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2014-06-28T16:44:00.001-07:00

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We will be doing a session in nyc on nov 25 with one of the presenters of this one in Australia . Figure 6-8 pm. Location tbd. If you know anyone around midtown that can lend us a conference room please let me know.
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Family storybook workshop

Sunday 27 July 9.00am-2.00pm

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Hawthorn Community House, Henry Street, Hawthorn, Victoria 3122 view map

Knowing what to say can be a little daunting. However there are many creative ways to start the conversation early.

Come along to a fun and interactive workshop with other parents and learn how to create your very own personal family storybook to share with your child.

Facilitated by Kate Bourne, our Senior Community Education Officer, and mothers of donor-conceived children who have created storybooks, this is an opportunity to see examples of the different mediums that can be used to create your family storybook. The workshop will assist you in creating a vision for telling your own family story and a plan to get you started!

Please note that places are limited and demand for this event is high. We apologise in advance if you are not able to attend. Make sure you are registered to our mailing list to ensure you receive notifications of future events. Thank you for your understanding.

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My Great Story-Living with Down Syndrome

2011-04-09T23:27:00.001-07:00

This was a fantastic segment on Talk Stoop with an actor who has been on television and is involved with this project. He would like to call it UP Syndrome.

http://ndss.org/index.php?option=com_mgs

Sara Axel
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Scott Barry Kaufman, Ph.D.: 8 Surprising Facts About Parenting, Genes and What Really Makes Us Who We Are

2011-03-27T21:58:00.001-07:00

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/scott-barry-kaufman/nature-vs-nurture_b_837915.html

Sara Axel
516-967-7430

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Am I the Right Kind of Mother for My Chinese Child?

2011-03-27T07:41:00.000-07:00

Am I the Right Kind of Mother for My Chinese Child?

and The Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mom

A Family of Artists 3.27.11

2011-03-27T06:39:00.000-07:00

BioNews - Australian donor conception report published

2011-03-15T15:44:00.001-07:00

http://www.bionews.org.uk/page_90960.asp

Sara Axel
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WENDY KRAMER OF THE DSR ON DONOR AND RECIPIENT MEETINGS 3.8.11

2011-03-13T21:09:00.000-07:00

Read the whole article or just SCROLL DOWN TO the PURPLE HIGHLIGHTED PART and you'll know why I've been as open as I can be, with surely a long way to go (and hopefully someday ready for the DSR, Wendy!) With thanks and with permission from Wendy Kramer of The DSR:

As more and more clinics and agencies include the DSR in their egg donation contracts and discussions, we get the feeling that this type of openness is becoming more acceptable in the industry. It's encouraging to hear professionals being willing to take a step out and talk about this openly!

For more than ten years, we at the DSR have been facilitating the ability for all donor families to make mutual consent contact. We have facilitated and assisted with more than 8,150of these connections. Our service allows immediate contact amongst all parties,anonymous if desired, so that medical information, photos, emails and all other information can be shared between families and their donors. We are seen on our site that parents, children, adult offspring and donors can connect with each other in a healthy, enriching and successful way, if given the chance. The industry has often stated that there is too much risk involved with allowing this type of connection (Fairfax Director 10/2010 explaining why they will not let donors know their own donor numbers) but we strongly feel that properly educated and counseled families are very capable in moving forward with their own familial connections.

We have been advocates for the donor offspring and have continually asked the

industry and the public to ask this question, "what is in the best interest of the child to be born?". By telling the stories of those of us in "donor families" we have hopefully helped the public and those of you in the industry to have a better understanding of our needs. Secrecy does not work for the majority of us. (It does work for those without adequate education and counseling). Secrecy implies shame,and many of us don't wish to being children into the world believing that there is something inherently shameful about them.

And we also know that when donors are adequately educated and counseled, that

they also lean more towards open donations.

On the DSR, both recipients and donors can have the choice of connecting with

each other earlier than the child's 18th birthday. We know that many donor children are curious long before their 18th birthday and many have made successful connections during their teen (and even earlier) years. We believe that 18 is an arbitrary number and that parents know their children best as far as what age might be best appropriate for their child to reach out. This empowers all people involved without having the lawyer or agency, or clinic or sperm bank at the helm of their family information.

