Life For Rent

Believe it or not

2013-02-17T14:38:00.000+05:00

The most difficult word these days is BELIEF!!! We believe in others but fail to believe in ourselves ,fail to carve out our actual persona and believe in others and their customs that makes us disguised as beings that remain undefined though.

We believe in gossips but we turn deaf ear to the actual truths and facts in our vicinity due to which we though become popular among gossipers in having the latest fakes about our own friends yet we lose respect this way somehow!!!
We believe in what is taught to us by media and we regret to believe the teachings of our own parents as we consider it painduism these days listening to them!!

We believe in words of those who are pompous who dress well who spend well however we deny to believe even the right words of those who appear simple3,modest or mediocre!!
We believe in what is shown to us and not on what we can see by our own eyes!!

We believe in what we are made to listen and not what we can hear ourselves!!!
We believe in thoughts that are in our favor always and hardly believe in those that can favor others!!!

Its true!!! Believe it or not!!!

GUEST POST by Celebrity Stylist Anya Sarre

2013-01-25T15:46:00.003+05:00

Anya Sarre is one of Hollywood’s most influential trendsetters. A nationally recognized celebrity stylist, Sarre is known for her impeccable eye and ability to tie any look together with the perfect accessory. Named “Best Television Fashion Stylist” for her appearances on Entertainment Tonight, The Insider and countless other media outlets, Sarre is the go-to fashion expert for Hollywood’s biggest celebrities.

Personal Style Doesn't Have to Cost a Pretty Penny
A new year and new looks go hand in hand. As the winter awards season begins, stars aren’t the only ones looking for fresh fashions and red-carpet looks. Whether or not you have deep pockets this year, you too can join the trendy fun.

Online Resources
Whether you’re still searching for your personal style or simply want to update your look for 2013, there are plenty of online resources available to help. A quick quiz on StyleMint will help you find your fashion niche and point you toward vogue outfits and accessories you’re sure to love. Once you choose a few basics, move on to sites like Stella & Dot and ShoeDazzle to discover the hottest designs in jewelry and shoes for affordable prices. You can even save more money by hosting a Stella & Dot trunk show to earn great rewards. Your skin is a valuable accessory too, so be sure to keep it looking fresh with cosmetics from places like Birchbox.

Retail Outlets
Sometimes the best shopping experience is in person. For retail options that won’t break the bank, try a trip to the outlet mall. Outlet stores for retailers such as H&M and Forever 21 both offer fabulous designs at low prices while still providing quality products and services.

DIY Accessories
Accessories are a great way to revitalize your look without spending a lot of money. This season, well-crafted handmade accessories are particularly popular. Search for ideas online. Places such as Pinterest have a wealth of photos and instructions for projects sure to add flair to your fashion.

You don’t have to have a movie star’s budget to get hot new looks for the New Year. Spend a little time shopping and add a little ingenuity to find great looks for less. Turning heads has never been this easy.

Love or Arrange?

2013-01-13T22:14:00.001+05:00

Love it in a way that you get it perfectly arranged!!! Or Arrange it should be an arranged in a manner that the relation gets perfectly loved!!!

Whether love or arrange ,the terminal to be reached is to have marriage and not only for the sake of a social custom but must be meant and lived in actual sense then.It is we who define it in different words,color it in different abstracts,portray it in different shapes and carve it in our own ways else it embraces a very sweet meaning i-e happiness.If it is a love marriage than it should not be only a mere premarital infatuation that lasts after a few post marital months:)It should then be loved in a way that the actual depths of the relation are taken to the levels of eternity and sinctuality with an essence of love and care and fragrance of warmth ,loyalty and affection.

The word Marriage itself if peeped into thoroughly reveals a great charisma,affection and care which needs to be practically applied and lived these days.Love !! If this is how you define your marriage than love it to the level where compromisation,understanding,affection must be persistent throughout making it a bond that is divine closure of two souls,minds and hearts that work always in collaboration with each other.

Arrange!! If this is your type of marriage than arrangement must be to the peaks where the best arrangements of affairs happen persistently among both families without any discriminating factors,without any superiority/inferiority complexes that pose the greatest hurdles between two extremes and there must be no trait and materialistic dominance too.

It is a beautiful relation that must be resistant to an extent that must be soft between two souls but strong enough that no foreign particles outside elements can penetrate its depths for any damage,no environmental features can affect the longevity or durability of its bondage , no words not even swords could influence it in any negative manner.

So Love or Arrange???

Still thinking???? :))

The formula is as follows!!!!

LOVE+ ARRANGE = LO + VE + ARRANGE ( the best possible relation for our selves)

TUTTY FRUITY

2012-12-30T19:13:00.000+05:00

How shapes of fruits hide in them the clue of their importance to our healthy bodies?

THINK AND COMPARE WHILE READING:)

GRAPES: Their shape resemble the alveoli i-e the structural and functional unit of lungs indicating that consumption of grapes prevent any type of lung disorder,keeping them efficient for gaseous exchange. It reduces the risk of development of lung cancer.
TOMATO: If sliced into two pieces ,it appears to have for chambers that relates it to the for chambered heart in humans indicating that it is marvelous for a healthy,efficient heart.
GARLIC: The semi colon like shape of a garlic slice resembles the shape of a human stomach revealing its importance for healthy stomach ,no constipation,no bowel irregularities.
BANANA: If its shape is carefully looked at then it resembles a brilliant facial expression i-e smile:) It reduces hypertension,depression and helps to keep the mood light.
WALNUT: Closely resembles a human brain indicating its importance for the development and nourishment of human brain.
CASHEW NUT: It resembles a kidney and must be consumed to reduce the risk of kidney disorders including failures and stones.
ALMOND: WOW!! resemble eyes,the most beautiful and prominent facial feature the beauty and luster of which can be enhanced by consuming almonds occasionally.
APPLE: close analysis reveals its resemblance to human cheeks;) indicating that it is best and a must for a beautiful,rosy face:)

THINK FRUITFUL :)

‘Twilight’ series – Breaking Dawn Part 2

2012-11-24T17:14:00.000+05:00

Goodbye Jacob. So long Edward. Good luck Bella. Sometimes its hard to say goodbye, its hard to wrap-up a story, luckily Director Bill Condon found a way to do both in “The Twilight Saga: Breaking Dawn – Part 2″… its actually the best movie in the franchise with more action and significantly less angst.

Warning to parents: “Breaking Dawn Part 2″ is rated PG-13 for sequences of violence including disturbing images, some sensuality and partial nudity. But mostly for the fantasy violence that can be disturbing and gruesome.

“Breaking Dawn Part 2″ continues the style of lots of standing around and talking about what is going to happen, has happened, or will happen. Gone are all the angst – thank you – and a lot of “longing” … close ups and tracking shots around our main characters who are just staring off camera. We get moments of humor from different characters… but this time around, the audience is laughing more at the intended jokes than at the movie itself. There are still several issues that keep this movie from entering any discussion of “best movies of 2012″… let’s start with the biggest elephant in the room: the CGI effects for baby Renesmee in the early scenes are ridiculous and distracting!! Its clear that a baby would not make faces like that … its clear that its CGI… it destroys the moment of “cuteness” and family bonding and replaces it with the “what the heck” feeling I had the first time I saw the talking baby commercials during the Super Bowl.

Let’s be honest… I am not the target audience and I didn’t read the books… but we still get a lot of adolescent dialogue and some of the acting is still a little stiff (Kellan Lutz as Emmett Cullen) or over-the-top (Michael Sheen as crazy/maniacal Aro). I feel like they and other characters could have had more depth and be more relatable if you make them more human… so much of this script/concept could have been punched up more and made stronger with a dedicated person, maybe a writer on the outside of this production.

I did like that there was considerably more action and less romance… although its still in there, just less of it… in a different, more grown up way. I love that Bella is not so mopey anymore. Edward and Jacob almost have this Han/Lando old buddies/rivals relationship going – like they don’t completely trust each other – but they know they need to for everything to work out. I also liked that the final climatic scenes are troubling — putting the heroes in peril… as we’ve seen in other great movie franchises… challenging your main characters and seeing how they respond builds depth and makes the characters more interesting.Many scenes towards the end are quite violent and gruesome/brutal/disturbing action sequences – as many death scenes are in supernatural fantasy movies – that could be nightmarish for the younger ones.

