Get Your Ex Back

Have been working with @marilynwisbey

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 21:55:00 +0000

I have been helping Marilyn with her new website highlighting the struggle ex offenders have to get back into society.

Ex Offenders UK – The battle to get our concerns heard!

For many UK ex offenders the prison sentence really does begin when you are released. Whether it is trying to get your home insured, get employed or even start your own business; getting back into society is an up hill struggle. Other minority groups face the same issues too – those who have gone through bankcruptcy, people recovering from addiction, those with minor mental disorders.

I am very aware of UNLOCK “working” with ex offenders to offer greater access to financial services. Listing 20 insurance companies on a website, most of whom you ring at national rate, on hold forever, to get told they won’t cover you! – is not assistance.

I have been trying to raise these concerns directly with the Home Secretary. With so much discussion ongoing regarding ex offenders and criminal convictions, surely our voices need to be heard and not just through UNLOCK.
Read more at www.marilynjwisbey.co.uk

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4 Steps to Getting Your Ex Back

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 14:35:00 +0000

How to Get Over a Broken Heart

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 14:31:00 +0000

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair When Your Spouse Has Cheated on You - Are You Pushing Them Away?

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 14:09:00 +0000

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair When Your Spouse Has Cheated on You - Are You Pushing Them Away?

By Jan K

Rebuilding trust after an affair can seem like an impossible task. When you are the victim of an affair and your spouse has cheated, emotions are running high and you can say things in a way that is taken aggressively or as accusations by your spouse.

This is normal in marriages affected by infidelity. Couples loose the ability to communicate effectively. It becomes almost a war of words and the real meaning of your message is lost.

Rebuilding trust takes time and if you are the victim of your spouses infidelity you can prolong the agony unwittingly. After all, you'll be watching his or her every move looking for signs of another affair. You'll be reading between the lines of everything they say, searching for even the smallest hint that history is repeating itself.

At best, this will drive you to question everything and delay the trust recovery process. At worst, you will drive your spouse away.

And yes, it is likely that you are struggling to communicate your feelings. You possibly bottle things up and release them in a barrage of accusations at your spouse or tip toe around them afraid of letting them know how you really feel.

You can turn your marriage around after an affair and the cornerstone is effectively communicating your feelings without accusation. When you speak to your spouse do you find yourself saying things like:

"You lied to me!"
"You hurt me!"
"You betrayed me!"

By saying these words you are putting your partner on the defensive. Yes they did hurt you, yes you are in pain. But, by using the word "you" when you are discussing the situation, you are closing your partner down and boxing them in forcing a fight back or total withdrawal.

Driving your spouse away will not save your marriage.

Learning to communicate in a positive manner, which will help rebuild your marriage and trust in your partner, can turn the situation around.

Simply changing your "you" language to "I" language will help you say the things that you mean without shutting your spouse out. For example:

"I'm hurt and don't understand how this happened"
"This is so painful for me, I thought our marriage was built on trust"

Different words with the same meaning, communicated in a clear open manner will let your spouse know your feelings and give the opportunity for positive change without the battle. It is such a simple change that produces amazing results, yet it is not always easy to put into practice.

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Rebuilding Trust After an Affair using Positive Communication

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 02:17:00 +0000

Rebuilding trust after an affair can seem like an impossible task. Emotions are running high and you can say things in a way that is taken aggressively or as accusations by your spouse.

This is normal in marriages affected by infidelity. Couples loose the ability to communicate effectively. It becomes almost a war of words and the real meaning of your message is lost.

Rebuilding trust takes time and if you are the victim of your spouses infidelity you can prolong the agony unwittingly. After all, you’ll be watching his or her every move looking for signs of another affair. This will drive you to question everything and delay the trust recovery process.

Read the full article at

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair using Positive Communication

Mind and Body Self Improvement Giveaway Open Now

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 12 Jun 2010 23:26:00 +0000

A massive "mind and body" self improvement giveaway event is open right now:

Self Improvement Freebies

So what will you find once you get across to the event?

I saw downloadable ebooks, memberships, videos and audios, software, and e-courses.

These were on topics as diverse as parenting, relationships, health and fitness, stress management (always a good one!), working from home, business management, confidence building, and quite a few other self help categories. Take a look!

The gifts cost nothing simply because events of this type are run with the aim of introducing you to a host of vendors of self improvement products who you would otherwise probably never get to come in contact with.

With over 300 gifts to choose from you are bound to find something you like!

Relationship Communication – Turn it Around, Don't Assume Your Partner is a Mind Reader!

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 05 Jun 2010 05:00:00 +0000

Lack of effective relationship communication is the biggest cause of break ups. All too often, communication is the first thing to slip unnoticed from a relationship. Are you relying on mind reading methods as one of your relationship strategies?

Do you need a medium or mind reader to channel your relationship communication? That is a serious question. Here is a more direct question.

