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Education is a Tool to Erradicate Child Abuse

2012-02-09T12:00:00.002-05:00

This week's focus is of child abuse. It is about building education, awareness, and ways to prevent it and hopefully encourage adults to be brave to report suspected child abusers to help the children that need us most.

The Child Abuse & Neglect: Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse website has many tools of asking questions and provide answers when you suspect child abuse occurs and what to do after you are aware that it is occurring.

Follow this link to educate yourself. http://helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm

These are signs to notice and to become aware of and to learn the characteristic and personality traits of children of abuse. I have included my own analysis that I have witnessed also of children's behavior because of abuse. The above website link is very insightful in the information they provide. Perhaps, by offering my own insight into these categories, it may help others to produce more awareness of what to look for and suspect child abuse with children of these traits. *** is the notations of my additions to these website signs.

WARNING SIGNS OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE IN CHILDREN
Excessively withdrawn, fearful, or anxious about doing something wrong.
Shows extremes in behavior (extremely compliant or extremely demanding; extremely passive or extremely aggressive).
Doesn’t seem to be attached to the parent or caregiver.
Acts either inappropriately adult (taking care of other children) or inappropriately infantile (rocking, thumb-sucking, tantruming).
***Emotional behavior of crying, whining or appears "soft hearted", physically sick with various illnesses, missing excess days of school, grades declines, parents/guardians appear over protective and demanding of child often verbally offering disgust at the child no matter what the child does. The child is often not good enough provoking jokes of lame humor at the child's expense of emotional well-being. One parent/guardian will be the controller and one parent/guardian will be quiet or appear reserved and submissive. It would be fair to say that those being abused in a family unit will display traits as this also. Maternal or father detachment of physical and verbal child nurturing and support in social settings. Abuser possesses control of others as property and refers to as such instead of using loving words and supporting words. Harsh tones and erratic behaviors from the abuser/abusers of the child.

WARNING SIGNS OF PHYSICAL ABUSE IN CHILDREN
Frequent injuries or unexplained bruises, welts, or cuts.
Is always watchful and “on alert,” as if waiting for something bad to happen.
Injuries appear to have a pattern such as marks from a hand or belt.
Shies away from touch, flinches at sudden movements, or seems afraid to go home.
Wears inappropriate clothing to cover up injuries, such as long-sleeved shirts on hot days.
***Emotional behavior of crying, whining or appears "soft hearted" or highly aggressive, physically sick with various illnesses, missing excess days of school, grades declines, parents/guardians appear over protective and demanding of child often verbally offering disgust at the child no matter what the child does. The child is often not good enough provoking jokes of lame humor at the child's expense of emotional well-being. One parent/guardian will be the controller and one parent/guardian will be quiet or appear reserved and submissive. It would be fair to say that those being abused in a family unit will display traits as this also. Maternal or father detachment of physical and verbal child nurturing and support in social settings. Abuser possesses control of others as property and refers to as such instead of using loving words and supporting words. Harsh tones and erratic behaviors from the abuser/abusers of the child.

WARNING SIGNS OF NEGLECT IN CHILDREN
Clothes are ill-fitting, filthy, or inappropriate for the weather.
Hygiene is consistently bad (unbathed, matted and unwashed hair, noticeable body odor).
Untreated illnesses and physical injuries.
Is frequently unsupervised or left alone or allowed to play in unsafe situations and environments.
Is frequently late or missing from school.
***Emotional behavior of crying, whining or appears "soft hearted" or highly aggressive, physically sick with various illnesses, missing excess days of school, grades declines, parents/guardians appear over protective and demanding of child often verbally offering disgust at the child no matter what the child does. The child is often not good enough provoking jokes of lame humor at the child's expense of emotional well-being. One parent/guardian will be the controller and one parent/guardian will be quiet or appear reserved and submissive. It would be fair to say that those being abused in a family unit will display traits as this also. Maternal or father detachment of physical and verbal child nurturing and support. Abuser possesses control of others as property and refers to as such instead of using loving words and supporting words. Harsh tones and erratic behaviors from the abuser/abusers of the child.

WARNING SIGNS OF SEXUAL ABUSE IN CHILDREN
Trouble walking or sitting.
Displays knowledge or interest in sexual acts inappropriate to his or her age, or even seductive behavior.
Makes strong efforts to avoid a specific person, without an obvious reason.
Doesn’t want to change clothes in front of others or participate in physical activities.
An STD or pregnancy, especially under the age of 14.
Runs away from home.
***Emotional behavior of crying, whining or appears "soft hearted" or overly aggressive.The child can be physically sick with various illnesses, missing excess days of school, grades declines, parents/guardians appear over protective and demanding of child often verbally offering disgust at the child no matter what the child does.

The child can be excessively submissive in helpfulness of nurturing adults, children,and others around them usually tending to try to be a submissive caregiver even at young ages. The child will usually lack self-esteem and inability to talk about self as an individual or gender specific appearance traits of sexuality and lack comfort in dressing among others, talking of the human body, and excessively quiet on these topics or zone out at conversations as this. The child may use provoking jokes of lame humor about sexual content and sexual matters as a tool to cope and attempt to abuse other children of their learned abusive behavior of sexual child abuse. Children of sexual child abuse will tend to prefer associating more with mature adults than interacting with other children often clinging to adult attention in their life.

Sexual child abusers may offer excessive praise of child or excessive disappointment or merely quiet about the child they abuse especially in sibling family units or showing preference. Sexual child abusers will be secretive or become hostile when questioned of routine changes with a child they are sexually abusing. Sexual child abusers may reflect personal coercion or intimidating behavior of submission to the child being sexually abused in social settings also.

One parent/guardian will be the controller and one parent/guardian will be quiet or appear reserved and submissive. It would be fair to say that those being abused in a family unit will display traits as this also. Maternal or father detachment of physical and verbal child nurturing and support. Abuser possesses control of others as property and refers to as such instead of using loving words and supporting words. Harsh tones and erratic behaviors from the abuser/abusers of the child. The abuser may act differently toward the sexual abused child than to the other members of the family also.

TIPS FOR TALKING TO AN ABUSED CHILD
Avoid denial and remain calm. A common reaction to news as unpleasant and shocking as child abuse is denial. However, if you display denial to a child, or show shock or disgust at what they are saying, the child may be afraid to continue and will shut down. As hard as it may be, remain as calm and reassuring as you can.
Don’t interrogate. Let the child explain to you in his or her own words what happened, but don’t interrogate the child or ask leading questions. This may confuse and fluster the child and make it harder for them to continue their story.
Reassure the child that they did nothing wrong. It takes a lot for a child to come forward about abuse. Reassure him or her that you take what is said seriously, and that it is not the child’s fault.
Safety comes first. If you feel that your safety or the safety of the child would be threatened if you try to intervene, leave it to the professionals. You may be able to provide more support later after the initial professional intervention.

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I hope sharing these tips of education about child abuse awareness will give you strength to be on the look out for potential child abuse in your family, your public associations and interactions with others.

Children become literally prisoners of their abusers. The mental and psychological impact that child abuse places upon a child is a vulnerability of truth versus lies that can be very hard to break the cycle of. It can be very difficult for a child to be honest if adults do nothing or fail to protect the child when the child does tell their story of abuse. Denial is not the solution. Silence is not the answer.

Child abusers in families, establishments, religious organizations, and social affiliations usually represent themselves very well creating double lives when abusing children. Much like a thief who tarries in the night who works secretly to rob you blind until you are educated to know what to do to prevent it. The same occurs in child abuse and with these child abusers.

Children at very young ages and even in their teenage years are very submissive to the individuals that are their caregivers. When these children become subjected to abuse they become fear consumed when they realize on their own that their abuse is wrong.

If adults speak openly, securely, and regularly about stopping child abuse, preventing child abuse and why child abuse is wrong, then perhaps, this personal behavior and a no tolerance approach of child abuse will allow the child to speak openly to you about their abuse before the lies and abuse destroy a child's life proceeding into their teen years and adult years.

Child abuse can be eradicated when all adults take the initiative to become aware of what child abuse is, who the abusers are and how to stop it. Breaking the silence of child abuse and the stigmas of myths versus truth surrounding child abuse will surely start a process of personal and daily interactions of speech that will become a personal zero tolerance policy for child abuse and begin an evolution by word of mouth to stop and eradicate it that will eventually help the child being abused to step forward to trust you to talk to you to stop it.

But until we as adults, can speak about the truthful aspects of child abuse ourselves to stop it, nothing will change. Even in our own daily lives, if we make ourselves aware through truthful education and courage to share even the ugliest aspects of life then we can teach all children that it is OK to know their right from wrong and to be freed from the damage of their child abuse. For you see, intuition still does occur even in child abuse. A perpetrator or child abuser may try to prison the child while the abuse occurs but the child will eventually come to know right and wrong of human behavior through interactions with others. We must stand strong at all times so when this child does gain their own intuition of right and wrong of child abuse that they will have supporters to help them and stop the abuse and criminally prosecute the child abuser in their life. A child who has no truthful adult in their life of support is as lost and imprisoned in abuse as their abusers perpetrate upon them. We can not allow a silence society anymore to keep these children prisoners any longer. Voices and education can be the backbone of society to stop this!

Please consider sharing your views against child abuse, child abusers, and the truths you learn through education about child abuse. There is no greater strengths for change in society than speaking topics of the unspeakable, announcing education of truth, and taking a stand against the most harmful forms of human interaction and behavior than for one child to lose their innocent little lives or souls to the damaging effects of child abuse. Child abuse must stop. These children are our future. The time is now to invest in your own knowledge and work for the greatest investment you can make in a life of a child.

How Adults Can Prevent Child Abuse

2012-02-08T09:12:00.000-05:00

Child Abuse & Neglect: Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse website has many great resources, signs, and notifications of alert to be aware of when children are being abused.

All children of abuse will show signs and symptoms of abuse even if subtle. Adults have to be caring and willing enough to see a child for who they are before others can see these signs of abuse. But signs are there in the child's behavior, personality, their attitude, and their disposition of all around them.

Please take a few minutes to seek out this help guide to understand what signs to look for. By educating yourself on these signs, you are more prone to see and know child abuse and work to stop it.

http://helpguide.org/mental/child_abuse_physical_emotional_sexual_neglect.htm

To get help or report abuse in US or Canada, call 1-800-422-4453.
In the UK, call 0800 1111.
In Australia: 1-800-688-009
New Zealand: 0800-543-754
Or visit: www.ChiWorld.org for a list of other international child helplines.

In the United States--if you suspect a child is being abused, I would recommend seeking Department of Health and Human Resources to report your concerns of abuse unless the child of suspected abuse is in your family.

For children in your family that you suspect of being abused, I would recommend speaking to the child's school guidance counselor for guidance. Reporting to the DHHR is the preferred and majority method as they will get Child Protective Services involved and do an investigation. But giving consideration in talking to the school counselor of your concerns, they have more legal authority to intervene on the child's behalf without some of the complexities of the DHHR and the child would be less likely intimidated or stricken with fear to withdraw and open up to speaking to their guidance counselor truthfully at school without parental or legal guardian interference than a child would be to DHHR strangers.

I would never recommend confronting a suspected child abuser. Child abusers are liars by nature. Getting the truth from a child abuser is like asking a lie for the truth. It will not happen. It is up to the proper legal authorities to handle the child abuser. For your own safety and the child/children involved, I would never recommend this avenue of approach in seeking help for a child suspected of being abused by the abuser.

Here are some very disturbing statistics offered by the Federal DHHR reported on December 13, 2011. The data used in this report is of 2010 data. If you review many federal or state data this information runs at least one year behind. But this is what they published on this website:

http://www.hhs.gov/asl/testify/2011/12/t20111213a.html

DHHR classifies child abuse as "Maltreatment."
Here is a summary of some of the 2010 data for "Maltreatment" aka Child Abuse!

Neglected Children - 538,557 cases or 78.3%
Physical Abuse - 121,380 cases or 17.6%
Sexual Abuse- 63,527 cases or 9.2%
Psychological Maltreatment- 55,405 or 8.1%
Medical Neglect- 16,209 or 2.4%
Other/Unknown- 72,910 or 10.6%

Perpetrator of Maltreatment
Parent- 578,821 cases or 81.3%
Nonparent- 95,757 cases or 13.4%
Unknown- 37,928 cases or 5.3%

EXCERPTS: "In 2010, approximately 3.3 million referrals of suspected abuse pertaining to six million children were made in the US. While many referrals are made by individuals acting purely out of concern for a child, the majority are made by people who are required by State law to report any suspected maltreatment. As of April 2010, mandated reporters in almost all States included those who regularly encounter and work with children, such as teachers, child care providers, and doctors. Of all referrals received in 2010, 57 percent were made by professionals such as teachers, law enforcement and legal personnel, and social services staff. Anonymous sources, other relatives, parents, and friends and neighbors made the remainder of referrals.

When a hot line call is received, an operator will determinate whether there is a reasonable suspicion of harm to a child by a caretaker to warrant an investigation by the child protective services agency. This decision is generally made according to specific criteria defined by the State or jurisdiction in which the referral is made. If the reporter is unable to provide sufficient evidence of abuse or neglect, usually because these necessary details are unknown or the screening criteria for maltreatment were not met, the referral will be screened out and no further action will be taken. When referrals are screened in, they become known as reports. Of the 3.3 million referrals received in 2010, 1.8 million pertaining to 3 million children were screened in as reports warranting a response."

The most disturbing aspect of this report to me is that out of 5.9 million cases reported of child abuse only 421,000 were found to be victims and 1.6 million reports to be nonvictims. 1.3 million were screened out in the reporting stage without additional follow-up or no warrant of abuse to child protective services.

This tells me personally two things. That children still do not have the voice they need to stop abuse. Each state has their own set of DHHR criteria and laws to define crimes against children. With intervention and even investigation with statistics still this high of "nonvictims" displays that our laws and DHHR criteria is not set high enough to prove child abuse.

The intimidation and fear that young children feel when being abused by an adult or family member or nonfamily member will make it excruciating on a child psychologically and mentally to tell the truth of their abuse even to an adult they trust.

Adults must be smart enough at the state and federal level to define and set criteria for the benefits of children first to stop child abuse. Adults in society must be educated to know what to look for and what to do and how to work in creating tougher laws and state criteria to protect an abused child.

