Margins of Society

Good-bye, Thomas

2013-11-09T08:08:00.000-08:00

I am not longer seeing my booty call, Thomas. Unfortunately, I no longer have any respect for him, as a result of his dog, of all things. One night a couple of months ago, I was visiting him overnight & I noticed that his dog was not making much noise. When I asked about the dog, he replied that she was sick, not eating for several days at a time. I then said I would be happy to take her to the veterinarian for him, if he did not have the time. When I returned the next week. The dog was completely silent. When I asked about her again, he said she had died earlier in the week.

I was stunned. Because of his pride & his need for privacy, he had not taken the dog to the vet, nor had he asked me to help. It was then, I realized we were not even friends. I also realized that as a sex partner, he was lacking, particularity because it took me a two hour round trip to reach him. He not worth the effort any longer.

The only awkward thing that will occur from time to to time is Thomas being my boss. It doesn't happen often & when it does, it's not for a long period of time. For my part, I have not mentioned my disdain for him. He will not ask, because that would be something that would concern a friend, not a booty call.

Naughty Twat Smell

2013-11-08T06:43:00.000-08:00

I am going to share something embarrassing with you, as a lesson for other women. For years, after reading "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Being a Cheapskate", I stopped wearing underwear. The premise of the book is that they are unnecessary & cost money to purchase & wash. So, for years I did not wear them. Then, for years, my twat smelled. The kind of smell that was evident, when I squatted, after being a wrench wench in the heat all day.

I figured it was natural, with all that sweat going on down there. Whenever I had sex, I always jumped into the bathtub, so it was not a big deal. However, by the morning, my twat smelled again. This went on for years, until I started dated another chick. I noticed that her twat was wonderfully musty in the morning, without an offensive odor.

I decided it was time to do something, so I got some over the counter yeast infection stuff & stuffed it into my twat over night. It fixed it immediately. So, I returned to my regularly scheduled program of not wearing panties, not making the connection.

Guess what? It came back. So, last night I got more over the counter yeast infection stuff & stuffed it into my twat for the second time. I also bought some fun underwear, with the Muppets & superheroes.

Hopefully, this will take care of things. Otherwise, I am heading to the doctor & I hate doctor's rooting around in my twat!

The Caribbean & James

2013-11-07T07:45:00.000-08:00

James, my primary & nesting partner, & I have decided to move to the Caribbean, once my daughter, Virginia, turns 18-years-old, in June of 2014. However, we will not make a firm decision, until May. So, for the time being, I am in limbo, thinking about the islands.

There are several things that could delay our move. Money is always a factor. According to the government website, we should have at least $15K to move. Also, if James finds permanent full-time work, with benefits, where we currently are, the move could be delayed by years. However, even with all of those variables, there is one even more pressing. James & I haven't had sex in over a year now & I am unwilling to move with him, after July, unless that changes.

I have asked James for more details on his lack of sexual inclination towards me, such as to whether or not he still find me sexually attractive. He says he does. I have asked him about possibly having a low testosterone level & seeking medical attention. He says he does not. What he says is that he will have a sexual inclination towards me & then there is a disconnect between that point & when he acts upon it.

He is currently dating a new woman named Jessica. Although they have not had sex, he is certainly pumped for it. My hope is that once they have sex, that energy will be brought to my relationship with him.

I have explained to James my desire to have sex with him & the time frame I am working with. Since then, he has become more verbally romantic & seems to be compensating for not having sex with me. Unfortunately, in the end, words will not be good enough.

Hegre Art

2013-10-31T13:27:00.000-07:00

16 Reasons To Have Daily Sex

2013-06-12T11:23:00.000-07:00

Stressed, burdened with life's difficult problems and fear that your health is declining? Then sex is the answer to happiness, longevity and a healthy body.

You don't agree?

Well, here is a list of the health benefits of sex, so do it daily to experience complete pleasure. These are 16 reasons to have sex today!

1. De-stress

Sex helps you reduce stress. When deep breathing exercises fail to de-stress you, sex will do the needful.

During sex your body produces dopamine, a substance that fights stress hormones, endorphins, aka "happiness hormones" and oxytocin, a desire-enhancing hormone secreted by the pituitary gland. In a study, published in the Public Library of Science journal, three neuroscience researchers conducted a test on male rats and found that the sexually active rats were less anxious than rats with no sexual activity.

2. Great Form of Exercise

Making love is a form of physical activity. During intercourse, the physiological changes in your body are consistent with a workout. You must have noticed that the respiratory rate rises, which means you get tired. Hence, you burn calories. If you have sex three times a week for 15 minutes (but we know you can do better than that) you'll burn about 7.500 calories in a year. That's the equivalent of jogging 75 miles! Heavy breathing raises the amount of oxygen in your cells, and the testosterone produced during sex keeps your bones and muscles strong.

