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2010-12-10T12:16:00.000-06:00

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What Women Can Learn from Men - “The Oprah Winfrey Show Farewell Season”

2010-10-06T14:41:00.001-05:00

At first, it may seem like generalizing to characterize these traits as traditionally male, but you may find you can learn a thing or two from the opposite (and hairier) sex.

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Right now in America there are over 2 Million Couples Secretly Struggling with Homosexuality in Their Marriages with Gay Husbands. Are you One of Them? Is He Gay?

2010-10-01T13:42:00.000-05:00

Right now in America there are over 2 Million Couples Secretly Struggling with Homosexuality in Their Marriages. Are you One of Them? Is He Gay?

From http://www.christwire.org/ Conservative Values for an Unsaved World

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Are you having intimacy issues? Are you suspicious about your husband’s late night activities? Or are you oblivious to a problem that could be putting your health and the livelihood of your family at risk? Don’t tell yourself that you’re simply being paranoid without taking a closer look!

Homosexuality can pop up at any time during a long-term relationship. Your spouse may have been experimenting with the “gay” lifestyle even before you met. Maybe he’s just using you as unwitting cover as he seeks playmates in the heterosexual world. For these types, the shame of being “outed” is so great that they will go to extremes to hide their lustful activities, even tricking a woman to marry them to appear normal in society. Sometimes it’s the nervous family who has rushed a young man into marriage out of a fear that his secret will be exposed. For others, homosexuality can appear later in life when men crave some escape from the monotony of careers and home life. Same-sex experimentation is also connected to drug or alcohol abuse. Crystal meth and other narcotics are proven to lower inhibitions and to drive people to take incredible risks to feed their habits.

For the wife unsure about her husband’s proclivities, the most important thing is to first confirm your suspicions. Drawing on the expertise of spiritual and medical professionals, Christwire has put together a list of 15 commonly-accepted characteristics of men struggling with homosexuality within a marriage:

1) Secretive late night use of cellphones and computers

Porn addiction is closely associated with homosexuality and a secretive nature implies he’s trying to hide something from you. Be on the lookout for a man who doesn’t want to web surf or answer phone calls in your presence. Texting is another favorite trick used by adulterers. For the sake of trust, a married couple should share everything, including phone logs, email accounts, chat friends and website histories.

2) Looks at other men in a flirtatious way

When you’re out in public, does he spend too much time looking at other men? Is he fond of winking at people? Does he get visibly upset when someone does not return a compliment about his physical appearance?

3) Feigning attention in church and prayer groups

Have you noticed a lack of interest in spiritual issues? Does it ever seem as if he’s just using church as an excuse to spend time around young men? Does he volunteer to mentor in all-male groups?
4) Overly fastidious about his appearance and the home

Natural men have a certain amount of grit about them. They sweat and they smell. Homosexuals often abhor this sort of thing and will also be incredibly particular about the cleanliness of the home. Does your man tweeze his eyebrows, trim his pubic hairs or use face moisturizers? Is he picky about brand name shampoos? Does he spend more time getting ready for a night out than you do?
5) Gym membership but no interest in sports

Gay men use the gym as a place to socialize and to have secret liaisons in the bathrooms. They like to work out their bodies without the competition of sports play. Afterward, they use the showers and steam rooms to engage in sexual activity beyond the prying eyes of women. If your man returns from the gym too exhausted to talk or have sex, that is a worrisome sign.

