My Love Zone

How to use Music to win the heart of a woman

2011-11-22T15:53:00.002+01:00

Online dating for
teenagers and young
adults seems a
relatively simple pursuit
requiring little more
than an exchange of
photographs and a
passing reference to
some common
interests. And that's it,

the match is made,
although it might not
last more than a few
days! But for the older
and more experienced
adult, dating is usually a
more complex issue, in
which both the man and
the woman will expect
more from their
potential partner.
So why not give
yourself a head start
and make your profile
that much more
interesting. Being able
to play a musical
instrument, particularly
an unusual musical
instrument, will not only
make your profile stand
out from the herd but
will also arouse much
interest and curiosity.
At the very least it will
get you a few dates
quite quickly, but in
many cases you will
soon find that you have
become a veritable
magnet to the opposite
sex.
Let's take a look at the
next four unusual
musical instruments
you might consider
adding to your online
dating armory. They
range from the most
ancient to the most
modern, so there is
sure to be one to appeal
to every musical taste.
LightHarp. The
LightHarp uses lasers,
spotlights and light
sensors to trace virtual
strings through space
for performers to play. I
believe something
similar was used by Mr
Spok to charm the
heart of many an
interstellar traveler. The
instrument does not
produce sound itself,
rather it controls
computers and
synthesizers.
The current version of
the LightHarp has been
designed in leather by
the famous leather
artist, Garry Greenwood.
The LightHarp is also
the World's first Indian
computer music
instrument and
resembles a veena in
shape and design. It has
a total of 32 light-
sensor virtual strings,
each of which play
either individual notes,
music samples or act as
frets on a string. But
although designed for
playing Indian music,
the LightHarp is also
capable of performing
dense polyphonic
textures with micro-
tonal tunings.
Nano Guitar. Now
here's an instrument
guaranteed to please
the technology-minded
lady, and it comes in
one convenient pocket-
sized package. Keep one
by you at all times. You
never know when it
might come in handy!
The smallest guitar in
the world, the Nano
Guitar is only 10 micro-
meters in length --
about the size of a
single cell -- with six
strings each about 50
nanometers, or 100
atoms, wide. The
original Nano Guitar was
made to resemble a
Fender Stratocaster.
The new, "playable"
version, actually about
five times the size of
the original, is modeled
on the Gibson Flying V.
The strings are actually
silicon bars, 150 by 200
nanometers in cross-
section and ranging
from 6 to 12
micrometers in length
(a nanometer is a
billionth of a meter, the
length of three silicon
atoms in a row. For
comparison, the
diameter of a human
hair is about 200
micrometers, or
200,000 nanometers).
They vibrate at
frequencies 17 octaves
higher than those of a
real guitar, so special
listening skills will be
required!
Serpent. An
instrument with overt
sexual overtones and in
the right hands a lethal
weapon in your armory
to seduce your beloved.
Just don't overdo it, the
effects can be earth-
shattering!
The Serpent is an
ancient musical wind
instrument, related to
the modern tuba,
invented by Canon Edmé
Guillaume in 1590 in
France, and was first
used to reinforce the
sound of church choirs.
It was made from
wood and blown with a
cup shaped mouthpiece.
Played softly, it has a
firm mellow tone. At
medium volume, it
produces a robust
sound -- something of a
cross between the
tuba, bassoon and
French horn. But when
played loudly, the
serpent can produce
seriously unpleasant
noises reminiscent of
large animals mating or
in distress.

A professional approach and guides on how to find true love online

2011-11-18T22:26:00.001+01:00

If you have never been
to online dating, you
must take following
steps to find your
soulmate now
Given the rising
popularity of online
dating, there must be
plenty of you out there
who are tempted to try

it out but not sure
exactly how. Here are
some useful pointers on
how to go about dating
online. Not only is it
something you would
enjoy, it can actually
change the direction of
your personal life.
Usually the first reason
singles choose online
dating is they are
getting no results
looking for singles at
bars and clubs. Apart
from costing a pretty
penny, it may not even
get you the results you
are looking for. One
night out can cost more
than one months
membership at an
online dating service.
Also once you join a
service you the number
of potential dating
partners' increases in
thousands.
Clarity of thought in
terms of the dating
partner you are looking
for is important. You
have more than enough
search criteria to
choose from to narrow
it down to someone
very compatible. You
can then go through
his/her profile,
understand their areas
of interest and decide if
it is worthwhile to
check out.
People across age
groups have found their
soulmates thanks to
online dating services.
Senior people in fact
prefer the anonymity it
gives them till they find
a partner to their liking.
singles in this age
bracket the internet is a
perfect way to meet
other singles.
If you enjoy using your
computer then there's
another reason to start
using it to meet other
singles. It doesn't
matter what time of
day it is. Online dating
services are open
twenty four hours a
day. You will always find
someone online to chat
to. Many singles are
there to make friends
as well. You don't have
to try and start a
relationship with
everyone. All dating
services have public
chat rooms, and instant
messenger services.
You can even start a
blog on most of the
popular dating web
sites now. The more
time you have for
logging in to your dating
service the better it will
be for you. Online dating
services like activity
from singles, and you
will get your profile
nearer the top of
search results.
As in all other areas of
life, communicating well
plays a great role in
online dating as well. Be
relaxed and open up
about yourself when
you sign up with a
service. Express
yourself lucidly in terms
of what you are looking
for and interesting
responses will definitely
start pouring in.

How elderly people can find love

2011-11-18T22:18:00.002+01:00

If you are elderly and
are looking for that
special person that will
complete you, you will
be pleased to know
that there are literally
millions of seniors in
this country that are
searching for elderly
love as well. You don't
have to be alone

anymore, and you don't
have to settle for
someone that you
aren't going to be happy
with as a spouse. You
will be able to meet
many people that are
searching for
acceptance and love if
you are able to follow
the guidelines in this
article.
The first thing you need
to do when searching
for elderly love is to put
yourself in a position
that you can meet new
people. You have many
options. If there is a
class about a craft you
are interested in taking,
not only will it help you
meet new people, but
they will share an
interest with you that
will give you something
in common. This will be
very important when
you start talking with
them. If you don't feel
comfortable in this type
of situation, you may
want to try an online
senior dating service. By
using a dating service,
you will be meeting
other seniors that are
also looking for love.
This will take away
some of the
awkwardness and also
some of the fear of
rejection. By using a
dating service, if the
person isn't interested
in you, they just won't
contact you instead of
having to tell you.
When you are looking
for elderly love, you will
find that appearance is
important. You should
look as though you are
able to take good care
of yourself and a
spouse. By projecting
this air of confidence,
people will naturally be
drawn to you and they
will find it easier to talk
with you. You will also
want to practice smiling
at people. By smiling,
you will help break
down any walls that
would make others feel
uncomfortable talking
to you.
When you are ready to
find the elderly love of
your life, you will be
embarking on a grand
adventure. Be sure to
view your search as
something that will
revolutionize the way
you see life, and you will
find that your joy will
help others to like you
more.

