Synchronicity

What is Synchronicity?

2020-11-23T14:23:00.000-07:00

What is Synchronicity?

"The simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection."

You walk into a book store not knowing what to buy, and the book you need falls from a shelf and practically hits you over the head.
You finally end a bad relationship and immediately another partner comes into your life as if by synchronicity.
You drive to a place where parking is "next to impossible" and someone pulls out of a parking spot or it is waiting for you.
You meet someone who interests you and touches your soul. Through synchronicity that person seems to come into your life over and over again. You begin to feel a destiny with that person. You begin to think with your heart instead of your head. You connect with that person. In some cases the karma between the two people is positive but in many cases you have attracted that person into your life for a learning lesson whether you are aware of it or not.
You feel depressed and can't find focus in your life. The next person you talk you says something that brings needed guidance. In a world of wounded souls, and evolving consciousness, answers to help and guide will come more quickly and from different sources than in your past. Learn from those who come along, but never become co-dependent.

~from the website http://www.crystalinks.com/synchronicity.html

REVIEW: The Bachelor 2019 - Peter Weber

2020-03-26T15:32:00.001-07:00

I, like thousands of American women, watch The Bachelor reality show. I don't know why I do it, but I do. It's one of those "guilty pleasures" that we so often indulge in. Thirty women, most in their early to mid-twenties, vie for the love of The Bachelor. The Bachelor is sometimes chosen because they are apart of the ABC Network "bachelor family" or because they have qualities that seem to make America want to watch them find love. Not to mention, most of them are handsome, if not in appearance alone.

I thought of diving into an explanation of the show and the history that it has (it's been around since 2002) but instead, I just want to give my opinion on this last season of the Bachelor.

I didn't like Peter Weber! I don't know if it is because I am older now, old enough to be his mother, but I just did not feel that the guy was "marriage" material. Sure, he is a pilot, cool. But the 28-year old still lives with Mommy & Daddy, doesn't seem to think with anything other than his "manhood" and didn't display one ounce of maturity throughout the season. I'm sure he is a nice guy and all, but, in my opinion, he did not make for a very good Bachelor. And don't get me started on the continuous interruptions in the season from his annoying Mom - definitely a "mama's boy".

On another note, I hear The Bachelor franchise is thinking of making a season with an "older" Bachelor (65+). That would be great - as long as they have equally aged contestants. However, most men that age want younger women (at least to become their second wives). For marriage number 3, they will settle for someone their age - right? (tongue-in-cheek)

REPOST FROM 2012: Social Media & How We Lost Our Social Skills

2019-11-01T13:51:00.001-07:00

Being in the food service industry has introduced me to a different interaction with people.

When I was sitting behind a desk, in a professional environment, I used the computer to type documents, prepare presentations and converse over email. I used the telephone to answer questions, have conversations and get information. I went to meetings to talk and listen to people face-to-face and I actually had real relationships with the people who came into my office to sit down and chat.

Now that I am working with the public in a more relaxed, casual environment, I see who is out there and that most people just don't have the desire to have conversations or even look up from their telephones. I don't know how many times I approach a table and greet them with a "Hi, how are you today?" only to get them request a water with lemon without even looking me in the eyes. They are too busy texting or playing games on their phones. In fact, I waited on one table that consisted of a mother, father and two tweens and every single one of them was playing on their phone at the table. Come on!!!!

What is this world coming to when we can't even use our voices or have meaningful conversations with someone anymore? We rely so much on technology and I only imagine it getting worse in the future. Don't get me wrong, I love technology and use it on a daily basis. It does seem that the younger generation (pre-teens, teens, young adults) are not the only culprits, many people in their 40's are teaching this kind of social trend.

I must say, lots of other servers don't like to wait on the "older generation" but I really love it. These are the people who are grandparents and great grandparents. They have been around in a world without all of the social media and probably have no desire to ever learn about it. They have real talks and real stories that they will share with you whenever they feel like it. They genuinely care when they await your response to "How are you today?"

I had a conversation with my daughter about social media recently and how kids her age are using it to express all of their feelings to the world instead of talking to their parents, writing poetry or even calling up a friend (as I did when I was her age). If teens have a problem with someone's actions, they take to the Internet or texting to express their feelings instead of going straight to the person and just talking things out. This leads to so much confusion and many more people's involvement. I guess I can't limit this behaviour to just teens, I know plenty of marriages that have unfolded over the Internet and Facebook. It's put right out there for all of us to be a part of and to react to.