The apparent twist ending had some fans in the audience gasping… but I thought it was interesting and refreshing for the Twilight series to do something slightly different. But don’t worry Twi-hards – I’m told its in the book – you just have to kinda read between the lines and find it… and all the fans at the screening I attended didn’t really have a problem with it.Fans will love “Breaking Dawn Part 2″… its a solid way to wrap up the series. Including a video yearbook style montage just before the end credits set to (another reference) Christina Perri’s song “A Thousand Years”. It features a cast roll with names and images of all the characters from all 5 movies in the series in ascending order of billing… its a nice touch for the fans.

THE BOTTOM LINE:

“Breaking Dawn Part 2″ is the most entertaining non-angst riddled movie in this often staggering series that took itself too seriously at times with both decent entries and forgettable chapters in this wildly successful and misunderstood franchise that became a worldwide phenomenon …

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The Persuit Of Happyness

2012-11-18T13:46:00.000+05:00

When you get time and you are tired of watching stupid DON, exaggerated romance of twilight and the impossible adventures of mission impossible, do watch “The Pursuit of Hapyness”its an amazing piece of work.Truly practical, this movie is based on the true story of Chris Gardner who crosses the limits of hard work to achieve his position as a stock broker. Its all about the zeal and dedication of this person who works day and night to get himself and his family out of nothingness.Wonderfully presented this movie has exposed how this person defeated all the “extreme” and “impossible to cross” hurdles and how he attains this sky-scraping position where now the world recognizes him. From the homeless, meal less and moneyless darkness of poverty, how this person works to his utmost to be able to afford all in life.This movie illustrates how apart from hard work, our behavior is important in today’s world to move ahead and turn our dreams into reality. All the nerds around who think that just by hard work they can win this world should learn from Chris Gardner who flexibly deals with all the people around him and helps them when he himself have an empty pocket…It’s a good lesson and moral for all those who are good at making excuses that they can’t compete because of the lack of resources. Few amazing lines from the movie which might inspire you are here:

“Hey. Don't ever let somebody tell you... You can't do something. Not even me. All right?”
“That maybe happiness is something that we can only pursue and maybe we can actually never have it.”
“Hey dad, you wanna hear something funny? There was a man, who was drowning, and a boat came, and the man on the boat said "Do you need help?" and the man said "God will save me". Then another boat came and he tried to help him, but he said "God will save me", then he drowned and went to Heaven. Then the man told God, "God, why didn't you save me?" and God said "I sent you two boats, you dummy!"
“The important thing about that freedom train, is it's got to climb mountains. "We ALL have to climb mountains”

Here is a brief review:

Chris Gardner invests his family's savings in bone-density scanners which he tries to sell to doctors. The investment proves to be a failure which financially breaks him. While trying to sell one of his scanners, Chris meets a manager for Dean Witter and impresses him by solving a Rubik's Cube during a short cab ride. This new relationship with the Dean Witter manager earns him the chance to become an intern stockbroker.

Despite arriving there shabbily dressed due to an emergency, Chris is offered the internship. Chris is further set back when his bank account is garnished by the IRS for unpaid taxes, and he and his young son are evicted. As a result they are homeless. Motivation drives him to find the Glide Memorial United Methodist Church .Due to demand for the limited rooms, Chris must frantically race from his internship work early each afternoon in order to land a place in line.

Disadvantaged by his limited work hours, and knowing that maximizing his client contacts and profits is the only way to earn the one paid position that he and his 19 competitors are fighting for, Chris develops a number of ways to make phone sales calls more efficiently. He also reaches out to potential high value customers, defying protocol. Regardless of Chris's challenges, he never reveals his lowly circumstances to his co-workers, even going so far as to lend one of his bosses five dollars for a cab, a sum he can't afford.

Concluding his internship, Chris is called into a meeting with his managers. His work has paid off and he is offered the position.

Islam a religion of peace

2012-11-11T15:51:00.000+05:00

Islam Prohibits Violence and Aggression, and stands for Peace and Justice.

Islam clearly prohibits all kinds and forms of aggression and violence against anyone, except in self-defense. Islam is a practical religion, meant to be implemented in every aspect of our life. Therefore, it realizes the fact that a person who commits aggression and violence against others will not cease these actions unless they are deterred by similar actions taken against them.

Islam also places very high importance on justice, and allows for aggressors and unjust people be punished accordingly, unless they repent before they are brought to justice. At the same time, Islam encourages people to forgive those who have wronged them whenever possible.

Evidence of these ideals can be found in the Holy Qur'an, which is the word of God revealed to the messenger of God, Mohammad peace be upon him. It can also be found in the Hadith, the sayings of Mohammad peace be upon him, and in his teachings to Muslims. A few examples of this are shown below from the Holy Qur'an:

"Fight in the cause of Allah those who fight you, and do not transgress; for Allah loveth not transgressors." (Surah 2, Verse 190).
"But if they cease (fighting you), Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." (Surah 2, Verse 192).
"But if the enemy incline towards peace, do thou (also) incline towards peace, and trust in Allah: for He is the One that Heareth and Knoweth (all things)." (Surah 8, Verse 61).
"The prohibited month, for the prohibited month, and so for all things prohibited, there is the law of equality. If then any one transgresses the prohibition against you, transgress ye likewise against him. But fear Allah, and know that Allah is with those who restrain themselves." (Surah 2, Verse 194).
" ... and let not the hatred of some people in (once) shutting you out of the Sacred Mosque lead you to transgression (and hostility on your part). Help ye one another in righteousness and piety, but help ye not one another in sin and rancour: fear Allah: for Allah is strict in punishment." (Surah 5, Verse 2).
"Nor can Goodness and Evil be equal. Repel (Evil) with what is better: then will he between whom and thee was hatred become as it were thy friend and intimate!" (Surah 41, Verse 34).
"O ye who believe! stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest ye swerve, and if ye distort (justice) or decline to do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do." (Surah 4, Verse 135).
"God advocates justice, charity, and regarding the relatives. And He forbids evil, vice, and transgression. He enlightens you, that you may take heed." (Surah 16, Verse 90).
"And if ye do punish them, punish them no worse than they punished you: but if ye show patience, that is indeed the best (course) for those who are patient." (Surah 16, Verse 126).

The first three verses above instruct Muslims to fight those who fight them, and not to commit aggression first, as God does not like transgressors. They also instruct Muslims to stop fighting those who wish to cease fighting them, and to accept peace with the enemy who becomes inclined towards peace.

The fourth verse mentioned above instructs Muslims that if someone transgresses against them, they should respond to them likewise, and it reminds Muslims to fear God and to restrain themselves to this limit.

The fifth verse reminds Muslims not to let hatred of some people for past reasons to lead them to transgress against those people or be hostile towards them. It also instructs us to help each other in good and righteous actions, and not to cooperate in aggression and sin, and it reminds them finally of the strict punishment of God to encourage them to abide by these principles.

The sixth verse reminds us that goodness and evil are never equal, and that we should repel evil with good actions. This means that when someone is unjust to us or commits evil against us, we are encouraged to respond with kind and good actions, so that the hatred between us and that person will evaporate and will become an intimate friendship!

The seventh verse mentioned reminds us to stand up for justice, even if it is against ourselves or our family, and even if it is against those who are rich or powerful, because justice applies to everyone. It also reminds us that God knows everything we do, and so if we act unjustly even in our hearts, God knows what we did and we will be accountable for that.

The eighth verse informs us that God enjoins us to follow justice, and that God forbids us from committing evil, vice and transgression.

The ninth and final verse reminds Muslims that if they are punished, that they may only respond with the same punishment and not to go over this limit. However, they are reminded that forgiveness and patience is the best course of action.