3. Lowers high blood pressure

Hugs and sex can improve your blood pressure. Sex reduces diastolic blood pressure, that is, the bottom number while reading blood pressure.

Researchers with the University of Paisley conducted an experiment on the same. They concluded that sex improves blood pressure.

4. Builds your immunity

Trying to fight the sniffles? Sex is the answer to fight cold and other health problems; sex can boost your immunity.

Immunoglobulin A, an antigen that fights the flu increases when the frequency of sex increases.

5. Makes You Look Younger

Making love three times a week can make you look 10 years younger, claims a Scottish researcher. "It's good for you to have good sex," says David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, whose study on the effects of sex on aging appears in his book, Secrets of the Superyoung.

6. Healthy heart

Sex helps you burn calories but it can also improve your heart. Sex will take care of stroke and heart attacks, you just have to enjoy the moment.

Scientists with New England Research Institute examined the effect of sex on the heart. The study concluded that men are 45 percent less likely to experience cardiovascular diseases. But the study fails to study the effect of sex on a woman's heart.

7. Pain relief

Pleasure is the measure to beat out the pain. Do you experience migraines and body pain? Well sex is the answer. But if you experience back pain, it is best to consult a doctor.

Dr. George E. Erlich, an arthritis specialist from Philadelphia conducted a study on the link between arthritis and sex. He narrows down that patients who engaged in sex experienced less pain.

8. Builds trust and intimacy

The act of sex spikes the hormone oxytocin; this hormone is responsible for your happiness and love. If your feel your relationship is falling out, there is trust or you're worried that your partner will stray away, then sex will dispel these doubts. The hormone oxytocin builds trust and brings couples closer, and cupid too.

9. Less chances of cancer

Regular ejaculation reduces your chances of developing prostate cancer. In an Australian study men who ejaculated 21 times a month were least likely to develop cancer. It is further supported by other researches that sexual intercourse reduces the risk of prostrate cancer.

10. Stronger pelvic muscles

Sex involves the use of several muscles; hence regular sexual intercourse can help you develop stronger pelvic muscles. Further, since the act of sex involves a range of muscles, it also helps strengthen these muscles - for ex: quads, your core, and the upper back. Through regular sex, you can also maintain a strong bladder and bowel function.

Strong muscles, calorie burner, improves heart health - sex seems to take care of you.

11. Prostate Protection

Most of the fluid you ejaculate is secreted by the prostate gland. If you stop ejaculating, the fluid stays in the gland, which tends to swell, causing lots of problems. Regular ejaculation will wash those fluids out and ensure the well being of your prostate until old age. Problems may also occur when you suddenly change the frequency of ejaculations.

12. Induces sleep

After that great, lovely workout you are bound to get good sleep. But guess what? Sex works the same way as exercise. The increased heart rate leads to increased post-coital relaxation. Sex could be the next thing for insomniacs! So what really happens:

- Sex can relax you, hence if you are already tired, the act of sex will induce sleep.

- When men ejaculate they become lethargic, this can make them sleepy.

13. Regular periods

Apparently sex can improve your menstrual cycle. Sex regulates hormones, which in turn regulate the menstrual cycle. Sex reduces stress, which is one of the reasons women miss their periods. Sex seems like a better option than pills.

14. Prevents Erectile Dysfunctions

Fifty per cent of men older than 40 suffer from erectile dysfunctions and all young men fear the moment when they won't be able to get it up any more. The best medicine against impotence is...sex. An erection keeps the blood flowing through your penile arteries, so the tissue stays healthy. Plus, doctors compare an erection to an athletic reflex: the more you train the more capable you are to perform.

15. Live longer

A healthy heart, stronger muscles, increased circulation of oxygen and happiness are some of the factors that add life to the years and as a result - years to your life.

A study published in the British Medical Journal reveals that men who engaged in sex often live twice as those who rarely had any action.

16. Healthier semen

If you're trying to conceive, you increase the volume of semen if you have sex regularly. Regular sex replaces old sperms from the testicles. If there is a natural build of sperms it can lead to DNA damage.

http://www.whydontyoutrythis.com/2013/04/16-reasons-to-have-daily-sex.html

SoftCups

2013-06-11T11:20:00.000-07:00

From time to time, I have trouble with whores not wanting to work, while they are menstruating. So, I share with them the joy of SoftCups. When wearing SoftCups, a women can have full blown sex, without her partner feeling the cup, unless they are super large or have a weird angle. In that case, if I think my partner may be feeling the cup, I tell them, "Hey, I have a new toy inside. Can you feel it?" (It's about how you spin things!) The best thing about SoftCups is that you can find them at CVS.

