marriagetips

Tips for a happy marriage.

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 05:51:00 +0000

Tip No. 1: Reinstate Civility
"Please," "thank you," "pardon me" and "may I" are phrases that seemed to have all but disappeared from present-day vocabularies, especially with our loved ones.
After spending time with Wonderful Marriage co-authors Lilo and Gerard Leeds, married for more than 50 years, Real believes you should extend your partner the same courtesy you would a stranger. "When speaking to your spouse, don't be rude, be respectful. Use a combination of old-school civility and modern frankness." Additionally, he suggests trying more sweetness and tenderness by saying things more lovingly.
Psychotherapist and author Tina Tessina, PhD, concurs. "Politeness is like a lubricant for your daily interactions; it makes everything go more smoothly."
Joyce Morley-Ball, EdD, a counselor in Decatur, Ga., adds some specifics. "Show her that chivalry is not dead: Pull out her chair, open the door for her, help her over a puddle, give her your coat when it is cold outside, help her to put on her coat. This act of affection shows that she is important and there is a level of respect for her."

Tip No. 2: Put Pen to Paper
Back before cell phones and instant messaging, people wrote letters of affection to each other, often waiting weeks to receive them. Lilia Fallgatter, author of The Most Important Letter You Will Ever Write: How to Tell Loved Ones How You Feel Before It's Too Late, advocates reviving the lost art of letter-writing to increase intimacy in a relationship.
"Love letters exchanged between a couple can strengthen their relationship by helping them to connect to one another on a deeper level," she says via email. "These letters may also become treasured keepsakes that can be revisited and experienced anew each time they are read." You'll reap bonus points if you hand write it on beautiful paper and enclose a cherished memento such as a photograph or ticket stub from a movie you saw together.
Tip No. 3: Sleep As Singles
It was TV censors who kept sitcom couples in separate beds, but maybe there was wisdom to catching your ZZZs in your own bed.
When one partner snores or is a night owl, tensions can mount in the marital bed, experts say. It may seem like a throwback a la Ricky and Lucy Ricardo, but many couples happily sleep in separate beds; some even maintain separate bedrooms and eliminate tossing and turning and fights over the blanket.
And many couples who are secure enough to seek satisfying slumber on their own report using the regained energy for more ... loving pursuits.
Tip No. 4: Maintain Same-Sex Friends -- and Interests
Don't for Wives instructs women not to "try to regulate your husband's pleasures and don't be jealous if they don't include you."
It's only been during the past couple of decades that couples expected to share a bulk of their free time together. Retro couples didn't necessarily want to participate in each others hobbies.
Charlotte, N.C., relationship expert Kathy Stafford recommends that couples keep close ties with their same-sex friends throughout marriage. "My parents had separate interests. Dad belonged to a men's club, and Mom belonged to a ladies-only club. This gave them both time to cultivate their own interests, and they weren't totally reliant on each other for their entertainment."

Tip No. 5: Look Sharp
How did June Cleaver do it? She always looked impeccable when serving dinner to Ward and the kids.
Les Parrott, PhD, and professor of psychology at Seattle Pacific University, says you can inspire romance by dressing up for the occasion. "With our hectic schedules, it's tempting to resort to sweatpants all weekend or immediately changing into a ratty T-shirt after work. Instead, dress up the next time you and your spouse have dinner or plan a night out. Wearing a beautiful dress or a button-down shirt and slacks will be unexpected and make your partner feel special that you took the extra time to look nice. Taking time with your appearance inspires romance and shows your partner you care.

"Tip No. 6: Don't Go to Bed Angry
Jackie Gleason may have wanted to "send Alice to the moon," but the Honeymooners settled their quarrels before turning in for the night.
The long-married Leeds are proponents of this wisdom. Even if you can't resolve a disagreement before you hit the sheets, you can agree to let the anger go for the night. Remind each other how lucky you are -- even as you disagree -- to have each other to disagree with.
"From the very beginning we decided that we didn't want to go to bed angry," Gerard Leeds writes. "And we seldom go to sleep without kissing each other good night."

Tip No. 7: Hit the Dance Floor
Ever notice how blissful couples look as they are twirling across the dance floor, entwined in each other's arms like Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers?
There is a language of leading and yielding that dance teaches. Paul Bolotovsky is the owner of the Manhattan-based Nightclub Dance Series, an instructional dance series that teaches men and women how to dance in nightclubs. He says that putting on your dancing shoes can put the sizzle back into a relationship that has fizzled.
"The old days of ballroom dancing and swing have a lot to offer today's couples," he tells WebMD in an email interview. "The touch, teamwork, energy, music, anticipation, and companionship are all wonderful byproducts after a night of dancing." Don't fret if you have two left feet; even "contemporary" dancing" is a way to spend fun time together.

Tip No. 8: Have Couples Fun
Bridge and pinochle were common activities shared by our parents and their friends. So was cocktail hour and formal anniversary celebrations with like-minded couples.
Fine says, "Play board games with other couples! It's fun and a great way to be social with others and playful with one another."
Parrott says it is important to identify friends who are healthy additions to your social circle. "Your goal is to become close with other couples with similar standards and interests who have positive attitudes about marriage and family life. Gravitate toward fun couples who make you feel supported and enhance your active, healthy lifestyle. Friends like these are good for your marriage and overall well-being."

Tip No. 9: Give Compliments
To give a compliment, you've got to pay attention -- really notice something about someone. Remember how Carol and Mike Brady, the happily married matriarch and patriarch of The Brady Bunch, lavished them on each other?
If it's been a while since you've doled out flattering praise, try it.
Tessina notes that it costs nothing to say, "You look good," "You did a great job," or "I like your shirt." Yet compliments can really reassure and pump up your spouse.
Tip No. 10: Hold Hands
Back in our parents' time, hand-holding and discreet pecks on the cheek were the tasteful, chaste displays of affection.
Although anything goes these days, Morley-Ball encourages couples to simply hold hands in public. "[It] affirms to everyone your undying affection and love for each other. [It] shows everyone that you are proud to be with each other and you want everyone to know it."
Tessina echoes this sweet sentiment. "There's an actual electrical connection that passes between us when we touch. You can use that electrical connection to provide juice in your marriage. Give each other little pats and gentle touches and hold hands frequently when you're walking or driving and you'll keep the energy -- and the sweetness -- flowing between you."

Tip No. 11: Cut Back on Complaints
Yesteryear's couples had a comic reputation for nagging -- think of The Dick Van Dyke Show -- yet, in truth, many partners often held their tongues.
Real thinks a stumbling block in modern marriages is a constant soundtrack of discord. "Our generation thinks that closeness comes from sharing everything, letting each other know how miserable you are. But it doesn't motivate me to treat you better."
He says that relaying every annoyance is a bad idea. Instead, he recommends you pick your battles. "Not everything needs to be addressed."