How many times have you spoken with your partner this week?

I don't mean talked at, grunted or snapped out commands. When was the last time you had a proper conversation?

Good healthy relationships take time and effort they do not just happen. This is why so many couples run into problems.

Life happens.

Before you know it, you are so busy juggling work, kids, finances, daily chores and the rest, and your relationship communication resembles little more than the odd grunt and barked order about picking the kids up from school.

Here lies the problem. You take it for granted and assume that your partner KNOWS that you love and care for them. With the crazy rush of life happening all around, you just have fallen out of the habit of letting them know.

Unfortunately, your partner is not likely to be a mind reader. Sure, they will understand that you are busy and stressed. It will be fine for a short period. After a while though, he or she will start having doubts.

They will start to withdraw since there is no feedback from you. Other than grunts, yes honeys, and did you remember to get the groceries on the way home comments, there is no true communication. After all, you know that you love and care for your partner, they should know it too shouldn't they?

But, it gets worse…

Not only does the verbal relationship communication reduce to the bare necessities needed to be functional, but then the non-verbal communication stops too.

You know, the brief touches when you talk, the smile across the room, even the quick peck on the cheek as you leave for work. The intimate body language that shows that you have a bond together, stops as you grow further apart.

Ultimately, the result is two sad, lonely people, who both love each other deep down, but are stuck in the rut of a boring relationship. Who will snap first? Who will walk or start looking for comfort from other people?

It does not have to come to that.

You can improve your relationship communication with a few simple strategies, even if there is only one of you making an effort. You will not need the assistance of any psychics, crystal balls or mind readers to get through to your partner.

It only takes one of you to decide to change and make a difference. Once you have started, you will be surprised at how quickly your partner follows suit.

Some simple techniques that you can implement right now are:

When your partner is talking, stop what you are doing and turn to face them. Make eye contact and use a facial expression appropriate – smile or be solemn. Reflect the subject of the conversation.
Touch your partners arm, knee or back as you are talking to emphasis points.
Notice your partner and compliment them often. Be sincere and mean what you say. Make an effort to notice something every day.
Do something unexpected. Leave a "love you" note on the mirror, have dinner waiting when they come home from work or pick up a favourite movie to watch together. It doesn't have to be big, just enough to let your partner know that you are thinking of them.

You can get your relationship communication back on track and become closer to your partner again.

Heartbreak Depression - How Does Depression Affect Men After a Break Up?

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 22 May 2010 13:55:00 +0000

Not every man who experiences a relationship break up will suffer from depression. However, many men do not seek help when they need it. What is heartbreak depression and how does depression affect men after a break up? When should you ask for help?

Relationship break ups can be emotionally debilitating. It is thought that men are more likely to suffer from depression after a break up. However, actual figures vary since men are much less likely to seek help for emotional problems.

Heartbreak depression is a recent term that has been made more popular at the end of 2009 by Alexa Ray Joel's "cry for help" overdose of homeopathic pills. Anybody who has experienced a bad break up can relate to the term. Heartbreak depression is not a recognised clinical illness though.

So is it possible to suffer from depression after a break up?

Depression can be brought on by significant stress situations in your life. A break up or divorce is definitely a stressful time. Everyone has some feelings of sadness or down days, especially after a relationship break up.

Feeling down and depressed is part of the natural cycle of grieving. It becomes a problem when the feelings of sadness and depression start to interfere with your day-to-day life.

Depression is a medically recognised illness if you have feelings of extreme depression or despair that last over two weeks which interfere with your daily activities such as working, eating or sleeping.

Why does depression affect men after a break up more than women?

Depression affects men more because often there are additional stress triggers after a break up. Frequently men have restricted access to their children. They may have to move home and often the financial burden becomes excessive. Depression is often more likely and more severe in men who are going through a divorce.

How do men cope with depression after a break up?

In general, men do not cope with emotional problems very well. They often think of asking for help as a weakness that makes them less "manly". Instead of talking about how they feel and working through their emotions, often men will turn to alcohol or drugs to make them feel better. This inevitably makes the situation worse.

Men are far less likely to seek help for depression. When they do ask for help and advice, they tend to concentrate on physical symptoms rather than emotional issues. Often depression is not diagnosed early on because of this.

What are the symptoms of depression?

Emotional symptoms:
Feeling down, depressed, or unhappy and unable to shake off the feelings for prolonged periods.
Inability to concentrate
Feelings of despair and guilt, even about issues that have nothing to do with you
Unable to enjoy anything, particularly activities that you previously loved
Mood swings and irritability
Feelings of hopelessness and possibly thoughts of death

Physical symptoms
Sleep problems. You cannot sleep or often wake through the night.
Extreme exhaustion – needing to sleep even if you have had a full nights sleep
Loss of interest in sex
Unable to eat
Weight fluctuations

Some symptoms of depression are more common in men than women.
Loss of control
Sudden anger
Aggressiveness
Excessive risk taking

When should you seek help?

