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Ipads and Apps: Best iPads Apps for Toddlers

2012-02-29T09:23:00.001-08:00


iPads & apps for toddlers

Some children start using and playing apps earlier compared to others, because of that need, iPad apps have a variety of choices your toddlers can select from. The educational benefit of iPad apps is that they can grow with the kids. Try to read books from iPad with your kids today and two years later, they will be the ones reading for you.

Do you have older children? You can check out the following favorite iPad apps of preschool children.

1. Monkey Pre-schooler Lunchbox

They are very cool. A happy, playful monkey will cheer you up while you’re counting fruit, match cards, and put together the puzzles. You will have a reward—stickers and a happily dancing monkey, definitely. This iPad app is very addictive. Some screens may need the assistance of a mom or a dad to help their toddler.

2. DR. Seuss’s ABC

Toddlers may begin early to learn the ABC alphabet. It is not easy to choose which books of DR. Seuss to purchase first, so you can begin it easy with the iPad apps. Next, you can add probably “The Cat in the Hat.” It’s all fun clicking an object on the screen then the word appears on it. Joined by a narrator, you will be told what it is. This app is great for a toddler’s early reading experience.

3. Fish School HD

This latest educational iPad app is a disguising fun technique of a fish tank. It’s brought to you by the developer Duck Duck Moose. You can see how colourful fish will turn into numbers, letters, and shapes. The monitor for play time is the recess of the child during his learning time. It starts with the screen singing the alphabet while fish arrange themselves to form the alphabet letters.

4. Letters A to Z

This is a quiet and simple sequence of alphabet letters. Suitable for toddlers as well as for parents who are pissed off with loud and violent games. With the first glance, it seems you are to catch the letter on cards so you need to touch the images and the letters. You will hear audios reading the letters for you while the images have a little animation. This iPad app is recommended for children who are new to iPad and not yet hooked to technology.

5. Clickysticky

This app is a sticker book to your iPad along with the 4 assorted scenes to select from. This allows your kids to have creative imaginations, adventures to outer space, deep under the sea, and play with helicopters and jets. One of the most-liked features of this is the fact that the noisy objects come from the elephant’s trumpet to silly aliens. Whhee!!!

6. Trucks: Storyboy’s iPad app edition

This app is very attractive. You may want to keep it on your list since it’s not fast to look for apps with great masculinity in them—even if little girls love trucks also. The app does show you an image of a truck and tell its name. The price is reasonable and you can add it to your apps collections. It won’t make you feel bad to delete it when your toddlers have outgrown it.

iPads and apps have the ability to make applications ideal tools for learning. Well-designed educational apps can always combine videos, texts, audios to generate something great regardless of the age of the children.

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Stages in Growing Up: From 6 years old to 12 (part 2)

2012-02-22T17:34:00.002-08:00


Stages in growing up

The stages in growing up (from six to 12) are usually on the move, going, doing, trying, and seeing different things. Perhaps they are described as restless. Because they love being active, they easily miscalculate how dangerous their exploits can be. They become overconfident and, lacking judgement, have accidents.

Nervous reactions such as nail biting, twitches or tics, or finger drumming may suddenly appear. They are usually caused by anxiety and can fade as swiftly as they appear. Parents and teachers can help reduce anxiety by having realistic expectations and goals. Children need adults to praise their efforts, regardless of the outcome. In other words, the effort, as well as the achievement, needs recognition. The environment thus created is one in which young people are willing to take risks as they try to find out who they are for these stages in growing up.

Children between six to twelve are eager to learn and are interested in a wide variety of things. Generally, they can speak better than they can write, and they like hearing themselves talk. They delight in repeating a story that has gory or scary details. They willfully dominate conversations and may need some help in learning to share the spotlight.

The stages in growing up (from six to 12) have a strong desire for peer acceptance. They might participate in sports or join clubs devoted to some special interest and thus begin forming a peer-group identity. They usually like the stability of having a best friend of the same sex. Together, they share secrets, interests, and enemies. They attack their enemies, verbally or physically, without realizing how devastating their words or actions might be. Parents must maintain a delicate balance between interceding and letting the young people work out conflicts on their own.

As children identify themselves with peers, they want to dress like other members of the group and they sometimes go along with collective decisions, even when they know their parents would disapprove. To pre-adolescents, the admiration and respect of their peers are more important than how their parents or teachers regard their behavior. They might show off, boast, act silly, or even break the law to gain peer approval. They seem to enjoy the shock value of using swears words, belching, and passing gas; and they roar with laughter over their blatant obnoxiousness. The stages in growing up (from six to 12) are well aware of what is acceptable and unacceptable and seem to love defying family standards.

On the other hand, pre-adolescents fear rejection by their parents as well as rejection by their friends. This puts parents in a difficult position—they have the responsibility of keeping their children safe, of enforcing family rules, and of maintaining family values without seeming to reject or belittle the children. During these stages in growing up it is imperative that parents maintain an atmosphere in which the children feel free to discuss their feelings. Their complaints, even when seemingly unjust or ridiculous, should be discussed, not dismissed.

If pre-adolescents are frequently made to feel ashamed of themselves, they may threaten to behave in self-destructive ways. Threats of leaving home or harming themselves are too serious to be taken lightly. When a youngster feels there is no hope, he or she needs professional help. Family therapy can help the child and parents become more effective with each other.

As children pass through these stages in growing up, parents need to continually believe that there will be a positive outcome. The hope-filled attitude will encourage everyone involved. Undoubtedly there isn’t a more challenging job than being a parent; at the same time, there isn’t a job with more potential satisfaction and joy.

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Stages in Growing Up: From Six to Twelve Years Old

2012-02-06T22:04:00.000-08:00


stages in growing up: 6 to 12 years old

During these stages in growing up, children may occasionally demonstrate regression behavior, such as clinging to a parent, demanding special attention, or throwing temper tantrums. Children of this age are very anxious for peer acceptance and, as a result, try to control their immature behavior at school and in social settings. As a result, parents and siblings are the targets of their frustration and anger. These children are no longer predominantly influenced by their families; now teachers and peers play a significant role in their lives. The social and academic aspects of school also influence a child’s development.

Children at these stages in growing up, begin to learn about the test abstract ideas, such as being fair or being honest. At first, they will often expect other people to adhere to such principles, while they bend rules to accommodate themselves. For example, they might loudly criticize someone caught lying and then, a few minutes later, tell a lie themselves. This testing of principles helps children learn about acceptable behavior and personal responsibilities.

A child’s fear of failure, at home or at school, can lead to an intense feeling of inferiority and can endanger his or her emotional health. To avoid this, children must be made to feel accepted and loved by their parents, and the parents should refrain from constant criticism. Under these circumstances, even when failures do occur, the children can keep their fragile, emerging self-concept from becoming negative or defeatist.

Children in these stages in growing up are often described as argumentative, rebellious, oppositional, irritable with their parents—and affectionate and appreciative. Their sudden mood swings are not easy for parents to handle and it is a major challenge to remain calm, understand what is happening, and try to deal with it constructively. Pre-adolescents generally respond well to negotiating as a means of resolving conflict. Parents who react to misbehavior by letting their children see the logical consequences of their actions help them discover what is fair and why.

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iPad Apps for Kids: 5 Most Educational iPad Apps

2012-02-03T21:09:00.000-08:00


5 Most Educational iPad Apps for Kids

The iPad apps for kids are used almost in everything--from watching television to online shopping for house insurance. Children, including the adults, always find this tablet pretty amazing. There are a number of iPad apps that are released. They make the iPad gadget one of the best educational devices designed for children’s learning and entertainment. How can iPad educational apps help your kids? It helps kids to: learn problems on Mathematics, learn letters of the alphabet, learn things on history.

