Relationship and Love

LANGUAGES OF LOVE

2013-05-01T04:55:00.002-07:00

The 5 love languages – formed by Gary Chapman distinguish between the different ways people show and receive love. We tend to have a preferred language. In many cases they are the symbolic displays that show we love and are loved.

He has proposed that everybody has a ‘love language’ in which that they are most comfortable to express their love to their partner, and as importantly, need to receive back.

The five ‘languages’ that he suggests are:

1.    Words of affirmation

2.    Quality time

3.    Receiving gifts

4.    Acts of service

5.    Physical touch

Problems develop in a relationship when partners don’t share the same language and therefore, don’t express love and affection in a way to which their partner can relate. For example, if one person needs words of affirmation to feel loved and secure but their partner only uses physical touch, then neither is going to be satisfied.

Not everybody would agree with these categories, but the concept is one that has been explored in different ways, by many motivational writers. Some even suggest that each sex has a completely different love language and to have a happy relationship, you need to learn how these operate.

In my experience, I have come to the conclusion that everyone does have one or more methods by which they express their love for their partner and if they do not feel loved in return, it may be that their partner is expressing it in ways that they cannot understand.

Love language 1 – Words of affirmation

This is an easy one – affirmations are compliments, the words of appreciation, of encouragement and the words of recognition. Partners surveys everywhere tell us that people want to be thanked and appreciated for what they do, wanting words of affirmation to show they are valued.

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.*

Verbal compliments or words of appreciation are powerful communicators of love.

Love Language 2 – Quality Time

Another easy one to apply in the relationship is – finding the time to talk, listen and engage with partners. This seems particularly important for women to receive quality time from their men. They want to know they have been listened to and that they have been part of a quality conversation. It can be achieved by allocating time to the conversations, observing body language, asking questions and paying attention.

This means giving someone your undivided attention. I don’t mean sitting on the couch watching television together. What I mean is taking a walk, just the two of you, or going out to eat and looking at each other while talking. Time is a strong communicator of love. The love language of quality time has many dialects. One of the most common is that of quality conversation – two individuals sharing their thoughts and feelings. A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s desires. We must be willing to give advice, but only when it’s requested and never in a condescending manner.

Here are some practical listening tips:
❤ Maintain eye contact when your spouse is talking.
❤Don’t do something else at the same time.
❤ Listen for feelings and confirm them. Ask yourself, “What emotion is my spouse experiencing?”
❤ Observe body language.
❤ Refuse to interrupt. Such interruptions indicate, “I don’t care what you are saying; listen to me.”
❤ Quality conversation also calls for self-revelation. In order for your partner to feel loved, you must reveal some of yourself, too.

Love Language 3 – Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.*

Almost everything ever written on the subject of love indicates that at the heart of love is the spirit of giving. All five love languages challenge us to give to our spouse, but for some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love, speaks the loudest. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, “Look, he was thinking of me,” or, “She remembered me.” A gift is a symbol of that thought. Gifts come in all sizes, colours and shapes. Some are expensive and others are free. To the individual whose primary love language is receiving gifts, the cost will matter little.

There is also an intangible gift that can speak more loudly than something that can be held in one’s hand. Physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give. Your body becomes the symbol of your love.

Love Language 4 – Acts of service

This is doing something that you know the other person would like you to do. They often involve thought, planning and effort. It can be expressed as an offer to help or to do something that you know will make a difference to the other person.

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.* I’m not saying become a doormat to your partner and do these things out of guilt or resentment. No person should ever be a doormat. Do these things as a lover.

Love Language 5 – Physical touch

And finally physical touch – this is probably the crucial, hardest and most important love

language. This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.*

Holding hands, kissing, hugging and sex – all of these are lifelines for the person for whom physical touch is the primary love language. With it, they feel secure in their partner’s love. “Love touches” don’t take much time, but they do require a little thought, especially if this isn’t your primary love language or you didn’t grow up in a “touching” family. Sitting close to each other as you watch TV requires no additional time, but communicates your love loudly. Touching each other when you leave the house and when you return may involve only a brief kiss, but speaks volumes.

Regards,

Umar

The Secrets of a Successful Relationship

2013-04-28T11:38:00.002-07:00

Whether your life partnership is a traditional marriage or a de facto relationship; Engaged or Dating, the same skills are required to make it lasting and stable. Once the rosy hues of romantic love and lust have started to fade, other resources are needed to keep both people in the relationship equally fulfilled and content.Attitudes towards even the most traditional marriage are changing and the accepted hierarchical of dominant superior male and submissive inferior female has very little place in most of today’s life partnerships.

Partners want to be seen as equal, but different in a dynamic relationship that allows them both to grow.

So what are some of the characteristics of a successful and enduring relationship? Here is the answer;

· Honesty & Trust: This may be the most important characteristic. Without trust in a relationship, it will never become as deep and enduring as could otherwise be possible. This means that in some areas agreed between you, there should be complete transparency. Fidelity may not be the issue, perhaps it is agreed that it is okay to have affairs outside the primary relationship, as long as it is secure. Each couple will need to decide their own rules.

· Communication: People see things only from their own perspective yet they tend to think that everyone else shares their point of view! Lack of communication is one of the major problems cited when couples come for counselling. Clear communication is often hindered by fears of criticism, ridicule, rejection and that it may be used against them later. Therefore, trust is a very important part of a couple’s communication. Each person needs to discover what it is that makes it so hard for them to communicate and to also find out what is inhibiting their partner. It is often necessary to learn about ‘speaking for self’ and the differences between being assertive and aggressive.

· Respect: How can there be a successful relationship without respect? Respect of each other’s idiosyncrasies, weaknesses and strengths, as well as an acknowledgement that it is okay for the other person to make decisions and have opinions, even if you don’t agree with them.

