The Law Of Attraction

Facebook: Make sure you are smiling in your profile pic

2008-12-15T21:13:00.002-05:00

Study shows that if you are smiling in your profile pic, you probably have more friends. The study also shows that smiling is contagious.

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Working With The Law: We Control Our Destiny

2008-09-21T22:31:00.003-04:00

I started reading Working With The Law by Raymond Holliwell. In chapter one, Holliwell talks about how we are ultimately in control of our own destiny.

I believe the reason the famous English literary genius, William Shakespeare, is the leading dramatist of the world lies in this realm. The great Greek dramatists with their noted insight always saw the causes in some external fate or destiny that brought about the downfall of their characters, but Shakespeare saw something within the man as the cause of his failure or success.

"The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars but in ourselves that we are underlings."

We see Hamlet wrestling with his reluctant, indecisive soul. Macbeth is being pulled and driven by his ambition. Othello is torn and discomfited by his jealousy. Always the characters were battling with their inner selves as though the dramatist were saying: "You are the master of your circumstance; call forth your power, initiative, and ingenuity, and be the master. Fate is in your hands, determine it.

Are we really in control of our destiny? I think so. We have the ability to shape or thoughts and belief systems into any way or form. You could be sitting in traffic on your way to work and cursing to yourself about how much you hate traffic and you hate commuting or you could be thanking God for the only alone time your have with yourself and enjoy the "peace". We can't control the external factors but we can control internal factors such as how we react to external factors. A bad event is only a bad event because we label it as a bad event.

Bob Parson's 16 Rules for Success in Business & Life In General

2008-06-23T13:39:00.002-04:00

1. Get and stay out of your comfort zone.
I believe that not much happens of any significance when we're in our comfort zone. I hear people say, "But I'm concerned about security." My response to that is simple: "Security is for cadavers."

2. Never give up.
Almost nothing works the first time it's attempted. Just because what you're doing does not seem to be working, doesn't mean it won't work. It just means that it might not work the way you're doing it. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn't have an opportunity.

3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think.
There's an old Chinese saying that I just love, and I believe it is so true. It goes like this: "The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed."

4. With regard to whatever worries you, not only accept the worst thing that could happen, but make it a point to quantify what the worst thing could be.
Very seldom will the worst consequence be anywhere near as bad as a cloud of "undefined consequences." My father would tell me early on, when I was struggling and losing my shirt trying to get Parsons Technology going, "Well, Robert, if it doesn't work, they can't eat you."

5. Focus on what you want to have happen.
Remember that old saying, "As you think, so shall you be."

6. Take things a day at a time.
No matter how difficult your situation is, you can get through it if you don't look too far into the future, and focus on the present moment. You can get through anything one day at a time.

7. Always be moving forward.
Never stop investing. Never stop improving. Never stop doing something new. The moment you stop improving your organization, it starts to die. Make it your goal to be better each and every day, in some small way. Remember the Japanese concept of Kaizen. Small daily improvements eventually result in huge advantages.

8. Be quick to decide.
Remember what General George S. Patton said: "A good plan violently executed today is far and away better than a perfect plan tomorrow."

9. Measure everything of significance.
I swear this is true. Anything that is measured and watched, improves.

10. Anything that is not managed will deteriorate.
If you want to uncover problems you don't know about, take a few moments and look closely at the areas you haven't examined for a while. I guarantee you problems will be there.

11. Pay attention to your competitors, but pay more attention to what you’re doing.
When you look at your competitors, remember that everything looks perfect at a distance. Even the planet Earth, if you get far enough into space, looks like a peaceful place.

12. Never let anybody push you around.
In our society, with our laws and even playing field, you have just as much right to what you're doing as anyone else, provided that what you're doing is legal.

13. Never expect life to be fair.
Life isn't fair. You make your own breaks. You'll be doing good if the only meaning fair has to you, is something that you pay when you get on a bus (i.e., fare).

14. Solve your own problems.
You'll find that by coming up with your own solutions, you'll develop a competitive edge. Masura Ibuka, the co-founder of SONY, said it best: "You never succeed in technology, business, or anything by following the others." There's also an old Asian saying that I remind myself of frequently. It goes like this: "A wise man keeps his own counsel."

15. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Lighten up. Often, at least half of what we accomplish is due to luck. None of us are in control as much as we like to think we are.

