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The Hardest Part Of Getting Old

2019-06-28T21:03:00.000+06:00

The hardest part of getting old,

Is dealing with regrets,

Accepting there's no going back.

One chance is all I get.

Facing dreams that I once had

That never did come true,

And knowing they can't be achieved

And there's nothing now to do.

Recalling choices that I made

That clearly changed my life.

Times when I retreated

When I should have stood to fight.

People that I pushed away

Who only meant me well.

While holding on to other ones

Who made my life a hell.

Devoting all my energy

To the work I did each day

While investing little in myself

As my own life slipped away.

Not working hard on friendships,

Or on a family of my own.

So that now in this last stage of life,

I find myself alone.

If I had to do it all again,

It wouldn't be the same.

I'd live my life more for myself.

My priorities would change.

I would reach back more to others

Who had tried to pull me close.

And cherish all those people,

Who had cared for me the most.

I would not accept hurt or abuse

But demand love and respect.

I'd nurture those parts of myself

That I tended to neglect.

I would hope to have at least one child,

Who I'd teach and guide through life.

Who would hopefully look up to me,

And treasure my advice.

I would still find time to do my work,

One thing of which I'm proud.

It was my years in social work

That were my most profound.

But as for all the time I lost,

And the things that I can't change.

I have to let it go for good

And focus on the time that now remains.

For there are no second chances.

This is the life I made.

But I pray that by my being here,

I've made a difference in some way.

Words Unsaid

2019-06-28T20:58:00.002+06:00

Regretting the moments I took for granted,

Moments when I was eaten by pride and hatred.

What if I had told you what I feel?

Would it change my life's wheel?

I was so afraid to fall in love deeply,

For mending a broken heart will never be easy.

I have been rotting in that hell before,

And I don't want to be there anymore.

But why is my heart crying in pain?

Why do I feel that my life's turning so plain?

Should I have told you that I love you?

Should I have showed you that it's true?

They say some words are better left unsaid,

Emotions should be kept till they fade.

No, scratch all the cowardice and negativity,

Because saying what you feel is the real bravery.

So what if you won't love me back?

At least there will be no what if's in my mind.

But it's too late for me to realize this fact,

'Cause now you're gone and you'll never be mine.

Dance Through My Brain

2019-06-28T20:54:00.001+06:00

The memories keep flooding back,

But not one by one.

It's never that easy.

Each of them, chained up,

A mosaic of brokenness,

Squeezing through my mind.

Their sharp, crooked edges

Scraping against the walls of my brain.

Each one, different in shape,

But familiar in pain.

They scratch against my innocence,

Scarred.

Something that can never be taken back.

Never to heal.

And when a shred of light or happiness

Begins to dance through my brain,

It cannot help but notice the scars around each corner,

Waiting,

Grinning,

A constant reminder,

An annoying linger and itch.

Never to go away.

Alone In My Head

2019-06-28T20:49:00.001+06:00

Alone in my head,

I'm feeling so low,

You wont understand,

No one can know.

My eyes are so tired,

I can't sleep at night,

Your face haunts my dreams,

When I turn out the light.

It happened so suddenly,

It happened so fast,

I knew all at once,

That none of this would last.

Was I just a game?

Was this all just for fun?

Did my feelings matter,

To anyone?

"This didn't mean anything",

That's what you said,

As I was so shamefully,

Getting up from your bed.

I held my head high,

As I walked by your side,

Tears welling up,

I was dying inside.

Weeks have passed,

Keeping secrets, telling lies,

I don't have the strength,

To look either of them in the eyes.

My heart has been broken,

Not once, but twice,

Once by my best friend,

Once by the love of my life.

Deep down inside,

I know it's my fault,

So I'm just going to lock it,

Away in my vault.

Sometimes I still think of you,

When I'm lying in bed,

Still all alone,

Inside of my head.

Death

2019-06-28T20:41:00.002+06:00

When I was born, I was dying for warmth,

And as I grew, I was dying again.

Dying for affection, for love.

I was dying simply for a friend.

Though I got all of these,

I was always dying for more.

Dying to get older,

Dying to escape life's pause.

I was dying to find someone,

Dying to settle down,

Dying to be happier,

To have someone to wrap around.

I continued dying every day

Until I hit 99 and grew weak.

I was dying to see my family,

Dying not to fade; this I began to seek.

And then I saw it in that light.

I was finally dying for something to give,

And I knew that I had been dying for so long

That I forgot how to live.

When You Quit

2019-06-28T20:38:00.002+06:00

When You Quit

When time runs out and your heart needs to say so much more

But the heart that should hear it is gone now forever

And you are left with a raw nagging sore.

Then reach for your paper, your pen and your candle

And write though your heart it would burst.

No fears now restrain you; no judgment; no mock;

Write of your best, of your worst.

When your soul is then drained of its deepest regret

Then hold your true paper to the candle's clear flame

That thought-laden smoke might reach to that heart

And ashes, a symbol of love, yet remain.

A Cry From The Soul

2019-06-28T20:30:00.000+06:00

A Cry From The Soul

Trapped with nowhere to turn, life is changing beyond my control, causing this deep ache in the bottom of my soul.

Someone else is pulling the strings, oh to fly, oh for wings.

Escape, I want to dig my self out, filled with despair, filled with doubt.

Mute not able to express, this gnawing pain and feeling of relentless distress.

Tears that is not visible to the naked eye, silent screams that no one can hear.

I try to speak but nothing can express, this feeling of sadness and worthlessness.

Emotional pain, walks with me through the day, and sleeps with me through the night, leaving me depletes with no strength to fight.

Anger for not having the courage to turn things around, keeping me anchored to this remorse, not able to untie the chains and change my course.

False pride rules supreme, always there to whisper in my ear.

Time, wasted and badly spent, lots of hurt, lots to repent.

Solace, please come and calm my soul, for this is what I need to make me whole.

Empathy, what I need is for someone to see, someone to see the real me.

Love with no strings, just giving generously among other things.

Words, when used as a weapon can cut like a knife, capable of doing so much damage and take the joy out of life, but softly spoken and softly expressed can bring so much happiness.

My Angel

2019-06-28T20:23:00.002+06:00

My Angel

These words don't come easy,

but they are things that I must say.

See, I don't think I ever told you

that I wished you would stay...

I know it's not much use now,

and that's what hurts the most,

because without you down here,

my now angel, all of us are lost.

I'm sure I didn't say it enough,

the words "I love you," I mean,

and that's my biggest regret in life,

since now you're nowhere to be seen.

I really hope you hear my prayer,

as I beg for your forgiveness.

See, I never meant to cause you pain

and all that grief and sadness.

