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Fifty Shades Darker (Book 2) by E.L. James (REVIEW)

2013-05-20T01:46:00.000-04:00

Fifty Shades Darker is Book 2 in the FIFTY SHADES trilogy written by E.L. JAMES. In the end of the first book, Anastasia Steele runs away and doesn't

want to keep any relationship with Christian Grey. In this book we also learn a little bit about Christian Grey's childhood. The Prologue of the book is,

PROLOGUE

He’s come back. Mommy’s asleep or she’s sick again.

I hide and curl up small under the table in the kitchen. Through my fingers I can see Mommy. She is asleep on the couch. Her hand is on the sticky green rug, and he’s wearing his big boots with the shiny buckle and standing over Mommy shouting.

He hits Mommy with a belt. Get up! Get up! You are one fucked-up bitch. You are one fucked-up bitch. You are one fucked-up bitch. You are one fucked-up bitch. You are one fucked-up bitch. You are one fucked-up bitch.

Mommy makes a sobbing noise. Stop. Please stop. Mommy doesn’t scream. Mommy curls up small.

I have my fingers in my ears, and I close my eyes. The sound stops.

He turns and I can see his boots as he stomps into the kitchen. He still has the belt. He is trying to find me.

He stoops down and grins. He smells nasty. Of cigarettes and drink. There you are, you little shit.

A chilling wail wakes him. Christ! He’s drenched in sweat and his heart is pounding. What the fuck? He sits bolt upright in bed and puts his head in hands. Fuck. They’re back. The noise was me. He takes a deep steadying breath, trying to rid his mind and nostrils of the smell of cheap bourbon and stale Camel cigarettes.

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The book was okay to read. It was fun to read the emails going back n forth between Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. Those emails made me chuckle. It gives us a little more insight of the story. Personally, I enjoyed this book out of the three.

You can purchase this book on Amazon.ca for around $ 10.

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How to Calm down an Angry Wife

2013-05-20T01:24:00.000-04:00

So recently I had an argument with my husband and I was really angry. My husband didn't know what to do so I decided to post an article I found on the internet which gives guys ideas as to how to calm down an angry wife.

Hopefully, this might help some couples. This article is from mensxp.com

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Every wife is prone to getting upset with her husband. As long as this doesn’t happen regularly,

you are just another couple having a few issues. However, if her bouts of anger become chronic, it suggests a severe problem in your relationship that needs to be sorted. Irrespective of which scenario is more applicable to your condition, you need to know the basics about handling an angry wife.

1) Find Her Melting Point

Every lady has a few melting points. No, this doesn’t refer to the temperature at which she will melt into a pulp but typical things that drive her crazy. Make a list of these. Memorize them like your daily prayers or the national anthem. By mistake, if you commit the blunder of doing something that will invite her wrath, immediately inform her about it with a sullen, sorry look.

2) Don’t Present Any Reasoning For Your Actions

During her outburst, she is unlikely to hear your side of the story. Just remain focused on her. It should appear to her that you are paying attention to what she is saying. Not doing so can make here angrier, accusing you of ignoring her. Don’t argue or try to present counter-claims. Just get hold of a seating position and face her verbal assault like a soldier. Don’t ask her to calm down or take a chill pill. These are precisely the kind of things that adds more fuel to the argument. In fact, it is better to stay mute as long as she is animatedly shouting at you.

3) Try to Agree With Her, Even Better, Surrender to Her

You don’t want to look foolish, i.e. presenting a fake sense of approval. Just use your body language to convey that you agree with her reason for getting angry. For instance, nod your head and occasionally, let out a slow sigh that indicates you have surrendered to her reasoning. Not doing so will make her shout more. The sooner you give-in to her anger, higher are the chances of placating her.

4) Don’t Let It Hurt Too Much

By now, you should have realized that women are prone to venting out their emotions in the form of anger fits. It is a feature associated with wives across the world. So don’t let her attack on your integrity, job or even parents prick you. Most probably, she isn't even aware about most of the words dropping out of her mouth. Just try to take it like a man. Sit back or lean against the wall and let her tire herself out. If you let these things bother you, it will ignite retribution in you.

5) Don’t Run Away From the Scene

This is probably the worst thing you could do. You need to understand that though you are suffering in this scenario, in a way it is working towards calming her. For many women, verbal outburst of anger is induced by those unavoidable hormonal issues. Thus, you might be helping her and ensuring that the next few weeks would be more peaceful. Yes, it seems like a natural thing to do, i.e. ducking from the scene but this will make her more resentful and frustrated. Further, till what extent can you really escape any situation that involves your wife?

6) On a Serious Note: Her Anger Might be a Cry for Help

Many times, anger bouts are precipitated due to deep-seated issues. For instance, your wife might be getting angry since she sees a pattern in you which resemble her father’s mannerisms whom she resents. Such issues need to be tackled with extreme care. Firstly, you need to decode the underlying cause. If it is just another fault committed by you, you can seek an apology and diffuse the situation. However, if it turns out that there are some serious emotional issues weighing on your wife’s mind, you need to be her guiding soul. Try to talk to her or tell her that you will accompany her to a counselor. In such cases, your wife needs your support to let bygones be bygones and forgive herself or someone else who had hurt her in the past.

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10 Tips to stick to your Diet Plan

2013-02-18T23:20:00.001-05:00

I am sure we are all faced with a challenge to stick to our diet plans. For some it is easier than others. It is very hard for me to do because I don't cook. My mother-in-law stays home, so thanks to her, she cooks. My biggest weakness is
portion control. I cannot stop eating. Whenever I go out to a restaurant and if I happen to like the food, my diet and weight loss plans go out the window. I just sit there and enjoy the food and treat my stomach as a bottomless pit. I have to pay for it later by guilt but I don't think about that at the time. I have read a lot on how to control your portion while eating but it never works for me. So I did some research and found these 10 tips to stick to your diet plan written by Dr. Judith Beck. I just wanted to share that list with you guys and we can all try it together.

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1) Don’t even try to change your eating until you have learned important skills, such as how to motivate yourself every day, how to get yourself to use good eating habits, how to withstand hunger and craving, and how to get yourself back on track immediately when you make a mistake.

2) Motivate yourself every day by reading a long list of reasons that you want to lose weight every morning. Pull out this list at vulnerable times of the day, as well.

3) Eat everything sitting down, slowly, and enjoy every bite–whether or not you feel like it. It’s much more difficult to allow yourself to eat off plan, eat mindlessly, or binge if you are doing this.

4) Stay accountable. Report (whether or not you have used good eating habits and followed your eating plan) to another person–daily–through email, texting, or voice messages. Stay accountable to yourself by weighing yourself every day.

5) Stop looking for the perfect diet or the perfect combination of foods. Eat in a very healthy way but allow yourself to have one favorite food, in moderation, every single day. If you’re tempted to eat more of this food or go on to other foods you hadn’t planned to eat, then consume it shortly before bedtime, brush your teeth, and get in bed.

6) Change your mindset about food and eating. Recognize that you can eat whatever you want whenever you want OR you can be thinner. You can’t have it both ways.

7) Prove to yourself that hunger is never an emergency (if you don’t have a serious medical condition). Skip lunch and snacks one day. You’ll find that hunger is only mildly uncomfortable, compared to real discomfort such as you might have experienced after surgery or after breaking a bone; that hunger comes and goes, lasting no more than 5-10 minutes at a time, usually; that hunger is certainly tolerable.

8) Teach yourself the difference between hunger (that empty feeling in your stomach when you haven’t eaten for a few hours) and craving or the desire to eat (which you will feel in your mouth or throat). Ultimately, you want to just label what you’re feeling (hunger, craving, tiredness, boredom, or a negative emotion) and tolerate it without eating. In the short-run, have a list of powerful distractions to turn your attention away from food.

9) Regularize your eating with a set plan of meals and snacks. Some people do well with no snacks, some with a snack after each meal, some with two snacks after dinner. Eat only when it’s time to eat; not when you feel like eating.

10) Tell yourself that every time matters. It’s not necessarily the calories (after all, cookie crumbs are not very fattening); it’s the HABIT. Every time you eat something you weren’t supposed to, you strengthen your giving in muscle, which makes it more likely that the next time you’ll give in and the time after that and the time after that. Every time you stick to your plan when you’re tempted to eat something else, you strengthen your resistance muscle, which makes it more likely that the next time you’ll resist, and the time after that and the time after that.

