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Experiencing difficulty in Respecting your man? Please try this...You wont regret!

2014-11-30T01:29:00.001-08:00

Pray for him!

Our husbands are under constant attack and temptations. Here is a wonderful breakthrough that can help you get started praying specifically for your husband.

Show him respect at home!

Respect for your husband at home is not only important but it is also useful because you will earn it back. It is important for husband and wife to respect each other in front of their children. Children feel more secure when their parents are in good terms and display respect to each other even when everything seems to be going south.

Show him respect in public.

In public most people would want to be seen expressing or receiving love impressions from their partners. Most people love it when you show the world how important they are in your lives. It is a turn on for your partner. Try it..

Don’t argue with his knowledge.

Instead of arguing with his knowledge, find a more lovely way of putting your point across. Sometimes you don’t have to show you are better than your partner in any field. It is important to share your ideas in a way that makes them feel important in the subject of dissuasion. There is always a way of showing someone their idea wont work in whatever the topic is without implying that they have no idea.

Say what I mean.

Men are fairly direct. They say what they mean and mean what they say. Women on the other hand have a type of internal secret code that can result in us saying one thing and meaning another. Women want their husbands to be able to read their minds, but it’s an unreal expectation that usually results in disappointment for all involved. It’s really just easier to say what we mean without all the hidden pretense. This will even be easier for your husband to handle you and understand what you want at any given time.

Be respectful to him even in his absence.

Talk about your husband in front of your friends of course being careful not to overdo it. Venting about your husband to a group of friends really only causes you to resent him more, and your friends to think less of him as well. Venting about your husband to your children is just out of the question entirely. They need to see you submitting to his guidance for your home even when he’s not present. This will prolong your bond for as long as you can imagine.

Don’t compare him to other men.

Comparing your husband to other husbands is a recipe for disaster creating only dissention at home. I think we can tend to take all of the best qualities of other peoples husbands and combine them all into one perfect guy that really just doesn’t exist! This man is your husband, God chose him for you, as a perfect gift from above. You need to treat him as the heavenly gift he is.

Make Yourself available to him.

I understand most of you work hard and you can be pretty worn out by the end of the day. Sadly that doesn’t leave much left for your husband when he gets home. Still, you need to make yourself available to him. To talk to him about his day, fill him in on you, and yes, make yourself accessible intimately as well. You don’t want to embarrass anyone out there, but you have to face the facts. In today’s world there are temptations for husbands around every corner, on every billboard, and in every workplace. It’s an important role that shouldn’t be overlooked.

Keep up your appearance.

This isn’t too tough for you, you should never be a stay in your sleeping garments all day with no-make up kind of gal. You really do shower each day, put on full make up and get dressed before ever leaving your bedroom. you don’t really have do that for your husband, it’s because if you don’t “get ready” in the mornings, then you won’t feel good about yourself. Thankfully it serves two purposes! However, even for your kids, I think that dressing nicely is a good value to instill. You don’t want to get dressed up only for special events, but instead you want to get ready for each day. Your kids are a special event, and so is your husband. You don’t want him coming home to a wrecked house and a wrecked wife every day. That wouldn’t be too appealing for you, and neither is it for him for sure. I’m not talking so much about weight here ladies, but more about showing your husband that you care by making an effort with your appearance. I hope you understand what I mean.

Encourage him.

All day long you encourage your kids. Why would you feel that your husband deserved any less? Telling him that you proud of his work, thankful for the fact that he takes care of the family so well, and that he’s home each night to be with you is important! Just like anyone else your husband need to feel appreciated and valued. Encouraging them in the home, public, and in private are all essential!

UGLY TRUTH: WHY YOU SHOULD NOT WEAR HIGH HEELS

2014-01-09T04:21:00.000-08:00

Heels and pain are sides of the same coin. Though women look lovely in heels, they have to suffer from many of its side-effects. Here is the list of bad effects of wearing heels.

Foot pain

Most of the women suffer from foot pain after walking with high heels. Because of high heels the entire pressure of body is concentrated on the feet. If this happens for a longer time it can cause foot and even hip pain.

Difficulty in walking

Many women find it difficult to walk with high heels. Walking long distance with high heels proves to be painful. It often causes heel pain due to walking or standing on high heels for longer time. The way of walking may also look wired. Difficulty in walking may also increase chances of losing balance and falling while walking.

Back pain

Wearing heals causes entire pressure of body fall on the lower back. This pressure falling on the lower back can cause back pain. However proper way of walking, exercise and yoga may help you avoid and get rid of such back pain.

Yellowing and misshapenness

Concentrated body weight on the foot heels may make them harder and develop yellow patches on it. It may also cause misshapenness of your feet. To avoid this you can massage your feet regularly with oil or cream and proper foot care.

Leg Sprain

Major cases of leg sprain in women are caused due to high heels. It may be caused if the person is not used to wearing high heels. Try walking slowly and with extra care while wearing high heels. Try to avoid high heels if you are not using your own vehicle.

Use these high heel sandals very rarely. Wearing heels regularly may cause serious leg and foot injuries in the future. Many of women are infatuated with high heels even if they are painful. It is a mentality of many women that high heels indicate higher status. However status is worthless if old age is full of leg and back pain.

UGLY TRUTH: RISKS OF WEARING AN UNDER SIZE BRA OR "Magic Bra"

2013-08-23T05:34:00.003-07:00

Headaches

Believe it or not, an ill-fitting bra can cause some seriously annoying headaches. If your bra is too tight, it causes tension on your shoulders, neck and back and that in turn can cause headaches.

You Can Stretch Your Boobs Out

According to research, a bra that is the wrong size can cause the ligaments to stretch, which can ultimately result in saggy boobs. Make sure your girls are getting enough support!

Back Pain

If your bra is too big, that means that you're not getting enough support. And if you're not getting enough support, your boobs (especially if they're large) are going to start giving you back pain.

Too-Tight Straps

If your bra is too big, you'll probably start tightening the straps so that your boobs get lifted up more. All this does is creating ugly marks in your shoulder that don't need to be there.

Your Boobs Bulge Out

You know when your bra is too tight and your boobs start to bulge out and it looks really terrible and annoying? Yeah. Hate that.

Back Bulge

If your bra is too tight, the back strap is going to be tight, which is going to cause some nice annoying bulge back there. If it's too loose, you're probably going to try to fix that by tightening in the straps. That means your bra strap rides up your back until it's seriously uncomfortable. Either way, you lose.

Indigestion

I know this sounds weird, but it's true - the wrong size bra can cause stomach pain and indigestion. If the bra is too tight, it will dig into your ribs and upper stomach area, causing problems inside your body that you don't even realize.

Bra Gaps

Gaps in between your bra and your boobs mean that your cup size is too big. This is more annoying than anything else and it just looks weird.

Shoulder Pain

Remember how I said your straps being too tight result in red marks? Well, they also result in shoulder pain. It's so uncomfortable and so not worth it.

Rib/Stomach Bulge

Again, a bra that's too tight only results in bulges. If the band is too tight, it's going to dig into your ribs and make your skin bulge out. Not comfortable and not fun.

Below are signs that show you are wearing the wrong size bra….

The band cuts into your skin.

If the band digs into you and creates back-fat bulges or red marks on your torso, it’s too tight and you need to move up a band size.

You can pull the band more than a couple of inches away from your back.

If you can pull the band back that far, it’s too loose and you need to move down a band size.

The bra straps are cutting into your shoulders.

This is perhaps the most misunderstood sign of an improperly-fitting bra. The bra band’s responsible for providing 80% of the support for your bust. The straps should only be doing 20% of the work. If the straps are digging into you, they’re shouldering too much of the burden. Your band is likely too large and you need to move down a band size. Making this change will allow the band to do its fair share of the “heavy lifting.”

The band doesn’t lie parallel to the ground.

If it’s curved or riding up on your back, it’s too loose. You need to move down a band size.

You don’t have two fingers of space between your bra band and your back.

If you can fit more than two fingers between your band and your back, your band’s too loose and you need to move down a band size; if you can’t fit two fingers back there, your band’s too tight and you need to move up a band size.

The band doesn’t rest flatly against your back.

If there’s space between the band and your back when it’s fastened, the band’s too loose and you need to move down a band size.
The bra band’s perhaps the most important, functional component of your bra. Making sure it’s the right size is critical. But, keep in mind, if you move up or down in band size you may need to make an opposite move in cup size in order to maintain an overall correct fit.

The under wires rest on your breast tissue.

The cups, including the wires, should completely contain your breasts. The wires should rest on your rib cage. If the wires rest on your breast tissue, your cups are too small and you should move up a cup size.

The under wires poke you under your arms.

If you’re being poked in the sides, where the cups meet the wings, your cups are too small and you should move up a cup size.

The under wires lift your rib cage.

If the under wires don’t lie flatly against you, the cups are again too small and you need to move up a cup size.

Your cups are wrinkling.

If you’re wearing non-molded cups, and there seems to be extra fabric at their tops, the cups are too large and you should move down a cup size.

Breast tissue is bulging from the edges of the cups.

If part of your bust appears to be jumping from the top of the cups, or spilling out from the sides of them under your arms, the cups are too small and you need to move up a cup size. Again, the cups should completely contain all of the breast tissue; wearing cups that are a size too small to enhance cleavage only produces an uncomfortable fit.