These are the wonderful ideals of Islam:

To pursue peace with everyone including past enemies, except when they fight the Muslims and refuse peace, then Muslims are allowed to fight in self-defense.
To ensure that we always apply justice and never transgress against others even if they are our enemies.
To repel evil actions with good actions, in order to replace hatred with an intimate friendship.
To respond to punishment with the same punishment, but that forgiveness and patience is even better than retaliation.

When are Muslims Permitted to Fight a War?

As stated earlier, Islam is a very practical religion. It is not just about fake ideals that do not work. It is a religion that is meant to be implemented 100% in all actions of the Muslims life, and it is meant to promote peace and justice in the world.

Therefore, Islam does allow Muslims to go to war, as mentioned earlier, in certain circumstances. This includes self-defence, and to remove aggression and injustice that has befallen people and to save them from their oppressors. The verses that tell Muslims to fight those who fight them were mentioned earlier. Below is the verse in the holy Qur'an that allows Muslims to fight against injustice.

"Permission [to fight] is granted to those who are being persecuted, since injustice has befallen them, and God is certainly able to support them [with victory].

They were evicted from their homes unjustly, for no reason other than saying, "Our Lord is God." If it were not for God's supporting of some people against others, monasteries, churches, synagogues, and mosques - where the name of God is commemorated frequently - would have been destroyed. Absolutely, God supports those who support Him. God is Powerful, Almighty." (Surah 22, Verses 39-40).

This verse gives permission to those Muslims who fall under oppressive, unjust rule, and those Muslims who are being persecuted to fight to remove this oppression.

Does Islam Permit Killing Civilians?

Even in times of war, the Muslim must respect his adversaries? humanity. Brutal and barbaric atrocities are prohibited in Islam. Islam condemns barbaric killing of any human being. Therefore, Islam does not permit the mutilation of the bodies of the dead enemy soldiers.

Also, Islam prohibits the targeting and killing of all civilians, especially women, children, the elderly, and religious clergy. Enemies, even at time of war, must be treated justly. Prisoners of war have basic human rights, as stated in the Shariah (Islamic Law), and must be provided and cared for and not humiliated in any way.

The following verses touch on some of these issues:

"O Prophet! say to those who are captives in your hands: If Allah findeth any good in your hearts, He will give you something better than what has been taken from you, and He will forgive you: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." (Surah 8, Verse 70).
And they feed, for the love of Allah, the indigent, the orphan, and the captive, (Saying), We feed you for the sake of Allah alone: no reward do we desire from you, nor thanks." (Surah 76, Verses 8-9).

In addition, the following were the instructions of Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) to Muslims who are forced to fight a war:

"Do not kill women or children or non-combatants and do not kill old people or religious people,'' and he mentioned priests, nuns and rabbis. And he said, "Do not cut down fruit-bearing trees and do not poison the wells of your enemies."

There are many more sayings and teachings of Prophet Mohammad that instruct Muslims on these issues.

In addition to all this, Islam prohibits oppression, revenge or injustice to the people of the enemy in case of victory against them. Nor must there be control over the sources of the wealth of the nation or people, or even establishment of colonial regimes. Justice and freedom must be established. Tolerance towards cultures and peoples is to be respected at all times.

And finally, we greet everyone with the greeting of Islam:
Assalamu Alaikum (Peace be upon you!).

yes it's , early Muslims and Muslims today have lived alongside non-Muslims in peace , that doesn't mean however that a Muslim can't defend himself like any other man, a Muslim should defend his rights and also respect the rights of others .

Malala Yousafzai The Hidden Truth

2012-10-21T12:37:00.000+05:00

Today the world and especially the whole Pakistani nation is forced to make their mind set that Malala Yousafzai is the girl of the nation, she is the star and she represents Pakistani women. Let me clear, who is making Malala famous, who is giving you ideas and reports regarding Malala? Yes it is no other than media. Think for a while, there is no Malala and everyone is busy in showing hatred against the anti Islam film. The image of America in Pakistani society is going towards downfall. People in the form of rallies discouraging drone attacks. Our media is on the forefront in the cause.

Just if you are wondering, pic on left appeared in British Media today.

What happened next? Suddenly Malala Yousafzai appeared on the scene media reported she was attacked in Swat while going to school with her fellows. Of course when so ever there comes such news that 14 years old girl shot by someone, this thing must be condemned by everyone. Why Malala was attacked so late, after a year ago after operation Swat? Why she was attacked soon after the release of anti-Islamic film. Why media is giving so much hype to the issue? Why Obama shared words for Malala, why she always appeared in the pictures with American people? Why Chief of Army Staff is visiting Malala? Why ISPR is giving messages for Malala’s health?

Yes these are the questions that one should think with open mind. Most of you must have remembered the incident of Arfa Kareem, yet there was coverage but no political and army official was involved on such a wide scale. There was no such support from America. Media is working on its theory known as Magic Bullet Theory, forcefully it is taking attention of people from one issue to another that is in the benefit of America. There is no single person who can think over the strategies behind. Take the case of Mukhtara Mai, all was scam but she got famous just because of American support. So this is the background.

We here are not disgracing Malala, she is truly a face of proud for Pakistan and we are praying for her health. What do you think, is this attack is done by Taliban? The responsibility of this act is taken by Taliban, as Hamid Mir receives a text from the group. On the other hand Rehman Malik is saying that there is a new Talbanic group who is accepting the responsibility. We are now forced to think that this is just an American propaganda, everything is clear from the back ground picture, the present scenario and who will get benefit from all this.

Why the other girls that were with Malala not given an appropriate coverage by media. They were also injured. There are lots of questions that must be answered by our politicians and media.

Now after this Malala incident:

Are you against the killing of Talibans?
Now do you remember the past reaction of anti-Islamic film that was created by Americans?
Do you think there should be drone attacks for the killing of Talibans

Readers,What do you think Malala Yousafzai incident has created soft corner for America in Pakistan. It is all due to Media and with the help of few corrupt politicians. We people are being used in the hands of media. The innocent proud of Pakistan is working for America, although she is unaware of the fact. We have found some pictures, on which we don’t want to comment. The decision of truthfulness of this case is on the judgement of readers. We are neutral neither supporting Talibans nor do Americans. These are just facts; we are not giving conclusion for this it is up to the readers what they takes out from the whole story. PAKISTAN ZINDABAD!!

Touching one

2012-10-13T20:33:00.000+05:00

It was a sports stadium.

Eight Children were standing on the track to
participate in the running event.

* Ready! * Steady! * Bang !!!

With the sound of Toy pistol, all eight girls started running.

Hardly have they covered ten to fifteen steps, one of the smaller girls slipped and fell down,

due to bruises and pain she started crying .

When

other seven girls heard this sound, stopped running, stood for a while and

turned back, they all ran back to the place where the girl fell down.

One among them bent, picked and kissed the girl gently and enquired

Now pain must have reduced . All seven girls lifted the fallen girl, pacified

her, two of them held the girl firmly and they all seven joined hands

together and walked together and reached the winning post.

Officials were shocked. Clapping of thousands of spectators filled the stadium.

Many eyes were filled with tears and perhaps it had reached the GOD even!

YES. This happened in Hyderabad [INDIA], recently!

The sport was conducted by National Institute of Mental Health.

All these special girls had come to participate in this event and they are spastic children.

Yes, they were mentally retarded Challenged.

What did they teach this world?

Teamwork?
Humanity?
Equality among all?????

Successful people help others who are slow in learning so that they are not felt far behind.

We cant do this ever because we have brains!!!!!!!!!

Live Streaming ICC WORLD CUP T20

2012-09-30T12:04:00.000+05:00

Human Brain Analysis - Man vs. Woman

2012-09-19T11:46:00.000+05:00

1. MULTI-TASKING

Women - Multiple process
Women's brains designed to concentrate multiple task at a time.
Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook.
Men - Single Process
Mens brains designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men can not watch TV and talk over the phone at the same time. they stop the TV while Talking. They can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.

2. LANGUAGE

Women can easily learn many languages. But can not find solutions to problems.
Men can not easily learn languages, they can easily solve problems. That's why in average a 3 years old girl has three times higher vocabulary than a 3 years old boy.

