Bridging The Gap

How would you feel? by Brian Pengelly

2009-11-11T10:31:00.002-05:00

How would you feel if I told you that a country was passing a law that would severely restrict the rights and freedoms of Christians? That the government of a country, which was entirely controlled by followers of another religion had decided to band together and do something about the “Christian threat”? What if they published the names of people they suspected to be Christians in the newspaper, and encouraged the public to harm them or refuse to associate with them? What if they passed a law so that if you were caught practicing your faith in your own home you could be thrown in jail for 7 years? What if they made it a law that if your neighbour found out you were a Christian they were forced to report it to the police or face 3 years in prison themselves? What if that law had a provision in it that if you were caught multiple times you could be put to death?

How would you feel? Angry? Sad? Would you be motivated to do something about it? Would you ask your member of parliament or senator to approve sanctions against the country treating your Christian brothers and sisters in such a way? What would you do?

Now stop. Because it IS really happening right now. In Uganda.

But there is one difference, which is why you probably haven’t heard about it. You see in Uganda this very scenario is being played out, except the people in power are Christians, and the laws are being made against gay people.

Does that change things for you? If so why?

You see, no matter what you think about what scripture says about homosexuality, we should all be able to agree on one of the most basic teachings in Scripture: the Golden Rule. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” So here is the question: Would you want to be treated the way gay people are treated in Uganda? Would you want your government to treat you the way they are treated because your religion believed something different from theirs?

If we take Scripture seriously, then we as Christians have no right to treat those who do not share our beliefs in oppressive or unfair ways. Yet the history of our faith has shown that Christians in political power very often do exactly that. It is easy to look back at ancient examples of injustice like the crusades and think, “I wouldn’t be part of something like that.” But this is happening now, on our watch.

So the question is: What are we going to do about it? Are we going to turn a blind eye? Or are we as Christians going to speak up and say to the Christians in power in Uganda, “When you take away the basic rights of gay and lesbian people it grieves the heart of the Father and it lessens freedom for all of us.”

Do I believe that Christians should stand up for the teaching of Scripture and moral truth? Yes I do. But how we do it is as much or MORE important than what we teach. If we try to use power to force our beliefs on others, if we take away basic human freedoms from others in trying to proclaim the teaching of the Bible, then we by our actions are unfaithful to that same teaching and have failed.

If you want to know more about how you can speak up against this join the Facebook group

Or follow this link to learn more and find a list of people you can write to, to make your voice heard.

God at Work in Unlikely Places

2009-09-30T10:53:00.001-04:00

Greg Paul, a pastor in an inner city community, reminds us that we are called to humbly embrace that we are the beloved.

Modelling Repentance

2009-09-23T08:58:00.000-04:00

Bruxy Cavey challenges the tendency of the Christian community to organize mainly for prohibition and calls us a lifestyle of repentance.

Campolo: Gay Issues in the Church

2009-09-16T10:28:00.001-04:00

Campolo highlights questions youth are asking regarding gay issues in the church.

Online Relating

2009-09-10T09:58:00.001-04:00

Bridging the Gap panel discuss the realities of relating online and share helpful insight.

A Question of Corinthians Part 2

2009-09-09T14:53:00.001-04:00

As I head into the second post examining the implications of 1 Corinthians 5 on how Christians who disagree with each other on the issue of homosexuality should treat one another I want to make one thing abundantly clear: I do not claim to have "the answer" to the question at hand. I do not claim the kind of authority that would allow me to even attempt such a thing, but as a follower of Christ I am sharing my ideas with other believers in the hope that we will continue to wrestle with this passage. I think that one of the greatest dangers in approaching a passage like this is to blithely assume you know what it means, and in that confidence dismiss it. This happens on all sides of the debate, with people either "explaining it away" on the one hand, or assuming they know what it means on the other hand so that they don't have to think about the further implications because to them it is just about "that one thing."

It is our natural human tendency to want nicely packaged resolution to things. It makes life much more convenient if we have the answer and then put it to mind, but I believe that part of "meditating on scripture day and night" is leaving space to continue to learn and grow as I learn new things from a passage throughout my life. In keeping my mind open and continuing to wrestle I am not waffling so that I never have to make a choice on things, rather I am staying open to what the Spirit is showing me today, that I did not catch the last time I looked at this.