If I Could Go Back

2019-06-28T20:17:00.000+06:00

If I Could Go Back

For every time that I broke down

There was a fake smile to cover the frown

I hide behind lies when things got tough

Forced myself to think it was enough

My tears were masked by the rain

Unseen by all, alone with my pain

Each night was a cover to hide my cries

To keep from showing all these lies

If I could go back, I'd change it all

Stop myself from starting to fall

Consumed by hatred, I lost all sight

I knew what was wrong but it felt so right

I couldn't live without the pain

Or the anger pulsing through my vein

Each truth a lie I learned to hold

While watching each one start to unfold

If I could go back, all that would change

These diamond lies wouldn't seem so strange

I'd undo my lies and make them true

Hold on tightly to all that I do

Forget the bad, and think of only each day

And what's to come, without dismay

I'd forget that I cried those tears

Remember only every one of my fears

I'd try to be everything that I lost

Before I fell, remember the cost

Hope for the best, and try to be

All that died when I lost me

I'd turn back time to redo all this

And relive the life I almost missed

Only if I could turn it back

I'd find everything that I started to lack

No longer would fake smiles appear

They'd be true with nothing to fear

It'd be as though it was a dream

That came one night to make it seem

As though this was really true

But now there's only one thing I must do

Go back in time and erase this pain

Wash it away on rivers of rain

All this could happen if I went back

And once again in my life, I'd be on the right track.

Scared To Tell You

2013-07-13T06:09:00.001+06:00

I'm scared of not missing you anymore, I'm scared to live that day.
I'm scared my mind will erase the memory of the day you went away.
I put a lot of trust in you, you said that you were different.
Your intellect was beyond the hood, but I guess not far enough to miss it.

I guess I should've told you that I'm really sensitive, though I try to act like I don't mind, that night I still relive.
I'm ashamed because I know I love you way more than you like me,
and that I cry for you when you're not here so much that I can't see.

This headache just won't go away its been here since you left.
Though loud yet meek, though screaming yet bleak, this loss truly feels like death.
I pray you don't feel these words are a stretch because we've shared limited time,
or that I'm completely insane for tatting your name, assuring I've lost my mind.

Well the truth is that you are for me, and I've known it since we met.
Yeah we fought, loved, broken up, but there's something you just have to get.
I don't want anyone else baby doll, I don't want another man.
I'll build you up and give you my heart to cradle in your hand.

I admit I am attached baby, and dangerously its true.
That I want to offer my body and soul as a sacrifice to you.
I pray you never leave my side though physical I can take,
but mentally please stay awhile and never leave this place.

365 days is the longest fight I feel I've already been beat.
That waiting is indeed the hardest game and I've just succumbed to defeat.
Terell aka my babe that definitely is what you are.
Though unspoken yet chanted, and rough yet romantic, this love was written in the stars.

I don't know what you feel inside, or if this load you can carry.
If once you're out you'll go buck wild or settle down and marry.
I feel we'll be getting to know each other more so here than before,
so open and let me in because it's you that I adore.

The fate of this relationship is exclusively up to you, ill be holding down my end until my biggest dream comes true-
I love you!

How to Overcome Failure

2013-05-25T16:54:00.003+06:00

How to Overcome Failure

Expect mistakes : Life's hard knocks are as common as life's success knocks. To expect the process of living to always be smooth sailing is to invite a lack of realism into your life. It happens to the best of us. Failure helps to create balance in your life and presents an opportunity for personal growth. Accepting the inevitability that things won't always go your way is an important part of avoiding becoming bitter and twisted, or of preventing yourself from simply resting on your laurels and never pushing further to realize your full potential.
- Learn to love finding out that you're wrong about something. That's not failure; it's enlightenment and the path to finding the right way.
- Control perfectionism if this behavioral trait is holding you back in life. Perfectionism causes us to fear failure and to feel we're personally a failure when we're faced with it. Seeking to always be perfect sows our own seeds of disappointment. Trying and failing is a much better teacher of what it means to be human than never trying and never succeeding.
Remind yourself that you are good enough : Leo Babauta suggests that not believing we are good enough rests at the heart of fearing failure. Failures serve as proof of this greatest fear, causing us to want to withdraw and not try again for fear of being further exposed as inadequate and incapable. However, this fear is not founded in reality; nobody is perfect and everyone will err at various points in life. The real difference between people who become successful and overcome failure and those who do not comes down to how you manage failure and how you view its impact on you. Feeling inadequate is a commonplace human feeling that even very public, very successful people feel but they don't let it keep them down. You are good enough; all you need is to give yourself the go-ahead to keep trying.
Remain calm : Whatever you're feeling about a failure, don't lose your composure over it. Look at it this way – it won't make any difference to the outcome itself whether you blow your top or stay calm but it will take a lot less energy and maintain your reputation if you choose the latter response. If you're really frustrated and angry, channel these emotions to motivate you to start again.
- Don't take your anger out on others. It's not good to bottle up feelings, but you can't go around taking out your anger on those around you for no good reason. Go for a run, a swim, or a boxing session to relieve tension and give you space to think. Just do something focused and energized to distract yourself from the initial intense feelings until they calm.
- Take your time. People don't usually recover from a large failure overnight. It takes time for the emotions to heal. That doesn't mean you're entitled to mope though. This time is better spent going over how to do it better next time and building up your resilience.
Forget about how other people view you : Not only will any very obvious failure soon be yesterday's news, but if you think other people are judging you (and maybe they are, maybe they aren't), it won't be long before they're too busy worrying about their own failures to sling mud at yours. After all, everyone's going to fail now and then; inflicting gloating on someone else has a way of boomeranging right back, a reality which serves as a natural form of tapering off constant criticism. And ultimately, what's it matter what the critics think? Most of the time they haven't a clue what effort has gone into what you've done and what you're trying to achieve – it's all too easy to be an expert critic without being privy to the inside information.
- Allow each failure to serve as an opportunity to strengthen your determination in the face of criticism. This is a far more positive and self-sustaining response than giving in to believing the often nasty and thoughtless things other people can say.

