Life For Rent

Shisha – Fashion or Addiction ?

2012-02-24T20:43:00.003+05:00

In the last 6-7 years, I have personally noticed the growing trend of shisha smoking in Karachi. I remember I first time I puffed shisha at a friend’s BBQ party, I coughed like for 3-4 times continuously. Maybe the reason was that I don't smoke or whatever, but that gave me a feel of having smoked an entire cigarette with a single puff !

Recently, I was with my friend at M.A. Society near kaybees, where I saw a bunch of class 8 students discussing various things while smoking shisha. The way they were discussing various adult rated issues was kind of alarming and the worst thing was that all of them had bunked their tuitions and collected money for smoking shisha !

Me and my friend were astonished to see such careless attitude towards studies, we blamed media, parents, independence etc but the thing which we ignored was that those kids were ruining their life by smoking shisha.

I believe that this habit has turned out to be a fashion or the ‘IN THING’ these days, rather than addiction. Youngsters usually smoke shisha in a gathering, while hanging out with friends, at BBQ, night stays and picnics etc. and the worst thing is that if an individual don't smoke at a gathering, people tag him as “Mummy-Daddy” or sophisticated etc. So out of peer pressure one start smoking shisha as a fashion and ends up becoming a total addict of it !

For all those fools who believe that shisha has nothing in common to cigarettes or is less injurious then here are some facts:

On an average, each shisha smoking session typically lasts more than 40 minutes, and consists of 50 to 200 inhalations (puffs) that each range from 0.15 to 0.50 liters of smoke.
In an hour-long smoking session of shisha, users consume about 100 to 200 times the smoke of a single cigarette, not only this but if you consider passive smoking (i.e. inhaling the smoke) then these figures could be multiplied by two.

Shisha has dangerous effects on the body because it exposes the smoker to a much larger volume of smoke than what would be inhaled from a cigarette. Not only that, but shisha smokers are exposed to other toxins such as carbon monoxide, heavy metals, and a variety of cancer causing chemicals which are no less dangerous than those found in cigarette smoke.

I was really happy when Sindh Govt. decided to ban shisha but as all other laws of Pakistan, this law has been used and abused. I believe that we need to condemn this issue which is settling it’s roots in our society. Our youth is going crazy for this “Cool” stuff but on the other hand our youngsters are ruined through this Addictive Fashion. This could be done by informing our youth and the shisha lovers the side effects of this So-called fashion and let them know that how severe the outcomes are !

Be kind enough to yourself and your family, who has been spending their lives and money for you. As ALLAH himself informed us to stay away from things which could destroy us:
“And do not throw yourselves into destruction.” [Qur'an 2:195]

10 Tips to surprise her this Valentine's Day

2012-02-11T20:22:00.001+05:00

Some are cliche ideas, some innovative. But your beloved would definitely be impressed if you surprise her using any of these tips:

1. Send her a bouquet at her office or at midnight. Flowers always work!

2. Facebook status update - Write something to show how much you love her. Keep the status intact at least for the entire day ;)

3. YouTube - Upload a video declaring your undying love for her.

4. Cook for her... and cook good.

5. Recreate your first proposal / date scene. If it hasn't happened yet -ask her out now!

6. The evergreen hand written love letter never fails.

7. Send her romantic text messages at random intervals... but not every 5 mins ;)

8. If you stay together, nothing's better than a candlelit room... of course, I mean aromatic ones!

9. Make one of her wishes come true.

10. Even if you really think so, do not tell her how you hate Valentine's Day if she really likes the day.

It's true that love's in the air every single moment. But it's also true that we don't feel its presence given our busy lifestyle. Having a day in the year, 14th February, dedicated to it is cute. All right, many debate it being a marketing stuff etc etc and enough controversy is generated on Valentine's Day as well, but then don't we celebrate other days too?

C'mon, don't tell me you don't feel that people are more romantic and behave better on that one day. Whatever be the 'hype', it does make a sweet difference.

Let's spread love... we need it at such times, isn't it?

You are the only one

2012-01-29T17:11:00.001+05:00

You are the only one for whom i desire,

You are the only one whom i deserve the most,

You are the only one who care,

You are the one with i make a best pair.

You are the only one who bear,

The one with whom i can easily share,

With whom i feel i can walk on air.

You have a art to make me smile,

You are one with whom i feel living a life is worthwhile.

You understand all my emotions,

With whom i feel i can cross millions of oceans.

You make out all my expression,

Solve my every question,

You promise to hold my hand forever,

You are the who say "i cant live without you never ever".

You are different from crowd,

This is what which always make me feel proud,

You have the best heart,

And winning it is one among your finniest art.

FACEBOOK FREAKS

2012-01-15T18:27:00.000+05:00

Log in…log out…log in….like like….peek……poke…comment….log out…log in...and the vicious cycle goes on and on….
Log in specially to update their status.....which mostly contains song lyrics, videos or weather updates ! (like all others live underground ! )

Paste everything that pops in their minds on facebook (facebook seriously should have a censor-board ! )
Awwwwww Dp <3 <3 <3 muahhh !!!
Thnxxxxxx <3 ! (err..nevermind )

Actively run/participate in a group/page and if they are made the admin their happiness knows no bounds!
Change their DP every other day ! Or maybe twice or thrice a day !

