Success in life and business

Personal Agenda

2010-01-19T09:59:00.000-08:00

What is your personal agenda? Do you know? Your personal agenda is hidden deep inside your personality. I believe your personal agenda is developed by a mix of your personality and experiences you had in the past. With most everything there is good and bad, the trick is to find the bad and fix it. You need to make sure that you are thinking objectively when taking action instead of blindly following your personal agenda. If you follow your personal agenda all the time, be ready to go through some rough times. Just remember to think objectively about your goals and do not get in your own way!

A lot of the time we are completely unaware that our personal agenda may be holding us back from personal achievement. It definitely sounds kind of odd that we would subconsciously restrict ourselves from completing goals or doing things we like. The truth is we limit our own ability more than anyone else does. You should rise above the aspects of your personal agenda that do not serve you in a positive manner. Sometimes I think everyone is trapped inside their own body, cut off from people they meet, too afraid to show their true colors. This is something that I myself, am guilty of as well. I think that everyone should take a hard look at their personal agenda and see what does not work for them.

Do not remain chained to idealistic silly beliefs about what is possible and what is not. Do not squander your God given talent because you are afraid. Step into the aspects of your personality that benefit you and inspire those you meet.

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2010-01-13T11:13:00.000-08:00

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Clarify yourself

2010-01-04T11:12:00.000-08:00

Do you know how you truly feel about certain things going in your life? Do you know know if there are things going on in your life right now, that do not coincide with your values? Do you know if you are on the right path? Are you spending your time the way you want to? Life is so hectic, when was the last time you sat down and asked yourself some serious questions and answered honestly?Lots of times people just get off track. They lose sight of what their goals are because they get wrapped up in life. Which is so easy to do!

I recommend writing a question journal everyday. This journal is different, anytime you have a question, ask it. Try to ask questions that are challenging. Ask questions like: why I do not like my job, why do I feel bad physically, why I am upset, why I am not using all of my power as a person, why I am not using all the gifts I have been blessed with etc. Also, ask more specific questions like: why did I behave that way towards that person, or why did what that person said hurt my feelings. Whenever you ask a question, continue the line of questioning till you find out the real answer. Most importantly, answer honestly. I equate this to psycho-analyzing yourself. The best part about this is, you do not have to worry about what anyone thinks when you answer honestly!

Being present

2010-01-03T12:05:00.000-08:00

There are so many things that we have to think about on a daily basis. Being present and in the moment can be difficult at times but we must do it. Thinking about the future or thinking about the past takes you away from the joy you can have in the present. The present is it's own universe just waiting for you to take advantage of it! How many times are you thinking about something else rather than seeing what is in front of you, right now? How many opportunities have you missed because you were not in the moment? Opportunities to: meet women or men, make new friends, make a business deal, create a new business contact etc. You have absolutely no control over the future or the past. Why not worry about something that you do have control over, the present.

Open your eyes to the present moment and see the beauty in it......Understand and see possibilities , see what you have been missing out on. If you are the type of person that lives in the future, STOP! I know thinking about the future can be very exciting but your performance suffers when you do. How affective can you be with your mind in the future and your body in the present?

If you are a glutton for punishment thinking about the past might be your guilty pleasure. Why subject yourself to mistakes you have already made? It just does not make any sense. Doing this affects your whole entire mood, your posture, your tone voice. Living in the moment is forgetting your mistakes and creating new possibilities.

Building a good reputation

2010-01-02T09:17:00.000-08:00

Building a good reputation. It smart to think about doing this. Think about how you would like to be viewed by others. Think about your career and your dreams then fashion your reputation after that. You want people to remember you, most everybody deep down wants people to like them and say positive things about them. Build a reputation where people do not have a choice but to say good things about you.

Be unpredictable, never let people be able to tell what your next move is.....then people will become bored with you and forget you easily. Every once in a while be creative perform an action that is most definently out of the norm for you, just to keep people guessing. Do not do anything stupid, imoral or against the law. Just do something that grabs peoples attention and makes them say "wow, I have never seen him do anything like that before".

To set yourself apart, you could do a number of different things. Develop a certain way of dressing that seperates you apart from the crowd. It does not have to be anything major or weird. It just has to be something that sets you apart, something little, yet conspicuous. You could also have a little nervous tick that people remember and find endearing. Or perhaps, accentuating one aspect of your personality that you really like.

Once you have built a good reputation, guard it with your life. It is hard to build a solid reputation with people, once you have done so, there is no point in losing it. What kind of reputation do you have?

Talk to yourself nicely!

