Life As We Know It

WOW, We're Moving (On Up)...

2013-10-12T12:00:00.000-05:00

OK, so, yeah, I sort of abandoned this blog a long time ago. No particular reason, just didn't find the time to write any more. Much has happened since July 9, 2012. I have a job changing out computers for our regional healthcare giant and, oh yeah, Renee and I welcomed little Molly Grace into the world right at the tail end of 2012. She's changed our lives immeasurably and is our joy, to be certain. But I digress. We're uprooting ourselves to go live in a grown-up house that's bigger and newer than where we live now.

So this is how it went down...

Just before Labor Day, Renee noticed a house for sale in her mom's neighborhood. It caught her eye to the degree that she thought we should at least tour it to see if was as good as it looked in pictures. We were already planning to move next spring, as our older house really isn't set up for a family of three that hopes to be a family of four someday. The realtor who sold Renee's house prior to our marriage is also an longtime friend of hers so we enlisted her for help this time around. The house turned out to be all Renee hoped it would be and more. I accompanied her in the in the interest of being a good husband and a good sport, but didn't consider a move this fall to be a serious option. My wife, however, was fully invested in the house and it soon became apparent that we had a decision to make.

(aside: we also toured another house for sale in the neighborhood that same day. The smell of cigarette smoke knocked us all over immediately upon entering the house. I try to love everybody and not discriminate, but people, people, people, if you smoke, invest some cash in removing the smell before selling your home. It makes a horrible first impression.)

Renee and I prayed and discussed trying to move this fall instead of next spring. A big CON to doing so, was that, well, our current house was not ready for sale just yet. We came to the decision to go ahead and get the house ready for sale and try to get out this fall. Interest rates are rising, and our daughter's amount of "stuff" will rise with the coming of Christmas and her birthday soon after. This would make it more difficult to sell next spring, anyway. We reasoned that if God meant the house for us, it would still be available when we were ready to sell. We took a few weekends and I gussied up the exterior while my wife and her mom and sister worked on staging the interior just so.

Wouldn't you know "our house" went under contract on the Saturday that we were to tour it again! The price had been reduced since we saw it and that spurred heavier interest. We were undeterred, however, and determined to submit a back-up contract just encase anything happened with the first buyers. Our house went on the market and had seven(!) showings in the first week alone. All who saw it agreed that it would sell fast. We continued to monitor realtor.com and other outlets for new listings. Something popped up in a nearby neighborhood and we toured it on a Friday night. Alas, it turned out to be a real dud as its ultra-modern decor was too much for us. All the while, we fervently prayed for God to help us be patient in the waiting.

"Our house"suddenly became available a couple of days later, out of the blue. Big catch--BIG catch--the sellers had found a place of their own to buy. Their contractual obligations necessitated us removing the contingency from our contract on their house. Basically, we had to commit to buying without selling our house first. Huge, huge risk. Renee and I got another quick tour of the house, then went home and prayed over it. We slept on it and in the morning agreed that God was in this and we would step out in faith that He would work things out. Oh, and our Realtor was pretty darn confident that our house would sell fast. I had invested much money in renovating my house during my 11 years of single man-hood and in the couple of years of married man-hood, my wife and I kept at it.

Fast-forward to this past Wednesday. I approved a request to show our house on Thursday evening. Didn't think a thing about it. On Thursday evening after a stir-fry dinner at the mother-in-law's house, our Realtor called to say that the people who saw the house would likely have a contract for us by the end of the evening. An answer to prayers? I had been cautiously optimistic that something would happen soon but was a good bit skeptical as well. Well, she was right--contract came in at bedtime, a counteroffer was made and accepted yesterday. We close this time next month (unless the inspection blows up our house...fingers crossed.)

So our faith has been stretched by this whole process. Ultimately, it came down to "do we believe God or do we not?" Is he who he said he is and would be in the scriptures or is he not? Do we trust that he is in this process of uprooting ourselves and moving to a bigger place? Our answer has been "yes!" and we think it will continue to be. Our God is orchestrating our lives, folks. Our job is to trust and get the #%$@ out of the way.

So in the past couple of weeks, I've bought and sold a house, and got off work one day in time to make it to my daughter's 9-month health checkup.

When did I grow up?

One Year Ago...

2012-07-09T16:21:00.003-05:00

One year ago on this day I married Renee Simms.

It was a Saturday last year, and I intentionally began the day as I would any other Saturday. I woke early, had my usual time in the Scriptures, and then walked my dog. I consumed my usual Eggo Blueberry waffles then cleaned myself up. That is where the "usual routine" ended. I jumped in my nearly-new SUV and headed up I-270 with a rented tuxedo and overnight bag stowed in the back. My destination? First Evangelical Free Church, where I dressed quickly and quietly in a children's Sunday school room. Some of my closest male friends and family soon trickled in and did the same. From here, well, you can figure out the end of the story. Vows were said, rings were exchanged, and just before 1:00 p.m., I was a married man.

I must say, it's been quite the ride but I am secure in the knowledge that I am doing it with the one that the Creator picked out for me before Creation even happened. Can't wrap my mind around that one, but that's beside the point. To know that I'm with the one I'm supposed to be with is just so freeing, somehow. We've enjoyed the highs and learned from the (surprisingly) few lows that we've experienced. Our lives have definitely been enriched as we've grown individually and as a couple. I personally have been stretched and challenged in ways I never could have imagined. The transition to married life after a many years of single-ness was pretty much smooth. The dreaded combining of households was no big deal. I lost my job after 14 years in February and my wife has been my rock as I have navigated the choppy waters of unemployment. We were pleasantly surprised to discover God had blessed us with pregnancy a few months ago.