Upload albums obligatorily!
Comment and re -comment and comment yet again when there is a thing called chat box in facebook !
Chatting and chatting with each other even if they meet daily !
Know only the basic stuff on facebook but do not know how to use the computer let alone internet !

Add every other person they know even just by name or workplace.
Add people just to peek on their wall, pics and activites and then gossip about them.

Change their relationship statuses regularly.
Tag people in stupid pics and when they themselves are tagged they are highly gratified.

Send irritating game requests and then keep on sending them again till you become a neighborhood farmer, mayor or whatever !!
Like every other like.

Have 200+ so-called friends
Ruin eng jst 2 luk kewl. o yea yeh got meh !
Bro saying hi to sis on her wall! when she is sitting on just the other side of his room wall !
The oxygen of their comments is emotions and if you are not that perky, man you are in trouble because they are going to get you wrong !

FACEBOOK FREAKS…..GET A LIFE !!!

Happy New Year

2011-12-29T21:20:00.002+05:00

Hi Friends I know you all are eager to welcome the new year with new hopes and great energy, New year means a lot to all of us, we start taking resolutions for the new year and rewinding the memories of the year passed by, Once upon a time we used to wish our friends a happy new year physically by exchanging greetings and we do exchange greetings but now it is all electronic like email, sms, and e card, So to make your job easy I have collected some great new year wall papers to wish your friends a Happy new year.

I WISH YOU ALL A HAPPY NEW YEAR 2012

In just a few hours the year 2012 will be coming to an end (and not to forget the decade) and a brand new year 2012 will begin. 2011 was a good year for me and was filled those little, sweet happy moments that are very special to me.

This year all I wish is for is few of my dreams to come true and also that this year brings in a lot of happiness for everyone I love and care about. My happiness depends on that.

And Thank You guys for being a part of my life this year and keeping up with all the things I write. You are a big part of my life and many times your comments bring me out of the gloomiest of moods. So thanks Again !

I Wish all of you guys a very Happy New Year from bottom of my heart and wish that every dream of yours come true and this year is filled with lots and lots of happiness . I hope you guys make this year special too as you have made my last.

Reality and Spirit

2011-12-18T13:07:00.000+05:00

I like writing, and all of my writing is from the bottom of my heart. I write because I want to keep track record of my life and my thought. Therefore, my writing has intimate relationship with my life, my thought and every friend who runs into my life. Almost all the friends who come to my life and my inner world appear on my writing.

However, my writing seldom gets attention from my friends. Few friends will know about them. Maybe that’s why I can write everything I want to write. Before I refused　to reveal any of my writing to my familiar persons who are around me, because there are too much inner secret from my heart. I have no courage to anatomy myself before others. If so I will lose the feeling of safety.

Gradually I no longer refuse the friends to read my articles. However, I am still inactive to reveal my writing to my friends. If someone find them by himself, pay attention to them and read them silently, I will appreciate him from the bottom of my heart, because that means he cares about me and my life. However, I hate everybody ask me any personal questions about my writing. The questions like “ Who is the girl you mention in your article? Who is your first love? “ These are so disgustful questions that make you revolt against. The information in my writing is so personal and immanent that it’s unfit to discuss. You can read them silently, and from my writing you will know something about me. You can touch my heart from my writing. You can understand another world about me and you’d better be moved by my writing. However, you can’t ask any questions, although you have so many questions to ask, although your curiosity is inspired, although you want to know more about details. If you want to get the answers, you can read between in lines with your heart, you can guess and finally maybe you can never get clear answers. Anyway, you can’t disturb me by those disgustful questions.

For me, there is two world--------reality and spirit. These two worlds go along with each other and affect each other. My spirit lead my reality and finally is influenced by my reality at the same time. However, in some way they are independent. In reality, I work, strive for money, just because money is the first important factor to make my life happy. However, in my spirit I pursue something has nothing to do with money but priceless, such as love, freedom and interest. In reality, I need a relaxing life. I like talking with friends in a free and humorous way, because I feel easy and happy to live in this way. By contrast, in my spirit world I often think about the serious life philosophy, such as the attitude to life, the distillation of love, the sentiment about life. Generally speaking, my reality is live and busy full of persons coming and going. In contrast, my spirit world is quiet, alone and just belongs to myself. Every day I need time to spend along, doing something I like, such as reading and writing. I always keep a good habit of reading before sleep. Every night I lie in the bed with a comfortable posture, and then turn on the books I like, at that time my spirit is purified. In this way I get a wonderful soul consolation. In my reality I seem to be an extrovert. I can make friends with different people and get a lot of friends. I can be active in different occasions. However, only I know that I am introvert when I face to myself only. I pay attention to my inner voice and pursue inner world. However, I share my heart and soul with few friends in my reality, because I think it’s not fit to mix my two worlds. In my writing, there is a real me, showing up my spirit and soul, but few friends in my reality can share my writing. However, I never feel lonely, because I have so many strange readers, who can understand me, appreciate my writing and keep encouraging me.