6) Clothes that are too tight and too “trendy”

Gay men don’t need words to communicate their availability for sex “hook ups.” They silently broadcast the news by showing off their lean, hard bodies in designer clothing labels. If your husband owns skinny jeans and looks at his buttocks in the mirror or if he wears an inordinate number of small-sized t-shirts, it is probably worthwhile to pay more attention to his private activities.
7) Strange sexual demands

Fetishism is a sign that a man is seeking a harder thrill beyond the normal intimacy of heterosexual relations. The woman may not appeal to the deep desires that are coming to the surface as the marriage drags on. If there is a sudden interest in sodomy, sadomasochism, lubricants, role-play, sex toys or other non-traditional intercourse methods, this is clearly an indication of deep emotional abnormalities.
8) More interested in the men than the women in pornographic films

Pornography is a dangerous element in any marriage but there are many Christians who feel watching it does add something to their sexual lives. If you have gone down this road and find that your man perks up at the sight of the men in these sorts of videos, you should be concerned. If he selects films because of specific male actors, this is an obvious sign that he is suffering from a crisis of ego and desire.
9) Travels frequently to big cities or Asia

Some husbands will spend a great deal of money traveling far from home to hide their deplorable same-sex actions. Big cities offer indulgence of every kind. From gay bars and clubs to prostitutes and sex bathhouses, a man seeking encounters can find them easily if he’s so inclined. Is there ever really a good excuse for a husband to visit Thailand or San Francisco without his wife?
10) Too many friendly young male friends

Someone who makes an extra effort to surround themselves with younger men should raise concerns in any community. If this is the case with your husband, ask yourself if he prefers their company to that of women. Do they touch each other or embrace in long hugs? Do they exchange expensive, personal gifts like scarves or cologne?
11) Sassy, sarcastic and ironic around his friends

A man who is secretly engaged in homosexual activity with others may exhibit feminine qualities when they get together in a group. In a sense, he has “let his hair down” and this will be seen in excessive back talk and speaking with one’s hands.
12) Love of pop culture

It’s quite common for young men to enjoy the science fiction end of popular culture, but when your husband becomes overly obsessed with romantic and feminine shows, that is cause for alarm. Gossip Websites, Glee, and The Golden Girls are three well-documented icons of the gay movement that genuine heterosexual men avoid.
13) Extroverted about his bare chest in public

Does he go shirtless in the back yard or at picnics when other men are around? Does he wear a speedo at the beach? Does it seem like he’s purposely standing right in the middle of a crowd to show off his chest and arm muscles, peppering people with questions about how strong he looks? He may be craving physical affirmation from other men and desperately looking for hints of shared desires in those around him.
14) Sudden heavy drinking

Sometimes people dealing with an unbearable emotional issue like homosexuality will turn to alcohol to hide their distress. Does your man disappear on drinking binges for long hours without answering his cellphone? Is there a strange odor about him when he returns, some strange mix of cigarettes and gel? Does he cry frequently?

15) Ladies, have you dated men in the past who turned out to be gay?

This is an important question to ask yourself when your marriage starts to have problems. Statistics have shown that women who have encountered gay men romantically in the past are the most likely to repeat this mistake in future relationships. If you answered yes, you should ask yourself whether you’re honestly looking for a man or just a shopping companion. Is sharing gossip more important to you than raising children? Ultimately, it’s a question of getting your priorities straight!

If your a gay man and need support for your straight wife; http://www.gayhusbands.com/

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Dennis Schleicher
Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries

Anyone Have problems with Microsoft? Best Scam Yet!

2010-06-30T16:16:00.001-05:00

Anyone Have problems with Microsoft?

by Dennis Schleicher
I just got off the phone with Microsoft “Anyone Have problems with Microsoft?” After giving them money to upgrade to 2007 in Jan of this year I was told I was 60 late for getting the new 2010 Free Microsoft upgrade.

I was told when I asked them point blank “DO YOU HAVE A NEW VERSION COMING OUT WITHIN 6 MONTHS?” I was told NO!!! I don’t like companies who don’t tell the truth…

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From 52 and Feeling Frumpy to Fabulous! "Look Great at Every Age" Makeovers

2010-06-08T12:43:00.000-05:00

From 52 and Feeling Frumpy to Fabulous! "Look Great at Every Age" Makeovers.
If you feel older than you should, there's still hope! Hollywood fashionista Rita Wilson is here with age-defying transformations.
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Oprah's Simplicity - Power Words

2010-05-21T14:45:00.001-05:00

Simplicity

In traditional Mandarin, calligraphic symbols are called Shufa. These figures embody the power words they represent in their graceful lines and elegant, balanced forms.

