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Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Alderman Farms Sales Corporation Voluntarily Recalls Organic Cherry Tomatoes Because of Possible Health Risk

2013-06-10T11:45:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Alderman Farms Sales Corporation Voluntarily Recalls Organic Cherry Tomatoes Because of Possible Health Risk

Changes Teenagers Need of Their Father to Improve Relationship

2012-08-28T09:30:00.001-07:00

Have you ever had the desire for someone to change their negative behavior because it was destroying or damaging the relationship? I am quite sure your answer is probably, yes! As a parent, I have made many mistakes but I always valued our teenagers’ perspective on things. Sometimes we disagreed but we did everything we could to prevent damaging the relationship. My greatest desire was to always respect my adolescents' opinions.

Listed below are changes teenagers said they needed of their father to improve their relationship:

Sierra: "My father and I have a good relationship. But I know I have a lot of hostility against him because of how much he drinks. I don’t. normally let the hostility out but sometimes I do. I know sometime it hurt but it hurts me to watch him drink every day."

Sara wants her father to stop drinking because of the damage the alcohol is doing to her father physically and emotionally. She was very concerned about the impact on their relationship. I hope that one day Sierra's father will stop drinking so that her life will be better as they rebuild their relationship. Her father needs to seek help to stop drinking. I pray and hope he will make a commitment to get help.

Frank: "My pop needs to listens to me more often

Vanessa: "My father needs to talk to me instead of arguing with me."

Dallas: "My father needs to spend more time with me and be there for me without yelling at me. Talk to me instead of yelling at me."

Tammy: "My daddy needs to be in my life more. Daddy needs to understand where I am coming from about everything."

Hillary: “I wish my dad would come to see me more often and spend time with me. I also want my dad to love me in spite of all the mistakes I have made!"

Ruby: "My father needs to talk to me more often and don't tell me he's going to do things for me and then he doesn’t follow through"

Comments on teenagers’ responses to question

Adolescents are wonderful to be around to engage in a conversation about life. Teens are very intelligent but some have deficiencies in life skills which may and may not be as a result of their doing. These teenagers shared their feelings but sometimes they fail to share their feelings with their father. Listed below are 16 steps every father in the world should consider to improve their relationship with their teenager:

Fifteen (16) steps for a father to improve relationship with their teenager

Always keep your promise
Do not make a promise you can't keep
Explain why you can't keep the promise before hand, if the promise must be broken
Avoid substance of abuse to prevent damaging the relationship with your teenager.
Take time to listen and give advice only when your teenager ask for it
Do not yell at your teenager but speak firmly with a loving and caring heart
Make spending time with your teenager a high priority
Avoid working when you are spending time with your teenager
Communication your feelings with respect to your teenager during conflict
Do not give material things as a substitute to spending time with your teenager
Model being a great father to your youth
Teach your teenager the life skills needed to be successful
Show unconditional love regardless of the number of wrong choices your youngster makes
Model to your adolescent the value of serving others
Value your teenager’s opinion as a supportive father building a relationship your teenager
Show your teenager what it means to be committed to a relationship

Written: Billy J. Strawter, Sr

Challenges Teenagers Are Facing With Their Parents

2012-08-19T16:45:00.001-07:00

Challenges Teenagers Are Facing With Their Parents

I had an excellent opportunity to ask a group of teenagers about challenges they are personally facing with their parents. The teenagers were very opened to responding to the question. I do believe they were honest about their feelings. I hope the information contained within this article will assist everyone in understanding the challenges teenagers are facing with their parents. We need to understand what our teenagers are struggle with in life in order to assist the teenagers in their development. Listed below are their responses. The names were changed to protect their identity.

What challenges are you facing with your parents?

Mercy: The challenges I am facing with my parents are they don’t trust me anymore because of the wrong choices I have made and because of the friends I make. They don’t help me when I need help.

Tom: Some of the challenges I am facing with my parents are poor communication and they are not listening to what I have to say. They do not give me a chance to make a decision on what I want to do. Most of the time, I do what they want or tell me to do but I never really get a say.

Jacob: The challenges I’m facing is with my mom. She is always thinking that I am lying. Most of the times I take her things without permission but I can’t help myself. I try to ask but when I do she says no. I get mad and angry when she says no. When I ask my mother for something, she normally says no. I end up taking whatever she said no to. Then I say I asked and try to be nice.