81.3% of child abusers reported were parents. How can this clearly be an adequate legal representation of a child when their abuser holds legal precedence and jurisdiction over them? How many child abusers do you really think leave "evidence" that can confirm their abuse? It is very hard to prove sexual abuse without bodily fluids or bodily harm. It is very hard to prove physical abuse without visible scars. It is very hard to prove psychological neglect, medical neglect and other/unknown child abuse as categorized by CPS, DHHR and legal and federal laws that a child was abused even in an investigation. Family members or associates of a suspected child abuser and child abuse cases are the only true assets of evidence that a child really has without "evidence" needed to convict and protect the child. Even then sometimes it can be difficult for the child to get the help they need when 64% of victims are placed back into the home and 86.3% of nonvictims are placed back into the home.

Adult abusers of children have a way to imprison their hostage of abuse. These are usually very intelligent and deceptive individuals who will abuse a child for years leaving no evidence for legal protection and justice for the child. I have yet to find any child abuse that does not showcase their abuse in their character traits by controlling, manipulating, and using deceptive ways to others around them in a family unit or family. Most family members will label these persons as exceptional individuals who use manipulation or control of deceit to subliminally control others around them. They can also be very verbally demanding in their requests of others and even give off that "bad vibe" that no one does anything about to stop and intervene of these "bad vibe" adults. Listening to internal intuition maybe the only true escape that a child abuse survivor has to stop the abuse without intervention. Listening to internal intuition in adults maybe the only way that adults can begin to start noticing who child abusers are and who the abuse victims are too. Adults must be aware of the signs of child abuse and not be afraid to report suspected child abuse.

If you want to be an adult citizen to help and stop child abuse there are things you can do too.You can write your local politicians when headlines wreak of child abuse cases, reports, and statistics that you find disturbing. By communicating your concerns to your elected officials you will help build awareness to your elected officials that they may not know about. You can offer your insight and concerns helping them to help children too.

If you are really wanting to get proactive to stop child abuse, you can do your own research into the state laws, DHHR policies and rules criteria set forth in your state, and then proceed to use this information of loopholes or things you feel that could use re-evaluation or enforcing to your DHHR and politicians. By communicating with the officials who create policies, guidelines and work to ensure legal justice to children's rights from abuse and harm-you are doing your part to help conquer child abuse too.

Child abuse has been upon this Earth as the most horrible secret of human interaction. We can not stop child abuse over night but by each of us taking a new approach to stop the silence that breeds child abuse we can all hope that one day, no child will ever know the injustice of being abused and have their rights of protection and prevention restored to them. God Bless our children and adults who care enough to get involved!

Child Abuse is Enabled in Families in America

2012-02-07T10:00:00.002-05:00

The headlines have been buzzing for several weeks over the Josh Powell family. His wife has been missing since 2009. He claimed his innocence through the duration. His father was arrested for child pornography and voyeruism while Josh and his boys were living with him. His wife's parents have stated all along that they did not trust Josh nor his father to allow the boys around them.

These detrimental dynamics of this family have finally led to the tragedy of Josh taking his own life and claiming his two sons as well with no resolutions or answers concerning his missing wife for her family. This is a very serious American tragedy leaving many of us in shock how this tragedy occurred with no resolutions, no answers, no justice for Susan Powell, and no safety or protection for Charlie and Braden. A 5 year old little boy and his 7 year old brother is dead because no one would do anything.

The song, Alyssa Lies, by Jason Michael Carroll comes to mind over this horrible tragedy and many that have occurred in the deaths of children by the adults in their lives. http://youtu.be/xumsvSi8qz0 - This song has been my support and comfort many times when reading headlines as this and seeing how child abuse is no closer to stopping than it was mine in my own childhood.

I was able to get out and away from my abusive and coercion family members than enabled child abuse. Unlike little Charlie and Braden who had no rights of protection for them or adults to fight for their safety at all costs. They had no one to stand up for their safety and even the laws could not prevent their tragedy.

Society is as much as to blame with weak laws that do not enforce a ZERO tolerance policy for child abusers. Families like Josh Powell and family members are to blame for not protecting these children because someone always knows. They always do. But adults in these types of families usually have more fear and greed about their own life and not telling than having the courage it takes for standing up for the children and intervene. Even our laws are not strong enough to protect our children. Our children suffer daily in America because no one will fight a legal system that is broken. No one will stand up and defend our most innocent citizens. Children are not regarded in America as citizens nor given rights of protection.

Due to coercion from family members and their young ages they had no voice to listen to them when they spoke. The only voice they had were the adults as their caretakers, their parents, legal guardians and members of their immediate family. Their truth against those that were the adults. Where is the truth for these children? How many more family tragedies does America have to experience before we wake up as citizens in protest to stop child abuse? When will the laws truly catch up to the crimes committed against children? When will more adults get involved?

Family members and family child abusers create prisoners of cohercion. Family members and family child abusers erradicate all processing of lies and truths in children. These child abusing adults are allowed to completely transform a child's ability to understand truth and lies because of the abuse. It's sick and it's sad! We are creating prisoners of abuse when we allow these innocent children to be subjected to these indiviuals legally known as "guardians, parents, and custodians" to these abused children!

How we can expect children to process lies and truths and overcome fear of their own abuse when most adults can not cope and mend from their truths, lies, and abuse in their lives? Where is the justice for children America?

My heart cries for these children and Susan Powell's family. May America take this tragedy to get involved at your state and federal level. Voice your position and work for a ZERO tolerance policy against child abuse and child abusers. There will never be a tax dollar of contribution greater spent than the investment of our children's future, our children's safety and their right to be protected to here in America.

There are loopholes that allowed this tragedy to occur that one should consider when voicing to your local political leaders to stop child abuse.

The boys should never have been allowed to live with their father nor on Josh Powell's premises after the grandfather was charged with child pornography since Josh did live there. He should be considered an accessory to the grandfather's behavior and used poor judgment to protect his children. This could perhaps prevent future incidents as this tragedy from occurring. Family members are not treated as the accessory to the crimes of child abuse as they should be in family homes as this and they should be or at least questioned throughly but 9 times out of 10 they suspect even if they do nothing. This only subjects children to even further abuse and coercions to conceal the truth or worse, a child's death. In cases of supervised visits, it should only be public establishments and not on personal property for the sake of a children. Any adult that is truly innocent of crimes and criminal behavior will respect a law as this for the protection of their children. Adults are so quick to snap off at laws that are enforced but they fail to remember the safety of the children first.

Social workers should be trained to deal with "worst case scenarios" to protect children at all cost. There are criminal profilers and until the protection services for children are given this knowledge also what to look for in perpetrators, nothing will change because legally we'll continue viewing these criminals as "parents, legal guardians and custodians" and children become these perps prisoners. The first call the social worker should have made was to 911 when she smelled gas and was locked out the house, not her supervisor! Even if it would not have changed the outcome at least it may have given them a chance and the American public a reason to believe in the "best interest of children" at all costs!

Adults are jokes. Adults are lazy. Adults are so self-centered and worry only about self and the image they try to uphold and protect the immediate others around them. This is never more true than in dysfunctional families of abuse on children. There are adults in this family that knew that these children were in danger of Josh Powell and did nothing. The judge sensed these children danger and allowed them supervised visits anyways on his personal property. The family members that Josh Powell reached out to in those final emails had to know that he was capable of this. One of them should have stood up with Susan's parents and fought to say enough is enough. Josh Powell must be stopped! Insufficient laws should never be an excuse to stop adults from doing everything in their power to stop child abuse!

I have seen this type of behavior in too many eyes and lives of living survivors I have known and the "prison" that these sick families possess to enable child abuse and their lack of courage to stand up and out against it. Denial in families enable child abuse and is harder to fight than the law. So we as a society must take it upon our self to ensure that these destructive family dynamics are stopped in their tracks and keep these innocent children from being sacrificed as property to these child abusers! Child abuse is not a problem that will go away until we as adult Americans stand together and work together to create ZERO tolerance laws and policies to stop this! We have to be the voice of these innocent children to intervene and work to stop it before it continues to breed as one of the worst truths of American life and true national injustice!

Josh Powell Tried to Kill Sons Before Fatal Explosion - ABC News- http://abcnews.go.com/US/josh-powell-kill-sons-hatchet-fatal-explosion/story?id=15520394&page=2

Powell family reacts to e-mails - UPI.com - http://www.upi.com/Top_News/US/2012/02/06/Powell-family-reacts-to-e-mails/UPI-41801328577662/

Josh Powell's In-Laws "We Knew What He Was Capable Of" - http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20567956,00.html

The Significance of Monday

2012-02-06T16:39:00.002-05:00

Monday is the most dreaded day of the week for millions of us I am sure. Monday officially ends the carefree weekend. Monday will become the prelude to how the rest of the week will probably play out. If Monday allows something bad to happen it can often dampen and automatically ruin the rest of the week before it even gets started.

I have felt the harshness of Monday's prelude to cast unhappiness for weeks following the occurrences of sorrow I have felt through friends' passing and their pain of loss of loved ones. Even in death and beyond a Monday's control of a week, there is never a real ending to the grieving process that can often consume someone upon the death of loved one passing.

I do not think I will ever attend a wake that doesn't carry me back to the passing and attendance of other's services I have been too.

I do not think I will ever forget how my grandmother said that paying respects is to see the peace upon some one's face when they are officially past on. I will never forget how my best friend told me that going to services of the deceased is for the survivors of those passed on and to respect those living and deceased. Even if we can do nothing more to ease the pain of another by showing up for their survivors it is still heart warming and touching even in death.

Death affects everyone differently. Death even affects all differently many years later after a person has past on from our lives. For many years, I had a fear of death and questioned my own insecurities about going to services and being there for others. Now I try to view it as a celebration of someone who has gone on. Even if they only made a small contribution personally in your life or those around them, they still have a legacy worth sharing and keeping alive.

My daughter and I went to my grand parents grave site at the end of last week. I had not been to their site since fall of last year. In a moment of desperation and emotional turmoil, I went last year solo to their grave to curse them for the harsh things they did to me in my life and the repercussions that came from that but also to tell them I missed them dearly and loved them. Even though, they were as prime abusers in my life as a child and young adult, I had truly forgiven them of their wrongs against me and wanted to make amends to let them officially go. Sharing their biggest contributions they gave me to my daughter but also teaching her that abuse is wrong and should never be concealed.

As she and I squatted on the ground at their headstones to pay respects as we do. I began to watch my little girl cry. Though a teenager and learning to drive now, I know the heart ache she was feeling. Death is never as real and as deep as it is when you view a grave site and see the names of a loved one on a headstone.

I began to fire up my cigarette as I always do "sharing" it with my Papaw as I have done since his passing upon my visits. I began to talk to them and thanked my grandpa for teaching me how to drive and now I was teaching my daughter. I apologized to them that I had not been to visit in a while or even bringing my daughter but we were busy living life and how it is still very hard at times mending and coping. I told my grandmother about the beautiful flowers and upkeep that family members had been doing to their grave site even though, we hadn't been to visit. My daughter laughed at me through her tears for talking to them as if my grandparents were still here.
For me, it was about showing her that it is OK to express death, sorrow, grief, and this loss as a part of life. It must not be something we are scared of but something we should expect. There would be no life without death and no love without pain.

Every day we have a tendency to get caught up in the tasks of daily occurrences that it can be hard to see past the shock of life that comes along. But we must not. Mondays can possess the power of ruining a whole week because of an issue of shock or worry. We can't allow not even one Monday to make us powerless over the week or Monday wins and ruins the whole week ahead.

I am still learning every day more and more about myself and the world around me and those in it. It's hard and I don't think it ever gets easier. But there is an even keel to it all. My best friend has taught me this time and time again. Not sure I'll ever be an even keel kind of person nor that most of us will be but we can try no matter the day or date on a calendar and the circumstances of shock that arise in our lives.

Our human bodies, brains, minds and souls are meant to handle the shocks and issues that arise in our lives. But if we do not control how we react and respond to many curve balls then we are given then we will never be able to appreciate the best of the moments and cope through the worst of moments also. I have never felt a truer sense of accomplishment in my life than sharing life through the reflections of my daughter. For it is here that I know how much I have grown and how much more I still have to go too. For the better I am in control and coping, then the better she will be too.

Life can be difficult. Life can be beautiful. We have to find that even keel to appreciate our strengths through the difficult and embrace the beautiful. I hope you find your even keel too especially on the Mondays:)

Weather Friendly Winters Produce more than an Early Spring

2012-02-04T10:43:00.000-05:00

In the southern hills of West Virginia winter has been especially kind to us this year. There has been no real long cold snaps of Arctic air. There has been no great accumulations of snow or ice. According to the groundhog and where you live, spring may officially be just around the corner. But these weather friendly winter months do produce more than an early spring also.

There are savings produced in a weather friendly winter. Heating bills, electric bills and gas consumption are some of the examples of how milder winter weathers produce savings.

In frigid winter temperatures the thermostats increase. Naturally because of more watt usage electric bills usually rise due to demand. When a vehicle has to trudge through the snow and ice this will cause it use to use more gas than on a typical day due to decreased speed.

There is many hidden savings in a milder winter. How can you save more in a mild winter now that you are aware of your potential savings? This is what we will discuss here with a few ideas and suggestions.

In past harsh winter weathers, I truly dreaded seeing the electric power bill. I hated to see those bill digits increase over the thousands of dollars that the winter season would incur in excessive precipitation accumulations and frigid temperatures.

This year, I decided before winter began to take preventative measures. I caulked windows. I used shower curtain liners to cover some of the windows in my home that had the worst air leaks. I felt shower curtain were more resistant to block wind because it was thicker material than traditional plastic and it was cheaper. My basement is not heated with a traditional heating unit so I covered the living area upstair heat vents by lining the bottom of the heat vents in cardboard then putting plastic on them to keep out the air drafts from the cooler basement temperatures. Even though there is no heating source in my basement there is the pipes that are hooked up that would let cold air seep upstairs in the winter months.

I receive electronic communications when my new monthly electric bill comes out. I have been impressed this year how the milder winter has been savings this year versus the costs from this time last year.