It’s the reality and spirit which go along each other make my life happy, full and perfect.

Movie Time: Breaking Dawn

2011-12-04T13:15:00.001+05:00

I think a lot of you have seen the movie already or maybe are going to see it soon, so I won't be telling the plot of the story. Just my opinion of the movie.

Of course I liked the movie! The Twilight movies always have a good story (and fantasy) and I'm a big fan of them. This movie even convinced me to read all the books. A friend of mine has all the books and I am going to borrow them. I've already read Eclips and saw the movie. I can honestly say that a book tells you so much more than a movie can. You see that in Breaking Dawn too. They skip a lot in the movies, that is actually a part of the story. But I still like the movie!

Breaking Dawn is about Bella and a vampire Edward. They become wife and husband in the movie. Later Bella gets pregnant from him. The baby is not completely human and grows very fast. It will kill her if they don't find a solution for it. You can watch a trailer on youtube if you want to know more, because I don't want to tell too much about it. If you have seen the movie, please tell me what you think of it, because I like to read your opinions as well (and comment on them?)!

The sad thing is that the movie was split up in two parts and that means we have to wait for more. On the other hand, when you watch it back later you can watch more movies. Actually it's a kind of sad that there is only one movie, before it all ends. :(

Cyber Relationship

2011-11-27T18:17:00.001+05:00

Almost all the people think that the internet relationship is unrealistic. They think that it’s impossible for them to have feeling for each other since they haven’t met each other or got together with each other. However, when the other day I discussed this topic with my friend, we both think that the internet relationship can be real, sincere and forever. It has nothing different from other relationships in the reality. Of course, the basic of this relationship is that we don’t have any evil purpose to each other or anything deceive.

Because of the dream of being postgraduate, I met some friends online. For the same dream, we chatted happily. In my opinion, they have nothing different from other friends I meet in reality. I treat them good, sincere and real. I never enclose any information about me. I show a real myself before them, even more real in the reality. Because of the distance, you often can discuss the topic which can touch your heart. Moreover, there is always something same deep in our heart or in the pursuit of soul. Therefore, it’s easy for us to get along with each other well. In my experience, nobody deceive me on purpose.

We have feeling for each other because we know each other. We know each other because we communicate. Chatting on Facebook or chatting by messages or chatting on phone is only a kind of the way of communication in this modern society. In reality, we often fall in love with someone at the sight we see her, especially in the adolescence period. At that time, it’s common that we fall in love with some boy or girl deep in heart even though we never talk to each other. Comparing these two kinds of emotion, I think the cyber love is more reliant and more real. In the latter one, we love just because of his appearance or a kind of imagination inner your heart. You know nothing about him or her. It’s often said that if you have chance to talk with her or get together with her, you will feel disappointing and then you will lose those ever feeling. In contrast, you fall in cyber love because you know something deep in her character, and you are crush to this kind of character.

Because of the aim of post graduation exam, I met her online. We ever chatted a lot. I always have a good feeling for her. And gradually we became a lover. If considering it as a true love, this is my first love, my first love happening between two persons. However, when meet each other face to face, we must end our relationship. But I never think the failure of our relationship is because it’s a cyber love. In fact, it has nothing to do with its kind. If we are a lover met in reality, we also have to end our relationship, because he offends the authentic essence of the love royalty and sincerity.

The society is filled up with rushing persons and rushing materials. You can know someone only by a click of the key, and it’s probable that he or she disappears one second later. Even in our daily reality life, It’s common that people run to a city to another. It’s difficult for us to get together with each other for a long time and know each other deeply. Chatting online or by phone are our important tool of communication. Therefore, just take cyber relationship ease.

The essence of a authentic friendship or love is sincerity, commonness, and respect. Keep this belief in out mind, we will get authentic eternal valuable friendship and love, no matter when, where, how we meet and know each other.

Still Miss You

2011-11-12T00:15:00.007+05:00

For a long time I seldom get together with her. At first I felt very uneasy. Then I felt that I used to it. I seem to forget her gradually. At least, I seldom feel the worry and care for her. I don’t know whether this choice is reasonable or unwise.Sometimes I will think about her, and the enjoyment and happiness when we get together.It’s a pity that I lose her forever.

I don't know whether she notices or cares about it. Maybe I am just one of her good friends. The other day Melody said to me that no woman will treat you good without purpose. So, does she treat me more special than other boys? I am not sure.

I seem to be not a sensitive guy who notices others’ attitude to me. I just know clearly that when I am with her my heart is full of joy and happiness. No matter what is the real matter, it’s clear that we are far from each other.

It’s said that persons are like hedgehogs in need of warmness. If we are too far away, we can’t get warmness from each other. If we are too close, the thorns over our body will hurt each other. Therefore, the perfect distance between persons is neither too far way nor too close. We should care for, believe and contain each other, and above all, we should leave each other a personal time and space.

It’s strange how a somewhat amazing day (filled with talks, rumbles, jokes and laughter with her) could end so disappointingly. but right now, it feels somewhat better, for which i’m glad thought about this speedy friendship, about how it had progressed ever since day 1, when i first sat beside her in the library all I know is, our barely two-months neutral friendship can never compete with a 3 years long relationship.