BabyDaddie's Girlfriend

2013-06-10T11:08:00.000-07:00

I decided to do something I have never done in the past, in regard to my ex-husband & BabyDaddie. I contacted his current girlfriend to see if she could talk some sense in him, about his unwillingness to pay for half of his child's dental issues.

I absolutely love his girlfriend & I am sure why she remains with him, nonetheless I am very respectful of the position she holds in his life. So, I went to her & explained that if BabyDaddie did not agree to pay for half of the medical care, as detailed in the divorce degree, I would be forced to go to court. In that case, the worst possible scenario for him would be paying 70% of the costs, all attorney's fees, all court costs, & hiking up his monthly child support. That's something I absolutely do not want to do, because in the end, the only people who really win, when going to court, are the attorneys.

The problem is BabyDaddie would be very upset if he found out that Girlfriend & I even discussed him. So, if she does not pop the conversation on her own, her next in will be when I file the court papers & he is served. I'm sure she will know immediately, because he will call her immediately to complain. Hopefully, at that point, she will say something like "Have you talked to an attorney? Maybe it's a good idea, before you go to court. It can't hurt."

Fingers crossed...

Madison Enters the Picture

2013-06-07T08:36:00.000-07:00

Considering I have gained 40 pounds in the last 5 years, I decided to become more active in my life. However, in the past, when I made this move, I failed, because I didn't have anyone to answer to. Hopefully, that's changed now.

While working with a another women, last year, while doing my manual labor job, I noticed she had lots a bunch of weight. When I asked her how she did it, she said she had been training her horses much more frequently. I immediately became interested, because I used to show horses, prior to 8th grade. When i asked if I could join her, from time to time she said yes.

Fast forward to last week. I was noticing how much weight I have gained, particularly since being home most of the day, answering phones for the whores & I was very disappointed. What's even worst is that James, my live-in boyfriend, & Richard, my best friend, love having huge gourmet meals every three evenings. I have a hard time resisting.

So, while kneading my ever growing belly, I got an idea. I immediately texted Madison, the horse wench. She called several minutes later & asked what she could do for me. I shared with her my dilemma & asked if I could join her daily with the horses. She agreed, asking when i wanted to get started. When I said, "today", she replied "great". So, I spent four hours with her two days ago. I hadn't been on a horse in 10 years, but she said it had all come back to me & I did much better than I had hoped.

My goal is to have her so comfortable with me being around her horses that she will allow me to take care of them, when busy season hits & she has to go back to her manual labor job full-time. For me, it's much more simple. I would love to do manual labor too. However, I can't stop an entire project, along with the people involved, while I answer emails & return texts, for whores. However, I can do that, when taking care of the horses.

In terms of exercise, I about died after my first day of working with the horses. My thighs ached & my tummy hurt. However, it was a good & happy ache. As long as I am not camping out in front of the computer screen all day & snacking, I am happy.

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"Don't bring my name into this!"

2013-06-06T07:46:00.000-07:00

I could see the finish line, when it came to dealing with BabyDaddie, considering Virginia my daughter, is nearly 17. However, now that she needs to have cavities filled & all her wisdom teeth pulled, which is not covered by the insurance, he refuses to pay for half, although it's considered an "extraordinary" medical expense. Unfortunately, for him, I knew that would be his reaction & did my legal research & contacted my attorney, before I asked nicely for him to help. Now, if I file paperwork with the courts, he will more than likely have to pay for a much larger percentage. Hopefully, he will decide to play nicely over the weekend, before I get to the courthouse.

He keeps blessing me & saying "God is good all the time" & "I'm praying for you". In reality, his god is looking at him & thinking, "No wonder Christians get such a bad wrap, you stupid fucktard. Don't bring my name into this!"

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Reggae Wine Festival

2013-06-05T11:46:00.000-07:00

Over the weekend, James & I went to a wine festival at the largest winery in our state. It was absolutely fascinating. It was billed as a "Reggae & Wine" festival. We've been to many wine festivals in the past, but nothing that specifically marketed to fans of reggae, which for the most part means African Americans.

The entry fee was $20. After that, the tasting was free. Additional money would be needed for the many food vendors, retail vendors, & to purchase wine bottles. The hillside was packed with people on blankets & under umbrellas & tents.

Typically, during a wine festival, you approach a bar & the person pouring the wine will describe the taste, perhaps giving you a piece of cheese or chocolate, to pair with the wine. From there, you decide whether or not you care to purchase a bottle of wine or move along. This was not the case for this crowd. Rather than moving along, people would camp at the bar, without purchasing a bottle. Normally, at a wine festival, people wear attracted, but comfortable clothing. This weekend, club wear was the norm. I mean true club wear with the stilettos & tiny, tight dresses.