Learn much more!!The iPad library app is an enormous application to assist kids to pick up a variety of things to learn. It does not matter whether they’re just starting to learn the letters of the alphabet or solving problems in multiplication, there are 5 most wanted iPad apps to share with your little kids:

1 MathBoard. MathBoard iPad apps help children to develop and improve their skills in Math. Kids can work through many solving problems varying from easy to difficult levels. The levels are adjustable so you can customize it based on the ability level of the child. Kids will learn from their mistakes because MathBoard allows children to double check their answers. It has so far the coolest feature imitating what the real life is. The interface of MathBoard is a chalkboard. Hence, kids can use the iPad as they would on a notebook, paper, or board. Children will learn the power of iPad as well as the opportunity to hone their Math skills.

2. Math Bingo. Math Bingo is another app for Mathematics. It brings more fun than MathBoard. Math Bingo is a game that’s so entertaining. At the same time it encourages kids to learn more of Math basic. It makes players to solve problems on Math to earn bingo bugs. The bingo bugs are put on the board connecting 5 in one row. It features games of different types where a kid can use addition, subtraction multiplication, and division. Other functions serve as back up for many players and scoreboards. Math Bingo is a game that gives attraction to children and makes them feel not leaving the iPad.

3. Oregon Trail. Classic Oregon Trail game was previously played in basic computer. Now, the apps have been upgraded and re-envisioned for use in iPad. Similar to the original version, Oregon Trail makes the success of the user reliant to their own abilities to make smart decisions. This helps kids in developing mechanisms and weighing consequences. It provides historical perspective while playing. It also teaches about early America. Oregon Trail must be considered by parents to expose their children to both entertainment and learning.

4. ABC Animals. This app is geared towards basic learning. There are flashcard where animals’ pictures guide the kids in their learning. By giving animals their names and by focusing on the letter, kids will improve their phonics. Children can write them on the flashcards. The app is very basic therefore this is not applicable to older kids. ABC Animals will help children learn the basic alphabet.

5. Learn Sight Words. This app is a Dolch-based word list. In 1936, it was developed by Dr. Edward Dolch. The list consists of common and simple words that kids can recognize fast. Recognizing these sight words encourage them to do practice reading. The reading keeps them mentally alert. Learn Sight Words make use of attractive and colorful interface for children to independently use the app. The purpose is for them to understand and learn new sight words from time to time while using the app.

The amazing power of iPad apps for kids is unlimited. By installing these apps and seeking more apps, parents have all the opportunities to stretch out that power. Consequently, children will learn much while they are being entertained. With today’s advanced technology there are and will always be lots of apps and tools to emerge. The iPad tablet is a virtual school classroom for kids experience advanced learning.

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Stages in Growing Up: From Birth to 18 Months

2012-02-02T07:10:00.000-08:00

Stages in Growing up: from birth to 18 months.

During the early stages in growing up (from birth to 18 months) babies learn to trust their environment and their caretakers when their needs are consistently met. Babies cry to signal hunger, pain, or discomfort, or when they are overly tired. When adults meet their needs with attention and affection, babies begin to feel safe in their world.

Babies need the stimulation of movies, music, picture books, colorful objects, simple toys, and a lot of chatters. But don’t overdo it; they need quiet time, too. The early months of life are a period of great discovery as babies find their hands, their feet, and other parts of their bodies. As the stages in growing up continue, babies experiment with their own sounds and try to imitate the sounds they hear. Eventually, they can imitate the words of others.

Some of the physical milestones of development are sitting, standing, crawling, walking, and throwing things down. As babies begin to move around and discover things to play with, parents are tempted to show them how things work. Resisting the impulse to teach, allowing children to discover as much as possible on their own is important for their growth and self-esteem.

During these stages in growing up, daily routines provide many opportunities for children to take charge of themselves. Usually before their first birthday children will be able to feed themselves. When this happens, parents should present healthy food choices and let the children select what to put into their mouths.

During the first 18 months, it is especially important that children receive encouragement from their parents during these stages in growing up. They need to feel wanted, appreciated, and loved. This period of a child’s life is critical in forming a positive foundation for the future.

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Stages in Growing up: 18 months to Two Years Old

2012-01-30T12:36:00.000-08:00


18 months to 2 years old

Children of these stages in growing up (18 months to two years old) are full of energy. They love to explore and to manipulate objects, and they can entertain themselves for short periods. As their major muscles develop, their walking skills increase. Parents should be patient and offer encouragement as they begin to develop bladder control and, later, control their bowels.

Children of these stages in growing up begin to learn what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour as they test limits. Constant adult supervision is still necessary, because toddlers cannot determine what behaviour is safe and what is potentially dangerous. Small children respond well to known routines. Something as minor as a sandwich that is cut in a new way can cause distress.

They like being with other children although they usually play near or with a parent. The children watch each other and often imitate each other, but without interacting. Many toddlers have trouble making choices. They are demanding, often inflexible, and constantly in motion.

Toddlers quickly learn to manipulate their parents through tears and tantrums. Small children are more likely to become upset when they are tired, hungry, or rushed. Often tantrums can be avoided when parents carefully plan routine and are clear about what is acceptable behaviour.

When parents are overly controlling or critical, however, children can become filled with self-doubt. Although children of these stages in growing up (18 months to two years old) can be trying, they can also be loving companions—and fun to be with.

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Three-year-olds: Stages in Growing Up (12 Tips)

2012-01-28T00:24:00.000-08:00

Stages in growing up.

1. Three-year-olds begin to show both mental and physical independence. They are proud of their accomplishments and delight in demonstrating them. These stages in growing up will help develop their coordination for them to be able to ride on toy cars.

2. They can entertain themselves by making simple drawings or playing with blocks. Their communication skills are developed enough for them to tell simple stories or repeat nursery rhymes. Stages in growing up help the three-year-olds to be independent enough to do many care-taking activities, such as using the bathroom.

3. With a little assistance, three-year-olds can dress themselves (although they may have problems with buttons) and they have an easy time getting undressed on their own.

4. At about three and a half, children may become awkward and, on occasion, stumble and fall. They might develop stuttering or nervous habits, which could be caused by stress or insecurity. Parents should not panic, but try to find the cause of the stress and eliminate it if possible.

5. Children of these stages in growing up have fewer temper tantrums because they can do so many things for themselves. Unlike younger children, who use “no” with great frequency, three-year-olds use “yes.” They have more patience about having to “wait a few minutes.”

6. While toddlers have troubles adapting to sudden changes in plans, three-year-olds like new experiences and are usually willing to try most of the things parents suggest. They are increasingly more social with adults, they learn to share, and they begin to show real, and they love participating in long sessions of acted-out make-believe.

7. These stages in growing up help kids express emotional insecurity by crying and whining, and frequently they want parents to reassure them of their love. Three-year-olds seek this assurance through a paradoxical approach, vehemently saying, “You don’t love me.”

8. By three and a half, many children are jealous of anyone or anything that takes away the attention of their parents or friends. Three-years-olds often say they want to be just like their parents. They express love through their words and their actions.

9. At these stages in growing up, children might inform everyone that they are going to grow up and marry their parent of the opposite sex. They need to be told that their plan is impossible, but reassure them that they will have their own especial person when they grow up.