Shift out of your head space : All of the negativity is in your head. The reality is that you will recover. And the bonus is that you will gain knowledge, insight, and experience – wisdom that only those who tried something can lay claim to. Step outside of your personal negative sphere and reach out to the people around you who care about you; enjoy their company and learn about how other people cope with failures instead of simply focusing on yourself.
- Visualize each failure as a stepping stone to a stronger, more resilient self. Treat each failure as a gift of learning what not to do in the future.
- Respect the humility that comes with failure. Too much success can sometimes lead us astray and cause us to grow an unwarranted sense of being infallible and feeling superior to others. Failure can knock the stuffing out of such unrealistic self-aggrandizement and help set you back on the right course.
Stop worrying, start laughing : Yes, the sun will come up again tomorrow. Yes, things might be miserable for a little while but how will worrying help? Think back to a time when you worried a lot. Did it make any difference? Most likely not, apart from giving you more wrinkles and gray hair. The greatest thing you can do for yourself during failure is to inject humor into your reflection of what happened. While there will be a period in which you feel especially tender, being able to laugh at yourself for mistakes can be an important part of the healing process, readying you for moving on again. Being able to say "Oh I did that, ha, ha, such a way to stuff up, ha, ha!" is part of putting failure into perspective.
- Be very careful that you don't take on other people's mistakes or circumstances as being your failure. Humor is one way of telling you that you don't need to carry the world on your shoulders and that sometimes, things just happen, no matter what you do or do not do.
Review what your failure has taught you : There are always things to take away from a failure, to inform your future direction. It might also be the case that you have made the failure seem worse than it is; partial failure is also partial success and if you can draw out what was successful and build on that, the sense of having failed lessens. Sociologist Hugh Mackay believes that we don't value failure in the way we ought to. Stating that failure is often interpreted as a sign of personal inadequacy, he says that this denies its vital role as part of the process of maturation throughout life.In other words, the learning never stops and the lessons include:
- Failure can help you discover your best self. Failure is a signal that you're willing to press on and discover new talents and the edge of your existing ones; reaching beyond what you know into what you don't know.
- Failure is about mastery. It's easy to flip from one new thing to another and be a Jack or Jill of many skills but a master or mistress of none. It's much, much harder to have the patience to master one thing really well and to do it with precision and exactitude. And to master something, one must fail at it, a lot.
- Failure teaches you about will-power, persistence, self-discipline, and the value of hard work. One of the signs of living in fear of failure is distraction. When you allow distraction to overtake your life, you're comforted that your distractions can hide your potential to fail. Ironically, distracting yourself is a failure in its own right – a failure to take the time to keep trying, to continue toward perfecting whatever you're learning to do or seeking to become. Ultimately, failure teaches you the value of persistence and hard work.
Stay in the present : Fear of failure is a future projection of worry and a reliance on what happened in the past. If you're stuck in this kind of thinking, you're living life according to what might happen. Author Leo Babauta suggests that the response needed here is to "just do it, now, in the moment... bring yourself back in the moment and focus on what you're doing right at this moment." By remaining in the present, you stay focused on the potential of now and allow your creativity, smarts, and innovative drive to bloom. Past failures are foundational lessons for better understandings in the present and an improved sense of living now; the future is created through your commitment to the present rather than your present being lead by your fear of tomorrow's possible losses.
- Embrace fear. Failure can only keep you down if you continue to fear it. Embrace the fear and you release yourself from its control. Allowing fear to control you renders you vulnerable to being controlled. Unchecked fear can cause you to let others make decisions for you in life; while that may be a recipe for not taking responsibility when things go wrong, it can also mean you lose your sense of creativity, innovation, and even your sense of self. Help show people it's not only fine to fail but healthy to break this fear!
Allow yourself to fail on purpose : Personal development guru Steve Pavlina recommends failing on purpose.He suggests that it is a good thing to set out to do something that you know will fail provided it won't harm others or have long-term negative consequences. He recommends learning something in which you have no talent, trying something beyond your skills set and asking for something when you know the answer will be no (such as a raise, promotion, etc. From doing this, Steve believes that you'll experience more benefits than losses, such as learning how to handle failure, how to extract key issues, knowing your limits, and unearthing the value of partial success.
Focus on trying again : Dale Carnegie once said that it was essential to "develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success." Persistence is the source of success for the majority of people on this planet. Overnight successes are rare; they are usually people who have been trying and failing and trying again many times over. Successful ad man Siimon Reynolds believes that lack of persistence is a major reason as to why people fail; giving up too soon means that you'll never know whether what you're seeking to do or be was achievable and he says that this is the case for "the majority of people"!
- Don't confuse lack of persistence with a goal that's not possible to achieve; most times it's the lack of persistence and not the goal that's the problem. Naturally, doing things the exact same way that lead to failure is not the answer; instead, focus on the goal and take the lessons from what didn't work to show you how you can find new, improved ways to reach your goal this time.
Grow : Popular motivational coach Anthony Robbins says that we don't just grow for ourselves – we grow so that we can contribute well beyond ourselves. This is an important thing to remember when you're proceeding through failures. Your experiences are available for others to learn from if you're willing to share them, as well as being willing to share with others how you pushed beyond failure into a more fruitful and fulfilling outcome, and even what happened when you couldn't overcome the failure. This helps everyone become more understanding and accepting of the role of failure in success-driven societies.
Ditch boredom and live large : Failure is the flipside of success and without it, there could be no joy in pushing through the odds, to know what success truly feels like when achieved. At the end of the day, it's a funny world where we're all longing for everything to be simple and easy without any bumps on the road; the sooner you realize that life doesn't come with automatic smoothing agents, the sooner you'll be happier about experiencing the bumps. And just imagine how boring life would be if you had nothing to improve or aim for! Keep in mind that the feeling of failure is the feeling of being alive. It's a sign you've given things a go, pushed boundaries, and bounced back.

LIFE

2013-05-25T16:29:00.001+06:00

LIFE

“ Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it. ”
― Mother Teresa

Sand and Stone

2012-08-01T04:17:00.001+06:00

Two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:
“TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.”
They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath. The one, who had been slapped, got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After the friend recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:
“TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.”
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”
The other friend replied: “When someone hurts us, we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”

LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND, AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE

Ways to Change Your Life at Any Age

2012-08-01T04:03:00.004+06:00

Things can change if you want them to, at any age. As I awoke this morning, I marveled at my life today. Where once I woke with dread at the thought of a new day, now I wake with excitement to begin – grateful to be doing what I’m doing for a living. I am so happy I did what I had to do, and struggled through the tough times and the fears, and realigned my life with the things that make me happy. When friends ask me how I did it, as they sometimes do, I tell them, “Hard work and persistence. It’s a small price to pay for a changed life.”

Here are ten things you can do to change your life at any age:

Subtract the wrong things. – When things aren’t adding up in your life, it’s time to start subtracting. Sometimes you must let go to grow. You cannot discover new oceans unless you build up enough courage to lose sight of the old, familiar shoreline. Be brave. Follow your values. Make changes. And remember, no venture is ever a waste of time. The ones that don’t work out teach you lessons that prepare you for the ones that do.
Believe you CAN. – The biggest obstacle that stops people from achieving their dreams is the feeling that they are not good enough. Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. You are good enough! Don’t let life discourage you. Success is often closer than it seems. With enough determination and drive, anything is possible in time. Everyone who got to where they are had to begin from where they were, just like you.
Work hard for what you want most. – Dreams don’t just magically become realities; it takes a lot of determination, sweat, and hard work. Remember, tough circumstances don’t last; tough people do. Most obstacles melt away when we make up our minds to march boldly through them. If you have a strong commitment to your goals and dreams, and wake up every morning with passion to work toward them, anything is possible.
Stand up for yourself. – You can’t force people to show you respect, but you can refuse to be disrespected. If you always back down to keep the peace, you will forever be armed with anger and self-loathing, and fighting a war within. Say what you need to say, do what you need to do, and don’t let anyone bully you into a corner.
Let go of the past. – Don’t stumble on something behind you. Don’t let your shadow guide you. You are not a slave to your past. Let it go and move on. Dream and give yourself permission to envision a ‘YOU’ that you choose to be – that you know you CAN be.
End hurtful relationships. – Just because you have a past with someone, doesn’t mean you should have a future with them. Just because you miss someone, doesn’t mean you need them back in your life. Sometimes missing them is just a healthy part of moving on.
Be thankful for what you have. – It’s not happy people who are thankful, it’s thankful people who are happy. Even when times are tough, think of all the beauty still around you, and smile. Life is too short to have a victim mentality. Say to yourself, “I am not going to be bitter, I am going to be better.”
Dedicate some time every day to loving yourself. – Only when we can sit alone quietly and look with honest eyes at our strengths and our weaknesses, our failures and our triumphs, our humanness and our moral strength, and love ourselves in spite of, and because of all that we are, will we begin to truly understand the meaning and power of unconditional love.
Keep learning and embracing life’s changes. – The seeds of your success are planted in your past failures. Your best stories will come from overcoming your greatest struggles. Your praises will be birthed from your pains. Keep standing and keep pushing forward. Even the coldest winters eventually turn into springtime. Seasons always change.
Enjoy where you are now. – Sometimes we’re so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are. Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds. You might not be exactly where you had intended to go, but you are precisely where you need to be.