-- Dennis Schleicher
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Karma - Actions have a Direct Effect on Destiny

2010-05-18T18:08:00.002-05:00

Karma

“Yin Gou” Is the Chinese translation for Karma. The concept of Karma is recognized in many ancient philosophies and religions. The basic idea is that one’s actions have a direct effect on his or her destiny.

Oprah want's 2 Know What You Think of Author's Books on Apple's new iPad

2010-05-17T19:23:00.000-05:00

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Apple iPad MB292LL/A Tablet (16GB, Wifi)

A large, high-resolution LED-backlit IPS display. Incredibly responsive Multi-Touch screen, an amazingly powerful Apple-designed chip. All in a design that’s thin and light enough to take anywhere. iPad isn’t just the best device of its kind. It’s a whole new kind of device.

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Miss Pickles - Snoring Snoozing Shih Tuz Dog - This is How Life Could Be for Dogs Rescued from Puppy Mills!!!

2010-05-15T15:24:00.000-05:00

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Why Do Same-Sex Attracted Men Marry Women?

2010-04-29T22:00:00.000-05:00

Why Do Same-Sex Attracted Men Marry Women?

Q; Dear Dennis, Why did my husband of 18 years marry me knowing he was a gay man? My gay husband just came out to me last week and I do not understand why he married me?

A; This is what I have found with my 4 years of working with gay husbands, straight wives as to just some of the reasons why same-sex attracted men marry women include;

• Wanting a traditional family life that includes raising children • Homophobia or a fear of being gay or recognized as being a gay person

• Compliance with social norms and family and peer expectations

• Holding the belief that homosexuality is abnormal or unnatural and believing that marriage will ‘cure’ same-sex attractions

• Growing up within a strongly religious family or ethnic culture that views homosexuality as immoral or wrong

The growing acceptance of a diversity of relationships other than traditional marriage is providing a safer environment for same-sex attracted men to create lives that are more consistent with their social, sexual and relationship preferences. Legislation has been changed in some states to recognize same-sex relationships and remove areas of discrimination. However, there is more work to be done, particularly in relation to the right of same-sex couples to have children and raise families.

Be Safe- Dennis Schleicher

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Turn Him On – Find and Keep the Man of your Dreams and Tell Oprah Winfrey & Friends

2010-03-16T15:12:00.000-05:00

Turn Him On – Find and Keep the Man of your Dreams

Tell Oprah Winfrey & Friends how to make a date? How do you know, if a guy is going to call you after the first date? Tell us your secrets?

Share with us, easy, practical, fun ways to develop a natural sense towards attracting Mr. Right. Not just, right now.

How do you turn him on? How do you go about finding the man of your dreams?

Emotional Freedom Practices: How to Transform Difficult Emotions into Positive Energy [Audiobook] (Audio CD) Judith Orloff MD (Author)

2010-02-04T19:27:00.000-06:00

Emotional Freedom Practices: How to Transform Difficult Emotions into Positive Energy [Audiobook] (Audio CD)