I also noticed that Appalachian Power, a unit of American Electric Power that services my electric needs has a very educational survey on their website to help customers estimate personalized costs and to figure out even more potential savings of investments that one can do to save more money year round and especially winter time no matter what the weather will do.

If you are an Appalachian Power customer and registered online to pay or preview your electric bill then you can use this feature too by logging in and viewing the website to obtain it for yourself.
https://www.appalachianpower.com/SelectACustomerType.aspx

It took me about 20 minutes to complete this survey. It uses your knowledge of your home's primary heating sources, cooling sources, water heater, cooking uses, refrigerator history, lighting, washer, dryer, and television history and usage along with your square foot details of your home to breakdown potential savings and annual costs. By taking a few minutes to fill out this information on your account it shows you the potential investment of savings you can make in purchasing updated equipment and simple things like caulking to save money on your electric bill.

I was impressed with the graphic charts. The ease of use in doing the survey and how beneficial the information was to my annual electric and heating costs. In this survey, it analyzed annual and monthly estimate costs for the past 12 months. It showed I had saved a total of $48 from this time last year with an average of 10 degrees higher temps than one year ago. The temperature increase contributed to the savings because heating is not as in demand but by eliminating the air drafts of my house before winter began has paid off. Even if I only saw it by completing this survey, I already knew it made a difference just by the air breezes that weren't blowing in the house as they had in prior winters. Because of my little financial investment and time investment to do the work myself, I have saved an additional $300 so far this year. Not too bad on a $20 investment to winterize.

Unless you are fortunate to have a home constructed and crafted by professionals with the latest of insulation, heating, energy savings equipment and optimization of maintenance done to them for consumer economical costs than this is what we must do to ensure the greatest possible savings we can achieve in mild or harsh winters.

YouTube is a great how to resource when completing any self project including how to tweak your home with minimal investments that will save you large amounts of money in the long run. If you are not afraid to get your hands potentially dirty or sweaty, you can primarily do many jobs yourself with a little know how and ambition to learn and try.

Most of my life I have tried to always save pennies to make dollars in some of things I have did to save in the costs associated with surviving life. This is especially true of owning a home. Home ownership can be great but without giving respect to the property you reside in, it will surely be a poor investment and detrimental to your living conditions and pocket book in the end.

Education should never stop especially when owning or residing in a primary residence that contributes to your financial existence. Seek out the resources from your utility companies and electric companies to find out what you can do to grab your pennies and turn them into dollars too. The Internet, library, and some hardware stores also have great resources to help you get the most bang for your bucks so that you may invest wisely into your home with minimal costs up front that produce greater rewards for the big picture.

Imagine giving up a few luxuries such as fast food eating or shopping those clearance racks to put the time and money back into your living quarters. You would have more money in the future to spend because your cost of living would go down and your spending would actually increase for luxuries. Food and energy thoughts of the day. A penny saved is truly a penny earned.

Friday Recap of CDINWV blogspot

2012-02-03T11:25:00.000-05:00

I have been working with blogging on and off for about two years, give or take. I enjoy the leisure of it and the various content subject matters of current issues and fun topics. I really enjoy being able to share tips that can help benefit others too. The diversity of my content makes my writings really unique as subject matters are unlimited because I do not restrict this blog to one specific topic. I write what is pertinent in the thoughts of my day.

In moving forward with my blogs, I am dedicating Friday to do a week recap of the past week. This will offer blog days, blog titles, blog summary, and blog excerpts. I feel by streamlining a Friday recap that it will help assist in your journey to find content that appeals to you and the information you may need or curious to know more about.

Most weekends is a wait and see approach if I write or do not depending on what is going on. The warmer weather is coming regardless of what the groundhog saw this week, so I anticipate many days outdoors. But if not, I'll see you on the other side of Saturday or will return Monday. Either way, enjoy this weekly recap and have a great weekend! Enjoy the Super Bowl too:)

THURSDAY- News Headlines are Misleading & Fail to tell a Complete Story
Summary: This blog post details two major headlines this week that prove how faulty news sources are in reporting half the details to a story and headline titles. Never forget to research and self-educate to find the truth for yourself.
Excerpt: "Do not be so ignorant of following others that you forget how to seek out answers and solutions to your own problems or your own convictions. That's all I really wanted to say. Education does not stop after high school. Education does not stop after college. Education has to continue our entire lives as our own teachers and researchers. Without it, we will eat anything we are fed and that's especially true of the daily news also."

WEDNESDAY- How to Become an Educated Voter in 2012
Summary: Looking at the value of Education as the only source of primary necessity to make an educated vote for your candidate. Tips included to get educated about voting.
Excerpt: "If people feel that majority following and candidate approval is sought by the influence of others then politics will never work for anyone in a democracy. Perhaps, the old way of voting, political speeches and media anarchy should be practices that should be stopped. But until it is, we should take it for the seriousness voting is to obtain the best hopes to revolutionize the politics that we have known. Remember, your right to support a candidate and vote is your private choice. Do it for the greater change of everyone and not just the specific heritage you come from or for your own greedy benefits. Our political system is to govern fairness and equality for all. Isn't it about time to show others that we can make educated decisions to vote based upon research and not merely following a majority that is not working anymore? Surprise yourself and get politically educated and register to vote in 2012!"

TUESDAY-Tips To Consider When Working to Save the USPS
Summary: Several beneficial ideas and tools to use when working to save the USPS.
Excerpt:"As proactive citizens of civil liberties, we can not forget our children, our disabled, our Veterans, and our elderly. These individuals are our past, future and present. USPS affects these individuals the most in all their service revisions. Please continue to work to ensure that none of them lose their rights. "

MONDAY- Tips to Help Limit Words in Writing
Summary: Help for Writers with Tools on Word Count Limits
Excerpt: "Growing up southern, I think our speech becomes limited in the heritage that we are taught. I wouldn't say it is lazy speech but it is a grown process that one must break out of to be able to make the most of your written talent and where you want your words to take you too.
For those of formal education and college degrees, word usage would be come more naturally due to subjection of being taught. But for some of us word activists, we have to use different approaches to enhance and grow our word knowledge. This is one of the tricks I use. I hope that it will help others to benefit and grow their talents too."

SUNDAY- Paint Every Day on the Canvas of your own Colors
Summary: A unique approach to evaluate the impact that optimism and pessimism has on our every day life and routines.
Excerpt: "Control what you can. Release what you can't. Above all, never take life so seriously that you forget to enjoy and appreciate the smallest of the things that make life so great. Blue is only one color. But when you add it with yellow it becomes Green. Take the blend of life you are given and blend it as best as you can but use optimism as your first coat of primer on any day."

SATURDAY - The Written Personality
Summary: A few suggestions to help writers to grow in their professions and hobbies that require a specific personal touch. I also include a special visual surprise in this post also to announce my own "Written Personality."
Excerpt: "The ability to capture one's personality in writing can one of the most difficult aspects of writing any content. The guidelines to writing classifications of genres is not as streamlined as one would think. This prevents many creative minds from not absorbing into their own fantasies and putting it in print. Message receivers of readers makes it very hard to get established, accredited and considered worthy of time investment to read another's work to become a fan."

News Headlines are Misleading & Fail to tell a Complete Story

2012-02-02T09:13:00.000-05:00

I was hoping to blog of good news on the Groundhog Day celebration at hand but unfortunately, I feel I need to call attention to a very important matter of current news to build awareness. Happy Groundhog Day & Best wishes for an early spring. Now to the seriousness at hand.

Yesterday, West Virginia news announced several news headlines that were titled how a new bill would require all adults in the state of West Virginia to report child abuse. H.B. 4065 would include amending a 1931 law that would broaden the titles of adults required to report child abuse.

These headlines were misleading and the actual bill did not detail the full scope of "all adults." Even the Associated Press was misleading in its headlines capturing " Inspired by Penn State scandal, W.Va. bill would require all adults to report child sex abuse." http://www.therepublic.com/view/story/98b3a272aaad4dfba41373dddc39d8fb/WV--XGR-Penn-State-Abuse-WVA/

When first hearing and reading these headlines, I thought at least West Virginia is on the right track now by these captivating headlines. Unfortunately, because these headlines are so delicate and close to my own child abuse survival and mission of my life to work at child abuse prevention, I never take any headline as it is written without researching on my own. This is to build awareness to help others child abuse survivors and ultimately stop child abuse.

As I went to the West Virginia Legislature website and found this bill titled HB 4065 http://www.legis.state.wv.us/Bill_Text_HTML/2012_SESSIONS/RS/Bills/hb4065%20intr.htm, I was left in disgust and let down once again.

Until amendments includes custodial parent and legal guardian or any adult affiliated with a child this bill will help some but not get to the root of the problem. It does enhance the titles of those required to report sexual child abuse but until there is enforcement and legal obligation of parents and guardians to report their partner or their spouse in child abuse and sexual child abuse cases, then there is nothing that will change. We do need amendments that includes legal requirement to report child abuse and sexual child abuse with the titles of custodial parent and legal guardians and all adults affiliated with a child too.

West Virginia has many laws in place and even bills in current session that apply to protect children. I personally believe that the core of most cases of child abuse, child neglect, and sexual child abuse fall responsible and accountability falls on the custodians, parents, and adults responsible for rendering a child or the adults in company of a child.

Parents, legal guardians, custodians, and adults in a child's life will use coercion and fear or denial to these scared children and facilitate child abuse and silence the child. If amendments were broadened for these adults who commit child abuse and sexual child abuse and the other adults that know the abuse occurred this would enforce and increase all adult family members legally accountability to report child abuse too. The child with draws from the truth and hides the abuse because society does not accept their truth about their perpetrators and so does most families usually discrediting the child.

Until West Virginia introduces and passes laws that will call out attention to all adults, guardians, and custodians that this behavior of failing to report will not be tolerated then nothing will change. If adult survivors of the Penn State scandal found it difficult to come forth as adults, then how do we expect children and their knowingly abusive adults to report their self too?

I commend WV for trying to create a smoke cloud that they are doing all to stop child abuse but to me, this is not strong enough nor will be beneficial in preventing or stopping the scope of child abuse cases in West Virginia. Until laws clearly define sexual child abuse crimes by family members or strangers with the same harsh offenses and a no tolerance policy established on all these bills all it really does is keep politicians on payroll another day and doesn't do anything to stop the problems in the root where they begin pertaining to child abuse and sexual child abuse victims. Until West Virginia News sources accurately report the full details of their headlines and complete details most viewers will be oblivious to the truth of the matter.

Headlines capturing this morning news is of a Florida polo tycoon who adopts his 42 year old girlfriend as his daughter to protect his financial assets in a lawsuit. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2094910/John-Goodman-Florida-polo-tycoon-adopts-girlfriend-Heather-Hutchins-42-DAUGHTER-protect-fortune-family-man-killed-DUI-crash.html?ITO=1490 This repulsive behavior is legal in the state of Florida. Because of their child abuse laws, as long as he is not blood related to his adopted "child", he can have sexual relationships with her. What does this say about child abuse protection laws in Florida? Does this mean that an adult could adopt a child in Florida and sexually abuse their adopted child because they would have with lessor punishments because it is not a blood relative? These are the loopholes I see and hear in these kinds of news headlines and the law issues at hand that we all need to peer at and see to stop child abuse from becoming enabled by these loopholes.

The problems created and enabled in society can not be stopped over night. I am not so unaware and blinded in my views because I am sitting in a small rural town of America. I realize that I look at the smallest of details in ways to call out factors on how to stop child abuse.

I am a living product of sexual child abuse enabled by the laws that failed to protect me and my siblings. If the adults in my life were required to report their knowledge of my sexual child abuse then perhaps, my outcome would have been different. I consistently think of the day that there will be no need for my memoir titled, "The I in Me: a young girl's escape to living" but when reading headlines such as these, I feel we are still only just beginning and society will always have a need for "The I in Me" to help child abuse survivors and lawmakers to see the root of why and how we can stop child abuse successfully. My book details these loopholes of why it is important to find and secure these loopholes that continue to damage and hurt our children. It is not to target, slander, or discredit anyone but the facts can not be denied and if anything my memoir calls out the ugliest of truths about these loopholes in society that enable child abuse because of laws and lack to prevent and stop child abuse.

There is a very thin thread of what defines enabling child abuse. Many of our policies in America does enable and allow child abuse because laws are not strong enough to enforce a zero tolerance policy, citizens are not proactive in their own education about legal policies and laws, and every one makes excuses to put their fallacies upon another while no one accepts accountability and our children continue to suffer. It is sad and the news headlines are the biggest enablers of ignorance by not clarifying the full picture.

When we have faulty news headlines that report only half a story it is left up to each American to find the source of the truth. Our children depend on each adult in society to protect them to stop child abuse. We should never assume any headline as the final truth. We must become our own advocates, reporters, and educators about the factors in our lives that matter to us.

Democracy can not benefit anyone equally without every one being proactive in their own causes that matter to them and working independently to the goals we want to see. I do not ever believe there will that day to come that I can happily publish good and truthful headlines of child abuse prevention and stopping child abuse until others get on board to the seriousness of these situations in America. Our media life in America is not just a privilege to enjoy but should be the first avenue we view and proceed to create change that we want to see.
I do not know. All I know is that anything that comes on the tube titled as News is discredited to me anymore without my own research to the issues that matter in my life to help others. I believe we all should be alert as this and not sell ourselves short in life because the news says it is so.
Do not be so ignorant of following others that you forget how to seek out answers and solutions to your own problems or your own convictions. That's all I really wanted to say. Education does not stop after high school. Education does not stop after college. Education has to continue our entire lives as our own teachers and researchers. Without it, we will eat anything we are fed and that's especially true of the daily news also.

How to Become an Educated Voter in 2012

2012-02-01T10:05:00.000-05:00

I am a strong advocate for using our American rights to vote. A good friend pointed out that one never has the right to complain about anything in politics unless one has voted. Ensure your right to know about politics that affects your life and exercise this right by voting.

It is so easy to get caught up in the good speeches, good platforms of what a politician wants to do, and the whole celebrity appeal that a candidate can have.

I detest these speeches. I detest these public media displays to gather voters majority. I hate the smooth words and corporation pay-offs that some of these candidates do in an election year. It is the worst display of democracy and monies wasted that I have ever seen. It is not only cohercion but it is simply wrong when we vote for someone who has a pretty talk but can not back up their actions and plans by the acts they have already done. A candidate's worthiness of vote should be determined only by their actions of history and not the future promises they can not make nor fulfill.