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Fifty Shades of Grey–BOOK 1 review (on viewsandreviews.ca)

2012-06-03T12:09:00.001-04:00

Book one of Fifty Shades of Grey is written by E L James and has received a lot of attention from the media. E L James has appeared on a lot of talk shows and has gained a lot of publicity.

This book is about Anastasia Steele who is a recent college graduate and a billionaire Christian Grey. Anastasia Steele meets Christian Grey when she has to go interview him for a school paper that her friend is responsible for. Christian Grey wants Anastasia Steele to sign a NDA (Non Disclosure Agreement) in order for them to have sex. He learns that she is a virgin and upon learning that he agrees to have sex with her to prepare her for later encounters. As their relationship goes on, she learns that he is in to BDSM and likes to inflict pain and have control. Also that his mothers friend introduced him to this lifestyle when he was really young. She agrees to experiment with him even though it is hard for her because she never had a boyfriend.

My view

This book was really slow for me and after a while I got tired and bored of so much sex. almost after every 2 pages there are 5 pages of sex. There is some story and the way Book one ends, it makes you want to read the second book to see what happens. It took me a long time to read book one compared to my co workers who were done in like 3 days. I just wanted to finish it so I can be done because I don’t like to leave things in the middle.

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My recommendation is that if you think you would be interested in something like this, then read it. I though I would like it but then it turned out I didn’t love it like everyone else did. But then again, you never know unless you do it; right.

The book isn’t very expensive its about 9 dollars on Amazon, so check it out.

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MORE PHOTOSHOP

2012-05-21T23:31:00.001-04:00

Here are more pictures that I photoshopped. I hope you like them; I am not very good at it yet but still learning.

I will be posting the tutorials for these as soon as I am done my exam.

Thanks for your patience.

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My photoshop craze

2012-05-15T00:02:00.001-04:00

So the past few days I have been very very busy learning new things and enjoying them. One of them is photoshop and I am in love with it. Anything is possible with that. I can change pictures and create a collage and

OMG I love it!!! It is so amazing and I regret not knowing about it before. My reading has come to a halt and so has my studying for my exam.

Only God can help me now.

Below are some pictures that I made using Adobe Photoshop. I will be adding more as I make more and hopefully will get better at it. I play around with mine and my husbands pictures and change em. You can find my tutorials on how to do them on my other website views and reviews.

So Enjoy

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Henna Design Collection

2012-05-10T19:19:00.001-04:00

This is my collection of Henna designs. These are easy but still require a lot of practice. Enjoy

83 things to do with a penny

2012-05-06T12:26:00.001-04:00

Now that the last penny is stamped, everything will be rounded to a nickel. However, savingadvice.com has come up with a list of things you can still use your pennies for.

1. Clean dirty pennies instantly by dropping them into a saucer of vinegar with table salt stirred in.

2. Use for leverage to pry off the lid from a difficult “line-up-the-arrows” childproof medication bottle.

3. Slip one under a vase that sits a little wobbly to steady it.

4. Tape one to the tail of your kite for a little more stabilizing weight.

5. Teach your toddler to count with them.

6. Teach your little bit older child a little culture and history by looking in the dictionary to find that the American coin is only called a “penny” in slang, and that its proper name is “cent.”

7. Use as an impromptu screwdriver in a wide slotted bolt.

8. Trace around to make small circles for crafts (appliqué, scrap booking, etc.).

9. Collect in your change jar and cash in when full.

10. Scratch off lottery tickets.

11. Make sculptures like penny towers.

12. For good luck, place one over every doorway when you move into a home.

13. Fill a sock with pennies for self defense.

14. Play penny poker.

15. Over a concrete surface, hold a penny with pliers and melt it with a torch. It will drip down, nearly cool before it hits the ground, then instantly form a beautiful shiny, lacy, silver-colored foil as it spreads on but does not get stuck to the concrete.

16. Toss them in wishing wells.

17. Collect rare, valuable pennies.

18. To make an old lawn mower easier to start, rub a penny between the points (or condenser) on the engine to help them conduct better.

19. ~~Put one behind a fuse in the fuse box.~~

20. Use to make crafts and jewelry.

21. Check your car’s tires by placing one head down between the tire tread grooves. Replace the tires if you can see Lincoln’s whole head or any of the “In God We Trust” letters above his head.

22. Use to open the battery compartment of a remote control.

23. Toss one to see which side starts the soccer game.

24. Increase the pH of soil for hydrangeas.

25. Throw handfuls to the crowd of spectators at a parade.

26. Superglue one over the spring-loaded latch on the cabinet if you don’t want it to close with a catch.

27. Mix them in the grab bag of Halloween candy for trick-or-treaters.

28. Nail through one when you need to spread the holding force of the nail head over a greater area.

29. Spin them on the table for entertainment while waiting for your order at a diner.

30. Toss into the deep end of the pool and challenge the kids to dive and get them.

31. Drill a hole through opposite edges of many pennies and string them together to make a little rain chain.

32. Put them all around vulnerable garden seedlings to repel slugs. The folklore is that slugs touching copper will experience a tiny electric shock as electrons are exchanged between a slimy slug and copper.

33. Find one heads up to have good luck.

34. Prompt your backstabbing workmate to pick up the one that is tails side up on the sidewalk so that he will have bad luck.

35. Place one on your loved one’s grave to let them know you have been there and think of them.

36. Use one as inspiration for song. “Pennies … pennies from heaven.”

37. Visit another country and give them to children for the novelty of foreign coinage.

38. Use a small collection to entertain a young child by encouraging them to make designs.

39. Sew them onto your belt for decoration.

40. Place them in the hems of your draperies to make them hang smoothly.

41. Put one on the back of your hand. Quickly drop your hand downward while turning it over to catch the penny on the flat palm of your hand. Reverse the action to catch it on the back of your hand.

42. Bend your arm up with your fingers close to your ear on the same side. Place one or a stack of pennies close to your elbow. All in one motion, snap your hand forward to catch them.

43. Get a big silky scarf and rubber band a penny into each corner. Holding the corners together, roll up the scarf over the pennies. Thrown it as high into the air as you can, and then watch the scarf float slowly down like a parachute.

44. Pour a patio and put one penny for each of your kids into a discrete spot before the concrete sets. Pennies should be dated with the kids’ birth years.

45. Wrap one or more in electrical tape to make a heavier “cork ball” for that baseball- like game.

46. Demonstrate transfer of energy by making a short line of them on a table, then slide one penny forcefully onto the end of the line. See how at the far end of the line one penny then scoots away from the rest of the line.

47. Put one or more inside a couple of foil pie pans taped together to make a rhythm toy.

48. Make pretend spurs: flatten two pennies on a railroad track, then bend them. Pierce a hole through them and also through a third flattened but unbent penny. Stack the pennies together over a paperclip with the flat one in the middle. Slip a piece of string through the opposite end of the paperclip and tie around your kid’s ankle.

49. Get one to cling to the end of your nose without tilting your head back.

50. Fill the slots of your penny loafers.

51. Ask someone much older than you what a penny used to buy.

52. Find a place that still sells penny candy and buy a piece!

53. Quintuple your money: find someone who will give you a nickel for your penny.

54. See how far you can roll a penny down a hard floored hallway.

55. If you need brass washers to help rehang some loose gingerbread (fancy woodwork) on your house, drill holes in pennies. Brass washers cost about 4 cents each and pennies cost – well, a penny.

56. Use financial education. If you start with one penny on day one of a month and double that amount every day, how much do you have at the end of the month? If it’s a 30-day month: $5,368,709.12. If it’s a 31-day month: $10,737,418.24.

57. A penny says “In God we Trust”. Every time you pick one up, say a little prayer.

58. Use in a toll booth in the states where they are still accepted, like Illinois.

59. Trap someone in their room by forcing three or four pennies stacked together between the door and door jam.

60. Old wives’ tale: if you drop a penny on the floor in your home, don’t pick it up. Kick it under a piece of furniture or into a corner of the room out of sight. After cleaning, throw it back down. You will always have money.