Parents usually sign up to the DSR first, as full paying members, and then post with a donor number and their clinic. Then, the donor also signs up, as a non-paying member, but she'll then have a DSR username. When the recipient family sends me the donor's $150, they just need to tell me the donor's DSR username, so that I can then activate her account to full membership, and then, she can post with the same donor number and clinic- so that they are then on the DSR as a "match". They can then share the donor's Q&A, the medical information page, photos, and emails- all while remaining anonymous to each other until they are willing to share contact information. They do not need a middle-man, and have access to licensed therapists on our site, if assistance, coaching or guidance is needed.

We are non-profit organization, with no outside funding. We are therefore not obligated to present the industry's point of view and therefore have been way ahead of the curve in asking for this industry to look at the needs of the children being born and in asking for better parent and donor education and counseling - at the front door, before major decisions are made. With almost eleven years and more than 30,000 people behind us, we would hope that the experiences of DSR egg and sperm donors, parents and donor offspring would be utilized to discuss how to bring more openness into this industry and into each family.

Wendy Kramer

www.donorsiblingregistry.com

303-258-0902

"There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One is

roots; the other wings." - Hodding Carter

Supporting Adoptive Families

2011-03-10T21:09:00.000-08:00

I wish we had half the public and private acceptance, support and resources available for families created through donor and surrogacy.

Supporting Adoptive Families

http://www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/postplacement/transsupport/

Donating eggs no easy decision - Washington Times

2011-03-10T20:38:00.000-08:00

Not sure where this group or website is headed, but the article was fair enough.

Quoted in the article is Sujatha Jesudason, executive director of Generations Ahead, a social justice advocacy group with an interest in reproductive issues.

Generations Ahead is developing a website on egg donation with Choice USA and the Health Equity Institute at San Francisco State University.

http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2011/mar/7/wetzstein-donating-eggs-no-easy-decision/print/

New York, NY | StoryCorps

2011-03-10T19:29:00.000-08:00

Great way to tell your family story.

http://storycorps.org/record-your-story/locations/new-york-ny/#reservations

Parenting Reflections from an HRC “All Children – All Families” Advisor « Human Rights Campaign

2011-03-10T04:34:00.000-08:00

http://www.hrcbackstory.org/2011/03/parenting-reflections-from-an-hrc-all-childen-all-families-advisor/

S.J. case tries to define motherhood in world of surrogates, donated eggs | courierpostonline.com | Courier-Post

2011-03-02T20:52:00.000-08:00

http://www.courierpostonline.com/article/20110302/NEWS01/103020347/S-J-case-tries-to-define-motherhood

Designer Babies for the general population and a Celebrity Battling Infertility

2011-02-22T16:24:00.000-08:00

Anyone else catch the irony in the 2 articles below? They are from the same day,the same planet,the same century!

Is the reporter in Charlotte SC that narrow-minded to think they can't get anyone to read about infertility and ordinary people seeking specific criteria in an egg donor without it being "a designer baby". Its usually celebrities or the obviously-too-rich-and-selfish who are tied to that antiquated terminology.

Its long been known that Nicole Kidman has had infertility issues. I'm so glad she has chosen to handle her situation with class and dignity and that ABC news headline treats her as a human being with feelings, not just (and so much more important than) her celebrity status.

Still,if she's being honest and open about using an egg donor and gestational carrier, I'm very pleased that she could be our spokesperson. Its not like she needs another award or to endorse some other product,right?

So, thanks Nicole and Keith and congratulations. May you and your family enjoy only health and happiness always in welcoming your new baby!
Sincerely,
Sara Axel

2 Your Health: Designer Babies | WCBD-TV 2

2011-02-22T16:02:00.000-08:00

http://www2.counton2.com/news/2011/feb/21/2-your-health-designer-babies-ar-1489286/

Nicole Kidman Talks Openly About Infertility - ABC News

2011-02-22T16:01:00.000-08:00

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/WomensHealth/nicole-kidman-talks-openly-infertility/story?id=12968754&page=2

DE Mom Talking With Her ART/ObGyn about Language

2011-02-21T19:47:00.000-08:00

I saw my OB/Gyn yesterday for routine check-up. He is moving totally out of OB work and focusing now on what he has long been involved in – ART.