Tip No. 12: Try Thoughtful Little Acts
Back in the day, with fewer stresses, limited technology and less multitasking, couples were more "present" in their relationships.
"The presence of little, daily thoughtful acts showed caring and appreciation for one another," says licensed clinical social worker Toni Coleman. "Things like making breakfast for your spouse or packing their lunch, bringing them coffee in the morning or a drink or glass of wine at the end of the day, warming up their car or putting their keys and other personal effects on the hall table, ready to go."

Real writes that sustaining a happy relationship, such as the Leeds', requires careful thought, a generous spirit and hard work.
"There's a lot of wisdom [to be gained] from our parents or grandparents, he says."They had companionship marriage, but we've raised the bar -- we want romance, great sex, and more intimacy. We can reconcile these two approaches. With some of the gentleness and graciousness of previous generations with the technology and savvy of today's marriages."

Is it possible to save my marriage?

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 21:47:00 +0000

It's a sad reality that sometimes marriages just tend to break and fall apart. Some marriages end up in a messy divorce. There may come a time that you will have to ask yourself, How can I save my marriage? It's not easy to solve a troubled marriage and you need to go forward with the right actions if things are to settle down. For almost all marriages, resorting to divorce is not the right solution. In the first place, you got married because you were truly in love with this person and ending up in a divorce is nothing that either of you deserve. There are a lot of people who have asked themselves, can I save my marriage?, and found out in the long run, that indeed they could. It's just a matter of knowing the things that went wrong and finding solutions to solve the problem without filing for a divorce.
In order to save a troubled marriage, the number one thing that you can do with your spouse is to seek the assistance of a relationship counseling therapist. They are trained to help you cope up youre your marital problems. Although counseling can only guide you in dealing effectively with the issues, this can help you find some ways on your own that can help you save your marriage. Solving marriage problems is not really that complicated, however, you need to have the will to change and to make things happen.
In saving a marriage, you have to realize that there is no such thing as perfect marriage, it doesn't exist. Even though you think that both of you are so much in love with each other, there will always come a time that both of you will be tested through petty arguments. Sometimes small arguments can become huge when neglected and it could be the reason why you and your spouse are on the verge of breaking up. It is essential that you try to solve things calmly without starting a fight with your partner. This can only worsen the situation, leaving you with nothing but divorce papers. Communication is very important in any kind of relationship, much more so when it comes to marriage. There must always be open communication between the two of you. Be honest with your spouse and do not keep everything for yourself. If you are bothered by your relationship, you have to tell it to your spouse no matter how painful it is. If you're caught up in a situation where you ask yourself, can I save my marriage? never say no.
All marriages deserve a second chance. You cannot just abandon a relationship that you've nurtured and taken cared of for so many years. Remember, when you faced the altar on your wedding day, you swore to God that you will take care of each other through thick and thin? Well, it's crush time! Problems do arise in marriage, but it doesn't mean you are to break up.

How to Choose Bridal Gowns for an Oriental Wedding

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 17:31:00 +0000

Bridal gowns in Eastern cultures are often far different than the traditional yards of white lace that characterize Western weddings. If you have chosen to celebrate your heritage by incorporating traditions from your culture, choosing a wedding dress that honors those traditions can make your special day more meaningful for both you and your entire family. Your aunt, grandmother or any other elder will be flattered and pleased that you care about the traditions and the family.

Asian and Oriental style weddings have been among the most popular 'themes' for the weddings over the past few years. For many brides and grooms, however, the decision to honor the traditions of their culture lies far deeper than simply wanting to be stylish. For them, choosing to respect and display the wedding rituals and rites from their heritage is a very real way of connecting with their roots - and of honoring their families. From the foods served at the wedding reception to whether or not the bride wears a wedding dress, every moment of the day may have some special significance to the Eastern bride and groom and their families.

Choosing A Wedding Dress for An Oriental WeddingWhile Westerners tend to think of 'Oriental' and 'Asian' as one culture, there are literally hundreds of regional cultures that make up the Asian world, and wedding traditions vary from Eastern culture to Eastern culture. Even within one country, you'll find dozens of variation of traditional Asian themes - and from country to country the differences between bridal gowns and wedding attire are as marked as they are between the Western and Eastern rituals.

The Chinese Bride often wears red to symbolize her joy on her wedding day. Traditional Chinese bridal gowns are lavishly embroidered with symbols of love, luck and fertility, often in gold thread. These days, many Chinese brides opt to wear a wedding dress in the Chinese tradition for the formal ceremony, then change to Western style bridal gowns later in the day at the reception

The Japanese Bride these days is as likely to wear a wedding dress with Western styling as her Western counterpart. It's traditional, however, for the Japanese bride to change her clothing throughout the day. Bridal gowns for Japanese brides often start with the traditional wedding kimono, a white shiro-maku, which the bride wears at the ceremony. At the reception, the bride wears a brightly patterned and embroidered uchikake kimono over the shiro-maku to denote her new status. It's not unusual for the Japanese bride to wear even more bride gowns as the day progresses, changing into more formal wear for various parts of the wedding reception

The Korean Bride traditionally dons the costume of a princess on her wedding day. Korean bridal gowns are elaborately layered and embroidered, and feature a red skirt and yellow jacket - the two traditional colors of joy and life. Like other Eastern cultures, Korean brides may change into a wedding dress at some point during the day to incorporate both Eastern and Western tradition into her wedding.
The Indian Bride has several different styles of bridal gowns from which to choose. The most popular is a sari with a wedding lehenga and choli. Traditional colors for Indian bride gowns are red, burgundy, pink and wine. Elaborately embellished and embroidered wedding cholis and lehengas may be made by the bride's family, or purchased from a specialty shop

The Vietnamese Bride who opts for a traditional Vietnamese wedding dress will wear a red and yellow ao dai - the traditional Vietnamese dress for women. The wedding ao dai is often elaborately embroidered with bright yellow patterns that denote happiness and prosperity.

Other Oriental cultures have their own wedding traditions regarding bridal gowns and dress. If you do decide that you'd like to honor your heritage - and your parents - by choosing a wedding dress that fits your culture, you might make a point of speaking with an older female relative about weddings and bridal gowns.

Your aunt, grandmother or other elder will be flattered and pleased that you care about the traditions and the family and you'll learn a great deal about your traditional colors and styles - and may even hear stories about your family that will help you feel closer than ever to your traditional roots.

Dating Islamic Traditions

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 17:15:00 +0000

Dating Islamic persons is complicated. The dating Islamic traditions are associated with a number of rules and conditions such that even a modern Muslim couple find dating a hazardous route. There are hundreds of Islamic singles posted online. Islamic dating services have sprung up and maybe a sign that rigid rules and customs maybe loosening their hold slowly on modern Muslims.

