dreams. And do not pretend to be someone you are not. Fooling another person by making him/her think that you share the same values and beliefs is only going to cause you both disappointments. When you are healthy in all aspects, attractiveness becomes a consequence and not an end. As mentioned in the Klohnen and Luo’s research, a person’s sense of self-security matters, perhaps even beyond attraction. But remember: do these things for yourself and not for other people. Only then can you truly harness your attractiveness as a person.

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Every problem has a solution

2007-03-13T00:55:00.000-07:00

More than One Way to Skin a Cat: Adventures in Creative Thinking

How many times have you caught yourself saying that there could be no other solution to a problem – and that that problem leads to a dead end? How many times have you felt stumped knowing that the problem laying before you is one you cannot solve. No leads. No options. No solutions.

Did it feel like you had exhausted all possible options and yet are still before the mountain – large, unconquerable, and impregnable? When encountering such enormous problems, you may feel like you're hammering against a steel mountain. The pressure of having to solve such a problem may be overwhelming.

But rejoice! There might be some hope yet!

With some creative problem-solving techniques you may be able to look at your problem in a different light. And that light might just be the end of the tunnel that leads to possible solutions.

First of all, in the light of creative problem-solving, you must be open-minded to the fact that there may be more than just one solution to the problem. And, you must be open to the fact that there may be solutions to problems you thought were unsolvable.

Now, with this optimistic mindset, we can try to be a little bit more creative in solving our problems.

Number one; maybe the reason we cannot solve our problems is that we have not really taken a hard look at what the problem is. Here, trying to understanding the problem and having a concrete understanding of its workings is integral solving the problem. If you know how it works, what the problem is, then you have a better foundation towards solving the problem.

Not trying to make the simple statement of what problem is. Try to identify the participating entities and what their relationships with one another are. Take note of the things you stand to gain any stand to lose from the current problem. Now you have a simple statement of what the problem is.

Number two; try to take note of all of the constraints and assumptions you have the words of problem. Sometimes it is these assumptions that obstruct our view of possible solutions. You have to identify which assumptions are valid, in which assumptions need to be addressed.

Number three; try to solve the problem by parts. Solve it going from general view towards the more detailed parts of the problem. This is called the top-down approach. Write down the question, and then come up with a one-sentence solution to that from them. The solution should be a general statement of what will solve the problem. From here you can develop the solution further, and increase its complexity little by little.

Number four; although it helps to have critical thinking aboard as you solve a problem, you must also keep a creative, analytical voice at the back of your head. When someone comes up with a prospective solution, tried to think how you could make that solution work. Try to be creative. At the same time, look for chinks in the armor of that solution.

Number five; it pays to remember that there may be more than just one solution being developed at one time. Try to keep track of all the solutions and their developments. Remember, there may be more than just one solution to the problem.

Number six; remember that old adage," two heads are better than one." That one is truer than it sounds. Always be open to new ideas. You can only benefit from listening to all the ideas each person has. This is especially true when the person you're talking to has had experience solving problems similar to yours.

You don't have to be a gung-ho, solo hero to solve the problem. If you can organize collective thought on the subject, it would be much better.

Number seven; be patient. As long as you persevere, there is always a chance that a solution will present itself. Remember that no one was able to create an invention the first time around.

Creative thinking exercises can also help you in your quest be a more creative problems solver.

Here is one example.

Take a piece of paper and write any word that comes to mind at the center. Now look at that word then write the first two words that come to your mind. This can go on until you can build a tree of related words. This helps you build analogical skills, and fortify your creative processes.

So, next time you see a problem you think you can not solve, think again. The solution might just be staring you right in the face. All it takes is just a little creative thinking, some planning, and a whole lot of work.

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Dream Your Life

2007-03-13T00:48:00.000-07:00

Impossible is Just a Word

Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn't fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn't dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

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