Life... And Then Some! Give more, get more, want more from life!

LAUGH . . . And Then Some!

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Two blonds living in Oklahoma were sitting on a bench talking, and one blond says to the other, 'Which do you think is farther away...Florida or the moon?'
The other blond turns and says 'Helloooooooooo, can you see Florida ?????'

Laugh Like There's No Tomorrow: Over 2,000 jokes from the Internet, Volume 2

From Day #7 in a second complete manuscript compiled by Richard L. Weaver II

Boosting brain power

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

by Richard L. Weaver II

For me it hasn’t been about “boosting brain power,” it is more about “sustaining brain power.” That is, I don’t like the thought of losing anything I have, and if I gain a little by doing things that will sustain what I have, then that is icing on the cake, or a positive byproduct that is greatly appreciated. I try to do more than what it takes to keep my brain active just as I do more than what it takes to keep my body in shape.

My 98-year-old father-in-law gives credence to the comment by Elizabeth Zelinski, Ph.D., a professor at the University of Southern California, who said, “the research now suggests you have a good chance of keeping your brain sharp if you commit to the right kind of concentrated effort.” This is a paraphrase by the unknown author of “Build a Better Brain,” an article in The Hartford’s Extra Mile bulletin (Winter, 2011, pp. 6-8). Although my father-in-law engages in a limited amount of physical exercise (walking), a limited amount of contact with other people (mainly at mealtimes), he is a voracious reader of newspapers, magazines, and books. His mind and memory are sharp as a tack.

Asking the question, “Can you build a better brain?” Sharon Begley, in a Newsweek essay of the same name (January 10 & 17, pp. 40-45), claims that “The quest for effective ways to boost cognitive capacity is not hopeless . . . The explosion in neuroscience is slowly revealing the mechanisms of cognition” (p. 42). And here is a sentence most hardworking people will greatly appreciate: “. . . in people who excel at particular tasks, Stern’s neuroimaging studies show, brain circuits tend to be more efficient (using less energy even as cognitive demand increases), higher capacity, and more flexible” (p. 43).

Now, Begley reports one finding that should prompt everyone to vary what they do in life: “ . . . skills we’re already good at don’t make us much smarter; we don’t pay much attention to them. In contrast, taking up a new cognitively demanding activity — ballroom dancing, a foreign language — is more likely to boost processing speed, strengthen synapses, and expand or create functional networks” (p. 43). That is why the suggestions offered in The Hartford’s Extra Mile bulletin, cited above, make good sense. The essay, as its first of seven “Tips to Enhance Brain Fitness,” suggests that we “Learn to play a new instrument” (p. 7). It states that the reason is that “You’ll exercise several brain functions, related to sight, hearing, and movement.” That’s true, but it is just as true that it will boost processing speed, strengthen synapses, and expand or create functional networks — which is likely to result in even greater rewards.

The Hartford’s Extra Mile bulletin also offers other tips besides learning to play a new instrument that may yield the same benefits. These include making your hobbies harder, using your other hand, and walking on a rocky road.

In an online article (03-20-09), “Building a Better Brain,” at the web site, Isthmus, The Daily Page, Jennifer A. Smith, reports on a speech given by Richard J. Davidson, Ph.D., a professor of psychology and psychiatry and director of University of Wisconsin’s Laboratory for Affective Neuroscience. He “was speaking on neuroplasticity — the ability of the brain to remain flexible, adaptable and trainable,” she writes. “It’s one of the foundations of his work.”

“The adult brain, scientists now realize,” Smith reports, “continues to make about 5,000 new cells per day. It is ever changing, or ‘plastic,’ throughout life.” Now, citing Davidson, she quotes him as saying, "Traits formerly considered to be fixed are really not. They’re characteristics that can be changed through training. In other words, human beings have more control over [their] minds than previously thought. . . . We’re carrying our own laboratory between our ears, and we just need to use it," Davidson told the crowd.

At the Stanford Medical Magazine web site, (Fall 2005) Amy Adams has written an essay, “Building a better brain: It's never too late for renovation,” in which she cites the work of Eric Knudsen, PhD, a professor of neurobiology. Knudsen said there is more to it than simply playing a new instrument, learning a foreign language, or beginning ballroom dancing. It is all about laying the groundwork for growth. He claims that, “. . . building the best possible brain is all about preparation. True, a child can’t learn algebra until the brain is ready. But how well the child picks up that new skill can be altered by early experiences that prime those neurons and their connections for action.”

Adams offers this conclusion to her online article: “What all this research adds up to is good news for those who had rich and rewarding early experiences. Their brains are primed for learning new skills throughout life. As for adults hoping to make late-term modifications to their brains’ wiring, all hope isn’t lost. Knudsen’s work shows that older [people] can still learn, if somewhat more slowly than juveniles. As with any remodel, it’s less efficient than starting from scratch, but with patience even fully mature brains can squeeze out some new connections.”

There is an almost contradictory finding in Begley’s Newsweek article which explains why my father-in-law has maintained his sharp mind and memory throughout his 97 years. It has nothing to do with learning new skills or developing new abilities. Begley writes that building brain power “requires tapping into one of the best-established phenomena in neuroscience — namely, that the more you use a circuit, the stronger it gets. As a result, a skill you focus and train on improves, and even commandeers more neuronal real estate, with corresponding improvements in performance” (p. 44).

That is precisely what I have discovered as well. That is, although I enjoy learning new skills (special ballroom dancing steps), having new experiences (cruising to Southeast Asia), and stretching the skills I already have (reading new books or writing new essays such as this one), I have discovered that the more I use the circuits I possess, the stronger they get. That is why I said at the outset of this essay, “ it hasn’t been about ‘boosting brain power,’ it is more about ‘sustaining brain power.’” To me, that is the essential issue, and if I can boost brain power while sustaining brain power, all the more brain power to me!
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From the Stanford School of Medicine comes the Stanford Medicine Magazine (referred to in my essay), and the article by Amy Adams, “Building a better brain: It's never too late for renovation” (Fall, 2005). This is really a very well-written, well-explained essay that is both thorough and comprehensive. It is well worth a read.

At eMedExpert, the essay, “14 Research-Proven Ways To Boost Brain Power,” is excellent. Not only are the suggestions right on target, but at the end of the essay each of the 47 “Sources and References” that support the essay are not just listed in their correct entirety, but in each case there is a link so that you can go to the research and read it for yourself. This is an absolutely terrific essay.
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Copyright January, 2012, by And Then Then Some Publishing, L.L.C.

Intertwine with others.

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

SMOERs: Words of Wisdom"When people interact, their behaviors intertwine as do the sounds from different instruments in a band." ---Frank Bernieri and Robert Tosenthal

Day #294 - Intertwine with others.