So, as we begin our second year of marriage, we continue to look forward with faith to the future. Our love for each other grows stronger every day and I can confidently say marriage is a good thing and I highly recommend it!

I Think I Can Finally Write About This...

2012-03-11T19:52:00.001-05:00

(Disclaimer: The following blog post is simply an account of a major event in my life and should in no way be construed as disparaging or abusive towards my former employer.)

"I'm sorry to inform you that your position has been eliminated and you are being laid off"

With those words, (or some approximation of them), 14 years and 5 months of employment at the Post-Dispatch came to an abrupt end. I got the call on February 22, about 20 minutes after I got home from work. My vice-president called me at home and asked me if I could talk. I sat alone in our darkened bedroom and listened as he said the dreaded words in conjunction with something like "continued declining revenues". He subsequently informed me that I had worked my last day and did not need to come to work the next day. As he finished reading from what was likely a pre-written script, I tried to process what was happening. An HR representative came on the line and gave me details of a severance package that would arrive overnight via FedEx.

So I then had to walk into the kitchen where my wife was preparing dinner and baking cookies and do the thing I swore to myself I'd never have to do: inform my wife I'd lost my job. She took the news well, with only a few tears shed. I was far from blindsided by the call, but it's never easy to take. Periodic layoffs had been a sad fact of life at the Post-Dispatch (P-D) for the last several years. When one of my colleagues got caught up in a layoff late last Spring, I knew in my heart that I was no longer safe and the P-D was no longer a place where I could be employed for the duration of my working life. (This assurance was issued to me by the man who hired me in 1997. He himself had started at the P-D as a young man and retired not long after company was sold in 2005.) I would have began looking for another job at that time, but I was busy preparing to get married to the love of my life. I decided to ride things out for the rest of the summer and then get started on a job search in the fall. Well, I got as far as asking for resume help from a career counselor, then didn't do anything more until January. I did check the online job search web sites periodically, but never seriously considered taking action.

When January rolled around, I finally got serious about creating a resume and spent most Monday nights working on it. (YES, I know I should have had that done years ago!) By early February, a series of events led to it being in the hands of a recruiter at a local IT recruiting company. President's Day found me sitting that company's meeting room talking to that recruiter and some of her co-workers. It felt a bit strange doing so, since it had been 14+ years since I'd had to dance this dance. I put on my best professional face and played the part of an IT professional looking to advance his career. I thought everything went rather well and was optimistic about my future with them.

By the following Thursday, I was unemployed.

The Times Since...

2012-03-11T19:06:00.000-05:00

Wow, yeah, it's dusty in here....

moving on.

When last I posted to this blog, the St. Louis Cardinals had just won the 2011 World Series and Renee and I were on top of the world. Well, there was that little strep throat issue of hers immediately following the Series, but hey, that's why God invented antibiotics, right? Don't give me that stuff about big bad money-grubbin' drug companies and their drugs that they recommend you ask your doctor about....

I digress.

The time since that time has been filled with the usuals of everyday life. Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years were the big highlights. Renee and I managed to spend just the right amount of time with both of our families. New Year's Eve was spent with good friends and we then vaulted headlong into the new year. When we discussed our goals for 2012, one thing we agreed on was that I needed to ramp up my previously tentative efforts to find a new job. The writing had been on the wall for some time and I had read it but not taken much action. My company was in dire financial straits and I didn't need or want to get caught up in what might happen as a result...

Well....

Four Months In...

2011-11-09T14:14:00.003-06:00

...and we're still happy that we did the whole marriage thing. Can you tell by the picture? The occasion for this picture was Game 7 of the 2011 World Series, in which the Cardinals clinched their 11th World Championship. We were there to see it and it was one of the happiest times of our marriage so far.

Renee is a long-time serious Cardinals fan. I'm more of a casual fan, but Renee is the sort of fan that gets tickets to any and all home playoff games the Cardinals play. She has done this for many years. When I married her, I married the St. Louis Cardinals. Thus, we watched A LOT OF BASEBALL during the month of October. The Cardinals just kept winning and winning and before we knew it, we were buying World Series tickets.

Seriously! The Cardinals played in the World Series and won it in seven games. We got engaged a few hours before we saw our first Cardinals spring training game on March 23 and we were together as a married couple at Busch on October 29 when they won it all. When we watched the All Star Game from our honeymoon suite in Jamaica, how could we have known that the National League's gain of home field advantage via a win of that game would be such a big deal for us a few months later? In between that beginning, middle, and end, we saw a lot of baseball. The Cardinals played mostly average baseball this season and left us little hope of seeing them play in the postseason.

Surely you've heard the rest of the story by now. The Cardinals had no hope of catching the Brewers in the NL Central division and their only hope was to catch the Braves for the wild card spot in the playoffs. Well, the Braves collapsed, the Cardinals caught fire just at the right time to make up 10 1/2 games and won the wild card on the last day of the regular season. Renee and I had attended the Cardinals' final home game on a sunny Sunday afternoon when we beat the Cubs in the bottom of the 9th. I guess we should have sensed that something weird was going to happen but it still seemed unlikely that the Braves would continue to lose and let us in. Yet, somehow, they did, and we found ourselves playing playoff baseball.