The difference in the crowd was amazing & incredibly fun to watch. I bow down in awe of the marketing guru who came up with a great way to reach a niche market & make it incredibly profitable. James & I look forward to going to another festival at the same wine festival to see if it's the exact same thing with just a different music focus. If so, what will the demographic be?

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A Herd of Teens

2013-06-04T10:30:00.000-07:00

I went to pick up Virginia, my 16-year-old daughter, from her friend's home & I was surrounded by a herd of teens, asking about polyamory & bisexuality. They were completely enthralled. At first, my daughter coaxed them into asking questions, which they sheepishly did, with her guidance. By the end, they were so comfortable, I could barely finish answering a question, before another one was thrown at me. In my household, such conversations are a daily event. It was fascinating to deal directly with other's that did not have that experience, especially a group so young.

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NiteFlirt & Phone Sex

2013-06-04T08:01:00.000-07:00

I've started to do phone sex, using the NiteFlirt platform again. It fits nicely into answering texts & emails for the whores. While I'm booking a visitor for one girl, I'm helping a dirty old man orgasm on the phone. I'll share my secrets of being a successful phone sex whore in the coming weeks. To follow those specific blog entries, be sure to click the label "niteflirt" or click this link.

"Don't be naughty, Alex"

2013-06-03T11:03:00.000-07:00

The set up of the agency is I have a group of girls who are listed on the agency website as agency girls. Once they get great reputations & their own place to entertain they become "independent girls". However, in reality, I am answering all the phones.

Alex, a new regular, who has been seeing the girls for the last two months, emailed Tonya, asking for a visit today at 2:30pm, which she agreed to. Ten minutes later, he emailed someone else, requesting the same time. I knew what he was doing & replied to his email, saying no one was available at 2:30pm, knowing he already scheduled the visit with Tonya. He did not let it go. This time he called the agency & asked if I wasn't sure someone was not available. I said "Aren't you seeing Tonya at 2:30pm?" He was speechless. I then said "Don't be naughty, Alex". He apologized profusely & hung up. 10 minutes later, he texted Tonya to cancel the visit. Gee, I wonder why? Guilt must have set in & he could not face her in person.

Men can be such dumb asses around pussy.

Email Address Set Up & Etiquette

2013-06-02T10:31:00.000-07:00

Before you begin finding a reputable sexworker, you have to set up a few things to protect yourself & your privacy. First, create an email address that is specifically for whoremongering. Do not be a dumb ass & use your current personal, school, or business email address.

Yes, I know what you are thinking.

1. "Maybe she will feel more comfortable if she sees I am a legitimate business owner & therefore, my business email address will help in that endevour".

2. "I have not used my current email address for anything important & therefore, there is no need to get another one."

WRONG! I had one who emailed me from his old college email account, after he had long since graduated. When I did a search on Google for anything connected to his email address, nothing popped up. However, when I went to the school's website & popped in his email address to search EVERYTHING popped up, from his full name to his birth date, as well as all the papers for which he had received awards.

Just assume all of your old email addresses are linked to something you do not want a complete stranger, doing something illegal to know. It's that simple. Just get a new email address, specifically for whoring. My favorite email program happens to be Gmail.

Once you set up your account, be sure to use a fake name when you register. Make is sound legitimate, such as "Richard Evans", not "Pussy Licker" (Yes, I really did get that one). Make the email address sound legitimate too, such as "MatthewHarrington@gmail.com", not "IPay4Pussy@gmail.com"

Remember, reputable providers are looking for signs & reasons not to see you. Do not give them one.

In your email, be very polite & not a horny dumb ass, with poor grammar, who alludes to sex and money. Something like..

"Hello. My name is Mike. I recently saw your wonderful reviews on The Erotic Review. I am very interested in meeting you & I noticed, based upon reading your website, that you prefer emailing, rather than talking on the phone. I wanted to know what's the next thing I need to do, in order to visit."

You see that? Nice pleasant introduction, giving her a compliment, alluding to her website, without bringing up sex or money. Mike would be good to go in this situation. :)

Cell Phones & Texting Etiquette

2013-06-01T10:14:00.000-07:00

It is very common for sexworkers & clients to communicate by cell phone & texting. Do not be a dumb ass & use your personal or professional cell phone. Yes, I know it seems like a very easy thing to do. However, you are a moron if you do. Go & purchase a cheap prepaid cell phone. You can get them all over the place, including gas stations. When you purchase the phone, you will have to load minutes on the phone with a phone card. Purchase the card with the lowest minutes, considering you are probably not going to be seeing a whore daily. You should throw the phone away at least every 6 months or if your favorite whore has been arrested. Yes, I am being very serious. When you set up your voicemail, let your number, not your name be announced. There is no need for your voice to be recorded.