The center gore, or the fabric connecting the bra’s two cups, doesn’t rest flatly against your sternum.

If you can put your finger between the fabric and your skin, your cups are too small causing your breasts to exert too much tension on the center gore. Again, try moving up a cup size.
When evaluating the fit of your bra cups, keep a couple of things in mind. First, few women have two breasts that are exactly the same size. When determining the right cup size for you, always judge the fit according to your larger side. Second, a great way to judge “spillage” out of the cups is to put on a tight T-shirt over your bra. You’ll be able to see any excess tissue more clearly than by just wearing a bra alone. If bulges are apparent, you’ll need to move up a cup size.

The straps slide off of your shoulders.

Bra straps shouldn’t slide off of your shoulders. If this occurs, they’re too loose. Increase their tension if they’re adjustable.

You don’t have two fingers of space between your bra straps and your shoulders.

If you have adjustable straps, increase their tension if more than two fingers fit underneath them; decrease their tension if two fingers can’t fit underneath them.
Bras that fit correctly are comfortable, improve posture, create a thinner appearance, and bolster confidence and self-esteem by creating an overall better silhouette. They can be the most important items in any woman’s wardrobe.

UGLY TRUTH: THIS IS HOW LADIES SHOULD BE TREATED...

2013-08-12T01:50:00.000-07:00

Never stop courting.

Never stop dating. Never ever take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would own her heart and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. She chose you. Never forget that, and never get lazy in your love.

Protect your own heart.

Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

Fall in love over and over again.

You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. She doesn’t have to stay with you, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

Always see the best in her.

Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

Take full accountability for your own emotions

It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she can’t make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

Never blame your wife if you get frustrated or angry at her

It is only because it is triggering something inside you. They are your emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of you that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to just be.

When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to hold her and let her know its ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and not being judgmental she will trust you and open her soul to you… don’t run-away when she’s upset. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

Fill her soul everyday…

Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and cherished. Ask her to create a list of things that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

Be present.

Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully with her. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

Be willing to take her sexually.

This refers to you carrying her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

Don’t be an idiot….

You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

Give her space…

The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, especially after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

Be vulnerable…

You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

Be fully transparent.

If you want to have trust you must be willing to share everything… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. Drop the mask… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

Never stop growing together…

The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

Don’t worry about money.

Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

Forgive immediately.

Learn to forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. Forgiveness is freedom. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

Always choose love.

This is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end marriage isn’t about happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way.

If you are reading this, share it to those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

MEN-Commit to being an Epic Lover. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you. Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

WORLD'S TOP BENEFITS OF BEING IN MARRIAGE...

2013-08-09T03:03:00.002-07:00

Marriage makes you live longer

One of the ways that getting married improves your life is by making it last longer. Various studies have indicated that happily married men tend to outlast their single counterparts. For example, a 2006 study performed by University of California researchers contended that single people are five times more likely to die of infectious disease, nearly 40% more likely to die of heart disease and twice as likely to die accidentally. Other studies suggest that the rate of mortality is a whopping 250% higher among single men than it is among married men.

Marriage increases your earning power

You know that big-screen TV you've been saving for? Well, if you were married, you'd probably own it by now. Being married means sharing expenses and splitting the costs of major purchases. You cynics out there gripe about the money women cost you, but the money you'd spend on dinner dates and the occasional gift is dwarfed by the prospect of having an extra income in the household. Marriage means you can afford the things you could never afford on your own; it means a better home, a better car, a better vacation, and cooler stuff.

Marriage gives you a platform to build your bloodline on

Technically you don't need to be married to have a family, but marriage is still the standard method for starting a family. The nuclear family, despite its flaws, remains a sought-after model. That's why having a kids is another argument in my top reasons to get married. Being a father is a dimension of manhood that just about every guy wants to experience -- and marriage is the most stable and secure environment in which to start a family.

Marriage prevents you from dying alone

Sure, you're on a hot streak right now, dating 20-year-old yoga instructors and baristas, but we both know that's not going to last forever. How's being single going to work out for you when you're 60, when you have hair in all of the wrong places and no one can stand to look at you? Marriage is an investment in your future. Sure, you sacrifice some of your sweet single years, but in exchange you get to make a long-term investment in one person, building a deep, abiding love that has the potential to last a lifetime.

Marriage makes you more attractive

Married men are more attractive to other women. You can take this to the bank. Now, am not suggesting that you should get married purely because it will make it easier to score with other women, but we are suggesting that marriage makes you appealing to the opposite sex. Getting attention from beautiful women feels good; it's a confidence booster. Plus, when you go out with all of your single buddies, all of the hot women will be hitting on you. Who's laughing now?

Marriage brings financial benefits

There are numerous financial benefits associated with matrimony. For starters, there are tax breaks for married couples as well as for families. Getting married might also mean getting access to things like her premium health insurance plan. Like it or not, society is designed to make life easier for married couples. If you're single, you're out of luck. That's another argument in my top reasons to get married.

Marriage means more sex

Married men have more sex than single men do. It's a fact -- supported by study after study. A study done by the Kinsey Institute, for example, suggests that 23% of non-married men periodically go a year without sex, while only 1% of married men experience 12-month dry spells. Similarly, while 19% of single guys have sex two to three times a week, 36% of married men have sex that often. So, while single guys are out at the clubs, spending their money just to get a girl's attention, married men are home having sex with their wives.

Marriage means better sex

One night stands are exciting because of the thrill of the chase, granted, but often -- too often -- once the two of you get naked, you find yourselves fumbling and bumbling and unable to anticipate each others’ moves. Married couples know each other; they have a feel for each others’ bodies and are aware of their partner's fantasies. Consequently, married sex is better than single sex. Further, a long, stable relationship lends itself to sexual experimentation. Admit it; there are things you'd love to try in bed that you've never told anyone because you were afraid of being judged. But in a long-term relationship founded on trust, you can give voice to your innermost desires.

Married people are happier

A recent study done at an Australian university shows that married men are happier than single men. In fact, married men are 135% more likely to report a high happiness score than single men. That's an astounding figure. Marriage offers a man the kind of stability and support that allows him to succeed in all other aspects of life. Think about it: How much more could you accomplish if all the drama from crazy women and bad breakups was replaced by the presence of a loving and caring partner?

Marriage makes you a better man

If you're a smart guy, you'll choose to be with a woman who is insightful, opinionated and honest. That's the kind of companion who can make you a better person. She can bring out the best in you. She can challenge you to be the best version of yourself. On top of that, through marriage you'll learn the true meaning of self-sacrifice and compromise. In short, marriage will make you a Better Man.

WHY BEAUTIFUL LADIES LOVE BAD BOYS...

2013-08-05T05:25:00.001-07:00

Have you ever wondered why THAT guy always seems to get the girls? He's brash, cocky and he marches to the beat of his own drum. He's on (or over) the edge, bordering on rude and doesn't seem to give a damn about anyone but himself - what exactly do women see in a guy like that?

You consider yourself outgoing, but conservative; interesting but a little shy; you can keep a conversation going, but with the right people... sounds good doesn't it? Why do the bad boys always seem to get the ladies? Here are 7 reasons why:

Rebels are confident

That's right. They wouldn't be able to pull off half of the antics they do if they weren't brimming with confidence. Bad boys aren't just confident around their friends, either - their cavalier attitude is in everything they do, from eating their cereal in the morning, to asking the bartender for a cool glass of draft... to talking to the ladies on the balcony at a friend's party. No matter where you look, women find confidence a major turn on.

Rebels are indifferent

Bad boys just simply don't give a damn. They can take it or leave it. That's one reason why they fare well with women. If a woman says no, who cares? They move on to the next one, and they do it with the same verve and maverick attitude as they did the last one. Here is a great quote, "Mr. Right doesn't necessarily care if he is Mr. Right." That's indifference in a nutshell.

Rebels are exciting and adventurous

Ask yourself, "when was the last time I took a walk on the wild side?" If you are asking yourself that question, then you obviously aren't a rebel. The 'bad boys' are always testing the boundaries and pushing the envelope when it comes to their life - and women can't get enough of it. They find it intriguing. And when you put exciting and adventurous beside the other rebellious traits, it sends women into a tizzy.

Rebels are challenging and mysterious

Women don't dig men that are pushovers. They also don't like men that they can see coming a mile away. Contrary to the belief women like men they can read and men that provide them with a sense of security, women actually LOVE to guess! It is challenging for them, and it is one of the elements of the bad boy that keeps them coming back for more!

Rebels are very masculine

This often goes hand-in-hand with being confident, indifferent, exciting, adventurous... etc. Bad boys are often rugged and in-control. That doesn't mean controlling; they just know how to get what they want. They speak clearly and confidently, they look you in the eye, they are passionate about what they believe in... but most importantly, they still know how to treat a lady.

Rebels give women a feeling of power

The illusion of control is often more powerful than control itself. Power within a relationship, power outside of a relationship - it doesn't matter - being with a bad boy, encompassing all of the above traits, gives women an air of strength and togetherness. Essentially the confident, cocky bad boy image rubs off a little bit on her - and she laps it up!

