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THE BEAST IN EVERY MAN

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 08 Mar 2017 08:05:00 +0000

You'll most likely think I'm not normal after reading this heading. I've not come to insult anyone and I am not a sexist. "Man" in that context means "Human being "...Yes ,there is a beast in everyone. Ofcourse not literally ,but in the real sense, we all have the propensity to be who we are not, to misbehave or to act in a very absurd manner. Beast usually mean a wild animal, inotherwords there is a wild part of everyone .
For example , A cool-headed man that showed a furious and violent side . People tend to give excuses or judge by saying such man has been pretending all along. No he wasn't , it was in him and had to come out by crook or by hook ....Beast can be in any form ; Anger, rage, cruelty, drunkenness , ruthlessness e.t.c

In a way or two ,we've all shown a trait that we ask ourselves where that came from ,because we did not even know we had such beast in us. We immediately want to apologize and the usual line comes up " I don't know what came over me" " it's the handiwork of the devil " No, it is not , it is you .
You had it in you all along ,there wasn't just a trigger to show it yet , and when it was triggered ,the beast came out, you probably don't need to beat yourself over it . Half of a problem is solved when you know what the problem exactly is , it's only when you can identify your problem, that you can share it. All I am saying is that , we all have that inhumane part of us but what differentiates us is the grace of God, self-control and patience to curtail it .

However ,you can't blame people when these things come out, because for every action there must have been a reaction or triggering factor. But no matter the factor or reaction, do not let people get the bad part of you, do not allow people's emotions affect and thus control you into being a monster . We can never be justified for battering , for violence or doing harm to people or oneself.

LET'S ARGUE THIS....

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 09 Feb 2017 08:14:00 +0000

For every hour, minutes and seconds ticking, a child is born somewhere in the world , be it in Asia,Europe, Africa or wherever ... We are not concerned about the 'where', that should be an acceptable fact . The moment air gets into the collapsed lungs of a new born, ( don't be confused , I am talking medically) and the positive reaction of " crying"occur to that said newborn , life begins for that Baby ...This happened in everyone , forget me trying to sound like I'm talking about a special baby. ... No matter the year, month and date the Baby was born, that exact date mark the begining of a new day,new week,new month and new year for he or she.
If this point is generally acceptable worldwide, I need an explanation why on my birthday or anyone's birthday , shouting Happy New Year sound odd or outdated. For example, if by April , I am just shouting mine ...doesn't it look silly?

Ofcourse it does, simply because a normal calendar starts Jan 1 and ends dec 31st, consisting of a total of 12 months / 365 or 366 days , the latter being the case of a leap year. If all this is said and affirmed , why is there a need for this piece then? I am not sorry to bother you , I am just here to prove that for every homo sapien , human being , individual or man, we have "an official and unofficial new year" . The official new year being exactly on your birthday and the unofficial one being Jan 1 when everyone on planet "Earth" celebrates the beginning of a new year. In other news, it's no news for some of us while some still deny this fact , but Tomie's blog is all about educating in different forms ... I am so sure someone somewhere thought about this too , that's why I will keep pouring out minds into words , into phrases, tenses ,just to make clearer views, ideas and points.

If you have contrary opinions or totally disagree with me , please lemme know in the comment section below . Thank you .

RESOLUTIONS OR NOT

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 18 Jan 2017 06:07:00 +0000

Hi dearies....Errrm I have decided to change the way I write and so it's just going to be pouring out my mind into words, not necessarily in form of write ups... Let's see how it's goes. For those that might not like it , just support me, that's what friends and fans do... Or am I wrong ? Anyways back to the discussion .

It's a new year and everyone looked forward to seeing it including me, I noticed that the reason people look forward to January 1 is because it's a start of a new begining for them and not just an ordinary day. Start of a new begining in the sense that, they want everything fresh , some new set of items, some new set of attitudes or attributes. Some go further into writing new year resolutions. I for one don't buy the idea, simply because I am a short term person , when I see something not working or not cool for me , I want to change it or find a way to change it that same time I notice it. Let's look at it this way , if we have 5 things written out as our new year's resolution ,and at the end of the 7th month, one isn't even off the list yet , does it mean it a fail?
No , it's not a fail , it just mean that the list was probably unachievable or priorities wasn't set right or at some point we forgot about it. For the most part ,the truth is that the new year syndrome comes and goes, especially mid January , it feels like the normal usual days and the whole excitement ,eagerness is being watered down because either new year or new day, life continues... According to Wiki, "The most common reason for participants failing their New Years' Resolutions was setting themselves unrealistic goals (35%), while 33% didn't keep track of their progress and a further 23% forgot about it."

Moral of this piece - Live your life daily as it comes
Don't get caught up in the "new year syndrome"

When you notice something not cool about yourself, make conscious effort to change it, firstly for yourself and maybe for some other people you care about. We can't please everybody.

SELF-CENTEREDNESS VS. SELFISHNESS

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 03 Nov 2016 09:02:00 +0000

I would like to state that this piece is my own opinion and everyone is entitle to theirs . So let me start off by saying that self- centredness and selfishness can be similar but not the same.
According to Merriam- Webster dictionary self-centeredness means " too interested in yourself and not caring about the needs or feelings of other people " while selfishness means " concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others"

The definition seem to be a little confusing but it is not . We are all self- centered. Hold on !!! Before you stop reading . Let me quickly say that I am very sane ( I know people will state otherwise) but it is the simple truth. There are 2 questions to this, the first one is HOW? Self-centeredness means you are centering everything around yourself , since you are going to be there for yourself as long as you live, you do not centre your life on someone or something that may not be there for you or be there for long . For instance , you are on a queue in the bank to get your money, the truth is ,nobody wants to spend a lot of time at the bank , let's assume you are the 3rd person on the queue, the cashier says the server is bad , the self-centeredness in it , is quickly joining the other available queue that has good server without thinking of other people on the first queue you are coming from. The other question is " IS IT BAD TO BE SELF-CENTRED?" No,it is not a bad thing , after all you know yourself more than anybody else , it is your life , it is only very natural that it revolves more around you and your happiness matters most . In the above example , it is not a bad thing to move from the former queue, because you know how urgent you need the money , you know there are other things to do and not just spending hours at the bank .