One of the biggest problems I see (and there are many) is that when you rely on written word to get your point across, there is no reflection to hear and no guarantee all of your words will be taken the way that you mean them. Texts can get lost, sarcasm can be detected (or not detected) and cap locks can accidentally be used when we are not even upset. Why not just pick up the phone or go hang out and talk things through?

Okay, I am done venting and I am going to step off of my soap box.

Hang Tight!

2019-01-02T23:51:00.004-07:00

After all of the revamping of my Blog and it's appearance, I realize even though the colors are pretty, many of the posts are hard to read. I will be going in and changing each post to make it easier to read by changing font colors. Please be patient. If you just discovered my site, put a pin in it and check back shortly :)

Thanks,
N2ativeone

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WELCOME TO MY NEWLY RE-VAMPED BLOG!

2018-08-18T23:25:00.006-07:00

Good-Bye, "Thoughts From A Down-To-Earth Girl". Hello to "Synchronicity"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Boy, have I come along way!!! I have crazy stories, helpful tips, insightful thoughts and a whole lot of opinion. The 2018 year has brought BIG changes for me. This blog was revamped from my previous blog, Thoughts From A Down-to-Earth Girl. This is my creative outlet and I hope you will find it interesting (and maybe even laugh a little). I have lots of beliefs, interests, thoughts, so join me on this adventure I call LIFE.

Need a ride? Try Lyft - I could be your driver

2017-05-17T11:16:00.000-07:00

This is a new "side" venture for me. I get $$$ if I refer people to either drive or take rides with Lyft, so make sure you click on the link below if you are interested.

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You're Never Too Old To Learn

2017-01-26T20:52:00.000-07:00

I'm killing two birds with one stone. No, not literally, but I am doing TWO things that I NEED to do, at the same time.

I want to learn more about nutrition and write for my blog, so, I thought that in order to hold myself accountable for both, I would do some blog posts about what I learn.

I was always a skinny kid with high metabolism who never really worried about eating right. Eating vegetables was not my priority or my desire. In fact, I would sit at the table, like most kids who do not want to eat their food, and waste time until my family would get tired of seeing me there and take my plate. I also used to throw my peas under the table in hopes that my little white dog would eat them. Well, apparently, my aim was not so good, because she would give me up by trotting around with peas on top of her head.

As a 40ish-old woman who now weighs considerably more, who has type 2 diabetes and who still doesn't like vegetables, I find myself teetering on obesity and a life of hospital stays. Due to a recent bacterial infection, I lost 24 pounds in 3 months and now that I am getting healthy again, I don't want to gain the weight back. Now couldn't be a better time to make some changes!

I'm going to be learning out of two awesome books: The Complete Idiot's Guide To Total Nutrition written by Joy Bauer, M.S., R.D. and Nutrition For Dummies written by Carol Ann Rinzler.

Stay tuned to learn with me!

REPOST: How To Delegate

2017-01-19T22:28:00.000-07:00

We all get to be the boss sometime in our life, whether it be with our work, our school, in our homes or with our children. Being a leader has it's challenges. There is a job that has to get done and you either need help with it or you need someone else to complete the task. There is a certain way the project needs to get done and usually a time frame that has to be met. Knowing how to ask for that help and see that the project gets carried out is a skill some people need a little help with.

#1: Describe the job and the outcome that needs to be reached. For example: "Today, we need to get this mailing out to all of our clients."

#2: Specify who's responsible for meeting this goal: "I would appreciate your help in spearheading this project and seeing that it gets completed today. Can you please take care of this?"

#3: Describe the steps that need to be completed so that the project is successful: "It's important that we make enough copies of this memo so that all of our clients receive it. We will need to put it on letterhead, prepare labels and envelopes and tri-fold the memo so that it fits in the envelope. Then, let's make sure that the correct postage gets applied and that the mail is done before the carrier arrives at 4:00 pm."

#4: Ask if there are any questions or concerns with accomplishing the task: "Do you have any questions? Do you think that you will be able to get this mailing out by 4:00 pm today?"

As the employee being given the task, this would be the time for you to clarify the instructions to make sure that you understand everything that is being asked. Far too many times, employees feel intimidated and they proceed with a project without fully understanding what needs to be done. This leads to mistakes and delays in completing assignments.

#5: Make yourself available to the employee and check on their progress.

#6: When you see that the job is completed, praise your employee: "I see you got those memos out. Thank you so much for taking care of that, you did a really good job. Those memos were really important."

The steps above can be applied to any sort of delegation, whether it be asking your kids to do a chore or working with groups for community service. Following these steps will help make you an effective delegator.

It's That Simple

2016-07-10T09:39:00.001-07:00

Nothing to say!

2016-06-12T20:42:00.001-07:00

Sometimes, you just have nothing to say.....