He is the first to ever say DE to me. At first, I was referred to his “partner” at the time, my Dr was only “assisting” in those procedures then.

Now, my Dr has opened an ART office in our mid-western suburb and has announced that he will discontinue the OB practice (he said he has a few babies yet to deliver), but will keep his long-time patients who don’t need those OB services, for GYN treatment. I love the heck out of this guy; and so, I am happy to follow. After all, he did get me successfully through 2 high risk pregnancies.

Yesterday, he was asking about the kids, and telling his nurse asst, that I was his “oldest” mom ever - and still. He actually seemed surprised to hear I was 50 when I delivered my son. We talked about our egg donor, and of the kid’s “casual” familiarity with her. They clearly know that she IS special to us.

I gently corrected him, when he called her their “biological mother”, by saying quietly “genetic”. Hopefully, it will be the LAST correction he ever needs. It’s his total sweetness, that allows my own quick forgiveness. He meant “nothing” wrong. I was a “good” one to make such a language error with.

Debbie, from the original Falling Leaves, Autumn Sunshine, Sunshine Family groups.

DE Moms Talking To Their Kids in 2011

2011-02-21T19:35:00.000-08:00

Or talking to your friends, family, doctors ?
Let me know if you'd like to join the conversation and what you'd like to add.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Please contact me directly at SAXEL95@AOL.COM.

The Family Scholars

2011-02-20T21:45:00.000-08:00

From the Family Scholars-the meanest cruelest bloggers out there and this is what the say about posting comments
on their site:

Bloggers and commenters: be rigorous, be powerful, be funny, but don't be mean.

Books About Families - Parenting.com

2011-02-20T21:38:00.000-08:00

Nice book list from parenting.com
http://www.parenting.com/gallery/divorce-books-children?pnid=136880

NYC MOM talks to her SON and about DE

2011-02-08T20:28:00.000-08:00

We had a very interesting conversation about donor egg after dinner one night last month. I think this conversation touches on so many different aspects of DE (science, genetic traits, nature vs nurture, what's a "mother.") And it only took 5 minutes.   Probably the last time we discussed it was six months before.

I asked him if he would help me read the elephant book to his little brother. I told him I'd like his help to try to explain to his brother who is age two and a half, how much I wanted a baby and how a doctor helped us. We talked a lot more about the "donor" than we ever had before. Before this night, I don't think I ever used the word "donor", just a special lady who gave the doctor an egg so that the doctor could help us get pregnant.

He was asking if he had any of my genes ("just maybe a few?" he asked, hopefully) and I said that he has some traits that are from me because he grew in my womb and because he lives with me, but they aren't technically from genes. Then he asked if the donor had green eyes, like him. (I couldn't remember! I said "I think so, but I'll have to check"). He asked how I'd check, since we didn't meet her.

I explained that even though we didn't meet her (I used the term anonymous, he knows what that means), the doctor met her and she also filled out a form with some information about her, which I kept (somewhere). He volunteered, "I bet I have some traits from daddy, some from the donor, some from you, mommy, and some from being created in a petrie dish!!" Yes, probably you do!    He proposed that "sixty-percent of all children who are made in a petrie dish become very interested in science."   He said he wants to become a chemist and an inventor when he grows up and that he's going to invent a lot of websites. One of the websites will be a community where donors and families can connect "and chat to eachother." (He's been spending time on Club Penguin and also has his own home page on shelfari.com, a reading community) So I asked, did he want to connect with his donor?   "Sure!" he said. I told him that some donors don't want to meet the families they helped but they were very happy to help couples who wanted babies by donating "just a cell" from their bodies. They didn't consider it creating a child, just donating an egg and helping a couple who needed one.

