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Mistrust in relationship by Garry PAMPHILE

2012-05-17T16:53:00.000-07:00

It is part of the human condition to express one’s thoughts about one’s daily life especially when it comes to in a relationship. Many people have publicly accused of cheating or infidelity from their partner, and dealt unhappily for years or months sometimes with this intolerable situation. Surprisingly, a person never really intends to fall in love, it just happens but when one of the members is victim of suspicious that could create a panic situation and even challenging. Sometimes a couple create problem through acts of simple coincidence and compromises after few wonderful memories from a lifetime. Once this trust is threatened it can for ever destroy the possibility of any future intimacy and trust. The deeper of the irony behind closed doors become a lot more complex when the accusation is surrounded by people this couple knows in their live but no by a stranger.

Finally, it is important for two people who accept to live together need to work and building trust in a relationship. Couples who trust each other have security and probably feel closer. In a similar fashion, trust on both sides is important because it is a great sign of friendship where the world feel like a much better place to live.

Garry Pamphile.

November 2011

Haitian Youth's Reality

2012-05-08T11:48:00.003-07:00

ince many decades now, Haiti has encountered many difficulties in ensuring the security for its Citizens and Foreigners in the country. For many past years, which is probably the case today, Haiti was well-known for its high rate of criminality, in addition to being also well-known for being the poorest country with the most unemployed in the Western Hemisphere. This high criminality rate is considered by many, experiencing first-hand the reality of this country and its youth, to be the primary reason of International Investors’ reluctance to coming and investing in Haiti; according to those same people, the high criminality rate and the young Haitian citizen graduated from High school who cannot afford Higher studies are totally interwoven and interrelated and sorting the latter out will automatically mitigate the impact of the other. The one-million dollar question that always comes out is “How comes the criminality in Haiti is linked to the Youth?”

Most of the Northern and Emerging countries have developed educational and training programs for Youth so that they can participate in the long run to the development of their country. These countries believe that investing in human is one of the first step for a country to take in order to grow economically and also, that investment done in human at an early age that could be considered between 18-25 years old, in educating them, would be helpful in order to prevent the young people to turn to illegal activities because of a feeling of exclusion generated in them; and it will allow them to be aware earlier of the problems adults are facing so that they can start thinking and working to find better solutions. At this age, it is mandatory for a country’s political leaders to focus on capacity development and education for the Youth due to the fact they can be influenced easily to any kind of illegal activity and because of their sudden desire, at that same age, for independency.

The Northern and Emerging countries tag the need for educating and mentoring young people as priority, because they recognize how important it is for the stability of a country to train that age group aforementioned at the most vulnerable stage of a man’s life where changes are often radical.

Law school

In Haiti, the largest number of young people who cannot afford paying school and sometimes cannot eat is from a seemingly second-class, but this second-class name assigned to them is rather a cover to prevent people living abroad from seeing and saying that 90% of the Haitian population is poor and unable to entirely meet their needs. Those people, due to a lack of fund and income generating activity, have their children ceased with their high school and sometimes cannot go to University. This situation, excessively dependent on the response of each to abject situations, often conducts the youngest one into doing whatever they can, whether good or bad, in order to gain the least to survive. “But what is it we can do when living in a country where the responsible people don’t really care about you” what they are constantly thinking about, so many times these unanswered questions that come to their mind usually make them turn themselves to criminal activities that they consider as a making-money-come-easy way.

Income generating activities for young people

Talking about security, these young people became dangerous by the simple fact that they are not taken into account by the elected ones who were supposed to take care of them. These young people that should normally be at school and University in order to partake to their country’s development often generate terror when their name are called or said in the news. They engage themselves in all sorts of illegal activities (such as robbery, kidnapping, carjacking, drug dealing etc.) with the aim of earning money in order to live.

In their community, people who do as they say, can be dwelt by a feeling of security because they have the promise that they will not be hurt but those who refuse to comply with their words, can be severely punished, killed or feeling themselves forced to leave the neighborhood (which will, as well, be made impossible because these same young terrorists will not let them to). In most places where such situation is occurring, Police forces cannot make any intervention and projects, in order to develop these communities, are either unable to be implemented or fail while being implemented.

Some project implementers have experienced major loss during and after projects implementation in certain communities, mostly equipments loss that were stolen by those young people to be sold after.

Spencer R. SPADY

Only 6 questions by Spencer R. SPADY

2012-05-08T11:28:00.000-07:00

Have you ever waken up one day and feeling like you in "The Matrix"? Like everything that seems to be is really the contrary of what really is? 

Do you REALLY have a purpose in life and does, according to you, your life have a meaning?

Do you remember the day in your life that you did something different apart from the routine you've followed for years?

Have you once questioned about how a life should be properly lived?

Don't you have the feeling that you are dreaming?

