My Endeavour

मुखौटा

2014-02-07T22:25:00.001+05:30

ये वो नहीं …और वो जो है , वो वैसा नहीं है जैसा दिख रहा है !!!

मुखौटा लगा रखा है यहाँ सबने।

मुखौटा के पीछे छिपा चेहरा या तो सुन्दर , या फिर कुरूप हो सकता है।

सच्चाई बताने या सच्चाई छिपाने , विशवास जीतने या विशवास तोड़ने ,घबरा कर या मज़ाक में ,

ना जाने किस कारण, लगा रखा है मुखौटा लोगो ने।

परत दर परत मुखौटा अपनी पकड़ मजबूत बना लेता है लोगो के चहरे पर।

फिर अपनी छाप भी लगता है ये मुखौटा।

यदि सच जानने की हिम्मत है ,तो ही मुखौटा के पीछे छुपे असली चेहरा देखने की कोशिश करना ,

वर्ना ये मुखौटा लगे लोगो के साथ ही जीये।

बेचारा अज्जू

2014-01-06T15:01:00.001+05:30

कुछ दिनों पूर्व हमारे परिचित त्रिपाठी जी सपरिवार घर पधारे.परिवार में मात्र तीन सदस्य ,त्रिपाठी जी ,उन की पत्नी और अज्जू उन का १० साल का बेटा।

आते ही त्रिपाठी जी बोले, "आज तो हम आप के पास काम से आये हैं"

अब यह भी कोई कहने की बात है क्या , आज कल कोई किसी के पास बैगर काम के जाता है क्या ?

श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने हमारे कान मे फुसफुसाते हुए कहा, "यह अज्जू किसी की सुनता ही नहीं ,आप तो स्कूल टीचर है न,एक से एक शरारती बच्चो को ठीक किया होगा ,ज़रा इसे भी समझाइये ना "

श्रीमति त्रिपाठी का यह कथन हमारी समझ से परे था , बच्चे को तो माँ बाप भी समझा सकते हैं।

इसी बीच त्रिपाठी जी बोले ,"सभी जगह से इस कि एक ही शिकायत सुनने को मिलती है कि ये 'सुनता नहीं' घर मे हम लोगों की ,स्कूल मे टीचर की सुनता ही नहीं. अभी से यह हाल है तो बड़े हो कर तो हमे देखेगा भी नहीं. पता नहीं क्या हो गया है आज कल के बच्चो को ?"

"अरे नहीं ..." हमने बोलना शुरू ही किया था कि हमारी बात बीच में ही काटते हुए श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने अपना दुःख व्यक्त किया,"अज्जू का रिपोर्ट कार्ड लेने "ये" तो जाते नहीं, मै जाती हूँ तो सभी टीचर्स मुझ से ही शिकायत करते हैं.अपनी नानी के यहाँ गया,तब वहां भी इस ने मेरी एक भी बात पर ध्यान नहीं दिया ."ये" तो मेरी तकलीफे समझते नहीं बल्कि मुझे ही डाँटते है कि सब तुम्हारे ही लाड प्यार का नतीजा है ."

त्रिपाठी जी इतना सुनते ही भड़क गए ,"अरे ! गलती तो तुम्हारी ही है.जब देख रही हो कि बेटा बिगड़ रहा है,तो कुछ तो करना ही होगा ना,अब मैं कुछ बोलू भी नहीं क्या ? वैसे भी तुम मेरी बात "सुनती" कहाँ हो ."
त्रिपाठी जी को ये गवारा नहीं था कि उन की बीबी उन पर इलज़ाम लगाये . मेरी तरफ देखते हुवे दीन स्वर मे बोले , "मेरी तो घर में कोई "सुनता " ही नहीं .अब ये हमारा अज्जू ,बहार खेलने के बजाय दिन भर कंप्यूटर या मोबाइल पर गेम खेलता रहता है.रोटी से ज्यादा अच्छा इसे पिज्जा,बर्गर लगता है ,हरी सब्जी से तो इसे नफरत है .अब क्या बताए आपको, जब कहता हूँ कि अज्जू ,बेटा ये करो या वो करो तो ये सुनता ही नहीं."

हमने त्रिपाठी दम्पति की समस्या बड़े ही ध्यान से सुनी,हमे लगा की अब समय आ गया है जब हम अपनी सूझ भुझ से समस्या का निवारण करें . फिर त्रिपाठी परिवार आया ही इसिलए है.
इसी मकसद से हमने अज्जू से बात करना शुरू किया "अच्छा तो अज्जू........."

हमारी बात काटते हुए त्रिपाठी जी बोले, " अरे आप मेरी बात पूरी तो होने दीजिये "

'कमाल है !!!!! तो अभी तक बात ख़त्म नहीं हुई थी ',हमने मन ही मन सोचा ,पर प्रत्यक्ष में कहा, " बोलिए ."

"ये क्या बोलेंगे ,आप मेरी बात सुनिए ",श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने आँखे नचाते हुवे कहा.

अब हम क्या कहते , हम तो जैसे सब की बात सुनने के लिए ही बैठे थे .

"सारी जिम्मेदारी क्या अकेले मेरी ही है ?"श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने हम से पूछा .

"अरे नहीं ...."हमे ने उन के प्रशन का जवाब देना चाह पर
श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने हमारी बात अनसुनी कर दी .फिर वो त्रिपाठी जी की तरफ देखते हुए बोलीं,"पढाई में तो 'अज्जू के पापा' आप भी मेरी मदद कर सकते हैं ना ."

'अज्जू के पापा ' चुप...अज्जू चुप....हम !!! हम भी चुप...

अज्जू ने तो अब तक एक शब्द भी नहीं बोला था,वैसे देखा जाए तो हमने भी कुल मिला कर कोई दस ही शब्द बोले होंगे.

"अज्जू सुन रहे हो ना ." श्रीमति त्रिपाठी अपने बेटे का धयान अपनी ओर खिचना चाह.

हमने बच्चे की तरफ देखा ,उसे तो इन सब बातो से कोई सरोकार ही नहीं था.चुपचाप नीच मुंह किये बैठा था .

हमने बोलने की फिर कोशिश की , "अज्जू देखो मम्मी कुछ ...."

"मैंने कहा ना ये किसी की "सुनता" ही नहीं " अज्जू के पापा फिर कूद  पड़े बीच  में .

"तो आप कहा हमारी बात सुनते है ??" श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने त्रिपाठी जी से पुछा .

"अच्छा !!! मैं ....मैं नहीं सुनता कि  तुम माँ बेटा नहीं सुनते ?"

समस्या विकट थी ,गहन अध्यन की आवश्यकता थी, यह जानने के लिए की कौन किस की नहीं सुनता....हमे तो मालूम होता था की त्रिपाठी दम्पति किसी की नहीं सुनते .हम ने तो बोलने की कोशिश ही छोड़ दी त्रिपाठी दम्पति के सामने .