Quotes to Help You Get Things Done

2012-08-01T03:49:00.000+06:00

Just because you are struggling does NOT mean you are failing. Every great success requires some kind of struggle to get there.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve failed or if you’ve been beaten. All that matters is that you learn something, get back up, and try again. Because winning is a good feeling, but winning when nobody else thought you could is an awesome feeling.
Stop beating yourself up. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once.
‘Finished last’ will always be better than ‘Did not finish’, which always trumps ‘Did not start.’
Don’t think too much, or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.
Thinking too long about doing something is often the reason it never gets done.
If you truly want to change your life, you must first change your mind.
Most great things in your life won’t happen by chance, they will happen by choice.
Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect.
Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.
There are seven days in the week and someday isn’t one of them.
You don’t have to be great to get started, but you do have to get started to be great.
Sitting on the right track is equivalent to racing down the wrong track.
Procrastinators who say, “There’s always tomorrow!” deny the reality that one day, they will be wrong.
Do something today that your future self will thank you for.
It’s easier to take a small action now instead of a big action ’some day.’
What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.
The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards people who get things done.
If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.
The best way to prepare for the future is to take care of the present.
Don’t forget what happened, but understand that you cannot move forward while looking backwards.
Don’t carry your mistakes around with you. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as stepping stones.
Mistakes teach you important lessons. Every time you make one, you’re one step closer to your goal. The only mistake that can truly hurt you is choosing to do nothing simply because you’re too scared to make a mistake.
Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing.
No matter how many mistakes you make, or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.
Your mistakes should be your motivation, not your excuses.
Past mistakes should teach you to create a wonderful future; not cause you to be afraid of it.
Don’t get caught up in wasted potential from years past. Potential is all we ever have.
No matter how long you have traveled in the wrong direction, you always have the choice to turn around.
You don’t drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.
Stop looking back at the door shutting behind you before you walk past the door opening in front of you.
Growth begins at the end of your comfort zone.
Being uncomfortable and uncertain is part of learning and growing. Get used to it. It’s worth it.
In order to be creative, we must lose our fear of being wrong.
Take a chance on the opportunities your gut says are good, because some things only happen once.
Don’t let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen.
If you want to fly, you have to give up the things that weigh you down.
When you stop worrying about what you can’t control, you have time to change the things you can control.
When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.
You might think you’re not good enough, but you’ll surprise yourself when you try.
People seldom do things to the best of their ability. They do things to the best of their willingness.
Don’t worry about others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
You’ll never reach your destination if you keep stopping to tell everyone where you’ve been and what you’ve accomplished.
If you are still talking about what you did yesterday, you haven’t done much today.
“Time changes everything.” That’s what people say, but it’s not really true. Doing things changes things. Not doing things leaves things exactly as they were.
Every day we are faced with great opportunities disguised as difficult circumstances.
There is a hidden treasure inside every problem. It’s your job to find it.
Nothing is impossible. The word itself says “I’m Possible.”
If you want to get over a problem, stop mulling it over and talking about it. Your mind affects your mouth, and your mouth affects your mind. It’s nearly impossible to move beyond something when you’re obsessing over it.
Worrying is like a rocking in a chair: it keeps you busy, but doesn’t get you anywhere.
Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.
The one who wins the race in the long run is usually not the strongest or the fastest, but the one who has tried the hardest.
Often it’s the deepest pain which empowers you to grow into your highest self.
The one who falls and gets up it so much stronger than the one who never fell.
The only difference between an obstacle and an opportunity is your attitude.
When something bad happens, you can either let it define you, let it destroy you or let it strengthen you. The choice is yours.
You have three choices in life: Give up, give in, or give it all you’ve got.
Don’t look back and ask, “Why?” Look ahead and ask, “Why not?” When it comes to your dreams and goals, be too positive to be doubtful, too optimistic to be fearful, and too determined to be defeated.
No matter how many times you break down, there should always be a little voice inside you that says, “NO, you’re not done yet! Get back up!” That’s the voice of passion and courage.
Approach the start of each day with one goal and end the day with one word: DONE!

