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Steps To Forgiveness

2011-11-24T10:19:00.001+08:00

I would like to give credit to Ate Jenny my spiritual mother whom I haven't seen for years, thank you for sharing this to me. I have kept this journal for a long time, but then I realized this needs to be shared so that someone who might be facing the same issue will be encourage. During times I find myself having tough time forgiving someone I am reminded of this things.

1. Identify the people, situations and issues that have hurt you. You feel pain inside when you think of them.

2. Condemn the act, not the person.

3. Release yourself from victim mentality. Say, " I choose no longer to be bound as a victim in my thinking by this circumstance.
I choose the pathway of healing for my pain."

4. Release justice and judgement into God's hands. It is mine to avenge. I will repay, says the Lord." Romans 12:9

5. Give up the right to get what is owed to you.
Say I release __________ from the debt that they owe me. I realize I need healing for this pain and the consequence of this situation
on my life. But, I now see that they cannot make it up to me. I now release them totally into the loving care of my Heavenly Father,
who judges all people fairly.

6. In some situations confrontation is needed to set both parties free. But remember Forgiveness and Trust are two different issues.

7. Pray

8. Use the wrong doing against you as a source of God's deepening work of compassion in you life. This will give you identification
with others.

REMEMBER THIS:
a. I CANNOT UNDO THAT WHICH HAS BEEN DONE AGAINST ME, BUT I CAN RENDER IT POWERLESS IN MY LIFE, AND USE IT FOR GOOD.

b. BUT AS FOR YOU, YOU MEANT EVIL AGAINST ME; BUT GOD MEANT IT FOR GOOD, IN ORDER TO BRING IT ABOUT AS IT IS THIS DAY, TO SAVE
MANY PEOPLE ALIVE. GENESIS 50:20

Like what other's said. It is easy being said than done. I haven't perfected this area in my life, but hopeful by God's grace.

A Grieving Heart

2011-11-24T08:40:00.001+08:00

I was looking back and remembered how and what it was enjoying and journeying single life. It's adventure, joy, frustration and dreams.
Then I recalled one specific emotion that trigger me to put it into writings. Hopefully people find this article helpful.

Grief is a very personal thing.An emotion that are indescribable in words. Every grief is different and the way you grieve may be entirely different than the way I grieve, yet both of us will probably share same emotional symptoms like Sorrow, Anger, Loneliness, Sadness, Shame, Anxiety, Blame, Emptiness and Depression. I know you agree. Prior to my marriage I encountered a terrible emotional loss, relationship breakup. I had so much resentment in my heart then. But you know, this very same wound led me back to God. Because of this pain that I drew more closer to God trusting his Power to heal me. Only He is able to cure me. Now let me share the stages I go through before finally embracing my healing.

Stage 1: Acknowledge your Grief
Don't deny what you feel. If you wanted to cry, to shout, or to talk about it then do. Let your heart
mourn. Allowing this things is the way to let it go.Do not be pressured to hide nor denying it. It's your grief
and it is real.

Stage 2: Allow your Anger but resist the temptation of placing Blame
Have a healthy lifestyle, create self care habits this establishes self value and worth.Pampering yourself
feels good and the need to place blame disappear. Acknowledging Anger is not wrong but do not dwell or
linger on bad thoughts and stop placing blame. It won't help.

Stage 3: Intercept, Resist, Divert
Intercept your thoughts. Resist temptation and Divert by redirecting your interests elsewhere with more
self gratifying activities.

Stage 4: Depression is a symptom of suppressed emotions.
Let it out. Read His word. Take this as an opportunity to also know your Creator. The Lord is close to the
brokenhearted and saves those who are crush in spirit Psalm 34:18

Stage 5: Have the Freedom to tell your story.
As your dark clouds have now parted you should feel beautiful. Now your soul has been reawakened use this to
to see and appreciate the beauty surrounding you. Be an Encouragement to others, your story is a testimony so share it.

My Inner Cry

2011-11-23T20:36:00.000+08:00

This song tells about one's yearning and emptiness. A child expressing his deep longing to restore one's passion for his Father.
Expressing the sadness over his fading love towards his Father. A christian's life has its own season. At some point
we will all encountered spiritual dryness. This is a moment in our life when God seem so far to reach. Our heart seemed calloused and insensitive.Sometimes our sins causes us to drift away from God. Lacking personal time with Him is also a factor.But what is important is
to never gave up longing for His presence. Let us consider this as an opportunity to seek God more.