The Prophet has said in the Quran, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third." The Quran segregates a man from a woman with whom he is not related. Instead of dating, a Muslim and Muslimah meet in a pre-arranged place (such as a room in the Mosque) with a chaperone or escort present in the room. The couple will discuss a marriage contract and ask questions of importance to them regarding marriage.

Muslims in Islamic countries marry through the intervention of their parents and families. Parents have the support of the community in finding spouses for their children. Word of mouth, relatives, and a social network make arranging marriages easier. Young person makes prayers to Allah to help him or her find the right person.

The family makes discrete enquiries and arranges suitable meetings. Couple agrees to meet in a chaperoned, group environment. Long investigations are made into the family and the character of the groom and the bride. Couples then agree to pursue marriage or part their ways. Dating Islamic has given this freedom of choice to both young men and women - they cannot be forced
into a marriage that they don't want

This type of courtship called Dating Islamic helps ensure the strength of the marriage, by drawing upon family involvement and guidance in this important life decision. Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful evaluation of the compatibility of the couple

Islam is totally against dating and premarital sex. Hence Muslims in foreign countries have evolved their own ways to pass by this restriction. Young American Muslims have come up with three novel solutions to dating - the first group practices Halal dating (permissive by Islam). The second group can be called as "Eid Muslims," who practice faith only on holidays and are haram (unlawful) dating practitioners who keep away from physical relations. The third group is the Free Birds. They are completely Haram and are open to premarital sex and monogamous relationships

Modern Dating Islamic is mainly in the form of Halal dating, where couples are introduced to each other, either by parents or friends. They spend time talking over the phone or on the Internet and even going on dates, though for strict Muslims, accompanied by escorts. Once they like each other, the couple is married under the Islamic law by signing a marriage contract. This event, called the nikah, is as binding as a marriage. The signing of the agreement allows them to spend more time together. In halal dating, a clear understanding exists between the man and the woman that they are committed to marrying each other. They view the other as a life partner and eventually will obtain a marriage license.
It is the growing popularity of Halal dating that has led to the mushrooming of Islamic singles and the Islamic dating services. Dating Islamic is designed in a special way so that no boy or girl is forced to marry without his or her consent and at the same time they obtain the blessings of the family.

Moslem marriage culture

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 10:22:00 +0000

Main characteristics of Muslim marriage culture are consent of the competent parties, presence of witnesses and dower (Mehr) to wife. No ceremony or ritual is required for a valid Muslim marriage contract. However, Muslims observe colourful marriage customs is different parts of the world depending upon their local cultures. Most of the wedding customs are innocent in nature while some are against basic principles of Islamic marriage jurisprudence.
You know the Muslim marriages are famous for the best in inviting and welcoming the guests. This kind of Muslim marriage culture provides people a chance to entertain guests in bulk and strengthen their social bonds. Not only bride, groom and their families but also neighbors and their friends enjoy marriage event with different rituals.
Muslim marriage culture is famous for the best in inviting and welcoming the guests. Wedding customs give them a chance to entertain guests in bulk. Muslim marriage can take place at any convenient time. Also the marriage venue can be the bride or groom’s house.

Common Features

You may contract a marriage at any place and time in Muslim marriage culture. Some prefer night hours but there is no legal or religious restriction. Marriage may take place at any venue including bride or groom’s house. However, generally the wedding ceremony takes place at bride’s place. Following common practices are observed in Muslim marriage culture:
Welcoming the Marriage ProcessionIf you are a groom, you are supposed to go to the bride’s house with your friends and family in the shape of a marriage procession which is called ‘Barat’ in India and Pakistan. The bride’s family receives the procession with a warm welcome. The sisters and female cousins of the bride may play a number of welcoming games to enjoy marriage event. You are required to offer them gifts in certain situations. They offer milk to the groom and demand some gift which the groom generally pays with cash. Similarly, you should be watchful as some girls may hide your shoes for some gift. Such naughty games add a lot of color to the marriage event.
Delivery of SermonThe wedding ceremony starts with delivery of a sermon by a Qazi or Imam. Though his services are not required at all for a valid Muslim marriage contract but traditionally no Muslim marriage is conducted without such a sermon. In Pakistan Nikah registrars not only register the marriages but also deliver the sermon. It not only gives a sacred character to the marriage but also helps the families to announce the marriage. A sermon may even be delivered by someone from the families of bride or groom.
Generally, the Qazi or Imam recites following verses from Quran:
“Ye are the best of peoples, evolved for mankind, enjoining what is right, forbidding what is wrong, and believing in God. If only the People of the Book had faith, it were best for them: among them are some who have faith, but most of them are perverted transgressors.” (Quran 3:101 Abdullah Yusuf Ali)

“O mankind! reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single life, created, of like nature, His mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women;- reverence God, through whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (That bore you): for God ever watches over you.” (Quran 4:01)
“O, you who believe! Fear God, and (always) say a word directed to the Right. That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: He that obeys God and His Apostle, has already attained the highest achievement.” (Quran 33:70, 71 Abdullah Yusuf Ali)
The sermon concludes with the announcement of the marriage with the necessary formalities such as ijab (offer) and qubul (acceptance) and Mehr.
Marriage Party by Bride’s FatherAfter wedding ceremony, the father of bride offers some drinks or food as per his financial capacity. There is a law in Pakistan which prohibits heavy spending on such marriage parties. If the bride’s father does not offer a lunch or a dinner, the groom or his family has no right to ask the same.
Welcoming of BrideWhen the groom brings the bride to his home for the first time, the whole family, close relatives and the neighbors welcome the bride and offer gifts and cash. The mother and sisters of the groom play a number of colorful games.

Valimah (Marriage Party)

Valima is a name given to Muslim marriage feast which is offered by the groom on the next day of marriage. Some claim it a Sunnah of the Prophet (PBUH) and it is used to announce the marriage. The relatives, neighbors and friends are invited. However, lavish spending should be avoided. In a Muslim marriage culture, the husband welcomes the male guests and wife welcomes the female guests. Then they mingle with their respective gatherings.

Polygamy and Other African Tribal Customs

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 22:24:00 +0000

Polygamy is a main feature of African tribal customs…
Christianity and Western values are influencing the African society for monogamous relationships. However, Islamic permission for polygamy has strengthened the African tribal customs in this regard. The statistics show that 36% women in rural areas and 24% women in urban areas have to accept polygamous marriages.

Most of the women prefer monogamous marriages to acquire importance with their husbands and to avoid pressures and jealousies of the previous wives. However, it is wrong to say that Islam has caused polygamy in Africa. The ancient African tribal customs prove that polygamy had been prevailing in the African countries for centuries.

