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10 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

2011-12-25T20:20:00.000+08:00

Sharing is caring.. and also a reminder for those who are looking for a soul mate.. Enjoy reading ;D

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage. The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility. One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone. A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are. The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them. The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc. Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place? Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences. If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase, the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential: Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change. This is the wrong approach on both accounts. Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential. There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them. These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry: While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love. The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort. They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money? How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character. You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have. They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The Emotional Needs of Your Partner: Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved. The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated. To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs: Attention, Affection, & Appreciation. To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs: Respect, Reassurance, & Relief. It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive. When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans: In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.

You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about? Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.

5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual/Physical Activity:

Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.

6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection: There are four questions that you must answer YES to:

Do I respect and admire this person? What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
Do I trust this person? Can I rely on them? Do I trust their judgment? Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
Do I feel Safe? Do I feel emotionally safe with this person? Can I be vulnerable? Can I be myself? Can I be open? Can I express myself?
Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?

If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married. If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!

7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage. Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage. When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions. Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship. If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship. Look for the following things:

Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time. Know the difference between suggestions and demands. Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.

Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc. You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment. Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds. If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away. Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.

Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner: Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset. Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?” It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team. When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team. Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds. How do they handle it? Are they defensive? Do they attack? Do they withdraw? Do they get annoyed? Do they blame you? Do they ignore it? Do they hide or rationalize it? Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!

9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility: It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married. People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married. If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage. Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.

10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner: Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster. Also important to consider are the following:

Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside. These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts. They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them. Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t. They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them. These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.
Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship. Never marry an addict. Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol. They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc. When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!

Additional Points to Consider:

The fact is no one looks 25 forever. Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance. When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.
Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc. We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc. Asking clear questions can clarify this. Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?” “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.
Be flexible. Be open-minded!
Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom. It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health. The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship. If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you? The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss. Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage. Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well. Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.

The above article was [in part] inspired by and adapted from a presentation by Rabbi Dov Heller, M.A.

article taken from http://muslimvillage.com/2011/10/27/15806/10-ways-to-avoid-marrying-the-wrong-person/

Wordless Wednesday #8 : The Solemnization

2011-10-05T12:00:00.000+08:00

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All pics credit to the Udey & team

Universal Studio Singapore

2011-09-29T13:27:00.000+08:00

Hye!!! lama dah xupdate blog ni.. Bersawang terus nak kena vacuum full blast ni. Ok well actually ini adalah pending post way before i bertuar status dulu. Kiranya mcm beronggeng rokiah sebelum jadi wife la.. mestila dengan 2 orang kawan baik ni dunia akhirat.. Insya Allah.. Kalau nak tau orang lain dok sibuk dengan prep wedding ... i on the hand.. why so calm?? because i ada wedding planner yang terbaik sekali .. later nti i share ok!!! ..hehehe..

So let's begin the story..

Nak dijadikan cerita kitorang ni bestfriend since Sek Menengah lagi.. haaa Sek Menengah Agama Johor Bahru lagi.. Sila imagine kami dengan tudung bulat/labuh yek!! dan kami la among yang bising ke sekolah tu.. Disebabkan kitorang ni xberenggang maka digelar Geng Stokin Merah...haaa kelas kan mak?? Penah jugak kena denda sebab fly dr sekolah.. waaaa missed the old days.. Now semua dah kawen.. Haa tu yang pakai baju merah (Imah) paling gonjeng and nakal kt sekolah.. Yang Farah ni plak ketua asrama xsilap... I adalah pengawas asrama.. tp kitorang lain-lain kelas.. i kelas science, farah kelas engineering dan imah accounting.. tp kitorang boleh Ngam ngam ho... Alhamdullillah sampai sekarang ... Imah dah ada anak 2 plak tu and farah insyaAllah ... dorang dok kt JB and i memang dari sekolah dolu dok KL..

After so long kitorang xjumpa, mula la plan untuk bercuti bersama where by no husband, and kids.. just the 3 of us.. Alasan lagi kukuh nak celebrate my hen partay!!! ye huuuuu... no wild things happened ok.. kami bdak sopan santun.. chewahhh ;p Paling dekat n senang ke USS it is.. after few replying emails, sms and calls we came into conclusion pergi 1 month b4 my wedding and after Imah settled confinement.

I pon settle kan transport gi JB.. oppss my soon to be husband yg belikan bus and flight tix tu.. thanks dear for being so understanding. keh keh keh... Abis je waktu kerja Jumaat tu trus zassss balik umah siap-siap then ke bus station..(date lupa dah) dalam bus tido mmg xhingat sebab dalam kepala nak gi enjoy bersama kawan-kawan.. dalam kul 3 pagi sampai dah.. Imah datang jemput.. sesampai umah dia xsempat apa trus gossip..haih laaa sambil tengok cite Anu dalam botol ;p

Kitorang gi USS by bus yang dah booking thru Rajawali travel kt Tune Hotel at 7.30am.. kitorang la paling awal.. Farah jmpa trus kt tune hotel.. dah bawak bekalan roti air semua takot lapar kan..Dah naik tu start dah cam wh*re.. Xyah la cite pasal procedure sume.. 1 thing for sure mmg leceh kalau naik bus sebab kena turun 2 kali untuk checking pastu ramai orang then terkejar-kejar bagai.. So i think this is the 1st and last la i masuk Singapore by bus..ehem baik thru flight je.. hassle free.. aritu tu sj nak adventure konun.. penat wehhh.. pagi ok lagi but after that nak masuk balik JB .. ya ampun hazabbbbb!!!