61. Toss in fountains to make wishes. Just make sure there are no signs prohibiting it, especially if there are live fish in the water.

62. Use as a spacer when laying tile.

63. Play beer games: bounce a penny on the table and into a shot glass. If you make it, you get a drink. If not, you get a drink …

64. Snap a penny in your fingers and make it shoot like a projectile. A well-placed hit can sting quite a bit.

65. Five pennies can substitute for a die (as in singular of dice). Heads counts as 1 and tails count as zero. You start at 1, and add up the number of heads.

66. If you’re really mischievous and peeved, use them as revenge payment for money owed.

67. Play spin the top. Each person holds a penny upright with one finger, and flicks it with a finger in the other hand. You win if your penny spins the longest.

68. Play curling. Draw a circle on a smooth surface and flick pennies from a distance. Whoever gets the most into the circle wins. You can knock your opponent’s pennies out of the circle as well.

69. Learn how to do cool sleight-of-hand magic tricks.

70. Insert a shiny penny in a machine at amusement parks which run a small press to flatten it into an oval and then imprint the amusement park’s logo on it.

71. Use as a bookmark.

72. Freeze them and drop down the shirts of unsuspecting victims.

73. Pay for things with exact change.

74. Buy stamps at vending machines at post offices.

75. Use as replacement checkers when you lose some.

76. Weigh down hems from dresses. Open up the hemline and drop a penny in.

77. Glue one onto a shoe for a tap dance shoe.

78. A penny saved is a penny earned. In fact, it is even more than a penny earned since a penny earned will have taxes taken out.

79. To make round corners on a photo, put the penny on the photo, trace lightly around the edge, and then cut on the line.

80. Play penny-pitch.

81. Donate to charities that leave change jars near cash registers, or to the Salvation Army or other charities at Christmas.

82. Let your child throw them into the garden to magically find again next spring, as if the fairies seeded the garden with pennies.

83. Give someone a penny for their thoughts!

10 Secrets to Happiness

2012-05-05T01:28:00.001-04:00

Life is so stressful for an average person that it is hard to make time for yourself. Keeping yourself happy is the secret to keep going through life with a positive attitude. Researchers are always coming up with these new secrets to happiness, stress-free life etc. The recent research

was done by Sonja Lyubomirsky, a professor at University of California.

Below are the fastest ways to feel happy.

1. Exercise, Sex, Theatre

It doesn’t have to be in that order but recent research shows that these are the three best ways to boost your mood. So pick the best one that works for you. However, a recent survey proved that sex made people happier, followed closely by exercise and then a theatre play or concert.

2. Gratitude

Being thankful for what you have in life helps to life your mood. It is a good exercise if you keep a journal of of things to be thankful for. This exercise in self-awareness can benefit everyone and once you see it on paper, it’s hard not to feel full of joy.

3. Hold the door

Random acts of kindness, like opening the door for someone, stopping for pedestrians, or helping people with directions can fuel a sense of long lasting fulfillment. Researchers in Toronto University report that the effects of these acts of kindness can last for up to 6 months. . It’s a twice blessed scenario where the recipient believes that it is not a harsh world after all and you can feel good about helping others.

4. Breathe

Meditation actually alters the brain to make you happier. Research shows that meditation enlarges the parts of the brain related to compassion and shrinks the parts related to stress and anxiety. So do what suits you the most, deep breathing and relaxing for 10 minutes or just walking around the block, focusing on every step.

5. Curiosity

When we’re open to new experiences, positive events linger longer and we get more pleasure from them. You should take up a new hobby like dancing, cooking etc.

6. Don’t shop till you drop

The benefits of retail therapy are very short lived. There is evidence that more materialistic people are less happy. The excitement over purchases never lasts, so the next time you take out your wallet to purchase something, use your shopping power for good and pick up a healthy snack or donate.

7. Touch Someone

Strong social connections lead to joy and contentment. One way to build bliss in a romantic relationship is through touch. Creating a predictable and consistent pattern of touch helps feelings of security in relationship.

8. LOL

Laughing releases feel-good endorphins, increases pain resistance and promotes social bonds. Albert Nerenberg, a pioneer in the “laughter movement” recommends hosting a laughter party: Get together with a group of people and laugh until it becomes uncontrollable. Another good strategy is to smile more. It is a contagious behavior that helps happiness ripple across a room.

9. LOVE YOURSELF

Instead of having a hate-on for your hips, give yourself a break. Research shows that self compassion makes women happier. When you care about yourself, you tend to do what’s healthy for you rather than what’s harmful.

10. Find the AWESOME

It’s easy to get bogged down in daily mundane routine but don’t lose sight of the awesome in daily life. For example, getting that piece of kernel out of your teeth, picking the fastest lane in a grocery store etc. These are little joys that can bring happiness and pleasure in to your life.

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8 Things you should never say to a mom

2012-05-02T20:44:00.001-04:00

I stumbled upon this article on a yahoo blog and found it really interesting. So I wanted to share it with you guys. It is written by Charlene Prince Birkeland (Team Mom)
Parents are careful about what they say to their kids. They even pay attention to questions they might pose to their child-free friends. But sometimes, when comfort levels are high around mom friends -- or people forget to think before they speak -- folks can get careless with their comments. A simple remark by a well-meaning friend to a new mom could hurt her self-confidence. Or a casual comment to a mom with a "spirited child" may do more harm than you'd imagine.
Team Mom asked the experts about the impact that eight comments could have on a mom. Here's what they had to say:

1) "You're so dressed up!"
Your mom friend is wearing casual clothes or a little makeup instead of the yoga gear and ponytail you may normally see her sporting. Psychologist and mom of two, Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D., tells Team Mom on Shine that the mom could interpret your statement as: "You always look like a slob. Nice of you to finally put some makeup on. What is wrong with you?" Lombardo, author of "A Happy You: Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness," recommends that if you want her to know she looks pretty, say so: "You look great!" And if you just want to know her plans, then ask "So, what are you up to tonight?" or "Doing anything fun today?"

2) "You look so tired.”
Whether you're talking to a new mom or a mom with older kids, telling her she looks tired is just another way of saying you notice she's not at her best. But she may have other reasons for her tired appearance. "Looking or feeling tired can, unfortunately, stem from a number of different issues ranging from lack of sleep or quality sleep, to poor nutrient status due to inadequate nutrient intake or absorption, to side effects of medications or chronic health conditions," says Nancy Steely, a naturopathic physician. If you're really concerned about how your mom friend is doing, ask her: "How's everything going?"

3) "You must really want a girl."
Moms of boys hear this question all the time. Amy Williams, a mom of two boys and founder of BoyMom Designs, says the second she was pregnant with her second child and announced she was having another son, the responses also included, "I'm so sorry!" and "Oh no! Two boys!" Sometimes people would make these comments in front of her other son. "It was awful and so negative," says Williams. "It hasn't been an 'oh-no' experience. It's been a blast." Her advice is to focus on the fact that a woman is having a baby, which is wonderful on its own. She wishes her friends would have said, "Congratulations, two boys!" or simply, "You're having a baby...that's terrific."

4) "My son/daughter would love to have a play date with your child. When can I bring him/her over?"
We love play dates, but this request sounds like veiled attempt to get free babysitting. Erika Myers, a licensed therapist and a mom, says it can lead to "one parent feeling responsible for hosting--and sitting for--another child." Myers recommends offering a trade. "If it works well, you can set up a regular system of alternating play dates giving each of you a much needed break." Other alternatives include meeting at a park or a kid-friendly location. "If your kids get along, chances are there may be many play dates in their --and your--future. Why not spend some time getting to know the mom of your son's new BFF. Down the line she may become a source of support and possibly a very good friend," Myers tells Team Mom at Shine.

5) "When did you get so gray?”
We seriously don't know why women ever say this to their friends...but they do. Are you trying to tell your friend you notice that she looks different? Or are you worried about her? Tell her. Because the mom hears something totally different, says Dr. Lombardo: "You look terrible; you really let yourself go. She thinks 'I used to take care of myself before the kids. Now I have no time. I am just a mess. And I can't even control these kids. I am worthless.'"