· Conflict Resolution: All relationships have conflict, it is impossible to be in agreement with another person all of the time, or even most of the time. What is important is to find out the real reason behind the conflict; is it insecurity, jealousy or a way to control the other person? Using conflict resolution skills such as speaking in turn, avoiding emotionally charged language and speaking for self, conflict can become strength not a weakness.

· Responsibility: Each partner recognises that they have a responsibility to make this relationship work by learning from their failures and being willing to make an effort. They acknowledge that it is a life long process which will require implementation and learning of many skills.

· Romance: This means that you spend time together having fun and relaxation. You enjoy each other’s company and look forward to your ‘couple time’. Romance is more than a bunch of flowers, it is also about loving kindness, caring and nurturance of your partner.

· Sexual intimacy: In an enduring relationship, this will be an area that continues to grow. It is a way of being together that must be seen as part of the whole. Therefore, the rest of your relationship together must also be supportive and satisfying for this area to be strong. You cannot treat your partner with distain and expect a warm and loving bedmate. Also, remember that’s sex is notjust about physical intercourse (see Romance!).

· Self disclosure: In a secure and loving relationship, both partners are comfortable in being their ‘real selves’ and with self disclosure. The ‘real self’ has confidence in its own convictions; is decisive, honest and assertive. Where both partners are in touch with this part of themselves, they can share their dreams and fears knowing that they will be accepted and supported by their partner.

· Humour: Often under rated in a relationship is the ability to laugh together but more importantly, to be able to laugh at yourself.

Another issue often requested by couples in counselling, is a need for ‘unconditional love’. However, this can be a case of love being blind; love needs to be earned and maintained and if there is, for example, no trust or respect, than love does not deserve to be unconditional.

Good relationships are made, they don’t just happen.

Regards, (Dedicated to Someone very special for Me, I wana Thank You)

Umar

2013-04-27T12:31:00.000-07:00

Relationships last long not because they're destined to last long.
Relationship last long because two brave people made a choice To keep it, Fight for it, and to work for it.

Relationship and Love Poems

2012-05-20T12:51:00.000-07:00

Relationship and Love Poems:

A relationship is a connection between two individuals. When two people fall in love it has become a loving relationship. The relationship has moved from two people simply in contact with each other to two people who can't get enough of each other. A loving relationship may build slowly like a train coming in the distance until when it get to you it emits a deafening roar. Or you may be two people totally oblivious to the relationship that is developing when suddenly you are hit with the realization that you have fallen in love. People are complex and love develops in different ways.

How Could You Forget About Me

Missing you, that special someone

Our love was genuine and ever so real

A hopeless romantic in your embrace

How could you forget about me … Forget about me?

I can’t forget you

Hold me again, ever so tightly

Help me feel the warmth of your breath

Tell me now. How could you forget about me?

Forget about me

Gone are the days where you held me so long.

Now you lay next to someone else

I can’t help but wonder where we went wrong

I wanted to believe of love guaranteed

But just like the season changes

Only one heart remains

How could you forget about me?

Forget about me

Today I stand on the road, alone

My heart aches with uncertainty and sorrow

Our love lost before it was real.

I don’t understand why it took me so long

To realize you weren’t the one.

Standing alone is no easy task

But knowing there’s someone

Who will care about me?

Gives me strength to forget about us.

Tomorrow I’ll dream about loving another

Whose love is real and ever so strong

So tell me now

How could you forget about me?

I thought you were the one

I honestly believed

Of love guaranteed

But somehow you forgot about me

And now only one broken heart remains

Found Love By Amanda Lovatt

Life is long
and sometimes sweet
then all at once
a man you meet.

A man so honest
a man so true
who gives you back
what once was you.

I send to you
though far apart
a precious gift
, which is my heart.

Just think of me
before you sleep
my heart I give
for you to keep.

New Found Love

How did you do it?
How did you fill the void in my heart in so little time?
When did you deside it was me all along
you were waiting to find?

How did it happen?
Not very simple you see..
I was so very lonely
and you came to rescue me,

An angel you say I am,
Well I can say to thee...
That this is no coincidence,
GOD really made you for me,

And me for you...
It's all the same!!!
Today if I'm happy...
Then you are the blame,

A new chapter in my book,
Pages written in Gold...
Time waites patiently,
For owr love to unfold...

So here's a little piece of me...
So that you may understand,
What I have always longed for,
Is a true good man...

This Poem was written,
for a love that is true...
It's simple to see that,
This Poems for you!!!

Ever since knowing you

Ever since knowing you, I've felt a special feeling.
Ever since looking into your eyes, I've felt so much love.
Ever since feeling your hug, I've felt truely cared for.
The day I saw you at the party, my body begged for your's.
I saw someone I automatically felt I would give my heart to.
Never before I met you did I quite feel this way
I never thought these words I could honestly say:
I love you as my friend, I love you in another way.
I thank any God there
is I met you on that one certain day.

A Brand New Love By Shirley H. Brunson

Late at night
My thoughts drift to you
And of our love
That is brand new

I think of all
We've shared thus far
Every dream we wished
Upon a star

Making memories
You and I
Our spirits soar
To reach the sky

To thank the one
From Heaven above
Who blessed us with
This wondrous love

I Think I'm In Love With You By Justin Kraft

I don't know what to say
Or even what to do
All I no is that
I think I'm in love with you
Every time I hold you close
Or put your hand in mine
I feel like just maybe
I won't let go this time
I know that you don't see it
But it's a feeling all so new
I don't know what's happening
But I think I'm in love with you
I want to tell you how I feel
To let you no It's true
That maybe just maybe
I'm in love with you
This may sound crazy I know
But I needed to let it out
Because there is something there
I know without a doubt
So stop treating me like a toy
I'm a person too
I need you to realize my feelings
I think I'm in love with you

My Torn Lover

My mysterious lover

Oh, how I love thee

Your penetrating eyes see through me

But can you see the real me?