Nak jadikan cerita yang menambah kepenatan tu , kan ckp tadi amik pakej kat Rajawali tu kan (bus remember?) boleh pulak kitorang kena tinggal ek.. mybe sebab miscommunication or xtau la sebab apa.. dammn u bus... maka mula la episode naik bas tambang biase tu sgd5 dan tawaf 1 singapore before smpai JB.. penat waa cakap lu.. nak patah kaki lutut badan semua.. dah la penat main semua rides dalam USS then kena explorace lak.. huhuhu xpela experience and dapat tour singapore free and easy kan..

Dah banyak bebel meh layan pic laaa ok. Pictures worth thousand words

ni belum apa-apa lagi dah fening.. dey farah lom main battlestar gallactica tu ek!!!

hye jelly belly

welcome!! Selamat datang!!

yes trademark kami.. muka lembu.. buruk sunggoh ek ;p

pose utk majalah mangga ek imah

hover tau makcik ni!!

kena paksa diri tengah panas sebab nak amik pic

friends forever.. let's move it move it

hello tall guy!!badan ketak-ketak u

haa tu i ngn imah for 2nd ride.. blue n red.. farah main satu je.. fening katenye ;)

perasan mcm gossip girls pose kt stairs

yes mari menari mak yong!!

cantiknye dia..apesal haku pose cm sakit gigi tu.. alahai kak mary!!

yes u guys rawkss;P

Overall i truly enjoy this trip and u guys are awesome.. Love u to the max.. Next time kite plan for family trip ok ;)

Wordless Wednesday #7 : 3 months ago..

2011-09-28T08:32:00.000+08:00

17th June 2011

15 Rejab 1432

Mana Mak??!?!?

2011-08-17T08:57:00.000+08:00

Got an email from a friend this morning,

I think its worth to share this touching story for a reminder to all..Hopefully this kind of situation does not happen to us

"Mana Mak?'
Jam 6.30 petang.
Mak berdiri di depan pintu. Wajah Mak kelihatan resah. Mak tunggu adik bungsu balik dari sekolah agama.
Ayah baru balik dari sawah.
Ayah tanya Mak, “Along mana?’
Mak jawab, “ Ada di dapur tolong siapkan makan.”
Ayah tanya Mak lagi,” Angah mana?”
Mak jawab, “Angah mandi, baru balik main bola.”
Ayah tanya Mak, “Ateh mana?”
Mak jawab, “Ateh, Kak Cik tengok tv dengan Alang di dalam?”
Ayah tanya lagi, “Adik dah balik?”
Mak jawab, “Belum. Patutnya dah balik. Basikal adik rosak kot. Kejap lagi kalau tak balik juga jom kita pergi cari Adik.”
Mak jawab soalan ayah penuh yakin. Tiap-tiap hari ayah tanya soalan yang sama. Mak jawab penuh perhatian. Mak ambil berat di mana anak-anak Mak dan bagaimana keadaan anak-anak Mak setiap masa dan setiap ketika.

Dua puluh tahun kemudian
Jam 6.30 petang
Ayah balik ke rumah. Baju ayah basah. Hujan turun sejak tengahari.
Ayah tanya Along, “Mana Mak?”
Along sedang membelek-belek baju barunya. Along jawab, “Tak tahu.”
Ayah tanya Angah, “Mana Mak?”
Angah menonton tv. Angah jawab, “Mana Angah tahu.”
Ayah tanya Ateh, “Mana Mak?”

Ayah menunggu lama jawapan dari Ateh yang asyik membaca majalah.

Ayah tanya Ateh lagi, "Mana Mak?"

Ateh menjawab, “Entah.”

Ateh terus membaca majalah tanpa menoleh kepada Ayah.
Ayah tanya Alang, “Mana Mak?”
Alang tidak jawab. Alang hanya mengoncang bahu tanda tidak tahu.

Ayah tidak mahu tanya Kak Cik dan Adik yang sedang melayan facebook. Ayah tahu yang Ayah tidak akan dapat jawapan yang ayah mahu.

Tidak ada siapa tahu di mana Mak. Tidak ada siapa merasa ingin tahu di mana Mak. Mata dan hati anak-anak Mak tidak pada Mak. Hanya mata dan hati Ayah yang mencari-cari di mana Mak.
Tidak ada anak-anak Mak yang tahu setiap kali ayah bertanya, "Mana Mak?"
Tiba-tiba adik bungsu bersuara, “Mak ni dah senja-senja pun merayap lagi. Tak reti nak balik!!”
Tersentap hati Ayah mendengar kata-kata Adik.

Dulu anak-anak Mak akan berlari mendakap Mak apabila balik dari sekolah. Mereka akan tanya "Mana Mak?" apabila Mak tidak menunggu mereka di depan pintu.

Mereka akan tanya, "Mana Mak." Apabila dapat nomor 1 atau kaki melecet main bola di padang sekolah. Mak resah apabila anak-anak Mak lambat balik. Mak mahu tahu di mana semua anak-anaknya berada setiap waktu dan setiap ketika.

Sekarang anak-anak sudah besar. Sudah lama anak-anak Mak tidak bertanya 'Mana Mak?"

Semakin anak-anak Mak besar, soalan "Mana Mak?" semakin hilang dari bibir anak-anak Mak .
Ayah berdiri di depan pintu menunggu Mak. Ayah resah menunggu Mak kerana sudah senja sebegini Mak masih belum balik. Ayah risau kerana sejak akhir-akhir ini Mak selalu mengadu sakit lutut.