Heartbreak depression may not be a recognised clinical term but it is possible to suffer from depression after a relationship break up. If you recognise any of the above listed symptoms, and have been suffering for more than two weeks, then seek help from your health care provider.

If you have thoughts of death or suicide, even if you are not planning to act on them, then do not wait. Seek help now.

It is not weak to ask for help. Be open and honest about how you feel, don't just discuss the physical symptoms. There are many therapies available and working with your healthcare provider you will find one to suit you. Do not give up – keep asking questions.

Depression after a relationship break up does not have to be emotionally crippling for long. The sooner you seek help, the sooner you will get back in control of your emotions.

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Ex Boyfriend Quotes to Make you Ponder and Smile

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 08 May 2010 20:57:00 +0000

Why do so many girls search for ex boyfriend quotes?

Well for one thing, it helps us to remember we are not alone in feeling the pain of break up.

But, rather than dwell on your ex boyfriend and breaking up, sometimes it is good to laugh too. I've put together a collection of ex boyfriend quotes, alongside some break up and general men quotes.

It's time to ponder, think and sometimes laugh at others view on ex boyfriends, break ups and men

1. Some day, when we're not together, you won't be able to order a cup of coffee at the f***ing deli without hearing or seeing me. - Lady GaGa

This was said to a particularly nasty ex boyfriend. I like this ex boyfriend quote, the show of strength and determination to keep going and succeed is amazing. Go go GaGa!

2. Is there a cure for a broken heart? Only time can heal your broken heart, just as time can heal his broken arms and legs – Miss Piggy

You have to love Miss Piggy's attitude! Although should we take relationship advice from a puppet pig?

3. When breaking up with my boyfriend, he told me "you'll never find anyone like me ever!" I thought to myself, "I should hope not, you're the kind I want to get rid of." – Tess Umtata

A great ex boyfriend quote from Tess Umtata sometimes exes are best left as exes…

4. Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself. - Deborah Reber

Deborah Reber hits the nail on the head. The only person you have control of is yourself. Whether you want to get over a break up or get back with your ex boyfriend – remember those words of wisdom.

5. I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile. – Unknown

Another great break up quote and probably the best advice ever. Again remember you can only control YOUR actions not your ex boyfriends. This advice works whether you want to get over a break up or take the first steps in getting your ex boyfriend back

6. I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was – unknown

It's time to kick your ex boyfriend off the pedestal you've placed him on!

7. Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you’re with an individual who isn’t moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain’t going to work. - Usher

Sometimes you need to let that ex boyfriend go to get where you want to be in life.

To round these ex boyfriend quotes up, remember that even in the face of hurt and pain, it is best to laugh. Keep smiling!

8. Can you imagine a world without men? No crime and lots of happy, fat women. – Marion Smith

9. Men should be like Kleenex...soft, strong, disposable. – Cher

10. Women might be able to fake orgasms, but men can fake whole relationships – Sharon Stone

11. Whenever I date a guy, I think, is this the man I want my children to spend their weekends with? – Rita Rudner

12. I like to wake up each morning feeling a new man. – Jean Harlow

13. Why did God create men? Because vibrators can't mow the lawn. – Madonna

14. We have reason to believe that man first walked upright to free his hands for masturbation. – Lily Tomlin

15. My girlfriend claims that her last boyfriend was a better kisser than me and I have to admit, he is pretty good. - Dwight York

16. What's the difference between a boyfriend and a husband? About 30 pounds. - Cindy Gardner

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How To Win Your Fiance Back – What Went Wrong?

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Thu, 06 May 2010 00:34:00 +0000

You’ve been busy planning your big day, looking forward to spending the rest of your life with the one you love. Unfortunately, your fiance has decided he doesn’t feel the same way and has called the engagement off. You are devastated, hurt beyond mortal pain.

One of the questions that you may be asking yourself is how to win your fiance back. You can win him back but you need to examine what went wrong first.

Relationships can be full of ups and downs, and most of the downs are because of a basic misunderstanding of how men think. If you are trying work out what went wrong, here are some tips as to why men sometimes end a relationship.

Many men leave a relationship for a reason that seems a bit strange. Are you trying too hard to please him? By trying too hard to please your fiance, serving his every want and need, you can be showing yourself to be a doormat or soft touch in his opinion.

In a relationship you need to respect who you are and your man. That is not to say you must be dominant or domineering, but that you should respect yourself and understand that the world does not only revolve around your fiance.

Here is one idea on how to win your fiance back, don’t be so quick to put yourself as second best. Men do like to be treated nicely and pampered, but they also want women who can stand up for themselves.