I told him that the other evening, I went to dinner with other mothers who made their babies with an egg from a donor. He said, "Really? Wow!" I guess I should bring him to one of those DE family gatherings. At some point in the conversation, he called the donor an "ex-mother" GASP! Where does he come up with this?? (he did not call her HIS "ex-mother", mind you, just AN ex-mother).   I said (extremely calmly, by the way) that the donor is not a mother, just a donor, and I asked him what he thinks a "mother" is. And he said a mother is " a mom you grow up with." He asked me if I wanted to meet the donor. I said that if I ever met her, I would like to say "Thank you for helping us make our son!" (neatly side stepping the question..., don't you think?)

That's about it!

Eggsploitation 2.4.11 and Why I Went

2011-02-04T15:42:00.000-08:00

Heres why I went.I wanted to present our interests and be able to open the door for others to speak as well.I asked more questions rather than coming out for our side as I did not think being confrontational was the right approach for my first time at an event like this but rather I could reinforce to you all that we need more of our voices to be heard on this.
I'm passionate about the topic of third party reproduction and reproductive rights in general butthis goes deeper for me. It really is about my kids and maybe yours too if you're on here. 
Of course I believe in the good in the profession, good doctors, other caring practitioners, etc...but this is also how I feel about just seeing the trailor for the film online.
How about the subtitle- egg donation a dirty little secret. As a parent, perhaps as a former donor yourself or infertility patient, about the activities of the religious right and what they say about us (Shark Tank girl for one, see my Twiblings article comments as well). 
I don't believe this will go away if we don't fan it. Naral and NOW have been pretty quiet these last several yrs and where are we now? Huff post article that the 1^st piece of legislation to beaddressed after the healthcare bill in the new congress is to pass a bill refining RAPE. Just myopinion.
Here's an informal review. This is all off the top of my head, notes elsewhere, more later.
I attended the 2 screenings in NYC yesterday,Fordham daytime, Columbia evening. 
One de mom friend joined me at each, and a film friend of mine joined me at Fordham, and DrNancy Carroll-Freeman,de mom of twins who ison the education committee of ASRM came toColumbia. Saw no one else I knew from our circles, small turnout at each. 20-30 ppl, 1 personbesides Lahl made up the panel,her side of the argument.
I was there yesterday in NYC for both screenings and there was a representative from NOW on the Columbia panelists and she was more an advocate of the film and Jennifer Lahl than I personally would have hoped. Kathleen Sloan,also on the board of Center for Responsible Genetics. Perhaps you already knew about the NOW person. has spoken to this as a human rights issue to the UN.BTW-Shark Tank Girl was there with a picket sign for her website and her mission as clearly stated at the screenings as “ending ALL art and reuniting children with their real (donor) parents as they go on their spiritual journey of ….” Jennifer Lahl said that is her next film project.They became fast friends right then and there.
I will be looking at the legitimacy of the film award, not known by a film friend. I was civil andlevel, as neutral as I could be in my questioning until Shark tank girl-well ,I only took one little pot shot,couldn't help it. When I asked is there a model by which ART is practiced elsewher
that they think is done according to their standards and that they would consider acceptable and I got an answer that made no sense-it might have,but it was just blah blah blah, nothing substantive. Which was when Shark Tank girl chimed in on how in other countries there is a homestudy done just like they do for adoption, to see if it’s a home and family fit to be parents. Mypot shot was-maybe they also do a better job of screening (this girl supposedly passed throughand donated twice herself). I reminded the Panel that I was asking about all ART and not just Donors and that in adoption there are different risks & liabilities for placing an existing child compared to who is entitled by law to have children through any form of reproduction.
Lahl said she is not trying to end all ivf,just mistreatment of donors, but then also says to end all art until they figure out the effects from all of it on women and-ready for this-the environment, and then in turn on all of us. 
No one from the business was there. My RE said he would have but had theater tickets for that night (it wasn’t much notice when I asked him).
The additional piece in NYC that was brought up both times was that NY State is the first to pass a bill compensating donors for stem cell research (and hence taking advantage of the poorer populations of women who would be enticed by the $). 
Lahl insists that she is not a Trojan horse for the religious right and was very upset that she was mis-quoted by the journalist, as journalists are known to do. She said she hears from women all the time so saying 3 people in the film does not represent the whole industry or that there are many more is not accurate. 
There was a medical writer there that had mentioned this and I spoke with her after the film, Marion Dreyfus, who writes about the women's global health issues, has a friend that paid a lotof money for his wife to get a donor and that's how she came to this. 
I spoke to the woman from NOW at Columbia and Marion the medical writer at Fordham, about the myth that the compensation is as high as the inflammatory numbers (and that recipients are all rich snobs) and language around designer babies and elite donors,that that's not the norm or the average. Lahl said ASRM guidelines don't mean anything when they recommend no more than $8-10,000, if I still have that correct. Anything I said about ASRM was poo-pooedas being part of the $6.5B industry that has their interest in keeping the dirty secret going.
For the 3 women in the film,how many more have to lose their ability to have children. Lahl admitted the screening venues are college campuses where donor recruiting is done.
The phrases used over and over were these:
Informed consent-either not given it or too young to understand it.
Longitudinal studies on (horrendous, life-threatening) health risks.
Taking advantage of women-the definition of eggsploitation a classic-if its on the website (let'sjust pick it apart for what it is and why shouldn't the medical community defend itself?)
Off label use of lupron. I did not get to ask how many drugs out there are also used regularly as off-label.
Regulation-I’m in favor of more openness as well as a registry of some kind if it can ever be done properly. They kept saying the donor is USED AND THEN FORGOTTEN. That really upset me.
And of course, the good ole-we’re the wild west of reproductive medicine, egg brokers, selling eggs. I have more notes and one other donor mom that I know attended each screening as did my film friend so I hope to have more to share.
One man who came late and left after his statement in which he said he was the chief of medicine at columbia (I will google and see if I can catch a photo to verify),said that anytime money is involved between a doctor and 2 parties there is a conflict of interest. Columbia had more attendance, more interest from audience and seemed on the left and because they were in a law school setting they were asking questions about malpractice insurance ratios globally as well asactual liability and responsibility-like medical mistakes happen and doctors don't want to mess up for many reasons, not just $.
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A Conversation with Mikki Morrisette of Choicemoms.org