Stay posted, I might feel inspired.

Thanks,
Me

Codependency - Here's What I Have Learned

2016-03-27T17:26:00.001-07:00

I used to know someone who had an addictive personality.

He chose to deal with things by relying on something to ease the pain of life, depression, suicidal tendencies and while doing so, it helped him deal with my co-dependency. We both were aware of his issues and I always thought I was the one to live with the burden of his addiction. I felt so much love for him that I made his problems mine, because both of us took on each others pain, depression, etc. In a healthy relationship, when one is down, the other is there to lift them back up and help them see things differently. We did not function that way.

I found myself so tired of taking on his emotions and trying to walk on egg shells to keep him from going over the edge. Things that bothered me were not talked about, I learned to keep them in. Too long of doing this causes resentment and detachment.

What I haven't mentioned is that, he never asked me to take these things on. There is no fault or blame today. I struggled silently with my own pain and depression and, unknowingly, my own co-dependency. It's so much easier to avoid your own issues when you are so focused on making someone else better and then resenting them for their mistakes.

If you are like me and have misconceptions or are unsure of what it means to be codependent, let me give you it's meaning:

A codependent person is one who has let another

person's behavior affect him or her, and who is

obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

So all those times that I prided myself on being a caring, compassionate, empathetic person, I was taking it a little too far. I worried so much about trying to do the right thing in my relationship and for my kids, that I just needed to step back and let the man that I still, to this day love, handle his own shit!

Prescott, AZ

2016-03-20T09:49:00.001-07:00

Beautiful Cherry Blossoms

Great New Song - Burning House, CAM

2016-02-12T22:00:00.000-07:00

"Burning House"

I had a dream about a burning house
You were stuck inside, I couldn't get you out
I laid beside you and pulled you close
And the two of us went up in smoke

Love isn't all that it seems I did you wrong
I'll stay here with you until this dream is gone

I've been sleepwalking, been wandering all night
Trying to take what's lost and broke and make it right
I've been sleepwalking too close to the fire
But it's the only place that I can hold you tight
In this burning house

See you at a party and you look the same
I could take you back but people don't ever change
Wish that we could go back in time
I'd be the one you thought you'd find

Love isn't all that it seems I did you wrong
I'll stay here with you until this dream is gone

I've been sleepwalking, been wandering all night
Trying to take what's lost and broke and make it right
I've been sleepwalking too close to the fire
But it's the only place that I can hold you tight
In this burning house

The flames are getting bigger now
In this burning house
I can hold on to you somehow
In this burning house
Oh, and I don't wanna wake up
In this burning house

And I've been sleepwalking, been wandering all night
Trying to take what's lost and broke and make it right
I've been sleepwalking too close to the fire
But it's the only place that I can hold you tight
In this burning house

Article Share: 4 Reasons Honest Men Give To End It

2016-01-15T01:17:00.001-07:00

Because I recently went through a divorce, I of course subscribed to all sorts of blogs and websites to help me through the pain that a break-up can cause. With that, some articles that I have read are helpful and I thought I would share one that I read this evening.

It is from the website, Relationship Rules . The article is titled: 4 Reasons Honest Men Give To End It. This is written by "A", one of the co-founders of the website.

This article spoke to me because it is about being with someone who chooses to be honest about their feelings, about why they feel their relationship is not working, and being a grown-up and facing uncomfortableness. I believe that honesty is really the key point that I think too many people are afraid of. It's easier to either sweep problems under the rug, avoid conflict or just continue to not be a happy person in the relationship.

Back to the article. I feel these reasons are about the behavior in which an honest man displays, not necessarily the reason they give to their partner.

Reason #1 an honest man gives to end it: They want everything on the table. "A" describes that part of this has to do with not placing blame on just one person and that if you talk about all issues, the couple will realize that it is just not "one person's fault".

Reason #2 an honest man gives to end it: They don't like the blame game. Accepting fault is a true quality of an honest man. I agree with this statement. SOME men live with blinders about how "wonderful" their relationship is, when all the while they are unhappy and are too afraid to admit it. This might lead to conflict and having to face fears and issues.

Reason #3 an honest man gives to end it: They care for you to have closure. "A" says that an honest guy will always have the guts to say goodbye and they will not just disappear from facing the problem. They would never leave you hanging in between thinking what went wrong and where. Personally, I would have appreciated this happening in one of my relationship break-ups. Instead, being left with anger and hurt and never getting to "hash" things out and "deal" with issues has left me angry.

Reason #4 an honest man gives to end it: They respect you, still. They will never disrespect the good memories you had by leaving like a coward or like someone who wanted to run away. They will respect the fact that there are a few explanations to be given and few to be listened to. This is SPOT on!!!