6) "When are you due?"
Before you ever ask any woman when she's due, ask yourself if she's actually told you that she's pregnant. "Asking a non-pregnant woman if she is expecting can trigger feelings of insecurity, guilt, and tap into body image issues," says Myers. If the mom is not pregnant, you've just reminded her that she hasn't lost her baby weight from a previous pregnancy. Or what if she's gained weight because of health issues that you weren't aware of? Try this: Don't say anything.

7) "When are you going back to work?
The implied statement under this question is that being at home with the kids isn't work, and strikes at the heart of mommy wars. "It's one of the worst questions. It causes huge guilt," says Diane Lang, a counseling educators who leads workshop for moms on creating balance and re-entering the workforces. "All we're doing to moms is making them re-question their choices and causing mom guilt and unreal expectations. There is no win-win. You're setting up a mom for failure for failure." If you're really just interested in finding out what your mom friend is up to, focus less on her employment situation and more on her, as a person (e.g., "What have you been up to?").

8) "I remember that stage. He/she will grow out of it."
It's nice to feel like you're not a rookie parent anymore and can offer guidance to another mom friend. Or maybe you're just trying to comfort a mom who is struggling. But perhaps the outburst you're witnessing isn't something a child will "grow out of" because unbeknownst to you, he or she has behavioral issues. Say Myers: "Unfortunately, it can come across as patronizing and dismissive. When a child is going through a difficult phase, or potentially has significant behavioral issues, parents can feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and defeated." Sometimes you just need to be a good listener. And if you feel the need to comment, Myers recommends trying something like "We went through something similar when was that age. It was really tough."

10 Things you should stop doing

2012-05-01T12:38:00.000-04:00

During the course of the day, you have many things to do and accomplish. You have your habits and routines, as well as other tasks and responsibilities. These are the things that you normally see on your to-do lists. However, there are things that you do on a daily basis that you actually need to stop doing. These things make use of your time and energy with no positive results in the end.

1. Wasting your time online

If you want to get anything done in real life, then you need to stop wasting your time online. You only need so much time to check, answer, and send emails. You need to watch the amount of time you spend on facebook because you can waste a whole day on it. You have to limit the time you spend surfing websites, blogs, and forums.

2. Not setting priorities

Priorities are important because they help separate the things that matter and the things that are insignificant. Setting priorities help declutter your mind, your day, and your life. If you are still not setting priorities, then you need to start doing it now. Stop doing things that don’t matter to you and your overall life plan.

3. Always saying “Yes”

If you are one of those people who say “yes” to everything and everyone, then you need to stop doing it right now! You are in danger of over committing yourself. You need to identify who and what activities are important to you. Let go of relationships and activities that do not really matter to you. Make your commitments accordingly.

4. Trying to do everything

Remember that there is only one of you. You cannot do everything even if you wanted to. You need to let go of unnecessary activities or you need to learn how to delegate. If you continue trying to do everything, then you may end up feeling stressed and fatigued. This applies to both work and home life.

5. Always multi-tasking

multi-tasking is a great way to get a lot of things done in a small amount of time. However, there are downsides to this modern day practice. When you multi-task, you work less efficiently than when you focus on one task. It can also get pretty complicated and crazy. You don’t need additional chaos in your life so when you can, choose to single task.

6. Being a people pleaser

Even if you want everyone around you to be happy, it is a fact that you simply cannot please everyone. Something you say or do will make someone unhappy. If you insist on being a people pleaser, you might find yourself unable to make decisions. You may also feel generally displeased with yourself. You have to do things because you believe in them and they make you happy. Don’t base your decisions on a fickle world.

7. Always being available

It doesn’t matter what you do or who you work for; you deserve some time to unwind. If you give the impression that you are always available, then people will keep contacting you. You need to learn to disconnect sometimes. Turn off your phone, go offline, or even put up a sign asking not to be disturbed. It is easy to lose yourself if you don’t take the time to relax and just be quiet.

8. Being obsessed about details

There is nothing wrong with being a perfectionist and being detail-oriented. However, if your need for perfection gets in the way of progress and results, then you need to rethink your approach. The same goes for being a detail-oriented person. It is good to have this quality, but if it stops you from getting things done, then you should find a way to work around it.

9. Needing to control everything

You have to realize that there are things in this world that you simply cannot control. You do not have power over most of the events in this world. You cannot tell people what to say or do. You need to find a way to come to terms with this. I guarantee that you will feel more at peace with your life.

10. Not taking time to relax

This is a big mistake that people make all the time: not taking breaks. You can only work for so long before you feel stressed, tired, and all knotted up. No task is too important that you cannot stop for a bit to relax. Breaks helps you regain focus, as well as give you a fresh outlook on the task at hand.

These are probably the most common things that people do on a daily basis that can cause unnecessary anxiety and stress. You don’t need to subject yourself to these detrimental habits and thought processes. Do yourself a favor and slowly try to eliminate these things from your life. Try to do a life inventory and see what else you could be doing that doesn’t bring anything positive to your existence.

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3 Tips on Maintaining a Good Attitude at Work

2012-04-26T10:31:00.005-04:00

Having a good attitude is important, whether you are at work or home. Being at home and having a bad attitude tends to not affect as many people as when you are at work. These 8 tips on maintaining a good attitude at work might prove useful to those who seem to have a difficult time pulling this off. You’d be surprised at how much your good attitude helps those around you too.

3. Assume something good will come from a situation

My mom always told me that things happen for a reason. Since I was a small child I’ve tried to find the best in everyone and the good in all situations. Having high hopes about the final outcome sometimes helps things to pan out evenly in the end. Waiting for the good to rear its head also helps you to maintain a positive outlook on work in general.

2. Avoid people who have negative attitudes

There’s nothing harder for me than trying to maintain high spirits when there is a chronic complainer in the room. Have you ever worked with someone like this? This person is constantly moaning about what needs to be done and how hard it will be to complete the task. I find it much easier to avoid these types of people when I feel like I’m unable to keep my spirits high on my own.

1. Try to find humor

I find that seeing the funny side of something tends to make the task at hand much more enjoyable. As long as the humor isn’t the result of someone being the butt of a joke, then this can be a very effective way of dealing with stressful situations. Sometimes things are only funny to you. If you are able to make light of a situation to help get it completed, then go for it!

Following these tips will help you have a great day at work no matter how annoying or un-bearable your co workers are.

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3 Ways to recover from stress

2011-01-19T11:17:00.000-05:00

No matter what stresses you out, your body's response is to release the hormone cortisol. If you have a mood disorder such as anxiety or depression then you can bet that your body is also crankingup this powerful hormone. Poor lifestyle choices like not getting enough sleep can also contribute to stress. The question is, how do you know when the stress you're experiencing is harming you?

When we experience stress, it triggers a chemical reaction called "fight or flight" response which leads to the production of cortisol and adrenalin. This is designed to help us from perceived threats. If you always feel tense or anxious, then your body will constantly be producing cortisol and adrenalin and this can eventually lead to "adrenal fatigue". The result can be lack of stamina, depression, increased food cravings and weakened immunity.

If you suspect that you suffer from stress then do not worry. Here is the your very own Stress Recovery Plan which can be as simple as three steps.

1. Stop skimping on sleep

During most of the sleep cycle, the sympathetic nervous system relaxes while the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest) is active. Activity also decreases in the parts of your brain which are responsible for interaction, decision making, and emotions.
Research shows that sleep deprivation causes stress hormones to rise in the evening and hightens the stress response during waking hours. In addition to calming your nervous system, sufficient rest can effectively lower cortisol levels.

Your new sleep mantra?
Mandatory lights out by 11 pm, sleep 8 to 9 hours a night and make sure your room is completely dark. Light prevents the release of melatonin which is a hormone that allows deep sleep.

2. Become a meditation junkie

Meditating is really easy. All you have to do is listen to the sound of your breath or repeat a word or phrase for 5 minutes each day. Meditation modifies our responses to daily situations and trains the mind to deal with stress better. It is really helpful with relieving the severity of health conditions associated with stress, including insomnia, high blood pressure, anxiety disorder, asthma, depression, chronic pain and heart disease.

3. Stock up on supplements

Vitamin C: Research shows that vitamin C lowers cortisol levels and supports adrenal function. Take 500 to 1,000 mg one or two times daily.