कभी चुप ना रहने वाले त्रिपाठी जी ने हमे उलहना दिया ,"अरे ! आप तो कुछ बोल ही नहीं रहीं ? बोलिए  ना कुछ अज्जू को "

अपने पुराने बोलने के विफल प्रयासों को भुलाते हुए बोलने के लिए फिर से मुँह खोला ही था ,पर हमारे शब्द किसी के कानो तक पहुँच पाते की उस से पहले त्रिपाठी जी के शब्द गूँज उठे ,"अब आप भी क्या  कर सकती हैं ,यह अज्जू किसी की सुनता ही नहीं है."

'जी नहीं अज्जू नहीं , आप दोनों किसी की नहीं सुनते ' हमारा मन किया की हम जोर से यह बात बोलो,पर जले भुने चुप ही रह गए .

और अपनी आदत के अनुसार कभी ना चुप रहे वाले त्रिपाठी जी दार्शनिक अंदाज़ बोले ," भगवान ने मनुष्य को एक मुंह और दो कान इसीलिए दीए  हैं कि वह ज़्यादा सुने और बोले कम ."
हमे तो अपने कानो पर यकीन ही नहीं हो पा रहा था कि त्रिपाठी जी ,जो किसी को अपने सामने बोलने का मौका नहीं देते , उन के यह सुविचार  है .
त्रिपाठी जी  ने आगे कहा  "पर आज कल यह बात समझता ही कौन है ? सब बस यही चाहते हैं कि वो बोले और दुसरे सुने .मैं अपने बच्चे को यह शिक्षा देना चाहता हूँ की सब की सुनो .सुनने से ज्ञान बड़ता  है ."

जी हां- सुनने से ज्ञान बढता है , पर हमें अपने कानो पर यकीन ही नहीं हो रहा था की ये त्रिपाठी जी के सुविचार है. शायद ही त्रिपाठी जी ने अपने सामने किसी को बोलने का मौका दिया होगा (श्रीमति त्रिपाठी को "किसी " में शामिल न करे)...... लेकिन ये बात उन्हें कौन समझाए ? हम तो बिलकुल भी नही समझाने वाले पूजनीय त्रिपाठी जी को।

उन्होंने हमे देखा ,"क्यों सही कहा ना मैंने ?"
हम ने केवल सर हिलाकर अपनी स्वीकृति दी ( इस के सिवा हम कर भी क्या सकते थे )

" बहुत देर हो गई ,अब चलना चाहिए "श्रीमति त्रिपाठी ने कहा।

हम ने कुछ नहीं  कहा ,वैसे कहने की जरुरत ही नहीं थी।
त्रिपाठी दम्पति जैसे लोग किसी की "सुनते " ही नही हैं।
ऐसे लोग सिर्फ बोलना जानते हैं ,सुनना नहीं।

अज्जू का कोई कसूर नहीं ,वो चाहा के भी नहीं बोल सकता ,उसे कोई सुनने वाला चाहिए ,कोई समझने वाला।

ये केवल अज्जू नही आज के हर व्यक्ति की समस्या हैं। बोलना और सुनाना सब चाहते हैं पर सुनना नहीं।

बेचारा अज्जू

2014-01-06T15:01:00.000+05:30

'अज्जू के पापा ' चुप...अज्जू चुप....हम !!! हम भी चुप...

"अज्जू सुन रहे हो ना ." श्रीमति त्रिपाठी अपने बेटे का धयान अपनी ओर खिचना चाह.

A Bond Beyond Blood Relation.

2013-08-20T12:52:00.005+05:30

Rakhsha Bhandhan- a day to show your love to your sibling .Personally I believe u don't need a day or two in a year to show your love towards your sibling , neither Rakhsha Bhandhan is a day meant only for brother or sister. In fact it is a day for siblings(of same gender), cousins or friends !!! Its depends on your relationship with them.

In the journey called LIFE u meet several people .And some time with some special people u find a special chemistry ....a divine bond.. u feel secure in their company or u become over protective for them.They may or may not be of your age ,gender, community but that does not make any difference.At some point u get a felling ' s/he is just my bro / sis .' May be u have never said to them, but the warmth of there presence in your life makes u happy .

Celebrate the bond of love !!

Happy Rakhsha Bhandhan to each and all.

बाक़ी है

2012-02-26T20:14:00.002+05:30

देश का कोना कोना घूम आया है वो ...
पर उसका अपने पडोसी के घर जाना ,तो अभी बाक़ी है.

चंद सिक्कों के लिए पत्थर तोड़ता है वो...
पर उसका ,गुलामी की जंजीरे तोड़ना , तो अभी बाक़ी है .

गिर गिर के संभालने की आदत सी हो गई है उसे ...
पर उस का खुले आसमा में उड़ना, तो अभी बाक़ी है .

एक अर्सा गुजर गया दोनों को साथ रहते रहते ...
पर उनका एक दूसरे को , समझना तो अभी बाक़ी है .

आंसू के उस एक कतरे ने एहसास दिलाया उसे...
जिन्दा है वो ,क्यूंकि उस में कुछ जज्बात तो अभी बाक़ी हैं .

Happiness :)

2012-01-15T22:17:00.008+05:30

What is happiness????

When your boss/teacher notice & appreciate your small work, which you think nobody will notice ever...that feeling is happiness.

When your colleague/friend gives a lunch party on the same day when you forget to bring your lunch :D...that feeling is happiness.

When you get a comfortable seat in public transport while going at work place...that feeling is happiness.

When you have a tough day & you find your favorite dish in lunch/dinner ...that feeling is happiness.

When your loved ones gifts you what exactly you wants...that feeling is happiness.

When your elders showers unending blessings & affection on you.....that feeling is happiness.

When you get a call/text from some one whom you are missing badly....that feeling is happiness.

When you get a chance to take a soundless nap on a hectic day...that feeling is happiness.

When you see smile on the face of your loved ones...that feeling is happiness.

When you see innocent kids & remember your childhood...that feeling is happiness.

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Means u can find happiness every where , any time , in small or big act ... actually its not outside its within u !!!!

There is no definition of happiness...

Find out it in each LITTLE ACT .

Don’t SEARCH for it...grab it, snatch it !!!!

Remember don’t expect to be “happy” all the time. U will sometimes be sad. U will sometimes be anxious or nervous, u’ll get dumped, and u’ll feel overwhelmed. Allow Yourself to Be Human

These are human emotions. Don’t fear or be embarrassed of them. Instead, embrace them; they are part of life.

Be Happy, spread happiness!

Short inspirational Parable Of The Pencil

2011-11-02T20:38:00.001+05:30

Pencil story

The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box.

"There are 5 things you need to know," he told the pencil, "Before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be."

"One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in Someone's hand."

"Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you'll need it to become a better pencil."

"Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make."

"Four: The most important part of you will always be what's inside."

"And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write."

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart.

Now replacing the place of the pencil with you. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in God's hand. And allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but you'll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what's on the inside.

And Five: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.

Allow this parable on the pencil to encourage you to know that you are a special person and only you can fulfill the purpose to which you were born to accomplish.

Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and cannot make a change.

Author Unknown

Boy meets GOD

2011-09-04T12:09:00.001+05:30

A short story I read and thought to share.......

Boy meets GOD

A little boy wanted to meet God.