Check out the article at Relationship Rules

Re-Post: I Am A Lane Blocker

2015-12-25T23:57:00.000-07:00

As some of you may recall, I recently posted about teamwork and how I love to see people come together for a cause. Today's cause that I am excited to talk about is "lane blocking". What is lane blocking? It's something we all have either done or wished we had done when we get stuck in traffic. Let me paint the picture:

Here you are, tooling along on your way to work, making excellent time, thinking about how you will definitely be there before your boss today. The windows are rolled down, the birds are chirping, the air is crisp and refreshing, today is a good day. All of a sudden, you come to a complete stop. A stop that seems to last a lifetime. You try to see around the gigantic truck in front of you with no luck. You see the people in the lane to your right, flying by, as if they are privileged to not have to get stuck where you are. You think, "I want to be like them, I want to go!" No luck, they are driving as if they are in the Indy 500, not allowing you in, leaving you stuck with exhaust from the truck in front of you. So, you sit, and eventually are able to move forward. As you do this, you realize that your once excited, happy mood has been replaced by an anxious, frustrated one. "I am going to be SO late!", you think. As you move forward, you notice a merge sign up ahead, stating that everyone is merging into your lane. Now, I think you understand where I am going with this, right? The mean people, who flew by with no regard to anyone else, they saw this sign and knew that they would not wait as long as you. They wiggle their way into the front of the line, in front of everyone else who has waited their turn.

I don't know about you, but this really chaps my hide! But wait, there is a happy ending:

Take the above example, except I am the driver, stuck behind the truck. One day, I saw a woman in front of me start to head into that right lane, the one that was going to have to merge. As she attempted her journey, I thought, "Where is she going, doesn't she know that she is going to have to get over? Figures!" But to my surprise, she ended up sitting half way into the next lane, but just enough to ward off any passers. "Wow," I thought, "She is fighting back! She is the protector of all good and is here to help us!" I immediately put my car in the same position and noticed others following suit. At that time, I felt proud to be a part of such teamwork! And today, I was the fearless leader, watching others back me up. What a great feeling! Oh, by the way, I got to work before my boss.

Life Lessons From A Broken Heart

2015-12-14T22:54:00.000-07:00

1. Don’t ignore the red flags or that “little voice”.

2. Sometimes love is not enough.

3. Two broken people do not a lasting relationship make.

4. Your rebound will not be your “forever”.

5. Walking on eggshells only puts off the inevitable.

6. Addiction is hard on loved ones.

7. Confrontation is not always a bad thing.

8. Honesty, trust and communication are all very important in a loving relationship.

9. Don’t settle for what you know is wrong for you.

10. Change is scary, but necessary to grow.

11. Pride is a stubborn thing.

12. Being alone is not necessarily a bad thing.

13. You can still be "you" when you are part of a “we”.

14. It’s okay to not always be “ok”.

15. If someone really wants something, they will fight for it.

16. What is meant to be will be.

17. Don’t chase after ghosts.

18. You may forgive, but you will never forget.

19. You can’t take things back once they have been said and you can’t undo what’s been done.

20. You don’t always get a second chance.

That moment ~ 12/5/2015

2015-12-06T14:49:00.001-07:00

When you share a "moment" with the man who holds your heart; the man you still love.

#break-ups

Movie Review: Before We Go

2015-12-06T14:38:00.001-07:00

Adventures In Babysitting meets a love story...

Something told me, on this lazy Sunday, to see this movie. While feeling down and blue and totally against love, you can imagine that a romance was the last thing I felt like seeing - but I couldn't stop myself.

I purchased the movie for $5.99 "On Demand" when I could have gotten dressed, got in the car, and picked it up from Redbox for $1.99. Instead, I dragged myself out of bed, down the stairs, and hit a few buttons on the remote, cuddled up on the couch, and watched the movie.

So glad I did! I really liked this movie and I LOVE Chris Evans. It took awhile to get used to his "Movember" beard, but he can't help be adorable. I secretly wished for someone to look at me the way he looked at this girl in the movie. And the way he went out of his way to be her knight-in-shining-armor was heroic. The girl, I did not recognize, and at first, I had decided I was not going to like her. However, ten minutes in, I had changed my mind. The two actors where great together and their characters shared some pretty life changing thoughts and decisions throughout the 8 hours they were together.

The ending was one which I love to hate. I won't give away any spoilers, but let's just say, I would be happy to have such a wonderful experience as they had and to meet someone with whom I could have such a fun/loving connection with. Nowadays, romance is gone and replaced with hook-up apps, text messages and ghosting.