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And Then Some News

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Thursday's Essay Preview

For me it hasn’t been about “boosting brain power,” it is more about “sustaining brain power.” That is, I don’t like the thought of losing anything I have, and if I gain a little by doing things that will sustain what I have, then that is icing on the cake, or a positive byproduct that is greatly appreciated. I try to do more than what it takes to keep my brain active just as I do more than what it takes to keep my body in shape.

Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay

That is precisely what I have discovered as well. That is, although I enjoy learning new skills (special ballroom dancing steps), having new experiences (cruising to Southeast Asia), and stretching the skills I already have (reading new books or writing new essays such as this one), I have discovered that the more I use the circuits I possess, the stronger they get. That is why I said at the outset of this essay, “ it hasn’t been about ‘boosting brain power,’ it is more about ‘sustaining brain power.’” To me, that is the essential issue, and if I can boost brain power while sustaining brain power, all the more brain power to me!

And Then Some News

WRONG: Why experts keep failing us --- and how to know when not to trust them

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

By David H. Freedman

Book review by Richard L. Weaver II

The author is :a science and business journalist.” Outside of appendices, notes, and index, the text is 230 pages long, and there are 11 pages of notes.

There are a number of reasons I liked this book. First, it is very well-written. Second, it covers areas (finance, doctors, relationship gurus, celebrity CEOs, consultants, health, and more) with which I have some interest (although no expertise).

The third reason I liked this book is that it offers great evidence, interesting facts, and fascinating statistics and insights I would probably never gather elsewhere. The fourth reason is that it produces skeptics. Whether you accept Freedman’s ideas or not, he certainly opens your eyes and makes you question — something we all should be doing all of the time. (If nothing else, it is what colleges and universities should be good at promoting.)

I enjoyed Freedman’s examination of the various safeguards that we have to try to root out and address fraud. As I was preparing this review of his book (on January 6, 2011), the British Medical Journal (BMJ) just pronounced a Lancet study by lead scientist Andrew Wakefield, M.D., that connected the Mumps, Measles, and Rubella (MMR) vaccine to autism as an “elaborate fraud.” An ironic juxtaposition, to say the least.

On page 120 Freedman writes, “Thank goodness for peer review, the 350-year-old research-journal tradition of sending candidate articles out to knowledgeable researchers for vetting and comments.” — even though he admits that peer review provides only a minimal assurance of quality, and that “lousy research can slip past peer review into journals” (p. 121). Having been part of a number of peer-review teams during my tenure as a university professor, I have to agree with Freedman; however, I also agree that there is really little other way to prevent lousy research from getting published. The Internet makes “publication” an easy process.

What Freedman does is open the whole area of fraud and “the fraudulent police” to further discussion. His chapter conclusions (see page 124) are right on target about scientists.

Freedman’s comment about determining whether or not Internet information is accurate was well taken: “ . . . we’re back to that problem of whether most people in the public are equipped to track down high-quality information on the Internet, as opposed to ending up with advice that may look convincing but is in fact junk” (p. 201). Of course, with respect to students (and the public, too), this isn’t a new concern, it is simply a much bigger concern with the glut of information at our fingertips.

Every student should be required to read Chapter 9, “Eleven Simple Never-Fail Rules for Not Being Misled by Experts” (pp. 203-230). Even though the rules are generic, they are important and well explained here. His “Typical Characteristics of Less Trustworthy Expert Advice,” “Characteristics of Expert Advice We Should Ignore,” and “Some Characteristics of More Trustworthy Expert Advice” is priceless, essential, practical, and incredibly relevant in today’s information-saturated world.

WRONG: Why experts keep failing us—and how to know when not to trust them can be purchased at Amazon.com

LAUGH . . . And Then Some!

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Marry me and I'll never look at another horse!

I married your mother because I wanted children. Imagine my disappointment when you came along.

Whatever it is I'm against it.

Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog, it's too dark to read.

Laugh Like There's No Tomorrow: Over 2,000 jokes from the Internet, Volume 2

From Day #2 in a second complete manuscript compiled by Richard L. Weaver II

Dealing with excuses

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

by Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

“Two university students had a week of exams coming up. However, they decided to party instead. So, when they went to the exam, they decided to tell the professor that their car had broken down the night before due to a very flat tire and they needed a bit more time to study.

“The professor told them that they could have another day to study. That evening, both of the boys crammed all night until they were sure that they knew just about everything.

“Arriving to class the next morning, each boy was told to go to separate classrooms to take the exam. Each shrugged and went to two different parts of the building. As each sat down, they read the first question.

"’For 5 points, explain the contents of an atom.’

At this point, they both thought that this was going to be a piece of cake, and answered the question with ease.

Then, the test continued . . . ‘For 95 points, tell me which tire it was.’”

When I first read this joke I identified with it immediately. What a terrific joke! As a college professor for 30 years, I heard many excuses; however, I found a number of successful ways to deal with them.

I have a perspective on all of this, and it certainly colors my overall point of view. In all of the classes I took as a student (about 20 years of classes), and in all of the classes I taught as an instructor or professor (close to 30 years of teaching) — even my time as a “practice teacher” in high school — I never missed a single class; thus, I have never used nor had to use an excuse. Now, I have to admit that I loved being a student, and I had the same identification with being a teacher and large-group lecturer. I always did my homework, submitted my papers and reports on time, and appeared on time for all examinations. (In all of the college textbooks I have written and in all of the additional textbooks editions as well (well over 30), I have never missed a deadline. I consider deadlines just as sacred or inviolable now as I considered class and lecture meetings when I was a student.)

I learned early in my teaching that one of the ways I had to try to avoid having to listen to student excuses was simply to make all of my classroom policies clear at the outset in my syllabus and attached handouts. Depending on how often during a week my class met, I would make that number (usually one or two) the number of excused absences permitted during a term. After that, I would simply lower a student’s grade by one-third for each additional absence beyond that. This policy was a powerful one, and it severely limited having to deal with student excuses.

Regarding missed papers, I stated at the outset of the course that the grade on any late paper — no matter the excuse — would lose one full grade for every day it was late. No matter how late, however, it was still a required part of the course.   I seldom had to use this policy. I found that if students knew the policy up front, they found ways to deal with it.

In one class where the final paper for the class counted for much of a student’s final grade in the course, I structured the paper in such a way that students had to begin work on it early — like choosing their topic, doing their research, outlining their approach — and in this way, I helped students organize their time. Every student had the paper submitted on time.

To help students in the basic course which enrolled a thousand students per term, I had students choose their speech topics early. They selected three topics, their graduate assistants would number them in the order they thought best for class presentation, and students would have to stick to these choices as they prepared their final speech. This was a technique for helping to limit the amount of plagiarism as well.

Just as an aside here, I taught an interpersonal-communication class of over 300 students per term. I created a seating chart so I could call on students by name, and I used a daily half-sheet response that allowed me to take roll, receive feedback, and quiz my students at every class meeting. I remember the attrition that occurred between the first class meeting when I would hand out the syllabus and all of my expectations and the second class meeting when those students who wanted a “freebie” lecture course that they did not have to attend, left the course. Amazing!

I had a teaching philosophy that may appear a bit egocentric; however, I can’t deny its existence. If I was going to be paid to teach a course, and if I was going to prepare in the best way I could to teach it, I had no intention of allowing my students — the students who chose to take the course from me — to wander in and out of class, decide when to come to class and when not to, and to make their own decisions (during the duration of the class) as to whether they thought the material was important or relevant or meaningful.   If you (talking to the student) choose me as your instructor, you must make the same commitment to this class as I will — no exceptions and no excuses.

One of my goals throughout my teaching career was to appear to be a fair, flexible, and tolerant teacher. At times, I found, some students loved to push the limits to determine just how far a person (me!) was willing to go. Most of the time this occurred early in the course, and when a student discovered I had very clear and well articulated expectations and regulations, often they would either drop out or tow the line. I found, too, that it was always better to accept an untrue excuse than reject a legitimate one and be seen as unfair. In a couple of cases, but few more than that, I would check my record-keeping book on the student’s performance in the course thus far, and if I could tell that the goals of the course were being met, I tried in the best way I could, to help students deal with their emergencies and complete class assignments as well.

You may wonder why the issue of dealing with excuses is even a concern for teachers. I agree with Sandra Goss Lucas and Douglas A. Bernstein, in their book, Teaching Psychology: A Step by Step Guide (Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum, 2005) when they talk about dealing with excuses. They point out: “The way you handle excuses conveys a message to your students about your teaching philosophy, and most particularly about whether you view students as partners or adversaries, the degree to which you trust them, and how you care about them” (p. 137). It can set the tone for an entire term, determine how effective you will be, and, most important of all, govern (or at least influence) how much students are likely to learn.
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On the web site Faculty Focus, there is a short essay by Maryellen Weimer, “A Smart Way to Handle Student Excuses” (October 2009), excerpted from the book Effective Classroom Management, where a “stuff happens” card is discussed: “Professor Daniela A. Feenstra, who teaches a variety of business classes at Central Pennsylvania College, has developed an interesting way through this dilemma. On the first day of class she gives each student a ‘Stuff Happens’ card. It’s about the size of a business card and also includes the semester date and a place for the student’s name. In the syllabus (and in class) she explains that this is a student’s ‘one time only’ forgiveness card.

“If a student is late for class or might need a one-day extension on a paper, the student may trade the “Stuff Happens” card for this exception. Students don’t have to get her approval or permission to use the card. Use of it is entirely at their discretion. However, each student gets only one card, which is not transferable and won’t be replaced if lost.

“If no “stuff happens” during a given a semester and a student follows all classroom policies and procedures, the “Stuff Happens” card may be traded in the last week of class for 20 bonus points.”

At StateUniversity.com, there is a great little essay at the College and University blog, “The Cultural Phenomenon of the Lying College Student” by Tara, where she begins her essay saying: “It is easy for me to believe that college and all it entails can cultivate an unwitting liar. I can understand how the pressures of deadlines, parents, activities, etc., can instigate scads of little fabrications to ease the load of college life. However, I have seen time and time again how those little white lies become habit, and habits are very hard to break.” The useful part of the essay is where she cites “many studies [that] have been done on what psychologists call ‘the use of fraudulent excuses.’”
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Copyright January, 2012, by And Then Some Publishing, L.L.C.

Read more: The Cultural Phenomenon of the Lying College Student - StateUniversity.com Blog

Please only yourself.

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 19:19:00 +0000

SMOERs: Words of Wisdom"I am a big believer in the 'mirror test.' All that matters is if you can look in the mirror and honestly tell the person you see there, that you've done your best." ---John McKay

Day #293 - Make today the beginning of the best of your life.

And Then Some News

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Thursday's Essay Preview

The first paragraph of the essay, "Dealing with excuses“ reads as follows:
"Two university students had a week of exams coming up. However, they decided to party instead. So, when they went to the exam, they decided to tell the professor that their car had broken down the night before due to a very flat tire and they needed a bit more time to study."

Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay

You may wonder why the issue of dealing with excuses is even a concern for teachers. I agree with Sandra Goss Lucas and Douglas A. Bernstein, in their book, Teaching Psychology: A Step by Step Guide (Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum, 2005) when they talk about dealing with excuses. They point out: “The way you handle excuses conveys a message to your students about your teaching philosophy, and most particularly about whether you view students as partners or adversaries, the degree to which you trust them, and how you care about them” (p. 137). It can set the tone for an entire term, determine how effective you will be, and, most important of all, govern (or at least influence) how much students are likely to learn.

And Then Some News

Power: Why some people have it --- and others don't

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

By Jeffrey Pfeffer

Book review by Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

I found this book incredibly interesting. The book is well-written, extremely well organized, and well-supported (16 pages of notes) in addition to hundreds of relevant, important, and pungent examples. I found the information to be honest, forthright, and right on target.

I tended to agree with Pfeffer’s negative evaluations of other books on leadership (even though it may be a bit self-serving), but after reading Pfeffer’s various suggestions for gaining power, you realize that so many other author’s books lack the force, bite, sharpness, and honesty that Pfeffer delivers.

One thing I felt as I was reading was that I pictured myself in a college classroom listening to a well-informed, interesting lecturer. There are great examples, and the book is pretty easy to read. It should be clear that you don’t have to be a college student or an academic to appreciate Pfeffer’s information and insights.

Another thing I discovered from reading this book is something I learned rather early when I was teaching speech-communication classes — especially those sections dealing with persuasion. At one point I was asked by one of my students (and it occurred several times throughout my career), “Couldn’t someone take the ideas and principles you are teaching and become another Hitler?” The answer is clearly yes.

The best way (perhaps the only way) I found to counter or address these concerns is to talk extensively about ethics — how to properly and ethically use the information and ideas they were learning. Also, a unit or section on ethics exists in every textbook on public speaking or persuasion. There is no way to guarantee that such messages get through to students; however, class discussions, coverage on examinations, in addition to such units or sections in textbooks, is the way we approach the ethics issue. There is no discussion of ethics in this book; perhaps, there should be.

Pfeffer’s suggestions for gaining power far exceed any of the persuasive strategies I taught in college, and someone bent on using his ideas in a negative fashion could certainly wreak more havoc in a shorter amount of time than they could with persuasion alone. If anyone, after reading this book, thinks this is all common sense or skills that any opportunist might use, then I beg to differ. They are not reading Pfeffer closely or they are not understanding his suggestions. (—or, they are already wreaking havoc!)

I found this to be an interesting statement: “Many studies of the predictors of career success, focusing on both the general population and specific subpopulations such as business school graduates, have found that mental aptitude correlates somewhat with grades in school but has virtually no ability to explain who rises to the top” (p. 55).