However , being selfish means you are paying overly too much attention on your wants , needs and well-being. For example , everyone wants a better and brighter future but the selfishness in it is when you want to be manipulative, cheat and be deceitful about getting what you want because you probably think you are the only one that needs it. The bad thing about being selfish is that "Selfishness hurts other people" it is immoral and not justified especially when it becomes too obvious and it is very irritating.
I understand that's how some people are and that circumstances ,events or the past has made them in that shape and form , but this attitude or attribute can be changed. It is very possible to be selfless and self-centered by making good decisions and impacts on yourself without hurting people . While you help people ,there are good outcome it brings to you too . I mean you can love others after loving yourself first. I am just trying to say that we can make ourselves happy without causing others pain . Let there be a balance.

Finally , Being self-centered can never be the same as being selfish . Take care of yourself first . Be your own centre of attraction. Lend a helping hand when you can. Remember that you are not the only one living on this planet "Earth" others play a role in it , for example , people sell the food you eat , people make the electricity you use , some people built the road you walk on . So therefore, as your life centers around you , life centers around other people too. Take control of your life without having evil thought about people . Make the world a better place for people just as you want it best for yourself .

EXAM TENSION

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 07 Sep 2016 07:24:00 +0000

There's a feeling we get after we've had thorough revision, tutorials and even group study or when we've completed the syllabus and done what's expected of us for a particular examination. The feeling that we are ready and sometimes feel we just want to be over and done with. On the exam day, it looks as if we are not sure anymore , we are suddenly tensed unnecessarily. Some call this ,"Exam nerves" but I still refer to this feeling as EXAM TENSION. Here are the 10 simple ways to get rid of exam tension.

1. Make sure you know when and where the exam is and get there on time . Finding venue can make you agitated and ofcourse getting there late can complicate issues.

2. Eat breakfast on the exam day ,avoid coffee or caffeine containing drink . Hunger at exam hall can destabilize you and dizziness is not good too.

3. Do not make last minute reading just before an exam. You might not remember, so no point .

4. Do not stand beside people doing summary or revision . It can make you think you are not ready enough or get you confused.

5. Remind yourself to read the instructions well before answering questions that follows. Instructions are for us to follow.

6. Relax your mind and stay calm, make sure you are with all the necessary stationery items you need. Forgetting anything can make you disorganize.

7. Tell yourself you know everything. You are not being proud , it's just a way of letting go of the stress of what you haven't done and feeling confident of what you've done.

8. Cheer up , be happy .Don't feel tighten up or choked up .Worrying has not helped anyone.

9. Remove negative thoughts in your head, concentrate on the result and expect the best . That's one of the qualities of a champion .

10. Take slow deep breathe before starting . It helps calm the nerves .

Having said all the above , Prayer is also key, so pray according to your belief. I hope the 10 tips are simple and realistic. If you think I am wrong , drop your comments.

DO NOT TAKE US FOR GRANTED

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 04 Aug 2016 07:07:00 +0000

Dearies, I think I am at this again , but this time I am not venting ,there are just some random things I can't help but talk on .Like someone I know would say , "Talk when you can,and if you decide not to,either ways, death is inevitable". I have made up my mind to write about it ,just so am free from it. Enough of the preamble, let's get straight to it.

I know we all have friends , please do not get it twisted here, there are different types of friends , best friends, close friends , good friends and don't forget we also have acquaintances( I don't even know where to classify those ones). Just to add that,it's not all the type of friends we associate ourselves with ,some from afar ( like the ones I am talking about today ) . I mean friends that we call at numerous times but won't even return our calls but remember us in times of distress. There are other friends or people that need our money or stuffs , but when they had enough,we probably aren't part of those they think of. Perhaps there are friends in our lives that want our free services but when it's time to party , we aren't part of the people they invite. There are also those that call our attention to their issues without prior notification but because of the type of person that we are, we go all out and render help to all these set of people (or fix their mess whichever the case). The most annoying part is ,when you help these people or friends, they won't even show their gratitude by saying THANK YOU , not like the 'thank you' is that important but it encourages one to do more .

Have you also noticed that such people or friends (whoever they are to you) tend to misuse the opportunity they get and they keep giving you more impromptu issues to solve, keep coming for more things or more of your free services? There are different ways through which they come to us and I might as well not be mentioning all ,I am so sure we all can relate . There have been different encounters like that before and I was always falling victims , until my eyes opened ( like my veil literally removed ) and I got to know that it's because they know we will always be there that's why they count on us when their normal plan fails.

To some people ,they feel it's because they know we are capable ,responsible and responsive,that's the reason they come to us more often. However, when it gets too much, like "please,come help me do this now,Please give me 'this' and 'that", it is called taking one for granted. If you think am wrong, Does it mean we don't have things we were doing before they showed up? or we bought those items just for them to have access to it ? Or our money is too much for us that we don't know how to save and invest ?.

The funny part is ,when we decline once in like 12 events, they think we are proud and start giving us attitude. Excuse us, We have our day planned out and We can't remember adding Your name to our to-do list. You can't always come for our help when we're not part of your "list of special friends" So please do us a favor .... Cut it. Cut us some slack .