Here's to fairy-tales and holding out for the magic....

Happy Thanksgiving!

2015-11-26T08:59:00.001-07:00

Today is a perfect day to DECIDE to be happy. Depression can take over during the holidays, but if we make the CHOICE to be thankful, everyday, if not for just ONE thing, we will build a habit of seeing things differently. Although we struggle with life, what helps me get through, is knowing that everything happens for a reason and I am EXACTLY where I am supposed to be. I hope that everyone finds their happiness today and realizes all they are grateful for!

What I Have Learned From Tinder

2015-11-04T21:38:00.000-07:00

Okay, so, it's not the Tinder "flame" but I didn't want the photo to be taken down for copyright issues.

If you are single and you have a smart phone, you have probably heard of TINDER and you PROBABLY have used the App. Here is what I have learned while using the "hook up" App (as most people would describe it).

1. You can only use TINDER if you connect it to your Facebook or Instagram accounts.

2. TINDER is not a website, it is an actual App that must be downloaded.

3. You will get NOWHERE unless you post photos of yourself.

4. Said photos can only come from either one (or both) of your shared social media sites described above.

5. People use a variety of photos to attract a "mate", "B/F", "G/F", "NSA (no strings attached)", "DTF (Down to F****)", "hook up", etc.

6. Examples of photos:

Person with a dog/cat
Person with a child
Person in a photo with 5 other people
Person taking a picture in front of a bathroom mirror
Person taking a picture of themselves laying in bed
Person with their spouse/significant other
Person with their spouse/significant other cropped out of photo
Person's mugshot photo
Person holding a beer or some other alcohol
Person lifting weights
Person making hand signs and wearing gold chains
A pet - only
A penis, breasts or other body parts
Person with their grandparents
Person who's photo is blurry beyond reason
Person who is wearing sunglasses
Person wearing a hat pulled down over their eyes
A cartoon or crude statement

7. People all seem to love to hike, hang out and watch Netflix, enjoy their 420 time or they are making up crazy activities that you know that no one has ever done.

8. People are looking for:

Someone to hike with
Someone to "see how things go" with
Sex
No strings attached
Husband and wife are looking for a third for their relationship
Many are new to the area and want a tour guide
Did I say sex?
Someone who works out and is into fitness (code for someone who is not fat and lazy)
No hook-ups, only looking for their soul-mate

9. The goal for guys is to quickly get the girl's telephone number so they can text them dirty photos.

10. TINDER is a numbers game and the goal is to swipe left (or push the X) if you don't like the person/photo or swipe right (push the heart) if you do like them. There is also a SUPER LIKE option, but I am not really sure what difference there is

11. Sometimes you can get to going so fast that you accidentally "NO" someone that you didn't mean to.

12. People will disappear as quickly and easily as they appeared.

13. Most men cannot seem to form sentences. And if they do, they either only want to talk about themselves or talk about sharing naked photos.

14. GHOSTING is a term used when you meet up with someone, have sex with them, believe you have had a great time and that you have a future with the person and then never hear from them again.

15. UPDATE: I have also learned that my "husband" is on TINDER - I can't wait for our divorce to be final!!!

TINDER is not for everyone but if you enjoy "playing" the game, it can be quite entertaining.

The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman

2015-10-29T19:11:00.000-07:00

I am reading an interesting book that I have been meaning to read for the last few years. I purchased it in hopes of learning more about relationships and to help me better understand exactly what makes me and others "tick".

Author, Gary Chapman, explains in his book that there are 5 Love Languages. I have mentioned them below along with some of my own comments and insights:

Words of Affirmation: People like to be complimented, praised and encouraged. They like to hear kind words that help build them up and make them happy. They don't like to hear demanding words. Focus on how important words are.
Quality Time: Loved ones enjoy spending time with each other. They appreciate your full attention and interest. They like to experience fun adventures or quiet times with you. Dialogue is important to keep things interesting.
Receiving Gifts: Some people feel love when they are taken care of and given gifts. Gifts can be visual symbols of love and show that someone was thinking of you. This is derived from the marriage ceremony when rings are exchanged. Some feel this act is very important.
Acts of Service: Having someone do something that you would like them to do is another way of feeling loved. Having a meal cooked, pants hemmed, laundry cleaned, are all examples of service. Personally, I feel that this is most men. Men like to be taken care of and this came from the care that was given to them by their mothers. It's important to remember that requests give direction on how to love, but demands stop the flow of love.
Physical Touch: Touching is not limited to one localized are of the body. Tiny tactile receptors are located throughout the body. When those receptors are touched or pressed, nerves carry impulses to the brain. The brain interprets these impulses and we perceive that the thing that touched us is warm or cold, hard or soft. It causes pain or pleasure. Some people feel love at the hands of another which is why some enjoy casual flings and one night stands.