Dari jauh kelihatan sosok Mak berjalan memakai payung yang sudah uzur. Besi-besi payung tercacak keluar dari kainnya. Hujan masih belum berhenti. Mak menjinjit dua bungkusan plastik. Sudah kebiasaan bagi Mak, Mak akan bawa sesuatu untuk anak-anak Mak apabila pulang dari berjalan.

Sampai di halaman rumah Mak berhenti di depan deretan kereta anak-anak Mak. Mak buangkan daun-daun yang mengotori kereta anak-anak Mak. Mak usap bahagian depan kereta Ateh perlahan-lahan. Mak rasakan seperti mengusap kepala Ateh waktu Ateh kecil. Mak senyum. Kedua bibir Mak diketap repat. Senyum tertahan, hanya Ayah yang faham. Sekarang Mak tidak dapat lagi merasa mengusap kepala anak-anak seperti masa anak-anak Mak kecil dulu. Mereka sudah besar. Mak takut anak Mak akan menepis tangan Mak kalau Mak lakukannya.

Lima buah kereta milik anak-anak Mak berdiri megah. Kereta Ateh paling gah. Mak tidak tahu pun apa kehebatan kereta Ateh itu. Mak cuma suka warnanya. Kereta warna merah bata, warna kesukaan Mak. Mak belum merasa naik kereta anak Mak yang ini.
Baju mak basah kena hujan. Ayah tutupkan payung mak. Mak bagi salam. Salam Mak tidak berjawab. Terketar-ketar lutut Mak melangkah anak tangga. Ayah pimpin Mak masuk ke rumah. Lutut Mak sakit lagi.

Mak letakkan bungkusan di atas meja. Sebungkus rebung dan sebungkus kueh koci pemberian Mak Uda untuk anak-anak Mak. Mak Uda tahu anak-anak Mak suka makan kueh koci dan Mak malu untuk meminta untuk bawa balik. Namun raut wajah Mak sudah cukup membuat Mak Uda faham.

Semasa menerima bungkusan kueh koci dari Mak Uda tadi, Mak sempat berkata kepada Mak Uda, "Wah berebutlah budak-budak tu nanti nampak kueh koci kamu ni."

Sekurang-kurangnya itulah b ayang an Mak. Mak b ayang kan anak-anak Mak sedang gembira menikmati kueh koci sebagimana masa anak-anak Mak kecil dulu. Mereka berebut dan Mak jadi hakim pembuat keputusan muktamat. Sering kali Mak akan beri bahagian Mak supaya anak-anak Mak puas makan. B ayang an itu sering singgah di kepala Mak.

Ayah suruh Mak tukar baju yang basah itu. Mak akur.

Selepas Mak tukar baju, Ayah iring Mak ke dapur. Mak ajak anak-anak Mak makan kueh koci. Tidak seorang pun yang menoleh kepada Mak. Mata dan hati anak-anak Mak sudah bukan pada Mak lagi.

Mak hanya tunduk, akur dengan keadaan.

Ayah tahu Mak sudah tidak boleh mengharapkan anak-anak melompat-lompat gembira dan berlari mendakapnya seperti dulu.

Ayah temankan Mak makan. Mak menyuap nasi perlahan-lahan, masih mengharapkan anak-anak Mak akan makan bersama. Setiap hari Mak berharap begitu. Hanya Ayah yang duduk bersama Mak di meja makan setiap malam.
Ayah tahu Mak penat sebab berjalan jauh. Siang tadi Mak pergi ke rumah Mak Uda di kampung seberang untuk mencari rebung. Mak hendak masak rebung masak lemak cili api dengan ikan masin kesukaan anak-anak Mak.
Ayah tanya Mak kenapa Mak tidak telepon suruh anak-anak jemput. Mak jawab, "Saya dah suruh Uda telepon budak-budak ni tadi. Tapi Uda kata semua tak berangkat."

Mak minta Mak Uda telepon anak-anak yang Mak tidak boleh berjalan balik sebab hujan. Lutut Mak akan sakit kalau sejuk. Ada sedikit harapan di hati Mak agar salah seorang anak Mak akan menjemput Mak dengan kereta. Mak teringin kalau Ateh yang datang menjemput Mak dengan kereta barunya. Tidak ada siapa yang datang jemput Mak.

Mak tahu anak-anak mak tidak sedar telepon berbunyi. Mak ingat kata-kata ayah, “Kita tak usah susahkan anak-anak. Selagi kita mampu kita buat saja sendiri apa-apa pun. Mereka ada kehidupan masing-masing. Tak payah sedih-sedih. Maafkan sajalah anak-anak kita. Tak apalah kalau tak merasa menaiki kereta mereka sekarang. Nanti kalau kita mati kita masih ada peluang merasa anak-anak mengangkat kita kat bahu mereka.”
Mak faham buah hati Mak semua sudah besar. Along dan Angah sudah beristeri. Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik masing-masing sudah punya buah hati sendiri yang sudah mengambil tempat Mak di hati anak-anak Mak.

Pada suapan terakhir, setitik air mata Mak jatuh ke pinggan.

Kueh koci masih belum diusik oleh anak-anak Mak.

Beberapa tahun kemudian
Mak Uda tanya Along, Angah, Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik, “Mana mak?”.
Hanya Adik yang jawab, “Mak dah tak ada.”
Along, Angah, Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik tidak sempat melihat Mak waktu Mak sakit.

Kini Mak sudah berada di sisi Tuhannya bukan di sisi anak-anak Mak lagi.