16. There’s always a reason to smile.
Find it. After all, you're really lucky just to be alive. Life is short. More and more, I agree with my little brother. He always reminds me: “We’re not here for a long time, we’re here for a good time!”

Copyright © 2005-2007 Bob Parsons. All rights reserved.

Law of Attraction: Visualize Yourself Winning

2008-06-09T13:57:00.003-04:00

I was at a seafood festival yesterday. Out of the four aisles of stands, one aisle was especially set up for brands to market their products. Geico had a stand set up and was giving typical event marketing prizes such as caps, t-shirts, mugs, and bags. They had this game board set up like Plinko on the Price Is Right. The contestant drops a ball, the ball hits a few pegs during the five foot drop, and then ends up at the bottom in one of five slots. There were five slots with labels: cap, mug, t-shirt, bag, and mystery prize. There were about seven contestants in front of me winning caps, t-shirts, and mugs. I was curious to know what the mystery prize was because no one was winning it. I began to visualize myself winning the mystery prize. I imagined the ball hitting pegs as it descended down the five foot board and then eventually landing on the mystery prize slot. When my turn came up, guess which prize I won. . .

Law of Attraction: I MUST VS. I SHOULD

2008-05-28T20:46:00.002-04:00

When you know something needs to get done and you speak to yourself out loud (we all do), how many times do you say "I Should..." vs "I Must... "? If you are most people, you probably say "I Should..." 9 out of 10 times.

When I was in college (not too long ago), my study habits were not the best. Two weeks before an exam, I would tell myself daily, "I should really start studying soon." This would go on until the night before an exam when I really had no choice but to study. That night, my "should" turned to "must". I had no choice. When we say "should" we give ourselves the choice to be lazy and not do anything. Imagine what we could accomplish if we were in the "I Must do this" state of mind all the time.

How many times have you said "I Should lose weight?" Have you accomplished your goal? Try saying "I must lose weight," "I must eat less", "I must excercise". Then follow through with what you say.

Don't Think, Don't Try, Just Do! - I love Nike's logo, "Just Do It".

2008-04-07T13:00:00.004-04:00

For many people, we have to overcome intertia to get anythig done. For me, I want to lose weight, but I have trouble convincing myself to get on the elliptical machine. However, once I finally make the decision to get on the machine, it's ok. I notice that during those times when I have trouble convincing myself to get on the elliptical machine, there usually is a battle going on in my mind. Part of me is saying, "Anna, you need to do this! GO EXCERCISE." The other part of me is saying, "wow this chair feels sooo comfortable, why do you want to move? You can excercise later on!" Then of course, "later on" I will create an excuse not to excercise.

When I have the "Just Do It" mindset, it's great. I usually focus on one process at a time. For instance, I'll focus on putting on my socks and shoes first. Then I'll put on the work out clothing, then I'll focus on working out just 5 minutes. Then, i'll focus on another five minutes. Before I know it, I have completed a 30 minute workout.

I love the saying, "Dont think, dont try, just do" as well as Nike's "Just Do It". If I took the time spent over the past year thinking about excercising and just excerised I probably would have lost 20 pounds by now!!

This Law of Attraction Stuff Really Does Work, Seriously!

2008-04-06T12:47:00.000-04:00

I received a call yesterday from my younger sister Amanda who is in her last year at Boston University. The first thing she said was, “Anna, Anna, OMG, this Law of Attraction stuff really does work, seriously!” My sister is the least positive person in our family and when she is in the room, sometimes you can feel the tension when she is not having a “good day,” which in the past, used to be quite often. Three months ago, she was visiting me one weekend and I said to her, “YOU MUST watch The Secret before you go back to Boston.” Ever since Amanda was introduced to the Law of Attraction, I have noticed a change.

Anyway, Amanda was telling me that she was going to meet up with her friend Melissa for coffee at Starbucks. Melissa thought they were going to meet up there but my sister thought that Melissa was going to pick her up at her apartment in Allston, which is just outside of Boston. Melissa, who doesn’t like to drive in Boston and Allston, became annoyed and when Melissa finally got to Amanda’s apartment to pick her up, Melissa said, “I hate driving around in Allston because people are careless and the last time I was here, someone bumped my car.” Literally after she said that, someone bumped her car. The driver, this Asian woman in her late 20’s, drove by the left side of Melissa’s car, waved with a smile, and then sped off. Melissa became angrier. Then, they were heading back towards Boston and Melissa said, “I hate it here, there is always a lot of traffic.” You know, I’ve been to Allston quite a few times and traffic is not so bad. However, Amanda told me that day that there was a lot of traffic and it was perhaps because Melissa was thinking those thoughts.

