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Always remember you are chosen and loved

2025-02-23T15:23:00.001-06:00

Always remember you are chosen and loved by Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie copyright February 2025 It was recess time, and I could hardly wait to go outside and play. I was a new fifth grader at Starkey Elementary School in Kerrville and was anxious to make some new friends. Someone quickly organized a kickball game, and I loved to play kickball. Two people were designated as captains of the teams and began choosing who they wanted on their team. I had to wear brown corrective shoes instead of cute tennis shoes like the rest of the girls, so I did not look very athletic. I really could kick the ball a long way; however, no one knew that. Perhaps someone would just take a chance and pick me, I thought. Then my worst fear happened: I was the last one chosen for my team. I felt like a loser. Perhaps you were not chosen for something or have been in a similar situation in your life and did not feel valuable. God’s word tells us something different. Isaiah 42:1 (NIV) states, “Here is my servant, whom I uphold, my chosen one in whom I delight.” This scripture teaches us that we are chosen and hand-picked by God, and he actually takes delight in us. To think that the creator of the universe has chosen you and me and is delighted to be with us in everyday life is incredible. I also love the part of the verse that says he upholds us. There are lots of days when I need someone upholding and cheering me on, and you and I have been chosen for this time in history. Matthew 12:18 (NIV) also tells us we are chosen by God. It states, “Here is my servant, whom I have chosen, the one I love, in whom I delight.” Life circumstances can often leave us feeling less than, unloved and not very special; however, those are the days when we have to remember what God says about us instead of our circumstances. We have a choice to believe our circumstances or what God says. I was visiting with a widow recently, and she shared her struggle with loneliness after losing her husband of 55 years and how she did not feel loved anymore. The one who had loved her dearly for so many years was gone. I remember struggling with those feelings, too, after losing my husband. I shared this scripture with her, and she later commented that it was exactly what she needed and that it was healing to her heart. She shared how, on the nights she felt lonely, she would read the scripture over and over, and it settled her heart, reminding her she was loved and not alone. Zephaniah 3:17 reads, “The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing.” The word “delight” means to please someone greatly or to take pleasure in. Have you ever thought about God taking pleasure in you? You make him smile. God not only knows you personally, he actually takes great joy in you and your life. You are fully known by a mighty God and fully loved by him. He gave you and me special gifts and talents, sees our potential and our flaws, and yet, he still loves us. I was not the top draft choice in the kickball game that day in fifth grade; however, when my turn came to kick, the ball sailed through the air, and I kicked a home run. I had talents that people could not see at first glance. I began to make friends, and I am still close with some of my classmates from fifth grade. As you walk through this week, I challenge you to write one of the above scriptures on a sticky note or index card, and put it in place where you will see it often. I pray that you will constantly be reminded that you, too, are chosen and loved, and that God takes great pleasure in you. Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping others discover the joy of walking with God. You can contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. For more information, articles, her podcast or to purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” visit www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com

Overcoming: Our Easter gift

2024-03-25T09:49:00.000-05:00

Overcoming: Our Easter gift By Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Copyright March 2024 Have you ever thought of how people in heaven see you — and how God sees you in situations? Fourteen years ago, I found myself in the middle of great loss and feeling weaker than I had ever felt in my life. My view of the situation and being a relatively young widow was not positive, to say the least. It seemed to me all my dreams of what I thought life would be in this season were washed away. I realized if I continued seeing my life in a negative light, it would lead me down a path I really did not want to go down. So, I began to ask God how he, and the rest of heaven, saw me and my life. He took me to I John 5:4 (NIV) which states, “Whatever is born of God overcomes the world. Who is he who overcomes the world but he who believes Jesus is the son of God.” That scripture states that, as children of God, overcoming power resides in us to overcome any situation we face. Jesus overcame the grave and conquered death. He rose above his circumstances. The definition of overcoming is: To get the better of, to get the victory over. I felt God say, “Kathleen, I see you as an overcomer. You have my power within you to overcome the heartache you feel. You have a God given right to get the better of this situation and make a profit from it.” That was not exactly how I saw my situation, and I asked God to change my thinking to see myself as an overcomer. I knew that only God could heal my heart, and I also knew I had choices. John 16:32 (INIV) says, “In the world you will have tribulation but take courage; I have overcome the world. The word for tribulation here is translated as pressure. Yes, this world brings plenty of pressure! Jesus says we will have trouble in this world, but not to stress about it because His power in us will help us to make a profit from any trouble. God is too good to let us encounter problems without providing the provision for us. I have discovered that life is more about finding the provision in tribulation instead of fixing the problem. I John 4:4 (NIV) says, “You dear children are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.” Nothing is greater than the power of God in us to overcome in any situation. You and I never have to settle for defeat. The power to overcome is more powerful than any force that comes against us! Now that is good news! Jesus gave his all to his disciples. He loved when I’m sure he did not want to, but did out of obedience to God. Then some of them turned against him, complained, betrayed and help crucify him. He overcame the grave. He is an overcomer, and we are made in his image; therefore, overcoming power resides in us. Overcoming is God’s Easter gift to us and part of the new life he gives to us. Sometimes our overcoming looks different and takes longer than we might think. Making a profit from a difficult situation is often seen in growth in our character. Who are we, and how do we show up when the cards are stacked against us? A number of years ago, there was a rift in a relationship with a dear friend. I kept trusting God to heal the relationship and prayed that truth would come to heal the friendship. A few years ago, my friend came to me and began to share an experience they had encountered that opened their eyes. They now saw things differently and stated they admired my character and how I walked through the situation. The words were healing and my heart smiled at God’s goodness and overcoming power, Overcoming took much longer than I liked, but it finally came. This Easter season is your new beginning to begin and walk in the overcoming power Jesus provides. Begin today by asking Jesus to come into your heart and ask him to open your eyes to the overcoming power that is in you. If you know Christ, I challenge you to daily ask God to show you situations through his eyes. You are not a victim; you are an overcomer. Jesus overcame his adversity so you and I can overcome things that come against us. Overcoming is God’s Easter gift to each of us-so let’s receive it and enjoy it!

Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. You can contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. For more information, articles, her podcast or to purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” visit her website at www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com

Fretting or trusting? The choice is yours

2023-07-10T20:16:00.003-05:00

Recently, I began reading Psalms 37. It was a familiar passage; however, I had not visited it in a long time. As I read the passage, it seemed so relevant to our current state of affairs here in our nation. Psalms 37-1-9 (NIV) says: “Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away. Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. “Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this: He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun. “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes. Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret it leads only to evil. For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land.” “Do not fret,” is stated three times, and when I thought of the word fret, I pictured someone wringing their hands. I researched the original translation of the word in the Hebrew, and it had a totally different meaning than what I pictured. The word fret, from the Hebrew and the Strong’s Concordance, means “to glow or blaze with anger.” Wow. I see a lot of anger and hatred flying around our country with Republicans, Democrats, conspiracy theorists and, unfortunately, with Christians. This makes me sad that we cannot value relationship just because someone has a different train of thought, questions us or agrees with us. Satan loves to cause strife and division in families, churches, denominations and among friends. For those of us who walk with God, I feel it is simply a negative strategy to rob us of peace and distract us from what God really wants us to do, which is to lead people to Jesus, pray with the sick, comfort those who mourn and love like he does. James 3:16 (KJV) states: “For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.” We see the evidence of our nation blazing with anger and in strife toward one another, and it has allowed evil to flourish. God tells us in Psalms 37 how we need to conduct ourselves. Our forefathers wrote it on our currency, “In God we trust,” but we have strayed from trusting God and doing good. This passage also says to delight ourselves in God. To me, this means to be fascinated with him, direct my attention to him and commit my way to him each day. God instructs us three times to not blaze with anger, but to trust in him, so it must be important. If you are guilty, let me encourage you to repent, trust, commit your way to God and get back on track. God wants to use you and me to show those around us the love of Christ and the joy of walking with him. When we do this, Psalms 37:10 (NIV) says, “the meek will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.” Psalms 37 also tells us to hope in the Lord, wait on him, turn from evil and do good. When we do these things, we obtain the promise found in Psalms 37:37 (NIV), “…there is a future for those who seek peace.” So, do not fret and step into your future.

Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie is a native of the Hill Country, a podcaster, author, writer and speaker. Contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” or listen to her podcast on her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com

Serving the right fruit brings restoration

2023-03-17T12:35:00.002-05:00

Picking the right fruit to serve brings restoration • Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie • March 2023 copyright

Several years ago, I sat on my back porch watching a roadrunner zip by and baby bunnies hop across the field. I pondered my problem and began talking to God about it. He is never too busy to visit with me and is my helper in times of trouble. Psalms 46:1(NIV) says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Running to him is always the best thing to do. I usually let things roll off my back, but a recent event with someone left me a little bruised and upset. “Lord, you saw what happened,” I softly said to God. “And it hurt my feelings God,” I continued. Just as I uttered the words, I remembered a statement I heard years ago.” You don’t have a right to be hurt, you have a right to be healed.” I took a deep breath and closed my eyes. I felt misunderstood and I wanted to nurse my hurt a little before I really turned it over to Jesus for healing. I contemplated hanging on to my hurt and offenses for a little while, but as I’ve matured in life and my walk with the Lord, I know that is not the best thing for me or the situation. Galatians 5:22 says, “For the fruit of the Spirit, is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such there is no law.” We put ourselves in a win-win situation when we practice these attributes and give them to people. And let me just say, it takes lots of practice. The fruit of the Spirit is how God wants us to live. He has given them to us to govern our lives and when we live in them; we stay in step with Him. Most of all, I feel God wants us to give them away to others to touch their lives. I felt God ask me, “Kathleen, what fruit do you need to serve in this situation?” Once again, I took a deep sigh. … I wasn’t sure I wanted to serve anything to anybody, but I quickly let go of that thought as I thought of God’s patience with me and his kindness and love. “Well God, it needs love; I can be loving like you.” I muttered, still struggling. “I can serve patience because you have been patient with me, and I can give self-control even though I do not feel like it,” I continued to pray. “Change my heart God.” I began to ask God to help me to love like he does, pour patience over the situation and to exercise self-control instead of doing what I felt like or wanted to do. Everything in our lives is about us being conformed and changed into the image of God. He uses everything in our lives, the good things and the hard things. I also realized I could serve some gentleness in my approach to this person and that could defuse defensiveness and create a pathway for communication and restoration. Step one in tough and difficult situations is always to get my heart right in situations. When I lay down my right to be right and ask God to help me see things from his perspective, forward steps toward restoration are always made. Do you examine your heart in situations and ask God where it needs to change? Not long after my conversation with God, I arranged to meet this person, as it is usually better to address situations soon so walls do not build between the two of you. “God give me your heart and give me your grace and power to serve the fruit of your spirit and say healing words,” I prayed. As we met, I gently stated my love for the person, my desire for restoration and wanted to hear their perspective. I saw the situation begin to change. I saw where I needed to be more patient and let God work on the situation instead of me. As I served with self-control, kindness and love, things changed and there was a beautiful restoration. What fruit do you need to serve to others around you? Do you need to lay down your right to be right? Which fruit do you need to practice? God is right there to help you, to change you and your conflict or tough situation. I challenge you to pick a fruit and get busy practicing and serving it to those around you. You will be glad you did and so will those around you.

Kathleen Maxwell is a Hill Country native, a writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping others discover the joy of walking with God. Contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. For information, articles, podcast or to purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” visit www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

Dealing with fear of the unknown

2023-02-20T09:52:00.001-06:00

Dealing with fear of the unknown Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Feb 19, 2023 0

The longer I walk with God, the more I realize I need a fresh revelation of his love for me in challenging times. Most of us could use an upgrade when it comes to comprehending God’s love for us. Scripture is clear about the connection between the love of God and fear. I John 4:18 (NIV) says, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” The more we live in an understanding of how radically loved we are, the more confident and secure we are. Fear torments and is like punishment. God’s heart for us as his kids is to be free to enjoy life and live secure in his love. I feel it is imperative that we treat fear as a robber or thief instead of a house guest. I was the queen of excuses, guarding the fears, thinking they were normal. After studying I John 4:18, when I feel fearful, timid or hesitant, I ask God for a greater revelation of his love for me. One of the biggest fears many struggle with is the fear of the unknown. It often paralyzes people and keeps us stuck and from living a life of faith. In reality, life is full of the unknown. Many times, we want a guarantee before we step into the unknown, but the only thing we can really rely on in life is the love of God and the fact that he promises to be with us. I learned this when my mother was stricken with a debilitating rare disease, and I was tormented by the unknown and the fear of losing her. One of the blessings of her illness was that I learned a very valuable life lesson: God is always with me, and he loves me. He was with me in one of my darkest valleys, and I lived Psalms 23:4 (NIV): “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” I felt his hand steady me, guide me and comfort me, and it is part of the fabric of my being, not just a scripture. We are in uncertain times with inflation, shootings and many other things, but I can tell you with all confidence, God is with us to guide us, if we partner with him. We will never face a situation without the presence and care of God. It is up to us to hold his hand, seek him and magnify God, more than our situations. Our confidence must be in his presence, love and trust in him. Hebrews 10:35 (NIV) says, “So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.” As we conquer our fears, it helps others walk out of their fears. Overcoming your own fear is not just about you, but also about those God wants you to impact. We must see the bigger picture in overcoming our fears. As we walk in these days of uncertainty, remember Psalms 112:7 (NIV): “They will have no fear of bad news; their hearts are steadfast, trusting in the Lord.” Ask God for a greater understanding of his love for you and tell fear and panic they are not your friends. Rest in his love and presence, hang on to your confidence and trust him.

7 tips to manage holiday grief

2022-12-15T07:13:00.000-06:00

7 Tips for managing grief during the holidays by Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie copyright 2022 The holidays can be stressful for anyone, but when you’ve lost someone you love, they can be particularly challenging, because so many memories are tied to holidays. I speak from experience, as someone who was widowed at 49 and lost both of my parents shortly after losing my late husband. Here are some of my tips that helped me through the painful holidays and brought healing and wholeness to my heart: Tip No. 1: Embrace the pain. Holiday memories can bring the grief and emotions we have swept under the carpet to the surface. These memories can be painful, but let me encourage you to embrace the pain. Embracing the pain instead of denying it means we are honest with ourselves and can begin to move forward. We live in a society where many people don’t want to admit their hurt and appear to have it all together. I found that, in our great pain and honesty, Jesus meets us to bind up our broken hearts. Cry and embrace the pain. Jesus understands, and he cried when Lazarus died in John 11:35. God promises to heal our pain in Psalms 147:3 (NIV), which reads, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds:” Tip No. 2: Remember,you are never alone. In my dark days of grief, the Christmas season was difficult, because I just did not feel like celebrating. The man that I had spent the majority of my holidays with, the person who made them special and fun, was gone. That year, as well as the years that followed, all I could celebrate was that God was with me, and that was worth celebrating. Matthew 1:23 tells us, “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel,” which means “God with us.” Celebrate that you are never alone. Tip No. 3: Rest. The holidays are challenging when you are grieving, because you are exhausted. Emotional pain wears you out. Be kind to yourself and allow yourself to rest. I had to “ground myself” because I just could not move at the same pace I normally could. I learned that rest was a weapon, and I had to use it to be the best version of myself. Tip No. 4: Create new memories. Normal as you know it is gone. This was a hard pill for me to swallow, but it was a fact. That first Christmas after Joe died, my kids, who were all adults, did not want to come home. Home was painful, because Dad was gone. We had to make a new plan. I reserved us a condo in Cabo San Lucas, and creating a new memory helped us adjust to our new normal. Tip No. 5 Celebrate in a different way. Honoring your loved one on a holiday is important. This can be done as a family or by yourself. Allowing yourself a little private time the morning of the holiday to process your pain can be very beneficial. I remember one holiday waking up early to journal and write a letter to my late husband telling him what was on my heart. Another year on Father’s Day after losing my dad, I talked to him while having my morning coffee, just like I would have if he were here. Somehow, doing these little things allows you to share your holiday with your loved one. Tip No. 6: Initiate connection and make a plan. My first New Year’s Eve without my husband, I didn’t have any plans. I felt so lost and very insecure. A few days before the holiday, I called some friends and invited them over. I couldn’t just wait for others to include me or invite me; I had to step out of my comfort zone and make a new plan. Somehow, having a plan made my heart feel more secure. Tip No. 7: Defuse the awkwardness. When I was with friends or family and did break down and cry, I would simply let the tears roll and say, “I just need a moment to cry.” Friends and family can feel uncomfortable when we cry, so helping them be at ease in our pain, defuses the awkwardness. I wish I could take your pain away during the holiday season and ask God to touch your tender heart and bring healing. Jesus came to bring us hope and bind up the broken-hearted. May Immanuel make himself real to you during the holidays. Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie #grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #griefandtheholidays #healingjourney #Holidays #author #thrivingthroughseasonsofgrief #authorsoffacebook #podcaster #podcastlife Book link https://bit.ly/kathleenmr Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping others discover the joy of walking with God. You can contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. For more information, articles, her podcast or to purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” visit her website at www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