Nathan: Some challenges I face with my parents is actual getting alone with one of them. We sometimes don’t see eye to eye. It gets hard when you are in the same household. That’s why I live with the parent I live with because I feel more comfortable and relaxed with. Another challenge that I face with my parents is being in self-control. We get out of control when a situation comes up. Instead of solving the problem calmly and respectable, we react with yelling and disrespect.

Phillip: The challenges I face with my parent are:

They use up all the gas.
They are gone all the time.
I am not allowed to hang out with certain friends.
We have issues about my messy room and asking for money.
We are arguing about grades.
I am always being locked in my room.
Yelling!

Faye: The challenges I am facing with my parents is that they don’t trust me. They never trust me know matter what it is. Another thing is they have trouble understanding me. They think they do and they do try. But they still fail to trust and understand me.

Mark: The challenges I am facing with my parents are:

They don’t trust me
Problems with my dad
Issues over homework
My parents over complaining
Issues with my siblings

Cam: I have a close relationship with my parents. But if we ever have any problems, it is about going out with friends and that I am hanging around. Some of my friends my parents don’t particular like.

Emmanuel: I am at a very rebellious stage in my life. I want to be able to do what I won’t to do. I want them to stop trying to make my decision for me. This is a big challenge, but I am winning. As long as what I am doing does not affect how well I do in school nor put my life in danger, they should have no say in what I do.

Dexter: The challenges I am facing with my parents is them not believing in me when I get in trouble or tell the truth. Another issue is when we both disagree on something. Sometimes I can hear like a crying sound in her force but no tears.

Debbie: The challenges I am facing with my parents is that I am never really able to get along with my mom for longer than three hours. Because when I am talking to her she will say that she does not want to hear it even if it’s something that I am worried about. It’s not like I have a dad I can communicate with because he passed away in a car accident before I was one year old. When I and my mom actually do get along its fun but I know it won’t last for long.

Ray: Some challenges I am facing is communication at this time. They don’t always listen to what I have to say or give me a chance to make a decision on what I want to do. Most of the time, I just do what they want to do or tell me to do so I never really get a say.

Parents, I hope you have had an opportunity to reflect on the issues teenagers or facing with their parents. Maybe you are facing similar issues with your teenager and you are struggling how to deal with your situation. All of the issues they wrote about can be easily dealt with. As a parent and grandparent who have worked with teenagers for many years, the common mistakes parents make are listed below:

Don’t have dinner frequently as a family. Eating dinner as a family helps with communication, listening and understanding what the teenager is facing.
Don’t allow there teenager to rebuild trust as a result of the bad choices the teenager made in the past.
Lack of awareness of their teenager need to make their own decision sometimes. They need to make decision even though sometimes they might fail. You must guide your teenager through this stage of development because eventually they might become parents. It’s okay to monitor their thinking’s process, and give them some guidance with a loving, caring and compassionate heart.
Unaware of the issues the teenager is facing in school. Set aside time to get involved in the school and get to know your teenager’s teachers.
Didn’t take an opportunity to adequately explain to the teenager the reasons they can’t hang out with certain friends. It’s very important that the decision to limit who the teenager hangs out with is based on health and safety of the teenager. For example, a teenager was told that he couldn’t hang out with a friend because he was goofy. I asked him “What did your mother mean? He explained that his mother said “He was too messy.” This is not a realistic reason to request that the teenager don’t hang out with his friend.
Didn’t communicate feelings to teenager with respect without yelling
Over reacting when the teenager make wrong choices

Parents, please take the time to understand, listen, trust, avoid yelling, and become the greatest role model for your teenager. There are other role models in your teenager’s life but you must be the greatest. A strong relationship with your teenager will maximize your ability to influence the teenager in an awesome way. You will always experience some challenges with your teenager. However, when the teenager becomes an adult the life skills you taught the teenager will be absolutely valuable and beneficial.

Written by: Billy J. Strawter, Sr.

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Gills Onions Voluntarily Recalls Diced and Slivered Red and Yellow Onions, and Diced Onion and Celery Mix Because of Possible Health Risk

2012-07-25T04:43:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Gills Onions Voluntarily Recalls Diced and Slivered Red and Yellow Onions, and Diced Onion and Celery Mix Because of Possible Health Risk

Press Announcements FDA warns consumers not to eat shellfish from Oyster Bay Harbor, Nassau County, NY

2012-07-25T04:39:00.001-07:00

Press Announcements FDA warns consumers not to eat shellfish from Oyster Bay Harbor, Nassau County, NY

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Consumer Alert-Colombian Style Cheese Recall Due To Improper Pasteurization

2012-07-25T04:38:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Consumer Alert-Colombian Style Cheese Recall Due To Improper Pasteurization