What are Americans to do in seeking education of voting for the right candidate?

Register for a voters registration card at your local DMV first.

Go to http://www.congress.org/. Set up a free profile.

Then sign up for free newsletters and an email application titled MegaVote. They will email you news of voting issues of your elected officials. There is tons of resources showing the actions of past experiences and political voting that candidates have done on bills and laws presented.

Take it upon yourself to do your own homework on these candidates. It is very important to make a pros and cons list of a candidates eligibility based upon your views of things in your life. Make politics personal to you and those that you love if for no other reason to do it.

My vote is my personal privilege of secrecy. I will never endorse a political candidate nor the work they do because I feel it is up to each American to do their own homework on a candidate they intend to vote for. I will not slander a political leader unless through my own political contacts of seeking help that I find their views to be completely hideous and deserves to be revealed for the truth they are or actions they did that is detrimental to others.

I do believe that each voting eligible American should find conviction in their own heart within to seek education to use their right to vote making the best educated choice to vote for a candidate and not merely following one category of voting guideline. It's personal and should be expressed that way by voting based upon the action of the candidate using a pro and con list that affects you. This is the only way to begin making politics work for the American people.

It's easy to get caught up in being a Democrat, Republican or liberal because your parents were or your grandparents or someone influential in your life chooses to vote a specific way. Do not become so ignorant nor persuaded that you follow them instead of learning about a candidate for yourself.

I have had the privilege to find out first hand the importance of voting with a Board running as a candidate several times. There were many close races and one time it came down to one vote. I never won but I took this lesson to influence me now.

If people feel that majority following and candidate approval is sought by the influence of others then politics will never work for anyone in a democracy. Perhaps, the old way of voting, political speeches and media anarchy should be practices that should be stopped. But until it is, we should take it for the seriousness voting is to obtain the best hopes to revolutionize the politics that we have known.

Many will complain. Many will harp on the bad headlines. Many will curse and become detested at other citizens because of someone chooses to support a candidate that you do not agree with it.

Remember, your right to support a candidate and vote is your private choice. Do it for the greater change of everyone and not just the specific heritage you come from or for your own greedy benefits. Our political system is to govern fairness and equality for all. Isn't it about time to show others that we can make educated decisions to vote based upon research and not merely following a majority that is not working anymore? Surprise yourself and get politically educated and register to vote in 2012!

Tips To Consider When Working to Save the USPS

2012-01-31T09:27:00.002-05:00

Get a free profile to http://www.congress.org/. Voice your concerns of USPS issues. Be heard. Voices in unison carry actions in the political process to enforce and ensure American rights. Use yours today! This free public website allows you to contact your political leaders streamlined in one convenient place. Write up your concerns and hit send. Your voice is heard where it matters most. Simple as that. This is what they get paid to do!
Criteria to consider when writing your political leaders and work to Save the United States Postal Service. I am sharing my views and insights as a former USPS employee and USPS customer that might help American citizens to preserve our USPS with these ideas.

Congress, the Postal Regulatory Commission and all political leaders have the ability to work together to intervene and the intellect power to stop USPS from destroying itself. USPS can not afford the proposals in the news headlines nor can this country afford the loss of any more jobs or loss of a post office. USPS impacts many non-profit organizations, small business owners and entrepreneurs in America. To allow our USPS to be privatized or operate as only a business would be killing the infrastructure of our country's prime defense in delivery and transportation communications.

USPS can never forget to fulfill Americans constitutional rights and the US Codes of providing universal service obligations to every citizen. This service obligation is for both delivery and retail services. I understand USPS is in dire straits to sustain financial solvency but the proposals given in the headlines and their chaos for restructuring is not the way to go. Here are a few of my proposals for consideration when writing your political leaders and postal officials trying to close your post office.

First, I propose that USPS,Congress and PRC work together in the matter of pre-retirement benefits payments of USPS. This is one of the most important steps to getting the USPS back on the right track fast. You all will have to be able to establish an economical payment policy that reflects payment obligations that are USPS fair and comparison of the national economy of inflation and reductions as American citizens do in economical fluctuations also. There has to be a better mathematical system to use to provide fair and equal payment obligations to USPS according to the national market too. USPS should not be expensed any payment obligation without adhering to the same standards that American citizens are given in fluctuations too. USPS must be given this margin of relief also.

Second, the headlines are storming about USPS actually having surplus monies credited in their federal mandate of retirement fund obligations from past payments. Why would USPS not be allowed to use this surplus of funds to invest toward a human approach to downsize USPS employee workforce for retirees?

USPS could use some of these surplus funds to offer financial incentives to potential retirees along with additional time offered to bring these retiring employee to full retirement benefits to downsize the workforce to save in current and future labor costs. I feel that if USPS were allowed to use these funds for monetary financial incentives and time service standards to bring employees to full retirement, that many employees would take a double feature like this and retire. This is the humane approach for a fast reduction in workplace of employees, downsizing the company reasonably and better than giving potential retirees pink slips of layoffs after decades of employment with USPS. The resources USPS is using in the chaotic frenzy attempts of wasted financial practices in studies could be energies and monies better spent in restructuring where needed.

Third,USPS should standardize all mail delivery operations. Curb-side mail boxes and cluster boxes should replace the current practice of door-to-door deliveries. If USPS would down size through retiree incentives as I proposed, USPS could restructure delivery and employee shifting to accommodate the new delivery practices of USPS by standardizing home mail delivery operations.

I am sure the millions of dollars that would be saved by standardizing home delivery with curb side delivery would be an instant savings to USPS and unions could work together in this new practice without sacrificing service loss in USPS and to USPS customers by other methods proposed. Employees would still have jobs. But this is a collaboration that every one will have to do to make it happen. I feel this is one of the biggest expenses of USPS in their delivery network and one that needs the most revisions.

Fourth, I feel that USPS should be governed and have to seek concurrence by Congressional districts and the PRC before any service cuts, reduction in workforce or changes in services occurs that affects America citizens, USPS employees, and customers of USPS. I know that this may sound like a lot of work to accomplish since many individuals and leaders have different views on what USPS is or what it should be. However, US citizens has no one to protect their rights from USPS nor enforce the USPS service obligations or govern their policies, rules and service changes. USPS should not be allowed to make harsh changes that impact millions without Congressional district approval and PRC approval.

Last but not least, I would recommend that someone investigate the USPS use of two internal programs known as the Small Office Variance tool and Form 150. This data is used to calculate office workloads and revenues of post offices by Closing District Review Coordinators and Headquarter Officials. This is the supreme data used to financially demise a post office.

The data contained in these programs are not public information nor accessible. I know of their existence by my years of employment with the USPS and their internal discrepancies of these programs. I know that USPS officials have altered some of this data with false information to target small post offices to try to justify their USPS decisions to close offices.

I feared speaking this internal information but since my voluntary separation, I do not fear USPS nor their officials and falsifications of data anymore. I feel the public and our leaders have a right to know and work to stop this.These inaccurate data inputs by higher management is falsely being reported with distribution and dispatch times and employees starting time creating false data. This capricious data ensures USPS can close some of their offices by their flawed internal operations. I have written and expressed my concerns to the USPS Consumer Affairs office and the OIG. But to no avail, I have been unsuccessful about my many findings on USPS desires to close an office without following their own rules and regulations.

I would recommend a public statement by political leaders with USPS facts to educate the public. The USPS headlines wreak of corrupt, opinionated journalists, and lacks in factual truth of what USPS really is. I do believe that we need our strong leaders to stand forth in the media with the truth of USPS. This will help Americans to realize what the USPS really is to deter the public confusion in headlines now. This will help to ensure that American rights are enforced by the education of the truth so they may become sufficient defenders in the battle against USPS also.

"USPS is a government constitutional entity for US citizens that is not funded nor expensed to US taxpayers. USPS does have the first obligation to provide universal service obligations to all citizens in retail functions and mail delivery before it sends the illusion as only a business operation. USPS has all authority when making decisions, service cuts, and labor reductions. Congress,PRC, and the OIG have power to intervene to investigate USPS but no one has the solid authority to stop USPS from affecting American lives, businesses who rely on USPS nor to stop service changes that occur in USPS. American citizens have the right when their post office has been confirmed in writing as closing to file an appeal to the Postal Regulatory Commission within 30 days from date of posting. "

These are the real headlines that Americans need to see to understand their rights to protect their postal service. I feel that if a Congressional leader or public representative made a statement of USPS truth and with USPS education for the citizens it will help in the process to stop USPS from eliminating services to its most forgotten customers. We can never forget to assist our disabled, our elderly, our Veterans and continuing the USPS heritage and legacy to our children.

I read that if every USPS employee and contractor would buy one book of stamps monthly this large amount of Americans would return USPS to financial solvency again. Perhaps, this could also be considered in the "good news" headlines of USPS by one of your our representatives also.

As proactive citizens of civil liberties, we can not forget our children, our disabled, our Veterans, and our elderly. These individuals are our past, future and present. USPS affects these individuals the most in all their service revisions. Please continue to work to ensure that none of them lose their rights.

Tips to Help Limit Words in Writing

2012-01-30T17:38:00.000-05:00

One of the hardest restraints I have ever tried to defeat in writing any public content is limitation of word usage. Many freelancing jobs I have encountered and even blogging and maintaining websites, is to put a brake on one's words to meet word limits.

Personally, as a liberal writer, I find it constraining and though, I see the importance of this value upon writing; it makes it no easier to finalize a print project.

It is beneficial to a writer who can naturally limit their word usage in print. For a word rambler like me it is like reading through a maze at times with the things I do and write.

One of the best tools I would recommend any writer to have is to use a Thesaurus. Sometimes even 5-6 words can be cut out in writing by using one word that simplifies a meaning you want to convey to readers.

I will spend anywhere between 3-4 hours a day to write my blogs, maintain and update my websites. The more words you use, the more time consuming it can become. A thesaurus also comes in handy for upgrading your normal vocabulary of words you tend to use daily also.

Growing up southern, I think our speech becomes limited in the heritage that we are taught. I wouldn't say it is lazy speech but it is a grown process that one must break out of to be able to make the most of your written talent and where you want your words to take you too.

For those of formal education and collge degrees, word usage would be come more naturally due to subjection of being taught. But for some of us word activists, we have to use different approaches to enhance and grow our word knowledge. This is one of the tricks I use. I hope that it will help others to benefit and grow their talents too.

Not everyone is priveleged in the same way to opportunities of college and higher education. That should never be an excuse to discredit our selves nor allow others to discredit us because we have to make our own way or opportunities.

Happy pen dancing and appreciate the limits of productions to do more and be more. If the world offered every one a fair playing field of opportunities, where would the rainbow of personalities come from? There would be no need for bright, strange, unique, and a display of different traits because we all would be the same:) Embrace limits so you soar even higher when you are done in your goals.

Paint Every Day on the Canvas of your own Colors

2012-01-29T18:51:00.000-05:00

I have known more pessimistic people in my life than I have known optimistic people.

The people that choose to stay unhappy in even the best of circumstances. The people who do not appreciate their good health. The people who are not thankful for their financial securities. The people that are not appreciative to a kind deed. The people who are not optimistic of something new and different.

Most of the time it can seem that the pessimistic people are the ones we are born into a family of this nature or are the ones that we choose to live with.

Pessism begins in the littlest of things. The little things of males not putting down a toilet seat after urinating. The females not cleaning out their hair from a sink drain after showering. Not putting new supplies back in to place when something is emptied. The ones who do not carry their dirty dishes and put them in the sink to be washed or in the dishwasher if you are lucky enough to have one of those.

Yes, it might appear to many that pessimism takes majority over life when living in a shared environment where others do not kindly do their smallest deeds of sharing and responsibilities. These little things may seem minimal on the scope of the bigger picture of life. But in reality it can drain us daily with the irks that come along in sharing a living space with anyone.

But if we spend our times fretting the littlest of things, we literally allow others to take our optimism away from us too. Everything around us is a canvas of what we want to paint the world to be today.

It begins every day as soon as we awake in the morning with where we reside and live. If we waste our day consumed in the worries of others behavior that we can not control, we allow them to pull us down into their darkness they choose to create every day by not paying attention to the smallest of details in kindness.

Don't let them. In raising a teenage daughter, it has been the hardest times of my adult life in leading, guiding her and trying to help her to appreciate herself and finding the person that she wants to be.

The drama that teens do to one another and their yet immature ways to uneffectively communicate can leave scars that even us adults carry with us later in life.

By stopping others from using the paint brush to color up our lives, we gain control and they can not bring us down no matter what they say or do.

I am usually an optimistic, light hearted and very free spirited person that lives as if the sky is of no limits in endless possibilities even when working against the pessimism of others. I choose this for me because it works and I have too many real issues in my own personal well-being that are beyond my control so why would I limit myself any further? Why would anyone?

Control what you can. Release what you can't. Above all, never take life so seriously that you forget to enjoy and appreciate the smallest of the things that make life so great.

Blue is only one color. But when you add it with yellow it becomes Green. Take the blend of life you are given and blend it as best as you can but use optimism as your first coat of primer on any day.

If you have no expectations or fret on worries then you have no criteria to be a pessimist. So chin up. The bad days will pass. The good days will return. The one who can control these attributes of the day's offerings is you.

So open your mind, your views, and your heart to seeing beyond the same old reality. The rainbow of living life is breath taking when you do. Never be so mature that you forget how to appreciate immaturity either. Youth only truly runs out when we allow it too.

The Written Personality

2012-01-29T00:07:00.000-05:00

I never usually duplicate my two blogs daily topics because they are two different focuses and formats for me to write about daily.

This blog I tend to use to help build awareness and education and living life in general with topics to assist others. The blog on: http://www.authorcynthiacox.com/ is for all music lovers who love to play, sing, write or enjoy music topics. But this topic I feel is suitable for both. It helps alleviate writing two blogs today too. Gives me a weekend break:) Enjoy both. It's education and fun with a twist of smirk, wit and a new way to share looking at life.

The ability to capture one's personality in writing can one of the most difficult aspects of writing any content. The guidelines to writing classifications of genres is not as streamlined as one would think. This prevents many creative minds from not absorbing into their own fantasties and putting it in print. Message perceivers of readers makes it very hard to get established, accredited and considered worthy of time investment to read another's work to become a fan.

