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Unleash Your Potential

2020-08-18T14:14:00.002+05:30

Imagine what you would have done if you were not scared? What if you had a life without those selves that exposed your potential around you. What if those grazing and injuries disappeared from life and you were free to move on? How would it be if you lifted those heavy suitcases on which you are hanging? What if you got excited about what could go wrong instead of taking back the risk of what could go wrong? What if you've stopped settling for 'It's okay, I won't get it'? How would it be if you prioritized your happiness over your worries about what others think of you? What if you start enjoying the journey instead of running to the destination and when you get there you will get a lot of trouble? Think of this thing is called life then you have a show and you can write a script, how will you write a script? What if the love you want was inside you all the time and you were too busy or scared to feel it? What if the biggest risk of all is not really what you want with your life?

Uncovering one's true potential is like finding a hidden treasure. It's not really as deep as you might think - often it's hidden beneath the surface, but you need someone to help you rediscover it and breathe life back…...

What is potential and why does it need unleashing?

Many people underestimate their ability and what they can achieve. Potential is the difference between where we are now and where we could reach. The potential will often lead to success for that individual. This is not necessarily about achievement (although for many this is exactly what it is). For some, it’s about finding peace. For some, it’s about ‘being’ rather than ‘having’ or ‘doing’. For others, it’s about relationships and being free to be whom they want so they can find someone right for them.

How To Discover Your Maximum Potential.

1. Make a conscious choice to pursue personal growth.

The decision to change and grow is a powerful tool that can help you step forward. Decide that you will begin to pursue development. Start reading books and blogs about stretching yourself, listening to audiobooks, or attending seminars with other like-minded people.

2. Set a goal to work toward.

When you are working towards, it is easy to realize the goal with no concrete goal. Brief on what you want to achieve in the near future. Maybe it fits, starts your own business, or clear your debt. The point is, what you want to do and when.

Question yourself, "If I knew I couldn't fail, what would I want to achieve?" Do not pull this process by trying to find the correct answer. There is no exact answer, and the only way that you can find the answer is through trial and error.

When you delay action, you make it difficult to identify the things that you enjoy doing. The only way to learn is to jump into something that feels right and make adjustments as you go.

3. Keep a success list.

We all need reminders that we are good enough. You are more than capable enough to achieve whatever you want to achieve, but you might forget that when you hit an obstacle. A success list can help to remind you why you shouldn’t let go of your confidence.

A success list is the collection of all your accomplishments. Get a book or create a personal blog. Record all accomplishments regardless it is big or small. Here are some examples of what you can record in your success list.

* Completed all your tasks in your to-do list
* Workout for three days in a week
* Jogged around your block
* Created your own blog

Don’t worry about whether your accomplishments are big or small. If it is an accomplishment, just record it down in your success list.

When you start to doubt yourself, go get your success list. Look at all of the positive things you’ve done. Remind yourself that you are capable and you have the evidence to prove it.

Reprogram Your Mind To Unleash Your Potential.

Meditate.

Take a few deep breaths and let yourself be just. This is why I also ask everyone to wake up first. Waking up late puts you in a reactive state, which will be with you all day. trust me. I know! I used to hit snooze all the time! By the time I realize that I hit that nap, my day will be affected. You don't have to get up super early. Give yourself 20 minutes in the morning. Listen to a motivational podcast or read something positive.

If something is important to you, focus on that!

Don’t let anything out of your control take you from the focus. Remember that what you focus on is what you will see. If you focus on where you are not, you will only see what you’re not getting out of life. You will never enjoy what you have and the amazing things that are around you.

Love yourself enough to make you the priority.
Today is your day. No one can take your potential away from you except you, no one!

Tips to help you Unleash Your Potential.

1. Set goals – you get what you focus on

If you focus on the wrong things, you increase your chances of this happening. If you focus on boundaries, you will be limited. Pay attention to what you want. As Tad James says, "Anxiety is a warning from the unconscious mind to focus on what you want". Get a Goal - Don't be like a ruthless ship on the sea being blown around by external forces.

2. Understand your strengths & what you love

knowing your strengths will help you understand what you’re great at. Balance with this what you love doing. The combination of strengths, passion, focus, and tenacity should never be underestimated – it’s a powerful combination!

3. Take Risks

most people stop themselves from reaching their goals because they were not willing to take risks. Don’t be afraid of taking risks – rather embrace it, step outside your comfort zone – that’s where the magic happens! The more you take steps outside your comfort zone, however small, you’ll be surprised how your comfort zone expands in other areas and you gain benefit in other areas of your life. There is no such thing as failure, only feedback (and you can learn and move forward from feedback!)

4. There is no such thing as unresourceful people, only unresourceful states

You can manage your emotional state at any time. ou maybe someone who’s an internal state is greatly impacted by those around you – if that’s you currently, surround yourself by those that inspire you and encourage you.

Are you ready to decide and commit to Unleashing Your Potential? – if so, act now!

Dream It and Do It

2020-06-26T13:57:00.000+05:30

Sometimes life robs us of our dreams and we feel empty and discouraged. The most common areas of the derailment of dreams are health, wealth, love, ambition, spiritual development, and family. With these losses, confusion, despair, and fear can monopolize one's mind when their dreams crash. Sometimes it can happen that all our energy is invested in a particular result, only that.

Sometimes life robs us of our dreams and we feel empty and evaporate. This can create a feeling of hitting a wall where there is no turning anywhere. This hopeless situation is an ideal time to gain some spiritual insight through a psychic reading. Mental guidance can be important in helping a person move forward and create a new vision for life. There are always alternative dreams available if one is ready to simply expand their vision, open your mind, and trust the wisdom of your soul.

How does one learn to trust the intelligence of one's soul?

Let's look at Mother Nature for that answer.
There are patterns and rhythms of nature that are both as subtle and intense as our lives. In the cycle of life, autumn falls from colorful trees. This excuse is no longer needed before winter. After winter comes spring where seeds are planted for a new beginning followed by summer growth and harvest and a new cycle begins.
Our life resembles these unresolved cycles of life but is in a wider field of context and existence. We can be financially in the spring of our lives, yet in the winter of life in relation to our health. The most difficult phase of life is the winter of the soul.