Rebels know how to talk to women

If they weren't confident, rebels would not be the chick magnets they are. Instead of indifferent, they would be self-conscious and non-committal (how many women have you passed up because you didn't think you were good enough?) - you see, rebels don't care. Rising to the challenge, living the wild side of life, being something more than conservative, and keeping her guessing about you - and her - it's an explosive combination! And one that is geared to success for the dating male.

The combination makes the talking part almost a given - considering the woman's interest has already been sparked. Talking with them is just the part that reels them in. And the bad boy knows how to tell her just what she wants to hear.

Rebels know how to talk to women because they are all of the above. Confidence followed up with indifference, sprinkled with a little bit of mystery, intrigue and excitement is what attracts most women to start. That gets you the 'in' to talk with them - they're interested, now you have to show them what you've got. Figuring those things out is the trick. Bad boys use their conversational skills to keep a woman interested and wanting more - and you can too.

UGLY TRUTH: FIRST DATE FASHION MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE..

2013-06-24T06:20:00.002-07:00

Makeup Mistakes

Wearing too much makeup on a first date, or any date for that matter, is a major turn off for men, nothing like looking fake with an overly made up face. Try toning it down and going for the natural look. Many department stores offer makeup application tips with your purchase if you don't know how to get that look yourself.

Neon

Neon clothing is definitely not a great color choice for clothing. Apparently, men are not fans of the neon trend; they find it ugly and just plain weird. Since we are talking color, stay away from pink too; they don't like that either. Men are fussy little buggers!

Jeggings

Really? Does this actually need explaining? Any woman that wears jeggings outside of her home needs some serious help. They are hideous and a poor fashion excuse for skinny-jean-like pants. Anything stretchy with an elastic waistband is not sexy, sorry. These are only great for that special time of the month when you are bloated. They fall in the same hot category as "mom jeans."

Uggs

Men hate Uggs. They think they are the ugliest footwear on the planet. Don't believe me? Just ask any random dude; he either hates them or has never heard of them. So if you own a pair, throw them in the back of your closet and save them for that special occasion when you are sheep herding in New Zealand. The simple fact that they are considered unfashionable in their native land should be your first clue!

Strong perfume

Avoid wearing strong perfume on a first date. Some men have allergies to perfumes, and this can definitely put an early end to your first date. If you decide to wear perfume wear a small amount on your wrists; don't drown yourself in it. Most of the time that bottle of designer perfume is not going to impress him; he's probably never heard of it.

Jewelry

Lay off the costume jewelry on the first date. Wearing large pieces of gaudy jewelry is distracting and most of the time just plain ugly. You want him to focus on you and not on all your sparkly bracelets and huge earrings.

If you have face piercings it might be a good idea to leave them out for the first date and avoid face jewelry. Yes, I said face jewelry.

Trashy Outfits

Opt for a subdued look, not the girls’ night out clubbing "Ho" look. Men might like that look on women in general but not the women they are taking on a first date. Does your date want every man to think his date is hot? Sure he does. Do you need to dress like a hooker to achieve this? No. Dressing stylish and classy can give you the desired look your man will love.

Cleavage

This is a little different from avoiding trashy outfits. Some women wear beautiful and classy clothing but still let the girls hang out. The girls need to be tucked inside with only a little cleavage showing. You need to leave a little for the imagination -- and possibly a second and third date. Avoid wearing plunging necklines and tops that are too tight. A great fitting bra is also a good idea.

Dressing like a Diva

Wearing stilettos along with trendy, fresh-off-the-runway fashions can cause a man to be overwhelmed and think you are a high maintenance diva. Your girlfriends would die for the outfit, but your date might just think he is in over his head. Depending on where you are going, choose something less flashy and more in his comfort zone. Keep that simple black dress in mind for a dinner date.

Smile

The best fashion accessory you can have is a beautiful smile, don't forget to wear it! Smiling makes you more approachable and lights up your face. It is definitely contagious and can set the mood for the evening and possibly lead to another date. Some women are very nervous on a first date and are so worried about what they are wearing they forget to smile. Let him know you are having a good time...…c

hacha.

DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A GIRL AND A WOMAN

2013-05-12T02:00:00.001-07:00

A girl knows how to demand. A woman knows how to contribute.

Girls complain too often. A woman will observe for a while, and then call her man's attention to the
matter arising.

Girls can spend 5k on ice cream. A woman can manage 5k to cook for a week

A girl will wanna keep up with trends. A woman will wanna consider her man's progress.

A girl will never ask how he manages. Caring after him is a woman's priority.

A girl will measure her man's worth by the weight of his pocket. A woman will measure her man's
worth by his level of Wisdom, the fear of God and how disciplined he can be towards finances.

A girl is naturally selfish, stubborn, and short sighted. A woman is sacrificial, loyal, future oriented and family minded.

A girl wants everything now. A woman waits until they can both attend to their needs as at when possible.

A girl is not considerate. A woman helps her man to plan.

You definitely must grow from being a girl to a woman to be able to handle a home. You can't still be a girl and expect to get a man, of course you will get a boy.

Men, do u want a girl for marriage or a woman? Ladies, are you a girl or a woman to your spouse?

To each and every WOMAN out there, you rock our world..

Love, Respect And Gratitude.

UGLY TRUTH: WHY MEN ARE DUMPED BY THE WOMEN THEY LOVE MOST....

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Toxic Behaviors

Toxic behaviors are those which can make a person to feel devalued, inadequate, angry, frustrated, sad or guilty. Women want to feel loved and cherished. Clingy behavior from a man can make a woman feel suffocated. Many men establish a set of rules and regulations for their women. If a guy is abusive and controlling always, a woman may feel suffocated and leave him.

Women like men who can stand on his own. If the Guy is a Momma’s boy and do not have an opinion of his own, it can make a girl feel insignificant. Every woman wants her man to value her above others. She wants her man to be confident and stand by her. A woman may not want to be with a man to whom Friends, job or his own family comes before her. Women also dislike men who compare them negatively with his mother.

Hygiene Issues

Many times, those with hygiene issues may not know it. Those you notice it may not tell them about it because they do not want to offend the person. Not every woman would want to be with a man having body odor or smelly mouth. She probably may have dropped some hints which you failed to pick up.

You need help

Being with someone with habits like drug addiction and alcoholism is not an easy job. Some Guys may promise to change or take expert help, but may not keep their word. Women see no future with such guys and may opt to leave them instead.

You are bad in Bed

For women sex is an expression of love. Women want their men to be passionate about them and please them on bed. If a man is only concerned about his needs and make no efforts to satisfy his lady on bed, she may dump him. No woman likes to feel used. After all, a healthy relationship is about equality.

She sees no future with you

Women look for emotional security in relationships. They want their men to show love and affection. Women want their men to be respectful to them and attentive to their needs. No woman likes to feel neglected by the man she loves. They may not want to be with men who take them for granted or treat them like a doormat. Men having commitment phobia may not openly express love for the women. If a woman is serious about marriage, she may not want to continue with such a man.

You are irresponsible

Women like men who take the responsibility. Most women want their men to earn well and keep them in comforts. Women expect the partner to be worth depending in all the needs of life. Most women find men who do not take the responsibility for his words or actions and blame others and situations for all problems a huge turn off.

Parental Pressures

Love is blind but when it comes to marriage most women want family and social acceptance. Majority of women find it difficult to go against their Parents wishes. If Parents does not approve a Guy, she may dump him and marry a girl of parents’ choice.

She has fallen out of Love

Mostly in long term relationships, there is the possibility of couples falling out of love after some time. If a woman loses all the excitement in the relationship, she may not want to continue the relationship. It is also possible that she might have fallen in love with someone else.

Trust Issues

When men get into the secretive mode or gets caught red handed lying, it’s mostly because he is cheating on his partner. No women wish to have a cheating spouse or lover. A woman may not want to continue with a man who has lost her trust on him because of his behavior or actions. A woman may not trust a man who flirts with girls or have too many girl friends. She also may not like to be with a man who does not adhere to the promises or commitments given by him.

SEVEN FACTS FATHERS NEVER TELL THEIR SONS ABOUT WOMEN

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You Can Not Chase Money And Women At The Same Time

Even when so many fathers have made this mistake in their youthful days they still end up failing to tell their sons that one can not hunt for money and women at the same time. It is either one makes money and then start chasing women or the other way round.

A man gets more respect based on his pocket

This point is not trying to encourage crime or ungodly acts in other to make wealth but to face reality. It is a known fact that both within the home front and the society at large, a man is respected the more according to how comfortable and
financially free he becomes.

Women Can Make Or Ruin You

So many fathers even when they know the truth of the power of any woman, still shy away from enlightening their sons on the critical hidden powers a woman possesses. From the days of Adam, Samson, Solomon, Abacha and other notable men, we have seen how a man can either rise or fall through the power and influence of a woman. A man should therefore thread as softly as possible when dealing with a woman.

A Woman Can Smell A Successful Man From Miles Away

Women naturally have an hidden instinct of knowing a man who is successful or have the tendency of being successful in the future. So many women have stuck to a struggling and upcoming man against their parents wish of marrying an already made man. A woman will say things like “he has a bright future”, “he has potentials” or “he will be a great man in future”. Ladies who have uttered such words and stuck by their men have never gone wrong. Example is how Michelle Obama stuck with Barack through thick and thin.