I will take this friendship lightly, I will just enjoy the company, the advices, the jokes easily. just enjoy and be neutral. I am a bright guy who knows clearly about my advantages and weakness. But it’s difficult for me to conquer my weakness. Who can help me and who can tell me what I can do? just walk away

The Philosophy Of Truth

2011-11-01T19:50:00.000+05:00

I am discovering just how much self-centeredness and immaturity annoy me. I am also discovering how less patient I have become with age. But maybe it’s not about becoming less patient, perhaps I am finally learning to set boundaries with others. There is a limit to how much of a bad thing one can take. You may say and feel all the things you want but if your actions don’t match those feelings and words, then they are all meaningless.

So many questions inundated my head and strong emotions slapped my heart.Funny how much words on paper can affect you,Whatever may happen I keep telling myself to focus on what I have, on all those people and things in my life for which I am grateful.God seems to be putting up challenges to test my patience these few days.

Plus i might be accompanying Mum to somewhere.. you know how i love to spend some time with her;You know, suddenly, i realized that i have alot of choices to make. alot of choices i don't feel like thinking and making a decision. oh, i hate making decisions.Hmm, okay, that’s not much. but still, these decisions are going to alter my life forever. right?

Make a wish and place it in your heart. Anything you want. Everything you want. Now believe it can come true. You will never know when the next miracle is going to come from, the next smile, the next wish come true. But if you believe that it’s right around the corner, and you open your heart and mind to the possibility of it, to the certainty of it. You just might get the thing you are wishing for. The world is full of magic, you just have to believe it, with all your heart."

Balmy Day

2011-10-23T15:49:00.003+05:00

Today is a bright day. When I woke up, the blazing sun lights nearly blinded my eyes. Out of instinctive reaction to strong rays, I immediately covered the quilt over my face. It took me a long while to adjust my eyes to a new day. Having washed my face and tidied myself up, I went into the kitchen with the purpose of finding something delicious to eat, but in vain. Disappointed, I was about to nag at my poor mother who was still in bed, when an idea struck me. Why don’t I go to People’s Park and breathe the fresh summer air? that is really a good idea foe me..

The morning breeze carried with it the scent of fresh dirt into my nostrils.I felt I were at the top of the cloud, everything in my sight seeming new to me. The leaves of plane trees were glowing in the morning sun, through whose opening the rays penetrated and fell on my shoulders, my head and face, making me narrow my eyes, smiling. Every few hundred meters, there was a cleaner, dressed in bright orange, cleaning the cypress road. A few miles from the park, I noticed a funny scene. An aged male cleaner was riding his open-tricycle, while his lovely dog running after him as fast as it could. I guess he must have finished his work, for he was singing happily as he cycled along. It dawned on me that happiness belongs to everybody, whether he be rich or poor, noble or humble.

The park was already a sea of people before I arrived. Since the park was rebuilt and open to the public, it has served as a morning practice center. The people can be categorized by the clubs they joined in. A group of gray-haired men were playing Taijiquan, many middle-aged women with fans or colorful ribbons in hand were doing yangge, I went though a small grove and crowds of people to the lake side. The water is blue and green with patches of willow catkins floating over. Running water is never stale. How could we expect the water to be clear since it’s a man-made lake? I squatted down and observed the water carefully. There should be tiny tadpoles swimming about! They were just like black commas in my primary textbooks. It’s hard to imagine they are babies of frogs. With a well-preserved childlike innocence, I got down on my knees, pushed up my sleeves, reaching my hand for the tadpoles. However, they were too smart to catch. As soon as I thrust my hand into water, they immediately disappeared into the depth of the lake. Behind came a storm of laughter, A few old men were exchanging of conventional greetings. I stood up immediately and patted the dirt off my trousers. The sun was already in the half sky. I quickened my steps and headed for home. Wish my life filled with sunshine every day.

Simply Awesome

2011-10-18T19:53:00.000+05:00

Did someone say they'd lost a penguin?

2011-10-14T20:14:00.000+05:00

Did someone say they'd lost a penguin? 200,000 young birds search for their hungry chicks

Most parents will know the problem. Your back is turned for two seconds and your little one has disappeared into the crowd.Well just be thankful it’s not a crowd like this.This sea of black, white and brown is created by 200,000 king penguins searching for their hungry chicks on the South Atlantic island of South Georgia.

Each year, the king penguin colony at Salisbury Plains, South Georgia, produces an astonishing 50,000 chicks - a number which is on the rise

And, incredibly given the apparent chaos, the young birds hardly ever get lost – thanks to each having a unique begging call.The scene was captured by German photographer Michael Poliza after the penguins had returned en masse to their home colony for a new breeding season.

King penguins are 3ft tall and weigh up to 33lbs. They lay just one egg each year and the fluffy brown chicks take 11 months to become self-sufficient, so it’s fortunate for them that their parents can p-p-p-pick them out.Each year, the king penguin colony at Salisbury Plains, South Georgia, produces an astonishing 50,000 chicks - a number which is on the rise.And Mr Poliza, from Hamburg, Germany, was left speechless when he was met by the noise, smell and breathtaking sight of the enormous colony.