At this point, one may feel that they are doing all they can to live their dreams but, the expected results have not yet been shown on the outside. Rest, rest assured that there are deep growth and development at the soul level. This place of emptiness is where one enters the great unknown. This void can make life complete again. Courage, luck, and faith can be traced to the way forward. Like the seeds being planted in spring, which provides new hope, our souls can inspire us. We can learn how to be released that is no longer serving itself like a tree leaves its leaves in a fall. The key is not to run away, but to listen deeply to the innermost heart voice.

This voice is always calling each of us home for its unique path and purpose. No one else can fulfill our personal destiny. Most importantly, remember to keep an open mind and leave no stone unturned to believe that a new dream can emerge from the wreckage of your broken hopes, goals, and visions. Trust in your limitless knowledge of the nature of your soul and your ability to navigate through the upcoming challenges.

Dream again and dream big! can you do this?

Why You Need To Stop Chasing Goals

2020-06-08T02:04:00.000+05:30

There is no make it. It’s all about the process. The path.

Having goals is great. It is a way to concentrate your efforts, your work, toward something in particular. It is also a way to wake up every morning with energy and willpower.

But the goal should be a tiny part of the whole thing.

Here is the secret: you need to fall in love with the path.

There is no “make it”

It’s all about the process.

Chasing a goal is avoiding the present moment. It’s focusing all your attention toward something located in the future, telling yourself things such as “I will be truly happy when I will have achieved this or that”.

Life happens now.

You can’t throw away several months or even years of your life, chasing something, without being happy in the process. You need to enjoy the path to stick to it and enjoy every moment and stage of your life.

Once you will have achieved this goal, you will be happy for a few hours, maybe a few days, and then you will start focusing on another one. The process is endless. You will end up living beside your life, jumping from goal to goal, until the end.

Learn to enjoy the process

I have always wanted to be a writer. Since the day I wrote my first words, I have always crafted stories, raising the attention of my teachers and parents. However, being a writer requires tons of work. And there is no guarantee of success.

If I focus on my goal, which is being able to make a living from it, I will be unhappy for years and years, maybe for my whole life, waiting for my goal to be achieved before reaching happiness.

But the thing is, I love the process.

I love waking up each day, brewing my cup of coffee before sitting in front of my laptop, opening a blank Medium page. Getting in connection with my mind and gradually filling it with words.

It truly makes me happy.

Then, the goal fades away behind the process. I am not saying I wouldn’t be happy if, one day, I ended up living from my passion. I am just saying that, whether it happens or not, I will have lived in the now, enjoying my current situation as much as I enjoy the process, and what it has to offer: progress in my writing, nice encounters with people from all around the world, creativity, a morning routine which makes me happy, etc.

If you want to be truly happy, you need to find happiness in the now.
Not tomorrow.
In today.

5 Habits of Highly Observant People

2020-06-08T01:13:00.001+05:30

How to Stay in the Moment and Become more Successful

Being mindful of having the basic human ability to be fully present and aware of where we are, what we’re doing, and not being overly reactive or overwhelmed by what’s going on around us — {is the key to success.}

Think for a minute how truly important being mindful/observant is.

I think it’s safe to say how intelligent you can dictate how good a friend, family member, or parent you are. It also dictates what sort of professional success you experience.

While this is one thing, most people believe that observation involves sitting in cross-legged meditation for hours on end. But it is a collection of practices and skills that can help you cope with stress more effectively, manage your emotions better, and improve your focus and productivity.

According to Tim Ferriss, (b)(eighty percent of the world’s most successful people have some daily observation practice.) Eighty percent! Here’s what those people do differently.

1. They Pay Attention to What There Is Mind Is Saying

We have 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day, and science estimates 98 percent of them are the same. This means our minds are basically “out to lunch” most of the time. During these times it’s easy to get hooked on negative self-talk such as:

All-or-nothing labeling.

You see things in black and white. If your boss says you did not meet expectations in a single category on your performance review, you label yourself as a “complete failure” at your job. With this way of thinking,– there can’t be parts of your job you’re great at, while also aspects of your position you need to work on.

Discounting the positive.

It’s common practice for you to downplay positive experiences by telling yourself they don’t count. If you do a good job, you reason that anyone else on your team could have done just as well, so what does it even matter?

Jumping to conclusions.

Interpreting things negatively without facts to support your conclusion is the hallmark of this mindset. No matter what, you predict things will turn out badly. Before a crucial meeting, for example, you may tell yourself, “I’m really going to blow it.”

“Should” statements.

Instead of focusing on how best to handle situations for what they are, you demand they turn out as hoped. These “should statements” directed against yourself lead to guilt and frustration. I “should have” figured out my passion by now.
The difference is mindful people look for exaggerated, irrational, or unrealistic thoughts that may cause them undue worry. They choose constructive self-talk over the falling victim to their inner critic.

2. They Are Curious and Ask Questions

Observant people are empathic and expert listeners. They spend more time listening to others then they do talking about themselves. By being curious about how others in the world do things or how they learned something expands and opens your mind. It also makes the people around you feel important.
Overevant people ask open-ended questions to encourage vulnerability, and by doing so, often create psychological safety for those around them. When we allow people to give an opinion, we are inviting them to engage with us. We’re saying; “I see you, I hear you, I want to share this moment and platform with you.” This causes an instant connection between the two people sharing that moment. Effective leaders are great at making this happen with others. That’s why they are leaders, they are able to make everyone feel included.
Let’s face it, everyone wants to feel special, counted, heard, and recognized.

3. They Embrace Imperfection

Perfectionism is a happiness killer. Observant people understand that aiming for an impossibly high standard (for themselves or others) will only lead to disappointment.

They know that this is simply the ego talking in them, not their true feelings. We all want to be good, wait, great at our jobs, but in our heads, we start launching harsh internal criticisms, ruminating on our incompetence or how we’re otherwise not up to snuff at something.

The thing is, you’re human, let that crap go! Does beating yourself up ever really do anything for you? Overly harsh self-criticism has been shown to undermine motivation, impede progress towards goals, and increase procrastination.

Observant people can keep calm, walk away, and realize they aren’t perfect. Nothing they do will ever be perfect, and that is OK. Good is great enough.