Do not get me wrong ,I am not saying we can't help when we have the chance to, we don't have everything complete too .There are just some things that these " our friends " can do them selves and they can't always rely on us for some of our materials , we need those things too . It doesn't matter if you are too generous with your time and resources , Don't encourage laziness and selfishness ,if it's something you are good at, teach them how to do it , such that they can do it on their own rather than call you every time or misuse the advantage and if its requires team work let them know your convienent time. Most of these things happen to those that don't plan their life or time well, nobody takes you off guard if you pre-plan your daily activities and movement . Plan your life . Do not allow anyone take you for granted .

3 HELPFUL TIPS TO IMPROVE INTELLIGENCE

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 05 Jul 2016 08:05:00 +0000

First of all, "intelligence is generally described as the ability to perceive information and retain its knowledge to be applied towards adaptive behavior within an environment". Just to add to that,the part of the brain that controls 'intelligence' is the cerebral cortex . The cerebral cortex plays a key role in memory , attention , perceptual awareness , thought , language and consciousness . Years ago, human intelligence was said to be genetic ( they said ,it's what parent have, that's being pass down to the children ) but so many researchers have proven that wrong, including me ( I don't have my parent's intelligence, the one thing I am sure of, is that ,Parents wants their kids greater and smarter than they are , but it doesn't change the fact that they are wiser. Being smart and wise are two different things). My point is, if intelligence can be measured or assessed then it can be improved . Here are the 3 unique tips to improve your intelligence .

1. Train your left hand to function just like your right and vice versa

If you haven't seen my write up on "the lefties " go check it out , I mentioned special qualities they possess. This is because each hemisphere of the brain perform number of roles but they communicate with one another via corpus callosum (Let's save all the DETAILS for the medics and the science related people). For those that don't understand, In the brain of a right-handed person , the left hemisphere of the brain is physically larger and more developed because the left hemisphere controls the opposite part of the body that is frequently used while in the left-hander's brain , the right hemisphere is more developed. Thus, if the left hand function just as the right, there is an increase in the percentage of the brain that works thereby increasing intelligence .

2. Listen to music more often while Reading

Normally , 'reading is an ideal form of brain exercise', it develops analytical skills, it is an effective memory booster, it's also helps to focus more. I know everybody reads but what some people find difficult is listening to music and reading. Music on the other hand raises performance level and productivity by reducing stress and tension . Adding both makes the brain work more and increases the capability of the brain.

3. Stop doing things the easy way, play tasking games and actively double task

These days, technology has made life easy, the likes of autocorrect on our phones, googling everything "googleable". Some refer to that as being smart or calls it short cut. If you want to increase your intelligence quotient , reason things out on your own, think your way through ,other than using short-cut' medium. Playing games like chess,monopoly, makes one smarter , they keep the mind in tune and also develop logical thinking and cognitive skills. Train yourself to multitask and add to the list of what you can do with time. Let me give an example, I can walk and move my head ( #smiles... Like who can't !!!?) on a more serious note, I mean two things that actively involves the brain, like talking on a phone and reading or replying a mail . Tasking the brain more, improves the ability of the brain and thereby also increasing intelligence.

The above tips has worked for some and still helping others ( it's been helpful to me ,although number 1 is proving alittle difficult ). Don't be static ,repetitive and satisfied with where you are. Be versatile, be exceptional and be influenced by the good things of life. Stand out amongst your peers by your intelligence quotient , build yourself . It's not everything good that comes easy,some requires hard work.

OUR BIGGEST FEAR

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 04 Jun 2016 09:11:00 +0000

I am pissed and the best way I can clear my mind is just venting here. No, nobody got me angry. Am just pissed with myself and the way these things happen around . Something happened recently and I felt my life stopped ( I know you are trying to imagine what could have made me feel that way, well, it's one of those life issues) Why will I take issues to my head in the first place? why will I allow challenges affect my thinking ? It took me days before I realized that things ( I mean life hustle, challenges ) happen like that to people and it just changes them forever. It is just too bitter to experience .

My biggest fear use to be failure ( failure in the general sense of it ) although I felt it was normal and then I got to know that people have alot of "fearless things" as their fears, I thought mine was better ,at least nobody wants to be a failure at one point or the other. Examples of those "fearless fears" could actually be ; fear of poverty, fear of failing professional exams that can only be written once ,fear of rejection, fear of water, of air and probably fear of height. Yes, I call it fearless because to be honest , they are realistic fears but they are less of a fear , even if it eventually happens, should it now take the better part of one's life, or take ones whole life or change orientation about life or cause depression? And if the fear of death is on anybody's list as their biggest fear which isn't suppose to be at all, then that's the end of it( this is going to be a new write up on its own )...

I think our biggest fear should be "the fear of loosing Hope" ( maybe I am wrong but I refuse to be corrected because it is just a basic fact) What is life when you loose hope on yourself? If your biggest fear is failure and you fail, what's next after that? It shouldn't be depression , it should rather be Hope of a brighter tomorrow, Hope that your next exam would be excellent, hope that another opportunity will come and there's a solution to every problem, hope that with time it will get better. Do not forgot that failure is part of a success story , if you don't believe ask those that made it , they will tell you they failed at one point of it. (Even me,I forgot, i had to remind myself) If one has fear of water and by mistake find himself or herself in the pool, does that mean the person won't struggle to find a way out? I might not have mentioned your own biggest fear, but please what other fear justifies loosing hope ? No matter how we look at it, life is good and beautiful if we add Hope to our living. A person that loses hope is like a walking corpse , no essence of living ,the person is almost useless to himself or herself , Depression happens and sucidal attempt creeps in ,then death and that's the end of it ( that's not scary , it's what depression can do). Never give up . Have hope . Expect only the best from life and take action to get it ( I Ddnt plan it to be this long ,but you know it's when events, memories , issues happen that one gets inspiration ... And yes I am fine now .Thanks).