I find this as the most difficult part of my daily blogs. It is honestly no easier in creating videos, websites or any other format to share with the public in general. Building a committed fan base, viewers or readers to a person's creative expression is hard to do.

Controversies of human debate are the most profitable topics to write and express in public offerings. If for no other to strike up feedback. Feedback of different points of views is one of the most guaranteed ways to ensure traffic to your projects. Why do you think politicians and politics fire us up so many people to action? Different points of views that punch people personally stirs actions if only prompting us to comment or link to read the blood boiling headlines. It works. This explains why reality tv and the news is so popular. It creates controversies of drama that humans feed on daily.

Lame humor releases stressors of our lives as struggling human beings to function is another aspect to capture . The internet and YouTube are proof in viewings of the craziest antics the world has to offer. People wanting to provoke the biggest tickle bone laugh they can by posting the most ridiculous stuff that isn't brillant. But it does take intellect to put one's self out on a limb as target to strike a laugh out of others. Laughter and the things we use to make us laugh is as controversial as the news. So this approach works very well too.

I kindly use both of these approaches in writing and posting public things I do. But the problem with public perception of the things I offer is that is not just controversial or of lame humor at times but it usually serious content that could be beneficial for those who give a damn to stand up against majority and grow a back bone.

Well most find this boasterous and diverse personality in print or creativity as a threat of comfort. I am not a person who is not simply one way or the other. I am a person against the grain of majority acceptance and first I ensure self-acceptance trying to make my mark on a world to take the human thought processing into a level beyond daily thinking or one's own little secure world. I try to show that we do not need science fiction because most lives that surrounds us are stranger than the greatest of fictional minds. It's awareness about life, our selves, others and how this association impacts all of us together in our civilized world.

It is very hard to be comfortable and trust something or someone that changes their approaches, their thoughts, and their views every day but isn't that what amkes creative minds and intuitions so great?

A simple thought enters in or a view approaches you different than anything you seen. Well if simple thoughts or views were not expressed, change would never come or occur. Life would become stagnate and mold filled because there would not be those who chose to take the simpliest of creativity in thoughts and run with them. Music is the only industry that is allowed to cross so many barriers of comfort zones for people that I have seen yet. Rainbows of personalities and acceptance is publicly welcomed in music with no explanations ever to be given. Other creative minds have to break barriers and work dilligently harder to achieve status in other formats.

Think about this next time you get a quiet thought, different view or intuition. Release it. The actions of intuition is never as embarassing as the shame that comes from regret in doing nothing about it.

Now, enjoy a 1:08 seconds of my sharing that I do. My little kitty was attempting to enjoy a karaoke video shot with me. Unfortunately her cuteness wore out too soon and all I got was a 5 inch scratch on the side of my neck from her true disapproval. But these priceless shots only come very few and far between for sharing. So share your creativeness and intuitions. You never know who might need your truthful controversies and lame humors too. - http://youtu.be/XQrCjGAgk5c

My personality is as truly colorful as my writings. The greatest compliments I will ever receive is what a hoot I am to associate with and the cards and letters I have received that people miss my laughter in their daily lives that we use to have before I became without mobility like I use to be.

There is nothing sweeter than a smile, laugh, and helping to ease the load of another's day if only for a few seconds. Yup, that sums up personality writing. Never allow your life to conform to others because when you do, you might just be missing out on those few seconds of your day when you need another to lift your daily weight too.

USA Tax Structure needs revisions for Tax Filers

2012-01-27T15:21:00.000-05:00

I wrote several politicians concerning my thoughts about the federal and state standard deductions and exemptions given to working class Americans. I feel that our tax structure in filing taxes is not fair representation of what it takes to financially thrive in America.

If working class Americans were given accurate and equal deductions and standard exemptions to contribute to their costs of living we could stop government dependancy. We, the people, could create a government revolution by the people for the people as it should be. Working class Americans are shafted into believing that our taxes are needed and we have to pay them legally. But, we do have a say, in this matter also. It is our lives people and we should start standing up and taking and most of it by getting involved.

If these deductions and exemptions were raised then we could afford to pay for our own medical health care needs, health insurance, health deductibles, and co-payments.

Families could afford to buy clothing for their children and most of these government entitlement programs would be taken out of the hands of corrupt broken government systems and be given back to the American people where they belong. The biggest problem is that our current tax structure of filing income taxes represents how America is enabling poverty and creating a co-dependency upon the government. They want us to depend on them. But if you are the working class that falls in the grey area of working and barely making it then there is no help for you and your family. There is no government assistance to provide the bare neccessities you need to survive and hold a job.

I am going to keep posting correspondance I receieve from these politicians. I want others to know what these elected officials have to say about my proposed ideas and my concerns of the federal and state tax filing deductions and exemptions.

I want you to be informed so when you vote that you will see who is truly doing what for the working class of America.

My first email response is from Mr. Marty Gearheart. He is a WV Republican member of the WV House of Delegates in the 24th District. http://www.legis.state.wv.us/House/Members/delmemview1.cfm?input2=24

Mr. Marty Gearheart is a 1983 College Graduate from Concord College and owner of Gearheart Enterprises. His Base Salary for this position is $20,000 year and he gets a $131 per diem pay during session. -

My question is how many working class Americans gets an opportunity to attend college? How many working class Americans get an additional $20,000 for their job and a $131 day for their work? Think about it. http://ballotpedia.org/wiki/index.php/Marty_Gearheart

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Here his is response:

I am not sure what your question is.

The tax structure is not designed to create equality. I am for low taxes and equality of opportunity not outcome.

Thanks

Marty

(sent by iPad)

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This is sad to me. What many do not realize is that low taxes may help ensure a short term relief but it does create financial equality in America. Low tax structures do not create equality of opportunity as stated. It does not give a good outcome when there are only limited financial means to survive on for working class Americans. Without financial equality given in the federal and state standard deductions and exemptions there is no opportunity or hopes of a good outcome because these monies are being used to survive on. That's all. It's is not equal.

By increasing the federal and state exemptions and deductions for tax payers to reflect accurate price reflection of living in America then Americans who work will have an equal opportunity to grow their own financial outcomes.

With the strapped totals given now, we are only enabling poverty and need for government offices to offer assistance and federal programs. By raising these limits, Americans at minimum wage jobs could afford company sponsored health insurance and to pay in to a 401(k) program. There would be no need for a government health care policy nor half the policies our government has enacted to help them people when the only thing they are really doing is ensuring their jobs and roles to pursue authority against us.

I detest this response I received. I am sure I will receive more like this. It's disheartening but I will not give up.

Go to your local DMV to register to vote. VOTE in this year's elections. We are only going to be able to change America from the people by the people this way. But there truly is no other way.

Look at the headlines. Many of millions of Americans have already lost jobs or are going to lose their jobs in lay-off news. Don't you want it to be you next? Contact those elected officials and tell them what you want. This is the only way. If we all voice enough words to them then maybe someone will have the gawl to stand up and listen. Haven't you have enough of big brother rulings and judgments?

The Cost Of Living in America in 2010 Based On 2011 Filing Taxes Data

2012-01-26T12:14:00.000-05:00

Every year when I file my income taxes I get excited to see the cost of financially surviving in America. The standard tax deductions and exemptions for Federal Income Tax and State Income Tax amazes me. I see these totals as established indictators of projected costs of living in America. (If it is not, where else do they come up with these figures then?)

Every year I reach the same conclusion. America is enabling poverty. This begins in the exemptions and standard deductions for working class Americans when filing federal and state income taxes.

Raise the Standard deductions and exemptions to reflect accurate costs of living in America and you create financial equality, stomp out poverty and create an equal opportunity financial democracy for all. Don't believe me, read this, then you do the math! Federal and state exemptions and deductions do not add up for working class Americans with factual expenses of living in this country!

I do not really know how they expect anyone in America to survive on these fixed standard deductions and exemptions. I view these standard deductions and exemptions as credits given to every tax paying American citizen for working when filing taxes. Until proven wrong, this is my logic of what these figures represent. These are given as credits to contribute to the cost of living expenses in America. My totals represent current 2011 tax data deductions and standards based upon living in America in 2010. This is the bare minimum of entitlement every tax payer will receive automatically.
In federal standards of filing taxes this is what they assume that it costs for people to live in America according to filing status.

If you are Single or Married Filing Jointly, it only costs you a minimum of: $9,500 to survive in America in 2010.

If you are a Qualifying Widower, it only costs you a minimum of: $15,300 to survive in America in 2010.

If you Married Filing Jointly, it only costs you as a couple the minimum of: $19,000 to survive in America in 2010.

If you are Head of Household, it only costs you a minimum of: $ 12,200 to survive in America in 2010.

Who comes up with these figures for the cost of 2010 financial surviving in America? Where do they get their data that fills these standard deductions and exemptions for the 2011 tax filers?

I do not know how anyone who can survive on $ 9,500 annually in America for Single or Married Filing Separately filers. How do Married Filing Jointly survive on $19,000 annually? How can Head of Households live on $12,200 a year? What about our Qualifying Widowers who are expected to live on $15,300?

These are figures that should wake up every American. These figures can not possibly cover the costs of a roof over a person's head, food on their table, lights and water and forget about medical insurance for these tax filers. It's very sad and true.

This does not include the final amounts you get with your state exemptions too. For you see, these totals increase very minimal each year because most states figure since the federal government has granted you a supreme filing status of exemptions and deductions that you can survive on their exemptions given. Each state has their minimum exemptions set also for state tax credits to survive in that state.

In the state of West Virginia, they assume that you can survive on $ 2,000 per person to live in West Virginia in 2010.

By state and federal deductions and exemptions, our income tax makers assume that a Married Filing Jointly couple and one dependant child can live in America and the state of West Virginia and survive a year on: $28,700 in 2010.

If this does not get you thinking about the real issues plaquing America then I do not know what will. Americans talk of stopping poverty, establishing equality and moving forward in progression to help our economy but with total amounts like this it is hard to do. It is depressing for any tax filer and tax payer. It is depressing to see how Americans who set standards for all of us can not do math of expenses it really takes to survive financially in America!

By increasing the Federal Standard Deductions, Federal Exemptions and State Exemptions for taxpayers with factual data that reflects ACTUAL costs of living expenses in America we can move forward in equality for all taxpaying and working class Americans to create a fair democracy for all that will work! Best of all, we can start stomping out poverty and quit living in the illusions of what these current deductions and exemptions of the costs of living represents about America and our states.

My personal estimates are an attempt to show the real costs of living in America per person based upon 2010 figures of my own experiences. By showing these estimates I hope it prompts someone to begin to create a fair and practical system for Americans. These figures are based upon my own estimates of strick survival in American per person for anyone interested in knowing the real costs of living in America.

ESTIMATED REAL COSTS OF MONTHLY EXPENSES TO LIVE IN AMERICA - 1 PERSON
Electric Bill- $ 50
Water & Sewage Bill- $ 50
HOUSE, APT, or RENT for roof over a person's head- $ 300
Groceries- ( $ 40 a week) $ 160
Medical Insurance - $ 170
Vision Insurance- $ 3.00
Dental Insurance- $ 3.00
Life Insurance- $ 3.00

TOTAL= $ 739 *these figures does not include transportation costs or expenses of commuting to and from work nor does it factor in any needs for children*

$ 739 month x 12 months is a total of: $ 8,668 ANNUALLY. This is basic survival in America on a bean and cornbread diet with no mobility, no internet, no cell phones or no luxuries of dining out, no movies, no shopping, no clothes or household neccessities for keeping a home maintained. This is not including transportation costs that every working American has to have to get to and from work either!

Now our federal government and the state of West Virginia represent in their standard deductions and exemptions that a single working person in WV can afford housing, transportation, medical care, monthly living expenses and going to and from work on $11, 500 annually.

With my estimated cost of living figures at $ 8,668 annually and the 2011 tax filing information, a single working person filing in West Virginia would have $2,832 left over to budget for annual transportation, vehicle maintenance, car insurance to go to and from work and cleaning supplies for their home. You do the math. It will not add up!

If this does wake up someone to activation, I give up. I am about the most practical person of living on a shoe string budget that you will find of minimal spending. The math does not add up and the logic behind the figures used for federal and state filing of income taxes either.

Stop the false federal and state expenses data and create financial evolution and solvency for all Americans with real Federal Deduction, Federal Exemptions and State Exemptions that Americans can thrive and survive on!

America Scores Poorly

2012-01-25T10:40:00.000-05:00

America gets a D in this national grade score for Mental Health Illness care, prevention and treatment for patients. West Virginia gets an F! Why are we as Americans allowed to suffer in this poor quality of health care? http://www.nami.org/gtsTemplate09.cfm?Section=Grading_the_States_2009

There are many mental illnesses out there. If data were sufficient and accurate I am sure most mental illnesses are actually an acquired disorder. These are elements contributing to circumstances that are beyond a person's control that leaves them with adverse medical repercussions known as mental illness.

Natural brain functions and processes become altered in these circumstances producing mental illnesses. Some of these are provoked from the following:

Child abuse, sexual abuse, sexual trauma, poverty, crimes committed against another, no equal opportunities, lack of quality education, lack of constructive socialization and violations of a mind and body in life.

Veterans who suffer PTSD are a prime example of the harsh effects of acquired mental illness. They are not born with PTSD or any of us but it is something that some of us are more prone to then the general population. We have acquired these disorders because of circumstances beyond our control and these are not birth conditions. This makes it an acquired disorder! When equal tools for survival are not readily available or prevention ensured to every Americans quality of life, we do suffer replicating mental illness. How do we stop it?

By creating fair, equal and beneficial treatments covered for long term or short term mental illness accordingly. Provide adequate medical insurance to ensure patients can and will seek help. Give mental illness patients the tools needed to rebuild life and stop hindering them with political and financial motivated red tape!

I have spent years doing research for my disabling conditions. Even the Americans with Disabilities Act covered me in my years of employment for accomodations and exceptions because I am "classified" as disabled according to their standards.

But where is my health insurance or rehabiliation services that is effective to cover medical costs and effective treatments to overcome my acquired disorders? There is none. I have accumulated over $100,000 worth of medical bills, costs, treatments and assistance in my adult life to sustain the best quality of life that I can with the acquired disorders I have.