Do not text a sexworker. She will have a permanent record of everything you are texting. If her phone is confiscated, during an arrest, your stupidity is going to shine, like a polished turd.

When you call, be very polite. Ask if it's a good time to talk. On the phone, do not give your real name. Give your whoremongering name, as you have it in your emails. Never refer to sex or money, when you call. Actually, never refer to sex and money at all, not in person, by phone or email.

A good introduction would be..

"Hello. My name is Mike. I recently saw your wonderful reviews on The Erotic Review. I am very interested in meeting you & I noticed, based upon reading your website, that you prefer talking on the phone rather than emailing. I wanted to know what's the next thing I need to do, in order to visit."

You see that? Nice pleasant introduction, giving her a compliment, alluding to her website, without bringing up sex or money. Mike would be good to go in this situation. :)

James & Waxing

2013-05-31T09:38:00.000-07:00

Last night, while out getting James's haircut, I convinced him to have his eyebrows waxed. He got a funny awkward look on his face, but agreed. He went through the process, as I giggled, ending up with red eyes & a temporarily sore brow. While in the car, he asked "Are you happy now?" I said yes. He replied, "You know I only do that to make you laugh?!"

Sigh... I love James :)

Date-Check & Preferred411

2013-05-30T09:21:00.000-07:00

If you have never seen a sexwoker, I highly recommend you join Preferred411.com or Date-Check.com. Most reputable positively reviewed providers will not see you, unless you have references from other reputable providers. If you are brand new to the industry, you will not have those. However, many will accept membership from these two sites.

Both sites will take your personal information, including work information & verify it. Yes, you are going to have to turn over the goods. Yes, I know that thought scares you. However, they are without a doubt, highly reputable & dispose of your information, once it's verify.

Once you are approved, you are able to create an online persona on their site & in the sexworker industry. You can give yourself a fake name & an anonymous email address. Then, you should stick to seeing the providers on those sites, because neither site will allow providers with poor reviews on the site.

If you are a newbie, this is the absolute best way to go, because you do not have to search reviews or turn over personal information. DO IT! :)

10 Life-Enhancing Things You Can Do in Ten Minutes or Less

2013-05-29T07:45:00.000-07:00

http://www.psychologytoday.com/print/40925/

By Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D.

Created Apr 17 2010 - 9:48am

It usually takes us much longer to change our moods than we’d like it to take. Here are ten things you can do in ten minutes or less that will have a positive emotional effect on you and those you love.

1. Watch "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. See it online at Oprah.com. This is a deeply moving segment that may be the best ten minutes you've ever invested in front of a computer.

2. Spend a little while watching the sunset with your mate. Nothing extra is necessary. Just sit and take in the natural beauty of the sky and appreciate being able to share it with the one you love.

3. Sit quietly by yourself. It doesn't really matter where or when. Just let your feelings bubble up and then experience the thoughts flowing out of your mind. Clearing your head and heart will give you extra energy to get through the rest of the day.

4. Write a thank you note to your mate. When was the last time you thanked your partner for just being who he or she is and being with you? Doing this in writing will give your partner something to cherish for the rest of his or her life.

5. Take out your oldest family photo album and look through it. The experience will fill you with fond memories and perhaps make you a bit wistful for days gone by.

6. Play with a child. Most kids have short attention spans; ten minutes of quality time from a loving adult can make their day. It will also help you stay in touch with the child inside of you.

7. Visualize or imagine a positive outcome for any issue. Medical doctors recommend visualization to patients with chronic and potentially fatal illnesses. If it can help them, it can do the same for you.

8. Go to bed with the one you love ten minutes earlier than usual. Then spend that time just holding each other. Let the feeling of warmth from your mate move through you.

9. Hang out by some water. Studies show that hospital patients who can see a natural body of water from their beds get better at a 30 percent faster rate. If you're not near the coast or a lake, try taking a bath. Doing so is also healing.

10. Get your body moving. Shake, twist, and jump around. Let yourself feel the joy of moving to your favorite music, or just the sounds in your head. Run, walk, and bike to your hearts content. You will live longer and love it more.

Sadly, many people measure happiness by how long the experience lasts. The truth is that a few minutes of joy here and there can make a big difference in what you get out of life.

Love Flow Chart

2013-05-29T07:30:00.000-07:00

Don't be a Petraeus: A Tutorial on Anonymous Email Accounts

2013-05-27T05:44:00.000-07:00

https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2012/11/tutorial-how-create-anonymous-email-accounts

Tomorrow, as the Senate Judiciary Committee considers reforming the decades-old federal email privacy law, the personal Inboxes and love lives of senior military and intelligence figures may be on that august body's mind. When the FBI pored through the personal lives of CIA Director David Petraeus, Paula Broadwell, Jill Kelly and General John Allen, citizens across the land began to wonder how the FBI could get that kind of information, both legally and technically.