Product Description
Anger. Fear. Sadness. Dr. Judith Orloff sees people every day who are struggling with these overwhelming emotions. To help us find relief, she has created Emotional Freedom Practices.This two-CD tool kit expands on the insights from her recently released New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom (Harmony, 2009), featured in a new public television special. Listeners will discover how to turn away from negativity, react constructively, and seize command of any life situation. What's the key to finding liberation from negativity? Dr. Orloff teaches that it's how we choose to respond to external events that determines our experience. Drawing from the fields of biology, psychology, and intuitive medicine, Dr. Orloff offers exercises, self-care techniques, and meditations that help transform fear into courage, disappointment into patience, and anger into compassion. "Achieving emotional freedom gives you access to your own power center during jubilant times and in adversity," teaches Orloff.Emotional Freedom Practices is a program in self-mastery that will help anyone attain a high quality life, handle stress artfully, and find serenity--even in the most overwhelming situations.
About the Author
Judith Orloff, MD, is a leading voice in the fields of medicine, psychiatry, and intuitive development. An assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, her most recent book is Emotional Freedom. Her other national bestsellers include Positive Energy (Three Rivers,2005) , Dr. Judith Orloff 's Guide to Intuitive Healing (Three Rivers, 2001) , and Second Sight (Three Rivers,2010). Her work has been featured on CNN, PBS, and NPR and has appeared in USA Today; O, The Oprah Magazine; and Self magazine. She created YouTube's Intuition and Emotional Freedom Channel. Dr. Orloff lives in Los Angeles.

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Who Thinks Oprah Winfrey is GAY? Oprah and Gayle’s Coming-Out Story in O Magazine

2010-02-01T11:59:00.000-06:00

Who Thinks Oprah Winfrey is GAY??? Oprah's Coming-Out Story....
Rumored now for quite some time Gayle King a former resident of Glastonbury Connecticut, a news reporter for WFSB Channel 3 in Hartford, CT, Gayle left the job to pursue a career with her own television show that failed miserably. Then, Oprah to the rescue-gave her a job as executive editor for O Magazine. Now, she will reveal the truth in an up-and-coming interview in O Magazine. Yes, Oprah is GAY!!!

Oprah Winfrey and Gayle King Come Out after 20 years.

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Ted Haggard is Still a Gay Man; Surviving a Public Scandal Why Gayle Haggard Stayed with her Gay Husband?

2010-01-26T13:10:00.000-06:00

Ted Haggard is Still a Gay Man; Surviving a Public Scandal Why Gayle Haggard Stayed with her Gay Husband?

Before his entire world was turned upside down, Ted Haggard was a preacher, a husband and father of five. In 2006, he made headlines when a former male escort alleged that Ted paid him for sex and crystal meth. Ted admitted to sexual immorality and buying drugs and was prohibited from preaching and exiled from his church and the state of Colorado.

In January 2009, when Ted and his wife, Gayle, appeared on The Oprah Show, Ted told Oprah that he was a "heterosexual with homosexual attachments."

When Oprah asked Gayle why she stayed with Ted after the scandal broke, Gayle said she realized that Ted's struggles were only one aspect of him and that they didn't take away from the life they had built together. "I choose to forgive him, and I choose to love him. I made the decision. Then I had to work it out. And that was the painful process for me."

Gayle's new book, Why I Stayed, answers the question that everyone asks. "I think my book is a love story," Gayle says. "I'm a strong woman and I take care of myself, and these were my choices. I feel as though the betrayal had the potential to lead us toward greater health in our marriage, and that was the perspective I was willing to take because I do deeply love this man."

One critical moment Gayle writes about is when she questioned herself after learning of her husband's infidelity. "After I asked myself those questions, I asked Ted those questions, "she says. "'Did I fail you somehow? Was I not appealing enough to you or attractive enough or sexual enough or fun enough? Where did I fail?'"

Oprah's No Phone Zone Pledge - This Show Could Save Your Life: America's New Deadly Obsession

2010-01-19T19:42:00.000-06:00

Millions of people do it every day, and it's time that we stopped. If you think you have the cell phone, texting and driving thing down…you do not.

I pledge to make my car a No Phone Zone. Beginning right now, I will do my part to help put an end to distracted driving by not texting or using my phone while I am driving. I will ask other drivers I know to do the same. I pledge to make a difference.

