Advice On Pregnancy, Kids & Life

Going Home :)

2010-06-06T17:00:00.001+08:00

Our Darling Everett is going home today:) A very happy day for Lavinia, myself and hubby:)

New Things

2010-06-05T23:19:00.002+08:00

Bought a new cot for Everett and a new camera for Lavinia. Hope they will both appreciate what we do for them when they grow up. Of course hubby and I do not expect them to take care of us when we are old but it will be nice to know that our kids love us even when we are old:)

Happy Full Month Everett:)

2010-05-21T12:59:00.001+08:00

Dearest Everett,

You are now in the Special Care Nursery at KKH. Know that Daddy, Mummy and your sister, Lavinia, we all love you very much:)

HaPPY Full Month EVeReTT!!!

New Things

2010-05-06T23:30:00.000+08:00

Bought a new cot for Everett and a new camera for Lavinia today. Hope that they both appreciate what we do for them when they grow up:) Of course hubby and I do not expect them to take care of us when we are old, but it will be nice to know that they still love us even when we are old:)

Our Precious Child, Everett

2010-05-01T09:54:00.001+08:00

Everett is born on 21st April 2010 at 2.29p.m. Weight: 1.38kg Length: 42cm

Daddy, Mummy and Lavinia love you very much. Hope that you can come home soon from NICU.

Happy Birthday Darling Lavinia:)

2010-03-22T00:00:00.002+08:00

Happy 6th Birthday Our Darling and Princess Lavinia!!! We bought her a blue bicycle which she chose herself. Lavinia is so happy:)

Mummy and Daddy love you very much and will always be there for you:)....

Birthday Month

2010-03-06T01:53:00.000+08:00

My daughter's birthday is this month. She has asked to go to the ice skating performance "Disney On Ice". Hubby and I still have not bought the tickets. We will do it by this weekend.

Today, I told Lavinia that we will each make up a story to tell to each other at bedtime. I was to do a Chinese story while she is to tell an English story. She surprised me by saying, "Mummy, I will tell the story in Chinese and you do it in English. I like Chinese now."

In the past, she used to dislike learning Chinese but apparently, teaching her Chinese and Hanyu Pinyin everyday helps as well as sending her every Saturday to Beijing Language School:)

My Adorable Daughter

2010-02-20T04:09:00.002+08:00

My darling daughter is going to a new school later today. Lavinia asks me why she has to go to school even on a Saturday. I explained to her that Mummy is not so strong in Chinese so have to send her for extra classes. She then asks how come the lesson has to be on a Saturday? She goes on to explain that having it on a weekday means more rest for her during the weekends. How smart she is...hmm...

So I told her tomorrow, I will try to change the class to a weekday for her.

She had told me a few days earlier that whatever she learns in school, she will share with me and hubby. Lavinia is sharing with me as she knows that I am not very good in the Chinese Language. As for hubby, she justs wants to teach her Daddy more Chinese words. Hee...

Isn't that sweet? :)

A Baby On the Way:)

2010-02-05T12:56:00.000+08:00

On Tuesday, I went to KKH with my hubby and daughter for my 5th month scan to find out the sex of our baby. Its a boy:)

Well, since I have a daughter already, it seems only fair to have a boy to complete the family:) However, there were still some concerns. Even though the last 2 categories of the blood test that I had taken last month was fine, the doc still wanted me to take the amnio. However, this time round, its a firm "No" from hubby and me even though the 1st category of the blood test was still 50 per cent unsure.

We went to see another male doc today as our usual female doc stattioned at The Private Suite had something urgent to attend to. Went to one of the clinics to see the doc. Waited almost an hour and a half just to see the doc!

Hubby and I did the financial calculation and for about $10 more, you can see a doc at The Private Suite and within 1 hour, you can leave the clinic already so I guess its more worth it at The Private Suite:)

People? What people?

2010-01-29T10:26:00.001+08:00

I have come to realise through the years that people love to talk about themselves:)

If you ever come across someone that you do not know how to strike up a conversation with. Do this: Ask him a question about himself e.g. what is his favourite sports. Then follow that up with another question.

At the end of the evening, you will become a social butterfly where everyone thinks you are a great listener and more invites to dinner parties will come:) Of course, do some Actual Listening if not in the long run, the gig will be up..hee...hee...