10. Parents can expect their children to inundate them with questions during this period. Children like to give their own answers and then hear what the adult has to say.

11. A movie, a television show, or something the child hears might cause fears that become greatly inflated at bedtime; the three-year-olds literally believe that the monsters are out to get him or her, and demand help. When this occurs, it is imperative that the parents become understanding and comforting to the child.

12. It is important that a child of this age learn self-control, how to behave in the company of others, and how to communicate frustrations through words instead of tears and tantrums. Parents need to be patient and set limits. The stages in growing up of three-year-olds need to know that their parents have confidence in them, as well as love them.

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Stages in Growing Up: Four to Five Years Old

8 Alarming Signs for Parents: Molester’s Pattern on Child Abuse

2012-01-24T08:56:00.000-08:00


Molester on child abuse

An abuser or molester is expected to be very witty not to utilize force to his potential victims. Instead, he might choose to entice a kid little by little. Child molesters are excellent in disguising themselves. For concerned parents, it’s difficult to pin point adults who may pose a danger to your kid. So here’s the molester’s pattern on child abuse, and every parent should be cautious about these:

1. A molester starts off by choosing his target, mostly a kid who looks vulnerable and believing. Therefore, the child is easy to manage.

2. Next, he starts showing the child a special time and attention. He also can win the child’s parents and their trust. Molesters are usually trained to honestly be interested in the child as well as the family.

3. Over time, the molester begins planning the child for abuse. Gradually, he becomes more physically attached to the child: he displays innocent-looking affection, tickling, or playful wrestling.

4. The molester may give gifts and start to isolate the child from his siblings, peers, or parents just to have time with the kid alone. There will be times he will ask the child not to reveal some secrets to anyone especially to parents—probably the gift or some plans to go outside. Such move sets the stage for making seduction.

5. After winning the trust of the child as well as the parents, the molester is well prepared to go on with his pursuit. Once again, the molester could be subtle only about this, instead of being forceful or violent.

6. He may likely exploit the kid’s innate curiosity on sex, offering himself as an educator, or even suggesting a special play to do together. The molester may attempt to show the child some adult materials making such attitude to look normal.

7. When the molester becomes successful in doing this, he becomes excited to make sure the child won’t tell to anybody about this. He may employ various tactics such as blame, blackmail, threats, or even a combination of these.

8. The molester may tell to the child: “It’s your own fault. You did not want me to stop.” He may continue: “If you report to your parents, they will call a police and put me behind bars.” Or he may also tell: “This is a secret between you and me. Nobody will believe if you tell about it.” “If your parents will know it, I will harm them.” There’s no end actually to the deceitful strategies those molesters will do to the poor child.

Sexual abuse on child remains one of the greatest damaging and deceptive problems. Parents need to be protective on their children about molesters. It must be their top priority to give security to children. These tips on molester’s pattern on child abuse will give advance warnings for parents.

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Stages in Growing up: Four to Five Years Old

2012-01-22T22:15:00.000-08:00


Stages in growing up

1. Pre-school and kindergarten stages in growing up provide an opportunity for children to meet new people and face new challenges. This is a time when children like learning start to develop the ability to cooperate with others. By five, most kids have already learned to play a variety of roles. Examples: a follower of older children, a bossy leader of younger children, and a cooperative partner with a peer.

2. Children begin to have strong preferences in playmates and identify with people of their own sex. As four to five years old children pass through these stages in growing up, their play becomes more complex as their cognitive skills develop. Even though they may invent imaginary friends and make up stories they insist are true, children at this stage begin to understand the difference between the real and the imaginary.

3. Four to five years old stages in growing up ask detailed questions that require thoughtful answers. They also are curious about their past because hearing about their past helps them feel bigger in the present. At this time, children become more emotionally independent and are frequently more interested in spending time with their peers than with their parents.

4. Encouraged by their friends, 4-year-olds often consciously break rules and behave inappropriately. With or without provocation, they might bite, pinch, hit, or kick; throw or intentionally break things; call people’s names; or use profanity. These stages of growing up assert the children’s independence by defying parents and teachers. Angry reactions from adults are often met with smirks and a general attitude that communicates “You can’t get me.”

5. Children often experience mood swings at this stage of development. They begin to understand the concept of “right” and “wrong” but test “wrong” to get adult attention. Parents have to choose when, where, and how to respond. Some things can be ignored but it is imperative to react strongly and firmly to the rest.

6. Four to five years old stages in growing up can take care of themselves in their daily routines. They might become fussy about their clothing, and they like others to admire what they are wearing. They enjoy helping around the house, but they usually forget to do the chores they have been assigned. They may be very sloppy about taking care of their clothes and toys and show a disregard for other people’s things.

7. Concentration spans lengthen and, by four and a half, many children spend long periods building, painting, or playing dress up. They like completing what they begin and the uninterrupted time they require should be provided whenever possible.

8. Fears recede in intensity and begin to shift from fantasy. These stages in growing up may worry them about the safety of their parents and the possibility of abandonment. As children move from four to five years old in life, parents often find them to be more emotionally stable.

9. They are more predictable and wild outbursts generally disappear. Almost overnight children of this age become helpful, cooperative, and very responsive to praise. Their defiance evaporates, they want to do things the right way, and they are extremely sensitive to criticism.

10. Their self-concept is largely drawn from how they think teachers and parents view them. If they haven’t been ridiculed or constantly criticized, four to five years old move through the year of developing a sense of purpose, inner control, and direction. The goal of stages in growing up for them is to feel comfortable and capable in their world.

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Tips to Effective and Successful Parenting: 4 Child-Raising Tips

2012-01-19T23:45:00.000-08:00

Effective & successful parenting

Child-raising is undoubtedly the most difficult job and yet the most rewarding career. Effective and successful parenting is a career in which most parents are caught not prepared.

To improve and upgrade your parenting skills, here are 4 child-raising tips to help parents—and make your children enjoy as well:

1. Develop the self-esteem of the child.

Your voice tone, gestures, body language, and facial expressions are imitated by your children. More than this, the actions and words of parents influence the emerging character and self-esteem of the child.

Little praises however, will make them feel proud. Allowing kids to do things for themselves makes them think they’re capable of pleasing their parents. In contrast, belittling words or making comparison with other children will make kids feel inadequate. These won’t help a bit to your effective and successful parenting.

Pick your words properly and remain compassionate. Let them understand that everybody makes a mistake and that you still care for them, despite the regular misbehavior.

2. Catch them doing good.

Have you paused for a while and think how many negative reactions you have against your child? You may criticize them more often than giving compliments, and this is not effective. How would you feel if your boss will do the same to you, scolding you often and not appreciating your good deeds?

The most effective and successful parenting tip is catching them doing right things: “That’s a great job! You cleaned your room without being asked.” These words can do more motivation to the kids than repetitive reprimands.

Create a successful plan to look for things to appreciate your child’s actions daily. Reward them generously—your hugs, love, and nice words can go far than anything else. Soon you will find your child showing the better behavior.

3. Discipline and set limits consistently.

Effective and successful parenting includes discipline and setting limits. The goal of it is to help the children choose the right and acceptable behavior and learn control over their impulses. They will always test the limits you make, but those limitations are needed to understand responsibilities.

Setting up house rules help the kids know your expectations in developing self-discipline. Here are some effective and successful rules: no television until assignment is finished, no beating, name-calling, or wounding teasing tolerated. This is the most common mistakes of parents: failure to execute consequences. Children can’t be disciplined by talking about the rules and close your eyes for the implementation afterwards.