This sea of black, white and brown is created by 200,000 king penguins searching for their hungry chicks on the South Atlantic island

He said: "Nothing can prepare you for opening your eyes and seeing hundreds of thousands of penguins right in front of you for as far as you can see."It was beautiful looking out across a sea of such vibrant colour - I felt a bit like an opera conductor amidst a one-of-a-kind concert of cries from thousands of hungry chicks."The view was even more stunning as it was framed by a truly breathtaking backdrop of mountains and glaciers."The chick is a true 'homebody' in every sense of the word. They need about eleven months to become self-sufficient so it's a good job they have such a unique cry."King penguins can recognise each other's call and can find their mate and their chick among the 200,000 birds in the colony."Each October king penguins across the sub polar Antarctic regions return to their home colonies to breed and lay just one precious egg.Dedicated Michael, who has a new exhibition opening in Germany at the end of October, had to travel to the Antarctic Peninsula on a cruise ship to capture the striking shots.

It looks like they're playing Wheres Wally: The chaotic scenes make it look impossible for the adult penguins to find their young, but because of their unique begging call amazingly they never get lost

Photographer Michael Poliza, who has a new exhibition opening in Germany at the end of October, had to travel to the Antarctic Peninsula on a cruise ship to capture the striking shots

He would wake up at 4am and go straight from his cabin to the upper deck, where a crane lifted him and a rubber dinghy overboard and lowered them into the icy water.He added: "Part of the courtship ritual of king penguins is an erect posture where both sexes make themselves as tall as possible to impress their potential mate.

"During the October courtship period, males parade the females with loud calls, an erect posture and a courtship walk - being the tallest certainly impresses the females."It seems like a chaotic mixture of adults and their chicks, and king penguins look quite comical, but they know exactly what they are doing."On land, penguins are very curious as there have been no land predators in Antarctica so I was able to get up close to them."I would love to go back again as it was a truly fantastic experience."

A Walk to Remember

2011-10-08T19:02:00.001+05:00

While I was browsing our DVD collection last night, I found this very lovely movie of all time. I think that this is one of the best movies for me. Watching it for 4 times, it clearly had an impact in my heart.

A Walk To Remember movie is really something to remember. I like how it was made and the scenes deeply touched me. It gave an inspiring and hopeful feelings to its viewers. The perfect direction and production together with the chosen casts to star in this movie is something to recognize. I remember when I first watched this movie, I can't help but reminisce all the scenes in my mind. I was pre-occupied with the scenes that deeply touched me. I thought that I was alone, but my friends were looking so touched as well.

This dramatic love story is excellent, all because of its lessons. I love how the writers and producers thought of integrating Bible lessons in it. Because, I believe, that this served as a reminder for young couples to put Christ in the middle of the relationship and through that, miracles really do happen.

I Love You Mom

2011-10-02T19:33:00.000+05:00

Oh I am so thankful to you to grant me with this life. I know i had been disrespectful to you. Often annoying, itchy and a bad son. I am really sorry for that as now when i have realized that each and every drop of blood in me filled of your pampering love, ultimate caring and reckless days and nights..Thanks to accept me as a part of your own and give me my own existence .. I know am not that thankful to you always .. I know I have been very awfully hurting you with my so-called "Independence key". I know i had been complaining for your anger on my stupid mistakes .. But Mum you are my Gem and Lady Madonna .. I love You .. and will always..

I remember that long soothing massage for healthy and strong bones .. Said truly " A mother is always a Blessing to her child "

I am lucky to have you mom.. As realization comes later your presence was always felt deep in my heart but today when I see people around crying out for cruelty of their owners, weeping off the absence of their blessing Your make me feel special and the luckiest one to be born on this Earth!

FINALLY

2011-09-28T20:50:00.000+05:00

My Dad taught me that if I wanted something in life, I had to speak up or figure out a way to make it happen. No one was going to do it for me. It was up to me to control my destiny.

I heard people saying that growth never take place in absence of tears and sweat. It stroke me that everything came so strong and hard that all of a sudden here the fate fell.

There is and will never ever be someone who would come up telling you why and how life will offer you new opportunities and chances. Only you could convince yourself by believing that hope is everywhere.

Not everyone is going to approve of the decision you make. Catch the star that holds your destiny and that will take you eventually to your dream. Oftentimes the world around you may be filled up with suspects on how well you do and how well you are going to do. You are the only one that is able to choose to believe and trust yourself that you are going to make it. Even is the whole world is going to desert you, you can never let you desert yourself for you are the only one who can do something for a change.

As a matter of fact, everything is quite simple, Not everything would work in the way that you want.
Not every effort pays you back.However, if you give up going forward and working hard, everything will not work in the way you like.So just work hard. Diligence is something that everyone is able to own.It is alse something most people cannot own.It’s up to whether you are a successful one.