At this very moment this song speak about my real emotion. We all go through some personal struggle,it may differ. I felt a deep empty hallow in my heart and I knew only God can fill this void.I knew that nothing can separate me from His love but what is a better way than to show back this love to Him? Earthly desire and longings was given far more time than Him. Facing responsibility such as raising your own family divides your attention. This is reality, I'm not complaining but this is what I feel. I hope sooner I will see myself resting in His lap. God bless to all of us who is in the same shoe. :)

First Love by: Avalon

i used to be the one who would long to hear Your voice
a child who sought to win his Father's heart
but as i carried on, life's got a hold on me
now here i am a son so far from home

chorus:
tell me when did i loose my first love?
where did the fire and passion go?
burn in me Your holy fire give me back my lost desire
and restore in me the love i felt for You

can i remember how it felt ?
when they looked into my face
and they saw the love of Jesus in my eyes
when i looked back on my life
and questioned where i've been
can i really say i've done my best for you?

Repeat Chorus

oh where did i go (ive lost my way)
oh im lost and im alone
oh help me please
Lord lead me home

Father take me back
let me start again
Lord ive failed and fallen in my pride
lead me back to you (back to you)
where my life began
revive in me the yearning that has died

Phonetic alphabet tables - Alpha Bravo Charlie

2011-11-23T13:44:00.000+08:00

This might be a useful tool. Like me who usually uses the phone for ticket booking. And since i have hard time pronouncing the letter "G", it is very difficult to convey what i wanted to say. I'm so glad to stumble on this site. It made my life easier. :)

Phonetic alphabet tables - Alpha Bravo Charlie

Preschool Choices North of Cebu

2011-11-22T12:10:00.001+08:00

On scouting for preschool, some things I put into considerations are:

1. Teaching Method
2. School Facility e.g. school service
3. Location
4. Ratio of students
5. School Fees

These are the preschool we've visited and inquired.:

* San Roque Child Montessori, Yati Liloan tel: 5642992
:Montessori/Catholic School. Our first choice, the rooms tidy, walls are painted light, well ventilated. Not just some old house converted into a school typed thing. Authentic montessori according to their administrator. The School fee is reasonable.

* Tender Minds, Liloan tel: 4246730
:"Inspired" by Waldorf Method. School Fee is very reasonable that's the first thing I noticed. But the school is so
small, has a very limited area to roam around. An old structured house converted into a preschool.I like there staff though.

* Inchland Academy, Mandaue tel: 2388772
:School Of Tomorrow Curriculum. I am impressed with this kind of teaching approach. God and His values are
incorporated in their teaching. It is also a Self-paced curriculum. The area for kids to
play and roam around was not taken into consideration. I hope there facilities improved.

* Mandaue Christian School, Mandaue tel: 3451697
:Christian School, traditional approach. My nieces was currently a student in this school.

* Prodigy Child Development Center tel: 4223464
:This is more of a day care center.

more next time.

Demodecosis Mange on Our Pet

2011-11-22T11:48:00.001+08:00

Bruno came to us first week of November 2011,sent via air freight. He was a gift from Sofia's Godfather, he was a tiny black male Chihuahua. Very sweet and full of energy. I was already warned that he was treated with mange but I have no idea what it was. Two weeks later I noticed the bald patches on his back worsen. I brought him to the nearest vet for check up. Indeed the vet confirmed that it was a localized demodecosis mange. Oh my! I gathered information as much as possible for many nights and was so dismayed. According to some site that it is controllable but not curable. Now falling hair was on the floor. He was given Advocate from Bayer, and ordered to be bathe 2x a week with almitraz soap. I just hope He will recover soon.

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Seeking His Kingdom

2011-11-20T21:14:00.001+08:00

Today we just came from a Sunday service fellowship. Our third time attending Word for the World Fellowship in Mandaue Cebu. After a year of finding a local church and asking God for guidance, I finally arrived in their doorstep and found a church for us. We use to attend fellowship in CGC Valenzuela Manila but since the family moved to Cebu, it was a challenge finding one. It's like searching for a second home away from home. There were some aspects that needs to consider. But I am so glad to finally met fellow brothers in Christ. The Pastor and his family is an inspiration. I am indeed looking forward on sharing moments with them in the years to come. And hopeful we will grow and gain more spiritual understanding. I so miss the ministry for years. And may the good Lord help me find what I am looking for.

Parenting

2011-10-07T20:38:00.000+08:00

How would you evaluate your skill on being a parent to your children? Are you good at it? Personally it was a personal struggle and challenging at the same time. I grew up with a dysfunctional family and fatherless at a very young age. Growing up was really difficult, deprived by love and less affirmed from family. I developed a poor self-image out of this childhood experience.It made me become more emotional. I didn't developed a healthy relationship with my mother too. All those experiences keeps me wondering if I will become a good loving parent.