Some Short Love Thought's

2012-08-01T03:41:00.003+06:00

Today, my 75-year-old grandpa who has been blind from cataracts for almost 15 years said to me, “Your grandma is just the most beautiful thing, isn’t she?” I paused for a second and said, “Yes she is. I bet you miss seeing that beauty on a daily basis.” “Sweety,” my grandpa said, “I still see her beauty every day. In fact, I see it more now than I used to when we were young.”
Today, I walked my daughter down the aisle. Ten years ago I pulled a 14 year old boy out of his mom’s fire-engulfed SUV after a serious accident. Doctors initially said he would never walk again. My daughter came with me several times to visit him at the hospital. Then she started going on her own. Today, seeing him defy the odds and smile widely, standing on his own two feet at the altar as he placed a ring on my daughter’s finger.
Today, I walked up to the door of my office (I’m a florist) at 7AM to find a uniformed Army soldier standing out front waiting. He was on his way to the airport to go to Afghanistan for a year. He said, “I usually bring home a bouquet of flowers for my wife every Friday and I don’t want to let her down when I’m away.” He then placed an order for 52 Friday afternoon deliveries of flowers to his wife’s office and asked me to schedule one for each week until he returns. I gave him a 50% discount because it made my day to see something so sweet. MMT
Today, I told my 18 year old grandson that nobody asked me to prom when I was in high school, so I didn’t attend. He showed up at my house this evening dressed in a tuxedo and took me as his date to his prom.
Today, when she woke up from an eleven month coma, she kissed me and said, “Thank you for being here, and telling me those beautiful stories, and never giving up on me… And yes, I will marry you.”
Today, I was sitting on a park bench eating a sandwich for lunch when an elderly couple pulled their car up under a nearby oak tree. They rolled down the windows and turned up some jazz music on the radio. Then the man got out of the car, walked around to the passenger side, opened the door for the woman, took her hand and helped her out of her seat, guided her about ten feet away from the car, and they slow danced for the next half hour under the oak tree.
Today, I operated on a little girl. She needed O- blood. We didn’t have any, but her twin brother has O- blood. I explained to him that it was a matter of life and death. He sat quietly for a moment, and then said goodbye to his parents. I didn’t think anything of it until after we took his blood and he asked, “So when will I die?” He thought he was giving his life for hers. Thankfully, they’ll both be fine.
Today, my dad is the best dad I could ask for. He’s a loving husband to my mom (always making her laugh), he’s been to every one of my soccer games since I was 5 (I’m 17 now), and he provides for our family as a construction foreman. This morning when I was searching through my dad’s toolbox for a pliers, I found a dirty folded up paper at the bottom. It was an old journal entry in my dad’s handwriting dated exactly one month before the day I was born. It reads, “I am eighteen years old, an alcoholic who is failing out of college, a past cutter, and a child abuse victim with a criminal record of auto theft. And next month, ‘teen father’ will be added to the list. But I swear I will make things right for my little girl. I will be the dad I never had.” And I don’t know how he did it, but he did it.
Today, my 8-year-old son hugged me and said, “You are the best mom in the whole entire world!” I smiled and sarcastically replied, “How do you know that? You haven’t met every mom in the whole entire world.” My son squeezed me tighter and said, “Yes I have. You are my world.” MMT
Today, I have an elderly patient who is suffering from a severe case of Alzheimer’s. He can rarely remember his own name, and he often forgets where he is and what he said just a few minutes beforehand. But by the stretch of some miracle (perhaps the miracle of love), he remembers who is wife is every morning when she shows up to spend a few hours with him. He usually greets her by saying, “Hello my beautiful Kate.”
Today, my 21 year old Labrador can barely stand up, can’t see, can’t hear, and doesn’t have enough strength to bark. But it doesn’t stop her from wagging her tail a mile a minute every single time I walk into the room.
Today is our 10th anniversary, but since my husband and I are both recently unemployed we agreed not to get each other any gifts. When I woke up this morning, my husband was already up. I walked downstairs to find beautiful wild flowers brilliantly arranged all over the house. There must be 400 flowers total and he didn’t spend a dime.
Today, my high school boyfriend, who I thought I’d never see again, showed me the pictures of the two of us he kept in his Army helmet while he was overseas for the last 8 years.
Today, my 88-year-old grandmother and her 17 year old cat are both blind. My grandmother’s guide dog leads my grandmother around the house, which is normal. But lately, he’s been guiding her cat around the house too. When her cat meows, he walks up and rubs against her, and then she follows directly behind him to her food, to the litter box, to the other end of the house for a nap, etc.
Today, I watched in horror through the kitchen window as my 2-year-old slipped and fell head first into the pool. But before I could get to her, our Labrador Retriever, Rex, jumped in after her, grabbed her by her shirt collar and pulled her to the shallow steps where she could stand.
Today, my older brother has donated bone marrow 16 times to help treat my cancer. He communicates directly with my doctor and does it without me even asking or knowing when he has an appointment. And today my doctor informed me that the treatment appears to be working. “Cancer cells have been drastically reduced in the last few months.”
Today, I was driving home with my grandfather when he suddenly made a u-turn and said, “I forgot to get your grandmother a bouquet of flowers. I’ll pick up one from the florist at the corner down here. It’ll only take a second.” “What’s so special about today that you have to buy her flowers?” I asked. “There’s nothing specifically special about today,” my grandfather said. “Every day is special. Your grandmother loves flowers. They put a smile on her face.” MMT
Today, I re-read the suicide letter I wrote on the afternoon of September 2nd 1996 about two minutes before my girlfriend showed up at my door and told me, “I’m pregnant.” Suddenly I felt I had a reason to live. Today she’s my wife. We’ve been happily married for 14 years. And my daughter, who is almost 15 now, has two younger brothers. I re-read my suicide letter from time to time as a reminder to be thankful – I am thankful I got a second chance at life and love.
Today, and every day for the last two months since I returned to school with burn scars on my face after being hospitalized for nearly a month for injuries I sustained in a house fire, a red rose was taped to my locker when I got to school in the morning. I have no clue who is getting to school early and leaving me these roses. I’ve even arrived early myself a few times to try to figure it out, but each time the rose was already there.
Today was the 10 year anniversary of my dad’s passing. When I was a kid he used to hum a short melody to me as I was going to sleep. When I was 18, as he rested in his hospital bed fighting cancer, the roles were reversed and I hummed the melody to him. I haven’t heard that melody since, until last night. My fiancé and I were turned on our sides looking at each other in bed when he started humming it to me. His mom used to hum it to him when he was a kid.
Today, a woman who must have her voicebox removed due to cancer is enrolled in my sign language class. Her husband, four children, two sisters, brother, mother, father, and twelve close friends are also enrolled in the same class so they can communicate with her after she loses her ability to speak aloud.
Today, my 11-year-old son speaks fluent sign language because his best friend, Josh, who he grew up with from the time he was an infant, is deaf. Seeing their genuine friendship evolve and grow over the years.
Today, due to Alzheimer’s and dementia, my grandfather usually can’t remember who my grandmother is when he wakes up in the morning. It bothered my grandmother a year ago when it first happened, but now she’s fully supportive of his condition. In fact, she plays a game every day in which she tries to get my grandfather to ask her to re-marry him before dinnertime. She hasn’t failed yet.
Today, my dad passed away from natural causes at the age of 92. I found his body resting peacefully in the recliner in his bedroom. In his lap, facing upright, were three framed 8×10 photographs of my mom who passed away about 10 years ago. She was the love of his life, and apparently the last thing he wanted to see before he passed.
Today, I am the proud mom of a blind 17-year-old boy. Although my son was born without his sense of sight, it hasn’t stopped him from being a straight A student, a guitarist (whose band just surpassed 25,000 downloads of their first album), and a loving boyfriend to his long-term girlfriend, Valerie. Just today, his younger sister asked him what he likes about Valerie, and he said, “Everything. She’s beautiful.”
Today, I waited on an elderly couple. The way they looked at each other… you could see they were in love. When the husband mentioned that they were celebrating their anniversary, I smiled and said, “Let me guess. You two have been together forever.” They laughed and the wife said, “Actually, no, today is our 5 year anniversary. We both outlived our spouses and then life blessed us with one more shot at love.”
Today, my father found my little sister alive, chained up in a barn. She was abducted near Mexico City almost 5 months ago. Authorities stopped actively searching for her a few weeks later. My mom and I laid her soul to rest. We had a funeral for her last month. All of our family and friends attended the ceremony except my father. Instead he kept looking for her. He said he “loved her too much to give up.” And she’s back home now because he never did.