B Vitamins: Stressed or fatigues individuals should take extra B vitamins because it helps the body adapt to stress and supports adrenal-gland function. Take between 200 and 500 mg vitamin B5 and/ or 50 to 100 mg of B6 per day.

Omega-3 fats: Studies show that omega-3s aid brain and cognitive function and promote a healthy mood balance. Further research shows that they may help reduce stress and depression. Aim fore 1500 to 3000 mg per day.

Ginseng: This herb has been used for decades to cure mental and physical ailments. It strengthens our immunity and improves our mental function and also it has been shown to reduce chronic stress. The recommended dose is 0.5 to 9 g of dried root daily, but you have to talk to your doctor to see if it's right for you.

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5 Ways to train your brain to be more happy

2011-01-13T12:55:00.000-05:00

If you find you're always getting distracted, meditation might offer a fix. It can boost concentration and your ability to perform tasks, suggests a study published in Psychological Science. Researchers measured how well people attending a meditation retreat could distinguish between lines of different lengths flashed on a screen and found that the more often and longer the subjects meditated, the better they did on the test.

1. YOGA!! (happiness helper)

Researchers at the Boston University School of Medicine investigated whether yoga or walking made people happier; well yoga was the answer. They found people who did an hour of yoga three times a week reported being happier and less anxious than those who did light walking for the same amount of time. And the science backed them up. The yoga types had higher levels of mood-boosting chemicals in their brains as well.

2. Think yourself SMOKE FREE

Here's a new way to make it easier to quit smoking. A Yale University study found smokers' cravings dropped dramatically when they used cognitive strategies, like thinking about emphysema and bad skin. "People who though [about those things] showed reduced activity in the brain areas associated with cravings," says lead researcher Hedy Kober. It also worked for chocolate, too!

3. Web-Savvy: too much information

Still posting stuff you shouldn't? Blame Facebook. A new study found people are more likely to divulge sensitive info online (like admitting they've cheated on their partners) if the site doesn't cue them to consider confidentiality. "This suggests that the fun, frivolous feel of social networking sites suppresses privacy concerns," says lead researcher Leslie John. Think twice: Always pause before you post.

4. Retail Therapy

Ever wonder why shopping feels so good? Well it's all in the bag, says researcher from the University of Minnesota. They had women walk around a mall for an hour, carrying a plain pink bag or a Victoria's Secret bag. Women with branded bags felt more feminine, glamorous and attractive than those with nondescript ones. Test this theory yourself by hitting your favorite boutique.

5. Say NO to Inosomnia

Never mind going down a dress size - aeorbics exercise can also help you sleep better. A new study published in Sleep Medicine found doing regular aerobic exercise reduced the sleeplessness in insomniacs. The participants' quality of sleep improved, and they had more vitality and felt less daytime fatigue.

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7 Ways to deal with an awkward first date

2010-12-23T17:37:00.000-05:00

First dates are always the most nerve-wracking! Are you dressed right? Do you smell good? What will you talk about? Read these 8 tips to help turn an awkward date into an awesome date!

1. Plan Ahead

Now don’t go and write cue cards for all the awkward silences, but you can have some topic ides of things you’d like to talk about stashed away in your brain. Go prepared to avoid all awkward silences and keep conversation flowing smoothly.

2. Start With Action

Rather than beginning with the traditional “dinner and a movie” date where you are forced right into conversational times, start with something like the local fair or circus, or the rodeo. This will allow you to get to know each other a little better before you have to start talking a lot.

3. If All Else Fails, Tell A Joke

Nothing like a little laughter to loosen the tense mood of an awkward date. Have a few in reserve for this situation, and make sure you’re not going to offend your date.

4. Practice Tactfulness

There is a right way and a wrong way to say everything. For instance, if your guy’s breath is beyond stinky, rather than blurting out, “Gosh! When’s the last time you brushed your teeth?” say “I bet that burger made my breath stink. I’m getting myself a mint, would you like one?” By putting yourself on the same level as your date, and making it less embarrassing for them, you will avoid major awkwardness!

5. Be On Time

Nothing aggravates a guy more than to have to wait an extra hour for his date to get ready. It’s permitted for a girl to be a few minutes late, as beauty can’t be rushed, however, try to avoid pushing this unwritten rule too far. Keep your eye on the clock, and try to be early!

6. Ask Lots Of Questions

Dates are a chance to get to know that special someone, so don’t be afraid to ask questions about their life, what they want for their future, etc. Not only will you be opening doors for more conversation, you also learn great information to help you decide whether you wish to pursue this person further or not.

7. Have A Back-up Plan

Should everything go sour, or you find this date is a creep, have a plan to get out. Maybe have a friend waiting on standby and text “help!” (once you’ve excused yourself to the bathroom, of course!) and have someone “stop by” to take you someplace else. It doesn’t hurt to be prepared for the worst, right?

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8 Classic Make Up Mistakes To Avoid

2010-08-18T22:31:00.000-04:00

Getting make up right can be hard work…In an ideal world, we’d all have the tools and make up we need to create an amazing look for every occasion, but in the real world, it’s likely that we’ll have to make do with what we’ve already got. Which means we are prone to making make up blunders…here are the top ones to should avoid!

1. Wearing too much, or too little

One of the most common make up mistakes is not matching your make up to the occasion. Most days won’t call for full make up, which could make you look like you are trying too hard, and instead would suit a much more natural look better. For everyday activities, try just using a moisturizer, under eye concealer, a little blush, and some lipgloss. Then curl your eyelashes, and you have the perfect daytime look!

2. Using the wrong foundation

Your foundation needs to perfectly match your skintone to give you a natural, flawless finish, and any difference could leave you looking awful. For foundation, it can be very hard to see what will match, but there will be a foundation that is perfect for you. I’d recommend visiting a beauty stand and asking them to find a produce that matches your skin tone, but if you want to test some yourself, draw ‘lines’ of concealer from your cheek to your neck, and find one that completely disappears. There’s your match!

3. Over Tweezing Your Eyebrows

Over tweezing (or completely ignoring) your eyebrows can ruin your look…well maintained eyebrows make the perfect finishing touch, and make even natural looks seem divine. Over tweezing could also lead to less hair growing back, which would be a nightmare! Follow your brow’s natural shape to get the best look, and visit a professional to show you how to do it. You should be able to maintain it yourself after that, but if you aren’t confident, let someone else. Waiting for them to grow takes forever!

4. Rainbow Colours

Rainbow colours might look amazing, but most of the time, you should stick with blending three colours. A medium tone on the eyelids, a light tone to highlight the brow and the darkest as a liner gives a mature and sophisticated look, and is so easy to do! Adding more shades and colours makes the look overcomplicated, and can look too much.

5. Neglecting your skin

No makeup can compensate for neglected skin, so if you aren’t looking after yours, it’s time to get started! Make sure you keep your skin properly hydrated, so it will look it’s best and will be more resilient to wrinkles, and if you have oily skin then use a cleanser to wash the oil away before applying makeup. Look out for makeup that’s designed with your skin type in mind, too.

6. Favouriting A Feature

The rule goes that you should pick one feature to avoid looking like a clown, and this is still true, but don’t go overboard! If you really dress up one feature, you risk looking like you are overcompensating, which is the opposite of what you want. Instead of bright, pretty eyes, people will see a lot of eye makeup, which defies the point. Make sure you keep makeup understated and subtle, and always use a lipgloss!

7. Drawing Large Lips

Have you heard the advice about making your lips look bigger? Beauticians always recommend drawing lip liner around your lips, and filling the middle with colour, but most women can’t pull this look off. It’s very difficult to get right! Instead, I’d recommend using a lip plumping gloss. It’ll look more natural, and understated too…I love mine!

8. Faking Curves

Trying to fake curves and contours using darker blush is a trick best left to the experts…while it might work well on films, often a lot of airbrushing is needed to ‘finish’ the look. In normal sunshine, the darker colours will be obvious, and it will look very odd. Stick with a light, flattering colour, and draw attention to the features you like best with delicate, pretty make up. It’ll look much prettier!
I know I’m guilty of a few of these…I ran out of moisturizer for a long time, and I really struggle finding a foundation that matches my skin tone…I’m very pale, so even ‘Ivory’ colours look too dark. Most of the time I go without! But I’ll be making more of an effort not to make these mistakes again…if you’ve heard of another common make up mistake, I’d love to hear it!