Another thing that can cause a man to end a marriage engagement is to talk about your ex boyfriends and previous relationships. Men are competing when they are in a relationship. They think of other men as potential competitors to your affections. So when you talk a lot about those other men that have been in your life you are giving your fiance something to compare himself against and a potential rival.

That does not mean that you should not say anything about your past life. Your background and personal history is important. Telling your fiance that your ex boyfriend was a pro sports player with a mountain of awards, his family history, where his tattoos and birthmarks are, what you did on your dates etc. is going over the top.

Focusing on an ex boyfriend will give your fiance the impression that you still have feelings for that ex. Or, if you talk about your ex in a purely negative way you will cause your fiance to wonder what you say about him. If you give him the idea that he is not good enough for you, he won’t stick around in a long term relationship and will leave you wondering how to win your fiance back.

Pressuring you fiance is another way to push him away. Men do not to like having their thoughts, feelings and actions challenged. Women do this a lot, often without thinking. It’s called nagging! If your man has his ideas or actions proved wrong regularly, or if he feels they are not good enough for you, it can cause him to back off and rethink his desire to be with you long term.

Another thing to send him running from a relationship faster than Speedy Gonzales is to try and change him.

You can't.

Men think that being in a long term relationship and engaged to be married means that you love him for being who he is. Trying to change your fiance is going to give him the impression that he is not good enough for you or that he has a serious problem.

Even if he does not have any problems, trying to change him will challenge his feelings. We’re back full circle to pressurising him now. Let your fiance be himself. If you need something else from him that he can not provide then perhaps he is not the man for you anyway. If this is the case, bow out gracefully and move on. Don’t try and win your fiance back.

No one is flawless and no relationship is perfect; expecting everything to be a garden of roses without some compromise or give and take in a relationship is unreasonable. When you are trying to work out how to win your fiance back, you need to think about why your fiance left so that you can correct any issues.

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In Case of Relationship Emergency - Don't Call 911

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 00:52:00 +0000

by T Dub Jackson, author of The Magic Of Making Up System

You smell the smoke, hear the crackle of a flame and
start to swoon from the searing heat.

and...

You suspect there's about to be a raging fire.

But the fire and carnage you fear won't be from
any material possessions lost, but from something much
more precious, a once loving relationship going up in flames.

No matter what issue set your fire ablaze, many
of us don't know where or how to begin applying
the water to put the fire out.

In fact...

Unlike a real fire where a fireman first looks to
find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).

Many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take
when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.

For example, let's imagine that since this 'recession'
your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments
over how and where money is being spent...or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these
financial fires one partner starts 'escaping' more than
is healthy for the relationship.

He escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber
Porn...or worse?

Now...what do we have?

We've got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because
the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated.

Can you almost feel the pressure?

Feel it coming to a boil?

Now with three fires off to a crackling start there's
even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.

So? Just which fire do we put out first?

Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to
extinguish right now and not likely to die soon.

So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems
like an easy fire to put out...IF you're not the one escaping!

...and try telling someone that's feeling lonely and isolated
that "they should just snap out of it" is like throwing fuel
into the fire.

So where do we begin when we don't see any
good place to start? And we finally realize that
trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads
the fire?...FASTER!

The answer is...

Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there
IS NO FIRE.

Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat
and no flame.

What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s)
and focus on where we still have passion...even if
it's just a little.

Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing
together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to
rebuild the passion between you.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you've
rekindled the passion between you...the PROBLEMS will often work
themselves out.

The fires extinguish themselves.

Here's how it may play out using our example;

Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.

They both actively decide to let their problems
go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start
by cooking dinner together and EATING together at
the dinner table...EVERY night.

Often because they've had such a great time cooking
and eating together...they play some cards or monopoly
afterwards and share some laughs and have a little fun.

Now, because Cindy isn't feeling so isolated because
Tom's always watching TV or surfing the web...

That little bit of fun turns into love making a little
more often.

Which in part...leads to...

Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,
and as his confidence builds... Tom gets more assertive
about finding work.

Soon...

Tom lands what maybe not the best job in the world, but one
that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he
can find his perfect fit.

And before your very eyes...

Where Tom and Cindy's relationship was about to burst
into flames...

Now, they are rising from the rubble with
a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION
couples can overcome most any problem including affairs, drug use,
even death in the family.

But when there is very little passion even the tiniest
problems...become big, out of control, blazing fires.

Now if you're reading this, but feel that an out
of control fire has already 'gutted' and put an end to your
relationship. You may find it comforting to know that there
may be a second chance for you?

I've made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human
love, bonding and REBONDING process.

Many of these breakthroughs are just as counterintuitive
as the technique I've just handed you here.

I've made a special video with you in mind where I share
one of my counterintuitive rebonding techniques.

You're invited to watch here:

HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK VIDEO

While I'm a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera...

