Quentin's Blog

Be A Better You

2017-03-19T08:45:00.002-07:00

One of the most important aspects for growth in an individual is to become a better you. Even if you are currently happy with yourself and you are yourself's best friend. It is vital to love oneself, but one needs to challenge him or herself and set goals for him or her in order to have growth. Because if you get content and become complacent, then you won't reach any of your untapped potential. This will cripple and disable you from any sort of personal or professional growth, which is important to reach any sort of success in whatever one is seeking. In my personal life, I have become my own worst enemy. I had a lot of academic success through grade school and post secondary education, but did not try to better myself. I would go to school, do my work, and come home. I did very little interaction with people while I was there. I was a reserved individual. I did not like to speak in general, but some people looked at it that I disliked them. Like the old adage, "It is me and not you." That was a truism that hinder me both personally and professionally. As of now, I have two degrees, but have a hard of finding a position in my field due to a lack of effective communication skills. Communication is a big aspect in every type of professional business. I am an articulate person in the thought process, but when it comes to verbalizing it, that is a different story. As I have learnt the hard way, thinking and speaking are two different processes. Both require a lot of work, which involves a ton of practice. One can read on how to do those things, but in order for it to effectively work, they must be put into practice, which involves interacting with people. As I mentioned earlier, I am a reserved/introvert person, which meant I had a comfort zone and did not want to come out of it because of fear. Being in a comfort zone is safe and dangerous at the same time. It is safe due to the fact you do not have to face your fear in the short term, but dangerous since it limits your growth. Eventually, one is going to have to come to grip with his or her fear in order to get to where he or she is trying to go in life. Life is about experiencing and facing challenges and to become a better you as a result of those obstacles. Embrace challenge, it is okay. It is okay to fail as long as you continue to strive until you reach success. You will live and learn. Failing happens only when someone gives up and stop trying to reach his or her goal or goals. Don't give up, don't ever give up.

Don't Stunt Your Personal Growth

2017-03-19T08:43:00.000-07:00

"You only have control over three things in your life--the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take--Jack Canfield." This quote is dynamic in a way that it can be seen as frightening and exciting. Frightening in a way because of the potential power of impact or effect that it can have on one's thinking and affecting the way one lives his or her life. It is also exciting in a way because of the control one's have, only you can stop you. From a personal standpoint, and looking over my life as a whole, I can see how I stunt my own personal growth. Most of my life I have been an introvert, which is not something see as a negative, but going back and seeing how it slowed down my growth up until now. I was reserved and settled into a comfort zone, which stunted my personal growth as far as developing interpersonal relationships with friends that I met in school, public areas, as well as family. It also affected my professional growth since I had to work with people and I wanted to work more independently instead as a group, which reflected negatively upon me. Being sociable is seen as the norm in society, and having an introverted persona can be looked as a personality disorder, but not necessarily is, in the views of many people. The good think is that a person can change, but it is up to that individual to do so. I always had this latent fear that I would not be good enough for people if I had shown my true self. As I gotten older and grown to learn throughout my life, not everyone was going to like me and that was okay. One of my biggest fears was failure. I had to learn that I had to come out of my comfort zone in order for me to truly grow as an individual. Once I learnt that life is about experiencing, and the only way to do so is to live life without fear. Everyone is going to go through challenges in his or her life, and the chances that we all going to fail at some point is high. In life, there is going to be trials and tribulations. A lot of people who had succeeded in life have failed tons of times before, but that did not mean they are failures. You have to keep trying and trying and vision yourself succeeding to whatever goals you are wanting to achieve. There are plenty of resources out there and people willing to help you. As I have experienced in life, people want to see other people succeed in life. Life is about experiencing and networking with other people, so put yourself out there and live!