Again, you know the story. The Cardinals beat the Phillies, Brewers, and Rangers in succession to gain their 11th World Series. They overcame dominant starting pitching, dangerous power hitters, and periodic mental lapses along the way. Each series was won in come-from-behind fashion. Whitey Herzog offered this prophecy in a newspaper story prior to the World Series, "I think the Cardinals will win it all, but it will be a strange, strange Series." How right he was. How strange is it for a bullpen to send the wrong relief pitcher into a game? After that happened to us in game 5 and the Rangers went on to defeat us to take a 3-2 series lead, I declared the Cardinals dead in the water. Renee restrained herself from throwing something at me. How strange is it for a team to come back twice from two strikes down and then win a game on an extra-innings home run hit by a St. Louis native? Renee and I saw it happen from the bleachers in game 6--we were there. I in my rally cap as a result of the drunken urgings of people sitting near us. Game 7--Renee and I were there in the bleachers, again. It seemed so unreal, but yet, it was. Allen Craig hauled in that final out and the unbelievable odyssey was complete. A World Series parade capped a weekend of celebration on October 30, and manager Tony LaRussa retired the next day. I've never seen a month of baseball like it in my life, and likely never will again. I missed only two home playoff games, and Renee just missed one but we were together at Busch for all of the others and we made memories that will last a lifetime.

So it's now November and we've resumed our previously-scheduled lives, already in progress. During Renee's annual family fish fry on October 29, we signed a contract with her cousin and his son to remodel the full bathroom in our house. Suffice it to say, it needed it. It's not been too much of a hassle to live with and it will be done by the end of this week. We've enjoyed the process of choosing new colors and fixtures together. We expect the end result to be quite pleasing.

A Month Later - Honeymoon and Post-Wedding Life Together...

2011-08-09T20:19:00.004-05:00

Renee and I decided not to leave for our honeymoon on our wedding night. Who wants to rush around before the wedding trying to figure out how to pack for a week of vacation? Rather, we stayed at a local hotel and came home the day after to open presents and pack our suitcases. My parents had taken Chili-dog home with them after the wedding so we got to spend a nice dog-free day in the house by ourselves.

(must pause here and extend a big thanks to my parents for taking care of Chili-dog while we were gone. She had managed to cut her leg a week prior so she was wearing a cone collar while it healed. It couldn't have been easy putting up with that!)

Our honeymoon destination was the all-inclusive Couples Sans Souci resort near Ocho Rios, Jamaica. We flew down on a series of Delta jets the Monday after the wedding. We had a very relaxing week there. Our accommodations were wonderful, the food was excellent, and the beach was very beachy. (traveler's tip - if you want ice-cold drinks like you are used to consuming in the USA, you MUST ask for a glass of ice with your drink - they will not serve it ice-cold. It's a cultural thing.) We enjoyed a free couples massage, a ziplining trip, and a trip to Dunn's River Falls--think Johnson's Shut-Ins on steroids. Aside from that, we spent a lot of time in the water, both ocean and freshwater pools. The resort itself was large and beautifully landscaped with lots of Mediterranean-like stone walls and walking paths. We never felt crowded, however. The resort was adults-only and we never had to fight for beach chairs or rafts. We would definitely return in a heartbeat!

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So, post-wedding life.

It's been an interesting month as Renee and I have begun the process of figuring out life together. We're fond of saying that we have the maturity as an older couple that a really young couple likely wouldn't have had, but we also have the challenge of combining our lives after 22 years of collective singleness. Included in that is learning new rhythms of living, new ways of doing things. It's been mostly smooth, with a few speed bumps and potholes along the way. Some old habits of singleness have been hard to break. We communicate really well, fortunately and are taking care to pray together as often as we can. It's been a real blessing having Renee off from school since we've been married. She has had lots of time to make my house into our home. Things such as curtains and throw pillows have appeared in our bedroom and the guest bedroom, for example. Both rooms now look like true bedrooms rather than just rooms with beds and furniture. And it's been that way throughout the house. I am so thankful that I have a wife with a good eye for style! She returns to school this week so we'll soon find out how life goes with both of us working.

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To sum up - our wedding, reception and honeymoon went as well or better than we could've hoped. We're an "us" now, living life together and looking forward with faith to the future.

A Month Later - Post-Ceremony and Reception...

2011-08-09T16:20:00.003-05:00

Immediately following the ceremony, Renee and I adjourned to the activity center of the church. Our "Quest" worship service is held there and it's the place we think of as our worship home. We thought it fitting that to have some pictures there in front of the stone facing of the room's fake fireplace. Our photographer (Lisa Jenkins of St. Louis Color Photography and LJ Photography) did a fabulous job of capturing our day, with the help of her assistant Debbie and a second photographer Rebecca(?). She hustled us through the requisite family portraits in the main sanctuary shortly thereafter and soon we were en route to Old Hickory Golf Club for the reception.

(I must pause and mention that this is where I was so happy that I'd pulled the trigger on a new black Kia Sorento a few weeks earlier. Didn't really want to ferry my new bride around in a beat-up Mazda6 sedan. Thanks again, Zeiser Kia!)

Renee and I arrived at Old Hickory a little later than we'd planned, but we were met by a club official who had a golf cart waiting to taxi us up to the front door of the clubhouse. I helped Renee into the cart, then I hopped behind the wheel and took off. We walked inside the clubhouse and were met by our DJ, Jimmy "A Rockin' DJ" Hussey. We'd never met him prior to the reception so we were a bit taken aback. DJ procurement was completely my responsibility and I'd only had telephone conversations with him. He got the wedding party lined up and then cued up the wedding reception standard, "Celebration" by Kool and the Gang. As the music pulsed, the wedding party was introduced pair by pair, then Renee and I entered the room to wild cheers and applause. I couldn't help but pump my fist a couple of times as I lived the moment I'd been waiting for.

The reception pretty much flew by. Renee's uncle Ed Smith prayed, then everyone ate lunch and cake. Renee and I danced our first dance to Karrin Allyson's ravishing rendition of "Say It (Over and Over Again)" I believe her version of this standard to be the definitive one and it was the perfect song to dance to. Jimmy's slogan is "your music, your way" and he delivered just what I wanted. I provided him a list of my favorite love songs and he picked and chose as he saw fit while drawing from his own library. I highly recommend him. Our flower girls and ring bearers found much joy in moving their little bodies to the music as Renee and I greeted our guests. Time constraints prevented us from greeting everyone but we trust everyone had a good time.