4. They Practice Self-care

Each day, we make about 30,000+ decisions, from what to wear to what to eat and everything in between.

Observant people manage their attentional resources. They monitor their internal state to watch for signs of depletion. They replenish their mental and emotional reserves before burnout hits. How do they do this? Self-care.

Self-care is vital to your well-being and state of mind. It’s impossible to be mindful without taking time during the day to reflect, relax, and rewind. This is a time for you to focus on yourself and let your mind take a break. Whether it’s something active like the gym, barre, yoga, or running, it restores balance in your life — which is vital to your success.

Successful, observant people use these times as a way to recharge the battery and move forward towards their goals. They realize the importance of taking care of oneself, so they can keep walking towards what they want. The journey of achievement doesn’t matter if you never get there — take your time and take care of yourself.

5. They Don’t Let Their Emotions Run wild

People who are successful at anything are able to control their emotions.
When they experience some sort of unpleasant emotion they are able to pivot their thinking. Instead of blaming others or trying to push the negative emotion away, they recognize the emotion for what it is; just a thought. Then they move on with their day.

See, observant people don’t react to the situation, they think through it. Everything we encounter in life is simply a movie reel moving in front of us. How successful or how happy we are depends on how we react to that reel. So when something negative happens, it’s important to be able to acknowledge the emotion you’re having, label it, and find compassion and self-respecting ways to move forward.

Remember, observation is about observing your mind and staying in the moment. It’s about dedicating attentional resources towards what is happening within and watching for old thought patterns. With a little practice, you can train your brain to recognize these patterns and say “that’s nice, but that’s not me anymore” and move on. This is what’s called pivot thinking, and it’s very powerful.

Your ego is needed to keep you alive, but it also causes you a lot of grief and stress. Recognize that by shifting your thoughts, your success in this lifetime can experience a dramatic and sharp turn upwards. Don’t let negative self-talk dictate what you can do. Develop your self-care routine and be an active and attentive listener in your professional and personal life. When you put all of the aforementioned pieces together, you are going to experience a more happy, fulfilling, content way of living. More importantly, you’ll become a success in all facets of life.

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How to Become Self-Reliant (Atmanirbhar)

2020-06-04T20:55:00.000+05:30

Self Sufficiency or Self Reliant is virtue in an isolation but it does not mean to be “isolated”

What does it mean for an individual?

I will admit that for many years of my past, I felt like I had gone mad. I wanted to be someone I do not accept and would be liked by others. I will blame or accuse those closest to me for my unhappiness. I act out of impulse rather than logic to satisfy my emotional needs and desires. Above all, I allowed others to control my life and how I felt not only about life but about myself as a person.

This created all kinds of problems in my life which I could not see because I used to think of others. Essentially, every relationship in my life was suffering. I was incredibly unhappy with the person I was becoming, and as a result, I became depressed. I felt helpless because the people whose attention and acceptance I found to be the most honest did not care for me. It just didn't feel like I was ever going to win in life.

It is only in recent years that I have been able to find a sense of joy and pride for myself as a person. Truth be told, part of this happiness and pride comes from the fact that I have found my voice and am becoming more self-reliant and independent on a daily basis. I am finally starting to accept the person I was going to be, and as a result, I have never been happier in my entire life than before.

While I am not an expert on the subject, there are some things I would like to share with you about becoming more self-reliant and independent. It can be incredibly scary to go against the world when all you crave is the attention and acceptance of those around you. But if you don't do it for yourself, just know that no one is going to do it for you.

Is a mentor or life coach is needed to become self-reliant?

From my point of view no

Be your own guide and mentor

A mentor is someone who encourages you and helps you figure out the right moves to make. This person can be a mentor or more of a life coach. you can act as your own mentor. There's no need to hire someone to act as your mentor. By setting realistic goals, and monitoring your progress, you can learn to be your own best source of guidance and encouragement.

Adopting the Right Mindset

1.Evaluate your habits.

Taking self-inventory is the first step to being your own mentor. To put yourself in the right frame of mind for advice, you need to keep an honest eye on yourself. Take some time to reflect on your habits. Keep an eye on ways to spend your day.
Take notes. How much time you spend each day at work, socializing, exercise, etc.
Keep track of your activities for a week or two. At the end of that time, check how you spend your time
Consider what habits are good, and which you should get rid of. For example, if you notice that you are spending hours every day on social media, consider making changes to that part of your routine.
You can list your thoughts about your strengths and your weaknesses.

2.Be Encouraging

You mention yourself, you need to be a major part of your own support system. Try to speak positively towards yourself. Build your self-esteem from within.
Try daily affirmation. Each morning, you can say something like, "Today, you will find a new way to succeed."
Leave the note to yourself. Keep encouraging emotions posted inside your home and around your desk at work. You can also try sending a positive e-mail to yourself.
Avoid Negativity. When you have a setback, do not brace yourself.

3.Practice Gratitude

A good guru often chooses to focus on the positive. As your own protector, you can also adopt this mental habit. Take time to be grateful for the good things in your life. They can be personal or professional.
Try to keep a gratitude journal. Every day, write down the things you are grateful for. Study the pattern of how you can express gratitude.

4.Remove Bad influences

A good mentor will encourage you to avoid being around people who negatively impact you. As your own mentor, it is up to you that you need to limit contact with certain people. Take some time to evaluate relationships that may not be positive.
For example, you might have a co-worker who constantly complains about corporate culture. If you are working on advancing your career in that company, maybe not a good person to spend a lot of time with.
Find someone new to sit with for lunch. That negativity is not what you need to help motivate you to do positive questions.

Question Yourself

We have all heard the saying “Live your best life.” But ask yourself something: What does it mean to actually live your best life? What does living your best life look like to you?
Before you answer that, notice how the saying says to live your best life and not live the best life of others around you? That’s because of life that you are living in yours, and only yours to live. Everybody else has their own life to live, so why let them live yours for you as well?

Striving to be accepted doesn’t make you a bad person by any means. In fact, I believe that all of us strive to be somebody that we’re not at some point in our lives. But you also can’t be scared to speak your mind, to do the things that you want to do, and to be the person that you want to be. Nobody wants to look like a failure or to be disliked by those around them. But no matter how badly we don’t want these things, they are inevitable.