Dalam isakan tangis, Along, Angah, Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik menerpa kubur Mak. Hanya batu nisan yang berdiri terpacak. Batu nisan Mak tidak boleh bersuara. Batu nisan tidak ada tangan macam tangan Mak yang selalu memeluk erat anak-anaknya apabila anak-anak datang menerpa Mak semasa anak-anak Mak kecil dulu.
Mak pergi semasa Along, Angah, Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik berada jauh di bandar. Kata Along, Angah, Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik mereka tidak dengar handphone berbunyi semasa ayah telepon untuk beritahu mak sakit tenat.

Mak faham, mata dan telinga anak-anak Mak adalah untuk orang lain bukan untuk Mak.
Hati anak-anak Mak bukan milik Mak lagi. Hanya hati Mak yang tidak pernah diberikan kepada sesiapa, hanya untuk anak-anak Mak..
Mak tidak sempat merasa diangkat di atas bahu anak-anak Mak. Hanya bahu ayah yang sempat mengangkat jenazah Mak dalam hujan renyai.
Ayah sedih sebab tiada lagi suara Mak yang akan menjawab soalan Ayah,
"Mana Along?" , "Mana Angah?", "Mana Ateh?", "Mana Alang?", "Mana Kak Cik?" atau "Mana Adik?". Hanya Mak saja yang rajin menjawab soalan ayah itu dan jawapan Mak memang tidak pernah silap. Mak sentiasa yakin dengan jawapannya sebab mak ambil tahu di mana anak-anaknya berada pada setiap waktu dan setiap ketika. Ana k-anak Mak sentiasa di hati Mak tetapi hati anak-anak Mak ada orang lain yang mengisinya.
Ayah sedih. Di tepi kubur Mak, Ayah bermonolog sendiri, "Mulai hari ini tidak perlu bertanya lagi kepada Along, Angah, Ateh, Alang, Kak Cik dan Adik , "Mana mak?" "

Kereta merah Ateh bergerak perlahan membawa Ayah pulang. Along, Angah, Alang dan Adik mengikut dari belakang. Hati ayah hancur teringat hajat Mak untuk naik kereta merah Ateh tidak kesampaian. Ayah terb ayang kata-kata Mak malam itu, "Cantiknya kereta Ateh, kan Bang? Besok-besok Ateh bawalah kita jalan-jalan kat Kuala Lumpur tu. Saya akan buat kueh koci buat bekal."

"Ayah, ayah....bangun." Suara Ateh memanggil ayah. Ayah pengsan sewaktu turun dari kereta Ateh..

Terketar-ketar ayah bersuara, "Mana Mak?"

Ayah tidak mampu berhenti menanya soalan itu. Sudah 10 tahun Mak pergi namun soalan "Mana Mak?" masih sering keluar dari mulut Ayah sehingga ke akhir usia.

Sebuah cerita pendek buat tatapan anak-anak yang kadang-kadang lupa persaan ibu. Kata orang hidup seorang ibu waktu muda dilambung resah, apabila tua dilambung rasa. Kata Rasulullah saw. ibu 3 kali lebih utama dari ayah. B ayang kanlah berapa kali ibu lebih utama dari isteri, pekerjaan dan anak-anak sebenarnya. Solat sunat pun Allah suruh berhenti apabila ibu memanggil. Berapa kerapkah kita membiarkan deringan telepon panggilan dari ibu tanpa berjawab?

Haa tak ada ALASAN TAK NAK SAHUR!!!

2011-08-08T10:28:00.008+08:00

Bangunlah BerSAHUR !!

Bulan puasa telah pun tiba. Pastinya semangat berpuasa sangat membara di kalangan umat Islam bukan sahaja di Malaysia malah di seluruh dunia. Paling menyeronokkan apabila tiba waktu berbuka. Semua juadah pasti ingin dicuba. Tapi ramai yang tidak merasa keseronokan yang sama ketika bersahur. Kenapa? Mengapa?

1. MALASNYA NAK BANGUN SAHUR?

Jawapan untuk persoalan ini sangat mudah. Pesanan Rasulullah S.A.W “Bersahurlah kamu, kerana sesungguhnya dalam sahur itu terdapat keberkatan” (Hadis riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim). Pesanan ini sangat jelas dan ringkas. Maka sepanjang bulan Ramadhan, kita perlu sentiasa berfikiran positif sebelum tidur dan berniat untuk bangun sahur di setiap hari moga-moga kita semua mendapat kurniaan nikmat dan keberkatan dari Allah.

2. KENAPA PERLU BERSAHUR?

Amalan bersahur adalah penting semasa berpuasa untuk memastikan tenaga kita mencukupi untuk berpuasa sepanjang hari. Bersahur diawal pagi boleh mengurangkan keletihan dan kehilangan tenaga sewaktu berpuasa. Bersahur juga memastikan kita dapat mengamalkan makan secara sihat dan mengurangkan simptom akibat kelaparan seperti sakit kepala dan mengantuk ketika berpuasa. Sekiranya anda merancang untuk menurunkan berat badan di bulan puasa, tidak mengambil sahur bukanlah tindakan yang betul.

3. WAKTU MAKAN SAHUR YANG PALING IDEAL?

Waktu sahur yang paling baik adalah lebih kurang ½ jam sebelum masuk waktu imsak.

4. APA YANG PERLU SAYA MAKAN?

Walaupun berpuasa, kita tetap perlu mengamalkan makan secara sihat untuk memastikan badan kita sentiasa bertenaga dan sihat walaupun berpuasa.