Some claim that polygamy in Africa is result of marriage in teenage. Some point out that polygamy is result of age-gaps between husband and first wife. Some others even claim that African women accept polygamous marriages to get protection of the wealthy and influential married people.
In eight out of our eleven countries, the proneness to marriage in early ages is in varying degree. Incidentally the uneducated women not only prefer to marry early but also involve in polygamous relations. On the other hand the girls in schools prefer to delay their marriage for a significant time. The educated women also reject polygamous marriages and prefer to be single wives of their husbands. They don’t like to become junior wives to the less educated or previous wives.
Analysis show that the African women getting education have to face a short marriage market for a compatible husband. Some allege that such situations the women prefer prohibited relationships with older husbands of worth, hoping that their roles as "outside wives" will help them advance into superior social echelons

Muslim Marriage Culture

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 15:23:00 +0000

You know the Muslim marriages are famous for the best in inviting and welcoming the guests. This kind of Muslim marriage culture provides people a chance to entertain guests in bulk and strengthen their social bonds. Not only bride, groom and their families but also neighbors and their friends enjoy marriage event with different rituals

Muslim marriage culture is famous for the best in inviting and welcoming the guests. Wedding customs give them a chance to entertain guests in bulk. Muslim marriage can take place at any convenient time. Also the marriage venue can be the bride or groom’s house.

Common Features

You may contract a marriage at any place and time in Muslim marriage culture. Some prefer night hours but there is no legal or religious restriction. Marriage may take place at any venue including bride or groom’s house. However, generally the wedding ceremony takes place at bride’s place. Following common practices are observed in Muslim marriage culture:

Welcoming the Marriage Procession

If you are a groom, you are supposed to go to the bride’s house with your friends and family in the shape of a marriage procession which is called ‘Barat’ in India and Pakistan. The bride’s family receives the procession with a warm welcome. The sisters and female cousins of the bride may play a number of welcoming games to enjoy marriage event. You are required to offer them gifts in certain situations. They offer milk to the groom and demand some gift which the groom generally pays with cash. Similarly, you should be watchful as some girls may hide your shoes for some gift. Such naughty games add a lot of color to the marriage event

Delivery of Sermon

The wedding ceremony starts with delivery of a sermon by a Qazi or Imam. Though his services are not required at all for a valid Muslim marriage contract but traditionally no Muslim marriage is conducted without such a sermon. In Pakistan Nikah registrars not only register the marriages but also deliver the sermon. It not only gives a sacred character to the marriage but also helps the families to announce the marriage. A sermon may even be delivered by someone from the families of bride or groom

Generally, the Qazi or Imam recites following verses from Quran:

“Ye are the best of peoples, evolved for mankind, enjoining what is right, forbidding what is wrong, and believing in God. If only the People of the Book had faith, it were best for them: among them are some who have faith, but most of them are perverted transgressors.” (Quran 3:101 Abdullah Yusuf Ali)

“O mankind! reverence your Guardian-Lord, who created you from a single life, created, of like nature, His mate, and from them twain scattered (like seeds) countless men and women;- reverence God, through whom ye demand your mutual (rights), and (reverence) the wombs (That bore you): for God ever watches over you.” (Quran 4:01

“O, you who believe! Fear God, and (always) say a word directed to the Right. That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: He that obeys God and His Apostle, has already attained the highest achievement.” (Quran 33:70, 71 Abdullah Yusuf Ali)

The sermon concludes with the announcement of the marriage with the necessary formalities such as ijab (offer) and qubul (acceptance) and Mehr.

Some Funny Marriage Quotes

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 14:43:00 +0000

• “My advice to you is to get married. If you find a good wife, you'll be happy; if not, you'll become a philosopher”. - Socrate

• “Why a woman gets a longer, happy and tension free life? Because she does not have a wife.” A recent SMS message on cells in Pakistan from unknown developers

• "I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life."- Rita Rudner

• "I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewelry." – Rita Rudner

• Marriage is the alliance of two people, one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other who never forgets.” - Ogden Nash

• “Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage. He didn't have to hear about all the men she could have married... and she didn't have to hear about how well his Mother cooked.” – From Unknown Source
• A friend recently told us about a twenty-fifth-anniversary party where the husband gave a toast and said, "The key to our success is very simple. Within minutes after every fight, one of us says, 'I'm sorry, Sally'."- Jefferson Machamer
• "My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met." – Rodney Dangerfield

• "A married man should forget his mistakes; no use two people remembering the same thing." – Duane Dewel
• "Eighty percent of married men cheat in America. The rest cheat in Europe." – Funny Marriage Quote from Jackie Mason

• ”Politics doesn't make strange bedfellows, marriage does.” – Funny Marriage Quote from Groucho Marx

• ”When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him.” – Unknown

• ”The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret.” – Henry Youngman

• "I haven't spoken to my wife in years. I didn't want to interrupt her." – Rodney Dangerfield.

• "I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." – Patrick Murray
• "When you see what some girls marry, you realize how much they must hate to work for a living." – Helen Rowland

• "What ought to be done to the man who invented the celebrating of anniversaries? Mere killing would be too light." – Mark Twain

• "In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker." - Woody Allen

• A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short” – Funny Marriage Quotes from Andre Maurois

• Before marriage, a man yearns for the woman he loves. After marriage, the 'Y' becomes silent! – Funny Marriage Quotes from Unknown source
• Marriage is the wastepaper basket of the emotions. – Funny Marriage Quotes from Erma Bombeck

• There is a time for all things, Except Marriage my dear. – Funny Marriage Quotes from Thomas Chatterton

• Only one marriage I regret. I remember after I got that marriage license I went across from the license bureau to a bar for a drink. The bartender said, 'What will you have, sir?' And I said, 'A glass of hemlock.' - Ernest Hemingway

insurance wedding - protect your big day

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:11:00 +0000

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With the 1.8 billion singles planning on proposing to their loved ones each year there's a lot of money being saved for future weddings. At an average of £18,000 per celebration - a huge sum of money to splash around - make sure you protect your wedding funds properly. In comparison to the spiralling costs of the ceremony itself insurance can be fairly cheap, so it could be worth spending that little bit extra for peace of mind.

Do you need it?Insurance may not be the first thing that springs to mind when planning your wedding but things can go wrong on your special day. It is a good idea to get some protection. Here are the top five reasons why couples claim on insurance wedding from leading wedding insurers.

Damage to clothing including wedding dress and jewellery
Cancellation of the wedding
Problems with the venue
Problems with suppliers e.g. caterers
Loss of, or damage to, photographs

Insurance wedding ensures that if any mishaps or unforeseen circumstances occur (except for the bridge or groom getting cold feet and running out on the day - God forbid!) you won’t have to lose money and see the whole wedding go down the drain.

How does it work?

As with most insurance policies, there are various levels of cover which increase in price depending on how much protection you want. All levels of cover tend to protect the same things i.e. cancellation and rearrangement fees, wedding attire, cake, gifts, photography/video, flowers and suppliers deposits.
It's a good idea to sit down and work out exactly what you would like your insurance to cover then shop around to see what suits your needs. Here is a list of some of the major insurance providers and their cover policies:

Marks & Spencer
Four tiers of cover.