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Wellements LLC Recalls Baby Move™ Prune Concentrate Because 0f Possible Health Risk

2012-07-25T04:36:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Wellements LLC Recalls Baby Move™ Prune Concentrate Because 0f Possible Health Risk

Pennsylvania Firm Recalls Ground Beef Products Due To Possible Salmonella Contamination

2012-07-25T04:33:00.001-07:00

Pennsylvania Firm Recalls Ground Beef Products Due To Possible Salmonella Contamination

Recall Notification Report 041-2012 | USDA Food Safety and Inspection Service

2012-06-22T06:20:00.001-07:00

Recall Notification Report 041-2012 | USDA Food Safety and Inspection Service

Air Force's secret X-37B space plane lands in Calif. after mystery mission

2012-06-16T16:59:00.001-07:00

Air Force's secret X-37B space plane lands in Calif. after mystery mission

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Golden Glen Creamery Issues Voluntary Recall Of Red Pepper Onion & Garlic Cheddar Because Of Potential Health Risk

2012-06-14T11:32:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Golden Glen Creamery Issues Voluntary Recall Of Red Pepper Onion & Garlic Cheddar Because Of Potential Health Risk

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Botanical Laboratories Inc. Recalls Wellesse Digestive 3 in 1 Health® Because of Possible Health Risk

2012-06-10T13:58:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Botanical Laboratories Inc. Recalls Wellesse Digestive 3 in 1 Health® Because of Possible Health Risk

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Caribe Produce, LTD CO. Recalls Papaya Maradol, Caribena Brand Because Of Possible Health Risk

2012-05-21T14:36:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Caribe Produce, LTD CO. Recalls Papaya Maradol, Caribena Brand Because Of Possible Health Risk

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Gills Onions Voluntarily Recalls One Lot of Diced Red Onions Because of Possible Health Risk

2012-05-21T14:34:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Gills Onions Voluntarily Recalls One Lot of Diced Red Onions Because of Possible Health Risk

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts River Ranch Expands Salad Recall Because Of Possible Health Risk

2012-05-21T14:31:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts River Ranch Expands Salad Recall Because Of Possible Health Risk

Recall Notification Report 029-2012 | USDA Food Safety and Inspection Service

2012-05-19T06:05:00.001-07:00

Recall Notification Report 029-2012 | USDA Food Safety and Inspection Service

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Solid Gold Health Products for Pets, Inc. Recalls Dog Food Because of Possible Salmonella Health Risk

2012-05-14T07:29:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Solid Gold Health Products for Pets, Inc. Recalls Dog Food Because of Possible Salmonella Health Risk

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Funfresh Foods, Inc. Voluntarily Recalls World Berries™ Organic “Cacao Nibs” Because of Possible Health Risk

2012-05-14T07:28:00.003-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Funfresh Foods, Inc. Voluntarily Recalls World Berries™ Organic “Cacao Nibs” Because of Possible Health Risk

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Cleveland Beansprouts Co. of Cleveland, OH is recalling all alfalfa sprouts because they may be contaminated with Listeria monocytogenes

2012-05-14T07:28:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Cleveland Beansprouts Co. of Cleveland, OH is recalling all alfalfa sprouts because they may be contaminated with Listeria monocytogenes

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2012-04-29T17:01:00.001-07:00

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Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Moon Marine USA Corporation voluntarily recalls frozen raw yellowfin tuna product “Nakaochi Scrape” associated with a multistate outbreak of Salmonella Bareilly infections

2012-04-17T07:32:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Moon Marine USA Corporation voluntarily recalls frozen raw yellowfin tuna product “Nakaochi Scrape” associated with a multistate outbreak of Salmonella Bareilly infections

Precocious 7-year-old admits to being a serial arsonist

2012-04-09T18:03:00.001-07:00

Precocious 7-year-old admits to being a serial arsonist

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Club Chef LLC Recalls Salsa Because Of Possible Health Risk

2012-03-31T05:54:00.001-07:00

Recalls, Market Withdrawals, & Safety Alerts Club Chef LLC Recalls Salsa Because Of Possible Health Risk

Illinois Firm Recalls Stuffed Beef Products for Possible Listeria Contamination

2012-03-31T05:53:00.001-07:00

Illinois Firm Recalls Stuffed Beef Products for Possible Listeria Contamination

Washington Firm Recalls Beef Patties Due To Possible E. Coli Contamination

2012-03-27T09:20:00.001-07:00

Washington Firm Recalls Beef Patties Due To Possible E. Coli Contamination