I splurged on a room at the Four Seasons hotel on the riverfront for our wedding night. It was a bit pricey, but definitely worth it. We had a deluxe room with a great view of the Arch and St. Louis skyline.

A Month Later - The Ceremony...

2011-08-09T15:47:00.003-05:00

I've been married a month now and it's pretty certain that Renee and I will be staying married for a good long while so I think I can safely deliver a bit of post-wedding reportage...

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hardly seems possible, that over 4 weeks have passed since Renee and I stood before our God, family, and friends and said our vows. The days since have been some of the most alternately exhilarating, relaxing, and overall life-changing that I've ever lived.

I gave up my single life forever at high noon on July 9 at First Evangelical Free Church. It's the church where I've attended since June of 2001. Renee began attending there late in 2007. I don't remember speaking to her until we met at a friend's Super Bowl party in early 2008. We'd met briefly at a mutual friend's wedding in 1998, but never met again afterwards. Over time, in God's time, actually, we became friends and then, best friends, and then, husband and wife. Our pastor Kevin Hughes performed the ceremony. There was no one else who could've done it for us. He pastors the "Quest" casual/contemporary worship service at FEFC that Renee and I attend. We've grown to love him as a trusted pastor/teacher/counselor/all around good guy. I wanted my former pastor Mike "if you boast, you roast" Goodwin to offer a welcome and opening prayer but he was unavailable the weekend of our ceremony.

Our wedding party came together nicely. Renee chose her sister as her matron of honor and I chose my brother as best man. My groomsmen were a couple of old friends and Renee's brother Rob. She chose 3 of her closest friends as bridesmaids and her good friend Melody as her personal attendant. We had a suitable contingent of adorable nieces and nephews to serve as flower girls and ring bearers. Renee's college friend Paula provided piano music and our friends Kim and Luke were our singer/guitarist combo for the ceremony. Our friend Ben is a video guru by trade so we asked him to film the ceremony, using what I thought would be my dinky Sony Handycam video camera. To our surprise, he showed up with 2 professional-grade cameras and set one in the baptistry and one in the balcony. To say we are grateful to him would be an understatement.

So, was I nervous? I really wasn't, on the day of the ceremony. A man's wedding day is obviously one of the most significant days of his life but I don't think I let that overwhelm me. I was so confident in my heart that I had made the right decision to marry Renee that I honestly wasn't nervous. At the rehearsal the night before, I did break down when I tried to introduce my groomsmen and again when I tried to thank some people at the dinner afterward. I was initially embarrassed but was later encouraged by others' assertion that I was only expressing my true heart at those times. The ceremony went off without a hitch. There was the potential for significant hitch-age with the aforementioned flower girls and ring bearers. Happily, they all proceeded down the aisle voluntarily and adorably. I must also give a shout-out to our amazing wedding planner Kelli McGill who coordinated everything wonderfully. I will always be grateful to her for going along with Renee's plan to give the church's gaudy brass candelabras a much-needed spray paint makeover so we could use them.

We included two songs, Phil Keaggy's beautiful wedding song "Here and Now" and the popular praise song "God Of Our Yesterdays." The former I have known about for many years and knew it had to be in my wedding someday. The latter is a favorite of Renee's that was played as we lit the unity candle. We asked Pastor Kevin to speak from Ephesians 3:14-21, the prayer of the apostle Paul for the Ephesian church. It's a favorite text of mine that I thought would clearly communicate our desire for our marriage and deliver the gospel message to our guests. He delivered it beautifully. I wore a lapel microphone for the first time in my life so our guests could hear Renee and I clearly.

And then, in a flash, it was over. Pastor Kevin pronounced us husband and wife, then uttered his signature wedding phrase, "John, she's all yours, bro. You can can kiss your bride" I did so happily and that sealed the deal. We were officially Mr. and Mrs. John Matlock!

One Month On...

2011-08-09T14:58:00.000-05:00

It's been one month now.

Would I do it again?

You betcha...

Married...

2011-07-19T11:38:00.001-05:00

(photo courtesy of my mom)

Yeah, we went and did it. Renee and I were married at First Evangelical Free Church at high noon on July 9. The rehearsal, wedding, reception, and honeymoon were one big grand slam home run. Our many months of planning and praying culminated in so much wonderfulness! Everything went just as well or better than we could have hoped. We have returned from our honeymoon and are now settling into married life.

(oh, and I have changed the title of this blog accordingly)

On My Wedding Day...

2011-07-09T08:53:00.001-05:00

They say that falling in love is wonderful, so wonderful...

Ch-Ch-Changes...

2011-06-13T11:38:00.003-05:00

....and lots of 'em. That's been my life lately. Renee and I are less than four weeks(!) from getting married; our old, single lives are dying away and our new, married life is beginning to take shape. Witness:

- it all started 2 months ago when I switched my cell-phone provider to Verizon after 14 years with AT&T. Verizon is Renee's carrier and she'd just started a new contract. I needed a new phone and contract and, besides, her mom is on her plan. Not leaving my future mom-in-law out in the cold. No.

- my old side-by-side refrigerator was replaced last Friday by a monster black french-door bottom-freezer model. The old one was, um, white in a kitchen full of otherwise black appliances. The new fridge made sense also because Renee loves to cook and does it very well, which means she needs lots of room for things that I never previously needed in my fridge. Me being a bachelor and all.

- I now have a DVR, which I never cared to pay for until Renee opened my eyes to the wonder of it all! Well, actually, she opened my eyes to the soaps she likes to DVR and would want to continue DVRing after we're married!