Can you see how I feel about you truly?

Your guard is up always.

Those walls you built are never down.

Is there a way to get through to you?

I'm not afraid of your rough exterior

I see through you to your struggling interior

Your heart has been torn and shredded

The tape you use to hold it together, is barely holding

My eyes can't hold back my tears of sorrow for you.

I want to help your heart heal, putting it back together

with you.

But I know your heart does not trust so easily.

Hurt has filled your life with distrust, sorrow and

unhappiness

Let my love shine through and give you hope for

happiness

I am not like the others.

What I feel is true and pure

I plead for a chance to show you I love you and that I will never hurt you

Will you allow me that chance?

Is there a break in the wall that I may squeeze through?

Is there room in your heart for my love?

Just give me a chance

Give yourself a chance at love and happiness

I promise you a never-ending love and affection as well

as support and faith in you.

I promise you will not regret allowing me into your life

and heart to love the real you.

To love you, with your hurtful past, torn heart and

misgivings.

I will have patience and work through them with you.

I love you, from the moment I met you

Now, if only you could see and trust that.

Regards,

Umar

Understanding Love and Attachment: How We Develop Our Relationships

2012-05-12T14:15:00.000-07:00

How do we develop our relationships into meaningful, committed, long lasting ones? There are many books written on the subject of saving a relationship or learning to develop a lasting one but how much do we understand about the process in which one develops? Or how our own attributes may sabotage our ability to maintain one? One popular theory on how love develops is the triangular love theory.

Sternberger's Triangular Theory of Love is based upon the concept of different ways that love relationships can develop. In this model the triangle represents four different types of love. Each of these types of love is developed from three factors which are represented on each point of the scale of the triangle. At the top point of the triangle the first of these factors is intimacy, at the bottom left point of the triangle is passion and the bottom right represents commitment.

The basic concept is that between each of these points there will exist a different type of love. If the relationship only exists off of passion it is an infatuated love, intimacy alone a mere liking, or commitment alone is representative of an empty love. However, when passion, intimacy, and commitment are combined in different ways they result in yet other types of love. For instance, if a relationship is based off of passion and intimacy it results in a romantic love. If the relationship, however, lacks intimacy and say only has commitment is a fatuous love. When the relationship has only intimacy and commitment it is a compassionate love. This type of love would be representative of most close friendships. In the center of the triangle there exists a type of love that combines passion, intimacy and commitment, this love is known as consummate love.

The idea behind attaining a consummate love is that as a relationship starts out passionately, it will then taper off and develop into a relationship that contains more sharing of each others lives, and more caring towards one another. From this intimacy, closeness is introduced into the relationship as well. As this is happening, a previous short-term commitment for the relationship will slowly develop into a long-term relationship. Commitment shows that each individual's self includes more and more of their partner as well. This will develop into a change from 'I' to 'we' or 'us'. Once all of these elements are introduced, and maintained in the relationship it could be considered a consummate love. This consummate love is based off of a healthy love romantic relationship, and also from the basis of a stable and secure development of a relationship.

There is another factor to consider in how a relationship will develop known as attachment types. When it comes to developing attachments there are secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment types. As a child, depending on the parents' type of support given to a child, they will have developed either a secure, avoidant, or anxious attachment type. Part of what helps determine the attachment type a child may develop is whether or not a child has a proper amount of dedication, concern, and intimacy from their parent. It seems that the most important of these is intimacy, in the fact that there must be a degree of closeness between the parent and child. This includes physical closeness, as well as feelings like security and trust. Out of this closeness from intimacy comes concern in which the proper amount of care and security are provided for the child to feel safe. Then the dedication that develops, will over time, give a child a sense of safety, security, and support.

A secure attachment type individual is able to be comfortable and close to others, does not feel as if they are unable trust others, is able to develop close relationships with others, and does not fear abandonment. As the name of the attachment type may indicate, the individual feels secure around others and is able to develop healthy relationships more often. It would seem that an adult with a secure attachment type of development would find it much easier to develop a healthy love relationship. This person would have the necessary tools to be able to foster intimacy, close bonds, trust, physical closeness, and commitment with another person.

A person who has developed an avoidant attachment type will not feel comfortable opening up to other people, letting them too close to them, and they may feel trust issues. These types of individuals often experience parents who were cold, withdrawn, or too wrapped up in their own lives to be there for their child. They also may have felt unwanted by their parent. People with avoidant attachment may also experience more emotional ups and downs and is reported to be more likely to have loveless sexual experiences. It would seem that an adult with an avoidant attachment type would have a great degree of difficulty maintaining and sustaining a healthy relationship. They would have trouble developing the required amount of intimacy in a relationship that would create trust and caring between two people. They may be distant and distrustful of the other person. They would also lack the desire to establish a truly committed relationship due to the lack of trust they feel that they may place in the other person. This type of person may also feel uncomfortable establishing intimacy with other people such as friends due to a lack of trust. A person with an avoidant attachment type would be most likely to develop infatuated love, marked by short-term intimacy and commitment which fizzle out quickly.

A person who has developed an anxious attachment type will have trouble getting close enough to people and may suffer from fear of abandonment. These types of individuals often experienced parenting that was unpredictable and unreliable. For these types of adult's love is somewhat of an obsession. They seem to need constant reassurance as well as more reciprocation in a relationship. These individuals may also experience more jealousy and more feelings of possessiveness, may break up repetitively, and may drive others away due to their constant need for affection and love. This adult is overly preoccupied with being loved, and feels the need for constant reassurance and proof from their partner that they are in fact loved. This adult suffers constantly from the fear of being abandoned by their partner because they do not feel that they are worthy of their love to begin with. They're less accepting, intolerant about their partner's differences and may feel threatened by them in terms of the relationships security. This person may come off as an overwhelming individual due to the amount of intimacy that they provide and expect back from their partners. Because they are excessively needy and the fulfillment of their needs occupies their motives they are often unable to feel satisfied with the level of intimacy and compassion in the relationship.