He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with Twinkies and a six-pack of root beer and he started his journey.

When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman.

She was sitting in the park just staring at some pigeons.

The boy sat down next to her and opened his suitcase.

He was about to take a drink from his root beer when he noticed that the old lady looked hungry, so he offered her a Twinkies.

She gratefully accepted it and smiled at him. Her smile was so pretty that the boy wanted to see it again, so he offered her a root beer. Again, she smiled at him. The boy was delighted !

They sat there all afternoon eating and smiling, but they never said a word. As it grew dark, the boy realized how tired he was and he got up to leave,but before he had gone more than a few steps, he turned around, ran back to the old woman, and gave her a hug. She gave him her biggest smile ever.

When the boy opened the door to his own house a short time later,his mother was surprised by the look of joy on his face. She asked him, "What did you do today that made you look so happy?"

He replied, "I had lunch with God." But before his mother could respond, he added, "You know what? She's got the most beautiful smile I've ever seen!"

Meanwhile, the old woman, also radiant with joy, returned to her home.

Her son was stunned by the look of peace on her face and asked, "Mother, what did you do today that made you so happy?" She replied, "I ate Twinkies in the park with God."

However, before her son responded, she added, "You know, he's much younger than I expected."

Moral - Too often we underestimate the power of a touch ,a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. Remember,we don't know what God will look like. People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Embrace all equally.

TV Serials....

2011-06-05T11:05:00.009+05:30

Sleep is one of the most popular way to kill time and the other way is watching Indian TV serials...they not only kill time but have ability to kill a person !!!!!!!!!!

While watching one of the serial, I noticed for about 5 mints none of the actors (do these so-called "actors" know acting?????) uttered a single word. Only I could hear was the horrible background music. Everything was stagnated,the only moving object was -camera. Camera was on the face of one actor, n then turned to second actor, obviously, it could not leave the third one. After taking round, the angle of camera changed , what I could see was the side view of those actors...so once again on screen faces of actors were flashing. Finally, after about 5 mints, one of the actor came out of vow of silence and spoke first dialogue of that day in serial...those unforgettable words were-"KYA KHAHA??".But kisko kisne kya kaha....it was a mystery.Ho sakta hai..in previous episode of the serial (which I missed) someone had said something and this kya kaha was in reference to that only. I waited anxiously for the next dialogue but…….. Alsh! There was a break.............

Ahhhhh....... break it took me out form the monotonous background music, on my screen I saw Shaharuk Khan endorsing "mardo wali FAIR AND LOVELY cream", Amithab Bachhan saying-"lagaiye NAVRATAN tel", Kareena Kapoor dancing and singing on "phate gaal wale BOROPLUS laga le."

Break gives us sufficient time to check SMS or to serve food or do some chota mota work.

Anyways....after break I again fixed my eyes on TV screen with a hope of few dialogue n something interesting in serial. Suddenly the background music stopped ,my heart missed a beat as I thought that any actor of the serial would come out of the killing "moun vrat".To my disappointment -nothing which I envisaged happen, no dialogue, no change in facial expressions of artist, even camera also refused to move and change angle. I explained myself-may be......... on the shooting of that episode the dialogue script was stolen by one of the die heart fan of the serial...or may be frustrated producer of the serial torned it into pieces...and thus the director of the serial directed actors to just stand in front of camera.

That scene left me with baffled, I found myself gritting my teeth!

The next scene was of fully furnished Hi Tec kitchen, where 3 beautiful actresses were in heavy dresses, jewelry and make up(including granny of the serial). They were preparing food, or rather I would say rotating spoon in kadhai.(serials mi sara khana chamach hilate huve hi ban jata h) . The actresses were living example of matching center-it was really irritating (one must follow serials to know what NOT to wear). The granny in the serial wore a white silk sari (with kundan work on it),pearl set, what captured my attention was the strip of white hair, granny's(according to serial her age was 60+) hair was jet black ,n there was only A strip of white hair !! No doubt the make up of other 2 ladies was spectacular,it hardly matter that they were working in kitchen. Actually, the director of the serial wants to convey a simple msg-"Remain well dress, irrespective to the work u are doing .Remember, no work is big or small." (So next time if ur maid is on leave and u have to broom or to wash utensils, don’t neglect ur cloths and do proper make up).

While cooking food they were only looking at each other n then after few mints I heard a line-"aap chaliye maaji,mai aur bahoo khana laga dete h"....... Oh My GOD !!!!! the lady pronounced more words than what I anticipated. I was contented ! Expecting more dialogue in the same episode was foolishness.

I decided not to punish my self more, so I switched off the TV.

I develop a high sense respect for all those who regularly watch such serials; they definitely must have a lot of patience.

Just have a look at the name of some TV serials:-

* Sasural gandha phool
*Sajan re jhoonth mat bolo
*Ye pyar haye
*Bade acche lagte hai,ye dharti,ye amber,ye nadiya,aur tum...
*Is pyar ko mai kya naam doon

Well yes ! These titles r the lines form Hindi songs...may be in future we have titles of serials like:-

*Munni badnam hui
*Shadi ban gai umar kaid ki saza
*Tujhe bhoola diya
*Dhinchak dhinchak a, a,a, re, re, re.

Enjoy Indian TV serials :)

माँ.........

2011-05-08T09:23:00.008+05:30

कही पढ़ा था- माँ वो होती है जिस के आँचल मे पूरा विश्व समां जाये !

कितना प्यारा शब्द है माँ ...ऐसा लगता है कि इस शब्द मे ही जादू है.

सच मे माँ जादूगर होती है अपने बच्चो के लिए.जाने कैसे अपने बच्चो की मन की हर बात पढ़

लेती है माँ ,दिल की हर बात समझ जाती है माँ.

आप कितनी भी तकलीफ मे क्यों न हो,बस अपनी माँ से शेयर कर ले और देखे चमत्कार.

उन के शब्द -"बेटा सब ढीक हो जायेगा " मे जाने क्या power tonic  होता है,कि खोया

आत्म विश्वास फिर लौट आता है.यदि आप शेयर नहीं भी करते है,तब भी माँ समझ जाती है

कि आप परेशान है,आप का चेहरा देख कर या आवाज़ सुन कर....और कभी कभी तो बिना

चेहरा देखे और बिना आवाज़ सुने भी माँ तकलीफे समझ जाती है..और फिर माँ पता नहीं भगवान

से ऐसा क्या कहती है कि धीरे धीरे सब ढीक होने लगता है.(मैंने कहा ना जादूगर होती है माँ)

आपने बच्चे के लिए माँ की telepathy  बहुत strong  होती है.

बीमारी मे माँ का एक स्पर्श ही काफी है,जो आराम दवाइयां नहीं दे पाती वो आराम माँ का स्पर्श

दे जाता है...माँ जब आप के सर पर हाथ रखती है,तो बहुत सुकून मिलता है... लगता है,

रेगिस्तान मे बारिश कि बूँद गिर रही हो,सर्दियों मे धूप खिल उठी हो जैसे.माँ वह होती है,

जो आपको दुनिया की हर परेशानी से बचाती है.भगवान का दूसरा रूप है माँ.