Sahur yang sihat mestilah mempunyai kriteria seperti berikut :

§ - Mampu membekalkan tenaga sepanjang hari kita berpuasa

§ - Membekalkan khasiat yang seimbang

§ - Memberikan air yang mencukupi untuk mengelakkan penyahhidratan

Oleh yang demikian, Piramid Makanan Malaysia masih perlu dijadikan panduan dalam pemilihan dan mempelbagaikan jenis makanan. Ini kerana tiada ada satu makanan yang dapat membekalkan kesemua nutrien yang diperlukan oleh tubuh kita.

Contoh sahur anda

Menu	Berat (kalori)
1 cawan nasi	100 g (140 kcal)
1 cawan sup sayur	200 g (60 kcal)
1 ekor ikan goreng	60 g (160 kcal)
1 gelas susu rendah lemak	250 ml (130 kcal)
1 biji buah pisang	80 g (60 kcal)
1 gelas air kosong	250 ml (0 kcal)
Jumlah kalori	550 kcal

5. MAKANAN TERBAIK SEMASA BERSAHUR?

Semasa bersahur, adalah digalakkan mengambil makanan yang berasaskan KARBOHIDRAT KOMPLEKS seperti nasi, roti dan oat. Memandangkan tempoh berpuasa yang panjang (melebihi 10 jam), makanan yang lambat dihadam seperti makanan yang TINGGI KANDUNGAN SERAT adalah digalakkan untuk mengurangkan rasa lapar. Contoh makanan yang tinggi kandungan serat adalah roti tinggi serat atau roti mil penuh, bijirin tinggi serat, biji-bijian, kekacang dan sayur-sayuran. Elakkan mengambil makanan yang tinggi kandungan gula dan lemak kerana ianya cepat dicerna dan menyebabkan kita cepat merasa lapar. BUAH-BUAHAN dan AIR yang juga perlu diambil dengan mencukupi sewaktu bersahur.

6. TAK SEMPAT NAK MASAKLAH!

Inilah keluhan yang paling kerap didengari. Disebabkan kesuntukan masa, kebiasaannya lebihan makanan sewaktu berbuka puasa akan dihidangkan semula sewaktu bersahur. Tidak dinafikan amalan ini bukan sahaja menjimatkan masa, tetapi juga menyenangkan kaum ibu yang terpaksa bangun awal untuk menyediakan hidangan sahur. Namun begitu, adalah lebih baik sekiranya anda menyediakan makanan yang segar dan baru dimasak untuk bersahur. Ini kerana dikhuatiri lebihan makanan berbuka telah tercemar dan boleh mengakibatkan keracunan makanan. Makanan yang telah terdedah pada suhu bilik melebihi 4 jam adalah tidak selamat dimakan.

INGATLAH! Masakan yang baru dan panas lebih menyelerakan dan meningkatkan keseronokan untuk berpuasa!

7. TAK ADA IDEA NAK MASAK APA NI?

Sekiranya anda hanya memikirkan menu yang ingin dimasak setelah bangun di awal pagi pastinya ia sangat meletihkan, terutama jika anda ibu yang berkerjaya. Rancanglah menu untuk bersahur bagi kitaran seminggu. Ini akan memudahkan anda untuk merancang pembelian bahan masakan yang ingin digunakan. Rancanglah menu sahur anda selewat-lewatnya sebelum anda tidur dan siapkan bahan masakan terlebih dahulu, dan disimpan di dalam peti sejuk. Cara ini akan meningkatkan proses penyediaan hidangan sahur pada keesokan harinya.

8. BOLEHKAH MINUM KOPI / TEH KETIKA BERSAHUR?

Pengambilan teh atau kopi tidak digalakkan kerana kandungan kafiena didalamnya boleh mengakibatkan kehilangan air dalam badan. Kafien boleh meninggalkan kesan diuretik iaitu menyebabkan kita kerap membuang air kecil. Sekiranya anda ingin minum minuman berperisa, gantikan dengan minuman bersusu yang rendah lemak, minuman bermalta ataupun jus buah-buahan. Walau bagaimanapun, minumlah air kosong dengan banyak kerana ianya merupakan pilihan yang terbaik.

9. BERSAHUR CARA ORANG BUJANG?

Bagi kebanyakan orang bujang, waktu sahur mereka adalah sebelum masuk tidur terutama di penghujung bulan Ramadhan. Mereka suka mengambil makanan lewat malam iaitu sebelum tidur sebagai pengganti sahur. Makanan seperti burger dan mee segera sering kali menjadi pilihan utama bagi mereka. Ini kerana ia senang didapati, ringkas dan mudah disediakan. Walau bagaimanapun, makanan ini tidak dapat membekalkan cukup tenaga untuk kita berpuasa keesokan harinya disebabkan diambil terlalu awal dan tidak seimbang. Sekiranya makanan segera ingin diambil untuk sahur, pastikan ianya seimbang iaitu dengan menambahkan sumber protein seperti ayam dan telur serta sayur-sayuran ke dalam masakan tersebut.

Tukarlah kepada menu yang lebih berkhasiat dan tinggi kandungan serat. Sekiranya anda malas masak di awal pagi, simpan pelbagai bijirin yang tinggi kandungan serat dan buah-buahan dirumah anda dan jadikan makanan ini sebagai makanan sahur anda yang berkhasiat.

Contoh sahur yang ringkas untuk anda !