Today, there are two senior boys at my school who have an openly gay relationship. They have experienced verbal humiliation on a daily basis for the last two years, yet they continue to hold each other’s hand in the hallways. Despite threats and vandalized lockers, they showed up to prom this evening wearing matching tuxedos. Seeing them on the dance floor, smiling from ear to ear in spite of all the haters
Today, my sister and I were in a bad car accident. My sister is Mrs. Popular at school – she knows everyone. I’m a bit of an introvert – I hang-out with the same 2 girls all the time. My sister immediately posted a comment on Facebook about our accident. And while all her friends were commenting, my 2 friends showed up independently at the scene of the accident before the paramedics arrived.
Today, my fiancé returned home from his last tour of duty overseas. Yesterday he was just my boyfriend, or so I thought. Almost a year ago, he mailed me a package. He told me I wasn’t allowed to open it until he got home in two weeks. But then his tour got extended for another 11 months. Today, when he got home, he told me to open the package, and just as I pulled the ring out of the box, he got down on one knee.
Today, my 12-year-old son, Sean, and I stopped by the nursing home together for the first time in several months. Usually I come alone see my mother who’s suffering from Alzheimer’s. When we walked into the lobby, the nurse said, “Hi, Sean!” and then buzzed us in. “How does she know your name?” I asked. “Oh, I swing by here on my walk home from school all the time to say hi to Grandma,” Sean said. I had no idea.
Today, I found an old hand written note my mom wrote when she was a senior in high school. On it is a list of qualities she hoped she would someday find in a boyfriend. The list is basically an exact description of my dad, who she didn’t meet until she was 27.
Today, I’ve been chemistry lab partners with one of the most beautiful (and popular) girls at our school since the beginning of the school year. And although I never would have had the courage to talk to her otherwise, she’s totally down to earth and sweet. We spend our time in the lab chatting, laughing, and getting A’s (she’s smart too), and just recently we started talking a little bit outside of class too. Last week when I heard that she didn’t have a date to our homecoming dance, I desperately wanted to ask her, but chickened out every time I was about to. Then this afternoon, at lunchtime, she ran up to me and formally asked me to ask her to the dance. So I did, and she kissed me on the cheek and said, “Yes!”
Today, on our 10th anniversary, she handed me a suicide note she wrote when she was 22, on the exact day we met. And she said, “For all these years I didn’t want you to know how foolish and unstable I was back when we met. But even though you didn’t know, you saved me. Thank you.”
Today, my grandpa keeps and old, candid photo on his nightstand of my grandma and him laughing together at some party in the 1960’s. My grandma passed away from cancer in 1999 when I was 7. This evening when I was at his house, my grandpa caught me staring at the photo. He walked up, hugged me from behind and said, “Remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.”
Today, I sat down with my two daughters, ages 4 and 6, to explain to them that we have to move out of our 4 bedroom house and into a 2 bedroom apartment for awhile until I can find another job that pays well. My daughters looked at each other for a moment and then my youngest daughter turned to me and asked, “Are we all moving into the apartment together?” “Yes,” I replied. “Oh, so no big deal then,” she said.
Today, I met the prettiest woman on a plane. Assuming I wouldn’t see her again after we made our connections, I told her how pretty I thought she was. She gave me the most sincere smile and said, “Nobody has said that to me in 10 years.” It turns out we’re both in our mid-30’s, never married, no kids, and we live about 5 miles away from each other. We have a date set for next Saturday after we return home.
Today, I’m a mother of 2 and a grandmother of 4. At 17 I got pregnant with twins. When my boyfriend and friends found out I wasn’t going to abort them, they turned a cold shoulder to me. But I pressed forward, worked full-time while attending school, graduated high school and college, and met a guy in one of my classes who has loved my children like his own for the last 50 years.
Today, on my 29th birthday, I returned home from my 4th and final tour of duty overseas. The little girl who lives next door to my parents (who isn’t so little any more - she’s 22 now) met me at the airport with a long stemmed rose, a bottle of my favorite vodka, and then asked me out on a date.
Today, my daughter accepted her boyfriend’s marriage proposal. He is 3 years older than her. They started dating when she was 14 and he was 17. I never liked the age difference when they were kids. When he turned 18 a week before she turned 15, my husband insisted they break-up. They maintained a friendship, but went on to date other people. Now at the ages of 24 and 27, I’ve never seen two people more in love.
Today, after I heard that my mom stayed home from work with the flu, I stopped by Wal-Mart on my way home from school to pick her up some canned soup. I ran into my dad who was already in the check-out line. He had 5 cans of soup, NyQuil, tissues, tampons, 4 romantic comedy DVDs and a bouquet of flowers. My dad makes me smile and .
Today, I was sitting on a hotel balcony watching 2 lovers in the distance walk along the beach. From their body language, I could tell they were laughing and enjoying each other’s company. As they got closer, I realized they were my parents. My parents almost got divorced 8 years ago.
Today, I’m only 17, but I’ve been with my boyfriend, Jake, for 3 years, and last night was the first time we spent the night together. We’ve never ‘done it,’ and we didn’t last night either. Instead, we baked cookies, watched two comedies, laughed, played Xbox and fell asleep in each other’s arms. Despite the warnings from my parents, he’s been nothing but a gentleman and a best friend.
Today, when I tapped the side of my wheelchair and told my husband, “You’re the only reason I want to be free from this contraption,” he kissed me on my forehead and said, “Honey, I don’t even see that thing.”
Today, my grandmother and grandfather, who were both in their early 90’s and married for 72 years, both died of natural causes approximately one hour apart from each other. MMT
Today, my dad came to see me for the first time in 6 months since I told him I’m gay. When I opened the door he had tears in his eyes and he immediately gave me a huge hug and said, “I’m sorry, Jason. I love you.”
Today, my autistic little sister spoke her first word at the age of 6 – my name.
Today, at the age of 72, nearly 15 years after my grandfather passed away, my grandmother remarried. And since I’m only 17, I’ve never seen her so happy in all my life. It’s inspiring to see two people so in love at their age. it’s never too late.
Today, at a jazz club in San Francisco I saw a man and woman enjoying a drink together. The woman was a dwarf and the man must have been 6 feet tall. Later in the evening they went out onto the dance floor. The man got down on his knees so they could slow dance together. They danced the rest of the night.
Today, as I was sleeping, I woke up to my daughter calling my name. I was sleeping in a sofa chair in her hospital room. I opened my eyes to her beautiful smile. My daughter has been in a coma for 98 days.
Today, exactly 10 years ago almost to the minute, I stopped at an intersection and a car rear ended me. The driver was a student at UF, just like me. He was cordial and apologetic. As we waited for the cops and the tow truck we chatted and started laughing together about all sorts of stuff. We exchanged numbers and the rest is history. We just celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary.
Today, I was working in a coffee shop when 2 gay men walked in holding hands. As you might expect, heads started turning. Then a young girl at the table next to me asked her mom why 2 men were holding hands. Her mom replied, “Because they love each other.”
Today, after 2 years of separation, my ex-wife and I resolved our differences and met for dinner. We laughed and chatted for almost 4 hours. Then just before she left, she handed me a large envelope. In it were 20 love letters she wrote me over the last 2 years. There was a post-it note on the envelope that said, “Letters I was too stubborn to send.”
Today, I was in an accident that left me with a gash on my forehead. The doctors wrapped a bandage around my head and said I have to keep it on all week. I hate wearing it. Two minutes ago my little brother walked into my room wearing a bandage on his head. My mom said he insisted that he didn’t want me to feel alone.
Today, my mother passed away after a long battle with cancer. My best friend lives 2000 miles away and called to comfort me. While on the phone, he asked, “What would you do if I showed up at your house and gave you the biggest hug in the world?” “I would surely smile,” I replied. And then he rang my doorbell.
Today, as my 91-year-old grandfather (a military doctor, war hero, and successful business owner) rested in his hospital bed, I asked him what his greatest life accomplishment was. He turned around, grabbed my grandmother’s hand, looked her in the eyes, and said, “Growing old with you.”
Today, as I watched my 75-year-old grandmother and grandfather being silly with each other and laughing in the kitchen, I felt like I got a short glimpse of what true love feels like. I hope I find it someday.
Today, exactly twenty years ago to the hour, I risked my life to save a woman who was drowning in the rapids of the Colorado River. And that’s how I met my wife - the love of my life.
Today, on our 50th wedding anniversary, she smiled at me and said, “I only wish I had met you sooner.”
Today, my blind friend explained to me in vivid detail how beautiful his new girlfriend is.