I could not even begin to calculate the thousand of dollars and costs associated with my medical bills and psychiatrist bills from the age of 5 to 18 years old. Taxpayers pay attention. It was your thousand of thousands of dollars that was used in my public health care assistance as a child in therapy for child abuse. I thank you for this but it only bought me mere seconds of sustaining a good and equal quality of life. That's all.

For you see, I can tell you in retrospect that I received inadequate treatments that was not beneficial to me then or now. If the treatment I received back then would have been effective, it would not have multiplied to the masses it is today with my mental health. This should strike an anger chord in everyone that these public monies are used for treatments that do not work in mental illness. This increases everyone's health care costs and increases taxes. Millions of Americans suffer mental illness. Can you really imagine the trillions of dollars being poorly being administered through these medical conditions. Talk about a rude wake up call America.

Most individuals take good health of mind and body for granted. Many continue in their daily never thinking twice about how great it is to drive, hold a stable and steady routine of employment, and have the brain capabilities to absorb higher education. Many take it for granted in working, employment, college, higher education, driving, and a good night sleep with an internal clock that functions properly. I appreciate all these greatest assets to life that are very hard to achieve and sustain for me most days.

I use my unfortunate circumstances to build awareness to help others. I do not know if I would have the passion in helping others if my life had been different or I had not seen and witnessed so much through the circumstances beyond my control.

A score of D in America for mental illness prevention, care, and support is not tolerable to me. A score of F in West Virginia about mental illness is even more groteque to me. These scores reflect abuse, poverty, criminal enabling behaviors to continue and above all, the real picture of equality issues that we do have in America going on. If this does not announce medical care discrimination, I do not know what does!

I did research comparing my insurance coverage and my spouse's Employment Assistance Program. Psychologists and expert clinicians qualified to treat mental illness is a medical joke of financial loopholes that hinder individuals and does nothing to provide long-term cost effective therapy to help individuals of acquired mental illness! These approaches are probably one of the darkest discoveries I have found in researching.

Most health insurance plans covers very minimal counseling for long term mental illness. These insurances cater to the scientific evidence based medical conditions and basic routine maintenance for the human body.

Employee Assistance Programs covers only short term sessions with higher educated and qualified experts of mental illness care but this is to benefit the employer and not always in the best interest of an individual who suffers from long term mental illness. An Employee Assistance Programs are there to help in short term traumas or issues that arise while employed but not for individuals who suffer extensive long term mental illness. There is no mental health illness relief in health insurance plans nor in EAP programs.

I have been through an Employee Assistance Program several times through out my employment years. The short term benefits I did receive did help me to sustain my career position. However, not having accurate diagnosis to my conditions of PTSD and seizures, it was ineffective treatment. It bought only seconds of effective treatment in retrospect. Health care with no benefits to patients is loss of money and not an investment in time or money or to one's health.

To seek a qualified clinician or Psychologist and the effective care I need would be to take the bread literally off of my table from my family. I can not afford to pay for the treatment I need of these acquired mental illnesses. At this point of my life, I cope and live it the best I can on my good days and hide on the bad days.

There is so much unknown even today about mental illness that the public stigma rises as fast as the medical prices to try to treat patients of mental illness with no real benefits publically or personally. Many non-profit organizations gain donations to build awareness and leave the individuals no effective options for real permanent help or assistance to overcome their issues to achieve a decent quality of life.

I was joking with a friend yesterday that one day I will snap and become a viligante. I will just get fed up with the broken systems of America and to raise my own awareness of the rights and wrongs of this country I will go out and shoot the targets of my acquired health issues. I do not work outside the home because I can accept that my mind and brain does not handle stress nor process life like most do. I accept that I have limitations. But I can not accept wanting help and not having the tools to do it. I have spent my life dedicated to helping others who help their self or try to.

When the price of living to fight a good fight becomes a detrimental force that can not be compromised, something has to give. I figure if I ever snap that bad that at least I will leave a great message behind that will illustrate as no other how much America needs a change. West Virginia needs to step up to the plate and become the example if no other state steps forward to stop these acquired mental illnesses and to provide the funds dedicated to research and effective treatments.

I feel as if I have screamed my concerns, complaints, and my issues until my lungs are tired of sharing the oppression of the reality that affects millions of Americans and it changes nothing. Absolutely nothing. This may not be my place to take it upon myself to announce the bad light of what America is; but in my heart of heart and good intentions of my mind, this is what I feel I should do to help by calling it out for what it is in regards to mental illnesses, medical care, health insurance and Employee Assistance Programs.

If someone does not call out criminal behavior and crimes for what they are, how do we know what civil right and wrong is? How can we work to stop it if we don't define the issues at hand for what they are? If someone does not call out the inadequate loopholes of ineffective health care and these practices of civil discriminations in medical care, then who will?

I could not find any sufficient information or data reference of my conspiracy theories about medical insurances and Employee Assistance Programs concerning mental illness treatment and care. So I speak from personal experience and this is my take on the matter with what I found on my own.

Until everyone in America accepts that some medical conditions are acquired disorders and treat them as such for the real short term or long term ramifications that come from it. Nothing will change.

All I ask is that you please take a moment and preview the mental health illness score for your state. Then think about this score and how it affects you or someone you know that has a mental illness. Until we make society's issues personal, we can never work together to stop the failed practices that history keeps repeating itself with that provoke medical care discrimination in civil health care treatment for all citizens.

If science could show the shadows of the brain buried deep within as the problem for mental illness, I am sure it would take priority with mental illness such as AIDS, breast cancer, prostrate cancer, and other science proven body illnesses do. But with mental illness, so little is being done on brain research and the cause and effects of mental illness that it is not even in the "a needle in the haystack" of science discovery yet. Until Americans get mad, upset, and revolt for our rights, the strong of those with opportunities get built up while the oppressed get broken down even more. We can not let them take away our rights to equal health care opportunities too.

Spring Does Come Early

2012-01-24T12:09:00.000-05:00

Usually I blog on the current day of whatever strikes me to share. With this blog topic you will actually be reading it a day after the fact. I chose to write while the muscles are burning in my body. The heat of moisture puddling in the bridge of my back and while this internal high of release flows through me. It is called sweat by physical labor in case you are wondering what the wet spots are I am drowning in.

Why would anyone want to share their sweat stories by manual labor? My response is: "Why not?"

There is many health benefits to the body when sweating. It helps casts off toxins that allow your body to function. It helps stop water retention as many females are plaqued with. It should make for a good night sleep by warming up the muscles in wet moisture and then cooling off for that wonderful rest period found only through a good day of physical labor. Kindly like what happens when you have good sex but this is something you can do solo!

I love nature very much. In the dread of winter it can be very easy to custom one's self to staying indoors on even the prettiest of days that winter might give us. I am one of the world's worst for assuming when winter arrives. I won't do anything with nature until she is kind and officially brings spring back.

WRONG! This mentality is what holds one captive in winter hibernation practices and does nothing beneficial to you or nature. Every year I have tons of leaves that fall on my back yard concrete patio. I absolutely adore the possibilities that this patio could hold for bonfires, after dark marshallow roasts, propping my feet up and reading a beneficial book. Most of all I enjoy the dreaming that still comes from the beautifician I would like to attempt to create for it one day. However, the down side of dreams is maintenance on all things. The leaves and concrete do not sit well together when sitting dorminate on top of one another in winter hibernation.

Thank goodness this has been a mild winter in comparison to some of the harsh winters that West Virginia has been known for. I spent the afternoon shoveling wet, moist leaves off of the patio. Beside the patio bridge, I have a little area that I use for cast offs of leaves, sticks and such. This soil is what I use for spring planting, landscaping or pot planting to help nurture my plants in natural soil and not just store bought dirt. This dirt pile of moist nature cast offs make great soil for planting. It looks better too having the wetness revealed on the concrete so now perhaps it can dry. It will also allow the leaves to nurture soil that needs it too.

The seasons are the state of mind that we get comfortable in. Our practices through the four seasons reflect this. I prefer to be outdoors as to indoors any day of the week. Whether sweating out the frustrations that reside in the silence of my mind or soul, mother nature never judges. She embraces our solitudes and appreciates our efforts to help her replenish the Earth even if it is only during our designated seasons. I look forward to taking advantage of these spring like days that break through even in Mr. Old Man Winter's ruling. Mother Nature is probably the only non-prejudice female that exists. Mr. Old Man Winter will probably be the only male to admit that a female is right too!

Just a little scenario humor for you in this winter season. May you find your spring does come early too and take advantage of it too. I figured if I share my own new mental outlook of the seasons under the sun, then it may help others do it also too. I figure if I can use these surprise days of break throughs for my own benefit now to work in the cooler but comfortable tempatures then when the real nice weather gets here, I can spend more time enjoying the efforts of my labor.

I know that there are many who will prefer the facility of a gym and those nice little work out outfits versus the dirt of the soil or the fresh air and dirt on your skin with jeans and a hoodie. But let me tell you there is something to be released working in nature that buries all and holds all secrets that nothing human made will ever fill. Try it. I dare you to do something you never tried before. Spring does come early. Are you watching for her too?

The Sad but True of Vaginas

2012-01-23T13:48:00.002-05:00

Vaginas are a female organ that identifies gender. Like females, vaginas come in many different shapes, sizes, forms and functions. Every vagina is unique to each female that possesses this sexual organ.

The Sad but True of Vaginas is that most females fail to take care of their vaginas properly. Why would anyone start such a horrible topic of such a sensitive subject you ask? When you are a female and a mother of a daughter, you either face the hard topics or you let others guide you and mislead you in even the harsh realities that exists about life when being a female and having a vagina. I share my chronicles in my blogs to help others. If this makes you blush then you need to mature to realize that females and vaginas do go together and proper care has to be given to both. This is for anyone that wants to learn more about the Sad but True of Vaginas.

I share my advice as a take it or leave it and to share resources to help you know the truth of routine caring for your vagina. There really are only 8 Hygiene Rules to know about caring for a vagina. http://www.everydayhealth.com/womens-health-pictures/hygiene-rules-for-a-healthy-vagina.aspx#/slide-1 This slide show offers great tips and most importantly information that will protect you and your vagina to have a long healthy life together.

Vaginas do not need douche. I know this is against popular beliefs but douches are made of harsh chemicals that can actually dry out and do more damage than benefit a vagina. Your vagina is self-lubricating and self-contained. When a vagina secretes it is cleaning itself and releasing the normal processes of maintaining a vagina. A female can masturbate manually a few times a week to keep her fluids flowing naturally to help aid in the process of routine maintenance.

Vaginas are not depositories to use as personal gain. I have known many females that use their vaginas and sexuality for profit, to manipulate others in sexual relationships and to market their self for personal gains as monies, attention and material possessions. Vaginas were not invented for profit nor were they meant to use as control against human beings.

Vaginas are sexual organs that are meant to be shared in loving, caring, and legal age relationships. Do not abuse your own vagina by sharing it with who ever and allowing others to take advantage of you because you have a vagina. Do not allow yourself to use your vagina to keep someone in your life. If a person really loves you or likes you for who you are, your vagina will only be a benefit but not the sole reason the relationship exists anyway!

Vaginas should be respected by your self without public input. Vaginas should be an organ that is kept, maintained and taken care of like any other organ in or on the body. Vaginas should be washed with soap and water. Perfume can be sprayed at the bottom of the belly right above the vagina to add a silent spruce of smell good but nothing of fragrance should ever be put directly on the vagina. This can cause infections.

Vaginas are a hidden attibute to all females. This is only one of our many defining features. It is a concealed asset that portrays a small attribute of who we are as females but never the whole defining package. Until we start looking at our own vaginas as an object that deserves respect that should given and received in our lives, how can we truly expect others to respect us or our vaginas too?

Vaginas need extra special care during a menstrual cycle. This means putting the nasty used maxi pads and tampons in the trash ladies! I have frequented many public restrooms of women. These are honestly the nastiest places on earth for females to have to go into. There is nothing worse than having to look into a public toilet to make sure it is not blood stained or a floating terd in it because a female is just to lazy and lacks caring for her self to clean up after herself! To see used menstrual cycle products in the floor or toilets of a public restroom is grotesque! I guarantee you that if males really knew how nasty females public restrooms were that they would think twice about gawking so hard at the exterior appearance of these females who lack even personal care of their own self as behaviors as this. To enter a female public bathroom is a surprise of never knowing what a person gets until inside. There are more areas geographically prone to nastiness in females than others too. I have seen more nasty female public restrooms in larger cities than rural areas, so what does this say about the large city of females? Makes a person wonder huh? At least males can stand up and use a urinal without having to squat on a toilet smelling the nastiness of a female that used the toilet before them! There is nothing more horrible than being a female to see, hear, or smell a stinky female who has no pride or respect in herself.

Every vagina deserves to be loved, respected, cleaned, maintained and taken care of. No one can do this for any female unless each female starts seeing their own vagina for the beauty it is. I have heard many females brag on multiple sexual partners, chemical products used and what plastic toys they use in their spare time for sexual fulfillment. Their boasting is disrespectful to me and displays their insecurities and lack of respect to their self when they do this without discretion in public places speaking like this. Females need to use discretion of appropiate atmospheres to chat about their vaginas too!

There is nothing more diminishing to hear than when a female feels she has to advertise her secret practices of her vagina to the world as this. Have pride and secrecy in your vagina tasks and to-dos. Unless you are making a statement to help another make a judgment call about a product used or a benefit it was to your vagina don't advertise it. It only makes you appear to be an insecure person that does not know how to respect your vagina. Believe it or not, males do not kiss and tell or shout out their penis adventures like females do.

Females take note. You are never too young to learn about the privacy and secrecy of caring for your vagina and how to protect it. Vaginas are never too old that they don't deserve personal female attention and care either.

Most public perceptions of vaginas and the topics that surround it are as silent and misconcepted as they were three decades ago when I was born into this world. Until we as females realize the special organ we do have control over and can always gain control over, nothing will change in life about the darkness of the topics of vaginas. We were not meant to silent the care of vaginas no more than we were to announce it as our asset above brains either!