Menu	Berat (kalori)
1 cawan bijirin sarapan pagi	35 g (130 kcal)
1 gelas susu rendah lemak	250 ml (130 kcal)
1 biji pisang (dihiris)	60 g (60 kcal)
1 sudu makan kismis	20 g (60 kcal)
2 sudu makan walnut	20 g (130 kcal)
1 gelas air kosong	250 ml (0 kcal)
Jumlah kalori	510 kcal

SUSAHNYA ANAK NAK BANGUN SAHUR!

Kebiasaannya anak-anak bersemangat untuk bangun sahur pada minggu pertama bulan Ramadhan sahaja. Kian lama berpuasa, semakin sukar untuk mengejut anak untuk bangun sahur. Bagi mengatasi masalah ini, beberapa tip boleh dijadikan panduan:

§ - Sediakan masakan yang panas untuk bersahur yang pastinya lebih menyelerakan.

§ - Masakkan makanan kegemaran anak-anak. Tanya anak terlebih dahulu apa menu yang diinginkan semasa bersahur.

§ - Pelbagaikan jenis masakan. Anak-anak cepat merasa jemu dengan masakan yang hampir sama setiap hari.

§ - Elak menyediakan masakan yang pedas dan berempah. Ini boleh mengakibatkan ketidakselesaan sewaktu berpuasa di siang hari.

§ - Sediakan masakan berkuah seperti sup kerana ianya lebih mudah dimakan dan mengenyangkan.

§ - Galakkan anak-anak mengambil buah-buahan dan minum banyak air sewaktu bersahur

Akhir kata..Jaga Makan..Jaga Badan..Selamat Bersahur!!

Oleh :

Bahagian Pemakanan

Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia

credit to : Bhgn Pemakanan, KKM

Awasi Nafsu Makan di Bulan Puasa

2011-08-08T09:59:00.000+08:00

Hi!! lama dah xbersiaran kan... bukan apa nak update entry USS dan wedding pon xde mood...mojo blogging lom smpai lagi.. hopefully akan datang semula ok...mojo mojo pls come to me!!!!

So i nak share this artikel which taken from Bahagian Pemakan, MOH..biasa la kan bulan puasa ni nafsu makan mengatasi segala-segalanya...nak nak bila pergi pasar ramadhan..ya Allah napak sume nak kan..btol x?? jgn tipu bulan puasa ni..hehhehe

Just remember health is more important than anything else ;)

Awasi Nafsu Makan di Bulan Puasa

Puasa adalah menahan diri daripada lapar dan dahaga dari terbit fajar hingga terbenam matahari. Bulan puasa adalah bulan penting dalam kalendar Islam yang menuntut umatnya melaksanakan rukun Islam yang ketiga. Bulan puasa juga mengajar agar kita menjadi lebih berdisiplin serta prihatin kepada golongan yang kurang bernasib baik.

Namun begitu, setelah seharian berpuasa rata-rata antara kita gagal mengawal nafsu makan terutama ketika menjelangnya waktu berbuka puasa. Kita akan memilih atau memasak makanan mengikut apa yang terlintas difikiran tanpa memikirkan nilai pemakanan dan kesannya pada kesihatan. Ini ditambah lagi dengan tarikan pelbagai judah yang dijual di bazar Ramadhan ataupun promosi-promosi berbuka puasa yang sering diadakan sepanjang bulan ini.

Bulan puasa juga adalah seperti bulan-bulan yang lain tetapi bezanya kita mengambil makanan di waktu malam. Corak pemilihan makanan harian kita tidak seharusnya berbeza. Pemakanan kita sepatutnya dapat membekalkan tenaga, karbohidrat, protein, lemak serta vitamin dan mineral yang sepatutnya agar kita dapat mengekalkan berat badan normal, tidak mengurangkan atau menambahkan berat badan. Walau bagaimanapun, bagi individu yang berlebihan berat badan dan obes, bulan Ramadhan adalah waktu yang sesuai untuk mengurangkan berat badan.

Berikut adalah 7 panduan yang boleh diamalkan untuk menjamin kesihatan di bulan Ramadhan.

1. Beli atau sediakan juadah secara sederhana mengikut keperluan setiap individu. Jika boleh, sediakan senarai juadah yang hendak di beli sebelum ke bazar Ramadhan dan seboleh-bolehnya beli makanan seperti yang disenaraikan sahaja.

2. Pilih makanan yang berkarbohidrat kompleks seperti nasi , mi, roti berbanding kuih-muih semasa berbuka puasa. Kuih-muih manis mengandungi gula yang tinggi dan dapat menyumbang kepada lebihan kalori.

3. Tingkatkan pengambilan buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran di bulan puasa. Selain sumbangan vitamin dan mineral, buah-buahan dan sayur-sayuran membekalkan serat yang penting untuk mengelak kejadian sembelit di bulan puasa.

4. Kurangkan penggunaan lemak dan minyak semasa penyediaan makanan. Semasa menggoreng dan menumis juga kita perlu meminimakan kuantiti minyak supaya makanan yang disediakan lebih sihat.

5. Lebihkan pengambilan air. Ketika berbuka puasa, disarankan minum jus buahan-buahan (tanpa gula) dan elakkanlah dari minuman yang manis seperti minuman kordial dan minuman berperisa.

6. Utamakan makanan yang mengandungi bijirin penuh sewaktu bersahur seperti oat atau roti bijirin penuh. Makanan yang mengandungi bijirin penuh mengenyangkan dan mengurangkan rasa lapar di siang hari.

7. Kurangkan pengambilan makanan yang masin seperti telur masin, kicap atau ikan masin. Hadkan penggunaan sos semasa memasak dan kurangkan mencicah makanan dengan sos. Makanan yang masin boleh menyebabkan kita rasa cepat haus disamping boleh memudaratkan kesihatan.