you might actually like me

2012-08-01T03:15:00.000+06:00

i wanted to let you know how frustrating our situation is for me and that’s the safest way i can put it.

hah, see, i can barely put my feelings to words-- rather, i can’t put them in a way that you’d be comfortable with. we’ve had talks like this before, and i always have trouble getting to the point because i know that if i say something too intense or too emotional, you’ll shut yourself down. then everything after that would be like talking to a block of ice; you’d be melting away as i speak until there’s none of you left. just an empty space. and i hate that about us.

don’t get me wrong, every other aspect of whatever-it-is-we-have is fantastic. it’s almost like our lives were written out by Sarah Dessen; our relationship is a sappy, teen-romance novel. but that’s the thing. it isn’t quite that. i mean, it starts out with the cliché: you and i are two totally different people. you are quiet and shy. a man of few words. but, hey, when you start talkin’, things start to make sense. you make every word count. you think before you act. i, on the other hand, am loud and friendly. most people say i am the jolliest person they have ever met. i blurt out basically whatever comes to mind, in hopes that nobody will care ‘cause they’d be too fixated on my enthusiasm. similarly, i am rather impulsive. so we are completely opposite. but, somehow, we click.

we hang out two to three times every week. we stay on the phone for long periods of time. we send each other silly blurbs and inside jokes through text message. we hold hands. we cuddle. we spoon. kiss. we eat dinner at each other’s houses with each other’s family. we call each other adorable and cute. we’re there when one needs the other the most. we tell each other everything. we’re virtually best friends. how generic-couple are we?

the answer is not at all.

if we were a generic couple, we’d be fine right now. i’d be fine right now. sure, we’d have our ups and downs, but like every good Sarah Dessen book, we’d find a way to figure it out. but how can you figure something out if you don’t even put any effort to it? we don’t acknowledge the problem, let alone try to solve it. you must be thinking, “nothing’s wrong. this chick’s insane. we’re totally fine.” see, i used to think so, until now. it’s been building up for a year and i can’t stand it. i may be insane. i don’t know. but here goes:

the problem is that we are not dating.

because you said you don’t like me that way. no matter how many times we adventure or chill in each other’s houses. no matter how much you hate the phone and still insist on talking on it with me. no matter how hard you try to make me smile on the rare occasions when i’m down. no matter how many times you tell me how smooth my hand is and how it fits perfectly into yours. no matter how much you initiate each embrace, each kiss. no matter how much our parents think we’re getting married. no matter how much you stare at me lovingly. no matter how many times you’ve been there when i’ve needed a ride home, or am scared, or have had an asthma attack. no matter how much you share with me that you don’t share with anyone else. no matter how close we’ve become. you still say that you. don’t. like. me. that. way.

and i don’t get it.

because today, i heard you say you love me. clearly. when you thought i wouldn’t hear.
and when i asked, you denied it.

the problem is, i don’t know where i stand.
the problem is, i don’t get why you won’t just accept the fact that you might
actually like me.

20 Interesting Facts about Men

2011-12-16T15:11:00.000+06:00

Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
When a guy is conscious of his looks, it shows he is not good at fixing things.
Guys seek for advice not from a guy but from a girl.
A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.
If a man prepares dinner for you and the salad contains three or more types of lettuce, he is serious.
All men hate to hear “We need to talk about our relationship.” These seven words strike fear in the heart of even General Schwarzkopf.
If a man says “I’ll call you,” and he doesn’t, he didn’t FORGET… he didn’t LOSE your number… he didn’t DIE! He just didn’t want to call you.
Guys don’t really have final decisions.
It’s not easy for a guy to let go of his girlfriend after they broke up especially when they’ve been together for 3 years or more.
When four or more men get together, they talk about sports.
Most men hate to shop. That is why the men’s department is usually on the first floor of a department store, two inches from the door.
When an unlikable circumstance comes, guys blame themselves a lot more than girls do. They could even hurt themselves physically.
Guys have strong passion to change but have weak will power.
Guys are tigers in their peer groups but become tamed pussycats with their girlfriends.
Guys like girls who are like their moms.
Don’t be a snob. Guys may easily give up on the first sign of rejection.
Men are less sentimental than women. No man has ever seen the movie THE WAY WE WERE twice, voluntarily.
Guys don’t care about how shiny their shoes are unlike girls.
Men who listen to classical music tend not to spit.
Men accept compliments much better than women do. Example: “Mitch, you look great.” Mitch: “Thanks.” On the other side: “Ruth, you look great.” Ruth: “I do? Must be the lighting.”

Red Rose

2011-10-28T14:30:00.000+06:00

The jagged scars of my disquieted mind,

Jolted from the asphyxia of apathy,

Begin to bleed.

The despair-born disease leaks

Into my thirsty, eager veins,

Searing a pathway into the

Tenderness of my heart.

The burning pressure builds,

The pulsing heat unrelenting,

I ache to release it,

To cut through my flesh

And mingle blood with air,

Running down, cooling my fevered skin.

Move. Move. Itching urge to move.

Run. Run. Forever blindly running.

Drive. Drive. Driving through the

Cascades of cleansing rain -

Streetlight shadow procession -

Mocking my desperate striving

At deliverance.

Faster. Faster. Never to outrun

The demons that jeer and scold.

I cannot cry.

Something stops me.

I scream for relief

That will not come.

I pray for tears

That will not flow.

My feelings buried in the depths,

Ambushed by fear,

Trapped inside an

Impenetrable wall.

So instead I cry

Rose red tears

On the unforgiving pavement.

Streetlights flicker and cease to shine.

I am alone in my numbness.

Me.

And the rain.

And the proof

My heart still beats.