So the following is not so much an answer to the "Question of Corinthians" but rather a set of questions that the Spirit has been using to challenge me as I wrestle with this passage. I hope that you will gain benefit from it as well.

1. The Question of Consistency

Several of the people who commented on the first half of this post noted that Christians have tended to focus on the fact that the passage does not just focus on the issue of sexual immorality, but also lists idolatry, greed, drunkenness, and swindlers as those we should not eat with. The issue of greed came up in particular, with people debating what constitutes a person being greedy, and several people noting that much of the world would consider our Western lifestyles horribly greedy. Why I have never heard a sermon warning me not to eat with greedy people? What about Slanderers? I don't think I have even heard a definition of the word in a sermon, let alone exposition on what it means to avoid them. If sexual immorality is so clear, why are these other issues treated so differently? Even within the wide definition of sexual immorality there is a huge gap what Christians agree on. Why do we treat divorce and remarriage so differently from homosexuality? Does that mean we loosen our views on homosexuality or tighten them on other issues? What would it look like if we did?

2. The Question of Discernment

What role does discernment of the individual case as hand should go into how I apply this scripture? It seems as Jesus confronted the Pharisees one of his frequent critiques was that the applied rules without understanding the point behind them, and ended up missing the point. What is the point of Paul's pronouncement here? Since this is in response to a particular case, when does it apply and when does it not? Is there a difference between approving of homosexuality and bragging about incest. It is interesting to me that individual in question was using Scripture to back up his actions? Did he sincerely believe what he was doing was okay? Does that make a difference? How far does one have to go before the church should put them out? If someone things rated R movies are okay, and another doesn't do we put them out too? Is the point of church discipline the restoration of the brother or maintaining God and the Church's holiness?

These questions are ones that i have particularly grappled with, and as I have tried to discern a way forward have come to the following: the heart of the person involved is a key question. I have had friends who when coming to this issue have basically gone "this is so hard, I am going to change my beliefs so I can get what I want." The interesting thing about this is that while they often protest they are following God still, their attitude is reflected on other issues. I remember telling one friend I talked with "I understand people disagree on the issue of homosexuality, but you are sleeping with multiple partners, some of who are married! I think you are making excuses at this point!" On the other hand I look at friends of mine like Justin Lee (who is featured on the DVD) who even as their views on homosexuality have changed have sacrificed greatly to uphold the Christian beliefs of chastity, faithfulness and sexual purity. Although I still disagree with many things with Justin, having got to know him and his heart to follow Christ I feel confident continuing to work and minister with him. I certainly would have no compunction about eating a meal with him. With my other friend while I have not cut him out of my life, the difference in heart has led to alot of strain on our friendship as my refusal to approve of his actions has caused him to reject me.

The other thing that really sticks with me as I wrestle with this passage is that if the purpose of excommunication is to bring a brother to repentance, why I have I never seen it have that result in my many friends who have been thrown out of the church? What I have seen instead is that those who are hard hearted just leave, and those who still care about God find other churches that agree with them, or stay on the outskirts of the church. They want to be part of the body but will not compromise their integrity of belief simply to be let back into community. Are they the same as the example in Corinthians? Should they be handled the same way? Does church discipline work different when you have millions of believers in a city instead of a handful?

3. The Question of Assumptions

One of the things that struck me most when I read the comments on the last post is how people often start at a totally different place than me. I was particularly intrigued by the one poster who immediately linked "eating together" with the Lord's Table. This is not a connection I would ever have made on my own, and do not know that I agree with it yet...but I started to ask why they made that connection, and why it never occurred to me. I am guessing that it has a lot to do with the differences in the denominations in which we circulate. I tend to come from a denomination that does not put huge emphasis on communion (as we call it) though we practice it. But when I mentioned this to a friend who grew up in a church where the Eucharist (a term I never even heard growing up) is central to church life they immediately saw a connection there.

In another comment someone talked about reading Paul versus reading Jesus, and immediately my conservative evangelical side kicked in and went "that's not a valid point..all Scripture is God breathed..." often these discussions bog down because we are not really arguing about homosexuality or whatever else, we are arguing about principles of interpretation. So what assumptions am I bringing to the text that blind me to what the Spirit is telling me? How has my context shaped me to hear and how has it shaped me to overlook important things? What are the read divides? What are the valid critiques that those who disagree with me see clearly that I am likely to ignore?