If you aren’t willing to accept the fact that you are going to fail, then you aren’t willing to achieve the life that you desire. There are always going to be obstacles that stand in your way. There are always going to be people who disagree with you and who aren’t going to like you. As painful as it might be to think about these things, they are just part of being human.

I say this because despite knowing right from wrong, I still allowed these thoughts of failure and being judged by others to shape how I lived my life. The sad part is, it took me years to finally acknowledge it — years of wasted time. I gained absolutely nothing from striving to be accepted by others and to be quite frank, I only ended up resenting myself more and more as an individual with every passing day.

Why an individual need to be self-reliant?

1) You can take control of your own density.

2) It's good to be confident on your two feet.

3)Gain perspective on your life.

4)Not to be dependent on anyone but yourself.

5)Believe in yourself.

6) Learn all you can.

How to Become Self-Reliant

1. Assume responsibility.

Start with taking your own responsibility for your life and the things in it. If you rely on your mom to wake you up every morning, you don't come late to school, it's time to make friends with an alarm clock on your smartphone. Start using a calendar to track your appointments and important due dates. When you notice that your apartment or dorm room looks messy, clean it. If you are not doing well in a classroom or workplace, do not blame your teacher or your boss. If you make a mistake, be prepared for it yourself, and try to correct it yourself instead of immediately running to mom and dad so that they can fix it for you. When you come home to visit your parents, don't get into the old routine, and let mom do the laundry for you
I'll be honest with you, taking responsibility for your life is not all that fun. You will feel the weight of weighing a difficult decision and accepting the consequences, even if they do not suit you. You often go un-praised and non-rewarded for being responsible.
But taking responsibility for your life is satisfying. As you take control of your life, you will gain quiet confidence in yourself. You will feel empowered. Instead of feeling like life is just happening to you, you will start feeling like your destiny and the master of your soul. When you take responsibility for your life, you open doors to new and better opportunities.

2. Be informed

Of course, to take on more responsibilities, you have to know how to fulfill those responsibilities. Some youngsters continue to let mom and dad work for them, on the pretext that they just don't know how to do those things. They often turn to decisions for their parents for the same reasons. But the truth is, he never tried to understand things on his own.
This excuse is particularly weak in the Internet age, with just a Google search away from answers to many of life's questions. How to apply for financial aid? Don't stop working at mom - go to the computer and start researching it yourself.

3. Know where you’re going.

A self-reliant person has goals he has set for himself. Their purpose is not just the things that other people think that that self-sufficient person is autonomous and not dependent on others to validate their decisions. A self-sufficient person works with an end in mind. He has prepared a blueprint for his future. When he runs into a problem, he informs himself of what an ideal resolution would be and then works to make it a reality. He plans his week and ensures the tasks for which he is responsible.

4. Make your own decisions.

One thing I have learned is that life is actually a lot easier and much less stressful when you make your own decisions. When you are young, it tempts you and hopes that decisions and problems will magically resolve themselves. They did not win. In fact, problems and decisions often get bigger and bother you long enough to take action on them. Active decision making - habit-forming. With any choice or problem, you can quickly decide on an action plan, and execute it immediately.

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” -Theodore Roosevelt

Conclusion

Don’t put your happiness and your life in the hands of anybody other than yourself. Rely on yourself to find your own true happiness, speak your mind, and live your best life each and every day, because the truth is, you never know when it might be your last.

All Men Are Same

2020-05-24T19:57:00.003+05:30

"NOT ALL MEN ARE SAME"

A Man from Hyderabad who raped his own daughter is different from the men who fulfill all the dreams of her daughter.

Men like Daud-Ibrahim become an agony for the whole world, is different from persons like Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg, who are an inspiration for all.

When one of the aunties mocking the girls for wearing short dresses where the other side
one of the male friends of those girls helps them to tackle the problem.

Men like Kasab are different from the
men who get martyred for the country.

Men who raped Nirbhaya were different from her friends who fought till the end to protect
her, instead of absconding.

Men who stalk girls on the road are different from the male friends who pick you up and
drop you at any time.

So now on think before you say,

"ALL MEN ARE SAME."

Listen to your Inner Voice

2020-05-22T12:00:00.000+05:30

It's just a bit muted.

Day after day, we get information about how we are going to act, what we want to buy, and what we should do with our time. Between the noise of Instagram commercials, TV commercials, reality shows, and perfectly scrambled fitness gurus, "Ready to share your secret on how to get your dream body," it’s become hard to listen to the small voice within nudging us towards our higher self.

My inner voice sank once before long. I only felt as good as the reflection and validation I saw in other people's eyes; His approach was the only lens I could use to make sure I was "good" enough - whatever that means.

It is a long, bumpy road, but my inner voice is back. Even if it is quiet and still a little sneaky, I am learning to use it as my guide. Below are some tips that will help you follow the arrow of your inner compass.

Pay Attention to Your Body

It may feel like your intuition has left you, but the good news is that your body still carries a large body of information that you need to pursue with the decisions that will make you healthier and happier. Our bodies often tell us before that threat is present in our mind or we need to pay attention to the potential danger. It can appear as an increased heart rate, a tightness in your chest, or notice your shoulders may be strained to your ears. Conversely, positive emotions like excitement or curiosity can feel like butterflies in our stomach, heat, or discomfort everywhere.

We are in all situations that make us feel comfortable and welcome and others that are unacceptable. This is not a coincidence; It is your body that is sending you an important message about the people and scenarios you are finding yourself in. Use these messages as data to help you decide when to stay away from heat or cold.

Recognize Your Triggers

After becoming more aware of how your body responds to certain situations, awareness and mindfulness of triggers can fully develop. Perhaps you notice you shut down when someone is being loud, or that gossiping makes you feel sad and lonely.

The next time your body wakes up to try and talk to you, take a moment to slow down. Reflect on the events that led to this reaction. Who were you with? What thoughts did you have? How did your behavior contribute to the situation? Is there a way to control, avoid, or look at the situation differently to help yourself feel better?