There is a noticeable connection between the type of attachment that is developed between a child and parent, and the feelings that they developed about themselves. The affects of the attachment carries over into the type of attachments that they will develop as adults. Depending on the type of attachment that they developed it will either enable them to establish a healthy, secure, and committed relationship or it may prevent them from establishing one. Adults who have developed an avoidant or anxious attachment type will need to develop the skills that are needed to establish long-lasting healthy relationships such as the ones adults with a secure attachment type are capable of. These attachment types are not permanent, and can be changed.

If one decides to work on their attachment type they have several options. Whichever type of therapy or method one chooses to engage in to confront adult attachment behaviors is a personal choice. If one would like to read more on the subject they may want to read Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love as well as the numerous books available on the subject of attachment types.

Sources:
Bolt, Martin R. R. (2004). Pursuing Human Strengths: A Positive Psychology Guide. Worth Publishers.Attachment-based psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Attachment & Human Development, 6, June 2004, pp.113-207
Sternberg, Robert J. (1988). The Triangle of Love: Intimacy, Passion, Commitment. New York: Basic Books.

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Understanding Love and Attachment: How We Develop Our Relationships

2012-05-12T14:14:00.000-07:00

Relationship and Love

2012-05-12T14:12:00.000-07:00

LOVE IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP. Love relates, but it is not a relationship. A relationship is something finished. A relationship is a noun; the full stop has come, the honeymoon is over. Now there is no joy, no enthusiasm, now all is finished. You can carry it on, just to keep your promises. You can carry it on because it is comfortable, convenient, cozy. You can carry it on because there is nothing else to do. You can carry it on because if you disrupt it, it is going to create much trouble for you… Relationship means something complete, finished, closed.

Love is never a relationship; love is relating. It is always a river, flowing, unending. Love knows no full stop; the honeymoon begins but never ends. It is not like a novel that starts at a certain point and ends at a certain point. It is an ongoing phenomenon. Lovers end, love continues– it is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun.

And why do we reduce the beauty of relating to relationship? Why are we in such a hurry? Because to relate is insecure, and relationship is a security. Relationship has a certainty; relating is just a meeting of two strangers, maybe just an overnight stay and in the morning we say goodbye. Who knows what is going to happen tomorrow? And we are so afraid that we want to make it certain, we want to make it predictable. We would like tomorrow to be according to our ideas; we don't allow it freedom to have its own say. So we immediately reduce every verb to a noun.

You are in love with a woman or a man and immediately you start thinking of getting married. Make it a legal contract. Why? How does the law come into love? The law comes into love because love is not there. It is only a fantasy, and you know the fantasy will disappear. Before it disappears settle down, before it disappears do something so it becomes impossible to separate.

In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating not a relationship. And I am not saying that their love will be only momentary. There is every possibility their love may go deeper than your love, may have a higher quality of intimacy, may have something more of poetry and more of godliness in it. And there is every possibility their love may last longer than your so-called relationship ever lasts. But it will not be guaranteed by the law, by the court, by the policeman. The guarantee will be inner. It will be a commitment from the heart, it will be a silent communion.

If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. And there are a few flowers of love which bloom only after long intimacies. There are seasonal flowers too; within six weeks they are there, in the sun, but within six weeks again they are gone forever. There are flowers that take years to come, and there are flowers that take many years to come. The longer it takes, the deeper it goes. But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said.

Forget relationships and learn how to relate.

Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted– that's what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either! It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.

To think that you know your wife is very, very ungrateful. How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, they are not things. The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today. So much water has gone down the Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different. Relate again, start again, don't take it for granted.

And the man that you slept with last night, look at his face again in the morning. He is no more the same person, so much has changed. So much, incalculably much has changed. That is the difference between a thing and a person. The furniture in the room is the same, but the man and the woman, they are no more the same. Explore again, start again. That's what I mean by relating.

Relating means you are always starting, you are continuously trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other's personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled. That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness.

And if you relate, and don't reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring him, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation. Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful.

Hence I say relate. By saying relate, I mean remain continuously on a honeymoon. Go on searching and seeking each other, finding new ways of loving each other, finding new ways of being with each other. And each person is such an infinite mystery, inexhaustible, unfathomable, that it is not possible that you can ever say, "I have known her," or, "I have known him." At the most you can say, "I have tried my best, but the mystery remains a mystery."
In fact the more you know, the more mysterious the other becomes. Then love is a constant adventure.

Text The Romance Back

2012-02-05T04:23:00.000-08:00

Can you really save your relationship with Text Messages?

Do you think you “don’t have time for romance?” Relationship expert Michael Fiore thinks you’re wrong… in fact, he says he can show you how to bring all the romance, love and even passion you’re missing back into your relationship, simply by pushing a few buttons on the cell phone you have in your pocket or purse right now.

“Digital Telepathy”

“Text messages are the closest thing to telepathy we have” says Fiore. “Simply by pushing a few buttons on your cell phone you can create a private little fantasy world between you and your boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife … where you can say or do anything without anyone else having a clue.”

He Made Rachael Tingle

Michael Fiore and his “Text The Romance Back” method have been featured on national television and radio including appearing on “The Rachael Ray Show” on Valentine’s Day, where just one of Michael’s “Magic” texts gave Rachael “tingles” and had the whole audience oohing and ahhing.
Go watch this short video to learn how to use tiny little text messages to bring the spark and electricity back into your relationship (even if your man is a “Romantic Numbskull” or if your woman is an “ice queen.”) It’s worked for thousands of couples around the world, and Michael Fiore guarantees it will

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Life is as Beautiful as Our Relationship is................