3. ANALYTICAL SKILLS

Mens brains has a lot of space for handling the analytical process. They can analyze and find the solution for a process and design a map of a building easily. But If a complex map is viewed by women, they can not understand it. Women can not understand the details of a map easily, For them it is just a dump of lines on a paper.

4. CAR DRIVING.

While driving a car, mans analytical spaces are used in his brain. He can drive a car fastly. If he sees an object at long distance,immediately his brain classifies the object (bus or van or car) direction and speed of the object and he drives accordingly. Where woman take a long time to recognize the object direction/ speed. Mans single process mind stops the audio in the car (if any), then concentrates only on driving.

5. LYING

When men lie to women face to face, they get caught easily. Woman's super natural brain observes facial expression 70%, body language 20% and words coming from the mouth 10%. Mens brain does not have this. Women easily lie to men face to face.So guys, do not lie face to face.

6. PROBLEMS SOLVING

If a man have a lot of problems, his brain clearly classifies the problems and puts them in individual rooms in the brain and then finds the solution one by one. You can see many guys looking at the sky for a long time. If a woman has a lot of problems, her brain can not classify the problems. she wants some one to hear that. After telling everything to a person she goes happily to bed. She does not worry about the problems being solved or not.

7. WHAT THEY WANT

Men want status, success, solutions, big process, etc... But Women want relationship, friends,family, etc...

8. UNHAPPINESS

If women are unhappy with their relations, they can not concentrate on their work. If men are unhappy with their work, they can not concentrate on the relations.

9. SPEECH

Women use indirect language in speech. But Men use direct language.

10. HANDLING EMOTION

Women talk a lot without thinking. Men act a lot without thinking

Birds of Prey

2012-09-02T22:10:00.000+05:00

Language is not neutral. The words used by a person determine their attitude and experience. This is done through their ideology, which is expressed through language. Ideology can be considered as a world view, something that reveals attitude and identity about the person that is writing. It can also be perceived as a set of beliefs. For this reason, language is not neutral. It is a system of meanings which is used to represent and express meanings about their worlds. Therefore language is the means through which ideology is articulated, so control through language is possible. Language is a key instrument in propagating ideological framework. The term for this is ‘ideological control,’ something that the media thrives from.

News is altered. The viewers or readers will not receive the news in its purest form. Modifications have been made to the information that is presented. Language is cleverly composed through connotations in order for the media to convey their beliefs. This is why certain stories are foreground and others exaggerated, in order to influence and thrust upon us, a biased ideology. Newspapers can be divisive; they are substantially opinionated due to the editorial freedom that they encompass. Newspapers are local or national, whereas broadcasting is global. They are guaranteed more viewers, if the broadcast is reaching more people; there is a restriction on what can be said. The news is carefully constructed.

The news editors rework stories in order to make them more suitable for the general public. They encompass the power to feature whatever they want and by deciding what to feature, they are assuming what the public values are. They determine what is and should be accepted. The newspapers provide readers with a prejudiced view of the world; certain information is transformed and suppressed. In terms of news that is broadcast on TV, this can be separated into an animator, author and principal. The animator is the reporter you will see on the television screen, the person that is telling the story. The author refers to the person that essentially wrote the story that is being reported. Finally there is the principal, the person whose interests are being represented. This is what most people do not understand. There is always a principal. Somebody’s interests are always being represented through each story.

Ordering of events is significant, along with the layout of the article. Headlines are designed to fixate you; your initial impression will influence your understanding of the article. Therefore the headline is always biased because your interpretation of the headline will manipulate your comprehension of the story. There is a logical relationship. Repetition is used to emphasis the negativity of events, a way for the media to thrust their ideology onto you. The actual event structure is noteworthy. It is not a chronological story, from beginning to end. The main controversial event will open the story and even then, only certain information will be selected and included. Sometimes a circumstance or background is shortened and other information can be eliminated, causing the story to lose its entire meaning.

Positioning of newspapers can also be influential. A newspaper may include a story on the left side of the paper, about a negative event involving asylum seekers, such as an attack where the asylum seeker is the attacker. On the right side of the paper, there may be a separate story about how the number of asylum seekers in the Pakistan is increasing. Of course you will be influenced by what you have just read on the left side of the paper.

Language used to describe events can influence our understanding. Hyperbole is evidentially used in stories, hyperbole meaning exaggeration. Newspapers either construct stories to be extreme or sympathetic. The numbers within stories are also exaggerated or understated. For example when a natural disaster occurs, one newspaper will write ‘more than 1000 have been killed,’ whereas another newspaper will write ‘at least 1000 have been killed.’ The difference between ‘more than’ and ‘at least,’ is significant because one is downplaying the numbers and the other exaggerating. The way in which the media constructs events, influences the way that we perceive the event. Their choice of wording causes the reader to comprehend the event in the way the media intends us to. For example when words such as ‘suggest,’ ‘claim’ or ‘possibility’ are incorporated into stories, they demonstrate uncertainty; these words weaken the story.

The media implies rather than directly addressing something, known as an elocutionary act. The media has not directly referred to Muslims as being terrorists; however it has strongly been made implicit through the use of language and information that has been fore grounded. For example when someone has been arrested on suspicion of committing a terrorist attack, the fact that this person is Muslim will be the first detail that is emphasized. Another example would be how a boy is only referred to as a ‘Young Muslim’ when discussing a trial about terrorism. Without a mention of his name or who he is, his identity is taken away and his voice is silenced. The fact that it is only his religion which is emphasized and fore grounded, demonstrates how the media continue to construct the perception of Muslims being terrorists, strengthening the beliefs that may already be embedded in the mind of the reader. Islam is presented to be depraved regardless of the lack of direct accusations by the media.

The media uses inclusive pronouns such as ‘us’ and ‘them,’ which signifies a boundary between the civil and the savage. The good versus the bad. For example America would be considered as ‘us’ and the terrorists would be considered as ‘them.’ ‘Barbaric’ defines the terrorists pessimistically, whereas the Americans are referred to as being ‘heroic.’ In stories, words such as ‘we’ are used to imply unity, ‘they’ will be referred to with negative connotations. This is especially the case when it comes to writing about asylum seekers. Britain will be written about using words such as ‘our’ and ‘yours’ whereas the asylum seekers are referred to as ‘they.’ They are socially distanced through words. Readers are included within the story by ‘we’ and ‘our.’ There is a technique used which is where positive information about ‘us’ is emphasized, and the negative information about ‘them.’ This is to make ‘us’ sound better and to portray ‘them’ negatively. However the negative information ‘us’ is suppressed, as well as the positive information about ‘them.’ This is in order for ‘us’ to be portrayed positively and for ‘them’ to remain negative. The idea of ‘us’ and ‘them’ have been used for racism purposes, along with metaphors. A study that took place in America demonstrated that the Los Angeles Times likened immigrants to animals without actually referring to them as animals. As they were not specifically being racist, people did not perceive this to be a problem. However something that is common, even amongst people we deal with daily, is apparent denial. This is when they say ‘I’m not racist but…’ and they follow this with a racist remark that can profess their dislike for a particular ethnicity. This can be common in certain newspapers but of course it is always subtle as the media do not directly address anything.

Apart from racism, discrimination against women is common in newspapers. We live in a society that apparently believes in equality, again apparent denial arises. In certain stories, mainly when a woman has been attacked, the attacker can be portrayed in two ways. The first way is by being dehumanized through being referred to as a ‘monster,’ which places the blame of the attack on him. However he could also be referred to with social normality whereby his job and age are given. In this case, he is portrayed as a general person, taking away the blame from him and placing it on the victim. When women are discussed in newspapers, they are referred to by their relationship status, whereas men are referred to by their job and not their home life. News texts are orientated towards a male audience, therefore women are demoted.