I know there are many females who may have been violated and abused in their vaginas. Healing, therapy, and seeking help is very hard to do when talking about such a personal incident that happens in many females lives. However, if we do not take control of the situations and heal from it then how can we honestly expect anything to change in vagina abuse too? A female has the right to say NO and mean it or YES and mean it. No one should ever violate another in abuse. But if it does occur please seek help. We are never too abused that we can not find the power, courage, strength, and bravery in our self to heal, recover, and have pride in our selves to take care of us and our vaginas.

Do not do anything that you are told or forced to believe about vaginas as the truth. Learn the truth of your own body, mind, organs and your vagina for yourself. Each one is different and it takes each female to be on alert to know what her vagina needs to function, stay healthy, and live a productive life. If for no other reason, be respectful to your own vagina for the other females that have to use a public restroom too!

Facebook Teenagers

2012-01-22T20:20:00.000-05:00

Facebook and social networks have become a requirement it appears in today's society. Parents and guardians have to be alert and in tune to the social internet aspect of their teens life. As if parents and guardians did not already have enough to do or worry about with teenagers. The consequences of teens to interact with another have excelled because of capabilities to social interact. If parents and guardians do not monitor their teenagers communications it can be very detrimental to a teen and their future possibilities.

There are good and bad benefits to teenage social interaction on social networks. Parents and guardians have to be onjective to see both sides of it just like we do in our lives. Teens can learn beneficial information, inspiration and bond with friends and family members that they have no other way to communicate effectively as they would do as on a social network. Another good benefit is that teens can understand consequences through trial and errors of public sharing before it interferes with employment or careers.

Written print in electronic communications does not come without consequences. When one writes in print a message could be misinterpreted by a reader as offensive. By practicing social communication in print for teens it does teach them what is acceptable and not acceptable in print communication as long as they are being monitored to call out their potential offenses. Why be so serious in Facebook or social electronic communications? Because it is a representation of where any one is and where a person is going. Any social network or internet print exchanged is saved and archived to a network server. There are laws established and in place to prevent harm to anyone who uses the internet to transfer print communications. There is truly nothing private nor sacred on the Internet. So if you do not want your parents, your friends, your teachers or your potential college professors or employers to know your indiscretions, do not put it online.

Anything in print whether on paper or in electronic text, emails or social networks has the possibility to never be private nor secure. So keep this in mind when posting anything electronically. If you would not share it with everyone who knows you or does not know you, then do not put it in print.

Teenagers today tend to engage in sharing their account information. They feel that this enhances their friendships or bonds with others.They want to build trust in another by sharing their account information, user IDs and passwords. Parents and guardians have to ensure this practice does not occur. Teenagers usually learn who to trust as friends and who not the hard way. Parents and guardians have to stay one step ahead of a teen and intervene when neccassary to stop harmful teen practices as this.

Teens will "hack" others accounts for fun. In the adult world, if you hack others profiles for fun, it could lead to criminal prosecution. Teens need to think before you act online to share information. Parents and guardians need to be brave to intervene to stop harmful practices of teen social networking.

Safe teens http://www.safeteens.com/ has an online guide of usual information and data to help teens stay safe online. There is education for parents and guardians to learn how to ensure your teen's safety online also.

It only takes a few seconds to hit Enter to publish anything on the internet. Use these few seconds to really think about if this is something you would share a day from now, two days from now, or 10 years from now. If the answer is No, then do not hit Enter. It's really that simple.

Facebook Addiction

2012-01-21T19:25:00.001-05:00

Facebook frenzy has literally became a billion dollar industry that keeps striving to make and achieve more billions. Facebook users are nothing more than monetary dollars to the FB creators and executives. We are numbers and dollar signs.

Every one feels they have to post to their family, friends, or fans to have a fulfilled day. People get upset if they read a FB post that is misinterpreted and get offended or upset. A person will get depressed if no one reads or likes their status.

More than anything FB has became an addiction to many daily lives. I use it sparingly to keep in contact with my favorite friends and family. Other than that, it has been a great marketing tool for me to increase readers to my blogs and additional purchase of my books.

It can be fun to get on FB and read the passing along of something funny or hilarious that makes a person smile all day. It can be very serious when others are requesting prayers or thoughts for an illness or sickness or general support. I suppose all-in-all there are beneficial contributions to any one who uses FB.

Even with the millions of users on FB I do not believe that many people really know why they use FB only that every one else is doing it.

Because of FB there are not as many emails of "FW:" going on these days. Because of FB there are not as many websites constructed for businesses or nonprofits because it can be done on FB. Because of FB every one and anyone can claim to be friends because they read it on a FB newsfeed. Because of FB, newpapers and television news is not as prominent these days because it comes straight to you first on a FB news feed. FB in many ways has completely revolutionized many ways we interact online in social networking, social communications and brings about an outlet to speaking to be heard. Not a perfected craft by users or posts but a work in the making.

Personally, I get tickled when and if I sign into my FB account and see the every little detail of an addicts day on there. The posting of their pictures to show what a restraunt meal looks like or what drink they had for dinner or when they become frustrated at the drama on FB because of message misinterpretation. Who needs reality tv or even comedy of real life when we have FB?

So I defined what a FB addict is to me and you are welcome to share. I am not a FB addict but I am a fan of the pecking sound when typing. So enjoy my FB post and what ever you do on FB, do not let it consume your real life, your reality, and use discretion of what you do post on FB. Thanks to Timeline now on FB, anything in print and electronic form can come back to haunt you. Use discretion.

"What are FBers? FBers are assumers of wall posts:) FBers misinterpret posts. FBers try to read between the lines to make mountain out of mole hills. Most ppl are addicted to FB because they really like that key pecking sound when typing. It's not the FB communication, it's the pecking:) FBers are Pecker Addicts!!!!" - Cynthia Cox Facebook

Validation is the only Action a Dream Requires

2012-01-20T13:28:00.000-05:00

Validation is the only Action a Dream Requires - Cynthia M. Cox

The hardest thing to do in life is to prove validation to our self. One attempts this every day they attend school to try to get a good grade and are educational worthy. One tries to do this every day that one goes to work to prove their skills worthy of employment retention. One tries to prove this with any medical condition that impairs quality of life to prove they are more than just an illness description. Every one is seeking validation of self that they are worthy as an investment in work, home, school or in any environment one finds their self in. Every day a person wakes up whether aware or not that they will seek out one thing in the day that will validate them.

Even if it is only to present one's self to the public upholding their gender in approachable and respectable clothing. Life is about validation for all of us.

According to Mr. Webster's Dictionary, for one to have validity, one must be of state, quality, or fact of being valid in law or in argument, proof, and authority. Before one can be validated they have to be declared as legally valid. I am paraphrasing these terms but you can read them for your self if you would like to debate my word usage.

I have attempted and failed many things in my life. Some through personal error and many more by times, circumstances, and many issues beyond my control.

If I would use one word that would completely describe my entire life, function, purpose and desire it would be the word validation. I want to be validated as not just a survivor labeled by many things I had no control over but labeled as a good person who truly tried against all odds. I want to be validated as a human being that gave a damn against all odds of the unbelievers. I want to be validated that I am worthy to self-label myself anyway I choose to believe about myself because my actions have left the concrete of more than just my words. They PROVE my validation!

How many others in life can truly say that you took a dream come true even against all odds? How many can truly say they even dream anymore? How many more never believe validation in one's self? How many actually validate their self by making a dream come true in actions?

Life is a tumble. Many things surface in our lives and continue to do so that we seek support, comfort, and guidance from others for validation. The only person we ever need to validate about our lives and what makes us happy is our self. If we seek others for our validation we are really letting them take the validation away from us. Don't you see?

It is like sharing ideas. You start to share ideas, comments, suggestions and things that may help someone, something, or an organization. You will either be appreciated for your efforts of contributions or you will stricken down and cast out by seeking other's validations that you do not need anyways. In a true team player environment, it does not matter if the coach invents the play to a win or a player, all anyone wants to achieve is a winning score. Validation starts with self and grows like a team winning spirit everywhere.

When we look deep within our self and do not give validation to our self first, we will never accomplish the true wins of life or dreams that we want.

Many, many, many times; I have had to explain seizures and PTSD and advocating for child abuse survivors and victims. The opposition I have faced and even lost friends because of it is astronomical not including the medical bills. A person that does accept validation of your best attributes and your worst attributes are not someone you should be associating or seeking validation from to begin with.

The price it costs you in the end is truly one that no one should have to pay. I do not seek validation or approval anymore from no one. I just do it. If I feel so compelled and impacted by something that I have to pursue it or follow a lead on it or create it, then I am going to. It's not for me to promote understanding anyways. People get it or they do not but I validate myself in my honor:) lol- If others truly can not find validation in their self, they really are not worth your time, considerations, or efforts.

I have learned many things in my life that I share. Most of the time, I really need to quit pecking on a keyboard or writing in a notebook and activate what I write in my own life too.

Because a person like me, gives help and hope to others because I am still the one struggling with validation of self above anyone I know. Only I can truly make my dreams shine as I want and project them to be. So you are not alone if you feel like you have no validation too. But the sad reality for all of us is if we do not start believing in our selves first, it will all wasted efforts of regrets one day.

Now stand up and salute yourself and be happy in seeking, finding and keeping your validation. If you do not, no one else can be for you. No one says that validation comes over night and it is a trial and error process too. You must be forgiving to yourself before you can be forgiving of others too. Keep on doing the trial and errors of validation to self because if you give up every time you fall, no one will be around to pick you up eventually anyways.

BUY A BOOK STAMPS & VOICE YOUR CONCERNS TO SAVE USPS

2012-01-16T20:02:00.002-05:00

http://auditprojects.uspsoig.gov/2012/01/10/retail-optimization-access-initiative-impact-12yg011ci000/

USPS OIG is currently conducting USPS customer feedback on their decision to close post offices and optimize their retail facility network.

If you really want to save a post office and have your voice heard beyond the local powers that want to close your post office, now is the time. The USPS OIG reserves their right to moderate comments in this public forum. But if you are not willing to take the time to at least offer your views on USPS and post offices, then do complain when your office is closed or post offices and postmasters become extinct.

Veterans, elderly and disabled Americans and USPS employees will be the most impacted in retail facility closures and employee lay offs. In this national economy of digging citizens out of poverty and no jobs, this is not what America needs nor the USPS customers and employees that will be impacted most by these changes. It would be the worst display of public discrimination to occur in a government agency and organization to our heritage if USPS is allowed to continue to cut their service obligations to the Americans that need them the most.

I am disgusted in USPS personally. They have the tools and powers in their organization to stop this insanity of bad decisions and poor practices that keep failing. But no one can see past their own selfish roles of USPS to accept responsibility and accountability to create the change and investment in USPS to do anything about it.

To immediately boost USPS financial sustainabilty it could be achieved in unity if Americans and USPS employees wanted it. If every single employee and contractor of USPS would invest to buy one book of stamps to keep their jobs, then USPS could address other pertinent issues instead of looking at cuts. If every American customer would invest in one book of stamps monthly, USPS could focus on building their employees up in education to help us and not be so bound to cut our services too.

But without anyone taking action, USPS will continue in its demise of failed policies, procedures and continue to monopolize on failed efforts than to begin capitalization of Americans, their employees and greater benefit our national security and government trust that they were founded on. But it's easier to cast off USPS in complaints than to take make an investment of a book stamps monthly and not take time to fill out comments right?

Take the History and Activate for Future Change

2012-01-16T17:39:00.000-05:00

This blog today is dedicated to the memory of one man that has touched many lives even after his cruel and abrupt passing.

Today is Martin Luther King Jr.'s Birthday. It is not another federal holiday or a day for children/teenagers to be out of school or federal workers to be off of work. It should be a day to emphasize and embrace the work this brave man did that ultimately led to his death.

The life he led was by example and not just words. The words he spoke in his many speeches left a profound impact on me as many other liberty fighters for equality tried too before me.

I ask that you take a moment to cast off all you have heard of his life, his purpose and his work. Stop. Take a Wikipedia break to read the summary of his life dedicated to people. Read it with a new mind and new focus not merely what you heard or think you know!

Remember this day and this man for the dedication he gave to people. His work was not about political agenda, to promote fighting among Americans, or civil divisions but to create equality for all in America and through out our world.

In one of his many speeches, this is what he requested to be remembered for by all. I will not forget, will you?

"I'd like somebody to mention that day that Martin Luther King Jr. tried to give his life serving others. I'd like for somebody to say that day that Martin Luther King Jr. tried to love somebody.

I want you to say that day that I tried to be right on the war question. I want you to be able to say that day that I did try to feed the hungry. I want you to be able to say that day that I did try in my life to clothe those who were naked. I want you to say on that day that I did try in my life to visit those who were in prison. And I want you to say that I tried to love and serve humanity.

Yes, if you want to say that I was a drum major. Say that I was a drum major for justice. Say that I was a drum major for peace. I was a drum major for righteousness. And all of the other shallow things will not matter." - Martin Luther King, Jr.

I read his quotes, his legacy and the strength he has in words and in action brings tears to my eyes and adds fuel to the purpose of my own life to help assist others non-violently with truth and love.

To stand against the majority ruling and acceptance offends many due to ignorance and a lack of knowledge in self truths.

I am often left in fear and anxieties from potential targeting from social acceptance and personal opinions versus the truths that many deny in their own life. How could anyone respect another or view anothers when they have so much controversies in their own indentities too? How can anyone expect anyone another to open their mind to another when many have their own tunnels of closed chapters that are founded in what they see and refuse what know in their own hearts and minds to be true to self?

No one can assist in the promotion of change in equal freedom and liberties for another without sacrifice to self. The highest price to pay for service to people is with dedication of truth, honesty, courage, bravery, assembly of words of education to promote fires to spark revolution in equality for all. One must first be able to accept the truth within of their own life before proceeding forward. I do not think there is no greater legend of achievement in service committed to others than through the life dedication that Martin Luther King, Jr. conquered to help others.

History tells us of many great heroes in our life but today is his day. History tells us their stories, sacrifices, and documented proof of lives served in committment to others but history does not nor can still erradicate the death of these public servants prematurely or the future safety of leaders also.

Many today live in oppression, depression, and poverty with no opportunity. They choose what is before them because at least in their definitions they live. Whether by the standards they truly want or not, they choose to stay because they do not want to fight a battle they will ultimately lose as history keeps repeating.