Having a Job by Wesner PAMPHILE

2012-05-08T10:01:00.000-07:00

Having a job is important in one’s life. A job provides us with the money necessary to earn a living. Working and bringing in a steady paycheck provides the ability to feed one’s family, as well as provide housing, clothing, and other day-to-day necessities. Having a job provides the money to work toward an education, and having an education allows an individual to take better care of their family and allows the “Pursuit of Happiness” (“The Declaration of Independence” ushistory.org/declaration/document. 16 June 2011) in following the American Dream.

Having a good education puts someone in a position to get a better job. A person with a high school diploma may only be considered for a lower paying job, like working at McDonalds or any fast food restaurant. However, someone with a higher education may be considered for a better position with a higher salary and more benefits. With a professional job it is possible to make advancements in lifestyle and standard of living. This also makes tuition for additional courses more affordable. Having a degree and a job often opens the opportunity to earn advanced degrees. Having a steady income enables the worker to feel like a valuable part of the household. Probably the most important aspect of working and having money is the paramount importance of feeding one’s family. Having good and healthy meals can help the family to remain healthy. Working may also provide the opportunity for upward movement to home ownership. By saving a little bit from each paycheck, it is possible to get enough money for a down payment on a house. This is one of the most important ways to change someone’s lifestyle.

When a person has a steady job, money starts coming in and action takes place, like planning to purchase the basics needed and extend the budget to buy better quality items for the house. These might include furniture, new clothes and a car if needed. It also enables one to help pay bills, reduce household debt and plan for the future. Often it is fun to go shopping at several stores, and spend money along the way. For this reason, and others it is necessary for everyone to have a job. A job also makes for a comfortable lifestyle which is essential in pursuing happiness. According to the article: Is Happiness Actually Important? “On average happy people are more successful than unhappy people at both work and love. They get better performance reviews, have more prestigious jobs, and earn higher salaries”. (Christine Carter) It is obvious that happiness is related to success. When one has a job, things work good in the household kids are happy because they can get what they ask for, like toys, going out to playgrounds, buying gifts. They enjoy having a birthday party organized or any kind of activities created for the children, such as sports or music lessons. Additionally, working allows the family to consider other activities, such as planning to go on vacation or attend a family reunion, which might also include travel.

Happiness starts with a good conversation in the house, reduces any emotional stress and increases chances for success. Therefore, having a job not only helps people to pursue happiness but also builds positive family relationships by removing financial worries and stress from the family. According to Charles D. Kerns, PHD, MBA . happiness comes from work experiences that yield positive emotions, positive thoughts, and/or positive images in people. Positive emotions in particular have the capacity to “build and broaden” people’s positive response repertoire. People who approach tasks with positivity have been found to be more productive, creative and resilient.

Earning a living is one of the most important things in society. Having a job gives a person the financial ability to provide for their family, manage household expenses and consider extras like vacations or travel. It also makes it possible to consider home ownership, which is a main part of the American Dream. And finally, the person with a good job possesses self-confidence and well-being by contributing to the household and society, and this brings happiness.

About Garry Pamphile

2012-05-07T04:53:00.001-07:00

Garry Pamphile is attending Goodwin College now in Criminal Justice (Master’s degree) in Connecticut. He studied of Social Work 1996/2000 at Faculty of Human-Sciences in Haiti; graduated in Basic Shift Management at Hamburger University of Chicago, Illinois (Boston extension) in 2009. Certified in Medical Terminology, Electrocardiogram (EKG), and Phlebotomy (CBC) Complete Blood Count in 2010 at Connecticut Training Center, East Hartford, Connecticut. Working at Apple Rehab in Middletown, Connecticut.2008-to present, worked at Dash/ Health System (Haiti 2002-2008).

Worked at Ministers social Affairs with Street Children age 12-18 (Haiti 2000-2002).

Drawing from his own life experiences and experimentation, Garry wrote many texts and commentaries from his profound wisdom where many people used them as reference. With the guidance of his teachers, he wrote “Living in America, Speaking different Language, Creating Organization, La realite sociologique des Haitiens vivant a l’etranger, Float of Anger” etc. Garry is looking to the future with enthusiasm. As a positive man, he likes people-oriented individual who enjoys contributing to a successful team. He’s working hard daily to make a positive impact on his environment. He has no limit he is simply a citizen of the word.

“Je ne suis d’aucune culture
D’aucune humanité.Seulement
Je tremble quand l’enfant pleure,
Et je tombe quand l’amour glisse”. (Nietzsche)

Writing. ( My first year in College) by Garry PAMPHILE

2012-05-03T08:55:00.001-07:00

Writing is easy for some people and a big deal for other one. The problem is not the

writing itself but is what to write and how to connect the words together to maintain a

logical idea. For me, writing is amazing and give me some pleasure. It helps me to

express my thoughts on paper and explain what I feel on a regular basis to others. it gives

my opinion about different facts and displays my feelings in words. Writing gives me

some pleasure but it is also a uncomfortable trying to organize my ideas in a different

Language.