Now that I became a mother, the proper approach in disciplining my child was a challenge. I educate myself cause I am determined to raise her with love and care. But this takes patience and more patience. I was reminded of His Unfailing Love. A tiny voice reminding me, "I am teaching you a very important lesson in life "Patience". I am short tempered by the way. It was so easy for a child throwing tantrums when they're disappointed. I realized parenting is as hard as it sounds. It is indeed exhausting, demanding but challenging as well.It is a long journey and there are no short cuts. We need to show love, know, teach and encourage them they're our precious gems, the very continuity of our dreams.Our role is irrevocable and inevitable.As for me, I know God is teaching me patience and He wants me to grow more in Love. Parenting can be a good opportunity for us to correct past mistakes.

Prep for my Preshooler

2011-10-04T18:23:00.001+08:00

sofie at sm north

Sofia will soon to be a preschooler. I found out that some parent opted up on sending their kids as early as 2 years old. Well, we want her to enjoy spending more time with us and together explore things. I waited for some sign that she is ready for school.While waiting for 2012 school year I scouted for some schools nearby.

See, we just moved in a year ago in Consolacion Cebu from Manila. And personally investing on a good school that is not weigh beyond we can afford is quite challenging for me.Upon checking this list I always consider the type of method or approached they are using in the class. I was torn between Montessori method and the School of Tomorrow/PACE Method. I choose the latter, it was a self-paced student centered and incorporated by Gods Teaching. Whew! Location need also to be considered. And the school facility as well. Unlike the central part of Cebu where you have a lot of choices, here in the northern part I find it difficult and in fact up until now I haven't made that decision.

I will share some list of the Schools I visited on my next blog :)

Journey Towards Online Opportunity

2011-10-04T18:13:00.001+08:00

I never stop believing that somehow there is an opportunity for me. I just knew in my heart that I am an able person therefore I deserve some opportunity. There's more than just being a full time mother. I mean it is indeed rewarding to be with your child, but let's admit earning while at home is very rewarding and a dream for some. Being full time wife/mom while husband is working for the family sometimes made me mentally stagnant. And depression comes in. With this kind of dilemma I started to get tired. I was being unhappy. I need to do something about it. Then I started surfing the net about home-based job.I stumbled on Jomar Hilario's blog. That was the time I see some light.I knew this are one of the many ways I could be productive financially while with my daughter 24/7. So I never stopped exploring the internet. Through self study I learned some good stuffs.

Choosing goodbye

2009-10-30T08:11:00.001+08:00

They say, Love is best expressed when we’re with our loved ones and is usually best appreciated when we get to spend time with them. Some people just make us feel important and be needed.Love help us find our purpose in life and it gives us a sense of worth. No wonder the bible says "God is Love". It is by this love that God shed His blood for us…

Indeed Love is essential in any relationship but LIFE is filled with goodbye’s as well.It might be temporary or permanent but in any relationship —whether with family, friends or lovers, the word "goodbye" is dreadful to hear.

"Goodbye" to those painful incidents in life , it gives an empty feeling deep down. And saying those words, always brings that feeling of loss.I guess though we already know that saying goodbye is sometimes bound to be part in any relationship, we try to think of it as a defeat. Goodbyes partly reflect our failure to sustain a relationship. Oftentimes we never intended to do it but sometimes it is inevitable. We decide to part ways(permanent or temporal) because it is for our own good.I was reminded by an advice given to me during a tough times in my life. If a certain situation, a person or a thing hinders you to grow and instead drag you down then perhaps it is an obvious sign that "maybe" it is not in accordance to His will.It was an eye-opener for me and I chose to end it up.

Life's Tragedy

2009-10-30T08:09:00.000+08:00

As what I always heard on Sunday sermon..,

“All things work together for good to those who trust in Him.

The devil meant it for evil but God meant it for good.”

As for me, Ondoy made me realize so many things.It awakens so many emotions. Awaken my dreams and purpose. And for one thing face the question, Am a ready? It scare me. One thing im sure, I’m not yet ready.As you aged, you also mature in some way. Phases and stages in life, we all go through.And sometimes this confuses so many things. Sometime the longer you have taken steps towards that goal, then you feel you’re lost. Did I made the right choices in life?

I tend to think too much on what lies ahead forgetting the importance of living now.I always meditate on the things i never got the chance to have. Shame on me, i fail to appreciate the blessings i had. I was really moved by today’s preaching. The humble preacher shared Exo 3:1-11 entitled: God called Moses. God uses so many ways to call our attention.And for instance Ondoy in some way was His way to call my attention.Because, i was already half hearted.My current state was being more of me and less of Him.The delight on meditating His word everyday was more mechanical than of a passion.Oh forgive me,God. I lost track of Your faithfulness. I was being ungrateful.

If you are having tough times like i do, now is the very least that you doubt God.At times that it’s difficult to comprehend Gods way stop! and start trusting Him.If you are lost in that road start trusting Him for He is able to straighten your path.If your Christian life seems dry just hang on. And claim his promise, A LAND FLOWING WITH MILK AND HONEY.