प्रसून जोशी का माँ पर लिखा एक बहुत ही प्यारा गीत है -

माँ  मेरी  माँ  प्यारी  माँ ..मम्मा.

हाथो की लकीरे बदल जायेगी,

गम की ये जंजीरे पिघल जायेगी.

हो  खुदा  पे भी असर,

तू  दुआओं का है घर. 
माँ मेरी  माँ  मेरी  माँ  प्यारी  माँ ..

बिगड़ी किस्मत भी  सवर जायेगी,

ज़िन्दगी  तराने  ख़ुशी  के  गाएगी.
तेरे  होते  किसका  डर ,

तू   दुआओं  का  है घर .

माँ  मेरी  माँ  प्यारी  माँ ..मम्मा.

इन lines ने सब कुछ कह दिया माँ के चमत्कारों के बारे मे...

हम चाहे कितने ही बड़े क्यों न हो जाये,माँ के लिए तो बच्चे ही रहेगे,और बड़े हो जाने पर भी,

माँ जब छोटी से छोटी बातो मे भी हमारा ख्याल रखती है ना तो बहुत अच्छा लगता है.

बहार जाते समय-"अच्छे से जाना","टाइम पर खाना खा लेना","पहुंचाते ही फ़ोन करने",

"slow drive करना/सड़क ध्यान से cross करना"...आदि जुमलो से माँ का प्यार

झलकता है.जब बहुत दिनों बाद घर लोटे अपने बच्चे को माँ देखती है,तो कहती है-

"कितना दुबला/दुबली हो गया/गई है,अब घर आ गए हो न,मै अच्छा खाना खिलाऊंगी."

और सच मै माँ के बनाये खाने का स्वाद कही और मिल ही नहीं सकता.

एक बहुत खूबसूरत SMS माँ के लिए :

Y MOM is special ....

When I came home in the rain,
BROTHER asked y didn't u take an umbrella?

SISTER adviced y didn't u wait till rain stopped ?
FATHER angrily warned,only after getting cold, U'll realize.

But MOTHER, while drying my hair,said,
Stupid Rain !! Couldn't it wait, Till my child came home .

Thats the Magic of Mom !!

Love  you  mummy .

FLY HIGH !

2011-04-11T19:42:00.004+05:30

Who Is A Woman ?

2011-03-08T11:09:00.003+05:30

WOMEN.......................... sound like a mere name of gender??

Think again !!

Who Is A Woman ?

A woman is the epitome of tenderness, care, and wisdom.

She is central figure of family.

She is symbol of modesty.

She is real architects of society.

Who Is A Woman ?

When she is happy.....she cries !

When she is hurt ....she remains quiet !

When she is sad.....she tries to smile !

When she is nervous.....she murmurs !

In the time of crises.......she is extremely courageous.

Who Is A Woman ?

She not only thinks but FEELS also.

She is strong, but delicate.

She is so tough too... her heart is so tender!!

Who is A Woman ?

She has power to heal anything...from broken toy to broken heart.

She gets attached to people who care even a little about her.

More than herself, she remains worried about her loved ones.

She has immense patience to understand.

She shows a man what LOVING,CARING and SHARING is all about.

Who Is Woman ?

Someone who hold u since born and always pray for your well being- MOTHER..

Someone who always care and take your tease with a smile - SISTER..

Someone who encourages u when u are depressed - FRIEND..

Someone who speak less but hug and bless more - GRAND MA..

Someone who help u to learn and whose warmth u can feel life long- TEACHER..

Someone who is DEDICATED -WIFE..

Someone whose innocence touches u- DAUGHTER..

Who Is A Woman ?

WOMAN IS GOD'S GREATEST CREATION !!

I want to share a poem on "Woman" written by Otteri Selvakumar

Women is

Mother...

Women is

sister...

Women is

Gran maa...

women is

Friend....

Women is

Family...

Women is

Nation...

Women is

World....

Women is

Power of universe...

Universe Also

Power of women...

Women is not only

Women...

A women is

Homeable gods...

A women is

Loveable goddess...

With goodness...

तलाश जारी है.........

2011-02-06T17:17:00.010+05:30

खाली समय का सदुपयोग करने के लिए हमने लिखना शुरू किया .धीरे धीरे हमे लिखने का शौक लग गया.सुना था कि एक बार लिखने का शौक लग गया तो जीवन भर साथ नहीं छोड़ता.फिर हमे तो ये शौक ताज़ा ताज़ा ही लगा था !! बड़े ही आत्म विश्वास व जोश से कलम उठा कर हमने अपनी भावनाओ को कागज़ पर व्यक्त करना शुरू कर दिया.कही पढ़ा था क़ि -यदि आप लेखक बनाना चाहते है तो आप के पास होना चाहिए कागज़ ,कलम और खाली समय.यह सारी चीज़े हमारे पास प्रचुर मात्र में उपलब्ध है. कागज ,कलम तो सभी के पास मिल ही जाता है ,पर खाली समय -यह तो भगवान की इच्छा से ही नसीब होता है.

अक्सर लिखना वाला अपने आप को लेखक/लेखिका समझ ही लेता है.हमे भी अपने अंदर उच्चकोटि के साहित्कार के सभी लक्षण लगे और फिर क्या, हम ने भी अपने आप को एक योग्य ,होनहार व उत्कृष्ट लेखिका मान लिया. अब मान लेने में कोई बुराई या हर्जा तो नहीं है.हम स्वतंत्र है ,चाहे तो अपने आप को कैटरीना कैफ माने या एक उच्च कोटि का साहित्कार.हाँ तो हम ने अपने आप को साहित्कार मान ही लिया (अब बाकि लोग यह बात माने या ना माने,यह हमारा नहीं उन का सिरदर्द है) और लगे हाथ यह फैसला भी कर लिया क़ि हमे अपना शेष जीवन साहित्य को ही समर्पित कर देना चाहिए, साहित्य क्षेत्र को अब हम से वंचित नहीं रहना पड़ेगा.हम ने ढिंढोरा पीटना शुरू कर दिया क़ि हम लेखक बनने की राह पर है. शुरू शुरू में तो सब ठीक था.सब ने हमारा हौसला बढाया.कुछ लोगो ने हमें बुद्धिजीवी की श्रेणी मे खड़ा कर दिया.बड़ा अच्छा लगता है, जब लोग आप को बुद्धिजीवी समझने लगते हैं .क्योकि जब हम स्कूल मे पढ़ाते थे ,तब हमें बुद्धिजीवी के बजाए बुद्धूजीवी ही समझा जाता था.दो चार सज्जनो ने आग्रह किया "अपनी रचनाये हमे जरूर पढ़ाइयेगा ".यह सुन कर हम भाव विभोर हो गए.अंधे को क्या चाहिए दो आँख - लिखने वाले को क्या चाहिए पढ़ने वाले.