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The Advocate People of the Year

2009-12-07T08:24:00.003-06:00

The Advocate People of the Year 2009

The Advocate kicks of its People of the Year issue with Army National Guard lieutenant Dan Choi, True Blood creator Alan Ball, Chaz Bono, New York Sen. Kirsten Gillibrand and National Equality March organizer Robin McGehee. By Advocate Contributors

The Soldier: Dan Choi
If you haven’t heard of New York Army National Guard lieutenant Dan Choi by now, you probably haven’t watched The Rachel Maddow Show, gone to a rally, or signed a “don’t ask, don’t tell” repeal petition over the past year.

Choi first made headlines in March when Knights Out, a group of rogue U.S. Military Academy alumni—yes, that’s West Point—decided to break their stoic silence and come out of the closet. But when Choi appeared on The Rachel Maddow Show later in the month to talk about Knights Out, the Pentagon decided he was breaking rule number 2 of its ban on openly gay personnel—he told. And he kept telling.

A month later, when Choi was handed a notification that he would be investigated for breaching DADT policy, the Iraq war veteran and Arabic linguist got louder. He spoke everywhere. Choi penned an open letter to Congress and President Barack Obama, two major players in repealing the Pentagon’s ban, pleading to keep his job. “As an infantry officer, I am not accustomed to begging,” he wrote. “But I beg you today: Do not fire me.”

More than 162,000 people signed a petition circulated by the Courage Campaign in support of Choi. Nonetheless, after a hearing in front of four military officials in Syracuse, N.Y., he was discharged.

But this hasn’t deterred Choi, who has become the face of the movement to end DADT.

“Many of us have been discharged from the service because we told the truth,” he said at the National Equality March in October. “But I know that love is worth it. We love our country, even when our country refuses to acknowledge our love. But we continue to defend it, and we continue to protect it, because love is worth it.”

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Creative Visualization Beyond ‘The Secret’

2009-12-03T11:42:00.002-06:00

Creative Visualization Beyond ‘The Secret’

Just for today I will NOT be angry at any thing or anyone.
Just for today I will give thanks for our many blessings in life
Just for today I will do my work honestly with all.
Just for today I will be kind to my neighbor and all living things.

Try saying this each and every day you wake up and see how the power of creative visualization can create what you want in your life.

--Dennis Schleicher
Best Selling Author of; Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries

The Other Man or Other Woman Support & Help, Who’s the Responsible Party?

2009-12-02T14:43:00.000-06:00

The Other Man or Other Woman Support and Help

In general, society looks at the other man/other woman as being the responsible party in an affair. It’s understandable that the other man/other woman become the target for the rage and anger the deceived spouse feels. Blaming the other man/other woman keeps the wives of gay husbands from having to take responsibility for the problems in the marriage the fact that it’s NOT the fault of the women who are unknowingly married to a gay husband.

How you handle the fact that there is another man or woman has a great deal to do with whether or not you end up in divorce court or, are able to save your marriage. I have a few suggestions that will help save your sanity and possibly your marriage.

• Don’t Make The Other Person More Important Than They Really Are

• See The Relationship For What It Really Is

• Don’t Internalize Your Feelings

When a person views the world through a self-critical perspective, the outcome turns out rather distorted. Don’t allow the actions of an unfaithful spouse cause you to feel shame or unworthy. Such feelings can lead to depression, self – loathing and anxiety. Whether your goal is to save your marriage or divorce your unfaithful spouse, you need to keep a level head and develop good coping strategies. Feel your pain and seek the help of others as you are NOT alone.
Be Safe,
--Dennis Schleicher
Author of; Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries

Where were you when you first watched Oprah?

2009-11-21T19:15:00.001-06:00

Share Your Story with Oprah!!!

Where were you when you first watched Oprah?

On Friday, November 20, Oprah announced that The Oprah Winfrey Show will end after its 25th season... But it's not over yet! Whether you've grown up watching the show, or recently became a fan, we want to hear from you. Do you remember where you were (or how old you were) when you first watched Oprah? Have you found yourself quoting Oprah when giving advice? What have been your favorite shows? Who have been your favorite guests? Tell us about a moment that will stay with you forever.