'The strange unknown bird of the cage'

2011-10-28T13:57:00.000+06:00

Look, how the strange bird flies in and out of cage!

If I could catch, I would bind it with my mind's fetter..

It has eight rooms with nine closed doors, with windows in between,,

and at the top you'll find the main room, with row of mirrored house...

its just fate, or else why would the bird behave like this?

my beloved bird, can fly away anytime, breaking the cage!

O my mind, submerged in desire of the cage, (alas) its made of raw bamboos..

someday this cage would just fall apart..

10 Ways to Keep Your Husband’s Love

2011-10-20T22:33:00.000+06:00

♥ Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!

♥ Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.

♥ Smell good!

♥ Do not lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

♥ Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help!

♥ Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.

♥ Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights

♥ Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.

TO ALL GIRLS ..

2011-10-20T22:30:00.000+06:00

You DON'T need a boy who's married to the streets,
but a man who's engaged to his DEEN and married to his SALAH ♥ :)

... ... You DON'T need a boy who loves you for your make-up and clothes,
but a man who loves you for the sake of ALLAH SWT and your HIJAB ♥ :)

You DON'T need a boy who wants a wife because he's tired of messing around with girls, but a man who wants to complete half of his DEEN! ♥ :)

•.Don’t be too hurry in love, find someone who can guide you not only in Dunya, but in akhirah. Who can pick you up when you fall, who can remind you when you forget, love you with all his might, someone that will holds your hands through thick and thin & leads you to the Jannah.♥♥♥

I LoVe YoU

2011-10-20T22:16:00.000+06:00

When U Were 20 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....
U Put Ur Head On My Shoulder And Hold My Hand.. Afraid That I Might Dissapear..
When U Were 25 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....
U Prepare Breakfast And Serve It In Front Of Me, And Kiss My Forhead N
Said : "U Better Be Quick, Is’s Gonna Be Late.."
When U Were 30 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....
U Said: "If U Really Love Me, Please Come Back Early After Work.."
When U Were 40 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....
U Were Cleaning The Dining Table And Said: "Ok Dear, But It’s Time For U To Help Our Child With His/Her Revision.."
When U Were 50 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....
U Were Knitting And U Laugh At Me..
When U Were 60 Yrs Old, I Said I Love U....
U Smile At Me..
When U Were 70 Yrs Old. I Said I Love U....
We Sitting On The Rocking Chair With Our Glasses On.. I’m Reading Your Love Letter That U Sent To Me 50 Yrs Ago..With Our Hand Crossing Together..
When U Were 80 Yrs Old, U Said U Love Me!
I Didn’t Say Anything But Cried.

We may not express it but when we say "I Love You" we want our partner also to say the same... there are many ways of expressing love but nothing can play the same magic that these 3 words can play when said in return ? ?

"And those who say, “Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous”
[Holy Quran-25:74]
“And among His signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find comfort and repose in them, and He put between you love and compassion; most surely there are signs in this for a people who reflect.” (30:21)

The husband should find rest and tranquillity in his wife.The wife should seek to be a source of calm and rest for her husband.They join, she conceives and they make a dua.
“On the night of the fast it is lawful for you to have sexual relations with your wives. They are clothing/covering (libaas) for you and you for them” (2:187)
“You who believe! It is not lawful for you to inherit women by force. Nor may you treat them harshly so that you can make off with part of what you have given them, unless they commit an act of flagrant indecency. Live together with them correctly and courteously. If you dislike them, it may well be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good.” (4:19)

The above are what a man and a woman must seek to maintain in their lives in order to fulfil Allah’s destiny for his creation.
“It is He Who created you from a single self and made from him his spouse so that he might find rest in her/dwell with her. Then when he covered her she bore a light load and carried it around. Then when it became heavy they called on Allah, their Lord, ‘If You grant us a healthy child, we will be among the thankful!’” (7:189)

Look At Yourself ...

2011-10-20T22:04:00.000+06:00

Men are always most likely to point out things what a female has to do (like Hijab, dress modesty), while we (mens) usually dont follow whats written for us.
Or it seems we are not even aware of the correct ruling of the dress.

How many of us (mens) wear their trousers above the ankle ?
How many of us (mens) spot a beard & trim their mustache ?

People usually only discuss Hijab in the context of women. However in the Holy Quran, Allah (swt) first mentions Hijab for men before Hijab for the women.

“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: That will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do” (Surah Noor, chapter 24, verse 30)

The moment a man looks at a woman and if any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he should lower his gaze.

‎"Demand of pious Wife and Intelligence of a great Husband" (Must Read)

2011-10-20T21:59:00.000+06:00

Story of beautiful woman who wish to marry pious husband!!

There was this beautiful woman, who wanted to get married, but she wanted a very pious husband, so she said that she’ll marry the man who recites the whole Quran every single day, fasts for the whole year and stays awake and worships Allah all throughout the night. She was a very beautiful woman, and a lot of suitors wanted to marry her, but they knew they couldn’t fulfil the conditions she set. Until this one man stepped forward and said he could fulfil them. So the Imam got both of them married. After the first night of the marriage, the wife sees that the husband doesn’t recite the whole of the Quran, nor does he fast, nor does he stay awake in the worship of Allah, she decided to let it roll on for a few weeks to see if there were any changes, there weren’t, so she filed a complaint and asked for a divorce. They are both taken in front of the judge, and the judge asked, ‘What were the conditions of the marriage?’ the man replied ‘They were for me to recite the whole Quran daily, keep fast for the whole year and to worship Allah all throughout the night.’ The Judge asked, ‘ did you fulfil them? The man calmly answered, ‘…yes.’ The judge answers, ‘you lie, your wife has said that you don’t, that’s why she’s asking for a divorce’. But the man insisted that he had fulfilled the conditions, so the judge asked, ‘did you recite the full Quran everyday?’ The man answered yes. The Judge, baffled asked, ‘how? How can you do that?’ The man coolly answered, ‘I recite Surah Ikhlas three times a day and according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), reciting Surah Ikhlas three times is equivalent to reciting the whole Quran.’ The Judge was intrigued, so he asked, ‘how did you fast the whole year?’ The man answered, ‘ I fasted for the whole month of Ramadan, then kept another six fasts in the month of Shawwal, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), keeping all of the fast of Ramadan then keeping six fasts in the month of Shawwal, is as if you have fasted for the whole year.’ The Judge remained silent, he couldn’t give a reply saying the man was wrong, so finally he asked, ‘ how did you stay awake all night and worship Allah, when your wife saw you sleeping?’ The Judge thought the man wouldn’t be able to answer this one, but the man, cool as a cucumber answered, ‘I prayed Salatul Isha with jamaat, then the next day prayed Salatul Fajr with jamaat, according to Prophet Muhammad (saw), the one who prays Salatul Isha and Salatul Fajr with jamaat, it is as if he had stayed up all night worshippingAllah.’ The Judge sat there looking at the man; the final verdict was about to be released… He said to the man and his wife, ‘…go, just go, there is nothing wrong with this marriage.. =)