A Woman Doesn’t Like A Weak Man

When fathers tell their sons never to give in to a woman’s pressure, they mostly advise their sons to be forceful on issues to prove he is the man of the house. When in reality, women prefer men who say less and do more, rather than the ones who keep talking but do less. The latter is the typical meaning of a weak man but fathers always advice to do such to prove he is the king of the house.

Women Appreciate Men With Fatherly Characters

Most men always miss out on this and as such never advise their sons to be a father figure to their wives. Women are best at doing this but every woman wants a man who sits her down to advice her, reason with her, give her constructive criticisms and above all, believe in her.

It Is Easier To Catch A Cheating Man Than Catch A Cheating Woman

Most men till date don’t know that it is far easier to get caught cheating as a man than catching a woman who cheats. A woman can make a man ‘father’ every single child she has but only her knows who the biological father is, while a man can hardly keep it as a secret from his wife when he has a love child outside the matrimonial home.

WARNING TO LADIES: TEN THINGS YOU MUST NEVER DO IN PRESENCE OF YOUR MAN

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Fart in front of your man.

Men hate this to the core, they may pretend not to but the really hate when you do it in their presence. If you doubt me, first, check out the real meaning of the "farting" and then go and ask a man whom you don't know to tell you what he thinks of a lady who fart or always fart in front of him

Eating too much

Try to control your eating habit when you are with your man. Do not be deceived with the fact that he loves you: he may give you red card because of your eating habit. I realize that ladies are recently becoming fans of food especially in Kenya. Eating is good but don't just eat anything in front of you. When men are around you they watch how you handle food and read a lot from it.

Washing your panties.

NEVER you wash your undies in presence of your man. Forget that popular slang which tends to say that when a man loves you, he can even wash your undies. It is a big fallacy and please, washing of your undies front of your man makes him see you as a dirty and shameless element.

Bad sitting habit

This is very Important to you ladies because some of you feel comfortable sitting anyhow in front of your man. You feel he is yours and he should see your laps, your pants etc since he is used to seeing them. But a typical man feels insecure when you do this in front of him: he feels you will also do it front of others. Men hates this, learn to sit properly in front
of your man.

Laughing excessively

Control the length you laugh in front of your man. When he is not around, you can laugh and bring down the roof if you wish. I was talking to a lady and she laughed so loud that she didn't know when she polluted: Too bad.

Talking too much

We men Have come to accept that women talk too much but we still hate it. Be moderate when talking in presence of your man. You may talk and win the award as the most expensive talkative when your man is not around.

Talking dirty.

Please, have control of things you say in front of your man. Don't be too naughty when it comes to your language except you want to remain a GIRLFRIEND FOR LIFE!!! Being mindful of your language will help a lot. If you talk too much talk sense and use good language except when your man is not around. You have your girlfriends for the bad language and crazy talk, not your man.

Drinking alcohol

Though, not all men hate this attitude but most men do. Most men will associate ladies who drink with a lot of bad things. When men look at ladies they intend to marry they picture how you will bring up the children. If you drink alcohol then this might be bad news for you if you are dating a principled man.

Always watching movies.

If you love to always watch movies, please, for the sake of not receiving any RED CARD, stop that once your man is around. Give him total concentration if he is talking with you. Watching a lot of movies might create the impression that you are too lazy and that you are too idle to be sensitive about your environment. Most men will interprate this as bad news. They will run away.

Fighting.

Never you fight in front of your man, he may feel that one day you will fight his mother. This really speaks negative of you. Most men try as much as possible to stay away with trouble makers. If you fight that reflects the negative part of you.

MORAL LESSON: When men think of marrying a lady they look at very simple things that many women ignore or think its normal. Your beauty at that stage does not really matter, it mattered when he approached you at first but when it comes to marrying very little things matter.

LADIES MUST KNOW THIS ABOUT MEN...

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We guys don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducin g us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

We don't care if a guy calls>OR TEXTS<you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can't wait till the morning. Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you.

The HOTTEST thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood I’m in. Let us pay for you! Don’t' feel bad' we enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say 'thank you. Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.

You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.

We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, I think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. Or my t-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up. Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily.

Stop using magazines/ media as your bible. Don't talk about how hot Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that. Whatever happened to the word' handsome' / 'beautiful' I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 'Hey handsome!' instead of 'Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ hottie 'or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand I’m not saying I wouldn’t like it ether ; )

Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, don’t wait for him to change!!!!! Ditch that sorry thing; disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say 'I
love you’...and actually mean it. Give the nice guys a chance.

Life is too short to complain about everything that comes your way so stop and smell the roses in life because you might never have another time to take it, so take your time because they are all
different in every way, so take chances in life, if it doesn't work out then fine, there are always more roses to smell.

HOW TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP LAST FOREVER

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Many relationships break within a short period of time but we all never take time to find the reasons why we broke up with our Ex-Girlfriends and boyfriends. So here are the ways to make your relationship stronger and it lasts forever.

BE HONEST. If you aren’t honest with yourself, about who you are, what you want, where you are going… you can’t possibly be honest with your partner. So be honest with yourself first.

TRUST. Nothing makes a relationship shaky faster than broken trust, it’s very hard to repair trust. Trust your lover from the smallest detail.

RESPECT; If you want a solid relationship, respect is an essential part. You need to respect your partner’s needs and wants, their weaknesses and strengths, their dreams and goals. You need to respect who they are.

COMMUNICATION It’s hard to trust someone who won’t communicate with you well and effectively. this includes body language… become aware of your body language, and make certain that it reflects the actual words that come out of your mouth. Listening is as big a part. Don’t make conversations a competition Focus on things that you have in common that’s what brings you together.

ATTENTION. when you give your partner and your relationship attention, they will notice and respond. When you give them less, they will notice that, too. Give your attention in ways that show that you are thinking about them, not about you. Giving your partner attention doesn’t necessarily even involve time with them. It can be picking out something that they will like and getting it for them, or making them something, or planning a trip that they will enjoy, etc. Giving them attention simply means spending time and energy on them, even if most of that time and energy isn’t actually with them

INTIMACY:The more intimacy your relationship has, the stronger it will be…provided that the intimacy is mutual.

COMMITMENT; everyone needs it for a good, strong, deep relationship. The commitment I am talking about here doesn’t have to be marriage. It simply means that you can rely on the other person to be there, to put effort into your relationship, to keep you near the top of their list of priorities. My dear fans don’t just read this and leave it here. Apply them in your relationships. Thanks for the great love u have for my page.

UGLY TRUTH: HOW TO STOP BEING JEALOUS....

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Identify the situation that's triggering your feelings of jealousy.

You may feel jealous when:

The guy or girl you like is hanging out with other people, leaving you feeling neglected.

Your best friend seems to prefer spending time with other people.

One of your parents starts spending time with a new partner.

One of your kids seems to prefer being with the other parent instead of with you.

Someone else gets the recognition that you deserve at work or gets credit for something that you did in a school club.

Build your self-confidence.

Jealousy is usually a by-product of insecurity and low self-worth. You may have fears of being abandoned or rejected by someone close to you. Or you could be pouring your whole identity into just 1 thing (work or school) so that when that thing doesn't go your way, it really shakes your confidence.

The best way to build your self-esteem is to act the way that a confident person would act. Make decisions as though you have all of the confidence in the world. Eventually, your feelings will catch up with your actions.

When confident people get abandoned or ridiculed, it doesn't break them. They know that people are short-sighted sometimes, and they don't blame themselves.

You are good enough. Even if you've messed up, you just need to look at it as a chance to learn something new. That's what confident people do best. Nothing stops them.

Avoid comparing yourself to other people.

Make friends with someone who you think has it all, and you'll discover that even this person has his or her own hidden struggles.

Even famous and beautiful celebrities have struggles that you can't see. They may get passed over for movie roles that they want, they may lose a big game or they may struggle with drugs and alcohol. Just because someone looks great on the outside doesn't mean that things are going great on the inside.

Instead of focusing on your shortcomings, think about the positive qualities, skills and character traits that you bring to the table. It all goes back to becoming more confident. You have so many great qualities and physical attributes that no one can take away from you.

Have reasonable expectations about how much time someone can devote to you.

If your child or partner isn't spending any time with you, then you may have valid concerns. But if someone spends a good deal of time with you, and you never feel like it's enough, then you're demanding too much.

Look at yourself. What's making you so needy that you can't be happy unless this other person is around?

Branch out and spend more time with other people, or find an activity that makes you happy. Sometimes, all you need to do is to take better care of yourself instead of focusing all of your energy on someone else.

Do the opposite of what a jealous person would do.

When you feel jealousy taking over, don't react in a destructive way by making accusations, giving someone the silent treatment or dropping little sarcastic hints. Instead, try to do what a trusting person would do in your place.

If a friend is going to spend time with someone else, for example, recommend a good movie or restaurant.

If the guy or girl you like is talking to someone else, join the conversation in a friendly way.

When someone else gets the job that you want, be nice instead of being sneaky or trying to undermine the other person. Instead, congratulate the person and offer to help them be successful.

Recognize the paranoia that is a part of jealousy.

Jealousy causes you to react to a fantasy scenario that's all in your mind. In reality, the bad things that you're imagining may never happen at all. And if they do, you're strong enough to get through them. You have other people that you can count on in your life, and you'll move on to become a better person.