How to keep a relationship clean and healthy without conflicts

2011-11-18T22:13:00.002+01:00

With all of the advice
out there on how to
rebuild your relationship,
why not look at tips to
keep your already
healthy relationship in
tact? There are plenty
of things that you
should avoid in order to
make your relationship

with your wife or
girlfriend from
unnecessary
miscommunication as
well as arguments. In
fact, these tips can help
you in every relationship
that you have - read on.
DON'T be right all the
time
There's nothing more
frustrating in a
relationship than a
person who insists that
they are always right.
No one is right all of the
time, and it's time that
you realized that. It
takes a much stronger
person to admit that
they were wrong than
it is for someone to not
admit that they may
have made a mistake.
Don't be the know it all.
DON'T refuse to
apologize
You will have something
that you need to
apologize for at some
point, even if you don't
think that it's a big deal.
When you allow your
partner to hear that
you are sorry about
something, you allow
them to see that you
are willing to move past
something in order to
have a healthier
relationship. And even if
you don't think that you
are wrong, apologizing
is a great way to start
fixing the situation
instead of making it
worse.
DON'T know the other
person better than they
know themselves
If you've ever been in a
fight or a discussion
when another person
has claimed to know
what you want, doesn't
that feel upsetting? You
want to avoid doggedly
trying to prove that you
know more about the
other person than they
do - because that just
isn't the case. Take the
time to consider their
feelings and thoughts
when they tell them to
you. To not let them
have a say is to make
the conversation one
sided.
DON'T assume anything
When you start to
assume something, you
start to chip away at
the truth. IF you want
to know about
something, the other
person is going to have
to tell you what you
need to know.
Assuming that
someone feels a certain
way or that they want
you to do a certain thing
is only going to set you
up for possible
problems. Assuming is
really just guessing.
DON'T rub it in
If you do find out that
you are right about
something, you don't
want to constantly rub
the fact in long after
the discussion is over.
Your relationship isn't
about someone being
right; it's about the two
of you being happy. If
you're right, you're right,
but then you need to
move on. Your partner
will not appreciate being
reminded that they
were wrong.
DON'T put your
priorities first
While you both want to
have your needs and
wants addressed,
when you try to focus
more on your own
needs than your
partner's needs, you will
be seen as selfish and
uncaring. A relationship
means that you are
putting someone else's
needs before your own,
and in doing so, allowing
your needs to be
fulfilled as well. Seek
out their needs to see
how you can
compromise to make
both of you happy.
DON'T interrupt them
When you're trying to
make a point, you might
feel that your words
are more important
than theirs, but this is
not helpful. If you are
interrupting what
someone else is saying
all the time, two things
happen: one, you're not
hearing what they are
saying, and two, you
are showing that your
opinions are more
important than theirs.
Instead, stop yourself
and make a mental
note to bring up your
point when they are
finished.
DON'T make promises
you can't keep
You aren't going to be
perfect, but when
someone is counting on
you to help maintain a
good relationship; you
need to be able to hold
up your part of the
bargain. This means
that you need to be
able to make promises
that you can keep. And
when you do make a
promise to someone,
they need to be able to
expect that you will
follow through - every
time. If you can't make
a promise, then let
them know that you
will try your hardest,
but that you can not
promise it. This allows
them to have realistic
expectations of you.
No relationship is
perfect, but there are
plenty of ways that
you can keep it from
becoming unhealthy.

Hidden facts you need to know about the composition of perfumes and how it is being made

2011-11-18T21:09:00.001+01:00

Perfume (Latin "per
fume" meaning
"through smoke") was
highly favored by the
Egyptians, Romans, and
Arabs. In East Asia,
perfumes were incense
based. People used to
make perfumes from
spices and herbs like
bergamot, myrtle,
coriander, conifer resin,
and almond. The use of
flowers came only after
Avicenna, an Iranian
doctor and chemist
showed the process of
distillation, whereby oils
could be extracted from
flowers. In 1370, at the
behest of Queen
Elizabeth of Hungary,
the world's first
modern perfume -
"Hungary Water" was
made by blending
scented oils in alcohol
solution.
The composition of a
perfume is of vital
significance and is
handled by an expert
known as a perfumer,
who deals with primary
scents like rose,
jasmine, cola, etc;
modifiers like esters;
blenders like linalool and
hydroxycitronellol; and
fixatives like resins,
wood scents, and
amber bases. The
resulting scent is
explained in a musical
metaphor of three
'notes', namely, top
notes (consisting of
fast evaporating small
size molecules) like
citrus and ginger
scents; middle notes
(consisting of slow
evaporating medium
size molecules) like
lavender and rose
scents; and base notes
(consisting of slowest
evaporating largest size
molecules) like fixatives
etc. All these notes
work together like a
musical chord.
Perfume oils contain
volatile compounds in
high concentrations and
thus have to be diluted
by solvents, so that
injury is not caused
when applied directly on
skin or clothes. The
common solvent is pure
ethanol or ethanol
mixed with water.
Fractionated coconut oil
or wax, neutral smelling
fats such as jojoba, can
also act as solvents and
dilute the perfume oil.
The perfume oil is
further mixed with
other aromatic
compounds. Generally,
the percentage of
aromatic compounds in
perfume extract is 20%
to 40%; in eau de
parfum is 10% to 30%;
in eau de toilette is 5%
to 20%; and in eau de
cologne is 2% to 5%.
The oil concentration in
a perfume along with
other aromatic
compounds, determines
the intensity, longevity,
and price of the
perfume and thus it is a
closely guarded secret
of every perfumer and
perfume house. By
adjusting the
percentage level and
the notes of the
perfume, variations on
the same brand may be
created like Chanel's
Pour Monsieur and Pour
Monsieur Concentree.
Classification of
perfumes is never
complete, due to its
ever-evolving nature.
The traditional
classification comprises
of categories like Single
Floral, Floral Bouquet,
Ambery, Woody,
Leather, Chypre, and
Fougere; while the
modern classification
comprises of Bright
Floral, Green, Oceanic/
Ozone, Citrus/Fruity,
and Gourmand. In 1983,
Michael Edwards, a
perfume consultant,
created a new
fragrance classification
"The Fragrance Wheel",
which classified and
sub-grouped five
standard families,
namely Floral (Floral,
Soft Floral, Floral
Oriental), Oriental (Soft
Oriental, Oriental,
Woody Oriental), Woody
(Wood, Mossy Woods,
Dry Woods), Fougere
(has fragrance
elements from all the
families), and Fresh
(Citrus, Green, Water).
Perfumery has used a
number of aromatic
sources like plants,
animals, and synthetic
sources in the making
of perfumes. Plants are
used as a source of
aroma compounds and
essential oils. The parts
of plants that are used
are:
1 - Bark (cinnamon,
cascarilla);
2 - Flowers (rose,
jasmine, osmanthus,
tuberose, mimosa,
vanilla);
3 - Blossoms (citrus,
ylang-ylang, clove);
4 - Fruits (apples,
strawberries, cherries,
litsea cubeba, juniper
berry, vanilla, oranges,
lemons, limes,
grapefruit);
5 - Leaves and Twigs
(lavender, patchouli,
citrus, violets, sage,
rosemary, hay,
tomato);
6 - Resins (labdanum,
myrrh, gum benzoin,
Peru balsam,
frankincense/olibanum,
pine, fir, amber, copal);
7 - Roots, Bulbs, and
Rhizomes (vetiver
roots, ginger and iris
rhizomes);
8 - Seeds (coriander,
cocoa, mace,
cardamom, anise,
nutmeg, caraway,
tonka bean);
9 - Woods (agarwood,
birch, rosewood,
sandalwood, pine, birch,
juniper, cedar).