I think that many people, like myself, feel loved with each of these languages and not just one. However, there is usually one that is more important that another, and that is what should be focused on in your relationship.

What is your language of love?

2015-10-10T14:53:00.001-07:00

To read the first chapter of this mini-story, please click here: Part 1

Bo kept fiddling with his wedding ring. Kate could not help but read into that. Does he feel guilty for flirting? Is he having impure thoughts about her? Well, of course that is what she was hoping for!

“This ring belonged to my Dad, it’s even got his initials in it,” Bo whispered, as he caught Kate staring. Kate nodded as if uninterested, but she was dying to know if it was now HIS wedding ring or if this meant he was not married. She would have to find out, soon.

Lunch time came and the class was free to eat wherever they wanted as long as they made it back within the next hour. Kate was excited to eat at her favorite Mexican food place nearby and mentioned it in passing to Bo. She secretly hoped he would end up at the same restaurant, but an hour later, they both returned to the class separately. It would have been nice if they had been able to slip away and have a flirtatious lunch that would lead to perhaps drinks later.

Kate was brought back down to earth by the sound of the teacher starting class. Three and a half more hours left of day one and Kate was ready for a nap, but looked forward to her afternoon next to Bo.

Bo found little ways to get Kate’s attention and make her smile. He made subtle innuendos that were not so innocent and certainly not something a married man should be doing. There was even a point where their hands brushed against one another, leading both of them to blush.

Kate fantasized about all of the possibilities that this 4 day class, at a hotel, could bring. Unfortunately, the hotel was local to all of them, so there was no need to stay the night. Unless…..

Unless, after class, Bo hands her a room key and suggestively invites her up to his room. Or, he leans over, and whispers in her ear, “I want you!” and they sneak out to the lobby and duck into a stairwell. The fantasies must have gone on for a while, because Kate had no idea the class was wrapping up.

As they walked out, down the stairs and to the parking lot, they casually talked about their children, with no mention of spouses. As they reached the outside, they parted ways with a wave and a “See you tomorrow”, in unison.

“Damn!” was all Kate could think. This was nothing like her fantasies.

Later that evening, she decided to do a little internet stalking and attempted to find out more about Bo. Because Bo announced that he was a semi-professional race car driver, she figured there would be no problem finding him on the web, even only knowing his first name. After an hour, Kate realized it was not as easy as she had hoped. She racked her brain, trying to remember where he said that he worked. It was a big building down town, but that was all she knew. Next, she started searching for high school baseball teams.

She felt a little guilty and much like a pervert, however, Bo had mentioned that he was a volunteer coach at one of the area high schools. How hard could it be to go to each sight and look at team photos, read stories, etc. Surely, they would mention him and she would discover his last name. No such luck! Kate giggled at the thought of how she would appear to her friends if they ever found out about her stalking skills. Not to mention how her ex-husband would feel if he knew she was pining over a married man. After all, his infidelities within their marriage were hardly acceptable.

The morning was approaching quickly and Kate decided to end her pursuit. She would have to find out more about Bo tomorrow. Then she had a terrible thought, “What if we don’t get to sit by each other tomorrow?” Kate asked the question aloud, but knew that she would do everything in her power to spend more time with him, even if she had to get to class early.

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Kate was going to be late. It seemed to be a habit that she had formed over the last several years. To be early almost always seemed impossible.

She arrived at the class just in time to have the instructor turn and look at her with that irritated look of someone being interrupted mid-sentence. Kate stood at the back of the room, as she evaluated her seating options. The instructor said, "It looks like there are only seats available down here in the front". Kate quickly chose the most available seat, which so happened to be at the very front of the room, facing the rest of the class and presenting her back to the instructor. This was not going to be a good 32 hours.

After everyone introduced themselves and explained why they were attending the training seminar, Kate had her chance to move in between two people at a different table. Now she could face the instructor. Of course, the move did not go unnoticed by the disapproving glare the teacher gave her.

Kate was seated between a man to her right and a woman to her left. The man to her right introduced himself, "Hi, I am Bo". Bo spoke with a southern drawl and it was obvious he was a transplant from Texas. He was quite handsome and when he smiled at Kate, she felt a fluttering in her chest. Judging by the ring on his left hand, she did not want to encourage the flirtation, but dang it if he wasn't persuasive.

Throughout class, a bond began forming between Bo and Kate. With the sideways glances, the deep, meaningful smiles and the gazes into one another's eyes that lasted a little too long, it was obvious there was something brewing.