यह तो समय ने हमे अहसास कराया कि- लोगो को लगता है ,लेखन कोई 'काम' नहीं है,अक्सर लोग हम से पूछते, "क्या कर रही हो इन दिनों?" जब हम बताते हैं कि हम लिखते है, तो सुनने को मिलता है-"वह तो ठीक है ,पर 'काम' क्या करती हो ? लिखना कोई काम नहीं है , बल्कि हाँबी है. " इस वाक्य को सुन कर हम निरुतर रह जाते.

घर वालो पर तो हमारा पूरा हक बनता है,उन्हें तो हम अपनी सारी रचनाए सुना कर व पढ़ा कर कंठस्थ करा ही देते है.परन्तु हमारा मनना है , घर वालो के अलावा दूसरों को भी हमारी प्रतिभा जानने का सुअवसर मिलना चाहिए .सो हम ने शुरू कर दी, तलाश एक अदद हमे पढ़ने वाले की.सबसे पहले हमे याद आई उन सज्जनो की जिन्होंने हमे भाव विभोर कर दिया था, यह कह कर कि, "अपनी रचनाये हमे जरूर पढ़ाइयेगा " ,तो उन के पास हम अपनी पोथी लेकर पहुँच गए.स्नेह से उन लोगो ने हमारी रचनाए रख ली, परन्तु समय की कमी के कारण पढ़ नहीं पाए है.और हम अपनी सहनशीलता का परिचय देते हुवे अभी तक उन की प्रतिक्रिया की बाट जोह रहे है.हमारे दोस्तों मे से ज्यादातर के पास समय की कमी है.अफसोस कि बात है ,चाह के भी वो हमारी सुन्दर व उत्कृष्ट रचनाओ को पढ़ नहीं पाते.अब आप समझे गए ना कि यह सारा चक्कर समय की कमी का है.हमने ने तो शुरू में ही लिखा है,"खाली समय -यह तो भगवान की इच्छा से ही नसीब होता है".

फिर हमारा ध्यान हमारे मोहल्ले वालो पर गया,नए होने के कारण ना तो हम ज्यादा लोगो को जानते है, और ना ही हमे ज्यादा लोग जानते है.इने गिने से ही हमारी पहचान है.उन इने गिने मे से हमे अपनी नई सखी किरण मे "उम्मीद की किरण" नज़र आई.हम उसके पास जाने ही वाले थे कि देखा, वो स्वयं ही हमारे घर चली आई. इसे शुभ संकेत मान कर हमने अपनी एक रचना उसके सामने रख दी,हमारी इस नई सखी ने ना केवल हमारी रचना पढ़ी बल्कि उसपे चर्चा भी की और हमारी तारीफ भी. हमे यकीन हो गया कि अब हमारा " पाठक तलाश अभियान " को पूर्णविराम लगाने का समय आ गया है.हमारी तलाश खत्म हुई.घर वालो के अलावा हमारी प्रतिभा व हुनर को पहचानने वाला आखिर भगवान ने हम तक पंहुचा ही दिया.अपने घर लौटते समय किरण ने हमे बताया की अगले दिन शाम की गाड़ी से वह और उस का परिवार गुजरात जा रहा है,वह तो हमे 'टाटा' बोलने आई थी.दरअसल कुछ दिनों पहले ही उसके पापा का तबादला गुजरात हो गया था,और क्योंकी हम ज्यादा घर के बहार निकलते नहीं और खुदको लेखन कार्य मे डुबो रखा है, तो हमे किरण के जाने का पता नहीं था.उसे विदा करते समय हमारे दिल पर क्या बीती ,बया करना मुश्किल है.

पर इन सब से हमारा हौसला नहीं टूटा,गीता मे लिखा है-"कर्म करते जाओ ,फल की चिंता मत करो".हम भी अपना कर्म (लेखन कार्य ) करते जा रहे है .हम सकारात्मक सोच रखते है ,इस का प्रमाण है हमारी एक रचना :- "आगे बढ़ते चलो" यदि आपने हमारी यह रचना नहीं पढ़ी तो अवश्य पढे (अपनी रचना का प्रचार प्रसार करना कोई गलत बात थोड़ी है?)

वैसे, यह हमारा निजी अनुभव है की लेखक नामक जीव से दुनिया के 80% लोग घबराते है(% ज्यादा भी हो सकती है पर कम नहीं ) कभी कभी तो लेखक खुद से घबराता है.जब की यह अहिंसा प्रिय ;अपनी ही दुनिया मे निमग्न ; किसी को भी नुकसान ना पहुचने वाला "बेचारा" जीव है .पता नहीं लोग इस जीव से दूर क्यों भागते है ? शायद इसीलिए क्योकि :-

1.वह आपको अपना मान कर, अपनी रचना सुनना/पढाना चाहता है

2. फिर उस पर छोटी सी चर्चा चाहता है

3. अपनी रचना पर आपकी प्रतिक्रिया चाहता है

4. आपसे तारीफ के दो शब्द चाहता है.

बस !!!!

हमारी तो भगवान से प्रार्थना है की हर लेखक के साथ उसे पढने वाले ज़रूर दे .

आमीन !

जी हाँ, अभी तक तलाश जारी है.........

A MOTHER'S LOVE

2011-01-27T19:25:00.020+05:30

I read this short story few days back, and thought of sharing it.I have added few lines from my side.

A mother’s love is never ending, but is always taken for granted !!

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A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:

For cutting the grass: Rs 5
For cleaning up my room this week: Rs 10
For going to the store for you: Rs 5

Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: Rs 10
Taking out the garbage: Rs 5
For getting a good report card: Rs 20

Total owed: Rs 55

His mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind. She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:

For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me:
No Charge

For all the nights that I've sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you:
No Charge

For all the trying times, and all the tears that you've caused through the years:
No Charge

For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead:
No Charge

For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose:
No Charge

Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is:
No Charge.

When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I am sorry...I sure do love you." And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote: "PAID IN FULL".

Mother smiled at her child and hugged him.

"Hundreds of dewdrops to greet the dawn,

Hundreds of bees in the purple clover,

Hundreds of butterflies on the lawn,

But only one mother the wide world over."

आगे बढते चलो

2011-01-09T16:11:00.018+05:30

जब समय हो कठिनाइयों भरा,

हो चारो ओर अन्धकार पसरा पड़ा,

जब लगे कोई नहीं है साथ खड़ा,

तब भी पथिक आगे बढते चलो.

विश्वाश स्वयं पर रखो,

मन में हो जोश और दिल में लगन,

तो पार हो जायेगे, जीवन के कठिन क्षण.

सृष्टी का है नियम - रात के बाद दिन और दुःख के बाद सुख को आना ही है.

आज कुछ खोया ,तो कल कुछ नया पाना ही है.

सुन्दर है जीवन,जीवन का हर क्षण जी लो.

आगे बढ़ो,बस आगे बढते चलो.

My collection of Quotes

2010-12-19T14:13:00.007+05:30

John D. Rockefeller-

The common denominator for success is work.

Chinese Proverb-

The miracle is not to fly in the air, or to walk on the water; but to walk on the earth.

Norman Vincent Peale-

The more you lose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.

Bum Phillips-

The only discipline that lasts is self-discipline.

Ambrose Bierce-

Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret it.