There is also the use of an active and passive voice whereby the person in the story is not mentioned specifically by name, to take away the blame from them, or is mentioned to imply blame on that particular individual. The media also have a tendency to attack public figures, pursuing them until a story is found. Newspapers have deadlines; there is always a page that must be filled. Sometimes any story will do, it is the angle they take which will make it interesting, they must construct stories to seem appealing to the reader. Their purpose is to sell more newspapers, not to inform the reader of what is going on in the world. People buy newspapers for different purposes; there is a difference between the audience of the Times and the Sun. Therefore if there are more natural disasters occurring, it does not mean people will buy more newspapers. Most newspapers want to entertain, they want the reader to come back to buy their next paper. They want you to think a certain way.

Now as you read this, you will perceive my own use of ‘us’ and ‘them.’ ‘Us’ being the public and ‘them’ being the media. They are influential, most people are not aware of their power and are brainwashed by everything that they hear and are told. It is up to you to question it. Just like your mother taught you never to listen to gossip, why should you believe everything you are told because it is coming from a more authoritative place? If the Queen began to tell us that the sky is green, would we listen just because she is the Queen? No, because deep down you know the sky is blue. Therefore use your brain and distinguish the truth for yourself. Manipulation does not only involve power, but is an abuse of power and domination. We are being manipulated, and apparently we live in a place of freedom.

Inside Your Head

2012-08-26T16:08:00.000+05:00

I have been meaning to write a blog post for a while, but I have taken a break from my beloved laptop. There is something alluring about the internet that draws you in, slowly, click by click, page by page, causing you to submit yourself to its hold, until the day is over and you have nothing left to give. Eventually you reside inside the screen, imprisoned by your own incessant compulsion.

Upon watching the opening ceremony of the Olympics and seeing the man behind the World Wide Web, I began to ponder about what our existence would have been like without the internet.

There would be a sense of community between ourselves and our neighbors. People would actually visit and talk to each other. We would not feel so compelled to reveal so much about ourselves, but instead would conceal and live in the privacy of our own homes. Marriages would not be destroyed, our relationships would be stronger and easier to maintain. People would have more time to read, to explore and marvel at the beauty of the earth. People would enjoy the smaller moments that build up to exhilaration. They would notice the flowers blossoming in the spring and the color of the sky at sunset. They would listen to the sound of the birds and the drops of rain against their windows. People would live their lives and comprehend what it means to truly live.

The internet does have its advantages, but we have become too fixated with its supremacy, we are disregarding time, our existence, our being. The internet merely sustains but does not cultivate us. Some may argue that it can be used as a means to retain contact, reinforce relationships, thus revoking my words. It can be used as a platform to allow one to depict a different version of who they are in a way that they cannot do in person. The internet can be used as a medium to liberate oneself. It allows one to interact and connect with an international audience, but the internet has introduced a filter through which we now perceive our lives. We have fabricated concepts in our minds of which nothing in our lives can or will measure up to.

Our generation is slowly losing its grasp of reality. Everything is being computerized, modernized and technology is replacing human contact. Our children will live in a world where physical presence is devalued, how will they learn about affection, warmth and love? Technology will become their parents and best friends. It will become their teacher. Their computers will nourish them, and everything will be robotized. The human heart will begin to be upheld by technology, and eventually they will find a way to immortalize their souls. Love and air will be bottled and sold, with added chemicals and artificial sweeteners. Laughter will be bought through vending machines and serenity injected into the bloodstream by a manufactured android.

The internet is a revolution, but we must take time to detach ourselves from its hold and revel in who we are. Our perception of reality is already distorted by prejudice, we will lose our hearts and souls if we are not careful, we will lose our lives, let go.

Ek Tha Tiger : Review

2012-08-20T11:22:00.003+05:00

A huge fan I am of the actor Salman Khan, but as asked by my friends for an unbiased review (i.e. assuming it was just another actor and not THE Salman Khan) here it goes:

5 stars is what I would give it just after recalling Salman's face once, but "committing" to my promise as stated above, I am giving it somewhere between 4 and 4.5 stars. Now, I know that many critics have given it 3 stars but ignoring every other review or the star's charisma I give it a 4 that goes solely to the movie. One star I have deducted because the dialogues at the very first scene did not live up-to my expectations. Nor was Salman looking his very best (I felt like he was having a cold or the likes of that). The action scenes were not over shown or dramatic like that of Bodyguard’s (albeit it came as a nice surprise to me). But the unexpected twists and turns after the interval of the movie are what made the movie one of a kind. You would expect something to happen while the opposite happens. I could feel the people sitting around me thrilled and anticipating. When Zoya (Katrina’s character) was shot the whole audience of the Hall was praying to let her not die. When Salman was shot in an unexpected situation the whole audience let aloud a gasp in unison. When they succeeded the whole audience clapped and rejoiced. Such things are what make a movie a great one.

Katrina has done a commendable job in the movie. The stunts pulled by her were worth applauding. It is undoubtedly her best. Salman was again in a different character with a different attitude than the characters of his previous movies. The recent Salman Khan movies were all blockbusters. This was supposed to be one too. And no matter how it turns out for other viewers I would say it has the most gripping story than all the other ones. No one seemed willing to miss any part of it. There was hurry among all in the snacks’ queue during the interval. After the 2.5 hours, everyone came out of the Hall with a smile.

I would, finally, conclude that it was worth my 200 bucks. I would have been missing a great deal if I didn’t go for the show. And no matter what, like all Salman Khan Movies, the Hall was full packed with a cheerful cloud.

To See You Smile

2012-08-07T20:58:00.001+05:00

People always ask how I feel about broadcasting my life on the internet; the truth is that this genuinely does not bother me. I have stopped caring about what everybody else thinks. I will wear what I want and do what I want. I see no reason to fear people. These rules that you are too scared to break, have been created by people, what makes them superior? I am conscious not to offend anybody, or to provide too much detail about people in my life, but otherwise I write here unreservedly.

My honesty and openness is for one reason only. As a teenager, I did not have anybody in my life to guide me through my trials. I found myself incessantly wishing that I had somebody to teach me how to deal with my affliction, to listen, to remind me that everything would be okay. I wanted a person to ensure that things would get better and that they could say this with sincerity because they had been through it too. I wanted them to make me feel hopeful, because as long as I felt that bit of hope, I would have something to hold on to. Sadly, I did not have that person; I struggled through the misery alone, so now if I can, I would like to be that person for you. I want to help you in any way possible. I want to give you hope and tell you that everything will be okay, because it will.

The abyss is terrifying, drawing you in until you fall hard against the arctic base of sorrow. You will lay there, only just breathing, but dead inside. Your fingertips are comatose, you feel nothing, you see nothing, you hear nothing, you become, nothing. Everybody is unfamiliar, and ignorant of your animate corpse. Life becomes a series of moving images, each meaningless and an amputation of existence. Death is your only liberty, the piercing of melancholy so deep within your soul that each breath becomes a punishment.

Losing hope is the most horrifying experience of ones life. The only people that agree with this are those that once experienced this loss. For those of you that are shaking your head at this current moment, stop for a second. Think about how low one would have to feel, to want to take their own life, to lose every bit of attachment to people, to have no reason to stay alive. Even my words cannot capture the depths of this occurrence. It is absolutely petrifying, to believe that one has nobody, to feel that there is nobody on earth that cares, to feel that if you died, nobody would notice, to feel so alone that you cry yourself to sleep each night. This feeling itself is the pain; it infiltrates your body until you forget what pleasure feels like. You can no longer describe it, you can no longer feel it; you enter a state of anaesthesia.

You lose your confidence, your self-worth, you lose everything. You lose it so quickly that you do not even realize when it became absent. You stop talking to people, you hide away, and in doing so, nobody takes any notice anymore. Suicide becomes a daily thought; you contemplate the different ways to do it. You wonder whether people will come to your funeral, or whether you will just make gossip of the week. You lose awareness of everything but go through the motions of life, as an unresponsive carcass. The signs are evident, but their eyes overlook it. This only deepens the aching and eventually you realize that you really do not matter at all. You search for hope, for something to hold on to, for something to get you through this. There is nothing.

Nobody stops to ask how you are, or to tell you that you will be okay; in fact nobody even apprehends that something is wrong. There is only one way out. Only one way to stop the pain, to relieve yourself, to put an end to everything.