Prices: £59 to £189.
Unavoidable cancellation: They will pay up to £5,000 for the lowest tier and £17,500 for the highest tier.
Rearrangement: They pay up to 75% of the cost of the original service.

Debenhams
Four tiers of cover (Gold, Platinum, Diamond and Diamond Plus).
Prices: £55 to £330.
Unavoidable cancellation: They pay up to £9,000 for the lowest tier and up to £70,000 for the highest tier.
Rearrangement: They pay up to 75% of the original cost of the service.

Ecclesiastical
Four tiers of cover.
Prices: £48 to £160.
Unavoidable cancellation: They pay up to £5,000 for the lowest tier and up to £24,000 for the highest tier.
Rearrangement: They pay up to 50% of the cost of the original service.

Greenbee (John Lewis Partnership)
Twelve tiers of cover
Prices: £46.34 to £355.22
Unavoidable cancellation: They pay up to £5,000 for the lowest tier and up to £50,000 for the highest tier.
Rearrangement: They pay up to 75% on the lowest tier and 60% on the others.

DON'T FORGET that formost claims, e.g. for damaged/stolen wedding gifts, flowers and photographs, you will have to pay an excess which means that you'll have to pay a certain amount of money towards any claim. For example at Debenhams the Gold and Platinum tiers do not cover the first £25 and both Diamond tiers do not cover the first £50. Also do check the policy thoroughly for any other exclusions.

Get the best deal

Obviously the bigger and more expensive your wedding is, the higher the level of cover you will need. The pricier cover levels will pay out more money if something goes wrong so it's not worth buying an expensive policy that pays out more than you need it to. At the same time it may be better to spend a little extra on a higher cover level so that if anything unfortunate happens the insurance policy actually makes a difference when it comes to paying for any damage.

Best for basic cover:

Unlike most insurers Marks & Spencer DO NOT expect you to pay an excess so you will not have to put any money towards any claims. This is really fantastic, if for example your wedding gifts are lost or damaged, because with other policies you would have to pay towards each claim. They will pay for these presents for up to seven days prior to the wedding and 24 hours after the reception.

Best for weddings abroad:

Both Debenhams and Greenbee provide their insurance for a wedding abroad. However Marks & Spencer and Ecclesiastical only cover weddings in Great Britain, including the Channel Islands and Isle of Man.

Best for extensive cover:

Debenhams' Diamond Platinum cover certainly isn't cheap at £330 but it does pay up to £20,000 more for cancellation than Greenbee's highest cover (level 12) which actually costs more at £355.22. However don't forget that this isn't good for a small, cheaper wedding.

Best for choice:

Greenbee have a massive 12 levels of cover compared to the measly four options from the other insurers we looked at. This may make it easier for you to find a level of cover to suit your budget and give you the protection you want.

Discounts and offers:

Make sure you check regularly for discounts and special offers. Debenhams currently have a 10% online discount. Also, if you create your wedding list with them, they will provide you with cover for those gifts for three months (one month before the wedding and two months after

Other options

As long as you can afford to pay it off, use your credit card to pay your suppliers and ask your guests to buy their gifts on credit card, too. This will mean that as long as you've spent over £100 you will be able to claim back money from the credit card company.
Get protection for your wedding with your home insurance. Direct Line automatically increase their home insurance contents for special occasions so that any items for the big day, like your wedding dress, jewellery and gifts before and after the wedding, are protected in your house. Direct Line will automatically increase your contents insurance by either £5,000 or 10% of the contents sum insured (whichever is greatest), for four weeks either side of the wedding.
There are other home insurance providers who have similar policies to cover special occasions, like Christmas and weddings, so for more information see our article on home contents insurance and check our home insurance comparison table.

Getting Married in Ohio - Ideas for Planning a Wedding in Ohio

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 00:20:00 +0000

If you are planning a wedding or special event in Ohio, you have made a good choice and there are many Ohio wedding sites and event venues or locations to choose from. If you are getting married in Ohio you can also plan your shower or rehearsal dinner in one of the many nicely appointed conference rooms. What's more you can plan your wedding in the heart of the city without hustle and bustle complicating your dream day. Read on and check out our ideas and tips to make your wedding both spectacular and fantastic.

Professional photography, video, graphic, print, and web design services, plus unique wedding photography and video packages are all available to those planning their special day in Ohio. Professional photos aren't cheap because you really do need a top photographer to work the magic which will bring you truly memorable images of you day. It pays to invest though,the money that you spend on these photographs will strengthen family bonds, enhance happy memories, and capture the fleeting moments of childhood in you youngest guests.

Ohio has some great shops specializing in traditional, personalized, and unique wedding favors, flower girl baskets, unity candles, etc.

Order beautiful flower arrangements for your wedding which show off the latest floral trends. Beautiful flower arrangements from the top florists in the area are renowned for showing off the latest floral trends.

Some Ohio wedding function providers will offer free honeymoon giveaways, and much more. One hotel that is highly rated for its wedding functions provides a free pre-reception questionnaire allowing you to define very clearly exactly what you seek in your wedding. Once the organisers receive this they then are able to come back to you with their ideas to match your needs very closely. This, and a detailed phone consultation, allows you to customize your reception or event music choices well ahead of the day.

Take care to select your reception entertainment carefully. Your DJ for example can work wonders toward making your wedding fun and keeping everyone on the dance floor. Choose a DJ for his ability to adapt to the likes of the guests, and they will thank you again, and again, for making the wedding day so good.

A truly creative wedding coordinator will also be a great investment and help you every step of the way. A professional wedding arranger can make your wedding day an experience to remember

One DJ we know works the event with a clever selection of novelty music and old dance standards to bring the Disco through the evening to a climax when all are drawn in. The guests gather around as the couple dance to "their" song, and old and young couples then gain the opportunity to fill the floor for some final romantic ballads before the bride and groom are dramatically whisked away in their limousine to start their honeymoon. A good master of ceremonies or band leader will be really good at asking your parents, your fiance's parents and the rest of the wedding party to join in. For the evening to go well it is always best if as many people as possible will be staying overnight in the hotel. To entice them to stay, the quality of the guest accommodation is very important. Let all your guests know where you have rooms blocked, and tell them well in advance, before they have made other arrangements for that day.

Bar timings are important too and the DJ will need to understand your alcohol policy.

Prices from your entertainer or DJ may vary slightly from his or her quote because of equipment costs, music library, lighting equipment and what the hotel is willing to provide. In Ohio it has been reported that the average price range for a DJ is $700.00 up to $1,400.00 for a 4 hr set.

Some hoteliers are very keen to attract your wedding event, and one was recently offering an exclusive Photo-Video CD-DVD provided for you to view your wedding photographs while still relaxing on your honeymoon. A search for the Cleveland wedding photography website at would allow you to view their offer. They say that they have an unpretentious documentary style. It might be just right for you.