24 THINGS LIFE CAN TEACH ANYONE

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 08:43:00 +0000

Life is a great teacher,the more we live the more we learn (This life) , I have decided to put out 24 things, out of the many things life can teach us,either through experiences or just mere living in it....

1. The way we all think is different from one another, you don't have to be offended at the different actions you get from people . If you get upset most times, it's waste of emotions.

2. We get disappointed in people because we overvalue them more than their true worth. Give chances for it ,it won't get to you when it eventually happens.

3. Not every human you love,can love you back that same way.Love yourself more.( it's not being selfish)

4. No matter the road you are on, the road end when you stop moving. Keep moving,either fast or slow, you will eventually get there.

5. Don't say what you do not mean. If you do,you will end up being sorry for what's been said.

6. You can't finish sleeping( you will still sleep tomorrow and next),It's better you sleep less to get so many things done,than to sleep more and keep sleeping.

7. You can be whatever you want to be , if you see what you want to be . Theres power in what we see. Guard your eyes.

8. We change as the world changes ,either socially or fashion wise,that's just the trend. For those that don't, they get lost, stagnated or thrown out of the trend .

9. Life won't be hard if you take it one day at a time . Worry less. Who has "worry" helped?

10. You don't regret your past. Forgive yourself, forget what might have happened, move forward and focus on the future. You don't have to wallow in it .

11. Academics or education is just a means ,there are other means to an end.

12. Passion makes your career worthwhile .A passionless career is boring and won't bring fulfillment.

13. You can never please everyone , just please yourself . Your happiness doesn't depend on people.

14. If you do good , you would reap good . We somehow deserve what we get.

15. It's far better to move towards greatness than to be jealous of those great. It's just a waste of time .

16. The difference between life and death is in seconds , live every moment like it's going to be your last.

17. We meet different people at different phase of life but not everyone of them is needful for our life.

18. The kind of life we live matters, tomorrow will speak of how your today is.

19. Failure isn't the end of the road ,it just shows how many times you walked wrongly on the road to success . (This took me years and courage to learn though).

20. The best you've achieved,can be someone else's starting point, don't settle for less ,keep moving.

21. If your money doesn't give you peace ,it's a waste.(No point of having money without peace of mind)

22.The number of friends we keep,determines how far, how tall and how wide we go in life.

23. The idea you have will stay in you if you dont start it up. In other words, no Matter how big the idea is , start small and aim high .

24. How you plan your life doesn't matter ,it's how God plans it that matter , Have faith in God and he will make his plan yours .

I am posting this because today (6th of April) is my birthday and I am ** years old ,hence the total number of the list. Do the maths ( winks) and wish me happy birthday.

Typical 'BORROW BORROW'

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 06 Feb 2016 09:03:00 +0000

I heard January started slow and brought 'shades' along with it, I am hoping February will take a 'chill pill'. This piece is not to 'cast' or 'throw shades' at anybody and am not pointing fingers ,it's just part of the things have noticed and it's annoying when I see it happening. The following traits shows who a typical 'borrow borrow' is;

1. When you borrow something and fail to return it at the expected time intentionally

2. When you just love borrowing than buying stuffs

3. When you borrow and your subconscious mind starts praying for the owner to forget it

4. When you tell people that the borrowed item is yours

5. When you don't say ' thank you' after borrowing or when returning the borrowed item

If you have all the traits and characteristics, it's bad and wrong . We are not giving up on you because we know change is constant . It's 2016, we can't continue like this ,let's all try and watch it .

“A borrower who doesn't returns is a beggar.”
― Amit Kalantri

THE LEFTIES

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 28 Dec 2015 08:40:00 +0000

it's not a new thing anymore when people discriminate those using their left to write ,do some other things and tag them lefties ... Ofcourse am not pointing fingers , I do it too ... But isn't it interesting to know that they are unique in their minority unlike the common Righties ... My bad ,we are not common , we are unique just the way they are . These brings me to the 10 things the so called lefties ' are not even aware of ...

1. They make up 5-10% of the entire population

2. Twice likely to be a Man

3. Have greater chance of being a genius or having high IQ

4. They draw figures facing right

5. They make use of the right side of their brain

6. They are advantaged at sports e.g football, basketball , boxing e.t.c

7. They recover from stroke faster

8. Makes use of their brain differently by their ability to access both sides of the brain more easily than the right handed peeps

9. They have tendencies of being easily embarrassed

10. They have their own day - Aug 13.

BEHIND THE SMILE

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 31 Oct 2015 10:58:00 +0000

Something happened one day and I noticed it's being like that all around . On that faithful day , a friend and I were delegated to take a guest to his apartment and while we were on the elevator I suddenly noticed we've been smiling at all what the man had been saying even when it's not funny , I had felt my humor level was faulty, so after we were done with the assignment , I asked my friend if all the man had been saying was funny ,she said 'no' and I asked her why she was smiling and laughing , she answered and said 'it won't be polite if we were just with a straight face and I don't think it will encourage him" .... At that point , I knew she was right but I was not convinced on why I was opening teeth at irrelevant discussion. I decided to ask few friends why they smile when they greet people even when they are not in good mood or good terms with the person . Mayb I should ask you why you do that too( that's if you smile )...the best answer I got was " I Dont know if I do ,but If i did smile while greeting you ,it's probably because you worth having my smile "( now you know why it's my best answer for the question) . Does that mean some particular people are worth having your smile ? What if I Don't feel like shining teeth does that mean I have not greeted someone enough? Isn't it awkward smiling around without a purpose? Or maybe people just want to put that hardship they are facing away and cover it up with a smile , but for how long?