Your boyfriend or girlfriend may call an ex to express condolences something awful happens, like the person's mother dies. Don't go crazy about it. First of all, the person that you love isn't necessarily hung up on an ex. Second of all, your boyfriend or girlfriend is being nice and considerate, and that's 1 of the reasons that you love him or her so much.

Your child may form nurturing relationships with other adults. You may think that your child loves someone more than you, but that suspicion is probably untrue. It takes a village to raise a child, and your child deserves love from as many good people as possible.

Be trusting.

This is a lot easier said than done. If you get jealous easily, you've probably had your trust broken in the past. You have to stop thinking about the past and put yourself in the present. Look at the person who's making you jealous. Has this person ever given you a reason not to trust him/her?

If the person has never disappointed you, then you need to assume the best about the person, not the worst. A good friend will try to support your lack of trust, but only for so long. You're probably transferring your own fears about someone else onto a perfectly good person. And trust is a risk. You have to accept the risk of being wrong to get the benefits that come with trust when you're right.

If someone repeatedly hurts you, then you have to steer clear of the relationship. In this case, you have a really good reason not to trust the person. Move on! You deserve better.

Listen to your feelings because they're telling yourself something valuable.

If you're feeling jealous, your emotions are telling you that something is happening, and you don't like it.

Your boyfriend or girlfriend may be more flirtatious with other people than you would like. Boundaries need to be set so you both know what's appropriate and what's not in terms of interacting with other people. Ask your partner where he or she draws the line (Flirting? Kiss on the cheek? Peck on the lips? Shoulder massage? Dancing?) and see if your partner's boundaries match up with your preferences.

If not, talk it over until you can find common ground. Once it's established, trust your partner and don't let jealousy get the best of you.

Develop an optimistic view of people.

Ultimately, jealousy is a fear-based behavior. You're spending a lot of time worrying about something bad that hasn't happened yet, and might not happen at all. Unfortunately, you're creating a situation where bad things could happen because of all of your negative feelings. Ironic, isn't it? It's called a "self-fulfilling prophecy." If you believe in someone, believe in them completely. Good people deserve the benefit of the doubt.

WOMEN IN THIER 20s MUST KNOW THIS....

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Love and honor your mother.

Learn from her mistakes. It will save you a lot of headache in your thirties (30s) and beyond.

You are more talented than you’ll ever know.

You don’t need to sleep with your Boss/ supervisor to get a promotion at work or better grades at school. Burn late night candles; put extra time to study and practice until you master your skill. Hard work still pays well and does not kill.

Women can build a strong support network.

Don’t let few ladies with “Pull Her Down” {PHD} syndrome discourage you from cultivating true relationship with your female friends.

When a man you meet for the first time babbles about how much he earns working for an oil company and how rich he is, that is a red flag. He is either a married smooth-talker who just wants to sleep with you or he is childish. Walk away from deceit.

Make your own money.

Start small. Maintain a stable bank account. It will keep you out of trouble.

When you meet your Soul mate, don’t forget to wear your most priceless ornament- submission and humility. But while waiting for him, don’t cling to any man to rescue you. Some men these days are also seeking for who will rescue them.

Know your body.

Look at yourself in front of a full-length mirror at least once a week, naked and after clothed. Know your body and how it works.

Life is a gift.

But to revel in it, you must be ready to put a lot into nurturing your gifts/ talents and skills. Start early.

Teenage ended at 19.

Clocking 20 means doing away with childish behaviour. But it does not mean you should forget to have fun. You can catch fun and not be dirty.

Learn the basic skills and let yourself grow-

from how to keep your underwear clean, cook, socialize, and network to how to drive a car.

Don’t do drugs.

It kills. Read books, it fortifies. Dance as often as you can, it liberates your spirit, soul and body.
Partnership builds bridges.

Don’t ever forget that.

Eat healthy. Learn to cook for yourself. Don’t rely on noodles alone. The cooking skill will be useful in future.

Don’t give up when you fail.

Try again and again. Don’t give up on education/ learning.

Fear of the future.

It is a state of mind you must learn to tame. Don’t let fear pull the carpet from under your feet. The Holy Bible tells us that God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.

Let go of past hurts.

You cannot move forward if you keep looking back. Holding on to bitter experiences and regrets will stale your future.

Learn to exhale, love deeply and be kind to others, especially those of low estate, and the lowest of low.

You are beautiful

the way you are. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Prayer is the master key.

Have faith in God and always have the courage to use your voice wisely. Dream big today. Fear simply means False Evidence Appearing Real. Enjoy the highs and lows that come with being in your 20s but don’t be afraid to grow older. Live life to the fullest and don’t forget to smile always!

WHY MEN BREAK UP WITH VERY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN....

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Women don't listen.

When a man says something, give him a chance to speak. Listen to what he says. The problem is that sometimes, guys will end up with someone who makes him feel as though he doesn't know what he's talking about. We're not always right, but we do have opinions, and it gets under our skin when we're made to feel like our opinion doesn't matter. Who wants to stay with someone like that?

Women listen to their friends too much.

We understand the need for female friendship. We can go with the girls' night out deal. But when you start letting your single girlfriends (who constantly run guys off, or haven't dated since antenna TV) get into the business of your relationship, that's asking for trouble. You want to think that your man has a mind of his own when he's out with the guys, right? We're no different. We expect you to talk to your girlfriends, even if it's about us. Just be careful what you decide to bring back from those conversations.

The relationship is NOT a family affair.

We're not trying to take you away from your family. This is a relationship, not a kidnapping. However, if we're mature enough to leave home and keep what goes on between us just between us, and then is it too much to ask of you to do the same? If you tell your mom and your sisters about every single argument and disagreement that we have, then don't you think that they're not going to like us very much? Then you'll wonder why we don't like going around them, right?

We're not joined at the hip.

We don't have to go every single place that you go, and we don't expect you to go everywhere with us. That's what makes our time together special. We each had our own likes and dislikes before we met. You did things alone or with your girls, and that's fine. Don't try to drag your man with you if it's going to be nothing but you and the girls talking. We don't want to sit and listen to talk about hair, nails, fashion, who's man is cheating on who, etc. Just shoot us first, if that's the case.

Independence is great—to a point.

Call it ego, male insecurity, whatever you like. There's no getting around the fact that we need to feel that we're in this for more than just sex (yeah, I know...sounds weird coming from a guy). If you keep telling a man (and showing him, too) that you can do everything on your own, then what do you need him for? As shallow as it may sound, we do have to have our ego fed just a bit (maybe some guys more than others, but I think you get the idea).

Being too dependent is not a good thing, either.

I know it sounds like we can't make up our minds between numbers 6 and 7, but there is a balance. It's like we want a grown woman who can handle her business, but still let us know that there's a place in her life for us that only we can fill. You're not a child, and we don't expect to treat you like one, or take care of you like one. If you come to a guy for every single thing, and can't seem to make up your mind or make decisions...well, one day he make make up his mind and not come back.

Don't you ever have anything nice to say?

Yeah, we mess up from time to time (and it may seem that those times run pretty close together). But what about some props? Can't your man do anything right? I'm not talking about being patronizing, or treating him like a first grader keeping his colors inside the lines ("Way to go, Ronnie!"). Nobody can stand always being criticized. Psychologists call it "positive reinforcement." Men call it "giving us a break."

There's no future in the past.

We've all made mistakes. The thing is to learn from them, not live in them. if your man made a mistake, and you've agreed to forgive him for it, then do that. Don't bring it up and keep beating him over the head with it. If you keep bringing up the past, then be prepared to talk about your man in the past tense, as in "ex."

Maybe his friends won't be your friends, but don't dog them out, either.

He knew them before he knew you. He knows how they are. If one (or more) of his friends are players, he knows this already. You don't have to remind him of that. if you keep making negative comments about them, what you're really doing is showing an insecurity. and, in a more subtle way, expressing a lack of trust. If he's with you, and everything is going right, then don't let whatever actions that his friends take influence the relationship.

HOW TO KNOW HE LOVES YOU....

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You Catch Him Staring at You

Men always ogle the objects they desire - it's the reason you're always busting us cleavage-peeping. So consider: With all that eye candy out there, if it's you he's staring at, his affection runs deep. There's the secret stare (you'll have to catch him in the act). "Watching my girlfriend at a party allows me a private moment when I can pinch myself and wonder how I deserve this amazing person in my life - a perspective I can't get when she's right there in front of me," says Patrick, 30.

He Gazes in Your Eyes

Another I-love-you look is the steady gaze. Guys are guarded when it comes to showing emotion. If they lock eyes for a full-tilt, unabashed stare, they're lowering their shield to let you in. "I'd never hold that sort of eye contact with anyone else, but an intense gaze with my girlfriend reflects how comforted and captivated I am by her," says Chip, 29.

He Buys Food You Like

Discovering that his kitchen is loaded with biscotti, lemon-lime seltzer, and other feminine enebles (that would only pass his lips at gunpoint) shows you're lingering on his mind in the most unexpected, unromantic places - like the produce aisle on a solo shopping trip. "One day I checked out my shopping cart and saw all the bags of baby carrots and bottles of diet soda meant for my girlfriend," says Patrick. "It struck me that it had become second nature for me to consider what would make her happy, and that's when I knew I was in love."