Like I said, I do not have the final answer to all of these questions. As I encounter more and more people who disagree with me on this issue I am trying to listen to the Spirit and discern on how I should interact with each of them. I continue to ask what is helpful to them, to the church, and what Christ wants to do in this situation. I have had those I have had to set boundaries on. There are others that I embrace as brothers and sisters in Christ and do not apologize for doing so. But I do not want dismiss this passage. I believe God is alive and speaking through Scripture and so I continue to wrestle with this passage but alone and with other believers as I continue to follow Christ. Thank you all for being a small part of that and I look forward to continuing to wrestle with you.

Breaking Judgments of Gay People

2009-09-02T14:06:00.000-04:00

Bruxy Cavey calls us to break down pre-judgments and stereotypes about gay people.

Empathy in the midst of the Divide

2009-08-27T09:28:00.000-04:00

Brian McLaren shares the story of his grandfather and the ways we embody systemic injustice. He reminds us to live in the Spirit of Christ.

A Question of Corinthians Part 1 by Brian Pengelly

2009-08-25T14:15:00.002-04:00

As I talk across Canada, sharing my passion for bridging the gap between the church and the LGBT community I have been surprised at how positively I have been received. There is a sense that the Church is ready to begin to face this issue, and many of the evangelical Christians I know have a sense that what they church has been doing is not right, but they are not quite sure what they should be doing instead. As they grapple with the many questions that come up, one that seems to consistently be a challenge is how to relate to LGBT individuals who claim to be Christians. I have lost count of the times when Christians have told me stories about how they have non Christian friends who are gay who they relate to well, but when faced by a Christian who is gay the rules change, and they feel free to treat them rudely, or cut them entirely out of their lives.

The reason for this usually comes down to 1 Corinthians 5:9-11. The verses state:

"I have written you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who calls himself a brother but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man do not even eat."

The logic here flows like this: "The Bible teaches that homosexuality is sexually immoral, therefore anyone who claims to be gay and acts on it should be put out of the church, and Christians should refuse to associate with them in any way."

Many Christians that I have worked with over the years find themselves trapped between their internal sense that cutting their friends and family members out of their lives is not the right thing to do, and yet at the same time want to be obedient to Scripture. Others seem to use these verses as an excuse to not have to deal with the challenges of loving people they disagree with, or worse yet to treat LGBT people in disrespectful ways.

I know my Side A friends shake their heads and go "Obviously this verse doesn't apply because there is nothing immoral about gay sexual relationships!" but for those who are Side B navigating friendships with those within the church this verse can be a major stumbling block.

Later this week I will post my thoughts on this verse, but i am interested to read how others have understood this verse. How do you understand this verse? Does it mean that Side B and Side A Christians can't ever work together?

Walking in Step with the Holy Spirit

2009-08-20T13:26:00.000-04:00

Wendy Gritter points to the complexity of sexual identity and the great need to address our own issues of anxiety before responding to an individual asking questions of faith and sexuality.

Putting Skin on the Issue by Brian Pengelly

2009-08-18T15:38:00.001-04:00

When I go around to talk to youth groups I have learned over the years not to start with "Hi my name is Brian, and I'm gay!" The issue of homosexuality is one that Christians have learned to be defensive about and as soon as the hear "The G word" many of them put up a mental barrier or distrust that makes it hard to get them to challenge any of their presuppositions. So when I am talking to church groups I instead start with a bunch of humorous stories about what it was like growing up in church.
In many ways this portion of my talk resembles a stand up comedy routine but it tends to gain the attention of the audience and more importantly it builds a feeling of commonality and familiarity. When I get people laughing about the stress of getting ready for church, or how silly Sunday School songs are when you stop and think about them then they begin to identify with me. There is something that happens where the audience goes "He is one of us! He understands us!" which allows me to bypass some of the defenses of people, so that when I get to the part of the story where I say "and then I realized I was gay" it changes their assumptions about gay people. It allows them to feel that gay people are REAL people like them, rather than "those people out there". Once this has happened, getting them to think about how they treat gay people, and whether that honors God or not is much easier to do.