Wearing the right stuff makes you look good

2022-08-08T15:02:00.000-05:00

A good friend and I were talking the other day, and she asked, “Kathleen, what are you going to wear?” We were talking about a function we planned to attend together when this common question popped up. “I don’t know,” I replied, “I haven’t planned that far ahead.” Personally, I am not someone who plans what to wear too far ahead. I might think about what I am going to wear for the day as I am fixing my hair and walking to my closet. The day after I was asked the question, I came across a scripture that made me think about that question again. The scripture was, Colossians 3:12-14 (NIV), which states, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them together in perfect unity.” I love the fact that God thinks of everything. In his wisdom, he even instructs us about what to wear every day and all the time. Compassion is a concern for the suffering or misfortune of others. We should be compassionate because God is. Psalms 145:8 (NIV) tells us, “The Lord is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and rich in love.” It always helps others to know someone cares that their heart hurts, and it is an honor when people are vulnerable and share their pain. I know my personal suffering has developed a greater compassion within me, and I am much quicker to wear compassion these days. Kindness is the quality of being friendly, generous or considerate. Did you realize when you smile, you are being kind to others? Be sure and wear your smile today and watch how it affects those around you. Smiling can actually make you look younger, so if you are middle-age or older, it is a must-wear garment. Everyone looks good when they wear humility. Wearing humility enables us to honor others, making them feel just as valued and important even above our own accomplishment. Pride is a common thief that works hard to strip us of humility. Don’t let pride take your humility. Gentleness is expressed in being kind, tender and mild mannered. Gentleness makes us look good because it shows people we care about them. We are to wear it in every situation in life and make it evident. Philippians 4:5 says, “Let your gentleness be evident to all.” We must never forget to wear patience, and scripture shows us we need to constantly wear it until Jesus returns. James 5:7 states, “Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord’s coming.” Forgiveness is a necessity in everyday life and with everyone. We can’t forget to put on forgiveness, as it is like a foundation garment. When we forgive, we are the ones that benefit the most. Finally, let me remind you to wear love. Love ties our wardrobe together, and you will always be in style wearing love. This week, I challenge you to examine your wardrobe. God gives us the most important things to wear, and when we choose from God’s wardrobe, we will always look like a million dollars. Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie is a podcaster, author, writer, speaker and native of the Texas Hill Country. Contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also find her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” online Bible studies or listen to her podcast on her website at www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

Encouragement, hope, and help in times of tragedy

2022-06-12T09:13:00.004-05:00

Encouragement, hope, and help in times of tragedy Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie copyright June 2022

The May 24 shooting event that occurred in Uvalde has rocked our nation and the world around us. On many levels, I am broken-hearted at the loss that has been caused in this small town in South Texas. It has been my privilege to help and minister to families who lost children, staff who witnessed things they should not have, law enforcement and to help the community begin to heal. We have a home outside of Uvalde, and as I drive to town, I have to pass by two cemeteries. Seeing multiple machines digging gravesites for the victims has been very sobering. News outlets from around the country and the world are everywhere. We are all grateful to the law enforcement that came out to aid our already overworked Department of Public Safety, Border Patrol and police. The outpouring of love has been heartwarming in the devastation. A significant part of my ministry as a podcaster, columnist and author involves overcoming grief and dealing with crisis, disappointment and loss. Here are some things that will be helpful in the coming days for us all. If you have not suffered a significant loss, you might be wondering how you can help. I am forever grateful for those who helped in various ways when I was walking through tragedy in my own life. • Listen. People experiencing heartbreak don’t need answers as much as they need presence and a listening ear. Be with them in their pain and let them express their feelings. People need to know we care and value them. We give them honor by sitting with them in their pain. • Offer specific help. Many people say, “Let me know what I can do to help.” However, those people who offered help in specific ways were the most helpful to me. Offer to mow their yard, bring dinner or have a meal sent, have their home cleaned or organized, give them a gift certificate for pedicure, massage, etc. • Anniversaries of loss, birthdays, trigger grief. Put a reminder in your phone to call or send a card on these days in the future. • Pray for them and their families. Remember, grief is a process, and they need ongoing prayers. Time doesn’t heal, but Jesus heals broken hearts. Isaiah 61:1-3 tells us Jesus came to bind up the brokenhearted, comfort those who mourn, give them beauty for ashes. Psalms 147:3 reads, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Pray that they will keep moving through the process of grief. The Bible is full of stories of how God used ordinary people like me and you. He needs us to extend hope to diffuse the anxiety and fear of the future. He needs us to be his arms of love and compassion when life is overwhelming. God blesses unity and tells us in Psalms 133:1, “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity.” He wants us to bring unity to hurting families and communities. 2 Corinthians 3:2-3 reads, “You yourselves are our letter, written on our hearts, known and read by everyone. You show that you are a letter from Christ, the result of our ministry, written not with ink but with the spirit of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets of human hearts.” God wants to use you and me to be his living love letter of compassion, peace, unity and hope in these troubled days.

God does not do shame

2022-04-07T16:34:00.001-05:00

“Shame on you,” my grandmother said, as she shook her finger at me with a scowl on her face. I was about 9 years old, and those words cut to the core of my being, as I stood in her picture-perfect kitchen. I do not remember what I did wrong, but I do remember being confused about even getting in trouble for whatever upset her. All I could think about was getting away from her so I could cry. Our words carry power. What I remember was I had done something wrong in her eyes, and I just wanted to hide. I felt like a mistake and felt her intense displeasure with me. Now, I just wanted to go home. I was feeling the power of shame. Shame says, “You are a mistake,” instead of, “You made a mistake. Let me help you.” Shame makes people feel less than and devalued. Jesus paid a great price so we could be free from shame. Whenever we have done something wrong, the Holy Spirit convicts us of our sin. His purpose is to bring us to repentance, not shame. In his great love, Jesus paid the price, so we do not have to live in shame. Romans 10:11 (NIV) states, “For scripture says, anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” When we realize we have made a little mistake or a huge one, God’s heart is that we recognize it, ask his forgiveness and the forgiveness of others if necessary, and walk in freedom. Ephesians 1:7 (NIV) tells us, “In him, we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace.” Once we repent, we can walk free of shame. God sent Jesus to take care of shame for us. Yes, we may struggle to walk free of the feelings of disgrace, but in God’s eyes we are loved and accepted. Hebrews 4:16 (NIV) instructs us, “Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” God’s grace and forgiveness are incredible gifts that each of us has an opportunity to enjoy. It begins with asking Jesus into our hearts, confessing our sin and believing he died for us and loves us. Isaiah 61:7 (NIV) tells us, “Instead of your shame, you will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace, you will rejoice in your inheritance. And so you will inherit a double portion in your land, and everlasting joy will be yours.” When we bring our shame to God, he gives us a double portion and joy. So why do people try to put shame on others, when they have missed the mark and done something wrong? I think there are two reasons: judgment and pride. And both of them are not part of a Christian’s our job description. Oftentimes people look at their sin and compare it to someone else and say, “I did this but I didn’t do something that bad.” Statements like this are rooted in judgment and pride. Matthew 7: 1 & 2 (NIV) warns us, “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged.” Proverbs 16:18 says, “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.” I had to forgive my grandmother for the hurtful words she said many years ago. I later found out she was a very wounded woman and because of her wounds and her own failures and shame, she projected that on me and others. If you have shamed someone, I encourage you to ask for forgiveness. If you have been someone who has been on the receiving end of shame, forgive your offender. I pray for healing for your heart and for any lies you have believed about being a mistake to be erased. All of us mess up and can be embarrassed of our failures. Christ came to set us free, so get back up and walk in his grace and forgiveness. You do not have to walk in shame any longer. God sees you, loves you, forgives you and loves to restore the broken pieces of your life.

Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a podcaster, author, writer and speaker. Contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, Thriving Through Seasons of Grief or listen to her podcast on her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com #shame #freedom #Jesus #Christanity #hope #redeem

The Power of Gentleness

2022-02-23T06:43:00.000-06:00

A number of years ago, I was asked to speak to a lady’s group in Comfort. Sometimes the organization has a particular topic or theme, and other times, they let me choose my message. In this situation, the topic was chosen. “Kathleen, we are studying the fruit of the spirit from the passage in Galatians 5:22,” the organizer of the event stated. “We want you to talk about gentleness.” “OK,” I reluctantly replied, as I did not see gentleness as a strong quality in my life. I personally felt more like a bull in a china closet than a gentle person; however, I knew God wanted to teach me some things about gentleness. Since that day 12 years ago, I’ve learned that gentleness is powerful, and I’ve learned to practice it. Gentleness is defined as being kind or tender, not harsh or severe. As a verb, it means calm. Gentleness is powerful humility. It means you are sweet-spirited and tenderhearted. When I think about people who have this character quality mastered, my heart is open to them. I feel loved and valued. I want to hear what they have to say. Gentleness opens the door to many possibilities. Gentleness is an attribute of Jesus. Matthew 11:29 (NIV) reads, “Come unto me all who are weary and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you for I am gentle and humble in heart.” Jesus was the mightiest man around, and yet, he describes himself as gentle and says gentleness is part of his identity. Scripture tells us we are made in his image. Gentleness is in all of us, and we can choose to practice it. When I partner with Jesus, or am yoked with him, gentleness provides rest for my heart. If you are running around uptight, stressed out, you might want to try practicing your gentleness. Gentleness is not weakness. It is strength under control. It is easy to get aggravated with someone because they do not see eye to eye with you. Anyone can be angry and tell someone off. That isn’t the way God treats us. When we choose to respond in gentleness, we demonstrate strength. One day, I was helping a client with a situation with her rent. I was trying to teach her to face her responsibility not run from it. I coached her on how to call her landlord, explain the problem and her plan to rectify the situation. She left my office to make the call, and the next thing I knew, she came barging into my workspace with big eyes, and I could hear someone yelling over the phone. It was the landlord, and she was angry. I asked to speak to the landlord. I identified myself, and the woman raised her voice at me. I wanted to give her a piece of my mind; however, I remembered what I had been learning about gentleness and decided to practice it. I listened for a while, lowered my voice several decimals below her voice and began to speak to her. When I did this, instead of raising my voice to match hers, the woman began to lower her voice a little. The next time I spoke, I got even quieter. She began to calm down, we had a good discussion, and my client got exactly what she needed. Gentleness demonstrates strength and combats harshness and anger. Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) reads, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” I have found gentleness is a good offensive and defensive weapon in times of conflict. My husband and I are both pretty strong-willed people, and when we have a disagreement, I try practicing my gentleness. Fortunately, he is not the kind of man to yell, but in times of conflict, when I choose gentleness, it helps us come into agreement quicker. If you want to win a disagreement, you might try gentleness. Philippians 4:5 (NIV) reads, “Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” I have learned gentleness can quickly defuse tense situations and disarm people. It makes people feel valued, and it looks good on us when we practice it and wear it. I challenge you to join me in practicing gentleness.

Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer, author, podcaster, and speaker. Contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” or listen to her podcast on her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

Finding joy when things are tough

2022-01-29T12:49:00.001-06:00

Finding joy when things are tough Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Jan 21, 2022 0

Joy. What exactly is it? As a noun, joy is a feeling of great happiness or pleasure. As a verb, it means to rejoice. It is an emotion that I feel God wants his children to have every day. Some days are simply more challenging than others, but I am discovering there is grace to access joy, when I choose to. This means that I am responsible for finding my joy if it is lost or appears to be hiding behind difficult circumstances. So, how do we find joy when life throws us a big curve ball and when we are enduring situations that continue to hurt or linger? I believe finding joy is dependent on our focus and taking our responsibility. James 1:2-5 reads, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” It is easy to be joyful when life is going like you like it, but most of us would agree that life doesn't always go like we plan. Not long ago, I was suddenly put in a situation that could have been a hornet’s nest if not handled delicately, and I could have been the one who was stung. It was a good thing I was studying the scripture in James about finding pure joy in trials. I quickly called a friend to pray and started the conversation laughing and with the words, “Oh my word, how could I be my life and how could I be in this situation?” I was laughing to keep from crying and was trying to find my joy, so I could handle the situation and come out a winner. Laughter is good medicine, and I knew my friend would understand. She did and laughed with me and prayed. Looking at how I could joyfully win in the situation instead of being overwhelmed helped me pass the test. Finding humor in tough things is helpful in finding our joy. Where we focus is vital in trials. Psalms 16:8-11 reads, "I have set the Lord always before me, because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore, my heart is glad and my inner man rejoices and my body will rest secure. You have made known to me the path of life; you fill me with joy in your presence with pleasures at your right hand." This scripture tells us where to focus, setting the bigness of God and his ability before us. When we do this, it allows our heart to calm down. We rest, in that God is with us and will direct our path. And when we spend time with him, we find our joy. Joy is evidence of walking with God, because it is part of his character. Galatians 5 tells us that joy is one of the fruits of the spirit, which is part of who he is. He is always joyful, and he wants us as his kids to reflect his joy and be joyful. As a former gymnast and coach, I know how important focus is to maintain your balance when you are on a balance beam. The right focus is the difference in staying on and falling off. The same is true in life. If my focus is negative, fearful, my outlook and attitude will be, too. This scripture also says I am not alone. He is holding me by the right hand. When I picture myself holding his hand, I am much more confident and secure. I love the determination of the psalmist in Psalms 16 when he says, "I WILL not be shaken." Our will is a powerful thing that we can use in a positive or negative way. There have been many days I have had to live out of my will to do what is pleasing to God instead of what I feel like. Joy follows when our focus is right, when we hold his hand and when we set our will in a positive manner. When we turn our hearts to him, look at God with childlike wonder in how he is going to work it out, we find joy. I encourage you to take responsibility and find your joy.

Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. Beginning at ^;30 p.m. Thursdays in February at The Kroc Center in Kerrville, she will lead her Bible study, The Gathering-Bringing God into Everyday Life. For more information or to register, contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” or listen to her podcast on her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

Thriving Through Seasons of Grief by Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie

2021-12-27T09:42:00.003-06:00

This book is for the broken hearted, the disappointed, and those picking up the pieces of their life. Full of true stories, easy to read and will give the reader hope and practical tools.