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Oprah Winfrey to end show in 2011

2009-11-21T19:04:00.000-06:00

Oprah Winfrey to end show in 2011
Oprah Winfrey announced on her show earlier this week that the 2011 season of her show will be the last season that will be in production. By the time the final episode airs on September 9, 2011, the Oprah Winfrey Show would have been on air for 25 years.

Fans across the country, as well as celebrities, were stunned about the announcement. Most of the reaction of this news were more shocked than anything. The fans that regularly watch the show when it comes on at 4 pm will now have to start finding another show to fill that void once the final episode goes off the air.

Although the show will end in approximately 22 months, it won't mean that she'll won't be entirely out of the picture. She will still have her O magazine that will be going out. She will premiere the Oprah Winfrey Network (OWN) in January 2011, in which it will be a partnership with Discovery Communications.
Love her or hate her, she will still be making millions of dollars a year from her magazine, this future network, and the book club that she has. For some, the show coming to an end will be the end of an era. For others, it will be more of a good riddance for a show that they feel has been on for too long and on for the wrong reasons. Will her success continue to grow like it has been over the past 20+ years, only time will tell.

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Blogs - Andys Blog - Tuesday is the New Monday - Bravo TV Official Site

2009-11-04T22:47:00.000-06:00

Blogs - Andy Cohens Blog - Tuesday is the New Monday - Bravo TV Official Site

The Real Housewives of Atlanta - Blogs - Kim Zolciak - No More Negativity - Bravo TV Official Site

2009-11-04T22:39:00.000-06:00

The Real Housewives of Atlanta - Blogs - Kim Zolciak - No More Negativity - Bravo TV Official Site

The Real Housewives of Atlanta - Blogs - NeNe Leakes - No Time For Drama - Bravo TV Official Site

2009-11-04T22:38:00.000-06:00

The Real Housewives of Atlanta - Blogs - NeNe Leakes - No Time For Drama - Bravo TV Official Site

Discovering Your Mans Hidden Emotions Personal Experience as Why, He Says One Thing & Will Do Another

2009-11-01T07:01:00.000-06:00

Discovering Your Mans Hidden Emotions

Personal Experience as Why, He Says One Thing & Will Do Another By Dennis Schleicher

Inspired by an x-boyfriend I dated last spring caught me thinking as to why men say one thing & do another? So I soon find out I’m not alone in my thoughts as this is an age old problem: men just don't express their feelings often or very well. That keeps people guessing how men really feel--about love, sex, romance, even their own relationship! Now I've taken my own personal experience, unlocked a previous relationship and interpreted the ruler of his deepest emotions, discover the range of his feelings he holds inside to find out why he let my in the wind.

My psychoanalysis of my past relationship with a man will call Scott. I feel is on of the most emotionally detached, independence, freedom loving and something of a rebel, this is a man who most wants to live life on his own terms. Do you understand where I’m coming from?

Emotionally restless and intellectually free-spirited, Scott is a man who is often ahead of his time. He dances only to his own beat and is best off when immersed in his own internal music. Many controversial philosophers, radical thinkers, and progressive public figure who sharers his nature, although Scott is often seen in political reformers and activists.

Scott is superficially friendly as he can also exhibit profound emotional detachment. Men like Scott tend to be cut off from their deeper feelings, frightened of any degree of emotional intensity and ready to flee in the face of any sort of emotional constraint. His internal struggle with the deeper anxiety and sense of dread at the thoughts of being tied down to any being or anyone and only come to a relationship slowly, and even then always seems to have 1 foot out the door.