I have come to an understanding that we all are not all the same , the way we handle our issues is far different from one another and life they say is not smooth ,there are ups and downs , difficult situations happen in our lives that weigh us down and stops us from smiling attimes. Our sadness doesn't solve issues or make it any better. Let's put ourselves at the receiving end of the smile , it still doesn't solve our problems but it makes us feel loved and makes us remember that theres always light at the end of the tunnel .So therefore , let's give it back the way we want it ,let our smile be real ,knowing fully well that not smiling doesn't change people's issues but encourages people around . My dear friends ... SMILE because your smile is a reason for many others to smile . Smiling is the best way to face every problem,to crush every fear and to hide every pain. And guess what? An everyday smile makes you a day younger.

10 RARE ABILITIES IN HUMAN

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 23 Aug 2015 14:56:00 +0000

Do you know that we have abilities to do some certain things while others can't ? Facts proved that only 60-65% can do these things . Most of it ,are genetically inherited while some people build up themselves to be able to do them . Here are the 10 rare abilities ;

1. Ability to roll the tongue

2. Ability to wink

3. Ability to wiggle your ear

4. Ability to raise one eyebrow

5. Ability to twitch the nose

6. Ability to tickle yourself

7. Ability to lick your elbow

8. Ability to snap your fingers

9. Ability to touch the toe without bending the knee

10. Ability to whistle

If you can do all of these, that means you are part of the people I consider as 'extra-human'... There are rare set of people and unique being. For those that can't do any... It doesn't make you less important or unique than those that can ... It just mean that you are not genetically inclined to do it and part of your Brain needs to be developed more . Its believed that human being make use of only 10% of their brain and that the percentage can always increase, based on how well we use our brain. We've all got to exercise our brain just like our muscles.
Just so you know , I am really good at eight out of ten ,of the list above....working on the rest though . Doesn't matter what you think ,I am beautifully and wonderfully made.

PHONY PEOPLE

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 18 Jul 2015 11:41:00 +0000

I am this, I am that , is that really who you are? Or we just enjoy deceiving people ? Some can't do without lying , just to cover up when they are almost caught. Is it that we are ashamed of the person we are or we shy of who we becoming? I use to think it happens only in the movies until I came across one phony girl. Guys, am not condemning her or anybody but please it's irritating, we can be ourselves rather than being anybody. For those still wandering what this is about, it's about' being fake, deceitful, dishonest, pretentious' that's what 'phony' means. Before we start crucifying people, let's start with ourselves , are we any of those attributes "being phony "describes?

Do you fake accents when talking with friends? Do you claim to be who you not? Do you borrow material things or lend money just to show off? If you do these things , then you are one of the phony people on earth and we are talking about you. The world is so sick of it, please be real for ones and let's really get to know you . Another dictionary meaning also describes phony to be 'not true, not real' ,then ,those that are always on wigs,fixed lashes,fixed nails ,make ups , are they part of this category? What about those that are basically in a profession for the money and not purpose and passion? Those that not happy studying the course they are studying but only smiling because their parents wants them to study that, are they also part of the people we talking about? That's for all of us to decide. No matter how hard you try to fit in ,it doesn't change the fact that it's not you, it's fake , you an impostor and a liar.

They say it's a free will and we all responsible for our lives, it's left to you and I to live life the way we want to. Weather good or bad, fake or true, there's always a reward for everything .

LADIES AND LATENESS

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 06 Jun 2015 12:13:00 +0000

I have always wanted to give up on some ladies about lateness including myself . It has become an almost constant and alarming issues around . Not that we don't like to be punctual to classes, meetings , gathering or events but we just find ourself being late. Even when we try our best , put our effort to stop , we still end up in it . So I thought I could just do a little digging before concluding on myself about changing .

Isn't it worth the wait too? We look good most times to places and so I think people complaining out there needs to know that we need time to get ready for whatsoever occasion we attend. Moreso ,bathing is a whole lot of job ,due to the fact that we have a lot of matters we attend to (for those that understand better). Picking up clothes to wear is another issue to deal with, shoes to match and bag to fit in ,is a war on it's own, applying make up too has it's own share of it.
While all of these are there to think about, i discovered that they are not the real issue , Infact they can't be counted as reasons for our lateness . Women are just touchy creature, they want to do extra things ,some need extra time to get ready, some are indecisive,they don't know what to wear and so try outfits on before reaching a conclusion on what to wear eventually ,some ladies are attention seekers and do not like to get ready early because they want to look as fresh as possible and hence lateness comes in.

Women generally are programmed to ignore time , lack sense of urgency , have distractions in thoughts and lack poor time management skills . With all of those reasons, none is tangible enough to make us perpetual late comers . Ofcourse not all ladies have lateness as an issue to deal with, I am not the judge here , all I want is to be a better person and also make somebody one.

Being late ,shows you are disrespectful to others, after all those early and waiting are not jobless ,being late shows lack of commitment and shows irresponsibility . Therefore , since lateness is an unconscious habit, let become conscious of time , let's plan not to be on time , that is, let's plan our time before we set out to do the things we plan to do ,let's learn to put ourselves in the shoes of others and above all , let's learn to manage our time and also do the right things at the right time . That old saying ' it's ladies prerogative to be late ' needs to be nullified , We can't be that , we are examples to our children, children to come and generations . We need that change in our society and we are the change for generations to see.

MEN AND THEIR EGO

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 23 May 2015 11:27:00 +0000

Men are great people in our world today, no doubt about that. Imagining a world without Men would be a struggle. In marriages , men are referred to as the head and women are to submit to the head. All of this shouldn't be taken for granted by men. Men are known for their ego , its huge and can be destructive . I am inquisitive to know what their gain is or will be for being so full of ego or probably egocentric and some of these men even suffer from it. it's won't be of any harm if they can swallow it alittle. Most times when they are wrong ,they dont bring themselves to apologize for their wrongs and they feel so comfortable doing that. They turn tables around often and make us feel like the wrong people .Thank God for God , that gives us the strength ,that makes us the strong-willed being and courage to swallow our pride and to say 'sorry ' even when we are not wrong. Stories of divorce today ,yesterday's ego is probably one of the reasons and deep down within them, they know it but can't just face the truth.