- I'm now sleeping on her pillow-top mattress after we moved it to my house with most of the rest of her things yesterday. We compromised by keeping my box springs on the bed.

- I pulled the trigger on a new 2012 Kia Sorento late last Saturday afternoon. My faithful Mazda6 sedan is 8 years and 148,000 miles old. It has reached the end of its useful-to-me life. For example, a bad hub bearing in the left front wheel has made for an embarrassingly loud hum at highway speed. If you're in the market for a new ride, check out the Sorento and if you like what you see, I recommend buying from Zeiser Kia in St. Peters, MO. I have had a great experience with them. Their internet sales manager got me what I wanted for a fair price and I accepted her offer via cell phone while preparing to mow my grass. No haggling at the dealership, just a few e-mails and phone conversations.

- My old family room furniture has been replaced by Renee's couch and loveseat. They match the color of my family room much better than my red and plaid chair and sofa. I can't wait to see what Renee does to liven up the spartan-ish interior of my/our home.

- Renee has been honored with three bridal showers so far and now my house has a lot more "stuff" than I'm used to having around. It's been great to see her come home with all the gifts that people have bought for us.

So those are just a few of the changes. I'm rolling with them--not getting tense or uptight that things aren't what they used to be for me. I'm blowing up my old life to make a new life with a beautiful woman who is simultaneously blowing up her old life. This is entirely biblical. The prophet Isaiah spoke of it this way:

“Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?

Now, he was speaking of God as it related to the Israelites of his time but I see a parallel to Renee and me. For one, that passage is one of her very favorites and for another, it speaks to our relationship. The two of us can't expect to hold on to our old way of doing things after we're married. We have to be open to new rhythms of life, new patterns of living, new habits, new schedules. This is where the "love chapter" of 1 Corinthians gets put into practice. I have also received valuable insight and wisdom about all of this from the Christian counselor that I see regularly. (Thanks to my bro and sis-in-law for pushing me to start that. It's been a real game-changer in my life.)

If you're reading this and prayer is something you do, please include Renee and me in your prayers. We're heading into the homestretch of the wedding planning and future-life-planning so the more prayers sent our way, the better. We promise to pray for all of you!

Advertising Our Happiness...

2011-05-12T09:25:00.000-05:00

Our wedding website is up at The Knot....check it out!

On Turning 37...

2011-04-18T14:09:00.001-05:00

I turned 36 a year and a day ago. If you'd have told me on that day that a year later I'd be engaged to marry someone and even wearing a Rockwood Summit t-shirt on the following year's birthday, I'd have labeled you "crazy." Now, the proper Christian viewed-through-the-eyes-of-faith response to that prediction is "well, anything's possible with God!" But a year ago, I couldn't have seen my life being where it is now. Last year, I woke up on my birthday sick with a sudden sinus attack. I determined to not let that get me down and attempted to conquer a new bike trail that went straight up and left me feeling worse for trying. Later that day, I watched, alone, the Cardinals suffer through a 20-inning loss to the Mets on TV. Notice all the "I's" in the preceding statements.

This year, I woke up feeling great and picked up my beautiful bride-to-be Renee and we headed off to church to worship together. Afterward, we joined a group of friends for a delicious brunch. We later joined my parents for a relaxing and delicious dinner at Sam's Steakhouse. Notice that the preceding statements all included the word "we."

Life is definitely better lived with a lot of "we," I think.

Ode To A Phone...

2011-04-03T22:56:00.003-05:00

O, Samsung A707 "Sync" - you came into my life in the Fall of 2007 on a Saturday. Chili-dog rather rudely chewed up your predecessor LG phone and I had to replace it quickly. You were a good phone, a phone for all seasons. You were the phone that I used to initiate text messaging with the lovely Renee Simms and the one I used to inform friends and family when we got engaged recently. Alas, you began to show your age a few months ago when you suddenly refused to charge your battery. If I'd not had an identical phone around to use as a charger (only its screen was broken) I'd have traded you in.

Over the weekend, I officially defected from AT&T Wireless. I was running without a contract and with a need for a new phone. Renee is a Verizon Wireless customer who started a new contract with a new phone last Fall. My next move was obvious. Making her pay an early-termination fee for her contract to move to AT&T might have resulted in an early-termination of our engagement! So, I am now a Verizon customer on the family share plan with her and her mom. And I am now the owner of an LG Ally Android smartphone. Life is indeed good.

This Is Really Happening...

2011-04-01T20:43:00.008-05:00

The ring on that finger belongs to one Renee Simms. I presented it to her while on one knee on the beach at Juno Beach Park in Juno Beach, Florida. Said ring was presented while I proposed marriage to one Renee Simms. The same Renee Simms that I've been dating for nearly 9 months and whom I'm unashamedly, madly in love with. The proposal went down during our spring break vacation last week.

Back in January, when it was reallyreallycold, Renee said one night, "wanna go to spring training?" I thought that sounded like fun, so we found some flights on Southwest Airlines during her spring break from school and booked our trip for March 22-25! I had been to Cardinals spring training exactly once, with my dad back in 1998. Little did I know back in January how memorable this spring training trip would turn out to be.

First, a little back story....

Renee and I knew by the middle of February that we wanted to get married. (Okay, truth be told, Renee knew as far back as last October, she says.) Our feelings for each other were obvious and we also felt that God had confirmed our future was with each other. We also knew that if we wanted to be married before she had to return to school in August, we'd better get in gear and start planning. Church and reception venue got nailed down in short order, and we began looking at rings. She and I made trips to several local jewelers so I could get a pretty good idea of what she wanted. I'm SO GLAD we did that. Guys, you DO NOT want to mess up the ring, trust me on this. The ring was purchased by early March and I began waiting for the opportune to make my proposal. Sadly, our schedules got busy with this, that, and the other and we didn't get much time alone until it was time to jet off to sunny Florida on Tuesday, March 22.