Amanda and Melissa decided not to go to Starbucks and instead eat out in downtown Boston. Amanda suggested to head down this tiny one way street by the Boston Commons to see if they could find parking. Melissa said, “There is never parking there, why are we evening bothering?” Amanda said, “You never know, let’s try anyway.” Amanda then started to think positive thoughts and started to create visions in her head of a free parking spot. When they went down the tiny one way street, they found a parking spot.

A different take on what it means to sidetrack. . .

2008-03-31T14:46:00.003-04:00

Take a look at this drawing I made. Sometimes, no matter how much you move forward, you will hit a wall. At times like these, its OK to side track. It will be the only way to reach your goal.

A Constant Battle With My Ego!

2008-03-28T17:28:00.002-04:00

I'm currently reading Eckhart Tolle's "A New Earth" and I have become more aware of my Ego. Yesterday I received a call from a recruiter asking if I was interested in a new job opportunity regarding e-marketing. She started talking about backlinks but said that I would probably know more about it etc. I was about to give her a quick intro to back links because my ego was about to take over and I wanted to show I knew more about a particular topic than her. I stopped myself just in time. I paused and thought to myself, why??

I am constantly battling my Ego but I've been doing better lately ever since I've been introduced to "A New Earth".

Three Reasons Why Mistakes are OK!

2008-03-22T11:51:00.000-04:00

One factor that prevents people from taking a risk or pursuing something new is the fear of making a mistake. Here are three reasons why mistakes are OK.

1. When we learn from mistakes.

We are all here to experience, learn, and grow. Mistakes are a great learning opportunity.

I remember the first time I ever did laundry when I was in middle school. I didn’t ask for any help and I pretty much threw every thing in the washing machine. When it was time to take out my clothing, all my whites weren’t white anymore. I had mixed both colored and white clothing. What a learning experience I tell you!

When I was in college, I always had the urge to save a few dollars by throwing everything into one load but I always remembered that childhood incident. I made sure not to repeat the same mistake.

2. When we make sure not to repeat mistakes.

When we have a “bad experience”, we try not to repeat that experience again. We learned our lesson, and that’s it, we never want to experience that again.

There are a few things I am definitely better at than cooking. When I experiment with a recipe for the first time, it sometimes doesn’t come out as I imagine it would be. Sometime I put too much of this or too little of that. What I like about cooking for me is it’s about trial and error and I learn as I go. Usually, the next time I make a dish, it is 10x better.

3. When mistakes are done in pursuit of our goals.

Edison did not invent the light bulb on his first try. If you have big dreams or goals, you might not get there on the first try. Keep on going. You are bound to make mistakes but you’ll eventually get to where you want to be.

We Can Apply the Law of Attraction to Online Passwords!

2008-03-19T09:42:00.004-04:00

If you are the average person, you have about 1,000,342 usernames and passwords to remember for your online accounts. OK, that might be a bit of an exaggeration but think of all the social networks, social media sites, online banking sites that you belong to, these usernames and passwords do add up.

I forget my username a lot. I’m constantly pressing the “Forgot Username” button. I try and use the same username but sometimes the username I want is already taken or the formats vary from site to site. For example, username must be at least six characters, username must contain at least three numbers, the letter “y”, and “3”. OK, that might have been a bit of an exaggeration again but you get the point! For the most part, I stick to the same password so at least that’s something easy to remember!

How does the average person come up with a password? Let’s see, what is your pet’s name? Where were you born? What year were you born? What is your spouse’s name? What is your kid’s name? Let’s try a combination of the year I was born + my social security number + the street I live on.

Since I’ve been doing some online marketing work for a few companies, I have had to create numerous accounts on social media sites, directories, etc on their behalf. I came up with a password, “test123”. It’s easy enough to remember so I like it.
Then I was thinking about it this morning and I realized if I apply the law of attraction to passwords, this might not be the best password to choose. “Test” implies that you are not certain, that you are unsure. Rather, I want everything that I do to be successful and I want to be confident. From now on, I’m going to think twice about my passwords. Perhaps, put the word “success” in there somewhere. 