2012-02-03T07:08:00.000-08:00

Life is as Beautiful as we think is it correct? Yes it is.........

There are moments in life, moments that make you set d course of who you are truly going to be. Those moments you never see them coming but they always end up coming. From a big wide grin to a bitter clear tear, or from a bitter clear tear to a big wide grin. You never know what happens in your life, good times, bad times, and moments of pure silence.
A good life is made up of hobnobbing with the right people in the right settings, and happiness is a matter of gaining respect. Along with these, there are lives that show by their living a desire for glory or power that inspires great efforts. Others, who are not drawn to wealth, power or glory because of the difficulties involved in attaining them, may choose the pursuit of pleasure.
A good and happy life is one in which pleasures outweigh the pains overall. Many questions have been asked about the good life and happiness. With God, Life is beautiful all the time and the only way we grow, to become greater than we are today is to overcome life’s obstacles. As a matter of fact, it is the only way anything in God’s Universe grows or evolves. He loves us and therefore He tests us, with obstacles, trials, ordeals. And if somehow a person lives without any ordeals in their life, they ought to be asking “Where have I gone wrong”?!?
Life, health, the faculties of hearing and seeing, two hands and two legs, water, air, food – these are some of the more visible blessings in this world, while the greatest of all blessings is that to be alive and breathing. Those who are in search of truth, having open minds and hearts will recognize this as a message in truth and sincerity.
Open your heart and your mind now and ask God of the Universe to guide you now to His True Way. And then be ready to accept your true purpose in life.

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Reasons Why your Relationship having some serious Trouble/Problem

2012-01-26T11:29:00.000-08:00

The reason why a lot of people end up in broken and failed relationships is because they simply fail to see and recognize the signs before the break-up happens. Hence, couples who are experiencing rough waters should be very sensitive and observant for these specific signs. Read on if you want to know what these are.

1. Loss of physical intimacy. Intimacy is a very important factor to a healthy relationship. It's that special connection that binds partners together. Losing physical intimacy however, can bring couples farther and farther apart without even them knowing it. This is the very reason why many relationship experts always recommend couples to go out of their way to cultivate physical intimacy and affection.
2. Emotionally aloof. When partners start being emotionally aloof, something is definitely up. Remember, being able to open yourself up to that single person is what makes him or her very special from all the others.
3. Does not talk. Communication is very important in a relationship. It keeps couples connected, even when they are physically apart for some time. Lack of communication is a sure sign of distance.
4. Does not listen. Communication is not all about talking but listening as well. Listening is a sign of interest and those that no longer listen to their partners can mean that they have lost all interest in the relationship, too.
5. Abuse. This is a very sensitive topic. Abuse should never be tolerated in a relationship - whether it's physical, verbal or in any other form. So if you experience this with your partner, then it's a sign of more bad things ahead. Do not be afraid to seek help and do what's necessary to put this to a stop.
6. Change. If he used to be extra sweet but is now extremely distant and indifferent, then there is definitely something wrong. Be very sensitive of these changes and deal with them immediately as they come.
7. Frequent arguing. More frequent argument is sure sign of trouble. Arguing itself can distance you farther and farther apart. And over the course of these disagreements, couples may do or say things that can turn a simple issue into a huge conflict.
8. Ridicule. People who mock their partners more will mean that they no longer care for their spouse's feelings whatsoever. Couples in love are supposed to build each other up instead of doing the opposite.
9. Over-control. Remember, a good partner should give you the freedom to be yourself and to live your own life. Over-controlling partners can make relationships extra difficult and thus, this can be a very obvious sign of trouble ahead.
10. Unhappy. Sometimes, it's as simple as that. When you no longer feel happy in your relationship, then something is definitely wrong. When couples become unhappy, they start spending more time on other things to fill in that empty space. And slowly, their partners become less and less of a priority as well.
Seeing these signs may mean that something is wrong but there is always hope. If you work together as couple to bring the intimacy and the closeness back, then that second chance for love is still a possibility.
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Romantic Ideas

2012-01-26T10:53:00.001-08:00

Romantic Ideas..................

 Make a little loving gesture every day for one full year.

 Cuddle on the sofa and watch romantic movies.

 Take a bubble bath together, or a hot shower.

 Walk on the beach in the moonlight.

 Put a single red rose on the seat of your lover's car before they go to work.

 Put a note in a romance novel saying, "The story is great but our own love story is the best".

 Send your lover a love ecard at least once a week.

 Get every book ever written by your loved one's favorite author.

 Get every movie starring your lovers favorite actor.

 Keep ten pounds of your lovers favorite candy on hand.

 Take her to see the movie Titanic fifteen times.

 Make love to him/her every night until he/she asks you to stop.

 Give him/her twelve dozen roses on all their special days.

 Compose a list: "101 Reasons Why You're the Greatest" Write each reason on a separate square of paper. Wrap them in a fancy gift box.

 Sprinkle perfume on to light bulb. When light is turned on the scent of the perfume will fill the room.

 Relax with a glass of red wine, or white wine.

 Listen to a romantic audio tape, fix a cup of hot flavored tea, and light two candles.

 Keep a journal of your romantic fantasies. Share it with your soul mate.

 Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".

 Take a picture of yourself in the most sexy outfit possible. Hide in a secret spot in your house and leave him or her clues on how to get there. Watch the sparks fly!

 Put a blindfold on your lover and drive them to a place where you have a blanket, candles, strawberries, sparkling drinks, and a rose. Park the car and take off the blindfold while you read a poem you have written for them.

 While your lover is in the shower, or bath, put their bath towel in a hot dryer for a few minutes. Greet them when they get out of the shower with the toasty towel.