A New Advice Column on Relationship Problems

2010-01-29T10:20:00.001+08:00

Dear Avid Readers,

I am writing a new advice column on relationships. If you have any relationship problems or any awkward social situation questions that you need to ask someone, you can come to me:)

Cheers:)

Scary Thoughts

2010-01-28T12:35:00.000+08:00

As 2nd Feb 2010 draws nearer for my detailed scan at KKH, I grow more and more afraid. That was because about a month ago, I was told that my blood had some abnormalities. But, hubby and I decided not to go for the amnio test.

I really hope that we have made the right decision. Lavinia seems happier in school knowing that she is going to have a younger sister or brother soon. To think that in the past, I wanted my baby to be girls only because I preferred girls.

Now, I am just hoping that my baby is normal and healthy. Last month, my brother-in-law advised me to go for the amnio but hubby says no. My hubby is the super positive type. Hope that his positiveness will work out this time.

In this r2, I am the one that worries the most whereas hubby is so unlike me. Happy and Positive all the time:) Really cannot stand him sometimes:)

Last Day

2010-01-22T12:21:00.001+08:00

Today is the last day of service for one of Lavinia's favourite teachers, Mrs Chia. Lavinia loves her a lot and always comes home with stories of how fierce she is to naughty kids and also how kind she is to others.

Lavinia and I still hope that she will come back to teaching one day. Thanks Mrs Chia for your guidance and love towards Lavinia and take care:) Btw hope that you like the marble cake and that everytime you pass a confectionary, you will think of the girl that you nicknamed "Cake Girl":)

Prayers in Difficult Times

2010-01-15T12:38:00.001+08:00

Today I am going to Kuan Yin Temple at Waterloo Street to pray for my 2nd pregnancy. In today's times, its difficult to be pregnant after 35 years of age. U will have to go for counselling by staff at the hospital before going for a blood test.

I went for the blood test and the results came back. More counselling was given and then after I did not budge and go for the Amniocentesis Testing, my gynae talked to me again.

The reason I had to go for the Amnio was because my blood showed abnormalities. My hubby and I discussed it and realised that after 6 years of waiting and finally being pregnant now, we will accept the consequences whatever they may be and so refused to go for the test again.

I told the doc that moreover, there was a risk of miscarriage if I went for the test and we were not prepared to take the risk.

When I was young and my family was going through very difficult times, my mum said that she went to this temple and her prayers were answered.

So here we are, hubby and me going to this temple to pray and my hubby for the 1st time in his atheist (one who does not believe in any God) life, going to pray is a Huge Milestone for him indeed:)

3rd New Home

2010-01-11T13:57:00.001+08:00

My in-laws got another 3 room flat top floor at AMK and just moved in. Hurray for them! Hope mother-in-law will be happy there at last!:)

My 1st Day of the New Year 2010

2010-01-06T09:06:00.001+08:00

I know for most people the 1st day of the New Year is on 1st January 2010. But for me, its today, a Wednesday. For the past few months, I have been feeling lousy and did not want to update my blog. Unhappy events have taken place, topped up with laziness perhaps and also tiredness. I have this thing about putting unhappy events on my blog cos I am afraid that Lavinia will read about them when she is older. Anyone has any comments on this?

But today, I woke up feeling better, not all better but slightly better. On Christmas Day 2009, Santa Claus came out from the storeroom and surprised my daughter! We all know who Santa Claus is right? I think Lavinia is starting to suspect something:)

Anyway, back to today, she is going to K2 for her 1st day back to school. She did not go to school on Monday as hubby had 2 teeth implants and Tuesday too as we were baking her favourite marble cake for her to bring to school today.

Btw, I am about 4 months pregnant, having all the morning, afternoon, evening and night sickness. I have never seen the toilet bowl so closely. Hee....hee....

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2009-09-08T03:12:00.002+08:00

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Happiness In Baking:)

2009-05-29T10:59:00.002+08:00

Lavinia has been baking with me and hubby for the past few weeks. And she LOVES it!!!

I cant wait to attend some workshops with her. She especially loves the different-shaped cookies that we did together the other time:)

Accident!!!

2009-05-19T08:07:00.003+08:00

ARRRGGGHHH!!! I never read properly! Accidentally deleted two photos from my Picasa album without realising that they are related to my blog!