Understanding Life

2011-09-25T18:18:00.000+05:00

If there is one truth about life, it is its unhindered and continuous change, for as long as the life remains.There have been a number of philosophers who've tried to describe life but no one's ever reached a consensus about it. According to some, life is the name of continuous happening, continuous involvement, continuous evolution... and all these phenomenon lead to one word, change.

I recently saw this movie called 'The Tree of Life' which also tried to describe the truth of life and I'll have to say the way the movie presented its concept was quite convincing. The movie gets you stunned by its visuals which were extraordinarily captured from all the ordinary things. And surprisingly, these are the ordinary things that confine the truth of life within them, ready to be explored, ready to be unearthed.

The movie covers a part of the life-span of a boy and depicts different phases of his life. How his parents are fascinated by his existence when he's born. How he grows up and takes his very first step. How he speaks his very first word. How he looks upto his parents in difficult scenarios which he does not understand. And ultimately, how he starts to understand things and starts detaching from his past, his parents.

There are so many things which I didn't understand at all but now things have started to fall in place. The reason behind this is nothing but the change and development brought by life.

Few years back a teacher, while making us read a sophisticated book, said, "These words are gonna remain the same, but they would mean different to you when you read them again in a few years". At that time, all I did as a response was make jest out of it but it was now that I realized that he was right.

Well, the movie just triggered a thought in my mind and I couldn't help writing it down. There's nothing I understand about life yet but I'm certain the change would continue... until the end.

Expectations

2011-09-18T18:04:00.000+05:00

You often expect a lot from others when you stand on their expectations. They are close, close to what you never expect or you ever expected.

Expectations, that's what life is about.

A mother's from her very own creator.
A father's from his very own beginner.
A teacher's from it's very own learner.
A be-beloved's from it's very own lover.
A toddler's from it's very own leader.
A friend's from it's very own mirror.

From A-Z of our very own life, we consistently try, try to stand on what others expect from Us. And similarly expect from them too. Often what we end up with are bunch of expectations either not fulfilled by Us or by them.Life become darker and more darker. Some get over it and let it go while others keep them deep inside and let it grow. Difference that counts is how it matter to them. What was the reason they never stood or weren't able to stood?

Was that the most beautiful creation?
Was that my fruit's fulfillment?
Was that our love's wish?
Was that my learner's talent?
Was that my best-est reflection?

With the fight of not expecting and expecting, we unintentionally neglect to their wishes and wants. May be it wouldn't be that darker if we had seen through their sight. May be we would have made it a better place.

A place where one understands other, where expectations are delayed or rephrased but never fall. Expect as much as you wish to but within the walls of not only you of the people you expect from. Do think but not your way, keep it aside and fit into their shoe and explore them. Life will be beautiful and more beautiful.

Nevertheless, it is they who make your life not only you. They are your life not you! : )

Why? and I do repeat it again why?

2011-09-13T17:07:00.003+05:00

It is always a wo-man to be questioned and accused for her doings, good or bad by the society but not a Man.

I see Father killing his daughter in the name of Honor killing, a husband abusing for giving birth to a daughter, disgraced if she can't give you a child, murdered if caught in a love endorsed relationship, tortured if claims for her rights, sexually beleaguered more of it is the most bitter part they too are sold for a lump sum count in one’s wealth to the man-eater world.

Why women just limited to the pride of his father, husband or family not because how nicely they did her education or how successful they are in life? But yes they will more proud when a society claims them moralistic and “pardaydar”.

An overview to what i mentioned above from the eye of our social happenings:

In a country that forbids women to display their hair or bodies, Iranian models adapt glamorous profession modeling according to Islamic rules. However, despite the strict dress code and lower rates of pay as compared to their counterparts elsewhere, it is still a sought-after profession for Iranian girls. A lesson for Pakistani models. Are man permitted to display their body parts?

Pakistani actress Veena Malik and Model Hrishant Goswami were caught in action while getting cozy with each other where I notice many articles regarding Our male singers or artist on an international programs being kissed and hugged by every other fan coming to them.

A 17-year-old girl was abducted, raped and paraded naked around the streets of her village for refusing the advances of a local landlord.

Several clerics have issued fatwas against former Pakistani minister Sherry Rehman and declared her an infidel for calling for changes in the blasphemy law, prompting civil society activists to register a complaint with police in the port city of Karachi today.

The former husband of a 45-year-old woman tortured her and shaved her head and eyebrows at gunpoint, two years after their divorce in Larkana.

Two pregnant women were killed in Khanewal and Vehari allegedly by their husbands abetted by their families.

No dowry, no bride, no wedding. New brides are expected to bring wealth into their in-laws' homes - a shocking and disgusting ritual.

Mother of two enrolls in class one. 25-year-old Asma says she always wanted to attend school but her parents had forbidden it.

Not brought up strongly and ethically, mother's fault as the father was busy making money.

The group of armed men stormed into the house of MS, a peasant who works for landlord Manzar Ali Jatoi.

Dozens of police officials have been booked on charges of rape and other human rights violations of a serious nature during the last three years as the country is confronting unabated deterioration in the law and order situation.

There is a big clutter of such stories in our daily newspaper and TV headlines but yet they are actively increasing day to day. Why? Do you have a clue to it? Why is our nation getting desperate to such doings? Dark ages but what is so indifferent, Today. I see nothing is.