He Keeps Your Stuff Out at His Place

He's gone public with your place in his pad. You see, men like to maintain at least the image of being detached for as long as possible. So leaving unmistakable evidence in our home that there's a woman present in our life is a bright red flag that you're The One.

He Talks About the Future

Telling you he plans to relocate out West one day may seem like a neon warning. However, it might also be his wily way of letting you know that he wants you in his future. "Every time I tell my girlfriend where I see 'me' down the road, I'm really trying to gauge whether she sees herself there with me," says Jon, 26. How do you know when a guy's just bragging about his game plan and when he's quietly declaring his love? It's all in the way he talks. If he tells you he wants to move to Tahiti, be a beach bum, and ogle the local girls, no dice. If he mentions that he sees himself eventually settling in San Francisco, then immediately asks if you could ever envision living there, he's emitting serious long-term relationship rays.

He Wears the Sweater You Gave Him

Trusting you behind the wheel of his wardrobe is something no man does readily. Not that guys are really all that picky about their appearance, it's just that we pride ourselves on being, well, ourselves. "Blame it on the inflated male ego, but to permit any tampering with our identity, even if it's for the better, is considered a sign of weakness," explains Seth, 29. Consequentially, every time a guy does don some item he obviously didn't pick out for himself, he's showing that he's letting you take control and do a little remodeling

He Stands Right Next to You in Public

Where he stands when you're out together says a lot about where you stand in his life. Consider this key truth: Guys are hard-wired to check out women. That's why when a man's still uncertain about his feelings, he'll either trail several feet behind you or get out in front and lead the path - two safety positions that keep his wandering eyes hidden. Sidling up shoulder-to-shoulder is his way of showing his commitment by keeping his eyes right where you can see them. Plus, sticking close puts him in range of being touched in public by you, and that limits his ability to go after a sexy chick he may spy. "Being side-by-side puts my girlfriend within lips reach making it easy for her to whisper in my ear or lean in for a surprise quick kiss," says Ryan, 27. "It's my way of telling other women that I'm taken."

He's Okay With You Answering His Phone

Men never know what potentially image-damaging force might be lurking on their phone - from ex-girlfriends looking for a last hurrah to an overly inquisitive mom. If we let you answer that jingling time bomb, it means there's absolutely nothing about us we want to keep concealed from you. "Men aren't big on sharing. So when a guy lets you grab the phone - possibly making you privy to personal information you could use to blackmail him for the rest of his life - it means he's planning on staying with you for a very long time," says Rich, 29.

WHY MEN RUN AWAY FROM FATHERHOOD...

2013-01-02T04:07:00.000-08:00

Everyone has a friend or knows a woman who is raising children on their own, there is no doubt single motherhood has become a norm in today’s world. There are various circumstances that lead to this but let’s focus on cases where the dad split the day he got wind of the pregnancy.

You know how it goes, the chic calls or texts with the dreaded “we need to talk” the guy says “it’s not mine” before the poor girl even says am pregnant. Either way, it’s the lady who ends up with the responsibility man or no man. The big question here is why do men do this; he has a good job, even cruises around town in a sleek car so it’s not always monetary. Here are five of the main reasons according to Eric Payne.

Caught Up in the “Self”

At every point in men world he is often engrossed in one thing or another. For some it’s their job, you know the type that would be glued to their laptops all night and all day, techies especially. There are others that are not so passionate about their jobs but that daily bar chat with the boys during weekdays and out of town weekend plots keeps them busy. Men get scared of losing their “lives” hence they will postpone anything that interrupts that schedule or routine and if it comes by mistake they run. Anything other than what they have programmed is chaos in a man’s mind which is why you’ll hear “…but I’m working on this and that” or “Not now.”

Past Experiences

There are some men who have endured physically and emotionally abusive relationships as children and whether they received therapy for this or not, they don’t trust their ability to not do the same thing to a child of their own. Its common for men not to trust themselves with the tenderness of a child, that’s why some can’t hold a new born baby. In aggravated cases a man will also fear raising the child or having anything to do with it.

They were never “men” to begin with.

A man is by no means some mythological archetype of human strength and perfection but rather someone who accepts accountability for their actions and owns up to them, no matter what. This isn’t the easiest thing to do considering accountability isn’t taught to a man in too many places. The only place a man can learn to be responsible and accountable is from his family or dad to be specific, which today’s family set up doesn’t provide much of. I mean, in some families the mother is the breadwinner, in others the dad provides but is never at home to discipline or talk to the kids or he is there but never gives a hoot. Simply put, boys can only learn to be men from other men and that is a rare species in the new world order.

A Father Yes, Husband NO

A man might be at a point in his life where he is ready to be a father but there’s a strong possibility he may not want the particular woman he’s impregnated to be the mother of his child or his wife. He might resent the idea of having wasted his “seed” on this particular woman and now being stuck with her. As a girl it’s up to you to know the difference between the two, he wants to be a father and he wants you as a wife.

When a man is in his early thirties he gets this natural urge to procreate, to be a father, this however isn’t tied to being a husband. That explains why he gets you pregnant and splits, has no qualms with taking responsibility but wants nothing to do with you as a woman. In this case the man is running from you as opposed to the child. There is also a time when a man wants a family; he wants to come home to someone, that’s the perfect time to get paged if your plan is to get him on lock down. Get the timing right, know what he wants in his life and when.

Low Esteem

Esteem issues affect different things in human beings and they get into play as far as procreation is concerned. When a man is responsible for a child he naturally wants to be able to give that child his all, more so the things he wished for but didn’t have.

If a man is struggling to do right by himself it certainly causes him to doubt his prospective parenting skills. Fathers don’t have the luxury of bonding physiologically with a child in the womb they therefore don’t have the connection that moms do during pregnancy. The man might convince himself that he will bring his child more harm than good and decide his unborn little one is better off without him and cause him to run.

HOW TO BE HAPPY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN 2013!!!

2012-12-29T03:21:00.000-08:00

Love is not just about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship. It’s not about how much love you have in the beginning, but how much love you build until the end. A relationship should be healthy, caring, loving, kind, upbeat, and positive. It should make your smile a little wider and your life a little brighter.

Happy, healthy personal relationships are one of the greatest joys of life. So starting 1^st of January, 2013, choose to take control of your relationship with your significant other.

Know both of you are different

People don’t fall in love with what makes you the same; they fall in love with what makes you different. Be your imperfectly perfect self. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love most about us.

Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s – not your parent’s, friend’s, coworker’s, or that random couple whose relationship seems perfect. Every couple makes their own love rules, love agreements, and love habits. Just focus on you two, and making your relationship the best it can be.

Listen to each other openly, without judgment.

It’s far too easy to look at someone and make a snap judgment about them. But you’d be amazed at the pain and tears a smile hides. What a person shows to the public is only a small fraction of the iceberg hidden from sight. And more often than not, it’s lined with cracks and scars that run all the way to the foundation of their soul.

Never judge. Learn to respect and acknowledge the feelings of your significant other. Pay close attention to them. Be present. We don’t always need advice. Sometimes all we need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and a heart to understand. There is a time to speak out and a time to remain silent. True wisdom comes from knowing the difference. And this difference can make or break a healthy relationship.

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Share what is going on in your mind and heart. Share your deepest thoughts, needs, wishes, hopes, and dreams. Open communication and honesty is vital to healthy relationships. Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable.

Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication running. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people, especially your significant other, try to read yours.

Support each other through good times and bad.

Be there through the good, bad, happy, and sad times – no matter what. Be willing to provide a listening ear, a hug, and emotional support in all circumstances. Trust that you can count on each other, and be available not only when it’s convenient, but when you need each other the most

Be loyal.

True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.

Live by the truth.

Inner peace is being able to rest at night knowing you haven’t used or taken advantage of anyone to get to where you are in life. Lies run sprints, but the truth runs marathons. Run a marathon. Live so that when others think of fairness, integrity and reliability, they think of you.

Spend quality time with each other.

Make time for each other. With our busy schedules we often forget to relax and enjoy the great company we have. In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words

Carve out special time for just the two of you once a week. Do something fun. Spend time together talking, going on dates, and making each other laugh. Not only is it true that laughter is the best medicine, but it’s also true that shared laughter can make a good relationship great.

Appreciate each other and help each other grow.

Having an appreciation for how amazing your significant other is leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for them when they’re making progress. Cheer for their victories. Celebrate their accomplishments, and encourage their goals and ambitions. Challenge them to be the best they can be. And be thankful for their blessings, openly.

Settle disputes peacefully.

Not much is worth fighting about. Heated arguments are a waste of time. If you can avoid it, don’t fight. Step back from arguments with your loved ones.

When you feel anger surging up and you want to yell that vulgar remark on tip of your tongue, just close your mouth and walk away. Don’t let your anger get the best of you. You don’t have to be right or win an argument. It just doesn’t matter that much. Give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss the situation.

Love and respect yourself as an individual too.

Our first and last love is self-love. Don’t rely on your significant other, or anyone else, for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself, no one else will be able to either.

Accept who you are completely – the good and the bad. And make changes in your life as YOU see fit – not because you think anyone else wants you to be different, but because you know it’s the right thing to do, for you.

A GIFT OF LOVE FOR YOUR FRIENDS THIS FESTIVE SEASON....