4. Have time with them.

Family eating time today is difficult for both parents and children. But probably, there is nothing kids would like more from parents than their precious time. Wake up 30 minutes each morning for eating breakfast together. Or leave the plates in the wash area and take a short walk after dinner. Kids who receive no attention often misbehave because their action (though seems bad) will be noticed by a busy parent.

Lots of parents consider it effective and successful when they schedule activity time with the kids. Plan to have a special night every weekend. Just stay together. Allow your kids to make suggestions about the weekend activity. Find other ways to reach for your kids—writing a special note in their lunch box, for example.

Do you feel guilty about your child-raising style? Don’t!! If you’re a parent and you have a job, spending quality time may be a problem with you. However, it’s the little things you say or do that result to your effective and successful parenting. Acts like making popcorn, window shopping, cleaning the house, or playing cards will create a bond in your relationship.

Try the above tips and you can make the most effective and successful parenting career in your family.

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Outdated Parenting Skills: 6 Signs Your Parenting Skills need Updating

2012-01-17T19:26:00.000-08:00

Have you already updated your outdated parenting skills? Let’s accept the reality: if your parenting approach is based on the 20^th century instead of today’s 21^st century, you’re setting up a formula to fail in your family and parenting. If you’re applying the outdated techniques, your parents and your grandparents used many years ago, then you and your children will not enjoy your relationship.

Keep in mind that all bets are off the moment a child is born. Your kids may not be interested in your passion for music, sports, or history. Let the kids grow to be what they are destined to be. Don't let outdated parenting skills come your way. As a result, a great, lasting relationship will be developed between the two of you.

6 Signs Your Parenting Skills are Outdated:

1. You scream and yell frequently. Modern children are not responsive to frequent yelling and screaming. Before you know it, they’re yelling back at you. It will only result to loud yelling contest between you and your kids. It is smarter to stay cool, especially when talking with the kids. Use your authoritative voice, but avoid screaming and yelling, you will only look like insane. Constant yelling and screaming cannot win your child’s respect.

2. You’re either aggressive or passive. Is the kind of behaviour you’re displaying passive or aggressive. These two are outdated parenting skills to avoid. If your kids don’t want to take out the garbage after telling him, do you show negative reaction like pouting? You may not intend to do it, but your action shows you’re like a child. If the kid doesn’t follow your order, tell him a consequence will be imposed. Being passive or aggressive is not helpful.

3. You’re not even listening. Are you a good parent as well as a good listener? There are times your children want you to listen to them rather than absorbing all your voice of wisdom. Ask them if they want to listen in case you want to share your advice. If they don’t want, tell them it’s okay and ask them you always have time to talk to them. They’ll give you their respect and trust. Don’t force them to take your great thoughts if they’re not prepared to listen to you.

4. You don’t accept it’s 21^st century now. Being a child or a teenager of this generation is not the same 20 years or more ago. They belong to the digital world now, have advanced technology and they grow up smarter and brighter. Remember the time when a Walkman or Atari was fresh and popular? Now they have advanced devices: laptops, netbooks, MP3 players, and tablets. The former gadgets are considered outdated already. Now their way to communicate and socialize have gone up globally using technology and social networking websites. Understand their present life from today’s point of view. This way you can adjust your outdated parenting skills.

5. You avoid the right consequences. How well your kids understand the law of cause and effect. Each action needs a certain reaction. For instance, if they break the curfew rules, the consequences can be depriving their video playing games or no TV watching. As they go into the existing world, they get a consequence for being late or not following rules.

6. You always say “no.” Who runs the entire home? Your kids or you? You will create a big chaos if you always say “keep quiet” or “stop it” or “don’t” or “no.” Saying no to them follows a simple explanation. Explain why it is “no” Use your authoritative voice, be firm, but don’t forget to be fair also.

Parents of today need to improve their outdated parenting skills, or else their parenting is not going anywhere. Accept the fact that children are not the same more than 20 years ago. Parenting the children the way they raised you may not be effective anymore. Be willing to learn, improve, and leave behind your ineffective parenting approach. Definitely you’ll decrease your stress level and create a happier family.

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Improving Parenting Skills on Modern Time

2012-01-16T07:42:00.000-08:00

Improving parenting skills on modern times.

Improving parenting skills is a hot subject matter to talk about. Everywhere you look at there are blogs, articles, news, and books that promote and criticize parenting. But what’s really important is this: upgrading parenting skills on modern time. Parents should make every effort to become better parents. Why is this so?

Reasons why parents must improve their parenting skills:

1. Parents should follow the flow of the modern generation.

We had great parenting skills, although some were not really great. All these skills were based on yesteryears or old generations. Those skills used were applicable to their time. Kids during those years were different also. Those times were simpler: kids would behave out of fear and parents governed with tough fists.

Compared to this modern generation, kids are entirely different now. Our children are faced with strong influences, far more extreme than the people we were exposed to. This modern generation of kids is much quicker, faster and a lot brighter than the previous generations. Kids are very demanding from parents. While improving parenting skills, kids test and challenge our skills, authority, and knowledge. The economy has also changed. Family life has been changed. The amount of our job has also changed.

Perhaps one thing that hasn’t changed is the approach we apply in parenting. Most parents think that punishment is the most effective way to teach children. We realize, though, that many approaches are modernized now. Lots of these upgraded methods actually result to better parenting, too.

Computers, gadgets, devices, and technology are updated to recent versions consistently. As parents, we must do similar thing, especially our parenting skills. Improving parenting skills make our principles up to date also. This is to synchronize with the things happening in our children’s lives and the environment they live in. We should be working on the trending life of the present generation.

Improving parenting skills takes advantage of the new technology. Learn new tips and structure to improve your parenting skills. Search in the net about modern parenting. Figure out what supportive guidelines and new approaches to apply to teach your modern children.

2. Childhood is a test experience for maturity.

Childhood is the phase where experiences are recorded to the subconscious mind that will be recovered later in life. The misbehavior of a child and how he is disciplined will teach kids things about how this world operates. It will teach him how to survive in the family, how to communicate with others, and who they are. In short, a childhood life is a trial stage for an adulthood life.

Every parent should understand that it’s not right to reprimand, shout or penalize a kid while learning a different skill. Parents must know it’s much better to encourage, back up, and train them to succeed.

3. We also need some help.

No parents enjoy having a struggle with their child. And vice versa, no child wants quarrelling with parents. Updating and improving your parenting skills in order to stop reacting is confusing. You do read principles, guidelines, and tips yet they seem to fail you when you apply these. But why?

Parents fail because these are not spread out into smaller steps. Often, parenting specialists discuss about concepts but fail to talk about the details to implement it. You’re not told what to be cautious about, the do’s and dont’s, and what will happen if it won’t work. Parents are required to take every step to improving parenting skills.

Here’s an illustration: Parents are advised to listen to kids, give them power on a specific situation then employ natural consequences. That is great! But is the information good enough to control reacting, yelling, criticizing, and punishing?

Parents must understand the essence of active listening and how should it be done. They should give the right amount of power to a child. The child, in some extent, should not wind up feeling the he is in charge of the situation. And parents must see how to use natural consequences instead of punishment.

Improving parenting skills on modern time is very appropriate now. You should find the right methods to use making it sure you got all the steps to succeed in parenting.

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Lazy Kids: 7 Reasons to Child’s Laziness to Study

2012-01-13T02:59:00.000-08:00


Lazy child to study his lessons.

Is there any solution to child’s laziness to study? How to help him improve his study habits? Does your child show no interest at all to hold his book, read and study?