How to stop excessive and non-stop thinking totally

2011-11-18T20:22:00.000+01:00

Are you aware that
your mind is always
occupied with
thoughts? Are you
aware that thoughts
constantly demand your
attention, dictate your
behavior and reactions?
Do you sometimes feel
that your mind is going
to explode from
nonstop thinking? Can
you focus your
attention on what you
are doing at any
moment, or are you
constantly distracted
by all kinds of thoughts,
negative thinking or
negative expectations?
You need to learn to
overcome your nonstop
thinking in order to gain
control over your
attention.
Do you sometimes wish
your mind could just
stop thinking for a little
while, and let you enjoy
some rest and peace?
Like an engine, it has to
rest to avoid wear and
tear. It needs some
rest from time to time,
in order to recharge
itself and your body.
The mind often looks
like a cluttered room,
with no free space and
no place to move. When
you empty your room it
will look bigger and
tidier, and it will be
more pleasant to be
there. So it is with your
mind. Remove the
clutter - the
unnecessary thoughts,
the worries and the
fears, and your life
would look happier and
brighter.
You are probably not
constantly aware of
the restlessness of
your mind, because this
became a habit and you
got accustomed to it,
yet, thoughts keep
coming and going,
occupying your mind
every moment of the
day, spending up mental
and emotional energy,
and sometimes making
your head ache.
Tension, strain and
pressure at work and
at home make the mind
even more restless, and
attract more thoughts
into it. Problems,
difficulties, fears,
worries and hurt
feelings increase even
more the mental
restlessness and lack
of inner peace, making
you more acutely aware
of the swarm of
thoughts coming into
your mind and making
you feel helpless. It is
during such times that
you desperately feel
the need for inner peace
and freedom endless
thinking.
When you need to focus
your attention, study or
meditate, you are again
confronted with
thoughts that swarm
into your mind,
disturbing and
distracting your
attention. This also
happens when you are
worried, angry or
emotionally excited. You
feel unable to stop the
flow of thoughts and
emotions that prevent
clear thinking, calmness
or self-control.
During such times you
just want to scream at
the mind to stop
thinking. You feel that
your mind has broken
any control and barriers,
and that it is working
on its own, sometimes
to your detriment. It is
like being helpless in a
rudderless boat in the
midst of the ocean, and
all you want is some
steady and safe land.
It is in times of worry,
stress, fear and strain
that inner peace of
mind is greatly desired
and appreciated.
Actually, inner peace
and freedom from
restless and incessant
thinking is a great boon
anytime and
everywhere. It makes
you happier, stronger,
more confident and
happy.
Imagine how it would
be to live your life,
work, interact with
people, read, watch TV,
travel or do anything
else, without thoughts
and worries claiming
your attention. Just
think how your
concentration would
become stronger and
your five senses
sharper! Just imagine
how your
understanding,
comprehension,
awareness and intuition
will increase!
You need mental and
emotional training, in
order to overcome
nonstop thinking and
free yourself the
compulsion, and it is a
compulsion, to think
incessantly and
involuntary, and fill your
mind with thoughts
that weaken you and
distract your attention.
You also need to
develop some degree of
inner detachment and
mastery over your
mind.
There are no short cuts
to overcoming nonstop
thinking and lack of
inner peace. The aim is
not to stunt your mind
through hypnosis or
subliminal programming,
but to gain real inner
peace, which you can
enjoy while staying
active, pursuing your
goals, and while
handling more
efficiently and
peacefully your daily
affairs of life.
Everything worth having
requires work and
effort. You cannot
become a pilot, an
Olympic champion or an
engineer by listening to
a CD, hypnotizing
yourself or saying some
magic words.
Developing inner
abilities, such as calming
down your mind, is no
different.

The medicinal and significant values of Green Tea

2011-10-11T21:26:00.002+01:00

Green tea is believed to be in use as a medicine for at least 4000 years in china. It is also believed that green tea lowers the cholesterol levels by increasing the good cholesterol and decreasing the bad cholesterol. Green tea is rich in antioxidant called epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG) .It destroys cancer cells and also inhibits the growth of cancer cells. Even though the French people consume diet rich in fat, they are less prone to heart attack than the Americans. Similarly, even though 75 percent of the Japanese are smokers, they are less affected. This is because EGCG is more ingreen tea used by
them. It acts as a protective agent against premature death from heart attack and cancer.

Green tea also destroys bacteria thus preventing tooth decay. Researchers have also found that green tea even helps dieters. The leaves of green tea can also be used for cooking. The leftover leaves can be used as manure for garden plants to grow better. The ingredient present ingreen tea is polyphenol. It is the most effective antioxidant. It is present in higher amount in green tea than in black tea.

The basic difference between green tea and other teas like oolong and black tea is that while the latter come from the leaves of camellia simens plant, green tea is processed in a different way. Green tea leaves are steamed which prevents the EGCG, a power antioxidant, from being oxidized. In contrast, black and oolong leaves are made from fermented leaves and so EGCG is converted into other compounds, which are effective in preventing and fighting various diseases.

Clinical trials indicate that green tea raises metabolic rates and speeds up fat oxidation. Green tea also raises thermo genesis (the rate at which calories are burnt) and hence increases energy expenditure. Green tea also increases endurance in exercise.

Drinking green tea has a whole lot of benefits like fighting against cancer, stabilizing diabetes, helping in weight loss, slowing the ageing process and helping digestion. Green tea also enhances immunity in our body. About four cups of green tea each day provides 300 to 400 mg of polyphenols, which help in antioxidant activity. These antioxidants help in slowing diseases. A research Institute in Tokyo found that drinkinggreen tea is the best method to prevent cancer at present. All types of cancer like stomach, lungs, breast, liver, colon and rectal can be prevented by green tea.

Green tea prevents cholesterol from being absorbed by the digestive tract. This in effect means that even if the fat is taken, the body does not absorb it.Green tea also helps in preventing unhealthy clotting. Rinsing the mouth with green tea after meals helps in fighting bacteria and thus prevents cavities. One cup of tea with each meal acts as a metabolic stimulant. This helpsin weight loss. The caffeine in the tea burns extra calories in the body and fat is digested by polyphenols. A recent study stated that EGCG found ingreen tea could help to boost one’s immune system thereby helping to prevent HIV.

And to top it all, green tea probably is the only substance in the world with so many medicinal values and without a single side effect!

How to treat and get rid of Dyslexia

2011-10-11T21:20:00.000+01:00

In the US, dyslexia afflicts about 40 million adults and children. In some cases, the condition is not easily detected until screening is conducted. Surprisingly, adults at work aren't aware they have dyslexia, and if they do, they keep it a well-guarded secret.

It is hard to figure out if the employee who's behind his job in the workplace has dyslexia. No assistance can be forthcoming until the individual undergoes screening for dyslexia. Online screening and support offered by service providers can assist dyslexic adults cope at work.

Management should provide programs to help potential dyslexics with their jobs and reach their full potential. Helping dyslexics promote positive attitude towards work reduces stress, improves work
efficiency, and fosters loyalty.

How To Explain Dyslexia

The neurological difference that affects a person's word processing ability is known as dyslexia. It's not an intellectual disability as it happens to people in various intelligence levels, including the very gifted such as Albert Einstein.

To help individuals become aware of their disorder, dyslexia screening is needed. Difficulty in spelling and reading, dismal concentration, restlessness, time management challenges, and dismal memory are a few symptoms of dyslexia.

Dyslexia have been defeated by a lot of individuals who now lead successful careers. A few examples are Thomas Edison, Pablo Picasso, Leonardo DaVinci, Tom Cruise, Whoopi Goldberg, and Jay Leno. This disability shouldn't hold back children and adults who have them.

Dyslexia's Diverse Kinds

There are various methods that are specially designed to help people overcome adult dyslexia. Adult dyslexics can conveniently and discreetly undergo online screening to determine the kind of method they require.

Dyslexia comes in two forms - developmental or acquired. Developmental dyslexia is described by a genetic abnormality in the brain area. Caused by injuries and brain trauma in birth is acquired dyslexia.