Often in evangelical circles there is a feeling that when dealing with the issue of homosexuality the way to best follow God is to keep people's stories out of it, and just focus on "what scripture says". However as I was recently rereading through the gospels it struck me that this was the opposite of what Jesus did. In Matthew 12 Jesus is confronted because his disciples who were hungry were plucking grain and eating it, which was against the Sabbath law. Jesus doesn't defend them by explaining that what they are doing is lawful, he reminds the Pharisees how David also broke the law by eating the temple bread. Jesus's then quotes Hosea 6:6 which says "I desire mercy not sacrifice". By ignoring stories we keep people in the safely theoretical space. But people's stories matters to God. Their circumstances, their pain, their experiences are all known by Him, and he cares about them. The debate about homosexuality that rages on in the church can never be allowed to be a war of ideas...it is about people.

When people of whatever stripe allow themselves to dehumanize those who disagree with them, to make those people into an "other" that they do not have to care about the same way they care about those that agree with them, we they lose the heart of God. This is why it is so important for us to make the effort to befriend those we disagree with , it helps us to remember that other people are people with loves and lives, challenges and circumstances beyond the issue that we disagree on. It helps us see people as more than people we disagree with, but as co-bearers of the image of Christ, just like us.

So as you encounter people who you disagree with, whatever side you are on, take time to get to know them. Listen to their stories. Get to know their families and communities. Ask what circumstances and experiences have shaped them into the person they are now. After all, how do you love someone if you don't even know who they really are?

Befriending 'Outsiders'

2009-08-13T10:27:00.000-04:00

Bruxy Cavey points to the example of Paul engage the people of Athens as a model for Christians to engage those outside of the church with eyes to see where God is already at work.

Differing Graciously

2009-08-06T10:13:00.001-04:00

Brian McLaren describes the tension many Christians feel who have gay loved ones.

Responding to the Tel Aviv shootings by Brian Pengelly

2009-08-04T12:44:00.002-04:00

While I was enjoying a relaxing long weekend camping with friends in the Catskills an unidentified person walked into a LGBT support group in Tel Aviv Israel and opened fire with an M-16. Two people were killed and 15 others wounded. I didn’t get the news until this morning when I sat down to my laptop to catch up on email and blogs that I read on a regular basis.

As I read the news, a lot of different feelings warred inside me: anger, fear, sadness, and frustration all came up in a rush. In my head I began building an idea of who would do such a thing. I went over all the times I had been bullied or felt excluded and began building connections in my mind. I wondered why other Christians I knew hadn’t said anything about this and wondered what it meant about them.

Then I remembered another shooting. A little over ten years ago I was a young youth worker fresh out of Bible College when the Columbine shooting happened. The two shooters had worn black trench coats, and were misidentified by some as being goth.

At that time I had been working at building relationships with a number of teens who identified with the “goth” subculture. I remember these students telling me stories about how suddenly they were treated as potential killers by those around them. Many of them were called names, and one friend was even assaulted by others who saw them as “one of those freaks.” The irony of it all was that my friends were some of the gentlest people I had ever met. Many were pacifists who refused to touch weapons, and others were vegan because they could not even countenance violence against animals.

Horrific events like this seem to bring out the part of our human nature that seeks to classify the “other” and to draw away into the safety of “people like us”. We desperately seek for meaning in such events, and try to assure ourselves that something we can do we protect us from such things happening. And in the process these very human reactions can cause us to do a lot of things which can hurt innocents.

As of the time I am writing this we do not know who committed this crime and we do not know why. I would ask all people to be careful about making rash judgements without firm information. If more details do emerge we still need to be careful about the generalizations that we make from them. If the killer turns out to be motivated by hatred of gay people in general we must refrain from transferring that person’s crime onto others who share that person’s nationality, ethnicity, or religion. If it turns out that the shooter was gay that information should not be used by groups to try and prove anything about gay people in general either, or claim that gay relationships are more dangerous.

In the face of such an evil act I believe that the only response is for all of us: gay and straight, people of diverse religions or no religion, liberals and conservatives to commit to working hard to understand each other better. We must commit to defending and respecting each other. We must all speak out against violence whether in its obvious forms such as this shooting, or its more subtle forms that happen a thousand times every day.

But most of all we must resist the temptation to retreat further into “us vs them” thinking. We must not be ruled by fear. Because it is that very thing…the ability to think as another human being as “other” that allows the violence in the first place.

Relationships: the core of the gospel

2009-07-30T11:18:00.001-04:00

Greg Paul speaks from the place of being a pastor deeply committed to relationships.