Unfortunately, there’s no any cure to improve a child’s laziness to study. The only possible remedy is learning to discipline the child so that he will start doing things he doesn’t enjoy. It is good to provide right discipline through consequences. Give him some sort of negative consequences for all his laziness. It could be depriving the child of watching TV, playing video games, or using the computer. You may use this if grades become very low as a result of his laziness to study.

How does child’s laziness to study happen? What are their valid reasons in showing no interest to study?

1. Often, a lazy student is not interested to do homework. There is no desire to learn and re-learn the lessons already presented. The effective teaching approach requires repetitive procedures to reinforce memory retention. For an average child or student, repeating materials over and over again is dumb and boring. As a result, the child just tunes out this method until another new material comes along.

2. For the parents, try to investigate whether the student is really bored. It could be that he really doesn’t understand what’s going on in the first place. Offer help to read his book and try to discover if materials are just the repetition of the former material.

3. Figure out the reason why your child’s laziness to study is happening. There must be a reason behind his laziness. You may start probing by asking these questions:

1.Is understanding the material hard for him?

2.Doesn’t he know the reason why old material needs reviewing?

3.Why this educational system not working effectively for him?

4. Consider also his environment. Are there lots of distractions around? Where is the television or computer? What is he doing while studying? Is his attention divided into many disturbances while doing his homework? A child’s laziness to study happens when he lacks concentration.

5. If your child loves to play games, he might be interested to study when there’s visual stimulation. RPGs are attractive illustrations that involve rich test contents as well as complicated point system. A textbook, on the other hand, is a tedious old style approach of reading, writing and learning. To a modern child of today, this old system may look dumb and will not catch his interest.

6. The child’s laziness to study may have an existing issue on his learning. Dyslexia is one of the usual problems among young children and students. This disability shows that the words being read don’t really make sense. The child does not see nor comprehend the words the way other children do. Unfortunately, words do not line up properly for them. You see words and understand them, but for them they don’t. Check it out with their school. As much as possible get some evaluations for your child if this issue of child’s laziness to study is connected with Dyslexia.

7. And finally, search about the things your child is passionate about. If you suspect your child is extremely visual in his activities, then offer materials that have images, drawings, or illustrations. If he’s lazy to read his textbooks, the material for him is mind-numbing without those attractive images.

Bear in mind that even the brain of Einstein did not work exactly the way other kids did. Even Einstein got diagnosed with impaired learning during his childhood stages. Help your kid by making necessary actions based on our tips. Keep this in mind: if the child gets interested in his schoolwork, he will always be glad to overcome the child’s laziness to study.

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Defiant Kids – How to Control Defiant Children

2012-01-10T06:22:00.000-08:00

Controlling Defiant Kid

Why are defiant kids answering you back most of the time? You can hear and see defiant kids bickering all the time, with their parents or siblings. What to do with defiant children? What are the keys to controlling defiant kids? This article will give practical suggestions to help out parents on handling their angry children.

Why are defiant kids always angry?

Defiant children are always frustrated, irritated, angry, and searching for external blame. They behave under the notion that they possess the same degree of wisdom and authority with parents or adults. This assumption results to furious interaction with their friend, classmate, or anyone in authority such as troubled parents.

When a mother or a father resorts to extreme scolding, defiant kids can influence the situation. Children are able to turn the attention on the behavior of their parents. Defiant children are branded as uncompromising, aggressive and explosive. Generally, their parents are afraid to set some certain limits because chaos always follows. Underlying problems about the defying behavior may come from emotional problems of children due to fights with parents, rejection of friends, traumas, and conflicts with siblings. The child may demonstrate defiant behavior every now and then, and he may have an Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD).

Controlling Defiant Children

In general, expert therapists discuss that parents must have thorough understanding about their child’s angry behavior. The process is to bring every member of the family closely knitted to each other. Often, nobody can confirm or guarantee the reasons behind the child’s bad behavior. The development of this behavior has something to do with how the child is being raised and disciplined. The way family members react on the defiant child really matters.

Members of the Family and the Defiant Children

It will be very hard for all the members of the family to truly understand the condition. The child possessing a defiant character can generate many troubles for himself, siblings, parents, and to most people interacting with him. Conversely, a hostile attitude will be a severe problem when displayed frequently every day. Their behavior is obviously different when compared with other kids of similar age. The developmental behaviors of defiant kids will potentially affect their academic learning, family, and social life.

It is very useful to have psychotherapy for the family. This will develop good communication in assisting problem solving. The approach decreases negativity. Social skills will upsurge flexibility and will develop disappointment acceptance with peers.

Put end to your child’s defiant behavior. Stop the bad, misleading behavior and see a child psychiatrist with many years of experience. Controlling defiant children is actually teaching your kids to experience having more fun. Parents should display less stress and troubles to control defiant children.

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Morning Blues: How to Overcome Difficulty in Walking Up (For School)

2012-01-07T05:59:00.000-08:00

Morning blues: Overcoming difficulty in waking up.

It is very hard to get my 7-year-old daughter up early in time morning for her school. Each morning I enter into her room, open the windows for her and tell, “it’s time to get up. Good morning, Stephany,” and then remove her blanket. She would ignore my words, push me away, groan, and return to sleep. Every day of the morning starts this way and she cries if she gets forced to get up. It takes me a lot of pressures and annoyance even before I can send her to school. Please help.

Sometimes parents don’t realize how difficult it is for children and everybody to end sleep that quickly. It’s very comfortable bending under those bed covers especially in the morning. Your approach of early-morning wake up seems not that effective.

What is suggested is this: One evening, let your daughter see a wrapped box package prepared for her before going to bed. You may label the card, “For a responsible girl who now becomes a person in charge of herself.” Just inside the box is her alarm clock. It’s better if you can provide her a clock radio. This clock orders her to gradually open her eyes and consciousness making her fully awake because of the sound.

Music will serve as her way of disturbing her sleep, far better that the morning voice of a mother. Make her understand that the moment her alarm clock stops, it’s time for her to leave her bed and prepare for school. Make her a responsible daughter; let her feel how proud she is for being able to handle such vital responsibility.

Implications made are sometimes intended to motivate the decision of day-to-day habits that require a change by possibly applying solutions. First is to identify the root cause for sleep interruption and to find appropriate solution is so important. If there is a situation when parents get controlled by kids, there’s a need to set up for firm and yet loving limitations for the children.

It is highly recommended that children should understand to work hand in hand with their parents for a positive resolution. Children should feel responsible enough for some needs that they themselves must take.

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For Kids: How to Have Power Over Scary Movies

2012-01-04T17:54:00.000-08:00

How to have power over scary movies?

Our neighbors do not monitor what their children watch on TV. Our 6-year-old son was playing at their house one time when they watched a monster movie. He came home crying, and ever since he’s been scared about monsters in his room at bedtime. He recently found out that the same movie is going to be shown every week for the next month, and he wants to see it again. It frightened him so much the first time, and I think that would be a mistake. Why would he even want to put himself through those fears again?

When children repeatedly view something that is scary, they make themselves less sensitive to it. Your son probably wants to conquer his fear of this movie monster. Some children recreate scary movies by talking out the frightening episodes over and over again. This verbal repetition helps them feel in control of their fears.

It isn’t advisable to expose children to movies that will scare them. They’ll have enough fears to conquer during childhood. However, your child has already watched the movie, so it is already in his mind. Because he wants to see it again, arrange to watch it with him. During intermission or after the movie, talk about ways you might have saved yourselves from the monster. Children enjoy imagining themselves slaying the feared monster and safely escaping.