...the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and
it's rare for a day to go by where I don't receive a really heart
warming note from someone that has put their relationship back
together after going through hell and fearing they'd never
find their way back.

Hope it helps you too:-)

T Dub Jackson
MagicOfMakingUp.com

Free Downloads - Relationship Reports

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 00:58:00 +0000

I’ve finally got around to starting to put my growing collection of relationship reports into one free download area.
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Currently available are:
The 5 Big Mistakes That Kill Your Chances of Ever Getting Her Back by Michael Webb
The Single Greatest Secret For Getting Your Ex Back Easily! by Brian Bold
The Five Stages of Grief – Rebuilding After A Relationship Break Up. From wantmyexbacknow.info
Guys, Get Your Girl Back! From wantmyexbacknow.info
Can I Save My Marriage? From wantmyexbacknow.info
Fool Proof Method to Get Your Ex to Return Your Calls. A short report from wantmyexbacknow.info
101 Romantic Ideas By Michael Webb
The Art Of Kissing By Hugh Morris

More to come!
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noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 20:15:00 +0000

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noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 13:38:00 +0000

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noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 15:21:00 +0000

I'm really excited too!

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I Want My Ex Boyfriend to Get Back With Me! 5 Simple Steps to Winning Back Your Ex

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:40:00 +0000

No one ever gets taught in college about dealing with relationships and breaking up let alone how to get your ex boyfriend to get back together. You aren’t handed a guide book when you start dating on how to build a healthy relationship or to deal with your emotions when a relationship ends. So it is not surprising so many couples break up and fail to get back together again.

There is no easy fast way for you and your ex boyfriend to get back together after a break up. But, don’t be discouraged, not easy does not mean impossible! You can start your journey to get back your ex with 5 simple steps.

1. Before you even start to make plans for you and your ex boyfriend to get back together you need to sort yourself out, get your head on straight and emotions under control. I know you are hurt, angry, upset or even depressed, but these negative thoughts are destructive and can lead you to do irrational things in an effort to either get back at your boyfriend or win him back. Get your emotions in check and your mind clear so you can focus on your goal.

2. All the wishing and hoping in the world is not going to change what has happened. You have broken up, the relationship is over. Accept that fact. Once you have accepted that you have split up with your boyfriend you can lay the foundations for a new and improved relationship.

3. Leave your ex boyfriend alone! Men hate to be pestered, especially by their ex. Resist the urge to call, text, and email or leave messages on social network sites. Don’t follow him, “accidently” meet up with him or find excuses to call at his place to see him. Let him be and give him space. Give him time to miss you and realise that may be he has made a mistake.

4. Be desirable! When you know you look good on the outside then you feel good on the inside, it improves confidence and self esteem. In turn this affects how you are looked at by others. Confident and happy women are desired by men, including your ex boyfriend. Go out and dazzle them! Treat yourself to a make over; it doesn’t have to be expensive.

5. By now if you followed the first steps your ex boyfriend is started to hear about the new you. He’ll probably contact you and is likely sorry that he broke up with you. Don’t be tempted to rush back in, play a little hard to get and take things slowly. Be friendly but limit any physical contact that will drive him crazy. Playing a little hard to get and mysterious will make your ex boyfriend try harder to get back together.

Following these 5 simple steps will help you and your ex boyfriend to get back together after a break up. Don’t give in or give up even if you find it difficult.

I know how hard it is coming to terms and getting to grips with your emotions after a break up. My free report, “The Five Stages of Grief – Rebuilding After a Relationship” can help you. Download it at wantmyexbacknow.info today and take back control.
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Free Report - The Five Stages of Grief

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 02:31:00 +0000

Not quite sure if this is classed as Monday morning or Sunday night! The report is now up and available :)

Download my quite personal report "The Five Stages of Grief - Rebuilding After a Relationship Break Up" at wantmyexbacknow.info

Exciting News!

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 21:01:00 +0000

Well it is exciting for me anyway :)

So, I've been pretty quiet the last couple of days while I work on a new site. "Get Your Ex Back" will have an additional home, so more advice, more articles, more wide ranging....

One of my most popular posts here and on ezinearticles.com is "The Five Stages of Grief After a Relationship Break Up". To celebrate a brand new site, I have expanded that article to explain the stages more and give some techniques that worked well for me and will publish it as a free downloadable report when I launch the site. It's currently 15 pages, although I do need to add the disclaimer and title pages yet!

So "watch this space" I hope to be live on Monday :)

The Best Relationship Advice for Men. Caveman Tactics to Understanding What Women Want

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 20:08:00 +0000

Why do women say they want one thing then do another? Step into my time machine and travel back to when relationships were much simpler and see what you can learn.

What is the best relationship advice for men? To put it simply, men need to understand what makes a woman tick deep down at a subconscious level. Now before you tune out (I can see your eyes glazing over already at the word subconscious!) just take a moment to read this light hearted but serious piece of relationship advice for men.