Lao-Tzu-

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.

German proverb-

To change and to change for the better are two different things.

Joe Girard-

The elevator to success is out of order. You'll have to use the stairs....one step at a time.

Unknown Author-

Opportunities are never lost; they are taken by others.

Zig Ziglar-

Remember, what you say comes back to you.

Henry Ward Beecher-

It is not work that kills men, it is worry. Work is healthy; you can hardly put more on a man than he can bear. But worry is rust upon the blade. It is not movement that destroys the machinery, but friction.

Belva Davis-

Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality. If you

can dream it, you can make it so.

Unknown Author-

He that gives should never remember,he that receives should never forget.

This one is from movie KUNGFU PANDA-

"THERE ARE NO ACCIDENTS"

Nothing in this world happens without a reason.

The shortest solution to any problem in the world is the distance between your knees and the floor because those who can kneel down to God can stand up to anything.

This one is from book THE MONK WHO SOLD HIS FERRARI-

Never do anything because you have to.The only reason to do something is because you want to and you know it is the right thing for you.

Anxiety

2010-12-06T20:41:00.010+05:30

I read an article," Overuse of Internet causes Techno-Anxiety" few days ago.

Few lines from the article-“People get irritated and often this techno-anxiety leads to aggressive behavior. It causes mood swings and leads lack of concentration in work. Psychiatrists say they receive more than five and six cases of psychological problems caused by the overuse of internet almost every day.”

The main symptom of this anxiety is that a person feel restless if s/he is not able to use internet regularly.

SHOCKING but TRUE!!

No doubt, social networking sites are one of the most popular and easy way to keep in touch with friends and relatives .Blog is like a diary in which one can write his/her thoughts and can share with others. But excessive use of internet (in any form) or its obsession is wrong.

There is some controversy over whether it is possible to actually be addicted to the Internet or not. Some researchers, claim that it is simply people trying to escape their problems in an online world and cannot be classified as an addiction.Other psychologists, believe that Internet addiction is a true psychological disorder with definable symptoms. The symptoms are comparable to any addiction, withdrawal, loss of relationships and significant time consumption.

Some Symptoms of Internet Addiction:

*Irregular sleeping habit

*Lack of concentration

*Mood swings

*Day dreaming

*Tendency to remain away from society

*Increasing amounts of time spent on computer and internet activities

*Failed attempts to control behavior

*Heightened sense of euphoria while involved in computer and internet activities

*Craving more time on the computer and internet

*Neglecting friends and family

*Feeling restless when not engaged in the activity

It is not wrong to say that social networking sites have become part and parcel of our life.Social networking sites and E-mail ,they serve different functions.E-mail may end up being more "formal" with longer messages, but it will maintain its place.I find e-mail as a better way to keep in touch with family members,friends and relatives as writing mail is more personal(than scraps and wall post),and you can have one to one talk.Compared to teenagers, the elders are reading more emails than communicating via social sites

When I was in school the most common topic for writing essay was "Science is blessing or curse? ",but in today's era "Science" should get replace by "Internet" thus common topic for essay writing and discussion should be "Internet is blessing or curse?".

Strong determination is required to come out of techno anxiety.

Use internet, don’t allow internet to use you.

A Letter From A Teacher

2010-11-27T13:04:00.008+05:30

I wrote a letter in "Carmel Waves" -- newsletter of Carmel Convent Sr. Sec. School Amlai,M.P,where I worked for many years.Leaving that institution was not easy for me,because not only Sisters and few teachers but some of the students were very close to me.Although,many have read this letter in "Carmel Waves", still I am posting this letter on my blog for my students.

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My dear students,

I still remember the day when I joined the school. Today I find myself writing a letter to say goodbye, and trying adequately to express my thanks to you all for allowing me to be a part of your life.

Dear kids, I want to let you all know that I enjoyed teaching you all a lot.You all paid attention in my class, you learnt—giving me a sense of accomplishment. I’m contented.It is not only hard but impossible for me to forget the staff and students of MY Carmel Convent Se.Sec. School . Yes !!!! I will always consider this school as MY own, I am emotionally attached with this institution and with my students too.

You all have been the brightest spots in my life. No matter how stressed I was about my own work, I was always happy to be in class with you all .Physical distance will never become a barrier to remember you all .You all will always remain in my thoughts forever. My loving children, as you grow, you may meet more and more expert personalities pushing back old ones, I hope and pray that you all will never forget the values which I want to inculcate in my each and every student.

I do remember all those functions (Annual function, teacher’s day, farewell) which brought me more closer to my students and I confess honestly that each and every one of you are talented. I used to eagerly wait for these functions as I have really enjoyed sharing all the fun during the functions together.

For most of my students I was strict and hard-hearted teacher, but may this letter reveal a softer side of me, which had become emotional just at the thought of leaving you all.

I am thankful to the management, that they gave me an opportunity to be the part of this school. I am also thankful to the staff members who are so loving, supporting and understanding. Teaching in Carmel was an amazingly pleasant experience.

Children, I know you all have a bright future and I wish you all to fulfill the dreams of your parents and teachers.

I want you all to know that I would love to hear from any one of you, any time, for any reason .I thank Almighty from the core of my heart for such amazing years. I will miss you all as we part ways, but I am taking with me more wonderful memories than you can begin to guess.

With lots of Love and Blessing
Yours ever Namisha Miss

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Message for my students....

You're the only one who can make the difference. Whatever your dream is, go for it.-Earvin Magic Johnson

What God Wants

2010-11-04T11:18:00.002+05:30

· What GOD Wants?

Going to church every Sunday …………. ..

Going to Mosque every Friday ……………

Going to Temple every Monday ………. ...

" Helping hands are always better than Praying lips...

ऐसा क्यों ?

2010-10-21T20:59:00.030+05:30

ऐसा क्यों, कि कई बार मन चंचल हो जाता है ...

और यादों के भंवर में , इन्सान फंसता चला जाता है .

ऐसा क्यों,कि अपनों का साथ बीच में छूट जाता है ...

और दूर रह कर भी कोई मन में बस जाता है .

ऐसा क्यों, कि अकेलेपन से हर इन्सान घबराता है...

और कई बार भीड़ में भी, इन्सान खुद को अकेला पाता है.

ऐसा क्यों , कि हर इन्सान बस जीतना ही चाहता है...

और कई बार जीत कर भी, अपने आप से हार जाता है

ऐसा क्यों, कि साथ चलने से फ़ासला कम नज़र आता है...

और जब साथ रहते हैं तो अहम् टकराता है.

ऐसा क्यों, कि इन्सान ही इन्सान को समझ नहीं पाता है ...

और कई बार, इंसानीयत पर से विश्वास उठ जाता है.

ऐसा क्यों,कि सुख में,अपनी रफ़्तार से चलता समय,पल में ही बीत जाता है ...

और दुःख में चलता समय , थमा सा नज़र आता है.

ऐसा क्यों, कि हर प्रार्थना का उत्तर नहीं आता है...

और कई बार भगवान का भेजा सन्देश इन्सान समझ नहीं पाता है.