 Pull the bag out of your lovers breakfast cereal box and slit a small hole in it. Insert a love note. Tape up the bag and return it to the box. What a way to start the day!

 Write a list of 50 or more things you like or love about your sweetheart.

 Unplug the TV set. Put a note on the screen saying, "Turn Me on Instead".

 Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!

 Write your own love poems then record them on a tape and give them to your sweetheart. Examples of love poems.

 Fill bathtub with warm water sprinkled with rose petals.

 Build your lover a web page telling them why you love them so much. Mention special moments and add some images and cool links to topics that interest them. Surf the web with them one day and just "stumble upon it". Or have someone send them an anonymous email with the link inviting them to the page.

 Fix a hot cup of Raspberry Chocolate, cuddle in a warm blanket and watch An Affair to Remember.

 Place a perfumed handkerchief in the dryer with your sheets before drying.

 Send your love a letter with confetti hearts inside of the letter so they pour out everywhere when your sweetheart opens it.

 Invite your sweetie to an intimate dinner at your place. Make a pizza and with the pepperoni you can write something sweet, like "you are the one for me".

 Surprise your lover with a kiss before they can finish a sentence.

 Write your own love poems then record them on a tape and give them to your sweetheart.

 Give your love an antique compass and say "You will never lose me". Your love will swear the needle always points to their heart!

Like A Dream

2012-01-26T10:44:00.000-08:00

Like A Dream

Like a dream
We were standing together face to face
Like a dream
You were holding me close and my heart began to race
Like a dream
Our eyes met and the world seemed to disappear
Like a dream
We began to dance to music only we could hear
Like a dream
You brushed my cheek and trace my lips tenderly
Like a dream
Our lips met and we kissed passionately
Like a dream
I was with you and I didn't have a care
Like a dream
We shared something only you and I could share.

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Umar-Relationship

Amazing Relationships: Top 10 Love Quotes

2012-01-26T06:33:00.000-08:00

1. “A kiss is a lovely trick, designed by nature, to stop words when speech becomes superfluous.”
–Ingrid Bergmen

2. Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being “in love” which any of us can convince ourselves we are.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.
- Captain Corelli’s Mandolin6. “Love is the beauty of the soul.”
–St. Augustine

3. “My night has become a sunny dawn because of you.”
–Ibn Abbad

4. “In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love you want the other person.”
–Margaret Anderson

5. “In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.”
–Janos Arnay

7. “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
–Aristotle

8. “Each moment of a happy lover’s hour is worth an age of dull and common life.”
–Aphra Behn

9. “Your words are my food, your breath my wine. You are everything to me.”
–Sarah Bernhardt

10. “In my wildest dreams, you always play the hero. In my darkest hour of night, you rescue me, you save my life.”
–Bliss and Cerney

Amazing Relationships: 21 Tips To Soulmate Success

2012-01-26T06:31:00.000-08:00

Guidelines for Actualizing a Soulmate Relationship

1. Stop focusing on your partner’s faults, and start asking that your own be revealed to you.

2. Learn to listen for the voice of your guide in meditation.
3. Be willing to face the truth, even if it seems terribly embarrassing or disappointing.
4. Gracefully release relationships that are no longer fulfilling.
5. Face your mistakes with compassion and take the necessary steps to correct them.
6. Consider the possibility that there is a source of wisdom within you that knows better than you do which partner will be most likely to make you happy.
7. Don’t be discouraged just because your attempts to find true love have not worked in the past. A new approach may produce results beyond your wildest expectations!
8. Stop listening to your ego, and start listening to your soul and your guide.
9. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you really want.
10. Don’t hold out for perfect certainty before being willing to move forward with your relationship.
11. Focus on one relationship at a time, giving your partner every opportunity to respond as you hope she or he will.
12. Look elsewhere if your present partner doesn’t want to share the kind of relationship you have in mind.
13. Your soulmate won’t necessarily share your background, or look the way you expect.
14. Your guide may bring you together with your soulmate repeatedly, but it’s up to you to decide whether to accept the introduction and pursue the acquaintance.
15. If your guide encourages hope, wait patiently to let the true possibilities of a relationship emerge in their own good time.
16. The people who make you swoon may be precisely the ones you would be best to avoid.
17. It’s wise to proceed cautiously when you are blinded by infatuation.
18. True love is never blind.
19. Don’t be so sure you can tell someone’s soulmate potential at a glance.
20. Take periodic vacations from your ego’s thoughts, in order to contact your soul’s feelings.
21. Relax! You’ll meet your soulmate when the time is right for both of you.

Amazing Relationships: Secrets To Dating After 50

2012-01-26T06:29:00.001-08:00

Secrets for meeting people for dating after 50

Dances are one of the best secrets for meeting desirable single people. Most dances are full of people just like you, and it is wholesome fun and exercise. Some of the best dances to attend are contradances, swing, and salsa dances.
Churches are excellent places to meet people. Not that you are going to be dancing in the aisle or anything, but seriously, you can find some wonderful people who have a good heart and soul.
Volunteer groups, conservation clubs, hiking groups and so one are excellent places to meet quality people. Working on volunteer programs is good anyway!
Dance lessons are fantastic for meeting your soul mate. Probably half the people taking dance classes are single, and looking. Dancing is special in that you connect so closely with your partner.
Concerts. If you love music you can meet some interesting and available people at concerts. For some reason, acoustic music jams seem to be the best. You can also usually just come to hang out and socialize and it’s great fun as well.

10 Love Tactics For New Relationships

2012-01-26T06:25:00.000-08:00

Like so many things in life, dating has its set of guidelines and boundaries that must be observed. And when it comes to new relationships, that statement could not be any truer.