Kate had no memory of how to flirt. Finding herself single, after 25 years of marriage, Kate felt nervous and awkward. Bo had been the first guy who showed an interest in her since her divorce, 6 months ago. She decided to just be herself and go with it. Why not have some fun over these next 3 days? What could be the harm? Bo was married. Surely this was innocent banter. Boy, did Kate have surprises in store for her.....

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2015-09-26T13:03:00.000-07:00

From The Change Blog

Writer Rachael Ann Mare writes about how a breakup taught her to relax and be herself. I wanted to share this with you because I think it is a great story. Although it has a happy ending, sometimes we don't get the girl/guy back. Because I am going through a breakup, I found this very inspiring at least knowing that I WILL find "me".

I will share a few bits from the article. You can read Rachael's story directly at: How A Breakup Taught Me To Relax And Be Myself

"..I thought I would be over it, or at least feel okay. I wasn’t, and I didn’t. I had tried to be friends with him. I had tried to not be friends with him. I cried a lot either way."

"When we first broke up, I spent an embarrassing amount of time reading Internet articles about how to get your ex back."

"If I wanted him back, most of the books said, I couldn’t let him see how much I hurt. I had to be out there having a great time."

"I had this idea of how I was “supposed” to deal with the breakup “in order to” get him back, and it was killing me. Instead of actually focusing on me, I let my wanting to control him—to make him come back—get the better of me, and I focused on him and how he was going to respond to what I was doing instead of on my own needs and feelings."

"I remembered all the things about our relationship that didn’t work for me. I focused on work, on launching my blog and website and doing scads of writing, and I loved it. I could never do all that while obsessing over his next move. I stopped needing a relationship and started looking for someone who complemented my life."

~This is a good story, check it out: Go to The Change Blog to read

The Pisces

2015-09-26T12:33:00.000-07:00

As promised, I am sharing interesting information regarding Astrology.

Pisces

Pisces needs a dominant partner or role model in their life or they will very easily fall into a pit of self-pity and self-undoing. When they are independent and inspired by life's events, their creativity comes shining through but they are unable to be on their own for long before they start dreaming in their imaginary world of happy people and happy endings. They need other people to keep them grounded and on the right track. They need a strong positive friend to make them strong.

Pisces does not take well to a position of leadership or high business person, they are too sensitive and lacking in self-discipline and lacking self-confidence for a positions such as that. Unfortunately, most Pisces take the easy way out in life and never attain the degree of fame that they possibly could, they have to stop self-doubting themselves because they are capable of being good role models and leaders to others, people do look up to them.

The Pisces personality is hard to pin down, it is very mysterious and elusive. Pisces are molded by their surroundings, they incorporate their experiences and surroundings into themselves. They have extreme compassion and they feel the pain of others. If something is wrong in the world that affects them, it affects them deeply, they take it to heart and feel extreme feelings regarding the matter. When they are happy, they are extremely happy and when they are sad, they are extremely depressed. Pisces downfall is their sensitivity and their inability to reject another person. They do not like rejection and they try to treat others the way they want to be treated so they will rarely say no to a person for fear of hurting their feelings. They will help another person with their problems and like to do so because making others feel good in turn makes them feel good. Pisces is the zodiac sign of self-undoing. People born under this zodiac sign are not susceptible to bad luck and unfortunate events, they bring them on themselves by overindulging, laziness and a knack for picking poorly suited partners and friends. They want people in their life who stir their emotions because this helps them to practice emotional stability. The inner conflict of Pisces is extremes of temperament and conflicting emotions. They are trying to pinpoint themselves on the real world while their spiritual world can cloud their vision, they will try to escape or avoid a situation instead of confronting it. Pisces eternal struggle is to learn to use their powers and their imagination in a positive, productive way and vying for emotional stability by not giving away their emotions to everyone else, they need to help themselves.

Pisces live in two worlds, the real world and the spiritual or mystical world where they interpret what they see into what they want. They do this to avoid all the realities of pain and suffering in the world. They have extremes of emotions and feel both good and bad intensively. Pisces have formidable intuitive ability. Most Pisces are somehow involved with occult or spiritualism. Pisces are very good at understanding people for they have the ability to delve into the psyche and see behind a person's motivations. Pisces are prone to drug addiction and indulging lifestyles because of their eternal search for themselves and their fear of confrontation and having to change a situation, also they justify drug use by allowing it to get closer with their 'spiritual selves'. Once they aware this is why they are doing it, it will be easier to kick the habit. Pisces are not the pushovers that they may seem, in fact they have strength of character and will stand up for what they believe in and and they can do hard work for something they believe in. They can be very lazy but only in matters that they do not care about. Pisces is the most sensitive of all zodiac signs.