If the meaning of ego is self-esteem, self-importance, self-worth , self-respect, self-image, self-confidence , does that mean we don't have it too? Or we neglect it and that's why we easily take blame that aren't ours?
I hear some men say we have to learn to accept them as they are , and who said we can't be accepted as we are too? While some say ' don't hurt a man's ego ' should women's ego be hurt then?

I am not a feminist and am not against men either, I am not saying some women are not full of ego too rather am I saying all men are full of ego , the percentage is high for men .Let's all cut it off a little, to make a better you and I. Ego won't make you richer , won't make me taller and won't make us bigger.

The best antonym of ego is found out to be "selflessness ", that became powerful in my mind because it's not easy being human and not act like one .It takes great minds to take that in. Being egoless makes us more responsible , more respectable and more matured. Trust me , the world would be a better place if people stand up to take blame when at fault,humble and not too full of themselves. 'EGO is the only requirement to destroy any relationship, so be a bigger person, skip the 'E' and let it 'GO'.

WHAT HUMAN BEINGS CANT DO AT THE SAME TIME AND WHY

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 09 May 2015 12:44:00 +0000

Human beings are complex and are different from other animals in so many UNIQUE ways. We are capable of doing so many things, but do you know that human beings are the only mammals that can't breathe and swallow at the same time apart from infants? Oh yes, we can't do both, even our brain cant help it. While some are aware of this truth, others don't know why.

Humans are able to produce a wide range of sounds due to the descended larynx (commonly called the voice box,larynx is an organ in the neck of mammals involved in breathing, sound production, and protecting the trachea against food aspiration. It manipulates pitch and volume of sound produced) that causes longer vocal tracts.
The theory that gave reason why larynx descend states that longer vocal tract helps us to make lower noises in order to sound larger and more threatening,giving facts why humans are territorial than other animals. The theory was further supported by the fact that in males , the voice box or larynx descends further during puberty giving reason why men has a deeper voice than female.

As the larynx descends further ,the passageway for food and air space becomes connected. This connection gave rise to an epiglottis (is a flap that is made of elastic cartilage tissue covered with a mucous membrane, attached to the entrance of the larynx. It projects obliquely upwards behind the tongue and the hyoid bone, pointing dorsally) which either covers the trachea (passage to the lungs) or the esophagus (passage to the stomach) when we are swallowing or breathing .

Once the larynx drops, breathing and swallowing requires more coordination such that while you are swallowing ,breathing is suppressed in the brain stem and so ,if you're unconscious you don't breathe-in your saliva especially while we are asleep. There is also a pattern we unconsciously stick-to while eating 'exhale - swallow - exhale'. Through that pattern ,the body avoid incoming air trying to carry little bits of food or water into your lungs.Once you get foods or liquids in your lungs ( often called swallowing the wrong way), it causes discomfort and coughing as the lungs try to expel or remove the food or liquid.

Infants can suck and breathe at the same because of the position of the hyoid bone and larynx. When a baby is born , the larynx and hyoid bone is situated higher up in the nasal cavity than in adult , which makes it possible for them to drink and breath without aspiration or choking on liquids or foods. Infants have this ability until 9months after birth during which the larynx drops or descends ,giving them a wide range of sounds for speech.

REASONS BEHIND OUR FORGETFULNESS

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 25 Apr 2015 08:27:00 +0000

After reading for hours, for probably tests,examinations or interview and one end up not remembering all one read, can be annoying ...or probably entering into the kitchen or some other places and all of sudden you are trying to remember why you there in the first place can be funny. The brain controls our memory but how the memory of the brain works can sometimes be individually controlled. Not everyone forget things, research has shown that a particular type of memory called Eidetic memory exists. Eidetic memory is an ability to recall images, sounds, or objects in memory after only a few instants of exposure, with high precision for some time after exposure,without using mnemonics. It occurs in a small number of children and generally is not found in adults. Except for this, adult are prone to forget details of somethings. Here are some of the reasons why we tend to forget things;
1. Failure to store information in memory in the first place
2. Failure to retrieve information from the memory
3. Interference of memories competing with other memories
4. Intentionally forgetting things associated with a trouble or traumatic event
4. Decay theory of forgetting- research has shown that information stored in short-term memory last for 5-30s and if it's not rehearsed,the memory fades. It has also stated that, the length of time between the memory and recalling that information, determines whether the information will be retained or forgotten.

Here are also ways to help remember information:
1. Try to limit interference - do one thing at a time , avoid wandering minds
2. Mentally rehearse what you are doing and hold it in mind until you are finished with the task
3. Train your brain to recall information by practicing or mnemonic strategy
4. Pay attention and be focused .

The above isn't a cure for forgetting information because our brain deliberately makes us forget things to prevent insanity. The human brain is still the most complex object on the face of the earth and we all function differently because we all have a unique brain.

HAPPINESS...

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 11 Apr 2015 09:39:00 +0000

Often times when I check within, I just know for sure that the best way to live life ,is to be happy living life. This is because I keep learning everyday that happiness is not a goal, it's a by-product of a life well lived . It probably might not make sense to some and to others, it might . Have you felt happiness starved once in your life? If you have, then you should understand what that means. So many things happen around us and the best way to go about it ,is to know that being sad won't solve anything but when you are happy, you've won already. Some people somehow term happiness around someone such that when that one person fail in fulfilling what you want them for, you are sad. I beg to differ, it doesn't necessarily mean someone isnt suppose to make us happy , am just saying it shouldn't be built around one single person or one thing. Yes, being fulfilled in life or being successful can make you happy within and out but are we suppose to wait till then before we can say we are happy?