Compassion & Service

2009-07-22T09:56:00.001-04:00

Bruxy Cavey reminds us that Christ lived a life of such radical compassion and grace that religious conservatives misunderstood and accused him of being a drunkard and glutton. How close are we living to Christs example?

Relationship with Jesus is the Foundation

2009-07-15T11:45:00.001-04:00

Brian Pengelly, someone who has journeyed to integrate his same-sex attractions and faith, reminds us that engaging the complexity of Biblical interpretation must be built on a foundation of intimate personal relationship with Christ.

Jesus & the Breaking of Barriers

2009-07-09T13:14:00.002-04:00

Brian McLaren describes Jesus welcome and inclusion for our gay neighbours.

Befriending our Gay Neighbours

2009-07-06T10:18:00.004-04:00

June 24 Synchroblog Participants

2009-06-30T14:25:00.000-04:00

Read about the intent of the synchroblog

Read the suggested things to keep in mind when participating in the synchroblog.

Read what people had to say:
open hands
brian mclaren
catalyst foundation
keeping it simple
deeper moments
a life of unlearning
northern grove
sister friends together
pursue God
warren throckmorton
if i blogged.....
image journal
dance like no one's watching
beth blog ever
random thoughts....
stan's point
child of the wind
justin lee
at home with me
new creation
based on a true story
two world collision
focused conversations
dash house
solar crash
up on my soapbox
dreams unlocked
an examined life
reflections from a sister
mr. grape
okay city
the ooze
musings on
naked pastor
one lost sheep
djfree
musings and prose
out of the box
my pal al
paradoxy
pomoprophet
gay &....
formers
sweet bi and bi
days of marriage
love is an orientation
rising up whole
khanya
kinnon
empire remixed
box turtle
grace rules
moody blogger
cafe inspirado
odd babblings
that guy lam
crossroads
journeys of an academic
ragamuffin ramblings
gathering wool
prickly portal
without contradiction

Closing and Reflecting on the Synchroblog

2009-06-25T14:58:00.004-04:00

As we bring closure to our synchroblog initiative, my tired brain is ruminating on many different impressions and reflections. Overall, let me say how humbled and grateful I am for the many who shared with heart-felt commitment to find ways to see beyond the gaps and engage one another as fellow journeyers.

A number of people have referred to previous attempts at bridging – both personally and publicly. Those who have been intentionally involved in these attempts over the long haul can feel a sense of weariness or what one might describe as being jaded about a new attempt.

The BTG synchroblog was not a new or radically different attempt – though for some of our contributors and readers it was their first exposure to this kind of conversation. And to be honest, it was primarily with these 'newbies' in mind that we wanted to bring this conversation into the public realm of blogging. For those who have been around the block more times than they care to count on this topic, we hoped you would bring your experience, wisdom and maturity. And many of you did. While there may not have been any big “ah-ha” moments for seasoned travelers in these conversations in yesterday’s posts, I do hope that there were spots of encouragement as many shared with honesty and grace.

In particular, I think of Anita’s and Karen’s posts as ones which reflected the grace of seasoned travelers who, out of love for Christ, willingly put themselves out there yet again with words of gracious challenge to see one another across the gaps.

Then there are those for whom this conversation is not a daily reality, perhaps I might describe them as occasional travelers into these bridging attempts. I heard in these contributions a common theme of having experienced the need to unpack and deconstruct assumptions – and I found that encouraging. What I particularly loved about these contributions is that they focused on stories of personal encounters and personal relationships. That really is the heart of it all. And while these friends may not know every subtle nuance of this complex bridging exercise as some who live and breathe this stuff all the time, I thought that the stories of contributors like Mark, Chris and Darryl, to name a few, were bright spots of encouragement for those of us in the trenches on this stuff all the time. In their stories, they embodied what bridging is essentially about ….. meeting another person, connecting and sharing in each other’s lives.

Some concrete suggestions / insights caught my attention:

Justin Lee referred to two new DVD resources, our Bridging the Gap series and GCN’s Through My Eyes. (I had intended to do a post reviewing Through My Eyes - but didn't get a chance - but think it is a really great resource.) He also shared about a new connection point for straight Christians who want to share ideas on loving and bridging ~ and you can contact New Direction or Justin (at) gaychristian (dot) net with the subject line “I’d like to help bridge”.