So, just how do you exchange messages with someone, without leaving discoverable records with your webmail provider? This is an important practical skill, whether you need to use it to keep your love life private, to talk confidentially with a journalist, or because you're engaged in politics in a country where the authorities use law enforcement and surveillance methods against you.

The current state of anonymous communication tools is not perfect, but there here are some steps that, if followed rigorously, might have protected the Director of the CIA, the Commander, U.S. Forces Afghanistan, and their friends against such effortless intrusion into their private affairs.

Pseudonymous webmail with Tor

According to press reports, Broadwell and Petraeus used pseudonymous webmail accounts to talk to each other. That was a prudent first step, but it was ineffectual once the government examined Google's logs to find the IP address that Broadwell was using to log into her pseudonymous account, and then checked to see what other, non-pseudonymous, accounts had been used from the same IP address. Under current US law, much of this information receives inadequate protection, and could be obtained from a webmail provider by the FBI without even requiring a warrant.

Because webmail providers like Google choose to keep extremely extensive logs1, protecting your pseudonymous webmail against this kind of de-anonymization attack requires forethought and discipline.

You should use the Tor Browser Bundle when setting up and accessing your webmail account. You must always use Tor. If you mess up just once and log into the pseudonymous account from your real IP address, chances are that your webmail provider will keep linkable records about you forever. You will also need to ensure that you do not give your webmail provider any information that is linked to your real world identity. For instance, if prompted for an email account, do not use another real account during signup; use a throwaway address instead.

Download the Tor Browser Bundle

To use Tor, start by downloading the Tor Browser Bundle by going to Tor Download page: https://www.torproject.org/download/download-easy.html.en, shown in the screenshot below, and click on the Download button for the appropriate browser bundle for your operating system. The screenshot below shows the Tor Browser Bundle for Windows.

The Tor Bowser Bundle is a zip self-extracting archive. Click "extract" to extract the files from the archive.

To start the Tor Browser in Windows, go to Local Disk-->Program Files-->Tor Browser and double click on "Start Tor Browser," shown in the screenshot below:

When the Tor Browser launches, it will automatically test itself to see if Tor is working correctly. If Tor is correctly anonymizing your traffic, it will display a message saying, "Congratulations. Your browser is configured to use Tor." It will also display the IP address that your traffic appears to be coming from. This is the IP address your webmail provider will see when you go to set up your webmail account.

Set Up A Webmail Account

Now that you have your Tor Browser up and running, use it to set up a new webmail account, ideally with a provider that you do not otherwise use. Using a separate webmail provider will help you to distinguish between your anonymous account and your regular email account. Hushmail allows users to set up new webmail accounts while using Tor to protect their anonymity, which is why we are using it in this tutorial. Note that Hushmail has a checkered history, but it is the only webmail service we are aware of that allows the use of Tor in this way--something we'd like to see changed. Google tries to prevent people from signing up for Gmail accounts pseudonymously, and alternatives like Yahoo! Mail are missing HTTPS protection. Without both HTTPS and Tor at the time of creation and use, your account is not truly anonymous. As an added precaution, you may want to use public wifi at an Internet cafe or a library whenever you connect.

To set up your Hushmail account, go to https://www.hushmail.com/start, shown in the screenshot below, and click the "Try Hushmail" button, which will allow you to set up a free Hushmail account.

Fill in the form shown in the screenshot below. Remember to choose a strong password. You must also check a box acknowledging that Hushmail will cooperate fully with authorities pursuing evidence via valid legal channels. This means that, given a proper court order, Hushmail may give up metadata about your messages--the IP addresses you've been logging in from (luckily you use Tor every single time), the times you've logged into your webmail, and the email addresses of the people with whom you've been corresponding. Hushmail may even give up the contents of your messages to law enforcement, and has in the past as we note above, which is why you want to make sure that your messages never contain any information that may give your identity away if you wish to remain anonymous. If you are concerned about law enforcement obtaining the contents of your emails from Hushmail, you should encrypt your email correspondence using OpenPGP.

When you send messages via Hushmail, beware the "Ecrypt" checkbox, shown in the screenshot below. This is not end-to-end encryption like PGP. Hushmail will still have access to the plaintext of your email messages. This means that you are not safe from de-anonymization via the clues you type into your pseudonymous emails.