The distressing thing is that this is so much more common than you can comprehend. In fact, somebody is going through this right now, and they need someone to tell them to be strong, and that they just need to hold on because it will get better. This person could be in your house, they could pass you in the street, serve you in a shop, stop their car to let you pass, this could be anybody. This is one of the reasons that I deem it so important to be nice to people, to be nice to everybody. You honestly have no idea what someone is going through. When you smile at them, or give them kind words, it could affect them more than you know. It could make them feel hopeful, and in that situation, these tiny gestures are everything. I remember all those times that strangers would smile at me on the street, and how for a second, I believed that maybe everything would be fine. It helped, if even for that moment.

When someone is rude to you, pause, and contemplate what could have made them act that way. What could they be going through?

No matter what you are going through, or what you will go through, remember that everything eventually passes, and this too, will pass. You may forget what it feels like to be happy, but the most important thing to do on these occasions, is to remember what you have. It is difficult to feel lucky when you believe that you have nothing, but the smallest of things can make a difference. For me, it was a significant moment that truly made me evaluate myself.

Things slowly became clear, but I had to rebuild myself. I had to recreate friendships and start over. but the important notion was to believe that I was blessed. Now, when I become upset, I immediately think of my blessings and the predicament seems minute. I use this experience to remind myself that I can overcome anything. Feeling that low was one of the most difficult times of my life, but here I am, alhamdulillah. If I can do it, so can you.

You need to feel good about yourself again, do something that once made you happy. Visit places from your childhood. Get out of your current surrounding. In time, the sadness dies and you'll come back to life.

I have said this before, but I strongly want to emphasis it again. If you ever need someone to talk to, or somebody to listen, Feel free to email me, I would love to help.

Excellent Life Plan

2012-07-26T23:54:00.000+05:00

1st: Make peace with your past so that it doesn't screw up the present.

2nd: what other people think of you is none of your business.

3rd: Time heals almost everything. Give it time.

4th: The person responsible for your happiness is you yourself.

5th: Don't compare your life with others and don't judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

6th: Stop thinking too much, its good not to know all the answers.

I also want to dedicate a poem for my those charming friends whom I really love and for those who wants me to be with them..:)

"To see you hurt..To see you cry...Makes me weep & Wanna die,

IF you agree to never fight It wouldn't matter Who's wrong or right,

If a broken heart needs a mend I'll be right there Till the end,

If your cheeks are so wet from drops of tears don't worry let go away your fears,

Hand in hand love is sent we'll be friends Till the end ..!:)"

A Very good relationship needs just two things, A little time to be spent together & A true care to be shown forever...:) Remember Allah's blessings always come as a surprise, Which r Unexpected, UN-calculated, UN-estimated and beyond our eligibility. The amount of these blessings u receive, Depends upon, how much your heart believes! So always expect more from your beloved Allah. May you b blessed beyond your expectations.....!Ameen..!

Does The Dark Knight Rise?

2012-07-23T20:19:00.002+05:00

So don’t get me wrong or offer me the choice of being in a comatose state for the rest of my life, The Dark Knight Rises was a visual treat. It defied physics, the entire concept of gravity; it threw in, for good measure, love, loss and angst. It also defied the plot of the original D.C comic. Unfortunately, it also defied logic and the power of the human anatomy but what the heck, he’s Batman.

The Dark Knight set out to reconcile issues that emerged in the previous two installments. We often live in awe of the past; similarly, I lived in the awe of Christopher Nolan’s previous Batman films, namely Batman Begins and The Dark Knight. I entered a multiplex with a deep sense of emotional loss; quite reasonably, I had invested a good part of my adult life looking forward to what Nolan had to offer and also secretly fantasizing about the many, many things I could do to Christian Bale. It was culminating into an end of epic proportions and I didn’t know what to expect. Walk in; I did, armed with a heavy heart and a keen eye.

The movie started predictably enough with Harvey Dent’s death anniversary at the Wayne Manor. The phrase, The Dent Act was thrown around quite often as I recall. Jim Gordon takes the podium and delivers a speech characteristic only to the Jim Gordon, we have grown to adore. Bruce Wayne has locked himself up in the Wayne Manor because of Rachael and Dent’s death and is a shadow of his former self, Alfred seems pleased enough. While poor Brucie is locked up in his fabled tower, Selena Kyle, popularly known as Cat Woman, decides to make a play at burgling Wayne Manor; but to what effect, that remains to be seen.

At this particular juncture of the film, the plot starts to thicken and consequently, becomes rather gluggy. Bane, prodigy of Ra’s Al Ghul, decides to terrorize Gotham City and sets up camp in the sewers below Wayne Enterprises; Selena Kyle is in search for a program called the ‘Clean Slate’ which lead her to make some questionable choices. How these sub-plots are connected, no one will ever know. It is like Nolan took a leaf out of Don McLean’s book. In this stage of the plot’s exposition, Batman meets Bane, the physicality of the fight left the audience gasping. Batman is pushed to his absolute limit which lands him a spot in Lazarus Pit. While our beloved superhero lies in the bowels of hell, Bane wages a nuclear war and a rebellion to boot. In the whole scheme of things, the entire police force of Gotham City is barricaded in a sewer. Really, I am not making this up.

A long story short, Wayne gets out of the underground prison, finds his way back to Gotham City rescues a whole bunch of people and realizes Bane is just a love sick puppy fighting a war for Ra’s Al Ghul’s true born. Whether or not, Batman survives this ordeal is best left undisclosed. Oh also, Selena Kyle has a thing for Batman.

What worked?

The cinematic magnitude of the film was, for the lack of a better word, wow.
Christian Bale
Christopher Nolan
Anne Hathaway
Christian Bale (Yes, this is by no means a mistake)
Bane’s back story delivered in the most palatable way there could be

What didn’t work?

A rather indisposed Gordon rises from his hospital bed and fights off two heavy handed thugs twice his size. I love Gordan, I really do but sometimes the imagination is overwrought with logic.
This isn’t my opinion, it is a genuine question. How exactly did Bane sneak bikes into the Stock Exchange without being noticed and more importantly, even if he did, why did his rookies have to come back out and sneak back in? It tires me to type it out; can you imagine what the scriptwriter was on?
Call me out on this one but how exactly did Wayne’s backbone get fixed in Lazarus Pit, of all places, and by getting punched no less. I mean, he didn’t even have his Bat suit handy.
Batman is left with 12 hours to detonate a bomb and he still had time to set a fiery bat signal on top of the Gotham City Bridge, no less. Dramatic much?
Batman made the time to initiate a rolling in the hay make out session with Selena Kyle. Okay, maybe I’m just jilted.
The rest of the country seemed to be chilling on all accounts when a super villain took over Gotham City. Really? A small television snippet would’ve put my mind to ease.
My last issue, if I can even call it that, is the fact the BatMobile’s tyres spun the way they did. It was amazing and had people’s knickers in a bunch but Physics? No?

So, I have written enough to warrant hate mails and death threats. Having cleared the air, I’d maintain that The Dark Knight Rises is an intelligent end to the Batman Trilogy, or is it? I’m sorry, Robin’s calling.

I Miss You :(

2012-07-15T22:11:00.000+05:00

I miss you with every sun rise I miss you with every sun set... I miss you at my every step... I miss you with every drive on the road...

I search you by side with my every hand that moves...

I miss you with the gap between fingers and space between my lips… I miss you with my every gulp that I take...

I miss you with every coffee I make... I miss you with any every food that I take… I miss you with every door that opens… I miss you with my eyes open with... I miss you with even eyes closed tight...

My eyes remember your smiling face and they don't blink... They miss you so much that I see you in every object around…

Biggest smile on face as I miss you with every sight of my eyes…Miss you with every thought of my mind…

I miss you with my every heart beat... I miss you with every blood that flows...

I miss you with every second & heart beat of mine... My heart will stop missing you the day it stops beating…

Life Goes On

2012-07-12T23:40:00.002+05:00

It's been a while hasn't it? Since you took a walk to nowhere in the middle of the night? Since you walked out instead of run under the shades when it starts to drizzle? Since you got high on candy and a day of boardgames or cards?