Moody blogger reminded us that the Lord’s Supper can be a beautiful expression of gaps being bridged – and whether you agree with his perspective on the sacrament or not – it was offered in a wonderful spirit.

Empire Remixed suggested that everyone in the church give up talking about and having sex for a year and focus on serving together. While unlikely to be implemented, a thought-provoking, creative suggestion I thought.

Okay City focused on a tangible orientation to service together despite the reality of some gaps. "You bring the lunch, I'll bring the water."

I also appreciated the diversity reflected in the collection of conversations: some international presence, non-Christian reflections, as well as the spectrum of theological perspectives and sexual identity. I do regret that we did not directly hear from or engage the perspective of our trans neighbours.

As I hear from people who have been reading the posts, I am mainly hearing what I consider positive feedback: people felt most of the posts were thoughtful, respectful, gracious and hopeful; and people were both resonating and being stretched and exercising grace and patience too.

The synchroblog is officially closed now – if you have a post you would yet want to offer – please simply leave a comment on this or the previous post. Prior to doing that, please read through this post for a bit more background on the intention behind the synchroblog.

Some of you may know that I will be entering a season of sabbatical essentially in a couple of days (I have to preach yet on Sunday). I am really grateful for this time to leave the trenches for a while, experience rest, enjoy my family, and read, reflect and work on my book project. I don’t anticipate writing new posts until the fall - but be on the lookout for new weekly video clips and posts written by Brian.

Let me close by saying thank you to contributors and readers who have encouraged me, stretched me, and sharpened me in the last year of blogging. May God continue to give all of us courage, wisdom, humility and grace to truly love one another across the gaps.

Shalom friends - see you in the fall.
wendy

Synchroblog: mid-way delight and late arrivals

2009-06-24T17:40:00.012-04:00

I am so grateful as I make my way through the many rich, thoughtful, grace-filled and relationally focused posts. Thank you to each who reflected, prayed and wrote with care and a clear commitment to be positive, encouraging, and open.

I didn't have a map for this initiative. I didn't know how it would play out. I was much in prayer and even as my prayers continue .... they are giving way to peace. I'm seeing a consistent theme of vulnerability, transparency, honesty, owning our own crap, and some especially good insights shared by those who traverse these waters with great regularity. Trying to keep up with the various comment streams from the different posts, I'm sensing the contributors wanting to encourage one another, learn from one another and reach out to make new connections.

Did I already say I was feeling grateful? Well I am.

I did want to draw your attention to some contributors weighing in today - to ensure that you had the chance to read their contributions as well:

- moody blogger
- grace rules
- empire remixed
- kinnon
- box turtle
- khanya
- rising up whole
- cafe inspirado
- odd babblings
- that guy lam
- crossroads
- journeys of an academic
- ragamuffin ramblings
- gathering wool
- prickly portal
- without contradiction

There may even be a few more .... which I'll add to this post as they confirm....

I have more reading to do ..... hopefully you do too.
I have more thinking to do ..... hopefully you do too.
I have more praying to do ..... hopefully you do too.

But at this point ..... much to be thankful for.

The Kids are Alright by Brian Pengelly

2009-06-24T11:03:00.002-04:00

Working at New Direction Ministries, Wendy and I have an understanding. As Youth Specialist I will handle the speaking engagements to teens and youth, and as Executive Director she will handle most of the Sunday Morning preaching opportunities. This means that I will often find myself shifting around in a rock hard camp bed on the second sleepless night of a youth retreat in the middle of nowhere….but I wouldn’t trade jobs with her for all the money in the world.

I often joke that working with youth professionally takes a special kind of person…preferably one who was dropped on their head a few times as a kid. But the truth is I love working with youth because they give me hope.

I have had the repeated experience of sharing my story with youth, and having teens come up to me in twos and threes afterwards in tears. Some of them have gay friends or family members, and some of them don’t, but all of them say something similar to me:

“I’ve felt inside that how Christians treat gay people is wrong. I’ve listened to how my pastor talks about this, and something inside just didn’t feel right. I want to follow Jesus, and I am serious about what the Bible teaches…but I knew how we have been acting isn’t what the Bible teaches either. I thought I must be a bad Christian because I felt this way, but your story helped me realize that I was right!”

I must have had this conversation a hundred times in the last year, in churches all across Canada, with youth from dozens of denominations. It always makes me smile because while they are thanking me, the remarkable thing is not my story, it is that they already knew it in their heart.