What women say they want isn’t necessarily what they are actually looking for. Most of the time they won’t even realise themselves what it is that they are asking for. That isn’t because they are dim or stupid, but because their needs are driven by an underlying subconscious primal desire.

The reason for men and women getting together since the beginning of time is to reproduce. Biologically women have around 400 chances of producing offspring, while men produce millions of sperm throughout their adult lives. On a primitive subconscious level women need to find a good mate who can give her children and have the resources so that they survive to adulthood.

Step into my time machine for this piece of relationship advice for men.

Let’s travel back to when humans were basically hunters and gatherers. A woman at that time was looking for one type of man, a man that could get her pregnant and provide for her and the children.

Your average caveman had to show he could provide for his woman on a regular basis or they would starve. Some say that is why women put so much value of gifts such as jewellery and the size of the diamond in their engagement ring. It is evidence that you can provide for them.

Let me take that one step further. There you are looking buff in your animal skin thong and wielding your huge club. You go out hunting and bring your woman back a mammoth. Come home, drop it on her doorstep. She thinks wow, this man is big and strong, he can provide for me! He brought me a mammoth, that’s enough food and clothing for a month! Rather pleased with yourself, you drag her by the hair back into your cave for a spot of rumpy-pumpy.

Sometime later, the mammoth has gone, there is no more food. The mammoths have moved on to other plains and there is little to hunt. You are both scratching around for food, hungry. You are no longer providing for her, that mammoth means nothing now. Rumpy-pumpy is off the menu too, there is little point in trying to have children if they will die of starvation.

Then along comes another man full of confidence even though he doesn’t have a big club. He doesn’t bring her a mammoth; there are no mammoths to hunt. But what he does bring her is a rabbit every day. The woman is no longer starving; she and her kids have food every day. The rabbit is not big and flash like a mammoth, but it is regular. When the mammoths come back to the plains, this new man brings her a mammoth too. To put it plainly, you have been dumped.

What is the difference between you and the new man? Quite simply when the proverbial brown stuff hit the fan he was generous with his resources. He had the confidence in himself to adapt and keep providing.

What women want is stability. Deep down they are still looking for a man that can provide for her and the kids regularly on a long term basis, not just a flash in the pan.

Women want long term relationships, they need to know that their man is generous with his time and affection and that even when times are rough that he has the confidence and ability to hunt on other plains and stand by her.

What is best relationship advice for men? Give your time and affection generously, surprise her with small things regularly and discover what she really needs from you. I don’t advise dropping a bloody rabbit on her doorstep or dragging her by the hair to bed, although you never know, she might like it!

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The Best Saving a Relationship Advice is Pointless if your Relationship is not Worth Saving

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 20:08:00 +0000

Think about it. Why do you want to save your relationship? Is your relationship worth saving anyway? Find out now.

You have split with your ex; you are upset, angry and roller coasting through a whole host of other emotions. There is one thought that keeps coming back and won’t go away – “I want my ex back”.

Your web browser goes into melt down as you keep searching for the best saving a relationship advice. You fall asleep at the keyboard reading endless articles on saving a relationship. You may even spend a small fortune on “best saving a relationship advice” guide books and videos.

I know I did and it was the worst week of my life as I called in sick at work, didn’t leave the house and searched frantically about how to get my ex back.

But ask yourself this – Is your relationship WORTH saving?

We are all creatures of habit and we find comfort in routine even in an unhappy routine.
• Do you want your ex back because you are afraid of moving on and experiencing new things?
• Do you want to save your relationship because you feel you don’t deserve anything better?
• Do you want your ex back because you feel a failure that the relationship ended?

Look closely at your relationship from beginning to end, be honest and brutal with yourself now.
• Were you regularly arguing and fighting from day one?
• Did you have opposite beliefs and ideals?
• Was the relationship a one way trip, giving love and not receiving it?
• Was the relationship abusive in anyway, not just physically but mentally?

If the answer was yes to any of the above questions then the best relationship advice anyone can give you right now is to move on, you are worth more than that. Even if you did get back with your ex it would quickly slide into the same unhappy routine.

Spend the time and energy you are using in frantic searches for advice on how to get back with your ex working on your own self confidence and self esteem. Realising that you are more than one half of a couple is a big step forward.

However, if there was a time your relationship with your ex was truly happy, when you were honest and open with each other, enjoyed each others company and felt like you were soul mates, then yes your relationship is worth saving.

It is possible to get back your ex and return to that state of openness and love. It is possible to save the relationship because there are positive building blocks to start from.

There is hope and if you put in the time and effort you can rebuild the intimacy and trust with your ex and maintain a healthy relationship.