The level of dyslexia is also categorized according to the visuospatial difficulties, speech sound challenges, and correlating difficulties. Dyslexic adults can quickly figure out if they have any of these types with the presence of dyslexia screening on the Internet.

Dyslexia Treatment

Dyslexia has a cure. If a dyslexic starts to read, he is utilizing his brain differently. The fact that he has beated reading challenges shows thatdyslexia can be treated. The dyslexic brain begins to work similar to those of non-dyslexics. Overcoming one problem and addressing the next have helped plenty of adult dyslexics function at work, even if it's a lengthy process.

Over 200,000 people diagnosed of HIV/AIDS in Borno Nigeria

2011-10-11T21:11:00.000+01:00

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Following a health report that over 200,000 people in Borno State are infected with the Human Immuno Deficiency Syndrome (HIV), Acquired Immuno-deficiency Virus (AIDS), the Borno State government is to partner with the World Bank and other international health agencies on reducing the prevalence of HIV/AIDS in the state.

According to the state governor, Kashim Shettima, only 50 per cent of the carriers in the state had
access to antiretroviral drugs and treatment centres.

Shettima spoke on Wednesday in Maiduguri, while distributing antiretroviral drugs and HIV testing kits to the Ministry of Health at the Borno Medical Store on Baga Road.

He said the rising rate of the prevalence of the HIV/AIDS in the state was causing a lot of concern, as well as the rate at which it was being spread among the various groups of people.

He noted that the scourge was not respective of gender or status in claiming lives and that included children below the age of five.

On the HIV/AIDS current rate of prevalence, the Commissioner for Health, Dr Salamatu Anas-Kolo, said in 2008 that the rate was 4.8 per cent but rose to 5.4 in 2010, stating that the increase was, however, higher and above the national average prevalence rate of less than four per cent.

She said because of the rising prevalence rate, the total number of HIV/AIDS carriers in Borno State had risen to 222,000, stating that out of this, only 50 per cent or 111,000, had access to antiretroviral drugs, treatment and counselling.

According to Dr Salamatu, the none payment of counterpart funding on the control and treatment of HIV/AIDS by the immediate-past administration of Senator Ali Sheriff, had led to a rapid spread of the virus among the people.

Types and the significance of Sex Lubricants unveiled

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The very nature of sex requires two bodies to meet in a potentially friction restricted way. This is where sex lubricants are used to reduce friction and enhance pleasure.

What are Sex Lubricants

Sex lubricants, sometimes referred to as personal lubricants are specially designed lubricants for use during sexual activities. In a similar manner to conventional lubricants sex lubricants are designed to eliminate friction between two surfaces. All modern sex lubricants have evolved from surgical lubricants such as KY Cream that were widely used during vaginal or anal examinations to facilitate access for the surgeon and reduce discomfort for the patient. Although designed primarily as a surgical lubricant KY quickly became recognized as a great lubricant when engaging in sexual practices. In recent years a number of companies developed and marketed a range of products specifically designed to be used as sex lubricants.

Water Based Sex Lubricants

Water based lubricants are water soluble and are generally considered to be the type that is least likely to lead to skin irritation. Early water based lubes were cellulose based products but further developments has seen the addition of various agent to improve theLubricants performance. These agents improve spreading properties and resistance to contamination.
One problem with earlier water based lubricants was their tendency to dry up during use, fortunately adding a small amount of water reactivates them. More advanced products contain dimethicone that prolongs the lubricating properties and reduces drying up.

Please note that water based lubricants are not compatible with sex practices that occur in water, as such if you enjoy sex in the bath these products are not right for you.

Oil Based Sex Lubricants

Oil based lubricants aren't widely used nowadays due to a number of problems. Unlike water based lubricants oil products weaken latex and can subsequently weaken latex condoms. Additionally oil based lubricants have a tendency to coat and stick to surfaces for prolonged periods providing a breeding ground for bacteria that can later lead to infection. As such it isgenerally accepted that oil based lubricants are not safe for vaginal sex and should only be used for anal sex where it is known that both parties are free from STD's.

To conclude oil based products such as Vaseline and baby oil may be easily available and relative cheap but the associated medical risks far outweigh any financial benefit.

Silicone Based Lubricants

The hydrophobic nature of silicone base lubricants technically makes them oil based. However most have been specially designed to be chemicallycompatible with latex condoms. The advantage of silicone sex lubricants is that they remain slippery for longer periods, the disadvantage however is that they cannot be used with silicone sex toys.

Uses of Sex Lubricants

Whilst historically medical lubricants such as Ky Jelly were used to assist during medical procedures such as gynaecological and rectalexaminations modern sex lubricants are specifically designed to increase pleasure of sexual practices. The lubricants can be applied to either the penis or sex toys to aid penetration during vaginal intercourse. Particularly applicable to women that experience vaginal dryness or contraction.Lubricants are also used to increase the pleasure of anal sex, simplifying entry and increasing pleasure for both parties.

How to start conversation with body languages

2011-10-10T17:55:00.000+01:00

Using body language to enhance how you start a conversation can lead to great conversation. You do not have to say much just a look or a movement can speak volumes for you.
This is especially useful in situations where you can not seem to get a word in or where you are unsure of how to start a conversation.
Body language is a way to communicate without putting yourself at risk of saying something wrong. You probably already use body language, but do not even notice it. The following list shows the main points of
body language that you should be aware of whenever you wonder how to start a conversation.

1. Eye use:

People say that they can learn all about a person through their eyes. It is probably the most used part of the body to communicate next to the mouth.

Your eyes can say many things, from rolling them to winking, you can display many messages with just your eyes. Sometimes you may unaware of what your eyes are saying.

Be careful to not let your eyes say you are bored or not interested in a conversation. You should maintain good eye contact to let others know you are listening.

2. Body moves:

Everyone has said hello with a wave of the hand or shown a lack of patience with a tap of the foot or nodded in agreement.

Your hands, arms, feet and head can speak for in many cases. Crossing the arms, tapping the foot rapidly or putting your hands on your hips can all say things that might not be too good.

On the other hand, clapping, tapping your foot to music or extending a hand shake can say great things. Always be aware of what your body is saying.

3. Facial expressions:

Smiling can say more than words sometimes. You should be aware of your facial expressions at all times. You may frown and be unaware of it.

Facial expressions can often be misinterpreted. A serious look of concentration may be seen as disapproval. Just make sure you are using the rest ofyour body to speak as well and your facial expressions should come across clearly.

Your eyes, body and face can carry on a whole conversation for you. You can speak volumes with a simple movement. You can use body language to convey a message you may not otherwise want to vocalize.

Knowing how to end or start a conversation with body language can come in handy if you do not have time to carry on a conversation, but would like to acknowledge someone.

Body language can also share a feeling with someone so only the two of you know. Make sure your body language is saying what you want it to.