Pisces men: They are the ultimate romantic, the sensitive man who feels with a woman. However, he has such an ideal of romance that is unrealistic and will fall out of love when he realizes that there is no such thing as the perfect woman. This man lives in the world of dreams and he needs a woman to keep him grounded. He needs a woman who can dominate him, but very subtly. She has to be able to help him steer clear of bad habits and bad thoughts. Pisces man needs sensitivity, generosity and compassion, nurture him and he will nurture you back. A fulfilling emotional relationship for the strong yet sensitive woman. When confronted with complicated issues, he tends to retreat into his dream world and wears his "rose colored glasses". This is why Pisces man can be very temperamental and pretend there is nothing wrong when your relationship is on rocky ground. When life is not going so well, he can be very hard on himself and very self destructive so it is better for him to live in denial. The Pisces male needs a firm, strong woman to guide him because he is very indecisive and is known for sitting on the fence. The woman has to take the lead in the dating relationship. This need for nurturing is often what attracts women, women love to make him feel good and protected, sort of like a mother's instinct. The mystery of the Pisces male makes dating him unlike any other astrology sign, nothing is ever cut-and-dry, there is always the element of the unknown and a slight unreachable quality that keeps a woman's interest. If you like drama in your dating relationship, the Pisces man is for you. Your ultimate goal will be to be invited into the secret realm of his life, where he experiences things and plans ideas that no one on the outside will ever know about. To be invited into the Pisces man's mind is like being invited into another world, you can be part of his exclusive bubble and both can feel safe, warm and secure. He will protect you and cherish you and you will have a fulfilling romantic partner because he has an amazing ability for love. This is the ultimate goal in a long term relationship and this is very difficult to achieve. It takes the right amount of patience, tolerance and acceptance. Also you have to show your man kindness and sympathy because as the sign of self-undoing, he is very hard on himself and sometimes lacks motivation.

Pisces women are very captivating and fascinating. She makes a man feel like a man because of her need for a protector and leader. She is charming, soft and feminine. The ultimate enchantress. She can see right through a man and she is not easy to fool, so any man better be straight with her and not lead her on, because instead of confronting him, she will simply disappear. She needs to nurture and will give the man orders, but only for his own good. She will make sure he is eating properly and getting enough sleep, sort of like a mother nurturing a child. What she needs in return is a man to protect and cherish her, make her feel like she is needed and loved. She might almost be clingy and dependent but never overbearingly. Her partner will become of better half. She needs patience and sympathy and you have to be gentle with her. Don't poke fun or tease and definitely do not reject her harshly because she can't stand rejection. She is extremely romantic and will lose herself in the relationship. The Pisces woman is the ultra feminine nurturer, the ideal woman for the right man.

These were copied from the website: zodiac-signs-astrology.com

Synchronicity

What is Synchronicity?

What is Synchronicity?

"The simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection."

You walk into a book store not knowing what to buy, and the book you need falls from a shelf and practically hits you over the head.

You finally end a bad relationship and immediately another partner comes into your life as if by synchronicity.

You drive to a place where parking is "next to impossible" and someone pulls out of a parking spot or it is waiting for you.

~from the website http://www.crystalinks.com/synchronicity.html

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Synchronicity

What is Synchronicity?

What is Synchronicity?

"The simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection."​

You walk into a book store not knowing what to buy, and the book you need falls from a shelf and practically hits you over the head.

You finally end a bad relationship and immediately another partner comes into your life as if by synchronicity.

You drive to a place where parking is "next to impossible" and someone pulls out of a parking spot or it is waiting for you.

~from the website http://www.crystalinks.com/synchronicity.html

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REPOST FROM 2012: Social Media & How We Lost Our Social Skills

Hang Tight!

WELCOME TO MY NEWLY RE-VAMPED BLOG!

Need a ride? Try Lyft - I could be your driver

You're Never Too Old To Learn

REPOST: How To Delegate

It's That Simple

Nothing to say!

Codependency - Here's What I Have Learned

Prescott, AZ

Great New Song - Burning House, CAM

Article Share: 4 Reasons Honest Men Give To End It

Re-Post: I Am A Lane Blocker

Life Lessons From A Broken Heart

That moment ~ 12/5/2015

Movie Review: Before We Go

Happy Thanksgiving!

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The 5 Love Languages - Gary Chapman

Part 2: Mini-Story: Heading For Trouble© - Written by Jennifer Dorsett

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"The simultaneous occurrence of events that appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection."