LOVE AND MARRIAGE

ANGER CONTROL IN A RELATIONSHIP

2021-01-20T00:27:00.000-08:00

We are humans and we all tend to make mistakes at a point in our life. Same thing with our relationships. No relationship is a bed full of roses. Every love story has its own scenes of sorrow and joy.

Anger is one major thing that can't be avoided in a relationship. But partners must tread carefully in order not to hurt each other when angry. These can sporadically injure a relationship or marriage.

There's nothing as sweet as resolving conflict quickly and easily in a relationship. Below are ways to control anger in your relationship.

● Cooling your nerves during a heated argument

This might sound easy but it can be achieved easily if constantly put into action. No matter the level of argument you and your partner is having, at that moment take a chill pill. Calm your nerves down. Stay cool headed. Don't try to reply back at every statement uttered. Just stay quiet.

● Look out for your anger signs

When you and your partner are having a fight, do well to look out for your anger signs. There are some warning signs your body gives you. Like, clenching teeth and fist, pounding heartbeat etc. At this moment, just stay calm and cool. Or better still excuse yourself from that argument.

● Handle your anger

You own your anger, you own yourself. You're the sole owner of your body, behavior and mind. Learn to control it. Handle your anger, like you will handle your life investment.

● Look beyond the issues

As humans, there are some topics that trigger our anger reaction. Like, money, politics, religion and the likes. Different opinions will surely erupt an anger eruption,when you notice this take a break from that discussion. Or look past the issues.

Ultimately, don't let your anger control you be in charge of your anger.

RELATIONSHIPS AND MARRIAGES ARE BUILT ON LOVE

2021-01-19T02:32:00.000-08:00

Relationships and by extension, marriages are not built on love. Because it takes more than just love to keep and sustain any form of relationship. The world is in a serious comatose of broken marriages everywhere, broken relationships too are not exempted. And one begins to beg to wonder – if they didn’t actually love each other when the going was going smooth.

Truth is, we get attracted by love. We get carried away by the beauty, handsomeness, kindness, generosity, humor and all other endearing factors when we enter into most relationship. And as such, naturally, we tend to want to spend more time with our partners. Quality time spent together over a long period of time will develop into affections.

The infatuation aspect of it too cannot be over-emphasized! In fact, this is the driving force in 99% of relationships. An immense sexual attraction between two opposite gender; the ability to meet and satisfy each other’s sexual demand has even led to the birth of most relationships.

Ironically, this ability in meeting each other sexual need has in most cases being described as love. On the contrary, to sustain a relationship, sexuality is not the only factor to be considered. Neither is love enough on itself.

What then is required to build long lasting relationships and marriages?

Sacrifice!

The ability to stay committed when things go south; the ability to show loyalty in the presence of obvious weaknesses. We can’t pretend that everything our partner does is fine with us. Some things don’t usually go well with us, some attitudes, some behaviors, even some characters turns us off.

The not so good news accompanying the aforementioned is that, you can never change them; simply because most of this characters, behaviors and attitudes have been formed over many years of growing up. So, it is a pure waste of time and energy when one attempts to change his partner.

What is expected is that we first recognize that no one is perfect, no one will ever be. Quitting a relationship or walking out of a marriage due to perceived imperfection is just a matter of running in circles because even in the next relationship/marriage, you are heading, the likelihood to witness far worse conditions are very high – the devil you know is better than an angel you just met!

Having recognized that no one is perfect, next step is respecting the differences of both parties. Evaluate each other’s strength and weaknesses in the relationship/marriage. Help each other to be a better person. Encourage one and other.

Outside attractions within the relationship are still bound to happen, but the level of sacrifice and commitment one have towards the relationship will determine how it’s being handled. It takes sacrifice to draw the line and not love, because, sacrifice is all about self-denial.

The world will be a better place if truly we can love our spouses/partners and stay committed to making them happy. Do you agree that it takes more than love to build any relationship/marriage?

Let us know your thoughts in the comment section.

DIFFERENTIATING BETWEEN LOVE AND LUST IN A RELATIONSHIP

2021-01-18T15:03:00.000-08:00

Differentiating between love and lust in a relationship is one of the most challenging situations any partner will ever encounter. The two words start with letter "L" and can be tricky if not careful.

While there might not be proof to tell if what you're feeling is love or lust. Understanding these two words with a deeper thought will give you insightful ways to spot the difference.

Follow the steps below to know the difference between love and lust.

ON LOVE

● Undiluted attention between partners

The first difference to notice between love and lust is attention and attraction. It isn't necessarily a physical attention or attraction. There's this non-sexual attraction you will feel towards your partner. You care for your partner even when you know their fault. You stay committed even when they're faraway. That's true love.

● Feeling secure around your partner

One of the things to notice is the security and peace of mind that comes with true love. You are confident that your partner will stand by you through thick and thin. You feel free to share your deepest secrets with them without being scared. That's the feeling that true love brings.

ON LUST

● Thinking about sexual desires

The way you feel when you're in love will be so far different to when you're in lust. When you're in lust, the level of your sexual desires towards your partner is very high. If you're in a relationship, if the only thing you think about in your partner is sex. Then you need to excuse yourself from that type of relationship.

● Insecurity

When you're in lust, your insecurity level is high. When you're trying to impress your partner. Then you're in lust not love.

Also, watch your level of communication and the way you both handle conflict in your relationship. This will give you a tip if you're in love or lust.

SECRET MARRIAGE ADVICE FOR COUPLES

2021-01-08T02:22:00.000-08:00

Everyone wants to experience a happily ever after type of marriage but they're not ready to work to achieve it.

An Adage says; Marriage is not a bed of roses. It's mixed with thorns.

It's a known fact that the rate of divorce is alarming, due to uncooked advice young couples or newly married couples seek from inexperienced minds.

Regardless of the advice received, whether a marriage is healthy or unhealthy, there are some secret advice that contribute to overall happiness and success in a marriage.

Below are secret marriage advice for couples whether old or newly married couples.

Have physical contact/affection

Sharing physical contact in a marriage might seem simple and easy. But it goes beyond sexual contact. It's a nonsexual contact where you need to hug or just hold hands with your partner. It builds a sense of belonging in a marriage.

Be honest

I know this is a common theme for every marriage. But It's a theme you shouldn't forget, because this is a building block for long lasting healthy marriage.

Share common vision

Most people overlook this aspect of common vision in a marriage. It's always good to have a common vision with your spouse, this will enhance your level of partnership, closeness and focus to build a better relationship in your marriage.

Be intimate

I talked about non sexual affection. It's also important to be intimate with your spouse. Let your intimacy be deep and sexual. Don't be surprised when I tell you lots of marriages have collapsed due to low-level of intimacy in their marriage.

Become best friends

Do you know how it feels to be best friends with your spouse? It's the sweetest experience ever in a marriage. Being best friends with your spouse will give you, upper hand compared to any other person in his life. This will enhance your level of trust and communication.

Ultimately, for an everlasting married life don't forget to keep the love alive, keep the communication going and keep the surprise coming in your marriage.

THE WAY TO OVERCOME TRUST ISSUES DURING RELATIONSHIP

2021-01-07T05:37:00.004-08:00

Building trust in a relationship is like building a house on a rigid foundation. Trust is the first building block in every relationship. Lots of relationships are suffering because of lack of trust, but they find it is hard to rebuild. Most partners are either suffering from trust insecurities from past traumatic experiences or past relationships.

Before building trust again in your relationship or in your life, have it in mind that building trust needs lots of commitment, patience, tolerance and communication to rebuild it.

Written below are tips to help you overcome trust issues in your relationship.

● Increase your communication

Clearly have a good and deep discussion with your partner, this will help you handle trust issues. Talk to your partner about how you feel about a certain situation or person. Let them feel connected when having a discussion with you. Let the communication flow between you and your partner. This will enhance your level of clarity and trust.

● Share secret

There's no secret in a relationship. To overcome the trust issues in your relationship, take the bold step out by sharing your secret with your partner. This will increase the level of trust, commitment and communication in your relationship. Tell your partner everything and anything needed to talk about. Especially your inner circle, your close friends_let your partner know about them all.

● See a therapist

Most times, having trust issues is from past traumatic experiences. If you find it hard to maintain the level of trust in your relationship or you find it hard to let go of your past. It's better to see a therapist, talk about it and move on.

WAYS TO SHOW AFFECTION IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

2021-01-05T14:11:00.000-08:00

Sometimes we think showing affection in a relationship is something that has to be done in a grand style. But, it's not necessary, simple kind gestures and support can go a long way in your partner's heart compared to grand gestures.

No matter how you want to be shown love in a relationship, exhibiting an act of affection to your partner goes a long way.

Here are few ways to exhibit an act of affection to your partner in your relationship or marriage.

● Be attentive

A partner with a calm and cool listening ear wins the heart of their lover. There's nothing as affectionate as having your partner listen to your rant, jokes and gusts with full attention. It might seem little to you but it means alot to your partner. Be attentive to your partner in all situations. Give them that listening ear.

● The act of giving (GIFT)

Don't be a boring partner. Surprise your spouse with a small gift when they least expect. Don't wait till it's their birthday before you give them a gift. Nothing is too small to give your partner, once it comes from a sincere heart.

● Use of verbal affirmation

Research shows that; using words of affirmation on ourselves or for our partner, relieves stress and makes them more relaxed. How many times today, have you told your partner how gorgeous they look? A small genuine compliment makes them feel secure and happy around you. Don't be too rigid.

Ultimately, the key to any successful relationship is attention. Give your partner physical, emotional, spiritual and mental attention. Most times, they just need someone to be there to support and give them attention. Showing affection is important because it builds a healthy relationship but don't forget to be supportive, and extraordinarily attentive.

SIGN OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

2021-01-03T13:22:00.000-08:00

We all know the saying that "no relationship is perfect", well that's true. But we all want that healthy, sweet, peaceful and relaxing relationship, where you and your partner settle all misunderstanding amicably.

It's not like that in a toxic relationship. It's always draining and full of negativity.

There are some cogent signs to look out for in a relationship to test its level of toxicity.

· Having a toxic communication

Don't be surprised if you're always quarreling with your partner virtually or physically. When you noticed criticism, sarcasm and hostility in your communication with your partner, that's a sign of toxicity.

· Use of negative words

This is one of the attributes of low self-esteem, which is also related to toxicity in a relationship. When your partner uses insultive or disdainful words at you. This is one of the signs to look out for in your relationship.

· Constant drainage

When I say "drainage"I don't mean water drainage. I mean emotional, physical, spiritual and mental drainage. When you feel drained in all aspects in your relationship, it's becoming a toxic relationship. Watch out for how your positive energy and vibes get drained.

· Lack of trust

One of the signs of a toxic relationship is lack of trust. There's nothing as sweet as being in a relationship where you and your partner swim in the river of trust.

In conclusion, there are many signs to identify in a toxic relationship which you have to be on the lookout for. In order to safeguard your mental health and your self-esteem.

PREPARING YOURSELF FOR PERFECT RELATIONSHIP

2021-01-02T06:18:00.004-08:00

An English Adage said 'practice makes perfect'. It's a known discussion that most people don't get prepared before getting involved in a relationship. Everyone wants a perfect, lovely and sweet relationship but they're not ready to burn midnight candles to make their relationship perfect.

Before you find your "missing rib" you need to be prepared in order to avoid stories that touch the heart.

Listed below are four ways to prepare yourself for a perfect relationship.

● Be yourself

Before you think of getting involved in a relationship, you need to learn the basics of being yourself. You don't need to pretend to please your partner, your partner will surely accept you for who you are and what you are. Keep calm and be yourself.

● Be ready

In a relationship, there's nothing as delicious as readiness. Don't get into a relationship half boiled. We all know how awful it's to eat a half boiled rice, it destroys our appetite, that's how lack of readiness is in a relationship. Before you think of a perfect relationship, be ready emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. Be ready in every aspect of your life.

● Love yourself

You can't give what you don't have. The way you treat yourself, that's the way people will treat you. You need to love yourself and treat yourself nicely. Give yourself the best treatment you will ever give to anyone. Love yourself wholeheartedly like you would love your newly bought phone. Do not lose your self-love.

● Be committed

As simple as this might sound, it's as well important. Learn the act of commitment before seeking a perfect relationship.

Though there's no perfect relationship, every relationship is a "work in progress".

Finally, make sure you build your life for you and don't build your life in someone's happiness. Be prepared in order to avoid delay.

HOW TO DEVELOP SELF-LOVE IN A RELATIONSHIP

2020-12-29T04:27:00.001-08:00

Do you love yourself? What is the quantity of love you have for yourself? Does loving yourself improve your relationships?

It shouldn't come as a surprise that you can only give out what you have. Having a low self-esteem is synonymous to a car without an engine. A car is not complete and cannot work perfectly without its engine, how can you relate perfectly or give out love when you're not filled with love. Lack of self-love for yourself will affect your relationship, connection and behavior with people.

Specifically, having minute love for ourselves tends to make us negative. Think about how you will react if you're surrounded with negativity. I know we all want to be comfortable in our skin.

Listed below are steps to implement in your life and personal relationship to boost up your self-love.

1. Don't seek affirmation

Lacking high dose of self-love will always put you at the service of seeking people's affirmation and validation before making decisions in life. You won't believe in yourself rather you will keep seeking compliments from friends and family. This will tend to damage your relationship with everyone around you.

2- Communication

Another thing you need to do is learn how to communicate with people around you very well. Talk to your friends with confidence, your head high up but not with pride so that you won't be categorized as egoistic in nature.

3- Study yourself

One of the things you should always do is study yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and speak confidently to yourself. Learn and study every part needed to be known about you. Your strength, your weaknesses, your likes and dislikes. When you start to gain self-awareness about yourself, you will further appreciate and love yourself in and out.

In conclusion, loving yourself is owing to who you are. Accepting your good and bad attributes. You don't have to force love in a relationship, it will flow steadily once you have love in you, once you're filled with love. Accept who you are, what you're and what you're going to be. Have confidence in yourself.

CAN MONEY BUY LOVE?

2012-10-25T09:21:00.001-07:00

love is something you cherish,money is just paper.nonething can buy love unless its not real love.
when you have a loved one don't let anything get in the way of tearing the love apart..... Love means different things to different people though, and if two highly materialistic people find love the way they see it through buying each other things and sharing possessions, then all the best to them. For me, money most certainly cannot buy love. But I will say that it does help a relationship if the people involved are financially stable. It's just a sad fact - money troubles are one of the biggest causes for divorce. While I wouldn't base a relationship on money, I would consider it a great gain if myself and my partner were comfortable in the money department.
money cannot buy you love, it can only buy you lust, the love you think you received from the other party is actually nothing but his/her craving for the thick plies of notes sticking out of your pocket. Love is a part of your natural reactions, your feelings, your emotions, money brings someone temporary joy, of being able to buy anything, but love gives someone eternal happiness, which will always be with you, no matter how rich you are or how poor you are, as long as you love each other, and i seriously mean love, then the happiness is with you.
Of course we all want 1million dollars,but would you trade it for love?If you really loved someone you wouldn't trade the love in for nonthing. I do not know what constitutes happiness, jealousy, or moodiness. I can only define them by personal experience; what makes me happy, jealous, or moody and how others define them. Each person has their own definition, which could be defined by personal experiences or could be defined by how they were rasied during their childhood years
If love is like religion, then it cannot be bought nor can it be negotiated. If romantic interaction is similar to a commercial transaction, then love can be bought and can be negotiated (and compromised). Love seems to be similar to both, but identical to neither
In the above descriptions, love is depicted as something sacred that money cannot buy, just as money cannot buy God and cannot change normative behaviors that are prescribed by the holy religion.
However, there are also similarities between romantic and commercial behavior. This similarity is expressed, for instance, in the way that romantic partners are chosen nowadays. Modern technology, and especially the Internet, enables people to choose their romantic partners in the way they select a certain commodity. Thus, people can refer to very specific features that are not necessarily related to love. When someone writes on a dating site that he is seeking a vegetarian christian woman who is interested in African wildlife, his process is not dissimilar to the way in which he might itemize the attributes he wants in a specific commodity, such as a car.
The role of money in generating or in transacting loving relationships is expressed, for example, in the content of personal ads seeking romantic partners. Thus, the requirement that prospective partners are financially secure is often mentioned in ads placed by women. Indeed, while both men and women prefer good-looking partners, women consider other qualities, such as status and money, to compensate for looks. It is interesting to note that many men prefer a spouse who makes less money than they do and whose occupational status is lower than theirs. But this is due to men's concern about their self-esteem rather than to the issue of love. It might, however, be further indication that money and status influence the generation of love.
Money and status are certainly related to the generation of sexual desire and satisfaction. exchangeable nature of sex is also expressed in the ease with which sexual desire can be aroused by using the imagination, whether by people imagining themselves with someone other than the person they are actually with, or by imagining the person they are with to be more attractive than he actually is.
Money might not be as important to love itself, but love is hardly disconnected from reality. It is grounded in an actual framework of life, and the flourishing of this framework can depend upon having more money. This is one reason why many people would marry someone who possesses lots of qualities they admire, but with whom they are not in love.
In a fortunate framework of life, positive emotions, including love, are more likely to be generated. Extremely negative situations, such as loneliness, can also generate love, but this might be superficial love that depends more on current circumstances than on the deep, stable characteristics of the lovers.
Indeed, we are familiar with statements such as: "You don't love me; you just love my body (or my beauty, money, kindness, humor, wisdom, etc.)." This statement is voiced not only when it is concerned with features perceived as superficial, such as beauty and money, but also with regard to more profound features, such as kindness, humor and wisdom. Beauty and money are not regarded as legitimate reasons for love, whereas kindness and wisdom are more so, since they express characteristics more fundamental to us. Nevertheless, none of these reasons alone is perceived to be sufficient for romantic love. Such love requires the presence of many aspects belonging to both the praiseworthiness and the attraction of the partner.
The situation concerning happiness is similar-money cannot buy long-term happiness, but it certainly can be helpful in creating the circumstances that induce such happiness. There are indeed various studies that have found a positive correlation between income and long-term happiness. Like with love, the effect of money on happiness is not very strong and there are other factors that are even more important than money for happiness (and love). Social factors, such as marriage, family, friends, and children, are more significant in determining long-term happiness than economic elements such as job, income, and standard of living. Money, however, can improve our situation in a way that gives us more occasions for happiness.
With all these descprition it is certainly know that money cannot buy you a real LOVE......

THE TRUTH ABOUT MAKING SOMEONE FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU

2011-02-15T08:41:00.000-08:00

How to Make Someone Fall in Love with You
The following are methods and ways that can help you in making someone fall in love with you. Note that most of them are based on the psychology of falling in love and if you don’t know what that is, you'd better take a quick look first.

I have what you need : when people search for a partner, they unconsciously try to find someone who is similar to what they like about themselves and at the same time different from what they hate about themselves. For example, someone who feels inferior but is also intelligent will seek an intelligent but confident partner. If this resembles the person you are targeting, playing the role of an incredibly confident person can be very effective, simply because you will be sending a message to his/her subconscious mind saying “I have what you need”. On the other hand try to do your best to show that you have some common interests (don't lie, just search for what’s common between you).
Meeting Criteria: Inside the mind of every one of us is a quick list of basic criteria that must be met before we even consider loving a person. Although meeting these criteria does not necessarily mean that we will love the person, not meeting any of them makes it certain that we will never love him. Examples of these criteria can be: "He must be a non smoker", "He must be religious" …etc. You should try to know the background of the person you like and attempt to meet his basic criteria, else you will be rejected before you even begin.
Does Trying Harder Work? : Does repeatedly trying to approach a person work, or does chasing him or asking him out several times work?
Doing these things will most likely work if your partner is externally dependent. External dependency is being dependent on something or someone to make you feel good or to escape your bad mood. When someone becomes externally dependent, it's likely he'll jump at the first chance of getting into a relationship. If the person you are targeting is externally dependent then your chances of making him fall in love you becomes higher. That’s why caring for someone when he's down gives you a great chance of being loved by him because at these times people become more externally dependent
Program his Subconscious Mind: The subconscious mind can be made to accept something by continuous repetition. This doesn't mean that you should call your partner every five minutes, as that would be chasing his/her conscious mind. Chasing the subconscious mind requires no more than staying in sight, and letting him/her see you a lot. Even if you hardly talk, just staying in his/her sight is enough to enforce your position.
More Subconscious Mind Programming : If you have mutual friends then you are even more lucky, since the subconscious mind is programmed much easier by trusted sources. The more your friends talk to him/her about how great you are (something you'll probably have to arrange) the better your chances of having a place in his/her subconscious mind. Just as subconscious mind programming can be a tool that helps you in making someone fall in love with you, it may be used against you without your notice and the result is finding yourself attached to someone whom you cant get over. In my book How to get over anyone in few days i pointed out how can you reverse the effect of the programming you got from others so that you can easily forget about any person
position yourself well: what is the first word that comes to people's minds when they your name in mentioned? do they think of the word "strong","confident" or "loser"? positioning is simply associating yourself with a certian image that is printed in people's minds, read this guide to know how can you position yourself

TRUE LOVE:-CHARACTERISTICS

2008-08-25T08:40:00.000-07:00

The most common questions are "What is true love?" and "What does true love feel like?"The answer is not easy and there are certain things you need to consider that will help you recognize true love in your life.

1. Love is unconditional: That means you love someone irrespective of what they do to you and regardless of any strong negative emotions you experience in your relationship with them. Once you place conditions on your love, it's not really love it's a business arrangement. This is what you might say in a relationship.."I love you as long as you ...." (eg: behave the way I want you to behave)The concept of unconditional love does not mean you stay in a relationship when it is detrimental for you. You can still love and leave.

2. Soul mates: The term soul mate has been distorted and romanticized in the media and as a result you may find yourself 'waiting' for your ideal relationship and/or partner to come along.

This leads to the following problems..
WaitingWhen you are waiting, you are pushing away what is happening now and you miss out on your current life complete with opportunities that are here now.Firstly this puts you in a state of not being fulfilled. It is only possible to find peace and happiness in the present moment. So by definition, the waiting has a negative impact on your life.
Secondly waiting for true love or a soul mate also means you are creating something to wait for. If its the romantic 'ideal' of a soul mate you will miss the real opportunity of love that often sits in front of you. You miss your opportunity because you are waiting for an 'ideal'. You can't begin to imagine what your real soul mate will be like, so it's probable that you are projecting something that is unrealistic or too vague without being aware of what you are doing. You can't recognize your opportunity for love because you can never find your ideal image, it doesn't exist.
Last of all this waiting state makes you vulnerable to others that may take advantage of you (deliberately or unconsciously) You will give out a certain signal that will be matched by someone else's corresponding state. That’s not always bad but it leaves you open to false starts and dashed hopes. It could also expose you to danger in certain situations.

3. More on Soul mates: In general terms, soul mate refers to a similar soul. That means someone like you. Someone who has similar issues and life lessons to learn. You attract others 'like you' who may appear and act differently, but when you look deeply at the underlying life issues, they are very similar to you. They are your reflection. Your soul mate or should I say 'mates' as you have more than one, is very close to you spiritually. You are on the same journey.

That means...
You may not be romantically connected. There is just a connection and that connection could be positive or negative. It could be a teacher/ student relationship, a friendship or you may be enemies. They are all connections. If your beliefs extend to reincarnation then these connections span many lifetimes and are often characterized with that, 'we have met before' feeling. Sometimes just an uncanny comfortable feeling that you can't explain. When your soul mate comes along there is no rule that says they have to be the way your romantic ideal suggests. They may not even be of the correct sex. This often happens because your soul mates mission is to help you not to be an ideal partner for a romance. They help you by being your reflection and showing you something about yourself. This is often painful. If the union results in pain then as so often happens your relationship with them may not survive.

4. Attraction: The force of attraction exists so that you can learn from other people. Without attraction you wouldn't be drawn to certain people and you will miss important lessons. This is how your life works and is a requirement for your spiritual journey. You learn when you have human interaction and that means people coming together. As others reflect who you are, you are able to learn. This attraction is not exclusive to romantic relationships. You are attracted to people and places without any sexual feelings involved. Attraction is often mistaken for sexual attraction and confused with sexual energy. Conversely if there is attraction and sexual energy it doesn't mean you have to act on the sexual impulse. You can still have a platonic relationship with that person.

5. Self Development: You attract and join with people who are similar to you. The easiest way to get a great partner is to pursue your own self development. When 'someone' comes along they will reflect you and you will be at your best! Therefore the chance of a great relationship is accentuated.

6. Twin souls or Twin Flames: This is greatly misunderstood. Your twin soul or flame is really just another part of you. You need to join the masculine and feminine sides of your soul in order for you to be and feel complete. This requires you to be balanced and achieve the enlightened state that allows you to transcend your ego.

When you are balanced internally it is duplicated and reflected in your physical environment. That means your relationship either current or new will feel incredibly special just like you have met your twin soul. This is just a reflection of the balance you have achieved internally. In other words to achieve a special relationship or true love look internally and work on improving the flow of love from yourself. The outside world will take care of itself.

7. True Love: The force of love is the energy that flows through you and everyone else. This energy is altered and distorted because you, with your mind are a filter of this energy. True love is this energy shining through a very clear filter. You clear your filter when you pursue a path of personal development and work through your emotional issues.
One of the ways to recognize love is to look around you and check to see if you love and accept the people in your life for what and who they are. Without judgment and without trying to change them to be like you.
True love is subjective but the degree to which you feel it is irrelevant. You will feel that something 'magical' is happening when it happens, if you are 'clear'. You achieve this state by following a path of personal development.

LOVE......

2008-07-01T04:35:00.000-07:00

For me, Love is a wonderful feelings that you cannot buy nor trade in to any material things. Making love to the one you love is a gift of God, it is the best thing to make the relationships grow and deeper. But too many people think that making love is just an intercourse, and that is so far from right that I cannot relate to people who think like that.

To me, making love is holding hands. It's looking in another eyes and not having to say a word but being understood. It is sitting side by side and do some little cute things or teasing each other. It is watching the other sleep and the body rise and fall with the breath. It is sharing the most intimate part of your heart and soul together and not being embarrased about it, not feeling like you have triumphed or that you have compromised, but more like to have melded into one. It is sharing and intertwining bodies to a point of oneness.

It is more sweeter if we say " I don't want to have sex with you, I want to make love to you". I am not saying that lust is all bad, just that if you are with the one you love then it needs to be more than a lustful relationship.