Pride And Success

2010-10-15T12:17:00.027+05:30

It is often very difficult to remain modest after achieving success, especially when people are heaping praise on one.Success brings with it a sense of achievement and satisfaction at having done one’s work well. It leads to happiness, confidence in one’s abilities, and a feeling of pride.The pride brought about by their success makes many people blind to the suggestions and advice of others. They close their minds and cannot accept that they may need help from other people.

Generally it is seen if one get success after a long struggle remains humble, modest and down to earth but those who get success in very young age or in 1st attempt may become arrogant and full of pride.

A proud successful person thinks himself to be the best person of the world,he look down upon the other people of society.Sometimes,such person start blowing his own trumpet,forgetting the proverb- "Let another praise you, and not your own mouth."

Pride is - pleasure or satisfaction taken in one’s work, achievements or possessions (Sahani Advanced Dictionary)

It is said , "Pride goes before a fall " means, if we are too proud and overconfident, we will make mistakes leading to our defeat.

It does not means that we should not take pride in our work. We should be proud of the things we achieve great and small. Pride is wrong if it is inordinate love of the self: super-confidence and distorted self-esteem that ignores one's shortcomings.

The main reason for downfall of many successful people has been their lack of humility and their overconfidence.

Overcoming pride requires humility. Humility is lack of self pride,it is not valuing yourself less than others, but it is recognizing that all gifts and talents come from God and acknowledging as such.It is said,"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."

For example, if someone were to compliment your writing skill, a prideful response would be- “You’re right, I am an excellent writer. I am the best.” A person who do not value himself would response- “Oh, no, I can’t write.I don't think I am a good writer.” But a humble answer would be- “Thank you. I’m grateful that God has blessed me with this skill.”

One will achieve success after success if one keep in mind the importance of humility. Be confident but do not be overconfident.In order to remain modest, we should accept the praise without letting it go to our head. Remember to heed others people’s advice, to take their help and to accept the fact that we may be wrong.

Unfulfilled Wish.....

2010-09-26T10:08:00.013+05:30

"Are you studying?"

I asked the 15-16 year old boy who came to our house for delivering milk.

He proudly said, “Yes in 8th class."

Only in 8th class, huh must have failed twice. I thought.

"Do you get time for studies????.........".I posed my customary question.

He smiled and said, “Actually I take out time for it."

"At what time you start delivering milk?" I inquired. He was not having dairy. He was working for a person having dairy.

"I have to say 'good morning' to cows at 5 am, and it takes nearly 4 to 5 hours to deliver milk in 10 to 15 houses, I get free at 10 am.” He answered.

"And when you wish 'good evening' to cows?"

"Same time in evening.” He grinned.

" So when do you get time for studies?" I kept vessel of milk to one side, and looked at him.

He was smiling...

"What????" I asked.

"Didi sa you are a teacher.Hai na"

"Eh!! Yes....." I said.

Well, I was not at all surprised how he came to know this. God knows how people came to know about my being teacher. He put his cycle one side and stood in front of me, it seems he was not in a hurry. I was so pleased that after knowing that I am a TEACHER he didn't run away .I gave milk vessel to my maid to take inside and turned towards him, the deadly combination of a teacher and moral instructor within me was eager to shower words of wisdom.

"My school is from 10am to 3pm, and I don't think attending school every day is necessary."He said.

What a thinking!! Just wait boy.....moral instructor whispered, whom except me nobody can hear.

“I attend school twice or maximum thrice a week.But didi sa, apart from delivering milk, I have many work at home. I have three siblings all are younger to me; mother, father both are laborer ; they leave home early morning, and return home late. So, I have to take care of chores." He continued.

I interrupted him, “And you eat tobacco at such a young age?”

He was not ready for this one; paused for few seconds; cleared his throat and then answered, “I work so hard, it gives me energy!!!!.”

“What rubbish!!! Who told you that it gives energy? If you want energy eat healthy food."

“Healthy food is not for us didi sa, you can afford it,but poor people like us can not . I am selling milk day and night but my brothers, sisters are not getting even one glass of milk. We manage
roti sabzi and that’s enough for us.”He said wryly.

"Your parents know about your eating tobacco?” I felt disgusted with his answer.

"They too eat tobacco."

I looked at his face, he was telling me all this without any hesitation.

"See........ after eating tobacco you feel like your appetite is over, so one doesn't need the so called 'energy food'." He was explaining as if I was his student.

"You are completely wrong; if you will continue to eat this rubbish thing it will give you nothing except sickness. It is written on pouch also "eating tobacco is injurious to health”. Stop eating it; it kills a person slowly. Its not tobacco that gives you sense of full appetite, it’s your mind set." I explained.

He gave me expression as if I was talking in foreign language. He looked at me with question mark.

But I was not in the mood to give up, I asked, “How many times you failed in school exams?"

"Once ONLY! But my friends have failed twice, I am quite intelligent."

Wow! great, this is called confidence……

“And I manage to get near about 45%.” He added.

“Good.” It was my genuine response.
This boy works for 8 to 9 hours a day without holidays, take care of home and siblings, and attend school also. If he manages to pass, it is more than enough. He needs encouragement and support, rest all he will do by himself. I thought.

“Study properly. Once you get a degree , you can get good job. So try to concentrate on studies.” I advised..

“Hahaha”, he was showing me his yellow teeth shamelessly, "Job…..I am doing job, my parents are uneducated still they have job, so I think one doesn't need a degree for getting job, I am doing job without a degree. Hihihi.”

My blood started boiling after hearing his answer, I thought of stopping conversation and to ask him to run away from my sight, but then I heard a inner voice PATIENCE.
Yes! You all get it correct it was voice of moral instructor. I suppressed my annoying feeling and managed a smile on my face. I pretended to him as if I was not at all affected by his stupid “hi hi hi”. I could give myself an Oscar for my effort !

“I am saying that with proper education you can get GOOD job. I am sorry to say this but your parents and you; all three are earning, but still can not fulfill the needs of family”.

Yellow teeth were invisible.

“So now you understand the difference between a job WITH degree and WITHOUT degree.”

He nodded his head, with moist eyes, he looked at me and said, “No one…didi sa no one....has asked me about my studies till today except you. Every body is asking about my work, my income . I love studies…I WISH to be a graduate …but...I am eldest son of my family I have to support my family….actually I want to work in bank…..”

He was becoming sentimental.

There are two important E’s in life- Education and Earning. For most of us education comes before earning. We should really thank our parents. We never had to worry about our food, clothing etc and we were never forced to leave our studies and earn a living.

But for poor people only EARNING is important, with or without education.

To change the topic I asked him, “Why you want to work in bank?”

“I want to remain surrounded by money…….”

Although he said this seriously but I could not control my laugh.

“Ok I wish you good luck.Say no to tobacco. I think you are already late we are talking for about last 15 mint.”I said.

“Oh yes! I am getting late, namaste didi sa.” And he paddled his bicycle as fast as possible.

After a week that boy disappeared, I came to know that his relative took him with them for a GOOD Full Day JOB(which means he has to sacrifice his studies). But still I am not able to forget his words, I love studies, I WISH to be a graduate ,I want to work in bank.......