I have heard a great anxiety among adults in the church that we need to do something to protect our youth. Recently I read an article that claimed that to protect our children we must find anyone, gay or straight, in our churches who didn’t agree with the author's view of homosexuality and put them out of the church! It brought to mind one of my favourite Simpsons episodes where the town riots because of the perceived danger of bears and Helen Lovejoy exclaims in a panic “Won’t someone PLEASE think of the children!” But this view tends to keep God small and our own roles in the fate of the universe overly large.

I have been hanging out with the children, and they are doing okay. The Spirit of God is bringing change. I believe that his heart for reconciliation and his Love for Gay people is being echoed in the hearts of the new generations coming up in the church. I have found a generation who are much more comfortable navigating the differences that divide us with grace. When I think about what will Bridge the Gap between the Church and the Gay community I believe very strongly that it will be our children and grandchildren that are are now and will continue to do it. I think that rather than worry about them we need to listen to them, their voices and opinions and they will lead and teach us.

This is it ..... synchroblog mania

2009-06-24T07:59:00.006-04:00

Today is the day ..... and after spending time in prayer this morning, I opened an overflowing inbox with people letting me know they'd already posted or asking to be added to the list yet. Fantastic.

So we'd invite you to begin checking out the blogs listed in the sidebar. Welcome to those who may be stumbling upon this collection of conversations through another link. If you would like to add your thoughts on your blog - post a comment and we'll get you added to the list. Additionally, if you are looking for a follow-up resource to this conversation, consider checking out our DVD series which you can read more about here or see the trailer here.

Also.... you can follow on twitter today at: #btgblog

My prayer: that love will trump all else in the conversations today!

p.s. Look for the tiny asterik * at the end of the links in the side bar to see those who have already put up their Bridging the Gap posting.... mind you, I'm having a hard time keeping up.

One day till Synchroblog!

2009-06-23T16:56:00.003-04:00

The Synchroblog is almost upon us! Tomorrow we will see over 60 different bloggers linking into this website to share their thoughts on how we can best reach across the divides that often separate Christians and LGBT individuals.

Any time you bring that many thinkers together, from so many different places, beliefs and backgrounds there is the chance for conflict. However, we hope that the Synchroblog will be a collection of conversations that encourage people and demonstrate a concrete example of the unity that is possible in the midst of diversity.

With that hope in mind here are a few suggestions to keep in mind as you prepare to post and comment tomorrow:

1) Be Positive!
This is an opportunity to generate conversation, share ideas and dream together about something better. It is easy when looking at a problem to focus on what is wrong. It can also be easy to point fingers and blame those you think caused the problem. But we hope the Synchroblog will be a place where people will be able to talk about how to move forward! I look forward to hearing the good things that you are seeing as well as the challenges. I hope to hear stories of what has worked as you have reached out to others who you perhaps don't agree with. This initiative is a time to dream of what can be, and talk about how to get there.

2) Be Respectful!
The staggering diversity of people that we see taking part in this conversation is really encouraging. We have gay and straight, Christians of many different stripes and denominations, as well as individuals who are not Christian but want to join the conversation. Some contributors will have thought and studied and experienced much in journeying with integrating faith and sexuality - other may be less informed but wanting to be part of making a positive contribution. It is safe to say that those posting will not agree on many things. We do ask that everyone who posts or comments be polite, humble and gentle with each other. Approach this as a chance to learn from others rather than one to prove to others how right you are. Avoid attacks on other people and focus instead on putting out your ideas as clearly as possible, and listening to others carefully. Posts that demean, insult or attack others will not be accepted into the Synchroblog.

3) Be Prayerful!
While not everyone who is participating identifies as a follower of Christ, we do encourage all to be prayerful and reflective as they they write. For our brothers and sisters in Christ, we encourage you to listen to the guiding of the Spirit and to try to be reflect Jesus in all that you do. We believe that God wants to work through this event and this gathering of contributors. So we ask all Christians involved to be in prayer as you write, as you read, and as you interact with others.

4) Spread the Word!
The impact of this synchroblog is limited only by the number of people who get to see it. Remember to link back to this blog and to let your readers know about the larger Synchroblog when you post.

We at New Direction are really excited to see what happens tomorrow and look forward to reading it all and continuing the discussion! See you then!

by: Brian Pengelly