Keep then straight in my mind and apply them correctly is a challenge. I don’t

have a large vocabulary and don’t know all the grammar skills for the language. As for

me I think that Practice reading, and studying will be the best key that help my writing

skills.

2008

Haiti struggles to recover by Garry PAMPHILE

2012-04-30T09:43:00.000-07:00

Haiti Struggles to Recover

On January 12th, 2010 Haiti was shaken by a 7.3 degree earthquake. The earthquake caused hundreds of thousands deaths and pushed at least a few millions into homeless. This earthquake has been not only felt by the people living in Haiti, but also was felt by also those other Haitians living abroad. In the aftermath of the tragedy, many organizations and different health care professionals mobilized to go to Haiti to help with different aspects of the catastrophe. Two years after the earthquake, the situation has not changed greatly, as Haiti still struggles to recover.

The assistance that was provided was poorly managed. After the earthquake this Island nation received donations from different countries in the world but the help did not reach those for whom it was intended. Right after the earthquake, the US allocated hundreds of millions of dollars in aid and sent thousands troops to help and secure the country. However, the Associated Press noted “Three hundred and seventy nine million dollars in initial US money promised for Haiti, most was not really money going directly, or in some cases even indirectly, to Haiti” ( Bill Quigley 3). After the 2010 Haiti earthquake, many agencies in Haiti keep growing and receiving

a lot money from the donator countries, but the funds were spent on unclear and indefinite needs such as psychological and social support yet no one know where the money has been spent.

In addition to that, hundred million dollars that was given by the donated countries for the humanitarian funds, construction, water, food, safety of the environment, emergency medical services and education was spent by the corrupt government officials of Haiti and no one is charging corruption. As a result, people are still hungry, millions are still homeless, people are still living in camps, and various diseases like cholera were introduced in the country where the government does not have a rapid response to stop the epidemic.

Two years after the earthquake Haiti’s reconstructions rises slowly. Haiti had some of the worst buildings in the entire Caribbean where the houses did not respect the constructions’ standards for the appropriate Infrastructure. Now the government does not have plan to build earthquake-resistant housing while thousands of Haitians are still living in shelters such as tents, damaged homes. The government does not have either any ability to respond to coordinate help received for the reconstruction. Donovan Webster reported “The Haitian government and donor countries have failed to come up with a coordinated strategy to coordinate help”. (Donovan Webster 3) People who lost their houses are still living in horrible conditions, and are exposed to various diseases. It is true that the major construction project has begun, significant progress has been made but many important steps have to be done to remove tons of debris from destroyed buildings, and return Haitian peoples’ dignity.

Montains in Gressier

Haiti has major environmental problems. The earthquake let considerable destruction damaged the country, affected negatively the environment, and have important effects on the population. The volume of demolition waste potentially generated by recovery and reconstruction operations. Likewise has not yet technically be estimated, caused massive population displacements, and caused a lack of trees. All debris are also not being removed yet in all areas in the country. As a result, Haiti has potential environmental, agricultural, and natural resources that can tremendously rebound and improve its economic situation. Little progress has been noted so far but more work to repair the country.

Cholera Treatment Center

Haiti is facing health concerns and sanitation services after the second years of the earthquake. After the earthquake, millions of people in Haiti are facing a lack of water, and have limited access to sanitation coverage. Therefore, the population was faced to an epidemic of cholera, a consequence of the unclean water and rains which beat down on the island and killed hundreds thousands of people. Thousands people died from this epidemic, hundreds are still in critical condition and showing symptoms of cholera. Journalist Donna Leinwand Leger believed “The Haiti cholera outbreak is one of the largest cholera epidemics in modern history to affect a single country" (Leger 18). Unfortunately there are just not enough public health officials or laboratories to handle the spread of this disease, but the need of the health response is even more pressing. Few efforts have been made to reduce the number of cases which would limit the impact of the disease. However, basic services like water, sanitation services and electricity are almost nonexistent.

Haiti has struggled with educational problems as well. Two years after the devastating earthquake, thousands of Haitians students don’t have access to quality education, seated in temporary camps without an adequate of materials school’s stock. Many schools were affected by the earthquake, which also destroyed the Ministry of Education building, crippling the government’s ability to respond to the ensuing education crisis. As indicated by USA Today reporter William Wheeler, “Haiti's post-earthquake tent cities house many willing students who lack accessible education”. (William Wheeler 18). To ensure access to education, and support the students, the Haitian government received a several millions of dollars grant to improve the quality of education, expand training opportunities, and to strengthen implementation capacity of the Education Ministry. The Inter-American Development Bank approved “Fifty million dollars in grant to support the education reform Haiti to expand access to free, quality education for all Haitian children” (IDB Nov.24). Definitely the absence of a strong State, capable of giving a boost and to coordinate the help between the universities and school systems’ throughout the country is still facing huge challenges after the earthquake.