Now available on Amazon in paperback or on Kindle. #grief #hope #griefjourney #griefsupport #author #griefhelp #thrivingthroughseasonsofgrief

God's healing touch during the holidays

2021-12-24T09:24:00.007-06:00

Most of us think of the holidays as a time of celebration, gatherings with friends and family, and pretty lights. For others, the holidays only remind them of what is NOT in their lives anymore. Grief often shows up unexpected during this season triggering the pain that might have remained hidden the rest of the year. Christmas is full of memories and those precious memories tend to come to mind during this season. The good news is, God is with us in our pain and heals. I speak from experience. The things I have learned from walking through grief have been some of the best teachers in my life. Learning that no matter what I face, God holds my hand and is full of compassion, has given me great confidence and expanded my compassion for other people, which is priceless. God cares when our hearts hurt and wants to heal us. Psalms 34:17 (NIV) states “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” It may not feel like God is close in our pain, but the truth is, He has never been closer. As I have experienced Him guiding me, encouraging me and His kindness, it has made the above scripture very real. God relentlessly kept showing me He was right beside me. Too often, our feelings lie to us and in tough times, we feel like life is over, God has forsaken us, but we must believe the truth of God’s word and press through the feelings. If you are brokenhearted over losing a loved one, recently divorced or have experienced another loss, let me encourage you to ask God to open your eyes to see His nearness and to encourage your heart. I have done that and it works. You are precious to Him and He cares that your heart hurts. Six years ago, I lost of both of my parents before and right after the holidays. I was not looking forward to the first holiday without them, as they had been with me for more than 50 years. As I approached the holiday, instead of focusing on missing them, I began to wonder, what adventure would God had ahead for me. God is always good, and I’ve learned from losing my late husband that, when facing something new and different without a loved one, I could find comfort and joy, looking for the adventure and God’s goodness. Needless to say, it was different the first year without them, as I spent the holiday in Alpine, Texas, with my new husband on a 40,000-acre ranch, mule deer hunting and helping him with his hunting business, a side business he has done for years. The beauty and majesty of the area was breathtaking, and I missed a 10-point buck … I’ll get him one day! My dad loved West Texas, and it will always remind me of him. Enjoying something he loved so much brought me a smile. I’ve found joy in the differentness and enjoyed the challenge. Christmas can be challenging for those suffering from grief as it brings up so many memories. Oftentimes, these are memories of the good times we have shared with those we love. These memories bring the reality of our loss to the forefront of our minds. You may not be grieving this holiday season, but God may want to use you to be His arms of compassion and love. Often, people that are grieving just need people to affirm their pain and loss and encourage them. Life isn’t the same without those that have been a huge part of our lives. It is challenging to go on without them. They may have lost a mother, father, child, brother etc. Love and compassion will always win and bring healing. Love never fails. Sometimes, someone else’s arms and kind words mean the world to a grieving person. Just to know that someone cares that their heart hurts, means the world to those that have loved and lost. I encourage you to give those who have lost a love one, a hug. The Holy Spirit is the best comforter, however, let me encourage you to ask God how He might want to use you to be a gift to someone hurting this season. There are several widows I have called frequently this holiday season. Just to know someone is thinking about them and cares that their heart is struggling brings comfort. Being sensitive to others helps us be sensitive to the Holy Spirit and vice versa. Isaiah 9:6 says, “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” God may want to use you to bring His peace to those who need compassion this holiday season. Let me encourage you to be sensitive to those around you. Psalm 147:3 says “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Hang on to the promises and enjoy the new adventures that await you. And don’t forget to look for people to bless with a hug.

Kathleen is a Hill Country writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping people bring God into their everyday life. She can be reached at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. For more information, to listen to her podcast, or purchase her book, Thriving Through Seasons of Grief, visit her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

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Giving thanks when nothing is going right

2021-11-19T09:42:00.003-06:00

Giving thanks when nothing is going right By Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Copyright Nov 12, 2021 “How on earth do I give thanks when I feel like life is so difficult and painful?” I muttered as I pondered everything going on in my life.

I was a tired mother of three children, a busy business owner with 250 clients, active in the church and community and my marriage was struggling. I was exhausted, to say the least. A day or two after I said the above question, my baby got pneumonia. This generated extra care for my little one, including frequent breathing treatments he despised and screamed through. A few days into the pneumonia battle, my daughter spent the night at a friend’s house and came home with lice. There was even more work for me, as if taking care of a house and three children was not enough. The next day, the school called and said my oldest son had pink eye. “Surely, God understood that I had enough on my plate and did not have time to be thankful,” I said to myself as I tended to my tasks. The truth is, God did understand, and he wanted to help me overcome the adversity I was facing. Some days in our life on this Earth are just awful. He does not engineer difficult circumstances just so he can produce good; however, he works within us and through us to bring us to a better place when we partner with him. “Help me Lord,” I prayed. I knew God was the only one I could depend on. The next morning, I opened my Bible and began reading II Corinthians 2:14, which reads, “But thanks be to God, who always leads us in triumphal procession in Christ and through us spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge of him.” If you read the first part of the chapter, things were not easy for Paul; however, he had a confidence in God’s ability to overcome his challenges. I was encouraged, and several words stuck out to me as I read and reread this verse. • Thanks • Lead • Always • Triumphal procession I discovered I had to do my part — and that was to give thanks. I began to thank God for his ability to lead me to triumph and for my kids. I began to thank God for his love for me. My heart began to change. Thanksgiving adjusts our attitude. Next, I began to look to God and believe that he would lead me. I began to thank him for my husband, too, even though I was not really happy with him at the time. “God, I thank you for my husband and kids, thank you for your love, and thank you that you want to lead me and help me overcome,” I prayed. “I choose to believe you always work things together for my good, and I look to your ability, not my own.” Please note, I did not thank God for the difficulties but for what I could be thankful for and put my trust in him. In the days and months that followed Thanksgiving that year, the lice and the pink eye were gone from my house, even though these childhood plagues went through all three kids. My baby got over pneumonia. I continued to give thanks for my husband, and God began to work in both of our lives. I began to look to God to change things in our marriage, instead of me trying to change him. Our marriage began to heal, and it started with my heart changing first. Not long ago, I reread II Corinthians 2:14 and could see very clearly how God led me in triumphal procession, step by step. I had to smile at God’s faithfulness. Yes, there are still difficult days in my life; however, I am quick to give thanks and look for how God is going to lead me step by step to get the better of the situation. The great news is, when we partner with God, thank him and lean on him in difficult days, we are developing a testimony in our lives and a confidence in him. Others see that in our lives and are drawn to that fragrance. Right now is a good time to thank God for something in your life and partner with him. If you are having difficulty, ask him to help you develop thankfulness in your life. We can always thank him for being with us, helping us, and we can ask him to open our eyes to see how we can be changed and triumph.

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Adapting to your husband and investing in your marriage

2021-11-01T15:39:00.003-05:00

Adapting to your husband and investing in your marriage Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Copyright October 2021 I trade my heels, dresses and pearls for snake boots, gun, jeans and camouflage between Sept. 1 and Oct. 31. I also trade my purse for a bird bag. I spend every weekend riding around in a pick-up truck with my husband, checking on our dove hunters, occasionally hunting, and in the evenings, we are entertaining our lodge hunters. This has been my life in the months of September and October for the past nine year, and we just celebrated our ninth anniversary. I have loved the adventure of learning new things and am still learning to adapt to my husband, Stephen. He has had quite a few changes being married to me, too.