I absolutely loved his use of current examples such as Justice Sonia Sotomayor, Willie Brown, Ishan Gupta, Caroline Kennedy, Frank Stanton, Oliver North, Barack Obama, and many others.

His Chapter 7, “Acting and Speaking with Power (pp. 125-146), caught my attention because of my background in speech communication. This is, indeed, the chapter that traces Lt. Colonel Oliver North’s return to power after being indicted on 16 felony counts, “including accepting illegal gratuities, aiding and abetting the obstruction of a congressional inquiry, and destroying documents and evidence” (p. 125). Also, in this chapter, the comparison between North and Donald Kennedy (former president of Stanford University) and the manner in which they testified before a congressional investigating committee is offered. I found it eye-opening, and Pfeffer’s comment about it is rich in meaning: “We choose how we will act and talk, and those decisions are consequential for acquiring and holding on to power” (p. 128).

Did you know this? “Although the research literature shows the interview is not a reliable or valid selection mechanism, it is almost universally used . . . To come across effectively, we need to master how to convey power. We need to act, and speak, with power” (p. 129).

Using examples of Peter Ueberroth, Andy Grove, Gary Loverman, and Rahm Emanuel (among others), Pfeffer clearly demonstrates how to act and speak with power using interruption, contesting the premises of the discussion, using persuasive language (and Max Atkinson’s linguistic techniques).

Although Pfeffer advocates using “humor to the extent possible and appropriate” and even cites novelist Salman Rushie saying, “If you make people laugh, you can tell them anything” (p. 145), there isn’t a great deal of humor in this 273-page book. It could use some; however, it is direct, strong, straightforward, and powerful. I recommend it.

The book, Power: Why some people have it — and others don’t can be purchased at Amazon.com

LAUGH . . . And Then Some!

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

While attending a Marriage Seminar dealing with communication, Joe and his wife Ann listened to the instructor, "It is essential that husbands and wives know each other's likes and dislikes."

He addressed the man, "Can you name your wife's favorite flower?"

Tom leaned over, touched his wife's arm gently and whispered, "It's Pillsbury, isn't it?"

Laugh Like There's No Tomorrow: Over 2,000 jokes from the Internet

From Day #314 in a complete manuscript compiled by Richard L. Weaver II

The "great" opening paragraph

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

by Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

It was a delightful, cold, calm, Monday morning, and I had just finished showering after my 3-mile jog. Relaxing music played in the background, and I was sitting at the dining-room table reading the Monday edition of The (Toledo) Blade. Thomas Walton’s op-ed column, “In search of the Great Opening Paragraph,” caught my attention. That’s not surprising since reading the editorial pages and op-ed columns is my favorite part of the newspaper. I spend more time on that section than on any other.

In his op-ed column Walton invited readers to submit their “best opening paragraph for the novel that’s been kicking around in [their] head.” Walton continues by explaining the parameters of his request: “The rules are simple. Make sure your paragraph is truly your own unpublished work. Hold it to 50 words or so.” I love temptations like this, and being a writer this invitation was not just tempting, it was downright irresistible.

Using an advertising insert card for a subscription to USA Today which I regularly pull out of that newspaper and that was lying nearby, I quickly (without much thinking) jotted down the following:

       “Her scent lingered momentarily, then she disappeared as if a lighthouse beacon had passed over me. Bathed in the flow of that beacon, I became suddenly alive and aware, then conscious of my past. With that conscious awareness, I realized I was not to have her, and I was surprisingly pleased.”

Those 50 words came to me immediately without pause, investigation, or searching. They just seemed to be there waiting for a breath of fresh air — for release from the literary prison that bound them.

When finished with breakfast and the newspapers, I sat down at the computer keyboard; however, before I stroked a single key, I remembered something my wife said to me twenty years ago — about five years after I began using a computer. She said, “You write much better when you write your thoughts out long hand. Perhaps it’s because it gives you more time to think about your ideas.” I had taken to using the computer so quickly that I had stopped writing long hand and simply composed at the computer keyboard because it is faster and more efficient. (I can write more!)

Remembering what my wife said, I stopped. Using what I had written on the USA Today advertising card as a beginning point, I re-wrote my 50-word passage on a half-sheet of paper. That iteration went as follows:

       “Her scent lingered momentarily, then dispersed as if a light breeze had massaged the fibers of my being. [I had written “leaves of a tree” but crossed it out for this more vivid, less cliche-ridden version.] When fully recovered, I became alive and aware, then conscious of my past. With that mindful insight [I had written “conscious awareness,” but having just used the word “conscious” I made the change to “mindful insight.”], I realized I was not to have her, and I was surprisingly at peace.”

I have also discovered — on a regular basis — that if I write it out longhand then edit it as I type it into the computer, that re-write becomes significantly improved over the original.   I am always reminded of Strunk and White’s [The Elements of Style] fifth suggestion to beginning writers who are searching for a satisfactory style: “Revise and rewrite.”

The edited 50-word piece above is what I e-mailed to Walton. I had no idea how long I would wait to see if my writing merited publication. I knew, however, that he liked my writing, because he was the editor of the Blade who initiated the column, “Saturday Essay,” and published over the course of several years, sixteen of my essays.

On January 3, 2011, Walton’s follow-up op-ed column appeared. It was titled “‘It was a dark and stormy night’ . . . or not.” He began the column, “I’ll say this for readers of One of America’s Great Newspapers. Give them a challenge and they embrace it.” He followed this opening with a second paragraph, “A month ago, I asked you to compose your best opening paragraph for the novel that you wish you had time to write. Several dozen of you responded — many with eloquence, all with earnestness and passion. For a few, it was indeed a dark and stormy night.”

After openings written by Rani Marshall, and Phillip R. King, my opening was the third one printed, followed by eight more. Then, the most surprising openings of all were included. Walton printed two written by an eighth grade creative writing class at St. Rose School in Perrysburg. Those two were absolutely outstanding, but time and space prohibits me from reproducing them here. (They can be found online.)

On the very same Monday morning when the second Walton op-ed piece was published, my daughter called me from the parking lot of Toledo Eleven Television in downtown Toledo saying she had a flat tire. Being an AAA (Automobile Association of America) member for many years, I drove to where she was parked, called AAA, and they appeared one hour later. On the way out of my driveway, however, I stopped at our mailbox and picked up both of my morning newspapers, so I had them in the car, and I was reading them as we waited for AAA to arrive.

Seeing the column, surprised by the inclusion of my submission, I read what I wrote to my daughter. Her response: “Wow! That doesn’t even sound like you.”

I have never written fiction. One of the problems with writing a best selling college textbook [Communicating Effectively, 10th ed., McGraw-Hill, 2012] is that it gives you little time for other pursuits. I have written a number of other college textbooks as well [Understanding Interpersonal Communication went through seven editions.], and with all the academic articles, chapters in books, and speeches, there was no time left over. Now, that doesn’t mean I don’t want to do it, but I have had no choice except to wait for the right time. It is true, there may be no “right time”!