Bulan puasa bulan mulia. Jalanilah ibadat puasa yang hanya datang setahun sekali ini dengan penuh ketaqwaan. Elakkan pembaziran kerana perbuatan ini dimurkai Allah sebagaimana dalam firmaNya surah Al-A’raf Ayat 31 :

” Hai anak Adam, pakailah pakaian kamu yang indah setiap kali (memasuki masjid). Makan dan minumlah, tapi jangan berlebih-lebihan. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menyukai orang-orang yang berlebih-lebihan”.

Selamat Berpuasa.

Bahagian Pemakanan

Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia

Save the date

2011-06-12T08:10:00.000+08:00

Taadaaaa...

I'm proudly to announce that I'm getting married soon...5 days more to to go ;p

So lovelies do save this date and ur welcome to our wedding

17 June 2011 ( Friday) will be the solemnisation

18 June 2011 (Saturday) reception day!!!

wehuuuu i get to be doll up by my favourite MUA..among the best in Malaysia and hopefully i will be pretty like other brides

well that explains why this blog soo suram with entry...and i do hope i will be on track after the wedding ends..insyaAllah will do reviews on vendors..(not promising anything tho..thee)

Did i mention that my wedding its a home wedding..yup i insists it so that i can mingle around with all of friends and guests..love intimate wedding ;)

Wish me luck and have a happy and great marriage!!!

Busy Bee

2011-05-24T08:46:00.000+08:00

I really miss my blog

but with so many things to do, bad thing happened to the camera(ermmm waiting for a new ones ;p),works piling up, planning for a long leave..yeay!!

so now i'm officially a

but with all the happening i manage to go 2 rounds with battlestar gallactica..hooorayyyy with my bestie..love u guys so much.. next time will be planning for a family trip pulak ;)

Wordless Wednesday #6 : Finally i'm on twitter

2011-04-27T08:11:00.000+08:00

Morning & hello gorgeous

Yup i know, maybe the last one to join twitter ;p

so here it is..me joining all of u guys

do follow me yea..erm but i'm no celebrities or top blogger or what so on

i'm just an ordinary gurl who would like to stay connected with friends and hopefully new friends

search : yana_malek

Enjoy!!

2011-04-04T12:19:00.000+08:00

Wordless Wednesday #5 : Coach

2011-03-23T08:24:00.000+08:00

Not 1 but 4

;)

Wordless Wednesday #4 : perut dan ayam jantan

2011-03-16T08:00:00.000+08:00

Wordless Wednesday #3 : Beranak pinak

2011-02-23T08:00:00.000+08:00

Ghost Call....

2011-02-18T15:00:00.001+08:00

Ohh myyyyyy!!!! i received a ghost call..i actually x tau nak cakap macam mana as i received a call with my OWN number..horror kan..

googled

But i xangkat laa sebab macam pelik pulak nampak nombor sendiri at my own phone screen ;p i ask my colleague to check last call yup memang confirm its my number..so how??

OR it's just a scam..hahhahha ayat sedap kan hati...but after this if it occurs again i will absolutely pick up the phone..chewah bajet berani kan..muahahhaha

anyone penah jadi macam ni???

*Updated*

Tu maksudnya ada voicemail..pelik lak sebab bila dengar xde pon apa-apa...ngeh ngeh

Wordless Wednesday : Sabar

2011-02-16T13:33:00.001+08:00

What else should I do/say besides

SABAR

Perjanjian Syaitan dan Sesuatu yang Manis

2011-01-24T21:09:00.000+08:00

Sapa dah tengok cerita ni angkat tangan??? hehehe i salah sorang nye yang memang teruja nak tengok cerita hantu after watching their trailer..uhuk uhuk i sebagai peminat cerita hantu tegar kononyer...hahhaha oppss kadang-kadang dok umah sensorang pon penakut ...abis bukak semua lampu atas bawah dari dapur hingga la ke living hall xcukup dengan tu lampu porch sekali..muahahhahaha ada hati kan kate peminat tegar ;p

Apa itu Khurafat?

Khurafat (Arab: خرافة‎) ialah kepercayaan karut atau tahyul yang diada-adakan berpandukan kepada perbuatan-perbuatan dan kejadian-kejadian alam yang berlaku.

source : wiki

My verdict?

Ok laa cerita ni lain dari yang lain and ending memang i xboleh predict.. hantu? menakutkan boleh laa dengan darah-darah semua..uwekkkk..i pergi tengok dengan my baby sister yang sudah diketahui umum yang penakut and suke menjerit..and ya most of the scene dia jerit ok.. tp xde laa dia sorang ramai gak yang jerit..siap gelak pon ade :p

Moral of the story jangan buat sesuatu yang akan memudaratkan diri sendiri ye !!!and please don't ever think about making deals or ask something from syaitonnirojimmm...we have Allah so ask for HIS help..banyak kan doa' coz ALLAH itu Maha Pengasih lagi Maha Pemurah..and don't deny the power of doa...