Good marriages do not just happen. They take work. My mom told me years ago, “Kathleen, if you are not working on your marriage, you are working against it.” I try to be intentional in looking for ways I can invest in my relationship with my husband. Spending quality time with your mate is very important to keep the relationship alive. We live in such a hectic society; however, it is vital for a husband and wife to take time for just the two of them. I was married 30 years to my late husband, Joe. Three years after he was gone, I married Stephen. I realized I could not put the same grid on our relationship as I had in my previous marriage. I had to study Stephen, learn about him and learn how to be his wife. One of my constant prayers is to be the wife he needs. Ephesians 5:22 (Phillips) reads, “You wives must learn to adapt yourselves to your husbands, as you submit yourselves to the Lord, for the husband is the ‘head’ of the wife in the same way Christ is head of the church and savior of the body.” It is important for a wife to study her husband and learn what is important to him, adapt accordingly, and what makes him feel loved and respected. Men are different, and this scripture is telling each of us as wives to adapt to our own husband. The word adapt means to make something suitable for a new use or purpose; modify, become adjusted to new conditions. My late husband was an investment banker who wore a coat and tie each day, worked 8 a.m.–5 p.m. and enjoyed spending weekends at home. My husband, Stephen, is a self-made man who owns several businesses and most days wears jeans, boots and a cowboy hat. His work schedule varies from 6 a.m. to sometimes late in the evening when his phone rings. Needless to say, I had some adapting to do when I remarried in 2012. Stephen is a very hard-working man and plays as hard as he works. When we first got married, I had to adjust to doing something most weekends. We are usually hunting, fishing, visiting with our friends, kids and grandkids, attending events, church, etc. I feel it is important at this stage in life that we find things we can do together to build our relationship. Men need respect, and women need to feel loved and cherished. One way I try to show my husband respect is really looking him in the eyes when we are talking. Another way I try to show him respect is by getting off the phone quickly when he comes in from work. I want him to know he is more important than anyone else in my life. I feel it honors him and shows him respect. The Message version of Ephesians 5:22 reads, “Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife, the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.” Submitting is not being a doormat. It is important for a wife to give her husband input on matters. It is submitting my ideas to him, because our marriage is a partnership, as well as a covenant. Sometimes I may not agree with Stephen. One of my favorite prayers when we do not agree is, “God change my heart or his.” This puts me in a win-win situation. I have seen God change my heart at times and other times, my husband’s heart. Men, it is imperative that you cherish your wife and do what makes her feel loved. A woman who feels cherished and loved will move mountains for her husband. Praying together is also a great building block in a marriage. It brings two people together for a common cause. I am not talking about long amounts of time — even a few minutes each day in prayer together is powerful. Praying with him lets me know what is on his heart and mind. Marriage is about two people walking together in life. Building your marriage is important, takes time, communication and forgiveness. It is never too late to invest in your relationship with your spouse. Strong marriages build strong families. Strong families make strong communities. Will you join me in investing in your relationship with your spouse? It might take a little time to see the results of your investment; however, it will be worth it. #marriage #marriageadvise #marriagegoals #marriedlife Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping others discover the joy of walking with God. Beginning at 6:30 p.m. on Thursdays in October at The Kroc Center in Kerrville, she will begin leading her Bible study, “The Gathering: Bringing God into everyday life”. For more information or to register, contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, Thriving Through Seasons of Grief on her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com

Conflict, COVID, and choosing peace

2021-09-26T21:45:00.001-05:00

Conflict, COVID, and choosing peace Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Copyright September 2021 Have you had heated conversations recently about COVID-19, vaccines or has someone snapped at you for the decision you made?

Months ago, I made a decision about the vaccine based on several things. Then, I felt like God challenged me one day and said, “Kathleen, have you asked me?” I was humbled and spent several days praying about the virus and vaccines, asking God what I should do for my life. I gave my life to Jesus over 50 years ago, and my life belongs to him, so it made sense to ask him. I woke up one morning and felt like he gave me clear direction for the call he has on my life. Not long ago, I encountered someone who was pretty vocal about her decision. Even though I didn’t agree with her stance, I just decided I wouldn’t share my opinion to avoid conflict. I really wasn’t interested in arguing with anyone about the topic, as I am not a medical professional and neither is she. Peace is more important to me, and I usually guard it. During the encounter, I felt like this friend was snapping at me. I was grieved at her response and saddened. How was I to respond? Argue, be offended or chose to forgive? As I prayed about it, I felt like God took me to Hebrews 12:14-15 (TPT). It says, “In every relationship be swift to choose peace over competition, and run swiftly toward holiness, for those who are not holy will not see the Lord. Watch over each other to make sure that no one misses the revelation of God’s grace. And make sure no one lives with a root of bitterness sprouting within them which will only cause trouble and poison the hearts of many.” We can see from this passage that keeping peace, doing what is right before God and not becoming bitter is important to God. It seems like a tall order, but grace is available for the difficult people we encounter. We just have to ask for it and walk in it. One of the things God has shown me is my emotions, attitudes and choices say everything about me, and other people’s emotions, attitudes and choices say everything about them. My emotions, attitudes and choices belong to me, not anyone else. I must take responsibility for my responses to situations. Emotions are how we feel about life, and attitudes are what we think about life. Attitudes come from belief systems and those are usually formed in our youth and shape our thinking. Sometimes we are taught wrong attitudes, and our mind needs to be renewed. Romans 12 :2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.” We must own our emotions, attitudes and choices — not someone else’s. Our job is to be responsible and kind to others. I can’t worry about what other people think or if they agree with my decision, and I must realize I am not powerful enough to change someone’s thinking. They have to own their own emotions, attitudes and choices. Let’s get back on track and quit arguing. We need to get busy in God’s kingdom and pray with others, lead them to Christ, be the visible representation of who he is, not arguing and complaining about everything. I challenge you to seek God about the pandemic, the vaccine, and talk to your medical professional. Take responsibility for your emotions, attitudes and choice, and let’s live in peace with those around us. Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping others discover the joy of walking with God. She will lead a Bible study at 6:30 p.m. Thursday, Oct. 7, at The Kroc Center. To register or for details, contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief” at www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com

Encouragement for widows and basic Christianity

2021-09-03T16:33:00.001-05:00

Encouragement for widows and basic Christianity Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie Copyright August 2021 “Kathleen, this is Ann,” the woman said. “I need your help.” “Ann, is everything OK?” I asked. “No, Bill is dead. I received a phone call that he collapsed and he is gone.” “No!” I responded with a loud voice. I did not want anyone to experience the pain I had experienced as a widow. Since that day when my friend called for help, I have had numerous acquaintances that have lost their mate. My heart is tender towards them. None of us have any guarantees in life. Bad things happen to good people, and it is in our broken places that God’s love, grace and hope see us through the pain. I speak from experience. If you have lost a mate, take heart. There are some wonderful promises in scripture. If you have not, you have a wonderful opportunity to practice the basics of Christianity. James 1:27(NIV) tells us, “Look after the fatherless and the widow in their distress.” Widows and widowers are close to the heart of God. It is easy to feel alone, lonely and wonder where you fit, when you are no longer married. All these feelings are natural, as part of you is now gone. Scripture says that when we marry, we become one; therefore, when a mate leaves this earth, part of you is missing. In my journey as a widow, several scriptures became very special to me. Psalms 68:5 (NIV) proclaims God’s character and says, “A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads forth the prisoners with singing.” God is compassionate towards those that find their life in ashes and he heals the broken-hearted. God’s heart is tender towards the fatherless. Many children are fatherless for a variety of reasons: abandonment, prison, addiction, just to name a few. God will defend the widow, be a daddy to the fatherless, and He cares for those that are lonely. I have personally seen how God has defended me in situations when I did not have a husband to protect me and look out for my best interest. Knowing I had a special place in the heart of God gave great comfort and confidence. Isaiah 1:17 (NIV) states, “Seek justice, encourage the oppressed, defend the cause of the fatherless, plead the case of the widow.” If you are widowed, you can hang on to how special you are to God. There were many times I have prayed and asked God to send someone to plead my case, help me and he did. My dryer broke and was under warranty. I was going through a lot of hassle to get it fixed. I asked God for help, and the assistant to the president of the company oversaw my case and came to my defense after weeks of waiting. Ask God to raise up those that will defend you.