In addition to all of this, when I Googled myself (See my essay on “Egosurfing.”) for the purposes of writing an essay about it, I discovered a Chinese website where Walton’s column of January 3, 2011, appeared with a date just one day in advance of when it appeared in The (Toledo) Blade, and I now realize that the whole world is waiting (breathlessly, I’m sure!) for my “great” follow-up novel to my “great opening paragraph”! I’m so excited I’m out of breath!
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At All About Manga there is a cute, short essay written May 7, 2010, titled “My Life as a (Rookie) Editor: The Joy of Being Published.” The writer of the blog essay explains: “People instantly have more respect for you. I am not kidding. Tell them you’re a published writer/editor/artist/whatever, then somehow you get street cred. Even aspiring writers and artists admire people with actually published work. It’s a big accomplishment. And when you think about it, it really is, getting ANYTHING published takes a lot of time and money from somewhere. People admire scientists and other non-writerly types with major published studies in some related journal they’ve probably never heard of. YOU have something to show for yourself. You’re not so hackjob that no one’s heard of because obviously someone published YOUR thing.”

On his blog, (March 16, 2007) David Louis Edelman, discusses the topic, “Five Things That Ddelman <o Happen When You Become a Published Author.” 1) Strangers become deferential, 2) you become “the writing expert,” 3) you get “mixed feelings about what you’ve written,” 4) “self-published authors look to you for validation,” and 5) “You’ll have accomplished something that nobody can take away from you.” I wonder if a 50-word “great opening paragraph” can accomplish the same thing?
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Copyright January, 2012, by And Then Some Publishing, L.L.C.

Make today the beginning of the best of your life.

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

SMOERs: Words of Wisdom

"Some people question, "When should I start?" Others ask, "Where should I begin?" The answer to the first question is today, and the answer to the second is here. Make the decision to start today, right here, to have the kind of life you want to have." ---Richard L. Weaver II

Day #292 - Make today the beginning of the best of your life.

SMOERs: Self-Motivation, Optimism, Encouragement Rules! - Daily Reminders for Outstanding Living
An everyday guide full of quotations to uplift your spirits. This is one of four motivational quotations for Day #292.

Free 30-Day sample: smoers.com

And Then Some News

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Thursday's Essay Preview

The first paragraph of the essay, "The 'great' opening paragraph" reads as follows:
It was a delightful, cold, calm, Monday morning, and I had just finished showering after my 3-mile jog. Relaxing music played in the background, and I was sitting at the dining-room table reading the Monday edition of The (Toledo) Blade. Thomas Walton’s op-ed column, “In search of the Great Opening Paragraph,” caught my attention. That’s not surprising since reading the editorial pages and op-ed columns is my favorite part of the newspaper. I spend more time on that section than on any other.

Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay

In addition to all of this, when I Googled myself (See my essay on “Egosurfing.”) for the purposes of writing an essay about it, I discovered a Chinese website where Walton’s column of January 3, 2011, appeared with a date just one day in advance of when it appeared in The (Toledo) Blade, and I now realize that the whole world is waiting (breathlessly, I’m sure!) for my “great” follow-up novel to my “great opening paragraph”! I’m so excited I’m out of breath!

And Then Some News

How music works: The science and psychology of beautiful sounds, from Beethoven to the Beatles and Beyonce

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

By John Powell

Book review by Richard L. Weaver II

The idea that someone would have a background (Ph.D. no less!) in physics and, in addition, a master’s degree in music composition sounds like an educational oxymoron. Then to bring these two areas of expertise together in a book that explains “how music works” is both unique and incredibly interesting. (And I thought my upbringing in science (an undergraduate minor) combined with a B.A. in speech communication was unusual!) Not only that, but Powell has taught both physics and musical acoustics. I mention this simply because these three areas (physics, music, and teaching) are beautifully juxtaposed in this excellent book.

Powell packs so much into this well-written, well-illustrated, well-explained, informative, and entertaining book that it is hard to know where to begin in reviewing it. Actually, if you have ever dabbled in music, if you play or have played an instrument, if you are a professional disc-jockey (as my older son is), or if you are simply a leisurely, laid-back listener of music, buy this book. I guarantee: 1) you will enjoy it, and 2) you will learn a great deal from it. You can then just skip my review of it because all I do is support these two justifications for purchasing it.

There is a question I have often answered for students at the university that becomes relevant once again with this book: “Doesn’t having an education make you more critical of things?” Actually, the answer is, “No.” Having an education increases your appreciation of things. It brings a deeper understanding, more background knowledge, a greater history, and, thus, a better grasp of everything in the world. It offers a context and frame of reference so that not only can you ask intelligent questions but you can give more informed, thorough, and substantiated answers as well. I have learned that the more education you have, the more you want to learn: It instills the teacher in you!

Powell was concerned about this as well when he says, “Some people worry that understanding more about music will reduce the pleasure they get from it, but the reverse is true. Learning how a complicated dish is prepared makes you appreciate it even more, and doesn’t change how good it tastes” (p. 4).

This response provides insight into one of Powell’s teaching abilities: throughout the book, he creates realistic, practical, hands-on analogies with which readers can closely relate, to make his points.

How pedestrian do his analogies get? After quoting Professor Frederick Corder, who wrote the book The Orchestra, and How to Write for It (1894), and Corder’s disdain for the trumpet, the guitar, viola, and oboe, Powell writes, “ . . . I dread to think what he would have said about the drinking straw oboe. All you need in order to own one of these magnificent instruments is a drinking straw and a pair of scissors. The illustration below shows you what to do” (p. 73). Powell adds to his delightful explanation of how to use it, “You can even cut little finger holes and play dreadful out-of-tune melodies. The long winter evenings will just fly by” (p. 73). (I love Powell’s sarcasm.)

Among many other things, Powell explains what perfect pitch is, the difference between notes and noise, how loud is loud, the difference between harmony and cacophony, as well as how long it takes to become an expert, how musicians learn long and complicated pieces, how to select an instrument if you want to learn to play one, and the various elements involved in listening to music. There is just so much in this 265-page book. No, you don’t have to read all the detailed sections; choose just those that have interest (knowing, however, that when you do, you will be missing out on some of the author’s humorous asides, comments, and commentary).

This book is priceless — a treasure. Thank you John Powell for this wonderful experience. As just a casual, laid back, appreciater of all kinds of music — I do not play an instrument nor do I write music (although I have offspring who do) — I have learned so much, and this book has contributed greatly to the musical portion of my education.

How music works: The science and psychology of beautiful sounds, from Beethoven to the Beatles and Beyonce can be found at Amazon.com

LAUGH . . . And Then Some!