Using End-to-End Encryption With Your Pseudonymous Email Account

Setting up pseudonymous PGP/GPG in Hushmail is an complicated task that lies outside the scope of this tutorial. You are unlikely to do it safely unless you are quite technically sophisticated, and any mistakes could break the pseudonymity of your account. If you do want to attempt to do this, here are some considerations to bear in mind:

You will need to make a new key just for your pseudonymous account and the other pseudonymous people you want to talk to will need to do the same
You will need to figure out a way to exchange public key fingerprints with them. Your Hushmail accounts are probably good enough for this.
You will need to make sure that all of the software you use to handle the key (intentionally or unintentionally) is always Torified
If you use PGP normally for non-pseudonymous purposes, you will need to make sure that no PGP software uses or produces evidence of one key in the context of your other identity.

Conclusion

Anonymous online communication is a valuable tool for journalists, whistleblowers, dissidents, and Directors of the CIA. As you can see, it is still quite hard to do and do well, and few people will have the discipline necessary to ensure that their webmail provider can never disclose their IP address or inter-account linkages, because the provider will never see the identifying information in the first place. Technologists all over the world are hard at work, improving the usability of all sorts of anonymous online communications tools, and we look forward to the day when all people who need to exercise their freedom of expression can do so safely, simply, and anonymously.

The Latest Psychological Guide to Sexually Open Relationships

2013-05-26T05:31:00.000-07:00

A classic psychology study explored men's greater appetite for sex without ties; an attractive male or female approached strangers of the other sex at a college, declaring, "I have been noticing you around campus. I ﬁnd you very attractive." The collaborators with the experiment then asked one of three questions, randomly selected before approaching the subject: (a) Would you go out with me tonight? (b) Would you come over to my apartment tonight? (c) Would you go to bed with me tonight?

To the first question, both males and females assented 50% of the time. To the second, 69% of males and 6% of females responded affirmatively. To the third question, 75% of males, and 0% of females said yes, and the men who declined often apologized and cited a conﬂict due to previous plans.

Another study found males wanting an average of 18 sex partners in their lifetime, compared to women, who reported desiring four to five partners.

Kevin Zimmerman from Iowa State University, cites these studies in an intriguing academic guide to sexually open relationships, which has recently been published.

He marshals a host of scientific research which questions whether everyone was really meant to be monogamous, and whether a great deal of couples' unhappiness arises out of pre-supposing monogamy is the only option.

Zimmerman raises the question of whether we could be socialized to believe that to be devoted to a second person is to love the ﬁrst less, even though this standard does not apply when discussing adoring more than one child, for example.

Zimmerman explains that open relationships are different from inﬁdelity or cheating because partners agree on the sexual boundaries of the relationship, and there is no deception about sex. Successful open relationships typically involve those who privilege authenticity over conformity in their relationships. 'Open' relationships can be characterised by more honesty and better observation of boundaries.

Zimmerman's paper is published in the 'Journal of Feminist Family Therapy' - 'open' relationships are sometimes seen as raising the status of women, releasing them to be with whom they want, bestowing greater power over their own bodies. Some heterosexual feminist women prefer 'open' relationships, he points out, to avoid appearing dependent on men, or out of contempt for being 'submerged' into a couple.

Surveys indicate that 79% of Americans believe that it's always wrong for the married to conduct sexual relationships outside of marriage, yet the most up to date research Zimmerman quotes indicates estimates of inﬁdelity are closer to 60% for men and 40% for women.

Monogamy is also the exception to relationships throughout the animal kingdom. Zimmerman cites work contending that of 4,000 mammal species, only about 3%, have been found to be monogamous, plus of the world's roughly 400 species of primates, monogamy has been reported for only nine.

Zimmerman argues even the shape of the male penis, together with male thrusting, apparently facilitates removal of other males' semen from the vagina, according to previous research. In monogamous species, males and females are similar in body size and the males sport smaller testicles compared to non-monogamous males - testicle and body size of men in homo sapiens is what would be expected for a polygamous species. Our body shape reveals we are not biologically designed to be faithful.

Zimmerman's paper entitled, 'Clients in Sexually Open Relationships: Considerations for Therapists', explains that optimal evolutionary strategy is to appear monogamous while being polygamous covertly. It might be in the best interest of both men and women to present (or misrepresent) themselves to potential mates as loyal. A particular advantage might accrue to females who present (misrepresent) themselves as having a low sex drive, linked to uncertainty of paternity.

Of the 185 human societies investigated in one study, only 29 restricted their members to monogamy, in addition, 154 of the 185 societies allowed men to have multiple partners if they could afford them.