Some children insist on checking their rooms for lurking monster before they feel safe enough to get into bed. If your son requests this kind of search, help him and reassure him that he is safe. He might want to ring a loud bell in his room to chase away potential monsters. This represents another way to take charge of the environment.

No matter how absurd your son’s fears might seem to you, refrain from ridicule or laughing. He needs to express his fears in order to control them. If he feels ashamed of his fears, he might keep them secret. Consequently, the fears could become more intense. Help him discuss with you his fears and figure out ways to help him cope with what he’s afraid of.
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Technology: Helping Video Game Addicts Overcome Their Addiction

2011-12-31T23:03:00.000-08:00

Video game addicts.

While your children may not seem to be one of the video game addicts, majority of psychologists state that there are some family concerns on the overpowering obsessions children experience when playing video games.

If your children show proofs as video game addicts, try to follow the suggested corrective measures below. See how their behavior changes. If improvement doesn’t happen, then it’s time to confront your children about the issue. Try outside help by consulting with their teachers, peers, or neighbors.

Here are some of the symptoms of the video game addicts. Specialists recommend the need of parents’ interventions on the following warning signs:

Video game addicts show difficulties in academic subjects:

1. Minimized attention span.

2. Listening skills become poor.

3. Grades continue to decline.

4. Unable to concentrate on doing tasks.

5. Can’t complete assignments or projects.

6. Can’t think logically.

7. Can’t follow instructions.

8. Troubles in understanding information.

Video game addicts show difficulties in the physical aspect:

1. Eyes get dry and strained.

2. Headaches.

3. Dryness of the skin face.

4. Feeling nervous.

5. Difficulty in sleeping.

6. Walking while sleeping, nightmares.

7. Wrist swelling with pain and numbness.

Video game addicts show some psychological difficulties:

1. Anti social behavior.

2. Raised aggressiveness in behavior.

3. Often feeling frustrated.

4. Manipulate others (complaining, throwing tantrums).

5. Withdrawing self from others.

6. Can’t socialize well.

7. Always rushing when eating, bathing, or working.

8. No time to participate on activities formerly enjoyed.

What should parents do to help video game addicts conquer their addiction?

1. Recognize that all video games are nothing but just “games.” They’re not very important and they can go away even without any giving extreme effects to children.

2. Put limitations on the time for kids to play on videos. One to two hours are good enough to satisfy one’s craving for games.

3. Keep children busy to do other important things like reading, cleaning, joining sports, doing other hobbies and a whole lot more.

4. Suggest to kids to have connections with their other friends. Video game addicts normally use the player in isolation. Help kids bring back life with peers. Hanging out with real people brings back the real world for them.

Video game addicts are they who have serious problems on playing video games. The answer is very simple that requires little power compared to completely breaking dependency on certain drugs. Aside from video games, there are more exciting and deeper games to play on instead—the real life games. So encourage children to start joining and playing the real games now!

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Fears: Developmental Fears Children Face (based on certain age)

2011-12-30T05:15:00.000-08:00

Developmental Fears Children Face

Fears can be found from kids of different ages. There are different fears children face in different stages, a reality that happens typically to every child. Each fear is specific, based on a certain age.

The following are some of the most common developmental fears children face. If your child exhibits them, take him seriously, but don’t give him excessive attention.

The first year: Fear of strangers and separation from parents are primary fears. Other fears involve sudden loud noise, falling, animals, sleep and doctor.

The one-year-old: Many of the fears of the first year continue. Others that develop are fear of the dark, thunder and lightning, toilet training, and the bath.

The three-year-old: Fears of new situations, the dark, dogs, scary noises, separation from parents may continue. New fears revolve around the child’s developing imagination. Fear of monster is very common.

The four-year-old: New fears involve bad thoughts and loss of control such as bed-wetting. Primary is the fear of losing a parent.

The five-year-old: Many of the earlier fears persist, but they are based more in reality than previously. Losing mother or the caretaker parent remains the primary fear.

The six-year-old: Fears are more intense and specialized (big dogs). Fears of monsters, ghosts, wild animals, sleeping or staying alone, water and separation from parents are common. The six-year-old is also afraid of bodily injury and will often exaggerate minor injuries.

The seven-year-old: Normal fears include supernatural beings, the dark, the things seen on TV or in a movie, shadows, heights, spies, burglars, adoption, being late in school, new situations, and social rejections.

The eight-year-old: Many of the fears of the year before continue, but the 8-year-old is more likely to worry about the situation, often making himself face his fear as a means of resolving it.

The nine- to twelve-year-old: Most fears revolve around realistic situations such as tests in school, crime in the neighborhood, being left alone, natural hazards, bodily injury to self or loved ones, physical appearance, and social popularity.

The teen years: Typical fears include snakes, heights, the dark, deep water, getting lost in the woods, and being alone. Primary fears concern social performance sexuality.

As your child matures, use good stories and people’s experiences to teach him to face his fears. There is nothing your child should fear about, eventually he will outgrow his struggles and overcome them. As responsible parents, do something to get rid of the fears your children face.

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Child Abuse: Understanding Types of Child Abuse and How to Avoid Them

2011-12-28T09:12:00.000-08:00

Child abuse is failing or doing something that could result to injury or harm to a child.

An abuser is someone who fails to take care of a child, bodily injures the child, or communicates sexually with the child.

What are the types of child abuse?

Emotional
Physical
Neglect
Sexual

Emotional child abuse:

Emotional abuse is the most harmful type of child abuse. Emotional abuse is an action, behavior or failure to do something that upsets the child’s social development or mental health.

This type can come from a verbally simple insult to a severe type of punishment. This is found together with the other forms of child abuse.

Emotional abuse stays for a longer time. It has more psychiatric negative effects than sexual or physical abuse. As a result, emotional abuse is practically the same as verbal abuse, mental abuse, or psychological abuse.

Instances for emotional abuse always include fault finding, humiliation, labeling, branding, showing disrespect, or any action that hurts the self-esteem of the child.

Physical child abuse:

Physical child abuse is an act that results to injury done through physical violence. Some bases acts of injury include hitting, burning, pushing, punching, shaking, cigarettes burning, kicking, scalding water, beating or other form of physical hurting. Some signs showing physical abuse include repetitive injuries, bruises, burns, head injuries, illness, frequent crying, fatigue, bite marks and fear of people.

Neglect:

Neglect is also a common form of child abuse. Most children of today experience more neglect than sexual or physical abuse. Symptoms of neglect are failure to provide the child’s basic needs, physical hunger, and clothes not appropriate to weather.

There are 3 forms of neglect: physical, emotional, and educational neglect.

Educational neglect is the inability to supply necessary schooling.
Physical neglect is the inability of parents to provide food, clothing, and proper health care.
Emotional neglect is the inability to provide unconditional love, emotional needs and psychological care.

Sexual child abuse:

Sexual child abuse is a traumatic experience of children. It involves physical acts between the child and the adult. Warning signs of sexual abuse include difficulty in sitting or walking, genital pain, extreme hostility, seductiveness, troubles in sleeping or eating, frequent crying, feeling lonely, avoiding interactions with others.

How to prevent child abuse?

Discipline the child but do not spank. Avoid disciplining if you are anger or out of control.
Guard your child against sexual matters on the net.
Be warned when someone displays greater interest in the child.
Adults, parents must be caring and loving towards their children.
Establishing preventive services such as activities on public education, programs on family support, and seminars on parental education.