Haiti is now an uncertain country. Haiti's future is remaining uncertain due to detrimental environmental effects caused by the natural disaster. This earthquake left hundreds of thousands of people are living in densely packed camps, dependent on food rations, and put the population in high health risks. This situation greatly reduced people economic possibilities. Therefore the situation has never changed in Haiti, and the population thinks it is time to make new directions to change the situation. Journalist Damien Cave advanced that “Only a small part of it [Funds] was reaching increasingly desperate Haitians without food, water or shelter” (Cave 18).

Since the earthquake Haiti has encountered little recovery progress in the last two years, but the country is still unable to move forward on its own agenda. Millions of cubic feet of quake debris have been removed from Port-au-Prince and other areas. More people have access now to clean water, education and food in the capital and other parts and of the country. However, it is also true that Haiti’s government is still unable to react effectively. The reality is due to the institutions’ weakness to respond fully to new challenges to help effectively and the large number of newly homeless and injured people. Nicolas Moyer, spokesman for the Humanitarian Coalition declared “Haiti needs long-term solutions” (Payton 5). Consequently, Haiti needs an Emergency disaster fund to ensure that immediate financial support, to make preparations in the case of imminent disaster, or imminent danger occurs and be able to respond quickly and efficiently during emergencies.

Haiti needs a National Aid coordination director to see that the areas that are the most in need are prioritized than other areas, and react quickly. Haiti needs long term approaches for its rehabilitation so that a wide range of partners could help to fight against poverty, and making plan for the next 20 years. To establish preventive measures for such disasters like regional electrical districts rather than one larger grid. This country needs also disaster resistant building plans to be prepared for all natural disaster, not just hurricanes and flooding. Unfortunately, Haiti has to build back stronger, creating new safer buildings, reinforcing the construction and remove people are still living in the tents. Few important progresses have been made in response to the earthquake but more engagements to the Haitian people in the ground need to be felt.

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Worked cited

1- Quigley Bill, Seven places where The Earthquake Money did and did not go, Associated Press, January 3rd, 2012.Web

2- Cave Damien, and Thompson Ginger, Officials Strain to Distribute Aid to Haiti as Violence

Rises, the New York Time, January 16, 2010.

3- Leger Donna L., Cholera cripples Haiti, two years after quake, USA TODAY.Jan.6, 2011.

4- Webster Donovan, Where did the money go? Global Post Haiti, January12, 2012).

5- Wheeler William, Haiti and Education post Disaster, USA Today, April 18, 2011.

6- Inter-American Development Bank, Helping Haiti recover from the earthquake, Nov.24, 2011

7- Payton Laura, Haiti faces mix of problems 2 years after quake, CBS News politic, jan5, 2012.

Love, sex and teenager

2011-11-18T08:01:00.000-08:00

Yesterday, at school, we had a discussion which I think could be helpful to share here and have your take about it.

This is funny, each of my days of the week is a different topic, and yesterday it was about teenagers and teenagers' love relationship.
It might be different for you because of your culture, but in my country, as my parents used to say, teenagers did not have that much freedom with their sex lives as those of today. They were not even allowed to talk about sex organs in front of grown-ups. But today, it's different!(Alleluya, some of us would say).
Having sex feels so good that do not think they'd be able to refrain themselves from having it, but what has it caused?

Based on study results, many couples formed with people borned during the 60's and 70's still now exist and there isn't many divorces registered for people married that period. And yet, the married couples of these days, with many more experiences in their early ages, can hardly spend a year together.

We've had many exemples within the class room, a woman around 60 who has been married for 37 years now and one who is 24 who got divorced already.

What is, according to you, the cause of it? Were those experiences made at our early age useful? Because as the saying goes "you living you learn",with more experiences, the better we are

To my friends

2011-11-17T10:09:00.000-08:00

Life has decided to separate us but it has allowed us, as well, to keep in touch. I created this blog so that even if we far from each other we can grow together by sharing knowledge, and new discoveries. Through this blog, I will raise a few concern and I need you all to debate and find a solution

Let's talk

2011-11-17T09:46:00.001-08:00

"Let's talk" is a blog that its name defines it, this is a blog where we will discuss about anything. We will talk about the youngsters daily issues, and when I say daily issues I mean love, sex, the way we look, importance of a friends in our lives and how friends influence us etc. Stay connected because the topics will mostly revolve around, we, teenagers daily issues and how important it is for us to have most of desires shape up.