Hidden facts you don't know about your vagina unveiled here

2011-10-10T13:14:00.001+01:00

Sure, your vagina has been with you your entire life, but how much do you actually know about it? Whether you've been too shy to ask or don't know where to look for information, chances are there are plenty of things that you've wondered about the area "down there." From what to expect after childbirth to normal sexual functions, read on to find out surprising facts you may not know about your lady parts.
1. It cleans itself.
Step away from the soap and harsh cleansers, gals. Your vagina keeps itself clean. “It’s lined by a variety of glands that produce the fluids needed to both lubricate and cleanse the vaginal area,” says Lisa Stern, APRN, a nurse practitioner who works with Planned Parenthood in Los Angeles. “The vast majority of vaginal infections I see in my office are self-induced—generally by women who think they’re doing a good thing by washing their vagina with soap and water, or worse, with douche.” Bath products, particularly those with chemical dyes or fragrances, canirritate the vagina and wash away the beneficial lubricants and flora (bacteria and yeast) that are normal and natural, she says. When these beneficial compounds get washed away, anaerobic bacteria and yeast proliferate and can cause symptoms like discharge, odor anditching. Lesson learned: While a little mild soap on the labia area is OK, your body does a fine job of keeping the insides clean.
2. It grows in size when aroused.
“The average length ofa vagina is 3 to 4 inches long,” says LissaRankin, MD, gynecologist and author of What's Up Down There? Questions You'd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend. Sounds sort of small, and possibly unaccommodating to your well-endowed husband or partner, right? Fear not, nature makes room. “It can double in length when aroused,” Dr. Rankin explains. But she adds that many women still have pain during sex when their partner is on the larger side. She recommends using plenty of lubricant and going slow. “Encourage your partner to have fun with foreplay,” shesays. “The more aroused you feel, the less intercourse will hurt.”
3. Just like your face, your vagina also wrinkles with age.
It’s a fact of life: The appearance of your lady parts may change with age. “The labia may become less plump as estrogen levels wane, fatty pads in the labia shrink and less collagen can lead to more sagging,” says Dr. Rankin. “The skin of the vulva may darken or lighten and the clitoris may shrink. It’s normal either way.” Scary? Nah. “These changes, whichare often related to decreasing levels of estrogen, do not affect how much pleasure your girl parts can bring you.”
4. You can’t lose something in your vagina (like a tampon).
Everyone’s heard the myth that things can get “lost” in there. “The vagina is boundedat the inner end by the cervix and by the vagina’s own tissue,” says Stern. In other words, your vagina is not connected to another area of your body so don’t worry about anything going missing! However, “Sometimes a tampon can get lodged deep inside the vagina, like ifit’s accidentally left in place during intercourse. If this happens, your healthcare provider should be able to remove it easily with a speculum and forceps,”she says.
5. Some women ejaculate with orgasm.
“It definitely happens, and it’s not uncommon,” says Dr. Rankin. “It seems to bea learned skill and happens more commonly as women get older and learn howtheir bodies work.” So how does it happen? “There are glands around the urethra—the tube between the bladder and the outside world—that probably secrete fluid, particularly when the anterior wall of the vagina (a.k.a. the G Spot) is stimulated." Beverly Whipple, PhD, RN, a sexuality researcher and professor at Rutgers College of Nursing, describes this area as “‘the female prostate,’ a collection of glands, blood vessels, nerves and spongy tissue that, when stimulated,seem to create fluid in some women.”
6. Your vagina may change dramaticallyafter childbirth.
“Post-childbirth the vagina doesn’t so much look different as it feels different,” says Dr. Rankin. “As a gynecologist, I can almost always tell if a woman has delivered vaginally or not. I need a larger speculum for a woman who has had two kids than for a childless woman. But from the outside, you can’t tell unless a woman has torn duringchildbirth, in which caseshe may have a faint scar at the site of her tear or episiotomy.

Real reasons why you need to laugh

2011-10-07T09:13:00.000+01:00

1. It is impossible to worry while you're laughing.

2. Humor cuts stress levels in half.

3. Laughing helps you to stay happy and healthy and helps you return to good health when ill.

4. Laughter increases, by 20%, the activity of killer cells within the body which serve to destroy viruses and tumor cells.

5. Train yourself to look for the comedy in your chaos.

6. A sense of humor is the number one survival skill.

7. George Bernard Shaw once said, "When you find something funny search it for hidden truth."

8. "The art of medicine consists of amusing the patient while nature cures the disease." Voltaire

9. Humor helps us cope, conquer, and carry on.

10. A good laugh is not only the result of humor, it is often also the cause.

11. The body heals with play, the mind heals with laughter and the spirit heals with joy.

12. The best exercise is jumping for joy.

13. "Joy is the serious business of heaven." C.S. Lewis

14. We begin to solve our problems when we begin to see the humor in them.

15. "Time spent laughing is time spent with the gods." Japanese proverb

16. When we feel like laughing the least , we need it most.

17. If it feels good to laugh, then laugh to feel good.

18. A sense of humor is not inherited, it is learned.

Different types of Relationships

2011-10-07T09:10:00.000+01:00

There are many different types of relationships. Relationships affect our lives in many different ways every day.

Romantic Relationships

Romantic relationships are the type that people most often think of when they think about relationships. Boyfriends, girlfriends and spouses make up the many types of romantic relationships. These relationships involve lots of hormones and emotions and can often end badly if the relationship does not work out. They can be very stressful as one person tries to please the other but they can be very fulfilling as people are filled
with love for each other. A romantic relationship can make you feel very complete.

Friendly Relationships

Friendly relationships may include those between our friends, peers, fellow workers, and other acquaintances. These relationships are a very important aspect of your life even if you do not realize it. The company you keep say something about you and the people you are around every day have an impact on the type of person you are and how you feel about thins. These can be very important relationships. Some people depend on these friendly relationships more than others but we are all affected by them in some way.

Family Relationships

Family relationships are those that involve people related to you. This can be the people who live in your household and your immediately family and also your distant relatives. There are bonds between a mother and her children and between a father and children and between siblings. There are some relationships between cousins and aunts and uncles and grandparents and all distant family members. These family relationships can also have a big impact on who you are as a person. Some people are very close with many members of their family. Some people have weaker family relationships and this can affect them in different ways.

Keeping the romance level intact in your family

2011-10-04T19:50:00.002+01:00

Are you married or do you currently live with you partner? For many couples, marriage or cohabitation, often spells trouble for many relationships. While there are a number of different reasons for the cause of this common issue, it's often attributed to a lack of romance. To help you keep your relationship with your live-in partner or your husband going strong, it is important to keep the romance in your relationship alive.

As nice as it's to hear that you should keep the romance alive in your relationship, you possibly wondering exactly how you should go just about doing so. When creating romance in your relationship, it's important to know that not all couples are the same. For that reason, you may want to keep your partner’s wants, needs,
or interests in mind. This is another key to having a happy and healthy relationship, compromise.

One of the best ways to keep romance alive in a relationship is actually quite simple concept. That concept is affection. Unfortunately, manycouples put on a groove where they just become comfortable with their daily life. This often leads many couples not to hold hands anymore, kiss, or even discuss their day. It's important that you do not let your relationship progress to this point, as it often spells trouble. As often as possible, you'll want to express your love and appreciation for your live-in partner or spouse, both in action and in words.

It's also important to go out of your house. As with showing affection, many couples, after a period of time, stop getting out on dates. Whenever you get a free evening, you may want to consider going along a date. What is nice about dates is that just close to any activity can be considered a date. For instance, you can go away to dinner, see a movie, or go have a couple of drinks at a local bar. All of these activities can be considered as a date. Social interaction, both with one another and with othercouples, is important to the health of a relationship. For that reason, you and your partner should get around and socialize.

As previously stated, a relationship is all about compromise. Compromise is also aside to keep the romance alive in your relationship. As compatible as you and you partner or spouse may be, you may still have a few differences. Often, these differences show on date nights. When it comes to keeping a date or just doing a simple activity with your partner, it's advised that you comprise as often as possible. This may include having alternate date nights. For case, if your husband wanted to attend a baseball game, you can agree to do so, as long as he agrees to go the movies with you next time.