Respect your need for alone time

Once I listen to something like this, in an interview

“…we have to have the ability to go inside and look for the answers that only we have for the big things. I did not have that. I literally had to practice sitting in the quiet and being like, ‘OK, where is that thing that people talk about not knowing?’ But the good news is when you practice it enough, you start to get it.”

Sometimes it’s hard to hear above the noise of the external. In my experience, the best way to reconnect with yourself, your wishes, and your intentions is to simply spend time in your own company. Your mind will take an idea, a thought, an impulse, or a wish and turn it over and over again in your mind until it’s smooth, much like the ocean does with its shells. You’ll be able to arrive at a conclusion borne from your self-reflection.

Choose which feedback you internalize

Sometimes, we don’t have a choice about feedback we receive. But you do not need to absorb every piece of advice that is thrown your way. True, some of them will help you and are meant to push you forward rather than back, but sometimes we find ourselves soaking in mean-spirited words or commentary about our person and character that we just don’t find to be true.

Ask yourself “Is this piece of information helpful to me?” before deciding whether to internalize it and rearrange your thoughts about yourself. Sometimes, you’ll find criticism is just another person’s projection of their weaknesses onto you; in that case, with practice, you can learn to let it bounce right off of you.

Your voice isn’t lost. It might be deeply buried or set far in the background of other distractions, but it’s there, waiting to be honored. Listen to your body, get to know your triggers, trust your intuition, and vet your criticism carefully before accepting it and you’ll be on your way to a brave and powerful voice of your own.

How to live life on your own terms

2020-05-21T23:00:00.000+05:30

I'll guide you step-by-step for personal freedom...

Living life on its own terms is an idiom that is often overused during social media. But what exactly does this mean? And how exactly can you do this?

Today I will do what others won’t. So tomorrow, I can accomplish what others can’t.

You have to know your purpose. You should have a vision of where to take your future. After all, to live life on their own terms are simply following their own thesis for a happy life.

Before you start dreaming of the mansion and fancy cars, ask yourself the following questions:

1. What makes me happy?

2. How can I get control of my future?

3. What kind of person do I want to be?

4. What will I achieve in the next 10 years?

No matter what your dreams & ambitions are, every single action you take from this moment onwards should enable you to get one step closer to your vision of a happy life.
Yes, it’s that simple.

You need to write down your vision, and then create the actions necessary to execute on that thesis.
Living on your own terms is an absolutely incredible feeling for anybody who has accomplished it. You will feel free in every single decision you take. You shall have a sense of discovery & curiosity due to a new sense of clarity in regards to your ambitions.
But most importantly, you shall be happy.

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Dil ka Dariya Beh hi Gaya

2020-05-21T18:00:00.000+05:30

It's 3:00 am & a step forward to the bed after late-night ~chats~ Instagram & I started the playlist and about
15 minutes of rest. My eyes were just

about to close and the song comes.

"Dil ka dariya beh hi gaya,rah me yu jo tu mil gaya,muskil se mai sambhala tha ha,tut gaya hu phir ek dafa,bat bigadi hai is kadar,dil hai tuta... Tute hai hum."

My eyes started searching for you.
Hoping that you are there but again my heartbeats falling for your existence and the irony is... No one's around. Focus on your
current and neglect the past.

A masterpiece line hit me up

"Tere bin ab na lege ek bhi dam,tujhe kitna chahne lage hum,tere sath ho jaege khatam,tujhe kitna chahe aur hum."

My eyes again started searching for you but this time in the form of tears & that background music was like mesmerizing your each and every moment with you.
I'm trying harder for not getting it
but I failed & went with the flow.

"Waqt ne hai kiya humpe kesa sitam,Tum bhi bejar ho barbad hai hum,Jane kis rashte muj ko le jaege,Bedishaye mere dagmagate kadam."

The way these lyrics captured my minds, all the failures of my life reminds me of you that how you always stood with me against
everyone else and now we are remembering ourselves just by the past...

"Sath deti... Parchhaiya....Aur mehraba ho rahe hum,Tere ban na lege ek bhi dum,Tujhe kitna chahe aur hum,Tere sath ho jaege khatam,Tujhe kitna chahe aur hum."

The last line reminds me of our last meet, I daily pass by that coffee shop & wish we'll meet again but it's the harsh reality that we

drifted apart now. there's much more to say

but the 4:36 minutes song ended up here and my heartbeats went to search you in my
dreams with wet eyes.

Something is Killing me from Inside

2020-05-21T14:46:00.000+05:30

Something is killing me inside,

Is there something so strong, that I hide?

What it can be?

Is this my career, my love, my family, or all the three.

Life isn't as happy, as it used to be,

I can't get my past is all I can see.

The lectures I get, I don't want to ignore them,

Then why everyone thinks, I still don't have any shame?

Why I loosed many of my friends?

Is this the way promises end?

Why I can't do what I really want to?

When I know I am wrong, why this thing I have to do?

How to control myself is all, I don't know,

I want a person, everyone is proud to show.

The hopes my father have, should not go in vain,

The love of my life is what I can't lose again.

The sacrifice my maa do, to make me smile,

And a beautiful sister, to walk with me a mile.

I do have the best persons in my life,

Then why I am dead inside, but still alive?

Why I am wearing this fake smile with me?

Why my hidden tears is what no one can see?

Why my words are coming out, to make me feel low?

I don't have many tears for the fake people to show.

I m not the boy I used to be,

I want someone to hug me tight, and say everything is fine, why can't u see?

Don't know when everything will be fine again,

Should I listen to my heart or this powerful brain? I am strong for a long time,

Why this moment is making me upset?

Why I am not having the things, I really want to get?

This writing is the way,

to silently cry,

In the morning I want to be a smiling boy, with a twinkling eye.

U r the strongest boy no matter what,

Smile even if everything is wrong, is all u have been taught.

The past u cant have, is nothing to cry for,

The present u have is your future's golden door.

Be happy and strong, is all I can say,

No need to hide, your love and pain.

I know what u want is what u will,

Something is killing me inside,

Is there something so strong that I hide?

Dekha Hazaron Dafa Aapko

2020-05-21T14:38:00.000+05:30

When I recall the first time I ever heard you, I feel my heart at peace with a pinch of serene comfort. You stand perfect for all the long-distance lovers, the crazy ones who argue in restaurants over the ice-cream flavor and find themselves sharing their favorites the next minute.