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Life on the Etch-A-Sketch help desk:

Q: My Etch-A-Sketch has all these funny little lines all over the screen.
A: Pick it up and shake it.

Q: How do I turn my Etch-A-Sketch off?

A: Pick it up and shake it.

Q: How do I create a New Document window?

A: Pick it up and shake it.

Q: What is the proper procedure for rebooting my Etch-A-Sketch?

A: Pick it up and shake it.

Q: How do I save my Etch-A-Sketch document?

A: Don't shake it.

Laugh Like There's No Tomorrow: Over 2,000 jokes from the Internet

From Day #310 in a complete manuscript compiled by Richard L. Weaver II

Egosurfing (I Googled Myself!)

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

by Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

I Googled myself recently out of curiosity, but I’m not alone according to Rachael Rettner of LiveScience.com, who wrote an essay, “Most people Google themselves now,” which begins with this paragraph: “If you've Googled yourself recently, you're not alone. The majority of American adults, 57 percent, now keep tabs on their reputations online, using search engines to track information about their Internet identities, according to a report from the Pew Research Center's Internet & American Life Project [based on results from telephone interviews of 2,253 individuals in 2009], released today [May 26, 2010]. That's up from 47 percent in 2006" (Rettner, “Most people . . . ,” May 26, 2020). So, I’m not alone; this is what I discovered.

I used quotation marks around my name, and there were 117,000 results (January 14, 2011), but in 26 pages, only 260 web sites were displayed. That doesn’t mean I was disappointed, because Google told me that the remaining sites duplicated what was contained in those displayed, and I had already seen a great deal of duplication. It took me several hours to wade through some of the sites, and in this essay I want to report my findings.

Perhaps the largest number of sites displayed were those that sold copies of my books. Having written somewhere between 15 and 20, that isn’t surprising. Many offered used copies of the various editions of my current college textbook, Communicating Effectively. Once again, that isn’t surprising given the fact that it is in its tenth edition (March 18, 2011) and has been used extensively around the world. (Communicating Effectively was written with Saundra Hybels who died in 1999.)

Speaking of “around the world,” I found it interesting that there were sites that had to be translated from Arabic, Chinese, Indonesian, Thai, Polish, and Spanish. Some were quoting from my textbooks, using my textbooks in their footnotes and references, or citing me as a communication expert. Some years ago my Communicating Effectively textbook was translated into Chinese, but that doesn’t necessarily explain all the foreign web sites mentioning my name or my books. My textbook, Research in Speech Communication with Raymond Tucker and Cynthia Berryman-Fiink (Prentice-Hall, 1981) was mentioned frequently.

There were several web sites that occurred simply because of the use of my quotation, “One of the best things people can have up their sleeve is a funny bone.” I found it in a number of places, but one of the most interesting was John Mark Ministries where they listed the quotation under the heading, “Quotes to Help With Sickness and Illness.”

Quite a few of the web sites displayed had copies of previous academic articles published during my professional career as a teacher. For example, “Ten Specific Techniques for Developing Humor in the Classroom,” (Winter, 1987, Education, 108, No. 2, pp. 167-179) was mentioned several times. “Faculty Dynamation: Guided Empowerment” (Spring/Summer, 1990, Innovative Higher Education 14, No. 2 with co-authors Darrell G. Mullins, Howard W. Cottrell, and Thomas A. Michel) was mentioned several times as well

My YouTube videos appear on a wide variety of web sites. At the ChaCha web site, the “Stand Up, Speak Well” video appears, and at the “Types of Research Evidence,” my video titled “The Curse of Knowledge” is front and center.

When you write as much and as widely as I have, the chances for misquotations and distortions becomes greater than those who do not. At Puritan Daily Life, those who write for the site went almost as far as they could go (in distorting the information) when they stated: “The aboriginal branch of the essay, ‘Self-discipline can change your life in any way you appetite [sic] it to,’ reads as follows: During my aboriginal years, I heard from my parents bout [sic] the Puritan assignment [sic] ethic, but every time I heard the byword [sic] it was affiliated with alive [sic] heard. Never did I apperceive [sic] that it was Biblically based . . . .” And, my name was assigned to the quotation. Can you figure it out? I could not. I hope it’s never cited as an example of my best work!

Thomas Walton’s The (Toledo) Blade’s January 3, 2011, p. A-7, op-ed column titled, “‘It was a dark and stormy night’ . . . or not,” which printed readers responses to a request Walton made on December 6, 2010, in a column titled, “In search of the Great Opening Paragraph.” Walton wrote readers: “Send me your best opening paragraph for the novel that’s been kicking around in your head.” I wrote, “Her scent lingered momentarily, then dispersed as if a light breeze had massaged the fibers of my soul. When fully recovered I became alive and aware, then conscious of my past. With that mindful insight I realized I was not to have her, and I was surprisingly at peace.” What surprised me was that on January 14, 2011, just 11 days later, the quotation (and Walton’s op-ed column) appeared on a Chinese web site.

On the web site “Frankly Speaking," for Thursday, August 23, 2007, Frank Bellizzi, a college teacher and campus minister, used six paragraphs of my speech, “Sticky Ideas,” that highlighted and discussed “The Curse of Knowledge” (August, 2007, “Sticky Ideas,” Vital Speeches of the Day, p. 354), to stimulate a discussion on his web site. I never received a request to use the material nor gave permission. He thoroughly credited the source (me! —as well as the authors I cited), but normal ethical behavior would have suggested a request was in order.

One of the surprises (although it shouldn’t have been a surprise had I simply thought more about it!), was the large number of publishers and authors who used my reviews of their books to advertise and sell their books on the Internet. Many of the web sites displayed offered my reviews. Once again, having posted well over a hundred reviews on Amazon.com, this would be an expected outcome, and I am delighted that so many have found my reviews well-written, concise, and flattering enough to reprint them in other contexts. Thank you.

Source/footnote: Rettner, Rachael. (May 26, 2010). “Most people Google themselves now.” LiveScience. Retrieved January 14, 2011.
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At Wikipedia.com, their brief explanation of “Egosurfing” and the various other terms for it is delightful: “Egosurfing (usually referred to as Googling yourself and sometimes called vanity searching, egosearching, egogoogling, autogoogling, self-googling, master-googling) is the practice of searching for one's own given name, surname, full name, pseudonym, or screen name on a popular search engine, to see what results appear.”

At the BrownNoser web site, Eric Johnson writes the following two paragraphs to open his article, “Catholic Church Condems Googling Yourself As a Sin”: “Some people do it every now and then. Some do it multiple times a day. Some are simply addicted. But regardless of how often you do it, the Catholic church wants you to stop it.

“Googling yourself, a longstanding pastime since Google's launch in 1998, is just as wrong in the Catholics' eyes as murder, adultery and wearing non-silly hats, according to Pope Benedict XVI. Speaking from his balcony in Vatican City, the Pope said Googling is a strong contributor to society's moral decay.”
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Copyright January, 2012, by And Then Some Publishing, L.L.C.