One wedding host which is bang up to date provides a video booth during the reception, where guests may record their anecdotes about the bride and groom. Ask your wedding party ahead of time if anyone would like to speak, or record their piece like this. Since it's a casual event, the more reticent who would be too timid to speak, can still share some fun stories about the bride and groom without all the pressure of speaking at the wedding.

One wedding host which is bang up to date provides a video booth during the reception, where guests may record their anecdotes about the bride and groom. Ask your wedding party ahead of time if anyone would like to speak, or record their piece like this. Since it's a casual event, the more reticent who would be too timid to speak, can still share some fun stories about the bride and groom without all the pressure of speaking at the wedding.

A well known service is provided by Ohio Wedding Chapels. Their services are perfect to give you a memorable event to cherish forever. Ohio Wedding Chapels promise that they won't fail to cast their magical charm on the two of you as you stand on your new threshold of life. If this wedding will be the second or third time around it is likely that a church wedding is not for you, and a chapel alternative may then be the perfect option.

A well known service is provided by Ohio Wedding Chapels. Their services are perfect to give you a memorable event to cherish forever. Ohio Wedding Chapels promise that they won't fail to cast their magical charm on the two of you as you stand on your new threshold of life. If this wedding will be the second or third time around it is likely that a church wedding is not for you, and a chapel alternative may then be the perfect option.

Choose a good tasting cake and it makes a statement about your skill as a hostess. The wedding cake demonstrates that you honor tradition.
Our friends the Bayles were married just six months and one day after they met. For their wedding, they decided to decorate their own cake in a manner that would have the most meaning for them. Now, while it is true that the result was far from professional looking, it was a good idea and every one of the guests did make a point of admiring it in a way they would never have done for a more accomplished professional cake.

Whatever happens when you choose an Ohio wedding choosing the venue the menu, seating layouts, photographer, videographer, and DJ should always be a pleasant experience. Remember, the entertainment you choose will make the reception memorable, and your photos and video are memories of your wedding day that will outlast everything else when your day is over.

Flowers to women

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 23:50:00 +0000

Flowers are known for its beauty and fragrance. It's very popular among women. They usually appreciate it as a gift for them. Flowers are a compliment to a lady, the way of saying that a man finds her feminine. It has importance in any love story even in a wedding we need flowers. So if you are willing to gift flowers to you love ten you should keep in mind some points.

It is not important to gift huge bouquets in the shape of a heart or delicate tulips to show your attention. All you need is to touch your sweetheart' heart and you can do it by giving her even a single rose.

If you are not interested to give your girl a flower and your date really longs for it. You should recognize the sign of their willing. A woman can act much more delicately than to ask straightforward. For example, when you pass by a flower shop, halt for a while and after going some way away from it; say that you think the most beautiful flowers are (name).

If she is telling you that how much she loves flowers. You don't need to suddenly rush for the flowers to show how much you love her or how much you care, you can just do it after your office is over or you are planning for date on weekend. Date will be best time to gift her some roses or the flowers of her choice.

If she doesn't like flowers completely, send her a lovely card, or a box of sweets. It will really show her your love and care and these sweet memories will warm her heart for a long while

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Tips To Get More Sex and Intimacy From Your Wife.

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:27:00 +0000

Maybe you?ve already tried helping out more around the house. Maybe you?re already paying all the bills. Maybe you?ve showered her with gifts. And still, she does not give you enough sex.

The following tips will be of immense help to you;

Your wife needs a love story?I don?t care if it?s a movie a romance novel, or you making up a story and telling it to her?she needs for you to provide her with a love story so that she can access that intimate and sexual part of herself ? and be able to satisfy you with it.

Fellows, you wife needs variety ? something different from the normal, every-day run-of-the-mill sameness to spark her up. And yes, you might think that she should be able to supply this spark on her own but she can?t. You?re the catalyst that?s to provide her with the spark she needs. If she didn?t need you to spark her up, then she wouldn?t need you now would she? If your wife describes her life as ?Always the same?nothing different?same, same, same?boring, boring, boring?monotonous, monotonous, monotonous?? then I can reliably predict that you have a mostly sexless marriage and relationship.This is where marriage therapy sets in.

Guys, when it comes time for intimacy, slow down, relax, pace yourself ? take control of yourself so you can take care of your woman. Most women complain that their husband just grabs, gropes, pokes, and pulls for a few seconds and then he?s ready to ?jump in?. Guys, here?s what I want you to do?reflect back to a time when you were in a really bad mood and recall how long it took you to transition out of that bad mood into a good mood. If you?re anything like the normal man, it usually takes at least an overnight sleep off to shift out of the bad mood. Even if it doesn?t take you this long, it definitely takes you more than a few seconds to shift moods. Guess what? It?s exactly the same for your lady. She needs TIME in order to shift her mood from non-sexual to sexual and if you don?t give her this time, the experience is completely irritating and frustrating for her ? just like it is for you when someone asks you to smile and be happy when you?re not in a good mood. In simple terms, the fast track to sex is just NOT SEXY to most women

How do you do the ?slow down? I described in the previous step? You do it by shifting the focus from you going to her to her coming to you. How do you do that? First, you make sure your body and mouth is clean and fresh and that you?re fully dressed. Second, make sure the timing is right. If she?s in the middle of something, if she?s about to start something then the timing is wrong. Far too many guys want sex and they don?t get it simply because they pick a bad time to initiate it. Assuming these bases are covered, you walk up to your lady ? and you KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF OF HER. Let only your lips touch hers?kiss her?lightly?slowly?just your lips?continue keeping your hands off of her?let a little moan of pleasure come from inside you just to let her know that you find it pleasurable kissing her?continue kissing her slowly and lightly?your lips just barely brushing hers?and you keep doing this and nothing else. Eventually, she?s going to respond in some way?maybe she?ll put her hands on you?maybe she?ll try to put your hands on her?maybe she?ll initiate a more intimate form of kissing by giving you her tongue. Whatever it is, you give her that for just a few seconds and then you pull back and go back to nothing more than the light lips touching and brushing and then give it back to her for a few seconds and then pull back again. In a woman?s mind, this is one of the hottest things a guy can do is slowly and sensually tease her. You?ll find out that this is true for yourself in that your lady will begin to become more and more aggressive, sexual, and direct in her touch. That?s excellent?you just let her keep on coming to you?keep letting her ratchet things upward while you provide the ?resistance? by going with her for a few seconds and then pulling back slightly by going back to the previous ?level?. Pretty soon, she?ll be a woman whose sexual flame is active.This is part of online marriage counselling.