Dekha hazaro dafa aapkoPhir bekarari kaisi haiSambhale sambhalta nahi yeh dilKuch pyaar mein baat aisi hai

Although my eyes were blessed to witness the beauty of you a thousand times, my heart refuses to bid goodbye to your existence and as soon as your feet decide to leave, I feel my knees trembling in restlessness. Love is so strong and divine that it makes me crave your presence the way I crave my mother's hug from a different city.

Lekar ijazat ab aap seSaansein yeh aati jati hainDhoondhe se milte nahi hai humBas aap hi aap baki hain.

I breathe in you, for you and with you. When I look for myself inside the hollow of my chest, I find your portrait there residing along the edges of my heartstring. You've made home into the spine of a nomadic soul, I hope you stay. I hope you let me love you to every ounce, every inch, and to every impossible possibility. Let this perpetual festival of us, "lost and found" continue for at least eternity.

Pal bhar na doori sahe aap seBetabiyan yeh kuch aur hainHum door ho ke bhi paas hainNazdeekiyan yeh kuch aur hain.

I can't stand a moment away from you which is to say, I'm so in love with you that every time I smile, you take shelter on the curves of my lips. My heart beats to the rhythm of your arms sheltering me into warmth and intimacy. And even if we are miles away from each other, our togetherness fills in the distance between the roads that leads you and me to us, the never-ending ocean of love, hope and joy blended perfectly with the sunset of always and forever.

I'M A DOG | My First Story

2020-05-20T17:52:00.001+05:30

On 11th April 2020, I was watching a web series and heard a word that hurt me and I was thinking about it. The same day I thought of writing something on it. So, I wrote my first story which is:

I’m a 78-year-old man. Relaxing on a bench of a park in my town with my pet dog. It’s a normal

day like other days. But today’s evening that same question I asked myself. “am I a dog?” you

can’t understand what I feel, but I can express it with my words.

I AM A DOG.

I remember when I was in fourth grade, my dad gives me and my little sister 1 rupee each.

We rushed to the nearest candy shop.

I asked for my favorite candy But she! She didn’t order anything cause of her favorite candy

costs 2 rupees. So, I returned my candy and bought chocolate for her.

I did nothing great after all she was my little sister.

And when we were adults.

There was this boy MR. PERFECT who dated her for a while. Well, I was happy for her. Why

wouldn’t I be... she was still my little sister.

But he is MR. PERFECT and I was not so perfect.

They began fighting. I interrupt them to stop but she pulled me... And I overheard something

that I shouldn’t have heard.

She’s shouting with all the energy she had and then she said something that I just couldn’t

ignore.

“ALL MEN ARE DOGS.”

I am a man so, am I a dog too?

I taught I was her big brother. I was wrong, but now I know what I am ‘all men are dog, so I am

a dog.’

As time passed by I got busier with my life.

One fine day a beautiful girl comes in my life and I thought my life is complete. I was in love

with her.

I drove to the opposite side of my usual way to home almost every day after my office to pick

her up and take her out for a coffee, movie, or something she’d like.

I remember paying bills every time and it really didn’t matter for me. Why would it?

She was the love of my life.

I remember that day we were watching a movie and there was some goon in this movie trying

to rape a girl. She whispered angrily and said…

“ALL MEN ARE DOGS.”

Does she mean I am not a man or she thinks that I am a dog too?

I thought she didn’t know she had never met my sister but here she was calling me a dog.

All those efforts of making her happy don’t change the fact that I am a dog. Well she was

right all men are dogs and I am a man that makes me a dog too.

We got married

We got married sir and blessed with a little baby girl. I was so happy when I touched her soft

tiny hands for the first time.

Her smile makes me feel like my life is heaven.

One day, we were just passing a car showroom and I saw my dream car which I always wanted

to buy.

I even had money why wouldn’t I. I was working double shift with no vacations at all for the last

five years but I didn’t buy that car, I know I am the father of a girl.

Now, who is growing so fast, that I had to think about her future as well?

I bought a big house so that she could have her own room. I was saving for her college fee

which would be quite a sum.

The day had come when she joined a college ‘my baby girl’ Finally my savings have paid off.

She was always out late for parties with friends and I was worried about her. Why wouldn’t I?

I remember it was quite late that day and she came home drunk all out of her senses.

I’m in the balcony and saw her, she was with a boy

Who is this boy?

And I saw him behaving like a swine with my baby girl and she slaps him

I was like that’s my girl that I was so proud of myself that I taught her well about what’s wrong

and what’s right,

But then I heard her saying the exact same words.

“ALL MEN ARE DOGS.”

Why? Why I did not teach her that all men are not dogs.

I was not that boy who broke up with my sister.

I was not that goon who tried to commit rape in that movie.

I was not that boy who misbehaved with my baby girl.

I may be a dog but I’m not like them they were not worthy of being called a dog they are

something else but definitely not a dog.

A dog is someone who sacrifices their favorite candy for you.

A dog is someone who was always by your side.

A dog is someone who respects you and cares for you.

A dog is someone who cuddles with you.

A dog is someone who gives away their own dreams that you can fly with yours.

If that’s what it takes to be a dog then “I am a Dog.”

(A Humble Request to Readers, please write your reviews in the comment box what you understand from this story.)

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How To Overcome Your Fears

2020-05-20T02:41:00.001+05:30

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Over the past few months, I’ve noticed more people making their fears public, and exposing them to the world. I love that. It shows that they have the confidence to step up and overcome whatever problems they may face in life.

But I have empathy for people that believe their fears are a vulnerability(openness). When in reality, it’s a strength.

The pure definition of insecurity is to be uncertain about oneself, and to have a lack of confidence. Making your insecurities public allows people to form an opinion, and thus for you to also have one about yourself. So by definition, it removes insecurities.
I used to be scared a lot. Whether it was Spiders, Snakes, Swimming… you name it. I was always afraid. But I told my friends & family about these fears. I made my insecurities public, and they slowly faded away.

If you never ask your crush, you ain’t gonna be in a relationship with them.

If you never apply for a sports team, you’ll never know what athletic career you could have had.

If you never chase your dreams, it’s just a fact that you probably won’t achieve them.