Exodus 22:22(NIV) reflects God’s heart for widows. It proclaims, “Do not take advantage of a widow or orphan. If you do and they cry out to me, I will certainly hear their cry. My anger will be aroused, and I will kill you.” It is a good thing we live by grace and not law anymore! This scripture shows us that God hears the cry of the orphan and the widow. He does not tolerate treating them unjustly. James 1:27 (NIV) gets right to the point about what is important in our Christian walk. It says, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this; to look after the orphans and widows in their distress. ...” It is just that simple. Sometimes in our busy world, we forget to do the basics of Christianity and forget what God says is pure and what is right. Is there a foster child, a child without a mom or dad, a widow or widower that needs your help? Perhaps you could mentor or include him or her in your lunch or dinner plans? Looking after these that are right outside our back door is important. Jesus said, “I have come that you may have life and life to the full.” If you are a widow or widower, you have a God-given right to live a full life. I’m living proof that starting over isn’t easy, but God is right there to help and guide you. My late husband has been gone almost 12 years now, and I remarried 8 years ago. I have a good life now, but I will never forget the kindness of God and people during my hard years of being a widow. I am forever grateful for all I learned in that season. We are very blessed to have plenty of opportunities to practice the heart of God to the orphans and widows in our community. Look around, and let’s get busy in this mission field God has placed before us. And for those widowed, I ask God to richly bless you, defend you, comfort you, heal you, and fill you with hope. Kathleen Maxwell is a native of the Hill Country, a writer and speaker. She is passionate about helping others discover the joy of walking with God. On Thursday, October 7th at 6:30 p.m. at The Kroc Center in Kerrville, she will begin leading her Bible study called, The Gathering- Bringing God into everyday life. For more information or to register, contact her at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. You can also purchase her book, Thriving Through Seasons of Grief on her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com and on Amazon

Thriving Through Seasons of Grief

2021-07-31T16:30:00.002-05:00

Now available on Amazon in paperback or on Kindle.

Fear is not your friend

2021-07-26T08:36:00.000-05:00

Recently, I talked to a number of people struggling with different fears. I can certainly relate as for years, I was a victim of a variety of fears. Thankfully, God has set me free from the bondage fear brings. Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. The feeling of anxiety about the outcome of something or the safety and well-being of someone. One thing is for sure: Fear is tormenting. Fear is a thief and a robber of peace, joy and tranquility. I speak from experience. There are many different kinds of fear. A few I have struggled with in the past were a fear of death, fear of germs, fear of failure and fear of the dark. I have found that many people struggle with the same fears that held me captive for years. I was good at justifying my fear, telling myself that one could never be too cautious. One day I heard the words, “Fear is doubt and unbelief, and doubt and unbelief is not trusting God. That is sin.” At that moment, I knew I could no longer justify my fears. Whenever I was afraid, I began to acknowledge them as sin. God graciously began to set me free, as I was faithful to repent and resist the temptation to walk in fear. Repentance is always our friend and is found on the path to freedom. II Timothy 1:7 (NIV) reads, “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” We can conclude from this passage that fear is a spirit, and it is not from God; therefore, it is not our friend. There are times when I have simply said the words, “Fear, go. You are not my friend.” As long as we coddle our fears, they will hang around. We must deal ruthlessly with them if we want to get free. Isaiah 41:10 (NIV) says, “So, do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Many times, I have pictured myself holding God’s hand, and that gives me great courage. Dismay is feelings of anxiety and consternation, usually by something unexpected. Have you ever had something unexpected happen? I have. Proverbs 3:25 (NIV) tells us, “Be not afraid of sudden fear.” Satan loves to make us feel scared, because then we are intimidated. Intimidation has one goal: to scare us from even engaging in the battle. Goliath used intimidation on David, but David did not bow to fear. He quickly strengthened himself by remembering how God helped him slay a bear and a lion. I love David’s faith in response to intimidation. He told the bellowing giant he would strike him down, cut off his head and give his carcasses to the birds. Those are faith-filled words. Prior to a personal relationship with God, I was terrified of dying. I had trouble sleeping at night for fear I might die. Once I accepted Jesus into my heart and repented of the fear, I was no longer afraid of dying. Personally knowing God is the start of overcoming fear. Tell God you want a personal relationship with him, and anytime fear shows up, tell it to go; it is not your friend. The U.S. Navy has a slogan I think is a motto against any fears: “Life, liberty and the pursuit of all who threaten it.” God wants us to enjoy life, our freedom and get rid of any fear that would threaten us. Fear is an enemy, not a friend. Do not let fear rob you anymore. Kathleen is a Hill Country author, writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping people bring God into their everyday life. She can be reached at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. To purchase her book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” or listen to her podcast, visit her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

A life of freedom:Forgiveness, letting go, surrender

2021-05-21T23:41:00.005-05:00

A life of freedom: Forgiveness, letting go, surrender • Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie • May 15, 2021

We have the great privilege of living in the USA — the land of the free and the home of the brave. I am grateful for our military, which has provided and continues to provide freedom for us to enjoy every day. What does freedom look like in our daily lives? Living a life of freedom means practicing three things regularly: forgiveness, letting go and surrender. We live in a fallen world, and one day, when we get to heaven, life will be perfect. Until then, we have to learn to live free in a world with imperfect people, heartbreak, loss, offense and disappointment. Forgiveness has been a big key to living free in my life. When we forgive, we set ourselves free. For many years, I lived my life forgiving others when I felt like it. I wanted to be genuine and mean it, but what I found is it often took a long time to get to “feeling like forgiving.” Matthew 6:14 (NIV) says, “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive, your heavenly Father will not forgive you.” The above scripture shows us that forgiveness is a choice. We have a choice to forgive or not. Forgiving others not only sets us free, it also puts us in a place to receive forgiveness from God for ourselves. It is a win/win situation. We can rest knowing God is just, and we have been obedient to scripture. One day, I learned that forgiveness is a choice and something you do more for yourself, not your offender. Choosing to forgive others instead of waiting until I felt like it gave me a whole lot more freedom in my life. We can be honest with God when we don’t feel like forgiving; however, it is important to choose to forgive because he says so and ask him to change our hearts. Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves. Sometimes we work so hard to make something work, and we need to just let go. When we let go, we trust God. Letting go of an offense, things going a certain way, a problem we have or grief in our hearts are big keys to our freedom. Years ago, my marriage to my late husband struggled. I tried everything I knew to make things work, and they seemed to get worse. One day, I prayed and said, “God, I let go and trust you.” I quit trying to fix and control the situation. God began to work when I got out of his way, and my marriage was restored. Surrendering to God’s plans and purposes brings freedom. Surrendering, trusting, adjusting our plans and timeline brings peace to our heart. I usually have to pray out loud, “I trust you, Lord; change my heart and perspective to see this situation like you do.” There is something about voicing our trust and declaring it. The waves of life can daily toss us around, and surrendering helps keep us grounded. In Isaiah 22:12 (NIV) it reads, “Surely God is my salvation; I will trust and not be afraid. The Lord, the Lord himself, is my strength and my defense; he has become my salvation.” We can surrender and trust God, who dearly loves us and is committed to us. Jesus came for us to live a life of freedom. Let’s partner with him and daily practice forgiveness, letting go and surrendering to bring more freedom into our lives. And remember, as we practice, we grow and mature — and freedom rings in our lives and plays a beautiful melody. Kathleen is a Hill Country author, writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping people bring God into their everyday life. She can be reached at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. To purchase her book or listen to her podcast, visit her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com

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2021-05-17T10:13:00.000-05:00

Book signing this Thursday in New Braunfels, Texas beginning at 4:00 p.m. at The Crossing. 322 West. San Antonio, St. Come at 6:00 for a book review, shopping, and refreshments.