2012-12-26T04:49:00.001-08:00

I don’t know where I would be without my friends. As I’ve written before, I have friends from a variety of different stages and places in my life: camp, first hometown, second hometown, church, summer programs, semester programs, etc. Some live farther away than others, some I’ve lost touch with and reconnected again, I talk to some more often than others, but all of them are very important to me.

Put them on your to-do list

Friends are often one of the first things we neglect when life gets busy. I definitely agree. Over the past year of craziness in my life, I definitely haven’t made enough time for my friends. But, remember: in this age of technology, a quick text message or e-mail to check in is a great solution until you can find the time to call or meet up. Also, try actually putting your friend’s name on your to-do list. It’s so crazy, it just might work!

Be there in bad times, too

This one really speaks to me. “When her life sucks, you may not know what to say, but you don’t need all the right words. Just show up.” As someone who has gone through some pretty sucky stuff recently, I can’t tell you how important this is. There is a common misconception that when something’s wrong you always have to say something about it, but the truth is that not saying anything might be even better. Go out to dinner, watch a funny movie, shop, talk about gossip…just be there. You don’t have to say anything, just be there to support your friend, and if she wants to talk about whatever’s going on, she will. But, a couple words of advice: when someone’s going through a tough time, don’t say you’ll there for them if you won’t follow through. And, just because they don’t ask for help or support, doesn’t mean they don’t need it, in fact, in probably means they need it even more.

Don’t over-advice

Be careful when sharing your opinion on something. There are times when friends just want you to listen, so don’t be too quick to give your advice. If they ask you straight out what you think, then give your honest opinion, but keep their feelings in mind.

Accept their weaknesses

We’re not perfect, and neither are our friends. Recognize that certain people are better at certain things, and deal with them accordingly. It’s okay to have certain friends who you don’t share everything with, especially if they’re not so good with serious situations. Look for their strengths and the things you have in common that made you friends in the first place instead of dwelling on the negative.

Be cash-conscious

The economy sucks, and it’s important to realize that some of your friends may be more greatly affected than you are. So, keep that in mind when you make plans. Maybe try having a girls night in instead of a girls night out, or go out earlier so you can take advantage of drink deals. When you’re giving gifts, try and find something useful and relevant, but don’t focus too much on the price tag.

Look out for hthem–even when they are not looking

Sites like Facebook and MySpace make this one particularly relevant today. One of the examples they give in the article is “tag only flattering pictures of her.” Most of us probably don’t think twice when we post our weekend pics, but maybe we should. Something may look funny to us, but if we were the one in the picture, would we want it posted for the world to see? And, stand up for your friends. If you hear something bashing them, don’t just stand by and say nothing. Wouldn’t you want them to do the same for you?

“The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on the porch and swing with, never say a word, and walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.”

Friendships are relationships. They grow and change with time. If you stop putting in the effort, chances are your friend will too. It’s so important to appreciate your friends. Blog about them, give them a Twitter shout out, send them a goofy e-card to make them smile. Thank them for being there for you, and tell them how important they are to you. If not now, when? You never know what tomorrow will bring. Just remember that the little things go a long way.

HOW TO SPICE UP YOUR LOVE LIFE IN MARRIAGE....

2012-12-24T01:09:00.000-08:00

Wear Lingerie!

When you look sexy, you feel sexy, so slip into some sexy lingerie and wait for your man to notice. This makes a man feel the beauty in you always without much strain. It also sends a message to him that you only want to make him happy and feel better in bed.

Make Out!

Have a good old-fashioned teenager-ish make-out session in the car, in the kitchen, in your parent's living room. Not only is it fun, but scientists say it can relieve stress. This is because finding new ways of relieving stress build s up the relationship at a faster rate.

Work Out!

Spice up your love life by getting your blood pumping. Nothing like a little post-workout glow to make you feel totally hot ... and there's nothing like a post-workout shower to get the party started! It keeps you on the move and brightens your relationship even more.

Take charge!

Your man already thinks you're a hot mama (saggy boobs and all!), so show him you're a hot mama who thinks he's pretty hot, too and initiate sex. Your man will LOVE it! Initiating sex shows you have hot feelings towards your partner. This will really spice up your sex life too.

Plan It!

OK, so you might want not want to write "SEX" in big red letters on your family day planner, but if you want to spice up your love life, scheduling the deed will get your juices flowing and give you something to look forward to while you're at the grocery store. This is one appointment we guarantee your partner won't be late for.

Just Do It!

You know how you can never eat just one Girl Scout cookie? Same goes for sex. The more you do it, the more you'll want to do it. Practice make perfect-that is the way to go on this one. It works for everyone. You should try it.

Read Sexy Books

Books are a source of information. This is another way to boost feeling in a healthy relationship. Discovering new things in a relationship makes your love life grow to high limits. It is the new things that make a relationship last long as compared to sticking to the old tactics of approach.

Swap Massages

A long, relaxing back-rub always hits the spot. And if it happens to lead somewhere else, well... this is also a form of working out since it can be used to initiate sex, which will eventually lead to mad love making.

Get Away!

Nothing puts a damper on romance like macaroni and cheese smeared all over the wall. So if you want to spice up your love life, check in to a hotel for a night ... and spend some time forgetting about the mess at home and remembering why you fell in love. Getting some time only for the two of you increases intimacy in a healthy relationship.

Get Toys!

Shove the blocks and legos out of the way and bust out some adult toys. Need an idea? Try some delectable, edible chocolate paint or grab a pretty scarf from your closet and get creative!

Use Aphrodisiacs!

Everyone knows that eating chocolate puts in you a good mood, but did you know that other foods like strawberries, oysters and even salmon can spice up your love life? Nothing like a little love feast to start a love fest!

HOW TO SPOT A GOOD WOMAN...

2012-12-23T01:15:00.001-08:00

Wares a smile in her eyes

She is always happy and that gives you the window to her soul. Her eyes and her whole demeanor kind of lights up when you walk into the room or towards her. She is friendly in her speech and everything she does. It is easier to converse with her because she will give you her attention.

She lets you be you.

A good woman will help you drive your attention towards being yourself other than trying to please her by not being yourself. She does not want to change you - clean you up, re-make you or rename you etc - so she can love you but accepts you just the way you are. She accepts you the way you are with more compliments and not critics. Such women will always make you feel comfortable because they concentrate more on the positive side of you.

She genuinely enjoys your company.

Good women will always enjoy your company. They are not afraid to ask for it or tell you that she enjoys being around you. Being around her feels like being around your best friend because you can truly be just yourself. They are not too hard to make happy. The experience of being around her is "satisfying" in its own. There is no single day you will be bored when with her. They love simple jokes and take part in conversations.

She does things that will make you happy.

She's the woman who'll call you just to say "hi" or "I was thinking of you" however busy/tired she is. She will always do thing that she thinks will make you happy. A good woman cares about your happiness. She does this by being good to you like it’s the last time. They keep on finding new ways to make you happy.

She is secure within herself.

A good woman does not need constant attention and does not put pressure on you to feed her self-esteem, anxiety or worries about the future. She lets you do your things, enjoy your time and spend some time with your friends. It is, however, important not to overdo this. All she cares about is your happiness and will allow you to do anything that responsibly makes you happy. She does not call you every now and then to find out who you are hanging out with. She is just secure.

She's there for you when it's up and when it's down.

A good woman will never abandon you even when the times are hard. They will always stick by you because they believe you need them more when things get worse. She's happy out in an expensive restaurant just as she's happy sitting next to you on the couch, doing nothing. She tries hard to fit in all the circumstances. She is actually the last person who can abandon you.

She does what she says she will do.

A good woman does not play mind games but lets you know where you stand because she cares enough to treat others the way she'd like to be treated. She does not pretend at any point. She sticks to what she says and also goes out of her way to do it better. The good thing about good women is that you can trust her with anything. She does not let things go wrong.

She does not think about herself alone

She believes that a relationship should be a 50/50 give-and- take partnership. With her it's not always "Me, me, me" but "we" and "us". Not only does she believe in a 50/50 give-and- take partnership, she takes her 50% part of the partnership seriously. She believes you should share obligations and therefore involves you in her decisions. She likes it when there is high level of consultation in the relationship.

Respects you

She shows you respect not only in private but also more in public. She does not pick unnecessary fights with you in public. She does not like it when other people offend you because she cares about how others see you and treat you. She does not criticize you in public but waits till you are only the two of you. When in public and something is not right she will quietly tell you or wait when you are in a more private place. She is not the type who will cause drama in public.

She is nice to everyone.

She's not just nice to people she has something to gain from but is kind and treats the doorman, the customer service rep, the waitress, the beggar on the street, a child, the elderly etc. With compassion and respect. This is a telling sign of how she'll treat you once she feels she has you and isn't trying to impress you anymore.

Looks for a relationship

She genuinely wants to be in a relationship with you and not just looking for "any man" to solve all her problems. She talks positively of the opposite sex but also not blind to their shortcomings. She doesn’t want to make mistakes with personality and therefore she prefers a serious relationship to just having a man in her life.

She likes the things you like

A good woman makes an effort to do even the things you like and she doesn't. She does all this because she's not embarrassed or too proud to show you how much she loves you. She gives you her love and she also gives you her trust. She will try to make you happy at all cost. She's positive, happy with her life and always upbeat. She does not try to put other girls/women down to look better than she really is. She makes you feel like you really matter even with all your faults and shortcomings and she's happy that you were born.