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Epilation using Braun SoftPerfection epilator (my very own experience)

2010-06-06T23:59:00.000-04:00

After shaving for a long long time, I decided it was time for a change. I have been shaving for too long and the results are as long lasting as i would want them to be.

I then tried waxing, but I only waxed like half of my leg and it took me like 45 minutes. It was very time consuming and if you add it all up, it can be very costly too. I started looking at other options and then I stumbled upon epilators
and and started reading about them. I read the reviews of people who used them and they all said that YES it was painful but its worth it.

I decided to give it a try and talked to my husband about it and after work went and bought one. I came home and realized that it had an AC adapter with it and it does not take batteries (which is good). Also, it was really cute and feminine. It has like 40 tweezers on it, so its really fast and pulls hair out from the roots. It is a lot like waxing but less time consuming.

When I turned it on, it made this scary noise because it is too loud...it kinda scared me and when I got read for epilation, I was scared to try it. I gave it to my husband and told him to try it. Poor guy, tried it on his arm and he seemed okay with it.

That gave me some courage to use it but I still took some painkillers to ease the pain before I start epilating. I tried it and i loved it. It really did hurt at first but after a while, i got used to it and it wasn't that painful anymore. It's been a week since I used it and still no hair are coming out yet. So I am happy with the results and I loved the epilator. It's the best investment I have made yet.It pays for itself in no time.

Compared to the money that we spend on replacing shavers and waxes, this is great, its less time consuming and is a one time investment with long time results.

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15 Tips for undereye circles

2010-05-25T22:43:00.000-04:00

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One of the problems that most of suffer from, no matter how much we try to care for ourselves, is under-eye circles. Some of us have really deep and dark ones while the others are luckier and get away with it. Either way, here are my fifteen tips to look after your eyes and get rid of under-eye circles…

1. Don’t blame lack of sleep …

It’s very unlikely that this is the reason you have under eye bags, so you can leave
your sleep pattern alone!

2. Equally, don’t blame water retention …

While this can cause puffiness in the rest of the body, it does not affect the eyes.

3. Avoid harsh moisturizers …

Make sure that anything you put around your face is recommended for use there, because body moisturizer will be far too harsh!

4. If you have redness under the eyes …

Try lying down with ice on the affected area. This should soothe it, and the redness will go away.

5. Persistent redness under the eyes …

Can be a sign of kidney problems. If this happens, take a few early nights and completely cut down on alcohol. If they don’t ease up, make an appointment with your doctor, to be safe.

6. People with sinus problems or allergies …

Might also suffer more with under eye bags. Taking sinus or allergy medication will probable help ease this.

7. Try an eye brightening stick!

Don’t use it every day, or it won’t be as effective. Simply wait for days that you feel your eye bags are affecting your looks, and apply the stick. This will make you look youthful and gorgeous, just like usual!

8. For a faster, more convenient quick …

Fix, try putting cold chamomile tea bags on your eyes for a minute. This will make them much more manageable, but remember to use waterproof mascara!!

9. Want a strange idea?

Try using preparation H, which is a haemorrhoid cream, around the eyes. Be careful to avoid your eyes, and rub it in to your skin. Be really careful that you use either the cream or the gel, NOT the ointment, and that you don’t get it in your eyes. Instant under-eye circles removal!!

10. Eat for your skin …

Make sure that your diet contains a lot of vitamin B, which is necessary for healthy, glowing skin. You can also get face creams that contain this vitamin, which will do the same thing. Its basic beauty care, so if yours doesn’t, it’s time to upgrade!

11. Water!!!

If you consume a lot of alcohol and not enough water, you have instant eye bags. Make sure you drink enough to flush the toxins out of your system, or get used to the bruised look.

12. Check it’s not your make up …

Skin can develop sudden allergies, so that eye liner you’ve used for years might suddenly be the enemy. Try swapping to a different brand, or to fragrance free, and see if it makes a difference.

13. Try …

Juice Beauty Organic Eye Cream. I swear by it.

14. Find a concealer and powder that go together well …

And compliment your skin tone. Make sure that you apply both carefully, as if you just use concealer, it will look like under-eye war paint in some lights.

15. And finally …

Remember that they are just a small part of your look. They are easy to cover up, and most people won’t notice them, even if they look really obvious to you.
So now that you know about the causes and fixes for under eye bags, you can adapt your diet and lifestyle to minimize their appearance! Have you found a clever solution, or a never – fail cream? Please share it with me!!!

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10 Beauty Tricks you need to know

2010-05-25T22:35:00.000-04:00

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Have you ever noticed how some women seem to be clued up on make up tips, and others don’t have a clue? Many times I’ve wondered how women are expected to learn, and just recently, I’ve been collecting the beauty tricks of my favorite beautiful people. After all, we all want to look great! Here are my favourite beauty tips that you need to know…

1. Skip The Foundation

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This probably is my favorite beauty secret to share. Most women do not need foundation. While it can become a habit to apply, its purpose is to give a smooth surface for make up application, and an even tone. More and more teens are wearing it, though. The first make up tip every woman should know? Foundation does not cover up nasty acne, and most women simply don’t need it.

2. Concealer Tip

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Concealer is a life saver if you use it correctly and is very easy to apply. So why are most women taught to rub it in?! Concealer is meant to be patted in, not rubbed. This allows it to cover up blemishes ‘naturally’, without irritating the blemish further.

3. Lips or Eyes

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Similar to legs or cleavage, this is one of those rules which should never be broken. If you are playing up your eyes, use a nude lipstick, and if you are going for statement lips, keep eyes neutral and apply a coat of a great mascara.

4. Natural is Hot

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Whatever colour your hair naturally is, that’s the colour that will suit you best. If you need to change it, try going a few shades darker, or adding some highlights. It’ll look much better than looking like you’ve had a dodgy hair cut! If you do dye your hair, make sure you fix it afterwards. I love this serum, which always leaves my hair looking and feeling gorgeous!

5. Vaseline is a Handbag Essential

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Vaseline is amazing! It effortlessly removes eye make up, soothes cracked lips, and even makes a good emergency mascara. Every woman should have one in her handbag! They even make body lotions containing Vaseline now, so your whole body can appreciate the goodness.

6. Sunscreen

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Never skip sunscreen. Get into the habit of putting on sunscreen before your make up even on cloudy and wet days and you’ll enjoy healthy and gorgeous skin much longer then anyone else. UV rays can penetrate car windows and clouds, which means your skin can even be being damaged in storms!

7. Keep Nails Healthy

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Look after your hands. Many people will take notice of the condition of ones hands and feet, so keep them looking great. If you can, have a weekly manicure, or give one to yourself using a manicure kit like this one. If you don’t have the time, simply keep nails clean, the same length and tidy. Beautiful nails = A beautiful you!

8. Don’t Line Inside Your Eyes

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I can’t remember how many times I was told that lining inside your eyes was adult and professional. But in real life it can actually makes your eyes look smaller, and carries a huge risk of irritation. So if you are not sure this look’s good for you, it probably isn’t, so just invest in some gorgeous coloured eye liners (I love these ones by Urban Decay, which are so easy to use!) apply them closely to your eyelashes and smudge after application.

9. Play Up Your Best Feature

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Look at what people always compliment you on, and play this up. Bambi eyes? Make an impact with lashings of mascara. Gorgeous lips? Red lipstick is a classic way to play up lips, and oozes sophistication if its done right. If you aren’t sure, go for a make over at a high street make up branch, and pay attention to where they focus on.

10. Scrubs Are Great For Dry Skin

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If you have dry skin, get used to using scrubs in the shower, and moisturizing heavily when you get out. This will keep your skin in amazing condition, and prevent you from suffering sore skin due to dehydration. I love these Sephora scrubs, which come in lots of scents and colours, and are really affordable too.

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9 Things you want to tell your mommy how not to act old

2010-04-04T23:56:00.003-04:00

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Send this list of suggestions to her immediately! The advice on how not to seem over the hill made us laugh so hard, we wished we were wearing Depends.