Readers who do not know how to do 2 of the pregnancy exercises that has no photos there, do contact me and I will send you the photos asap:) Of course, in the new photos, I will not be pregnant then..heee....hee....

Celebrating Lavinia's 5th Birthday!

2009-05-04T17:06:00.003+08:00

Yesterday night, celebrated Lavinia's birthday at our new home:) Lavinia is very happy. A few weeks ago, bought her a new remote control yellow car which she loves. Yellow is her favourite colour. Pink is her 2nd favourite:)

Made muffins with Lavinia today. We forgot to add milk. Hee...hee....

Missing Lavinia's 5th Birthday

2009-03-20T01:31:00.003+08:00

Hubby will be working outstation today. He will be missing Lavinia's birthday for the 1st time.

Lavinia is an understanding child. She did not make a fuss.

Lavinia, when you are all grown up and reading this, know that Daddy and Mummy love you very much. Inspite of the fact that you are so young, but yet old enough to understand that Daddy has to work:)

We are so proud of you.

What can I say about my Mother-In-Law?

2009-03-18T02:51:00.002+08:00

I sympathise with my mother-in-law. I used to dislike her as she was always commenting on how I dress behind my back. But, of course I always knew what was happening.

She stays in AMK. In the past, she lived in a Jumbo unit, but as I knew that she was hard to please, I chose not to stay with her. My other sister-in-law also did not want to stay with her.

In the end, she had to sell the jumbo unit as she could not get along with her downstairs and upstairs neighbours.

She moved to a 4-room flat with my father-in-law and my sister-in-law (hubby's sister). This 4-room flat is located on the 3rd floor. She stayed there for about a year and a half. She kept on complaining that the neighbours downstairs were doing heavy cooking at home and bringing the food to their stall (I found out that it was true!)

She also complained that the neighbours around her were making too much noise for her t sleep. She had depression as a result.

Now, my sis-in-law (hubby's sister) managed to buy another 4-room flat in AMK and mother-in-law has sold her flat. My sis-in-law got the flat on 12th March (Thurs) evening. We helped my sis-in-law to clean the flat, paint the flat and on 14th March (Sat) morning, they moved in (hard to believe right???)

These few days, my mother-in-law has been calling me and telling me that the flat is noisy.

Sigh! I advised her that all flats are the same. Just accept it and know that there is bound to be some noise and not quiet all the time.

I think her whole family has given up on her and does not want to listen to her anymore. Oh yes, she bought the flat $57,000 above valuation!!!

Hurtful Family Matters

2009-03-18T02:39:00.003+08:00

I cannot stand the man that I call my father. Reason being that he has not worked since I was in Primary 4. I had to work when I was studying to earn money to pay the school fees etc. (I have always disliked the colour green as it is his favourite colour. How do I know this? The whole flat is painted this colour. Also, no tiles in the flat, only GREEN carpets line the flat).

So you can understand why I cannot get along with him. Now, my family and I have moved to Tampines to stay in the home that my mum shares with him. My mum is kind enough to let me and my family stay. My own home is undergoing renovation. It will be ready end of March 09.

My mum has worked most of her life to pay off the housing instalments for the 3-room flat.

There are many other reasons why I cannot stand this man. But, I shall not elaborate here, if not I will have to spend all my time writing about this man.

So, to fathers out there, please be good to your children and understand that to gain the respect of your children, you have to earn it.

Moving Soon:)

2009-03-18T02:35:00.002+08:00

Our new home at Punggol Central will be ready soon, hopefully by end of March 09. Our contractor has been renovating our new home since January 12th 09.

I am not complaining as he is doing a great job, but I wish that he would hurry up.

Depression

2009-02-28T03:31:00.002+08:00

In actual fact, I have been suffering from depression since I gave birth to my daughter 4 years ago.

The weird thing is that I knew that somehow I have changed. Till this day, I am still trying my best to cope with it. Taking medication is out of the question for me. I now depend on my strong will alone to overcome this.

I know that I can overcome it, just need some time. That's one of the reasons why I set up my blog in the 1st place.

It is just that I did not have the courage to put my thoughts into words for all to read. But now, as I am typing out these paragraphs, I find it rather comforting:)