THESE PEOPLE WANT SEX WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED. WATCH OUT…

2012-12-20T00:03:00.000-08:00

There are so many of your female/male friends who would love to have sex with you so long as you keep it a secret, respect and cherish them. They don’t want you all the time, and even understand that you have a boyfriend, girl friend, wife or husband. It’s no wonder there are so many affairs. These people will run away from you as soon as you try breaking up with your partner to be in a relationship with them. They are the type of people you should avoid getting intimate with at all cost.

The following are people who may be dying to have sex with you with no strings attached.

The lady or gentleman at the office

Thrown together for hours at a time, in situations that show us off at our best. Well dressed, well behaved, demonstrating our competence and skills, it’s no wonder we’re attracted to one another. But affairs that start at work usually go very wrong, and have amongst the highest chance of being found out by your spouse. They cause trouble with your colleagues, and maybe even the loss of your job. The list of potential problems is endless. These kind of affairs normally start before one realizes.

To avoid getting caught up in such affairs is very simple. You have to realize you are in a relationship and that you came to work and not get used by anybody. Try to be official in your conversations with people who send such signals. It will drive their attention from wanting an affair to viewing you as a responsible colleague who just wants to do his/her job.

One of your friends or neighbours

Friends, especially those who are very close, are the type of people we should be very careful with when it comes to being intimate. Just like at the office, these affairs catch people unawares. Although they are the second most common candidates who would love to make love with you, it’s also another source of endless problems.

There are very many problems that come with this. Some get so deep into the affair that they wouldn’t want to see you even with your spouse, whom they know very well. When this starts, you start losing you friendship. If you want to keep your friendship avoid getting intimate because when you break up, that’s the end of your friendship.

Your in-laws

Stay away from your in-laws! They are also candidates who can land you in far deep problems. You might not believe it, but people actually do sleep with their husband’s or wife’s younger brother or sister – or worse. Just don’t go there...

You might think you are just being friendly and brotherly but maintaining distance is very key when it comes to socializing with your in-laws. Avoid going to private places with your in-laws because that is how it starts. This can lead to you breaking up with your spouse. Just keep off…

Successful seducers

Watch out for successful people who want to have sex with you. First of all, they avoid situations like work and so on. They’re also very upfront. They tell potential lovers that they’re married – which makes sense because their lover is probably married anyway. And they don’t exaggerate their problems with their spouse, or any of that stuff. They simply tell the truth. Their attitude seems to be that if you’re straight with a lover, and don’t waste their time, then the chances are they won’t waste yours.

They’re also canny about the right places to meet. Like they avoid bars! Yes, I know there always seems to be a lot going on in every bar, but those guys are heading for disaster. Because there are no safe bars for married people looking for lovers. You’ll be instantly spotted and the rumours will start. Forget the internet too – spouses read emails...

Lots of successful affairs start in simple public places, ‘Mind if I sit here?’ and through sports activities and evening classes. Watch out….

WHY WOMEN DESERVE CREDIT FROM MEN...

2012-12-18T03:09:00.000-08:00

An Old man once told me the world revolves around three things money power and women to me this sounded rather biased but until the onslaught that women pulled in Beijing in the name of Gender parity and the much adored affirmative action as it rotates in political circles. Money then as old as it seem to be has in many occasions been changing its face from a simple cowrie shell to now the modern blue chips only available to the few rich fraternities and societies above the average living.Then comes in power, a tool that's dynamic slanderous and covetous in nature that those who seek it would otherwise adopt or assume the worse as long as their ultimate goal of being the all powerful Hercules comes to pass.

Let us give credit to women for there powerful push for there rights, for their love, for their caring spirit. Women have in the past proved to be very important humans than any other. When I look at my mother, I really see the strength of a woman. She stuck by me during the hard times, when I thought of giving up. Every mother deserves love, respect, attention and protection. Men should take heed.

Its only women who keep going when others have given up. Its them who will still love you when other people abandon you. Its only a woman who can say "I hate you!" when she still needs you. It is only a woman who will take care of the children even when their father abandons them. A woman can hold on in marriage to the last minute even when men give up.

They say behind every successful man there is a strong willed and supportive woman and in so many instances this has been historically true. Lwanda Magere was once a strong Luo warrior. The Nandi community feared him and at the mention of his name people trembled and ran away from battles fields but what's sartling of all is that his love for a woman brought down his reign and the Nandi warriors plundered the Luos their wealth and any good things that the Luo kept in there lower plains.After the loss, Luos still adore wealth and power but they have a way with women they don't trust them so much especially if they came from a different tribe.

Do u remember Mussolini? Yes!! That one. History has it that he was built by a woman. His speeches, his image, his looks, the dressing; all this was because of a woman, whom history doesn't remember fairly just because she was his mistress.But this woman provided the much needed support that led to great revolutionary change in France and to date its not a secret that the current premier likes and keeps a lot of women in the sidelines.May be there are things we little birds cant understand about the three things Love Women and Power that these guys seriously did appreciate and this scares me.

Undoubtedly some powerful and very wealthy men, have also been brought down to their knees with some truly spirited women and we cannot let this go unmentioned.In the USA former president Bill Clinton suffered a set of humiliating press conferences and tarted image when Monica Lewinsky brought allegations of sexual involvement against him while in office as if this wasn't enough the celebrated athlete Tiger woods and former IMF boss and scores of others are but a few of sorry individuals that have suffered seriously from the women we seem to adore so much.You may also ask our friend Jullian Assange of the famous leaks what he fears most between the fight for deportation and facing a woman claiming he sexually assaulted.

With all these in mind I would not ascertain whether having all the above is the best option but as much as I would want to encourage some of my successful friends to get involved with beautiful women I implore my judgmental mind to try and understand their plight and tread softly on this matters considering what history has taught us all. Money isn't bad Power. On the other hand, it is like a sweetened wine you pass, pass and pass untimely but women are beautiful creatures that we should adore and care for. Let us respect and love the women we are associated with: be it your sister, mother, girlfriend or spouse. Let us learn to treat them well.

HOW TO START A CONVERSATION WITH A BEAUTIFUL LADY ONLINE...

2012-12-17T23:44:00.000-08:00

On your first date there are definitely topics you should talk about, and some that you shouldn't You will want to make your first date conversation topics light and fun, so that you can both participate in the conversation without being self conscious, and then you can just relax and enjoy getting to know each other.

Besides, why would you want to talk about difficult topics such as religion, work or family problems, when you can be having a nice time?

You should be able to have a nice conversation to find out if you like each other enough to possibly go on another date, or maybe to even start a relationship with. Of course you don’t want to have to sit through those awkward silences that can happen when two people are just getting to know each other. Most guys are really frightened of this happening.

So here are a few great ideas to start conversations on a first date to make sure that things are fun and go successfully.

Talk about these things

If you ask her something like ‘what’s the craziest thing you've ever done?’ you’ll get an insight into her character, and you might find out a little bit about her wild side.

You could also ask her about the latest celebrity scandal. Then follow up with another question about the naughtiest thing she has done. Girls love juicy gossip and even though you might not care about the latest story that’s okay. Girls are like walking encyclopedias when it comes to the topic of celebrity gossip. Just check out the headlines at the local grocery store and then you’ll have a conversation starter for your date, easily!

Another great idea is to ask her about something she’s told you before. Even if you are on a first date you would have had a conversation with her before and if she’s talked to you about a topic it means she’s interested in it. It must be important to her or she would not have mentioned it to a person she doesn't know very well. Besides, it will show her that you are interested in her if you took notice of what she said and remembered it.

Ask her about her favorite things. What she likes about guys, what she doesn't like about guys, what she likes about being a girlfriend, what she doesn't First date conversations about favorite things always go well. Girls love to talk and their favorite thing to talk about is themselves. It’s also a great way to find out about commonalities between you.

Ask her what her friends are like. Friends are an important part of anyone’s life and when she talks about hers, it not only gets her to open up but it gives you a great opportunity. It is introducing her to the people who matter the most to her. So next time you go out with her you could both invite a friend or two which means everyone will have lots of fun, and you will learn even more about her and how she likes to live her life. You will get to find out more about each other, some of the pressure of making conversation will be off, and you might even get to match make someone else into the bargain!

Remember, each time you ask her a question and engage in conversation you want to make it interesting and emotionally engaging for her. So what you need to do is listen intently to her response and ask her more related questions that further probe into the topic she just mentioned.

The idea is to get her talking about things she likes and enjoys so much that she’s going to be so engrossed in just talking to you she’ll actually be invested in the conversation. Yes, you want her to talk about herself so much that she opens up totally and spills out secrets about her life that she keeps to herself. Once you’re able to do this then you’re a guy that “truly understands her” and you’re going to stand out for sure.

But what you need to make sure is that during the conversation you eventually let her know that you like her more than a friend or intend to move the relationship there. So what do you do to make this happen? You start asking her about her past relationships with her ex boyfriends and ask her what her opinions on dating are like. Girls normally do not open up to guys about these things unless she sees him as a potential candidate to be her next boyfriend.

So there you have it. The secret to talking to women is getting them to talk about themselves and then moving the conversation into being about relationships. Once that occurs she’s not going to shut up and the both of you are going to enjoy yourselves.