Often more interested in ideas than people, Scott gravitates or struggles towards the unusual in both. Valuing his own freedom and individuality above all else, he is also attracted to others wild ideas, statements, and attitudes define them. Whether Scott is positive or negative, what sense of the extreme. When taken in a positive direction, this tendency can produce a powerful political figure who is out to change society for the better, such as Woodrow Wilson. However, Scott is also associated with more than its share of powerful political dictators who believe the end completely justifies the means, even at the sacrifice of countless innocent people.

Cool and sometimes downright cold, this is not a man suited to a conventional relationship. Platonic connections suit him well, and his ideal in a lover is someone who is first and foremost a friend. Scott is most attracted to someone exciting to talk to. Easily bored by anyone or anything too “normal,” he is often attracted by someone who seems to offer a lot of surface or intellectual excitement. If suppressed Scott can cut off from his feelings, he neither understands nor appreciates the feelings of others. As his style is to keep everything light, friendly and not delve too deeply into any intense personal or emotional territory. Too much emotional intensity will feel overwhelming and confining and confinement of any sort is just the thing to make Scott take flight.
Scott's Internal Feelings
Often he can be emotionally changeable and unpredictable in strange and disturbing ways. Seemingly out of the blue he can coldly break off a relationship, walkout on a project or job or serve some other lasting commitment, leaving without a backward glance. These puzzling, inexplicable reactions that enable him to leave the past behind with such complete detachment can make Scott a rather risky friend or lover.

Please underlining emotionally shallow tends to exists in a world of my dearest or superficial activity. When called upon to evaluate what he might be feeling in a given situation, he needs a long time to process and think thing out. What tends to affect him emotionally is what he thinks about a person or a situation. Never given to direct, visceral emotional responses with Scott as this curiously unemotional and tends to talk away what little feelings he does acknowledge.

His ability for losing feelings and what appears to be a flash; however, Scott can be most emotionally erratic. What I perceive to be associated with a childhood history of a broken home. Or is the product of a childhood situation indicative of some type of turmoil, separation or instability. (This was never discussed.) The correlation between his early development of detachment and extreme independence does often seem to bear itself.

How Scott Shows His Feelings
Through talking endlessly about feelings especially if he happens to be unhappy, however, even you might sense that he is strangely detached from himself.

Often Scott doesn't know what he really feels or he truly feels nothing. I felt a sense of emptiness in his soul and compensates for this disconnection through such things as strident commitment to a cause, a self-destructive rebelliousness, a compulsive breaking of rules or a compulsive lack of commitment to creating anything of lasting and meaningful between two safe individuals.

Repress, deep old painful moments, and often in his inappropriate emotional responses as an adult. He may be amazingly cold in a situation that calls for some human compassion led me to have an internal instincts that he could suddenly erupt in anger or violence at some misperceived slight, and he may appear strangely detached over something that would cause someone else emotional upset. Often when he talks about some emotional experience, you might get the odd feelings that it is some story he read somewhere in passing.

The positive side of this detachment is that it allows Scott to function in disturbing, high stress situations such as an emergency room or battlefield. It can pose a lot of problems, however impersonal relationships, where more is required than human efficiency.
What Did Dennis like about Scott
Scott is bright, witty, sociable, and extremely friendly. Also a lot of fun to be around, because he tends to be so intellectually curious and interested in the open-ended, he himself provided, interesting, stimulating company. Scott was extremely easy to talk to, as well as a good listener.
A good friend and lover, who is with you in a crisis with a calm, supportive manner, Idealistic and imaginative, as he was fully dependable, and I felt honorable to be around Scott. Processing humanitarian and higher minded philosophical values, as I saw him as a forward thinker, leader, who together we could change society in a powerful way.

I appreciated and respected his freedom loving excitement, as it was mutually stimulating a deeper connection. I was falling for Scott's mind, and his unique way of looking at the world. He challenged me, emotionally, intellectually and valued my independence way of thinking.