Make friends with yourself

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

SMOERs: Words of Wisdom

When you have yourself as a friend, you have someone who will listen and respond to your self-talk --- those little motivational messages you give yourself to pep you up or calm you down. ---Richard L. Weaver II

Day #291 - Make friends with yourself.

SMOERs: Self-Motivation, Optimism, Encouragement Rules! - Daily Reminders for Outstanding Living
An everyday guide full of quotations to uplift your spirits. This is one of four motivational quotations for Day #291.

Free 30-Day sample: smoers.com

And Then Some News

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Thursday's Essay Preview

The first paragraph of the essay, "Egosurfing (I Googled myself)" reads as follows:
I Googled myself recently out of curiosity, but I’m not alone according to Rachael Rettner of LiveScience.com, who wrote an essay, “Most people Google themselves now,” which begins with this paragraph: “If you've Googled yourself recently, you're not alone. The majority of American adults, 57 percent, now keep tabs on their reputations online, using search engines to track information about their Internet identities, according to a report from the Pew Research Center's Internet & American Life Project [based on results from telephone interviews of 2,253 individuals in 2009], released today [May 26, 2010]. That's up from 47 percent in 2006" (Rettner, “Most people . . . ,” May 26, 2020). So, I’m not alone; this is what I discovered.

Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay

One of the surprises (although it shouldn’t have been a surprise had I simply thought more about it!), was the large number of publishers and authors who used my reviews of their books to advertise and sell their books on the Internet. Many of the web sites displayed offered my reviews. Once again, having posted well over a hundred reviews on Amazon.com, this would be an expected outcome, and I am delighted that so many have found my reviews well-written, concise, and flattering enough to reprint them in other contexts. Thank you.

And Then Some News

Making It All Work: Winning at the Game of Work and the Business of Life and The Power of Small: Why Little Things Make All the Difference

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 12:00:00 +0000

Making It All Work: Winning at the Game of Work and the Business of Life
by David Allen

Book Review by Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

I did not read David Allen’s book, Getting Things Done (2001), and there are some people (who reviewed the book) who said it was the better book and even to save your time by not reading this one and reading his former one. I cannot personally support or deny this observation (or judgment). The Sacramento Book Review said this: “This book is actually harder to read, and is less clear than /Getting Things Done/. Promoted as a expansion that will help you focus on the higher level of organizing your life and goals, it really just serves as a rehashing. For those needing encouragement to continue using GTD techniques, maybe it'll work for them. But, for those looking for more, it fails, and those looking at trying the GTD techniques for the first time would be better served using the original book.” Victoria Bean included information in her review that compares the two books: “The book [Making It All Work] illuminates what Allen calls the basics of self-management: namely how to get and how to develop both control and perspective on your daily commitments in order to master them.

While much of the content is included in his previous book [Getting Things Done], there are some new tools that show you how to achieve alignment and balance by changing your perspective on your own commitments and mastering the art of motivating yourself. These tools include:

* How to get immediate control of "current reality"
* How to keep track of the total inventory of your commitments
* What decisions are critical to make, about what, and when
* Why most "personal management systems" don't work
* Why organizational issues are often personal process issues
* How to use procrastination to your advantage
* How to continually self-consult to get back "on your game"
* How to install simple tricks that create profound results ”

This is a well-written, even inspiring book that will help (offers specific suggestions) for maintaining control and perspective. In this book, Allen suggests flexibility and custom-tailoring to make his GTD system operative. I didn’t read his former book, but I found this book extremely interesting and educational. Perhaps it would be a better read if you read his earlier book first; however, this one is well done, to say the least, and because he (obviously) repeats information from the earlier book, it is not a prerequisite that one be read before the other.

The Power of Small: Why Little Things Make All the Difference
by Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval

Book Review by Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

Whether you have many examples from your own life of this title being true, whether you have read it in other books, or whether you think it is a small, commonsensical point that needs no further elucidation, this is a delightful book. The authors write in an engaging style; there are so many wonderful examples used to support their points; and I firmly believe, too, that their point needs to be reinforced and encouraged. I wrote one positive letter about a bank employee, and she was one of ten commended across the nation, won the competition, and will receive a plaque on her office wall marking her success. One letter! I wrote a letter to the Red Cross that changed their procedures to include hand sanitizer at the table where refreshments are served after donations. One letter! That is precisely what this book is all about.

Because of my personal interest in speech communication, I especially liked their discussion in Chapter 3, “Make Small Talk,” which begins with the wonderful quotation from Mark Twain, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.” The authors make the point that, “We are losing the human texture in even our simplest conversations. We are becoming more and more cut off from human interaction, from the chance encounters and casual acquaintances that have, until recently, made up a part of our lives and at times changed their course” (p. 27j). Their suggestions for increasing the importance and impact of small talk are excellent and should be adopted by everyone (pp. 34-30).

The book is not only full of examples, but the authors offer regular and consistent encouragement to readers to make small changes like saying “please” and “thank you,” to take advantage of the smallest opportunities (to take advantage of “and then some” situations!), and to become more alert to other people and to their surroundings as well.

Sure, you can write this book off as just a piece of fluff, but do you know what? If everyone in our society made the small changes these authors recommend and practiced them everyday, there would be so much less conflict, irritation, and anger— so much less displeasure, annoyance, and ill-temper. As small a point(s) as the authors make, this book makes a valuable and useful addition to our lives.

These books are available at Amazon.com: (Click the link below)
Making It All Work: Winning at the Game of Work and the Business of Life
The Power of Small: Why Little Things Make All the Difference

LAUGH . . . And Then Some

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 12:00:00 +0000

A woman calls her boss one morning and tells him that she is staying home because she is not feeling well.

"What's the matter?" he asks.

"I have a case of anal glaucoma," she says in a weak voice.

"What the hell is anal glaucoma?"

"I can't see my ass coming into work today."

Laugh Like There's No Tomorrow: Over 2,000 jokes from the Internet

From Day #307 in a complete manuscript compiled by Richard L. Weaver II

New Year’s Jokes

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 13:00:00 +0000

By Richard L. Weaver II, Ph.D.

What greater way to prepare for the New Year than by sharing with my readers, my favorite New Year’s jokes? There is no order here. Some are clearly better than others, but I thought all of them had merit—or they wouldn’t be included. Most give quick and sufficient testimony to what happened to me: When I thought about the evils of drinking in the New Year. I gave up thinking. Let’s begin with a letter to the lord dated January 1st:
   Dear Lord
   So far this year I've done well.
   I haven't gossiped, I haven't lost my temper, I haven't been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or overindulgent. I'm very thankful for that. But in a few minutes, Lord, I'm going to get out of bed, and from then on I'm probably going to need a lot more help.
   Amen

You’ve heard of the serenity prayer? This is the senility prayer:
       God, grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked anyway,
       The good fortune to run into the ones that I do,
       And the eyesight to tell the difference.