BELIEVING IS LOVING

2010-09-04T20:32:00.007+05:30

This excerpt is from the book. "BELIEVE ME ! GOD IS YOUR TRAINER", by D.K.Bhawsar.It has helped me a lot to grow as a teacher & i want to share this beautiful excerpt with you all.........

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Years ago there was a primary teacher. Her name was Ms Jaya .Like most of teachers ,she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same.

But that was impossible, because there in front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Thiru. Ms Jaya watched Thiru that he didn’t play well, with the others children, his clothes were messy and he constantly needed a bath. Thiru could be unpleasant .It go to the point where Ms Jaya would actually take delight in making his papers with a broad red ink, making crosses and then putting a big “F” at the top of his papers.

At the school where Ms Jaya taught ,she was required to review each child’s past records and she put Thiru until last. However, when she arrived his file, she was in surprise.

Thriu’s 1st grade teacher wrote," Thiru is a bright child with ready laugh. He does his work neatly and had good manners .He is a joy to be around."

His 2nd grade teacher wrote," Thiru is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because of his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be struggle."

His 3rd grade teacher wrote, "His mother’s death has been hard on him. He tries to do best but father doesn’t show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren’t taken."

Thiru’s 4th grade teacher wrote, "Thiru is withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t have many friends and sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Ms Jaya realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright papers ,except for Thiru’s .His present which was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag.

Ms Jaya took pains to open it in the middle of the others presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing , and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children’s laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was , putting it on dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Thriu stayed after school that day a long enough to say , “Ms Jaya today you smelled just like my Mom used to.”After the children left she cried for at least an hour.

Ms Jaya paid particular attention to Thiru .As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Thiru had become one of the smartest child in the class .

A year after , she found a note under her door ,from Thiru, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever has in his whole life .Six years went by before she got another note from Thiru .He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Four year after that,she got another letter ,saying while things had been tough at times ,he’d stayed in school, had struck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors .He assured Ms Jaya that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had in his whole life.

Then four more years passed and yet another letter came, this time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favorite teacher he ever had. But now his name was little longer the letter was signed ,Thiru Jaya Krishanan –M.D

The story doesn’t end there .You see there was yet another letter that sprung Thiru said he’d met this girl & was going to be married. He explained that his mother had died years ago & he was wondering if Ms Jaya might agree to sit at place at the weeding that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course , Ms Jaya did & guess what ? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. And she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Thiru remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together.

They hugged each other, & Dr. Thiru whispered in Ms Jaya’s ear, “Thank you Ms Jaya for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important & showing me that I could make a difference.”

Ms Jaya, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, “Thiru , you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn’t know to teach until I met You.”
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In the words of Dan Rather :-

"The dream begins with a teacher who believes in you, who tugs and pushes and leads you to the next plateau, sometimes poking you with a sharp stick called TRUTH."

EXPECTATIONS!!

2010-08-18T12:04:00.002+05:30

What teenager expect from their elders(parents and teachers)

1. Stand by us, not over us.

2. Give respect, GET respect.

3. Make us feel we are loved and wanted.

4. Punishment is not only the solution for every mistake.

5. Don’t keep us young too long.

6. Let us make our own mistakes.

7. Give us some privacy.

8. Show interest in what we do.

9. Give direct answer to direct questions.

10. Don’t humiliate us in front of others.

11. Respect our friends as we respect yours.

12. A boy and girl can be good FRIEND.

13. We need fun and companionship.

14. Don’t spy on us.

15. Try to understand why we are upset.

16.Treat each one of us as a person in his/her own right.

17. We can not be silent listener.

18. Show respect for our wishes even if you are disagree with them.

19. Don’t be partial.

20. Try to be as consistent as possible.

21. Don’t compare us with siblings/other students.

22. Criticism should be gentle.

23. Over protection is as dangerous as under protection.

24. Prepare us to lead OUR life not YOURS.

25. Treat us as if we are NORMAL, even when our conduct seems peculiar to you.

26. Appreciate us when we do something really well.

27. Make us feel our home/school belong to us.

28. Teach us by examples.

29. Have faith in us.

30. Don’t try to make us inferior.
31. Be more sympathetic and tolerant towards our faults and shortcomings.

What elders (parents and teachers) expect from teenagers

1. Give respect.

2. Don’t label us as nagger.

3. Pay heed to what we say.

4. Our care is not interference in your life.

5. We are not OUT DATED.

6. Value money and time.

7. Remain neat and tidy.

8. Do not run after fashion.

9. Involve us in your discussion.

10. Don’t make us feel that friends, social networking sites, mobiles are more important than us.

11. Learn from your mistakes.

12. Avoid late night parties/visits.

13. Follow social norms.

14. Discuss your problems with us (we understand your problem better).

15. Avoid bad language.

16. Spend some time with us.

17. Discipline your life.

18. Show that you love us.

19. Keep us informed about your friend circle.

20. Keep in touch when you are outside home.

21. Understand our point of view.

22. Don’t lie and make false stories when we enquire.

23. Help us in chore.

24. Let us be the first to know what is happening in your life.

Few days back I got a msg ,its says ”Our life has become so “less” now a days…Telephone-cordless, Cooking –fireless ,Food –fatless , Youth -jobless, Leaders-shameless,Govt.-hopeless,Job-thankless,Police-clueless,Policies-aimless,Labour -effortless,Conduct-worthless,Relations-meaningless, Attitude-careless, Feelings-heartless ,Education –valueless ,Argument-baseless…..

But still our EXPECTATIONS are ENDLESS!!!!!

So, if I have missed any expectation from any side (teenager or elders)………….plz mention

Square of 2 digit number

2010-08-11T21:23:00.001+05:30

Let us find square of number 34

1.Make 3 blocks for answer.
2.Write square of digit at unit place in 3rd block and square of digit at tens place in 1st block.(sq. of 4=16,write it in 3rd block and sq. of 3=9,write it in 1st block)
3.Find product of two digit and write answer in 2nd block.(3×4=12,write it in 2nd block)
4.By doing so u will find that ratio of 1st block number to 2nd block number, is equal to the ratio of 2nd block number to 3rd block. (i.e 9:12=12:16)
5.In 2nd block write the same number again.
6.For getting ans. add the numbers written in same block. While writing ans in 2nd and 3rd block you can write one 1 digit and the left digit will be carry over by the other block.

1st 2nd 3rd

9 12 16

+12

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You can write 6(only 1 digit)in 3re block and 1 will be carry over to next block so in next block u will get 12+12+1=25 and u can write only 1 digit so write 5 and 2 will be added with number in 1st block. In 1st block u will get 9+2=11. In 1st block u can write more than 1 digit.

Have a look

1st 2nd 3rd

9 12 16

+12

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11 5 6

Ans is 1156
(34)² = 1156
Let us take one more number 63

1st 2nd 3rd

36 18 9

+18

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39 6 9

Ans - square of 63 is 3969

Let us take one last number 97

1st 2nd 3rd

81 63 49

+63

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94 0 9

Ans-square of 97=9409