Yeah it kind of has. It has been long since you read a mail, leave apart a letter, longer still since you bought an original record and even longer since you surprised someone just to see them smile, since you put someone else before yourself. Somewhere between all the forms of communication and making this world a smaller place, we actually made the distance grow more.. We've grown distant.

I look at your facebook profile now to know what you're upto, who you hang with and what is the latest band you listened to. I enlarge your profile picture and stare at it when I need to see your face and try and interpret your status in not one way but a million till I find one that I feel comes closest to my interpretation of you. I write you mails and then save them in my drafts for let's face it, who has the time to read long sappy emails these days, lesser still to reply to them and pathetic as this sounds, I like my mails being replied to.

We've come so far and yet I feel not much has been achieved. There's so much more to be done but there's something that still stops me, holds me back. If moving forward means not needing your people anymore, I disagree. If being strong implies you have to suffocate and drown out what you feel deep down, I beg to differ.

Maybe in another lifetime I can be like one of you - a machine - but for this one, I'm only human. Not by default, by choice.

What Happen If?

2012-06-17T15:44:00.000+05:00

What happens when occurrences in your life, one after the other, do nothing but confirm, more and more, that you were, are, and in fact always will be, an outsider. What's worse, is when you find out that you're on this side of the glass window, somehow still intact but probably on the verge of shattering, only because of your naivety and sheer innocence.

Or maybe it's just a skill you acquired somewhere along the way, of blindfolding yourself with an invisible emotion every time you thought something was coming at you, that didn't quite fit, or the time for which wasn't quite right, or it wasn't quite as bearable as it should have been. Quite. Quite foolish you'd have to be.

When you're in love, you're supposed to be a fool. Why? Because it isn't reality. It's a fantasy. One that was created as per your own convenience, and composed of your little, fragmented obsessions at the time. But nobody ever talks about how foolish, and vile life itself can be. How foolish you could be while undergoing the process of 'growing up.' But sometimes the process stagnates. And you feel like you'll never learn. Like how many times could you possibly suffer, until the suffering teaches you a lesson. Like how much could you possibly endure, until the last vein connecting your heart to your brain is yanked out. Limitless.

I'd stay a little while longer, if only I could be assured that this time, or the next time, or the one after that, will not end in tears and severe reconciliation of not just the surface skimming factors, but of the soul. I'd stay a little while longer, if only the truth was told to my face, and with a trust I couldn't look away from.

It's like it was said in one of my most favorite movies, of all time. Every time we look back at something we're having a hard time recuperating from, we're probably only looking at the good stuff. The next time you look, look a bit more carefully.

As I said, I'd stay a little while longer. But that's only if I thought there was something more this place had to offer me. If only it hadn't taken and given to me everything that could have possibly been taken or given. If only my life could turn out the way it had to in the duration of my favorite movie, not necessarily with the same script. If only I could sit here all day, not bother about frivolities that take up my vision, touch and taste, and watch this movie, some brain waves intact. Some nourishment intact. And then... Summer. And soon. Autumn. Throw in a certain Monsoon will you.

"The scars of your love remind me of us

They keep me thinking that we almost had it all

The scars of your love they leave me breathless

I can’t help feeling..."- Adele

Shiver

2012-05-22T21:57:00.000+05:00

I had a dream I stood beneath an Orange Sky : Alexi Murdoch Now there's no room for negotiation and none for personally viable imagery. There's neither scope nor time for settlements. What you have now is what you'll hold forever and I wish I could say that you were a part of my scavenged dossier but I've sifted and even hunted in my last few bargained hours, but I found nothing. It's like you never existed. Just as well.

Give me a lie, and I'll live it. Give me a robe and a fancy hat, and I'll don it. Give me a piece of paper and blood instead of ink, and I'll scribe it. Give me frivolity and I'll find a way to conjure short-lived beauty, peace and purity. Give me a pounding heart, and I'll pretend like I never heard it.

This is us, old with no recourse to the past. What we have now is all we'll ever have. If you look at it through many rose tints you'd find it perfect and that's the best way to look at it. But if you dare lighten the shades...

You find one place that you hope will let you forget and forgive and forgo. But if you carry all your baggage on your arm, up-sliding into your heart, seeping into your nervous system, and igniting dangerous cells, you can't expect even paradise to set you free. I've seen heaven and I've seen hell and I've seen them simultaneously. The worst part of not having a time lag between witnessing the two, is finding each equally mesmerizing and tempting. The two feelings rendering you unfit for either. When you get sucked into a roller-coaster ride of promise and hope and dejection and failure, you start enjoying the feeling of each. The loss that comes after the highs and the euphoria after the lows.

All you had to do was ask. But you wouldn't. All I had to do was tell you. But I didn't. All that ever needed to be done, was untying the cruel knots that fate decided to put in the ropes that at some point would tow us back to each other. Maybe they're still not bad enough. Maybe 10 years later. Maybe not. I hate not knowing. But knowing would make me God.

You're not mine. But I'm yours. And if that's not cruel, what is?

Across The Universe

2012-05-13T17:59:00.002+05:00

What if the world really were to collapse this year? All our lives, simultaneously, cease to exist? Our death anniversaries, coincide? Would you be satisfied with what you've woven into the world thus far? Of course, to achieve that would be ideal and therefore, utterly impossible, but do you think you could leave things as they are? Or shift your gear to number five and finish all that you think you were meant to do? My questions are a way of delaying the answers I don't have. Whether or not this debate of 2012 being the year of our doom gets resolved (I have a feeling we will be in 2013 by the time it does), aren't we always advised to live each day as if it were our last? Realistically, keeping a provision for contingencies such as bad hair days, mood swings and PMS, why don't we instead try living this year as if it were our last?

Through a roller-coaster-cum-maze my life has been in just (wait for it) two decades of its completion, I think I'd like to pick my last year as one that (I know you're expecting peaceful and saint-like) is the scariest and most unexpected ride of my life! Because what fun would it be otherwise? I've spent afternoons in dingy, musk-smelling bars with anticipation of where the evening will take us. In alleys trying to distinguish our breath from the smoke. In comfortable hand-me-downs, with an excuse of a winter, relishing warm tastes. In yellow-blacks, entangled beyond comprehension. In the lives and minds of others because nobody has left anyone a choice anymore.

In Ford Fiestas. In a place that tries excusing itself by adopting a happy name but that doesn't rule out the memories it gave me that make me cringe, even today. Taking a full year break and then coming back to a life I always used to know. To people I love (even though some of them I don't like very much, but I still love). To the horrible, horrible, horrible inevitability of growing-up. To prospects of magnanimous success or stupendous failure, both equally exciting and fear invoking. To finding love, losing love, and then not knowing what love really is.

But I do. You have to be selfish even when it comes to one of the most selfless concepts in the world. It can be love if it's one-sided, but it cannot be ego. It can be love if the balance is tipped to a 70:30, but it cannot be self-esteem. It can be love if you give all he asks for and never the other way around, but it cannot be healthy. It can be love if you've roughed all his troughs but never been the one he looked for during the crests, but it cannot be friendship. When you realize what you're worth is really a lot more than that, and when the realization hits you if there's even ONE person by your side to tell you that you're doing the right thing and that you're going to make it, you're going to make it. And here I am.

Something changed in me the night of the beautiful lights, an open sky, the grains of sand that I could feel, each and every one of them as distinct as if they were many times their real size, and the unconditional love that was coming to me from all directions and the love that was emanating from me. The night we welcomed the new year in Paradise. All this while we'd been labeling the feeling as ecstasy, when what it really was, was not a feeling, it was a state. A state of contentment. And of security. I had my backbone that night, and my eyes. But when I thought about it a little more, a few kilometers away, I just as well had my mind, left-hand, right hand, my two feet and heart, safe and sound. And I wasn't apologetic about any of them.

Take these away and you'd think I'd be rendered inconsequential. But my soul is unique, and mine alone, and when the world (or the world as I know it) ends, it will know what to do, it will know who to tell, it will know what to tell, somehow it'll know. So I have a picture in my head where boy meets girl, boy kisses girl, and the world could happily end at that very moment, because it's the simplest and sweetest kiss in the world... And sometimes that's all you need.