Write down your fears on your phone (or on a sheet of paper). Write down what you’re scared of, and tackle it head-on. Confront every single one of your demons. There is no more sure way to fail than to never try.

Don’t think. Just do.

That’s how to conquer anything you’re scared of.

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Regular Practice Creates Liberty

2020-05-19T22:58:00.000+05:30

How implementing Regular Practice/ Routine into your life will help you create freedom.

How routined is your life?

Many of us probably get up at the same time every morning, maybe you go to bed at the same time every night, you can start work at a certain time every day and maybe even eat your lunch at the same hour day after day.

However, beyond the normal daily routines, beyond the robotic mode of living, how routined are you?

How much value does structure hold within your day to day living?

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I have always been in favor of freedom; To live an independent life without boundaries, live with a purpose in mind every day - happiness.

I believe that freedom creates happiness, however, for many years I had the wrong idea, in fact the wrong definition of freedom. I believed that the idea of being independent was living with no rules, following the rules of society, yet I was free to live my life how I wished. When I woke up, I was happy to have a career in which I wanted to work, not to do a job, to sleep in whatever hour I liked, to eat and drink what I loved. , Hobbies and interests, and whatever it is, meeting my needs costs.

This is not freedom, in fact, I came to realize this is nothing more than a prison within our material society.Freedom is within the mind.

When I realize that freedom is found within and cannot be bought, freedom is not living an independent life, you are doing what you want, when you want, freedom has a mind that someone There is no worry, there is no fear, a mind that resides within is present without the regrets of yesterday and certainly without the worries of tomorrow.

Freedom is being Mindful.

Being mindful takes a lot of practice, currently being happy is not something that one can achieve overnight. To achieve a state of happiness within the present moment, first of all you need to find time, time matters a lot, time is essential. We need time to get all the things we want to achieve, practice the things that will bring us closer to ourselves, practice the things that make us happy and become more aware of the present - Meditating, reading, writing, walking, exercising, spending time with loved ones, working on our passions - all of these things require time.

This is where the routine found it within my life. My former self hides from the idea of routines, however, now realizing that freedom is found within the mind, a routine has become an essential part of my day, so much so that after years of living with a strict routine I could not do. Imagine my day without it, I am almost scared of anything that breaks my routine.

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You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.

For a long time now I have found a similar routine, a routine does not have to be as strict as you think, after years of trying to find the right balance I have actually come to know that my routine is not in time. Consists of, but just a strict selection of practices that I have put together - meditation, exercise, writing, reading, learning, walking - all of these part of my routine. A routine for me simply means that I have a constant list of things that I must do within my day, the same things that end in the day. Some are dedicated in the morning, some in the afternoon and the rest I have to complete in the evening.

It may not seem like it is freedom, however, I can assure you that it is. Keeping a strict routine within my day ensures that I do not have to think or worry about what to do, each day I know that I am doing things that make me more mindful, The need to be independent and all of them combined will make me happy.

The remaining time is free; free to do as I please, free to work, or simply left free to account for any unexpected events that life may throw my way.

Knowing that no life can throw at me, I will always make sure that I have the time to read, write, meditate and ensure that each day I know that I can get a little glimpse of happiness Going, no matter how difficult that day perhaps, ensures that I look forward to tomorrow and I know that the present day will bring me joy.

Regular Practice has created my Liberty

Let routine create yours.

5 Writing Tips for those Who Hate Writing

2020-05-19T14:24:00.000+05:30

Writing is an activity that, for some people, is both stimulating and carminative. However, not everyone's views on the subject are the same. If you are among those who think about writing anything, then you are in the right place.

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Here are our top writing tips for those who hate writing:

1. Write as you speak

Writing does not come easily to everyone. The best way is to write that you will say it out loud. Try using the voice-to-text option in your word processing software. Once your words are on the screen in front of you, you can edit and format them properly. Writing like you speak will help your content flow better as well as get the bulk of your content onto paper.

2. Don't Worry About Spelling or Grammar

Lack of confidence in your writing style can be a major inhibitor to writing productivity. The free spelling check option in your word processing software can be heavily configured to check for grammatical errors, allowing you to write in a free-flowing manner without fear of making a mistake. Write first, check after errors. If you are writing longhand, then you may have someone whose writing you have to check your work.

3. Read More

Reading is very helpful to develop a sense of how things should be written. Browse the web for topics similar to writing or reading books on your subject - just read. The more you read, the better you will understand how effective writers get a point.

4. Less is More

Many people who hate writing think that writing is about the number of words or a huge vocabulary. In these non-Dickensian times, the opposite becomes true. The fewer words you can use to get your point across, and the simpler you can use, the better. Always choose plain English and speak quickly.

5. Reduce Distraction

Distractions can come in many forms. Children, spouses, the telephone, and your devices sending you notifications are all barriers to writing productivity. If you are easily distracted, do your best to find a quiet place to write where you will not be interrupted. Turn off your notifications, even if it means turning your phone off. Download an app called Freedom – it blocks the internet as well as notifications from apps and websites so that you can write in peace.

Whether you write for a job, school, or for yourself, being able to write effectively is a useful skill that everyone should cultivate. Even if you hate writing, practicing these tips should help you start to enjoy the process. Once you have finished your article and are ready to upload it to your blog or company site.

An Absent Constitute in Performing Your Goals: Efforts

2020-05-18T19:30:00.000+05:30

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At around 2:30 in the morning, after a night of Talking Heads and brainstorming article ideas, I admitted defeat and went to bed. Shortly after, in my half-asleep stupor, an idea finally came to me. I hesitated for a few minutes, rationalizing if getting out of bed was worth my potentially silly idea.

And Opened my Notes in Mobile. This is what came out:

Article Idea: EFFORTS - THE YEAST OF A GOAL

I’m going to cut right to what you’re thinking. Yes, I’m talking about bread. No, this doesn’t make a lot of sense.. at first. But let me explain. In baking bread, yeast is an active ingredient that causes the dough to rise. Without yeast, there is no loaf. And in creating goals for ourselves, the effort is the essential ingredient that turns a goal into an accomplishment. Without effort, there is no result.

Let’s put the bread analogy away, for now, and break it down a little further.