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Relationship Quotes

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 20:41:00 +0000

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it. In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note:

"Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."
-Oprah Winfrey

"Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins

"Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same." -Flavia Weedn

"The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time." – Caroline Myss

"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." – Mark Twain

"Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with" ~ Gillian Anderson

"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." – Aristotle

"The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." – Helen Keller

"Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl - no superior alternative has yet been found." – Winston Churchill

"It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations." – Kahlin Gibran

"To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person." – Eric Fromm

"Man is a knot into which relationships are tied." ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

"You can't stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it's the best thing in the world. When you're in a relationship and it's good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete." ~ Keith Sweat

"Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others." ~ Stephen R. Covey

"Love doesn't just sit there like a stone; it has to be made - like bread, remade all the time, made new." – Ursula LeGuin

"Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it's really no fun lying to 'em anymore." -Norm from Cheers

Review of T W Jacksons The Magic of Making Up

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 18:19:00 +0000

When you’re in the process of breaking up or your relationship has ended emotions are high, there’s tension, stress and tears too. Often we say things we don't really mean and usually we are not quite sure what to do next.

Cue T W Jackson, or T'Dub' as he prefers, and his book "The Magic of Making Up".

The first question on every ones mind is "does it work" and the simple answer is "yes it does" and it has done for thousands of couples worldwide.

The next question is “will it work for me”. Well every one is different, the reasons for breaking up are different BUT the way we react to a situation follows similar patterns. What T ‘Dub’ has done is studied 1000’s of relationship patterns and uses this information to predict the behaviour and give solutions for various scenarios. The result is step by step advice on what works to get your ex back and what doesn’t.

The book comes with a 60 day full money back guarantee so even if you have doubts give it a try, you can always ask for your money back if it isn’t for you. I doubt it will come to that though!

So what’s in the book?

The first couple of chapters look at teaching you to reshape and refocus your image. You’ll learn techniques to get over being heartbroken and how to move forward.

There is a whole section on self improvement and reinventing yourself so that you grab the attention of your ex. It works on improving your confidence definitely a transferable skill into other parts of your life.

Of course there is the plan to get back your ex, the real reason for buying the book. The previous chapters have set you up mentally to take the big step. The plan covers everything from the first phone call to rebuilding their trust and everything in between.

The last section of The Magic of Making Up is about maintaining a healthy relationship. This is where Magic goes above and beyond most get back guides, T ‘Dub’ does not leave you high and dry. The last chapter helps you stay away from the negative relationship history and keep looking forward to the future.

There are so many parts of this book that you can use outside of getting your ex back and improving relationships in general. The book is written in a simple down to earth manner, there’s no fluff or filler. Some techniques are a bit unconventional and may take you outside your comfort zone. Overall it really is value for money and well worth a read.

The book is electronically transferred, so instantly downloadable; you can get it here with the free unadvertised bonus “Mind Magic”

Feeding the Break Up Beast – The Fastest Way to Break Up with Your Girlfriend Even When You Don’t Want To!

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:30:00 +0000

Guys, are you on the fast track slippery slope to losing your girlfriend without even realising it? If you want to keep your girlfriend it’s time to sit up and listen.

Is everything ok in your relationship with your girlfriend? Are you sure? Ok, so you’re not having a blazing row every night. But are you aware of the break up beast that is bubbling underneath the surface, just waiting for the slightest opportunity to raise its ugly head?

The fastest way to break up with your girlfriend is to ignore the small stuff. You probably don’t even realise that you do it. Your girlfriend won’t walk out just because you have left the toilet seat up or your laundry on the floor. Do it often enough though and it feeds the break up beast that is lurking and snapping up every snack you drop to it until it is big and strong enough to bite you.

How to Tame the Beast!

1. Honesty is the best policy, or is it?
Outright lies are definitely not the way to go, trust and respect is a major factor in any relationship. Honesty is the best policy, but honesty with some tact and diplomacy please!
So when your girlfriend asks “Does this dress make me look fat?” think carefully about how you answer, the break up beast is drooling waiting for his snack! Tell her she looks good to you whatever she wears and the beast starves for another day.

2. Show your love.
Women like to know that they are loved, and spend a lot of time reassessing their relationships. Each time they do, the break up beast is drip fed growth hormones! Arm yourself with little gestures that reassure your girlfriend that you love her. That does not mean buying huge expensive gifts at every opportunity. Little things done often will wound the beast more.
A few ideas:
• Get up a bit earlier and have coffee and breakfast waiting for her when she wakes up
• Leave a note in her purse so she finds it while at work/out shopping
• Thank her for doing something routine like making dinner or ironing a shirt
• Call or text her during the day just to say “I love you”
• Make a note of what she is reading and pick up a book by the same author from the library on your way home
You get the idea, and hopefully notice none of the suggestions actually cost money.