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Warning Symptoms and Physical Signs of Sexual Abuse or Incest

2011-12-26T22:51:00.000-08:00

Seek for immediate medical treatment if you observe any of the following warning symptoms and physical signs of physical abuse or incest on your child. Discuss with the physician, share the problems with them. Get a report from the doctor should there be physical evidence of incest or sexual abuse.

Incest physical warning signs could demonstrate the following:

1. Rectal pain, discharge, swelling, itching, and bleeding.

2. Vaginal pain.

3. Difficulty in swallowing, urinating or bowel movements.

4. Headaches or stomach pains.

5. Infections of the body’s private parts.

6. Cannot sit or walk comfortably.

7. Recurring attempts to leave the house.

8. Promiscuity and / or prostitution.

Behavioral signs accompanied by sexual abuse or incest include:

1. Irregular eating like biting, hair pulling or cutting.

2. Severe behavioral changes and disorders.

3. Lacking self-worth accompanied with poor human interactions.

4. Childish attitude like bedwetting, screaming, or thumb sucking.

5. Fear of night or dark, sleeplessness, or repetitive nightmares.

6. Extremely frightened by a specific person.

7. Uncommon knowledge about sexual matters.

8. Grades continue to get low.

9. Telling lies most of the time.

10. Displaying signs of depression.

It’s so significant to remember that these signs of sexual abuse or incest can also be common problems. Some of these symptoms could be the cause of traumatic experiences and not essentially incest. Neither could they be warning signs of sickness like depression. Others remain red flag signs of sexual abuse or incest in the family.

The above signs must get the attention of the concerned parent. What should a parent do to help the child?

1. An initial effective move is to talk to the child.

2. Give the child more time to talk and interact with you.

3. Be more interested; always ask further questions.

4. Let the child feel your genuine support and love.

5. Make her feel you’re there to make her strong, confident, and happy.

6. No matter what happens, assure your continual love.

7. Increase your discussion with peers, counselors and teachers.

8. Figure out the child’s activities, friends, and people she spends time with.

If you feel there is an on-going incest or physical sexual abuse in your home, you suspect a certain individual as the perpetrator. Contact one of the crisis or child abuse centers in your local area. Give your concerns to an advocate. Their advice on sexual abuse or incest could be effective and helpful.

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Tired Mother: How to Enhance Creativity to Children

2011-12-24T03:05:00.000-08:00

How to enhance creativity to children?

"Just before I became a parent I had a dream of helping my children become creative contributors to society; however, the reality of daily living leaves me exhausted and makes me a tired parent. After the whole day’s tasks, I feel I am hardly in the right mood to motivate the creativity of my son."

Being a parent and the parenting process itself are very challenging. Substantial effort is spent by most parents in order to get through the day fruitfully successful. A parenting life demands great efforts and enlarged responsibilities for yourself, your children and the entire family. Unfortunately, many parents think that careers, major projects, outings, or money are required to encourage their children’s creativity. Sometimes these things do help, but not the real grounds to enhance creativity to children.

The important day-to-day routine of family members will supply large opportunities for promoting their creativity. Say for instance, every one of you might plan eating dinner or brushing your teeth with your non-dominant hand. It isn’t helpful to do it for your convenience, but the opportunity to think of ways to use your other hand in order to practice doing something better leaves many challenges to all. Bathing by candlelight and having a picnic meal on your floor in the living room are but some situations of changes in tediously boring routines. You may encourage your child to think of other applicable ideas. Mentally, it’s another way of showing how creative they are by asking them what they can suggest. You will be amazed how children of this present generation can start creating things in their minds that will show in their actions later.

You will wonder how over the way such independent changes will persuade conversation and flicker eagerness. They might as well contribute to your vision of fostering your son’s creativity. As a concerned parent help your children develop their minds and bring out their best ability. Teach them creativity by showing ways on how to be creative to yourself first. Being a tired parent, it is empowering to see your son showing his excellent skills.

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Family Meetings: Resolving Family Issues and Conflicts through Family Meetings

2011-12-21T21:49:00.000-08:00

Because there is continual interaction between family members, the complexity of living may seem overwhelming, but a constructive approach of resolving family issues and conflicts is always possible. Good communication between all members is essential, especially during periods of stress and anger. No families are completely free of problems. Even those who seem ideally happy encounter inevitable problems that must be solved.

Although being an effective parent is sometimes hard, we must remember to celebrate the existence of our children and ourselves. As we explore new ways to help our children feel good about themselves, we are fulfilling a primary goal of parents. One of the most rewarding jobs in life is raising decent, healthy, and ultimately useful human beings.

A good place to resolving family issues and conflicts is through family meetings. They are a good place to work on the problems and needs through discussions.

Obviously, parents set the atmosphere that determines whether meetings will be successful or not in dealing with issues and conflicts. Parents can make their children feel that family meetings are a safe place to share thoughts and feelings without dominating the discussion.

Consider the following when having family meetings:

1. Family meetings should not be scheduled more frequently than once a week.

2. Everyone of the family should look forward to them rather than dread the issues and conflicts.

3. Plan them for times when no one is likely to be hungry or tired. Parents sometimes make the mistake of using these sessions solely to air complaints about their children—a sure way to make the children resist attending.

4. Family meetings should provide time both to reflect on positive aspects of life and not to mention purely on issues and conflicts.

5. Planning positive statements about each person can be helpful. Everyone likes to hear that good behavior does not go unnoticed, and everyone likes to receive a compliment.

6. In resolving family issues and conflicts, discuss only essential problems and ignore the insignificant family issues.

7. During family meetings, every member should be encouraged to be a good listener as well as to make constructive contributions. Even 4 and 5 year-olds can learn to participate in resolving conflicts and issues.

8. Working together allows family members to see that there is more than one way to solve any particular problem. If one solution does not work, then everyone involved can help choose another.

9. Sometimes we take ourselves and each other too seriously. We must remember to have fun together. Smiles and laughter can brighten our spirits and reduce tensions.

10. A sense of humor can help family meetings put things into perspective and lighten emotional load. During sorrowful times of resolving family issues and conflicts, our families comfort us and we celebrate each other’s victories and accomplishments.

Family can eliminate unwanted habits or change objectionable behavior patterns. Family meetings teach children to make informed decisions and how to evaluate them. Children also learn that conflicts can be resolved constructively. Even at the most stressful times, a hug from someone we love can bring a big help. Affection between members can make it easier to cope with the problems of daily living and family meetings are the best tools in resolving family issues and conflicts.

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A Spoiled Child: 10 Signs That Your Child is Spoiled

2011-12-19T00:16:00.000-08:00


Signs your child is spoiled.

What are the signs to know that your child is spoiled? Spoil me rotten! Many parents will say that they don’t spoil their child with unending amounts of hugging, rocking, holding, or cooing. Over-indulgence can make a child spoiled especially when she has passed already her toddler years. It is so simple to get the spoiled child on the playground and yet it’s much difficult to use a critical eye for us the parents.

Here are the top 10 signs of a spoiled child:

1. Often, she’s throwing tantrums. Whether at home or in public, a spoiled child frequently throws many tantrums, and would not care about the people watching around her.

2. She always feels dissatisfied. Generally, a spoiled child cannot express complete satisfaction with what she has. If she sees a toy or something, she will still want to get it.

3. A spoiled child is lazy to help and work. Child normally doesn’t like to help in cleaning up or doing household chores. But the moment a child has passed her toddler stage, she must be willing to help in the family like doing small tasks, and organizing or cleaning her own stuff.