Zimmerman explains that 'Partnered non-monogamy' refers to a committed couple that allows for sex outside the central relationship. Swinging is non-monogamy in a social context, also referred to as "the lifestyle", 'Polyamory' allows for partners to have more than one relationship that is sexual, loving, and emotional. 'Polyﬁdelity' refers to three or more people who have made a commitment to be in a primary relationship together. A monogamous/non-monogamous partnership is one in which one person is monogamous and the other is not.

Bisexual women appear numerous in polyamorous communities; the standing joke being that they can "have their Jake and Edith too". According to Zimmerman, research confirms homosexual couples are much more likely to allow extra-dyadic sex. Two thirds of male couples of all durations are in sexually open relationships. All 156 homosexual couples in one sample who had been together for over five years, described their relationships as being open, indicating that having an open relationship may be related to couple longevity. Zimmerman also cites surveys which confirm that heterosexual couples in open relationships can be happy, intimate, and well-adjusted.

In a society in which monogamy is the only acceptable way to be in a committed relationship, Zimmerman contends individuals who experience attraction for anyone else besides their primary partner, often experience guilt shame, and deceit. Being too invested in the idea of monogamy and marriage paradoxically makes it more likely that many ﬁnd the only way to accommodate our non-monogamous biology, is to cheat.

Many choose to carry on a secret sex life rather than openly discuss and resolve conflicts with their partners, because of the social taboos that exist about extra-relational sex and sex generally.

These arguments and evidence suggest the stigma over open relationships could be changing, and in the future, this lifestyle might even become the norm. Zimmerman compares co-habitation before or instead of marriage, around which there was a similar strong taboo just a generation ago.

Zimmerman's paper contends that couples therapists might need to confront their implicit 'hetero-centrism' - that heterosexuality and heterosexual relationships are the norm against which all other sexualities and sexual relationships should be judged.

One of the co-authors of this article (HH-N) experiences of working in sexual therapy has been that the "I" generation (those born in 1980-99) seem less empathic towards partners' feelings and values and seem less committed to life-long relationships. Many from all generations live in "intimate" relationships that do not fulfil sexual needs. Partners may be chosen because they are supportive or would make good parents, but these qualities do not necessary match with being a great lover.

Given the new opportunities provided by the internet, it is inevitable, sex outside marriages is therefore probably increasing.

Yet whether this is indeed a good thing, or not, remains open to question.

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/dr-raj-persaud/the-latest-psychological-guide-sexually-open-relationships_b_3290994.html?utm_hp_ref=fb&just_reloaded=1&src=sp&comm_ref=false#sb=156680b=facebook

Sexworker Discounts

2013-05-25T05:28:00.000-07:00

Sexworkers have a habit of posting discounts & negotiating rates from the 25th through the 5th of the month. Why? Because they need to pay their rent, if they are not responsible & positively reviewed sexworkers. Otherwise, most reputable providers will not offer discounts, in public, or negotiate rates. However, they may offer discounts to their repeat clients, when they are visiting.

Google Image Search is Your Friend

2013-05-24T05:20:00.000-07:00

Google Image Search is a great weapon in your arsenal to find a quality sexworker. The online program will allow you to find a duplicate of any image on the net. Why is this important to you? I will give you an example. What if there is a sexworker on BackPage advertising & you are interested in contracting her services? You can take the picture she uses on her ad & run it though the program, seeing it if pops up on any other websites, such as rip off websites, police profile pictures, or even her personal facebook page. Here's how it works.

1. right click the image & save it on your computer, in your secret file, that your wife cannot access.

2. Go to https://www.google.com/

3. Click "images" in the top left corner.

4. On the center search bar, click the little camera at the right end of the bar.

5. When the box pops us, click "upload image".

6. Upload the naughty photo you saved in your secret file.

7. The next page will be the other duplicate pictures on the net, along with ones that have the same attributes.

Click onto any other images that are the same as the picture you uploaded. Did you find anything interesting?

"I am really grateful you are my mother"

2013-05-23T16:00:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, while driving Virginia to work, she paused & said "I know we don't always get along & I know I am a bitch; however, I want you to know I am really grateful you are my mother, because I have lots of friends who complain that their parents don't listen to them. I can never say that about you. You listen to me. You also don't act out in anger when I don't do what you think I should. You have always guided me, without judgement." I started to tear up, because my kid is notorious for not showing gratitude & I am notorious for not taking delight in being a mother. Those are the moments I hope for & rarely get. Those are the moments that touch me. Those are the moments that make it all worth while. Okay, that was a fib...

399 Days

2013-05-22T15:52:00.000-07:00

I am getting excited about my future with James. It's 399 days, until Virginia, my only child, turns 18, no longer living with us & when the lease on our massively overly large & overly expensive house ends. I can't wait to move to the city, within walking distance of the subway (fingers crossed), get rid of my car, downsize, become debt-free, & focus completely on my future with James.