2010-01-01T15:19:00.000-08:00

All of us have an inner voice, this voice talks to us all the time. It talks to us about many different subjects. Sometimes it is hard to tell what our inner voices are telling us and why. Sometimes the tone of the inner voice can be very harsh and critical. Everybody knows the saying "you are your worst critic". Why is this the case?. It seems to me to me that if we were able to be our own best motivator, we would be a lot more happy and get a lot more accomplished in life. Lots of people tell stories about how rough high school was because of the other kids and how they used to pick on each other. Well, the way your high school buddies treated you is nothing compared to the way you talk to yourself sometimes.

Next time your inner voice is criticizing you, ask it: why it is being so critical? what does it want of you? what does it want you to understand? please speak to me nicely? I know this may seem kind of silly but just try it. You might find out somethings that you would not have realized. Lots of times your inner voice is: trying to protect you, trying to make you a better person, trying to get you to work harder for your goals. It is important to have a healthy dialog with your voice and understand why it says certain things. So your life will become more congruent. What is your voice trying to tell you?

Belief in success

2009-12-28T15:42:00.000-08:00

I think that believing in something is a very interesting concept. Beliefs make us who we are, they control pretty much every aspect of our lives. Numerous people have died because of their beliefs. Whatever we believe to be is true, as far as we are concerned, is true. Even though there maybe substantial evidence to refute us, we still believe it. Think about how strong of a tool that is if used properly. I remember thinking at times that I cannot do something. I also have thought, it will be impossible to get the results I want out of this situation. Are these not merely beliefs? Why must we as people continually think the worst is going to happen and believe it. Whatever we think about inevitably comes to pass, not by magic but because we are thinking about it.

In my opinion, there is such fine line between being really good at something versus not so good. This may sound really silly but you see people who are really good at something believe they are good at it. On the other hand people who are not so good at something believe they are not good at it. No matter how you slice it, belief is the main determing aspect of being good at something. It does not matter how much practice you put into being good or how many hours you have worked. You have to believe before first!

The point I am trying to make is, lots of times we are so hard on ourselves. We critique our performance and find ourselves lacking. Our thoughts become reality. In general, we have the skills and know how to accomplish anything we wanted or the ability to learn, if we just believed this were true.

DISCIPLINE

2009-12-26T12:10:00.000-08:00

Discipline, how does one develop this sometimes elusive personality trait. Being disciplined is paramount is you wish to be one of the high achievers in your chosen profession. There are so many constant distractions now. First of all you need to find out what your motivations are: why do you want to be successful?, what will you do once you are successful?, how will others benefit from your achievement? Asking yourself these questions and figuring out the accurate answers will help you develop discipline. You have to know all the aspects and angles of why you are doing something before you can fully commit. Doing this will also help you understand if you are in the right field. Lots of times we think we want something, we try to commit and be disciplined but nothing works. Inevitably we end up banging our head against a wall. Making sure you are in the right profession can have a major impact on your ability to be disciplined.

I challenge you, just like I challenge myself, to take a really hard look at how you spend your time. I know in life it is important to have balance. Everyone for the most part, gets eight of hours work each day. Taking this into account we need to make sure that we are getting the most back for our time spent. What is the point in going to work, if you are just going to screw around all day and get nothing accomplished. I mean you at work, be disciplined and find something constructive to impress your bosses and move up. Discipline is the engine that makes success go and success goes fast.

ACTION

2009-12-24T12:23:00.000-08:00

Becoming an action orientated person is imperative if you wish to gain any level of success. Achieving this feat may be difficult for some people if they have built up a habit of procrastination. Everyone talks about things they want to do but it is always followed up by Oh! I will do it later, I have time. That is a prime example of procrastination. What we don't realize is every time we do this, a habit is formed. If putting things off is done enough, eventually you will put everything off. Habits can be such a pain to break. We should concentrate on completing tasks whenever they need to be done.

A good way to become an action oriented person is to move faster, do everything faster. We all know busy people get most of the work, which means most of the money. Who are the people that get the most done. The people that appear to be the most busy. Busy people, action oriented people create work for themselves because they fear laziness. They know how being lazy can effect other parts of their lives.

Become a person of action by thinking about action all the time. Then, when it is time to act, do it right away. Do not allow your brain to make up excuses because trust me it will. Move faster, be faster. Create work for yourself at your job and your house. Your days will pass faster, you will get more and more done and you will have boundless stores of energy! Pretty soon you will be accomplishing any goal you want!

Network marketing

2009-12-23T12:27:00.000-08:00

First of all, before you think that I am bashing the network marketing industry, I want to tell you I am most certainly not. I think that the network marketing industry is great, there are however some issues with it. I will cover what I like and dislike about the network marketing industry.