Now, on with the real story...

Wait, a beach! Yeah, Florida has lots of those! What a romantic place to pop the question of all questions for single ladies! Sometime before we left, I nonchalantly mentioned that we should take a romantic walk on the beach at sunset. Maybe even on our first night?

(I didn't sleep well the night before our departure, so I was feeling under the weather during our flights, sadly. Seriously. Mini-migraine happened as we were approaching Tampa to catch our connecting flight to Ft. Lauderdale. Don't ask me about our hour in Tampa. Couldn't tell you.)

I caught a cat nap en route to Ft. Lauderdale so I felt functionally better as we arrived. After we drove up to our hotel near Jupiter, we settled in and tried to figure out where to eat. Long story short, local seafood restaurant. Massively long wait to eat, massively long wait for food, after dark when we were finished. No beach that night. Bummer. Ring was in my pocket--my baggy-pocket Polo jeans that I packed specifically for the purpose of carrying the ring unobtrusively. We headed back to our hotel to call it a night.

Next morning (Wednesday), I felt 100% better and after breakfast, Renee suggested we hit the beach before our Cardinals game in Jupiter in the afternoon. "That sounds like fun," I agreed. (I know what you may be thinking, but she totally DID NOT suspect what I was going to do. She had a FEELING it might happen but not that morning.) I grabbed the ring box out of my backpack and slipped it into my pocket. (I wore different shorts than the night before, but luckily it wasn't obvious what was there) We decided to just head east until we found a beach. U.S. Highway 1 wasn't too far away and we soon spotted beach through thick roadside hedges. Juno Beach Park appeared before too long so we parked and headed across the road to get some sand between our toes.

Sorry folks, but I must withhold the most intimate details of the proposal. Some things are just too personal to be shared with the world. Suffice it to say, it did involve me descending to one knee in the sand (I have the picture to prove it!) presenting the ring and popping the question. She accepted, of course! We spent the remainder of our time walking the beach and asking random Floridian beachcombers to take our picture together. Our friends and family were notified shortly thereafter, and most importantly, we broadcast the news to Facebook late that evening (sarcasm intended).

The day was already perfect, but the Cardinals extended it by beating the Mets later that afternoon. The game was great and the weather was perfect. Later that evening, we got dressed up in our Sunday best and drove over to Jetty's, a highly-recommended fine-dining seafood restaurant in Jupiter. Our experience this evening was much better than the previous evening's. We were seated right away at an outdoor table that overlooked the intracoastal waterway. The food was delicious! After dinner, we relaxed on the pier behind the restaurant. Our perfect day was complete.

(One great thing about getting engaged is that people don't mind taking your picture. We asked numerous random Floridians to snap our photo and once we mentioned the word "engaged," they were more than happy to oblige. One such person was the evening front desk clerk at our hotel, a sweet young lady by the name of Erika Haslup. She was naturally thrilled for us when we enlisted her for a photo and explained our engagement. The next evening, we returned to our suite from an evening beach walk to find a sweet treat of strawberries drizzled in chocolate and vanilla icing accompanied by a bottle of wine chilling on ice. She left a sweet note expressing her happiness for us. We thanked her profusely but politely returned the wine, as neither of us drink.)

We took in one more game the next day; Cardinals at Mets in Port St. Lucie, about 40 minutes north of Jupiter. The Cardinals didn't fare well at all, losing 16-3. The drive was easy and the weather was again perfect so we didn't think it was a wasted day at all. Another beach walk after our evening meal completed our trip.

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So, a week later, "this is really happening." That's come to be our unofficial catchphrase. I am really helping to plan a wedding, OUR wedding. A wedding to the woman who was set aside just for me by God. Sure, I could be really blue and regretful about the fact that I could have been doing this 10 years ago, but no. I will not. God's timing is the best of all times. so says Bach in one of his famous oratorios. (I know it came from Scripture but I can't remember where!) I wouldn't have wanted to be married to me 10 years ago. The John of this day and age is in a much better place, personally, spiritually, and emotionally. The John of this day and age will absolutely be a better husband than the John of 10 years ago (or even a year ago, for that matter.) I've had to make some pretty giant leaps of faith during the course of our relationship; God has proven himself to me during each and every one of them. I am happier doing life with Renee than I ever would have been going it alone. That much I know for sure.

This is really happening. To me. To her. To us.

Incomplete Without You - Swing Out Sister...

2011-02-25T14:15:00.004-06:00

I am absolutely, completely, unashamedly digging this video right now. It is just so aurally and visually thrilling to me! They recently released this very rich, jazzy version of one of their older songs. The bridge section at the 3:12 mark gives me chills every time.

(Not So) Epic Snowstorm 2011...

2011-02-02T16:56:00.002-06:00

...the monster snowstorm has come and gone here in the St. Louis area....the main body of it tracked well to our west and a pesky wedge of warm air at 5000 feet turned our snow into sleet before it hit the ground. My yard has about 2 inches of pure sleet with the same amount of snow on top of it. The warning cries of a massive ice storm followed by massive snow storm started over the weekend so the populace was sufficiently alerted to the impending doom. Freezing rain fell intermittently on Monday which glazed over parking lots and trees. Monday night, you'd have thought it was Christmas eve, as nearly every business near my house closed up early. I ended up taking a snow day from work on Tuesday, the first vacation day due to snow that I remember taking in my 13 years at the P-D. The forecasters swore up and down that a blizzard was a-comin' Tuesday afternoon so with thoughts of a stranded me and a home-alone dog in mind, I made the call to stay in. It would have been nice to give my car's brand new tires a "spin" in the snow/sleet

As it turned out, there was not much to fear. I waited anxiously for the predicted blizzard but she didn't come. I did prepare for whatever might come by purchasing a big-boy MAG flashlight and fresh batteries for my Sony iPod Boombox®. Seriously, folks...the MAG flashlight I bought has a handle that's at least a foot long. Useful for administering beat-downs on anything that might try to attack me in the dark, I suppose.