Life brings struggle, thrive and challenges at times, but there is still happiness in life ,although it depends on how well you living your life. Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect,it means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections. Students worry too much about school and exams, graduates worry about jobs, meanwhile workers worry so much about bills and salary. While singles worry about getting married, married couples worry about their children, and even retiree also worry about when they will be paid but then when life gives us so many things to worry about, let's find those things that makes us happy and smile. Happiness is not the absence of problems or challenges it's the ability to deal with them. Your achievement , passion, hobbies, partner , jobs, belief, friends can make you happy but most importantly you can make yourself happy because happiness depends mostly on oneself. A happy life,is what makes you want to live more. It requires contentment ;be contented with what you have, being grateful ; grateful to life and what it brings and finally belief; belief in God ,keep believing ,be happy , don't get discouraged things will work out.

10 TRUE FACT ABOUT THE HUMAN BODY

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 29 Mar 2015 13:07:00 +0000

To know, means to be aware of something,to be informative means you are ahead of others that are not aware of what you know. Here are the ten interesting things I think you need to know about the human body.....

The eyes stays the same from birth but the ear and nose never stops growing
The corneas are the only tissue that don't require blood
When awake,the human brain produces enough electric current that can power a small light bulb
The feet have half a million sweat glands that produces over a pint of fluid everyday
The acid in the stomach is enough to digest zinc
Strongest muscle in the body is masseter muscle ( jaw muscle)
If the human eyes was a digital camera ,it would have 576 megapixel
The thigh bone is stronger than a concrete
The smallest bone in the body are in your ear which is approximately 0.11 inch
The human skull is made up of 26 different bones.

ANGER AND ITS FURY

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 14 Mar 2015 12:06:00 +0000

One thing I did not learn on my own was how to get angry or how to control it . Anger can't be learnt. it's just a normal feeling the brain translate as one of the emotions of the mind. It happens when you are annoyed or when you vexed up , pissed off over something. It's a strong passion or emotions of displeasure which is usually excited or stimulated by a real or supposed injury to one'a self or others . But the truth is that the real reason why we sometimes get angry is ego. Have you ever thought about it? we have questions like this when we are angry; why will he do that to me? Why will she act like that? Why will he say that? Emotions, especially anger revolves around one's self. The question is why should we allow people control our emotions ? Why should we allow someone tamper with it ,in the first place? It's not theirs at all , they don't have right over it . When we get angry , that's what happens, We allow that person control us into the things we don't want to do or into the things we don't want .

'Anger' is a choice, as well as a habit. It is a learned reaction to frustration, in which you behave in ways that you would rather not. In fact, severe anger is a form of insanity. You are insane whenever you are not in control of your behavior. Therefore, when you are angry and out of control, you are temporarily insane'.

The Words we say can't be taken back , the things we destroy can't be mended, the scars we cause, will always be there , so why do we allow ourselves to be used for destruction; destruction of ones feelings, destruction of friendships e.t.c

Everyone has a right to get angry but of what gain is it to us? Have you ever thought of walking away when someone try controlling your emotions? That's the best answer for it . when angry, walk away and tell yourself the stress of shouting, isn't worth it. I am not here to condemn anybody , In fact who am I to do that ? I have gotten angry countless times before but what I have learnt and still learning is that we are all unique in our being , it requires patience to understand everyone around us . "Anger may repast with you for an hour, but not repose with you for a night. The continuance of Anger, is hatred; the continuance of hatred becomes malice; that Anger is not warrantable that has suffered the sun to set on it". Patience is a virtue and patience is what I have chosen , I don't know about you.

KNOW YOUR RIGHT

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 01 Mar 2015 13:21:00 +0000

We know little about our body and the doctors know almost all about it. We know little about our hair style and the stylists know almost all about it. We know little about houses (at least we know the houses we will like to live in) the constructors still knows almost all about it. Limited is our knowledge of cars even if the choice of which to buy still ours to make, the carmaker knows more about the automobile than the average car user. How then do we know close to nothing about the law? Even if it’s the duty of the law makers and the enforcers to know all there is about the law, it is your responsibility to know all there is about YOUR RIGHT.

In my findings, a lot of folks don’t know their right. We allow the policemen and other law officials to manipulate us or deprive us of OUR RIGHT. I once heard of an innocent man that was arrested by law enforcement agents without a Warrant of Arrest. It is pertinent to know that a man can choose not to go with a law enforcement officer(s) if a Warrant for his arrest is not shown.

Do you know you have some rights in your dealings with law enforcement officers? Some of these rights include:

- The right to remain silent. If you are not been reminded of this law by the officer ,you can remind the officers if you are been pressured to speak.

- You have the right to refuse to consent to a search of yourself, your car or your home;

- You have a right to a lawyer if you are arrested. You can call one immediately after your arrest or one could be provided to you by the State on request.

How many know that a police request is not an order? I bet you don't know that keeping handshake with a policeman must be visible. I am sure by now you are agreeing with me that there is a lot about YOUR RIGHT you don’t know.

There are few other rights we should be aware of anywhere we find ourselves, examples include; your rights when you fly on a plane, rights as an employee etc.

One thing I am sure many are guilty of, is signing documents before reading through the terms and conditions. Even if breaking a term of service might not necessarily be a crime, it's still a good idea to know what you are agreeing to. There are some laws we often break without realizing. Some of this includes- connecting to secure Wi-Fi networks without appropriate permission, punishable under Computer Fraud and Abuse Act. This law makes it a crime to gain unauthorized access to a computer or a website, wireless routers etc. Using fake names on the internet is also punishable under Computer Fraud and Abuse Act.

How about betting with friends/family/relatives? The Illegal Gambling Act makes this an offense.