As I said before, I think that the network marketing industry is fantastic. It gives people an opportunity to escape their corporate jobs or whatever job they dislike and delve into the realm of entrepreneurship. Lots of people are beginning to understand how much their quality of suffers when working long hard hours. Many people working in the corporate environment say they are not happy. It is pretty easy to tell why. Overall I think it gives people freedom to do whatever they want with their life.

I get approached by people in the biz all the time, I used to approach as well, and we all sound the same. It's because we are all told to say the same thing. Promises of money, vacations, not having to work etc. Whenever someone approaches me now and tells me that the top earners are making 6 figures, I know they are not lying. The one thing they do not tell you is how they got there. That is because they do not know themselves. This comes to my main problem with network marketing. The focus is always on signing people up not education and cultivation.

The top earners tell you to sign up two people in the first 24 hours for immediate gratification. Although, immediate gratification hardly ever guarantees long term success.

Successful thinking vs. unsuccessful thinking

2009-12-22T10:51:00.000-08:00

I thought it would be interesting to analyze the way two different people think in certain situations. I have always thought that success is more about psychology than anything else. If you think about it my assumption is absolutely correct. More and more we learn about our brain and the untapped power it has. Thoughts are energy and they control your whole body. If you are constantly thinking about things that are negative it will affect how you feel physically, you posture, your tone voice etc. Being successful first starts in your head. The successful person lives in a world of passion, motivation and success. The unsuccessful lives in a world of doubt and despair.

The successful person. I am going to go on an appointment. I am really excited and I am visualizing myself closing the sale. All of my reading and education will come into play when I talk to this client. I leave with enough time to get to the appointment early and I know exactly where I am going. As I am leaving my apartment someone cuts me off. I feel negative emotions coming on strong but I totally disregard them. I think what it will be like when I close the sale and how exciting it will be. Once again I am visualizing myself closing the sale. On the way traffic is horrible but I am not in the least worried because I left with enough time. I need to make a quick stop by the office to pick a demo of my product. As I walk in my boss says something less than inspiring. Once again I feel negative emotions coming on strong but again I am able to disregard them and put them out of mind. I think about closing the sale and visualizing how good I am going to be during the appointment. I leave my office feeling totally positive and unaffected by the negative events I have experienced thus far. I get to the appointment and I feel great. I do a quick mental rehearsal of have I would like the appointment to go. I meet with my client and I do an amazing job. Guess what? I close the sale and everything goes like I planned. I cannot control when bad things happen to me but I can control how I feel about them and choose not to let them affect me. This is how I am able to be one of the best salesman in my company.

The unsuccessful person. I have an appointment today and I am really not excited about going. I had bad night last night. I just really want to sleep in but I am going to go anyways. I leave a little bit later than I should have. I will probably be late especially since I have to stop by my office and pick up a demo. That means I have to see my boss, he is such a jerk. He will probably say something rude to me. As I am leaving someone cuts me off and I get furious. I show up to the office and my boss of course says something rude and I blow up at him because I am already mad. Luckily, I did not lose my job. I show up to the appointment late and my client does not want anything to do with me. As I am leaving I think to myself why does all this bad stuff happen to me.

Success is psychology. What we think about happens.

I do what I don't want. I don't do what I want.

2009-12-21T13:27:00.000-08:00

We all have goals and without a doubt everyone wishes they could accomplish all of their goals flawlessly. So why do we continually not do what we should in order to achieve goal completion. I think most people want to be successful and feel fulfilled. Completion of goals puts us in position to succeed. Sometimes you feel as if you could accomplish anything sometimes you don't. So what puts us in the right position to be a self-actualized person. There are many different areas of life that need our attention. How do you divide your time? How do you achieve balance? Education can be a great contributor to success. I suggest you read success quotes, success motivational poems and success stories. Reading these can really put you in the success mind frame.

It is important to choose to do things we really want. Lots of times you might think you want success in a certain area but you find eventually that you never wanted to do it in the first place. You should make a concerted effort to find out what your passion is, to avoid wasting precious time. There are many way you can find this out: career test, hiring a coach, education, personality tests and just trying everything you are interested in. In my opinion it is best to do this as soon as possible. Lots of people just settle on a career that they are not really interested in, for money or perks etc. You should make the time to try lots of different things so you will not be stuck in some job you do not like at 35 and then try and make a change.

Time can be so fleeting we almost need to monitor every minute and schedule each moment to get as much as we can from life. If you do not pay attention to how you are spending your time, you will inevitably wonder where it all goes. You will look back at your day and be frustrated because you did not accomplish what you wanted. All of this requires an extreme amount of discipline and work ethic. It takes approximately 10,000 hours to get really good at something. That is a lot of time. There are so many different reasons why we do what we don't want and we don't do what we want.

So how do we fix this issue, find out all the reasons why and fix them!