Many men err and the guidelines are occasionally broken, often resulting in a breakup that leaves them wondering what went wrong. You need to be one step ahead by knowing the dating rules and respecting them. The rules are easy. What's needed from you is patience and self-restraint.

Let's start with 10 things you should avoid if you want to keep the awesome babe you just scored.

Rule #1: Don't be needy

It's one thing to want your girlfriend's company, but it's quite another to need it in order to be content. A woman will flee from a man who clings to her like a determined parasite. If you're emotionally independent, your woman will see that as strength and confidence -- two very desirable traits.

Rule #2: Don't fish for feedback

You may be dying to know what your new lady thinks about you and your behavior. That's fine, but keep it under wraps. The constant need for validation shows that you're uncertain of your own qualities and actions. Let her tell you what she thinks about you when she's ready.

Rule #3: Don't say it, do it

Words can be nice but they're meaningless if not accompanied by action. Instead of yapping about how much she means to you, show it through affection, tenderness and respect. Make her see that you mean it without voicing it. Actions are that powerful.

Rule #4: Don't expect her to be like you

You may have a lot to give (and think you have a swell way of showing it) and that's great. But you can't expect her to mirror your affections. Everyone has their own way of caring; it's unreasonable, not to mention off-putting, to demand someone to be more like you.

Rule #5: Don't make premature confessions

You might want to spill some of your secrets to her, which, on the one hand, shows you trust her. But on the other hand, it could seem like you're rushing intimacy -- another big turnoff. Be patient, the time will come to reveal those sketchy skeletons. Instead, be attentive to what she has to say. If you show her that you're listening, you will smoothly beckon more verbal (and physical) intimacy between you.

Rule #6: Don't pressure her

Pushing your new lady to do things you want her to do, be it sexual, affectionate, or otherwise, is one of the best ways to scare her away. So instead of expecting things from her, concentrate on what she does do that makes you happy. And think about what you can offer rather than what you can get. She'll notice the effort you put into making her happy, and she'll want to make you happy in her own way. In other words, don't pressure her; pleasure her.

Rule #7: Don't say "I love you"

Those three words are not to be thrown around carelessly. Love is like comedy; it's all about timing. Say the punch line too soon and you risk losing your audience. Instead, build up to it, make her wait for it, hold off until she's ripe and on the edge. Wait until you know her really well, when a solid base of trust has been established. Once she has proven herself worthy of your most prized offering, then you can tell her she has it.

Rule #8: Don't send gifts (prematurely)

Showering a woman with gifts in the first stages of a relationship will not make her like you more or motivate her to keep you around. If anything, spoiling her too soon will show you have little else to offer and that you essentially need to buy her attention. Wait for a milestone in your relationship, such as an anniversary or birthday, before giving her a gift. You can also give presents as rewards for her good actions. This is a sly way to encourage some behaviors over others.

Rule #9: Don't send letters

Just as you shouldn't yap the three words too soon, resist the urge to commit long romantic treatises to paper. If your new lady inspires poetic dissertations, keep them to yourself. Stick to brief notes and e-mail to let her know she's on your mind. Keep it vague so that she doesn't quite know where she stands with you. Mystery is much sexier than obsession.

Rule #10: Don't be readily available

Speaking of mystery, it's something you should foster to your best ability. Long-lasting seduction involves a touch of the unknown, the art of keeping her guessing. Don't be around all the time. Let her wonder about you; let yourself monopolize her thoughts. The thrill of uncertainty is much more interesting than the dullness of security.

Relationship and Love: Relationship Quotes

2012-01-25T08:05:00.000-08:00

Relationship and Love: Relationship Quotes

Sweet Relationships

2012-01-25T07:17:00.000-08:00

Relationship Quotes

2012-01-22T10:44:00.000-08:00

Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need.

Margaret Mead

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Stephen Levine

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand.

Emily Kimbrough

There's one sad truth in life I've found While journeying east and west - The only folks we really wound Are those we love the best. We flatter those we scarcely know, We please the fleeting guest, And deal full many a thoughtless blow To those who love us best.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Oh, the comfort - the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person - having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out, just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away.

Dinah Craik, A Life for a Life, 1859

Sticks and stones are hard on bones Aimed with angry art, Words can sting like anything But silence breaks the heart.

Phyllis McGinley, "Ballade of Lost Objects," 1954

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.

Swedish Proverb

We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways - the ways we react and behave when we love someone.

John Gray

When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.

John Gray

To grow in our ability to love ourselves we need to receive love as well.

John Gray

A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.

John Gray

A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.

John Gray

Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems.

John Gray

When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.

John Gray

Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery

Assumptions are the termites of relationships.

Henry Winkler

I like her because she smiles at me and means it.

Anonymous

You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.

Keith Sweat

At bottom the world isn't a joke. We only joke about it to avoid an issue with someone, to let someone know that we know he's there with his questions; to disarm him by seeming to have heard and done justice to his side of the standing argument.

Robert Frost

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Magic Relationship Words

2012-01-06T11:23:00.000-08:00

Never Have An Argument Again...

Ever Said The WRONG Thing?

Ever Had An Argument Over Nothing?

Hi Friends,

Have you ever wished you had the "right" words to say in a

difficult relationship situation where you just didn't know the right thing to say?

Have you ever said the WRONG thing to someone (possibly even to your spouse or partner) and then wished you had said something different or regretted what you said later?

Have you ever "not said anything" to someone about something because you didn't know what to say or how to say it?

Of course you have.

We ALL have

Now you don't have worry about what to say or how to say it to your spouse, partner or lover ever again because of "Magic Relationship Words" that you can begin using

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You've been in enough relationships to know that...

"Words Can Hurtand Words Can Heal..."

What you may not know is that there are actually "Magic Words" that smart couples use to create more closeness, connection, peace, harmony, understanding

and even passion in their relationships.