Scott's Romantic Side
I always found him to be romantic about his own ideas, philosophies, and personal freedom. He was always friendly and enthusiastic but not convincingly romantic. If truly involved, his style might be to take off on an impulsive trip or provide a little surprise that might turn out to be both winsome and unusual. A partner needs to be unpredictable and ready to jump into action on the spur of the moment. Scott doesn't like to feel duty-bound, and that things are expected of him. At all times he has to feel that he is free to do things in his own way, and that includes his heart. Birthdays and anniversaries are a terrible bather as they mean pressure and obligation. It’s not uncommon that he would get distracted that he will forget that he was even trying to remember that special occasion. He wants every move he makes to be an act of free will. Otherwise, he will feel so compromise the effort that in the long run it won’t be worth it. This was never an issue to myself as that was one of my strong points.
Scott is an idealistic dreamer, who doesn't want to come down to earth. He is highly intelligent, and ahead of his time, through his cutting-edge sort of mentality that allows him to see beyond limitations. This makes him a hopeless rebel and completely out of touch with anything but the way he wants things to be. His values determine how much he is willing to come to terms with the situation as his stubborn and rigid side comes through. He was stock in his own way of thinking, not particularly open to another conflicting point of view.

Scott, on a deep level truly fears intimacy, being confined and being suffocated. Of all Scott is a man who has the deepest problem forming close relationships. He may not be conscious of this, but his ambivalent and distance-producing behavior is my indicator. Scott is a man that can only feel comfortable with another man, who was so cerebral, independent, and caught up in his own consuming interest that he barely has time to fit Scott in. This was the problem I had as I always made time to put Scott number one. My mistake, his loss!!! I pray and hope Scott will find true love again someday and wish him all the best.

By Dennis Schleicher

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Gay Fathers and Husbands of Ohio Support Group

2009-10-20T13:52:00.002-05:00

If you’re a gay or bi-sexual man who has been in relationships with women – you’re not alone. Gay Fathers and Husbands understands … and maybe we can help each other.

You are not alone...we understand.

The Gay Fathers and Husbands group is an informal association of gay and bi-sexual men who may have in common current or past marriages or partnered relationships with women. Some individuals may have natural or adopted children from these relationships. Members of the Gay Fathers and Husbands group meet monthly to discuss issues and needs held in common, and to offer support to one another by sharing experiences, encouragement, and hope. Friends and supporters are normally welcome at the meetings, and guests may be invited to address special topics. The group determines the purpose and direction of meetings. Attendance will range from as few as 8 to as many as 30 or more. Meetings are casual – no dues. GFAH has been meeting in the Akron Area since 1990.

"Live your life so that your children can tell their children that you not only stood for something wonderful-you acted on it." --Dan Zadra Gay Fathers & Husbands of Ohio
Our group attempts to:

Provide a support and communications network for gay fathers;
Encourage cooperative action in promoting the common interests of gay fathers and their families;
Provide opportunities for social interaction between gay fathers, their children, and friends;
Promote and sponsor activities that present a positive image of gay fathers and to encourage acceptance of alternative parenting.

Participants come from all over NE Ohio and Western PA. Members represent all ages, jobs, backgrounds and stages of life -- including young men with newborns to older men with grandchildren ... and some participants have no children. Some men are married or separated or divorced. GFAH is not a dating club or a religious group. Being "out" is not a requirement for participating at meetings, and all members agree to respect the privacy of individuals who attend the meetings.
"A Note from Dennis" Wow, I stumbled across ‘Gay Fathers & Husbands of Ohio’ on the Internet, when searching on Google. I wish every state had an organization like this to represent all the positive aspects of gay parenting. My dream is that in time, every state and county will have an organization like Gay Fathers of Ohio. All it takes is for one parent to have a dream and to be consistent. Please feel free to post your comments or visits; Gay Fathers & Husbands of Ohio
Be safe,
Dennis Schleicher
Author of an explosives and controversial memoir; Forbidden Love with a Married Man: E-mail Diaries
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