4. She always wants to control her parents and other adults. A spoiled child oftentimes will not delineate between her parents and peers. She will always expect both of them to listen to her.

5. Most of the times a spoiled child will make you feel angry and embarrassed in public. There is always a mistake here and there. If in case a child expressly embarrasses her mother or father in public just to look for attention, you better go to an isolated place.

6. She doesn’t like to share. Small toddlers find it hard to master the art of sharing and giving. However, if she reaches her 4^th age, she must already be willing to share her stuff like toys and food, with other members of the family.

7. A spoiled child wants you to beg her. A person in authority like the parents or caretaker should be followed by a child when giving a request to her. There is no need for you to beg her to make the task done.

8. She ignores you most of the time. A child does not want hearing a word like “no” but she’s not supposed to pay no attention to you when you’re talking to her. She must learn to listen and do what you say.

9. She cannot play by herself; she doesn’t want to play alone. At the age of 4, a child must then be able to play and be willing to play on her own. It demonstrates that she’s still in need of attention if she calls her parents and playmates to play with her.

10. A spoiled child wants bribing. Parents are not supposed to bribe their children in doing their assignments or when performing some tasks. Avoid bribing with toys, money, or treats just to get her finish what she’s doing.

Probably, the simplest thing parents can do to is to have a spoiled child, and it is more difficult if we learn to keep the child punished. So put some limits to yourself to make things a lot easier. Limitations will set boundaries to your kid’s every need and demand. Allow yourself as parents to agree some limits with your children, and you’ll be amazed how these 10 signs that your child is spoiled will ultimately be over.

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How to Raise Good Kids: Be Realistic, Kids Mess Up

2011-12-15T17:53:00.000-08:00

Kids are not perfect. How to raise good kids is not expecting perfection. They mess up most of the time. They are kids, especially when it comes to grades. Good grades are not worth crying over. Good grades are not worth sacrificing social balance over. Ask your kids to do their best then teach them to be satisfied with their results.

LIST ON HOW TO RAISE GOOD KIDS:

1. If you have little bitty kids, sit on the floor a lot. Communicate at their level.

2. Teach them about money. How to earn it, save it, invest it, spend it, and give it away.

3. Raise good kids by listening to them. Ask more, tell less.

4. Hug more—this is what they need—then nag less.

5. Show your kids good affection even after they think they are too big for it.

6. Teach them good, important things: kindness, charity, love, forgiveness, compassion, respect, honesty, responsibility, and how to have fun.

7. Never lie to them if you want to raise good kids. Never tolerate any lie from them.

8. Raise good kids by developing their own uniqueness. Do not try to mold their personality.

9. Let them be who they are and let them become what they want to be, not what you want them to be.

10. Do not make jackass out of yourself at their sporting events.

11. Raise them up but do not protect them too much. Let them make their own mistakes and suffer the consequences. The lesson is in the consequences.

12. Give more love than stuff and you’ll raise good kids.

STAY INVOLVED TO RAISE GOOD KIDS

Know what is going on in your kids’ lives. Know what their good interests are. Know their friends. Have their friends over to your house for a party. Yes, they will trash your house, but it is better to have a messed up house than a dead kid. We raise children but they die these days. There are guns and drugs and suicide and pedophiles to deal with. We do not have too many of those things to deal with when we were younger. Kids today deal with more serious stuff than we ever did. The best way how to raise good kids is to keep your kids involved and you being involved with them. Know who they hang around with, know where they go and have their friends come to your house so you can be close—not to meddle in their business, but just so you will be there if needed.

GIVE THEM THEIR PRIVACY, BUT KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON

Do not read their email or their diaries. Do not be a snoop. You need to stay informed but if you violate their privacy they will resent you and cut you off from any and all information. If you really want to raise good kids know what is going on, establish a relationship based on open communication, trust, and respect. Then you will not have to resort to being a snoop in order to stay informed.

BE COOL BUT NOT TOO COOL

Be the good, kind of parent your kids can talk to. But do not be their best friend. Do not try to be one of the gangs. I raise good kids with my two boys. I am their friend but I am still their father. We can openly talk about anything in the world. Yet, there is a line between being their best friend and still being their father that we do not cross.

It is sad to see mothers and fathers trying to be their kids’ good friends. Children should pick their own friends. Let them. Do not be such a needy parent that you require your children to pick you as their best friend. Be realistic on how to raise good kids!

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Raising Your Child: 3 Secrets to Raising a Happy Child

2011-12-13T17:51:00.000-08:00

There are really no secrets to raising a happy child. Parents need only to do one simple thing: to stop doing all things that keep the child pleased in the short-term. Giving everything your child wants make him think everything can be attained in this world which is not the way it is.

Understand that raising a happy child is not absolutely the parents’ responsibility. Many parents who think they are responsible for their children’s happiness will only cause anger, loneliness and failures to themselves and the kids. Most parents tend to immediately provide things to resolve their kids’ emotional problems. Unluckily, if children do not learn how to deal with their negative emotions, parents may not be able to create happy children. Many conditions will increase problems to their children’s lives.

Once parents realize they can’t really make their kids happy, children will be likely to fix their own feelings. Through this, parents can help children to develop resilience, skills for coping up with obstacles and solutions to many struggles.

Here are the three secrets to raising a happy child

Secret # 1: Always nurture strong connections.

Your kids’ way of enhancing his long-life healthy emotions is by being “connected” with people. It means they are connected with the members of the family, relatives, friends, not excluding house pets. Genuine happiness comes from being a part of other people’s lives. A happy feeling that somebody understands, appreciates and cares about them is the largest defender against emotional and mental disturbances. The condition helps also in coping with the risky behaviours in alcohol, sex, smoking and taking drugs.

Secret #2: Allow opportunities for achieving success and overcoming failures.

If you truly want to strengthen the self-confidence of your child, avoid focusing much on praises but provide more ways in honing his skills and learning new things. It is mastery that builds higher self-esteem and not compliments. Our greatest challenge to raising a happy child is to stay back and allow our kids do things they can do for themselves. Allow children learn things through the consequences of their wrong choices and actions. One big mistake parents unconsciously do is caring and doing too much for their young children, depriving them the opportunities to succeed and excel.

In reality, it is not easy for parents to see children struggling hard. But eventually they’ll get the mastery in what they do if they are allowed to do things for themselves. On their first attempt, only few skills are completed, but through patience and practice, kids will accomplish expertise. Through recurring mastery experiences will they mature and carry the “I can do” attitude. These secrets to raising a happy child will allow passion and optimism overcome future struggles.

Secret #3: Don’t forsake responsibilities.

Children become happy mainly because of the feeling that they can do things especially when they receive importance from others. Deprived of that feeling, they become afraid and feel left out by others. Studies show that what children are afraid of is the state of being excluded.

In short, every person has the inborn need to be appreciated, loved and needed to be happy. The more you affirm about your kids’ great contribution to the family, the larger they develop confidence and you can succeed in raising a happy child. Children three years old or below can contribute significant role to the family.

So if your child loves to organize things, offer him a task to sort CDs. If he is predominantly nurturing, provide opportunities to look after his baby sister while eating your meal. As long as your child is making a great contribution, it will raise his sense of confidence and connection.

What makes raising a happy child successful could surprise you! Experts say that child’s happiness is something parents can’t give like a gift. In fact, over-protected and over showered with toys, children are more prone to grow fed up, pessimistic, and lacking confidence. The most important secret to raising a happy child is not external but internal: helping kids to develop inner tools children can count on for the rest of their life.

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