Many New Year’s resolutions are about dieting: It's not the minutes spent at the table that put on weight, it's the seconds. The biggest drawback to fasting for seven days is that it makes one weak. The toughest part of a diet isn't watching what you eat. It's watching what other people eat. An excellent way to lose weight is by skipping ... snacks and dessert.

About dieting, Jackie Gleason said, “A funny thing with a diet, the second day of a diet is always easier than the first. By the second day you're off it.”

A great way to lose weight is to eat while you are naked and standing in front of a mirror. Restaurants will always throw you out before you can eat too much.

On New Year's Eve, Marilyn stood up in the local pub and said that it was time to get ready. At the stroke of midnight, she wanted every husband to be standing next to the one person who made his life worth living.

Well, it was kind of embarrassing. As the clock struck, the bartender was almost crushed to death.

On New Year's Eve, Daniel was in no shape to drive, so he sensibly left his van in the car park and walked home. As he was wobbling along, he was stopped by a policeman. “What are you doing out here at four o'clock in the morning?” asked the police officer.
   “I'm on my way to a lecture,” answered Roger.
   “And who on earth, in their right mind, is going to give a lecture at this time on New Year's Eve?” enquired the constable sarcastically.
   “My wife,” slurred Daniel grimly.

A Senator in the USA was once asked about his attitude toward whisky.
   “If you mean the demon drink that poisons the mind, pollutes the body, desecrates family life, and inflames sinners, then I'm against it. But if you mean the elixir of a New Year toast, the shield against winter chill, the taxable potion that puts needed funds into public coffers to comfort little crippled children, then I'm for it. This is my position, and I will not compromise.”

Now for a joke that is very sad. There's a man sitting at a bar just looking at his drink. He stays like that for half an hour. Then, a big trouble-making truck driver steps next to him, takes the drink from the guy, and just drinks it all down.

The poor man starts crying. The truck driver says, "Come on man, I was just joking. Here, I'll buy you another drink. I just can't stand seeing a man crying."

"No, it's not that. This day is the worst of my life. First, I fall asleep, and I'm late to my office. My boss, in an outrage, fires me. When I leave the building to my car, I found out it was stolen. The police say they can do nothing. I get a cab to return home and when I leave it, I remember I left my wallet and credit cards there. The cab driver just drives away. I go home and when I get there, I find my wife sleeping with the gardener. I leave home and come to this bar. And when I was thinking about putting an end to my life, you show up and drink my poison."

After listening to some bedtime stories, Alex, a little boy, said to his father, “Snow White was poisoned by an apple, Jack found a giant on a beanstalk, and just look what happened to Alice when she ate the mushroom. And you wonder why I won't eat fruit and vegetables?”

And a final joke (another one) that has nothing to do with New Years, but offers us all something to think about. A woman awakes during the night, and her husband isn't in bed with her. She goes downstairs to look for him. She finds him sitting at the kitchen table with a cup of coffee in front of him.

He appears to be in deep thought, just staring at the wall. She watches as he wipes a tear from his eye and takes a sip of his coffee.

"What's the matter, dear?" she asks. "Why are you down here at this time of night?" The husband looks up from his coffee, "Do you remember 20 years ago when we were dating, and you were only 16?" he asks solemnly.

"Yes, I do," she replies.

"Do you remember when your father caught us in the back seat of my car making love?"

"Yes, I remember," says the wife, lowering herself into a chair beside him.

       The husband continues..."Do you remember when he shoved a shotgun in my face and said,

"Either you marry my daughter, or I will send you to jail for 20 years."

"I remember that too", she replies softly.

He wipes another tear from his cheek and says... "I would have gotten out today!"

It was Oscar Wilde who said, “Good resolutions are simply checks that men draw on a bank where they have no account.” May the new year bring you health, wealth, and prosperity. Of course, that’s the same toast someone made at your wedding, and where did that get you?
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At About.com , the essay there, by Amber J. Tresca, “10 Tips for Keeping New Year's Resolutions: The best way to stick with your resolution is to plan ahead.,” offers realistic tips and great advice.

Sue Shallenbarger, at the web site , offers the essay, “A Cheat Sheet for Keeping Resolutions .” Like the essay above, there are realistic tips and great advice here as well.
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Copyright December, 2010, by And Then Some Publishing, LLC.

Day #290 - Pursue a hobby.

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 12:00:00 +0000

SMOERs: Words of Wisdom

"It almost seems unfair when you make your profession a hobby as well. Then it's hard to tell whether you are doing it to make money or doing it for fun. The joy comes from knowing it is both." --Richard L. Weaver II

Day #290 - Pursue a hobby.

SMOERs: Self-Motivation, Optimism, Encouragement Rules! - Daily Reminders for Outstanding Living
An everyday guide full of quotations to uplift your spirits. This is one of four motivational quotations for Day #290.

Free 30-Day sample: smoers.com

And Then Some News

noreply@blogger.com (andthensomeworks.com) — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 13:00:00 +0000

Thursday's And Then Some Essay preview:

Thursday’s essay is called, "New Year's Jokes." What greater way to prepare for the New Year than by sharing with my readers, my favorite New Year’s jokes? There is no order here. Some are clearly better than others, but I thought all of them had merit—or they wouldn’t be included. Most give quick and sufficient testimony to what happened to me: When I thought about the evils of drinking in the New Year. I gave up thinking.

New Year's Jokes
by Richard L. Weaver II

Excerpt:
On New Year's Eve, Marilyn stood up in the local pub and said that it was time to get ready. At the stroke of midnight, she wanted every husband to be standing next to the one person who made his life worth living.

Well, it was kind of embarrassing. As the clock struck, the bartender was almost crushed to death.

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Thursday's Essay Preview

The first paragraph of the essay, "New Year's Jokes," reads as follows: "What greater way to prepare for the New Year than by sharing with my readers, my favorite New Year’s jokes. There is no order here. Some are clearly better than others, but I thought all of them had merit—or they wouldn’t be included. Most give quick and sufficient testimony to what happened to me: When I thought about the evils of drinking in the New Year. I gave up thinking. Let’s begin with a letter to the lord.
    Dear Lord
    So far this year I've done well.
    I haven't gossiped, I haven't lost my temper, I haven't been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish, or overindulgent. I'm very thankful for that. But in a few minutes, Lord, I'm going to get out of bed, and from then on I'm probably going to need a lot more help.
    Amen"


Thursday's Essay Excerpt - from the last paragraph of the essay

"It was Oscar Wilde who said, “Good resolutions are simply checks that men draw on a bank where they have no account.” May the new year bring you health, wealth, and prosperity. Of course, that’s the same toast someone made at your wedding, and where did that get you?"

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