It isn't that our mothers aren't a woman by gender, or our sisters can be a victim too. If we are responsible for their security why aren't we for every other woman around Us.

Why do we harass or misuse their presence?

Love And Cooking

2011-09-13T10:19:00.001+05:00

Other men live to eat, while I eat to live, said Socrates the sage. This utterance may have offended many people as he pointed out part of the truth of their life. Nevertheless, nobody will deny the importance of eating, for the sake of “living” at least. Hence, cooking becomes an essential part of life.LOVE Cooking involves a series of complicated procedures, challenging both hand and head. I don’t see cooking as a bad job. Cooking, for the preliminary purpose, is to feed empty stomach's, and for a higher grade, enjoyment.

Cooking itself is enjoyment too. Take me for example. I find a lot of pleasure in the preparatory process of cooking. Slice a potato, knife up and down quickly, producing a rhythmic piece of music, if not melodious. This done, I would jokingly apologize to my sister, “sorry honey. I sliced them too thin again.” And then, we’ll laugh heartedly.

Some people believe that cooking, traditionally taken by women, is nowadays undertaken by men. That’s true. In many families, it is the husband that cooks, and he does wonderful cooking too. Some women, a lot actually, pampered from childhood, know little about housework, never touch cooking, or step into the kitchen.

Cooking, same with other human activities, can be interesting at the first try, but boring repeated day in and day out. It would be ideal when a couple cook together. When they are at home, they would cook together. Usually, wife prepare for cooking, cutting, skinning, slicing, etc, which he is not good at. And then, he takes real cooking, fume and strong smell of which she dislike. Afterwards, she wash dishes, and he, waiting till I have wiped all clean and dry, puts them one by one back into the cupboard. Work seems boring but connecting, the joy of which only those involved in know.

“Love is unconditional and unselfish”. If you do love a girl you’ll not hesitate to cook for her. You’ll be willing to do something even boring like cooking for your beloved.

Live to work or work to live?

2011-09-11T17:42:00.000+05:00

Who can tell me what’s the meaning of live? I am a little confused by my thoughts. I though for a while lonely. By the end I summary my own answer that is I work to afford my life and work will become my life.

I define my life is live to work before 35 years old. I am willing to devote all my time and efforts to work. In other words, I am working very hard for a visible promotion and long term professional career. I would like to earn more and more money in order to afford my life and my family. Through hardworking, I’m able to meet my dream of material life, such as house, car, beautiful things and so on. The all what I’ve mentioned are a preparation for my future life. I believe the high quality life won’t be far under the firm financial support. As a member of young generation, I have no reason to stop fighting for a better life. There is no doubt that hardworking is the most practical way to realize my dream. So I want to say that I will choose live to work as I’m young.

On the contrary, I choose work to live without hesitation after 35 years old. At that time, I will pay main attention to my family and life. It’s time to spend a lot of time and energy to my kid and family. I will enjoy life, and spend more money for travel, party, sports, charity and something else. It’s time to enjoy to do what I want to do without financial pressure. During the period, work just occupies a small part in my life. I earn money by work and have fun form work. I enjoy work but not only rely on it for fun.

Happy Birthday To Me..:)

2011-09-07T21:18:00.000+05:00

The birthday calculator can tell you fun things about you and the day you were born. It can tell you all sorts of things from the phase of the moon when you were born, your birth stone and lots of numerological and astrological facts.

Here are some facts about my Birthday…

Birthday Facts:

You were born on a Monday.
Your star sign is Virgo.
Your birthstone is Sapphire.
The season was Autumn.
Astrology Signs for September

About Virgo:

The sign of the virgin. Typical virgos are supposed to be pure wholesome and good, but this is not always the case. Be sure for every 1 true virgo, there are 3 who should have been a leo. A place for everything and everything in its place, that is the organised life of the virgo in a nut shell. Virgo are very industrious and enjoy dissecting large quantities of information and analysing it.

Quality: Negative

Ruler: Mercury

Triplicity: Mutable

Quadruplicity: Earth

Traditional Virgo Traits On the dark side....

Modest and shy Fussy and a worrier

Meticulous and reliable Overcritical and harsh

Practical and diligent Perfectionist and conservative

Intelligent and analytical

Life Path Compatibility:

You are most compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 1, 5 & 7.

You should get along well with those with the Life Path numbers 3 & 9.

You may or may not get along well with those with the Life Path number 8.

You are least compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 2, 4, 6, 11 & 22.

Positives:

Virgo men are dedicated and devoted. They will do whatever they can to protect their family and loved ones no matter whatever challenge they may face. Married with this devotion is an intellectual and an attention to detail which Virgo men can succeed both at work and home.

Virgo men have an analytical and measured approach which makes them excellent problem solvers and shrewd in difficult situations. These characteristics mean some are fantastic lawyers.

Negatives:

They can sometimes be too devoted and over proud of those around them. This means Virgo men will often gloat about their life causing those around them to resent them. The devotion can also make them over-protective and likely to take retribution, ranging from murder to petty and pedantic remarks.