Never have we seen such an uprising of social change by one person since the day of Martin Luther King, Jr. I do not believe we will ever see another person as this again.

Fear prompts us to silence. Fear holds us in comfort even if unhappy, abused, depression, oppression and regression of self. Fear holds us all captive to the lying familiar atmospheres we force our selves to believe as safe. So why would we further provoke this fear that hinders us in our every day lives anyways for a better change for our self and others?

Dr. King saw a chance to make many wrongs right in his life and even for the generations that followed. Because of his fire and beliefs to act upon a fear that many let hinder us, he took this fear to create change that impacted millions in his life. In his efforts he created what appeared to be a war of obstacles, fears, and an uprising in America to many that was viewed as War in our country.The message of his life got lost in the naysayers and non-believers of his real servitude to others.

Do not be a naysayer or non-believer of the work that he did. Read for yourself.

Stop the fear in your own life and begin anew. Use the power in fear to conquer and overcome as he taught us to serve and help assist others.

I leave you with some of my favorite quotes by him. If you can not reach out beyond the comfort zones of your own life, then how to expect any one to reach in to help you or you to help your self? This world is populated with many who suffer in fear as you do or worse. Shouldn't we all stop the fear or at least use it to be the change we want to see in this world or act upon the fears in our own life to stop it too?

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., may you rest in peace and the heavens smile upon you. You were a thinker with your heart activating your soul that your wore sharingly on your sleeve for all to see. You had a bravery to believe in a dream that we all should thrive for. It was not your words that captivate a legacy but the actions you achieved to prove that words are nothing without action!

My favorite quotes by Martin Luther King, Jr.---A lie cannot live.

A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus.

A man can't ride your back unless it's bent.

A man who don't die for something is not fit to live.

A right delayed is a right denied.

A riot is the language of the unheard.

Almost always, the creative dedicated minority has made the world better.

Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

These words are not to be interpreted as gender specific as stated nor any other frivolous attempts one tries to discredit the dose of truth spoken in his speeches and his quotes.

It is with sad, uneducated, and disturbed minds that one would discredit and lose the true respect for Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and the many heroes that history teaches us when we form deragatory opinions based upon ignorance. Do not become so out of touch with a message given that you prefer those closed comforts of your own mind and soul that you lose the potential to be what you know in your heart and soul to be true that limit your own self too.

"All I'm saying is simply this, that all life is interrelated, that somehow we're caught in an inescapable network of mutuality tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly affects all indirectly. For some strange reason, I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. You can never be what you ought to be until I am what I ought to be. This is the interrelated structure of reality."—Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Yes, he was right. What you do does directly impact me and what I do directly impacts you. Until we all realize this dose of truth about our own lives and the world around us, we can never be friends, associates, or believers of working together to the greater good of all of us. Not You. Not Me. But WE!

God Bless those who believe too!

Stop the Whispers with Voices of Truth

2012-01-14T13:29:00.000-05:00

When we accept silence in life's hardest truths we conform to a majority that keeps society as prisoners of whispers that will never set any generation truly free. - Cynthia M. Cox

I have to work hard every single day that I arise to stay afloat from the anchors of circumstances in my life. There were many that were beyond my control and the ramifications from it have made it difficult.

I feel as if I was chosen for the roles I have met in my life honestly to serve purpose to others and help others. I would be classifiable as insane to most conservatives and even plain abstract to the liberals. I do not fit in the black and white simplicity of any normal spectrum of human functions. I do not fit in even the colorful array of what it means to be uniquely different.

My life reads a resume of multiple characters, multiple colors, multiple atmospheres in an ever changing climate of circumstances that would leave global warming looking like stability.

I self-care and self-help with creativity, imagination,and anything in print I can find. For the insanity of definitions and issues I have overcome, I figure well hell if I survived this far in life living by gut instinct, sweat and tear ability, and going against the tide of majority then I must be doing something damn right or I would not have ever survived to be here now.

In seeking and finding help on survivor's forum of Sexual Child Abuse, PTSD, and seizure disorders; I see the general pattern and confusion that I once felt of the public versus private issues to disclose about one's darkest secrets in life. I respect those who tell and do not tell publicly. It is never without consequences for a survivor to speak their truth or to personally chose to silence it. There is a price to pay either way.

Majority acceptance, social acceptance, and even to be accepted when employed is something that every one wants or attempts to do in life. If for no other reason to belong and to function in a co-existing common bond environment.

But in matters of survivor abuse the horrid that have plagued many corners of solo minds and medical ramifications from it we allow social abuse to continue of these truths. We become as enablers to the crimes against self and others all in using silence and whispers of ignorance to stop from talking about the seriousness of abuse that do need addressed.

To me, survivors of abuse are treated more poorly and horribly than criminals or any other human race separations that occur. Survivors become the targets of those who do not understand and we become rejected or viewed differently because we are survivors of abuse. Many will admit and cope to overcome their silence of abuse but it is the majority of others who have not felt abuse who can not accept it so they find comfort of their own ignorance or denial to belittle or segregate these brave hearts of truth in survivors voices.

Survivors of abuse are not equally validated as educated nor seen equal by their peers when medical conditions manifest in their lives that may hinder or limit previous abilities based upon repercussions of abuse that is beyond a survivor's control. It does not mean that individuals of abuse are automatically disabled or different from the person you know but if may mean that they need medical accommodations from friends and employers in a workplace that has not established the means to give these survivors the Equal Opportunity Employment they require.

It saddens me that silence is the primary reason human abuse exists, occurs and still continues in this world. Discretion should always be used in every thing we do in life but there is never an excuse for ignorance as this. When human abuse is constantly recycled into the trash dump of society's majority not only do we poison our own selves from the truth but we become the enablers of this silent poison too.

I have read many posts of Veteran's who are PTSD survivors. It is so sad and sick that people can be programmed to fight for our freedom but are given no medical confirmation and reassurance that they won't be affected so harshly when serving their country.

Our country will take these men and women some voluntary or as in the days of drafting and completely turn their lives upside down only for these heroes to be kicked to the side by society, employers, the medical industry and to a degree by every person in America. When we don't ensure the means or education of prevention and awareness as this, we all become the enablers.

If for no other for us to get educated and stop this silence that destroys all of us, it should be for the freedom we have in America from those that sacrifice and do give all.

If employers invested as much into their employee's intellect and growing knowledge of Human Resources as they do in micro-managing and installing fear and intimidation into their employees, imagine how great employees would feel about going to work or how much more potential we as society would have in any industry no matter a person you worked with came from?

Stop the silence. Seek education that does not apply to your life directly. Stop this ignorance of not giving a damn! Because one day, you just might find that you are the survivor of the whispers and the real harmful effects of what it means to be an enabler of abuse in your life own life too!

Hope for Americans by Symposium on Poverty

2012-01-13T03:57:00.000-05:00

It is 2:58 am EST. I laid for about an hour or so channel surfing to find something to put me to sleep. One of those nights that I could not lullaby myself to sleep or meditate to sleep so I figure channel surf would do it for me.

Now, I never watch C-Span. Usually I fast forward by it and never even preview what is on. So I thought that this would do it because it is so boring to me. WRONG!

I stumbled upon Tavis Smiley Hosts Symposium on Poverty. Remaking America: "Poverty to Prosperity"

I do not like to get involved in politics nor even want to get into the elements of the complex disorders that make politics and the laws that break our system.

The rich get richer and the poor get poorer philosophy has breed in me since the day I was born. Now as adult, I feel this is just the way life is and if you can't survive life and make the most of what you got, you'll get to the joys of living life. Well I can live and enjoy life even in this dysfunctional system that I do not want to touch nor invite myself into. I do what I can minimally to make an impact, write letters or call politicians and lawmakers and vote. That's it.

Besides, I survived one dysfunctional family growing up so why would I ever get involved in the worst dysfunctions of American society as in our political system, legal system, government systems, and even trying to fight for my own democracies?

I could no more benefit my own dysfunctional family from the strides I have made to change my personal family dysfunction, so why would I truly have hopes that a person like me would be able to do anything to change the broken system at large that makes up our American democracy?

But I found this Symposium Hosted by Tavis Smiley, in who I am a fan, and his very intelligent, practical and humorous guests appealed greatly to me adding many other fans for me during this moving and emotional striking conversations among them.

Listening to their intellectual exposures of the elements that I run from about our current American economical situation and remaking America was very beneficial to me, inspiring and very encouraging! The live audience of 1500 in attendance really increased the momentum of acceptance and denial to the conversations spoken. I watched over an hour of this and was compelled to view until the end.

The truth is that America is in denial. Many of the financial powers that run or contribute to the financial standings of this country are actually bleeding the pockets of the American workers dry and in poverty because of the programs they have in place.

Suze Orman is Internationally Acclaimed Personal Financial Expert. I had seen her show in channel surfing but never gave two thoughts of stopping and watching. Tonight she quoted something I will never forget. She stated that we, as Americans, are being set-up as a victim by a system that wants you to fail!

WOW! Now how profound and truthful is that for many of us who are not working, can not work, do not have adequate medical insurance or those who lost their jobs or are facing job loss. Have we all really let America get so bad for all of us that we have allowed these programs, rules and regulations of big corporations to really bankrupt us and make us a victim of their greed? YES, we have! We have allowed the monopoly of greed to capitalize on us as their victims!

We have allowed America to be built into an enterprise of financial power and investments being taken away from the workers and literally lining the pockets of the CEOs, the Postmaster General, the buy outs of politicians, and allow our morals and values to be sold for a price of dollar to stay in the high price stakes of Wall Street so the real laboring efforts of individuals like you and me who have tried to climb that ladder of surviving in corporate America only to be beat down by the rules and regulations in place.

We have allowed the banks, interest rates, credit card, personal debt and the imaginary lives we financially tend to lead-control us than using our own abilities to get involved to control our money and even control the rights and wrongs of this dysfunctional democracy of America.

The truth is that America is as dysfunctional as it comes with regards to the equality we do not offer to one another. The opportunities that are not equal to the urban areas and rural areas. We have segregated our statistics so bad with lack of getting involved, it is really a surprise that we have to now work to rebuild an America that we have allowed to be broken?

I felt like I was in an educational sermon of encouragement with doses of truth that I have never heard spoken from any panel before in America! This was not speeches to sell anything. This was not experts speaking of their products or personal motives to gain public acceptance. These were educated individuals who have a compassion for America and a true desire to change it and rebuild it to help all Americans!

The most enlightening guest I listened to was Michael Moore. His heartfelt, powerful and moving forms of verbal expression reached the audience like a true movement of change was going to occur in this Symposium and even reached me propelling me to write tonight!

I would advise anyone who cares about your future, your family, and your children to watch this program! Go to C-Span and get the dates and times this will be viewable on PBS broadcasting.

It will make your mind race in knowledge that you would never look up for yourself. It will give you hope back and get you inspired to get involved into the movement of America. You have to pursue your own path but if we do not start doing things individually and together, then how do we ever expect America to change?

I wish this show could be broadcast to every teenager or college student in America! These individuals are our future and it will take their knowledge and conviction to change the dysfunction that has kept all Americans prisoners of a broken system. It is time now to change!

Watch and get a fire in you to create the change you want to see too. Even if you do not know anything, like me, we can~one person at a time start working for a common cause that will eventually lead to the evolution and change we all want to see in creating a better life for our self and those around us giving equality for everyone!

Community is not a geographical location. It begins with ME, WE, then US- this is what makes US a community of America! It is time we start acting it together and stop speaking it!

Self-Marketing Takes Courage, Patience & Luck of Discovery

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I feel compelled after reading a few comments I have received this week how my blogs of information have been helpful and inspirational to others. Even when one takes the job on of creating websites, social network promotions and self-marketing of any product you intend to sell it can be a very hard, lonely and the most difficult part of the creation process that many do not tell you about. Finding the market for your product can be time consuming and the hardest part to follow through with any selling of a product. It is never a personal attack when rejection finds you. It is always business. Remember that!

Even if you have a good product, you still may not be able to reach the market you intend to reach due to competition, customers ever changing demands and more than anything, a tough national economy that makes beginner to achieving success even more controversial to achieve when many are struggling to hold onto employment or put food on their table.

One must have courage, patience and seek the wishbone of luck in discovery to fully achieve the goals you want for your websites, social networking promotions or selling your own products. It does take that one person who is not afraid to discuss your products, your abilities and to promote you by word of mouth to get the majority to find your work acceptable. It's the longest, darkest secret out there about marketing and probably the most truthful about success.

There would be no major successes in life or celebrities had they not had not had someone discover them and excel them. I have touched on this before in previous blogs and due to the comments I have received the last few days, I feel compelled to reiterate the above message.

Many dreamers and successes in America or any country have done so by reaching their objective because they believed enough even when the unbelievers did not believe in them. It takes hard core persistence of never quit learning the trade of product that you want to sell and honing your own skills to make that happen.

Word of mouth travels faster to build a good, solid and dedicated reputation probably more than the actual crafts, invention or even a product a person has to sell. People tend to believe something more when majority accepts something as a financial investment and this pretty much sums everything in the market that is sold or has been sold with profit.

Do not add insult to your own injury if your projections for your own projects are not met. Set criteria that make comfortable and attainable goals for you to achieve but do not become discouraged that others do not perceive your attempts as you intend them to be.

Effective communication for persuasive sells and even persuading an established circle of close family or friends can be the most difficult sale to do above all. But do not take it personal ever.

It just means you have to try to keep re-inventing presentation of a product, yourself and the goals you want to happen. Economy demands change daily. Retail products change appearance, presentation and even visual offerings every day in commercials, store layouts and try to entice a customer for a sale. This mindset can help anyone to make something more appealing to drive in new customers.

If you are not going to be dedicated for the long haul of any creative project you get into for profit and do what it takes, then please take this advice- Do not do it! Pay someone who has the skills, potential and ideas of constant recreation creativity to make it happen for you.

There is nothing more irritating than to seek information or a product than to find a dead website or a customer unfriendly website cluttered in wasted space without user friendly focus and retail focus.

I am still learning myself in my own electronic transactions but as time goes on, I still find the thrill of the chase in even pushing my own creative limits to the max and constantly learning about an ever changing world and even my personal fulfillment to shine on the world wide web too.

Good luck and free advice is always available if you have any questions. Have a great creative filled day!