As outlined above, there are a number of different ways that you can approach keeping the romance alive in your relationship. As difficult as love and romance may seem, it's important that you put forth the extra effort. Not feeling enough support is an issue that the two of you can resolve, but divorce may not be. That's why it's important to not let it begin to that point.

The Art of making love to your spouse

2011-10-04T19:49:00.000+01:00

We all like to think we're good lovers, but in reality, most of us know there's room for improvement. After all, how we enjoy sex is integral to the quality of any committed romantic relationship. It's the thing that puts that twinkle in your eye when you look at each other the next day, because you both know you've shared something special together.

Some people are embarrassed to talk about lovemaking, especially with their partners. How the man or the woman views this experience, is often programmed into them from an early age by the perceptions of a parent
or caregiver and confirmed through life' experiences. But like anything in life, if you want to achieve enjoyment and fulfilment from it, you must be prepared to talk about it.

Like any other art, you need to practice the art of lovemaking in order to become really good at it. In this regard, men and women have different perceptions of what being a "good lover" ia all about. If you ask a man, he will focus on technique and results, such as "she had multiple orgasms". But if you ask a woman, she will remember the setting and atmosphere leading up to the lovemaking. So if we want the most memorable lovemaking experience, we need to take both the above into account. The secret is to become creative. Music, smells, lighting and colours all combine to produce the most sensually arousing setting for the most memorable lovemaking.

The art of lovemaking is about intimacy and this comes from openness and trust. It is so important to communicate with each other. When you feel a heart-to-heart connection with your partner, your lovemaking can be pure ecstacy. So we have to learn to be honest and let your partner know exactly how you feel.

We cannot overemphasise the importance of foreplay in the art of lovemaking. Sometimes we can be so focussed on reaching orgasm that we forget to simply enjoy the pleasure of lovemaking. Instead, we only experience frustration. This is especially likely when lovemaking no longer seems like an adventure of doing something different together. It becomes routine. But can you imagine having sensual foreplay without actually having sex?

Men need to realize that woman want to be loved all over. You need to taste each other, touch each other, see each other, smell each other, hear each other. These are the five senses and if we use them all, it will not only draw you closer, you will also want each other more, leading to an explosive climax.

Then there are the "errogenous zones" - those pleasure zones in numerous parts of our bodies. Why does a woman sigh when a man whispers into his girlfriend's ear? The truth is, most men, as well as women, can become aroused when their partner pays attention to certainspecial spots beyond the genitalia. The key to foreplay lies in the stimulation of the major and minor errogenous zones.

How couples can communicate effectively!!!

2011-10-04T19:38:00.000+01:00

Just because someone is listening to me, I don't assume that they got the communication that I sent. Neither should you.
So after I say something, I have created the habit of asking my listener what s/he heard from me. I also like to check in on my own perceptions about what I've heard from someone.
Rather than assuming that my perceptions about what other people mean when they say something are accurate, I've gotten into the practice of asking if what I heard was what they meant to communicate to me.

Here's one great example:
I had assumed for a while that when my lover didn't ask for my support (because I certainly ask for his) that it was because he didn't think I had anything to give him. I was really upset about this story I was telling myself and it was affecting how I related to him. I found that I resented asking for his support, and did everything in my power to avoid it. I felt awful because it thwarted my natural inclination to ask. But he wouldn't ask me… It was a viscous circle.

When I finally checked in and asked "I've had the feeling that you don't ask me for help because you don't think I have anything to offer you. Is that accurate with what is happening for you?" He laughed. "Absolutely not," he said. "I just can't seem to ask. It's my issue. I really value your help," he said.

Lately we've been working with asking each other what we RECEIVE in our communications and it's fascinating how much of what is SENT is altered by way of how we hear things. He could say "I don't want to talk about it," and I will hear "You don't want to talk to me." We then have an opportunity to clarify and better understand how each of us uses language.

If you use the words "sense," "feel" or "intuit," you let your partner know "Look, this is a perception."

No one wants to be TOLD how he or she is." I sense you're angry," is an opening. "You're angry," is a dead end. Then simply ask, "Is that accurate?" "Does that resonate with you?" "Is that what's going on for you?"

It feels great to have someone care enough to really get it right and to be able to reflect your communication back to you with accuracy.

Perception Checking:
Ask who you're talking to reflect back to you what s/he heard. If what you had hoped to send and what they received are different, you've got a place to start from to clear up any misconceptions and get yourselves both "on the same page."
After someone says something to you, reflect back to him or her what you've heard. Discover if it matches. If it doesn't it gives you both the chance to make sure that the message that's being sent is the one you're getting.

Live as if your soulmate is coming to your life

2011-10-04T19:15:00.000+01:00

The Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those people, events and experiences that match your state of being. If you focus on having gratitude for the love, companionship and joy you have in your life right NOW, you will attract more of that into your life. If you focus on what you don’t have, you will send out a message of lack and you will attract more lack into your life.

In the movie conversations with God, the character Neale says to God, I just want my life back. And God says to Neale, You can’t have anything that you want. They then have an entire dialogue where God explains to Neale that by ‘wanting something (or someone)’ all you get to have is the experience, the feeling of ‘wanting.’

As part of the preparation to manifest your soul mate I suggest that you begin the process of “living as if.” This means that your daily actions become congruent with your beliefs. For instance, I once heard a story about the great actress Della Reese. During the time she was waiting for hersoul mate to arrive, she would set a place at the table for him each time she had a meal. Eventually, he arrived. Della had sent a clear message to the Universe and the Universe delivered.

Next time you are shopping for greeting cards, begin to buy some that express your love and joy for your beloved knowing that someday you will give them to him or her. Are there things for your home you are waiting to buy (or hoping that you will someday get as wedding gifts)? Buy them now! Imagine that you have been selected to host a King or Queen. What would you need to do to prepare your home? New sheets? Towels? Dishes? Plant a garden? Clear the clutter? You’ll know when you really, really believe yoursoul mate is on the way because creating the space for them in all areas of your life will become a priority.

The period of time when you are waiting for your soul mate to arrive offers an important opportunity for self-reflection. Consider this: If your soul mate had the ability to see your life right now, would you (and they) be happy with what they were observing? Are there things you would change once they arrive? Begin to live your life today AS IF they are already here. This may mean that you give up casual sex with your ex-lover or neighbor.

Remember, the process of attracting your soul mate is one of magnetism. When you make the choice to live as if your soul mate is already a part of your life, you send out an irresistible signal to the Universe that you are ready now. (As opposed to sending the signal that you’ll be ready someday – when you work less and your house is clean and you’ve lost ten pounds). Remember the famous line in the 1989 movie, Field of Dreams .starring Kevin Costner? “If you build it, they will come.” Living “as if “ is like flipping on a light switch inside your heart. This is the light your beloved will use to navigate his or her way to your door.