If you thought the mom jeans skit on Saturday Night Live was funny, you’ll love the new book How Not to Act Old by Pamela Redmond Satran. After you finish cringing slash laughing at these nine pieces of advice, e-mail the link to your mom. Trust us, she’ll thank you. And more importantly, she’ll stop saying, “Let’s hook up later!”

Mom Tip #1
Beware the Accidental “Hookup”
Is it meeting for coffee? Kissing? Having sex? Watching television together? Getting engaged? The point is that you should avoid using the term if you’re not certain of its implications. As cool and casual as it may make you feel, it’s probably best not to suggest to your boss that you hook up later on this evening. Maybe not smart to ask someone whether he hooked up with any of his old friends last night. Might not be wise to say wistfully to your neighbor that you wish you could hook up more often.

Mom Tip #2
Don’t Have Black Friends, Gay Friends, Guy Friends, Jewish Friends, or Young Friends
Or white friends, straight friends, girl friends, Baptist friends, or old friends. No, you shouldn’t turn into a racist, homophobic, sexist, anti-Semitic, ageist freak. But calling your friends “my black friends” or “my gay friends” is evidence that you’re conscious of your friends as belonging to some special group, which is an outmoded way of looking at things. Friends are friends, and the modern way is to accept people as individuals and not identify them as anything other than “my friends.”

Mom Tip #3
Learn to Type with Your Thumbs
Classic old-people behavior: dialing and typing on a phone with your index finger. No, no, no. You’ve got to pretend that your index finger doesn’t even exist. Forget the middle, ring, and pinky fingers, too. The young way to dial your phone or to text or type on your BlackBerry or iPhone is with your thumbs. Yes, exclusively with your thumbs.

Mom Tip #4
No Bras the Size of Wyoming
Let’s just quickly run over the elements your bra cannot have: no elastic thick and strong enough to support a bungee jumper; no more than two — or, in extreme cases, three — hooks in back; no cups so capacious they totally rule out the possibility of cleavage; no quadriboob; no back fat.

Mom Tip #5
Don’t Facebook Old
Okay, so maybe you think you’re oh-so-cool because you’re on Facebook. But beware of this common mistake: formal portraits. Is your official Facebook picture the one your company’s HR department keeps on file? Is it the headshot from your book jacket, or maybe your official wedding picture? Using any kind of posed, professional picture as your main Facebook photo is old. Your Facebook picture should be slightly tilted, somewhat blurry, and should feature you smiling but not that you think anyone’s watching, designed to make the rest of the world envious of how totally awesome life can be, but only for you.

Mom Tip #6
Don’t Yell into Your Cell Phone
Old people talk into their cell phones as if the phone was a tin can attached to a string, and the string was so long that the person with his ear pressed to the other tin was in China. Although cell phones are extremely tiny and not connected to any wires, they’re really more efficient than that. You can speak in a normal voice — no, in a softer than normal voice — and the other person will hear you. We promise. Ssssh. That’s better.

Mom Tip #7
Don’t Fear the Thong
All right, you know you’re not supposed to wear granny panties. But bikinis won’t cut it either. Opt for the thong. Yeah, they make you feel completely exposed — like you’re hardly wearing any underwear at all. But listen, that’s the next step: going commando, à la Britney. So think of thong-wearing as a compromise in sexiness.

Mom Tip #8
Don’t Be Shocked by a Touch of Girl-on-Girl
Hold on to your knickers, Grandma: Lots of girls kiss other girls these days, and I’m not talking air kisses. And I mean straight girls. I mean very straight girls, such as pledged virgins who are looking to explore the boundaries of their sexuality without crossing over that thin pink line.

Mom Tip #9
Don’t Plan
When old people want to go on vacation to, say, Italy next summer, what do they do? They buy tickets. Book a hotel. Research restaurants and make reservations. If you want not to act old, you’ve got to be a little looser than that — nay, a lot looser. Decide what you’re going to do on the spur of the moment, depending on how you feel. Make travel arrangements on the fly. Throw out your calendars and datebooks. Be here now.

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When you want to Bitch-Slap your guys mom

2010-04-04T23:49:00.002-04:00

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No matter how fabulous you are, there's a decent chance that your man's mom might be a total beast to you. According to Terri Apter, PhD, author of What Do You Want From Me? Learning to Get Along With In- Laws, 60 percent of women report having a negative relationship with their guy's mother (compared to just 15 percent of men who say they have tension with their significant other's mom). "She's worried that you're going to usurp her role, and she has to adapt to no longer being the most influential female figure in her son's life," Apter explains. And sometimes she "adapts" by being critical, controlling, nosy, invasive...you name it. Save yourself the fury and headaches and be strategic right from the start.

Don't Be a Pussy
Some women make the mistake of bending over backward to win a difficult mother's approval. "But this puts you in a subservient position that she can then take advantage of," Apter says. "It will be a challenge for you to stand up for yourself in the future." Rather, you have to walk the line between acting like an alpha female while also being respectful to her.

So without getting all up in her face, clearly express what you want. For example, say you're living with your guy and she declares that she's popping in for a last-minute weekend visit, which will mess up plans you already have. Tell her firmly yet nicely, "This weekend doesn't work, but let's get something on the calendar for next month."

Suck It Up and Ask Her for Advice
One reason mothers and girlfriends frequently don't jibe is that his mom is freaking out now that her son has you and thinks she won't be needed anymore. To show her she's still relevant, occasionally turn to her for guidance — like asking her to show you how to make her famous tomato sauce. "She's looking for validation, and this conveys that you respect and admire her," says Malia Mason, PhD, professor of management at Columbia University. Just be careful not to request her help too often or she might overstep her boundaries and start giving her opinion about every little thing.

Refuse to Take the Bait
"My, your dress is tight!" she exclaims while giving you a once-over. Argh! We know it's damn hard, but if your guy's mom says something out of line, resist snapping back at her. Instead, deliver a calm, casual reply, like "It feels just right though. So how was your drive down?" When you act totally unfazed by her nasty comments, she'll realize that she's hitting a wall. And since you're not pushing back, the tension will eventually evaporate.

"Be the bigger person," Mason says. "Your attitude will set a good example and shame her into being equally compassionate." And remember, she's antagonizing you because she's jockeying for power, not because she's evil (we hope!). Ultimately, you two have one major thing in common: You both love her son and want the best for him.

Enlist Your Guy as Backup
Have you ever had a friend who dropped off the face of the earth after landing a boyfriend, getting so wrapped up in him that she forgot about everyone else? Well, that might be how your guy's mom feels now that he's coupled up. It's unfair, but his mom takes out her frustration about being disconnected from him by acting hostile toward you.

The solution? According to Apter, if your man makes her feel included, she'll chill the hell out. Encourage him to keep her in the loop, like by emailing her once a week with news about what he's been up to or inviting her to dinner from time to time.

It's also crucial that she sees what a strong team you and your guy are. So ask him to work a couple of positive comments about you into convos with her — think giving you a compliment or mentioning something nice you did for him. "This shows her how much he loves you and is committed to you," Apter points out. "Knowing that he's happy will encourage her to respect you more."
You may not ever spend a lazy Saturday going shopping and getting a pedicure with her, but at least you can all get along.

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How to Win a guy in 10 Seconds (FUNNY)

2010-04-04T23:44:00.001-04:00

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Sure, you could put on a sexy outfit, give him flirty looks, and hope he gets the message. Or you could follow these pieces of advice from comedian Amy Schumer and guarantee that you get laid tonight.

1. Approach him at a bar and say in a sexy voice, “Hi, do you have gonorrhea? Do you want it?”

2. Make out with your hand, giving it some long, wet, sensual kisses, to ensure he’s aware of your skills.

3. Casually drop your birth control prescription in front of him so he knows you're down to party.

4. Wear a maternity shirt and say, “Dress for the job you want, right?”

5. Insult everything about him so he thinks you’re better than him. That’s a huge turn-on.

6. Talk about all your favorite Ani DiFranco and Tori Amos songs, then offer to sing him a medley of each one.

7. Let him know that you don’t swallow because of your nut allergy.

8. Begin sobbing uncontrollably out of nowhere, and refuse to explain why. Men love mystery.

9. If he offers to buy you a drink, request a vodka cranberry and mention that you’ve been trying to kick this UTI for weeks.