So now you agree that you have not been taking your right serious like the Doctors, the Stylist, Constructors, and Carmakers take their job. YOUR RIGHT is your job as a citizen and as an individual, hence you should know more about it than any other person.

While traveling to other countries, take time to read through their laws in order to avoid violating them. If we are truly good citizens of our different countries, let us read through the laws of our countries and know about them.KNOW YOUR RIGHT, ITS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.

EXCESSIVE TALKING

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 21 Feb 2015 08:26:00 +0000

Have you heard of 'communication addiction disorder'? For those that haven't , Its a disorder that describes people who talk excessively. it is also known as 'talkaholism'. 'This disorder is the incessant and seemingly uncontrollable tendency for some people to talk to one another, either one-on-one or in groups' . Research has shown that a significant portion of the students have this disorder, and statistics has also point to a similar proportion in the general population. Talking excessively can be related to the necessity of being in constant communication with other people, even when there is no practical need for such communication.

Any exchange of ideas through conversation can be termed 'talking'. It can also be exchange of thoughts , convey ideas, express in speech. If this is the main aim of talking, then people who excessively talk, abuse it. 'Talkative' according to the word-web means 'full of trivial conversation, unwisely talking too much'. Its sad to know some people ,somewhere somehow, are described with such word.

Excessive talking is not to be confused with rapid and fast talkers or when one is excited and just can't get the words out fast enough. This is a temporary situation which form a social standpoint, it's quite harmless and we often experience it from time to time . Even those we often refer to as people of few words ,also experience it. Infants often talk excessively when first learning how to speak which is understandable . Most children grow out of this and a few do not. For those who do not, it is referred to as attention deficiency hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is one of the most common childhood disorders and can continue through adolescence and adulthood.

We all don't like to be referred to as a 'motor-mouth' or 'a non-stop talker' yet some are exactly that .If we don't have none of the above disorder, why do we talk excessively ?
For most people, a conversation is a fantastic opportunity to gain insights, get to know someone better, learn more, and generally exchange information. Some say it's their personality while other say it's temperamental. When we begin to talk more than we listen,then it calls for our attention . People who converse well are at an advantage, professionally and socially . But the problem arise when we talk far more than required. Excessive talking can be socially embarrassing, Not everyone like Interacting with someone who talks non-stop especially the reserved ones around us. Most of the time,it becomes purposeless due to the fact that good points out of such conversation has been exceeded and the rest becomes out of point. Friends avoid one another over similar issue and some friendship are lost because of it.Excessive talking doesn't bring any form of respect but rather low esteem to individual. Let's imagine this, if the rate at which we talk is being measured and there's a decrease in height as one excessively talk,how many of us will still have heights to measure ? Some might have disappeared into the mass, who knows ?

Let's not talk our lives away, bearing in mind that words spoken out are out already and can't be taken back . What we say matters to people , how we say them denotes who we are and the rate at which we say them ,qualify our personality. To avoid offensive talk, apologies on words said, it's best we caution ourselves on how our conversation goes . It's requires awareness of being an excessive talker, taking responsibility and tackling it consciously . Be a good listener and be sensitive to the needs of others through their spoken words and the emotions it comes with. Let's also be calm in our response and reaction to others. Improve on how best you live your life, generations are looking up to you.

FULL MEANING OF VALENTINE

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 14 Feb 2015 07:31:00 +0000

This isn't one of those my long write-ups , it's just my opinion on what valentine should really mean to everyone ;

V- value lives around you. if you value lives you won't hurt anyone
A- allow peace reign through love. Lack of love brings about war and war can be within the mind
L- love is meant to be forever and not for a day.
E- Everybody deserves to be loved , not few.
N- No perfect explanation for love than to love
T- the greatest thing you can ever do for love is to sacrifice. Sacrifice your time,your money and show love to the needy.
I- it takes happiness to love. Sad people can't love ,be happy
N- never forget to love yourself . You can't love others if you don't love yourself
E- experience the most real and truest love which is from God.

Henceforth,let's make everyday special by showing love to one another and also lets imbibe what valentine really means to our daily living ...
Happy valentine's day to you all.

SOME OF THE COOLEST INVENTIONS

noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 06 Feb 2015 13:25:00 +0000

The earth ,they say is always revolving and so many new things revolves in it . Everyday, there are at least one idea of invention in the world . Modernization has indeed made life easy and simple and we must commend our inventors for great their works. Here are some of the coolest inventions;

TESLA's electric car - A car powered by electricity for those that don't like spending time at gas stations, for those that don't like the odor of petrol . It cheap in countries where electricity is cheap.
House that walks - House that helps to live wherever you want to (so I heard) and it's powered by solar energy.
Wireless electricity /WI-tricity- involves plug-in coil that creates a magnetic field which power object as far away as 8 ft (2.4m). This is probably for those that don't like carrying charging wires around .
Reuseable candles - These type of candles are reuse in a way that the burning wax arrange itself and used again. Saves money and prevent wax wasting away.
Self making bed - a type of bed that arrange itself in seconds. Good for students who can't spare time out of their tight schedule for laying their beds.

We talk about this inventions because some people somewhere sat down to make their ideas achievable .These has gone a long way in bringing comfort and convienence to lives . For those that have ideas on somethings, don't let it die in you , build them , make them exist in the world . 'Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone'. Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something ,stand in the way of your doing it. The time will surely pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. Don't forget that 'The starting point of all achievement is desire,Weak desire brings weak results '. Inventors out there, your works won't be complete if there is no 'hair making machine ', the one that makes hair faster and saves time. It would be appreciated by ladies that don't like sitting too long making their hair, like me. We are all waiting and the world is also waiting. Please share with me on what you think is not yet invented or the invention you think is cooler than the ones I mentioned.