Woman left with 'uniboob' after botched surgery leaves her breasts joined together

2011-09-28T10:55:00.001+01:00

A 40 year old woman has gone public with her 'botched' breast enhancement operation in a bid to warn other women about the dangers of using an unqualified plastic surgeons.
Dinora Rodriguez, from Los Angeles, California, was left with a 'uniboob' after her breasts were conjoined by skin.
She also had a nip-tuck operation on her eyelids that has meant she is unable to close them.
Mrs Rodriguez is featured in a new advertising campaign being mounted by theAmerican Board of Plastic Surgery in an attempt to warn people about the dangers of using unqualified surgeons.
The ASPS want to warn people considering surgery tobe on their guard against what they call'white coat deception'.
A spokesman for the ABPS explained: 'Just because they have a white coat doesn't mean they are qualified to perform plastic surgery.'
Mrs Rodriguez said she discovered this the hard way after visiting a doctor to have her breast implants replaced.
Her surgeon had cut across the two separate 'pockets' that normally hold breast tissue which meant the implants were able to touch in the middle creating the look of a single breast, or 'uniboob'.
The female surgeon also cut through nerves and muscle, leaving her with shooting pains in her ribs.
Mrs Rodriguez revealed that the surgeon also carried out corrective surgeryon her eyes - even though she did not request any.
The operation has left her unable to close her eyes and surgeons said no corrective surgery willbe able to repair the damage.
Mrs Rodriguez must take medication for the rest of her life to keep her eyes moist.
She said: 'It was a terrible experience waking up from surgery and seeing that this had happened.
'I didn't know to check my doctor's qualifications and I regret it.'
A new surgeon, Dr Steven Teitelbaum, has since carried out corrective surgery on Mrs Rodriguez's breasts.
She was able to pay for the new operationwith a settlement after suing her previous surgeon for malpractice.
An advert featuring Mrs Rodriguez was unveiled at the annualconference of the ABPS in Denver, Colorado.
The group hope it will warn women and men to check on the credentials of their doctors before going ahead with operations.
It is currently legal in 48 states for doctors who are not certified by the board of plastic surgeons to practice cosmetic and plastic surgery.
Malcolm Z Roth, ASPS President, explained: 'Patients are getting injured, some are dying during procedures performedby non-board-certifiedplastic surgeons.
'We want patients to understand what to ask their doctor and what to look for so that they can maximize their chanceof a safe and successful procedure.
'There is a misconception among consumers that as long as a doctor is certified in a medical field that he or she is qualified to practice plastic surgery. This isabsolutely wrong and it is dangerous for patients.
'If you are consideringa plastic surgery procedure it is critical that your doctor is a member of the American Society of Plastic Surgeons. This is the best way to be certain that he or she has completed the necessary training and meets certain standards to practice plastic surgery.'
Latest figures from the ABPS show that 1.6m procedures werecarried out in 2010.
They included over 300,000 breast augmentation, 289,000 liposuction and 138,000 breast reduction.
Other procedures included 152,000 eye surgery and 145,000 Abdominoplasty.

The different wedding traditions of the world

2011-09-27T19:05:00.000+01:00

Wedding traditions vary significantly from one tradition to another and from one religion to another. Couples who don’t practice the religion want a holy or cultural wedding.

Here are few wedding traditions from different cultures. If you like any of these wedding traditions that has meaning for you, adapt it freely for celebrating your wedding, without thinking about the culture from which it came.

1. Chinese wedding traditions

In Chinese wedding traditions, couples drink goblets of wine and honey. The bride eats jujubes, a date
like fruit in order to raise the possibility of having a boy in the future.

2. African-American wedding traditions

Most of the couples from this tradition want to select traditional east African wedding ceremonies, but most have an American wedding. More couples incorporate the ‘jumping the broom’ practice into their weddings.

This custom is invented during the period of slavery when slaves are forbidden to marry. This is a way to express their commitment to one another. In African culture, they use brooms to remove evil from their homes and families. Some others think that this custom is a way to reject the evil that prohibits their union.

3. Jewish wedding traditions

These weddings are filled with tradition, beauty and ritual. Traditions greatly vary between Ashkenazi Jews and Sephardi Jews. Weddings should adhere more strictly to religious traditions if it is a traditional or conservative synagogue when compared to Reform or Reconstructionist synagogue.

Orthodox groom veil the bride in the ceremony prior to the actual wedding. Then groom signs a contract. It is a beautifully decorated document which consists of the promises that groom makes for the bride. The couple should cover their heads. Wedding is usually held in a canopy. After saying the vow, groom puts a gold band to bride’s finger.

4. Native American wedding traditions

There are various American tribes, whereas some wedding traditions are shared by several tribes. Some of these wedding traditions include:

• Northern California wedding traditions: There are two traditions in Northern California Native Americans. They include half marriage and full marriage. In half marriage, man pays half the usual price for the bride. He needs to live in bride’s home under her father’s authority. In full marriage, the man pays the total price of the bride. With his father’s help, he pays for the bride’s family. The future social status of the family and children depends on this price only.

• Delaware traditions: The girl in this tradition who reached puberty may have a union prearranged by their parents. The couple lives together as man and wife. During the occasion, man gives jewelry, blankets or a belt of wampum to bride’s parents. If the parents accept those gifts, then they approve their relation.

• Hopi tradition: In this tradition, either the male or female propose for the relation by presenting food gifts. Marriages are not permitted in this culture.

Three signs of a bad online dating website

2011-09-20T11:12:00.000+01:00

It’s no longer a wonder how people halfway across the world from each other end up in a happy marriage with happy kids. Technology has made this possible, and it is no longer such a surprise to hear how everything can happen so fast and easy. Back in those days when men and women searching for love across the miles had to write snail mails to each other, it took a lot of time for their next letters to arrive – not a good environment for love to blossom. Today, just some typing and clicking on a computer hooked to the Internet is all it takes for love to find its way through the distance, thanks to online dating sites.
Indeed, the technology behind online dating sites is simple, but fact remains that there are many unscrupulous elements online, and that makes these sites not completely harmless. Just as there are
many legitimate dating sites out there, there are also as many dating scams perpetrated by people whose only concern is to dupe other people who come to them with sincere intentions.
1. Disorganization
A legitimate site is always carefully planned and set up. If you think that information on a particular site you’ve encountered is not organized and has messy-looking and non-functional webpages, there’s a good chance you’re better off moving on to your next option. A good site will be run by a team of professionals dedicated to keeping it nice and working properly. Anything that resembles crap in appearance and function is crap.
2. Poor Customer Service
Just as a legitimate site will always look neat and function properly, it will offer reliable customer service that allows for prompt responses and provides real solutions to problems. If you’re on a dating site where you have to wait five or six days for your profile to appear, you’re probably dealing with cons. If the site promises 24/7 chat services but couldn’t give you a quick response to a simple question about editing your personal details, that is just another sign of a scam.
3. Few Participants
The third main indicator of a online dating site you’d like to forget is unpopularity. If you see a very low member count, you can guess there were probably more people who used to be members but have opted out upon learning about the site’s true intentions, or more of those who simply knew, just by the looks of it, that the site was a scam. Remember what makes legitimate sites successful – honest and efficient service. Anything that offers less than that is something you should skip.
If you are considering finding a mate through online dating, go ahead and let the power of technology work its magic on your lovelife. It’s all in your hands and all you have to do is use this power to your advantage. Love is always worth finding, even online, but do consider these top three signs to avoid wasting your time, energy and, yes, money.

Tips for a healthy love life

2011-09-20T11:05:00.001+01:00

Do you want to know tips on how to maintain a healthy love life in your marriage? Of course you want, who does not? The only reasons you would not care are your marriage is as strong as ever or ending up in divorce.

Let’s assume that you love your spouse and living a healthy love relationship as your main priority.

Firstly, you need to consider your feelings of attraction and desire for your partner at first, treating your every moment of your time together as is your last.

At times, your photos, movies, TV dramas and even songs played at that very moment or of lyrics relevant to your current situation can bring back those memories subconsciously.

Secondly, you need to focus on things that you can control. You cannot change others. Not even your spouse. But you can change yourself. However to do that, you need to let go of your pride, ego and be humble in order to accept your spouse the way he or she is. It is not easy but necessary to keep your marriage going.