Finding the Perfect Job Using the Law of Attraction: Ask (PART 3)

2008-03-19T09:36:00.000-04:00

Ask and you shall receive. Seriously, this works! I was looking for a part time job, preferably working from home in online marketing. I knew exactly what I wanted and I put it out there for the Universe to grant my wish. Two weeks later I had a part time job working from home in the online marketing field.

Think of yourself as Aladdin and the Universe as the Genie that grants unlimited wishes. Take you desires and put them out there. Tell the Universe exactly what YOU want in your perfect job.

Look yourself in the mirror and say

I want _________________.

I deserve ______________.

The perfect job for me is _______________ because ________________.

Write down a description of your perfect job.

Meditate on you perfect job.

Remember, be specific.

The Universe will begin working for you.

Finding the Perfect Job Using the Law of Attraction: Decision (PART 2)

2008-03-17T22:59:00.001-04:00

Ok, so you desire to find the perfect job. Now what? Well, it’s time to decide what your perfect job is! The law of attraction states whatever it is you think of and focus on, you will attract it. That being said, start thinking and imagining what your perfect job looks like!! Let the Universe know exactly what you want and the Universe will start working in your favor.

Do you want a job with less stress?

How about a job that has a shorter commute?

How about a job that pays more?

Write down your desires with as much detail as you can.

I want a job that fills me with joy and excitement every time I have a new project.

I want a job that has at most a 15 minute commute.

I want a job that pays me $100,000 a year.

Why? Well, by writing as much detail as you can, you are informing the Universe of exactly what you want. Often times, the problems lies in that many people really do not know what they want.

Finding the Perfect Job Using the Law of Attraction: Desire (PART 1)

2008-03-17T21:58:00.000-04:00

Are you looking for another job? Maybe the job you currently have has long hours or perhaps there is no room for growth. Maybe your current company is laying off people and you want to leave before they lay you off.

Finding the perfect job starts with a desire to have something better than what you currently have. Having a strong desire is important. This will be the force that keeps you moving towards your goal of having that perfect job.

Law of Attraction: Make the Best of Being Stuck in Traffic

2008-03-17T21:18:00.002-04:00

Have you ever been stuck in traffic? I think most us have been stuck in traffic at least about 100 times. ;) How do you feel when you are stuck in traffic? Do you feel angry, agitated, and anxious? Common thoughts that might run through your head are, "oh no, I'm going to be late for work, or "why is the lane to my left and to my right moving faster than my lane?" These negative thoughts create negative energy and the law of attraction states whatever it is you are thinking and feeling, you will attract more of it. While you sit there in traffic you are creating negative thoughts which set the tone for your day. Chances are the car behind you, in front of you, to your left, and to your right are thinking the same thoughts.

Well, I'm here you tell you that being stuck in traffic is not so bad. If you commute to and from work by yourself, these moments are probably the only time you have to yourself. Think about it, when you are home, your family is there and needs your attention. While you are at work, you have your co-workers and boss to deal with. Enjoy being stuck in traffic because that is your "me" time. Say, "I am grateful for this me time" the next time you find yourself in traffic.

One suggestion is take this time to meditate and reflect. NO, I don't mean shut your eyes and get into a car accident. You don't have to have your eyes closed and sitting Indian Style to meditate. Purchase one of those meditation cds and pop into your car's cd player to relax you.

How to Stop Road Rage

2008-03-17T20:50:00.002-04:00

I was in the car over the weekend with my best friend Jane and she had the worst case of road rage ever. This silver Honda Civic cut in front of us and five minutes later when the car was long gone, Jane was still complaining about it.

There are some things in life that we can control and other things we can’t. Jane couldn’t prevent the fact that the Civic cut her but she could have controlled her reaction to the situation better. Feelings and reactions to events and situations are things that we can control. In my opinion, why am I going to let a stranger that I don’t even know affect me in such a negative way?

How do you stop Road Rage? It's simple. Don't let it get to you. It's not worth it.
You build up all this anger for no reason.

I had a talk with Jane and made her watch The Secret DVD yesterday with me. Although I have told her about the law of attraction etc. in the past, she did not understand the concept until she saw the DVD.