I spent the day shredding old credit card bills and cleaning out several boxes of stuff in my basement. There was a lot of stuff from my college days that I was keeping for no reason other than I am an incurable pack-rat. It was strangely therapeutic, remembering the past and letting go of memories good and bad.

Back to work today, no problems on the roads.

Lately...

2011-01-17T13:13:00.006-06:00

flog me at will, dear readers. I've been terrible at keeping up this little space. Once again I find myself composing a 'catch-up' piece such as the one below:

- enjoyed the just-past (passed?) Christmas season immensely. It was everything I hoped it would be. Our little corner of the world got snow on Christmas eve, just in time for a white Christmas just like the ones you used to know. Renee and her mom came to Christmas dinner at my house and there's no place I'd rather they'd have been. I think I caught a glimpse of my Christmas future on that day. Let's just leave it at that...

- one my (our) favorite Christmas gifts came from my bro/sis-in-law in the form of a gift card to Mosaic Modern Fusion restaurant. Mosaic serves up food tapas-style from a chic streetside space near 10th and Washington in downtown St. Louis. Last Saturday marked 6 months of dating for Renee and I so we celebrated by heading up there to celebrate. I particularly enjoyed the lobster bisque and petite beef tenderloin. Afterward, we caught Erin Bode in concert over at Joe Buck's Showroom. Erin and her trio served up a 90-minute set of songs from 3 of their 4 CDs. It was worth it just to see her pianist play a melodica on some of the tunes. A melodica!

- by the way, check out my new profile picture off to the right....was just taken last evening at a birthday party for our friend Courtney...

- looking forward to getting down to Florida with Renee at the end of March to take in a couple of Cardinals spring training games. I haven't been since I went with my dad way back in 1998. This is our our hope as we slog through these cold.and cloudy days of January

- Operation 'house exterior renovation project' finally is finished. The house looks wonderful and I'll get some pictures up in this space once I remember to take some on a nice sunny day soon!

Just A Thought (Well, Actually A Few Thoughts)...

2010-12-19T23:05:00.002-06:00

My church finished off our sermon series on the book of Ruth this morning. The story culminates in good guy Boaz marrying widow Ruth, thus fulfilling his duty as kinsman redeemer and keeping Ruth's property in her family and her family name alive. Curiously, the book of Ruth ends this way:

The Genealogy of David

¹⁸ This, then, is the family line of Perez:

Perez was the father of Hezron,

¹⁹ Hezron the father of Ram,

Ram the father of Amminadab,

²⁰ Amminadab the father of Nahshon,

Nahshon the father of Salmon,^[d]

²¹ Salmon the father of Boaz,

Boaz the father of Obed,

²² Obed the father of Jesse,

and Jesse the father of David. (Ruth 4:18-22 NIV)

Matthew completes the genealogy in the opening lines of his gospel, ending up at Jesus, "who is called the Messiah" (Matthew 1:16 NIV).

Some interesting points here. The wife of Perez was none other than Rahab, the prostitute who aided Joshua's spies, as we read in Joshua 2:1-24. Because of this, her life was spared and she later married Perez. She also earned a mention in the "Hebrews Hall of Fame" (Hebrews 11:30-31.) Ruth was a Moabite woman (a 'Moabitess' as the NIV translates it). The Moabites and Israelites, were bitter enemies and almost constantly battled. Oh, and King David? He had an affair with a married woman and had her husband killed to cover it up. He repented (as he wrote in Psalm 51) and was later called "a man after God's own heart".

So there is a prostitute AND an enemy foreigner AND a murderer in our Savior's bloodlines.

And you thought YOU had nuts in your family tree? Got news for you.

So does Jesus.

He was just as human as you or me, folks And somehow, just as much God as God himself. And he came to be our bulletproof vest, to shield us from all the flaming arrows and such that Satan will throw our way.* Oh, yeah, that Satan stuff is real, too. The Old Testament law-driven existence isn't enough, sadly. It'll never save us the way that baby in a manger can. God came down to meet us where we are. That's the miracle of Christmas.

(Disclaimer: The above is predicated on one's belief and faith that these facts are true as put forth in the Holy Bible. I happen to believe they are, but I respect your right not to believe. As one of my new favorite songs says, "orphaned believers and skeptical dreamers, you're welcome. You can stay right here, you don't have to go.")**

* credit where credit is due: I heard Chuck Swindoll preach this idea during a radio broadcast I heard while driving to work one day, years ago.

** from "All My Favorite People" by Over the Rhine, from their forthcoming new CD, "The Long Surrender" It hits the street on 1-11-11. Get it. Take my word for it. Please.

A St. Louis Tradition...

2010-12-09T12:05:00.000-06:00

...is going to see the Christmas lights display at Tilles Park near the St. Louis suburb of Brentwood. The county parks department strings miles and miles of lights in various displays. One can drive through the park to see them or take a horse-drawn carriage ride. Renee, being the expert bargain hunter that she is, pointed me towards a web site offering half-price carriage rides on Tuesday night. We bought two tickets and off we went. It was freezin' cold but we bundled up and cuddled under a blanket. We both loved the experience and will do it again next year! Here we are in the carriage...

Just A Thought...