Honor, forgive, and teach - A tribute to my mother

2021-05-12T07:54:00.004-05:00

My mother was a 5-foot-2, blue-eyed lady who taught me many things. She taught me everything from “say please and thank you” to “don’t forget to wear your lipstick,” “you better shape up or ship out” and there was always, “get happy just like you got sad.” Mary Belle loved people and would talk to anyone who would listen. She was a genuine lady and tried her best to teach me how to be a lady. I’m still learning. The best things my mom taught me were about walking with God. She loved the Lord, and it was evident by the many times I would see her studying her Bible, listening to worship music and by the life she led. She was a woman who loved God with all her heart and a praying woman. I am forever grateful for all the prayers she prayed for me and all the wise counsel she gave me. If you are a young mother, I challenge you to train your children, spend time with them, and teach them about a relationship with God. He will always be with them, you will not. Perhaps you are reflecting on your own mother as Mother’s Day approaches — good memories, bad or funny ones and the painful memories. God’s word is very specific on how to treat our parents. Ephesians 6:2 (NIV) says, “Honor your father and mother — which is the first commandment with a promise — that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy a long life on the earth.” I found eight times in scripture where God tells us to honor our father and mother, which indicates it is pretty important to the heart of God. So, what does that mean to us today? You do not have to like everything your mom did or did not do, but you do have to honor the God-given position she has in your life. If nothing else, you can be grateful your mom carried you in her womb and gave birth to you. Honoring our mother is not just a suggestion but a commandment with a promise. When we honor our mom, we receive a blessing! Maybe your mom had some problems and hurt you in some ways emotionally, physically or was not there for you. Those are hard situations, but we cannot let bitterness and resentment build in our hearts. Unfortunately, those thoughts and feelings hold us, not the mother, in bondage. If your mom has hurt you, let you down or made wrong choices, do yourself a favor and forgive her this Mother’s Day. Forgiveness truly is a gift you give to yourself as much as to her. You do not have to tell her you forgive her; rather, it can just be a conversation between you and God. One of the hardest Mother’s Day seasons for me was the first year my mom was gone from this earth. It seemed everywhere I looked, some store was advertising the holiday. Tears would sting my eyes, and I thought of her not being here. Psalms 27:10 (KJV) was a promise I held on to. It states, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the Lord will take me up.” I looked to God to fill the void and not waste my pain. God was faithful and has put other women in my life to mother me, pray for me and encourage me, just like my mom would if she were here. I still miss her. Maybe it is your first Mother’s Day without your mom. If your mom isn’t around anymore, let the tears roll. I pray God’s rich comfort over your heart and His healing touch, and I give you permission to cry. Grief is the price of love. Life is short. In this Mother’s Day season, honor your mother, forgive her, bless her, thank her or cry over her absence. She was the first person to know of your existence, gave you life and deserves honor. Kathleen is a Hill Country author, writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping people bring God into their everyday life. She can be reached at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. To purchase her book or listen to her podcast, visit her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

You are invited to a book signing!

2021-04-15T22:57:00.000-05:00

Living out loud: What is your life saying to others?

2021-03-25T16:49:00.004-05:00

Living out loud: What is your life saying to others? • Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie • Mar 20, 2021 copyright 2021
The last 3 1/2 years, I have had the privilege of overseeing care for my father-in-law, John Rambie. He was a great man and, unfortunately, he recently passed away. Walking with people in the last days of their journey on earth is challenging at times, yet so rewarding. I observed several things in Johnny’s life that impressed me as we spent time together. Everyone is advertising something, whether we realize it or not, and the way he lived his life showed what was important to him. Johnny wasn’t afraid to express his love for people. I frequently saw him holding his wife’s hand when they sat on their sofa to watch television, and they were always snuggled together. It was sweet to observe. He also loved his three children: David, Stephen (my husband) and Mary. When I took him to doctor’s appointments, we would frequently FaceTime while waiting, and his face would light up when he talked to them. He was not afraid to say “I love you,” and I will always treasure the times he told me he loved me, especially the last few days of his life. God wasn’t afraid to express His love for us, and that is evident in the many scriptures that tell us of His love. Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV) is one of my favorites and states, “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” Johnny told me the story about how he was born in Center Point, Texas, and weighed 3 pounds at birth. His mom kept him warm in a shoe box by the oven. He had strength as a baby, and that strength continued throughout his life, even when he endured the physical hardship of his Parkinson’s disease. He remained strong until the moment I saw him take his last breath. God was his strength, and Johnny knew and depended on Jesus. His Bible was always on the stand by his couch, and he loved singing gospel songs. We sang “Jesus Loves Me” and “Amazing Grace” many times to bring comfort and peace to his heart. He would sing with us and, when he couldn’t sing the words anymore, he would mouth the words, or just tap his foot under the blanket. What impressed me the most about him was his gratitude. Gratitude opens the door to joy, no matter what the circumstances. He was always grateful, and he expressed it. Every time we went to see him, took him to the doctor, brought supplies to him, he always us. A heart of gratitude governed his life. “Overcoming any problem begins with a grateful heart,” is one of my favorite sayings, and Johnny’s life showed that. He was always grateful and thankful, no matter what. He never let his hardships define him. He understood the value of expressing gratitude. Even in his physical difficulty, he found something to be grateful for. Gratitude opens the door to joy and overcoming adversity. Luke 6:45 (NIV) says, “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” Johnny’s heart was full of gratitude. Expressing love, drawing strength from God and always walking in gratitude are just some of the lessons we learned from this man. My prayer for our family is that grief will have a good work in our lives and we would grow in the things his life taught us. I am grateful for all the lessons that Johnny taught me and that grief has taught me. If you have lost someone you love, I ask God to heal your heart, too. Perhaps my newly released book, “Thriving Through Seasons of Grief,” will help in your healing journey. Psalms 147:3 (NIV) is a promise I depend on and says, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” God is faithful to heal broken hearts when we partner with him. Although Johnny was a man of few words, the life he lived said volumes. The question for you and me is, what is the life we live saying to others?

Kathleen is a Hill Country author, writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping people bring God into their everyday life. She can be reached at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com. To purchase her book or listen to her podcast, visit her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.

Hope in Crisis

2021-03-19T07:00:00.002-05:00

Hope in crisis Kathleen Maxwell-Rambie copyright March

2021 The last few days have been very challenging for many of us in our community and state. Like many, my husband and I have dealt with the temperature being 31 degrees when we arrived at our house, busted water pipes, water in our house, electricity only a few hours a day and cooking in our fireplace. In all of this, hope has been my anchor as I have lived in what seems like survival mode. Hope is not only vital in times of crisis, but also in our everyday life. It is necessary to keep us moving forward in any situation. The Bible has much to say about the subject of hope, and even secular society understands the importance of hope. What is hope? How do you get hope? What do you do when hope is gone or what you hoped for does not happen? Hope is defined as a feeling of expectation and desire for something to happen. To not have hope is to have a negative mindset that can be detrimental, not only for the person with a negative mindset but also those around a person who has lost hope. Where do you go when you need hope? I have found God’s word to be my “go to” spot for hope. Romans 15:4 (NIV) tells us, “For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope.” There are many negative circumstances and negative people in life, so it is important that we look to God’s promises for our lives. He is the one person we can always count on. Romans 15:13 (NIV) says, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him.” From this scripture, we find that hope is part of the character of God. It is part of who He is and who we are since we are made in His image, therefore, we always have access to hope. Isaiah 40:31 (NIV) states, “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength, they will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not faint.” In this scripture, the meaning of the word hope is to bind, to strengthen and to wait. The benefits of hope are amazing. Hope in God, not our circumstances, gives us strength and keeps us going. Please note that we are instructed to not hope in anything but God. David, in the Bible, commanded his soul to hope in God. Psalms 43:5 (NIV) says, “Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.” This is a good reminder for all of us to command our inner man to not rely on our negative feelings, but to put our hope in the one who has the power to change things. My late husband battled cancer and passed away 11 years ago. We prayed for his healing. Did I get what I hoped for? No, but to me, God never failed me; He was faithful and was with me in the most challenging time of my life. My hope remained in God that dearly loves me, in God to heal my broken heart and to help me keep moving forward in my life and purpose. God is looking for a people who are optimistic, see all the possibilities in life and hope in Him. Jeremiah 31:17 (NIV) promises us hope stating, “So there is hope for your future, declares the Lord.” I challenge you in these trying days to grab the above promise and trust in God. And once we are anchored in hope ourselves, then we can offer hope to those around us. I am praying hope will anchor you in your personal crisis.

Kathleen is a Hill Country writer, speaker and podcaster. She is passionate about helping people bring God into their everyday life. She can be reached at kathleenmaxwell1@gmail.com or you can listen to her podcast on kathleenmaxwellrambie.podbean.com and visit her website, www.kathleenmaxwellrambie.com.