2011-01-23T20:06:00.000-08:00

I'm, always on the look-out for good info to share with our Choice Moms of The NYC Gathering, or Single Mothers by Choice. In the disclosure discussions we deal with how, when and what to tell our children and the others in our lives. Here is Mikki's take on how to deal with the others in our lives during the early years.

About filling our paperwork for schools etc....

"Most women I've heard of opt to put N/A, or leave it blank, on birth certificates. I think in the case of schools the same would apply. But it might also be important to make a note that the child is "from a Choice Mom family, meaning I opted to build our family despite the lack of a partner."

That's basically what I did.

Similar to adoptive families, it becomes important at times for good teachers to understand that not everyone is coming from the traditional family. At least where I am, there is more open discussion about it in those early years to lay the groundwork.

Especially when it comes to the family tree assignments that start to happen in kindergarten. It's good to walk tall and proud. :-)

One innovative solution to the family tree assignments, which happen in early school years, is an idea that my daughter and I came up with years ago.

On our birthdays, we draw a flower and, in the roots and stems and petals, write the names of the people who are most important to us. (It's interesting to note how some vary from year to year, and who remains the same.) Rather than noticing a blank side of the family, as with traditional family trees, where "biological dad's" side cannot be filled in adequately, we focus our efforts on recognizing that there are many friends and family in our network who help us evolve as the person we are becoming."

You can read more about this, and see an example, here: http://www.choicemoms.org/blog/70/the_family_tree_assignment
Mikki Morrissette
http://www.choicemoms.org

Thanks again Mikki. So great to have you here in NYC!

My Comments Posted to The NY Times on The Twiblings

2011-01-19T19:44:00.000-08:00

This took 2 days of moderation to get posted. I thought it didnt make it because of the PVED plug but it did. I wrote in again without the PVED part and that one made it too, similar but tweaked.

99.