So, what is the goal?

Merriam-Webster defines a goal as “the end toward which effort is directed”. Quintessentially, common definitions center around having the desired result that you envision and then plan to commit to achieving. Once this happens, intentions are set, creating a “goal”. Thereafter, attention and action are directed towards its completion. Eventually, one of two things will happen: the goal will be achieved, or it won’t be.

Here’s a basic example. Let’s say Raj wants to make a lot of money. This would be considered a value, as a value is a judgment of what is important in life. To Raj, having a lot of money is of high importance. This value creates a desire to want to make this idea of wealth a reality.
The next question Raj should ask himself is “well, how can I make a lot of money?” That answer is ultimately up to him. Maybe he decides to become an entrepreneur and start his own business. This is what would be considered Raj's “goal”. The ideal outcome, in this situation, would be that Raj becomes wealthy.

But something is missing. Unfortunately, setting a goal to accomplish is the easy part. It’s even easier to dream of positive outcomes. First, the goal itself needs accomplishing. So, what’s the missing “x” factor here?

Now, I hear your voice in the corner. “It’s effort. That’s obvious.”

Yes. But, in a way, it strangely isn’t obvious. And as humans, we come up with a lot of excuses as to why we aren’t achieving our goals when it really boils down to lack of effort. There have been many articles written on this like Just 8% of People Achieve Their New Year's Resolutions If you don’t believe me, look it up. These articles are chock-full of advice to help us keep our goals, including:

• Recognizing when you’re procrastinating and putting an end to it

• Being specific in your goal-setting (S.M.A.R.T goals come to mind)

• Having a support group & believing in yourself

A University has done research that in a group of 200 goal-setters studied over two years, only 19% kept their goals by the end. People who accomplished their goals owed their success to employing “stimulus control and willpower”. In the same University, 81% of people did not commit to their goals. Why? The biggest reasons were “paucity of willpower” and “failure of stimulus control”. So, with deductive reasoning, we can conclude that implementing the above strategies really does work.

But there’s still that pesky “x” factor: effort. An effort has to be put in to teach yourself the skills necessary to accomplish your goal. Even more importantly, effort needs to be actively put in on accomplishing the goal itself.
Let’s loop back to Raj. Raj has no idea how to start a business. But he has an idea that he thinks is profitable. In order to turn his idea into a reality, he needs to actively put effort into educating himself, networking, and getting funding. Not to mention the effort needed to start the business itself. But, let’s say Raj doesn’t want to put in the work of doing any of this. That’s fine, but his dream will stay a dream. And it always will be a dream until he commits to the effort involved to make it a reality.

“Hope is wishing for a thing to come true. Faith is believing it will come true. Work is making it come true.”— Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Got it. What does this have to do with bread?

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This concept of actively placing effort into a goal is where the bread analogy arises from (see what I did there?). Think of it like this: First comes the idea of baking bread. After deciding you want to bake bread, you choose which kind of bread to bake. From that, you assemble all of the ingredients, mixing them in one at a time. Once combined, the yeast actively causes the dough to turn into a fully-formed loaf of bread.

Goal-setting begins with wanting to achieve a goal. Once you figure out which goal you want to achieve, you assemble your ingredients (steps that need to be done to achieve this goal) and combine them into a goal-setting plan. This could be done in many ways, I enjoy using a calendar and making lists in Note pads. From that, once the effort is actively placed on achieving the goal, an outcome will be produced. This is your loaf of bread.

The biggest step, though, in accomplishing your goals is just doing it. And it’s not easy, by any means. Start small, and remember that the only thing that is stopping you is yourself. Once you accomplish one, who says you can’t accomplish them all?

Feel free to strike up a conversation with me in the comments, and thank you very much for reading.

Cheers Rajiv

The Crucial Difference Between Intentions and Goals

2020-05-18T16:07:00.000+05:30

One is the destination, while the other is the roadmap

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“Intention” is a word we hear a lot. At the beginning of gym or yoga classes, we’re prodded to “set an intention.” Once I heard a Slogan: “Nothing without intention. Do nothing without intention.”

But what does it mean to have an intention, anyway?

Deepak Chopra writes, “Intention is the starting point of every dream. It is the creative power that fulfills all of our needs, whether for money, relationships, spiritual awakening, or love.” To me intention is about moving to the driver’s seat of my own life. So often, it seems, we’re half-aware passengers, complaining when the road gets bumpy and impatiently asking, “Are we there yet?” when we feel we should have already reached a certain destination, even though we have no idea what that destination looks like.

But what I hear from a lot of people is that while they would like to set intentions for themselves, they’re unsure what those intentions should be.

Intentions versus Goals

Our confusion is often tied to the confusion over whether intentions are synonymous with goals. The answer is not black or white. Both intentions and goals influence what happens in our lives. However, goals tend to be finite points on a map. They’re future-tense. They’re S.M.A.R.T.

(Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Realistic / Relevant, Time-bound).

Here are some examples of goals:

Become a pediatrician within four years.

Get a promotion at work by the end of the year.

Purchase own House, Car, Assets.

Because of the specificity and measurability of goals, not achieving them is linked to the feeling of failure.

Intentions, on the other hand, shift your focus to the present. The outcome is often a feeling or understanding or a new state of being, versus a measurable accomplishment.

Intentions look more like:

To create with confidence, authenticity, and purpose.

To open myself up to the possibility of falling in love again.

To effectively communicate and to be receptive to new ideas and information.

Intentions are more open-ended and expansive than goals. They’re what shape the energy that you bring to your internal and external worlds. And because you have more direct control of the outcome of your intentions, they don’t have the same potential for failure as goals.

I like to think of goals as the destination, while intentions are the roadmap. Having the wrong intention, or not having an intention at all, can alter where you end up. And even if you do reach your destination, if you didn’t actively set an intention before getting there, you may find that you feel differently at the end of your journey than you had imagined.

We move with excitement and passion when we like something, and we move sluggishly and aloofly when we don’t. Intentions are a way for us to tap into what feels good. They help us align with the person we want to be based on our truest essence versus external expectations.

So start today. Start making intentions for your day. For your meetings. For a difficult conversation, you need to have. For the project, you’re thinking about starting. And ultimately, for your life.