Enough bout cerita hantu ni...finally i got to taste macaroons...ramai yang rave bout it...bought it at Harrods...not sure whether its promo price or normal pricesebab 6 pieces for bout RM15..they have 4 flavors orange, chocolate,blackberry and blueberry..firstly i ask that guy which one yang taste good so he suggested chocolate the best and maybe can try blueberry..ya being me not yang tak berani nak cuba something yang xterjamin sedap so better i stick with his suggestions..

urmmm yummmy memang sedap tapi xboleh makan selalu sebab manis...for those yang sweet tooth i guess u all memang akan suka this macaroons..to me not bad for a first timer and i do love the colorful of macaroons ;p maybe next time akan try yang dekat Whisk Empire Mall..and the ultimate of cos laa Laduree kan!!..wait until the time comes..Insyaallah ;)

Need Help!! Blackberry Torch vs Iphone 4

2011-01-24T11:24:00.000+08:00

Need Help from u guys as i'm contemplating between

BlackBerry Torch

Iphone 4

which one should i get??

as far as everybody said blackeberry normally for those who in business and iphone more to somebody who like or love to explore more apps and they have lots of interesting apps to play with..

what ar the pros and cons between these two..

Kindly give ur best review!! thanks

pic : google

Let's see what Kim Kardashian had say

2011-01-20T18:29:00.000+08:00

Experience?!?!

2011-01-19T10:40:00.001+08:00

Di Kala Lapar

2011-01-12T16:15:00.001+08:00

Harini lapar sangat ntah kenapa macam malas nak turun cafe beli makanan. Pagi tadi dah breakfast cereal shape up tu ngn susu HL..aik laparr lagi..hehehe macam mana nak diet ni..memang xleh tahan nafsu betul...kang bile badan dah naik mula la pong pang dalam blog cakap gemuk xmuat baju..aisehhhhhh...ape je yg xmakan lagi biskut oat krunch dah bantai 2 bungkus dengan limau lagi..memang perut tong kot...

Nak dijadikan cerita tadi pulak terbau orang makan nasi arab.. actually dia tapau je but bau dia mak uiiihhh semerbak abis satu opis bau..mula la terasa ~~ngidam~~ nak makan nasi arab pulak...ape kes nak makan time kerja...nanti2 laa time cuti ke hape perut ni pon kan....then terus laju-laju message my friend yang outstation jauh nun di sana...setelah berbalas-balas message mecapai kata sepakat ye nanti kite gi makan..trus reply ok..hahhahha...nasib la labu kena layan si gadis ~~comel~~ ni...uwekkkk nak muntah kan..hahhahha

Rupa nya bukan i sorang je yang lapar adalah sorang bos pompuan ni pon lapar gak...dia telah pergi ke cafe untuk tapau nasi goreng then tup tup naik nak makan terasa banyak maka dijemput la saya share makan dengan dia...alhamdullillah kenyang kami makan nasi goreng ikan masin..semoga murah rezeki..nanti kalau i ada makanan kite share pulak yek!!! smile smile sebab dah kenyang ;p

pic googled

Wordless Wednesday : Penah jumpa ?

2011-01-05T08:00:00.002+08:00

Bye-bye 2010 and Welcome 2011

2011-01-01T09:49:00.001+08:00

Hello & Morning Gorgeous people out there

Wishing u all a Happy New Year and be Bless with a prosperous year ahead!!

So what's your resolutions??

For me 2010 has been a year full of memories and taught me what life means actually and also me become more wiser in making decisions...known people that really inspired me and how do they enjoy their life's at the same time...and also taught me to be more 'sabar'..hehehe

As for 2011, i would say is my life will turn 360 degrees and i'm looking forward to it ;p Hopefully all that i wishes for will come true and i will cherish it for all my life..Aminn InsyaAllah

So here is my wishlist/resolutions/wishes for 2011 ( hehhehe notice i put wishlist first instead of resolutions)

1. be a better person to myself & family & friend(s)

2. be a better daughter & sister

3. be a better **** to *ehemm* and have a great experience together

4. be more patient and more wiser and more organize

5. having a time of my life and cherish all the moments with my love ones

6. be 'rajin' and learn how to cook properly ;p

7. learn to love everyone/people that love me most

8. have my OWN NEW CAR

9. have more BAG(s) and i go for quality instead of quantity

10. I need a NEW Camera to documents and keep all the memories of my life...ASAP please and still looking and waiting..hehhe LEICA in my mind ;)

11. more holidays and travel experience(s) to anywhere with my dearest...especially London/Europe trip *wink wink*

12. haaa i lupa..i think is important Don't be Stress Out

13. Be healthy and live life to the fullest

That's all that i can think for now and don't worry that this list will expand anytime soon..whooot whoot especially 'my wishlist'

Oh I want/need a new necklace with lovely pendant pretty pleaseeee a simple and beautiful yeah!!!!

pic courtesy from tiffany.com

We Must

2010-12-29T09:37:00.000+08:00

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Congrats Little Bro

2010-12-23T14:44:00.000+08:00

As u all know today PMR result released and i have my little bro who took that exam

yup my youngest bro..Farid and our family called him Ayet

Congrats to HIM as he managed to get 7A 1B Alhamdullillah..aiyooo so sad how come u got B in english

so sayang laaa but anyways we all in the family were very thankful to ALLAH

in the mean time, i'm actually very proud of him because he such a playful boy that hooked 24 by 7 with online games and computers..owh ok a bit exaggeration there..mind u that i always shouts at him..hello boy u tengah nak exam still main game lagi..waaa could not understand laa how boy used to study..i bet they all study smart ;p

we all hope the best for U and hopefully u get to enter the boarding school bet it MRSM or what just like US..i'm sure u will treasure every second of it and there is many things that u can learn there and being independent..

Congrats also to my 2 cousins

Syazwan - 7A 1B ( b.melayu -B)

Azamuddin - 8A

All the best for your future undertaking and believe me there are lots for u to experience and achieves