When it comes to getting more sex, ignore all that nonsense about flowers and dinners and buying things for your lady. This kind of ?romance? is NOT going to put your lady in the mood. Actually, it?s going to squelch her mood even more because it?s exerting more pressure on her ? the wrong kind of pressure. It?s wrong because it?s seen as you trying to butter her up for sex ? you trying to motivate her to have sex. She?ll know the things you?ve bought her are because you?re wanting ?something? and not because you have an overpowering need to express your love for her. You need to save your marriage. And she, like most anybody, will withdraw when she sees a person being extra ?nice? for no known reason.

Considered from another perspective, why would you ?reward? your lady for ?bad? behaviour? Why would you buy her flowers and dinners and other things when she hasn?t ?put out?? This may sound a bit crass, but you should seriously consider this point?both you and your wife would feel better about money being spent AFTER the two of you have had a wonderful time of intimacy and sexual expression. In this model of buying AFTERWARDS, you?re genuinely able to express your true love and she?s being rewarded for her ?good? behaviour which means she?ll be more inclined to be intimate again. When you buy things AFTERWARDS, you?re able to genuinely express love and you?re not trying to ?get? something.

Sometimes, you can help other people snap out of their undesirable behaviours when you present their behaviour back to them in an unusual way that causes them to see themselves in a new light. So for example, at a strategic moment, you might say something like the following to your lady when she?s resisting sex, ?It seems rather odd to me that you argue yourself out of a good time???? Or, you might say something like, ?Does it ever strike you as strange or bizarre that you often ?excuse? yourself out of the very romance and intimacy that you want???? In a nutshell, what you?re doing is presenting a person with the notion that THEY are BLOCKING the very thing that they are wanting ? and if presented in the right way at the right time ? you can have a very powerful effect on them. Often, it?s the very thing that?s need to ?shock them? and ?wake them up? and get them to ?snap out of? their undesirable behaviours

Tips To Get More Sex and Intimacy From Your Wife.

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sat, 19 Jul 2008 13:32:00 +0000

Maybe you?ve already tried helping out more around the house. Maybe you?re already paying all the bills. Maybe you?ve showered her with gifts. And still, you are not able to get enough sex from her

Then take a look at these helpful tips below;

Your wife needs a love story?I don?t care if it?s a movie a romance novel, or you are making up a story and telling it to her?she needs for you to provide her with a love story so that she can access that intimate and sexual part of herself ? and be able to share it with you.

Fellows, you wife needs varieties? something different from the normal, every-day run-of-the-mill sameness to spark her up. And yes, you might think that she should be able to supply this spark on her own but she can?t. You?re the catalyst that?s to provide her with the spark she needs. If she didn?t need you to spark her up, then she wouldn?t need you now would she? If your wife describes her life as ?Always the same?nothing different?same, same, same?boring, boring, boring?monotonous, monotonous, monotonous?? then I can reliably predict that you have a mostly sexless marriage or relationship.

When it comes to getting more sex, ignore all that nonsense about flowers and dinners and buying things for your lady. This kind of ?romance? is NOT going to put your lady in the mood. Actually, it?s going to squelch her mood even more because it?s exerting more pressure on her ? the wrong kind of pressure. It?s wrong because it?s seen as you trying to butter her up for sex ? you trying to motivate her to have sex. She?ll know the things you?ve bought her are because you?re wanting ?something? and not because you have an overpowering need to express your love for her. And she, like most anybody, will withdraw when she sees a person being extra ?nice? for no apparent reason.

Considered from another perspective, why would you ?reward? your lady for ?bad? behaviour? Why would you buy her flowers and dinners and other things when she hasn?t ?put out?? This may sound a bit crass, but you should seriously consider this point?both you and your wife would feel better about money being spent AFTER the two of you have had a wonderful time of intimacy and sexual expression. In this model of buying AFTERWARDS, you?re genuinely able to express your true love and she?s being rewarded for her ?good? behaviour which means she?ll be more inclined to be intimate again. When you buy things AFTERWARDS, you?re able to express real love and you?re not trying to ?get? something

Reading Your Partners Mind

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 02:26:00 +0000

When Grace came to see me, she was in the process of counting how many times in the past year her husband had turned on the television when she wanted to talk to him—not that she had ever told him she wanted to talk. She left him oblivious to her upset, while her resentment built at his failure to magically “know” what was on her mind.

When we are young it seems as if our caretakers magically know when we need to eat and what they must do to take care of us. Children have a family romance in which their parents are always wise and good. This is extended to the whole world via the culture of children’s stories, in which wonderful things happen to the good guys and the bad guys get their due

The Prince comes. The slipper fits. They live happily ever after

In adulthood this can become the expectation: that our partners should always know what we need without our having to tell them. When our partner fails to read our minds and to “magically” know our needs, resentment builds. We can take our partner’s “blindness” as a criticism of what we want or as a failure to do their part in the relationship. I have seen many couples who both believe that the other one knows, “just knows,” what it is they need and is withholding it for reasons of perversity or vindictiveness. This leads to a kind of passivity and watching in the relationship. We wait and wait for our partner to recognize us by doing for us the thing we feel they should know to do. We describe this, as it has often been called as, “saving brown stamps.” Meanwhile, resentment builds and we cease to be a proper participant in the relationship

Our belief that there is a force outside of our lives magically steering it toward love and happiness is deeply ingrained; usually it is only given up as a consequence of repeated disappointments. Even when it is, we can still become involved in trying to be the perfect person ourselves, believing that our slimness or muscularity will exercise a magical attraction on others around us. Thus women become anorexic and men spend hours at the gym. These behaviors often represent an attempt to keep our belief in magic alive.

Creating Conscious Relationships

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 02:01:00 +0000

Do you ever recall walking into a room and immediately feeling the heavy, lingering negativity after a couple has had a fight?

How can couples learn to handle those powerful emotions that can be generated between them?

To create a conscious relationship it´s important to be aware of the feelings that are created between partners, especially for intimate couples, because their combined emotions are greater than the sum of their individual parts. When couples become aware and learn to be mindful of the energy that is created between them, rather than focus on their individual differences, they are creating conscious relationships
. This is part of online marriage counselling.

I`ve observed the tendency of partners to first go through the romantic phase of their relationship, where their combined conscious remains buoyant, lively and fulfilling. At this point they don´t perceive differences in each other. The feelings between these couples shines a bright light across the world and life is viewed from a beautiful kaleidoscope. There is perfect love and romance before the couples. During this romantic phase, couples project on their partner and the world a canvas filled with images of beauty, goodness and pure love. And this focus on the combined rainbow of beautiful colors catapults them into a higher consciousness.

Robert Johnson observed that falling in love is meant to be an initiation into a world much greater than the individual - it is an introduction to the ideals of love, truth and beauty that g0es beyond ordinary life and is seriously opposed to falling love.