10. Ask to borrow his phone then erase all the numbers but yours. He’ll know you mean business. He may be mad now, but he'll appreciate it later.

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Health Benefits of Forbidden Food

2010-04-04T23:33:00.000-04:00

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It’s a fact of life that as human beings, we typically enjoy what’s bad for us. Whether it’s calorie-laden treats like chocolate, or addictive substances such as alcohol and coffee, it’s hard to say no to our favorite forbidden foods and sweet snacks. However, it’s also typical human behavior that as soon as we deny something, we want it even more! Put an end to any guilty feelings you might have after indulging right now by reading on and seeing that your forbidden food might not be so bad for you after all…

1. Red Wine

Some researchers claim that the positives of drinking red wine go beyond cardiovascular benefits. A number of studies have discovered that an antioxidant concentrated in the skin of the grape, resveratrol, may actually help inhibit the growth of cancerous tumors. Research into the properties of resveratrol also indicates that it may be helpful in the formation of nerve cells, and so could potentially be a factor in the treatment of neurological diseases such as Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s.

Rather than consuming the entirety of your weekly units on a Friday night, it’s much kinder to your body to drink one glass of red wine everyday. Most of you will probably already know that red wine is very beneficial to the heart, but it is also fantastic for your teeth and can also help you cope against the common cold – something that is all too easy to catch. Since red wine is packed full of antioxidants, it’s also much more beneficial to your health than alcohol which is made up of empty calories or sugary fruit juices. Not to mention your liver will thank you when you manage to avoid a nasty hangover!

2. Dark Chocolate

Flavonoids are pretty common throughout nature. As you may have guessed, they are also antioxidants. They are found in all kinds of stuff, such as red wine, tea, and beer… AND… Chocolate! Oh yeah! You can also eat the fruits and veggies mentioned above and get them, but chocolate’s more fun, right?
by John Soulliere, Financial Planer from Calgary

Eating dark chocolate can help to control blood sugar levels, and like red wine, it contains those all important antioxidants. 70% or 80% cocoa is the best bar to go for, though all chocolate contains serotonin, the brains happy chemical. Perfect for a mid-afternoon pick-me-up! Skin problems? Don’t shy away from your favorite chocolate – dark chocolate can even help calm the swelling of spots! Just remember that even dark chocolate is still laden with fat and calories, so try to keep your intake to 2-3 squares per day.

3. Coffee

The latest research has not only confirmed that moderate coffee consumption doesn’t cause harm, it’s also uncovered possible benefits. Coffee may reduce the risk of developing gallstones, discourage the development of colon cancer, improve cognitive function, reduce the risk of liver damage in people at high risk for liver disease, and reduce the risk of Parkinson’s disease. Coffee has also been shown to improve endurance performance in long-duration physical activities.
by Coffee Center Researches

Reports would have you think that coffee is one of the most unhealthy drinks around. But coffee, once again, contains antioxidants, not to mention it can protect against skin cancer and even Parkinson’s disease. Decaff will give you the exact same amount of benefits as regular coffee, so you can also rule out the negative effects of caffeine. The best advice is to spread your coffee intake throughout the day, and don’t have more than four cups.

4. Chewing Gum

In 1964, NASA began giving astronauts sugarless chewing gum for their space missions. Since the astronauts were fed through a tube, their gums tended to swell because they were not actually chewing their food. Chewing gum helped keep their teeth and gums healthy and strong. Healthy Smile, Healthy Body…
by HapPy, Health Expert

Too many people believe that chewing gum is bad for your teeth, when actually, the opposite is true. Regularly chewing sugar-free gum can help to produce more saliva in the mouth and as a result, whiten your teeth over time. It will also help to speed up the digestion of carbohydrates, help to avoid tooth decay, and even aid your concentration. Not bad for a treat which has such a bad reputation!

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Tylenol (Acetaminophen)

2010-03-24T11:27:00.002-04:00

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Hi Guys,

I just wanted to let you guys know about the medication Tylenol which is a brand name for acetaminophen. It is mostly used to treat headaches or muscle pains etc. It is a very common pain reliever that everyone uses.

Since it is available over the counter and anyone can purchase it without the interference of the pharmacist, most people don't realize the risk that is associated with it.

When you are in pain, you tend to just keep on taking pain medications without reading the Dosing directions that are on the bottle. It is advised to have no more than 4000mg of acetaminophen in 24 hours. So if your taking tylenol extra strength which is 500 mg, that means you can only take 8 tablets a day.

Most people tend to ignore that and the result is DEATH!!

So the point is, always talk to your doctor about your medications and any other medications that you are taking. Also, it is better to talk to your pharmacist about the medication to ask if there are any side effects or interaction with any other medications.

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9 homemade Acne Masks

2010-03-22T18:03:00.000-04:00

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Acne can be frustrating to say the least. Despite all of the products on store shelves, there are many individuals out there that have turned to making their own masks like me. I prefer churning out my own home made goodies mostly because I’m not sure what store products contain. It just feels safer and more natural this way. Plus, I am a big believer in if you cannot pronounce the ingredient in it, then it’s best not to use it. So here are the 10 best home made anti acne masks that I have personally used…

9. Heavy Cream Easy to Use Facial Mask

The ingredients in this mask consist of heavy cream (1 tablespoon), honey (1 tablespoon) and baking soda (1 gram). This is the fastest mask to prepare and it gets rid of acne just as fast!

8. Best Face Mask for 30’s

Fractionated coconut oil (2 tablespoons), 1 Egg Yolk, Honey (1 tablespoon), Yogurt (1 tablespoon) and Sugar (1 teaspoon). Mix all of these ingredients and process them in a blender. Apply to the skin and let it sit there for twenty five minutes, then rinse it off with warm water followed by a splash of cold water.

7. Best Face Wash for 40’s

This one is great for someone like your mom (assuming you are young and reading this). One way to slow skin ageing is to take care of it. This mask consists of peas (2 tablespoons), Evening Primrose Oil (1 tablespoon), Yogurt (1 tablespoon), Grape Seed Extract (1 tablespoon) and carrot juice (1/2 Cup). Mix all of the ingredients in a blender and smooth it on the face leaving it there for thirty minutes.

6. To Refresh Your Skin …

The ingredients include ¼ apple, ½ peach, ½ tomato, ¼ milk and 1 tablespoon of Almond oil. Peel all of the fruits and mash them up. Add the milk and oil into the mashed fruits and use moderate heat as you stir it. Do this until the mixture turns into a cream. When it cools, apply a thick layer to your skin and leave it there for thirty minutes. This mask will refresh your skin and keep pimples at bay no matter what type of acne you have!

5. Oatmeal Face Mask

Oatmeal is not just an awesome breakfast food, it is also great for the skin because it helps cleanse and exfoliate. It also helps unclog pores. Mix with honey and scrub it on your face to get rid of dirt, blackheads and acne.

4. Pumpkin Facial

Pumpkin is excellent for your face because it is rich in Vitamins C and E. It is also rich in mineral zinc. When you use it in facial masks, it is going to help tone and moisturize the skin. No more dryness!

3. Baking Soda Facial

This is one of the most popular ingredients you will find in homemade acne masks. It really treats acne because it helps get rid of the oil and prevents pimples. It also works as a natural exfoliant.

2. Citrus Fruit Facials

Citrus fruits, such as grapefruits, oranges, lemons and limes will do wonders for the skin. They have natural antiseptic properties, so they get rid of germs which is one reason why you can’t seem to get rid of acne and they will also help to reduce oil. Choose the citrus of your choice and mix it with wheat flour in order to make a paste. Leave it on your face for twenty minutes, then rinse.

1. Aspirin Mask

This one has worked on some people out there, so I figured it is worth the try. It consists of 5-6 uncoated aspirin, lime juice, 1 drop of honey and 1 tablespoon of yogurt. Trust me, this one is better than the best acne products out there.
There are many homemade anti-acne face masks that you can try out. Why would you want to buy one from store shelves, when you can make them yourself and KNOW just what is in it? How many of you out there make your own masks? Share the recipes with me!

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