Sara Axel

New York, NY

January 13th, 2011

10:38 am

Thank you for writing this article and discussion.I started the NYC Gathering in 2002 as an in-person peer support group for people thinking about creating, trying to create a family, and parenting through donor-conception and surrogacy. Back then we thought that we'd be much further along by now in public acceptance and attitudes of others, but sadly we have much further to go. The article gives me hope for some sanity but sadly I and others still get weird or downright mean) comments, on-line and to our faces about ourselves and our kids, and its what keeps most of us in the closet. I've been criticized for outing my kids but I refuse to hide in shame. I won't out anyone who comes to our groups (and there is also secure on-line support at PVED.ORG), and I will continue to take these kinds of public hits from others who have no idea what my life or family life is like (and think I'm not really the only mom so I can't really be there for my kids when they find out how hurt and angry they too should be about all this). I do this in hope that someday we will have a safe community for our families where we don't have to fear such harsh words or judgments of others.624.

Sara Axel

New York, NY

January 14th, 2011

10:26 am

Thanks #618-Crista (and of course to Melanie for the article).In the years since starting a peer support group in NYC for anyone thinking of, trying to conceive and parenting through donor and surrogacy in 2002, I can count on 1 hand how many traditional, hetero families have been comfortable and open about this family-building journey without caring about the judgement or harsh words from others, let alone write about it in the NY Times Magazine. I've been targeted myself, taken some hits from people who say I wont be able to comfort my kids when they are mourning the loss of their other mother, and more of the same kind of criticism written in the comments here. I don't think too many more people will want to come out of the closet if this is whats waiting for them on the other side. Its really too bad, because we've finally overcome so many other stigmas, I just don't understand why we have to create or perpetuate this one.

My Friend Halle talks to her daughter and friend about DE

2011-01-19T19:39:00.000-08:00

Halle is another mom of 6 yr twin girls. She replied to "Don't ask Dont tell with this story (and she's one of the few people I know that speaks openly about donor and third party reproduction):

"Over the weekend Dani was telling her friend that "first she was in another ladies belly and then she was put in my belly". Her friend asked "So do you have two mommies?" I jumped in "No, only one Mommy. A mommy is the person that takes care of you everyday. The one that feeds you and dresses you and buys you things. That's a Mommy. The other lady is called a "Donor". The girls seemed happy with that explanation. I believe that is how they learn. By others asking questions and just generally being comfortable with it.

Families are created so many different ways now. I think people judge less and less."

Thanks, Halle!

So, tell us your story. If you'd like to share please contact me at Saxel95@aol.com.

Thanks and best to all,

DE Mom on Public Perceptions Of Third Party Reproduction 1.14.11

2011-01-14T18:54:00.000-08:00

From Beatrice......Hi Sara, I read your most recent blog post (Don't Ask, Don't Tell). I then went online and read the NY TIMES Magazine article about the Twiblings and its follow up article by the same author. Next I read the comments from readers about both stories. WOW. Now I see what the negative feedback is that you get from some people. The comments seemed to be either for or against third party reproduction. But when I take a step back, doesn’t this reflect our political views as well? You are either conservative or liberal, Republican or Democrat, for Obama or for McCain/Palin/Romney, etc.? Myself, I am what I’d call moderate, neither conservative nor liberal, but somewhere in between. I am liberal when it comes to social issues and conservative when it comes to financial issues. I don’t think you can make conservative people believe in third party reproduction. You are beating a dead horse. What I think you can succeed at, is educating the young people. Our future political and reproductive views lie in the young. If you want the public at large to view third party reproduction in a favorable light, suggest to your kids one day that they stand up in front of their class and do a speech about their road to life. I am hoping that Brendon does that one day. Somehow, I think he will. Personally, I think sex-ed in the classroom needs to cover a woman’s reproductive life and explain that it is limited. The media has done a good job of making it look easy to have a baby over age 40, and it is not the fault of the celebrities. Mariah Carey, SJP, Kelly Preston, Celine Dion and the scores of other celebrities deserve their privacy when it comes to their own reproduction. Older women want to feel and appear youthful, we don’t want to look old, do we? It makes us feel good to see older women reproduce. The media feeds on that and profits from it by reporting on the over 40 crowd and their pregnancies. So, Sara, my main opinion about your blogpost is that you should not take it personally when others do not share your opinions on third party reproduction......

Thanks to Beatrice for writing in. I hope there really won't be a need for Third Party Reproduction and ART in the future, but I hope my girls grow up to be healthy and strong, smart and caring, and great egg donors too if they want to be.