Book Review: Ask, Believe, Receive - 7 Days to Increased Wealth, Better Relationships, and a Life You Love

2008-03-13T14:25:00.004-04:00

I recently read David Hooper's new book, Ask, Believe, Receive - 7 Days to Increased Wealth, Better Relationships, and a Life You Love. It's a great book for both new and existing law of attraction students. For new law of attraction students, this book is a wonderful intro to how you can instantly change your life for the better. For existing law of attraction students, David mentions simple exercises you can do that you may not be doing yet.

Throughout the book, David mentions the importance of affirmations. Affirmations especially help when you start to have negative thoughts.

For instance, if you feel like you never have enough money say, "I always have more than enough money for everything I need." This way, you will always be in a state of abundance.

In addition, there is a section on gratitude. Whenever you are feeling negative thoughts, start going over all the things in your life that you are thankful for. Gratitude instantly puts you in a positive state.

For more information on David or his new book, visit boldthought.com

Law of Attraction: Self Respect and Women

2008-02-16T10:08:00.006-05:00

I started reading Suze Orman's book "Women and Finance". She brings up some important issues about women as employees and business owners. One of the questions she brings up is "why is it that time and time again women get paid less that their male counterparts?" Suze suggests that one reason this happens is because women do not negotiate. When it's time for the annual review, men tend to go to the meeting with their game face on. Men compare the annual review to a football or basketball game. Women, on the other hand, compare the annual review to a dentst visit. Basically, men find this meeting exciting while women find it painful. Men tend to negotiate their pay raise while women accept whatever they receive. The problem here is that women could potentially be missing out on a million dollars worth of life time salary if only they would negotiate. It's a two way street. There are the abusers and the abused. If women allow themselves to be abused, then they will be. Women need to stand up and realize what their self worth is. They need to be confident in their abilities and the value they provide for whatever company they work for. Women deserve to be paid right for their efforts.

I think the worst situation occurs when women who own their own businesses charge less or accept less than fair market value for their work. Ultimately these women are the ones saying that their own value and services do not compare to those of others. This is just wrong. Charge whatever you know you are worth and stick with it. For instance, if you are a consultant charging $80 and hour. Stick to that. Don't go less. Your time is valuable.

I do some freelance online maketing work and I worked on a small project that took me eight hours to complete. The client thought it only took three hours to complete.
I've done some freelance work for some time now and this is the first time this has happened to me where I had to negotiate the actual time it took to complete something. I point blank straight out asked the client, "do you honestly think it took me three hours to complete all this work?" I asked the client this question three times in the course of a week and the client could not answer me with a simple yes or no. What does this client expect? Pro bono work? I told the client my time is valuable and that I demand respect from everyone I work with. I took time out of other projects to work on this and I expect to be paid for my time. Do not take this type of abuse. Women, know your self worth. Stand up for yourselves and don't take any abuse. When you do stand up for yourself, you will feel liberated. It feels great!

How To Learn the Secret Law of Attraction

2008-02-14T13:03:00.003-05:00

Watch the first twenty minutes of "The Secret" Movie for free!

The Secret to Success- Focus, Focus, and Focus!

2008-02-14T10:42:00.002-05:00

If you think about it, opportunties are endless. You can do anything and everything you set your heart to achieve. I truly believe this. As I sit and write this, there are a dozen or so business ideas running through my head that I want to pursue, I'm thinking about a dozen or so books I want to read, and I haven't forgetten about the daily tasks and errands I need to take care of. The problem that many of us face is that there are so many things to do and so little time. We tend to lose focus when there are a million things running through our head. The secret is to focus on each task one at a time. When one task is accomplished, move onto another. Do you have a big project? Break up that project into smaller tasks. Complete each task one by one. Before you know it your big project will be complete. Then move on to the next big project!

Law of Attraction- Keep on Moving

2008-02-14T08:47:00.003-05:00

I met with a business consultant yesterday for some advice on a project I am working on and we started talking about motivation. I told him I was stuck in a rut and it seemed like there was so much to do to achieve my goal of having a successful business. He told me to keep on moving.

"If you can't fly, then run. If you can't run, then walk. If you can't walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, keep moving." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

He told me to crawl if that is all I can do for the time being. I sat there and thought about what he said for a while. I realized I wanted to run as fast as I could but there were certain things that weren't in place which meant I needed to crawl for the moment. I was acting somewhat impatient because I wasn't running yet but crawling is also a key part of the process.