3. Pay Attention!
There’s nothing tastier to the break up beast than a man tuning out every time his girlfriend tries to have a conversation. Your girlfriend needs to feel she is important to you and will feel rejected if you are staring into space, reading the newspaper, or trying to watch TV while she’s talking to you.
Make an effort to actually fully listen to what she’s saying. Physically stop what you are doing and turn to face her so she knows she has your full attention. If you would rather talk later because you are busy, then tell her. Just don’t do that all the time!

The break up beast can never be fully killed off, it’s always there waiting for you to fall back into your old ways. Just remember small gestures every day and the beast will be as tame as kitten.

Why The Best Boyfriend Break Up Excuses are not Good Enough

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 13:56:00 +0000

Your relationship is going stale and you want to know how to break up with your boyfriend. You search the internet for the best boyfriend break up excuses and fire up your creative juices. STOP. You owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to end the relationship properly.

There is no right way or right time to break up with your boyfriend; it will always be a difficult situation. The best boyfriend break up excuses rarely makes the situation better and can make it much worse.

Even the best boyfriend break up excuses won’t soften the blow. Ending the relationship is going to hurt no matter how much you try and sugar coat it. You may think that using an excuse to break up will make it easier on him, they don’t. Boyfriend break up excuses do not offer any insight into why the relationship is ending. Be honest with him and you will both find closure more quickly and it will spare him endless hours of soul searching.

Boyfriend break up excuses sound insincere because they are insincere. Don’t use the excuses everyone else does, give your real reasons for breaking up. Telling him the truth may force him to rethink how he is acting and change his ways so you can have a future together. Even if you have no interest in getting back together at some point, being truthful will help you both in any other future relationships you may have.

If the shoe was on the other foot and he was the one ending the relationship, wouldn’t you want honesty and the real reason for the break up? While being honest about the break up will hurt, it does help when moving on and finding closure. If the roles were reversed you would expect the courtesy of knowing the truth wouldn’t you?

There is no easy way to break up with your boyfriend, but being honest and giving real reasons will end the relationship respectfully. If you do decide later you want to get back with your ex, the fact that you ended the relationship truthfully will go a long way in helping to win him back.

What is the Fastest Way to Get Your Boyfriend Back? Fast Advice and Fast Results.

noreply@blogger.com (Jan Kearney) — Tue, 15 Dec 2009 13:50:00 +0000

The fastest way to get your boyfriend back is to grab is his attention and make him think WOW! Read on for fast advice and quick action you can take today.

So what is the fastest way to get your ex boyfriend back into your life? Quite simply you need to grab his attention in a positive manner. Forget any negative actions you had planned, you won’t win him back by being a witch.

Fast ways to get him back means you are limited to quick fix actions that have an immediate impact. That impact needs to make him do a double take and think wow!

Image is everything now and you need to look great. Here are some quick fixes that will grab the attention of your ex.

Change your hair.

Even simple quick fixes to your hair can make you look like a different person. There’s no need to go for high maintenance styles or have top stylists fussing over you before you go out.
• Find a style that suits you, go to a recommended stylist in your area and spend a bit of time getting that shape just right.
• Change your hair colour. It doesn’t have to be anything drastic; a few highlights can make a big difference.
• Make your hair shine. Dull lifeless hair is not very flattering. Treat yourself to a hair mask while you soak in the bath pampering yourself.
• Remember the basics; get rid of any split ends any touch up any grey or roots showing through your colour.

Killer Eyes

You want to get your boyfriend back not scare him away with red puffy eyes or dark bags big enough to carry your grocery shopping. Pay some attention to your eyes with these quick fixes to make them look stunning.

• Spoon eye masks. A quick way to tighten the skin around your eyes and get rid of redness is to place cold metal spoons over your eyes. I would advise you do this when you are not expecting any visitors; it’s a sure way to make you look a bit crazy! Put the spoons in the refrigerator for an hour first for extra chill factor – do not freeze them.
• Shape your brows. Get rid of any stray eyebrows by waxing or plucking. Stay with the natural shape of your brow for the most flattering look – you don’t want a permanent surprised expression

Bright Smile

You want a smile to make your boyfriends heart melt. Give your lips some pampering to repair any dry or chapped skin. Whiten your teeth so that you dazzle him when you smile. Of course, don’t forget to actually smile!

Healthy Glow

If you plan on getting your boyfriend back, you don’t want to look like you have been locked away from the world. A slight tanned complexion makes you look healthier and happier. There are plenty of products on the market that will give a tan skin glowing effect, don’t go over the top and change colour overnight totally.

Boob Basics

Yes, your breasts. A good fitting bra makes all the difference to your shape and posture. Making the most of your assets, no matter how big or small you are, is a confidence boost too. That does not mean you have to wear ultra low cut tops and lose your ex in a revealing cleavage.

The fastest way to get your boyfriend back is to make his jaw drop and see what he is missing. Small, quick changes to your image can do that and more.

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