This is late, but do have the happiest new year. :)

Why? Because I Love You.

2012-05-01T18:01:00.000+05:00

He probed. She was unsure. But eventually yielded. "I love you. You're beautiful." She wont say it back. No, scratch that. She can't say it back. Carefully, very carefully, he tries all he can. Take two. One small push and she's all his. Moving in perfect synchronization of body, of life. How does she say it? Without him getting scared and backing off? Her mind screams, "I love you! And I've loved you all this while." But her mouth stays locked in his.

The words lost in the heat of the moment. Drowned in passion. "Relax," he says, sensing the urgency and the tenseness in her back. She lets out a soft moan, as his hands move down, easing out all her apprehensions. They shift. The kisses are different. His more tearing. Hers, softer. Her hand caressing his face. Obvious love. "It's funny how it never felt like this when we were together." "Because when we were together, I was playing my part. The caring boyfriend one." Muffled gasps. Sharp pain. "So that was all an act?" Long drawn sigh. "Not really. I meant it when I was in it. It's just too taxing for a guy like me."

Unshed tears, distracted by tethering his body, embedding her nails in his arched back. Teeth gnawing supple skin. Red. Color of hurt. Color of passion. Of love. She strokes his forehead as he slowly moves her hair out of her face to get a closer look. He doesn't call her beautiful. Something stops him. At the very edge. But she wants to know. Lazy exhaustion. Slower kisses. Wild submission. Acceptance. Denial. Tired. "They don't understand, but this is the best part." Contentment. Really? She wants to ask. Then how do you? Is it just me? Tell me! Talk out loud! "You have weird perceptions and estimations about yourself, you know..." "Like what?" He snuggles closer.

His hand always in motion against her back. He kisses her head discreetly, thinking she can't tell. She can. She can always tell. "Like this. You think you want this. You're a really good boyfriend for as long as you don't start thinking about it." "Hmm..." he mutters with his eyes shut. Still holding her close. She doesn't think he realizes that this is the closest they've gotten in a long time. And it's the closest they will be, all bared, in a very, very long time to come.

"You wanna get a smoke?" This is it. She doesn't want to let go. She's finally found something comfortable. Comforting. Something that doesn't make her squirm, or jump back in disapproval and skepticism. She was scared she'd find out how irrevocable her feelings were where he was concerned if she ever landed up in something like this. And there you go. She found out. And it hit her so hard, that she doesn't mind not being carefully handled, or not called beautiful, or looked at with a certain kind of deep love only some pair of eyes can show her. For all she cares. Ravage my body. Be harsh yet truthful. In whatever limited and warped form that may be possible. This is not me. It's not who I am. What am I doing? Giving in because you're tired. Somebody answers. Consumed.

Are We Pakistanis ?

2012-03-26T21:55:00.000+05:00

There are times when something strikes my mind with enormous power, a strange question that usually arises whenever I see, feel, realize or be a victim of something most commonly known as DISCRIMINATION !!!

And the question is ARE WE PAKISTANIS?? well, My Straight answer would be NO !!! :) Strange right? but let me explain why did I say that !

We as a nation lacks unity, we can be punjabi, sindhi, balochi, pathan, muhajir etc etc etc !!!but none of us would be “ONLY PAKISTANI:)”I know when I say this thing a lot of friends get emotional and aggressive !that we are Pakistanis and then something else ( like Punjabi, Sindhi etc etc) but My Question is …. Why Do we need anything else after calling ourselves Pakistani :) ?

Let me share a little incident with you;2 years back I was sitting in my class and the topic of discussion among my friends was which of the Cast or Provincial identity is SUPERIOR or is the most ancient :) Everyone gave their opinions how Sindhis from the era of Muhammed Bin Qasim, Punjabis from the Era of Mughals, Balochis from the Era of Changez Khan , Pathan from the era of HAZRAT SULEIMAN (A.S.) etc etc

I kept on listening to this endless and USELESS debate for almost half an hour and to end the debate I quoted something from the Last Sermon of HOLY PROPHET (S.A.W.W.)

“All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action!”

This is my message to the whole nation and especially to all my friends :) Why do we become Pakistani when its 14th August or Cricket World Cup ? why not the whole year ?? ask yourself and you would know that What I am telling is the Bitter Truth !

I remember last time when I saw Unity in Pakistani Nation was way back in September 2006 when we had a natural disaster ( Earth Quake Victims Help Campaigns ) Do we need disasters to keep ourselves united or is there anything that can keep us united without these DISASTERS ?Kindly share your views !!!No offense meant to any cast, provincial identity or any individual

Life – The Way I See it !

2012-03-17T13:51:00.001+05:00

What I am going to share with you all is my own learning of life which I have personally experienced, learned, read, visualized or maybe just imagined and that’s all my thoughts cumulatively and collectively bundled up in a single piece of write up.

What I have learnt from my life:

Life is sometimes cruel but it is not intolerable always
One day or the other, everyone is going to hurt you but you have to decide what’s more important the issue or the relation.
To avoid jealousy, compete with your own self

As beautifully said by Denis Waitley:

“The most splendid achievement of all is the constant striving to surpass yourself and to be worthy of your own approval”

Competition (jealousy) and friendship can’t go hand in hand
Live your best moments with your family and with your friends
Listening to someone’s problems might not lessen it but it surely lessens the pain
Spending some time with children will give you eternal happiness, the stupidity, the innocence and the charm when a child holds your hand … these are the moments of Life…. Live them !
Start Living…Stop Complaining…Lil things around U give lil happiness but guess what…those all LIL Happiness Collectively makes your day Worthwhile!!! Enjoy little things happening around u and turn your ANOTHER Ordinary day into JUST another Enjoyable day from Now ON
I have learned to care people too much, not because I expect them to care about me in return but because I know the Pain of being Ignored !
Ups and downs are the flavor of Life…. just look closer at your heartbeat (ECG)…..and you will that they show that you are ALIVE !!!…. the day they become straight or smooth …..is the day your life ends !!!
Going with the flow sometimes work for you but there are times when you feel that the flow was not fast enough to wash away your past !!!
Love is nothing but a blindfold, while you are being tied with it, U feel U have become blind in real…you can’t see the rights and wrongs happening around U !!! but suddenly an accident gets the blindfold down and you realize that neither were U blind nor was your every step/decision right !!!
Forgive others Smilingly….. it not only gives comfort to other person but also relieves your tension to extreme !!!
The bitterest fact life taught me is….. The number of People who are against U will always be more than the number of People who appreciates U
Always Be Yourself….Because the People that matter won’t mind…and the People who mind….. Don’t Matter !!!
Life is already very Complicated……….. Do not make it more complex by fighting with your friends
Life means to struggle…better struggle with a smiling face …… to shrug off all the tensions rather then … frowning n getting irritated to increase the frustration
U don’t really understand the value of your closed ones … Until…… either U r deeply hurt by them …. or they are going away
If Luv is the best feeling in the world…. then I guess….. Friendship is the BESTEST
There’s only one relation in the world……. that is of MOM n a Child !!! Everything else is just a mere compromise….. dependency or sometimes necessity for the time being
Its never to late to accept your mistake and repentance,and ALLAH will always forgive !!!
Stop Complaining …. There are Millions of People who are Less Privileged then U … Be Grateful to ALLAH … ALWAYS

What I have learnt from my life:

Tomorrow’s Life too Late…… Forgive today !

Tomorrow’s Life too Late…… Appreciate today !

Tomorrow’s Life too Late…… Make Someone smile today !

Tomorrow’s Life too Late…… Make others feel valued and Luved today !

Tomorrow’s Life too Late…… Love today !

and Most Importantly Tomorrow’s Life too Late…… LIVE Today !!!

This is my life as I see it, I feel it and I am living it. I am very grateful to ALLAH for everything and I am also thankful to everyone who make my life worth living , Love you all !!!

I will keep updating this particular blog, since Life is all about continuous learning !!!