When couples begin to become aware of the differences and faults in one another, they fail to realize that their partner is a symbol and catalyst for the poetry of life. During the romantic phase they view each other in an idealized manner. But, months or years later, when they are entrenched in power struggles, their partner becomes a cardboard-cut-out on which they project threatening characters from their own past. Such perceptions launch soulless, automatic, rigid, right vs. wrong games that separate partners not only from one another, but from the positive transcendent of their combined consciousness and such needs marriage help.

Instead of couples wishing for a judge and jury to litigate their individual differences, they can develop tools that will enable them know how to save their marriage and therefore manage the potentially creative or destructive powers which often unconsciously exist between them

1. Focus on the process between you, rather than your differences.

2. Work on accepting the imperfections of both yourself and your partner, while looking for the deeper meaning in repetitive arguments.

3. Get curious about your learned patterns that you project onto your partner

4. Learn to use the combined relationship emotions for creative life-enhancement, instead of destructive maneuvers

5. Work to make each other´s lives larger, instead of smaller.

6. Co-create a picture of what your ideal relationship looks like and visualize that image daily.

7. Make a commit, to yourself and to each other, to not participate in destructive interactions that can damage and may ultimately destroy shared consciousness. Overcome all infidelity test.

In "Embracing The Beloved", Stephen and Ondrea Levine write, how in a spiritual here and now process, they view one another as, "beingness" constantly unfolding. They also refer to combined consciousness as a, "beloved energy."

It can be a difficult process to transform our power struggles into creative energy. As Thomas Merton wrote, "... true love and prayers are learned in the moment when prayer has become impossible and the heart has turned to stone."

Marion Woodman describes the first time she saw her husband free of her own projections after three years of marriage, when she heard him rattling around the kitchen, attempting to poach an egg. At first, she began to think in terms of "shoulds", becoming judgmental of his inadequacy in the kitchen. Then, she let go of all judgment and became able to see him for himself for the very first time, as he stood on spindly legs in his bermuda shorts, holding an imperfect poached egg. She felt such profound love.

Learn to watch with "soft eyes." Watch without any judgment, with compassion and loving kindness.

How To Build A Stronger, Happier, More Fulfilling Marriage

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Wed, 28 May 2008 20:41:00 +0000

I'm sure that we could agree that a strong marriage is one that is based on pure love. But, how do you "love" someone? How is it that you really do that?
For many people, if you take away the sexual aspect of love, what's left in their mind is so ambiguous, abstract, and ethereal that there's really nothing left for them to to fall in love.
Consequently, there's not nearly enough "loving" going on in the way of too many marriages.
So, let me give you a definition of love that's "actionable" - a definition that'll make perfect sense to you and enable you to develop pure love for your spouse in a meaningful way that they'll readily recognize and appreciate.
Loving your spouse is doing three things: Marriage counsellors, do emphasise on these points i am going to reveal here.

1. It's consistently directing goodwill towards them2. It's truly wanting the best of everything for them 3. It's helping them obtain the good they desire in any way you can
These are links to love and are expression of pure love.
As a human being, you have God-given intellect, God-given will-power, and God-given choice-power. That means that if you really want to, you can consciously choose to do all three of the above items and thereby cast love spells on your spouse in a way that will cause your marriage to blossom and bloom into a union of beauty and harmony that you may not even be able to imagine right now.
And, all three of these are things that are easy to understand and they are things that you really can do.
In fact, I'd like you to now pause for a moment and think on these my advice on love using your abilities to decide, think, and imagine...
1. Decide to consistently direct goodwill towards your spouse. Permanently install the notion in your mind that goodwill is something you have to give to your spouse - and that you want to give it to your spouse in every interaction. Firmly program your mind with the ideal that you are a constant transmitter of goodwill towards your spouse.
2. Think about how you might direct goodwill towards your spouse. Use your imagination to visualize yourself doing that in the different kinds of interactions that you routinely have with your spouse. Ask yourself how do i save my marriage. Use your imagination to picture you casting love spells towards your spouse when it's just the two of you, when it's the two of you with children, and when it's the two of you in a public sitting with other people around.
Then, repeat this two-step process for the ideal of wanting the best of everything for your spouse and for helping your spouse obtain the good they desire in any way you can.
Try to listen to love quotes and practicalise such. I promise you, if you'll actively go through this two-step process for all three aspects of love, I can assure you there is going to be a different aura about you that your spouse cannot help but notice. These are love spells that really work.
There'll be a shine on your face, a sparkling beam in your eyes, and your words and actions will find love towards your spouse. They'll be irresistibly drawn to you. Think of it, who could possibly resist a spouse that's for them - that's on their side?
In the best-selling book of all time, the Bible, we read that "God is love" and if we read a little deeper, we find that God's kind of love is the kind that directs goodwill towards us, wants the very best for us, and helps us get the good we desire, this is pure love.
In like fashion, a strong, successful, happy, fulfilling marriage is one where both the husband and the wife direct goodwill towards each other, they genuinely want the very best for each other, and they actively do their best to help each other obtain the good that they desire. This is guaranteed love spells.
Of course, someone has to be the first one to move...print out this article, find the right time and place, and share it with your spouse. Let them know that you want to "love" them in this way and that you'd like for them to "love" you back in this way.
This is how you "love" your way into a stronger, happier, more fulfilling marriage. I hpoe this my advice on love is understood and you are ready to practice it with your spouse.

How Can A Marriage Avoid A Divorce

noreply@blogger.com (BASIL) — Wed, 28 May 2008 19:48:00 +0000

Most of the married couples are facing the divorce case, thereby destroying their marriage certificates. Such marriages, deserves marriage counselling so as to save marriage. The question now is how can marriages avoid divorce? Most of the divorces are hasty actions taken due to giving way to emotional thinking, when we are inhibited from thinking rationally. How often does one think of the past, and the love that they had shared as newly married couple? Amazingly very rarely. We also see divorces applied for trivial reasons. If everyone knows the importance of avoiding divorce, and knows how can a marriage avoid a divorce, almost 75% of the them can be avoided. Majority of the marriages therefore needs marriage therapy.

Shattered Love

Problems in marriage is unavoidable, and there are bound to be misunderstandings. But love is the only factor that has no barriers whatsoever, and it is the one we have to look forward to get a relationship to work out well. But we during some stage of life prove that familiarity indeed breeds contempt. That is not actually hate but a point where are not ready to love the spouse. If true love exists then, every problem for anyone is seen as a common problem, and if we have factors like self esteem, pride, ego and such things crossing roads with love, which i call infidelity test that's when the slender string of love is under fire

So, how can a marriage avoid a divorce? See the spouse as the perfect soul mate you have seen him/her to be at the start of relationship. Weigh the traits of him that has made you happy, and the extent to which your soul mate has reciprocated your love. The anniversaries you have celebrated, the great times you have gad together and happy stuff you had shared as couple. Do you really want such lovable moments to be erased just because of the small incident that has induced wrong feelings? You can also perhaps consult a marriage counsellor for advice.