Thirdly, you should learn how to express yourself in healthy ways. Healthy ways as in making sure that you remain calm even when things are not going well for any reason. Many times, we all tend to express anger and frustration hoping others can sense our confusion and hurt but only succeed in hurting others.

Fourthly, be thankful to your spouse for what he or she has done for you. People like to feel appreciated and valued for who they are. By doing that, chances of maintaining your love will be much higher.

Finally, you are accountable for your current situation. No one is responsible for your plight. Not even your spouse. You can blame yourself for your faults but you cannot blame yourself by thinking you are useless and harbouring thoughts of suicide. Always remember that being responsible and having inferiority complex are two different issues which will have different impact on your future.

After reading everything I laid out for you, you should make it your routine to apply them everything everyday. Only then can you achieve a healthy love life in your marriage.

Best ways to express birthday wishes

2011-09-20T11:01:00.000+01:00

Birthday is the best day of the year for a particular person. It is a day of celebration, fun and enjoyment. Friends, relatives, everybody throng your place so as to wish you and give their birthday greetings. This expression of greet and smiles all around rejoice this special day. The birthday girl or boy is so glad about the fact that there are some people who is concerned about him/her and is very much part of his/her life.
Some nice birthday greetings can make this joyous occasion more memorable by making the person feel more special. Although, it is seen as a common tendency amongst masses that they face difficulty
while writing a birthday wish. They become short of good words out of hesitation or any other reason. The simple solution to this problem is just writing all the true feelings that come straight from your heart. Majority of the birthday greetings include description of all beautiful memories spent with that person, heart-felt emotions etc. Such words truly express the importance of that person in your life.
Birthday greetings are generally expressed with the help of gifts or cards. A very unique birthday card with a birthday greeting on it can bring smile on the face of birthday boy or girl. In case, if you are unable to attend someone’s birthday, sending a very cute card can compensate your absence. Cards are generally given in combination with flowers. These pieces of paper with some beautiful words written on it can actually make a person feel more special. Nowadays, there is an increasing trend of customized gifts such as mugs, t-shirts, stationary items etc. You can personalize these items by inscribing your birthday greeting along with a photograph etc. These personalized gifts are preferred now because they are commonly used items which are part and parcel of daily life. So, if one uses a pen or wears a t-shirt with a birthday greeting inscribed on it, it makes it all the more memorable for him.
Here are a few points to be kept in mind while writing birthday greetings. The most important point is the age of a person. No funny jokes for old and mature people, whereas, for children, jokes as well as wishes for successful future ahead are used. Therefore,birthday greeting is just a formulation of few words that expresses your gratitude for someone you love and care.

An experience of a Muslim dating

2011-09-10T20:27:00.002+01:00

As a single Muslim, you may well have previously visited Muslim matrimonial web-sites in search of a Muslim Match. If Muslim dating seems challenging or even overwhelming, consider these important ideas and safe practices.
You know that Muslim courtship and “dating” are very different than so-called “Western” customs of having a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship. You understand that you can not “date” in an one-on-one relationship that one would describe as intimate. How then does aSingle Muslim, male or female, begin the process of finding a partner to marry? Muslim dating has clearly hit the internet with
Muslim marriage web-sites ready, willing and able to make a Muslim match for you, but safe and effective Muslim dating begins with honesty and follows prudent advice.
You’ve undoubtedly been advised to start by calling upon Allah, making du’a, for guidance in your search for the right individual as a spouse. This can’t be overstated for its importance to you. Prayer opens you to receive blessings. You also know that marriage protects you from sin, so that “half the faith” will be yours in this type of worship. Before you date, recognize that you are really preparing for marriage. Start with the ‘basics.’
For males, you are mature and able to provide for a wife and a family. For females, you are skillful in running a home. Your roles are far more than just these basic ones, so continue to look at your beliefs and request advice from individuals you respect and admire. Consider that you may well have beliefs that could be conflicting.
Females, your Wali not only serves to protect you, but is expected to be wise in his knowledge of marriage and to offer you sound advice. Clear, open communication between you is essential and blessed by Allah who respects your right to make the ultimate choice.
See if you’re using all of the approved methods for finding a partner. First, talk extensively with your mother and father where honesty is primary. Disclose your sincere wishes and expectations even if it is challenging to express them.
Secondly, ask your Imam, ask a scholar, ask any leader of your community whom you admire for ‘referrals.’ Next, approach your friends and their spouses. This is networking at its best because they know you well and they care deeply.
Another ‘method’ is to know you are totally allowed to consider possible partners within your own contacts: co-workers and/or fellow students to name just two. Females should take ‘advantage’ of their Wali who will gladly and responsibly meet with these prospectivepartners directly.
Also, you may consider a marriage agency after doing your due diligence. You must be able to access their respectability and safety.
Lastly, Muslim matrimonial web-sites on the internet might be the most efficient way for a Single Muslim to discover a Muslim match. Muslim principles ought to be clearly evident and not just ‘window dressing.’ Read their privacy statements and their code of conduct. Look carefully at the depth and breadth of their offerings and proceed carefully before registering. While you might meet in public with a potential partner you have met online without the woman’s Wali being present, this is not a safe idea. Let us conclude with the same emphasis we made at the beginning: make du’a to receive Allah’s guidance. Your Muslim online dating experience will be safer, more effective and successful.

What you need to know about female condoms

2011-09-10T20:18:00.000+01:00

Few days ago use of female contraception was very rare. But due to growing awareness about various kinds of STDs, women are regularly using condoms for girls and vagina condoms. The decision taken by them to utilize various female contraception measures has shown that they are also more responsible and mature.
But only using condom is not enough. Using condom in a proper and correct manner is very essential to achieve complete female contraception. There are various kinds of condoms for women available in
the market. It helps in maximizing pleasure while in same way minimizes the chances of pregnancy and contraceptive diseases. We are giving below some very simple but important tips, which will reduce the risk and also enhance the pleasure. The tips are as follows:-

One should be very careful while opening the packets. In many cases it has been seen that the users while trying to open the packet with the help of any scissor, knife or any pointed objects damage the condom for girls. Always keep in mind, never use any pointed object for opening the packet. Damaging the condom in any manner will make it completely useless. That’s why it’s always recommended to discard away those damaged condoms.
Always store the condoms in a cool and dry place. Heat and friction can drastically reduce the effectiveness of your condom. As the shape and size of the condom doesn’t change, many women are unable to find out that their condom has become ineffective. Also don’t store your condoms for a very long duration of time.
Always use the right and proper amount of condoms lubricants. Different condoms need different kinds of condoms lubricants. For e.g. Latex condoms are always used with water based lubricants. So before using any condoms lubricants find out whether it is compatible with that condom or not. Also use enough condom lubricants while using condom. Lack of lubrication can cause too much friction which can cause the condom to break during intercourse. This can also cause a lot of pain. Proper amount of lubricants while having intercourse is very necessary.
Always use a condom of the right size. Proper size of the condom is very necessary to get ultimate pleasure. For that always purchase condoms that correctly fits in your vagina. To find out your correct size refer to various sizing chart available in various websites of condom manufacturers.

Earlier many people while using various condoms used to complain about reduced sensation. They used to find these condoms to be great obstacle on their path to achieve complete satisfaction. That’s why for them various condom manufacturing companies have come up with various kind of ultra thin condoms such as lamb condoms, crown skinless skin condoms which guarantees maximum pleasure. There are also special kinds of gay condomsintroduced for particular section of the society.
Summary:-
Use of condom in a proper and correct manner is very essential to achieve complete female contraception. Many people while using various condoms used to complain about reduced sensation. They used to find these condoms to be great obstacle on their path to achieve complete satisfaction.