2010-11-22T13:30:00.001-06:00

During his sermon yesterday, my pastor related an experience he had recently. He quiero'ed some Taco Bell and made a run to a local restaurant. He happened upon a couple of guys who were eating in and asked them if and where they'd be going to church on Christmas Eve. One of the guys was a pastor's son and said he'd be going to the traditional 11:00 service at his church. The other man's answer was more telling. He said every time he went to church on Christmas Eve, all he got was the story of a baby in a manger. Nothing that told him that it would make a real difference in his life.

How many people go to church and leave thinking, "so, what?" Are our churches really hitting people where they live? I think Average Joe needs to know that the story of Christmas is more than a baby in a manager. That this One who was born was born to make a difference and can and will change their lives. It's called relevance and the modern-day church in America is rapidly losing it. Are we truly interested in reaching the lost or just preaching to the itchy ears of the average Christian?

This year, let's focus our message on the "why" of the story, not the "when, where, and how" of it.

By the way, my church is studying the Old Testament book of Ruth during this Christmas season. Wherein God began planning for the O Holy Night, using a poor widow and her widowed daughter-in-law, over 500 years before it happened.

It's already almost Thanksgiving Day?...

2010-11-21T16:05:00.002-06:00

how the heck did that happen?

I blinked and there went October, sailing right on by me.

Where to begin?

wait, the Rams have already won 4 games this year?

how the heck did that happen?

oh, yeah, the Savior Of The Franchise...the Oklahoma Kid. The QB Upon Whom The Team Is Relying Heavily.

..............

- enjoyed dinner-and-a-show-at-the-Fox with the lovely Renee Simms last evening. Her birthday is this week and we took the opportunity to celebrate a bit early. We dined at Joe Buck's downtown and took in the penultimate performance of "South Pacific" afterward. Always love visiting the Fox Theatre. A very enjoyable evening, indeed.

- My church just finished a shiny, happy romp through the shiny, happy book of Judges. See, those crazy Israelites engaged in this tired ol' spin cycle of disobedience, bondage, repentance, and deliverance. Sound like anyone you know, oh, yeah, us. My casual contemporary church service had a real washer and dryer on stage as visual aids for each and every service of the series. Props to that.

- Ol' Mizzou is up to nine wins with their scintillating, thrilling 14-0 win over Iowa State last evening. (read the between the lines for some serious sarcasm there). They'll need more of a pulse than that to beat KU next week. Seriously. 10 wins is do-able but ugly losses to NU and Texas Tech will likely keep them out of a BCS bowl. Which is fine with me, as long as we can stay out of the Texas Bowl this year. Alamo, Holiday, or Cotton would be just fine, thanks. I have invested in a Mizzou hat and t-shirt so as to be properly attired for future MU athletic events.

- Operation Get The House's Exterior Renovated is getting underway soon. Work should start in a week or two, hopefully. Going with a nice khaki color for the siding, which I think will look handsome against the white trim.

- must walk dog. now. This whole standard time thing where it gets dark earlier is kind of a pain to get used to!

My Once A Month Blog Post...

2010-10-17T22:57:00.002-05:00

Yeah, so my resolve to follow The Pioneer Woman's advice to blog every day about something, ANYTHING didn't resolve itself so well. It's a good idea in one's head but the execution of it--ah, there's the rub!

- Renee and I are still very much in relationship and well, durn it, we're in love! The crazy, silly, head-over-heels variety of it. We're going on faith that this is the right path for us to be on together. I myself have taken leaps of faith heretofore unseen in my life. Of course, we're not naive in that we understand the work and prayer that goes into a successful relationship. We just enjoy life and each other's presence in it.

- We've been on some pretty nice dates lately...took her out to the Forest Park Boathouse for dinner last Saturday night...first time for both of us. We were fortunate to get a lakeside table and watched the sun go down as we ate. Afterward we took in a sweet set of jazz by the Tierney Sutton Band at the Sheldon. It was my pleasure to expose Renee to some real live jazz. I've loved jazz ever since I was exposed to it in Brad Madsen's Jazz Appreciation class at Jefferson College back in 1993.

- Today we hiked out at Castlewood State Park after lunch. I'd told Renee about the sumptuous views of the Meramec River valley from atop the bluffs but hadn't opportunity to show them off to her. The temperature was just right and the sun shone over the trees beautifully. What a joy it was to experience it with her!

- We enjoyed lunch with a couple of married friends at Bandana's BBQ after church today. I think it had been well over a year since I'd enjoyed a meal there. A meal of beef, baked potato, green beans and two big slices of Texas toast didn't just hit the spot, it destroyed it. And that sweet tea!

- The battle has been joined. I bagged the first 4 bags of leaves of the leaf-raking battle season yesterday. Had Mizzou vs. A&M on the radio as I raked.

- Ol' Mizzou roadtripped to College Station and left with a convincing 30-9 win. They upped their record to 6-0 with a home tilt against big bad Oklahoma coming up next Saturday. The same Oklahoma who is #1 in the first BCS poll of the season. Mizzou is ranked #10 in the poll. Should be a fun game.

- The street in front of my building is steadily disappearing and a huge debris hole is steadily appearing in its place. A backhoe with a giant drill bit is relentlessly hammering away the asphalt and some brave souls riding skylifts are cutting away the steel girders that have deteriorated over time. Good thing my office isn't near the street!

- Since I last blogged, babies have been born to several friends of mine, the most miraculous being little Anderson Warner Barnard. He arrived way early and weighed in at just under 4 lbs. Renee and I visited him in the NICU at St. John's and we got to see what a miracle looks like firsthand. After a few weeks of TLC at the hospital, he was able to come home to stay. His daddy Jim blogged all about him here.

- Covered the night shift last night at work - 6:00 - 1:00 and this blogger is tired. Must. Sleep. Now.

M to the A to the X...

2010-09-17T13:56:00.000-05:00

Nothing quite compares to the feeling of holding an infant in one's arms...