Overall, Virgo men love and are devoted. It is important to have your own space and not to allow jealousy to develop. Moreover, they are proud men so they want to be in a relationship with a woman who makes them proud.

Reflection or Obstruction?

2011-09-06T20:38:00.000+05:00

Does it reflects those dark ages of Arab before Prophet hood and Islam or is it an obstruction to our belief and preaching due to mental sickness in Human Being? All I see are the very similar social and moral issues to those times are now around me from these Human looking animals of today’s so-called civilized world!

To clarify it is not only Pakistan or Asia specifically, the darkness is spread over the entire world let it call the natural disastrous destruction, violation of human rights, imbalanced state of law and order or self-discrimination.Recall those highlighted stories of the dark ages of Arab don’t they contrast today’s scenario of our society.

What is our social Life?

Social life presents no better picture today for me. It is very ignorant and the very bare bones of crucial social intrinsic are no worth anymore. I notice caste and creed discrimination, class and standardization, race of hunger, inhumane extremism, and terror of beliefs in short indispensable to the cultivation of social qualities. We are surviving a nomadic life that teaches us to treat our weak fellow as malicious cattle that can be used and thrown away very next moment.

Where is the judiciary?

I see no government enforcement in our law and order in the country, what I notice is innumerable petty states that divide people into race and color based independent political unit. Too weak to keep their followers secured but clouded enough to patrol so-called “Leaders” of the followers who just wrench to win one's rights from another.Whereas in Qur'an it is stated in a few beautiful words that utter this weakening:

"You were on the brink of a pit of fire…" [The Qur'an, 3:103.]

A modern writer writes it as Ins and Outs of Mesopotamia: "A more disunited people it would be hard to find, till, suddenly, the miracle took place. A man arose who, by his personality and by his claims to direct divine guidance, actually brought about the impossible, namely the union of all these warring factions."

Why a gender superior on another?

I mean what the hell? A 3 yr old little baby girl being raped and killed, a woman shoot down for getting married to one she ever wanted to get married in her life or a mother of 12 children being head and brow shaved by his husband. Why don’t you go through the Holy Book left back for the guidance and read to the Quranic injunctions,

"Women shall have the same rights over men as men have over them," [The Qur'an, 2:228.]

Why can’t you obey to what Our Holy Prophet (May Peace Be Upon Him) said:

"The best of you is he who treats his wife best."

What would you ever get through such cold-blooded brutalities can’t you memorize that in the dark ages of Arab same was demised, at a single stroke, by the Quranic words:

"And when the one buried alive is asked for what sin she was killed …" [The Qur'an, 81: 8 and 9.]

I am afraid to see that Jahalat in the Ummah of Holy Prophet (S.A.W) more to say and ask for.

HOPE

2011-09-05T20:22:00.000+05:00

What love is? I wondered.Love is a forever theme in literary world.It seemed that their love stories were heartrending but beautiful.Can that be true in real life? But I heard so many men betrayed their families.So did my friends.In my opinion,man is a symbol of uncertainty and isn’t worth being trust.I don’t believe in love,even though I haven’t experienced it yet.Who can tell me what love is?Can love be eternal?

If you are in bad mood,and have the grey feelings,what will you do?how can you get rid of it? today,one of my best friends sent a message to me ,said: hei,i am sad now.i asked,why?what happened? she could not tell anything at first and then told me about her BF.and unfortunately,i was unhappy either at that time,I did not know what should i do,but i had to comfort her..

Sometimes,it is very hard to make a decision,but we have to be up against it ,for me,It is not worthy to be upset for the one who is not worth for my love yes hope is everywhere. If you just lost it, find it somewhere else. There will be a day in the future that you find yourself reaching the line as well as others.It doesn't have to be based on how well your previous job is done but just a belief, a firm belief that you will make it.Even thought it’s a belief, it works out well.

I trusted myself and every trouble disappeared. So everyone, trust yourself.Tell yourelf that Everything is going to be fine I am here once again, leaving this note to everyone, only to tell people including me that try to image hope as a star. When you someday can’t see it up in the sky at night, try another night.There will always be one time when you find it and get it.

From Heart

2011-09-03T20:35:00.000+05:00

Life is short, and we all need to step back and realize how great it really can be.

Be optimistic. Think of life in the best way possible, bright side and find the better side of every situation. You would be amazed at how much more there is to life than the negative.

Live every moment to the fullest. Don’t waste a single second being sad, bored, or lonely. Get out there and dance, and sing as if no one was around. You never know how much longer you have to do so.

Laugh often. This is possibly the most important point in this how-to guide. Laughter is the number one most important thing in life. Laugh much, and smile often.

Live in the present. Forget about the past, as there is nothing you can do about it. Don’t worry about the future, as what is to come is to come, and if you forget to live in the moment, you would be surprised at how quickly time can slip.

Be kind to everyone. Kindness is the key to unlocking your own happiness and joy. If others notice your kindness, they will gratefully return it. Make as many close friends as you can, and help them when they are down, as you never know when you will need them to catch you.

Find a Partner. Find someone to love can be very hard however just be patient and maybe that special person will come along.