Most people in relationships don't know about these words and how to use them but my friends--Relationship Coaches Susie and Otto Collins have put together a new book

(that I highly recommend) with a collection of 101 of these "magic words," phrases and sentence starters in it that you can begin using in your relationship right now to make sure

you say it right every time.

What will learning these "magic relationship words" do for you?

One person who just saw them said..."If I learn how to use these words, my Husband and I will have had our last argument."

I believe that if you start using these magic words they can work miracles in your relationship or marriage.

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Using these magic words when you talk to your

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These "magic" relationship words, phrases,

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other relationships as well.

They can be the difference between whether

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up, gets mad or just ignores you.

Here's the web page to go to learn more about

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MAGIC RELATIONSHIP WORDS

My Best To You

Umar-Relationship

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Magic Relationship Words

Save Your Relationship

2012-01-06T06:42:00.000-08:00

Hi Fiends,

Save Your Relationship

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For Singles Who Repeatedly Find Themselves In Hurtful Relationships.

For Singles Who Can't Find a Meaningful Relationship.

For Couples Who Are Happy, However, Are Still Seeking New Ways To Further Improve Their Relationships.

Dear Friend,

If you give me 5 minutes and set everything else aside right now, I promise you that life changing and free relationship advice and guidance awaits you here today.

Of course you want to experience wonderful, loving relationships where you can share your life with someone meaningful to you. Of course you want to be understood and valued, to feel there's someone there for you.

These wishes are normal. Beyond that, they are healthy. So, why is it that so many people these days have become discouraged, feeling that their love lives, marriages, and relationships just cannot work out? Why is loneliness one of the biggest problems in our country - even when people are still together?

Most importantly, even though there's so much relationship self help material available, "self proclaimed" experts, why has it been so hardfinding guidance that really makes a difference in your life?

Watch out How Dr Brenda Shoshanna “Save Your Relationship” as she has a Ph.D. licensed in Clinical Psychologist and an Award Winning, Best Selling Author.

Click on “SaveYour Relationship” if you want to solve relationship Problems.

Regards,

Umar-Relationship

Secret Behind Successful Relationship

2012-01-04T19:31:00.000-08:00

Dear Friend, (Story of Mr Richard Hamon)

If you've ever wished you could find a secret formula that would turn problematic relationships into success stories (while making your partner and other people feel you are wonderful and irresistible) then this will be the most important letter you will ever read.

Heres what its all about: My name is Richard Hamon. Im a professional therapist and coach with 30 years of experience helping people solve their relationship problems.

Yet something incredible happened to me in December of 2003, which forever changed my view of relationships. I suffered a terrifying Near Death Experience (NDE) in which my body stopped living for several minutes. No one knows how I managed to make it. Some called it a medical miracle. Others said I had an angel sitting on my shoulder.

My brush with death instantly changed my life forever. In a few short days (after coming back from the other side) I began listening to the incredible voice of wisdom that flowed through me.

LO AND BEHOLD...

My relationships started to change while I lay strapped to my bed in the Intensive Care Unit... before I could hardly move... you should have seen the look on the faces of my family and friends when they saw the change in me. As the days went by, I began to use the special techniques that were being imparted to me.

What happened to him? Everyone said.

Thats easy to answer. Ill tell you what happened... I died, and when I came back to the land of the living I SAW THE TRUTH ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS - a beautiful, exciting truth few ever see.
Lets Explore Once What is the Truth and happiness Behind every Successful Relationship

Regards,

Think About it , Explore (Click On) THE TRUTH ABOUT RELATIONSHIP

Positive Relationships

2012-01-04T10:23:00.000-08:00

An important relationship in my life just ended... and I'll admit it, I didn't really see it coming. That event has sparked a lot of thinking about relationships in general, and why I value them as much as I do (I am happy I do!). Having healthy, productive relationships with my family and friends is the most important thing to me in life. What I have come to more fully understand recently are the reasons why positive connections with others matter so much to me.

Positive, productive relationships demand the best of us. For a friendship or marriage to allow both people to flourish, each person is an active participant in helping create the other one's positive future. Whether we are a friend, lover, daughter, or grandparent, each relationship gives us a chance to invest our energy in making another person's reality better. Each of us needs to fully show up, be present, listen, express ourselves, and care for the other, and that requires time and attention. When it all works out well, and we can see the happiness on the other's face, that creates, at least for me, the best feeling of satisfaction in the world.

Relationships teach us about ourselves. Sometimes, for good or bad, the person standing in front of us can be a mirror showing us who we really are. If we don't like something in them, there are chances we don't like it in ourselves. Friendships also give us a chance to watch ourselves in action. We can, on a moment-to-moment basis, pay attention to what we are thinking, feeling, or doing in response to what is happening externally. We can plug into our life story anytime, and learn from it.
Best of all, we get a chance everyday to practice acting from love. This goes beyond doing something nice for someone. Acting from love requires us to recognize the times when fear arises within us, and work to overcome it so we don't choose a course of action from a fearful place. That takes awareness, hard work, and courage, but in those moments, when we choose love, we grow as human beings.

For me, keeping these things in mind has been incredibly powerful. It has propelled me to reconnect on an even deeper level with some of the people I am closest with in this world. I have been filled with gratitude every step of the way, and my heart is open as I move forward.

What do you value most in your relationships with people in your life? What do you do to make these relationships the strongest they can be?

Regards,

Umar

Love

2012-01-04T10:21:00.000-08:00

Love is the most profound emotion known to human beings. For most people, romantic relationships are the most meaningful element in their lives. But the ability to have a healthy, loving relationship is not innate. Almost all of us have experienced a failed relationship, and most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. The good news is that with effort and perseverance,

you can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last.

Relationship and Love

2012-01-04T06:56:00.000-08:00