Before someone can run they have to walk and before someone can walk they have to crawl. Every successful person out there did not achieve success overnight. Actors and actresses can spend years in acting school, olympic runners spend four years preparing for perhaps a 20 second race, and businesses don't become multi milliion dollar enterprises overnight.

Keep on moving forward and you will eventually finish the race. One step at a time towards your goal.

Law of Attraction- I want to be healthy ALL the time

2008-02-11T10:00:00.000-05:00

I haven't been posting lately because I caught a bad case of the flu. I was telling someone the other day how I get sick once a year, usually around this time. He told that he use to expect to get sick once a year as well and that one year he just stopped expecting to get sick and what do you think happened? He stopped getting sick. So, I'm going to stop expecting to get sick once a year and expect to be healthy ALL the time. Let's see what happens. :)

NY GIANTS & The Law Of Attraction: “Expect” to Win!

2008-02-04T12:48:00.000-05:00

The New York Giants are the best team this year because they won when it mattered the most! For the most part, the only people who thought the New York Giants would win were the NY Giants themselves and all their fans. Their season started slow, losing their first two games and their head coach Tom Coughlin was on the verge of getting fired for poor performance. How did the New York Giants end up winning the Super Bowl against the favorite 18-0 New England Patriots??? Part of it has to do with the fact that the New York Giants EXPECTED to win. Practically all the sports analyst favored the New England Patriots but that didn't stop the New York Giants from believing in themselves and expecting to win.

GO GIANTS! I'm proud of you!

The Law of Attraction- Gratitude… How To Get Exactly What You Want In Life (PART 6)

2008-02-02T09:18:00.000-05:00

Be thankful for what you have NOW. Whenever you are in a thankful state of mind, positive energy flows throughout your body. Attract positive energy and more positive energy will come your way; that is the Law of Attraction.

Gratitude in the Morning:

It’s important to show gratitude in the morning right after you wake up to start the positive energy flow. Tell the Universe that you are starting your morning in a positive mood and you want your whole day to be like this.

Gratitude in the Night:

It’s important to show gratitude before you sleep so that your dreams will also be filled with positive energy.

Gratitude Anytime:

Show gratitude anytime. When you are commuting to work and there is traffic. Show gratitude. When you are stuck in a long line at the grocery store, show gratitude. Showing gratitude will change your mood.

When things are not going as the way I want them to, I pause for a moment and begin to show gratitude.

These are a few things that I am grateful for:

Loved Ones
Each day I live
Endless opportunities in life
Higher level of awareness
My connection to the God (Universe)

What are you grateful for?

The Law of Attraction- Work… How To Get Exactly What You Want In Life (PART 5)

2008-02-01T09:49:00.000-05:00

How bad do you want something? How much time and energy will you put into attaining what it is you want in life? If you want something meaningful in life, chances are it will take some work to achieve it. The Universe will test you. Believe me. When you hit a roadblock, don’t give up. It’s just the Universe asking you how bad you want something. If you give up, then that shows you never really wanted it in the first place. Don’t give up. Keep on going until you reach your goal. Once you cross the finish line, it will be all worth it.

I have decided to work for the things I want in life.

Career:

Desire: I want to be CEO of my own company that makes billions every year.
Decision: Since I have tons of experience on the internet and online media, I want my business to be internet related. I want to create websites and make money off of them.
Work: I’m going to put in as many hours as I can on a daily basis to develop my ideas and turn them into reality.

Personal:

Desire: I want to learn something new every day.
Decision:I am going to learn something new every day either whether it be internet related or personal growth related by reading the newspaper, watching the news, or learning from my peers.
Work: I’m going to read every day

Relationships:

Desire: I want to be in a happy & healthy relationship with a smart, intelligent, and caring guy.
Decision: I will be open and honest with the current guy I am dating. I will enjoy every moment we spend with each other.
Work: Spend more time with my guy. Talk to him about things that bother me.

Health:

Desire: I want to be 20 pounds lighter
Decision: I want to be 20 pounds lighter because I will be exercising 3x a week and eating healthy.
Work: Exercise 3X a week

Etc:

Desire: I want to go on a tropical vacation this year.
Decision: I want to go on a tropical vacation this year which means I need to save money and lose a few pounds!
Work: Well, it’s time for me to start saving some money!